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contents In our ongoing effort to make Forsyth Family the ultimate resource to Forsyth County families, check out our new color-code tabs! We’ve organized our content by categories to make sure you can quickly find exactly what you need when you need it! Also, check out our Index on page 98, which organizes all our advertisers by type of business!
Local Business 8 Budget Blinds: Bringing Comfort & Style to Every Home 10 Breeden Insurance Services: With You Every Step of the Way 12 V’s Barbershop Celebrates One-Year Anniversary
Health & Wellness 14 How Oral Health Affects the Body in Surprising Ways – Kingery & Kingery 16 National Infertility Month 18 Novant Health: Urinary Incontinence 20 Protect Your Family’s Eyes From the Sun 22 Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics
Parenting 24 Autism Month 26 Fostering Minds: Restoring Relationships & Changing Lives 28 What I’d Like My Son’s Girlfriend to Know 30 The Mommy Diaries: New Parenthood 32 Triad Moms on Main.com: Fun, Fast & Free 34 The View From My Section… The Sleep Whisperer
co ver s tory 37 Financial Pathways of the Piedmont Teaches Youth How to Balance Finances
Education 40 Lori Clark for Winston-Salem Forsyth County School Board 42 Cunningham College Consulting
Ages & Stages 44 Transitioning to High School: Making Great Decisions Early 46 Eliminating the Stress Associated with End-of-Year Tests Check out our website www.ForsythFamilyMagazine.com
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48-55 Forsyth Family’s Summer Camp Showcase
Home 58 The 2014 HBAWS Spring Parade of Homes 60 Weed Man: We Care For Your Lawn
Community 62 64 66 68 70 72 74 76 77 78
Ted Kazakos: Candidate for District Court Judge Lillie’s Friends: Truning Tragedy into Hope 5th Annual Clemmons Community Day RiverRun Film Festival The Second Harvest Food Bank of NWNC 13th Annual “Empty Bowls” Colon Cancer Alliance: Undy 5000 Piedmont Earth Day Fair’s Spring into Sustainability Friends of Brenner Bring Spring Cheer “Out and About” in Winston-Salem Riding High: Pedal & Jam Offers a Challenge with Big Rewards
Faith & Family 80 A Beautiful Surprise: One Family’s Unique Adoption Story 81 Tami’s Devotion: Well Seasoned Faith & Family Calendar of Events 82 Musing About…The Audacity of Life 84 March of Dimes
For the Kids 86 88 89 90 91
Kids Morning Out American Girl Fashion Show Kids in the Kitchen: Everything Eggs iTalk: Summer Camp The Artist Corner
Dining Guide 92 Pintxos Pour House: A Different Way to Dine! 94 Hope du Jour Offers an Abundance of Restaurant Choices!
Other 96 April Events 98 Advertiser Index
April is a special month for me, as my youngest daughter was born in April; and as if spring finally being here isn’t enough, we have her 21st birthday to celebrate! Despite the fact that she’s a junior in college, I still can’t believe she’s almost 21. You’d think I’d be used to the idea by now that she is an adult, but do parents ever think their child is really a grown-up? So, happy birthday my dear, sweet Morgan, you have and continue to bring much joy to our lives! Easter is another cause for celebration this month—read John 3:16! I recently attended a Casting Crowns concert, a very popular contemporary Christian music group, and definitely my favorite! Many songs were played from their new Thrive CD. The big message from this offering is that we were not made to merely survive in life, but to thrive. I think many of us feel like we’re hanging on by a thread some days, Christian or not, and so that message from Mark Hall and the whole Casting Crowns group was a great reminder to me to THRIVE and not just survive! I hope your life is filled with hope this Easter and beyond! April is National Financial Literacy Month and our cover features a wonderful organization, Financial Pathways of the Piedmont, that makes financial education their mission year-round! Be sure to read all about how this agency has served our area for more than 40 years! Many thanks to the YMCA for sponsoring, and all those fantastic summer camps that participated in, our 2nd annual Summer Camp Expo in early March! Ten Little Monkeys created a fun entry into the event with their inflatables (see ad, page 73.) A special thanks, as well, to the families that came out to learn more about what’s available to create an amazing and enriched summer for their child! This month we continue to feature camp opportunities in our second of three issues focusing on summer camps (see pages 48–55). I want to take this opportunity to thank a special person in my life, personally and professionally, who gave us quite a scare this past month. Kelly Groce, father to my business partner, Keela Johnson, Forsyth Woman publisher, and one of our A-#1 magazine distributors each month, had a heart attack in late February. Thanks to Novant Health and triple by-pass surgery, he is on the mend! Kelly, I don’t say it often enough, but thank you for all you do each month to deliver magazines all over the county! You are an amazing person and we wish you continued progress as you continue to heal! Last but not least, Happy 70th birthday to George Lemons! We are so happy to have you in our family! Blessings!
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Bringing Comfort & Style to Every Home By Martie Emory
Left to Right: The Foeri family - Bill, Tyler (8), Victoria, and Zachary (6). With over 900 stores nationwide, Budget Blinds is the largest window coverings retailer in the United States; each store is independently and locally owned. It’s a strong advantage to be a part of such a national network of products, as well as to keep a close eye on the latest trends. But for these window-covering professionals, it still comes down to delivering what they promise. “Most of our business comes from referrals,” says Bill. “That’s the best way to reach new customers.”
you make that initial call or visit to Budget Blinds in Winston-Salem, you immediately feel comfortable with the company’s expertise and what they do best: provide high-quality, stylish, window coverings for your home. But maybe even more essential, you feel comfortable enough to welcome their consultants into your home for what truly sets them apart: the ultimate shop-athome experience.
“We basically bring the showroom to you,” says Bill Foeri, franchiseowner “That level of comfort is really what it’s all about.” The Budget Blinds team really is just that—a team. When it was time for a new business venture, in 2011, Bill and his wife, Victoria, started a company (Ty-Zach Enterprises, named for their sons Tyler and Zachary) and bought the local Budget Blinds franchise. Bill, design consultant Lisa Irwin and office manager Mary Krawiec had previously worked together at another company, and he knew that with their strong work ethic and solid mutual respect for each other’s talents, they would naturally carry that over to the new venture—keeping respect for their clients at the top of their mission statement.
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An initial consultation takes place in the client’s home, where they can discuss design ideas, take preliminary measurements and view the endless portfolio of options—styles, colors, fabrics—all at no charge and all in one sitting. The “shop at home” approach is a bonus for busy clients and follows the company’s mantra of unsurpassed customer service and being able to offer the finest collection of blinds, shutters, shades, draperies and more, in the area. Every sale is completed with the installation of the product. Bill, who does a little bit of everything, oversees a large percentage of the installations himself, along with professional installer Joe Daniel. Sales and installations of blinds and shutters make up the majority of their business, as clients look to add style and also light control in their most important rooms. But no matter what size or style the home, quality and impeccable design are essential—as is the client’s comfort with the final look of the room. For Bill Foeri and his staff, it’s a business built on customer service from start to finish, and on satisfied clients who spread the word that Budget Blinds lives up to its reputation: the perfect source for window coverings to make your home look its absolute best. Budget Blinds, serving Winston-Salem West, as well as Davie County, Wilkes County, Davidson County and beyond, is located at 116-D Griffith Plaza Drive in Winston-Salem. For a free consultation or more information call 336-765-8765. Hours are Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m.
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Breeden Insurance Services: With You Every Step of the Way By Maria Glazener insurance can seem like a daunting task. It can be frustrating, trying to decide which policy is best for you and your family, which is why trusting your insurance broker is key to making the right choices. Breeden Insurance of Lexington takes a unique approach, different than that of the rest of the industry. “Being an independent agency allows for more intimate and closer relationships with our clients,” says Lucas Breeden, financial specialist. “Our team of account managers in Lexington allows us to service these clients in a time-efficient manner, allowing our producers more time to cater to our clients.”
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But did you know that Breeden insurance also has a Winston-Salem office? Lucas Breeden says, “In our Winston office every team member has a purpose that allows us to implement effective protection strategies that protect our clients from unknowns that could turn their financial world upside down. We focus on protection with personal and commercial insurance, as well as with financial planning.” Those team members include Dawn Howey AAI, CIC, CBIA, commercial lines; Steve Slate, CISR CBIA, personal lines; Lucas Breeden, CISR, CLCS, CIC, financial strategist; and Karen Dean, Customer Service. Breeden says, “As a financial planner, I strongly believe in protection first. The key to wealth accumulation is saving and protecting your ability to save. If your income-earning potential is not fully protected through life and disability insurance, then such events could be tragic. We want to make sure this never happens to any of our clients.” Along with being an independent agency, Breeden Insurance Services is also part of ISU Insurance Services. This is the 4th-largest U.S. private broker, and as such allows Breeden to access over 350 insurance companies to assure their clients receive the best combination of price, product and service. Breeden states, “Our independent ownership allows us to provide you with a high level of personal service and to deliver the market’s best value through the strength and resources of a national network. We make sure you are protected first, fully and forever. It is important for clients to know where they are exposed, and how that could interrupt their lives financially.” “We are experts when it comes to prevention and protecting our clients’ goals, while eliminating the fears that might alter them,” Breeden says. “We dissect every aspect of your financial world, including making sure you have a will/trust in place, if needed. We want to organize both our clients’ family and business, so that they can achieve financial balance, be fully protected, and be better suited for an easier and more enjoyable retirement.” And that is what it all comes down to—creating a personal and long-lasting relationship with a risk management team that you trust. So, whether your insurance needs are personal, business-, home- or health-related, Breeden insurance offers you the best possible protection at the lowest possible price. Breeden Insurance has offices in Lexington, Denton and North Davidson/ Winston-Salem. The Winston-Salem office is located at: 12200 N NC Highway 150, Suite 5 Winston-Salem, NC 27127
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V’s Barbershop Celebrates One-Year Anniversary
By Meghan E.W. Corbett
is no limit to the amount of attention received by salons and spas that help women look and feel their best. While most assume men do not care about appearance in the same way women do, a visit to get a haircut or get a straight-razor shave can be about so much more than the resulting look. For men, whether they know it or not, visiting a business such as V’s Barbershop is relaxing, therapeutic and can be stress-relieving and calming in an otherwise chaotic world. Men deserve a little attention as well, so instead of going to the corner barber, who hurries customers in and out of an uncomfortable chair, let V’s Barbershop show you how good a little extra care can feel!
“I think men deserve a great place to go to relax and get a service they need—a haircut,” said Owner Adam Thomas. “In addition, they can get a great hot-lather, straight-razor shave, which is not available anywhere else around Winston-Salem. The experience at V’s Barbershop is unlike any barbershop in town and is good for men and boys of all ages.” This month, V’s Barbershop celebrates its one-year anniversary, thanks to the dedicated staff, wonderful customers and convenient location! “We picked our location based on the demographics of the surrounding area,” said Thomas. “This location gives us a 10-mile radius draw that covers almost 150,000 people. In addition, we are able to serve employees of Wake Forest Baptist and Forsyth Medical Center. The two account for a significant base of customers that fit our profile perfectly.” To celebrate the anniversary, V’s Barbershop has great incentives for old and new customers alike. “We are going to offer month-long promotions on our different shave packages, so that we can showcase the one thing only available here at V’s,” said Thomas. “Also, on April 5th, we are going to have a big celebration, where we are giving away barbeque and drinks, along with T-shirts, hats, and more gift items. It will be a day filled with fun for the whole family, and, of course, the guys can get a get haircut or shave.” For those who have taken advantage of the personal touch and extra steps V’s Barbershop takes to make the haircut experience enjoyable, the difference in the expertise of the staff is evident. “We are one of the only places that has all barbers—people who are trained to cut men’s hair,” said Thomas. “Also, we encourage everyone to enjoy the experience of a straight-razor shave. It comes complete with numerous hot towels and lots of products to soften the skin, and makes for an incredible experience. I have never met anyone who experienced a shave at V’s who didn’t have a thoroughly great time.” Take advantage of all the luxury and relaxation available at V’s Barbershop. It’s a great way to pamper yourself in a manly way! V’s Barbershop is located at 380 Knollwood Street, Suite C in Winston-Salem. For more information, call 336.245.8461. 12 • forsythfamilymagazine.com
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Painting a Complete Portrait of Health:
you were to paint a picture of “health,” it would include many colors. Proper exercise, plenty of fruits and vegetables, quality sleep, the ability to handle stress well, and a strong support system of family and friends are each important to our physical and mental health. Each is a distinct “color,” but, like the brushstrokes of a painting, they are each so intertwined in our overall health that they are impossible to separate. No one color is better than the others, but without even one the picture loses its vibrancy.
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How Oral Health Affects the Body in Surprising Ways – Kingery & Kingery By Meridith Whitaker
The dentists and staff at Kingery & Kingery believe that, when considering each of the factors that affect our overall health, dental hygiene should not be overlooked. A cavity-free mouth with pink gums and fresh breath may be a healthy mouth, but it could be a sign of a healthy body as well. Keeping watch on your gums, teeth and jaws can benefit your overall bodily health in several surprising ways. Sleep Obstructive sleep apnea (OSA), characterized by repeated episodes of blockage of the upper airway, not only interferes with sound sleep, but can also reduce the flow of oxygen to vital organs and cause irregular heart rhythms. Kingery & Kingery offers a dental appliance called SomnoDent that moves the lower jaw slightly forward to tighten the soft tissue and muscles of the upper airway, which prevents obstruction while you sleep. Heart Health Studies have shown that, over time, periodontal (gum) disease may increase the risk for heart disease and stroke. There are a couple of possible explanations for this link. First, the bacteria that cause periodontal disease can release toxins into, or travel through, the bloodstream and contribute to the formation of fatty plaques in the arteries. These plaque deposits can lead to serious problems, such as blood clots, which can block blood flow. In addition, these bacteria cause the liver to make high levels of certain proteins, causing inflammation of the blood vessels—a known contributor to heart disease and stroke. By scheduling regular dental visits, you can prevent or catch the early signs of periodontal disease. Cancer Oral cancer is growing at an alarming rate, and the five-year mortality rate with this type of cancer is higher than that of both cervical and prostate cancers. With early detection, however, the cure rates are in the range of 80–90%. Because the signs and symptoms of oral cancer are often missed by the naked eye, it is important to have this screening done by a professional. At Kingery & Kingery, all patients are screened for oral cancer once a year during their regular cleaning visit. Through the use of cutting-edge technology, they can visualize any dangerous changes in cells of the mouth, throat, tongue, or tonsils and identify cancer early—before it spreads. Shown here are three ways that oral health impacts bodily health; certainly there are many more. A portrait of overall health would be incomplete without the truly exceptional dental care offered by the doctors and staff of Kingery & Kingery. Their care and expertise, in combination with all of the other lifestyle choices that color our lives, will help ensure a vibrant future for you and your family. Kingery & Kingery is amalgam-free and uses only composite (tooth-colored) filling material. They offer Teen Invisalign, Six-Month Smiles, cosmetic dentistry, and much more. For more information, call 336-766-0511 or visit www.kingerysmiles.com.
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April is National Infertility Month: Education and Answers, Treatment and the Miracle of Pregnancy By Lisa S.T. Doss
can be very challenging, especially when the word is “infertility.” It is a medical condition which effects one out of eight women. Being part of that statistic, I was comforted that I was not alone. In fact, acquaintances and strangers reached out and told me their story, too. After two-and-a-half years of trying to conceive, I regretted waiting so long. It felt reassuring to be in the hands of professionals. Finding a fertility clinic is quite easy; however, it is important to find the right staff who can go through those wonderful and tearful moments with you. Yes, with treatment, infertility can become a miraculous experience, combining God and science. It also can be sorrowful and unexplainable. Over the last five years, I have listened to many women question their bodies in their own journey through infertility. As an advocate, I encourage all women to find out why they have been unable to conceive naturally. While there is a higher percentage of success for women under 40, women are getting pregnant in their 40s and oftentimes delivering twin blessings.
If we listen to extreme situations of infertility, women like the “Octomom” and “Kate Plus Eight” may come to mind; however, more celebrities are openly sharing their stories with the public, and we sympathize with their struggles in wanting to become parents. Each of us knows someone who may even silently endure trying without finding answers or success. The purpose of National Infertility Awareness Week is to educate and encourage the public regarding reproductive health. From April 22nd– 28th, each of us can reach out to our family members and friends, in some special way, and offer support. Nancy Teaff, MD, a Reproductive Endocrinologist, stated, “Couples are often surprised at the amount of time it can take to get pregnant, once the decision to start a family has been made. For normal healthy couples, it is not uncommon for several months to go by before pregnancy is achieved; however, about seven million women aged 15 to 44 will need help conceiving. Many women do not realize that their fertility declines after the age of 35. Women over 35 have less time to spare, since there is a dramatic decline in egg quality and quantity. After six-months of trying without success, couples should seek the assistance of a reproductive endocrinologist.” Many couples have questions about the process, treatment, and other alternatives. Here are the facts:
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• Men and women both can cause infertility separately and as a couple. To receive assistance, couples must agree to seek help together. Each will be evaluated to determine the problem and offered the best recommended treatment(s). • Advice on limiting stress, eating different foods, or taking a vacation are helpful to fertility; however, infertility is a medical condition that requires understanding, patience and treatment. • Pregnancy does not happen the moment a woman begins taking fertility medications. For each woman or couple, the journey is different. • Not every couple needs to go through In-vitro fertilization, or IVF. Clomid and Femara, with or without artificial insemination, are medicated and procedural treatments that have assisted women in becoming pregnant. • Infertility can become a “life crisis” and affect many areas in a couple’s life. Couples who want to become parents have numerous options beyond fertility treatments, but sitting down with an endocrinologist is a starting point. Many who consider adoption can even explore adopting a frozen embryo. Traditional adoptions are a wonderful opportunity for couples to receive a healthy baby. If treatments are unsuccessful, a fertility center can discuss and explore other options. As you consider your influence in promoting “National Infertility Awareness,” the message is clear: “No effort is too small. The infertility community is building a strong grassroots movement all over the country. Take a moment to think about what this movement means to you.” We all have different ways to approach difficult and sensitive topics; however, in the month of April, and especially from April 22nd—28th, take the time to spread the word among your family and friends, and through your Facebook and Twitter pages. No woman or couple has to suffer from infertility. There are answers. A united voice is needed to spread the word.
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Urinary Incontinence: A Common Health Problem Women Still Don’t Talk About (But Should) From scouting out every restroom in the workplace, to going dozens of times a day, to forgoing outings to the movies, people with untreated urinary incontinence live in constant fear of having an embarrassing accident. Urinary incontinence is a common problem aﬀecting an estimated 18 million women in the U.S., yet according to the National Association for Continence, women wait an average of six years from the ﬁrst time they experience symptoms until they get a diagnosis of their bladder control problem. Dr. Bradley Jacobs, a urogynecologist with Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates and the Maya Angelou Center for Women’s Health and Wellness at Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center, has been treating women with urinary incontinence for 11 years and has seen ﬁrsthand the struggle his patients go through before seeking help. “People think it’s a normal process of aging or childbirth, but it’s really important to distinguish that although urinary incontinence is common, it’s not normal. It is a legitimate medical condition and it’s treatable.” Know Your Type Physicians say it’s important to talk about any urine leakage issues you have with your ob/gyn, primary care doctor or urologist in order to get a diagnosis of the type of urinary incontinence you may have. The most common is stress urinary incontinence, a movement-type incontinence that happens when the person laughs, coughs, sneezes, jumps, or runs. The second most common type is urge
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incontinence, or overactive bladder syndrome. “This leaking is because the bladder spasms or squeezes down involuntarily without notice. Generally the leaking is preceded by a strong urge to go to the bathroom and that’s where the name comes from,” says Dr. Jacobs. “It’s important that people understand what type of incontinence they have, so it can be treated properly. The advertisements you see for the “gotta go” prescription medications are designed to treat urge incontinence by preventing bladder spasms, but it will not do anything for women with stress incontinence.” The Surgery Myth Many patients that Dr. Jacobs sees believe that surgery is the only option and that the procedure will work for only a short period of time. For women with stress incontinence, the most common surgical option is called the sling procedure, an outpatient procedure that takes less than 30 minutes. “This type of surgery has really advanced in the past ten years or so. Through the years, there have been many procedures that have attempted to help with this problem, and only a few have stood the test of time. The sling procedure has become the current gold standard procedure.” Researchers have been tracking the success rate of the sling procedure for well over ten years and have found the success rates in the 80- to 90percent range. “We want people to realize that not all urinary incontinence types are treated the
same way with surgery. In fact, urge incontinence is not helped at all with surgery, and can actually make it worse. Oftentimes, we recommend other non-surgical treatment options,” says Dr. Jacobs. Non-Surgical Options For many patients, strengthening the pelvic ﬂoor, the muscles that support the bladder, is an important step. “Home Kegel exercises can help some, but you really want to ﬁnd a formal Pelvic Floor physical therapy program for strengthening the muscles,” says Dr. Jacobs. He recommends checking with your local hospital or ob/gyn, urology or physical therapy practice to see if they oﬀer a pelvic ﬂoor strengthening program. Doctors also advise people with urinary incontinence to avoid caﬀeine and alcohol, which act as a natural diuretic. “The lining of the bladder is particularly sensitive to caﬀeine and alcohol. Because they make you go more frequently, we highly encourage patients to restrict their use, especially in the evening before bedtime.” Dr. Bradley E. Jacobs is a board certiﬁed urogynecologist at Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates in Winston-Salem and is the medical director of the Program for Continence and Pelvic Floor Disorders at the Maya Angelou Center for Women’s Health and Wellness at Forsyth Medical Center. For more information about urinary incontinence and pelvic ﬂoor health, call 336-718-4260.
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Sunglasses are essential in maintaining good eye health not only for adults, but also for children and teenagers who may spend a lot of time in the sun. Mark Shapiro, M.D., Medical Director of Shapiro Eye Care, gives his patients two reasons – health and comfort — when explaining why they should wear sunglasses. “From a health standpoint, you want to keep all ultraviolet light from getting into your eyes and onto the lids and the skin around them,” says Shapiro. “From a comfort standpoint, some people are very sensitive to brightness and glare. By cutting down brightness and glare, people will visually perform better and be more comfortable.” Dr. Shapiro explains that sunglasses protect the eyes from painful sunburns and may help slow down cataracts and macular degeneration. Also, the skin around the eyes, including the lids, is one of the most prone to skin cancer.
Impact and Scratch Resistant Look for glasses that won’t break easily if they get hit. They all have to meet FDA standards, but some are tougher than others. Tawanda Adams, Optician at Shapiro Eye Care explains, “some of the strongest lenses are polycarbonate, but they may scratch easily.” She recommends that you look for ones with scratch resistant coatings. Wraparound Glasses Wraparound shapes block light form the sides as well as the front, giving better UV protection. But you may also like them better because they eliminate or reduce the bright light outside the edges of smaller shaped lenses. Photosensitive Lenses These are lenses that get darker in bright light and lighter in dimmer light, so you can wear them indoors and out. Some people find these more convenient, but some feel they take too long to adapt to changes in lighting. Other Considerations
Most sunglasses are designed to protect your eyes from the sun's harmful effects. Often the labels on sunglasses promise protection from ultraviolet light and other kinds of natural radiation. Shapiro says, “It is important to protect your eyes from Ultraviolet A and Ultraviolet B rays.”
Some people prefer mirrored lenses (for less light transmission), polarized lenses (to reduce glare), or amber “blue-blocking” lenses (to increase contrast). Discuss these options with your doctor when considering a new pair of sunglasses.
Shapiro adds, “Always buy sunglasses that block 99 percent or 100 percent of all UV light.” Some manufacturer's labels say "UV absorption up to 400nm." This is the same thing as 100 percent UV absorption.
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Here are some additional ideas to help you choose the best pair of nonprescription sunglasses. Optically Correct Hold the sunglasses several inches away from your eyes and look through them at something with a grid pattern. The lines should appear straight when you look through them with one eye. If you move the glasses around and the lines bend or wiggle, the lenses are not optically correct. This won’t necessarily hurt your eyes, but it can distort your vision and make your eyes get tired more easily. 20 • forsythfamilymagazine.com
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Old-fashioned values also abound at Chermak & Hanson. These include compassion, integrity, customer service and community service. Each patient receives a personal phone call from Dr. Chermak or Dr. Hanson the night braces are placed, in order to answer any questions the patient may have and to offer words of encouragement as patients adjust to life with braces. Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics demonstrates integrity by treating patients the way the staff and doctors would themselves like to be treated. “We don’t charge for the initial exam or observation exams, and we have no hidden fees,” Hanson said. Chermak & Hanson exhibits customer service in many ways. The practice files insurance claims for patients, and staff is committed to answering phone calls within three rings, even when someone calls during lunch hour. One of the practice’s doctors is always on call for after-hours and weekend emergencies.
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The practice’s Web site includes fun games, as well as timely articles to assist patients. Examples include oral hygiene “do’s” and “don’ts,” and information on how patients who play sports can protect their orthodontia during competition. In addition, each patient receives a T-shirt when he or she gets braces. “If they wear it to subsequent appointments,” Hanson said, “they are entered in a monthly drawing to win a prize.” And that’s not all. Dr. Chermak and Dr. Hanson also sponsor a Patient Appreciation Night at two different Wake Forest University soccer games. Patients and their families receive tickets to the games, a snack voucher, and get a chance to receive prizes between periods. “It’s great family fun,” Hanson said. Community service also is a hallmark of Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics. “We’re involved in sponsorship of just about every little league sports program available,” Hanson said, “like Twins and Optimist soccer, Winston-Salem lacrosse, baseball, basketball, football, swimming, girls softball and hockey, just to name a few.” The practice also supports programs in the arts, like The Children’s Theater of WinstonSalem, The Little Theatre of Winston-Salem, The Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem, SciWorks and various marching bands and orchestras. Nor does Chermak & Hanson stop there with its focus on giving back to the community. The doctors and staff have helped to build two houses for Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County, and numerous times, for a group outing, the Chermak & Hanson team has met at Build-A-Bear Workshop to create personal bears that are then donated to Brenner Children’s Hospital. Obviously, Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics is committed to more than providing the bestavailable orthodontia, prepared with the most-modern technology. The practice—with offices in Winston-Salem, Clemmons and King—is committed to its patients and their families, and to the community at large. “Dr. Chermak has two children, and I have five, so we are very in-tune with what interests our child and adolescent patients and with what it’s like to be a parent,” Hanson said. “Rarely do you find a combination of the most-modern technology available and old-fashioned values like you’ll discover at Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics. Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics has three offices to serve you: Winston-Salem (1564 N. Peace Haven Road, 336-760-1491), Clemmons (3742 Clemmons Road, 336-766-8244), and King (524 S. Main Street, 336-983-4551). website, www.smileland.com, for more information. 22 • forsythfamilymagazine.com
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Autism Month By Justin Cord Hayes
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He (and most autistic kids are boys) takes longer than most kids to become potty trained. Don’t be embarrassed by this. Try, as hard as you can, not to be annoyed by this. Yes, you will be sick of carrying around that diaper bag while your friends with similarly-aged children have freed themselves of that burden, but when you do finally get the chance to leave the bag at home, you’ll feel like Dorothy when she steps from black-and-white Kansas into Technicolor Oz. He seems inordinately fond of routines, even at a very young age. The good news, for Parker-John’s mother and me, is that he began to sleep through the night at eight weeks. However, don’t get too excited. I’ve spoken to other parents of autistic kids, and that is NOT their experience. The problem is that your boy may get very anxious if anything happens that is not typical. Simply choosing an alternate route home can bring on panic in him. Don’t worry. You’ll get in the habit, very quickly, of telling him in advance when there will be any change to his routine. As long as he knows things will be different, he’ll probably be OK. He becomes obsessed with trains. Again, your potentially-autistic kid may not get into trains, but many other parents of autistic children have shared that trains are their sons’ obsession. I don’t know why ParkerJohn, and other kids on the autism spectrum, love trains. I think it’s the way they run along rails and have definite paths, reducing the possibility of disruptions to routines. He takes longer than other kids to begin speaking, and, when he does begin speaking, he uses language in unusual ways. For example, until he was six or seven, Parker-John called me dee-da instead of da-dee. He would mix up pronouns, calling females “he’s” and males “she’s.” In fact, he still does this, at age ten. Sometimes, other parents in listening 24 • forsythfamilymagazine.com
range get upset because they think my son is insulting their child by suggesting, say, that their little girl is a little boy or that their little boy is a little girl. If this happens, just explain to these parents that you believe your child is on the autism spectrum and that he has difficulties with pronouns. He echoes dialogue from movies and television. Although every autistic kid is different, this one trait seems almost universal. At first, I thought Parker-John was learning to speak thanks to Dora the Explorer or Thomas the Tank Engine. Later, I realized that these and other shows were supplying nearly all his dialogue. If he was afraid, for example, he’d repeat a line about fear from one of his favorite shows. If he was excited, he’d repeat a line suggesting excitement. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t allow your son to watch television. If he is, in fact, autistic, then he’ll echo dialogue from some source or another no matter what you do. He has, um, interesting hand gestures. At an early age, Parker-John developed the habit of making a fist and speaking into it, as though it were a microphone. And I don’t think he’d ever even seen a microphone. It was just an instinctual act. To this day, he occasionally does this. His mother and I have tried to get him to stop this habit because, well, Parker-John is ten years old, and…it just looks weird. You don’t want to keep your child from being who he is, but, let’s be honest. You also don’t want him to stand out in an obvious way. Having an autistic child can be a blessing, if you learn to accept him and not obsess over “changing” him. Yes, I’ve tried to alter some of his behavior, but that’s a judgment call. I understand—and have understood since Parker-John was very young—that he is not “trying” to be different. He’s not “trying” to be difficult on occasion. He’s not trying to have trouble understanding some of his school subjects. He is always going to be “different,” but that’s OK. In my opinion, diversity is what makes the world a better place.
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Fostering Minds Restoring Relationships & Changing Lives
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a comforting manner and loving personality that makes even the youngest patients feel at ease, Amy Diachenko Foster is most happy when she knows she’s turned someone’s life around.
After earning a B.A. degree in psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and a M.A. in clinical psychology from East Carolina University, Amy is happy to be back building her own private practice close to her hometown of Yadkinville. She opened the Yadkinville office of Fostering Minds in January 2011—the same year she and her husband started their own family with the birth of a daughter—and is grateful to be able to have a positive impact in the community with professional psychological services for children, adolescents, teens and families. Her business is about building—and re-building—relationships, nurturing young minds and instilling confidence, and easing the day-today struggles of patients who need it most. Fostering Minds focuses on treatments for ADHD, autism, oppositional defiant disorder, PTSD and other typical behavioral disorders, besides offering psychological and psycho-educational evaluations and both individual and family therapy. They also offer early kindergarten testing and testing for the academically gifted. For children, adolescents and teens, dealing with anxiety, ADHD and divorce are probably the most common situations the practice sees, and that is where Amy’s special gift of communication makes all the difference. She’s also known for making her patients feel comfortable in a warm, inviting atmosphere that radiates positive feelings. Her family-oriented, behavioral approach changes difficult or damaged relationships, and her methods involve the whole family unit. She also bases her treatments on a collaborative approach—especially for young children—with the child’s primary care physician. While an initial
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session most often involves the parents talking and Amy gathering background information, it’s also a time for the child to become familiar with the idea of “opening up” to a stranger. Once an individualized plan is in place, healing becomes a true team effort. Although her most common patient group falls into the school-age range, when social issues and anxiety disorders are common—Amy also has many younger patients and has seen children as young as three, if the situation warrants. Since family relationships can be tedious in the best of times and even more difficult when there is hurt, this is a profession that produces a roller coaster of emotions on a daily basis. “A challenging part of my job is dealing with the pain and suffering some of my patients are going through,” says Amy. “But then those challenging ones turn into rewarding ones—the ones where, together, we made their child’s life better. Together, we made their child smile again!” With the success of her Yadkinville office—currently accepting new patients—and the excitement of expanding with a Lewisville location and the prospect of continued growth, it’s a dream job for Amy, who has found a way to make a positive impact on her hometown community. “When I have a child hug me and tell me they love me and that they are so happy I am a part of their lives…that’s why I do this!” she says. For more information on Fostering Minds or to schedule a private consultation, call 336-705-1346, or visit their website www.fosteringminds.com
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What I’d Like My Son’s Girlfriend To Know
By Justin Cord Hayes
Just musing on the title of this column makes me feel like crying. I’m not sure why, but I guess it has to do with the thought of my son, Parker-John, finding someone and no longer needing his old man around. On the other hand, my sadness could be related to the fact that my son is on the autism spectrum, and I worry that he’ll never be able to be in a relationship at all. He’s incredibly cute, so I can’t believe that young ladies won’t notice him. On the other hand, he’s not your average kid.
I’m going to live in the reality that, once puberty hits—autism or no autism—he will exchange the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles for an interest in girls. He will suddenly want to look his best and learn how to communicate with others. I’ll turn the rest of this piece into a direct appeal to Parker-John’s future girlfriend. Hi. I’m Parker-John’s dad. You’ve made a good choice, young lady. First of all, once he decides he cares about you, he will be incredibly loyal and caring. He’ll try to help you when you need something. If he sees that you’re sad, he’ll try to find out what’s wrong and do what he can to make you feel better. On the other hand, I feel like I should tell you that, because he’s on the autism spectrum, he may sometimes become very focused on something other than you. He’s not doing it for the usual “guy” reasons, such as being self-involved, being “too cool” to acknowledge you, or trying to impress his friends by acting like a creep. Parker-John will get obsessed by something because that’s the way he is. If you want to get him back into “your” world, just talk to him. Get him to look you in the eye. Tell him that he’s hurting your feelings. I promise you; he’s so sweet and caring that he immediately will try to make things right. In fact, he may start crying. Don’t worry about 28 • forsythfamilymagazine.com
it. He just feels bad about making you feel bad. And while I can understand that his crying may freak you out, just remember that he’s doing it because he cares so much about you. And don’t you want a guy who cares? Another thing you should know about Parker-John is that he has trouble expressing his feelings. Of course, as you’ve probably already figured out, most guys have that problem. I’d like to tell you it gets better as you get older, but the average guy never becomes an expert “feelings sharer.” However, with Parker-John, the situation’s a little different. Just as he isn’t ignoring you because he’s “being a guy,” he’s not withholding feelings for the usual “guy” reasons either. Parker-John is extremely sensitive, and his feelings run deep and true. Unfortunately, he doesn’t always have the words to put with the feelings. As you spend time with him, you’ll begin to learn how to read the messages he sends. You’ll know that he loves you. You’ll know that he cares about you. And, as I said before, you can always just ask him. And that’s the final thing I want to make sure you understand. Parker-John is brutally honest, but he never means to be brutal. For example, if you give him a present and he doesn’t like it, he may very well tell you that he doesn’t like it. Social cues aren’t his area of expertise. His mother and I are working on that with him, but Parker-John still has a tendency to tell you what he thinks about something, if you ask him about it. Just understand that he’s not making a value judgment about you. He’s answering, honestly, a question that you’ve asked him. Most of the time I think you’ll appreciate his honesty. I hope that you and Parker-John will enjoy being together. I believe you’ll be a good influence on him. Let me know if you have any questions.
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The Mommy Diaries: New Parenthood By Emily Eileen Carter a new parent is both exhilarating and terrifying. Immediately after returning to our home from the hospital with baby Lucas, it really set in—I am utterly and completely responsible for this precious, new life. This overwhelming feeling of responsibly overtook me, and the imminent fear that I would somehow break my baby or do something wrong rattled my soul.
The first night we were home, complete greenhorns at this parenting thing, our Lucas proceeded to confound us. As we changed his diaper, Little Man began to pee in a high arc that hit the wall and poop simultaneously. Though I have babysat for over 15 years, this had never happened to me. We laughed and cried in unison, both freaked out and amused. It was one of those moments that will forever be burnt into my memory—the sheer absurdity, shock and fear of, “What do we do next?”—such common feelings for new parents. The first few weeks of parenting for brand-new parents are a lot of trial and error. On top of the extreme exhaustion, you are constantly trying figure it all out: Is he hungry? Why is he crying? Am I feeding him enough? Does he have gas? Does he have a fever? Does he hate me? Am I an awful parent? And the list goes on and on…. Many nights I have wished there was a brain ticker that could convey his wishes to me so I didn’t feel so helpless about guessing what he needs. The other part of new parenting I wasn’t exactly ready for is the lack of sleep. Not only was I physically exhausted from the birth, but the newness of everything is emotionally exhausting as well. Combine this with necessary feedings every 2–3 hours, and it makes for endless fatigue. When 2-anda-half hours of uninterrupted sleep feel like a honeymoon, you know you are sleep-deprived. But as crazy as you feel, you somehow manage to keep going, because of the immense and unconditional love you feel for this child. This profound love is fuel for long nights, shrill cries, and many poopy diapers.
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Everyone says becoming a parent will change your life, and it absolutely does in every way. But this most magnificent and terrifying change is that you can’t ever imagine loving someone so much. When I look down at my son, his sweet, soft eyelids and lashes, his tiny fingers gripping mine, I am overcome by a love so deep, it feels like my heart might explode. For this great blessing in my life, I would do anything, and I am so grateful we are on this journey of life together!
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One Size Does Not Fit All –
Fun, Fast & Free! By Kelly Hines with Triad Moms on Main
I want to run a 5k. I want to become a vegetarian. I want to practice yoga. I want to lose weight. I want to be my best self. But I’m not sure how to get there. Not everyone has the same goals when it comes to health; some of us want to lose weight; some of us want to increase our cardiovascular health; some of us want to be more mindful of the food we eat. The approaches to health are as varied as the goals we have! That’s why Triad Moms on Main has put together a health, exercise and nutrition expo called “One Size Does NOT Fit All”—a free event that brings different approaches together in a stress-free, convenient environment, and lets you choose the path that works best for YOU! “One Size Does Not Fit All” will take place on Thursday, April 24th, from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. at the Novant Health Conference Center at Forsyth Medical Center. There’s no charge for admission, and parking in the Forsyth Medical Center parking deck is free to the first 200 attendees. You’ll get to talk to representatives from every aspect of wellness maintenance—from nutritionists and dieticians to exercise experts, to representatives from the Maya Angelou Center for Women’s Health. Walk around and visit their booths, or
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try out a ‘mini-class,’ a 15–20 minute exercise, or nutrition demonstrations. We’ll even have a presentation by a nutritionist on packing healthy lunches for the kids, and yourself! There will be door prizes, fun and information—and best of all, it’s free! There’s something for everybody, and every body! Regardless of your age, your current health, or your future goals, “One Size Does Not Fit All” has something for you. For a complete list of exhibitors and schedule of events, visit us at www.triadmomsonmain.com and click on the “One Size Does Not Fit All” logo on the homepage. If you’re interested in exhibiting at the event, or would like more general information, contact TMOM’s Special Event Coordinator, Kelly Hines, at email@example.com. We look forward to seeing you on April 24th!
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The View from My Section...
By A. Keith Tilley
The Sleep Whisperer many people, I don’t always have an easy time falling asleep at night. It seems sometimes when I lie down to rest, that’s when my mind wants to go into overtime, dumping thoughts about everything from what I didn’t get done that day to what I need to do the next. With my mind racing, it makes it difficult to shut down and fall asleep quickly. That’s why when I saw a story about ASMR, or Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, on a nationally televised news broadcast, and the internet videos for it that helped many solve their sleep problems, I just had to check it out.
Initially, I focused my research on a website called The Water Whispers (thewaterwhispers.com). It’s a site run by Ilse Blansert and despite the name, Ilse is really what one would describe as a sleep whisperer. She has excelled at accelerating the popularity of ASMR videos. Her website was created in February, 2012, and within a short time has already garnered a lot of attention from national media outlets in the U.S. and abroad, including the New York Daily News, ABC News with Diane Sawyer, Time Magazine, and O Magazine, along with numerous other print, television and radio outlets around the globe. In her videos, Ilse uses popular ASMR techniques, such as the gentle tapping of her fingernails or scratching on hard objects such as tables, computer keys and a cheese barrel. She gently runs her hands through puzzle pieces, picking them up slowly and then letting them drop lightly back into the box they came in. She very softly caresses dried flowers and makes soothing sounds with them in her hands. Another favorite is to roll bubble wrap around in the palms of her hands, making a mellow, crinkling sound. An example of an alternative technique involves the relaxing hand movements used to identify creative ways to fold towels. These are only a few of the many ideas she and others in this field implement quite successfully to help viewers release their stresses of the day, quiet their minds and gradually drift off to sleep, or simply relax. There is another equally vital part of her videos as well, and that is her voice. This is of paramount importance in ASMR videos. Her voice, as well as that of others who make these relaxation-type videos, is a soothing, soft-spoken easy listening voice, using an even tone and whisper (such as the name implies). I’ve also noticed in her videos, as well as in others in this genre, that she speaks with the utmost clarity in her words, pronouncing each word clearly and keeping her lips moist, so as to make the words sound even more pure. The power of voice inflection is nothing new. Fans of Delilah, host of
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the nationally syndicated nightly radio song request and dedication program, along with those who remember the popular Bob Ross painting videos (“Let’s put some happy little clouds in here.”) on PBS, can attest to the influence a calming voice can have on one’s psyche. To test out this concept, I decided to try it myself. On three separate evenings at bedtime, I pulled up Ilse’s videos on my cellphone and selected one that I felt was the most pleasing to me. I gave it a fair shot and kept an open mind. I’m glad to report that I found it to be very helpful in relieving my insomnia and helping me fall asleep easier. Interestingly enough, it wasn’t the visual aspect of her videos that worked the best for me; after all, I didn’t want to stay awake watching them and defeat the purpose of my experiment. It was, however, the audio aspect that I found most effective. In my initial trial, her somewhat mundane conversation actually proved to be an advantage for me, because I wasn’t tempted to listen to what she was saying, specifically. Instead I lay there listening to her soft voice, coupled with the gentle sounds she was making, running her hands through puzzle pieces, and in no time I was fast asleep. I only awoke briefly when the video ended some 38 minutes later, after which I quickly turned off my phone and went back to sleep promptly. I tried it again on two more occasions with equal success and each time with different videos. That’s not to say it will work for everyone, but it indeed helped me relax and fall asleep. Some have described the feeling as being like having a gentle scalp massage, with a tingling sensation in their head, neck and spine, or as a feeling similar to meditation. Of those who experience success with ASMR videos, each person is different with their own individual relaxation response and triggers. I’m not aware of any specific scientific research at the moment defining why this process works for some (though not everyone). Some areas of thought indicate it could be a type of residual response to an earlier childhood experience resonating in anything from a soothing mother’s voice to the gentle care and attention a parent gives an infant. Either way, it has proven to be effective for many, and the popularity is growing rapidly. Perhaps the drug-free, homeopathic aspect of the process eliminates the obstacles that would ordinarily inhibit success. So, the next time you have trouble relaxing and falling asleep, you may want to give it a try. You just might become part of this growing trend. Please send your thoughts and comments
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The fun is blossoming this Spring at Old Salem. The gardens are in bloom. Hands-on seasonal activities abound. Plan your visit today!
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Teaches Youth How to Balance Finances Story by Rachel Barron
Photo by Adam Mowery Photography
Financial Pathways of the Piedmont recommends starting financial education at a young age and following up on a regular basis with classes about spending and saving wisely.
it’s teaching young children to save, deciding whether your high school senior should borrow money for college, or helping elderly parents manage their bills, nearly everyone can benefit from more knowledge about mastering finances. The U.S. designates April as National Financial Literacy Month, but it is the mission year-round for Financial Pathways of the Piedmont (FPP).
An independent, nonprofit agency staffed by certified and highly trained counselors, Financial Pathways has served the Winston-Salem area for more than 40 years. Last year, nearly 28,000 clients and their family members benefited from one of FPP’s many counseling services and educational programs. Founded to help people facing financial crises, today the organization also promotes financial literacy and stability via classes and workshops held at the agency’s offices on North Point Boulevard and on-site at schools, universities, churches and companies. “It is no longer appropriate to view financial education and counseling as something only for ‘poor’ or uneducated people, or something only relevant in a time of crisis,” said Peter Laroche, president and CEO of FPP. “Today, many people are not saving enough for retirement, jobs are scarce, and student loan debt is at a record high. People at all income levels need sound credit scores in order to access housing and affordable loans. Everyone needs to be well informed about managing money.” Starting Young Dolores Hill, an FPP financial literacy educator, visits schools to teach some of FPP’s youngest clients about money. “I start by asking kindergartners where money comes from,” she said. “A lot of them say, ‘You go to the bank and get it.’ Then we get them thinking about how that money got into the bank. We help them understand what their piggy bank is for. If we can teach the importance of saving money when they are really young, it is more likely to become a lifelong habit.”
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John Michael Thompson (r.) has his budget audited by counselor Tara Bohley at the Real World simulation event held annually to teach young people how to manage their finances. Parents, educators and youth leaders should contact Financial Pathways of the Piedmont to find out how to enroll their children, students or youth in financial education events.
By middle school, Hill uses games such as “Survivor Island” to help students understand the difference between “needs” and “wants.” Students are given a budget, then asked to allocate it toward various items they would need on a deserted island. “Some of them get really creative—even suggesting everyone share toothbrushes. But in the end they usually realize that they don’t have to have that Xbox, after all.” In high school and college classrooms, Hill teaches lessons that explore in more detail how to devise and follow a budget that includes items such as rent, car payments and utilities. As students begin considering college, they and their parents should have serious conversations about how they will pay for their education, said Shenell Thompson, FPP’s director of financial education. Because of sluggish job growth, the struggle of millions of young adults to repay college debt is receiving a lot of national attention. Selecting a college, and deciding whether to borrow money for it, should be an intellectual rather than emotional discussion, Thompson said. “Parents need to talk with their kids about their career aspirations, and students need to understand the return on the investment of a student loan. Exploring the starting and mid-range salaries for careers will help indicate how much money a student can effectively manage in debt upon graduation. A loan payment in excess of $400 a month is burdensome for a young adult with a salary of $40,000, and it will impact other financial goals, such as purchasing homes and cars.” FPP helps those who are on the verge of defaulting examine their other options, which can include deferment on payments for a period of time. But too often, Thompson said, she and other FPP counselors see young adults who are only beginning to realize the long-term effects of college debt. “I’ve had clients who owed as much as $100,000 in student loans. They are disappointed that with this debt, they cannot qualify for a mortgage.”
All people deserve a chance for financial well-being Financial Pathways is the only non-profit in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County that offers comprehensive financial counseling and education to residents regardless of income. FINANCIAL PATHWAYS CAN HELP WITH: Foreclosure Prevention Counseling Credit and Budget Counseling Homeownership Debt Management Bankruptcy Services for Senior Adults At the other end of the age spectrum, FPP’s Senior Financial Care® (SFC) program offers services that help older adults manage their finances. At a time when they should be able to enjoy life, many seniors face the struggle of living on a fixed income while at the same time dealing with increasing medical expenses. In some cases, a reverse mortgage—a legitimate type of home loan backed by the Federal Housing Administration—may be a good solution for homeowners 62 or older who have equity in their homes and plan to continue living there for the long term. Other seniors may be comfortable financially, but want or need assistance with the ongoing financial tasks of paying bills and filing tax returns. Unfortunately, seniors can also be easy victims of fraud, sometimes perpetrated by people they trust. That was the case of one client, who is in his early 80s and sightimpaired. “When he first came to us, there was evidence on paper that he could afford to pay his bills…but his lights were being turned off, his water was being disconnected, and he was about three months behind on his mortgage,” said Terri Gosh, a certified credit and reverse mortgage counselor for FPP.
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The client is now able to continue living on his own, thanks in large part to the help of Senior Financial Care. He has peace of mind, knowing that his bills will be paid on time and that his account is being monitored for signs of any suspicious activity. “I try to do all I can to help people, and I enjoy working with somebody who can help for me.” Credit Counseling and More Formerly named the Consumer Credit Counseling Service, FPP was founded to help people in financial crisis— particularly those looking to resolve credit issues. In 2012, the name was changed to Financial Pathways to better reflect its vast array of current programs, which involve as much education and prevention as intervention.
FPP continues to provide the highest quality of counseling for issues such as debt management, budgeting, qualifying for home ownership, and foreclosure mitigation. Visitors to the agency’s website, www.financialpaths.org, can learn more about these services, as well as click on the “financial management” tab to see list of classes and online tools, like My Money Checkup® and interactive educational games.
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Lori Clark for WinstonSalem/ Forsyth County School Board By Meghan E.W. Corbett
are many parents involved in the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County School (WSFCS) system that would like to see changes made. Few of those parents think they can make a difference and even fewer take the steps necessary to try. Lori Clark is a parent in this school system determined to do everything she can to make that difference; a difference that has been needed for many years. “This year will likely see the departure of some long-serving and dedicated School Board members who have worked well together and accomplished much,” said Lori Clark. “My hope is that I can be part of a new board that builds upon the solid foundation they have given us and takes it to a new level! I hope to advocate for teachers here and at the state level— ensuring they have the resources they need (money, teaching texts, tools, freedom), so that they believe we understand there is so much more to teaching than the tests. I desire to reach out to our surrounding communities, churches and businesses to ask them to consider more ways to impact our students. I plan to preserve choice—believing that parents who can choose a school for their children are the ones most likely to be involved in education—and that directly impacts student and school success! These are but a few of the ways I hope to make a difference!” Before voting in this type of election, it is important to understand what the role of a School Board member really is. Lori Clark knows those responsibilities well and has made a point to decide where she would fit in among those duties, to do the best job possible in that new role. “The School Board’s basic responsibilities include adopting policies and setting the vision and goals for the district; prioritizing these items; hiring and evaluating the superintendent; and adopting and overseeing the annual budget. An ideal school board will remember that student achievement and preparedness is the goal and will make decisions toward this end at all times. It will welcome accountability from stakeholders and serve as a lighthouse to the community regarding issues in education. It will be key—a liaison—to encouraging and fostering support and enthusiasm for education and teachers. It will use data and evidence to consider policies and will solicit feedback ongoing. It will actively seek engagement and help from the community (businesses, leaders, retirees, etc.) in working toward the goal of preparing students for college, career and citizenship. In these ways, a local school board can be a positive and vital community partner.” Clark also has knowledge of the current School Board members and where she might fit in among them. “While members bring unique
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backgrounds to their seats, they must also know that they are each sole members of a body of nine (here in Winston). One person can do much to impact the atmosphere of a working body (in either direction), but the goal of this School Board should be to ‘keep the main thing the main thing’ (improving education for all) and, [if] focus on that is lost, be willing to step back and refocus with reason and civility.” As much as we all might wish the School Board were not at all about politics, at times (or, infrequently), it can be. Yet, political affiliation should not be the most important aspect of a candidate’s work as a School Board member. “Voters generally do want to know about the worldview of a candidate, because, truthfully, we all have ideas about everything; and they come from a core set of beliefs or truths we have learned, acquired and chosen to believe over time. Our ‘world views’ impact how we answer questions and solve problems—whether it is living life, raising children or being seated on a school board. How we implement solutions is often directed by those core beliefs. As often as possible, a school board member should seek to work on common goals such as choice (we all want that), community (needed in our schools) and control (closer to us is better). Teamwork is more about ‘we’ and less about ‘me,’ and a school board, though made of members with different ‘politics,’ is a team.” Clark’s personal life and interest in her own child’s academic success has fueled her desire to make a difference. She will use this knowledge to serve as a dedicated member of the WSFC School Board. “I am a wife, part-time working mom and candidate for the WSFC School Board; and, like many, I am concerned about the direction of this great country,” said Clark. “I have been a volunteer in many capacities in life—and see this job as a natural follow-on to those activities. I have always enjoyed the privilege of education—and received a solid one from this system myself. I believe that good things are still happening in our public schools today, and I would like to be part of seeing those things continue and even improve. In 2014, we face a whole new world with regard to education, and I promise to champion solutions that incorporate local control, parental choice, community engagement and mentors—for all of our children!”
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CollegeConsulting By Susan Woodall parents, we dream of seeing our children go off to college. It is not until they reach high school, however, that most of us realize what getting into college entails. The process of determining which college best meets their needs and goals, and the application process, can be daunting. Cunningham College Consulting offers them the guidance and assistance to make the experience a rewarding one.
Julie Cunningham's career was one of natural progression. “After receiving a bachelor’s degree in English from Virginia Commonwealth University and a Master’s degree in counselor education from the University of Virginia, I moved to North Carolina in 1999 and took a job as a school counselor,” said Cunningham. “I worked in middle school for four-and-a-half years and then as a high school counselor at R.J. Reynolds for more than six years. College consulting was a natural next step after my stint as a school counselor. I knew that I wanted to continue working with high school students and realized that being an independent education consultant would give me the opportunity to specialize and develop expertise in one area.” Cunningham’s success can also be attributed to her ability to connect with the students she counsels. “My greatest strength as a consultant is my ability to develop a rapport with students easily,” said Cunningham. “It was my strongest attribute as a school counselor as well, and transferred directly into this role, where trust is a vital part of my working relationship with clients.” Getting an early start on the college admission process is important. Working with Cunningham College Consulting gives you an expert’s insight into what your child needs to be concentrating on in his or her high school career. “Having worked as a high school counselor, I understand course sequences, proper academic work load and graduation requirements, which facilitates prudent class recommendations that clients typically seek from me,” said Cunningham. “Colleges want to see a pattern of academic success within pursuit of a challenging schedule, and students often request guidance in choosing classes that meet both objectives.” To this end, Cunningham College Consulting provides a number of services. “My services include helping students compile a list of prospective colleges based on their goals and preferences; teaching "
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Although there are many issues Cunningham College Consulting can help you with far into the application process, there is an optimal time to seek their guidance. “The ideal time for students to begin working with me is the spring of, or the summer immediately following, 10th grade,” said Cunningham. “That allows me to get to know them early in the process and to provide direction on college visits and the ACT/SAT. Some students begin touring schools in the fall of junior year, and they need to know how to go beyond a formal tour in order to obtain valuable information that will help determine whether they ultimately apply. Testing advice is crucial, especially with significant changes being introduced to the SAT in 2016.” Cunningham College Consulting emphasizes that there are many, many excellent colleges where students with a broad array of talent, achievement and interests can thrive and thoroughly prepare themselves for employment or graduate/professional programs. “Limiting the college search to schools based on name recognition, perceived prestige, or rankings guides, turns the admission process inside-out,” said Cunningham. “It becomes the pursuit of an arbitrary ideal, rather than the desire to identify a college that is the best fit for the student based on his/her unique abilities and aspirations.”
them how to get the most from college visits; advising them regarding standardized testing; providing organizational support as they complete applications, including suggestions on applying early decision, early action or regular decision; brainstorming essay topics and/or reviewing essays for faithful adherence to the prompt and writing that reveals something meaningful about them; evaluating financial aid offers; and assistance with deciding where to enroll, when offers of admission are received,” said Cunningham.
Cunningham College Consulting, LLC, is located at 2990 Bethesda Place, Suite 603E in Winston-Salem. For more information, call 336.774.9991, or visit the website at www.cunninghamcollegeconsulting.com.
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Transitioning to High School: Making Great Decisions Early uncertainty and excitement for rising high school freshman as they take another step forward in their educational career. A new school guarantees higher expectations in subject matter and studying habits. There will be new social activities, and opportunities to interact with a greater number of students with similar and diverse interests. Whether a student’s goal is attending a university, a technical or community college, entering the work force, or joining the military, a variety of classes is available for students to reach those future goals. Rising ninth-graders have a lot to contemplate. Important decisions, from classes to electives, from extracurricular activities to defining your reputation, all have great value, now!
Class Choice IS Important For the first time, students will be able to select classes based on hobbies and future professional interests. English and math, science and history classes are recommended, based on a student’s “track.” However, while students will be challenged in the area of academics, utilizing electives is an appealing way to incorporate balance into the school schedule. Why not select an elective that has meaning to your life or future, such as speech and debate, foreign language, horticulture, or Bible History?
Establish a Support System High school counselor David Naff shares, “Increasingly, students find themselves with the means and expectations to become overwhelmed with work while in school. It is important to strive for greatness, but not without healthy consideration of limits and the need to still be a teenager. It is important that students have a strong support system. That includes parents, teachers, community members, school counselors, and other advocates who know him or her well. This allows for multiple perspectives on what may or may not be ‘too much.’ It is important to pay little attention to how other families navigate decisions. Consulting counselors and teachers about specifics regarding curriculum is helpful, but ultimately it is up to each family to determine how to progress through high school.”
Establish Routine and Grades First Transitioning to a new school will make most teenagers feel they are able to handle right away ALL of the opportunities high school has to offer. There are fall sports, cheerleading, and many clubs and organizations which will occupy a student’s after-school hours; however, while he or she is still a freshman, it is important to spend the first half of the year focusing on just being a student. Ninth grade does count. For many students, it is the only
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year that focuses on college preparation, instead of college credit; therefore, students who establish a strong academic standing are more likely to “balance” time management and rigorous study schedules later when a sport or theater production consumes numerous evenings and weekends.
Defining Your Reputation Some aspects of high school have not changed. Students are still given a label based on their activities, talents and interests. We know the cheerleader and the athlete, the artist and the musician; however, what title is going to be associated with your teenager’s name? What about the word “journalist?” Classes in journalism can assist your teen with writing and interviewing skills, reading more critically, and learning to use desktop publishing software. Collecting the news will also introduce “student journalists” to a wider range of students, teachers and other staff members. While improving a life skill, journalism students can be dubbed with other adjectives, such as “smart,” “interesting” and “cool.” Electives, clubs, and organizations can be selected based on your teen’s future ambitions. When a college reviews a student’s “resume” of achievements, it could possibly be advantageous to be “gradually” affiliated with a computer, book, debate, or language club. While it is only offered at Reagan and North Forsyth high schools, those with military interests or leanings can join the JROTC program. Making choices based on interest or talent allows students to make a name for themselves—all the while having fun. Rising ninth-graders have many options to reach their academic goals to become a well-rounded individual. While the “drive” to excel is important, students will have to utilize their resources to help eliminate stress and find balance among all the opportunities associated with a new school.
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Elementary Eliminating the Stress Associated With End-of-Year Tests By Lisa S.T. Doss month, an article explored the “Academic Pressures” facing our high school and college students. While elementary students are still learning the rules of testing, there are manageable ways to replace the feelings of anxiety and stress with preparedness and confidence. Young children need to openly discuss their fears, and to find ways to feel comfortable about the testing process. Parents who create games and ultimately make learning fun are indirectly exposing their children to various learning tools.
Our students will be taking their endof-grade and other proficiency state tests next month, which may include testing in science (fifth through eighth grade); writing (fourth-, seventh-, and tenth-graders); and computer skills (eighth through twelfth grade). While studying is not necessary, students would benefit from a few practical strategies and pretesting reminders to ensure the moment of testing is spent focused and feeling great! Before the Test • Students need to analyze what aspects made them successful test-takers. • Testing is exhausting; therefore, students need to give their body time to recharge. Parents need to explain the purpose of going to bed early. The goal is to wake feeling refreshed and ready.
To increase vocabulary and understanding, it would be beneficial to have students listen to an age-appropriate audio book up to two years above his or her reading level. If listening in the car, parents can ask and answer questions. Reading • If a strategy is effective, use it! Reading the directions twice, underlining key words, crossing out unlikely answers are great strategies if applied with consistency. • The test is designed to consume a specific amount of time; therefore, students should understand the expectation of the passage before reading. Underlining key words or writing up to three words in the margin will help students have a “purpose” for reading. • It’s okay for students to put a question mark in front of truly difficult questions. If time is available, students can return to those questions for one more analysis. Let it be known, the first choice is usually the right one! Math • After reading the question, try to come up with an answer in your head before looking at possible answers. Too often, choices are provided to trick the test taker. • Don’t rush when using scratch paper. Mistakes are easily made and can be the difference between getting the right answer and missing the question. Writing • The one way to become a better writer is to practice or correct past assignments. Focus on improving just two areas. For example, younger students may wish to diversify the first word or include one conjunction in a sentence. Older students may focus on eliminating redundant phrasing. • Practice developing a solid outline.
• Eat a healthy, filling breakfast. As a result, students will focus on doing their best rather than becoming distracted by a grumbling stomach.
• On the day of the test, take the time to create a thoughtful outline. Students can then put more energy into concise wording and a wellconstructed sentence.
Improving Endurance • One of the most important difficulties with EOG testing is that the exam extends beyond a class period; therefore, students need to learn how to stay focused and alert.
Computer • One benefit of taking a computerized test is that most students feel comfortable; however, students should not rush or hit “enter” too quickly, as mistakes are likely.
• Students are already reading factual information at school; therefore, tackle increasing endurance levels by allowing your child to read for pleasure. The book should be on your child’s reading level. Explain the goal, so your child is “on board” to gradually increase his or her reading times.
• The week of testing is emotionally draining; therefore, parents, make those morning and evenings especially positive. Tying a string around your child’s wrist can be a symbolic form of your inspirational words. No matter what the words are, students just need to believe in their ability and do their best!
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Save the Date for A Taste of Spring The evening will feature inspirational music and keynote speaker
Glennon Doyle Melton, New York Times bestselling author of Carry On, Warrior and the blog Momastery.com Glennon inspires diverse audiences to live & work with more courage, boldness & purpose. Her authenticity, power & warmth translate forcefully from the page to the stage.
CareNet Counseling’s 6th Annual Dessert Tasting and Silent Auction to benefit CareNet Counseling - an affiliate of Wake Forest Baptist Health, providing faith-integrated counseling for over 40 years. Friday, May 2, 2014 | 6:30 pm St. Paul's Episcopal Church Honorary Chairs Dr. and Mrs. John McConnell Presenting Sponsor Hartsoe and Associates Heavy hors d’oeuvres, wine and beer. Over 20 desserts donated by area restaurants, bakeries and caterers. Reservations required | Tickets $50 per person Please call 716-0855 for more information.
Improving health of the mind, body, spirit, and community through faith-integrated counseling, psychotherapy, research, and education. children’s adjustment issues • school and learning concerns issues related to ADD and ADHD • grief • life transitions issues related to Autism Spectrum Disorders parenting issues • blended and step families mood disorders • anxiety disorders • stress management Most insurance accepted – no referrals needed
Introducing one of our counselors
Cecilia Marshall, Ph.D. Psychologist
403 S. Hawthorne Road, Winston-Salem, NC 27103 336.716.0855 www.carenetcounseling.org 4 Convenient locations to serve you: Winston-Salem, Mocksville, Kernersville, Mt. Airy April Issue 2014 • 47
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Summer Camp Showcase! Thanks to all the families who came to see us at the BB&T Ballpark on March 9th for the 2nd Annual Forsyth Family Summer Camp Expo, sponsored by the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina! We had a gorgeous day and hope that everyone who joined us found some exciting summer camp options for their children! Photos by Bonnett Photography / One Shot Photography
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