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Complimentary February 2014

Dr. Tina S. Merhoff & Associates Pediatric Dentistry


How this Faith-Centered Dental Practice Keeps it Real in Challenging Times I PROM GUIDE I AGES & STAGES I DINING GUIDE

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Publisher Robin Bralley | Account Executives Tamara Bodford | Jessica Barney | Kelley Carnall Adele Casanova | Brooke Eagle | Jennie Hess Heather Spivey | Erin Webster Advertising Graphic Artist Moonlight Designs | Cover Photography Compliments of Tina S Merhoff & Associates Contributing Photographers Kristi Johnson Marion One Shot Photography Content Editor Tim Sellner Senior Staff Writer Carolyn S. Peterson Staff Writer and Communications Specialist Meghan E. W. Corbett Project Manager Denise Heidel |

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Dr. Tina S. Merhoff & Associates Pediatric Dentistry

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Paul’s Cycling & Fitness – A Family Business Since 1961

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Contributing Writers Fareed Al-Khon | Emily Eileen Carter | Meghan E. W. Corbett | Lisa S.T. Doss | Justin Cord Hayes Rachel Hoeing | Kristi Johnson Marion | Kelly Melang Tina S. Merhoff | Isabella Migliarese | Carolyn S. Peterson | Tim Roberts | Tami Rumfelt | Heather Spivey Keith Tilley | Kim Underwood | Meridith Whitaker Leigh Ann McDonald Woodruff

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Putting Our Heart into Soccer at Twin City Youth Soccer


What I Want My Daughter to Know About Leadership


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The 26th Annual Triad Home & Garden Show


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Receiving a College Admission Deferral

Dancing Classrooms: Transforming Young Lives, One Step at a Time

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The Mommy Diaries: Pregnancy Woes & Wonders


The View from My Section…The Journey into Romantic Love


House2Home 42 - Winston-Salem Cleaning Service 44 - The 26th Annual Triad Home Garden Show

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Kids’s Morning Out Faith & Family 55 - Tami’s Devotion 56 - Musing About...Accolades 58 - Dr. Gary Chapman on Love, Valentine’s Day, and Healthy Relationships


Triad Mom’s on Main: Ten Ways to Say “I Love You” to Your Children

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Small Stories for a Big World Ages & Stages 65 - The Decision to Breastfeed 66 - The Terrible Twos Become the Incredible Twos

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Family Friendly Dining Guide: Cupcakes by Three

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The Artist’s Corner


February 2014

Keeping Bones Healthy As You Age

February and love is in the air! The minute the “after Christmas” sales began, Valentine merchandise happily replaced the ornaments and lights. While some people may scoff at this little holiday, I’ll take any occasion to celebrate those I love and care about. It really takes so little to show someone you care and make a small difference in their lives. An unexpected note, helping out with something you don’t ordinarily help with, or even a simple hug, can speak volumes. Let’s make this Valentine’s a little sweeter by sharing with those we love!


My family has a special birthday to celebrate this February, as my mother-in-law, Delphia Bralley, will turn 90 years young! Her actual birthday is on Valentine’s Day and I can’t imagine a better day to celebrate her. She is one of the sweetest ladies I know, and I have been blessed to have her as a second mom for the past 25 years. So happy birthday, Nanny, we love you! Dr. Tina S. Merhoff & Associates is our cover story and they share a little about what makes their pediatric dental practice so special. You can feel the warmth the minute you walk into their office. If you’re seeking out a dentist for your child, be sure to check them out! This is our second and last month of the Prom Guide. It is definitely not too early to be making those prom plans, so check out a few of our advertisers that can help make your child’s prom experience a special one! Mark your calendars for our 2nd annual Summer Camp Expo, March 9th, from 1–4 p.m. at the BB&T Ballpark. Check out the inside front cover for more details. Blessings!

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Paul’s Cycling & Fitness – A Family Business Since 1961 By Meghan E.W. Corbett

can spend countless hours and thousands of dollars keeping a car running far past its prime, but many of us put very little time and effort into the health of our bodies. Our bodies are irreplaceable, so the better the care we take now to stay healthy, the fewer doctor tune-ups we will need later! When beginning, or building on, a healthy lifestyle, it is important to consult professionals like Paul, Dennis and Dale Harrell of Paul’s Cycling & Fitness.


In 1961, Paul Harrell, Sr. decided to open a hobby shop specializing in model cars, model planes and bicycles. Decades later, Paul’s Cycling & Fitness remains a family-owned and -operated shop with Paul Sr.’s sons, Paul, Dennis and Dale.“We love what we do,” said Paul. “We all grew up in this business with our dad. We love helping people and working in a healthy environment. It is very rewarding to sell someone a piece of equipment and see them come back to add to the equipment in their homes. We love to hear their success stories as well. Many people have the mindset that they do not have time for exercise…but there are benefits that come from walking for [just] ten minutes. You cannot wait until you have time—start where you are and build from there. The more you do, the more your body wants to do. Even starting at 10 minutes a day on a regular basis will make you feel better. We do not stretch our bodies enough…and just minimal stretching a day is worthwhile in eliminating or alleviating pain in the joints and back. We really try to educate and encourage people of all ages, especially those considered middle-aged and older, [as to] how important it is to do at least some light exercise and/or stretching. Something as simple as watching television while balancing on a stability ball with couple of dumb bells or kettle bells is a great way to keep muscles strong.” Paul’s Cycling & Fitness offers top-quality machines for all levels of exercise and training. “We have equipment to accommodate everyone, whether that be an individual looking for a great way to get or stay in shape, [or] an advanced athlete,” said Paul. “We are experienced in listening to people and selling them equipment that fulfills their needs, and not just fills up their homes. Elliptical machines are no longer the bulky seven-foot machines we think of in gyms, and they offer the advantage of great cardio workouts with no impact stress for those with sensitive joints, or those recovering from injury or surgery. They also now adjust to fit the user’s height in regard to stride length. The True

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Fitness treadmills we offer have the best suspension system in the industry, with a patented soft-walking system to ease impact stress. Some models even have an adjustable walking-surface suspension setting. Every True Fitness treadmill comes with a 30-year motor warranty, unheard of in the fitness industry, and up to 10 years warranty on all parts and electronics. We also offer recumbent bikes and elliptical recumbent bikes by True Fitness and PhysioStep. These are widely used in therapy centers for knee and hip replacement patients and are the perfect way to continue physical therapy in the home.” For those interested in beginning a fitness routine, but who do not like the atmosphere of a gym or prefer the privacy of their own home and workout schedule, Paul’s Cycling & Fitness can help. “There is something to be said about working out in the comfort of your own home with your own equipment,” said Paul. “It is a great way to truly work out on your own schedule under your own terms. We can help you lay out a fitness room with regard to dimensions and what will and will not fit in a given space at no cost. A home workout room is a great use for spare bedrooms or a converted den or basement. For those with financial concerns, we certainly do have payment options, including no-interest financing and layaway. We have never claimed to be the cheapest place in town, but we offer quality products at fair prices, which my father believed was most important. We do not try to compete with the department stores, because we feel like we can count on the products we sell, and we refuse to sell cheap products.” The family atmosphere customers appreciate at Paul’s Cycling & Fitness is a direct result of the man who started it all. “Our father just turned 86, and he still very faithfully works out on the equipment we offer,” said Paul. “He was never a competitive cyclist…he was just trying to feed eight children. His family values continue to show through our work and the relationships we build with our customers.”

Paul’s Cycling and Fitness is located at 2405 Buchanan Street in Winston-Salem. Store hours are Monday through Friday, 9 a.m.– 6 p.m. and Saturday, 9 a.m.–4 p.m. For more information, call 336.777.1002, email or visit the website at

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Sweet in Every Sense!

Kilwins By Justin Cord Hayes

flowers are one side of the Valentine’s Day coin, then without a doubt, chocolate is on the obverse side. And Kilwins, in the Thruway Shopping Center, offers the best chocolate (and let’s not forget ice cream) in the Winston-Salem area.


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Barry and Mardie Worst opened Kilwins in December of 2012, but they are no strangers to Winston-Salem. The couple moved here from Kansas in 1990 to open the World Bazaar store in the Silas Creek Shopping Center. When that business’ lease expired in 2008, the Worsts retired temporarily from retail, but the sweet allure of Kilwins brought them back. The Worsts learned about the northern Michigan-based candy and ice cream giant from its Blowing Rock location. They, like many connoisseurs, became hooked on Kilwins Original Recipe Ice Cream. “The original Kilwins’ ice cream is fantastic!” Mardie Worst said. “In fact, ice cream is our top seller all year except at Valentine’s Day and Christmas, when chocolates way outdo ice cream.”

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Before I get to the chocolate, I’ll linger a bit on Kilwins Original Recipe Ice Cream. Salted caramel and toasted coconut are the local favorites. And passersby who have no intention of getting a snack find themselves pulled into Kilwins, as by a tractor beam, thanks to the irresistible smell of freshly cooking waffle cones. Ice cream isn’t the only year-round favorite. Caramel apples with various nuts and toppings fly out of Kilwins’ display cases like Cupid’s arrows fly out of his quiver this time of year. And what of those sweet, seductive gifts sweethearts seek for their paramours? “We have pre-packed heart boxes of truffles,” Mardie Worst said, “or we can custom-pack boxes hand-picked for the special person.” That’s just for starters. “A little fun and unique item we offer is the Fortune Waffle Cone Cookie with chocolate-dipped corners,” Worst explained. “We have them pre-made, saying, ‘Happy Valentine’s Day’ and ‘I Love You,’ or we can put in a custom message—censored, of

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course—with a little advance notice.” One final, popular Valentine’s Day item is chocolate-dipped strawberries. In fact, these are so popular that you’d be wise to special order them ahead of time in order to make sure you can get them. Chocolate should no more be confined to February 14 than should romance. Fudge, for example, is wonderful 365 days a year. Winston-Salem’s Kilwins has six flavors of Mackinac Island Fudge, and if you’re lucky, you’ll happen by the store to catch fudge being hand-paddled on a marble slab. But what if the scent of fresh fudge battles it out with the aroma of a fresh waffle cone? What a dilemma your nose will give your taste buds! Do you go for the waffle cone filled with toasted coconut ice cream, or do you indulge in melt-in-your-mouth fudge? On second thought, there’s no dilemma. Just get both. While you’re at it, you should pick up turtles, truffles, coconut clusters, Krispie treats, chocolate-dipped pretzel rods, and pralines. Convince yourself that you won’t indulge in all of it at once and that you’ll share it with your loved ones. Free samples of fudge and ice cream are available, just in case you want to narrow your search the tiniest bit. But life’s not about narrowing your choices! Life is for living and savoring everything!


“We strive to have a happy, fun place to visit, serving the most delicious sweets available,” Worst said. “Kilwins is the happiest place I’ve ever worked. People come in with a smile and leave with an even bigger smile.” Kilwins is located in the Thruway Shopping Center (300 S. Stratford Road) between Digits and The Juice Shop. The shop’s phone number is 336-602-1399.

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Receiving a College Admission Deferral “It’s

the most wonderful time of the year,” or so we are told over and over throughout the month of December as we scurry around, planning holiday and New Year’s celebrations. However, for high school seniors, December and January are often characterized by anxiety and uncertainty as they wait for admission results from early-decision and early-action college applications. Some receive acceptance letters, some are denied admission, and some are deferred to the regular applicant pool, thus delaying a final decision for a few more months. How should students respond when faced with the latter scenario?

discourse, or the chance to design their own major? Does it seem like the “right” school because so many friends applied there? Are prestige and name recognition outweighing other factors that might suggest it’s not the ideal college? These are tough questions, meant to clarify rather than confuse, and answering them truthfully can provide focus and direction as application season progresses. Fourth, students need to evaluate the other colleges where they have applied and determine which is the best fit if they eventually must make an alternative choice. It is often helpful to visit the school(s) again and to ask additional questions that might have been overlooked during the first visit. Students who have a dream school sometimes gloss over visits to

First, they must take time to absorb the news and grieve the disappointing results, before moving forward methodically. Being deferred does not mean that they are out of the game, but it will benefit them to proceed in an organized, measured fashion as they consider realistically the likelihood of being admitted, and begin entertaining the idea of possibly attending a different college. Second, it is important for students (rather than parents) to contact the deferring institution and ask what, if any, additional information they should submit. The admission committee will want to review fall semester grades and might request an additional essay and/or letter of recommendation. If an extra essay or recommendation is desirable, talk to an admission representative about what type of writing or comments would be helpful in further assessing suitability for admission. Students should also plan to report accomplishments or awards, such as finishing an Eagle Scout or Gold Award project, winning a science fair or essay competition, or improving their SAT/ACT scores. It is important to be judicious in submitting additional information; share news of significant achievements as opposed to weekly updates of academic or athletics successes. Third, and probably most difficult, is for students to be clear about their reasons for wanting to attend the college where they were deferred. Is it because of a particular academic major, the opportunity to do undergraduate research, the small class sizes that allow for meaningful "

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colleges they deem second-best, resulting in a lack of in-depth knowledge about the institution. A second visit can lead to informationgathering that produces a well-informed decision in the months ahead. Finally, students who “hedged their bets” by applying to one college only, whether it was early decision or early action, must now figure out where else to apply. This can be tricky, because it is tempting to fill out applications to colleges that don’t necessarily interest them, but where they are likely to be accepted, merely to have somewhere to matriculate in the fall if denied by the deferring school. It is wise to resist this course of action. Students are best served by taking the time to review what they truly want in a college and to identify schools that meet all or most of their criteria. Regular application deadlines might not allow time for a visit before applying, but there should be an opportunity to see the campus, which is vital, before making a final decision in the spring. High school seniors who applied to college early and were deferred to the regular applicant pool have plenty of time to respond with purpose and clarity as they move forward through the admission process. Not receiving a fat envelope in December or January, while painful, signifies a continuation—rather than the end—of the journey. Deliberate investigation of other institutions and honesty with themselves about the type of school that best suits them will propel students toward a solid choice when offers of admission have been received. The holiday and New Year seasons might have involved more angst than good will for some seniors. However, whether they are accepted to the schools that initially deferred them or ultimately enroll at different institutions, students will have good news to celebrate as April notifications begin arriving. Contact Julie at 336.774.9991 or for additional information about her consulting services.

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dental care can be hard to find. Some dentists have strict requirements for new patients; some do not offer payment options; and some focus on speed of service as opposed to comfort level of the patient. When you become a patient of Winston-Salem Dental Care (WSDC), you know immediately that you will receive nothing but the best dental care available every visit.


“Winston-Salem Dental Care was established as a company-sponsored dental plan for the RJR Industries employees and their families in 1978,” said WSDC President Kenneth M. Sadler. “Reynolds maintained ownership of the practice until 1996, when Carolina Medicorp, now Novant Health, purchased the practice. Subsequently, in 1999, a group of eleven dentists purchased the practice from Novant Health. The practice only saw RJR/RAI employees and their families from 1978 until 1996, when it began accepting other patients. We are now open to the entire community and [have] patients from across the Triad. I have had a number of roles since joining the practice in 1978. They have ranged from staff dentist to various management positions, culminating in becoming the President of the group.” Another problem people face at many dental practices is a lack of services offered. At WSDC, patients can take advantage of the one-stop nature of the practice. “WSDC is a comprehensive ‘oral care center’ providing general dentistry, cosmetic dentistry, root canal therapy, dental implants, wisdom tooth removal, orthodontics, periodontics, TMJ therapy, snoring and sleep apnea appliances and oral & IV sedation and diagnostic X-rays,” said Dr. Sadler. A full-service dental laboratory provides fixed and removable dental appliances and dentures, as well as crowns. Many practices divide staff among multiple locations leaving patients constantly

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wondering where their dentist will be on any given day. “Unlike other dental practices that use multiple locations to provide similar services, WSDC provides all services, 10 hours per day, five days per week in one multi-level 50,000 square foot facility,” said Dr. Sadler. “As such, we are able to see patients requiring multiple services much easier without having to refer patients throughout the community. At least one dentist and dental assistant is on-call during non-business hours to ensure access to our established patients. WSDC is proud of its 21 years of accreditation by the Accreditation Association for Ambulatory Health Care, Inc. the nation’s leading accreditation organization for outpatient health care and surgery centers, college and university health centers, diagnostic imaging centers and United States military care facilities.” In addition to common services offered by dental professionals, WSDC offers some services others may not. “We provide care for patients with sleep related disorders, care for patients with varying levels of anxiety related to the dental experience, IV sedation by providers with a combined total of more than 150 years of experience and thousands of patients and implant therapy by providers with more than 20 years’ experience in the field,” said Dr. Sadler. “We have the ability to seek

advice from specialists and experienced general dentists all located under one roof.” WSDC’s staff also puts great emphasis on helping patients find payment plans to meet their needs. “WSDC will do all it can to accommodate potential patients in obtaining care and services and attempt to provide a solution to payment issues or problems,” said Dr. Sadler. “All insurance plans are accepted; WSDC is an in-network provider for Metlife, CIGNA and Assurant dental plans and has just begun application to become an in-network provider for Blue Cross-Blue Shield dental plans. WSDC provides payment plan opportunities through both internal and external sources offering attractive payment terms including no interest plans. WSDC will file all insurance claims without a need for patient contact with their insurance or other payment source.”

For more information about Winston-Salem Dental Care, Kenneth M. Sadler, DDS and Associates, P.A. call 336.331.3500, email or visit the website at

“We are now open to the entire community and [have] patients from across the Triad.”

Bringing Smiles to the Whole Community For over 35 years Winston-Salem Dental Care has been providing quality dental care to the Greater Winston-Salem area. We invite you to put your dental needs in our capable hands.

Winston Salem Dental Care provides: • General Dentistry • Root Canal Therapy • Wisdom Tooth Removal • Orthodontics • Oral & IV Sedation • Periodontics • On-Site Dental Lab • TMJ Therapy • Dental Implants • Implant Restoration • Snoring & Sleep Apnea Appliances • Emergency Services to Established Patients

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Transforming Young Lives, One Step at a Time By Kristi Johnson Marion

music was loud, and the cheering students and proud teachers even louder in the gym/auditorium of Easton Elementary School in Winston-Salem, as dancing 5th graders twirled and dipped and tangoed across the floor on December 12, 2013. This was not your ordinary school dance. Teams composed of six ladies and six gentlemen from the 5th-grade classes of Forest Park, Old Town, Easton, Hall-Woodward and Shady Grove Elementary Schools gathered to show off their ballroom dancing skills at the Dancing Classrooms “Colors of the Rainbow” Team Match Competition.


Dancing Classrooms is a 10-week, 20-session social development program for 5th- and 8th-grade children that utilizes ballroom dancing as a vehicle to change the lives, not only of the children who participate in the program, but also

"We are so lucky to have this wonderful program available to schools,” said Norma White, a teacher assistant at Forest Park who worked with the program. “Our students build such confidence and respect for themselves as well as in their classmates. We are so proud of all they accomplished.” The local Dancing Classrooms program is offered by Take the Lead NC, a WinstonSalem non-profit organization founded and directed by Ann Guill. Guill hopes to expand Dancing Classrooms across North Carolina. “I really, really am sold on it—what it does for the children and their families and their schools,” said Guill.

the lives of the teachers and parents who support them. The student couples, or “teams,” each performed the Rumba, Merengue, 14 •

Tango, Foxtrot and Swing. The judges were Jean Brantley, Cheri Van Loon and Tarus Clark. The score-keepers were Marty Edwards and Mary Benton. The Honorary Judge for the event was Emmy-award winning actress Rosemary Harris. The enthusiastic dance team from Forest Park Elementary went home with the gold title and the gold trophy, but all of the other schools earned a silver or bronze trophy, and all of the students earned a medal and gained much from the program.

Take the Lead NC recently received a Wells Fargo Arts in Education Grant from the Arts Council of WinstonSalem to teach Dancing Classrooms at Easton Elementary, the host of this semester’s competition. Dancing Classrooms offers transformative life lessons wrapped around ballroom dancing, and in this area has grown from serving two schools in 2009 to serving 18 schools and over 3,400 children at present. The program is supported in part by school funding and primarily by funds raised by Take the Lead NC. Photos by Kristi Marion

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Putting Our Heart into Soccer at Twin City Youth Soccer By Kelly Melang

30 is a well-known fact that day minutes of exercise a Develop keeps children healthy. an that love of exercise with organized sport! With the th coaches of Twin City You ement Soccer, and the encourag s can kid and support by parents, a at develop a love of soccer g as a sin rci young age, building exe healthy lifetime habit. g, parents When it comes to playin the role model. It is should start by being ld into a soccer program, one thing to put your chi re and play with them. but another to get out the ne time your child than one-on-o There is nothing better for sing the ball around the with you dribbling and pas t and e to be a pro, just get ou back yard. You don’t hav life-long a s ate cre rt sta from the play! Making the sport fun love of the game. r goal is m at Twin City Soccer, ou “In our Recreation Progra kids r ou nt wa all about fun. We to make playing soccer we y, ntl rta po h us, but more im to improve their skills wit ile wh s nd st making new frie want them to have a bla t is for everyone,” says tha participating in a sport Henson. Recreation Director Sarah Take the Time and Be Present. There is nothing ld more important for a chi m fro rt po sup than to have their parents when doing something they love. Encourage them to listen to their coaches and to give it their best try, reminding them that it’s about their effort and enjoyment, not about the result. Taking the time to be on the sideline not only builds their confidence in soccer, but solidifies the relationship with Mom and Dad. great way to build Get them involved. A r child’s life is by exercise as a routine in you in City Youth Soccer’s joining a league. With Tw levels, children are different age-appropriate giving them the placed in an environment


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What I Want

My Daughter to Know

About Leadership By Lisa S.T. Doss


annual fall bonfire is a gathering of families and couples who come to enjoy good conversation and food by a roaring fire. The children range in age from three to sixteen. While the teens are more interested in reading and texting, the younger kids bond through eating S’mores, playing with glow sticks, and sitting together near the fiery warmth. My daughter is usually the youngest. To her, John, age five, Caleb, age six, and Lily, age 10, to name a few, are heroes and role models. While she loves her friends, she feels safety in their company and would willingly follow them to the moon and back. In return, they are guiding and assisting her to make good decisions. These children are too young, perhaps, to see their acts under the label of leadership. As parents, we feel fortunate our daughter has many friends of varying ages who enjoy her with sisterly affection. In friendship, the rules are unclear for my three-year-old daughter. Her education offers correction and opportunities to witness the interactions of both adults and children. While one-third of her life will be spent trying to understand her relationships, she will show leadership in her everyday actions toward her little brother, her friends and classmates, in her undergraduate studies and chosen profession, and in the gift of parenthood. Instilling this character trait will test her faith and her understanding of right and wrong. Most importantly, she will learn when to listen, when to speak up, when to lead, and when to follow. While the outside world is a competitive place and too often confusing, I want my daughter to remember always that being a leader coincides with being the best person at all times in God’s presence.

As parents, we are reinforcing such phrases as “Be nice!” “Be patient!” “Wait your turn!” and the Golden Rule, “Listen!” It may be cute to hear the questions and responses that come from a young child’s heart; but soon, she will learn the value of listening and responding appropriately. Throughout her education, our daughter will have opportunities to use her voice. Her words may have influence over her friends and encourage them also to make good choices. She has the power to unite people instead of alienating others, and to transform a bully into a new friend. With a strong and kind heart, her leadership potential could empower a drive in others. Understanding the situation, she could choose to go along with the crowd, or face the consequences of walking away. Will others also follow her in support, or choose an easier path? While she will always have a choice, leadership is not always popular or cool. Sometimes, doing the right thing means losing friends. I hope my daughter can see her strengths, the power behind her name, and every aspect of herself that reflects her character. Until our daughter is old enough, she has the protection of her family. While this love creates a feeling of self-importance, she, too, will need to stand up for her own beliefs and perhaps for those who do not have a voice. While she will be encouraged to do her best and not compare herself to anyone else, our daughter will learn to demonstrate leadership by asking hard questions and sometimes challenging the rules. It is important for our dear daughter to have the aptitude to persevere and complete her commitments. Even if failure becomes the only option, I hope she learns from her mistakes in striving toward the goal of becoming a better person. For those who are in a position of influence, such as her teachers, coaches and employers, we pray each person will have enough spirit and care to encourage her. Great leaders can make a remarkable difference in her life by providing opportunities and challenges, constructive criticism and promotion. While there will be many peers and colleagues who block her path, she has her own determination and talent to overcome obstacles. May you, dear daughter, climb to the top of your defined summit to find knowledge and happiness! Standing on the sidelines, we, your parents, will silently cheer you on! “Go, girl! You can do anything!”

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Keeping bones healthy as you age Osteoporosis, a disease that makes a person’s bones weak and more likely to break, is often seen as an inevitable part of aging, but there are ways to combat bone loss and prevent bone fractures associated with the disease. One of the biggest risk factors for having osteoporosis is age, and with the aging baby boomer population, the prevalence of osteoporosis is skyrocketing. According to the National Osteoporosis Foundation, about half of women and one in four men in the United States will break a bone because of osteoporosis. One of most common injuries is a hip fracture. “Nationally, only about 20 percent of people who have hip fractures actually end up getting appropriate treatment for osteoporosis,” says Catherine Rolih, MD, Medical Director of the Novant Health Osteoporosis Clinic at Forsyth Medical Center. “And it’s fairly common for these people to have repeat fractures; so we’ve developed a program to proactively reach these patients and to help address what’s become a major public health problem.” Recognizing the disease: Many people don’t realize they have osteoporosis until after they experience a fracture. “Most of the time, if you’re 50 years old or older and you break a bone with minimal trauma, you probably have osteoporosis,” says Dr. Rolih. Doctors recommend having a baseline bone density study at age 65 for women and age 70 for men. The most common screening is a

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form of x-ray technology called DEXA, dual-energy x-ray absorptiometry Who’s most at risk? “This disease affects women more than men because women start out at a lower bone density initially, and then what really makes a difference is menopause,” explains Dr. Rolih. “Estrogen suppresses bone breakdown, so when you go through menopause you’re breaking down your bones at a faster rate than you’re probably rebuilding them.” Doctors have found that osteoporosis tends to run in families and is more common in people who are thin and have smaller body frames. However, the disease can also affect overweight and obese people who tend to have vitamin D deficiencies. Researchers have also found that having type 2 diabetes can increase the risk of osteoporosis. There are numerous other diseases and medications which can also cause osteoporosis, most notably prednisone. Patients taking prednisone for more than a few weeks at a time should also be on medication to prevent osteoporosis. Can you rebuild bone? While there are many medications on the market for managing osteoporosis, doctors say there is no one-size-fits-all solution. “There is one medication that does rebuild bone, but most of the medications we use to treat osteoporosis prevent further bone loss, not directly stimulate bone reformation,” explains Dr. Rolih. Doctors recommend getting as much calcium as you can from your diet by eating foods like

dairy products and green, leafy vegetables that are high in calcium content. Exercise and physical activity are also important components of maintaining bone health. “Activity is part of managing low bone density,” says Dr. Rolih. “The skeleton responds to physical activity by thickening and becoming stronger. So the more sedentary you are, the worse it is for your bone health.” Smoking and drinking more than three servings of alcohol a day can also cause bone loss and lead to osteoporosis. “At Novant Heath Forsyth Medical Center, we see about 600 patients with hip fractures a year, a tremendous number. We’re stepping in so these patients are aware of the disease and can take a proactive approach to managing it.” Catherine Rolih, MD, is an endocrinologist and Medical Director of the Novant Health Osteoporosis Clinic at Forsyth Medical Center. For more information, call the Novant Health Maya Angelou Women’s Health &Wellness Center at 336-718-0060. Surprising sources of calcium Women 50 years and older need 1,200 milligrams of calcium per day. Besides dairy products, here are some other tasty sources of calcium: Broccoli Bok choy Kale

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all women are aware of the risks of breast, uterine and ovarian cancer, and take annual preventive action against these potentially life-threatening diseases by scheduling annual check-ups, mammograms and pap smears. However, when it comes to fighting coronary artery disease, America’s number-one killer of women, they are not as proactive; this is often because they are unaware of the serious risk it presents. Cardiovascular disease is defined as coronary heart disease, stroke and poor circulation, and the statistics relating to these are frightening.


Cardiovascular disease is the number-one killer in the United States and, in fact, cardiovascular disease death rates are four times higher in white women and six times higher in black women than the death rates from breast cancer. One in ten American women ages 45 to 64 has some form of heart disease, and by age 65, that increases to one in five. And death rates from heart attacks are about 50% higher in women than men. But there is some good news in all these numbers—preventive measures and treatment appear to be equally effective in men and women. However, the treatment rate for risk factors in women tends to be lower than in men. It is essential for women to understand that there are multiple factors that increase their risks of developing cardiovascular disease, and that their treatment is just as important as that provided to men. Many major risk factors for cardiovascular diseases are controllable; these include high blood pressure, high blood cholesterol, smoking, obesity, physical inactivity, diabetes and stress. Others are uncontrollable, such as gender and family history. Having several risk factors is particularly troublesome, as they don’t simply add their effects; they actually multiply the potential risks. Fortunately, the fact that so many of these risk factors are controllable means that women can empower themselves to lessen the chances that they will be stricken by this deadly disease, and there are fairly straightforward steps women can take. Quitting smoking is crucial. So is

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It can be controlled with regular physical activity, cutting down on alcohol, table salt and losing excess weight. Diabetes is often called a “women’s disease,” because after age 45, about twice as many women as men develop this serious disease, which raises the risk of coronary heart disease about three times higher in diabetic women. Good diabetic control can be achieved in some individuals by losing excess weight, following a healthy diet and participating in regular exercise. Last but not least, adequate cholesterol management has been shown to reduce cardiovascular events. While a detailed medical history and complete physical examination are very important, diagnostic tests are usually needed to confirm the presence and/or assess the severity of coronary heart disease. The most commonly prescribed tests include electrocardiogram (EKG), echocardiogram, treadmill exercise test, exercise echo, nuclear stress test and coronary angiography. If you think that you are at risk for heart disease, take action by reducing controllable risk factors and visiting your doctor. Your doctor will advise you if any further testing is needed and help you plan lifestyle changes, prescribe medications that may be appropriate for your care, or refer you for formal consultation, where you will see a specialist devoted to treating patients with cardiovascular disease. As with many conditions, cardiovascular disease is not unavoidable. Know your risk factors, get regular exams (to determine if you have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, etc.), control your weight and quit smoking. Taking charge of your heart health is something you can do—with your doctor’s help—to reduce the chance that cardiovascular disease will be part of your future.

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The Mommy Diaries: Pregnancy Woes & Wonders By Emily Eileen Carter

Dear “Little Man,” my 22ay you’re a boy at We found out Frid ll be a fun mom for a wi week ultrasound. I ures, you lots of advent e is om pr I y. little bo e not to is om days, and I pr rough and tumble uddy. We are so excited m get mad if you get t you! It was so amazing ee m to it wa t n’ and ca just you have grown in ad, to see how rapidly he , et fe little hands, sixteen weeks, your heart beating. My heart y and bones, your tin tched you on the wa leapt with joy as we fe is such a miracle! I Li . ultrasound screen y. pp ha am so peace, ntinue to grow in I pray for you to co health. love, strength and Love, Mom


pregnancy, the second trimester is often referred to as “The Honeymoon Trimester,” as the nausea and fatigue of the first trimester subsides, and the discomforts of later pregnancy have not set in. Fortunately for me, my fatigue and nausea did wane, and I was lucky to experience the return of most of my normal energy level. For the first time in three months, I stopped feeling as if I had been run over by a Mack truck. My aversion to coffee and nausea subsided, and my mountain-man appetite returned. Suddenly, I craved protein, sweets, and sushi (the veggie kind) like never before. Needless to say, during this time I was in the middle of transitioning jobs and moving. It was enough to zap anyone’s emotional energy, and the stress weighed heavy on my shoulders; but I made it a point to talk, write, and read to my baby and let him know how important he was to me, no matter how busy and long the days stretched on. As women, we are constantly comparing ourselves to other women, and that doesn’t exclude pregnancy. I tried my best not to scoff at the glowing glamorous pregnant movie stars in People Magazine, not a hair out of place, looking so completely unfazed by the woes of pregnancy. Not only do you compare yourselves to the movie stars, but you compare yourself to other pregnant women. You question your dimensions, how you are carrying your baby, weight gain, how much you are showing; and the hard truth is, it’s absolutely different for every woman. While some women do bask and glow from the love and miracle growing inside them, there are 26 •

many discomforts that women experience that they are often unaware of until they’re actually pregnant. These include, but are not limited to, raging hormones, constipation, gas, indigestion, varicose veins, insomnia, acid reflux and swelling. During my pregnancy, I have treasured this special time to bond with, and feel, this growing miracle inside me, especially those first little kicks! But as my pregnancy progressed (especially into my third trimester), I can attest I have experienced a number of these discomforts. As my belly and body has begun to expand, sleep has become more elusive. I feel like a rotisserie chicken at night, and the blue half-moons under my eyes have grown more apparent. My other big pregnancy foray has been swollen and tender varicose veins. I had to begin wearing support hose in my second trimester, and let me tell you, support hose are no joke. It’s like wrestling an alligator to get those things on each morning. However, when I feel weary or want to whine about these pregnancy woes, I think of my great-grandma who did this twelve times, and the many thousands of women that have done this before me. Though, I must admit the prospect of being a new parent is both exhilarating and terrifying at the same time. No matter what, it’s all worth it! I can’t wait to hold my little one in my arms and whisper sweet nothings into his tiny ears. I feel assured these minor discomforts will be forgotten, as I am already abounding with unconditional love for my child and feel so completely blessed.

12-29-13 Dear Little Man,

So the time is growin g near. I can’t believe will get to meet you I and hold you in my arms in just a month. Da ddy and I are doing so many things to prep are for your arrival. We have set up the nurs ery your Auntie gave us with a beautiful crib and are arranging yo changing table and ur tiny clothes. I grow teary hanging tiny little jumpers and folding onesies, thinking of dr kissing your tiny ha essing you and nds. We love you so muc h and can’t wait to ho ld you in our arms! Continue to grow in health, peace and strength. Love, Mom

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To care for individuals who are in crisis, our inpatient facility has 102 beds including 46 general adult units, 12 for dual diagnosis patients, 14 for older adults, and 30 for adolescents. Adults and adolescents (age 12-17) are in different buildings with adolescent units that are separated by gender. Patients experience a structured day involving several types of group therapies such as recreational therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, pet therapy, mental health relapse prevention, relaxation, current events, and healthy living. On-site psychiatrists meet with patients daily. Old Vineyard highly encourages family involvement for all patients, especially adolescents. Recently, Old Vineyard created new patient workbooks on many aspects of behavioral health, i.e. depression, anxiety, anger management, substance abuse, self-esteem, and grief in addition to self-injury and feelings, to educate on specific individual considerations for more personalized treatment. Our Dual Diagnosis Unit is Old Vineyard’s newest addition. It opened in December to provide the most current treatment for patients who have co-occurring behavioral health and substance abuse disorders. These patients have a structured day just like our other units, but they participate in group therapy that addresses both mental health and substance abuse issues. Patient therapy follows a twelve-step approach, and patients participate in two AA/NA evening meetings each week on our campus. Detox therapy options are based on personalized treatment. Our psychiatrists have worked extensively with substance abuse patients, and Dr. Keshavpal Reddy is dually certified in General Psychiatry and Addiction Medicine. Therapists on this unit also have specialty certifications in addiction. Our Adolescent Unit also has a highly structured day with several group sessions including evidence-based cognitive behavioral programs designed to build critical thinking skills as well as recreation and pet therapy. A Winston Salem Forsyth County teacher instructs patients for 1 ½ hours every school day.

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The Older Adult Unit is built with state of the art design including safety hardware, special floors, mobile beds, and handicap access. Patients on this unit have call buttons for heightened access to care. A masters’ level gerontologist oversees programming modified to address the needs of these patients. Age-specific programming emphasizes managing anxiety, reducing stress, and improving nutrition. Outpatient therapy at Old Vineyard includes both a Partial Hospitalization and an Intensive Outpatient Program. Our Partial Hospitalization Program is a day treatment program that provides a structured supportive environment for individuals who are either transitioning from an inpatient stay or are in need of more intensive care than traditional outpatient therapy. Adult individuals who seek additional care, but are not in crisis, are encouraged to enter our Partial Hospitalization Program. This may also include family members who manage the care of a mentally ill patient. Individuals in this program will work with a clinical team consisting of a board certified psychiatrist, a licensed therapist, and a clinical registered nurse. Partial Hospitalization involves similar programming to an inpatient day with a full array of group therapies with more focus on dialectical-based training and education. Modules follow a two-week rotation and include emotion regulation, mindfulness, relapse prevention, wellness, experiential activities, recreation therapy, and nature walks. This program ends in the early afternoon allowing for time with family or time to work. There is a psychiatrist dedicated to this program who manages each patient’s medication. Program staff collaborates with outpatient treatment providers while the patients are in treatment to ensure successful reengagement. The Intensive Outpatient Program is designed for individuals who need frequent visits with a licensed therapist each week. In this program, patients meet three mornings a week on Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday. This option can be an entry point of care at Old Vineyard, or can also be a transition from another level of care at Old Vineyard. Classes involve both Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and dialectical-based therapy. These programs can either prevent the need for an inpatient stay or provide intermediate steps after hospitalization. The goal is a successful return to a community therapist or other community services. OVBHS’s philosophy emphasizes a patient-centered approach with master’s level clinical therapists to provide quality care in a safe environment. Communication and collaboration with other providers is important to Old Vineyard to strengthen the continuum of patient care. Every patient leaves with a discharge plan including a counseling appointment within seven days of discharge, and an appointment with a psychiatrist within 30 days. Old Vineyard partners with many hospitals, providers, and regional agencies across the state. Please visit our website for more information.


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By A. Keith Tilley

The Journey into Romantic Love


is the month in which we celebrate the single most important emotion one encounters in a lifetime…Love. As my children are growing older now, I’m coming into new experiences that are a part of parenting that can, and no doubt will be, harder to manage than those sleepless nights tending to colic or their high fever in times of sickness. One such experience is their introduction into the world of Romantic Love. It’s an area where I tread carefully and cautiously with each step. I’m doing my best to let them progress at their own rates, and to be there only when I’m called upon, or needed for advice or simple understanding. In my case with two sons, I’m learning they are like a closed book. To quote Lynyrd Skynyrd, “Ask me no questions and I’ll tell you no lies” is the method they prefer. They don’t wish to discuss it in any way with their parents, at least for now, that is.

a strong desire to carry out spontaneous, romantic gestures when they are trying to woo the object of their affection.

So we know love naturally makes us all a little crazy, what with the increased levels of dopamine and serotonin in our brains, along with the physical and emotional impulse to do whatever it takes to win the favor of the person we long for the If we’re being honest, we know Love is a very complex emotion. In part most. And as parents because although it brings you the utmost joy you’ll ever experience in life, it knowing the wide range also is responsible for some of the most painful experiences you’ll ever of feelings and experiences that result from venturing into this volatile, and endure. For just as it provides a warmth in your heart when you’re with that yet most necessary part of life, we want to protect our children as much as we special someone, it can also leave a tremendous void in your heart when he can. But, if truth be told, protecting them (with regard to their emotions) is or she is no longer with you in whatever “You could say that in order to experience probably the least interaction they need at this point circumstances. in their lives. For it’s through experiencing all the this emotion at its paramount, you must be emotions tied to learning about love first-hand; As the old saying goes “Where there’s no pain, there’s no gain.” You could say that in willing to take the risk of being rejected or going through the trials, failures and successes that order to experience this emotion at its losing that person in your life altogether. ultimately leads them to making the soundest decision for a life-partner that is best for them. paramount, you must be willing to take the It’s the price you pay for love.” risk of being rejected or losing that person in Therefore, it’s possible that as parents all we can do your life altogether. It’s the price you pay for love. When you’re an adolescent is be patient and be there for them when needed. And watch as our children or teenager, though, that can be a hard lesson to learn. Science tells us that grow in their experiences, perhaps for the first time without us there every there is an area of the brain called the VTA or ventral tegmental area that is step of the way. We may trust and wish for them that in the end, when the stimulated EQUALLY by both receiving love and when experiencing rejection time is right, they’ll find a most suitable partner that makes the rest of their by the one we are attracted to the most. The latter experience of rejection journey through life hopeful, comforting, compassionate, secure, stable, actually makes the brain more active and yearn even further for the object of loving, and ultimately helps make their lives together the best it can be. If that their desire. Which, I guess, explains why the old strategy of “playing hard to be the case, that’s all we can really ask for. get” can work quite well sometimes. Both experiences, whether receiving love or experiencing rejection, can lead many to impulsive, emotional actions that one wouldn’t normally perform under typical circumstances with someone they were otherwise not attracted to. This explains why some people Please send your thoughts and comments become a little irrational when they are “dumped”; and conversely, others feel

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At Nu we personally know not only our team members, but their spouses and their children. We regularly gather together as an extended family of almost 20 to break bread and thank God for the many blessings we have been given. We also like to get creative, and have had pumpkin and cake decorating parties at lunch. And even with the complaints of our waistlines, we like to eat as a team, too. (Special thanks to Kyle at New Town Bistro) While Nu expression doesn’t need to be a part of your everyday celebration planning, we would love to participate in helping you prepare for the Big Celebrations! Our graphic designers can help you create the perfect invitation, thank you notes and stationery for many events. • Birthdays for both young and old • Bat and Bar Mitzvahs • Retirement Dinners • Neighborhood Gatherings & Block Parties • Baby Announcements • Personalized Thank-You Notes • Graduations

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Winston-Salem Cleaning Service By Meghan E.W. Corbett

time of year, it can be very easy to get complacent about the cleanliness of your home. There are no big holidays coming up, nothing that would warrant a visit from relatives or a holiday party. It’s also cold outside, and the best thing to do when it’s chilly is curl up on the couch with a blanket, not clean the house. And the best thing to do when all of these circumstances are in place…call Winston Salem Cleaning Service to take care of the dirty work!


“We began operations in the WinstonSalem area in 2009,” said President and Co-Owner Kellie Utroska. “Winston Salem Cleaning Service (WSCS) is a small family-owned business. I have always enjoyed cleaning, and my dream was to own a cleaning service. My husband, and co-owner of WSCS, has supported me every step of the way in attaining this goal. Many of our neighbors enjoy a clean home, but find

it challenging to keep their homes as clean as they would like. We all live such busy lives that it is stressful to find the time to clean. For me, the greatest joy is knowing my client can come home to a clean house without the stress of spending his or her free time cleaning.” Those who are not good at cleaning are also not efficient cleaners. This requires even more time, and your home will still not be nearly as clean as it will after a visit from WSCS. Letting professionals tackle the deep cleaning needed after the holiday season will save precious time and cost less than you might think! “Our hourly rate is comparable to other legitimate cleaning companies, but we believe we provide a much higher value for your dollar,” said Kellie. “Many people feel they cannot afford cleaning help, but before you reach that conclusion, I ask you to think about two questions: How much do you value your free time? And how much do you value the health of your family that can be affected by unsanitary conditions? I believe many will find the answers to those questions will lead them to one conclusion—they can’t afford not to have cleaning help.”

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This is especially true when you work with the customer service guarantees that come with WSCS. “We believe communication is the key to successful relationships,” said Kellie. “I personally follow up on each initial service as soon as possible. We try to determine if there was anything our clients would like done differently next time. We make sure to communicate any client requests directly to our cleaning teams, so they are aware for the next service. We have been very selective in the hiring process to find people who really care about giving their best. Then, we train our employees to care for each particular client according to their needs and requests. We always try to send the same cleaning team to each particular client.” Another aid to the peace of mind customers receive with WSCS is the comfort of knowing their home is in good, reliable hands. “We are licensed, bonded and fully insured,” said Kellie. “This is for everyone’s safety, but especially the client. Many solo cleaning ladies are not only uninsured, they also do not provide cleaning tools or supplies. So, what initially may sound like a really good deal can cost you when you factor in the time and money involved in replacing supplies and equipment on a regular basis. And what if something is broken? Accidents happen. Make sure you are protected by hiring a legitimate company that is properly insured! You never have to worry about what matters most to you and your family when you hire WSCS. Of course, we guarantee all our work. Simply call us any time you are not 100% satisfied, and we will gladly return.” For those in need of more than residential service, WSCS offers commercial help as well! “Our service is customizable to the client,” said Kellie. “So, we can do as little or as much as each particular client needs, whether it’s full maid service or just dusting and

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The Original Triad Home and Garden Show 26 Years and Going Strong By Meghan E.W. Corbett

new year means that some of our favorite events are just around the corner! One of those scheduled for February 21–23 is The Home Builders’ Association of Winston-Salem’s (HBAWS) Original Triad Home & Garden Show (THGS). Sponsored this year by Bloomday Granite & Marble, the THGS is the largest and longest-running consumer show in this area, with more than 100 vendors, the majority of which are HBAWS members.


“This event showcases local companies in our area within the gardening, home improvement and service industries,” said Director of Communications and Member Services Beverly Hayes. “The THGS provides the opportunity for local businesses to share their products and services with our community. Individuals attending the show are able to meet face-to-face with trusted HBAWS member businesses in the home and garden industry to plan their additions, remodels or new home building projects. The Home Builders’ Association has donated a portion of the proceeds from the THGS from the beginning, 26 years ago, and continues to donate to Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County. These contributions provide necessary funding to help Habitat Forsyth continue building affordable homes for families in this community.” Forsyth Magazines would Those who attend the THGS enjoy learning about the latest products and services like to congratulate available for the home building industry. “Consumers can jump-start their dream Megan Parks of the projects and complete honey-do lists for their homes and gardens,” said Hayes. Home Builders “Exhibitors include local service providers, custom home builders and remodelers, as well as representatives of national home and garden product lines. Examples include Association of Winstoncomplete remodeled kitchens or baths, or single item upgrades, such as cabinets, Salem (HBAWS) for her countertops, plumbing, light fixtures, windows, doors, siding, roofing or outdoor promotion to serve as landscaping, sunrooms and much more! As always, visitors can register for prize the new Executive Vice President drawings at many booths throughout the show.” The grand prize at this year’s show is of the HBAWS. Parks was unanimously Caesarstone Kitchen Countertops provided by Bloomday Granite & Marble and approved by the full Board of Directors and is the Caesarstone. To see some examples of Caesarstone products available through first woman to be named to the position since Bloomday Granite & Marble, visit the inception of the HBAWS in 1959. There will also be a “…local celebrity Cornhole Tournament featuring WXII's Cameron After starting with the HBAWS in 2008 as the Kent, representatives from local police, fire and sheriff's’ departments, local radio Director of Membership and Operations, Parks celebrities and some of our favorite team mascots,” said Hayes. “Cornhole boards will proved herself as an asset to the HBAWS and its be built by the vocational education students at Forsyth Technical Community College members. There is no doubt she will continue to (FTCC) and Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Schools (WSFCS) Career Center. Funds raised from raffle of the cornhole games will help fund our partnership with Habitat be an asset to the HBAWS as the Executive Vice Forsyth and the WSFCS/ FTCC vocational education program, providing local students President. Congratulations Megan! the opportunity to build habitat homes.”

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The Triad Home & Garden Show begins Friday, February 21st, from 2–8 p.m. and continues on Saturday, February 22nd, from 10 a.m.–6 p.m. and Sunday, February 23rd, from 12–5 p.m. at the Lawrence Joel Veterans Coliseum Complex in the Education Building. Tickets are $8 at the door, and parking is free at Gate 5 on Deacon Boulevard with handicap accessibility.

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2014 Rear in Gear 5K Run/Walk By Meghan E.W. Corbett is not a single type of cancer where early detection makes no difference. Those who commit to being proactive about preventative medicine and regular health check-ups have a much better chance of leading long, healthy lives than those who skip appointments and simply hope nothing bad happens. This is especially true with colon and rectal cancer.


“Colon and rectal cancer is the second most common cancer in the United States,” said Elizabeth Wooten, RN, MSN, GI Oncology Coordinator. “One out of every 20 people is diagnosed with this disease. Many patients diagnosed with colon and rectal cancer have not had routine recommended screenings. In addition, the incidence of colon and rectal cancer is increasing in adults younger than 50 years of age. Routine screening for colon and rectal cancer is not recommended for patients less than 50 years of age, unless there is a family history or worrisome symptoms.” Due to these statistics and the concern about the growing numbers of diagnoses each year, “Know Your Risk, Change Your History” was launched. “Through education of healthcare providers and citizens of our community, we hope to discuss screening options for colon and rectal cancer to remove the fear that surrounds these procedures,” said Wooten. “We want to emphasize the importance of adherence to screening recommendations for colon and rectal cancer. Finally, we are starting the conversation for patients with their doctors and their families about family history of colon and rectal cancer and how this contributes to personal risk for the disease.” But raising awareness requires even more to reach enough people to make a difference. “To raise awareness for colon and rectal cancer prevention and treatment, there will be the 2014 Rear in Gear 5K Run/Walk and the Roger Fowler One Mile of Hope,” said Wooten. “Following the race there will be an after party, “Shake Your Booty for Colon Cancer,” with live music, food trucks and fun! Proceeds from the race and the party will go toward funding prevention and early detection of colon and rectal cancer and to provide support to those affected right here in Winston-Salem.” Whether you can attend awareness events or not, personal awareness can be achieved by knowing your risk factors and the steps that need to be taken to prevent this silent killer from getting overlooked. “People who know their personal risks for colon and rectal cancer can prevent it with screenings,” said Wooten. “A history of colon or rectal cancer in a first-degree relative (parents, siblings or children) increases personal risk for this disease. If a person has multiple relatives who are affected, that person has a higher risk for colon and rectal cancer. Colon and rectal cancer also increases with age. If a person has missed his or her initial screening, or if he or she is due for repeat screening, the opportunity to prevent this disease is even better. This person should call his or her physician today! The best course of action is prevention, and screening is only the first step. People can decrease their risks of colon and rectal cancer by not smoking cigarettes, or quitting the habit. Also, regular physical activity is linked to decreased risk. People who are overweight have an increased risk. Drinking three or more alcoholic beverages per day also increases a person’s risk. Finally, certain high-risk patients may decrease their risks with daily aspirin use. However, aspirin can have harmful side effects, so this measure should be discussed with a personal physician prior to starting daily aspirin. The best chance for cure of colon and rectal cancer is when it is treated in the early stages. Colon and rectal cancer is a “silent” disease because many people do not develop symptoms until the cancer is at an advanced stage.” The spread of awareness information is extremely powerful, and the support these remarkable organizations receive at events like the Rear In Gear 5K Run/Walk goes straight back into keeping the community healthy. Make sure they know we are behind them every step of the way at this year’s run/walk!

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Scotty McCreery “American Idol” & Country Star Makes Local Appearance By Carolyn S. Peterson

say, “You can’t go home,” but Scotty McCreery, winner of American Idol 2011, ACA’s Breakthrough Artist of 2013, but most importantly, native of Garner, NC, and former Lowes Foods employee, came as close as you can to “coming home” when he visited the Clemmons, NC, location of Lowe’s Foods for a “meet and greet” with his many fans.


Family, Fans and Gratitude It’s been quite a ride for Scotty McCreery since winning American Idol and hitting the country charts with songs like ”See You Tonight,” but he has learned to take it all with one thing in mind…gratitude. “At times when I think about my life and the turns it has taken, it seems like it all happened overnight, but then when I realize all the great things I’ve gotten to do and the wonderful people I’ve met, it seems like I’ve been doing this for a long time. For me, the support of my family and getting to see them, not always being on the road touring, is a blessing for me. I haven’t forgotten about my roots and where I came from and those who helped me get where I am today. My fans, from the beginning of American Idol, have really supported me with their votes during the show and now with buying my CDs and coming to concerts. I am very grateful for all they’ve done for me and the love they continue to show,” said Scotty. One of those fans lucky enough to meet Scotty during his recent visit was Maggie Wood.

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the Lowes Food website why meeting Scotty would mean so much to Maggie, it was hard not to give Maggie this bright spot in a tough year. “My mom wrote that she would like me to be picked to meet Scotty, because our family has had a devastating year, after my 16-year-old brother Ryan passed away from cancer in January. I have been a fan of Scotty’s since American Idol and I voted for him every week. My birthday was December 10th, and this was the perfect gift,” Maggie commented. It seems Maggie Wood wasn’t the only teen girl who thought Scotty was pretty special with a huge turnout on a dreary, wet day. Country Singers…Long Nights on Tour Times where Scotty McCreery can meet his fans and spend a little time hearing about what they like about his music are few and far between. Days and nights on tour are long and can take a toll on an artist, but Scotty’s view of his life is one of a man beyond his years. “My faith and belief that I am doing what God wants me to do keep me going from city to city, show to show. Beyond everything, my faith is what I focus on. As far as my fans, like the ones here at Lowes, they are incredible and never cease to amaze me. They’re always at the shows with their signs. So much has happened in two years, but I appreciate each and every fan and want them to know I do not take anything for granted,” stated Scotty.

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FIT Meals Grocery Store Tour Thursday, February 13, 5:30 to 7 pm Held at Food Lion, Somerset Center Drive, Winston-Salem Do you wander around the supermarket wondering what is best for your family? Join Brenner Children’s Hospital dietitians for a personalized grocery store tour. Learn how to compare nutrition labels, watch for advertising tricks and discover cost-saving measures. Day care not available.

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By Leigh Ann McDonald Woodruff is “materials science?” It could almost be called “the study of stuff,” meaning the materials you use every day, such as the clothes you wear, the dishes you eat on, the bikes you ride, etc.


Strange Matter, the newest traveling exhibit at SciWorks, examines the always amazing and sometimes bizarre world of modern materials. With dynamic, hands-on exhibits, families can explore the unusual properties of everything from basketball backboards and cell phones to antennas, DVD players and golf clubs—and get a glimpse into where the future of materials research might take us. “Strange Matter makes the science that touches our lives each and every day memorable and fun, while leading to a greater understanding of the world around us,” says Paul Kortenaar, Executive Director of SciWorks. “For example, just a few years ago, your bicycle would have been made from metal. Now, new bikes are made from complex carbon composites—stronger and more durable than metals. The world has

changed dramatically in a very short period of time, and this is the result of ‘materials science.’ This exhibit brings you the most intriguing recent advances in this research.” Highlights include: Amazing Magnetic Liquids, Amorphous Materials, Foam and a Touch Table. There’s something for children and adults of all ages to enjoy. Strange Matter is an exhibit developed by the Ontario Science Centre and presented by the Materials Research Society. This exhibition and its tour are made possible by the generous support of the National Science Foundation, Dow, Ford Motor Company Fund, Intel® Innovation in Education, Rio Tinto Alcan, and the 3M Foundation. This local presentation is made possible in part by Vulcan Materials Company. The exhibit will be open through May 26th, 2014.

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can be rather difficult to see someone else reap rewards and accolades. I was reminded of that sentiment just the other day, when I attended the retirement of an old colleague of mine, Larry Kepley, who was retiring from the Charlotte Fire Department after thirty years of dedicated service. As I mingled about the station, I witnessed many people approach Larry to wish him well in his next phase of life. Almost invariably, each person had a story to share with him about either some extreme call they had run together or some shenanigans in which they had been cohorts. Naturally, it was the latter that drew me in the most.


One of the stories reminded me of an instance when I had been assigned to a particular engine company. Of the three shifts for that company, my shift was the most loathed; not by the community or department, mind you, but by the other two shifts. Of all the departmental citations that adorned a wall of the station, most were assigned to my shift. Some of them were for meritorious acts, but those were pretty much equaled by the other two shifts. What caused the imbalance was that my shift, A-Shift, had several more citations for our efforts above and beyond our normal duties. We were almost constantly involved in community education events, such as teaching Citizen CPR to scores of churches and civic groups. But we were also the shift that people in the community knew they could turn to for non-emergent help, like opening locked cars, moving heavy furniture and the occasional appearance at a child’s birthday party. Poor B-Shift; they did not have any certificates of civic recognition on the wall. You could feel their level of envy as we, or C-Shift, posted another document of good will. B-Shift, like all companies, was dedicated to doing their best when the alarm struck—and did so with excellence, but they never had much motivation to do more than what was expected of them in those moments in between. Finally, they could no longer endure being the least recognized.

They made up their mind to abandon their ethic of being for emergency deployment only. It was on their very next shift that B-Shift was presented with an opportunity to go above and beyond the call of duty. The phone rang and a neighbor called and asked for them to get her cat down from a tree. Their normal response would be to ask if she had ever seen a cat skeleton in a tree, indicating that a cat will come down eventually. But this time they decided to throw caution to the wind and help the lady with her predicament. It did not take much effort to raise the ladder and for one of the firefighters to climb up and execute the feline retrieval service. Once the equipment was put away, the grateful neighbor insisted that her heroes come in and share her delicious German chocolate cake, for which she was famed. They delighted in their new-found recognition and were probably dreaming of gloating a bit when they handed off the station to my shift the next morning. As they were graciously thanked again for their service, they boarded the engine with a sense of pride and satisfaction and then ran over the cat. A couple of millennia ago, a man named Paul wrote in a letter to the church in Galatia these words, “Be sure to do what you should, for then you will enjoy the personal satisfaction of having done your work well, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else” (Galatians 6.4 NLT). Each time I read Paul admonition, I think back many years to that incident with B-Shift. I smile at the irony, but also recognize that it could have just as easily been my shift to suffer from that unfortunate mishap. I am also convicted to remember that when I do something admirable, my intentions need to be for the sake of doing good and not for accolades. If nothing else, a cat may thank me. Godspeed,

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Dr. Gary Chapman on Love, Valentine’s Day and Healthy Relationships By Meridith Whitaker

Gary Chapman, Associate Pastor at Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem, is a bestselling author and internationally recognized relationship counselor. His series, “The Five Love Languages,” has sold more than 8 million copies worldwide. As we move into a season of candy hearts and teddy bears—and a sometimes contrived sense of what love is all about—I sat down with Dr. Chapman to learn how to truly nourish relationships throughout the year.


Valentine's Day is a time of heightened emotions for many—either positive or negative emotions depending upon relationship circumstances. What advice do you have for those struggling with singleness or a broken relationship this Valentine's Day? What about those in a dating or marriage relationship? Valentine’s Day can be very painful, because it is a day that talks about couples, and if you’re single and want to be married—not everyone who is single does—Valentine’s Day can be a very lonely time. My suggestion is to initiate activities with other singles. When you take the initiative to engage in other people’s lives, the result is that you do not feel nearly as lonely. When you initiate, you are acting in love. If you are in a broken or fractured relationship, that, too, can be painful, because you may be looking back and remembering how good things used to be. My suggestion is, if you are married and the relationship is fractured, it would be a wonderful time to have a date and see what happens. Relationships never get better without communication. For those who are married and may be having a group activity, invite single adults to come as well. We are all social creatures. Or, if you know a friend who has recently lost a spouse, you might invite him or her over for dinner as a way to affirm that you are aware of what they went through this year and know that Valentine’s Day might be particularly difficult. Another nice idea for couples is to dine in. If the wife normally cooks, the husband could do the cooking—if he is a decent cook! Or vice versa, if the husband usually cooks, the wife could prepare the meal. Valentine’s Day could also be a good night to have a simple meal and reminisce on the early days of the marriage. Sharing memories is a positive way to spend time together. As creatures of habit, we tend to get into ruts. Sometimes the best thing is just doing something different from what you have always done. You have often stated that “Love is a choice.” What do you mean by that? People often think of love only as an emotion. It is an emotion, but fundamentally it starts with an attitude. We choose our attitudes—we do not choose our emotions. We do not get up one day and say I think I’ll feel hurt today, or loved, or disappointed. We do, however, choose every day, whether

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we will love people or not. We choose whether we will act with their best interest in mind and do what we can to help them. For example, in marriage, we are pushed along by wild emotions in the early stages. We come down off the high eventually, and that’s where we have to choose to love the other person. People often ask if you can love somebody you do not like. The answer is yes—you can choose the attitude. When you choose to love, love stimulates love. There is a good chance the individual will respond and reciprocate with the same attitude towards you. That is when the emotional warmth comes back. People ask me if romantic love can be re-born, and the answer is also yes, if two people choose to love each other and express those feelings in the right love language. It starts with a choice, and it results in warm emotions. Why is it so important to “speak” someone’s love language in any kind of relationship? The deepest emotional need we have is the need to feel loved by the significant people in our lives. If you’re a child, that’s your parents, or someone that serves as your parent, and if you’re married, it’s a spouse. Friends are also significant people in our lives. If we genuinely feel loved by these significant people, life is beautiful and we are able to process the normal struggles of life. If we do not feel loved, life can get pretty dark. That is why it is important to learn how to communicate love in a way the other person feels that love. You can sincerely love somebody, but if you’re not speaking their love language, they won’t necessarily feel loved. That’s why the love language concept is so important. When you do not speak the right language, you can be sincere but miss each other. In what ways do you think understanding a child’s love language and speaking it regularly influences the child? Understanding a child’s love language helps parents communicate love in a way that the child feels loved. Although all parents love their children, not all children feel loved. There are three main ways that speaking a child’s love language can affect the child in a positive way. First of all, it interfaces with the child’s anger. A child who does not feel loved will exhibit more anger than the child who feels loved. It also interfaces with discipline. All parents need to discipline their children using clear rules and clear consequences when those rules are broken. If the child does not feel loved and you administer the discipline, the child will likely rebel against the discipline. If the child does feel loved, he will likely receive the discipline in a positive way, which is what we want. We’re not out to hurt our children, we’re out to help them. Discipline is designed for their benefit. It is essential they feel loved when you discipline. The third thing it interfaces with is the child’s learning. A child who feels loved by the parents is open to learning more from the parents. Actually, many public schools have used my book, The Five Love Languages for

Children, in teacher workshops. If the child feels loved by the teacher, the child is much more open to learning from the teacher. If not, they will be resistant to what the teacher is trying to teach. It works the same way in the home.

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You've written books about all kinds of relationships: marriages, friendships, parent-child, even relationships with your in-laws. What do you see as the one defining characteristic for healthy relationships across the board? I think there are two keys to healthy relationships. The first is that the individuals in the relationship genuinely love each other. That is, they care about the wellbeing of the other person. I am not talking necessarily about romantic love; it could be friendship. That is a fundamental in any healthy relationship. The second key is that we deal with our failures effectively. None of us are perfect. We all say and do things that hurt the people we love. When that happens, we have to know how to apologize sincerely. When we do those two things: have a genuine attitude of love toward the other person and deal with failures effectively, a relationship can grow and mature. As social creatures, each of us desires to love and be loved. Sometimes we slip into the mindset that our relationships will maintain themselves, or that feelings of love and good intentions will sustain us. The truth is that all relationships require effort. By making the daily decision to love and consciously speaking that love in ways that the significant people in our lives best understand it, we show our friends, families and spouses that they are exceedingly important to us—and always worth the effort.

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Ten Ways to Say “I Love You” to Your Children By Rachel Hoeing of Triad Moms on Main

honor of Valentine’s Day this month, we reached out to our readers for unique ways to show children how much we love them. I have combined these ideas with a few of my own. You can try these ideas this month, but more importantly, keep them in mind for any time of the year!


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Buy your children a book each Valentine’s Day. Some ideas are: I Love You Through and Through, I Love You Stinky Face, Won’t You Be My Huggaroo?, Won’t You Be My Kissaroo?, etc. Write a special note inside each one. A wonderful way to show your children you love them is by teaching them Scripture. One example is to write the words for 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (“Love is patient, love is kind...”) on construction paper hearts, and let your children use one heart each day to learn the Scripture in the month of February. A few words are written on each heart, and they can hang the heart on the window or wall after they recite it. How about a night to dress up and go out? If you have a son, it is a perfect excuse for a date night with your buddy and a chance for him to use that coat and tie he wore to your cousin’s wedding! And if you have a daughter, she will thoroughly enjoy a girls’ night out in fancy dresses. You can go to dinner, visit a museum, sit at a coffee house and talk, paint pottery (bring a change of clothes!)...the possibilities are endless! Fondue night is a favorite for all members of the family! If you don’t have a fondue pot, put a request out on your Facebook page and you’ll find one to borrow easily! It’s a great way to spend a relaxed dinner together while you all talk and enjoy your meal, instead of rushing through dinner.


Make a flip book for your child, with each page being a letter of the alphabet. On each page put something that you love about him/her that begins with that letter!


Give your children a little something “red” that they need or could use. Ideas would be red pajamas, red matchbox car, etc.


A trip down memory lane is always fun for your children. My kids love for me to tell stories to them about when they were “little.” That could mean as recently as a year ago! We also enjoy watching videos together from previous birthdays, holidays or vacations. Another way to relive old memories is to pull out their baby books. My children love flipping through the pages to read about when they were born and seeing photos of everyone who came to visit them. If you have trouble remembering things (as all moms do), try looking up memory jar ideas on Pinterest.

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Surprise your children with notes in their lunchboxes every so often. You can write your own notes and include drawings that will make them smile, or you can search and order pre-printed notes online. Food is the fastest way to a child’s heart! One idea: make crepes with strawberries and whipped cream for breakfast. Serve it all on your best china. My family has had a lot of fun with Shmily coins ( Shmily stands for “See how much I love you.” One person will hide the coin anywhere in the house in order for a loved one to find it. It could be hours or it could be months before the coin is found. The longer it takes to find it, the more fun it can be! We usually forget all about it and then it pops up at the most surprising times. Just the other day, I went to put on a pair of shoes I had not worn in a while. I felt something odd when I slid my foot into the shoe, and there was the Shmily coin! I quickly found a new place to hide the coin, and it had me smiling all morning.

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Small Stories for a Big World By Kim Underwood


the years, I have ended up with a number of collections—marbles, vintage postcards, blank green dice made out of Bakelite, restaurant creamers made out of clear glass, cubes and tiles imprinted with the letters of the alphabet, Mahjong tiles, brightly colored wood Parcheesi pieces, metal game pieces that look like space ships.

In other cases, acquiring more makes no rational sense. Sparkle Girl can’t understand why I keep buying space ship game pieces long after I came to own far more than one in every color. All I can say is that each new one brings me pleasure. Every time I find one at a price that I feel good about paying, I buy it. No matter how many I buy, opening a package and seeing more makes me happy.

I can identify some of the elements that drew me to the items that became collections. I like old glass. I like the alphabet. I like colors that are both bright and warm.

Some of the space ship game pieces are on display. Others live in glass jars. Many of the items in my other collections also live in glass jars—vintage ones with glass lids. (That probably qualifies as another collection.)

In no instance did I set out to start a collection. When I saw something I liked that was also cheap at a yard sale or junk store, I would buy it. Another day, I would see another one and buy it. I still remember the day I came across my first space ship game piece— it was yellow and beautiful. It lived on its own until the day I found an Astron board game at a yard sale and discovered that space ship game pieces also come in silver, black, blue, red and green. With the coming of eBay, I no longer had to leave the house to acquire new treasures. Some collections became classic collections in the sense that, somewhere along the way, I would start fretting about needing to fill in holes. Foghorn Leghorn glasses are far less common than Bugs and Daffy ones, and finding one at an acceptable price took a while. With other collections, it has been a matter of acquiring more and more of what are, in essence, all the same thing. If you have seen one clear glass Hazel Atlas restaurant creamer, you have pretty much seen them all. That’s OK with the restaurant creamers, because they work really well for displaying marbles and Bakelite dice.

For years, I have imagined using items in my collections to create works of art. With that in mind, I started buying wood boxes. (I guess that’s a collection, too.) The idea would be to do such things as glue Parcheesi pieces across the top of the box and use letter tiles and cubes to create pithy quotes along the bottom. On the inside of the box, I would paste images cut out from postcards or from vintage children’s books, illustrated by such artists as Tibor Gergely. (I forgot about the children’s book collection until just now.) I could add little shelves in the box where I would glue a little space ship game piece or two. Elsewhere, Mahjong tiles and marbles in just the right places would look great. The trouble with that idea is that, so far, I haven’t been able to bring myself to cut up any postcards or children’s books or to glue any of my treasures to a box. I keep thinking that, if I just buy more space ship game pieces, postcards, alphabet tiles and cubes, one day I will have enough to be willing to let go of some of them. We’ll see.

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“What matters most is what you do when the pain sets in.” By Kelly Lewis, CPT “I can barely walk!” “I’m never working out again!” Chances are good that if you have started an exercise program recently, you are feeling a little (or a lot!) sore. When we challenge our muscles in new ways, they tend to let us know it. Most of us have experienced that type of discomfort at some point in our lives. We jump wholeheartedly into a new workout routine with unbridled excitement, but it doesn’t take long before we can barely get out of bed.


Why such pain? This feeling is actually a very normal process called DOMS or Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness. When our muscles get challenged in new and unique ways, it creates tiny, microscopic tears in the muscle fibers, causing them to feel sore and stiff. This type of soreness is normal and is actually a sign of improved fitness. DOMS typically peaks 48 hours after a workout and can last up to 5 days. Do not let this deter your efforts! Allow this discomfort to assure you that you are on the right track!

Keep moving! It’s our natural tendency to want to back off our new routine when the soreness sets in. Yet, this is actually the worst thing we can do. It feels counter-intuitive, but the best medicine for those achy muscles is, you guessed it…another workout! Getting the muscles warmed up and moving again will help with the healing process and allow your body to adapt to the new demands you’ve placed on it. In the long run, this will lead to greater stamina and strength.

Stay loose! We can’t dismiss the importance of flexibility when it comes to personal fitness. Flexibility is particularly vital when it comes to dealing with muscle soreness. The only way to improve one’s flexibility is to add stretching to your workout routine. Once intense soreness has set in, it is often too late to benefit from stretching. A stretching routine 5–7 days a week is a valuable piece of our fitness regimen. Flexibility

keeps our muscles prepared to accept whatever we throw at them and helps us remain injury-free.

Push through! The bottom line is that dealing with the discomfort of a new workout routine can be frustrating. Once we understand the cause of the pain and the benefits it can provide, we must Kelly Lewis, CPT simply push through. We need to continuously challenge our muscles in new ways. This not only produces results, but helps us avoid fitness- and weight-loss-plateaus. If there is one thing more frustrating than achy muscles, it’s remaining dedicated to your workouts and not seeing results. I guess the old cliché is true…“No pain, No gain!”

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The Decision to Breastfeed

By Lisa S.T. Doss

all the choices my husband and I had to make regarding the birth of our daughter, one discussion that never occurred was the decision to breastfeed. In fact, I wanted to! I read books, Googled the experiences of other women, and talked to good friends who had wonderful advice to offer. Needing fertility help, coupled with a last minute cesarean, increased my desire to make it work. By breastfeeding, I could shield her from bacteria and infections, and increase her chances to remain healthy in her adult life. What my body could produce naturally would save me in formula expenses. Twelve hours after her birth, I held her for the first time. A lactation specialist was present, and kind in her tone and wording. The nine-month experience wasn’t easy; however, there was something wonderful about being alone in the still of the night and having that unexplainable bond with my child. She was connected to me through smell and voice, and that private sensation of skin-to-skin. Like any pregnancy, the experience was different the second time. In the end, the journey to overcome challenges made the decision to breastfeed worth it.


In addition to books and reputable websites, discuss concerns with your doctor. While he or she may offer special tips, more than likely, attending a class will be the recommendation. Rather than waiting until the third trimester, schedule your class earlier. The information will be easier to absorb, especially if your husband or a supportive friend accompanies you. It helps to have another person recall those important details. For many women, breastfeeding may not come naturally, and support is available from a certified lactation consultant. Through the channels of your child’s pediatrician, a consultant can answer questions, from engorged breasts to poor latches, sore and inverted nipples to feeding techniques. Especially in the first month, new moms have numerous questions. Too often the welcomed advice and assistance while in the hospital can change to a feeling of panic once home. New moms should never wait to call. Because of the sensitivity of the nipple region, it is important not to continue experiencing excessive soreness or pain. Solutions will eliminate elevated stress and increase milk supply levels.

A lactation consultant will advise moms to purchase a double pump; however, it is important to look at all the options. Patricia Martin shares, “I purchased two used electric Medela pumps on eBay. One stayed at work while the second stayed at home. I rented one from the hospital for a month, thinking it would be better pump, but found it to perform the same. Buying a used pump is fine, as long as you replace the tubing.” For those moms who are able to freeze breast milk in either tubes or storage bags, the availability of expressed milk accommodates most situations, especially emergencies. Working moms should begin freezing milk one to two weeks before returning to work. While frozen milk has the ability to last six months to a year, thawed milk should be used within 24 hours. Patricia goes on to say, “I froze as much as I could. It was handy for my child’s cereal, spontaneous travel outings, and when I didn’t pump my quota for daycare. If I had a long meeting at work or didn’t drink enough water, sometimes my production was lower.” There is good news and bad news when it comes to sickness. Fortunately, a mother’s antibodies are already fighting against the “bug” and will be passed along to the baby; therefore, it is a safe practice to continue breastfeeding. While everyone in the house may become sick, baby will likely be the only one to remain healthy. Unfortunately, only a few medications are safe for baby and maintaining a mom’s milk quantity. Drug manufacturers constantly alter their main ingredient; so, it is indeed a wise practice to consult your doctor prior to taking an over-the-counter drug. Hydration and rest are continually beneficial, especially when you are sick. Pregnant women have a unique opportunity with the birth of their second child. All the fears and frustrations are now replaced with a more confident and knowledgeable mom. While no two experiences are the same, breastfeeding is that one time you can forget about all the other things that once were important. Enjoy the moment!

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The Terrible Twos Become the Incredible Twos By Lisa S.T. Doss


think the wording is all wrong. Why call an age terrible? Yes, the “two years” require parents to have a top-notch pair of roller skates and plenty of sleep to keep up with their energetic toddlers. Personally, I have wondered how my daughter could possibly be running in circles and singing at bedtime after a full day of social activities. The age of two is brimming with exciting environmental and independent discoveries. Without the ability to fully communicate their feelings and wishing their little bodies could do more, they act out in frustration. Two-year-olds need a new description. How about the “Incredible Twos”?

loved must be done again and again! Whether it’s climbing up and down stairs, stomping in puddles, dumping blocks, or picking up rocks, there’s great spirit in the incredible two-year-old. They live in the moment, learn quickly and are developing an amazing memory. Toddlers require a parent’s undivided attention; therefore, try establishing a daily play session. Parents will learn more by observation. While most two-year-olds want to figure out situations by themselves, they need continual guidance and help.

Showing Independence: As parents, we have repeated words such as “juice” and “milk,” “cracker” and “cookie”; therefore, by the time your child is able to exert his or her decision-making skills, it is through pointing or attempting to name objects. Yes, the “I want” toddler has arrived. Keep up your efforts, parents! Providing names for even the most obscure object, as well as its purpose, will help your toddler build vocabulary and word-association skills. In addition, asking questions and offering two options will grant your toddler moments of “being in control” with parent support.

The Emotional Roller Coaster: What just happened? Your toddler was laughing one moment and then crying the next. Yes, a five-star temper tantrum will occur if they are asked to leave the beach or a playground, or denied the opportunity to wear pink rubber boots on Easter Sunday. Toddlers do not like change. More importantly, they want to be the ones using the word “NO!” They have difficulty expressing their feelings, which makes for a more heartfelt sense of frustration. Listening to your soothing voice may help to make it “all better.” Never fear, parents have the magical ability to change their child’s disposition from mad crying screams to adorable giggles in a blink.

Testing the Laws of Nature: Anyone who asks to use our bathroom will notice dark streaks on our carpet. “Ah!” we will say. “When she was two, she opened a bottle of rubber cement and ran down the hallway in soft giggles.” Yes, we have rubber cement on our carpet. Did this never happen to you? A two-year-old child will keep any parent busy. My daughter has poured my water glass upside down, crayoned our bedroom door, and thrown all of our folded laundry onto the floor. By the time I recovered, she was already in my arms in need of hugs, kisses and reassurance that everything was okay. As parents, we quickly learn not to be surprised by a new skill or the ability to extend their reach. We handle multiple tasks and are available in an instant to make all “boo-boos” go away with one kiss. Adventure and Spirit: With such skills as gripping, stepping and reaching, toddlers can reach unimaginable heights. Standing on a chair allows them to truly see their environment from a new perspective. Most actions that are really

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The Little Things that Matter Most: My favorite part of the day was our afternoon walk. What mattered most to her was finding a pretty rock and collecting an even better stick. In addition, we observed lady bugs and watched clouds move. It didn’t matter if her hair was sandy or clothes were dirty, she explored, made new discoveries and became excited to hear the word “bath.” Sometimes, the most basic pleasures matter the most in the lives of two people. There is Magic in Love: How many times did I apologize to a person in church or the grocery store for the actions of my daughter? She loved to sing loudly; wave and say hello; and throw her shoes. It was always comforting to know that so many others delighted in the incredible age of a two-year-old child.

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Strengthening Emotional Development in Our Adolescents By Lisa S.T. Doss is internalized differently for adults and adolescents. Coming home from a stressful day, an adult may choose to take a warm shower, communicate with a spouse, or walk the dog, for instance. The belief is, “Tomorrow will be a better day.” Adolescents, ranging in age from 10 to 15, may express their frustrations by shouting or crying, or retreating to a place of comfort, like a bedroom. Teens feel embarrassed by their inability to understand their emotions and, through no fault of their own, must react. It is a perfect time for parents to encourage their child to talk about anything and everything. Teens need a great listener who can guide their rational mind toward acceptable solutions. Being a parent of today’s middle and high school teens can be challenging; however, with open communication, parents can be exactly what their child needs to move beyond this phase of insecurity.

Many teens have a talent for concealing their emotions by sending the message home that everything is okay. One way for parents to receive information is to reach out to your closest allies. English teachers have an advantage over other teachers, since they use journal writing and discussion groups as a practical emotional outlet. Teachers can inform parents of any changes in their child’s written, social, or verbal interactions. Peer pressure or avoiding humiliation may be factors. Together, parents, teachers and students can come together to create solutions. Outside activities, such as learning a visual art or sport, volunteering or becoming a mentor to a younger child, may help teens channel their feelings and strengthen their emotional development.



“I began a journal when my girls were about two years old. I would write to them about where they were, what they were doing, their personalities, and how much I loved watching them grow. I gave nuggets of advice, words of wisdom and Scripture to hide in their hearts. I thought I would give it to them when they got married; however, when they hit their preteen years, they questioned who they were and wanted to be something they were not. My words fell on deaf ears; so, I let them read their journals quietly in their rooms. This has been one of the best things for them. They can see their Mom’s love throughout the years. When they are struggling, they ask to see their journal. I haven’t stopped writing,” writes Nikki Bowers. “I tell my daughters that they are growing. Emotions and feelings are not right or wrong, they just are. My daughter would get angry at herself for ‘messing up.’ When she started hitting herself, I knew this was a warning sign. Self-mutilation is a huge problem with teenage girls. We worked through options that provided a release of anger, such as playing the piano, singing, or hitting her pillow. We have grown through this phase. I’ve also learned to be open and honest, not overreact, and just ‘be present’ when I am most needed.”

Kristi Sparks shares, “My son Desmond is 12-year-old seventh grader. I have learned to let him voice his opinion. He discovered last year that people change. While he made new friends, it bothered him that many of his old friends drifted away. In letting him talk about his feelings, he concluded that it was okay to grow and make new friends. He also realized he could still talk to his old friends. Through our talks, he came to those conclusions on his own. This year, he had an issue with one of his teachers. He thought she was ignoring him when he raised his hand. We sat down and discussed it. Although frustrated, he wanted to do better in her class. He resolved the issue by talking to her. We discuss everything! I love that he is working through his frustrations!”


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Adolescents have an impression of maturity and sophistication; however, they long for leadership and self-identity, require behavioral guidelines and social limits, and the security of belonging and feeling loved. When worry overpowers confidence, adolescents sometimes internalize their “troubles” with a heightened sense of insecurity. “We talk about how it is okay to become emotional and to let our emotions out. We need to find healthy outlets, such as music, crafts, journaling, prayer, or exercise,” shares Alise Borachok. Parents who find ways to work through “emotional moments” now will help their teens resolve situations with ease in the future.

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3 months before Prom: • Decide on your budget for everything, from the dress or tuxedo, shoes, jewelry, hair, makeup and nails, to limo, dinner, tickets to prom, boutonniere or corsage. • Discuss with your parents what they will contribute and what extra work you can do around the house to help cover some of the costs. Look for other ways to earn money to cover expenses. • Girls, begin shopping for your dress, shoes and accessories.

2 months before Prom: • Buy your tickets. • Make appointments for hair, makeup and nails. • If you’re going in a group, begin to organize some plans, including dinner arrangements, limousine, before-prom pictures, after-party, etc. • If you’re having an after-party, be sure to talk your plans over with your parents. It’s not cool to hit them with last minute 2 weeks before Prom:

1 month before Prom: • Schedule any final alterations to your dress. • Order corsage/boutonniere from your florist. • Boys, begin looking for a tuxedo. Ask your date for a fabric swatch so you can match her dress.

2 weeks before Prom:

• Verify appointments with stylist, limo, and confirm order with florist, as well as your dinner reservations.

• Verify appointments with stylist, limo, and confirm order with florist, as well as your dinner reservations.

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• Finalize your group plans.

The Day Before Prom: • Get a manicure/pedicure, if you’re planning to!

Day of Prom: • Leave yourself plenty of time to get ready. • If you have a hair/makeup appointment, be sure you wear something button-up that doesn’t have to go over your head! • Stop by the florist to pick up the corsage/boutonniere. • Make sure you’ve left enough time for Mom to take dozens of pictures! • Pick up your date on time and/or be ready on time! • Have FUN! And be SAFE! 70 •

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Prom DATES By Justin Cord Hayes prom is a very special occasion, during which young men and women don their finest finery, eat at expensive restaurants, and pretend to be grown-ups for an evening. But how do you ask someone to be your prom date? The politics of the prom are rife with pitfalls. Don’t worry. You’ve come to the right place.


I loved the prom, and I became something of an expert, because I went to four of them. Three of them were with my first “serious” girlfriend, who was two grades behind me in high school. The first was with a friend I mightily wanted to be more than just a friend, but just friends we were, and remain. She and I are still good pals on a popular social networking site for which I will not offer a gratuitous plug. The following approaches are intended for those who aren’t already in a relationship because, if you’re already in a relationship, then your prom date is, presumably, a fait accompli. The Bold Approach. Hemming and hawing isn’t going to win you any points. Do your homework. Is the object of your affection already betrothed to another? Then don’t ask him or her. If your prom-dateto-be is unattached, then just go up to him or her and say something like, “I’d like for us to Step Out in Style go to the prom together.” Don’t make it a question. Make it a simple, declarative statement. The Funny Approach. This might be a good one if you feel the person you’re asking to the prom is “out of your league.” By injecting some humor into the situation, you’re addressing that issue and deflecting it at the same time. A guy might say something like, “I’ve got just enough time to take you to the prom, if I squeeze that into my busy male-modeling, Ninjafighting, and junior-decathlon schedule. What do you say?” 336-766-0999 2729 Lewisville-Clemmons Rd. Clemmons, NC 27012 Mon-Wed 10-6 | Th 10-8 Fri 10-5 | Sat 10-3

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The Wingman Approach. If you just can’t see yourself waltzing up to that special guy and boldly

stating your desire, then let a friend do some scouting for you. If he or she comes back from reconnaissance with a big grin, then all systems are go. At that point, you’ll have to do the asking, but at least you’ll feel pretty confident about the outcome. The Electronic Approach. I don’t recommend this one because you’ll come off looking either insouciant (bad) or cowardly (worse). But if you know you’ll just collapse in a pile of giggles or turn beet red the moment you approach your prospective date, then this approach may be your only hope. First, you’ll need to get your prom crush’s number. Maybe you already have it. Then, text him or her your intentions. If you do take this approach, then you should probably go with the “bold” approach above. You’re already looking kind of cowardly, so don’t make it worse. The Group Approach. Chances are, you and your friends hang out with her and her friends. Thus, during one of these times, when everyone’s just chillin’ and having a relaxed, good time, pop the question. Do it in as low-key a manner as possible. The key to all these approaches is to practice them. Find a friend of the opposite sex and find the method that works for you. Launch a text, and get his response to it. Try the funny approach, and see if it’s successful and—more importantly—if it’s funny. Make your best, bold move. Then, listen to his feedback. If he thinks a traffic jam backed up for three miles is funnier than you, then you shouldn’t try to be funny when you actually approach your date-to-hopefully-be. If he lets you know that bold doesn’t work for you, then pay attention. Finally, just keep telling yourself that your life will not end if you’re rejected. Have more than one person in mind. That way, if gal number one says no, then you can go to gal number two, three, four, etc. Good luck, and enjoy the prom!


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By Meghan E.W. Corbett economy seems to be going through constant change. Sometimes it’s up, sometimes it’s down, but luckily, this country is made up of many resilient people who strive to keep it going, even through the worst of downturns. When Sarah Lewis was laid off from her job in 2009, as millions of Americans were, she did not let it get her down. Instead of getting frustrated and losing momentum, she set out to start her own business.


“I had been thinking for quite some time about what type of business to start, and one day while I was out shopping, I saw a sign for gourmet cupcakes. I love to bake, so I knew that was it. That was ‘my sign’,” said Lewis. This encounter took place a few years before cupcakes were as popular as they are now, and there weren’t any cupcake shops in the area where Lewis lived. This guided her to the decision to start her cupcake business. “Immediately, my mind started racing with a million ideas,” she stated. “Since I was a little girl, I have had a passion for baking and cooking. I enjoy trying all kinds of new recipes and welcome a good challenge.” Lewis decided on the name Cupcakes by Three, located in Kinderton Business Park in Advance, to represent her and her two daughters. The trio worked together to build the business, which started out of Lewis’ home.

“One of the first cupcakes we made together has now become our signature cupcake—the pecan pie cupcake,” said Lewis. “We make sure to have this on hand every day. It’s, by far, our best-seller.” One of the most important aspects of any business is customer satisfaction. Lewis and her daughters make customer satisfaction a priority. “We try to cater to everyone. At the end of the day, our main goal is to provide our customers with the most perfect, high-quality product possible and put a smile on their faces,” said Lewis. “Several of our customers have dietary restrictions, and we’ve been able to accommodate them. We can make most any diet-restricted dessert—gluten-free, dairyfree, vegan, low sugar, egg-free and, most recently, we’ve made desserts for the Paleo diet.” As Cupcakes by Three has grown, new products have been added to the menu. In addition to a lengthy list of cupcake flavors on the menu, you can find pound cakes, lemon bars, cookies, fudge, cheesecakes, pies, cakes, cake pops, pretzels and more. “Our options

seem endless,” states Lewis. “We have big plans in store for 2014 and we can’t wait to introduce more new items.” The menu changes daily at Cupcakes by Three, so it’s always a sweet surprise to find out what they’re serving up next. If there’s something you want that isn’t available that day, or if you need a dessert for a special occasion, you can simply call or email them to place your order. Most orders only require a 24-hour notice. Large orders, of course, require more lead time, in case supplies need to be ordered. Birthday parties have become a popular feature at Cupcakes by Three. During the one-and-ahalf hour timeframe, children are able decorate an apron or chef’s hat, decorate cupcakes, dip and decorate pretzels and play games. There’s a separate seating area for parents to relax while the kids have fun. In addition to birthday parties, the shop makes a great venue for hosting bridal or baby showers. The cozy, quaint atmosphere at Cupcakes by Three creates the perfect setting for small business meetings, Bible studies or other social gatherings. Additionally, it’s also a great place just to enjoy some personal time. “We want people to feel comfortable and enjoy themselves when they come in. They can sit back and relax with a cup of coffee and a dessert while surfing the Internet, reading a book or just chatting with a friend,” said Lewis.

For more updates and daily dessert options, follow Cupcakes by Three on Facebook. For inquiries or orders, call 336-940-2525, or email 74 •

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By teen columnist Isabella Migliarese

Recognizing the Enemy Have you ever had the absolutely, totally incorrect, wrong, “I got this one backwards,” idea about somebody? Speaking from experience, I have misjudged people. When I was younger, I had a lot of trust and blind faith in the goodness of all mankind—my friends, my neighbors, my family, you name it. I would always give people the benefit of the doubt. I never doubted their motives, I always felt like they were going to do the right thing by me and everyone else. I always trusted that the mailman would deliver my letters to Santa and every piece of mail on time. I trusted that the dry-cleaners would get all stains out and that change-back was always correct at the drive-thru. I trusted that the team tryouts were never rigged and were always

fair, with coaches blind to their favorite players and only looking for skill. It wasn’t until people I trusted started to test my faith in them that I realized that some people dressed in sheep clothing are really wolves. I was blind to it. Life experiences have changed my perspective on trust. I’m not sure how I developed this skill, but I find now that I’m exceptionally perceptive at recognizing the wolves. I always seem to know when a so-called friend is telling a white lie or when an adult has less than the best intentions. Maybe my skills would be called “passing judgment” by some, but I choose to think of it as a realistic assessment of character, honed by years of listening more than talking. Being a bit introverted also helps me to be more reflective and in-tune with people’s behavior than my counterparts, who may be thinking about what to say next in a conversation. The world needs both introverts and extroverts! I tend to pay more attention to body language during a conversation, which is important in spotting someone who is bending the truth and expecting me to buy his or her story. As a young adult I can predict, with almost 100% accuracy, the person who is a user, liar, or double-crosser. For instance, I recognized when my father’s business partner was using him for financial gain and had insincere and crooked intentions. Because of my age, this businessman let down his guard and made comments he didn’t expect a nine-year-old to understand. I was suspicious of him from the very start. Thank goodness my Dad finally realized he was a liar, just as I did. Recently, a family member’s colleague from work obtained a promotion by being untruthful and devious. For almost a year, I have been warning my family member about this person and their intentions; after meeting her and recognizing the thread of deceit in all of the work gossip it was easy for me to take the sheep’s clothing off this wolf, even though it was impossible for my family member to see the truth. While I didn’t ask for the gift of reading people, well, I certainly think it has some advantages. If I had to give advice on recognizing potential phonies, I would recommend first that you let others earn your trust. At this point in my life I’m too young to hand out trust for free. I don’t base earning trust on looks, status or material wealth. Instead, I insist that trustworthy people be honest, considerate and reliable. No one is perfect, including myself, and I try to use a liberal dose of forgiveness when people make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to ignore the obvious wolf when his or her teeth come out. If I were you, I would make friends slowly, listen carefully and never second-guess your intuition. You may not want a herd of sheep for friends, but it sure is better than a pack of wolves.

“Out and About” in Winston-Salem

Fire & Ice Charity Ball By Heather Spivey

Saturday, December 28th, the Fire & Ice Charity Ball was held in downtown W-S at Club Therapy. This event is an inaugural collaboration between the Miss North Carolina and Miss South Carolina Scholarships Pageants, with proceeds benefitting each state’s scholarship funds. Both states have 501C3 scholarship accounts that provide scholarships to contestants competing in their state pageants.


Guests arrived in fiery red or icy silvery white cocktail attire to coordinate and compliment the name of the ball—Fire & Ice. Guests were entertained by live music from the following entertainers—The Rose of New Orleans, Mary Jane Ewing (Grammy Recording Artist), The Monk Ewing Jazz Organism, Randy Johnson, Janice Price, and Reggie Buie Trio. In special attendance were Miss America 2013, Mallory Hagan; Miss North Carolina 2013, Johna Edmonds; and Miss South Carolina 2013, Brooke Mostellar. Also attending were Miss North Carolina’s Outstanding Teen, Emili McPhail; Miss South Carolina’s Outstanding Teen, Brooke Sill; and Miss North Carolina 1988, Lee Beamon. During the event, the Mayor of Winston-Salem, the Honorable Allen Joines, presented the key to the city to Mallory Hagan. There were also many local titleholders from NC that came to meet the two state queens and former Miss America. Beth Knox, Executive Director, Miss NC Scholarship Pageant and Ashley Byrd, Executive Director of the Miss SC pageant, were also present for this amazing event. This event was produced by Craig Ewing of Mid Atlantic Management Group. Craig serves as the producing agent and conceptual developer of the Charity Ball.

For further information on the Miss North Carolina Scholarship Pageant please visit or contact Beth Knox at If you would like to have your event in an upcoming issue, please contact Heather Spivey at February Issue 2014 • 77

The Artist’s Corner



Our f e a t u r e d a r t i s t s for this issue

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Hannah Saseen, 10th Grade, West Forsyth High School Teacher: Elizabeth Betson

Siobahn Dunigan, 8th Grade, Hanes Middle School, Teacher: Barbara Butryn

Hannah Kennedy, 8th Grade, Meadowlark Middle School, Teacher: Heather Dutton Katy Rice, 8th Grade, Hanes Middle School, Teacher: Barbara Butryn

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quote for this issue

“I try to apply colors like words that shape poems, like notes that shape music.”~ Joan Miro


Cooking with Kids: Valentine’s Day

1) Let kids cut bread and cheese slices using a heart-shaped cookie cutter.

2) Butter one bread slice on one side and set in a nonstick frying pan over medium show your love this Valentine’s Day, consider giving your loved ones treats that also low heat. Let kids help add cheese slices support their health, using unprocessed foods, no refined sugars and healthy fat sources. on top of piece of bread.

By Kristi Johnson Marion & Emily Dodson


3) Quickly butter other bread slice and place on top of cheese, unbuttered side on top of cheese.



1 (10-oz.) bag frozen pineapple chunks

(Adults can direct soup-making & let kids make the grilled cheeses)

4) Let bottom bread slice brown slightly and then flip and do the same for the other bread slice.

Tomato Soup

5) Serve with tomato soup.

1 cup nonfat vanilla yogurt ½ cup raspberries (or substitute strawberries)

4 cloves of garlic, finely diced

1 tablespoon honey or agave nectar

1 Vidalia onion, finely chopped


1 tablespoon milk chocolate chips, melted (optional)

1 teaspoon fresh thyme leaves

3 cups chicken broth

What’s a Valentine’s Day without decadent chocolate? This chocolate sauce uses dark chocolate, which is higher in antioxidants, blended with coconut milk.

½ teaspoon dried basil

4 cups strawberries or raspberries

½ cup half and half

8 oz. dark chocolate, coarsely chopped

fresh ground pepper & sea salt to taste

1 cup canned coconut milk



1) Sauté garlic cloves, onion, and thyme for 5 minutes over medium heat.

1) Kids wash, rinse and divide berries into four small bowls while adults melt the dark chocolate in the top of a double boiler until smooth. Remove from heat to cool slightly.

1 tablespoon red, white and pink jimmies or pink decorative sugar (optional) Directions: 1) To make this smoothie an extra “sweet” treat for Valentine’s Day, consider spooning the melted chocolate chips into a plastic sandwich bag and snipping off the end to pipe a chocolate heart shape onto the inside of a glass, about midway down. 2) Fill a small saucer or bowl with water. Dip the rim of the glass into the water and then into a plate of the jimmies or decorative sugar, and twist until the rim of the glass is covered. Place the glass in the freezer while you prepare the smoothie. 3) Combine pineapple, yogurt, raspberries and honey in blender and purée until smooth. Pour into the glass. Garnish with a pink-and-white paper straw, if desired.

2 28-oz. cans diced tomatoes

2) Add remaining ingredients and continue to cook at a low boil for 15–20 minutes. 3) Use a hand-held blender to remove chunkiness, or cool and move to regular blender for desired texture. Heart-shaped Grilled Cheese 2 slices favorite bread 2 slices favorite cheese butter

2) In a small pot over medium heat, bring coconut milk just to a boil. 3) Gently stir the coconut milk into the chocolate. 4) Let the kids pour over the berries, or into a glass jelly jar to store for later—up to two weeks. Great for topping ice cream, pineapple chunks, banana slices and more!

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February Calendar of Family Events

Enjoy delicious food from our large menu selection as our friendly staff offers you a pleasurable dining experience. Quality and unsurpassed service await you at Mac & Nelli’s BRING YOUR SWEETHEART TO MAC & NELLI'S FOR OUR VALENTINES WEEKEND DINNER SPECIALS FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 14TH & 15TH LIVE MUSIC WITH EVAN & DANA @ 9:00 PM - MIDNIGHT Weekly Dining & Drink Specials: Monday is ALL YOU CAN EAT Create your own Pasta & $5.00 Select Wine Tuesday - 25 Cent Wings & $5.00 Well Drinks (Wings are DINE IN ONLY) Wednesday - Half Off Select Appetizers Music & Martini's with Jamie Carroll Thursday - 25 Cent Wings & $2.00 Bud Light Drafts $3.00 Red Oak & Blue Moon Friday & Saturday - Prime Rib

Friday Night Music for February: February 7 - Jamie Carroll February 14 - Evan & Dana February 21 - Eddie & Russ February 28 - Katelyn Marks

Follow us @macandnellis on instagram, snap a picture of your food during your dining experience at Mac & Nelli's for a chance to win prizes. New Year - New Menu THE PLACE TO BE!



7-8:30pm, 330 Knollwood Street. Judith Kuhn, author, educator and developmental placement specialist will be speaking to parents about her recently published book “Is Your Child Ready for School? Finding the Best Grade Placement.” Event is free and open to the public. 773.0550

5 pm…until! Village Inn Event Center, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. In honor of Valentine’s Day, this GNO is Couples’ Night! Come celebrate with your valentine, whomever it is – your hubby, best friend, neighbor, mother, co-worker, etc. Enjoy a $10 hors d’oeuvres buffet, Valentine’s Day drink specials, music, a photo booth and much more! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! Earn an extra prize ticket for wearing red. Sponsored by Village Inn Event Center, The American Heart Association, Forsyth Woman and Forsyth Woman Engaged! See you there! 714.0172

FEBRUARY 6 FREE ENVIRONMENTAL MOVIE SCREENING 7-9pm, 201 Oakwood Drive in W-S. A father’s search to find the healthiest building materials leads him to build the nation’s first hemp house. Hemp with lime is a non-toxic, energy efficient, mildew, fire and pest resistant building material. 407.2767

FEBRUARY 6-20 (THURSDAYS) COMMUNITY GARDEN MENTOR TRAINING 9am-1pm, 1450 Fairchild Road in W-S. Community Garden Mentors are needed to support and develop community gardens in Forsyth County. Those who complete the program will have the gardening and community development skills needed to help gardens in their communities flourish. 703.2853

FEBRUARY 7 ZUMBA HEART HEALTH FAIR DAY 10am-7:10pm, YWCA. Multiple events throughout the day including Zumba and Get Moving sessions, health stations that include nutritionists, dietitians, massage therapists, aroma practitioners and fresh foods in addition to health screenings, refreshments, prize drawings, games and more!

ZUMBATHON “FUN RAISER” TO RAISE MONEY TO COMBAT PET OVERPOPULATION 6-8pm, Village Inn Event Center, 6205 Ramada Drive. The Forsyth Spay Day Coalition is holding a Zumbathon to raise money for spay/neuter surgeries for low-income pet owners. In addition, vendors will be set up with Valentine's Day-themed products. Cost: $10/person. 782.3779

FEBRUARY 9 BOOKMARKS PRESENTS: A BOOK CLUB MOVABLE FEAST 3-5pm, The Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, 251 North Spruce Street in W-S. Bookmarks will present our 2nd Annual Book Club Movable Feast featuring 20+ published authors from all over the country. Hear from authors, enjoy book sales and book signings. Light refreshments will be served. Cost: $35/person or $240/per table of eight – with reserved seating. 747.1471


336.922.6227 5232 Robinhood Village Dr. Winston-Salem, NC Mon-Thurs 11am-9pm Fri-Sat 11am-until… | Sun CLOSED

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6:30-8pm, Parkway Presbyterian Church, 1000 Yorkshire Road in W-S. Johanna Brown, curator at Old Salem Museums and Gardens, will present " Old Salem From Blooms in God's Garden: Moravian Needlework." 724.9509

FEBRUARY 12 PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF W-S KICKOFF LUNCH 11:30am-1pm, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Join us for the PWWS Kickoff Lunch and learn more about Keela and Robin! Enjoy a buffet lunch, enter to win door prizes and make valuable business connections! Register at Cost: $15/person. 778.0444

FEBRUARY 13 KIDS’ MORNING OUT AT SCIWORKS 10am-12pm, SciWorks, 400 W. Hanes Mill Road. Enjoy a morning of fun and education at SciWorks! Meet one of our live animals, play on a giant piano or freeze your shadow! Mention this ad for HALF-PRICE admission (SciWorks members get in free!) Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board which will include a special drawing for a free one-day family pass to SciWorks! 767.6730

FEBRUARY 15 DADDY/DAUGHTER VALENTINE’S DANCE 6-8pm, Children’s Museum of W-S, 390 South Liberty Street. Enjoy a pizza dinner, craft, cookie decorating, story time and dancing. Hearts & Arrows Photography will photograph you and your little girl, a cherished keepsake that will be emailed to you after the event. Cost: $10/members; $12/nonmembers. 723.9111

FEBRUARY 19 WINTER INTEREST IN THE LANDSCAPE 11am-12pm, Arboretum Office at Tanglewood Park, behind the Manor House. John Newman, owner of John Newman Garden Design, will present a program on selection of plants, shrubs and trees that provide interest in the winter landscape. 703.2850

FEBRUARY 20 IS YOUR CHILD READY FOR SCHOOL? 7-8:30pm, 1401 North Peacehaven Road. Judith Kuhn, author, educator and developmental placement specialist will be speaking to parents about her recently published book “Is Your Child Ready for School? Finding the Best Grade Placement.” Event is free and open to the public. 773.0550

FEBRUARY 21 18TH ANNUAL CAUSE FOR PAWS 6:30-10pm, 168 East Kinderton Way in Bermuda Run.

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FEBRUARY 21-23 NCBRC TEEN THEATRE ENSEMBLE PERFORMS “THE LAST CLASS” Times vary. 610 Coliseum Drive. Special school performance. Cost: $8-$20/person. 723.2266

Triad Home & Garden Show (see ad pg45) begins Friday, February 21st, from 2–8 pm and continues on Saturday, February 22nd, from 10 am–6 pm and Sunday, February 23rd, from 12–5 pm at the Lawrence Joel Veterans Coliseum Complex in the Education Building. Tickets are $8 at the door, and parking is free at Gate 5 on Deacon Boulevard with handicap accessibility.

FEBRUARY 25 FRIENDS OF THE LEWISVILLE LIBRARY BOOK CLUB 7-9pm, 6490 Shallowford Road. The Friends of the Lewisville Library Book Club invite you to join them for an interesting discussion of the book, "The Butler" by Wil Haygood. Free and open to the public. 703.2940

SUNDAYS FITPRAISE 2:30pm, Women's Wellness & Fitness Center in W-S. Workout to contemporary Christian music with devotion and prayer! Designed for women of all ages and fitness levels. Participation is FREE and open to members and non-members. Call 760.0030 for more information.

FOURTH TUESDAYS NEWCOMERS & NEIGHBORS OF GREATER WINSTON-SALEM 10-11:30. Trinity Presbyterian Church, 1416 Bolton Street. Monthly interest groups include Book Group, Lunch Bunch, Bridge, Day/Evening Card Groups, Crafts, Dinner and Wine Groups. Free initial meeting; $35 annual dues. 245-8406.

FIRST AND THIRD WEDNESDAYS CLEMMONS KIWANIS CLUB MEETING 7:30-8:30am, Holiday Inn Express, 6320 Amp Drive in Clemmons. We provide the opportunity for individuals to learn about our community and be a contributor to improving the lives of our children. 245.8406

THIRD THURSDAYS (FEB/MAR/APR) WINSTON-SALEM READING ASSOCIATION 6:30-8:30pm, Kimmel Farm Elementary School. Open to anyone who loves reading and supports literacy. Cost: $40/year membership.

SATURDAYS (FEBRUARY 2-NOVEMBER 29) TOUR DE FOOD WINSTON-SALEM 1:30-4:30pm, 321 W. Fourth Street. Explore the culinary delights, and taste the best of downtown W-S. You will enjoy everything from local frozen custard to down home BBQ while you meet the chefs, owners and artisans who create it all. Cost: $47/person. 406.6294

FUTURE – MARCH 9 SUMMER CAMP EXPO 1-4pm, BB&T Ballpark. Plan a fun summer for your child… FREE event at BB&T Ballpark. Questions, please email


Benefit for the Humane Society Davie County. Includes silent auction, 50/50 raffle and Chinese raffle $25 for 25 chances. $40/person or $75/couple includes hors d'oeuvres and one glass of wine or beer. 751.5214

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336-712-0300 1483 River Ridge Dr. Clemmons, NC 27012

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Advertiser Index 13 Bones ...................................................75

Imprints .....................................................61

St. John’s Lutheran School.........................59

201 Media Productions ..............................35

Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa ...............9, 71

State Farm - Will Wilkins .............................8



Bonefish Grill.......................................73, 75


Braincore Therapy ......................................33

Kingery & Kingery, DDS, PLLC ...................19

Breeden Insurance .....................................17


Sunrise United Methodist Church ...............56

Brenner Fit .................................................49

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .....................47

Susan Maier Colon - Berkshire Hathaway

Busy as a Bee Concierge............................39

Locke Chiropractic .....................................15

Home Services ..........................................40


Lyndhurst Gynecological Associates...........35


C3 Fitness .................................................63


Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center ..............21

Mac & Nelli’s.......................................73, 80

Carolina Urological Associates ...................25

Minglewood.........................................55, 71

Chamberlain Place Apartments ..................39

Moonlight Designs.....................................59

The Center for Musical Excellence..............25

Chang Thai ................................................75


Tina S. Merhoff & Associates ...............23, 61

Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics ...............69

New Town Bistro ..................................73, 75

Chris’ Lawncare .........................................42

Novant Health ................................back cover

Christina’s Dessertery ..........................75, 81

Nu Expression .....................back inside cover

Cornerstone Heath Care .............................37


Truliant Federal Credit Union ......................11

Cunningham College Consulting, LLC ........10

Old Vineyard Behavioral Center ..................33


Cupcakes by Three.....................................75

Omega House Family Restaurant ................75


One Shot Photography ...............................67


Our Lady of Mercy Catholic School.............55



V’s Barbershop ....................................11, 71

Financial Pathways.....................................41

Paul’s Cycling..............................................7


Forsyth Country Day School .......................28

Phoenix Grille ......................................73, 75

WBFJ 89.3.................................................57

Forsyth Family’s Summer Camp Expo

Pintxos Pour House ....................................73

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Forsyth Humane Society ............................81

River Ridge Tap House .........................73, 75


Rolly’s Baby Boutique ................................27

Winston-Salem Cleaning Service ...............43

Hawthorne Eye Associates..........................37


Winston-Salem Dental Care .......................13

Higher IT Solutions ....................................27

Salem Academy.........................................19

Hip Chics...................................................21

Salem Gymnastics .....................................51

Home Instead...............................................3

Salem Smiles Orthodontics........................51

Honky Tonk Smokehouse ...........................75

Salem Windows & Doors ...........................39



SciWorks ...................................................50

YMCA of Northwest North Carolina .............25

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Stitches .....................................................38 Studio Create .............................................47

Tanning Studios .........................................71 Ten Little Monkeys .....................................51

TJ’s Body Shop.........................................47 Triad Home & Garden Show .......................45

Twin City Soccer ........................................17


Which Wich? .............................................75 Winston-Salem Annex Ice Rink...................50

Winston-Salem Fairgrounds Annex.............37 WomanCare ...............................................27

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