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Complimentary February 2013

Home Instead Senior Care Helping You Care for the Seniors in Your Life FAITH & FAMILY

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Account Executives Tamara Bodford / Kelley Carnall / Adele Casanova Jennie Hess / Heather Spivey / Brooke Johnson

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Express Oil Change & Service Center: Full Service Auto Repair

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SciWorks Starts New Year with New Executive Director

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Speak Love with Kilwins Chocolates & Truffle

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#PrayForRyan: Celebrating True Friendship

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Winston-Salem Street School

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Peanut Butter

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Is Your Child Struggling in School/A Step Ahead Academic Center

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COVER Story: Home Instead Senior Care

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After the Fire-Saving Family Memories

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Straight from Eight

Kilah’s Law

Being Known for our Acts of Kindness/CareNet Counseling Hey, kids! Our newest writer here at Forsyth Family is Raven the horse (see his article on page 68). Raven is also hiding somewhere in the pages of this issue – see if you can find him! We’ll reveal his location in next month’s issue! Have your parents send your guess to Robin@ForsythMags.com for a chance to win a $10 Gift Card to Frogurt! Congratulations to Kaleb Allen, who spotted Raven in January’s issue on page 54 and won a $10 Gift Card to Frogurt!

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from the heart 8 10

The View from my Section

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Today’s Image: The Heart is not

So You Think You Know: President’s Day

only for Loving

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House2Home - Hiffen Organizing - HBAWS Triad Home & Garden Show

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Kids’ Morning Out (Parents are welcome too!)

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Celebrate Life Faith & Family - Tami’s Devotion - Musing About... - Christian Car Guy

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One Forsyth Father iTalk Out and About in Winston-Salem Small Stories for a Big World Family Friendly Dining Guide/ New Town Bistro The Artists’ Corner Kids in the Kitchen Calendar of Family Events

February 2013 a simple plea, tweeted for all to see on January 3rd. It was the message a couple of very close friends to my nephew, Ryan, posted the evening we all got the news that his cancer was no longer responding to treatment, and there was no more they could do. As you can imagine, shock, disbelief, anger, a tidal wave of emotions swirled over all those that cared for Ryan. And there were so many that cared for this unassuming young man. Someone who I never once heard complain about all that he was having to endure those months before. He was the kind of kid everyone wished they could have. Easy-going and fun-loving, with a touch of mischief you could see by the twinkle in his eyes. He loved sports; baseball, lacrosse and football. He loved riding dirt bikes with his dad, camping with his family and just hanging out with pawpaw Ray and his myriad of tractors and things with wheels. That boy came into the world liking anything on wheels! We will miss experiencing all the things you get to experience with kids as they transition from childhood to adulthood, but we are comforted that he is no longer in pain and now rests with our heavenly Father.

#PrayForRyan,

Thank you to all those who have reached out to our family during this most difficult time. Your expressions of love and friendship have not gone unnoticed and are more appreciated than you can ever know. A special thanks to all the prayers before and after the twitter message, but please keep them coming…as they have never been more needed! Home Instead Senior Care is our February cover story and I can’t think of a better-suited business to represent the month tied to love. They exist to care for our loved ones in times of need. In my opinion, caregivers are the angels here on earth, and we are so very blessed the Hodge family came to be in Winston-Salem! Don’t take a minute of your time on earth for granted! Be sure to say those three little words, “I love you,” often and with every fiber of your being to those you love and care about. Life is but a moment and then it’s gone, so live with no regrets. And to quote John Wesley… “Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.”

Blessings!

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The View from My Section...

By A. Keith Tilley

How Willpower Affects Our Children’s Success hallmark of today’s parents and children is our constant struggle with giving them what they want when they want it. On the one hand, as parents, we want our children to have more than we did, and so we’re occasionally overzealous in giving in to them too soon. On the other hand, we also want them to be disciplined and responsible adults, and to understand the value of working for, and earning, what they receive in life. These two opposing positions often create a dilemma for parents who are trying to do what’s best, while also making their children feel loved and appreciated. This delay in reward, often referred to as “delayed gratification” or “self-discipline,” has been scientifically studied to determine its effects on children as they grow into adults, and what I found are some quite interesting conclusions.

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Without question, the most famous experiment in this area was called the Marshmallow Test, performed at Stanford University in 1972 by psychologist Walter Mischel. One of the primary goals of the study was to determine when self-discipline develops in children and the factors that influence it. In a subsequent study Mischel looked at the importance of one’s ability for delayed gratification as it related to success later in life. The initial experiment consisted of over 600 four- to six-year-old children. One by one, they were placed in a room furnished only with a chair and table. On the table was a plate, holding a single marshmallow. The participants were told if they didn’t eat the marshmallow, and could wait fifteen minutes until the researcher came back from running an errand, they would receive an additional marshmallow. The results were that two-thirds of the children tried to resist as much as they could, but ultimately gave in and ate the marshmallow within minutes after the researcher left the room. The remaining one-third was successful at waiting out the full time limit for the researcher to return. Now, here’s where it gets real interesting. In 1981, when those same individuals were in high school, Mischel performed a follow-up study to learn more about them. The results may or may not surprise you. In those children who were self-disciplined enough to resist temptation to consume the initial marshmallow, Mischel found they exhibited a more positive outlook towards life, with added confidence when facing the typical trials and tribulations. Their SAT scores were higher than those with less resistance skills in the initial study, and there were lower cases of substance abuse among this group. In those participants who could not resist the single marshmallow temptation, the results were not as good. They were found to be less confident, had difficulty focusing, had more behavioral issues and were easily distracted

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towards more gratifying tasks. They also continued to be weak in resisting temptation. Depending on your vantage point, this news can either be uplifting or scary. You’ll be glad to know, however, there was another recent, smaller study performed by the University of Rochester that identified another possible explanation for success or failure with delayed gratification. In the study lead by Celeste Kidd, a doctoral student at the University and co-author Richard Aslin, Professor of brain and cognitive sciences at the University, they looked at environmental effects on willpower. This study was performed in a slightly different way from Mischel’s, in that the children were divided (unknowingly) into two groups. One group was given two shorter tests in which the researcher was reliable when it came to producing the rewards offered, including art supplies and stickers. In the other group on those same tests, the researcher failed to come through as promised with the rewards, making excuses for why the children wouldn’t receive them. As a result, when it came time to reconstruct the marshmallow test, those children in the reliable researcher group waited on average twelve minutes before attempting to eat the marshmallow. Whereas those children in the unreliable researcher group overwhelmingly ate the marshmallow almost immediately. The study showed that trust in knowing they will actually receive the reward in the end plays a big part in whether or not they have the willpower to delay immediate gratification for it. This is important, because it indicates it’s not entirely a personality trait that is the determining factor for self-control, as trust in the outcome plays an important role, as well. What does this all mean to us as parents? These studies show clearly that selfdiscipline and -control are very important in improving our children’s chances for success later in life. However, also important is a sense of trust that their diligence will pay off in the end, and it’ll all be worth it. As parents, we can help our children improve their willpower skills by helping them to set goals, make a plan, and then providing support, encouragement and reinforcement. In addition, experts suggest that an important aspect to emphasize to our children is that their discomfort is only temporary, all while earning their trust by coming through with the reward in the end. With a little help, they can learn to become very adept at this and have a strong foundation for success in their future. One remembers the old English proverb, “Good things come to those who wait.” However, it was renowned reporter and humorist Franklin P. Jones (1908-1980) who said, “Nothing makes it easier to resist temptation than a proper up-bringing, a sound set of values—and witnesses.”

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So You Think You Know... and What it Means!

President’s Day By Heather Spivey

President George Washington died in 1799, his birthday, February 22nd, was celebrated as an annual day of remembrance of his contributions to our country, but was not an official holiday. In 1879, Washington’s Birthday became an annual holiday in the District of Columbia, but in 1885, the holiday was expanded to the entire country.

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In the 1960s, the US Congress considered a measure called the Uniform Monday Holiday Act. If passed, this Act would have moved several Federal holidays that fell on a specific date to a series of Monday holidays. There were many reasons given to justify moving several observed holidays to Mondays. First, it would give workers several three-day weekends, instead of a random day off in the middle of a week—if the holiday fell on a weekday. So, for those 5-day-a-week workers, it guaranteed they’d get that day off each year. It was also argued that it would decrease absenteeism, because workers would get a guaranteed three-day weekend and be content with that, rather then getting a single day in the middle of a week and attempting to take more days. It was also argued that retail sales would increase if workers had a three-day weekend to go out and shop. Initially there was significant skepticism, and a belief that moving around established holidays would lessen their importance. Within the Act there was a provision to combine the celebration of Washington’s Birthday on February 22nd and Abraham Lincoln’s birthday on February 12th. Lawmakers from Virginia took great offense at this idea, because it would take away the focus from Washington alone. The idea of combining celebrations for these two men was abandoned, and in 1968, the Uniform Monday Holiday Act was passed. It was eventually effective in 1971, pursuant to an Executive Order issued by President Richard Nixon. The Act and Order moved Washington’s Birthday to the 3rd Monday of February. Columbus Day, Memorial Day and Veteran’s Day

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were also moved to predetermined Mondays, but there was such a public outcry about moving Veteran’s Day that in 1980 it was returned to a November 11 celebration each year. The Act and Order called the holiday on the 3rd Monday in February Washington’s Birthday, but in practice many people saw that the date was between the birthday of Washington and Lincoln and started calling it President’s Day—especially retailers, who could then advertise President’s Day sales! Mainly through the forum of advertising, the public began to call it President’s Day, and seemed to recognize it as a day to honor all of our Presidents, even though the official government calendars still call it Washington’s Birthday. Many states began to change the name used by their state government to President’s Day. George Washington and Abraham Lincoln still are deemed as the two most recognized and respected Presidents in our history. Calling the holiday President’s Day has enabled us to recognize the lives and achievements of all of America’s chief leaders. And the Congressmen in the 1960s were right—it has given us a post-Christmas sale time to have a big three-day weekend sale at every car dealership, mattress store, furniture showroom, and other retailers, who sometimes even feature George or Abe in their commercials! President’s Day is a great day to show your patriotism and support of our great nation. We are a free country, the land of opportunity even in the wake of economic downturns of the past several years; and it was our forefathers who paved the way and made this country great. Put out an American flag on the 3rd Monday of February, so that everyone will think about these great Presidents that led our country through prosperity and downturns, through war and peace, and through internal and external conflicts. Happy President’s Day!


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Show your Valentine how “sweet” you are by treating them to Kilwins chocolates and truffles! Just in time for Valentine’s Day, Kilwins has a wide assortment of chocolates to declare your love, including chocolatecovered strawberries, heart-shaped nonpareils and foil-wrapped heart chocolates, as well as classic and beautiful heart-shaped boxes of truffles in mocha, peppermint, Irish cream, champagne, almond, malt, raspberry, hazelnut and dark chocolate. Also for the season, they are featuring a limited edition “decadent chocolate raspberry truffle ice cream and fudge.” Staff member Jolene Burnett claims that chocolate raspberry truffle ice cream is her “current” favorite. “It’s very rich and dark, and the chocolate pieces give it texture. I love ice creams with texture,” she explained.

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If your sweetie is a foodie, or just likes “something different,” they may enjoy Kilwins amazing salted caramel chocolates, made with natural salts from around the world, including: Himalayan Pink salt, Sel Gris de Guerande (grey salt), Cyprus Mediterranean flake, Hawaiian Hiwa Kai (a black salt), Hawaiian Alae (red), and Bali Pyramid salted caramel. “Many people make a special trip here just for these salted caramels,” said Mardie. And at $12.99 for a box of 12 caramels, the price is right. Speaking of salted caramel, it’s the name of their best-seller in ice cream flavors as well, so treat yourself to a homemade waffle cone while enjoying the wonderful shopping at Thruway Shopping Center. Traverse City Cherry (pictured) is also a popular flavor brought back by special request. You’ll find decadent ice creams, creamy fudge, brittles, fresh taffy, caramel apples and more at Kilwins. When asked what their favorite Kilwins treats are, Barry favors the turtle fudge, while Mardie loves the salted caramel ice cream, but admits that toasted coconut is a close second. Stop in for a fudge sample and take advantage of the special—buy two slices of fudge, get one free! If your timing is right, you can watch Barry make a fresh batch of fudge by hand right in front of you!

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Winston-Salem Street School By Meghan E.W. Corbett

seems that with each passing day, tuning into the news gets more and more depressing. We are told about so many negative occurrences on a daily basis, that it can sometimes be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel and focus on all the good that still exists in the world around us. Perhaps one of the most discouraging pieces of news in recent years has been the high dropout rate in our nation’s school system. Regardless of what the cause behind the increase may be, it is important to do something about it now.

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The people behind the Winston-Salem Street School (WSSS) feel the same way, and they are making major strides in our community to knock those rising percentages back down where they belong. “The Winston-Salem Street School is the first private school in Forsyth County that targets the at-risk high school population,” said Development Director Sylvia Shelton. “We are an alternative high school dedicated to providing students with the opportunity to complete their high school educations. The original Street School was founded in 1985 in Denver, Colorado and has graduated several hundred students as of 2012. Many of these graduates have gone on to college, vocational schools, the military and the job market. WSSS, founded in 2004, is modeled after the Denver school. This year, the WSSS has an enrollment of 37 students, with a growing waiting list!” It is not easy for some students to achieve high school degrees, but the WSSS is making it possible for those students who might have given up focusing on, and achieving, their goals. “My role as Development Director is to create awareness and increase financial support for the school, so that we can keep up with increasing demands of our troubled youth population as our waiting list continues to grow,” said Shelton. “The students being served include those who have dropped out or have been expelled from the public high school system in Forsyth County. We have students who have been recommended from social workers, guidance counselors, judges and just word of mouth. Our students range from 16–21 years of age.” Because most of the students at the WSSS come from similar situations, it is important that the school uses methods for instruction that differ from a regular

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public or private high school. “I believe the one thing that sets us apart from all others is that we are teaching our youth to help themselves,” said Shelton. “More than 75% of all state prison inmates are high school dropouts. In North Carolina, a minority male without a high school diploma has an 80% chance of being incarcerated. Our students are given one last chance to succeed with a loving, safe environment with tutoring and small classes. It is amazing how far they can go when they are given hope for a brighter future! I met a student who graduated last year. She had to drop out of high school because she was pregnant and had a very, very troubled home life. After graduation from the WSSS, she enrolled in nursing school and is working a part-time job at night, so that she could buy her own car and take care of her family. Investing in the lives of our youth is not only consistent with Christ's compassion for the disenfranchised among us , but it will make a difference in Winston-Salem as well. Because the WSSS is private, it requires funding from a variety of sources. “Since we are a private alternative school, financial support from our community, churches and grants are our only means of financial support,” said Shelton. “We are enabling our youth to help themselves by giving them a quality education, and keeping them off the street and in the classroom. We ask that anyone who is able to give a gift to our school to go to wsstreetschool.com and donate on-line, or please send a donation to Winston-Salem Street School, 630 W. Sixth Street, Winston-Salem, NC, 27023. It is definitely a gift that will keep on giving!” The WSSS is also looking for tutors, mentors and those willing to provide Friday lunches for students. “Our hope is to be able to keep up with the rising demands of our troubled youth population as our waiting lists continue to grow,” said Shelton. “Our goal is to have several street schools strategically placed so that we can give more students “A Road to Hope.” For more information, contact Director David Morgan or Development Director Sylvia Shelton at 336.721.1110. You can also visit the website at www.wsstreetschool.com.


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this healthy?” is a question that Charlotte Crotts often gets asked by her 8-year-old daughter, Caroline. It is this focus on eating healthy and being active that led to Caroline receiving the 2012 Kid’s Lifestyle Change Award, sponsored by Salem Automation, at the Tanglewood Heart and Stroke Walk in October.

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Caroline loves to dance, cheer and swim to stay active. “Tomatoes are my favorite veggie, but every now and then I have chocolate mini donuts for a special treat,” says Caroline. “Caroline is making changes to eat healthier,” shares Charlotte. “She no longer chooses the chocolate milk when we eat out, and now she even orders salads. I am so proud of her and her choices.” Caroline is also the family exercise organizer, planning walks around the neighborhood and hikes for her family. Even at her young age, Caroline is a heartdisease survivor. Her drive for healthy eating and exercise helps her have a better quality of life now and lowers her future risk of heart disease. Caroline entered the world without any sign of heart issues. At two days old, her chest sounded loud and an echocardiogram was completed. The test showed that Caroline had a medium-sized ventricular septal defect, or VSD, which is a hole between the two ventricles in the heart. Surgery was not necessary at the time, since doctors believed that the hole could close on its own as Caroline grew. However, at her three-month check-up, doctors discovered that Caroline also had pulmonary valve stenosis, a condition where the valve was too small and the flaps would not fully close. At 7 months old, Caroline had open-heart surgery to repair the valve and fix the hole between the ventricles. Today, Caroline is a beautiful, healthy little girl without any restrictions on what she is capable of doing, or becoming, in her very bright future. As a teenager, Caroline may need to have another surgery, depending on how her heart continues to grow. Caroline’s 5-year-old sister, Elizabeth, is also a heart-

disease survivor. Elizabeth had open heart surgery at two years old. Elizabeth will most likely need a complete valve replacement later in adulthood. “The new developments that are being discovered every day by the work of American Heart Association-funded researchers could one day make Caroline and Elizabeth’s heart surgeries much easier, less invasive or possibly even avoidable all together,” says Charlotte.

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heart disease. Heart disease is the No. 1 killer of women in our nation, taking one in three women from our lives. As a young woman, Caroline is already taking the lead and helping her family and friends prevent heart disease. To celebrate American Heart Month, plan family outings to get active together and make some heart-healthy recipes together as a family. For more information on how to prevent heart disease; and for easy family tips for healthy eating and fun family activities, visit www.heart.org or www.kidsmartkid.com.


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Today’s Image The Heart is Not Only for Loving By Brendan Miner, MD, Staff Radiologist, Triad Radiology Associates the month of February, a significant amount of attention is dedicated to the concept of love, symbolized by the heart. But the heart is not only for loving. The heart is a muscle, located in the left aspect of your chest, and it is designed to pump oxygen-rich blood to the body, as well as to itself, through the coronary arteries. Heart disease research has received considerable funding in an effort to improve prevention and treatment, and with it, the ability to image the heart has become more sophisticated.

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Nuclear medicine cardiac imaging predominately involves stress testing, a study which involves injecting a radiotracer during periods of “rest” and “stress” and subsequently comparing them, in an effort to detect ischemia, or a heart muscle at risk. MUGA (Multi Gated Acquisitions) scans are an additional nuclear medicine exam, which uses a radiotracer to calculate the overall pumping mechanism of the heart, the so-called ejection fraction. Cardiac PET exams can be used to establish the “viability,” or salvageable amount of heart muscle, otherwise known as myocardium. Cardiac echocardiography, or “echo,” is an ultrasound examination of the heart, an exam which uses transmitted sound waves from a hand-held device, and studies the retransmitted sound. The anatomy and function of the heart, as well as the valves of the heart (which serve

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Being Known for Our Acts of Kindness! By Barbara Saulpaugh, M.A., Regional Director, CareNet Counseling

do we, as a community, want to be known for? For those in Columbine, Aurora and Newtown, there is little doubt that “terror” was not on the list of attributes that they desired. Unfortunately, the painful, horrific acts of the few have cast a deep shadow on these areas once known for their goodness, or for simply nothing at all.

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We have an opportunity in front of us to be known as a community that is working positively with our schools to be known for our acts of kindness and gratitude! In October, we kicked off a full year of collecting a million paper “links,” each one representing a single act of kindness. As part of an effort to replace bullying with acts of kindness, all of us in the community can participate, whether or not we have children in local schools. How can you participate? 1) If you have children in the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County schools, ask the school administration about the program. They have plenty of paper “links” in every school that your family can use to record acts of kindness or gratitude. 2) If you don’t have children in school, you can get paper links by e-mailing bsaulpau@wakehealth.edu. We have plenty available, so don’t be shy. 3) On the back of the paper link, write an act of kindness you performed or observed. You do not have to be too specific if you would like to keep your actions anonymous. You can also use the links to record things you are grateful for. The act of being grateful has many positive benefits, including increasing your kindness to others! 4) Use the links to form a paper chain and send to your school, or save on your own to add to our giant paper chain which we will put together with the school system in November of 2013. 5) Like us on Facebook! Our page is Link Up! A Million Acts of Kindness. You can also scan the code on the link to reach us. Post your acts of kindness or ideas about reaching the million acts! Spread the word! If you have questions or need more information, please contact Barbara Saulpaugh at bsaulpau@wakehealth.edu or 336-716-0854.

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Child Struggling in School?

By Dr. Cathleen Killeen-Pittman, Founder/Executive Director, A Step Ahead Academic Center cards have been sent home, and you may find that your child is struggling in school. Signs that your child may need extra academic support include change in attitude, loss of selfesteem, drop in grades, increase in misbehavior, or loss of interest in school. No one knows your child better than you, and you may find you need to be an advocate for your child. Here are some ways to help:

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material and become bored. Some children become withdrawn or lose interest in school if they are being bullied. Ask the teacher to share any changes in behavior with you.

in today’s large classrooms. An experienced tutor can re-teach concepts, pre-teach new material, help with homework, and assist with organizational and study skills.

Where does your child sit in the classroom? Does she/he squint when looking at the board? Decide whether your child should have an eye exam to determine if glasses are needed.

4. Provide positive reinforcement at home. Recognize your child’s effort and hard work. Studies show that successful students tend to have parents who encourage and support them. Self-confidence is directly related to academic success. Your child needs to believe in himself/herself as a learner, and this confidence-building begins at home. Remember, the number-one indicator of a student’s success in school is parental involvement. You have the ability to positively impact your child’s education and future.

Is your child turning in completed homework and assignments? Sometimes students complete homework with their parents, but do not turn in completed assignments the next day, thus negatively impacting their grades.

1. Contact your child’s teacher and arrange a conference. This can be done at any time throughout the school year and not just at the annual conference time. Questions you may want to ask include:

Does the teacher feel it is necessary to have the child tested for a specific learning disability? The school’s guidance counselor will explain the assessment process to you, if testing may be beneficial for your child.

What forms of assessment are being used? You need to know the ways your child is being tested, and ask to review your child’s graded tests during the conference. Some children know the content, but struggle with test-taking skills or test anxiety. This may help you determine if your child needs extra help with the curriculum, or needs support with testtaking strategies.

2. Help your child get organized at home. Provide an organized space for your child to complete homework, and set a regularly scheduled time for completing work. Review your child’s assignments for the day and help him or her prioritize tasks. Post a calendar in this space with all assignment deadlines, and help your child set weekly goals for long-term projects.

Has the teacher noted any changes in your child’s behavior? Changes in behavior, such as becoming withdrawn or increasing off-task behavior, could be triggered by a variety of factors. Children who are not grasping the material may hit a high level of frustration and cope by engaging in off-task behavior. Other children may not be challenged by the

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Home Instead Senior Care Helping You Care for the Seniors in Your Life By Carolyn S. Peterson

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the core of our human experience over our lifetime is a sense of longing to be “home.” From the moment you realize what “home” means, you know it’s where you want to be. And “home” can be many places,

from where you were raised as a child; to the house you’ve lived in most of your life; to an assisted-living facility or independent-living community. “Home” is literally where your heart is, and where you feel at peace to lay your head. As you age, or a loved one ages, life and health situations come along, requiring additional help with daily tasks, and staying in that place you call “home” becomes even more important. It is the mission of Shannon and Travis Hodge, franchise owners of Home Instead Senior Care, to make sure you can be at “home.” Front Cover Photo by Main Street Photography - Becky Smith Febraury Issue 2013 • 29


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More Than a Business…A Ministry The road that led to the Hodges owning the local franchise of Home Instead Senior Care was one paved with much prayer, patience and with many supernatural moments along the way, which assured Shannon and Travis that this business endeavor was, indeed, the Lord’s ministry. But that road got off to a rather simple start, with Shannon accepting a “job.” In 2001, Shannon began working at the Statesville location of Home Instead Senior Care, helping to staff the new franchise. At the time, her position was “just a job,” as she continued to look for other employment, but that all changed when she met and spent time with Terry. “I was a CAREGiver for Terry, a man with Alzheimer’s, who lived at a local assisted-living facility. It was my first experience with the disease, and he and I spent an evening of pretending to fish and hot-wire cars. Spending an 8-hour day with Terry was a new world for me. Terry, whose mind was somewhere else most of the time, looked up at me, grabbed my hand and said, ‘You’re my angel today.’ That evening, when I left, I had a different

feeling of the idea of care-giving, and my Holy Spirit nudged my heart and said, ‘This is what you are going to do,’” recalled Shannon. The next day, Shannon signed on with the mission of Home Instead Senior Care, “To Honor God in All You Do” (first of Four Values of the Organization), and stayed at the Statesville location for 5 years, until she and Travis decided, after much prayer, that they wanted to own a Home Instead Senior Care franchise. Obeying God’s Will for Your Life After many bumps along the journey, in 2008, Shannon and Travis purchased the Home Instead Senior Care franchise that covers all of Forsyth County, knowing that they truly had the blessing of the Lord and were doing His will. “Travis and I are unified in every sense of the word, from business to home. He is an honorable man, my mentor, my prayer warrior and my answered prayer! It is with his help that I am able to keep my life balance. Like with every business, there are times when I think ‘how will I get it all done at work and be everything needed for my family?’, but when you KNOW you are doing the will of the Lord, there is peace. Beyond our business and family, we are very involved at our church, Winston-Salem First in Winston-Salem, NC. Travis and I share a passion for youth, and I especially have a heart toward young, single moms. So much of our time is spent ministering to others, as well as caring for our


family. A wise 94-year-old client once told me, ‘Do not get so busy that you forget to absorb the moments with your children.’ To this day, I try to live that advice,” commented Shannon. Throughout the Hodges’ personal and professional lives, family is at the heart of everything they do; family is also at the heart of the philosophy of Home Instead Senior Care Winston-Salem. Fulfilling an Ever-growing Need as Our Population Ages The Home Instead Senior Care family of locally owned franchises was developed with “a passionate desire to be your trusted in-home care agency.” It’s a simple concept, but one that is becoming more important as people live longer and as the baby-boomer generation ages. “There is a ‘Senior Tsunami’ coming in the next few years. By 2015, the number of people between the ages of 70 and 90 will be staggering, and those individuals want to stay in their homes as long as possible. We all like our feeling of independence, and that doesn’t change as you age; in fact it becomes more important. Home is where we are most comfortable; it’s what is familiar, providing us comfort at any age. Through the nonmedical services we provide at Home Instead Senior Care, your loved ones are able to stay in their home, whether that is a house, a retirement community, or an assisted-living facility, as long as they can, with our CAREGivers meeting their needs,” Shannon stated. Those needs can range from companion services, like shopping, meal preparation and light housework; to Alzheimer’s/dementia care, assistance with eating, grooming and mobility. Ranging from needing minimal care to perhaps more involved help with daily needs is referred to as the “Age-in-Place Process.” As your needs increase, your care increases, even as you remain in your home. In her years of working with the seniors in our community, Shannon has learned two important aspects of aging: “We should never underestimate the power of genuine love. It is in our being to want to be loved and treated with dignity, and being able to provide seniors with this ministry as long as they can remain at home is very rewarding to us and our staff. Secondly, for seniors, continuity of care is very important. Knowing that the same compatible CAREGiver will be there when needed makes a difference in a senior’s response to his or her situation. It builds relationships and trust. Many of our caregivers have been with our clients for years,” said Shannon. Home Instead Senior Care’s staff is focused on giving the best care they can to their clients. “Our CAREGivers have a heart for serving; a love for seniors; and the gift of compassion. Having the right people in the right place makes all the difference. In our business, everyone brings something unique to the body of this ministry. No one has the same strengths, but together we make a whole. Our employees, from the

office staff to the CAREGivers, make it all possible,” Shannon commented. In the end, Shannon Hodge wants the community to know that there are options for the care of a senior, and even if you aren’t ready for in-home care, Home Instead Senior Care is here as a resource. “We want whatever is best for the client, even if that doesn’t include our services. There are many resources available in community grants, long-term insurance and VA benefits, and people need to know about those. Home Instead Senior Care is our ministry, and with humility we take the trust of those we care for very graciously and want to do all we can to enrich their lives with the Fruits of the Spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Forbearance, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self-control,” said Shannon. (Galatians 5:22-23) Home Instead Senior Care is a private-pay, long-term insurance, VA benefit in-home care company and is located at 3410 Healy Drive, Suite 200, Winston-Salem, NC. For more information call 336-760-8001 or visit www.homeinstead.com/439.

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After the Fire – Saving Family Memories By Vonda Henderson

Allow them to dry, image-side up, on a smooth surface (a glass table or smooth countertop). hope you never have to face the impact of a house fire. It is devastating; but, there are ways to preserve things that have smoke and water damage. Some of these noted are based on researching the internet and some are from personal experience.

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One proactive step recommended is to digitize your photos and store them offsite. Several sites were mentioned, including ancestry.com, as possible storage sites. You may want to provide copies to other family members, as well, to ensure that your family photographs are available to share with future generations. The New York Fire Department’s After the Fire Salvage Hints website included some excellent information on restoring a number of household and personal items after a fire. One in particular may be helpful (please note that I have not tried this): Do not pull photos apart if they are stuck together after a fire. Soak them in clean, clear water and rinse carefully. Let them separate on their own. They must dry thoroughly to avoid mold, so only work on a limited number at a time.

From my personal experience, items that could not be replaced (pictures, family treasures, and clothing) were sent through an ozone room to remove the smoke smell. The process was very effective and saved some treasured items that I had thought lost. One recommendation I’ve seen used for personal records, such as birth certificates, military papers, or marriage certificates, is to keep them in zip-lock bags in your freezer. Personally, I have not tried this, but it does have merit. You’d have to be sure that the package was airtight and be selective about what you store. Of course, the fireproof storage box is always available. Again, from my personal experience (and lack of foresight), preserving my report cards should not have been high on my list of things to put in the fire safe. But, if you need to know what my grades were in high school, I still have them. Being prepared is a good idea. I encourage you to do some research and take steps to ensure that your treasured memories are stored and protected as best you can from natural disasters. Best wishes on a safe New Year!


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SciWorks Starts New Year with New Executive Director Paul Kortenaar, former Director of Education at Ontario Science Centre, will lead the science center into the future for Winston-Salem’s children. Winston-Salem begins 2013 as the City of Innovation and Arts, the city’s science center embarks on a new chapter in its rich history. Paul Kortenaar, formerly the Director of Education and Weston Family Chair of Innovative Education for the Ontario Science Centre in Canada, officially began his new role as Executive Director on January 3 and will guide SciWorks into a new phase of growth and development.

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“After an extensive search for a new Executive Director, we are thrilled to announce Paul Kortenaar’s acceptance of the position and arrival at SciWorks,” says Michael A. Myers, Chair of the SciWorks Board of Directors. “With his experience and vision for moving science education toward inquiry models of learning, SciWorks will transform into the place where innovation truly begins for the children of Winston-Salem and North Carolina.” In his role at the Ontario Science Centre, Kortenaar was also principal of the Ontario Science Centre Science School and worked closely with educators to review methods of pedagogy in a changing society. “I am excited to come to SciWorks, because this is an opportunity to build upon and grow our relationships with the school systems, businesses and the communities in Winston-Salem and throughout the state of North Carolina,” he says. “As a hands-on learning environment, we are in a

unique position to be able to provide kids with the opportunity to develop the skills of innovation.” Kortenaar envisions SciWorks as a place where children can explore qualities that are not always found in a formal classroom setting. “We have to give children the opportunity to take risks,” he says. “We can help kids to be collaborative, we can help kids to be creative, and we can create opportunities for kids to work on something over a long period of time. Risk-taking, collaboration, creativity and perseverance are the four skills that today’s children will require to be part of an innovative society. Prior to his position at the Ontario Science Centre, Kortenaar was Director of Education at the Museum of Nature and Science in Dallas, Texas, as well as being a teacher and Course Director at York University in Toronto. He holds a Master of Education from York University and is currently working on his Doctor of Education, with a thesis focused on how to help students practice their skills of innovation within the context of the existing curriculum. “As a society, we have to create employees who are ready to be part of a different kind of future,” Kortenaar says. “We need to create leaders and employees who are ready for change. Science centers are in a unique position to prepare kids for those kinds of changes, and that also means changing SciWorks. “By helping SciWorks realize its full potential in an ever-changing world,” he continues, “we can help the children of Winston-Salem and North Carolina realize theirs.”

About SciWorks Originally established as the Nature Science Center by the Junior League of Winston-Salem in 1965, SciWorks is a non-profit Science Center and Environmental Park of Forsyth County that includes 25,000 square feet of exhibits, a planetarium and a 5-acre environmental park. Located just off University Parkway at 400 W. Hanes Mill Road in Winston-Salem, SciWorks is open Tuesday-Friday, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., Saturday, 11 a.m. to 5 p.m., and Sunday noon to 5 p.m. For more information, visit www.sciworks.org. 34 • forsythfamilymagazine.com


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HBAWS Triad Home & Garden Show By Meghan E.W. Corbett

many people focus on changes they would like to make this time of year, now is the perfect time to change not only your eating habits and exercise routine, but all those areas in your house that could be easily, and often affordably, updated. It can be a nightmare comparing prices all over town, worrying that the people you have hired are not as honest or hardworking as you would like, and wondering if you could have made better decisions. Let this year’s Home Builders Association of Winston-Salem (HBAWS) Triad Home & Garden Show make it easy, whether you are looking to make changes now, or down the road!

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“The Triad Home & Garden Show is a great resource for anyone thinking about upgrades to their home—inside or out,” said Jerry Herman, Executive Vice President for the HBAWS. “Landscape, remodel or new construction projects, and almost every vendor you could imagine for a home project will be there! It is a great place to learn about the latest products on the market for homes and landscaping.”

Established in 1959, the HBAWS is a non-profit trade organization that supports and promotes the home building and remodeling industry. “HBAWS members are the best of the best—licensed and bonded professionals in the home building industry,” said Herman. “Each is highly screened, and general contractors are required to complete continuing education credits annually. We serve members by helping to educate consumers about them, their products and services, and that they are reliable companies to consider for their home upgrades or building projects.” The annual Triad Home & Garden Show is one of four events organized by the HBAWS to showcase the products and services of its members. This year marks the 25th anniversary of the original Triad Home & Garden Show, and there are several new events to celebrate the milestone! “We have added a celebrity cornhole tournament, including such names as WXII12 News Anchor Cameron Kent and Mayor Allen Joines,” said Beverly Hayes, communications manager for the HBAWS. 42 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

There will also be cornhole boards decorated in the theme of local ACC teams for sale, to raise money for Habitat for Humanity through Forsyth Technical Community College and the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Schools Vocational Education Habitat homes. “The idea was initiated by the Triad Home & Garden Show planning committee, in hopes of creating a fun event to involve local celebrities,” said Herman. “This event is intended to increase visibility for the vocational education program benefitting Habitat for Humanity Forsyth County.” This year’s sponsor, Bloomday Granite and Marble, “…is an active member of our association that believes in this event as a valuable opportunity to market their company, as well as other companies in our Association,” said Herman. “They have been members of our Association for eight years, and this will be their second year as event sponsor.” The grand prize winner at this year’s Show will receive HanStone Countertops valued at $6,000 provided by Bloomday Granite and Marble, 2013 event sponsor.

No matter what changes you would like to make to your home now, or in the future, there is something for everyone at the Triad Home & Garden Show! The 2013 HBAWS Home and Garden Show will be held at the LJVM Coliseum Complex in the Education Building, Friday, February 22nd to Sunday, February 24th. Tickets are $7 in advance, $8 at the door and children 12 and under get in free with a paying adult. Parking is free. For more information, call 336.768.5942, or visit the website at www.triadhomeandgardenshow.com.


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#PrayForRyan: Celebrating True Friendship By Denise Heidel

tagline for both Forsyth Family and Forsyth Woman speaks of celebration. Whether we are “celebrating family life” or “celebrating the lives of women,” our mission since 2005 has been to deliver positive, uplifting stories within our community that inspire our readers. Today, we celebrate the power of friendship and uncompromising loyalty, even amid trials and heartbreak.

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When 16-year-old Ryan Wood was diagnosed with a rare type of cancer in April 2012, his friends rallied around him, supporting him throughout his treatment. He was told he was cancer-free in August, but the cancer returned in November with a vengeance. In January, 2013, Ryan was told he had a month left to live. Ryan’s best friend, Jake Still shared, “I was devastated. I had heard that if cancer came back for a second time, it was likely going to be worse. I asked Ryan if he wanted me to keep it to myself or spread the word, and he asked me to let everyone know.” Jake posted the news on Twitter, and close friend Landon Choplin decided to apply the hashtag #PrayForRyan. Within 24 hours, #PrayForRyan had spread beyond our community and become a global prayer chain. #PrayForRyan reached thousands, including users in England, Germany, Denmark, Columbia, Argentina, Guatemala, and New Zealand. The #PrayForRyan campaign also got the attention of celebrities such as Brad Pitt, Blake Shelton, Lady Antebellum and several commentators from ESPN. The persistence of Ryan’s friends also garnered the attention of West Forsyth alumnus and NBA player Chris Paul. Not only did Chris Paul join in the #PrayForRyan campaign on Twitter, he also agreed to fund Ryan’s Make a Wish trip to Key West, Florida. Jake, Landon, and close friend Reggie Howell joined others, including several rival teams, to support Ryan and his family in Ryan’s final days. Students from Davie County, Reagan and West Stokes high schools united in support by wearing the West Forsyth colors to games and prayer vigils, as well as selling T-shirts and bracelets to help financially support the Wood family. Ryan touched so many lives, but the beauty of his story lies in the strength of his friends. Though young, these teenage boys and their peers demonstrated admirable character and loyalty beyond compare. In today’s society of entitlement, Ryan’s friends showed what selfless love is about and what the power of prayer can do. Ryan’s aunt and Forsyth Family Publisher Robin Bralley was amazed at the strength with which Ryan dealt with his illness from beginning to end and was very touched by Ryan’s friends and how they approached such a difficult situation. “They demonstrated how motivation fueled by passion for a cause can bring about such amazing things. Age is irrelevant,” she said. “How many adults could do some of the things Jake and all of Ryan’s friends did?” Miracles happen every day, but we all know that our prayers aren’t always answered in the way we hope. And unfortunately, the miracle from Ryan’s illness wasn’t the recovery prayed for by so many. However, #PrayForRyan brought about a common thread that extended well beyond our community and was a true testament to the kind of person Ryan was. A strong and courageous young man! Most of all, it was the shining beacon of friendship…the kind of friendship that endures beyond a lifetime. Ryan Wood’s life was far too short, but he died rich with the love and support of his friends. As a part of Ryan’s memory, his friends will continue to celebrate his life with the memories they shared, the love he gave and the legacy he created in 16 short years. 46 • forsythfamilymagazine.com


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sat in my chair studying while Debbie worked upstairs. Our children, Kaylyn and Paul, were playing together in the basement. A few minutes later, I heard someone coming up the steps. In his long johns (the kind with the footsies), Paul entered my office quietly and waddled over to my chair. He climbed into my arms and sat there silen tly for several minutes. I gently turned his little face toward me, looked into his Mother’s eyes and said softly, “I love you, son.” He didn’t say anyth ing. He just climbed back down from my lap, smiled shyly and walked away . I returned to my reading, grateful for such a sweet interruption. A few minutes later, I heard someone rambling in the kitchen, but I didn’t pay much attention to it. The noise grew louder and more insistent. A couple of utensils dropped to the floor. Cabinet drawers opened and closed. Ice cubes fell from the freezer into a glass. Liquid poured over the ice. Finally, it was quiet . And there he was again, but this time Paul came to me with something in his hands: a plate and a glass of ice tea. He said, “Dad, I thought you might need a break, ‘caus e you’re working so hard. I made you a snack. It’s peanut butte r and jelly.” I was so impressed that he’d done it all by himself, I took the dishes from Paul and placed them on my desk. I said, “Thank you son. I’m so proud of you.” He replied, “I love you too, Dad.” Oh . . . I understood. Paul was responding to what I’d said to him earlier. But he found a way to say “I love you” beyond words. His love made a sandwich. I held him close to my heart and spoke, “Pau l, I love a lot of people in this world. And I have a lot of good friends. But none of them are my son, but you. You are my boy! Don’t you ever forget that.” The expression on his face was priceless. Paul basked, not merely in my affection for him, but in his own ability to give something back to me. He’d tasted the joy of giving and he liked it! Like most parents, Debbie and I love to make our child ren smile. But honestly, I’ve never seen him so giddy and happy, as when he gave me peanut butter and jelly. As Paul got up from my lap, I reached over to grab the first sandwich. But was I surprised! “Daddy, it’s not two sand wiches,” he explained. “It’s just one with lots and lots of peanut butte r and jelly in the middle. I put it all together so you can eat faste r, ‘cause I know you’re so busy.” I responded, “Well, normally, you’r e right, Paul. But if I eat this sandwich fast, it’ll be over in a hurry and I want it to last a long time, because you made it for me. So I’m goin g to eat it slow.” He smiled and walked away. I sat there eating the thickest sandwich know n to man and licking jelly off my sticky arm. I thanked God for som ething He and a little boy taught me. God never gives us anything to keep, but to give away. He doesn't merely give to us, but throu gh us. What has He given to you? A talent or abilit y? A smile or kind word? Whatever it is, know that someone’s answered prayer is in your hands. And if you think you were happy when you recei ved a blessing, just wait! Giving it away is even better! It’s just about as good as a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

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“Kilah’s Law” By Meghan E.W. Corbett

all know how slow the process can be when trying to get something done that requires governmental assistance. There is so much discussion, paperwork and legal labor that must take place, and that all occurs only after those who can make the change are on board and motivated. Just because a cause is extremely important does not always mean it is at the top of the stack in regard to the legal process, and it needs that extra push. Anyone who reads this article or hears about this cause can be a part of that extra push and should take advantage of the opportunity to make “Kilah’s Law” a reality.

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“I founded the ‘Justice For All Coalition’ six years ago,” said Jeff Gerber. “We are a not-for-profit political action committee whose sole purpose is to provide justice to those who warrant justice, as well as traveling the state of North Carolina in an effort to promote legislation that will protect those who are unable to protect themselves, with an emphasis on children. When I first heard about the Kilah Davenport story, I began to receive numerous emails and phone calls to get involved. After a lot of research, I found out that the punishment for felony child abuse inflicting serious bodily injury was extremely unjust. After meeting with the Davenport family at The Levine Children's Hospital, we agreed we needed tougher sentencing guidelines. I assured the family there would be a new law in North Carolina that will be known as ‘Kilah’s Law.’” Kilah Davenport was a completely normal three-year-old girl until she was violently injured while in the care of a family member on May 16th, 2012. Her injuries were so severe that doctors were not sure she would survive. Through the support of family and friends, Kilah has recovered, but will likely never recover fully due to her traumatic brain injuries and fractured skull. “Currently, felony child abuse inflicting serious bodily injury is a class C felony with a maximum penalty of five years in prison,” said Gerber. “‘Kilah’s Law’ will raise the sentencing guidelines to a class B Felony. We believe anyone who causes the permanent debilitating physical injury of a child should be in line with child rapists and receive 25 years to life in prison. We must give the judicial system the tools they need to implement a sentence that fits the magnitude of the crime committed.” Kilah is not alone, and passing this law will not just help those children who may be abused in the future; it will give some peace of mind to those who have already been affected by child abuse in their own families. “We live in the Winston-Salem area, and our grandson was a victim of child abuse when he was two and a half,” said Mitzi Cartrette. “He suffers from a traumatic brain injury, and many of the other injuries that Kilah has. He spent six weeks in a coma and a total of seven months institutionalized between Brenner Children’s Hospital, hospice, nursing home and rehab. He now has permanent injuries to his brain, leaving him developmentally delayed and suffering from daily seizures. He is legally blind in one eye and only has tunnel vision in the other, and will never be able to drive a car or live independently. My grandson has received a life sentence to be trapped in a body that he can no longer fully control. I support ‘Kilah's Law’ because the current penalties for felony child abuse are much too lax. The children suffer a lifetime of continued medical issues while their abuser is walking free in a few years. We want the sentence to fit the crime.” With the support of all those who believe in this effort, “Kilah’s Law” will become a reality. For more information, visit www.teamkilah.wordpress.com, or email Jeff Gerber at jeffgerber02@yahoo.com. Supporters are also encouraged to sign the petition at www.change.org/petitions/kilah-s-law. 50 • forsythfamilymagazine.com


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Valentine’s Day Crafts for Kids By Elisa D. Wallace

Day: the holiday which celebrates all things dealing with love. Celebrate this year through making easy, yet decorative, crafts for your home. Read on for five beautiful crafts, perfect to do with your little ones.

Valentine’s

Colorful Heart Bough:

-different-colored cons truction paper -glue and brush -sequins or glitter -scissors -tape -twigs

Sweet Sun Catchers: (In that you use an iron, adult supervision is required.) -red, pink and yellow crayons -a cheese grater -wax paper cut into squares the size of the hearts you choose -newspaper

Tear up pieces of the co nstruction paper and glue them onto some thi n card using white glue. Add a bit of glitter and wait for the paper to dry. Cut out he art shapes from the paper. Tape the hearts to the ends of a twig. You then have a beautifu l Valentine’s Day bough to decorate your home with, or to give to a special someon e.

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-an iron

Fluffy Heart:

First, grate your crayons into separate piles of color. Use a couple of sections of the newspaper to make a pad on your table. Place a sheet of wax paper on the paper. Sprinkle crayon shavings onto the wax paper. (Less is better, as the light won’t shine through if there is too much color.) Cover the crayon shavings with a second section of wax paper. Top with a sheet or two of newspaper. Press with iron, set on low. If you simply hold the iron in various spots, the crayons will melt in place. If you move the iron, the colors will swirl and meld a bit. Cut two heart frames from construction paper. Use one frame to trace a heart on the wax paper, cutting the wax paper a wee bit smaller than the frame—just enough so it won’t stick out on the sides. Glue one frame to each side of the wax-paper heart. String a ribbon through a hole punched in the frame, and you are done!

-pink and white tissue paper, cut into 1" squares -white craft glue -scissors -piece of card stock or construction paper -pencil with an eraser Cut out a heart shape from the construction paper or card stock. Put white craft glue into the center of the heart, shaped like a heart. Using the eraser end of a pencil, place the eraser into the center of a white tissue paper square. Twist the tissue paper square around the eraser, and afterwards dot the back of the paper onto the glue. Continue this process until entire middle of the heart is covered with white tissue paper. See photo. Repeat the process with eraser and pink tissue paper, this time using these to decorate the border of the heart. Voila!


Paper Conversation Wreath: -9" dinner plate or paper plate -recycled cereal box or other thin cardboard -pencil -scissors -heart pattern -construction paper: pink, purple, red and blue -markers, crayons or paint pens -glue sticks -yarn for hanger (optional) -pattern First off, you will need to trace around the 9" plate onto a piece of cardboard. Use your pen or pencil to draw another circle inside that one, about an inch away from the outside circle. Cut out the circle and the center of the circle to create a cardboard wreath base. Cut out 12 hearts based on the heart cut first and used as the pattern. Cut out all the hearts. Using markers, crayons, or paint pens, write conversation candy phrases on the hearts, such as “LOVE,” “BE MINE,” “KISS,” or “PAL.” Arrange your hearts on top of the cardboard wreath shape; then use the glue stick to attach each one. You can hang the wreath as is, or attach a piece of looped yarn to the back as a hanger.

Valentine Hat: -red and pink pre-cut adhesive-backed craft foam hearts in small (2) and large (2) sizes -red chenille stems -wire cutters -pen -scissors -hot-glue gun -white poster board -ruler

Cut a strip of poster board to fit around a child’s head and about 2" wide. Cut red chenille stems in half, using the wire cutters. Glue the stems onto the outside of the poster board, where marked. Glue a small heart over each of the chenille stems that are attached to the poster board. Glue a large red heart at the other end of each of the chenille stems. Let the children decorate, using the remaining small craft foam hearts, or any other decoration, such as lace, stickers, markers and crayons. Tape, glue, or staple the hat closed to fit the child.

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One of the signs of a healthy family is open and meaningful communication. Good questions are the beginning. QUESTION #4 What dessert do you think you could eat for a lifetime? Talk with your family about the above question and statement during dinner at home, quiet moments in the evening, just before bedtime, in the car or on vacation and jumpstart your family communication! Love Talk for Families can be purchased at www.garychapman.org Used by Permission from Northfield Publishing

IT’S A WHOLE LOTTA LOVE! Just in time for Valentine’s Day, Big Idea Entertainment will release VeggieTales: Lettuce Love One Another! The DVD includes three popular VeggieTales episodes—Tomato Sawyer & Huckleberry Larry's Big River Rescue, Abe and the Amazing Promise and King George and the Ducky—in addition to five brand-new “Bible Bits,” story shorts that demonstrate examples of giving and forgiving, helping, praying and sharing. Each episode in this collection helps teach a valuable lesson about love, whether it’s through honoring others when we help them, having patience or the importance of putting others first. Correct responses will be entered into a drawing for the VeggieTales DVD. Submit your responses by Friday, February 15th. Send in your guess as to where he recently visited to robin@forsythfamilymagazine.com

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Faith &Family CALENDAR – FEBRUARY 2013 By Tami Rumfelt

NEW TOOLS “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up, do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” (Isaiah 43:19 NIV) of the kitchen jobs my Mom occasionally used to give me was peeling potatoes. And, I hated it. Our peeler had to be at least 50 years old and was duller than a butter knife. Besides, my hands were too small, weak and uncoordinated to properly hold the peeler. I tried using a paring knife, but could never manage to peel just the skin without a one-inch chunk of potato attached. I always swore that when I had a family, we’d never have mashed potatoes that didn’t start out as tiny flakes from a box.

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Fast-forward 30 years and you’ll often find me in my kitchen doing what? Peeling potatoes.

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Musing About… Slow Drain

By Tim Roberts - Pastor of Sunrise United Methodist Church in Lewisville

matter how many times I turned the key, the engine just would not start. It sounded like the likely cause would be a dead battery. But surely that could not be the culprit; I just replaced the battery less than a year ago. But each time I turned the key, the starter growled slower and slower until I heard that altogether telltale sound, clicking. By that time I knew—it was indeed the battery. I popped the hood and looked at the battery, still glistening with newness, with not even a smidgen of corrosion. Shaking my head in exasperation, I could only ponder, “Where is that Energizer bunny when you need him?” Digging around in the trunk, I pulled out the red-and-black-striped cables that seemed to be becoming a regular companion of mine—jumper cables. Then I pulled around my other vehicle and popped its hood and began uncovering its battery, so that I could begin the ritual of any shade-tree mechanic. After many minutes of revving my good engine, hoping that even more electrical juice was being transferred though the cables to the malaised battery, I was preparing to disconnect this automotive life-support system and see if the operation was successful. Slowly and hopingly, I turned the key to the first position, in which I heard the whir of the fuel pump priming and then the promising tink of a bell. Cautiously, I continued turning the key and heard the starter engage. After a couple of rounds, the engine roared to life. Closing my eyes in contentment for this successful endeavor, my mind then begin to race with all the possible scenarios that led me to this lowly state of mechanical desperation. Was it the lights?

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Had they been left on and killed the battery? No, the car is equipped with technology that automatically shuts the headlights off as the key is removed. What could it be, then? My eyes quickly scanned the interior of the car for any possible hint as to the cause of this misfortune. Nothing struck me as the obvious catalyst. Still relieved that the condition had been remedied, at least for now, I took the car to my mechanic, whom I trust with all my automotive health-care problems. After describing to him the problem I had faced just hours before, he quickly scanned the battery and then looked at what was happening when the car was off. That’s when he found the problem. He called me over to my fourwheeled compadre and pointed to a couple of cables that were protruding from various points in the interior. My mechanical surgeon then said to me, “Tim, it’s no wonder that your battery was dead. Look at all the stuff that is plugged in.” I peered at the objects of his gestures and noticed that they were just simple power cables. One was for a cell phone and the other was for a GPS device, but neither were being used. While both were plugged in, their opposite ends were just dangling, freely detached from the implements which they power on demand. Scratching my head, I looked toward my mechanic and puzzledly inquired, “How can that be the problem? They're not even being used.” That's when my learned friend said, “They may not be drawing much power, but they are drawing it. Over time, that little bit of drain will kill a battery.”

Sometimes, it amazes what life lessons you can learn from just everyday occurrences. Who would think that a life truth could be learned from a dead battery? But on that day, I learned a lesson. Yes, I learned that having power cables (even disconnected ones) that are plugged in can kill a battery. But I learned something even greater that day. I learned that all those little things that drain you, the unresolved conflicts, the estranged relationships, the uncompleted tasks, the broken promises, the unrepented sins, the...(well, that list can go on and on) drain you and can, and eventually will, suck the life out of you and your spirit. I began to look at a lot of those little things, most being distant and seemingly innocuous, and then to realize that I have the power to reclaim my life from these little leeches. The longer I ignore them, the more of life’s energy is drained from me. Just as I learned that I can preserve my car’s static energy by ensuring that it is not being wastefully drained, I can do the same with my life. I can take care of all of those unrequited problems that I, for too long, have refused to address, and put an end to the miniscule, yet constant drain of my pent-up energy. Maybe, just maybe, if I become diligent in my quest to stop the drain, I won’t need someone to hook me up to some jumper cables. Instead, maybe I will find my spirit to be ready and always with a full charge. Godspeed,

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The Christian Car Guy: Automotive Advice not by the Black Book, not by the Blue Book, but God’s Book – The Bible. Robbie Dilmore

The Thrill of the Ride is in the Curves

like clockwork, I can count on a full-scale attack from Satan/Life whenever I have the opportunity to speak at a “Dangerous Heart” boot camp. It was the weekend before I was to speak on “Your New Name/Healing the Wound.” God had given me so much to share, I was about to burst—then it started.

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My son, Robby, had a doctor’s appointment that Friday; his young heart was beating too fast and he was having it checked out. The doctor said he had an irregular heartbeat and tachycardia; it might be genetic, and they needed to run further tests. More waiting and more tests. Proof again of why they call you patient while under a doctor’s care. Then I started to get a cold; never good when you are on the radio for a living and supposed to speak at a boot camp. This was no regular cold; it started in my chest, yet somehow I made it through my broadcasts that Saturday, but went home and went to bed, only to be awakened at 2 a.m. by a call from my other son, Leslie. Leslie is 34 and his mother, my first wife, died about two years ago after a very long struggle with severe schizophrenia that had left her hospitalized for the last 25 years of her life. Truly, a very tragic and painful situation for both Leslie and me, and one that often leaves him very distressed. This time, he called very mad. I was feeling like a train had hit me already; Leslie just started yelling on the phone. “If there is a God, why would He let this happen to me and my family?” It truly tears me up inside to see him in such emotional pain. He doesn’t believe in God, but he keeps coming back to the subject. A two-hour conversation ensued, until his phone went dead. Trying my best from 500 miles

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away to comfort his broken heart with no everlasting arms for him to lean on, it’s just very sad. I went back to bed before I had to be up in a couple more hours. Still feeling the effects of the cold, now a little more intensely, I awoke to more emotional texts from Leslie. These went on all day and even Monday morning. I called my band of Brothers from Dangerous Heart to call in an “Air Strike” (prayer) on the situation and met with a couple of people, Darrin and Todd, for lunch. Todd Clark is in the mental health field at Forsyth Hospital, and he suggested to me a lot of ways I could continue to try and help Leslie. Darrin, the founder of Dangerous Heart, is a former pastor and an amazing brother in need—and I was in need. Just as I was starting to find my way through the Leslie struggle, I was walking back into Truth Broadcasting and our Office Manager, Carol, greeted me with, “I need to see you in my office.” She informed me that the North Carolina Department of Revenue was garnisheeing my paycheck for a significant amount of money. “WHAT? I haven’t received one notice, how could they just garnishee my check?” Carol was very supportive, but she had no answers, and it was Veterans Day, so the Department of Revenue was closed—GRRRRRRR. Good things were not going through my head right then, honestly. I have to just laugh at this one. When I walked in my house that night, my wife was still at work, and there was a stack of mail about a foot high on the kitchen table with a note on top. “While I was out walking Harry (our hairless dog), our neighbor brought this mail by that was delivered to them by mistake over the past few months and they had just forgotten about getting it to us.” You guessed it; there were the notices from the North Carolina


Department of Revenue dating back to last September. Now I see what had happened, one of the creditors from losing our dealership had written off a large amount of our debt, and we were being charged that as income. Yes, I felt shot at and hit. Still feeling the effects of all this and the cold, I went to bed, not nearly as excited to do my talk at the boot camp—or even wake up, for that matter. About 3 a.m. Tuesday morning, I woke up thirsty and I decided to go make some coffee (that would feel good on my throat) and just pray awhile. As I lay back in my prayer chair, I flipped open my Bible to Isaiah 30: 15 For thus says the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel: “In returning and rest you shall be saved; In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.” Still in my prayer mindset, I started talking to God. “How cool is it that those who just rest in Your arms when adversity strikes get a special touch—a special hug from Jesus.” I was reminded of the Vietnamese Pastor I had interviewed a few months back who had been imprisoned in the swamp with seven thousand other prisoners for five years, all for just preaching the Gospel. I had even asked him, “When God allows something horrible like this to happen to you, He always gives you a special hug, a touch of some kind. What was it for you in this horrible situation?”

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The Pastor replied, “He gave me the 91st Psalm over and over again in my head, till it became part of me.” Try reading that Psalm sometime from the point of view of standing in a putrefied swamp for five years, especially the parts about the terrors of the night! What a treasure I had been given! Still in prayer, I just started praising God, my trivial little problems not so overwhelming any more. God, You are amazing, truly amazing!

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I went back to bed. As I was lying there, still in a sort of prayer-and-sleep consciousness, God gave me a vision I will never, ever forget. He was winding a toy race car tighter and tighter, and then He would let it go across what was a very cool race track. The car, however, being wound so tight, would just blast across the track, boom, boom, boom, crash, going too fast to take any of the curves. It was a frustrating experience to watch. He did it again and again, until I was really about to scream, SLOW DOWN, YOU’RE RUINING ALL THE FUN OF THE CURVES! Then it hit me, God was giving me something precious. I say it every week, “Slow down! Jesus walked everywhere he went and got it all done in 33 years,” but do I live it? I get so wound up that I forget to enjoy the curves. Any car guy on a mountain road knows the thrill. The better the car and the driver, the more the thrill. God’s point is that with Him at the wheel, the ride is bound to be thrilling, so sit back, as it says in Isaiah, and enjoy. He has truly taught me that when the going gets painful, that’s when grace abounds, and to get that abounding grace, you have to let Him drive and be ready. This ain’t no Sunday drive!

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Blue Christmas

Sedge Garden UMC Joins with Hayworth-Miller to Help Hurting People By Carolyn S. Peterson & Nancy Swaim many people, the Christmas season, filled with festive decorations, joyous carols and gatherings celebrating Jesus’ birth, is a sad and lonely time of the year. The holiday doesn’t bring them the same cheer that it once did. Whatever the cause, relationship issues, the loss of a loved one, or financial stresses, one’s Christmas becomes truly “blue.” Those experiencing such emotions feel pressure to mask their sadness, but long to have their feelings acknowledged.

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In an effort to provide comfort to those who are struggling, Sedge Garden United Methodist Church (UMC) partnered with Hayworth-Miller Funeral Home and held a Blue Christmas service. “We typically have the service on the longest night of the year, December 21st, recognizing that nights are generally harder to handle when one is experiencing difficult times. It is a service where people are reminded that it is okay to be sad amidst the joy of Christmas,” said Nancy Swaim, Funeral Director apprentice and Sedge Garden Church member. Recognizing that healing begins with validating pain and sadness, the service organizers hoped that the service would be a blessing to all. “At Hayworth-Miller, we know that holidays add additional factors to the grieving process after the loss of a loved one. We are constantly looking for ways to provide aftercare to our families and reach out to the community, so the Blue Christmas service was another way for us to do that,” Nancy stated. Saying It’s Okay To Be Sad… This past years’ service, with over 125 in attendance, was opened with a warm greeting from Rev. Dave Cash, Sedge Garden UMC minister, and Jeff Gunter, Manager of Hayworth-Miller Kernersville Chapel. “Preacher Dave gave the group assurance that it is okay not to share the cheer associated with Christmas. He reminded us that when you look at the Christmas story of Jesus’ birth, there was probably much despair as Mary and Joseph fled persecution, only to be turned away to a stable when seeking shelter to give birth to their Son, whose entire life offered trials and tribulations, but ultimately, hope and a promise of peace,” commented Nancy. In addition to Scripture, special music and a Liturgy of Remembrance, emphasis was put on creating a solemn atmosphere where people could reflect on their feelings. The service included the lighting of four candles—representing our loved ones, the pain of loss, our faith and hope—as names of those who had passed away this year were read and remembered. “Several of Hayworth-Miller’s staff experienced death within their own families this year, confirming our true understanding of the importance of our role when death occurs. Having lost my grandmother and my mother unexpectedly this year, I experienced, first-hand, what each of our families goes through. As a Funeral Director, I help people with loss every day. But this was a pivotal moment for me professionally, as my family received that same help from my colleagues. We truly uphold our mission 60 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

of providing professional, yet compassionate, service to the families we serve,” commented David Ridge, Funeral Director. David’s prayer was that everyone find a sense of peace to sustain them during their time of grief. Then he concluded the evening with his heart-touching rendition of “Let There Be Peace on Earth.” In that one night, the Blue Christmas service helped hurting people get a glimpse of hope that they can have Christmas joy once again. Hayworth-Miller Kernersville Chapel would like to thank Sedge Garden UMC for the opportunity to co-host this service.


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Forsyth Mental Health Association Talk on October 3rd, 2012 (2nd in a Series of 2 Articles) By William Satterwhite, M. D.

Lessons Learned Lesson #4: Getting stable and healthy takes a lot longer than you think it will. Most of the adult men I know with bipolar disorder—most of whom, by the way, are successful lawyers and doctors and businessmen—have told me it took about 5 years following their diagnosis for them to reach a place where they felt mentally stable, and healthy and normal again. Five years is a long time. If you have Type I diabetes, you can usually get to a stable place within 5 months. If you have breast cancer, your treatment duration is usually around six to eighteen months. With mental illness, the time lines are much longer. I would say that our own experience bears that out. As I mentioned earlier, Brad spent most of what would have been his senior year at home experiencing, then recovering from, a depressive episode. The recovery was long and slow, but by August, Katie and I felt like he was stable enough to try returning to Davidson. Brad is a very bright and intelligent person. I am going to boast about him for a moment: He almost got a perfect score on his SAT, and he won a full academic scholarship to Davidson. So, “thinking” and using his mind is a very natural, normal and comfortable thing for Brad to do. Katie and I believed that even if he wasn’t 100%, he might do better using his mind in school being surrounded by people his age, than if he simply stayed at home with his parents and younger siblings with little to do. He agreed to let us send him back to Davidson, and I am happy to report that he graduated that spring with his younger sister, Sarah. That was a happy day. But the main reason I tell you that part of his story is because it illustrates well how long and slow treatment and recovery can be for someone with a serious mental illness. There is no quick fix. Many of the people we have met with since 2007 teeter on the edge of losing hope, when things don’t turn around quickly after a new medicine is started. We always try to encourage them by telling them that the mind heals slowly; it takes time. Some of the people we have met with run from place

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to place and doctor to doctor, thinking that at this next place or at this next doctor they will find the “magic bullet” treatment to make their loved one instantly well. There are times when new doctors and new therapies are appropriate, but true and real recovery takes time. Often about 5 years. Because it takes time, as a family member or loved one, you must find ways that you can have life and joy even in the midst of this hard time. For Katie and me, we started taking more walks together, often in the dark early morning hours before others in our house were awake. We watched more funny movies (and we never watch sad or depressing movies any more. I mean, really, why would you pay money to feel sad and hopeless as an escape from your present state of sadness and sorrow?). We started having more friends over for dinner or dessert. We jettisoned activities in our lives that we had been doing because we thought we “ought to,” and we focused more on doing things that brought us joy and were life-giving. We said, “No,” to everything else. Lesson #5: When a family member is in crisis, if you are a caretaker, you must take care of your own physical and emotional health. The healthier you are, the healthier your family will be and the more help you will be to the person who is suffering from a mental illness episode. It is easy to make the sick person the focus of all your energy. I would strongly advise that you not over-focus on the family member who has a mental illness. Every one of us needs healing of something, and being a healthy caregiver is important for you personally, and it is important for the health of the person for whom you are caring. As they say during the airplane safety speech, “Parents should place the oxygen mask on themselves first, then place a mask over your child.” As a caregiver, you must be healthy in order to be the most help in restoring a loved one to a healthy mental place. Finally, a word or two from the perspective of those suffering from a mental illness:


First, you are NOT your mental illness. We are careful and intentional when telling others about our son to say, “Brad HAS bipolar disorder.” We do not say, “Brad is bipolar.” That is a very important distinction. If I have a cold, I don’t say, “I am a cold.” Or, “I am a cough.” No, we say, “I have a cold, or I have a cough.” Now I know that people often say, “I am a diabetic.” But if I could talk to them, I would tell them that they aren’t “a diabetic”; rather, they are a person who happens to have diabetes. Likewise, if you have a mental illness, you are a person who has anxiety, or a person who has schizophrenia or a person who has bipolar disorder. You are more than your illness. Remember that. Second, those of us without a mental illness need to recognize how hard people with a mental illness are actually trying. I have been amazed and frankly impressed to watch my son deal with his bipolar disorder. He pays a lot of attention to what time he takes his medicine throughout the day and what effect it has on him. At times, it reminds me of a person with Type I diabetes who has to check his or her glucose levels and take insulin frequently throughout the day to maintain a healthy state of existence. Often Brad will say, “If I take this medicine now, but a friend calls me to go out later, then I might be too sleepy and out of it to enjoy being with them, but if I wait and take it later, then I will have trouble getting up in the morning.” He really works hard to manage it well. Believe me, no one wants him to be normal and his old self more than he does. No one. And he often talks about how frustrating it is for him that the medicine he takes to slow down his brain and keep him from drifting into mania also slows down his normal thinking, so he is not as smart as he was, and he can’t think as quickly or remember as much as he could prior to 2007. Sometimes his situation reminds me of an elite athlete who suffers a serious knee injury, and who is struggling to get back to his or her old

form and previous performance level. The road to recovery is long and slow, and as friends and family members, we need to acknowledge how hard and difficult it is for the person suffering from a mental illness episode. We need to bless them in their efforts. In conclusion, let me end with words of hope by telling you that our son, Brad, is doing the best that he has done since prior to his diagnosis in 2007. Indeed, if you hadn’t met him before, and if you didn’t know of his story, you would be surprised to learn that he had bipolar disorder. And if you do the math, it has been about 5 years since his diagnosis. As I mentioned earlier, he graduated from Davidson in May of 2011. He is living in Charlotte in a house with a bunch of guys. He is working several days a week at The Tutoring Center, where he tutors middle school and high school kids. Just last week he took the GRE, the graduate school equivalent to the SAT. While he doesn’t have a set plan for the future, he is planning on a future. And I want all of you to know that there is a future for those with mental health disorders. I want you to know that things can get better. If you feel anxious, there is hope for feeling peaceful and for not being afraid. If you feel depressed, there is hope for joy and delight. If you hear voices you cannot get rid of, there is hope for quiet and peaceful thoughts that are all your own. If you have mental energy that can soar to great heights and crash to great depths, there is hope for stability and normalcy. Things can get better. There are many treatments and medications, there are organizations like this one, and there are many venues for prayer that help move someone in the direction of healing, and wholeness, and restoration. There is hope for tomorrow. May God bless you and your family tonight. And, thank you for coming to this event. Good night.

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ONE FORSYTH FATHER By Michael W. Johnson recently had a moment that I have all-too often as I get older, when I see a vanity license plate or bumper sticker that challenges me. This particular bumper sticker simply said, “Love is Love.” I stopped, cocked my head to the side and just stared at it, thinking that I’d be able to break it down and unlock its meaning. I quickly gave up. I was disappointed that I was neither hip enough, nor clever enough, to figure this one out. But I will say that it revived my adoration for the oft-quoted phrasing in 1 Corinthians 13:4: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” Those are words I can gather up around me and from which I can glean something usable.

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Here we are in the month of love. Welcome to February, where things are pink and red, chocolaty, grandiose, commercial, and romantically hot and meteorologically cold all at the same time. I am a big fan of the month of February, as my birthday sits smack in the middle and we all should celebrate that religiously. But this month also has me ruminating on the notion of love. As a young elementary school child, it was apparently important to be inclusive at Valentine’s Day. The teachers would turn blustery and flush as a rose trying to bang into our little heads that everyone in the class deserved a Valentine Day’s greeting, and we were to include all. I always hated this part because I genuinely felt that not all my classmates were remotely worthy of my undying devotion. Heck, why couldn’t I just write all 22 of my love notes to my object of affection in Kindergarten, Holly, instead of being forced to give all 22 cards to each of my classmates? Love in this case was not patient; it was not kind; it was disingenuous. And then secondary school brought a whole new level of angst at Valentine’s Day. It was a time when you felt the most vulnerable, self-conscious and exposed. And Valentine’s Day only served to ramp up that anxiety. It seemed that you were either a winner or loser in your own mind, based upon your Valentine’s “in-box,” and that, in hindsight, was a sad state of affairs. Now, as an adult, I find the holiday something that I cherish, to get a tad gushy with my romantic notions for my wife. It is a time when I

want the roses to be red and my words redhot and for them both to ring loudly and impress her to no end. That being said, I also recognize that it’s a holiday much like New Year’s Eve, when the temptation is strong to over-do it with the planning. And just like New Year’s Eve celebrations, sometimes the intense planning can lead to disappointment, or the wish that you had kept it simple, heartfelt and away from the hub and bub of it all. My best Valentine’s Days are those where I have written something particularly brilliant for my amore and filled our robust chocolate quota for the day. It provides for my best work at a celebration both selfless and indulgent. And now, as a father of a two-year-old, I get to fold in a whole new level of the celebration. As the above-mentioned quote from 1 Corinthians espouses, “Love is Patient, Love is Kind.” Oh my yes, my love is patient with my toddler, almost always. We are presently firmly rooted in the “Why, Dada?” phase of toddler hood and so my patience is certainly tested daily and sometimes “love” forms part of my answers when I am asked “Why?” multiple times each day. I often reply with, “Oh, because, Baby, I love you. And, well, because I love you—that’s why,” You know the moments of a plastered smile over top of gritted teeth and controlled breathing. Who knew that answering something as simple and seemingly innocent as “Why” could elicit such exasperation, but there we are. But by the same token, there is no greater example of exalted unconditional love than that of parental love. I do swell with pride and wonder when I sometimes stare at my son like I did with that bumper sticker referenced earlier. I just sit there and say to myself, “He is MY son. Wow! Where did he come from?” Wait, he came from love, is surrounded by it and will carry it forward like a baton in the relay race of time, friendship and family. Here’s to the season where hope, faith and love abound. And the greatest of these is? You guessed it! To contact Michael Johnson: michaelwinj@hotmail.com Forsyth Fathers is a group of Forsyth County stay-at-home Dads and working Dads whose main goal is to get our kids together, share our experiences, socialize and support one another. We are simply about networking in an effort to encourage and celebrate the everyday accomplishments of Dads throughout Forsyth County. We welcome all Dads to join us! wsparent@googlegroups.com Join and LIKE us on Facebook today! www.facebook.com/forsythfathers

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Rising Kinder-Parents! Your child is a few months away from Kindergarten, and you are about to enter a new phase in the adventures of parenthood! IMPRINTS kinder coaches are here to support you as you prepare your child for a positive start into elementary school and provide a better understanding of the magical age your child is experiencing. This parent workshop series covers topics such as: • Kindergarten readiness • Dealing with homework • Communicating with Teachers • Enhancing your child’s school learning at home • Getting children to talk about their school day Parents will leave with ideas and activities to help you connect with your child, encourage their independence and prepare them for the world of school. DATE: 3 consecutive Mondays: March 11, 18 & 25 TIME: 9:30 - 11:00 a.m. PLACE: The Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem 390 S. Liberty Street COST: $65 for all 3 sessions

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Team Blue, Pink, or Green? By TMoM Team Member, Dani Luft

am pregnant with baby #3, due in May. By the time you all read this, I will have found out if the baby growing inside me is a boy or a girl. Of course, I just want a healthy, happy baby, but the wait to find out what has me taking 100 trips to the bathroom at night, causes me heartburn, and makes me smile as I start to feel the kicks and jabs, has been nagging at me!

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I am a planner. I want to pick out the furniture, clothes and names. Do I need to buy a whole new wardrobe for the little guy, or can I take out my girls’ old clothes in the attic and start washing them with the delicious smell of baby detergent? I feel like I bond better with the growing fetus when I know the gender. But not everyone likes to know ahead of time, and I respect that choice, too. As my cousin says, “There are very few surprises in life, and this is one of them!” I can get behind that, but to me it is just as much a surprise when the ultrasound tech tells you around 20 weeks, as it is when the doctor tells you in the delivery room. We are lucky to live now, when we have the technology to make that choice. Wives’ tales are just for fun, and while I know that, I can’t stop reading about them. It’s like a gossip magazine. Some of the articles may not be true, but it’s still fun to read! Here are some of my favorites... n

If you’re carrying low, it’s a boy, and high, it’s a girl.

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Do you have acne? Then the girl inside of you is stealing your beauty.

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Dry hands and cold feet? Oh, BOY!

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If the heart rate is under 140, you’re having a boy and if it’s over, then you’re having a girl. (I asked my ultrasound tech about this one, and she said that the heart rate is dependent on how active the baby is right before they check the heart rate.) That makes sense to me.

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If you are craving sweets, then it’s a girl! If you’re craving salty and sour, it’s a boy!

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If your hubby has been partaking in the cravings and has packed on some extra weight, too, you’re having a girl.

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If someone places a key in front of you and you grab it by the narrow part, you’re having a girl. If you hold it by the wider part, you’re having a boy.

Some of these tell me I’m having a boy, and some of these tell me I’m having a girl. Only time will tell, but in the meantime, these wives’ tales will keep me guessing! To read more blogs like this, log on to www.TriadMomsonMain.com


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From the Horse’s Mouth

By Raven*

*Raven is leased by Kim Beane and owned by Michelle Hargreaves at Hidden K Stables.

Tabby in Chains

Dear Fans & Friends,

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iTalk

By teen columnist Isabella Migliarese

the lovely month of February! Not only is February my birthday month, it also holds other special occasions. It’s one month into my vigorous list of New Year’s resolutions, and I’m staying strong. I’ve managed to keep my promises to myself to get healthy and exercise more, but it hasn’t happened without a fight. I’m eating healthier, but my biggest obstacle is finding the motivation to exercise. It’s important to stick to your goals, even if you have fallen off the wagon one too many times. I find that I’m more focused when I keep track of everything I do, from what I eat, to when I exercise. Having an iphone app that helps you track all of this makes the process a lot more effective.

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February is also the month of love. Hopefully, many teenagers added acts of being more loving and kind to their list of resolutions. While most teenagers aren’t concerned about romantic love yet, they can be more loving and kind to important people in their life. For instance, on my list of resolutions, I resolved to keep my room cleaner, because I know it makes my Mom happy. I also resolved not to tail the car in front of me so closely while I’m driving, even if they may be going ten miles per hour under the speed limit. Even though my list of resolutions applies to all the months of

the year, I want to do an especially good job of being loving and kind on Valentine’s Day. February 14, a day typically celebrated by couples, can be celebrated by everyone. Even though Valentine’s Day lands on a Monday this year, which might make it harder for some people to celebrate, it’s still a special occasion worth enjoying. For teenagers, it might be as simple as a movie night with friends, featuring romantic comedies. Love Actually, Valentine’s Day, Sleepless in Seattle and Pretty Woman are a few movies that never get old. Having a “girls’ night” with your friends could also include baking sweets, keeping in mind not to break any of your New Year’s resolutions. If you’re unable to connect with your friends, family nights with movies and baking are just as enjoyable. Offering to clean up after dinner would be a nice way to show parental appreciation. Things that take a little more time and effort, such as a scrapbook, buying a gift, or helping a sibling with schoolwork are other ways to show your appreciation. This February in particular is a special month for me, because I will be celebrating my sixteenth birthday on the 28th. I’ve been anxiously awaiting the arrival of this birthday for the past five years, not only because receiving a car will give me a new sense of freedom, but also because I have a special interest in cars, more than the average sixteen-year-old girl. Here’s hoping that you all receive gifts of love on Valentine’s Day this year, and stay strong on those New Year’s resolutions! Happy Valentine’s Day and keep an eye out for the newcomer on the road


High School Students from Reagan and West Forsyth Band Together for Hunger began in 2011, when two high school sophomores, Hayden Chamberlain and Josh Sparks, heard about a news article in the Winston-Salem Journal. In this article a hunger study had declared the Winston-Salem metro to be the worst in the United States for hunger among families with children. The article had been a topic of discussion in a classroom that week. Both boys had a hard time reconciling this fact, because they and most of their friends had never had to experience a lack of food; in fact, stopping by the local McDonalds after school was a standard practice.

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Hayden attends Reagan High School and Josh attends West Forsyth. The boys knew they wanted to begin a student leadership project to help their community, and their local Clemmons Food Pantry seemed liked a good place to start. They made up fliers with their pictures, asking for donations. They handed out and mailed over 250 of the fliers to friends, families and neighborhoods during the first week of December. They spent the following two weekends collecting all the donations from Clemmons, Lewisville and Winston-Salem. On December 20, 2011, they were able to present $1000 in monetary donations, and well over 500 food items to the Clemmons Food Bank. In 2012, they decided they wanted to step it up a notch, seeing what they had accomplished the year before with only the two of them. They enlisted the help of friends Ben Hanson, Nick Lecompte, Julian Maxey and Jacob Garlow. With the same system of mail and door-to-door neighborhood canvassing, they almost doubled their previous year’s totals. On Dec. 17th, 2012, they presented the Food Pantry a check for $1855 and 800 food items. The donations continued to come in for another 10 days or so, and in the end they had a grand total of $1975 and 900 plus food items! The community really stepped up and was extremely generous. The first year they were a bit ambivalent about knocking on stranger’s doors and asking for donations, but the community embraced these young men, and soon they began to get more and more excited each time they went out. The best lesson the boys learned is that a few people really can make a difference and accomplish great things if they set their minds and hearts to it. Josh & Hayden hope to continue this outreach again in 2013, their senior year of high school, and have talked with some underclassman about continuing this Food Drive after they have left for college as their way to support their community and the people in it!

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“Out and About” in Winston-Salem

By Heather Spivey Tuesday, January 8th, approximately 150 women gathered at Five Points Restaurant to enjoy the monthly Girls’ Night Out (GNO) event. This evening was particularly special for Forsyth Magazines as it was also the kick-off for the January issue of Forsyth Woman Engaged!, the bi-annual sister publication to Forsyth Woman and Forsyth Family.

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The first 10 brides-to-be were given free passes to the March 17th Bridal Show at the BB&T Ballpark*. Advertisers from Engaged were invited to GNO as well, and we treated them to their first glass of wine as a special thank you. It was a night of great fun and celebration as we launched our new magazine among great friends and food at Five Points!

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The Perfect Pair event planners were on hand and bought brides a signature cocktail when they came over to get information about their services. Other advertisers, including Creative Cake Designs, Mise En Place, Inner Strength Pilates, Designs By Erin, Long Jewelers, Prints Charming Photo Booth, The Broyhill Center, and The Village Inn joined us for the evening of celebration! Especially fun was the surprise for one of our featured brides, Candace Covington! Her family and one of her bridesmaids brought her to Girls’ Night Out without telling her that it was the launch of the new wedding magazine in which she and her new husband, Christian, are featured.** It was great to see her reaction to her story in the new magazine! Be sure to mark your calendars for our next Girls’ Night Out event on Wednesday February 13th at 5pm at the beautiful Village Inn Event Center. It is a night not to be missed! *Information about Bridal Show at the BB&T Ballpark can be found at www.ForsythWomanEngaged.com. **To read about Candace and Christian’s wedding, please see pages 50 – 51 of the January 2013 issue of Forsyth Woman Engaged!

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Small Stories for a Big World By Kim Underwood the days after our cat Poos died, Doobins regularly talked about how much he missed Poos. Sometimes, he would mention something in particular that he missed, such as having to shoo Poos off the kitchen table. Then came the day when Doobins started talking about wanting a new cat—a cat of his very own.

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Making that happen proved to be a two-cat operation. The first cat first appeared to us as a tiny striped kitten afraid to come closer to anyone than six or eight feet. We became one of several households in the neighborhood that would leave out food. But, because he was so afraid, we certainly didn’t say, “Ah, Doobins’ new cat has arrived.” One night, as Doobins and I walked out to the car, we came upon a grown black cat that we didn’t know. The cat walked right up to Doobins and rubbed against his legs. We stopped and visited with him for a while. He seemed well-fed, so I wondered what his story was. After we got into the car, Doobins said he had just been thinking about how much he wanted a cat and then there it was. “He looks as if he already has a home, Buddy,” I said. It soon came to seem, though, as if he didn’t. The black cat started hanging around, and the second we were willing to let him cross the threshold to our house, he took full advantage of the opportunity. He was soon lounging about for long hours before heading back outside. Sparkle Girl named him Slinky. That soon became Slinks or Mr. Slinks. Intrigued by the comings and goings of the black cat, the striped kitten began venturing closer and closer to our front door. One day, stripey decided that it was OK for us to rub him when we went out. Doobins gave him a name—Blitz. Given that Blitz’s whole life so far had been spent outside, I wondered how he would react to such a different world, should he

ever venture inside. When he did choose to follow Mr. Slinks through the door one day, he acted as if it had always been his home. Mr. Slinks was not happy to share, though, and he soon began spending significantly less time with us. We began to wonder whether he had shown up solely for the short-term mission of introducing Blitz to domestic life. When Faye and I went on our walks, Mr. Slinks continued to join us, though. Blitz soon joined in, too. As Faye and I walked down the sidewalk, the two cats would run through yards, often scampering along the fronts of houses. It made me feel as if Faye and I were a wagon train and they were the scouts, riding the perimeter to keep an eye out for danger. Blitz and Mr. Slinks eventually came to an understanding, with Slinks sleeping on the bed or rocking chair in Sparkle Girl’s room, and Blitz sleeping on the upholstered chair where Garnet reads her Bible in the morning. Blitz, as it turns out, is the cat that was destined to be Doobins’ cat. Blitz loves to play, and they start their day with Doobins dangling twine for him to swat or flicking the green cap from a plastic soda bottle across the wooden floor for him to chase. Seeing how much pleasure Doobins derives from Blitz’s presence gives a great deal of pleasure to Garnet and me. It’s been an adjustment for our dog, Faye. Our day used to start quietly, heading out the door together first thing—me walking along looking at the sky, her walking along smelling the smells that beckoned. Now, her day begins with hubbub—cats everywhere, demanding to be the first out the door—and then, on the walk, Blitz pouncing on Faye. Faye just stops and waits for Blitz to slide off. Her equanimity is quite impressive.

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you’ve been looking around lately, you know that the little guy running around with the bow and arrow is right around the corner. He may even have shot his arrow and hit you, turning your head toward someone you hope will become more than “just a friend.” If that’s the case, on Valentine’s Day there really is nothing like taking your possible or definite “significant other” to New Town Bistro & Bar for a delicious and romantic dinner. Owner Kyle Agha, Chef Donny Smith and the creative staff of New Town Bistro & Bar have some wonderful dishes and extra special touches in store for the special day.

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brings with it thoughts of love... and chocolate. Here we combine the two in Cooking with Kids with these easy heartshaped cake pops, to enjoy and give to friends, neighbors and teachers. We also include a fun, hands-on sweet pizza and chocolate marshmallow cherry kisses.

4) Roll the dough out onto a floured surface and into a pancake about ¾ of an inch thick.

1–2 minutes until all squares are completely melted.

5) Using a small heart-shaped cookie cutter, have the kids cut heart shapes out of the dough.

2) Add marshmallows, cereal, and nuts; mix well.

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7) Place the candy melts into a microwavesafe bowl with the tablespoon of shortening (the shortening helps thin the candy coating and helps it cover better), and melt in 30second intervals, stirring in between, until melted. Pour the candy melt into a cup.

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By Kristi Marion Ingredients: chocolate or strawberry cake mix (plus any ingredients listed in the directions) canned chocolate frosting 1 bag red and/or pink candy melts (I find mine at Michael’s)

6) Insert sucker sticks into the bottom point of the heart and pop them into the freezer for 30 minutes to firm up.

8) Dip the cake pops into the candy melt. While still wet, shake sprinkles onto the cake pop and stick into florist oasis or poke through empty foam egg carton to dry.

VALENTINE SWEET PIZZA By Emily Dodson

Tools: small heart-shaped cookie cutter sucker sticks foam egg carton (or floral oasis) Directions: 1) Bake cake in a sheet cake pan according to box directions and let cool. (I like to bake it the night before.) 2) Once the cake has cooled, let the kids roll up their sleeves and crumble up the entire cake. 3) Put the crumbled cake into a large mixing bowl. Warm the canned frosting in a microwave-safe bowl for about 15 seconds. Let the kids help knead the crumbs and frosting together, pouring a little frosting in at a time until the dough that forms is of a playdough consistency.

4) Let kids help sprinkle coconut over the sweet pizza and dot with cherries. 5) Meanwhile, microwave remaining white chocolate squares (6) on high for 1 minute; stir. Microwave 30 seconds–1 minute, or until chocolate is completely melted. 6) Drizzle over sweet pizza and let stand until firm.

CHOCOLATE MARSHMALLOW CHERRY KISSES By Emily Dodson

1 tablespoon shortening pink/red/white/chocolate sprinkles

3) Spread into a 12-inch pizza pan sprayed with cooking spray.

Ingredients: 16 large marshmallows

Ingredients: 1 package (8 squares) semi-sweet chocolate 1 package (14 squares) white chocolate, divided 2 cups mini-marshmallows 1 cup crisp rice cereal 1 cup peanuts ¼ cup maraschino red cherries, drained and halved ¼ cup maraschino green cherries, drained and halved ⁄3 cup coconut

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1 tsp oil Directions: 1) Microwave all of the semi-sweet chocolate and 8 of the 14 white chocolate pieces in a large microwavable bowl for 1–2 minutes; stir. Microwave for an additional

16 maraschino cherries 1 package (8 squares) semi-sweet chocolate, melted Directions: 1) Have the kids wash their hands and use their finger to make an indentation in the top of each marshmallow. 2) Insert the cherry, leaving part of the cherry exposed. 3) Using two forks to support bottom and top of marshmallow and cherry, dip marshmallow and cherry in the melted chocolate, turning to evenly coat the marshmallow and cherry. 4) Gently shake off excess chocolate and set on a wax paper-covered baking sheet. 5) Place in the refrigerator for 20–30 minutes until chocolate is firm. Then enjoy with the kids!


February Calendar of Family Events FEBRUARY 1 GO RED FOR NATIONAL WEAR RED DAY

FEBRUARY 9 & FEBRUARY 23 TOUR DE FOOD WINSTON-SALEM

The American Heart Association's National Wear Red Day brings awareness to heart health. Don't forget to join us at Hanes Mall, Lower Level Atrium to participate in the health fair and join the zumba flash mobs from 4:30-5:45pm. At 5:45 pm, we will take a citywide photo. This is a free event designed to show all how to love their heart and have fun while doing it! Visit www.goredforwomen.org for more information.

1:30-5:30pm, Downtown Winston-Salem. As we learn about the Moravians and RJR Empire, we stop at locally owned restaurants and sample a dish at each stop. Taste all the finest foods in downtown at these fun establishments. Come EAT DRINK WALK with us through W-S. Cost: $45. Call 406.6294.

FEBRUARY 2 HIDDEN K STABLES RESCUE & REHAB – PILATES CLINIC W/ YOUR PILATES PLACE

3-5:30pm, Southeastern Center for Contemporary Art (SECCA). During the Movable Feast, a light tea will be served while more than a dozen published authors from across the U.S. take turns with each table to talk with attendees about his or her recently published book. Includes a tour of SECCA, book sales, book signings and door prize drawings. Cost: $22/members; $25/nonmembers; $160/Book Club table of 8. Call 460.4722.

12-4pm, Your Pilates Place, 4808 Country Club Road. One hour introductory group pilates session at Your Pilates Place with ALL proceeds going to HKS Rescue Rehab. Sessions start hourly. Cost: $25 per person. 414.3165.

INVIGORATE YOUR LIFE WITH AYURVEDA 1-4pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio. Learn to create optimal well-being with this ancient healing system. Originating in India, Ayurveda is a 5,000-year-old wellness system that promotes self-healing. Cost: $40. Call 778.1233.

FEBRUARY 3 FREE YOGA CLASS 3:30-4:30pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio. We are offering a free class once a month to everyone in the community. This is a perfect opportunity for those who are brand new to yoga to find out what this is all about! We encourage participants to bring non-perishable food items donation for the Clemmons Food Pantry. 778.1233.

FEBRUARY 5-DECEMBER 13 EXHIBIT: CHINESE CERAMICS FROM THE CHANGSHA KILNS 10am-4:30pm. MOA’s new permanent exhibit provides an overview of the ceramics produced by families at the Changsha Kilns during the Tang Dynasty more than one thousand years ago. The exhibit features more than 100 spectacular ceramic objects from the MOA’s Lam Collection. 758.5282.

FEBRUARY 6-20 COMMUNITY GARDEN MENTOR TRAINING 9am-3pm, Forsyth Cooperative Extension, 1450 Fairchild Road in W-S. Train to become a mentor to a community garden. The goal is to match people who have practical, hands-on vegetable gardening experience with gardening groups in order to help support community gardens in Forsyth County. 703.2850.

FEBRUARY 9 I GIVE YOU MY HEART 1-4pm, SciWorks. Discover how your heart and body work together as you keep going and growing. Learn about organ donation, transplants and heart health! Included with museum admission. www.sciworks.org 714.7133. DADDY/DAUGHTER VALENTINE’S DANCE 6-8pm, Children's Museum of W-S. Enjoy a pizza dinner, craft activity, cookie decorating, story time and dancing with your little girl. Hearts & Arrows Photography will be here to photograph you and your little girl, a cherished keepsake that will be emailed to you after the event. Registration required: $10/member, $12/nonmember. 723.9111.

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FEBRUARY 10 BOOKMARKS BOOK CLUB MOVABLE FEAST

MANAGING AN ALLERGEN-FREE DIET – PART II 5-6:30pm, Baylin Dance Studio, 3818 Clemmons Road. Lead by Gloria Bartelt MPH, RD, LDN of Encourage Nutrition. Whether you have found it necessary to avoid specific foods due to a documented food allergy, food sensitivity or personal choice, this seminar will provide attendees healthy alternatives to allergen containing foods that commonly make up the American diet. 650.759.5336.

FEBRUARY 11 FORSYTH PIECERS & QUILTERS GUILD MEETING 6:30-8:30pm, Parkway Presbyterian Church, 1000 Yorkshire Road in W-S. Jean Wells, author/quilt educator/designer will present "Sticks & Stones: Pattern & Color in Quilt Design." See how this nationally known quilter uses nature’s inspiration and the world around her as she pulls ideas from photographs to develop her beautiful abstract quilts. $5/visitors; free for guild members. 724.9509.

FEBRUARY 12 ANGEL BEAR YOGA – VALENTINE’S DAY 11am-12pm, Children's Museum of W-S. We will bring the book “A Book of Hugs” to life, while exploring positive character traits of sharing love and celebrating Valentine's Day. Come ready to do a cupid and bow & arrow pose as we send love to our family! 723.9111.

FEBRUARY 13 COUPLES' NIGHT OUT 5pm…until! Village Inn Events Center, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. Grab your friend, fiancé, spouse or Valentine and have a much need Couples’ Night Out! Specials include flirtinis, fuzzy loves, sweet cherry kisses, pucker it ups and love on the rocks! Enjoy a buffet dinner, the Prints Charming Photo Booth and our first ever DJ night sponsored by Nationwide Insurance – Brent Johnson. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! Go Red for women and receive an extra ticket for wearing red! Sponsored by Forsyth Woman Magazine, Village Inn Event Center and Nationwide Insurance. Call 714.0172 for more information. See you there!

FEBRUARY 14-28 SALON SERIES AT THE NEW WINSTON MUSEUM 11:30am-12:30pm, 713 South Marshall Street. Bi-monthly discussions will feature creative people that make life in W-S and Forsyth County unique and interesting. Museum will present a free bi-monthly Salon Series featuring a broad range of local historians, artists, writers, musicians, crafts-folk and other specialists. 724.2842.

FEBRUARY 15 MEET THE DENTIST AT FORSYTH FAMILY’S KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10am-12pm, SciWorks, 400 W. Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Grab a friend and the kids for a morning of fun and education at SciWorks! Meet one of our live animals, play on a giant piano, freeze your shadow and celebrate National Children’s Dental Health month with Spangler & Rohlfing Pediatric Dentistry. Mention KMO for HALF-PRICE ADMISSION to SciWorks! Members get in free. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board drawing which will include a special drawing for free 1-day family pass to SciWorks! Visit www.sciworks.org, or call 714.7133 for more information. Sponsored by Forsyth Family Magazine, SciWorks and Spangler & Rohlfing Pediatric Dentistry.

FEBRUARY 16 EVENING PLANETARIUM LASER SHOWS 6:30-9pm, SciWorks. American Idol’s Greatest Hits at 6:30pm and Metallica at 8pm. Doors open 30 minutes before the first show, and seating is first come, first served. No advance sales. Cost: $6 per person per show, or enjoy both shows for $10. 714.7133.

FEBRUARY 17 ROCKIN' FOR A CURE FOR WHITNEY LADD Event will be held at Bucked Up in Kernersville. Benefit concert will feature 3 of the triad's biggest bands Knuckles Deep, Doug Davis and The Solid Citizens, and Karon Click and The Hot Licks. Tickets will be $20 at the door or you may pre purchase tickets for $15 from the event page by Feb 3. 10% of all ticket sales will be donated to the local Susan G Komen office with the remainder going to Whitney. All ages welcome.

FEBRUARY 18 TRIAD JOB FAIR 10am-3pm, First Christian Church. 1130 North Main Street in Kernersville. Free admission, free workshops and free resources. Companies that do have vacancies participating. 993.4521.

FEBRUARY 22 17TH ANNUAL CAUSE FOR PAWS 6:30-10pm, WinMock at Kinderton. Benefit for the Humane Society of Davie County; enjoy food, music, silent auction and raffle all to help the animals! Cost: $35 per person includes hors d'oeuvres and 1 glass of wine or beer. 751.5214.

FEBRUARY 23 THE HEALING FORCE – FREE CONCERT 11:30am-12:30pm, Children's Museum of W-S. This performance is a rousing celebration of culture. Children will be singing and dancing! 723.9111.

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CAROLINA TIGER RESCUE’S BLACK TIE & TAILS BALL 7-11pm, Washington Duke Inn in Durham. Carolina Tiger Rescue invites you to our Black Tie & Tails Ball fundraiser. This exotic evening shimmers with gourmet dining, an open bar, silent and live auctions and dancing. For details and tickets, visit www.blacktieandtailsball.com. Cost: $125 per person.

WINSTON-SALEM WOMENCONNECT 9am-3pm, The Village Inn Event Center in Clemmons. Spend the day meeting amazing women, shopping unique items, attending free seminars, sampling food, obtaining free health screenings and winning fabulous door prizes! Join us for a special experience to connect with locally owned women's businesses. 287.3190.

FEBRUARY 23-APRIL 10 KEVA ONLINE CONTEST KICK-OFF SciWorks. Build you coolest Keva structure, snap a picture and post it on SciWorks' Facebook page by April 10th. Staff will pick the top five finalists for online voting, and the grand prize is a FREE birthday party at SciWorks! 714.7133.

FEBRUARY 25 SIMPLY CIRCLE 10:30am-12pm, Children's Museum of W-S. Simply Circle is a community-based circletime program, led by a speech-language pathologist, that offers age and language-based songs and activities for children ages 2-5. Children will participate in activities that target early learning skills, early literacy skills and social language skills. Registration required for the 4-week series: $32/member-child, $40/nonmember child. 723.9111.

NOW THROUGH MARCH 30 TWO PAINTY LADIES Angelina's Tea Shoppe, 125 S. Stratford Road. Tea and Talent at Angelina’s Tea Shoppe. Enjoy paintings by Rose Ann Wade and Laura A. Reynolds. Reception February 9th from 2-4pm. 768.4112

NOW THROUGH MARCH 30 AFRICAN AMERICAN SCIENTISTS AND INVENTORS EXHIBIT SciWorks. Modern versions of the discoveries and inventions of these well- and lesserknown African American innovators will be on display, as well as graphics panels with information about each of the featured scientists. Visit www.sciworks.org for more information.

NOW THROUGH MAY 19 EXHIBIT: THIS BEAUTIFUL WORLD 10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University. This touring exhibit features the work of photographer and world traveler Robert Radin. It contains images of the people and landscapes of six continents, a presentation of Radin’s life work selected from more than 6,000 photos. 758.5282.

NOW THROUGH OCTOBER 26 EXHIBIT: CELEBRATING 50 YEARS OF THE MUSEUM OF ANTHROPOLOGY 10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University. As the MOA commemorates its 50th year, this student-curated retrospective exhibit showcases the museum’s history through a detailed timeline featuring photographs from the institutional archives and artifacts from around the world. 758.5282.

SUNDAYS FITPRAISE 2:30pm, Women's Wellness & Fitness Center in W-S. Workout to contemporary Christian music with devotion and prayer! Designed for women of all ages and fitness levels. Participation is FREE and open to members and non-members. Call 760.0030 for info.

FUTURE - MARCH 2 3RD ANNUAL ART SHOW AND SALE BENEFITING MEALS-ON-WHEELS 10am-5pm, Senior Services Center, 2895 Shorefair Drive in W-S. Top-flight area artists will display and sell their work for Meals-on-Wheels. Proceeds will provide nutritious food for the homebound elderly. A variety of media at all price levels will be available for purchase one day only! 721.6908.

JUVENILE DIABETES RESEARCH FOUNDATION’S HOPE GALA 5:30pm, Benton Convention Center. Formal dinner/auction event that raises funds for diabetes research. Our Honoree is Kelly King, CEO of BB&T. In 2011, we raised more than $1 million in 1 night. It truly is a remarkable event where the passion of local parents of children with diabetes, colleagues, philanthropists and friends gather to make a difference in the lives of the more than three million Americans living with type 1 diabetes. 373.1768.

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Ian’s Bodyworks.............................................25

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April Hartsook, Personal Trainer......................36

Inner Strength Pilates .....................................36

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Becky’s Heavenly Cheesecakes................59, 77

Jazzercise ......................................................36

Salem Smiles Orthodontics............................35

Bobby Spivey’s Notary Service.......................77

K&W Café......................................................75

SanDesigns ...................................................77

Bridal Show at the BB&T Ballpark...................28

Kilwin’s .........................................................12

SciWorks .......................................................34

Brookstone Technology ..................................73

Launch Media & Marketing ............................76

Spangler & Rolhfing, DDS..............................13

Busy as a Bee Concierge Services..................40

Let Me Call You Sweet Art ..............................36

St. John’s Lutheran Church & School .............59

CareNet of North Carolina...............................24

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .........................25

Stitches .........................................................38

Cartridge Superstore......................................16

Locke Chiropractic .........................................33

Stratford Landscape Supply............................39

Casanova’s Confections .................................73

Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates .................21

Summer Camp Expo ......................................18

Center for Musical Excellence at

Mac & Nelli’s ................................................75

Sunrise United Methodist Church...................56

Meg Brown ....................................................15

Superieur Photographics................................28

Minglewood ..................................................67

Susan Maier Colon ........................................38

Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem ...........25

Mirror Image Cleaning Services ....................40

The Carriage House .......................................75

Chris’ Lawncare .............................................41

Moon & Back Creations .................................36

The Mental Health Association of

Chrystal Yates/Broker .....................................77

Moonlight Designs ........................................49

Forsyth County ..............................................65

Clemmons Family Dental...............................11

Moore Self Storage ........................................41

The Portrait Gallery ........................................63

CoCreative.....................................................67

Nationwide Insurance.......................................7

Tina S. Merhoff, DDS .....................................27

Consignment Shop Hop.................................70

New Pyramid Builders....................................39

TJ’s Body Shop .............................................73

Cookies & Cream...........................................75

New Town Bistro ............................................75

Triad Home & Garden Show ...........................43

Express Oil ......................................................6

Omega House Family Restaurant....................75

Twin City Soccer............................................17

Forsyth Country Day School.............................9

One Shot Photography ...................................51

University Dental............................................15

Forsyth Medical Center Imaging ........back cover

Paul’s Cycling & Fitness ................................16

WBFJ 89.3 ....................................................57

Fresh Air Carpet Care .....................................67

Piedmont Earth Day Fair ..........inside back cover

Which Wich...................................................75

GiGi’s Cupcakes ............................................23

Pine Brook Country Club ................................61

Will Wilkins - State Farm Insurance................17

God Encounters .............................................81

Premier Fertility Center ..................................19

Williams Eye Associates ................................16

GoinPostal .....................................................77

Reynolda Farm Market ...................................36

WomanCare ...................................................35

Golding Farms...............................................11

Richard Spainhour, Family Entertainer ............53

WS Women Connect......................................37

HIffen Organizing ...........................................40

Dr. Mike Riccoboni, D.C. ...............................11

YMCA............................................................21

Home Instead ..................................................3 82 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

Roger Marion Automotive...............................73

Your Pilates Place ..........................................35

Salem College, The .......................................23 Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics ....................... ...............................................front inside cover


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Add Years to Your Life Call Forsyth Medical Center Imaging at Maplewood to schedule your coronary calcium score test for $149. A physician referral is required. Coronary Calcium Scoring estimates your risk for heart attack. Coronary artery disease is the #1 cause of death for women and men. Known as heart disease, it is caused by a narrowing or blockage of the blood vessels that supply the heart.

Forsyth Medical Center Imaging at Maplewood 3155 Maplewood Avenue Winston Salem, NC 27103 336-794-XRAY (9729) *No other discounts or payment plans apply. Patient accepts full financial responsibility Screenings of this nature are generally not covered health insurance, however, insured patients may check with their insurance company to determine if the service is covered by their plan.

ARE YOU AT RISK? Heart disease risk factors include: s Over 40 years old s Family history of heart disease s Smoker s High cholesterol s High blood pressure s Overweight or sedentary lifestyle s Diabetes or pre-diabetes Having a coronary calcium score scan tells you if you have coronary artery disease and your risk of having a heart attack or death from heart disease. It is a non-invasive CT scan that does not require injections, needles or contrast dye. With this information you and your doctor will be able to determine the best approach for lowering your risk of having a heart attack.

Forsyth 336-794-XRAY (9729) www.fmcimaging.com


Forsyth Family February 2013