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Complimentary January 2014

Forsyth Country Day School The New Reality Facing American Parents: “In a highly competitive global marketplace, is good really good enough when it comes to educating your child?” FAITH & FAMILY I AGES & STAGES I DINING GUIDE SPECIAL ISSUE including BIRTHDAY BONANZA and PROM GUIDE

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Publisher Robin Bralley | Account Executives Tamara Bodford | Jessica Barney | Kelley Carnall Adele Casanova | Brooke Eagle | Jennie Hess Heather Spivey | Erin Webster Advertising Graphic Artist Moonlight Designs | Cover Photography Contributing Photographers Amanda Worley | Artistry by Melinda Rachel Rowen | Tom Howell Content Editor Tim Sellner Senior Staff Writer Carolyn S. Peterson Staff Writer and Communications Specialist Meghan E. W. Corbett Project Manager Denise Heidel | Social Networking Kelly Melang Contributing Writers Doug Brown | Nikki Byers | Emily Eileen Carter Melanie Cole | Meghan E. W. Corbett | Lisa S.T. Doss Martie Emory | Justin Cord Hayes | Denise Heidel Kelly Lewis | Kristi Johnson Marion | Cecelia Marshall, PhD | Isabella Migliarese | Melissa Moses Allison Pennell | Carolyn S. Peterson | Tim Roberts Tami Rumfelt | Kevin Sellers | Heather Spivey Sara Stanley | Keith Tilley | Kim Underwood Michael Weaver | Meridith Whitaker | Susan Woodall Web Design/Maintenance Nu Expression | IT Support Chuck Goad, Brookstone Technology Services, LLC Contact / 888-892-3204 Forsyth Family Disclaimer Please note that the inclusion of stories and articles in Forsyth Family magazine does not imply endorsement of products or people. The views of the authors are presented for information and entertainment only, and may not necessarily reflect the views of Forsyth Family. Specifically, Forsyth Family in no way endorses any claim associated with health and/or well being with respect to any particular person. We disclaim all warranties, express or implied, including, but not limited to, implied warranties of merchantability and fitness for a particular purpose. We will not be held responsible or liable, directly or indirectly, for any loss or damage that is caused or alleged to have been caused in connection with the use of, or reliance on, any content in this magazine.

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contents co ver sto ry 29

Forsyth Country Day School: The New Reality Facing American Parents

features 6

Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center

8 10 12 14 16


Financial Resolutions for the New Year

Discovering Change in the New Year…It’s Already in YOU!


Ice Skating at the WinstonSalem Fairgrounds Annex

What I Want My Son to Know About Compassion


Reaching Your New Year’s Resolutions

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Mall Walkers

New Year, New Look Has a New LOOK

Behind the Blue Line Organization


The Dragonfly House Children’s Advocacy Center: Offering Hope to Child Victims of Abuse

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Christmas in January?


58 - Give Your Kid a

Seven Tips for Making Healthy New Year’s Resolutions Stick


Completing the College Search Puzzle Local Research Targets Single-Shot Sterilization Method for Cats and Dogs


January Events to Keep You From Getting the Winter Blues


American Red Cross

Birthday Bonanza! Pinteresting Birthday

59 - Jump Around with Little Monkeys

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The Ultimate Gift


The Family Dilemma: What School is the Best Choice?

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Newton’s Law

BrainCore Therapy: An Innovative Treatment for ADD / ADHD

84 - Prom Checklist 86 - Prom Style: The Perfect Look Doesn’t Happen Overnight!

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Calculating Costs: Novant Health Financial Navigators Help Patients Better Understand Costs Before Treatment Occurs


The Mommy Diaries: Journey to Motherhood


The View from My Section…A New Approach for the New Year


House2Home 40 - Poll Reveals Close to One in Five Consumers Comfortable Carrying Debt

42 - More Than Nuts and Bolts 44 - Winter Car Maintenance


Faith & Family 63 - Tami’s Devotion 64 - Musing About…Looking Beyond the Trivial 66 - Our Lady of Mercy Catholic School Open House

68 - Clemmons Food Pantry: New Location, But Still at the Heart of the Community 69 - Here’s the Church, Here’s the Steeple…

70 - Ashlee & Cheri Murphy

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Triad Mom’s on Main: Defining Healthy Kids’s Morning Out Ages & Stages 79 - Sweet Dreams for Everyone in the Family 80 - Assisting Elementary Children to Become Self-Sufficient Test Takers

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Small Stories for a Big World Family Friendly Dining Guide: Honkey Tonk Smokehouse iTalk Out & About in Winston-Salem: March of Dimes Signature Chef’s Auction The Artist’s Corner Kids in the Kitchen: Let It Snow!

January 2013 2014! I don’t generally like to wish time away, but 2013 is a year that I will not be sad to leave behind. A year marked by personal tragedy for my family, with the loss of my teenage nephew Ryan. Our family continues to search for a new normal, as do many others in our community that have suffered the loss of a loved one and, especially the unthinkable, that of a child. It is heartbreaking to watch those you love suffer so much when there is so little you can do to ease their pain. It was this time last year when our community rallied around #PrayForRyan efforts and they have continued to show their love and support to my brother and his family over the past year. It’s times like this that bring out the best in people, and we are grateful to be in such a caring community!


A new year is a time of renewal and is usually met with anticipation of hope and possibility. A time to improve ourselves or a situation we find ourselves in. This issue is full of folks happy to help in lots of areas for your new year aspirations! Whether it’s shedding a few pounds or updating your home. Strengthening your financial outlook or creating a new look for yourself, there’s a little something for everyone! Our January cover features Forsyth Country Day School, one of the most revered schools in our area. They’ve been around since 1970 and continue to raise the bar on education opportunities. January is our annual Birthday Bonanza issue (see pg. 56), where you’ll find tidbits on birthdays, and it will serve as a handy reference for the year to come on some amazing venues to celebrate those special moments in life! And new to this issue is our 2014 Prom Guide (see pg. 84). Believe it or not, prom planning should begin now! Help make prom 2014 an event your teen will remember! Speaking of renewal! Be sure to check out our new websites! Fresh, clean and easy to navigate, with many new features! Quickly pull up the current and past issue to easily turn from page to page. We hope you’ll like our new calendar format and articles posted throughout the month. We’re interested to hear what you think, so be sure to drop a line to me at! Last, but certainly not least! I’d like to take a moment to congratulate my business partner, Keela Johnson on publishing her 100th issue of Forsyth Woman Magazine! It’s been a wild ride since she and I joined forces and created Forsyth Family Magazine. Anyone who knows Keela, knows that she is one dynamic lady! I am forever grateful for that opportunity and look forward to celebrating this milestone with her at the January 9th event at WinMock. It’s not too late for you to join us! See the back inside cover for more details! Blessings!

Robin Bralley

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By Meghan E.W. Corbett and cosmetic procedures have really evolved with the explosion of technology and desire to improve on earlier methods. As long as doctors and skincare professionals dedicate themselves to offering the best services available, this industry will remain one of the most sought-after industries on the market. Doctors like Anne White, MD, of Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center, are at the forefront of new technology and offer their patients the best in innovative care.


“This eloquent quote by Richard Glogau, Clinical Professor of Dermatology at the University of San Francisco, sums up the idea behind my Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center very well: ‘The same self-esteem that makes our patients successful in their chosen fields, precise in their consultation questions, wellgroomed and well-dressed, and often careful in their diet, exercise and other aspects of health maintenance, leads our patients to seek help for their wrinkles and frown lines.’ It's my job as a doctor to help people get and stay well. Looking one’s best is an integral part of one feeling and being one’s best,” said Dr. White. “Seeing many of my patients struggle with selfesteem issues that affected all aspects of their lives was what really got me looking into Cosmetic Dermatological procedures. When I witness the abject joy in a patient’s face when we see them for their post-procedural follow-up visits, I know I made the right decision.” Dr. White earned her medical degree from Indiana University’s School of Medicine in Indianapolis, began her residency in Dermatology at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston and completed her residency at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center in Winston-Salem. “I've been in private practice here since my board

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certification in 1988 and officially started the Cosmetic Center in 2002,” said Dr. White. “We started with laser hair removal. Then, with its FDA approval and my subsequent training with its pioneer in cosmetic treatments, Dr. Jean Carruthers, I knew I had to bring Botox® Cosmetic and fillers to the Triad. After that, I scrutinized the offerings in the marketplace, listened to, and anticipated, my patients’ needs, and have steadily developed our laser portfolio into what it is today.” A major factor in Dr. White’s success with Carolina Laser is her unique approach to making these procedures available to her patients in ways that work for them. “I believe in a crawl, walk, run approach to patient care, and our range of treatments and services reflects that,” said Dr. White. “Not everyone can afford all of the procedures that would immediately address their cosmetic concerns, so I work with my patients to find a practical and affordable solution that suits their needs. This flexibility is great for patients seeking revolutionary new services like SmartLipo Triplex Tumescent Liposuction. Also known as “lunchtime lipo,” SmartLipo targets, and permanently removes, areas of unwanted fat, toning and sculpting the skin. Patients can return to work in as little as two to three days, with full results in only 3–6 months. In addition to services like Smartlipo TriPlex to help get rid of the post-holiday bulge, Dr. White offers Cellulaze for cellulite

reduction, PicoSure Laser Tattoo Removal, Laser Hair Removal, Fillers and Injectables, Microdermabrasion, and Permanent Make-up, just to name a few. “One misconception about laser treatments is you’ll need a second mortgage on your home to afford them. That’s hardly the case,” Dr. White smiles. “For example, Microderm Toning treatments start at $75 each and provide patients with smoother skin and a lovely glow without the damage a tanning bed can incur. We have a number of low-cost treatments to help you look as young as you feel. And like most businesses, we accept most major credit cards, and have a couple other options we suggest to our patients,” said Dr. White. “One is a ‘lifestyle loan’ with Allegacy Credit Union, and another terrific way to finance elective procedures is through Care Credit. They offer a ‘health, wellness and beauty credit card’ that is accepted by a variety of practices ranging from cosmetic to dental and—a real coup for my fellow animal lovers—to veterinarians.” Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center is conveniently located between Silas Creek Parkway and Stratford Road at 145 Kimel Park in Winston-Salem, Suite 140. For more information, call 336.659.2663, or visit the website at

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Financial Resolutions for the New Year 45% of Americans usually make New Year’s resolutions, according to a survey from the University of Scranton. But the same survey shows that only 8% of us actually keep our resolutions. Perhaps this low success rate isn’t such a tragedy, when our resolutions involve things like losing a little weight or learning a foreign language. But when we make financial resolutions—resolutions that, if achieved, could significantly help us in our pursuit of our important ong-term goals—it’s clearly worthwhile to make every effort to follow through.


So, what sorts of financial resolutions might you consider? Here are a few possibilities:

Focus on the long term. You can probably check your investment balance online, which means you can do it every day, or even several times a day—but should you? If you’re following a strategy that’s appropriate for your needs, goals, risk tolerance and time horizon, you’re already doing what you should be doing in the long run. So there’s no need to stress yourself over the short-term movements that show up in your investment statements. Do whatever you can to turn these New Year’s resolutions into realities. Your efforts could pay off well beyond 2014. To help you with all of your resolutions is Odysseus Chamis, your local Edward Jones Financial Advisor.

Boost your contributions to your retirement plans. Each year, try to put in a little more to your IRA and your 401(k), or other employer-sponsored retirement plans. These tax-advantaged accounts are good options for your retirement savings strategy. Reduce your debts. It’s not always easy to reduce your debts, but make it a goal to finish 2014 with a smaller debt load than you had going into the New Year. The lower your monthly debt payments, the more money you’ll have to invest for retirement, college for your children (or grandchildren) and other important objectives. Build your emergency fund. Work on building an “emergency fund” containing six to 12 months’ worth of living expenses, with the money held in a liquid account that offers a high degree of preservation of principal. Without such a fund, you might be forced to dip into your long-term investments to pay for emergencies, such as a new furnace, a major car repair, and so on. You might not be able to finish creating your emergency fund in one year, but contribute as much as you can afford. Plan for your protection needs. If you don’t already have the proper amounts of life and disability insurance in place, put it on your “To Do” list for 2014. Also, if you haven’t taken steps to protect yourself from the considerable costs of long-term care, such as an extended nursing home stay, consult with your financial professional, who can suggest the appropriate protection or investment vehicles. You may never need such care, but that’s a chance you may not want to take— and the longer you wait, the more expensive your protection options may become. Don’t overreact to market volatility. Too many people head to the investment “sidelines” during market downturns. But if you’re not invested, then you miss any potential market gains—and the biggest gains are often realized at the early stages of the rally.

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Ody Chamis began his Edward Jones career in 2000. He became a limited partner with Edward Jones in January 2011. Mr. Chamis earned a bachelor’s degree in political science from North Carolina State University. And additionally received the CFP® professional designation in 2012. Originally from Winston-Salem, Ody continues to live in Winston-Salem with his wife, Irene, and one daughter. His Edward Jones office is located at 2599 A, Reynolda Road in Winston-Salem. For more information, call 336.721.0358, or visit the website at


Ice Skating at the Winston-Salem Fairgrounds Annex By Justin Cord Hayes

The rink is open from October through March every year, with public skating generally available on Friday nights, Saturdays and Sundays. “We also have all kinds of public hockey league options,” said Robert Mulhearn, Public Assembly Facilities Manager. “We offer youth hockey and adult hockey leagues.” In fact, both Wake Forest University and High Point University play some of their hockey games at the Annex.

the possible exception of snowball fights, is there an activity more associated with winter than ice skating? If you’re not aware that Winston-Salem even has an ice skating rink, well, now you are. It’s cheek-tojowl with BB & T Field and Joel Coliseum. An ice skating rink has been a feature of Winston-Salem at least since 1973, when the Polar Twins first laced up their skates for the Southern Hockey League. The current rink, the WinstonSalem Fairgrounds Annex, has been around since grunge was king in 1991.


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You don’t know how to skate? Don’t worry. No matter how many left feet you have, you can learn to glide along ice. Skating group lessons at the Annex begin in January every year. You may not become the next Kristi Yamaguchi, but you can probably attain the level of Snoopy in A Charlie Brown Christmas. The Annex offers other special events, as well. On Friday nights when the rink is open, the lights are turned down and the music heats up for the Friday Night Ice Jam. In mood lighting, skaters can axel jump and fan spiral to the accompaniment of a live DJ. If they’re so inclined, they can take a break from skating to play video games or channel their inner crooners/divas via karaoke. And parents, we know you love your kids more than life itself. But admit it. On those days when they’re out of school, you would sometimes like a little peace and quiet. The Annex has what you need: No School Skate Days. The rink will be open all day on which Forsyth County Schools are closed. “So, if you need to get the kids out of the house, bring them on down,” Mulhearn said. Ice skating is for everyone. Primary attendees are families with children ages six to fifteen, according to Mulhearn, who adds, “but we regularly see all ages out on the rink, from six years old to eighty years old.” Skaters of all ages glide across 18,000 gallons of water. A salt water system under the floor is used to freeze the water. Brine water, which contains a calcium-chloride solution, is pumped through an intricate system of pipes that crisscross pipes embedded in concrete underneath the ice. And admit it. You know you’ve always wanted to drive a Zamboni. There’s just something magical about a great big machine gliding across the etched, scarred ice, rendering it smooth and tantalizingly skate-worthy again. It’s not as easy as it looks, though. “The drivers really enjoy riding the Zamboni,” Mulhearn said, “but you have to pay close attention, especially when riding along the boards.” Why does the Zamboni-smoothed ice attract so many people each year? Mulhearn believes there are two primary reasons. In the first place, skating is fun—and different—exercise for folks who are trying to get in shape, as well for those who are trying to maintain their conditioning. In addition, he adds, “Ice skating isn’t something you can do every day or find just anywhere. It’s a unique activity that’s especially intriguing in the winter months.” To get a full, public skating schedule, or for more information about ice skating at the Winston-Salem Fairgrounds Annex, all 336-774-8880, or log on to, and click on the “ice skating” tab.

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New Year, New Look By Denise Heidel

a girl just needs a new ‘do! A fresh start empowers us, gives us confidence and inspires us to be a bit daring. For those who are looking for a fresh new look in 2014, look no further than the Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa in Clemmons.


Jennifer Hutchins has been helping women find their perfect look for over 17 years. When she opened the Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa five years ago, she built a team of professionals who shared her commitment to helping clients find the right look that would reflect their own personal style and unique beauty. For those who are looking for a new look, consider the following options: • Schedule a haircut in stages rather than making one major change. If you want to cut your locks, going in stages enables you to get 3 or 4 new looks! • If you want a longer style, but are too impatient to wait for your hair to grow out, Jennifer is certified in Cinderella Hair Extensions, which can add length, or be used to add volume, lift, or even correct a hair cut. Extensions are made from human hair and they can be worn for up to six months. • Visit the salon for a makeover! Maybe you’d 12 •

like to wear your makeup a new way, accentuate your eyes, or learn how to enhance another feature. • Treat your skin right and let the staff at Irvin Roberts pamper you with facials. They offer several options, including an Organic Passion Facial, their signature facial, an oxygen facial, or peels. • Bask in the glow of your radiance with a relaxing massage, followed by mani/pedis. The options are limitless. All consultations are complimentary and the staff at Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa works with their clients to cover all the bases… They discuss options, ideas, and review pictures before proceeding, so the client is completely comfortable and confident in her decision. The Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa website is full of kudos from clients. Monica shares, “At Irvin Roberts, you can get the same quality and expertise found in the best salons in the world, without having to leave your neighborhood!” Karen agrees. “I love it all! The atmosphere is relaxing after a stressful day, the staff is always friendly and makes you feel at home and the service is the best! I'll never go anywhere else!” Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa’s home is in a beautifully converted house, located at 3505 Lawrence Street in Clemmons. It is easily accessible from anywhere in the Triad. So, make 2014 your year to shine! Schedule a consultation and appointment with Jennifer or a member of her staff. Learn about the options that are available to you, and create your own customized package from an extensive menu of services! The Irvin Roberts team is excited to help you find a look that complements your personal style and personality. Visit their website at or call 766.3101.




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7 Tips for Making Healthy New Year’s Resolutions Stick

year, roughly one in three Americans resolves to make him- or herself better in some way. Many people set out with the best intentions to make lifestyle changes, like exercising more or eating healthier. Research shows that just 8% of people achieve their New Year’s Resolutions. So, how do you make healthy resolutions that stick? Wellness Directors at YMCAs across Forsyth County weigh in with their best advice.


Make a commitment. Where do you start when you’ve decided to make a healthy lifestyle change? The first step is to commit. “Joining a wellness center serves two purposes: you will open the door to finding healthy activities you enjoy, and you’ve invested your money and time in your health, which will help you stay accountable,” says Jordan Lloyd, Senior Program Director for Wellness, Group Exercise, and Personal Training at the Fulton Family YMCA. January is a great time to join the Y. The day you join during the month is what you pay for the joining fee. So, on January 1 your joining fee is $1, on the 2nd you pay $2, and so on. Don't change everything at once. “Change is hard. Start where you are and make small changes each week,” says Kasey Elliott, Wellness Director at the Kernersville Family YMCA. “You may not run a marathon before you’ve ever run a lap around the track, but if you start with small goals, you will be surprised how quickly they add up to what you’re trying to accomplish.” Depending on your individual interests, Elliott suggests incorporating changes, such as jogging additional laps each week, joining a swim clinic to challenge yourself, or trying a higher-intensity group exercise class than you’re used to (being sure to monitor your heart rate and take breaks as needed). Have fun with it. “There are so many ways to get your heart rate pumping that there is no reason to be bored or unhappy with your exercise routine,” says Robert Edwards, Wellness Director at the Winston Lake Family YMCA. “At the Y, we have seniors shaking it to oldies hits, other members swinging kettle bells, and many people who love the calming and strengthening effects of yoga. It’s about finding an activity you love, so that you will look forward to exercise.” Be specific. “Don’t just say you need to go to the gym more,” says Mike Farrell, Wellness Director for the Robinhood Road Family YMCA. “Schedule

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time in your calendar for exercise, just as you would for any other commitment. Make time for a spinning class, set up a time to lift weights with a friend, or schedule an appointment with a personal trainer.” The Y’s new mobile app lets you add group exercise classes directly to your calendar (visit to download). If you need more one-on-one support to reach your goals, personal trainers can help you get the results you need with a personalized approach. Know that it’s okay to take “me” time. Lisa Marie Blutreich, Wellness and Engagement Director for the Robinhood Road Family YMCA, knows it can be hard for parents to make time for exercise. “At the Y, we offer free Child Watch with family memberships, so kids can have fun, be active and make new friends while their parents exercise,” says Blutreich. The Y also offers a wide variety of options for families to spend time active together. Trust the plan. Y members receive three free New Member Personal Trainer Sessions when they join. During the sessions, you meet with a Wellness Coach to discuss your goals and create a plan to help you accomplish them. “Progress will happen. Creating a plan you can stick to is critical to your success in making a healthy lifestyle change,” says Leanna Peters, Wellness Director at the Jerry Long Family YMCA. “Without a plan, you don’t know where you’re starting from, or how you’ll get where you want to go.” Give yourself a pat on the back along the way. “Don’t wait until you’ve reached your ultimate goal to reward yourself,” says Luke Harris, Senior Program Director for Wellness at the William G. White, Jr. Family YMCA. “Treat yourself for meeting goals, even small ones.” Those (non-food!) rewards add up to a successful path. You can always plan a special reward for reaching your final goal.

“Schedule time in your calendar for exercise, just as you would for any other commitment...” Being healthy means more than simply being physically active. It’s about maintaining a balanced spirit, mind and body. The Y is a place where you can work toward that balance by challenging yourself to learn a new skill or hobby, fostering connections with friends through our lifelong learning programs, or bringing your loved ones closer together through our many family-centered activities. At the Y, it’s not about the activity you choose, as much as it is about the benefits of living healthier on the inside, as well as the outside. Visit to see Y locations across northwest North Carolina and learn more.

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Behind the Blue Line Organization By Lisa S.T. Doss in the morning hours in February 2007, Sergeant Howard Plouff responded to a call to assist four deputies who were engaged in trying to subdue a fight outside a country western bar. One shot struck Sergeant Plouff. Twenty-one hours later, the 17-year veteran of the Winston Salem Police Department died—leaving behind a wife and two daughters. Sometimes, when unthinkable situations occur, goodness can prevail. The spouses rallied together in support to consider a way to reach out and help other law-enforcement families. Wishing to stand behind the men and women in blue uniform, they created with pride an organization called “Behind the Blue Line.”


The months that followed Sergeant Plouff’s death, the spouses of the Winston- Salem Police Department continued to talk through their emotions, which resulted in an ignited interest to “do something!” The first meeting occurred in May 2007, with tremendous turnout. While the group wanted the premise to be about support, members also wanted to place a positive light on police officers and highlight accomplishments within the community. Coming together, the spousal-support group wrote a mission statement to include the “emotional, physical, mental, political and financial health” of their law-enforcement officers. “Behind every officer is a family that deals with the positives and negatives of police life; however, when we support each other, the Department ensures our officers have the support they need to accomplish their job and keep the community safe,” writes Shannon. Sarah writes, “Prior to my husband joining the WSPD, he was in the military; so, I was accustomed to a family support network. Soon after he joined the department and learned about BTBL, I enthusiastically became a member. It has been wonderful having the support of the other members in the challenges and joys of being a police family. I feel fortunate to have the opportunity to lead the organization, with the hope of increasing understanding and support for the WSPD.” Shannon shares, “In addition to supporting the WSPD family, we also aim to support the community at large in various ways. In November 2013, we hosted a service project in partnership with Build-A-Bear. We created bears that were donated to Brenner Children’s Hospital. It was a wonderful opportunity to help the children in our community.” Behind the Blue Line also participates in “Officer Appreciation Day,” where members take a morning, afternoon, or evening shift to feed the officers home-baked desserts. Members also assist in the food both at the Dixie Classic Fair and

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provide meals to officers in various circumstances, such as a death, injury, or birth of a baby. Behind the Blue Line is having its second annual Festival of Tables fundraiser on March 15, 2014. Being held at the Winston Salem Elks Lodge, this event supports two causes. Monies raised provide a scholarship fund for the children of the WSPD officers, and it extends financial opportunities to families who are in need. Themed tables, catered food, music and raffle tickets are the expected fun. Tickets are available to the public for $15. Please contact While anyone who is a significant other of an officer; a sworn or retired officer; or wishing to honor a fallen officer can apply for a “full” membership, friends of the Winston Salem Police Department are indeed welcome with a member’s sponsorship. As noted, “… membership is open to any individual having the same appreciation for police officers and their families…” For those interested in membership, the website will provide an application form, address, and the price of dues. “My husband is an officer and I love being a police wife. It is not always easy, with the long hours and the reality of knowing the dangers of his job. I often say, ‘We are the only wives whose husband has to wear a ballistic vest to work. While others are running away from danger, ours run towards it,’” writes Amy. Our law enforcement men and women are protectors of our city, and it only makes perfect sense to support our police department by standing alongside the spousal support organization, Behind the Blue Line. Their next fundraiser, Festival of Tables, is on March 15, 2014. For more information on community events, please access

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The Dragonfly House Children's Advocacy Center

Of fering Hope to Child Victims of Abuse By Meghan E.W. Corbett

can be easy to ignore the harsh realities that exist in our world. Every day, millions of people suffer for different reasons; most of those reasons are 100% preventable, such as physical and emotional abuse. The Dragonfly House is a local organization determined to help children in our community who are suffering. It offers hope, courage, strength and happiness to the more than 950 children across North Carolina who have been helped since its opening in October of 2010.


“In Japanese culture, the Dragonfly is a symbol of hope, courage, strength and happiness,” said Executive Director Brandi Reagan. “At The Dragonfly House Children’s Advocacy Center, we offer those very things to each child who comes through our doors. When a child discloses abuse, or when abuse is suspected, our agency is contacted and an appointment is made. It is at this appointment that we bring everyone together to work around that child in his or her best interests.

The social worker, detective, forensic interviewer, child-abuse pediatrician and child advocate are present with the child and their non-offending family members. We provide core services of legally sound child forensic interviews, child-abuse medical evaluations, mental health treatmen and on-going child, family and court advocacy services. All of these services are provided in our child-safe, family-friendly facility and in a manner that helps the child and his or her caregivers understand what is happening to them. The Dragonfly House is primarily grant-funded, though due to funding cuts across the board, times will be tough in the years to come without community support, both financially and personally. “All of our services are free of charge to the child and their non-offending family members,” said Reagan. “If we want to continue our services and exist in the communities we serve for the long term, we must work now to educate the community on child abuse prevention and bring awareness to the services we provide and the differences we make in the lives of those we serve. In order for us to do this work, we must have strong community support. This comes in the way of volunteers, item donations and financial support. As volunteers, we offer a variety of ways you can help, such as assisting with fundraisers, assisting with medical exams (nurse volunteers only), providing outreach in the community through displays and presentations, and assisting us in the office with cleaning, filing and item-donation intake. Through item donations we continuously need blankets for children (each child gets to pick out a blanket that he/she can keep for the medical exam); plain T-shirts in every size; toiletry items for personal care bags; individually wrapped snacks and juice for the children visiting our facility; and household items, such as cleaning supplies, toilet paper and paper towels. You can support us financially through one-time, monthly, or quarterly contributions. In addition to regular financial donations, we encourage everyone in the community to attend one of our many fundraising events, such as our upcoming ‘4th Annual Share the Love Dinner and Auction Fundraising Event,’ which will be held on Valentine’s Day 2014 at WinMock at Kinderton.” The fundraiser on February 14th will be held from 6:30–10 p.m. Tickets are $62.50 per person and include live music, dinner and silent and live auctions. This year’s theme is “Old World Romance,” as a nod to Valentine’s Day. All proceeds from this event will help The Dragonfly House fulfill its mission to offer hope, strength and courage to those who suffer from the damaging effects of child abuse. The Dragonfly House is located at 161 E. Lexington Road in Mocksville. For more information, to help in The Dragonfly House’s efforts or to purchase tickets for the February fundraiser, call 336.753.6155, or visit the website at

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conflict. It is an attitude, a habit, a spiritual practice and a set of behaviors that can be learned, practiced and encouraged within a family. We all hope for world peace, but few of us sit at the conference table where treaties are signed. Any one of us can begin with peace at home. How do we practice peace? It’s both harder and simpler than it sounds. It’s harder, because, like any good habit, it must be practiced with regularity. It’s simpler, because the practices themselves are easy to learn. Tip to remember: your family does not have to be free from conflict in order to practice peace. It is in times of conflict that the practice of peace is most needed. How to do it: these are just a few suggestions. Please feel free to add your own!

Christ mas in January? By Cecilia Marshall, Ph.D.

“Why Can’t Every Day be like Christmas?” This line is from an old Elvis Presley song and reflects the mixed feelings many of us have about resuming our daily lives after the excitement and glitter of the Holidays. There are lots of reasons every day can’t be like Christmas:

Acts of kindness. . . Random acts of kindness are an excellent way of promoting peace at home. Sometimes these acts will be acknowledged by others, and sometimes not. Do them anyway (it will be beneficial to the giver, if done in a spirit of kindness). Simple acts, such as doing someone else’s chore, making a favorite meal or (for children) sharing with others, will work just fine. Positive comments . . .We all know the powerful impact of negative words, but may forget about the power of positive speech. Be specific— “I appreciate the way you played with your sister today” . . . “Thanks so much for picking up the dry cleaning” . . . “Your smile puts me in a good mood.” You can also ritualize this a bit by sharing positive comments about each family member during a meal (and, yes, you can find something positive to say about even the most difficult family member if you look closely enough—make it a challenge!). WAIT (“Why Am I Talking?”) Think about the effect your words may have on other family members before speaking them. This is a simple, but fairly revolutionary concept, as most of us (writer included) simply open our mouths without bothering to connect them to our brains or our hearts. Imagine what the impact would be if you considered the purpose and the impact of your words before speaking them!

the Master Card bill couldn’t take it; the obesity epidemic could get worse; school attendance officers would come calling; recycling couldn’t handle all the wrapping paper. What about Peace on Earth? The celebration of peace is a part of many faith traditions during the Holiday Season. We talk about it, sing songs about it, read from the Bible and other Holy Books about it. Then we sometimes forget about it until next year! Practicing peace is something families can do every day of the year! Note the term, “practicing peace.” Peace is not merely the absence of

Breathe . . . This simple, but profound, act helps us to relax our bodies and connect with our best selves. Stopping a few times a day to breathe deeply (even for a minute) and relax, helps to oxygenate our blood, disengage our “fight or flight” response, and clear our minds. It can help us connect with the peace within ourselves and share that peace with others. Wishing you “Peace on Earth” in January!

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Is Your Child’s Future at Risk? Fiction: Good students will be prepared well at most schools. Fact: In a recent multinational study (PISA 2012), only 9%, 7%, and 8% of American 15-year-olds finished in the highest achievement groups in math, science, and reading, respectively, meaning that America’s top students were outperformed by 27 nations in math, 17 nations in science, and 14 nations in reading. Admission Open House: Saturday, February 1, 2014 at 10 a.m.

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The Mommy Diaries: Journey to Motherhood By Emily Eileen Carter

have wanted to be mother since I can remember. I babysat and worked as a nanny all through high school and college. I love being around children, their wonder, their innocence, their honesty, their joy. I love growing with them and learning from them. While I tried out several career paths, my love of children eventually led me back to education.


However, as much as I wanted to be a mother, my independent and adventurous spirit led me in my 20s to travel and experience as much as I could around the country and globe. I knew I wanted to be ready to be a mom, ready to settle down with no regrets, ready to devote myself to my little one. As I teetered on the edge of 30 I could feel that biological clock ticking. I began noticing babies everywhere—at the grocery store, restaurants, and everywhere else. I became very curious when talking with pregnant ladies. I had so many questions. I was so curious, and the 5-19-13 yearning in me began to , by grow. It’s time. I could feel Ba r ea D with nt na it in my bones. eg pr s a w out I

I found ts ago. I cried you just momenam so elated, so I tears of joy. lly in love with happy and totaam sending you I r you already. hugs. I pray fo ng love, peace and ro st althy and you to grow he b. om w in my , for this Thank you, God strength and e m e miracle. Giv day of this resilience each e know you m lp He pregnancy. ith me through are walking w ess (of pregnancy this whole proc ). Thank you for and parenthoodessing! this Amazing bl

In 2012, my husband and I began talking more seriously about it and decided to start preparing. I went off birth control and had decided to devote some time to getting my body healthy and ready to conceive. Before I had even had a chance to get ready, I was pregnant. We were surprised, excited and very happy. Immediately the trajectories of our lives ily Love, Mama Em changed. Then, just as we settled into the idea of being parents, I miscarried at 11 weeks. It was a devastating loss. Our hopes

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and dreams vanished in a moment. I felt deserted by God, my grief so great I felt I would implode. The grieving was hard on both of us, but what I learned quickly after, as people shared their stories with me, is that many women have experienced this loss. One thing I knew for sure, I was already a mother. I was a mother the moment I first found out I was pregnant. That constant concern, guilt, unconditional love pouring forth from me; this is what makes the loss of a child at any stage so profound. We waited about six months and began “to try” again to conceive. Of course, I thought it would happen quickly and without much thought. However, this was not the case. I began charting my cycles, taking my temperatures, eating fertility foods. After six months, still no luck. I began to feel frustrated and depressed. It seemed everyone around me was pregnant, including Princess Kate and Kim K, except for me. I began to grow bitter and angry. I prayed for God to give us a child, but I felt like He had forgotten us. The old saying goes, if you want to make God laugh, tell her your plans. During the course of this time, I had applied for, and was offered, a new teaching job in a high school. I had been trying to teach high school for years, and there had been no openings. Finally, my chance; I was so excited to have this opportunity. A week after I had accepted this new position, I found out I was pregnant. I was elated about the pregnancy, and though the time was “interesting.” I knew God would take care of us, and we would figure it out. Though it hasn’t been easy, we have made it so far. I finished my previous job and prepared for a move, all during my first trimester. Somehow I made it, with lots of naps and support from my husband and family. No one really likes to talk about the not-so pleasant things that start to take over your body during the first part of pregnancy: raging hormones, constant gas and, of course, the nausea. Though I never threw up, I experienced a low-low hum of nausea all throughout those first three months. My hearty appetite diminished, and I lived on saltines and ginger ale. I also began to feel like a hound dog. I could sniff out a sweet, coffee, strong perfume from a mile away. But all this is worth it for the miracle of life growing inside me. Join me this next year as I document, in candid writing, the journey of my pregnancy and adventures in being a parent for the first time.

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Forsyth Country Day School The New Reality Facing American Parents: “In a highly competitive global marketplace, is good really good enough when it comes to educating your child?”

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parents, we all want our children to receive a quality education, because we understand how important such preparation is for their futures. Despite this desire, American parents often make educational decisions for their children based on an assumption that may prove to be invalid. Specifically, we often assume that if we place our kids in what are believed to be quality schools, especially if they earn good grades in advanced courses and/or honors programs, then they will be academically well prepared. An examination of some of the recent educational data might cause one to conclude that assumption is flawed.


According to The College Board, of the 1.6 million students who took the SAT in 2013, only 43 percent were deemed college ready— meaning that a shocking 57 percent, or nearly one million high school graduates, were not adequately prepared for college. The 2009 Program for International Student Assessment (PISA), which measures the math, science and reading achievements of students from 60 countries and five economies, found that U. S. students were average in science and below average—ranked 25th of countries tested—in mathematics. “The results show that American students are poorly prepared to compete in today's knowledge economy,” said U.S.

Education Secretary Arne Duncan. “The hard truth is that other high performing nations have passed us by during the last two decades. Americans need to wake up to this educational reality—instead of napping at the wheel while emerging competitors prepare their students for economic leadership.” The recently released 2012 PISA study indicated that only 9 percent of American 15-year-olds tested in the top achievement level in mathematics. Similarly, only 7 percent of American students achieved the top level in science, and only 8 percent reached that level in reading. The very best American students were outperformed by students in 27 nations in mathematics, 17 countries in science, and 14 nations in reading. It would seem that the belief that American schools are at least preparing our best students at a world-class level needs to be called into question. “American students’ poor performance compared to their peers across the globe is especially troubling in today’s more global economy,” said Forsyth Country Day School Headmaster Vincent M. Stumpo, Ph.D. “Our children are no longer competing for college admission and employment opportunities with just the kids across the street or even across the country—they are competing with the best and brightest students from around the world.

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competitors throughout the world. This report is concerned with only one of the many causes and dimensions of the problem, but it is the one that undergirds American prosperity, security and civility. We report to the American people that while we can take justifiable pride in what our schools and colleges have historically accomplished and contributed to the United States and the well-being of its people, the educational foundations of our society are presently being eroded by a rising tide of mediocrity that threatens our very future as a nation and a people. What was unimaginable a generation ago has begun to occur—others are matching and surpassing our educational attainments. If an unfriendly foreign power had attempted to impose on America the mediocre educational performance that exists today, we might well have viewed it as an act of war. As it stands, we have allowed this to happen to ourselves.” Nowhere is this more apparent than the world of college admissions. Harvard University, like every school in the Ivy League except Dartmouth, saw acceptance rates drop precipitously in 2013. Harvard accepted a mere 5.8 percent of its applicants and Yale University accepted just 6.72 percent. Outside of the Ivy League, the story was similar: Last year, St. John’s University in New York had 51,179 applicants for 2,824 freshmen spots. Closer to home, the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill saw admission rates drop from 31.4 percent in 2011 to 27 percent in 2013. Among several factors contributing to the increasingly competitive nature of college admissions is the growing number of international students who are choosing to come to the United States for post-secondary education. In November 2013, the Open Doors Report on International Educational Exchange revealed that the number of international students at American colleges and universities increased to a record high of 819,644 students in the 2012–2013 academic year. “There are now 40 percent more international students studying at U.S. colleges and universities than a decade ago, and the rate of increase has risen steadily for the past three years,” the report states. In fact, 2012–2013 was the seventh consecutive year that this same report documented an increase. The concern over American K-12 education is neither recent nor local. In 1983, The U.S. Department of Education published A Nation at Risk, which stated: “Our once unchallenged preeminence in commerce, industry, science and technological innovation is being overtaken by

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Twenty-five years later, in 2008, the DOE published an update, A Nation Accountable, which reported that little had changed in a quarter-century: “If we were ‘at risk’ in 1983, we are at even greater risk now. The rising demands of our global economy, together with demographic shifts, require that we educate more students to higher levels than ever before. Yet, our education system is not keeping pace with these growing demands.” More recently and locally, the November 2013 NC READY Accountability Report found that fewer than half of North Carolina’s public school students were proficient on their endof-grade tests in math, science and English. In Forsyth County, public school students fared slightly worse, with only 31 to 58 percent testing as proficient, depending upon the subject and grade level. Even worse, North Carolina students’ performance on the ACT, another test of college readiness, was the lowest of 50 states and the District of Columbia, and the WinstonSalem/Forsyth County public schools tracked closely with that result. “On many of these tests, I have to wonder if even the standard by which students are measured is properly set,” Dr. Stumpo said. “Should mere proficiency be our goal? For our children to compete with the world’s best and brightest, American schools will need to be more aspirational.” He explained how the public’s perception of proficiency itself may have changed over time. “The word ‘proficient’ has benefitted from a kind of grade inflation. Many believe that proficiency equals mastery, but that is far from the truth. Proficiency, when we look at K–12 education, means adequate. It means that a student was judged to be competent; in essence to have a passing grade. Given

“We are on the path to something quite remarkable.” that, is proficiency really what any of us should be striving for when it comes to educating our children?” Dr. Stumpo doesn’t think so. “It used to be the thinking that if you took a good kid and put him in any good school, he would be fine. I do not believe that is true anymore,” he said. With the relentless growth of new technology and an increased global willingness to relocate for opportunity, the world has gotten much smaller, more globally diverse, and far more competitive than it was when today’s parents were applying to college and seeking their first jobs. “The world is more interconnected than ever before, and today’s students have a greater need for highlevel, essential and transferable intellectual skills, if they are going to compete in a global economy. Mere competence or proficiency is not enough,” Dr. Stumpo said. “Good is no longer good enough when it comes to educating our children,” he said. Dr. Stumpo’s belief that academic excellence is now a necessity drew him to Forsyth Country Day School from Pennsylvania in July 2013, to a school that already had achieved the area’s best results on objective academic achievement measures such as the SAT, ACT and Advanced Placement (AP) scores, outscoring the local public schools by 40 percent on the ACT. In addition, more than 60 percent of FCDS students in grades 4–7 qualified for the prestigious Duke Talent Identification Program (TIP), which means that they placed in the top 5 percent (95th percentile or higher) of the testing pool on the national ERB exams.It is interesting to note that students who started at Forsyth Country Day School in first grade or before had a distinct advantage; they were two times as likely to qualify for the Duke TIP as those who waited until later years to enroll.

For any good or service, superb quality is never without its cost. “However, given the exceptional nature of what we’re proposing—to offer one of the finest K–12, college-preparatory educational experiences in the nation—we want to do all we can to make the Forsyth Country Day School experience available to more people in the Winston-Salem area who believe, as we do, that academic excellence is both rare in American schools today, and a necessity for the future of our children,” Dr. Stumpo said. To that end, FCDS has bolstered its financial aid budget and, in addition, has created an Academic Community Scholarship Program currently available to new applicants. “We are on the path to something quite remarkable,” Dr. Stumpo said. “It’s not going to be an easy road to traverse—no truly noble path is—but we have an abiding confidence in our abilities, a profound belief in the importance of our dream, and an inspirational conviction that we can change the lives of our students. It’s a very exciting time at FCDS.” Interested in learning more about Forsyth Country Day? Please contact Cindy Kluttz, FCDS’s director of admission and financial aid, at, or call 336-945-3151, ext. 340, to RSVP to the February 1st Open House or to reserve a space for the February 22nd Academic Community Scholarship Event.

“I was drawn to Forsyth Country Day because I saw a very good school that has the potential, the desire, and the intention to be truly great,” Dr. Stumpo said. “I was looking for a school that was educationally strong enough in which to place my own child immediately, and one that was courageous enough to dream large in the pursuit of true academic excellence. I searched throughout the nation and found what I was looking for at FCDS.”

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Completing the College Search Puzzle By Kevin Sellers

college admissions process can evoke many emotions. Feelings of anxiety, intimidation, uncertainty, excitement, joy, satisfaction and disappointment are very normal. While selecting a college ranks as one of the most important choices in a young person’s life, it is not a life-or-death decision. The most important thing to remember is that the pathway to furthering one’s education is personal and individual, and there are many options for students to consider.


Students can initiate the college search as early as they choose; however, the most critical time to begin the process is during the junior year of high school and the summer before the senior year. By this time, students should have researched which colleges have certain characteristics that match their desired wants and needs, and, if possible, they will have planned their immensely important campus visits. The goal is to be as prepared as possible going into the fall semester of the twelfth grade. At Salem Academy, October through November is the most demanding and most critical application period for seniors. The vast majority of our girls have submitted multiple applications to a variety of schools. This is followed by the sit-and-wait period, during which students, parents, counselors, teachers and our head of school keep fingers crossed and a hopeful watch for those magical acceptance packets arriving in the mail—or online at a web-based portal, which is becoming more and more popular. I say

“fingers crossed,” because gone are the days when prospective students and parents, counselors, and all involved can predict which students will be accepted to certain schools. Current trends in higher education admissions indicate staggering growth in competition among applicants. The incredible increase of applications across the board has allowed already selective colleges to become more selective, filling their freshmen classes with students who have profiles that meet the needs of the college, often determined by administration and competitive strategic plans for greater institutional sustainability.

curriculum at Salem gives girls a strong advantage in this area, with many colleges recognizing how academically prepared our students are after graduation. This is particularly true in the area of writing, and every Salem student learns to write. This is more important today than ever before, because colleges are looking to admit students that are able to demonstrate strong writing and critical thinking skills in their applications. They want to be sure the student is able to handle successfully the first year of college courses. The college counselor will assist the girls in presenting themselves in the very best light.

Salem Academy understands what is necessary to prepare girls for acceptance into the colleges of their choice. In addition to developing an exceptional faculty and excellent college preparatory curriculum, resources include a fulltime college counselor who is dedicated to helping the girls navigate the complexities of the college admissions process. The counselor assists students during initial research and exploration all the way through applying, finding financial aid and, eventually, enrolling in college. One aspect in this process includes educating our girls about how they can better their chances of acceptance. Trends show that colleges are putting greater emphasis on the level of classes high school students are taking and, of course, the grades they attain within those classes. The importance of standardized tests is decreasing, with a greater emphasis being placed on students taking a more rigorous course load. Our

While there are many pieces to the college search puzzle, the college counselor can help customize a process that will lead to favorable student evaluation and admission. Salem Academy is here to help girls discover how their own individual pieces fit together to successfully complete the college picture.

Kevin Sellers was director of undergraduate admissions at High Point University before joining Salem Academy as the full-time college counselor in 2013. Located in Winston-Salem, N.C., Salem Academy is the Southeast’s premier college preparatory boarding and day school for girls, grades 9 through 12, and has a 100% college acceptance rate to many of the highestranked colleges and universities across the nation. Learn more at or toll-free at 1-877-407-2536.

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By A. Keith Tilley

this approach is a good way to get enthusiastic about making a change in the New Year. It’s really not that hard to accomplish. For instance, in your marriage you might choose something you would like to do each month, it comes to the calendar, January is to us what spring is to such as an action you take at nature, a time to start something new; a time home to spark new life into the “In whatever personal relationship you have to re-invent ourselves; a time to set new goals, make new relationship (e.g., more plans, and generally do things that will improve our quality of that you wish to improve on, whether it’s in complements, more life and the lives of those around us. your marriage, delegating of responsibilities with your Recently I had an associate send me a press release for a and helping out your partner, children, your new book that came out last summer, entitled The Love Dare or encouraging them and connections with for Parents. It’s written by Alex and Stephen Kendrick, surprising them in ways they friends and brothers, pastors, and authors of other successful books, would never anticipate). You companions or such as The Love Dare (New York Times No. 1 best seller) might finally incorporate the even with your and The Resolution for Men. Many of you may know them by popular “date night” idea, after their films FLYWHEEL, FACING THE GIANTS, FIREPROOF own parents, this saying you would so many and COURAGEOUS, which they wrote and produced. In their approach is a times before, and never did. first book The Love Dare, the premise of which originated good way to get I’m digressing a bit here. from the movie Fireproof, they focus on a “40-day challenge enthusiastic to apply biblical principles in order to strengthen marriage about making a If you choose to strengthen the bond with your children using relationships.” In their new book, The Love Dare for Parents, change in the this approach, you might plan they once again use the 40-day challenge, this time in order New Year.” a different or regular family for parents to “better communicate God’s unconditional love activity for each month, or incorporate something new to their kids in 40 different ways for 40 days.” into the usual mundane weekly routines, that sparks a Although it’s not necessarily my intention here to promote new perspective on mom and dad. the books (even though you may find them to be very Regardless of what area you choose to focus on, it entertaining and helpful), it did get me to thinking about the doesn’t matter what actions you take. It’s more important concept of challenging ourselves in order to improve various to simply plan those actions and activities out, and aspects of our lives. Obviously the principal is sound and incorporate those “new, fun, entertaining and positive” has been successful for many. So, I thought, why couldn’t measures in a way that makes each month of the year we take a similar approach except on a broader scale? something to look forward to. For instance, instead of a 40-day challenge, why not a 12-month challenge? Rather than outline specific things to It may take a little effort and planning initially (more for do on a daily basis, we might lay out a plan to perform some of us, and less for others), yet I think we can all certain things or implement a new action each month for an agree it does sound a tad more inspiring and motivating entire year. than losing weight and dieting (not that good health isn’t

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When you think about it, resolutions almost always fade into oblivion and are long forgotten, oftentimes before they even really begin. Yet, taking the concept of the Kendrick brothers and applying it to the New Year just may be something we can get excited about. For instance, we can all assess our individual lives and determine what area we would like to improve upon. As indicated in the books, relationships are certainly a good place to start. In whatever personal relationship you have that you wish to improve on, whether it’s in your marriage, with your children, your connections with friends and companions or even with your own parents,

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Local Research Targets Single-Shot Sterilization Method for Cats & Dogs By Carolyn S. Peterson is estimated that six to eight million cats and dogs enter animal shelters in the United States each year, and three to four million of these animals are euthanized. The simple procedure of spaying or neutering cats and dogs can make a difference in these astronomical numbers. In an effort to make sterilization affordable and easier through a possible non-surgical, single-dose shot, Dr. Colin E. Bishop, Ph.D., an expert in molecular genetics with Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center’s Institute for Regenerative Medicine (WFIRM), and his team have received a two-year pilot grant from Michelson Prize and Grants (MPG), a division of Found Animals Foundation. Dr. Bishop recently discussed the ongoing study at a Science Café meeting sponsored by SciWorks.


Dr. Bishop’s usual role at WFIRM is to apply the techniques of genetics and developmental biology to the regeneration of human organs, with much of his work helping service veterans. But Dr. Bishop’s background specifically is in reproductive genetics, which puts him on a path to help solve the overpopulation of homeless cats and dogs. Bishop and his group are one of about 20 recipients across the world working on this technology. The Found Animals Foundation will award a $25 million prize to the first research group to develop a successful product. The ultimate goal of MPG and the Found Animals Foundation is “to end shelter euthanasia of healthy, adoptable animals.” “The research we are doing focuses on developing an injection that would destroy GnRH cells in the hypothalamus, an area of the brain that controls reproduction in mammals. Since brain cells do not regenerate, it is believed that the treatment will lead to permanent sterility in animals. We are designing a system for delivering a toxin to GnRH cells by engineering nano-sized packages, called exosomes, that are generated from adult stem cells. Just like spaying or neutering, this single-dose shot method also has the potential to eliminate the unwanted mating behaviors of companion animals without affecting their general health,” said Dr. Bishop. Stated in a simple form, the “package” will be tagged to carry the molecular “address” of the GnRH cells, so that they will be delivered to, and fuse only with, these particular cells. Inside the “package” would be a toxin, derived from Influenza A, that is designed to kill the GnRH cells. Although the study has been going on for only seven months, Dr. Bishop marks the process with several upcoming milestones. “During this two-year project, we will be generating engineered exosomes from mouse stem-cells and evaluating their potential to specifically fuse with the GnRH cells. The team will then load the exosomes with the toxin and test their ability to kill GnRH cells in a laboratory setting and in mice,” Dr. Bishop commented. For more information, or to make suggestions for possible topics and speakers on SciWorks’ Science Cafés, contact Kelli Isenhour at 336-714-7106 or e-mail For more information on Found Animals Foundation, visit

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Poll Reveals Close to One in Five Consumers Comfortable Carrying Debt recent National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) online poll revealed that close to one in five consumers, 18 percent, believe that carrying credit card debt over from month to month is a responsible way to manage finances.

• Without credit cards, people miss out on the convenience of

“These data suggest that not only are many Americans using credit cards to fund a lifestyle their income can’t support, but they are comfortable doing so,” said Gail Cunningham, spokesperson for the NFCC.

whereas credit cards often offer consumer protection features, including those against loss.


Consumers need to be aware of the consequences associated with continually carrying credit card debt from month to month, said Kathy Banks, Director of Counseling for Financial Pathways of the Piedmont, formerly Consumer Credit Counseling Service of Forsyth County, Inc. She said credit card users should make themselves familiar with the following facts:

Interest on a credit card is typically calculated on an average daily balance. For those who carry a balance over from the previous cycle, interest is not only charged on the unpaid balance, but on any new purchases added to the balance.

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added onto the balance month after month, consumers end up paying interest on the interest.

• Carrying a balance has the potential to negatively impact a person’s debtto-credit ratio, one of the main components of credit scores. • A higher balance decreases the amount of credit available for future purchases. However, there can also be disadvantages to charging too little. At the other end of the spectrum, a similar number of respondents, 21 percent, indicated that they do not use credit cards. While this approach to money management can avoid many financial pitfalls, it too has its problems:

• Although it is possible to pay cash or use a debit card for daily expenses, these types of transactions are usually not reported to the credit bureau. Most people need credit for major purchases such as a house or car, but without a thick and positive credit file, credit may be denied. 40 •

being able to purchase items or pay for services when cash is not readily available.

• Carrying cash is risky, as the money could be lost or stolen, • Credit cards provide a safety net for emergency situations. The majority of poll respondents, 61 percent, believe that paying credit card debt in full each month is the only responsible way to manage personal finances. The benefits associated with this type of behavior far outweigh any disadvantages and include the following:

• Timely bill payments and a low credit utilization ratio are

typically the top- weighted elements in credit scoring models. Therefore, this type of behavior could have a positive impact on an individual’s credit scores.

• The convenience of using credit can be enjoyed without paying any interest or penalties.

• The entire line of credit remains available for future use. • The stress and worries of being over-extended are avoided. People who repeatedly find themselves unable to satisfy their monthly debt obligations in full would be well served by reaching out to Financial Pathways of the Piedmont, an NFCC Member Agency, for a one-on-one financial review with an NFCC Certified Financial Professional. About Financial Pathways of the Piedmont Financial Pathways of the Piedmont (formerly Consumer Credit Counseling Service of Forsyth County) was established in 1972 as a 501(c) 3 non-profit educational organization to provide professional consumer education and comprehensive financial and housing guidance to all members of the community. A member of, and partially funded by, the Forsyth and Davie County United Ways, Financial Pathways of the Piedmont addresses the issue of personal finance as it relates to individual, family and community well-being, including the critical components of self-sufficiency and home ownership. It serves area residents through offices in Winston-Salem, Kernersville, Mocksville and Statesville. For more information, visit, or call (336) 896-1191 for an appointment. About National Foundation for Credit Counseling The National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC), founded in 1951, is the nation’s largest and longest-serving national nonprofit credit counseling organization. The NFCC’s mission is to promote the national agenda for financially responsible behavior, and build capacity for its members to deliver the highest-quality financial education and counseling services. NFCC Members annually help millions of consumers through more than 600 community-based offices nationwide.

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Winter Car MaintenanCe By Justin Cord Hayes

can create wonderlands, but it also can wreak havoc on your car. Have no fear! We’ve got everything you need to know to stay safe and to keep your car purring during the period when Jack Frost

Winter holds sway.

• Leaves block your gutters, so you remove them. Otherwise, you’re aware that water could do damage to your roof or to other parts of your house. The same holds true for your car. Those leaves that manage to work themselves into that gap near the windshield aren’t just annoying; they can stop water flow and cause leaks or corrosion. • Even though we don’t tend to receive sub-arctic temperatures in the Triad, they’re not unheard of. Thus, you should consider adding a bottle of fuel de-icer— available at most auto supply stores—to your tank once a month. De-icer keeps moisture from forming in your gas tank. For that matter, keep your tank close to full because it also helps keep your fuel line free from ice-causing moisture. • Check your tire treads. Winter tires probably aren’t a necessity in these parts, but worn tires can make your car much more likely to slip and slide in ice and snow. If you’re not sure you have sufficient tread, use the coin test. Take a quarter and put it into several different grooves. As long as George Washington’s head is covered by the tread, you’re safe. • While you’re at it, keep an eye on your tire pressure. Tires lose pressure as the temperature drops. An underinflated tire won’t have the traction of a tire that’s fully inflated and, thus, could cause you to hydroplane and have an accident. • If you’re not sure about the age of your battery, then take your vehicle to an auto parts shop and have it tested. Many stores won’t charge you for having your battery tested. After all, if your battery isn’t what it used to be, you’ll probably buy a new one on the spot. Cold weather makes your car’s battery work much harder than usual, so make sure it’s up to the task. • If your car is older, consider having its exhaust system checked for leaks. Even small holes can let deadly exhaust fumes into your vehicle. • Most newer cars have engine coolant that lasts for up to 150,000 miles. However, if you have an older car, then you might consider a “flush and fill,” which will remove sediment from your vehicle’s engine coolant system and infuse it with a sufficient amount of antifreeze. • Keep your windshield washer fluid filled. You’re likely to go through a surprising amount of it during even a mild winter. In addition, make sure you’ve got fresh wiper blades, preferably rubber-clad, winter-style blades. And some folks swear by this little tip: If snow and ice are imminent, pop your wiper blades up. This will make it easier to scrape your windshield free of whatever frozen detritus winds up affixed to it. • Wax your car’s headlights. Take standard car wax, rub it onto clean headlights, let it dry, and buff it off. Ice will have a harder time accruing on your lights as a result. • Finally, put together some sort of survival kit. Items could include blankets, boots, gloves, flares and/or a whistle (to summon help), kitty litter (for traction), a flashlight and batteries, a plastic bag (use it to gather snow for water) and some high-energy (and non-perishable) snacks. If you follow these tips and use your common sense, then there’s not much Old Man Winter can do to ruin your enjoyment of winter’s beauty. 44 •



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January Events to Keep You From Getting the Winter Blues By Sara Stanley fever is a growing epidemic for families during the winter months, and we have the cure for you. The cold weather doesn’t have to keep you inside and missing out on a new adventure. So bundle up the family and try out one of these events to keep you from getting the winter blues!


School is out… Winter camp is in! When the kids are out of school, the Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem offers special “Winter Camps” which they are sure to love. Try out one of these events to keep the kids happy when school’s out: NORTH POLE EXPLORERS: MLK Day: Monday, January 20th. “Puffins, seals, and polar bears, oh my! Stay warm at the Children’s Museum while learning how Arctic animals stay warm, what they eat, and how they live at the top of the world. Advance registration and program fee required.” SOUTH POLE EXPLORERS: Teacher Workday: Tuesday, January 21st. “Let’s experiment with snow and ice to find out why the South Pole is so much colder than North Carolina. Once we know how ice works, we’ll use our scientific skills to make our own ice cream. Advance registration and program fee required.”

Keep Moving! Stay active and keep your blood flowing with these indoor activities for kids of all (yes, even the “adult kids” can participate in winter-camps/ these fun activities!) Find Your Inner Artist! Having a craft or hobby is a great way ICE SKATING: Ice Skating is open to the public to spend time inside during the winter months. Not an artist? Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays through March at No worries! Try out one of these classes at the Sawtooth Center the LJVM Coliseum/Winston-Salem Entertainmentto help bring out the inner artist in you and your kids: Sports Complex. or 336-727-2978 AIRBOUND TRAMPOLINE PARK: “Don’t let gravity hold you down! Jump into a totally unique and cutting-edge experience at Airbound Trampoline Park, the Piedmont Triad’s only trampoline park. With over 12,000 square feet of custom-made trampolines adjoining the floors and walls, and set in a familyfriendly atmosphere.”

GREAT WOLF LODGE: Indoor Family Water Park located in Concord, NC. Just because it’s winter doesn’t mean your favorite summer activity has to end! Since the water park is all indoors, you can enjoy all the fun, regardless of the temperature outside. You can take a day trip to enjoy the water park or decide to spend the night in one of their many themed suites.

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By Meghan E.W. Corbett two seconds, someone is in need of a blood transfusion. That statistic is hard to believe, and the need for blood donation is always increasing. The American Red Cross has made it a mission to provide the amount of blood needed since its founding by Clara Barton in 1881.


“The organization introduced the first civilian nationwide blood program in 1948,” said Kara Lusk Dudley, communications program manager for the American Red Cross Carolinas Blood Services Region. “Today, the Red Cross is the largest single blood supplier in the United States, providing about 40 percent of the nation's blood supply.” While the need never subsides, the ease with which donations can be made has certainly improved throughout the years. “A lot of people tell us they are afraid of needles,” said Dudley. “I don’t really know of anyone who ‘likes’ needles, but if you think about what emergency patients or long-term blood recipients endure, a little needle stick is the least you can do to help save someone’s life, [who] could be someone you love at any time. One blood donation could help save the lives of up to three people; one in 10 people going into the hospital needs blood. To try and ease nerves, take deep breaths and relax. You can listen to music, talk to other donors or read during the donation process. You can also bring a family member or friend to talk with while you’re donating, and hopefully, they’ll want to join you and roll up their sleeves as well.” Though everyone is encouraged to try and donate as often as possible, not everyone is a candidate for blood donation. “Just 38 percent of the U.S. population is eligible to give blood, and only about eight percent of those people actually do,” said Dudley. “Most healthy people age 17 and older— and in some states, including North Carolina, 16 with parental consent—can donate blood. Donors must weigh at least 110 pounds, and those who are 18 and younger must also meet specific height and

weight requirements. All blood types are needed to ensure a reliable supply for patients. There’s a special need for type O-negative. Type O-negative blood is the universal blood type. This means type O-negative blood can be transfused to anyone who needs blood, regardless of their own blood type. Type O-negative blood is used during emergencies, when there is no time to determine the patient’s blood type. That’s why it’s especially important that people with type O-negative blood donate as frequently as they can.” The Red Cross makes it as easy as possible for everyone who can, to donate as often as possible. “The Red Cross is in your community every day, collecting and distributing lifesaving blood,” said Dudley. “We are fully committed to serving your local community, helping save lives and making safe blood available to patients 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year. We have the unique opportunity to supply blood to people whenever and wherever they may need it. We can quickly move blood to areas in need during times of shortage. We can balance supply and demand to maximize use of valued donations.” One woman in our community, Mary Alspaugh, has donated 15 gallons, or 120 pints, of blood in her lifetime. “Giving blood saves lives,” said Alspaugh. “I have had many friends who have had to have blood transfusions, and I thought how sad it would be if there was no blood available for them. I am blessed with good health and am able to donate, so I felt the need to step up to the plate.” To give some perspective, Mary’s donations throughout the years have impacted up to 360 people. “She wants to be an example to older people who think they can’t contribute to society any more,” said Dudley. “If you are healthy enough to give blood, you can contribute in a big way! She wants others to know that giving blood is easy. It doesn’t hurt and doesn’t take very long at all. The staff at the blood center is wonderful! Giving blood gives you a good, warm feeling to know you are helping someone else. ‘The need is constant. The gratification is instant. Give blood.’™ Giving blood is the easiest way to give back to others. You can have a direct impact in helping save not only one, but three people’s lives with one pint of blood— and, best of all, it doesn’t cost a thing.”

For more information, or to make a blood donation appointment, visit or call 336-725-4346, Ext. 445. Once you have made an appointment to donate, there are a few steps to take prior to donating. 1) A blood donor card, or driver’s license, or two other forms of identification are required at check-in. 2) Maintain a healthy iron level in your diet by eating iron-rich foods, such as red meat, fish, poultry, beans, spinach, iron-fortified cereals and raisins. 3) Get a good night’s sleep. 4) Drink an extra 16 oz. of water or nonalcoholic fluids before the donation. 5) Eat a healthy meal before your donation. Avoid fatty foods, such as hamburgers, fries or ice cream before donating. (Fatty foods can affect the tests we do on your blood. If there is too much fat in your blood, your donation cannot be tested for infectious diseases and the blood will not be used for transfusion.) Winston-Salem Blood Donation Center 650 Coliseum Drive Winston-Salem, NC 27106 DONATION HOURS: Blood: Mon: 1:30 p.m.– 6:30 p.m.; Tues: 12:30 p.m.–5:30 p.m.; Wed: 8:00 a.m.– 1 p.m.; Thurs: 12:30 p.m.–5:30 p.m.; Fri: 8:00 a.m.–1 p.m.; Sat: closed; Sun: 10:30 a.m.–3 p.m. Platelets: Mon: 7 a.m.–2:30 p.m.; Tues: 7 a.m.– 2:30 p.m.; Wed: 10:00 a.m.– 5:30 p.m.; Thurs: 7 a.m.–12:30 p.m.; Fri: 8:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m.; Sat: 7 a.m.–3 p.m.; Sun: 7 a.m.–3 p.m.

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Discovering Change in the New Year…it’s already in YOU! By Kelly Lewis, CPT

has arrived and here we go again…New Year’s resolutions, fresh starts, and promises made. Yet, just as traditional as are the New Year’s resolutions, is the tradition of breaking them. But what if this year were different? What if January 2014 marked the beginning of new-found health, strength and wellness? There is only one thing that will make this year different from the rest…YOU! This is YOUR year!


The secret is to find your source of inspiration. Inspiration is all around us. I’ve recently discovered a few sources of inspiration in my own life. I hope that they will encourage you to keep your eyes open to the inspiring moments in your everyday experiences that will push you towards change.

Inspired by Determination On one of my most recent runs though Tanglewood Park, I couldn’t help but feel affected by examples of inspiration all around me. It started out like any other run, tunnel-visioned and goal-oriented. However, on this particular day, I wasn’t feeling like my typically motivated self; I was, quite honestly, feeling sluggish and struggling to complete my mileage. As I entered mile two, I noticed a mom pushing her new baby in a jogging stroller. One thing was clear: she was certainly struggling, too. It was written all over her face. Yet, despite her weariness, I observed a powerful look of determination that is hard to mistake. She was pushing through, staying focused and unwavering in her efforts. It was as if she declared that she must simply continue to put one foot in front of the other. Without knowing it, she was encouraging me to do the same. Inspiration gripped me.

Inspired by Attitude On that very same day, I saw a father running while pushing his special-needs son in a stroller. He was obviously a seasoned runner, displaying a perfect stride and the contented look that only a regular runner might have. As happy as this father seemed to be, it was the look on his son’s face that captivated my attention. You see, despite his physical disability, he was filled with sheer joy. Without even realizing

it, this young boy impacted me in a way that I won’t soon forget. With the odds stacked against them, this father and son were a beautiful picture of the power of a positive attitude. That otherwise routine day ended up being one of my most memorable runs ever. Inspiration had struck again, when I had least expected it.

Inspired by Training In 2006, my husband set out on a mission to complete the Country Music Marathon in Nashville, TN. His training schedule was rigorous, often requiring him to run 15 miles in the freezing rain. His marathon experience was fulfilling, due in part to fellow runners he passed along the way. As he passed mile 16, he approached an older man from behind. He remembered thinking, “there’s the next runner that I’ll pass.” This unique runner was approximately 75 years old, covered in bandages and visibly hobbling. Clearly this wasn’t the vision of a marathon runner that one expects to see. Yet, an amazing thing happened. My husband never did pass that runner, and about 20 minutes later he could no longer even see him. The elderly man had picked up his pace and was using his seasoned training to finish strong, leaving my 40-year-old husband in the dust. This memorable runner had found something deep down inside of himself that my husband found both humbling and motivating. Inspiration was the result of this unforgettable encounter. I have the honor and privilege of being inspired every day by my clients. I have witnessed individuals change their lives right before my eyes. This didn’t happen overnight, but with consistent hard work and dedication. Some have had small hills to climb, while others were tackling mountains. What inspires me about these particular people is their determination, attitude and commitment to training. Kelly Lewis, CPT We all have these qualities inside of us. The challenge is to dig deep and find it. Inspiration is everywhere…it’s time to open our eyes!

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What I Want My Son to Know about Compassion By Justin Cord Hayes

is a word that evokes landscapes, planets and macrocosms. The word seems huge, like it only applies to the selfless acts of Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa, or Martin Luther King, Jr.—in short, of people who seem like fictional superheroes incarnate. What I’d like for my son to know about compassion is that it doesn’t have to be a solely wholesale concept. It can also be retail, microcosmic, and occur well within interplanetary boundaries.


Certainly, it can be spread across great distances. For example, I want my son to know that when people on the other side of the world go hungry, lose their homes to catastrophic acts of nature, or live under repressive regimes that thwart human beings’ freedom and independence, then

he should care about those men and women, those boys and girls. Recently, after the Philippines was devastated by Typhoon Haiyan, my son, Parker-John—and other kids from the congregation of Deep River Friends Meeting—decorated collection containers and asked worshipers to give what they could to help. He was very enthusiastic about collecting the funds, and I was very proud of him.

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But I don’t just want Parker-John to think that compassion is something one feels only after typhoons. I want him to know that compassion is the everyday culmination of countless acts of kindness and thoughtfulness. I think my son is amazing. Of course, every dad or mom thinks his or her son or daughter is amazing. But one of the things that I find pretty exceptional about him is that he is so thoughtful about other people, in spite of being on the autism spectrum. I’ve read up on autism, but I still can’t say that I understand it. Secretly, I believe that even autism experts don’t exactly know what the disorder is all about. Nonetheless, autism does tend to cause those who have it to be inordinately self-focused. Yet, my son tends not to be that way. His mother and I—though divorced for many years—both decided long ago that we would never allow autism to be an excuse for poor behavior, bad manners, or selfishness. Throughout his life, we’ve gently reminded ParkerJohn of one simple fact—a fact that many without autism seem to forget: you are not the only human being in residence on this planet. When you open a door, someone might be behind you. Make sure you don’t let the door slam on someone. When you’re winning at a game, then someone else is losing. Be proud of yourself, but be aware of your opponent’s feelings. When someone is unhappy, all he or she may need is a smile or friendly hello from you to feel better. When someone does something nice for you, say thank you.

I’m not taking credit for the fact that Parker-John usually demonstrates these little acts of compassion on a regular basis. And his mother wouldn’t say that she deserves the credit, either. We could have demonstrated these microcosmic acts of retail compassion until we were blue in the face, and they wouldn’t have taken hold and borne fruit without Parker-John supplying fertile ground for them. And like all kids, he forgets to be compassionate sometimes. But when he’s reminded, he’s quick to make amends. Realizing he’s fallen short and then wanting to atone for those shortcomings is just one more act of compassion that he practices regularly. Ultimately, compassion is akin to a telescope. If you look through one end, you can see people far away who deserve your financial or spiritual assistance. If you look through the other, you can see people right in front of you. Some of them are hurting. Some are helping you. Some are just sharing space with you. What I want my son to know about compassion is that he should never ignore those he sees through the large end of the telescope. But he should be ever-vigilant about seeing those who are just a smile, a hug, or a kind word away. In short, I want him to try with all his might to be a superhero incarnate.

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Reaching Your New Year’s Resolutions By Melissa Moses, MS, RD, LDN, and Katie Boles, RD, LDN Every New Year many of us fall into old habits. We tell ourselves that this year will be different. This year we will stick to our resolutions. Many of us don’t even stick with them for one month, let alone one year! So how can we make this year different and escape the pitfalls of New Year’s resolutions? Let’s start with the popular things we try again and again, but have a hard time doing long-term: • Dieting and calorie counting • Cutting portions • Avoiding our favorite foods • Going to the gym every day • Avoiding fast food • Cooking every meal at home There are many diets and quick fixes. Do they work? We find that they tend to make us gain more weight than when we started. Why? When we restrict or deprive ourselves of certain foods, we tend to overindulge in them later. When we set a high goal for exercising, we tend to stop, because it’s hard to stick with it. Finding the right way to set resolutions is key to changing your health forever. What works? Set small goals: By not overwhelming ourselves with high expectations, we’re more likely to follow new goals. For example, if you want to eliminate soda, don’t cut it out all together. Instead, reach your goal gradually by finding a lowsugar alternative to drink once a day. You can then switch to the alternative two times a day, and so on. You will find it easier not to have sodas every day by gradually decreasing your intake.

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Once you reach your goal, you can let yourself have soda on special occasions. Track your habits: Tracking is a way to help you stick to your goal. You will notice what is going well, and what you want to change. You can then set small goals based on the habits you tracked. Try tracking just one habit at first. Think of exercise as play: Exercise doesn’t have to be boring. Make it fun! Maybe you enjoy tennis, dancing or swimming. You can even plan family activities, such as hiking, kick ball, a trip to the zoo, or even a scavenger hunt as you walk in the neighborhood. Find the right balance of food: Do you want to cut your portions? Then try using the balanced-plate method. Aim for one quarter of your plate to be protein; one quarter, starch/grains; and one half, a mix of fruits and vegetables. By having four food groups on your plate, you cut your portions naturally. You will feel more satisfied and stay fuller, longer. Plan meals: When we plan, it makes our lives easier and helps us make healthier choices. By planning ahead, you can dodge stops for fast food, because you’ll already have dinner prepared. Remember: Keep your resolutions realistic. We recommend focusing on one habit at a time. Having a healthy relationship with food and having fun being active helps you enjoy yourself more. It also keeps you from being bogged down, trying to maintain an unrealistic lifestyle. The Brenner FIT team wants to help you establish healthier habits. For more information about free Brenner FIT Kohl’s Family Collaborative classes, e-mail Sara Ebbers at

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Held at Food Lion, Somerset Center Drive, Winston-Salem Do you wander around the supermarket wondering what is best for your family? Join Brenner Children’s Hospital dietitians for a personalized grocery store tour. Learn how to compare nutrition labels, watch for advertising tricks and discover costsaving measures. Day care not available.

My Kids Are Driving Me Crazy! 6 to 7:15 pm Tuesday, January 21, Topic: Back Talk Tuesday, February 18, Topic: Mealtime, Part One Tuesday, March 18, Topic: Mealtime, Part Two Discover how to replace punishment with respectful and effective tools to bring more joy into parenting. Each month a different parenting topic is discussed. Classes are Positive Disciplinebased and taught by certified Positive Discipline parent educators from the Brenner FIT program.

FIT Meals 5:30 to 7 pm Wednesdays, February 26 – March 26 This is an in-depth combination nutrition/cooking class. If you have enjoyed our basic cooking classes and want to learn more about nutrition, sign up for the FIT Meals series. Each week a different nutrition topic is highlighted during the class discussion. Following our discussion, the group prepares an easy, low-cost recipe. FIT Meals is a 5-week series; please sign up only if you are able to attend all sessions.

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Mall Walkers By Allison Pennell

most people go to a mall, the purpose behind the excursion is shopping. However, people have been finding a more rewarding—and less expensive—reason for these revenue-seeking facilities. Exercise.


Amy Cashwell, Kathy Triplette and Nicki Lane decided in March that they wanted to try Zumba. However, it wasn’t long before these church friends realized that perhaps this activity was not for them. “You get frustrated when you have young girls who can actually follow the routines and you can’t,” said Triplette, laughing as she and the other ladies recalled the experience. So, that is how they arrived at Plan B—walking. And when weather conditions don’t cooperate, that means walking at Hanes Mall. “We all knew we could walk, we didn’t have to be a member, and it’s free,” Triplette added. Our slogan became, “Well, at least we will move for an hour,” said Cashwell. And that is what they do in the mornings, twice a week. Looking at the pedometer attached to her waistband, Lane said the goal is 12,000 steps or 90 minutes, which usually amounts to six miles. This group, some days numbering as many as six, meets at 9 a.m. and walks the downstairs loop from J.C. Penny to Sears till 10 a.m. Once J.C. Penny opens, they continue to the other side of the mall. While the ladies have lost a combined 25 pounds, they have found this bi-weekly activity is about more than just getting healthy. “We have a great time of fellowship,” said Lane. “We’ve learned so much about each other’s lives and children.” Debbie Gambill echoed her, saying it’s a time for companionship, something to look forward to. Whatever the reason, they enjoy it. “It’s fun. We DO want to get healthy. But it is just fun,” Triplette said. “And we all feel better than when we started.” Joan and Bobby Mobley Married 57 years, Joan and Bobby Mobley have been walking regularly at Hanes Mall since 2008. They chose the mall as their destination because they wanted a place that was safe with flexible hours. “It gives us a reason to get up and get around since we retired,” Mrs. Mobley said. She also has an equally important reason that most can relate to. “I have to exercise so I can eat. “We don’t do it for fun; we do it for our health.”

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They walk Monday through Saturday, usually arriving at 10 a.m. They continue on for 90 minutes, averaging about five miles, Mrs. Mobley said. They, too, have a set routine. “We go in the entrance at Ruby Tuesday, walk through all the big stores twice downstairs. The last lap is upstairs, and we end at Chick-Fil-A to get a free coffee…as our reward.” The Mobleys have gained other rewards, as well. Mrs. Mobley says walking regularly has helped the arthritis in her back so much so that she is no longer on arthritis medication. The exercise has also helped with her cholesterol. Don Watson Don Watson has been walking at the mall six days a week for about four years. “My reasons are two-fold,” Watson said. “One, it helps the fitness of my cardiovascular system. Two, it gives me a chance to interact with people.” He says walking three to four miles each day has helped keep his blood pressure in check and his cholesterol level normal. “If I miss a day, the next day I can tell.” Watson said he walks the inner parameter of every department store on the first and second floors, sometimes stopping to discuss the weather, current events and deeper subjects, like Christianity.” “I meet a lot of people and get to give and receive smiles. A smile is good for everybody!”

Michael Earle, Forsyth Technical Community College Physical Education Instructor/Program Coordinator Earle says walking is the most popular form of exercise in the United States and is a great way for beginners to start an exercise program. And as the mall walkers have already come to realize, Earle said, walking, like other forms of cardiorespiratory exercise, provides numerous benefits to an individual’s health, including reduced risk of cardiovascular disease and diabetes, improved sleep, increased bone density and improved self-esteem. Earle, an avid runner himself, confirms that walking can definitely help conditions such as arthritis and osteoporosis, which Mrs. Mobley has learned first-hand. “Walking is a low-impact form of exercise that improves joint mobility and increases flexibility and strength. Often, walking/exercise is the best prescription.” And why is it that people who walk claim to just “feel better”? Earle says people acquire that “feel better” sensation because exercise causes endorphins to be released in the brain. “These endorphins act as naturally-occurring pain relievers and can induce a state of euphoria,” he said.These mall walkers can certainly relate, especially the ladies from Old Town Baptist, who have been told they were having WAY too much fun!

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Every January, Forsyth Family reserves a portion of the magazine for a Birthday Bonanza special edition! The following pages include advertisers whose job is to help you and your family celebrate! Save this section as a reference throughout the year, to help you plan those special moments that will become special memories. As you plan, be sure also to check out our Pinterest Board dedicated to Birthdays ( We think you’ll find some “pinspiring” ideas thereas well! No matter what date your birthday celebration falls on in 2014, we hope you have a magical one and a wonderful New Year!

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Give Your Kid a Pinteresting Birthday By Denise Heidel

all know those moms who seem to do it all. They are always put together. Their kids are adorable and charming. Nothing is ever storebought. They leave fairy dust (aka, glitter) on their children’s pillows when the Tooth Fairy pays a visit. And they are the moms who put together the incredible birthday parties that all the kids want to attend.


For those of us without the same creative juices as these Super Moms, we rely on Pinterest…where great ideas can be copied! Then we get the credit for being Super Moms, too! Consider these great ideas from the boards of Pinterest!

Minions rule! Thank goodness the Twinkie has made a comeback, so that moms everywhere can turn them into Minion toppers for birthday cupcakes!

We love the idea of transforming dump trucks into serving bowls! (Just make sure you wash them well first!) Great way to add a “Bob the Builder” or construction-site touch!

If your young sailor wants a nautical-themed party, take a page from the creative mom who wrapped utensils with a bit of twine and a lifesaver candy. (Such a simple idea, but totally genius!)

Candy apples at a Disney-Snow-White-themed party is yet again, simple and brilliant.

The mom who came up with the idea of cutting hot dogs into octopuses for a Pirate-inspired theme is a creative gem!

Popsicle sticks as airplane propellers on the front of cupcakes? Yes, please!

Surf’s up! Let the kids design their own surfboards, then build a bag of take-home treats from tropical-colored candies!

The night before their birthday, sneak into your child’s room after they are asleep and release dozens of helium balloons for a great surprise when they wake up the morning of their birthday!

As a Harry Potter aficionado, I don’t think any mom could go wrong with owl cupcakes, pretzel wands and floating candles.

For the families with twins, we loved the idea of a Dr. Seuss party celebrating Thing 1 and Thing 2!

Thanks to Pinterest, we’re no longer relegated to the party-theme aisle at the local WalMart or Target. Pinterest has helped moms everywhere to get their creative juices flowing and parents everywhere to inspire one another! To help keep the inspiration flowing, visit and follow our Birthday Bonanza board, where we’ll regularly post creative birthday party ideas! Be sure to also take advantage of the great advertising partners in our Birthday Bonanza section who are in the business of making your next party a success!

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house,” “Jumpy Castle”—whatever they are called, most every kid dreams of having an inflatable to bounce in at their birthday party. My kids start clambering to remove their shoes the second they see a party inflatable…whether we’re invited or not. Ten Little Monkeys strives to make that dream party (or event) come true, by being the affordable option.


You know the song and the story of the ten little monkeys, either from hearing it yourself as a child, or reading and singing it to your own children. Those little monkeys were determined to have a great time jumping! This makes it the perfect name for Ten Little Monkeys inflatable party rentals. The “Jumpstart” Ten Little Monkeys was started this year by local family Candido and Amy Villanueva as a way to supplement their income, so Candido could continue his proud role as stay-at-home dad to their small children. The Villanuevas love children and throwing parties, so this business was a natural choice. Not Just Your Average Bouncers Not only does Ten Little Monkeys offer traditional bouncers, they also have minibouncers for toddlers, inflatable wet (or dry) Villanueva Family

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slides and an interactive baseball homerun hitting inflatable. Some of their most popular rentals include The Big Wave (large stand-alone slide), Toddler Town (toddler bouncer combo) and the Dual Castle Combo. They also offer party add-ons, including tables, cake tables, chairs, tablecloths and paper goods, making them a favorite of party planners. Budget-Friendly Understanding what it’s like to raise young children on a budget, Amy explained, “With so many families on a budget these days, and parents wanting to provide memorable parties for their kids, we thought we would make these two things work together, by providing an affordable option for those who wanted to have an inflatable party. We understand everyone works hard to earn their money, and when they spend it with us, it is our hope they feel they have gotten value for their money.” Special Deals: For January and February birthdays and events, get in on the “Bouncing in a Winter Wonderland Special”—rent one inflatable and get a second one for ½-price (same-day rental, and ½-price item must be of equal or lesser value). Mention this Forsyth Family article to receive 10% off! (not valid with any other offer). Ten Little Monkeys offers a 10% discount to charities, preschools and other educational organizations.

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The summit of Mauna Kea at sunset.

T he Ultimate Gift

By Ben Curti

late father, Eleazar Curti, was born in Guadalajara, Jalisco, Mexico in 1925. He was a former world-class professor and scholar of foreign languages, and a world traveler as well. He, along with my mother, traveled extensively throughout the world in order to better understand cultures and how people lived. We were fortunate to have traveled all over the fruited plains of the USA, and Mexico, in particular, where we had our grandparents, aunt, uncle and cousins to visit.


In November of 1986, my father was diagnosed with prostate cancer. His oncologist initially gave him 1 year to live, but due to his strong physical nature and clean living, my father gave us 10 extra years before his passing in June of 1996. Before my dad passed away, he made a pact with my mother to take each one of us siblings on a trip anywhere in the world when we turned 50. My oldest sister, Emily, went to England in the spring of 2001. Next was my sister, Lil, who went to Portugal in the summer of 2003.

Fast forward to June of 2007, and I’m next in line and had always wanted to go to Australia. Well, my mother, being 81 at the time, didn’t feel as if she could physically make the long flight to Australia, so we settled on Hawaii. My baby sister, Martha, who is three years younger than I, also went on the trip, since we didn’t feel that my mother could handle long future flights. After a 10-our flight from Detroit to Hilo via Honolulu, we proceeded to spend 10 days on the Big Island and 4 in the Honolulu area on Oahu. The Big Island is big, indeed; at over 4,000 square miles, it is large enough to contain all of the other Hawaiian Islands put together! It is also known as the most diverse island in the world when it comes to weather/climate ranges, with 11 of the 15 classified categories of climates.

“My first plane flight and it was a trip with my Dad from Metro airport in Detroit to Mexico City in 1967. Notice the matching seersucker suits! I was a bit scared about boarding the big 707 jet, but after that first flight, I’ve been hooked ever since!”

There were several highlights of our stay on the Big Island. One of the most amazing and unforgettable visits occurred over a three-day period at the Volcanoes National Park on the east side. It is truly one of nature’s incredible places to visit, where you are immersed in conditions from those of the jungle, with exotic plants, to those of desolate, Mars-like terrain, with the hardened-lava flows. The Kilauea Volcano, fueled by the Pu’u o’o vent, has been actively spewing lava since 1983. While we weren’t able to get close up to the vent, due to high levels of noxious gases, we were able to witness from a distance the spewing of lava into the water, which means that the island is continuously growing—a true Ben, with mother, Betty Curti, at the Hawaii tropical marvel of nature! Botanical Gardens.

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One of the most unforgettable side trips was an excursion to the summit of Mauna Kea, which, at 13,769 feet, is one of the highest mountains on any island. It is home to some of the most sophisticated high-powered telescopes, which, I was told, can detect items at 13 billion light years away! After a glorious sunset, we were treated to a 2-hour stargazing tour, where I saw a majority of the planets, including a close-up look at Saturn with its rings! The entire sky looked like a speckled carpet, and that’s when you start to realize that there’s a Higher Power out there. It was very humbling, and an awesome sight to behold. Our 4-day stay on Oahu was highlighted by several beach excursions, but also a visit to the Punch Bowl, or the Cemetery of the Pacific. My mother lost her brother in the Aleutian Islands in WWII, and his body was never recovered. We were able to find her brother’s name etched on a pillar, and it was a very emotional and cathartic moment for my mother to have closure after 60-plus years. So Dad, thanks for opening our eyes to the world. You punched your final earthly ticket in June of 1996, and we will never forget how you took the time to do this for us. Our reservations have been made for our final flight, and, as they say, “We’ll see you soon.”

BrainCore Therapy: An Innovative Treatment for ADD/ADHD By Emily Eileen Carter

of children suffering with ADD/ADHD frequently feel overwhelmed and frustrated with the daily struggles their child experiences at home and at school. Often these parents have tried numerous therapies, medications and treatments with varied results. Triad parents might be surprised to find that one of the most innovative and effective treatments for this condition, BrainCore Therapy, is offered right here in Clemmons at Healthsource Chiropractic & Progressive Rehab.


BrainCore is an innovative drugless approach for treating many neurological-based conditions. It has been used to successfully to treat conditions such as ADD/ADHD, insomnia, migraines, memory loss, PTSD and anxiety. Patrick Moore, the Director of BrainCore, explains, “It’s essentially like putting a new circuit board in your brain. We work with patients to break old brain wave patterns and create new pathways for new habits and success.” Dr. Michael Riccoboni, owner of Healthsource Chiropractic & Progressive Rehab of Clemmons, believes in the power of BrainCore therapy to treat and cure serious neurological disorders. As he explains, “I was really excited to bring BrainCore Therapy to Healthsource Chiropractic & Progressive Rehab here in Clemmons. Several years ago, my father started experiencing unexplained seizures. After trying several medications, Braincore Therapy is the only thing that reduced, and then stopped, his seizures. Since going

DRUG FREE ADD/ADHD TREATMENT Your child CAN reach his or her potential and we can help! ADHD medications can have harmful side effects. We at HEALTHSOURCE can offer a breakthrough treatment for ADD/ADHD symptoms which can be due to imbalances in brainwaves. Using our neurofeedback program called BrainCore Therapy, we have achieved an 85% success rate in reducing or eliminating the symptoms which cause children to lose pace with their class in school. Methods that focus on reducing the symptoms of disorders like ADD and ADHD without medication can greatly improve quality of life. Non-invasive therapies that take into consideration the subtlety’s of the brains electromagnetic activity can help to develop lasting solutions. We feel so confident in our ability to help you we will offer you a FREE EEG to help decide if your child qualifies for our program. Help is only a phone call away. Please call us today for your appointment.

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through this therapy, my father has been seizure-free for over a year and half.” Though BrainCore is a relatively new and progressive therapy, there are over forty years of research that support the effectiveness of neurofeedback. The results of this therapy have been significant, and more and more people are turning to this therapy as they discover its effectiveness. As Dr. Riccoboni describes, “We’ve had over a 90% success rate using Braincore Therapy to treat ADD/ADHD patients. Nothing feels better than treating children struggling with this condition daily; then, they come back in and with their next report card and they’re on the A/B honor roll.” When patients begin the therapy at Healthsource Chiropractic & Progressive Rehab in Clemmons, they will experience a thorough intake process. Once started, the treatment lasts only twenty minutes, with total office time in/out of less than forty-five minutes. During the treatment patients are hooked up to an EEG (electroencephalogram) which transmits the brain activity to the computer screen. Visual feedback of the patient’s brain waves in the form of an animated game, such as Pac Man or a movie, is provided instantly. The animated game or movie only plays when the patient is producing the desired brainwave. If the patient’s brain stops producing the desired brainwave, the game or the movie will stop. Through this process the brain imbalance is corrected and alleviates the patient’s condition. Healthsource staff and therapists go out of their way to make patients feel comfortable and relaxed. As Patrick Moore notes, “When we treat children, we work hard to develop a relationship with our patients and their families. We monitor their progress each visit, ask how they are doing in school or sports, and if they have any questions. Our office works as a team to help the patient feel comfortable and reach his or her goals.” For parents seeking an alternative effective treatment for ADD/ADHD and patients with other neurological disorders, BrainCore therapy is a viable treatment program that offers results. As Patrick Moore concludes, “This therapy is a great alternative to medications, with no side effects. We have seen a lot of success here at our practice using this therapy. We hear from our patients that they feel more clear-headed, focused and successful each day.” To schedule a consultative appointment call: 336-766-5935. To find out more about BrainCore call and hear testimonials, visit: Photos by The Portrait Gallery January Issue 2014 • 61

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Location: Calvary Baptist Church (Winston-Salem) DivoreCare is a 13-week video seminar & support group / 336.714.5413

Location: First Christian Church (Kernersville) Guest Speaker: Candace Cameron Bure Candace, most commonly known as "DJ" on Full House, shares an inspiring message from her NY Times best-seller "Reshaping It All." Tickets: $12.00 (advance) / $15.00 (at the door) 336.996.7388

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Blood Drive JAN 16, 9:00AM -1:30PM Location: Davidson County Community College (Lexington) Sponsored by the NWNC Chapter of the American Red Cross / 800.733.2767

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CHRISTMAS YEAR ROUND By Tami Rumfelt always get a little sad each year when we take down the Christmas tree and pack up the ornaments and decorations. Christmas is my favorite time of the year and saying goodbye to the Holiday season is bittersweet. It’s nice to reclaim my living room and to see an end to the chaos of Christmas, but it’s usually with a bit of melancholy that we return the seasonal trimmings to the attic.


However, for Christians, Christmas is really not a once-a-year-thing, is it? It’s not something that we are meant to spend a month celebrating and then put away for another year. Even though the world may have turned it into something else, the whole point of Christmas is to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. Well, isn’t that something worth celebrating every day?

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Christmas gifts are given to represent the gifts given to Jesus by the “wise men,” and as a reminder that Christ is God’s gift to our dying world. But, shouldn’t we exchange gifts of our love and time all year long as a reflection of His love? Then there are all of those festive Christmas carols, anthems rejoicing at the coming of the newborn King. When you think about it, though, aren’t Christmas carols another version of praise and worship songs, not unlike those we sing along with at church and on the radio? In December, we appoint our homes with decorations, nativity scenes, lights and trees. But, our homes should be dedicated to the Lord and be a beacon of his light throughout the year, shouldn’t they?

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When the angel announced Jesus’ birth to the shepherds, he didn’t say, “I bring you good news of great joy that will be celebrated once a year on December 25.” No, the good news of his birth, life, death and resurrection should give us great joy all of the time. These verses from Ephesians paint a pretty accurate picture of what celebrating Christmas every day looks like: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Eph 4:2-3). If we will make an effort to live out these verses, treating each other with loving-kindness, we will carry the so-called “Spirit of the Season” with us all year long.

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Musing About… By Tim Roberts - Pastor of Sunrise United Methodist Church in Lewisville

Looking Beyond the Trivial

few years back, my daughters were about to get their drivers’ licenses. Such a prospect strikes fear in just about any parent, because at that point moms and dads move into a new stage of worry. We worry about if our child has been adequately prepared to take on this new level of responsibility. We worry if their intrinsic sense of direction is capable of bringing them home when their GPS fails them. We worry about other drivers, who seem to be too aggressive around our fledgling drivers. We worry about...well, let it suffice to say, we just worry.


But, over a two-year period, it was time for the babies to start wandering from the nest, hopefully in something that’s safe. So that got me to scouring the used-car ads. Trying to be a thrifty and frugal person with money now (it’s about time), when I look to buy or trade, I usually prefer to get something pre-owned. That, however, leads to the possibility of buying someone else’s troubles. With me, it’s more likely to be a given rather than a possibility, though. For whatever reason, I still think you should be able to get a decent car for under $2K, even if it is approaching the “Million-Mile Club.” Of course, I wouldn’t buy one like that for my children, but maybe for me, so that I could afford to get something newer and more reliable for them. It was about this time that I called about a car that sounded great, and for a pretty decent price—fairly low miles, new tires, no body damage, nice interior and a good-running engine. So what was the problem? Nothing, according to the ad. It was only after I called the fellow that I found out that one problem; it didn’t have a transmission! Now call me silly, but that seems to be a significant bit of information that was left out. But the seller still tried to sell me the car based on all of the other things, like he cleans the inside with Armor-all each month to kept the leather from splitting. I’m sure it is nice and shiny sitting there in his driveway, but still, it’s unable to move unless you push it!

I am beginning to think that it is just human nature to perpetuate the trivial rather than the central, especially if we haven’t grasped what’s really important. I also wonder if maybe that’s a systemic problem among a large percentage of church people and many churches, too. Too often, when we try to go out and tell the Good News, it becomes more about what goes on in our church, rather than about Jesus. Seekers of Jesus aren’t hungering for Bazaars and committee meetings, they hunger and thirst for Jesus. The Evangelist named John alludes to a similar situation in his gospel. In the twelfth chapter of John we can find these verses: 20 Some Greeks who had come to Jerusalem to attend the Passover 21 paid a visit to Philip, who was from Bethsaida in Galilee. They said, "Sir, we want to meet Jesus." 22 Philip told Andrew about it, and they went together to ask Jesus. The Greeks in this passage came searching for Jesus. They weren’t looking for theories or postulations. They weren’t at all interested in the “fan club” meeting, the Jesus T-shirts, or “I [HEART] Jesus” coffee mugs. They were looking for the real McCoy—they wanted Jesus. Now, I’m not down on church programs and events, or on our “feel good” expressions of faith. All of these have their place. I just hope that we make sure that, in the midst of all the hoopla, we don’t forget that what the world is really seeking. As we begin another new year, maybe it’s time to begin to resolve to become less enamored with all the stuff about Jesus and more excited about his essence and his presence. After all, Jesus never trivialized us. Godspeed,

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Our Lady of Mercy Catholic school Open Houses By Susan Woodall

the moment they are born, our children are more important to us than anything else. We strive to give them the best lives possible. Topping the list is their education. There are many choices and many factors to consider before making the decision about where to enroll them. Our Lady of Mercy Catholic School has several open house dates scheduled, in which you can get a first-hand look at the quality education available.


“At Open House, prospective families get a tour, meet teachers and learn what Our Lady of Mercy has to offer its students,” said Lara Davenport, director of advancement at Our Lady of Mercy Catholic School (OLM). “Our rigorous curriculum takes the Core Curriculum even further by integrating teachings of our Christian faith within it, so that our students learn the what and how, as well as the why. In addition, at Open House, families will be able to see the technology upgrades we have made in the past year. OLM is nearly halfway through a three-year technology update and now has interactive whiteboards in all classrooms. The elementary students have access to tablets on a rotating basis, and all middle school students will be given a personal tablet for class work and homework. OLM also has an online parent portal for school communications, homework and grades, that can be accessed by parents anywhere, at any time, via a mobile device.”

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OLM offers students programs that may not be available at other schools. “OLM’s ‘Buddy Program’ is something you don’t see at many other schools,” said Davenport. “The Pre-K, kindergarten and first graders are paired with 7th-, 8th- and 6th-grade buddies. They sit next to one another at weekly masses and do projects together throughout the year.” This relationship is beneficial to both the younger and older students, and bonds them as a part of the school’s community. “It is something which has to be witnessed in person to be truly understood and appreciated,” said Kim Vargas, parent. “The relationships which are established between the children, and even their parents, extend for years and years.

I cannot say enough about the Buddy Program and feel incredibly blessed for both of my children to have been provided with this experience.” Although academics coupled with a spiritual environment are the main focal points, OLM tempers this with community service and athletics, to make for a well-rounded student. “OLM nurtures the whole child: physically, intellectually and spiritually,” said Davenport. “There are athletic programs available, starting in kindergarten with track. Volleyball and basketball start in 5th grade and softball in 7th grade. The spiritual aspect can be seen daily with Morning Prayer and grace before and after meals, in addition to weekly Mass. Service to the community is also an integral part of OLM. Students are actively involved, through the Helping Hands of Mercy program, in visiting nursing homes regularly and collecting money, coats, food, shoes and other items for the disadvantaged." A wonderful team of parent volunteers organizes many activities that bring the school community together. They not only plan fun events, but also come together to help when a family is in need. “Mercy families have shown what a true family is all about,” said Davenport. “OLM families make meals for each other, visit the hospital and attend services—all to support one another. Our parents are the heart of our school; working together with our incredible faculty, they help make our school a close-knit family—one that is hard to find anywhere else.” OLM welcomes students of all races, religions, ethnicities and national origins. Tuition assistance is available, but a PSAS form must be completed and postmarked by March 15th in order to be considered. Plan to attend one of several open houses to learn more about OLM. “Children are held to high academic standards and challenged to their fullest potentials,” said Denise Steele, parent. “I know that Mercy is instrumental to my children’s future successes.”





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Many times in our community the needs of others are met one person or one family at a time. In 2004, a Sunday school class at Clemmons United Methodist Church adopted a family for Christmas, to help with food and gifts. Realizing that there were people who needed help year-around, four men from the class took a step of faith and signed the lease on a space that became Clemmons Food Pantry (CFP). Since then the Clemmons Food Pantry, now unaffiliated with any particular church, has partnered with Second Harvest to continue to reach out to the community. “We serve all 12 zip codes of Forsyth County, with our number of boxes of food distributed at 13,588, or more than 350,000 pounds of food, just last year alone. With our present location, our clients had to stand in the rain and cold and we didn’t have restrooms available; but with our new space, we are able to offer them shelter and restrooms as they wait. We want our clients to feel respected and valued and with this new facility, we are able to do just that,” said Kathy Kovack, Development Manager for CFP. With a diligence to be good stewards of donations, the Board of Directors of the CFP took their job of finding a new home very seriously, and they found the perfect new location. Reaching Those in Need

“In our quest to find a new home for the Pantry, the Board of Directors decided it was best to continue to lease our space, rather than spend money on bricks and mortar. We looked for property in the Clemmons area for nearly two years before this opportunity presented itself. Our landlords have been very considerate of our mission and our funds. We take very seriously our responsibility to use the money donated to the Pantry to feed those who are currently at a disadvantage,” Kathy commented. The new facility will be “no frills,” where the cabinetry and furnishings have been donated. But the community has really stepped up to meet the needs of a facility that meets the needs of others. “The new freezers and refrigerators will be bought with the funds the Salem Glen neighborhood raised from a cookbook they designed, published and sold for the sole purpose of raising money for the Pantry,” stated Kathy. In 2012, CFP became a 501 (c) (3), meaning that donations to the Pantry are tax deductible for most taxpayers. Get a Meal and Support a Cause…Win-Win Situation! Ruby Tuesday approached the CFP with their Give Back program, which has become a win-win for both Ruby Tuesday and CFP. “The third Sunday of every month is “Ruby Tuesday Feeding Hope Day” and 20 percent of all food proceeds are donated to CFP. Customers just need to mention to their server they are supporters of the Pantry, and the details will be taken care of for them. There’s no limit on the size of the party, and it is an all-day event,” Kathy said. Monies and food donations were particularly in need this past year, with the summer months being the worst. “Summer is hard for the Pantry because it is vacation time, and our community is out enjoying the pretty weather. Sadly, the children of our clients aren’t in school, either, and they aren’t getting breakfast and lunch provided, which increases a family’s need for food. Then with other circumstances, including state programs running out of money at the end of their fiscal year; the extended unemployment benefits program ending July 31; and, adding to this, the glitches in the food stamp computer system, the Pantry saw a 4-percent increase from last year to this year for the month of August. CFP has struggled to meet this need by purchasing extra food, so that all of our clients leave the Pantry with at least some food to help bridge the gap,” commented Kathy. With a new location and the continuing support of a giving community, CFP will be able to bridge the gap for those in need for a long time.

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CFP is always in need of donations and volunteers. For more information, visit The new location of the CFP is 2585 Old Glory Road and weather permitting client services will open on Jan 14.


you stop the car and walk into a church with a sign out front that said: “Come worship with us”? Would you? Really? Because I wonder, who is “us”? And if “they” are “us,” then who are “we”? Who am “I”? Are “we” the outsiders, if “they” are welcoming “us” to worship with “them”? And if there’s this evident distinction between “us” and “them,” do I really want to venture into that intimidating building, where I don’t know anybody, and expose myself to the very intimate and vulnerable practicing of worshiping God…with “them”? You see my dilemma.


Still, a lot of church buildings have a sign out front that cheerfully advertises, “Come worship with us.” They mean well. But is such a “welcome” actually the best way to really welcome “outsiders” inside? My 9-year-old daughter recently announced to her mother and me that she doesn’t believe in God anymore. She does believe in gods—just not our “God,” you know, the one with the long beard, the one up there in all those stained-glass windows, the daddy of Jesus. Our daughter believes in Greek gods. Zeus, god of the sky. Poseidon, god of the sea. She can name them all. I’m thinking maybe it’s time we try something new. The people out there—“them,” as I suppose church insiders call the outsiders—aren’t buying it. Church attendance has been sliding since it peaked in the year I was born (1961), and one in five Americans today belongs to a new denomination with a decidedly undenominational name: the “Nones.” As in, “None of the Above.” There are more Nones among us than Methodists. More Nones even than Baptists. For some in the religion business—and I do mean the business of religion—this is ghastly. Shameful.

A sure sign that the end is near. Me, not so much. A lot of my best friends are Nones. They see no compelling reason to “go to church.” And if you asked them, they probably wouldn’t say that their lives are any less complete because of it. A lot of Nones probably agree with Diana Butler Bass, an author, seminary professor (and current churchgoer) who describes her childhood memories of church this way: “We were white-glove Methodists, all dressed up each Sunday, and all sitting politely in our pews. I do not recall that anyone in church ever looked particularly happy.” I really don’t long for the days when churches were full of white-glove churchgoers, “all sitting politely” in their pews. I don’t want church members in pews just so we can say we have so many church members in pews. I doubt that our God of the stained-glass windows would want that either. My wife and I aren’t panicking, and we’re not washing our 9-year-old’s mouth out with soap whenever she speaks of Zeus and all the others on Mount Olympus. But it is interesting that our daughter believes more in Greek gods, because she’s read about them in the “Percy Jackson” fantasy novels that she and her fourth-grade classmates are gobbling up. She believes in these gods of mythology, because they seem more real to her. I’ve visited a lot of Christian congregations with a lot of different names out front, and I can’t say that most do as good a job of bringing their hero to life as do my daughter’s fantasy novels. While many congregations in this country are dying what might be described as a somewhat self-induced death, it’s not necessarily the only avenue available to them. Last year the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life reported that even among the Nones, 64 percent say they believe in God or a universal spirit with “absolute certainty.” It’s not that they’re not looking; they’ve just given up trying to find that holy presence in cold and concrete church buildings. Even when there’s a well-meaning sign out front imploring “them” to “Come worship with us.” Butler Bass spent three years visiting 50 Protestant congregations that are bucking the downward trend. “Too often, churches think that if they add guitars to worship, put DVDs in Sunday school rooms, or open a food court, new people will join,” she wrote in “Christianity for the Rest of Us,” which documents her study. Instead, she found, people want relevance. They want community. They want to be wanted and they want to give back. People want this. Not just “us.” Not excluding “them.”People want this. Churches are by no means perfect. My faith tradition tells me that God doesn’t expect us to be perfect. When my daughter tells me again that she doesn’t believe in God, I’ve learned to nod without judgment and reply with one thing that I do believe amid these oceans of doubt. “Well,” I tell her, “God believes in you.”

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Ashlee & Cheri Murphy of us have heard a story of someone traveling to a remote village in a far-away country in order to help those less fortunate. We admire their efforts, but wonder if we could do something similar one day, or find an organization that would support us through such a demanding experience. But for Ashlee and Cheri Murphy, admiration quickly turned into action this past summer.


Ashlee, a junior at Calvary Baptist Day School, had a dream to be a part of a mission team that traveled to another country with the goals to minister in a school setting, as well as offer free medical clinics throughout remote villages. Live in Love Ministries helped make that dream a reality. “Live in Love is a nonprofit organization that sends out people from all over the country, around the world to share the gospel,” said Ashlee. “Live In Love ministries was founded in 2003 and operates today in seven different countries. It builds homes for homeless families, provides medicine and life-saving surgeries for those in need, builds church buildings, feeds and clothes thousands of people, builds clinics and much more. God is truly doing something great through this organization and the people who participate in the mission trips.” Ashlee and her mother, Cheri, joined eight others on this mission trip to India. “My mom found the organization Live in Love and contacted them,” said Ashlee. “In less than 24 hours, we received a phone call from the team leader saying that the first conference call for the trip was the next night. With a lot of faith and prayer, everything simply fell into place in an amazing way. Little did we know at the time, but one of the teachers at my sister’s school was the son of the family we would be staying with in India at the Vijaya Deepam Home. From that point on, we knew God would be orchestrating our trip from beginning to end.” Mission work is not easy and requires very special participants to be successful. “Mission work is something that I have felt God calling me to do since I was in the fifth grade,” said Ashlee. “God gave me a curiosity for the country of India that year, and it all started with a simple research project on the people of India and their religious beliefs/practices. My goal in being a part of this mission team was to be able to share the love of Christ and to plant seeds in the hearts of students that will eventually grow into

them accepting Christ as their Savior.” The group stayed with a family which had taken in 10 girls who would have otherwise been homeless. Rather than call their home an orphanage, they call it a family. The Murphys’ group took all the girls on a shopping excursion, where they spent donations on clothing and some fun items. “Just the ability to buy a little piece of candy was so much fun for them and made us realize just how much we can tend to take things for granted,” said Ashlee. “I had no idea the depth of the needs in India until we pulled into the village and I saw first-hand just how desperate these people truly are. Being able to provide them with even a glimpse of the hope from above, was something I wanted to do over and over and over again, because being able to provide a human soul with hope is a priceless thing.” Even though Ashlee received no medical training prior to her trip, she was able to make a big impact during her travels. “I received no ‘training,’ simply because my job was to love on and play with the kids who came,” said Ashlee. “However, I led worship as the vocalist and keyboardist with a group of four guys. Regarding that, I have taken piano lessons for nine years and voice lessons for three years, and received help from my teacher, Mrs. Queen, in the weeks leading up to the trip. Going on this mission trip was the best experience of my life! We saw God work in so many different ways and in so many people's lives during our two weeks there. Seeing the poverty of India firsthand has opened my eyes and given me an even stronger desire to go out into the world and share the truth of the gospel with the people of India.” For more information about Live in Love Ministries, visit the website at

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Defining Healthy By Triad Moms on Main Guest Bloggers Melanie A. Cole, MEd, EdD, Counseling Psychology Doctoral Candidate and Barb Andresen, RD, LDN best gift you can give your children in teaching them about their bodies is to role model and to teach respect; respect for themselves, their bodies, as well as respect for others. This respect comes from helping them learn to communicate with their body. Similar to teaching kids how to verbally communicate, this is a skill that can be taught and learned.


Communicating with their bodies will assist them throughout their entire life. What their body is saying, what messages the body is trying to relay and how to respond appropriately is the key to keeping ourselves safe and healthy. Responding to our bodies does not always mean responding with food. Responding to our bodies might mean we need sleep, a hug, to talk to a friend, or to journal. Since all bodies are different, teach that we have to learn how our individual body responds to various foods. Teach them to learn to seek out information about what they are putting in their bodies. Help them to learn how to find this information from resources that are not trying to solicit business or money. Teach them about the effects of media, gimmicks and fads. Ask them what they think of the old slogan “no pain, no gain” and how that might reflect respecting their bodies. Teach them to be gentle to their bodies. They are truly a wondrous gift. Talk to kids about their body, by teaching them how it works. Bones and muscles will communicate with them, too. Don’t say anything about weight. Consider not having a scale in the house and teach them to listen to bodies by how they feel, rather than what a scale or what a BMI reading might say. Compliment them on something that has nothing to do with their body. Don’t comment on other people’s bodies, either. Nope. Not a single comment; we never know another person’s story. Teach them about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards themselves. Teach them about acceptance, all sizes, colors, intelligence types, etc. That relays respect and diversity.

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Don’t talk about how much you hate your body in front of your children. Don’t talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your kids. Don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your kids should never think that carbs (or any foods) are evil or bad. Shame over what we eat only leads to shame about ourselves, which is the opposite of respect. Buy a variety of foods and have kids try different foods for different nutritional value. They don’t have to like them, but trying them encourages taking chances. Encourage your kids to run and play because it is fun and can make them feel less stressed. Teach them about growth spurts and that at times our bodies might need different foods and amounts to grow respectfully. Encourage your kids to climb mountains, because there might be opportunities to explore their spirituality, and possibly see and feel things that could be unforgettable. Encourage your kids to surf, rock climb, or mountain bike, because it challenges them and allows them to have a new experience. Help your kids love soccer, rowing or hockey, by being willing to play with them. Playing sports can make them better team members and leaders, which can increase their confidence. Teach them that their bodies will always be changing, and that they can learn how to adapt to those changes. Teach them about being flexible with their activities and food choices. It can help them stay creative in taking care of, and respecting, their bodies. Teach your kids how to cook; they might learn to enjoy the process that can be had from learning new things. Pass on the gift of being outside and the joy that can be found from inhaling fresh air. Teach them how to harvest a garden. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes. It’s easy to focus on the less perfect parts of our bodies, so encourage them to focus on the parts of their bodies they do like, and be proud of who they are.




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Classes and camps are available in ballet, pointe, partnering, jazz, tap, lyrical, boys and girls hip hop, and competition for dancers of all ages. Contact us for more information! Natalie Mizell, Owner & Artistic Director

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• Discover public/magnet schools and their unique curriculums (i.e., STEM & arts), as well as cutting through the red tape in understanding lottery bids, zones and transportation • Learn about private schools with their diverse offerings to 12th grade, and receiving news on voucher options

The Family Dilemma— What School Is The Best Choice?

• Hear more on the charter programs and their specialties for varying grade levels • Address developmentally appropriate education needs through The Centers for Exceptional Children (The Special Children’s School and The Children’s Center), as well as ABC of NC Child Development • Connect to School Readiness & Expanded Learning Experts, such as Imprints Cares • Community sponsors supporting activities and tools for family learning, fitness and fun

By Nikki Byers

• Keynote speakers, such as Dr. Beverly Emory, Superintendent-WS/FCS, providing new insight

we gear up after the holidays, the race is on for parents (and grandparents) of rising kindergartners and school-age children to begin asking—WHERE WILL YOUR CHILD GO TO SCHOOL THIS FALL?

The answer to the best choice is not as simple as it used to be—parents ultimately want to know will the school they pick do a good job for their child. And let’s face it, very few of us are experts and appreciate connecting with those that can support making a more informed decision.


And, in Forsyth County, families are overwhelmed as they evaluate the best school choice for their child/children, supporting their abilities and growth to graduation success. Fortunately for our county, that selection can be different for each child.

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We are frequently asked about fluoride and its role in healthy, young teeth. Fluoride is a mineral that offers protection from bacteria, sugars and acids that can be harmful to tooth enamel. Children can get fluoride in drinking water and in toothpaste, but it is also found in many foods and beverages. Making sure your child eats a balanced diet with plenty of calcium and vitamin D is a great way to keep teeth healthy. Dentists may also recommend a topical fluoride treatment during dental visits at various stages of your child’s development for added protection.

by Dr. Tina Merhoff

The American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Dental Association and the Centers for Disease Control are all in agreement that water fluoridation is a safe and effective way to reduce and even prevent tooth decay. The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends using a “smear” of toothpaste on children under the age of two twice each day. Children aged 2-5 can use a “pea-size” amount - and ALWAYS monitor your very young children when they brush...both for the effectiveness of the brushing and to monitor the amount of toothpaste used. Toothpaste is not meant to be ingested, and it can cause illness or be toxic if ingested in high amounts.

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Drawings for lots of door prizes! KMO Prize listing from December event at Lowe’s Foods in Clemmons Two tickets to the Nutcracker – Doug McMillan

$25 Mac & Nelli’s Gift Card – Tammy Boturla

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$25 Which Wich Gift Card – Kimberly Jorgensen

2 tickets to WFU Basketball game – TJ

$20 Tart Sweets Bakery – Jennifer Wrights

$25 Omega House Gift Card – Cuningham

Family 4 pack Disney on Ice tickets – Jen Struder

Two riding lessons at Cash Lovell – Margaret Norman

$25 Phoenix Grille – Kerry Plantz

$25 Cupcakes by Three – Elizabeth Taylor

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Sweet Dreams for Everyone In the Family. night, Love! Sweet dreams! I will see you in the morning!” I had spoken those words for months with the confidence that I would see my boy’s bright eyes and smiling face around six a.m.; however, our family’s well-rested nights were impacted once he reached the seventh month. Teething transformed my naturally sleep-trained child into an inconsolable, unhappy baby. While we sought out professional advice in various forms, our personal philosophy and belief has largely influenced how we overcame his irritable and pained state. My husband and I continue to agree: the real “trick” to sleep training is maintaining a consistent bedtime routine. As most parents learn, the sleep patterns of babies continue to change into the toddler years. Parents who educate themselves on methods and medications can make well-informed decisions for their child.


Once born, babies find comfort in hearing sounds similar to those they hear in utero. White noise not only has a calming effect, but it also prolongs a child’s ability to remain asleep. While sleep machines are available in mobiles and stuffed animals, one way to ensure a constant restful sleep is to “repeat all” tracks on a babbling brook or rainstorm CD. Dads and moms can also benefit from white noise for two reasons: it eliminates the normal sounds a baby makes during the night and promotes a deeper, more restful sleep. Additional methods are: •

The Rock-and-Play Sleeper, similar to a hammock, which allows the baby to sleep in an inclined position, provides a feeling of envelopment and security.

Lavender lotion or spray.


Using a pacifier.


Warming the bed.

The professionals’ claim sleep training can begin when a baby is six months old. By no longer requiring a nighttime feeding, babies can sleep

By Lisa S.T. Doss

independently. While numerous methods, including the “Cry It Out” and “The No Tears Method,” have worked successfully, too often it is the child, not the method, that needs to be taken into consideration. “With my first child, I had a hard time listening to him cry for long periods; so, I would put him in his crib and touch his face, rub his back, or massage his legs. Singing or talking helped, too. With each visit, I spent less time in his room. He needed comfort, and I felt that was more important than a three-day child-proven method. John and I had the same belief, which made bedtime that much easier,” shares Leah Miller-Stevens. Beth Johnson shares a different approach: “We tweaked the ‘Cry It Out Method’ and found the method worked for us. Our daughter was comforted by what surrounded her, the appearance of stars on her ceiling and the songs on her CD player, which made the experience positive for all of us.” The most vulnerable period for a baby is when he or she awakes during the night. Whether parents use touch or song, a pacifier or voice, creating a sleeping environment to help the child re-enter a deep sleep can be challenging. Maintaining a routine, especially prior to that first birthday, will encourage babies to become self-soothers and sleepers. Teething is always an adjustment period for parents, and can occur as early as the sixth month. Drooling, tender gums, irritability and the excessive need to chew on something are symptoms. Pediatricians will suggest a pain reliever such as Motrin for infants, which is the same as Ibuprofen, as well as Baby Orajel Naturals. Teething tablets, although homeopathic, are widely used by parents; however, research the ingredients and read reviews to ensure you feel safe in giving the prescribed two tablets at bedtime. Transitioning from a crib into a toddler bed, or a regular one, is a significant moment for a child—and the parents. It is a stage of independence. Rules may need to be established to ensure your child spends his or her time sleeping, rather than playing. While parents may think the nightly interruptions may be over, nightmares do occur. Continuing a bedtime routine is especially important during the toddler years. Talking quietly and reading books, putting puzzles together or singing nighttime songs will soothe and comfort your child into a night of pleasant thoughts and sweet dreams. January Issue 2014 • 79

Assisting Elementary Children to Become Self-Sufficient Test Takers By Lisa S.T. Doss many times have you heard, “Mom, I have a test tomorrow. Can you help me study?” Parents may fear this question is developing into a pattern; but, do not worry, your child is not a procrastinator. He or she is truly seeking assistance, because the rules or methods of studying have yet to be established. Teaching an elementary-aged student that studying is a process of time, and is not completed the night before, is going to take some patience and conversation. Essentially, elementary students are practicing and experiencing aspects of school that may not be easily understood right now; yet, with guidance, establishing good study habits will improve their disposition toward taking tests. Here are a few suggestions:


Getting Organization The first step is to help your child create an organizational system—this will benefit you, too, mom! Short-term and long-term assignments, and especially tests, should be posted in a centralized location in the house, like a kitchen, for instance. Calendars or dry-erase boards are wonderful visuals. Take it one step further and color-code for one child, or use one specific color per child in the family. Not only are you helping your child to develop a means to plan, but it also accommodates “seeing” first-hand the days remaining on a particular assignment or test. Once children enter middle school, the use of a daily planner will become essential. Why not emphasize the point now! Since this new method may not become an overnight sensation, you may need to encourage them. Planning to study three days in advance will also help your child improve his or her feelings toward the testing process.

Studying Strategies Flash cards are a great method to help young learners study vocabulary; historical words, events, or people; grasp chronological orders or story events. Children initially will need help preparing the cards, as well as learning the various ways in which to use them. The auditory learner can now practice talking through definitions, while the visual learner can study through writing. Tactile learners can combine practices and add actions, such as walking, bouncing, or drawing. Once learned, cards can be placed in a “known pile,” which will allow students to focus their attention on a smaller grouping.

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Younger children who may not be ready to use flash cards will love drawing pictures to complement vocabulary words or parts of a story, for instance. With this method, students can create a mental image, which may assist in triggering the definition. This tool may also help students who have anxiety during testing. Parents can still recall the order of operations, simply because they learned “Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally!” Acronyms will help children improve their memory skills by connecting information to something familiar. Once material is learned, children will be able to come up with their own catchy acronyms and verbalize this method as one of their favorites. Studying does not have to be limited to a particular location in the house; instead, utilize moments when you are driving him or her to school, or folding towels together. Sometimes talking about the material in relaxed situations can help foster details, as well as create confidence. Using open-ended statements, such as “Tell me more” or “What else do you remember?” allows the student to think calmly and respond without the need to feel pressured.

Testing Strategies Not only are elementary students learning about how they learn, but also how to take various types of tests. It is very easy for young children to become anxious about the assessment process; therefore, here are a few known strategies to enforce when they are being tested. • Students, no matter the age, should correct immediately returned quizzes or tests. It will help students understand why they might not have achieved certain score and improve confidence. • Read directions at least twice. • Underline key words in a question. • Cross out unlikely answers. After testing, allow your child to decompress. Discussing strategies and feelings allows students to make different choices when another testing opportunity is anticipated. Teaching strategies for studying and testing is one way to prepare students for success.

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Newton’s Law By Meridith Whitaker

all remember the scene from 8th grade science class. Imagine you're driving down the road, with your seat belt securely fastened, of course. Out of nowhere, a cat/fox/skunk/ animal with a fluffy tail and no sense of its own mortality dashes across your line of vision. EEEEKKK - you slam on the brakes. The car stops, but you don't. Your body continues moving forward (until counteracted by the seat belt) because of a little thing we like to call "inertia."


An object in motion tends to stay in motion and an object at rest tends to stay at rest. How do we know this is a scientifically proven fact? Because it has a fancy name: Newton's First Law of Motion. Change isn't something that comes easily for us, have you noticed that? Not just the big, life-altering, heartbreaking changes. I'm thinking about the little things. The day-to-day things. An object at rest tends to stay at rest; I guess we have Newton to blame for the horrendous feeling that comes almost every morning right as the alarm clock goes off. It's the same thing transitioning into a work week from a fun weekend. You know how Mondays are... (There is a short video from “Office Space” here- Case of the Mondays) So why doesn't anyone ever come down with a case of the Tuesdays? It's because we're already in the swing of things by then, and are sometimes (depending on the job) actually enjoying it. Here is one I think everyone can relate to: exercising. It can be so difficult to muster up the energy to get your gear on, get your tennis shoes tied, and trek over to the gym. In the middle of your workout, though, those endorphins are flying and you're on top of the world! Thoughts of "why don't I do this more often?!" and "I'm going to sign up for every class this gym has to offer!" pass through your mind. Most of the time it's not the job or the exercising that we hate. It's the transition. Most of the time when I'm busy and focused, when I'm in the middle of something, I enjoy it. Getting from point A to point B, however, sometimes requires an almost physical push. I think this idea transfers to bigger situations. It's why people stay in detrimental or simply mediocre relationships; it's always easier to stay than to change. It's why people settle for any number of mediocre circumstances in their lives. We like comfort, and whether we are "in motion" or "at rest," we tend to stay that way. Transition is uncomfortable; sometimes it is downright scary. Whether you're facing a big change in your life, thinking about tackling a new project, or just dealing with the small transitions we all go through daily, try to remember that getting started is the hardest part. And try not to stay “in motion” or “at rest” for too long out of habit; sometimes the beauty is in those uncomfortable transitions. 82 •

following serves as a general guideline for all the to-do’s as you count down to Prom!


3 months before Prom: • Decide on your budget for everything, from the dress or tuxedo, shoes, jewelry, hair, makeup and nails, to limo, dinner, tickets to prom, boutonniere or corsage. • Discuss with your parents what they will contribute and what extra work you can do around the house to help cover some of the costs. Look for other ways to earn money to cover expenses. • Girls, begin shopping for your dress, shoes and accessories.

2 months before Prom: • Buy your tickets. • Make appointments for hair, makeup and nails. • If you’re going in a group, begin to organize some plans, including dinner arrangements, limousine, before-prom pictures, after-party, etc. • If you’re having an after-party, be sure to talk your plans over with your parents. It’s not cool to hit them with last minute 2 weeks before Prom:

1 month before Prom: • Schedule any final alterations to your dress. • Order corsage/boutonniere from your florist. • Boys, begin looking for a tuxedo. Ask your date for a fabric swatch so you can match her dress.

2 weeks before Prom:

• Verify appointments with stylist, limo, and confirm order with florist, as well as your dinner reservations.

• Verify appointments with stylist, limo, and confirm order with florist, as well as your dinner reservations.

• Finalize your group plans.details!

• Finalize your group plans.

The Day Before Prom: • Get a manicure/pedicure, if you’re planning to!

Day of Prom: • Leave yourself plenty of time to get ready. • If you have a hair/makeup appointment, be sure you wear something button-up that doesn’t have to go over your head! • Stop by the florist to pick up the corsage/boutonniere. • Make sure you’ve left enough time for Mom to take dozens of pictures! • Pick up your date on time and/or be ready on time! • Have FUN! And be SAFE! 84 •

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Prom STYLE The Perfect Look Doesn’t Happen Overnight! By Martie Emory new year signals a new prom season on the horizon and the ever-exciting quest for the best look—and we do mean his and hers!


Just like all fashion categories, prom looks come and go, and always emerge with new trends every season. Formal wear shops in the Triad will keep a keen eye on what's new and fun. Look for illusion necklines, cap sleeves and lace which are the trends in 2014.

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For the guys, classic black tuxedos are still the goto choice, but a handful of other colors are gaining popularity: heather grey, charcoal grey, tan and brown. On the men’s side, demand for bow ties has grown tremendously in the last few years—in place of the more formal tie. If he wants to coordinate with what his date is wearing (hint!), think bow tie or cummerbund in the same color as her gown.

Many girls will be leaning towards more neutral colors, including champagne, blush, salmon and the always-classic (and flattering!) black. Feminine chiffon is still a favorite, often adorned with chunky stone beadwork, and the playful mermaid silhouette remains popular, although it’s definitely not suitable for every figure.

Many guys want more of a slim fit in their tuxes because that is what's popular in movies and on TV shows. But just like body-hugging dress styles, the more modern formalwear fit is not for everybody. That’s why formalwear shops concentrate on helping every customer find his or her most flattering look. Ask if your formal wear shop offers a prom registry so that no two girls at any one school are dressed alike!

If you’re working to get in better shape before prom season, bravo! But keep in mind that your basic shape won’t change, even with the loss of a few pounds. When it’s time to start trying on gowns, be sure to bring shoes similar to what you’ll likely be wearing—along with well-fitting undergarments. Think about expressing your personality, but also keep in mind that classic never goes out of style. When you look back on your prom photos in 20 years, you may be pleased you chose a timeless look!

Shopping early to find the best attire for you and your personality is essential. New prom gown looks for 2014 began arriving in stores in December, so now’s the ideal time to skim the racks and let the shopping begin. Relying on the expert services of a reputable store which knows the importance of dressing for happy memories is also wise, and they’ll be your best source for easy alterations, if needed. Staying true to your figure and personal style will help your most beautiful self emerge radiant on the big night!


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Small Stories for a Big World By Kim Underwood


celebrate a nephew’s birthday, Garnet and I offered to take him and his brother out for dinner. The four of us, plus the two of them, made it a two-car operation. The plan was for me to take one of our kids and a nephew in my car and for Garnet to follow in hers with the other kid and nephew.

let me in. He or she was gracious about it, too. No honk or anything. Whatever the person had to say about me in the comfort of his or her own vehicle was well deserved. (Garnet, who had thought I had changed my mind about how to go to the restaurant, had the good sense to drive straight.)

If we were going back to our house with them, we would have gone straight through the intersection at Silas Creek Parkway. Beforehand, I had told Garnet more than once that, to get to the restaurant, we would be turning left at Silas Creek. After we picked up the boys in our car, we somehow got off on the topic of boneheaded things I had done behind the wheel in front of Garnet’s dad (and the boys’ grandfather), Tim.

As I continued down Silas Creek to the restaurant, I felt grateful that my mistake hadn’t resulted in an accident, and I remembered some of the drivers I had thought ill of for their driving blunders. It seemed clear that I needed to do penance by giving such drivers the benefit of the doubt. For good measure, I figured, I should probably do my best not to get mad at overtly cloddish driving, such as following too closely, as well.

There was the time that I had forgotten that Garnet’s car was parked directly behind mine in front of our house and backed directly into it while Tim was standing there. No damage to either car—just embarrassment for me and amusement for Tim.

It’s a given that, when you make a resolution, you will be tested, and, in the days that followed, it seemed as if the percentage of both driving bungles and overt aggressiveness increased significantly. Originally, I had imagined keeping my resolution indefinitely. But, after (more or less) maintaining my equanimity for a couple of weeks, I started thinking, “Surely, there’s no need to slough off such outrageous behavior forever. That’s asking too much of myself.”

And then there was the time that Tim was following me down Burke Mill Road with assorted family members in his car, and I turned one intersection before I should have. It proved to be a cul-de-sac, so I had no way to hide my mistake by continuing on. As I turned around, I wondered what he would have to say when he stepped out of his car after we arrived at our destination. About the time I finished those stories, we came to the intersection with Silas Creek. The light was red. When the light turned green, I began executing my left turn, only to realize to my dismay that I was turning from the straight-ahead lane. I had utterly spaced out and had been driving as if we were going back to our house. Thank goodness, the driver in the true left-turn lane was alert and

A day or two later, I found myself in Walkertown approaching an intersection that had Stop signs for the other street and no Stop signs for the street I was on. There, right in front of me, someone, without a pause, ran her Stop sign. It was, without a doubt, an excellent example of driving obliviousness. It felt like a gift. Nothing bad happened. If I could let that go without being irritated, surely, this was the perfect time to say that I had successfully completed my period of penance. I smiled and silently thanked her.

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have always been a passion for Sam Platt. Those who had the opportunity to enjoy his ribs or barbeque at a company picnic or family gathering would often encourage the former restaurant manager to open his own place. When a friend mentioned that the original owners of Honky Tonk Pig Smokehouse were retiring and wanted to sell, Sam and his wife Susan decided that this might be the right time to make it happen. After a quick family meeting, their four kids and even their parents loved the idea and all were on board to help staff and grow the small eatery with a big reputation.


Sam and Susan bought the take-out restaurant in June of this year. They dropped “Pig” from the name to promote Honky Tonk as an equal opportunity eatery, serving beef brisket, pork barbeque, baby back ribs, chicken, turkey breast and smoked sausage. Continuing the Honky Tonk tradition, Sam hand-rubs the meats with special spice blends and slow-cooks them over a hickory fire until they are “fall-off-the-bone” tender and delicious. Honky Tonk Smokehouse serves meats that are hand-pulled or sliced, not finely chopped, with a special barbeque sauce served on the side so the customer is in control of the taste. They also offer chicken wings, Brunswick stew and a slew of sides and desserts, all made to order in the restaurant to complete your meal. Since the meats are prepared overnight, the restaurant sometimes runs out of popular items on a busy day. They encourage you to call ahead to place your order and it will be ready and waiting for your arrival.

Photos by Amanda Worley

Honky Tonk Smokehouse is not able to offer seating in their current space, but hopes to add a dining area in the coming year. Although HTS is happy to provide lunch or dinner to a single customer, a large part of their business comes from providing meals for events such as company luncheons, backyard parties, tailgating, family reunions, civic events and wedding receptions. In addition to their take-out business, they can provide delivery and serving at your location for special events. They will work with you to develop the combination of food and services that works for your needs and your budget. They also have joined up with TakeoutTriad ( to deliver to their hungry but busy customers. Come by to meet them at 145 Jonestown Road in Winston-Salem and experience food made the Honky Tonk Smokehouse way. HTS is open 11:00 – 8:00, Tuesday through Saturday, and can also accommodate special orders outside of those standard hours.

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By teen columnist Isabella Migliarese isn’t just the start of a new year; it’s the opportunity to start a new lifestyle. Everybody talks about making resolutions, whether it is to lose weight or just to kick a late-night Netflix addiction. But teenagers do not take New Year’s resolutions as seriously, because…we’re teenagers! Most teens do not want to add any more on to their full plate of schoolwork and extracurricular activities. I have been guilty of not making any resolutions in the past, because I didn’t think I needed to improve on anything in my life, even though I was very mistaken.


Over the past three years I have slowly started neglecting my physical and emotional health. This neglect started after my father suddenly passed away; I did not cope well with the shocking loss and I turned to comforting myself with bad food choices. Due to continued weight gain over these past three years I have recently been diagnosed with pre-diabetes, and I also discovered I had an endocrine disorder. Though I was deeply saddened by how far I had let myself go regarding my health, I was not surprised by this diagnosis, because I knew if I kept letting myself eat whatever I desired, this would eventually happen. I still could not help asking myself, “How did I let it get this far?” As most teenagers can understand, I let my schoolwork become my biggest priority, instead of finding a balance between schoolwork and exercise.

As for the endocrine disorder, I was surprised. I had never heard of this disorder before, and I was scared because I did not know what impact it would have on my life. I am still scared, because after learning all the negative effects of the disorder, I found out it could have a serious impact on my health down the road. Though this disorder can be treated, it will be more of a challenge due to my pre-diabetes. But staying positive and motivated is the key to making a real breakthrough in a lifestyle change. I am sharing my current personal challenges because I know obesity and pre-diabetes is an issue some can relate to. I have realized that this is my line in the sand. I have to make a major lifestyle change now or suffer consequences, such as heart disease and diabetes later in life. This New Year I am vowing to make a positive and healthy transformation in my life. With support and knowledge, I am going to make serious lifelong changes in my habits and nutrition. I want to live a long, happy and healthy life. I also want people, both teenagers and adults struggling with the same issues, to know that you’re not alone. Sometimes realizing you have dug yourself into a hole decreases motivation, because people think they cannot dig themselves out—but everyone must realize you can dig yourself out! Being obese, having pre-diabetes or diabetes, does not mean your life is over, it means you have been given a wake-up call and need to choose a new and healthier life path.

“Out and About” in Winston-Salem

“March of Dimes Signature Chef’s Auction” By Heather Spivey November 15th, the 8th annual March of Dimes Signature Chef’s Auction was held at the Embassy Suites in downtown Winston-Salem. There were around 380 guests who gathered to enjoy the local flavor, prepared by fabulous chefs from 1703, Finnigan’s Wake, Milner’s American Southern, Jeffrey Adams on Fourth, Meridian, WS Prime, The Porch, 2520 Tavern, Village Tavern, Fratelli’s Italian Steakhouse, Artisan Restaurant, Noble’s Grille and Dessert by Dewey’s. The chefs also generously donated wonderful packages for the live auction.


The Honorary Chairs were Jimmy and Julianna Strickland, and Sara-Peyton McCormick was the event chair. The 2013 Ambassador Family was Tommy and Maureen Elrod. They shared their personal story about their son, Byron, passing away, and how the March of Dimes is funding research, so that other parents do not have to go through infant mortality. The March of Dimes is working towards the day when all babies are born healthy. As guests enjoyed the fabulous array of foods and cocktails, they mingled through the silent auction that was provided by many of the local establishments. The event raised approximately $144,000 for the greater Triad Division of March of Dimes. The March of Dimes helps moms have full-term pregnancies and healthy babies. 2013 is a special year for the organization, as they celebrate their 75th Anniversary. More than 4 million babies are born in the United States each year, and the March of Dimes has helped each and every one of them through research, education, vaccines and breakthroughs. For more information on events with the March of Dimes, visit

If you would like to have your event in an upcoming issue, please contact Heather Spivey at January Issue 2014 • 93

The Artist’s Corner


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Our f e a t u r e d a r t i s t s for this issue

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LS, Grade K, Sherwood Forest Elementary Teacher: Stephanie Parsons

Catherine Windham, 12th Grade, Reagan High School, Teacher: Jennifer Willard

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Chelsea Bradshaw, 9th Grade, Reynolds High School, Teacher: F.P. Benenati Alexa Shelton, 11th Grade, Reynolds High School, Teacher: F.P. Benenati

quote for this issue “Art

is everywhere, except it has to pass through a creative mind.” ~ Louise Nevelson

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Let it Snow! By Emily Eileen Carter and Kristi Marion first snow of winter sparks that sense of wonder in all of us, and there’s nothing like the anticipation of a real snow to get the kids jumping and squealing around the house. There’s always that old saying, “Wear your pajamas inside out for a better chance of snow.” This January, as your kids hope and dream of the possibility of snowmen and snowball fights, bring the snow into your kitchen, even if those delicate, white flakes decide not to fall. You and your loved ones can create these snow-inspired recipes and “Let it Snow!”


COCONUT SNOWBALLS 1 cup sweetened, flaked coconut, divided 1 cup all-purpose flour 1¼ cup powdered sugar pinch of salt 6 Tablespoons butter 1 teaspoon vanilla 2 Tablespoons milk Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit. 2. Grind ½ cup of coconut in the food processor. Chop the remaining coconut and set aside. 3. Add flour, ¼ cup of powdered sugar, and salt to blender mixture. Pulse to blend. 4. Add butter and vanilla, pulse until dough comes together. 5. Roll dough into 1-inch balls and place 1 inch apart on ungreased baking sheet.

WHITE SNOWMAN PIZZA 6. Bake until dough-ball cookies are firm but tender, about 15 minutes. 7. Cool completely. 8. Meanwhile, mix remaining cup of powdered sugar with milk. Add more milk if needed. You want mixture to be smooth, but still thick. 9. Let the kids help dip dough-cookie balls into powdered sugar mixture, let glaze drip down the sides. 10. Finally, have kids dip or roll dough balls in chopped coconut, and set aside to dry.

SNOW ICE CREAM 8 cups fresh snow* 1 cup white sugar 1 Tablespoon vanilla extract 1 can sweetened-condensed milk Directions: 1. When it starts to snow, place a clean bowl on your porch, deck or outdoor stoop to collect fresh snow. 2. When bowl is full, stir in sugar and vanilla. 3. Add milk to desired consistency, stir, and serve immediately. *Real snow makes this recipe extra special, so cross your fingers for the real thing! However, if Mother Nature is not cooperating, substitute shaved ice.

olive oil nonstick spray 2 balls prepared pizza dough, divided into 3 ¾–1 cup ranch dressing (or substitute alfredo sauce) 2–2½ cups mozzarella cheese, shredded 6 large black olives pepperoni small carrot Directions: 1. Spray long cookie sheet with nonstick olive oil spray. 2. Divide pizza dough into three balls: one large, medium and small. Using a rolling pin, roll out the three. Place the largest at one end of the cookie sheet, using hands to stretch it to desired shape. Overlap the medium with the large pizza dough disc a little, then add small one, overlapping the medium dough disc, patting out a rim on each. 3. If making a “white” snowman pizza, use ranch dressing or alfredo sauce as base sauce, covering each disc. 4. Top with cheese. 5. Add the 2 black olives as the “coal” eyes and mouth (or substitute sliced red bell peppers for mouth); carrot for the nose; and pepperoni for buttons and a scarf. 6. Bake at 500º for 10–15 minutes, until crust is golden, but be sure not to let the cheese brown, if you’d like to keep the snowman “white.” January Issue 2014 • 95

January Calendar of Family Events

Enjoy delicious food from our large menu selection as our friendly staff offers you a pleasurable dining experience. Quality and unsurpassed service await you at Mac & Nelli’s Weekly Dining & Drink Specials: Monday: Create your own pasta station $9.95 Adults, $4.95 Children

Tuesday: Wings Wells & Wine Night! 25 Cent Wings/$3.00 Well Drinks & $5.00 Wine Wednesday: Ladies’ Night, $5 Martini's



1:30-4:30pm, 321 West 4th Street in W-S. Explore the culinary delights and taste the best of downtown Winston Salem at six local restaurants. Meets chefs, learn history and taste a specialty dish at each stop on this guided walking food tour. Cost: $47. 406.6294

2-4pm. If you have tried resolutions, goal setting or willpower to change, you end up in defeat and frustration. Join Duke Certified Integrative Health Coach, Angela Savitri, as she reveals three secrets to create lasting change in 2014. Cost: $25. 919.673.2813



10am-4pm, SciWorks, 400 W Hanes Mill Road. Try your hand at building and launching your own planes, rockets and helicopters while uncovering fundamental principles of flight in this exciting traveling exhibit. 714.7109

JANUARY 5 COOKING CLASS: CLASSIC ITALIAN SUNDAY DINNER 5-7pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. In this class you will learn hands on how to make with confidence the most succulent meatballs and sausage, and, who knows, maybe even start a tradition in your own home. Cost: $42. 777.3660

Thursday: 25 cent WINGS! $2 Bud Light Drafts $3 Blue Moon & Red Oak Drafts

Friday & Saturday: Prime Rib

Friday Night Music for January: January 3 - Katelyn Marks January 10 - Jamie Carroll January 17 - Sean Mettler January 24 - Evan & Dana January 31 - Owen Poteat

Mac & Nelli's wants to wish everyone a Happy and Prosperous New Year! Thank You to all of our Customers for supporting us over the last two years. We appreciate your patronage!

JANUARY 7 COOKING CLASS: SOUPS WITH MARY 6-8pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. Learn some fabulous new soup recipes, including lemon chicken, curried red lentil and butternut squash soup. Cost: $42. 777.3660

JANUARY 8 COOKING CLASS: MASTERING SEAFOOD 6-8pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. This class will cover a wide range of seafood, including: Southern pickled shrimp, steamed mussels in local wine, salmon en papillote, bouillabaisse and pan-roasted cod with capers and meyer lemon. Cost: $42. 777.3660

JANUARY 9 FORSYTH WOMAN’S 100 ISSUE CELEBRATION! 5-9pm, WinMock at Kinderton in Bermuda Run. Forsyth Woman is about to reach a milestone, and we're celebrating with a HUGE Girls' Night Out, but EVERYONE – men and women – are invited! Cost: $20/person. Tickets include food, wine, DJ, photo booth, lots of prizes and a great night of fun! Celebrate 100 issues of Forsyth Woman and 5 years of GNO! The first 100 to register will receive a gift bag!

Learn to Cook A Balanced Meal – BrennerFIT

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(see ad pg 53) 5:30 to 6:30 pm, Thursdays, January 9, 16, 30 (Chicken Stir-Fry) During this hands-on cooking class, your family will prepare a balanced meal and learn how it meets Brenner FIT recommendations for a balanced plate. Mature children welcome with parental supervision.Join the experts from Brenner Children’s Hospital for this FREE Brenner FIT Kohl’s FamilyCollaborative class. Registration is required. Classes are held at Brenner FIT in the William G. White Jr. Family YMCA, 775 West End Blvd., Winston-Salem.

2-5pm, 400 W. Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Work as a team to create an animated short film using "SAM" (Stop Action Movie) software and premiere your film at the “Animation Showcase.” $15/family for SciWorks members; $25/family for non-members. Pre-register at 714.7105.

JANUARY 12 COOKING CLASS: ALL THINGS SWEET POTATO 5-7pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. Learn to cook with sweet potatoes from the best! The menu will include a marinated sweet potato and shrimp salad, sweet potato corn muffins and a sweet potato risotto. Cost: $42. 777.3660

JANUARY 13 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10am-12pm, William G. White Family YMCA, 775 West End Boulevard in Winston-Salem. Enjoy a morning of fun and play! Activity stations, free play, Bounce House, arts and crafts, games and facility tours available. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board and will include a special drawing for a three-month William G White, Jr. Family YMCA membership (cannot be used on a current membership) 721.2100

FORSYTH PIECERS AND QUILTERS GUILD MEETING 6:30-8pm, Parkway Presbyterian Church, 1000 Yorkshire Road in W-S. Guild member Tim Rickman will present "Traveling to Quilt Shows." Tim is a retired school teacher who has become an enthusiastic and prolific quilter. 724.9509

GOLDEN TRIAD CHORUS HOSTS INTERNATIONAL AWARD WINNING COACH 6:30-9:30pm, First Presbyterian Church of Kernersville. International gold medal-winning chorus director, Susie Smith, will visit to coach local Sweet Adelines chorus, the Golden Triad Show Chorus. Choir Directors and close harmony fans are welcome. 706.1209

JANUARY 14 COOKING CLASS: LUNCHTIME EXPRESS: CURRY IN A HURRY 12-1pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. Learn how to prepare a quick, easy, economical and tasty vegetable curry to serve with rice or steaming couscous perfect for a cold winter evening. Cost: $22. 777.3660

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6-9pm, 1450 Fairchild Road. Community Garden Mentors are needed to support and develop community gardens in Forsyth County. Those who complete the program will have the gardening and community development skills needed to help gardens in their communities flourish. 703.2853

11am-3pm, 400 W. Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Bring your 5th grader to a “musical instruments petting zoo,” so they can try the instruments and learn how they produce sound with help from the North Forsyth High School Music Honor Society! Included with museum admission. 714.7109


Winter Camp at The Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem

11am-12pm, Arboretum Office at Tanglewood Park, behind the Manor House. Extension Master Gardener Volunteer and Greenhouse Curator at Tanglewood Arboretum, Sherry Sunday, will discuss how to make more plants from what you already have or what your friends may have to share. 703.2850

9 am-4 pm (*4:00—5:30 pm aftercare available) North Pole Explorers (MLK Day), 1st—4th grade Puffins, seals, and polar bears, oh my! Stay warm at the Children’s Museum while learning how Arctic animals stay warm, what they eat and how they live at the top of the world.



6-8pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. Menu will include pork cheek, crawfish and tasso ham atop grits, chicken cacciatore, spring house Southern style "hot pot." Cost: $42. 777.3660

6:30-8:30pm. Bradley Method® classes are small and thorough, providing you with the education and support you need to birth naturally. We cover preparation, physiology, emotions, relaxation, positioning, breastfeeding, Dad's role and more! Cost: $300. 450.4605

(see ad on pg75) 10 am–2 pm, What School Is the Best Choice for Your Child? Old Salem Visitor Center at 900 Old Salem Road. FREE event! Register today!

COOKING CLASS: THE ART OF CHOCOLATE MAKING: CHOCOLATES WITH FILLINGS 6-8pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. Learn how to create caramels, cherry cordials and other filled chocolates. There will be plenty of sampling and lots to take home! Cost: $25. 777.3660

JANUARY 17 PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON GRAND OPENING AND MOTIVES MAKE-UP LAUNCH 9am-7pm, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 6 in Clemmons. Ribbon cutting at 9am. At 5pm we will be launching Motives make-up. There will be vendors, hot dogs and wine. Come join us to meet the stylists and see what Paparazzi is all about! 893.7169

JANUARY 18 The Children’s Theatre of Winston-Salem The Monster Who Ate My Peas (see ad pg73) 11 am, All performances will be held at the Arts Council Theatre, 610 Coliseum Drive in Winston-Salem. General admission tickets are $10 and premium seat tickets are $14. Call (336) 748-0857 x203 for tickets or order online at Recommended for PreK through 2nd grade audiences, The Children’s Theatre production of The Monster Who Ate My Peas will be performed by ArtsPower. The play is approximately 55 minutes long.

BOOK SIGNING 8:30am-12pm, 6275 Shallowford Road. Children's book author, Michele Marlene Manderine, will be signing copies of her book, "Tristan, The Maine Coon Cat" at The Coffee Mill. 778.1290

COOKING CLASS: ARTISAN BREADS 11am-1pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. Learn the art of bread making! This class will make rosemary and sea salt focaccia, brioche, whole wheat bread and Indian-inspired naan. Cost: $25. 777.3660

JANUARY 21 Winter Camp at The Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem 9 am-4 pm (*4:00-5:30 pm aftercare available) South Pole Explorers (Teacher Workday) Let’s experiment with snow and ice to find out why the South Pole is so much colder than North Carolina. Once we know how ice works, we’ll use our scientific skills to make our own ice cream.

My Kids Are Driving Me Crazy! - BrennerFIT (see ad pg 53) 6-7:15 pm, Topic: Back Talk. Discover how to replace punishment with respectful and effective tools to bring more joy into parenting. Each month a different parenting topic is discussed. Classes are Positive Discipline based and taught by certified Positive Discipline parent educators from the Brenner FIT program. Registration is required. Classes are held at Brenner FIT in the William G. White Jr. Family YMCA, 775 West End Blvd., Winston-Salem.


JANUARY 16 2nd annual IMPRINTS School Connections

COOKING CLASS: WANT S’MORE? MARSHMALLOWS & MORE 6-8pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 S. Stratford Road. Make your own s’mores…from scratch! Master handmade marshmallows and perfect cookies to create a one-of-a-kind s’more experience that will leave you wanting s’more! Cost: $25. 777.3660

JANUARY 23 GROW YOUR BUSINESS USING EMAIL MARKETING AND SOCIAL MEDIA 6-8pm, Sawtooth School for Visual Art. This session is presented by Jim Jubelirer, an experienced public speaker, business coach and authorized local expert for Constant Contact. This workshop is designed for small businesses, artists and nonprofit organizations. Cost: $40. 723.7395 ext. 211

Moonlight Design Open House TO CELEBRATE OUR NEW LOCATION! 4-8 pm, 402 Ricks Drive, W-S, NC 27103 Please RSVP: 336-499-1573 or Hors d’oeuvres and beverages provided

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(Next to Mario’s Pizza & Full Moon Oyster Bar.) January Issue 2014 • 97

Advertiser Index 201 Media Production ...............................11

Honky Tonk Smokehouse...........................91

Salem Smiles Orthodontics .......................71



Salem Windows & Doors...........................39

Alice’s Place .............................................57

Imprints School Connections.....................75


Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa .............13, 85

Ballet & Performing Arts Centre .................73


Soccerplex ................................................57

Bonefish Grill ......................................87, 91

Kilwin’s .....................................................21

St. Johns Lutheran School .........................63

Braincore Therapy......................................61

Kingery & Kingery, DDS.............................23


Breeden Insurance.....................................19


Studio Create.......................................55, 57

Brenner Fit ................................................53 Busy as a Bee Concierge ...........................42

C C3 Fitness.................................................49 Care Net Counseling..................................24 Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center ...............7 Carolina Urological Associates...................11 Cash Lovell Stables & Riding Academy......57

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics.....................55 Locke Chiropractic.....................................51 Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates.............17


SciWorks.............................................19, 56

Sunrise United Methodist Church...............64 Susan Maier-Colon - Berkshire Hathaway Home Services ..........................................39

Mac & Nelli’s ......................................87, 96


meg brown home furnishings.....................23

Tanning Studios.........................................85

Minglewood ........................................63, 85

Ten Little Monkeys.....................................56

Chamberlain Place Apartments ..................39

Moonlight Designs ....................................71

Chang Thai................................................91

Moore Self Storage....................................47

Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics...............89


The Dragonfly House .................................20

Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem.......57

New Town Bistro ..................................87, 91

Tina S. Merhoff & Associates...............28, 75

Chris’ Lawncare .........................................45

Novant Health ...............................back cover

TJ’s Body Shop .........................................55

Christina’s Dessertery....................57, 91, 97

Nu Expression ...........................................83

Cloverdale Ace Hardware & The Bee’s Nest ..........................................43


Cornerstone Healthcare .............................35 Cupcakes by Three ..............................56, 91

D Danielle Kattan - Cakes, Pastry, Cuisine ....57 DreamMaker Bath & Kitchen ......................45

Ogburn Stables Ranch ...............................56

The Children’s Theatre of Winston-Salem...73

Triad Eco Adventures .................................13 Trustient ....................................................21

Old Vineyard Behavioral Services...............11

Twin City Soccer........................................73

Omega House Family Restaurant................91


One Shot Photography...............................81

V’s Barbershop....................................37, 85

Our Lady of Mercy Catholic School ............67




Edward Jones ..............................................9

Pauls Cycling ...............................inside front

WBFJ 89.3 ................................................65

English’s ...................................................86

Phoenix Grille......................................87, 91

Which Wich?.............................................91


Pintxous Pour House..................................91

Winston-Salem Annex Ice Rink ............10, 57

Financial Pathways ....................................41

ProDance Academy ...................................57

Forsyth Country Day School.......................25


Forsyth Woman Congratulations! ..inside back

River Ridge Tap House.........................87, 91

Fresh Air Carpet Care.................................42

Roger Marion Automotive ..........................45

WS Dash ...................................................57


Rolly’s Baby Boutique................................27

Winston-Salem Dental Care.......................33

Hawthorne Eye Associates .........................21

Ruff Housing .............................................37

Hayworth-Miller Funeral Home ..................67


Hip Chics ............................................27, 35

Salem Academy ........................................33

YMCA of Northwest North CArolina ......17, 57

Home Instead ..............................................3

Salem Gymnastics...............................35, 57

YWCA .......................................................56

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Winston-Salem Cleaning Service...............47 WomanCare...............................................27


Forsyth Woman on your 100th Issue!

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