Dear Lonnie: Can I date someone with different values? It's less about the what and more about compromise right? From, How important are values
Some values could be a touch bendable, like, you really love to volunteer to give back to the community, and he isn't into it but encourages you to continue. That's ok. That's where compromise comes in. But, some bigger values could make the difference. Let's say you don't share the same beliefs but you want to get married and have children. Then, what does the wedding look like? What faith do you raise your children to follow? Are you on the same page about responsibilities with aging parents? Are you willing to compromise on these big issues or others? Even in your day to day life, your values play a roll. Whether you realize it or not, they are at the forefront of your behaviour. If you are with someone that doesn't share the same values, it can lead to disagreements, hurt feelings, feeling misunderstood and failure.
Dear, How Important are Values,
Nothing is ever a 'never'. There's a chance it could work, with very clear communication and respect on both ends. But I believe it will take a lot of work. So it's really up to you to decide how much extra effort you want your relationship to be? Also as a reminder, it's important that neither of you lose who you are in compromises. If the compromises aren't balanced by each of you, the relationship becomes one sided.
The shor t answer, in my experience, is no not successfully. Let me explain.
This person might make a better friend then a partner. I wish you luck for the best outcome.
Your values and morals are what make you who you are. They are the driving force of the person you are from day to day. They are built from the things that you find important or believe matter. So let's say you meet a guy, you seem to get along. You've gone out for dinner, movies, met a few of his friends and he makes you laugh. All of this stuff on the surface seems great! You're happy and excited to see him again. No w if yo u r int ention is to j us t date th i s g u y f o r f un. To hav e a good time, then go fo r i t . However, if you are dating with the intention of it becoming serious, then it's a really good idea to have some conversations. Where do each of you stand on getting married? Having children? How to raise them? Pets or no pets? Do you have the same beliefs? This is where the values will step in.
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