DERETTA COLE RHODES, PHD, Building Legacy and Inclusiveness Finding Her Voice: e Journey of TRAVEL IN
Breaking Stereotypes, Embracing Adventure +
sherrod
THE ROADMAP TO SUCCESS
CONTACT US
CHERYL MAGAZINE
Williamson Media Group, LLC 6101 Long Prairie Road Box 744 #269 Flower Mound, TX 75028 info@cherylmagazine.com
Please include your name, mailing, email address, and telephone number with any correspondence. Cheryl Magazine is not responsible for returning unsolicited manuscripts.
Editorial Email editorials@cherylmagazine.com
TO SELL CHERYL MAGAZINE IN YOUR STORE info@cherylmagazine.com
ISSN: 2766-6352 (Print)
Cheryl Magazine, a lifestyle and women’s empowerment publication, is a Cheryl Polote Williamson, LLC (CPW) quarterly produced by Williamson Media Group, LLC (WMG) 6101 Long Prairie Road, Box 744 #269, Flower Mound, TX 75028. Periodicals postage paid at Flower Mound, TX, and additional mailing offices. Postmaster: Please send changes of address to Cheryl Magazine, 6101 Long Prairie Road, Box 744 #269, Flower Mound, TX 75028. Subscribers, allow 6-8 weeks for change of address to become effective. Subscriptions ordered are non-cancellable and non-refundable unless otherwise promoted. Return postage must accompany all manuscripts, drawings, and photographs submitted if they are to be returned, and no responsibility can be assumed for unsolicited materials. All rights in letters sent to Cheryl Magazine will be treated as unconditionally assigned for publication and copyright purposes and are subject to unrestricted right to edit and to comment editorially. Requests for permission to reprint should be sent to the Permissions and Reprints Department by emailing info@cherylmagazine.com and placing “Request for permission to reprint” in the subject line. The title Cheryl Magazine is registered in the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office. Contents copyright © 2024 by Williamson Media Group, LLC. All rights reserved. Nothing can be reprinted in whole or in part without express written permission from the publisher. Printed in the U.S.A.
CHERYL MAGAZINE
A lifestyle and women’s empowerment publication
Editor-in-Chief | Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson
Executive Curator | Shannon Skipper Green Jarrett
Contributing Editor | Charmaine Roots Castillo
Contributing Editor | Dr. Michelle Kindred
Contributing Editor | Tess Alexandria
Financial Editor | Roni M. Talley
CONTRIBUTING WRITERS
Felicia Brown
Alexandria L. Barlowe
Siobhan Davenport
Laurie A. Evans
Dr. Maria Flowers
Dr. Donna Hunter
Alaina Pinkney
Denise Polote-Kelly
Kimberly Sweet
Dr. Kerry Ann Zamore Byrd
Tammy L. Woodard
GUEST WRITERS
Briana and Erica Spruille
OPERATIONS
Sales and Advertising | sales@cherylmagazine.com
Distribution Manager | Daryl Jarrett circulation@cherylmagazine.com
Art Department | art@cherylmagazine.com
Media | media@cherylmagazine.com
Projects | Tammy Woodard projects@cherylmagazine.com
WILLIAMSON MEDIA GROUP, LLC
EXECUTIVE
President | Russell Williamson, Sr.
Chief Executive Officer | Cheryl Polote Williamson
SUBSCRIBE TODAY
www.cherylmagazine.com
1 Year (4 Quarterly Issues) US $80
Canada $101.58 CAD | International (Digital only)
1 Year Digital Subscription US $20
elcome to the Summer Issue of Cheryl Magazine! As we celebrate another season of growth, transformation, and empowerment, we are thrilled to feature the incredible Egypt Sherrod. Known for her dynamic presence on television and her profound insights on real estate and lifestyle, Egypt embodies the spirit of abundance in every aspect of her life. Her journey serves as a testament to the power of living with intention, passion, and a mindset of abundance. Through her story, we hope to inspire you to embark on your own path of abundant living.
Abundance is more than just a state of material wealth; it is a holistic approach to life that embraces gratitude, positivity, and the belief that there is enough for everyone. In this issue, we delve into the essence of what it means to live abundantly. From Egypt Sherrod's inspiring journey to practical tips on cultivating an abundant mindset, we aim to provide you with the tools and insights to enrich your life. As you flip through the pages, let the stories and advice inspire you to embrace a lifestyle where abundance is not just a goal, but a way of being.
Thank you for being a part of our Cheryl Magazine community. Together, let’s continue to inspire and uplift each other, living each day with an abundant heart and mind.
Warm regards,
Cheryl
Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson Editor-in-Chief
Affirm yourself with these daily to live the life of your dreams and walk in abundance!
1. "I am worthy of all the abundance that life has to offer."
2. "I attract abundance effortlessly and naturally."
3. "My life is filled with limitless possibilities and opportunities."
4. "I am grateful for the abundance that flows into my life each day."
5. "I trust that the universe provides for me in unexpected and joyous ways."
inside this issue
LEADERSHIP AND LEGACY AUTHOR SPOTLIGHT ADVOCACY AND AWARENESS
8
Dr. DeRetta Cole Rhodes's inspired by a childhood love for baseball, is now the Executive Vice President and Chief Culture Officer of the Atlanta Braves, where she champions diversity, inclusion, and mentorship.
24S. Monique Smith shares her journey from being an unidentified trafficking survivor to an advocate for missing children and author, highlighting resilience and self-discovery.
64Vanessa Miller, founder of the Christian Book Lover's Retreat, and author of 54 books, chats about her newest work, "The American Queen."Don’t miss her inspiring story.
COVER STORY
Egypt Sherrod shares her journey from radio host to HGTV star and real estate mogul, emphasizing authentic self-awareness and embracing change. After two decades in radio, she transitioned to real estate, flipping over 40 properties by her mid-thirties. Sherrod highlights her passion for design, architecture, and empowering others through education. Journey with her as she shares her blueprint for living an abundant life.
Photographer: Leslie Andrews
Make Up: Taraya Johnson
5Letter from the Editor: Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson
everyday inspiration lifestyle
36 Foxxy Wizdom with Charmaine Roots Castillo Baby Needs a New Pair of Shoes
76Faith & Inspiration with Tammy L. Woodard Living a Fruitful Abundant Life
22Daddy Issues with Tess Alexandria Embracing Solitude
38 Aging Well with Dr. Michelle Kindred Perspective, Mindset, Abundance!
79 Family Corner with Laurie A. Evans Creating a Joyful Summer: Co-Parenting After Divorce
30Our Legacy with Kimberly Sweet Keepers of the Culture
40Business Sense & Sensibility Profits & Abundance…Not Always Equal
42Limitless Possibilities: Tia Bradley's Journey of Resilience and Community at Intuit
44CREATIVE RADIANCE: REDEFINING GRACE + BEAUTY
In this issue of Cheryl Magazine's Entrepreneurial Spotlight, we highlight inspiring women in health and beauty who embody elegance, strength, and creativity. Discover the journeys of Carol Rasheed and Denise Reese, whose artistry and entrepreneurial spirit light the path for others, encouraging you to pursue your dreams with confidence and resilience.
60Getting Abundant Clarity About Your Purpose-Driven Career
62Cheryl's Choice: The Essential Rolodex Picks from Business Brilliance to Event Mastery
80Travel Dr. Donna Hunter, Travel Coach talks Embracing Your Identity as a Traveler of Color
54 Money Talks with Roni M. Talley Empowering Women's Financial Success
56A Life of Jubilee! Meet Janae Willis Beard
68Author's Corner Dive into the finale of Prose & Perspectives with Dr. Kerry Ann Zamore Byrd's new story, "He Makes All Things New."
74Romanticizing Your Life with Guest Writers: Briana and Erica Spruille
Photos courtesy of DeRetta Cole Rhodes, PHD.
DERETTA COLE RHODES, PHD. Passion, Purpose, and Perseverance
by Siobhan Davenport
As a little girl, Dr. DeRetta Cole Rhodes would sit with her grandparents, captivated by the sights and sounds of a baseball game on television. Growing up in Kansas City, Missouri, home of the Negro Leagues Baseball Museum, hearing about legends like number 42, Jackie Robinson, baseball was more than just a game; it was pride in culture and a bridge connecting her to her beloved grandparents.
"So as a little girl, my grandparents would watch and listen to baseball," Dr. Cole Rhodes recalls fondly. "I grew up in Kansas City, Missouri, so that's where the Negro League Museum is. My grandparents lived on a farm in Arkansas. I would listen to and watch, because I always wanted to be close to my grandparents."
This early exposure planted the seeds of a lifelong passion for the sport, a passion that would later intertwine with her professional journey in ways she could never have imagined. Dr. Cole Rhodes shared her love for the game with her children. "I have two sons and a bonus son. I was a baseball mom; my two sons [growing up] played baseball from the ages of five until they both graduated from high school."
Dr. Cole Rhodes began her career in the world of media at Turner Broadcasting. Today, Dr. DeRetta Cole Rhodes stands as the Executive Vice President and Chief Culture Officer of the Atlanta Braves. Her path to this position was anything but conventional.
"When I got this opportunity, it was a result of me working for Turner Broadcasting, and I didn't understand the business of baseball. So it has definitely been a very interesting experience having gone into it from that standpoint," she admits.
The transition from media to sports entertainment was both challenging and enriching for Dr. Cole Rhodes. She discovered that running a baseball team is akin to managing a small city. "We run a little mini city when we are having a game, everything from distribution, logistics, and fan management. You just don't realize what it takes and the complexity until you're inside doing it," she explains. Learning the intricacies of the Atlanta Braves operations broadened her perspective and deepened her appreciation for the sport and its business.
Dr. Rhodes's role evolved significantly during her tenure. "When I first joined the Braves, I started as the Senior Vice President of Human Resources. Over time, that role evolved, and I became the Chief People Capital Officer. I changed the name from Human Resources to People Capital Officer because I wanted to emphasize the importance of our people and how they contribute to the business. Later, after discussions with my CEO, my role expanded further to include communications, PR, community affairs, and the Atlanta Braves Foundation, in addition to the HR responsibilities."
This discussion was the catalyst for her title change to Chief Culture Officer. "As we discussed these changes, we recognized the importance of how people feel when they interact with different parts of the organization and the sense of belonging they experience. This focus on people and their experiences led us to the concept of culture."
Navigating her role during a time when diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) are under scrutiny has been a formidable challenge. Yet, Dr. Rhodes embraces it with a steadfast commitment. "Let me tell you, it's interesting. I've been fortunate, blessed, or maybe just lucky. I've had the opportunity to sit in diversity roles before they
"I have a board of mentors, not just one...They cared enough about me to give me feedback or to correct me or tell me things that I needed to focus on and work on."
were even considered important. Almost 20 years ago, when I worked for two professional services organizations, we were just starting to focus on diversity recruiting and similar initiatives.
"In one organization, I held an inclusiveness title, where we were doing cutting-edge work around diversity. Our focus was on advancing women and people of color into leadership positions. It's interesting because, for a long time, I tried to avoid diversity roles. I didn't want it in my title or to be seen as the poster child for diversity simply because I'm a Black female.
"But as much as I tried to run from it, I realized I couldn't. Much like how I ended up getting a doctorate in education despite trying to avoid following my family's footsteps, I found myself facing the importance of diversity head-on. There has to be a way for individuals to understand the value of differences within an organization.
"Regardless of what we call it, it's about ensuring that everyone feels they can be productive and valued without needing to look like everyone else around them. It's about representation and making sure individuals feel welcomed and part of the fabric of the organization.
"Even if it's not in my title, I always bring this conversation to the table because it's crucial to acknowledge the current and future landscape, particularly regarding women and people of color. It's like figuring out how to get my sons to eat their vegetables when they were young—it's about presenting information in a way that's digestible and compelling."
"I believe in diversity, equity, and inclusion, and I'm willing to operate under the radar if necessary to achieve these goals. Over the years, the terminology has evolved from diversity to diversity and inclusion, and now equity has been added. No matter what term we use, the goal remains the same: creating an environment where everyone feels welcomed, can develop, and can advance as their true selves."
Dr. Rhodes's personal experiences have shaped her approach to leadership. Raised by educators, she initially resisted following in their footsteps.
"I used to say all the time, 'There is no way that you're going to get me to educate anybody. I'm not trying to be in a classroom.'" Yet, her career in human resources, training, and development reflects the very essence of education. "The best thing that I can say to you is that I'm so glad I had that foundation of the importance of education," she acknowledges.
For Dr. Rhodes, an abundant life is defined by contentment and satisfaction. "For so long, I felt like I was always chasing something and being insatiable around that chase," she admits. Learning to be still and appreciate the present has brought her joy. "It's important to sit for a moment and just be content."
Her advice to young graduates is simple yet profound: "Please persevere. Use your voice, but please persevere." This advice stems from her own journey of finding her voice. "There's so many times that I was so closed ... We end up doing that as a defense mechanism. We're closed. We don't want anybody else to hurt us," she shares. Overcoming these barriers has been key to her success.
Mentorship has played a pivotal role in her career. "I have a board of mentors, not just one," she says. These mentors, of diverse backgrounds and perspectives, have provided invaluable guidance and support. "They cared enough about me to give me feedback or to correct me or tell me things that I needed to focus on and work on."
Reflecting on her accomplishments, Dr. Rhodes finds the greatest pride in the success of those she has mentored. "The thing that I am most proud of are those individuals that have had the opportunity to work for me and that have been promoted into roles that are in the C-suite and in roles with which they are thriving," she says.
Dr. DeRetta Cole Rhodes's journey from a little girl captivated by baseball to a leader shaping the culture of a major league team is a testament to perseverance, passion, and the power of using one's voice. Her story is a beacon of inspiration, illustrating that with determination and support, one can achieve greatness and uplift others along the way.
Photo
Follow Your Indigo Road: A Conversation with Egypt Sherrod on
Betting on Herself to Build a
Life of Abundance
n many ways, Egypt Sherrod is a household name. She has successfully cultivated a brand that is synonymous with luxury and livability. With a successful career in hip hop radio spanning two decades— boasting interviews with the likes of Hollywood heavy hitters such as Martin Scorsese, Leonardo DiCaprio, Tyler Perry, and Oprah—Egypt Sherrod lets us in on how her heart and an organic evolution led her to pivot in a new direction. Our summer cover girl is blazing her own trailor Indigo Road-to a life of abundance and I was elated to highlight her journey in this issue! But first, I need to let you in on how she and I met!
"Once I leaned into entrepreneurship, I never looked back."
Have you ever met someone who you just instantly clicked with? Egypt and I met last year at Derby Diversity week and when we embraced, she said, “I feel like we are going to be friends forever." I loved her energy and felt the warmth and beauty of her spirit, and the feeling was most certainly mutual. Even with our busy schedules and bevy of new projects, speaking engagements, and events, I am grateful that we have prioritized staying connected. My heart smiled when we were able to catch up and kee kee at Mahogany Honors, where we were both awardees back in April. It was a resounding ‘yes’ when she mentioned to me that she wanted to be featured in the magazine!
A woman who has it all, Egypt Sherrod is at the pinnacle of her game, both personally and professionally. How did she get here? We sat down for a deep dive, and the first thing I learned was how she made the game-changing decision to leave radio after 20 years to pursue her other passion—real estate development.
“It was mostly an organic evolution. Everything has a season, and it is up to us to recognize when a season [and/or] cycle has been completed so that we can move on and grow,” she said.
Stop for a second and read that again, because, whew! Egypt flipped her first home at age 22. By the time she was in her mid-thirties, she had flipped more than forty properties. In case you did not know, our girl is not new to this; she is true to this! Egypt was no stranger to real estate when she made the transition from radio, but deciding to pursue it full-time was a lifechanging decision that has had a profound impact on her life.
“I had been in radio for almost 20 years when I decided to focus on my real estate
career full-time. Although I worked [radio and real estate] dually for 12 years prior, I was not operating at my peak performance in either because I was [splitting my time],” Egypt explained.
She went on to tell me how things changed for the better when she decided to devote all her time and energy to real estate, although radio provided the security and stability that she needed.
“Once I leaned into entrepreneurship, I never looked back. Radio was a full-time job with benefits. It was also the glossy career that I was "supposed" to love. Yet I had reached the pinnacle when I accomplished hosting mornings in New York City, the top media market in the world. [However], after a few years, I got bored and lost interest. I was not growing anymore, and my personality type requires me to be in a continuous growth cycle, or else I fade,” she added.
One of the keys to Sherrod’s success is her keen self-awareness. When you know yourself, you can make more aligned decisions—both personally and professionally. It is this knowledge that has created a level of freedom and autonomy within Egypt’s career, which we went on to discuss further.
“[While I had hit a wall in radio] simultaneously, my real estate career was blossoming, and I found myself becoming more passionate about living a life in service and educating others. Finally, I bet on myself, dropped the safety net [of radio], and took the leap.” Egypt shared.
And what a leap it was! Once she fully embraced the unknown, she entered a beautiful state of flow that catapulted her into a stratosphere of creativity and abundance, opening the door for even more success and greater opportunities.
“Eventually, my love of real estate grew into a mutual love of design and architecture. As an investor, I would flip my own homes, renovate and design them, and then sell them too! [It was like] I had finally found the perfect expression of myself [in my career]. It allowed me the freedom to do other things I wanted to do as well, such as have a worklife balance and be a present mother and wife for my family,” she added.
What would have happened if she never took that leap? What if she allowed fear to keep her in the comfort and security of the career she had built for twenty years? If you are reading this, this is your sign to take that leap! You never know where following your dreams will take you, but I guarantee that it will be more phenomenal than you could even imagine!
When Egypt originally decided to pursue real estate full-time, she had no idea that she would one day be able to parlay this into a hit reality TV show. We spent some time discussing how the show came to be.
“Television was another organic evolution, as I had already worked in broadcasting for many moons. When HGTV came calling, I took that leap as well,” Egypt shared.
In addition to flipping homes, Sherrod has become deeply passionate about educating people on real estate and the doors that it can open when we are knowledgeable.
“I found a level of freedom in real estate. As a career, it allowed me to break the chains of being an employee. As an investor, it also allowed me to create wealth in a non-traditional way [and] I did not have to exchange time for pay,” she shared.
She went on to explain the importance of wealth building and helping others who are not knowledgeable about real estate and wealth generation.
“[Real estate] is [a] foundation of wealth [generation], and one thing they are not
making any more of is earth [or] land. I recognize there is a lot of intimidating language and paperwork that goes into understanding how real estate works. Over the years, my goal has been to simplify it so that people are less frightened of the process and more willing to embrace its knowledge and benefits,” she added.
By making education one of the pillars of her business model, Egypt is empowering others to build a life of abundance. This is commendable, and we love her even more for it!
“As the broker and owner of Indigo Road Realty, the thread I continue to weave is about education and knowledge in our agents as well as in our clients. Knowledge is power, and the true key to homeownership,” Egypt shares.
Speaking of Indigo Road, I absolutely love the name that Egypt has chosen to represent her brand, and I wanted to learn more about how she chose the name and what significance it holds.
“The name Indigo Road has a deeper holistic meaning to me. Indigo represents wisdom and purpose; [two things] I have always sought to find, and have traveled down many roads in search of that deeper understanding. We all have a road to follow, a journey to travel, our own ‘Indigo Road’ if you will,” Egypt shared.
This resonated so deeply with me. I, too, believe that we are all on a personal journey to tap into the wisdom of our souls and learn what our purpose is in this life. Can you think of the various experiences and encounters that you have experienced along your own indigo road? What lessons have you learned?
Egypt goes on to tell us more about Indigo Road and the numerous services and offerings that are available through her brand.
"I have always sought to find, and have traveled down many roads in search of that deeper understanding. We all have a road to follow, a journey to travel, our own ‘Indigo Road’ if you will,"
"My design philosophy is that luxury, comfort, and sustainability can co-exist."
“The Indigo Road family of companies includes Indigo Road Realty, which is a residential and commercial real estate brokerage; Indigo Road Design group, a fullservice interior design house; and Indigo Road Home Furnishings, which features furniture as well as bedding and line of decor. This endeavor has by far been my most challenging yet most rewarding,” Egypt added.
If you are reading this and desire a career in real estate or television/radio/media, keep reading for Egypt’s words of wisdom on how you can get started!
“Find your voice, be authentic, and use your platforms with consistency and persistence-people value and seek connection and truth. They resonate when you speak and connect from an authentic place,” Egypt shares.
Write that down and put it on your mirror! Most importantly, like my girl said—do not try to be anything or anyone other than yourself!
Diving more into Indigo Road and what you can expect from the luxury line, Egypt shared her inspiration.
“My design philosophy is that luxury, comfort, and sustainability can co-exist. That is a thread that I carry into every project,” she shared.
While luxury is a top priority, she shared that comfort and sustainability are equally important. As a mother of three, Egypt knows that practicality is a crucial aspect of her design process as well. She credits candid feedback from her co-star and husband of 14 years (they have been together for 20 years), Mike Jackson, for helping her to elevate her design philosophy.
“When [Mike] and I started dating, he used to say my brownstone in New Jersey felt like a museum. He used to [jokingly] express that although it was beautiful and luxurious with all
its art and perfect furnishings, he felt as if he could not touch anything,” Egypt explained.
Mike’s point of view caused her to reflect more carefully on her designs, as she wanted to ensure that her home not only looked gorgeous, but also felt like a [cozy] home. [His feedback] resonated with me deeply [and caused me to start] looking at my home and design a bit differently. As I began having children and entertaining family, [I started designing] in a way that was more relatable, warm, and welcoming,” Egypt added.
I love how the evolution of her personal life echoed in the design and thought process behind her home décor line. This is a beautiful way in which life and business intersect when you are aligned with your passion(s). She goes on to share more about how her design philosophy has evolved as she got married and became a mother.
“Now, [as a mother and wife], I design with the whole family in mind. Parents should have an elevated space, [without] alienating kids. I work [diligently] with our partners to create performance fabrics and infuse smart storage options [in our every piece of our furniture]. Everyone deserves to live in the lap of luxury, no matter [their budget]. Livable luxury is about curating a look and lifestyle that does not break the bank. It is also about incorporating [functionality] into the design. For instance, much of our decor is made to be [durable] with kids in mind [and] many of our coffee tables also feature a hidden storage function,” Egypt explained.
One of the things I admire most about Egypt is her transparency around juggling family and work. She makes it look easy but candidly shares that it is not. This is something that all women who find themselves exhausted with the day-to-day need to hear.
“So many of us are [juggling and trying to find that perfect work life balance]. That is
an area where I am certainly not alone. Every woman I know, and those in my sphere are expert jugglers. God gave us a superpower to be multitaskers,” she says.
Egypt goes on to speak from her heart about how becoming a mother has shaped who she is as a woman.
“I have become a different person across the board, career included, since I became a mom. I did not have my first child until I was thirty-five, and I do not think I truly became a woman until then either,” Egypt adds.
With all the exciting and innovative projects that Egypt and her family have in the works, I wanted to find out what she is most excited about as we concluded our time together.
“I used to have a laundry list, but now I love letting GOD's blessings flow to me however they are supposed to. I look forward to more astounding surprises and unprecedented opportunities around every corner,” Egypt shared.
“I look forward to creating more great television with my family, [affectionately titled] The Jackson 5, while showing the world that the Black family unit loves just as hard, hurts just the same, works with as much diligence, and dreams just as big. Our story is inspiring and is proving to be a great equalizer in how people of all ethnicities see family,” she added.
In following her life’s Indigo Road, Egypt Sherrod has created a beautiful and fulfilling life of abundance that serves as a testament that anything is possible! And she was gracious enough to share the recipe with us! My girl dropped some game-changing gems with us during our conversation. Running it back in case you missed it!
Egypt’s main keys to a life of abundance are:
1. Be authentic.
2. Share your voice on your platform consistently and persistently .
3. Do not be afraid to take the leap when your journey provides you with the opportunity to do so!
Which one resonates with you the most? We want to hear from you! Post & tag us @cherylmagofficial on your social media platform, and let us know your favorite things from Egypt’s story!
DADDY ISSUES
EMBRACiNg
SolITUDE
Journey to Wholeness and Abundance
with Tess Alexandria
My focus in the second quarter of this year has primarily been on redefining my values, becoming whole again, and living life abundantly. To do so, I started out doing my least favorite thing: spending time with myself. You’d think that for all the years I’ve been doing so, it would be a welcome pastime by now, but if I’m being honest, I still find it a tad uncomfortable. I’ve come to realize how much I enjoy the company of others but have also needed to find the balance of enjoying my solitude just as much, if not more. As I challenged myself to continue getting to know me, I’m thankful that, despite all I’ve been through and overcome, I haven’t lost myself. Of course, things have hurt me—and some instances from my past still hurt till this day—but I can say that at my core, I am still me.
I recently asked my friends to tell me in so many words how they’d describe me. It was an activity from my planner to get a sense of how other people view me. One of my friends said I am good at making sure others feel comfortable, while another friend described me as being resilient, no matter what. Both things stood out and meant so much to me, but I couldn’t help focusing on the second description. By definition, resilience is the ability to recover quickly from difficult conditions, to bounce back. For those of you who’ve been supporting Cheryl Magazine for a while, I’m sure you are aware by now that I am no stranger to hardships. Amid these challenges, I somehow managed to keep a pretty level head and still accomplish most of what I desired to. This does not mean certain things weren't delayed or that I handled everything with perfect grace. I also had to learn how to pick myself back up and find the pieces of myself that I lost. However, whether it was suffering family loss, battling depression and anxiety, struggling financially, or going through heartbreak, I didn’t allow myself to give up. Even when it came to dealing with the pain others inflicted on me, I tried my hardest not to be filled with vengeful thoughts. I welcomed the idea of letting new people in, and I chose to trust them rather than being completely shut off. I could see and feel that empathetic, gentle, loving nature that’s been a part of me since childhood. As I think back on these things, it reminds me of when one of my sorors said to me she admired how I was still open to receiving love from others, even after all I’d gone through during the pandemic. Even as I share this, it’s still shocking that I have not folded or allowed bitterness to completely consume me. It would be so easy for me to let those emotions surface, but I know deep down that’s not how I want to present myself in any arena of life.
Of course, we don’t know what the future holds, but when I think about my values and living an abundant life, I want these descriptions my friends attributed to me to remain true despite what life brings my way. For me, living life in abundance includes knowing who I am and what I stand for; being a healed and whole person; adding value to those I encounter; participating in activities that leave my cup full and bring me joy; being financially stable and secure; and lastly, making an impact in the lives of others. Whether you are redefining your values or looking for ways that will lead you into an abundant life, I encourage you to start by thinking about what matters most to you. Then focus on appreciating even the smallest things. Are there things or moments that you feel passed you by? There’s still time to enjoy them. Avoid living in regret and, instead, fulfill the desires of your inner child. Living abundantly is what you make it, so be sure to include all the things that feel true to you.
"Despite all I’ve been through and overcome, I haven’t lost myself. At my core, I am still me."
Thank you for joining me again for Daddy Issues. Why the name? I aim to reverse the feeling women get every time we hear that phrase. There is a stigma attached to it. It’s often used as a weapon, with the intent to make us feel like we are the problem. Dispelling the misnomer includes providing new information on something that was named before its true nature was known. I’ll attempt to do that in each Cheryl Magazine issue as I address behaviors and characteristics that developed from our father’s lack of skill and ability to bond with, encourage, teach, or support us. To all the young girls and grown women, it was never your fault.
The issue was his, and because of your daddy’s issue, you found yourself improperly navigating relationships. Let’s talk about it. For the record, Daddy Issues is an opinion column. I’m not a clinical professional or expert on the subject; I’m just a girl who needed her daddy. If you’d like to connect, follow me on IG: @tessalexandria_ or Facebook: Tess Alexandria. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to discuss, email me at tess@cherylmagazine.com.
Photos courtesy of S. Monique Smith
"We Have the Power to Rewrite Our Stories" - S. Monique Smith
FINDING HER VOICE
The Journey of S. Monique Smith
Cheryl Magazine's Tess Alexandria talks with S. Monique Smith, whose story transcends unimaginable challenges. It is a testament to resilience, self-discovery, and an unwavering faith in a higher purpose. Together, they delve into Monique's extraordinary journey to uncover the inner strength that propelled her forward against all odds.
Tess: I’m thrilled to be here with you today and learn more about you. I had the pleasure of reading about your story online, but, of course, I want to hear it from your perspective. So, could you tell our readers and me a little about yourself?
S. Monique: Well, I am the longest living, Jane Doe. I have gone unidentified for over 50 years. So I basically lived on this planet with no birth certificate, no name, no date of birth, and I discovered that probably at the assumed age of 28 after being a mother of two at the time (I’m a
by Tess Alexandria
mother of four now). I realized I never saw any paperwork, but you know I kept pressing because in the back of my mind was always, “How do I survive and take care of my children in a world where documentation is required at an all-time high?” It was really a struggle. I also came from a very tragic, abusive background. I'm talking molestation as early as 3 or 4 up until I was 18. I ended up running away from home thinking that I was getting away from this horrible family and actually ran right into the streets of Florida being trafficked, dealing with prostitution- But I kept saying, "God, I know I'm meant for so much more." Even during my abuse, there was something that He instilled in me to show me value, even as a child.
Tess: After running away from home, what was the gap in time between running away and discovering you didn’t have an identity?
S. Monique: That was a 10-year gap. Because up until that point, I still thought they were my bio family. Amid that gap, I was like, wait a minute, I've never seen my birth certificate—I've never seen anything with my name on it. Once I got to the point of having to make tough decisions on my own, I decided to really find out who I was. My curiosity led me to discover that this woman (the one who raised me) had taken me from somewhere, and I had no idea from where. I’d heard rumors and started going through the municipals, and when my paperwork came back, I'm looking like, "Who is this on paper? " Every document I opened was completely different. There was no consistency. My date of birth was different, my place of birth was different, but I just continued to search for me. Even through the heartbreak and pain of knowing I’d already gone through this horrific life, and now to be an unknown, it was like where do I start to find out who I am? -It was a long journey.
Tess: So, when you discovered the inconsistencies in documentation through the municipals, did you ever go back to your family and start asking questions? Or did you just decide you were completely done with them altogether?
S. Monique: Yes, I did. When I discovered it, I confronted them, and she said she would go to her grave before she said anything. This woman died at 77 and never told me what she did. She died and took it to her grave.
Tess: Wow. So, when you ran away, I'm assuming you didn't have any type of support from that point on. You mentioned being trafficked. How did you transition out of trafficking and that lifestyle?
S. Monique: When I left home, I was young. I was 18 and just so naïve. Once I got to Florida, my money was stolen, I got pawned off to this man who had a farm and then the molestation started there along with the prostitution and the whole human trafficking. And once again, I had to decide how do I get away from this environment. I said, “Okay, God. I’m worth so much more, and I know there’s so much more for me. This can’t be it.” Once I got in this environment, I had to come up with another way to basically self-rescue. No one was coming for me. There was no support system, no safety net. Everyone it seemed like I trusted had a hidden motive. So, that's when I decided to leave again, but that was a fight- it was really a battle to leave that environment. My life was always on the line. Even from the
first group of individuals (those who raised me) up until I was on the streets.
Tess: In talking about knowing that you were meant for more and just doing self-rescue, how did you find the strength to do that?
Tess: I had a very creative imagination, and I took advantage of that even in my childhood. I grew up dodging the energy in a room, just so I didn’t get hit for simply being in the room. In those moments, I knew the chastisement and abuse was coming, but I would strategically find ways to focus on things that made me comfortable. As a child that was coloring. Later in life, it was me looking for joy during the journey. Even having been mentally and physically abused, sexually assaulted-I was near death twice, I sought nothing but happiness. People weren’t making me happy, but I kept tapping into my happy spirit. In order to do that, you must do things that make you happy. You find things that pique your interest and that you get excited about. For me, that also included reading. I was an avid reader and loved books. -You couldn’t tell me anything. J. California Cooper is one of my favorite authors.
Tess: I agree. No matter what journey anyone has, you must find what keeps you going. What other barriers did you face amid selfrescuing?
S. Monique: I faced challenges with law enforcement. They were like, “How do we know you're not a criminal trying to start a new life after incarceration?” So, the
victim shaming was a part of my journey, so I always had to awaken people because of that. I also did things that didn't require a birth certificate. I couldn’t go to college because you have to have a birth certificate and get bonded and licensed. So, I started investing into properties, and that along with my book(s) is how I was able to build one of my pieces of legacy for my children.
Tess: Let’s talk about your book. I love the title, by the way: I Am the Ancestor. What pushed you to write your book?
S. Monique: Honestly, the book came about because I was at a level of desperation. I was in fear of someone taking my kids. I could not prove that my children were my children. I could’ve written something to put in a safe deposit box, but in realizing that I wasn't who I thought I was, who’s to say I could navigate and get to the box or get someone to get to the box? My children were still minors, so I said, 'Oh my God, if I get hit by a bus or I die, who's gonna raise my kids?' The same lying people (those who raised me) could get custody of my children and put them through this too. So, I wanted the world to embrace what happened to me, and I felt sharing my story would help other people, simply by them knowing there is someone living on this planet unidentifiable. And it worked.
Tess: In terms of establishing your own family dynamic, how did you create your own values/ traditions, and what were your fears in terms of having your own kids?
I also host annual public safety awareness campaigns that include law enforcement, NCMEC, and several community groups.
You’ve done some amazing things. I read that your book was turned into a documentary: The Longest Living Jane Doe. You’ve been awarded the NAACP Image Award and Maya Angelou Lifetime Achievement Award, along with successfully climbing the corporate ladder, to being a COO currently. Did you ever envision being able to create this life for yourself and help others after everything you’ve endured?
S. Monique: No, actually I didn’t. I think I stayed in a positive survival mode. I knew I had to survive. I knew that I was my only option other than prayer and keeping God first. Without He, there is no me. There was no one to embrace me, so I had to tap into my own resiliency. Everyone has resiliency, it’s just you have to tap into yours.
It’s so funny you mention resiliency because I talk about that in my column in this issue. I don’t think people understand how much it takes to be resilient. It’s amazing to me that you’ve been such a bright light and are still able to help others despite
S. Monique:Thank you so much. I truly consider myself a pioneer in this area. How many missing children do you know who are alive and can
have a conversation with you? I am registered as missing child number 1201298 on the national registry for missing and exploited children. I had to come to terms with my situation and decided not to give up. I was just happy to be making progress and helping families who had lost hope.
Tess: Well, the theme for this edition of the magazine is living life abundantly, so I want to hear what that looks like for you.
S. Monique: To me, it’s being dedicated to yourself and embracing the life that God gave you, and if it’s not a good life, you need to shift it. I know unfortunate things can happen, but constantly working on yourself is an abundant life. I think if every human being tapped into their own resiliency, they’ll see their strength, power, maturity, and insight grow over time.
Tess: I really do admire you, and I think our readers will too. Your story is powerful, encouraging, and a reminder that we have it in us to rewrite our own stories.
S. Monique: Close that statement out *laughs* We have the power to rewrite our stories and live the stories we want told. We are our ancestors.
OF THE
by Kimberly Sweet
Culture KEEPERS
Culture and history define communities, chronicle our ancestry and fortify future generations. Recent efforts to erase, exclude, eradicate, extinguish, expunge and outright eliminate the contributions of Black Americans over the centuries to the national narrative have drawn a response all its own. “Keepers of the Culture” have sprung up in every community, city and state. These groups and individuals do what they can to preserve the history and protect the legacies we hold dear. I am proud to count myself among that number and have met many others along my journey.
Meet Chandra Cooper, the great-granddaughter of blues-legend McKinley Morganfield, also known as Muddy Waters, the father of modern Chicago blues. Cooper is not only protecting her family’s legacy, but sharing it with local, national and international audiences. She is the founder and executive director of The Muddy Waters MOJO Museum. The 4339 South Lake Park Avenue address is the musician’s first purchased home. His house was not only a sanctuary for Waters, but the place where many blues legends gathered for basement jam sessions and created timeless music.
“Not often as African Americans can we protect and preserve things that our family once owned,” she explains. “I am in a position where I own the house that he (Muddy Waters) bought in 1953.” The house also has sentimental value to Cooper because she lived there as a child, however, that is far from her only motivation.
“I think growing up, I always felt like there was something bigger or something I had to do for my great-grandfather, not knowing that this was the work that I would have to do—and grateful to be doing it.”
Her efforts have been significant for the family and the culture. She is working with the City of Chicago and various organizations on completing what will be the city's first blues house museum. She is supported by a significant $1.1 million dollar grant from the Mellon Foundation awarded in
Not often as African Americans can we protect and preserve things that our family once owned. I am in a position where I own the house that he (Muddy Waters) bought in 1953."
- Chandra Cooper
Above: Site of Mojo Museum, Chicago, IL. Below: Chandra Cooper. Photos courtesy of Chandra Cooper.
2023. Cooper worked to secure Chicago landmark status for the museum and was honored with having it listed on the National Register of Historic Places. A visionary, she acquired a vacant lot next to the museum where a community garden and performance center will expand and enhance the MOJO Museum’s work. Ultimately, it will draw music enthusiasts, provide learning opportunities and host community gatherings and events.
Cooper says the museum will showcase Waters’ music and the strength of his spirit. Waters left Mississippi in 1943 and was one of millions who would ultimately leave the South for better opportunities as a part of the Great Migration. He did not forget those still struggling and lent his support and his music to social justice causes. “My grandfather went to the Peace March in Washington,
DC. He was one of the blues performers there,” Cooper explains. That event, held soon after the death of Martin Luther King, Jr., called for economic justice, something as a sharecropper Waters knew a lot about. “No one knows that he was active in the social justice area and working in that area because that was his life.”
Yes, Cooper is doing quite a bit more than restoring a house or building a museum.
In exploring the life and music of Muddy Waters, she invites us all to study the blues and the role it has played in our culture, from our point of view. Her preservation work and the narrative she shares are having an impact all over the world.
“It affects not only people in the United States, but international (audiences),” Cooper says. “People from out of the country come and they sit on the steps
of this house because of who he was as a music legend.” Among her visitors—Keith Richards of The Rolling Stones who first came with the band to the United States as a teenager. “The first place they (the Rolling Stones) went was to Chess Records in Chicago and the first person that they met was Muddy Waters.”
The MOJO Museum will also look at the careers Muddy Waters influenced. “We get the great opportunity to talk about people like The Rolling Stones, Willie Dixon, and Chuck Berry. My great-grandfather actually was the person who found Chuck Berry and brought him to Chicago and took him to Chess Records,” Cooper said.
“The museum is beyond just the legacy of Muddy Waters, (it is) the story of African American history, music history and the blues.”
Left: Chandra Cooper with Keith Richards, the guitarist for The Rolling Stones. Right MOJO Museum fundraising event.
Cooper hopes that as she shares the importance of her grandfather’s role in music and our history, others are inspired to learn more about their own families.
“I think that we have a charge, as African Americans to find things that are within our history and preserve them,” she said. “We have a right to have our history told, even though some may try to repress that. It’s our job to do it. If we don’t, then no one else will.”
Cooper is not alone. She is a founding member of the Coalition of Black House Museums. This collective of historic landmarks in the City
of Chicago, Illinois represents five Black museums which tell Black stories and are led by Black women. This urban historic preservation advocacy group describes its work as preventing the destruction of real estate, extinction of events, actions and lives that are important to underserved communities around the United States.
That isn’t happening just in Chicago.
My story begins in Jackson, Mississippi. As a journalist, author and filmmaker, I love a good story. I found a great one at 505-507-509 North Farish Street. Many
people flock to the remaining establishment open at the site for pig ear sandwiches and smokes, but I found a much greater attraction to the empty storefronts and second floor above the restaurant. Like so many properties in our neighborhoods, I found a building in need of a new roof, with internal water damage and slowly crumbling—a structure far removed from the crown jewel it once was. Passed over by one developer after another, when the opportunity was presented to me, I did not hesitate to buy the building. That decision was not the end, but rather the beginning. Who built it? When? Who lived and had businesses there? I resisted
505-507-509 North Farish Street, Jackson, Mississippi. Photo Courtesy of Kimberly Sweet
As a “Keeper of the Culture,” I have added preservationist to my skill set. Plans are underway to restore the building and highlight the important role it played in national civil rights history -Kimberly Sweet.
the temptation to rely upon word of mouth without confirmation from other sources.
The Mississippi Department of Archives and History, along with online research sites, civil rights oral history interviews, scholarly books and articles revealed a rich legacy held within the site that now deems it eligible for listing on the National Register of Historic Places.
The Farish Street area, encompassing more than 125-acres, is one of the nation’s oldest African American communities, dating back to 1860 before the Civil War. Free Blacks owned homes and businesses there, experiencing a measure of freedom and dignity in a society that sought to exploit, crush and control every aspect of their lives.
During the post-Civil War period known as
Top left: Renovation of 505-507-509 North Farish Street, Jackson, Mississippi. Top right: Kimberly Sweet. Bottom: Store front. Photos Courtesy of Kimberly Sweet.
Reconstruction, African Americans built their own communities and made significant contributions to the growth of Mississippi and the nation.
These individuals and their accomplishments score scant mentions in the required text students statewide have been given for decades.
Sidney Redmond was born into a sharecropper family and was a teen before getting his education underway. He made up for it, later becoming both a doctor and lawyer. Redmond owned more than 300 properties including pharmacies, hospitals and office buildings. His wife, Ida Revels, was the daughter of the nation’s first Black member of the U.S. Senate. A Republican Party leader, Redmond had a national profile. Upon his death, Redmond left an estate with a present value of more than $7 million that provided payments to generations of heirs and still had as an asset, the building that I purchased more than 70 years after his death.
As a “Keeper of the Culture,” I have added preservationist to my skill set. Plans are underway to restore the building and highlight the important role it played in national civil rights history. In 1954, the NAACP chose the site as its base of operations to fight segregation in Mississippi and named Medgar Evers its
first Field Secretary. From the office, Evers investigated the racially motivated murders of Rev. George Lee, Lamar Smith and Emmett Till.
In the 1960s, Freedom Summer drew students nationwide to the South. Many organizations that worked for voting and other rights had offices in the building and coordinated efforts from there. The National Lawyer’s Guild advised Michael Schwerner, Andrew Goodman, and James Chaney on how to investigate a church burning and later sent lawyers to find them when they failed to return. Their deaths drew a national spotlight on the true cost of equality in the South.
From its office in the building, The Freedom Democratic Party registered voters and took to the national stage and Democratic Convention when the existing Democratic Party would not let them serve as delegates or take part in the electoral process in any way. Fannie Lou Hamer addressed a national television audience as part of their quest to be seated, sharing her personal story of violence and abuse, all for equality.
Blues Hall of Fame artist Sonny Boy Williamson II and Rock and Roll Hall of Fame artist Elmore James lived in the building while they recorded their Grammy winning record “Dust my Broom.” And that was just upstairs!
When considering my efforts or those of Chandra Cooper, I can only imagine how much more is out there, waiting to be discovered. Preserving our history is both a mission and a business. National Park Service status can require years of scholarly, dissertationlevel research. Non-profit organizations can help secure that the project lasts for generations. Marketing plans, websites, logos are the minimum needed to reach local and international audiences. Large and consistent levels of significant funding are necessary to envision, complete and sustain museums into the future. But the reward is worth it and the need is greater than ever before. We all should take a serious look at our communities, cities or states and preserve the stories and structures that played important roles in our history. We must do our own fact-finding, both through oral histories and archival research, to discover, document and preserve important aspects of the past, identifying our main characters and keeping them at the center of the story. Investigate what is being taught, as well as what is left out, and augment history any way you can—whether is it a building or a blog.
Also, let’s agree to do this every month of the year, not just in February.
with Charmaine Roots Castillo
BABY NEEDS A NEW PAIR OF SHOES
In his early teens, my son Curtis was a devoted skateboarder who was frequently found at the Skate Park of Tampa (SPOT). I was worried when he returned from the SPOT one day without his shoes.
"I was teaching this kid at the park how to skateboard, but he didn't have the right shoes, so I gave him mine," he explained.
I was deeply moved by his generous act of kindness. Weeks later, I noticed boxes of brandnew skateboarding shoes in his closet. I was a single mom, struggling financially to make ends meet, and the last thing I needed was my kids getting in any kind of trouble. When I confronted him about the boatload of shoes, once again, I was moved by his response.
"I have a skateboarding sponsor who provides me with shoes," he said matter-of-factly. Once again, my heart was overjoyed for more reasons than one. What touched me the most was seeing a principle I had instilled in him come to life.
"Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
Luke 6:38 (NIV)
Curtis experienced, for himself, how the law of reciprocity operates. Much like the law of gravity, it's undeniable. He created a space for abundance by giving what he had. The harvest reaped from that one act of kindness not only blessed him, but I also benefitted from his blessing. I never had to buy him another pair of shoes throughout his teen years!
Did you know that you have that same power to obtain wealth? Material possessions aside, what is in your hand that you can use as a deposit into your future? Look within at the gifts, talents, or abilities you currently possess and consider how you can use them to be a blessing to others.
Giving selflessly is a crucial element in receiving abundant blessings. Generosity activates a universal law that ensures a return with interest. The "every man for himself" or "dog eat dog" mentality attracts like-minded individuals into your circle. When it comes to the law of reciprocity, it works both ways. When you are a blessing, you receive blessings, but giving sparingly, half-heartedly, or with a hidden agenda will cause you to reap exactly what and how you sow. How you give is a direct reflection of your heart's intention and is closely linked to how you will receive. So, what's it gonna be?
In what areas of your life could you use just a little bit more of something? Are you willing to give a little bit more to help others? Whether you're contributing from your personal treasury of gifts and abilities or being generous with your time, it paves the way for your future self to thrive. Understand that no one owes you anything; however, you owe it to yourself to create the life of abundance that you want. It's quite okay to ask for help, but before requesting a withdrawal, make sure you have made a deposit.
You have the God-given ability to establish yourself as a gift that keeps on giving. Give wisely and prepare for the downpour of blessings. I hear the sound of the abundance of rain—do you hear it?
Roots Castillo is a creative writer promoting hope, encouragement, and brighter perspectives. For inspiration galore, follow her on FB @CharmaineLaFondé
Charmaine
AGING WELL
with Dr. Michelle Kindred
QPerspective, Mindset, Abundance!
uick test, old thought: Is the glass half-empty or half-full? Does it depend on the glass, or what’s in the glass? Does it depend on where the glass is located, or the situation around it when you see it? Well, from a scientific perspective, technically, the glass is always full if you consider that half is air and half is water.
As you can see, your perspective and mindset influence how you see things. Can we agree that living abundantly is ideal? Some of us may already be living our best lives, but is it genuinely copious? For clarity, abundance encompasses ample quantity, profusion, affluence, and wealth. However, there is also a spiritual aspect rooted in gratitude towards Christ Jesus and having a thankful mindset regardless of the circumstances. This gratitude stems from receiving the greatest gift of salvation through Jesus Christ.
Let’s explore how we can shift our mindset to build a life of abundance. As we grow older, sometimes we become comfortable, settled, complacent, or stuck. However, it is never too late to begin, rebuild, speak positivity into your life, and unplug from the scarcity mindset.
Here is a thought: whether the glass is half full or half empty, it is refillable. You are in control; you have the power to refill it with whatever you like. So why not fill it with your hopes, dreams, and desires? Life is short. If you are like me, living life in the third quarter, then you know that we have more years behind us than we do ahead of us.
One thing is for sure: you can’t add more time to your life, but you can add more life to your time. It all starts with shifting our mindset. Practice gratitude by being thankful even for the most minor things; It doesn’t have to be a huge affair or a significant accomplishment. Start by eliminating ‘toxic gratitude.’ Toxic gratitude usually comes from the alter-ego, like that tiny negative voice in your head or “encouragement” from a family member or friend. We all do it, putting on a façade of happiness, and making excuses to be satisfied and grateful for failure, loss, and limitations.
Let me explain: It is as if our dreams or goals become a product of supply and demand influenced by a scarcity mindset. Scarcity, simply put, is when there isn’t enough of something (resources, success) for everyone who needs it, or the belief that if one person wins, another has to lose. You might recognize it as sounding like this:
SITUATION
• Dead-end job: you can’t wait to find a new position.
• Dysfunction, toxic, unhealthy relationship.
• You have an important event coming up and nothing to wear.
TOXIC GRATITUDE
• Why complain? Be grateful that you have a job.
• You’re lucky you have a man; nobody’s perfect.
• You always dress so cute; I wish I had half the outfits you do.
The truth is, there is no shortage of options when it comes to your life decisions. You don’t have to settle for less or downplay your emotions, thinking you are lucky to have what you have. Instead, you should acknowledge the problem and express your true feelings. Abundance comes when you focus on what you gained from the situation rather than what you didn’t. For instance,"I didn't get the promotion, which makes me angry. However, I am going to use the tools I learned from the interview and polish my approach, rather than saying, 'I didn't get the promotion, so I should just be happy I can pay my bills.'"
When practicing gratitude, let’s be authentic. Focus on what you have and what brings you joy, and express that. For example, if you catch yourself thinking, “I hate my job,” rather than feeling lucky to have a job, try to find things to be grateful for, such as the skills you learned and the relationships or connections you made at the job, which could help you navigate your way to your new position.
In relationships, whether they’re toxic or incompatible, you don’t have to stay in a situation that does not bring you joy or where the other person doesn’t pour into you or lift you up. Instead of being glad you have a partner, try to be grateful for life lessons each relational situation brings, which will make you stronger and wiser and help you acknowledge your self-worth. Thus, building abundance and better choices for the future. In summary, to quote the words of Oprah Winfrey, “If you look at what you have in life, you will always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you will never have enough.”
Expressing gratitude doesn’t mean you have to pretend that everything is perfect in your life or that you should feel guilty when you have a lessthan-positive mindset or are simply dissatisfied or disappointed. It’s okay not to be okay. Practicing gratitude begins the journey to living a life of abundance. It won’t happen overnight, but gratitude with consistency will gradually become the norm.
Here are a few suggestions to get you started:
∙ Embrace gratitude and focus on the abundance that already exists in your life. It’s easy to think about the things you don’t have, but try to remember the things you do.
∙ Consider the things in your life that would be difficult to quantify, like real friends, good health, creative ideas, personal growth, specific skillset or talent, and even romantic gestures.
∙ Give from the heart. “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” - 2 Corinthians 9:7 (KJV).
∙ Celebrate other people's wins. Genuinely celebrate with open eyes and an open mind; you might learn something.
∙ Seek significance rather than success. Significance lives on; success ends when you die.
∙ Prioritize impact over achievement: being present and in the moment vs. business; peace vs. happiness; trustworthy vs. controlling; committed vs. setting goals.
∙ Be intentional, set healthy boundaries, and own your time.
Lastly, as we age, it is important to focus on being thankful in all situations. Abundance doesn’t come from attaining things, but from having a grateful heart and contentment. Remember: "Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you". Matthew 6:33 (NKJV)
Dr. Michelle Kindred is a Professor of Education Leadership and Science Teaching Methods for master’s and PhD programs, helping scholars unveil their true potential and give back to the field of education. Her talents include curriculum development, collegial coaching, mentoring and supervision, and substantive editing and writing. She is the executive leader and owner of Cooper Kindred Ventures, LLC, which supports underrepresented and black communities through mentoring, education, scholarship, and well-being.
PROFITS & ABUNDANCE… NOT ALWAYS EQUAL
by Felicia Brown
In the business world, we often view success through the lens of profits and losses, but I would venture to say it’s more significant than that. In today’s competitive market, many businesses sell comparable goods and services, competing for the same or similar customers and workers. Therefore, it’s critically important that business owners figure out how to stand head and shoulders above the crowd. I’m not just talking about packaging, social media presence, price, or quality. I’m talking about other attributes that, overall, are a good recipe for success.
In an era where numerous small businesses are being launched, it’s crucial for founders to move beyond focusing solely on profits and revenue, which are typically seen as the measures of success for a founder. Instead, they should consider a broader perspective that encompasses purpose, good intentions, and integrity, as these values result in much more than profits.
Let’s explore a few strategies:
Purposeful Leadership - Think about the type of leader you are and your leadership style. Being a good leader, on purpose, or rather a purposedriven leader, is critical to the sustainability of a business. A purpose-driven leader envisions the future of the business, fosters strong community relationships, supports other businesses, and operates with integrity. They invest in training and mentoring staff, treat them with respect, and hire personnel who are invested in the business's success. Equally, a purpose-driven leader values and learns from their staff, encouraging their ideas and contributions, and incorporates them for the betterment of the business.
Culture - Leaders are culture creators. The organizational culture is formed from the top down. As the founder, it is your responsibility to be intentional about creating an environment that embraces respect, growth, and innovation. If asked, what would current and former employees say about you as a leader and the culture you’ve built in your business? Will they say staff are treated fairly and have opportunities for advancement? Were they encouraged to learn new skills? Were new ideas encouraged and adopted? And were they valued and rewarded? These are just a few questions to consider that contribute to building a culture where staff are engaged, committed, and motivated to work toward the success of the business. Organizational culture
is felt at all levels of the business. Therefore, be sure it reflects and aligns with your core values and brand.
Relationships and Partnerships - It goes without saying that good relationships and partnerships can yield lasting results. When developing them, be clear and intentional about their purpose. What do you hope to gain from the relationship, and what are you willing to give in exchange? Whether it’s contacts, networks, a discount, mentoring, or coaching…whatever it is, be realistic about what you can offer and ensure these strategic alliances benefit the business without compromising your reputation. Protect your brand and be careful not to burn bridges, as they can be long-lasting. You never know if you will need to revisit the relationship or partnership in the future.
Innovation - Successful businesses should always be in a posture of growing and evolving. Keeping up with trends and consumer demands and constantly identifying ways to take your products and/or services to the next level should always be at the forefront of your mind as a business owner. Innovation is not always about creating something new, but sometimes it’s about improving what
you already have for the customer. Embrace new technologies like responsible artificial intelligence to expand your customer base and market, and communicate with clients and prospective clients about new products and get feedback.
Social Responsibility - Having a successful business is not just about how much money you make; it’s also about being a good partner in the community. Supporting community organizations is not just about a business tax write-off; it’s simply the right thing to do! Businesses should take responsibility for supporting individuals and communities that help make their businesses successful. Helping to sustain organizations in the community where you live and operate gives your business greater visibility and provides personal satisfaction in knowing that you are aiding in creating a better community.
To help you prosper along your entrepreneurial journey, be sure to check out resources in your community, such as the Small Business Administration Women’s Business Development Center and others formed to support the success of women entrepreneurs.
Limitless Possibilities: Tia Bradley's Journey of Resilience and Community at Intuit
by Alaina Pinkney
When you embrace vulnerability and the power of community, life can open doors to limitless possibilities. And if anyone knows this testament all too well, it’s Tia Bradley from Intuit, who transformed her path through resilience, adaptability, and the support of a vibrant network. Growing up, Tia’s childhood dream was sparked by a memorable
birthday party that led her to want to pursue a future career as a clown. There was something about the clown’s ability to bring joy to children. This planted a deep-rooted seed in her young mind about the power of making others happy. Although her early attempts at mastering clown makeup didn’t pan out, her connection to that feeling of joy and the passion it ignited in her would come full circle. Today, she finds herself in a position that has a similar impact on the individuals she serves at Intuit.
But she had to go on a journey to get to that pin on the map.
As she grew older, Tia's aspirations shifted toward child psychology, still aligned with her dreams of impacting individuals early in life. However, her transition to college life was challenging. “I was not ready for college,” she admits. This led her to move back home, but with the support of her family, her mother encouraged her to continue her education while she worked at a local convenience store, Wawa.
During this period of uncertainty, Tia learned about Intuit from a coworker. She applied and was hired as a seasonal customer service agent. Her first day, Halloween 2005, was transformative. “Everyone was dressed in costumes. I thought, ‘You can go to work and dress up? How do I stay here?’” Tia fondly remembers. This inclusive and joyful environment contrasted sharply with the more rigid workplaces of her parents. It also reaffirmed the feeling she had as a child where her dream was to work in a career that brought joy to herself as well as others—and it was here where she realized, this
Top: Tia, Mbessin Sonko, and Nykia Wilson . Bottom: Tia and Tracy Griggsby Leonard. Tia and Tyler Perry.
“I started to be more vulnerable about what I was experiencing. Instead of trying to project an image of perfection, I realized I needed to ask for help.”
is what I’ve been searching for since that birthday party decades prior.
Intuit was definitely the place on the map she was purposed to be, but her journey at Intuit was marked by both significant growth and a few challenges. Initially unsure of her career path, and still figuring out where she wanted to land with her career at Intuit, she continued her education, earning a degree in business administration with Intuit’s tuition reimbursement program. As she progressed from a frontline agent to various roles, including tier two and tier three support, and eventually a manager, Tia discovered her passion for leadership. Her passion for being in a position to lead while ensuring others felt what she’d been wanting to deliver her entire life—joy.
But all leaders face challenges, and one of her toughest moments came with a difficult manager. “We just did not seem to click,” Tia shares. Feeling undervalued and uncertain, she turned to her mentor, Latoya Haynes. “I started to be more vulnerable about what I was experiencing. Instead of trying to project an image of perfection, I realized I needed to ask for help.”
One of the most significant lessons Tia learned was the importance of vulnerability and asking for help. “It’s almost like swallowing your pride,” she explains. “Asking for help is critical. We sometimes feel we
have to exude perfectionism, but it’s important to get support not only for the sunny days but the rainy days as well.”
Another power move that helped Tia on her journey to joy was joining Intuit’s African Ancestry Network, an Employee Resource Group. This provided Tia with a sense of belonging and mentorship. “I found my people,” she says. This community helped her navigate both professional challenges and personal transitions, like moving to a new state.
Today, Tia is a Staff Program Manager in Talent Acquisition at Intuit. She oversees hiring, assessment, and employee referral programs, shaping candidates’ first impressions of the company. Reflecting on her 18 years at Intuit, Tia attributes her success to the people she’s met and the inclusive culture that has allowed her to thrive. “I’ve built so many great connections, met some of my best friends, and even my wife at work,” she says.
Tia Bradley’s story is a powerful testament to the impact of vulnerability and community. Not often do we overcome the fear of being vulnerable to embrace the support and power of building meaningful connections, but she did. And she’s soaring because of it! Not only has she achieved personal success, she has also made a positive difference in the lives of others. Her story is rooted in empowerment and truly reminds us all that with the right support system, we can overcome challenges and unlock limitless possibilities—but most easily when you invite in joy.
From top to bottom: Tia and Damion Wright at AfroTech Credit Karma Mixer. Second: Tia, La Toya Haynes, Ashley Renee Colen. Third: Tia, Cecilia Perrsons Ramos, and Naomi Garvin. Bottom: Out & Equal
Photos are courtesy of Tia Bradley, Inuit.
In this Entrepreneurial Spotlight, we shine a light on inspiring women in the health and beauty space who embody elegance, strength, and creativity. Their stories are not just about success, but about the grace and determination that drive them to pursue their hopes and dreams.
Join us as we delve into the inspiring journeys of Carol Rasheed and Denise Reese. These remarkable women extend grace through their artistry and entrepreneurial spirit, lighting the path for others to follow. Their journeys will inspire and encourage you to embrace your aspirations with confidence and resilience.
“I remember growing up and her telling me to always ask for what you want. Don’t ask people for handouts. Don’t go and get on welfare. I remember her instilling in me to work for what you want, always work for what you want and be responsible for you.”
Carol Rasheed: The Power of Make-up from the Inside Out
by Kimberly Sweet
Carol Rasheed uses makeup to transform the Hollywood elite. Rather than cover up, her true gift is to reveal inner strength, beauty and truth. As a Makeup Department Head, Rasheed, has been recognized with Emmy, Critic’s Choice, Astra Award, and The Black Reel Award nominations. Variety Magazine named her among “The Top 10 Artisans to Watch in 2023.” This year, Rasheed was presented the Outstanding Achievement in Makeup honor at The Hollywood Beauty Awards by Emmy-winner Lynn Whitfield.
And yes, you have seen her work.
She led the makeup team and created the incredible looks and feels of The Color Purple, Reimagined. Rasheed has also led teams on many other highend productions: Greenleaf, The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, Steel Magnolias, Mean Girls, All Eyez on Me and Crazy, Sexy, Cool – The TLC Story. She has also worked with a wide range of notable celebrities, actors, and actresses, including Cicely Tyson, Diane Lane, Coleman Domingo, Lynn Whitfield, Fantasia Barrino, Woody Harrelson, Sir Sidney Poitier, Samuel L. Jackson, Kiefer Sutherland, and Usher. For all the success that Rasheed enjoys today, she still hasn’t peaked. So much more is ahead. She continues to
walk the path her mother, a long-time hotel cook, traveled before her.
“To see how hard my mother worked, that was something that always stuck in my head,” Rasheed said. “I remember growing up and her telling me to always ask for what you want. Don’t ask people for handouts. Don’t go and get on welfare. I remember her instilling in me to work for what you want, always work for what you want and be responsible for you.”
As a teen growing up in Winter Haven, Florida in the 1980s, Rasheed chose to work at the local department store’s cosmetics counter because it paid more. That led to her getting a cosmetology/ barber license, opening up her first salon and buying a house. When things got tough financially, Rasheed didn’t step back, she stepped up and coldcalled Walt Disney World. “It’s in the entertainment business and I thought to myself, ‘I’d love to work in the entertainment business,’ still not understanding that makeup artistry could turn into a job, into a real profession,” she explained.
Rasheed’s department store experience earned her a spot on a 15-member core team Disney put together for MGM Studios. She worked on The View, Regis & Kathy Lee and some game shows when segments were filmed at Disney. Rasheed’s professionalism and reputation caught the attention of Nickelodeon executives who tapped her to be their head of the hair and makeup department in 1991. “Everything was kind of divinely ordered,” she said. Divinely ordered and divinely empowered. In 2000, Rasheed led the newly formed Hair and Makeup Department for Oxygen Media Corporation. In this capacity, she hired and managed others who performed services. Just a year later, she was the first African American to hold a $250,000 annual contract to provide make
Photos courtesy of Carol Rasheed
and hair services exclusively to the Home Shopping Network. Rasheed went on to partner with Marriott Hotels to own/operate a Salon and Spa within the Renaissance Resort at SeaWorld. Her company, Network Beauty, Inc., evolved into a force of its own.
As her business, experience and reputation grew, Rasheed found that her mother’s message to her as a teen still rang true. “Always work for something better. Recognize and realize that you don’t have to stay where you are. That was instilled in me,” she said. “I know that this is going to be better if I just work a little bit harder.”
Working harder led to a move from Florida to Tyler Perry Studios in Atlanta, Georgia. She agreed to fill in for a makeup artist who was on vacation. “Three weeks ended up being three months, then three years, because my phone just kept ringing after that,” she said. Rasheed eventually sold her Florida home and bought a house in Atlanta, not far from the historic district that includes the birth home of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., which she said grew into a “live/work situation” with part of the property designated as her residence and the other part hosting her new studio aimed at nurturing and training others to succeed in the film and tv makeup business.
As she was bringing others along, Rasheed’s resume also grew with House of Payne, I Can Do Bad All by Myself, Meet the Browns, Madea’s Family Reunion, and The Family That Preys, added to her body of work. Her skills and those of her team grew to include not only beauty, but simulating aging, prosthetics, skin distressing and futuristic makeup.
Rasheed says that well-known actors, both black and white, say the same thing—her standard is the same, no matter the film. “I come. I put in the work. It’s not about me. What we do is a service industry job, I am there to serve. My team is there to serve,” she said. “I’m professional. And I feel like I always up the level of excellence when I do projects. The producers know the level is going to be elevated and I’m going to elevate myself as well as my team. And I think that’s one of the things that I’m known for.”
Rasheed’s focus on serving both crew and client often leads to emotional connections.
“When you get a celebrity person to sit in your chair, they’re just like you and I. I mean sometimes they’re breaking down in tears because they’ve had
a fight with their husband or they’ve lost one of their parents. As an artist, as a professional, as a service provider, it is up to me to sit there and try to uplift them and hold them and do whatever it is I need to help them get through the day.”
She continues to say “it’s more than just about makeup, honestly. So makeup is a very broad spectrum. I mean, it creates everything. It can create sadness or it can create death. It can invoke emotions through the artistry that you’re doing. I think that’s another part of the legacy that I want to be able to impart to people, that it’s not just about painting a pretty face. Anybody can do that. So, it’s a human-to-human connection.”
That connection is in person and on paper. Rasheed has invited the artists she worked with to make entries in a shared journal she has kept for more than 20 years. The book has a long list of contributors from Debbie Allen and Gladys Knight to Wayne Brady and Robin Roberts. Just as she gave them an ear or a hug when they needed it, their encouraging words or positive stories uplift Rasheed on days when she finds herself challenged. As a Black woman who leads teams on Black and white sets, things are not easy. However, Rasheed is the same woman who has spent more than 30 years earning her place at some of the largest and most influential studios in the entertainment industry. She doesn’t shrink easily.
“People have to have the confidence to know that whatever happens, happens. And it may be a situation where I would say 90% of the things where I’ve had to do that, people have respected me and they leave me the hell alone and let me do my job. I don’t get fired. But I think so many people have the fear that they are going to lose their job. I’ve never had attachment to jobs like that.”
“Stand in your truth, understand what it is that you’re doing, and be steadfast in that. Speak up for yourself. Speak up for your team. Be there to catch people when they fall
The confident, hard-working teen with the vision to create a successful career for herself has now grown into a powerful, well-connected woman who wants to ensure that she is providing entrée for others as film and makeup team leaders in the entertainment industry.
“Part of my legacy is having an educational platform where I can point to other people to help them gain the confidence that they need to navigate these waters,” she said. “Specifically, in the entertainment business because this is a tough business and people love to blame other people for their shortcomings.”
Whether she is teaching in her studio or talking to team members on set, her advice is the same. “Stand in your truth, understand what it is that you’re doing, and be steadfast in that. Speak up for yourself. Speak up for your team. Be there to catch people when they fall,” she said. “The legacy is that we have the power to really help along the way.”
carolrasheedbeauty.com
Denise Reese The Grace Collection
by Alaina Pinkney
Denise Reese, the visionary behind The Grace Collection, has crafted more than just a luxury home fragrance brand; she has woven a tapestry of grace, resilience, and community into every product. Denise’s journey from technology sales to entrepreneurship is a story of embracing grace and overcoming obstacles, creating a brand that resonates with empathy and elegance.
In 2020, Denise chose “Grace” as her guiding word for the year. Little did she know how pivotal this choice would become. As the world shut down due to the pandemic, Denise faced personal losses and global upheaval. Yet, it was in these moments of profound challenge that the concept of grace took on a deeper meaning.
“Grace kept coming up in things I was reading and listening to,” Denise recalls. “It became clear that grace was what we all needed to navigate the craziness around us.”
Denise’s professional background in technology sales and business development had always been entrepreneurial. She excelled at starting new business segments and expanding into new markets. However, creating The Grace Collection was her first venture into full-fledged entrepreneurship. Despite having no prior experience in the fragrance industry,
Photos courtesy of Denise Reese
“I had to constantly give myself grace because starting something from scratch is completely different than building on something that already exists... It’s about taking an idea that doesn’t exist and turning it into a tangible product.”
KAYU PEDESTAL
KAYU PETRIFIED WOOD PEDESTAL TABLE, BLACK
ATHENA COLUMN COFFEE TABLE
KAYU PETRIFIED WOOD PEDESTAL TABLE, NATURAL
ZIGGY SIDE TABLE
MARVEL RATTAN DINING CHAIR
Denise’s passion for scents and home pleasantries drove her to explore this new path.
During a bespoke fragrance experience with a friend, Denise had an epiphany. Surrounded by luxurious scents and inspired by her boyfriend’s encouragement to “bottle her magic,” she knew she had found her calling. The Grace Collection was born with a vision to create luxury home fragrances that embody elegance and serenity. Her stunning candles and home fragrances are packaged with style and captivate with every aroma they emit.
Launching a brand during a global pandemic presented unique challenges. Denise faced setbacks, including a failed partnership that forced her to start over with new suppliers. Yet, she embraced these obstacles with grace, sharing her journey with her growing community on social media.
“I had to constantly give myself grace because starting something from scratch is completely different than building on something that already exists... It’s about taking an idea that doesn’t exist and turning it into a tangible product.”
This authenticity resonated with her audience. User-generated content, unboxing videos, and enthusiastic customer feedback fueled The Grace Collection’s growth. Each sale and each positive review, was a reminder of the impact her brand was making.
When it comes to the future, Denise envisions The Grace Collection becoming a multi-million dollar global brand, featured in iconic stores like Saks Fifth Avenue and Neiman Marcus. She dreams of
seeing her products in high-end boutiques around the world, from the South of France to London and Barcelona. While she doesn’t plan to open a brick-and-mortar store, she aims to establish solid brand partnerships and explore licensing opportunities.
“My faith is strong,” Denise shares. “I know that God birthed this business, and where He leads, He provides. The way out is through, and this season is just part of the journey to what’s next.”
Denise’s story speaks perfectly to the power of grace and resilience that women in business must face every day on their journey. Her walk with The Grace Collection is a reminder that we all need grace, especially when building something new and navigating the unknown. It’s about extending grace to ourselves and those around us, finding joy in the process, and trusting that every challenge brings us closer to our goals.
For Denise Reese, The Grace Collection is not just a business; it’s a mission to infuse the world with elegance, empathy, and, above all, grace.
Learn more visit gracethecollection.com
MONEY TALKS
with Roni M. Talley
Empowering Executive Women: Maximizing Benefits for Corporate Leaders
In the realm of corporate leadership, women executives play pivotal roles in shaping organizations, making strategic decisions, and impacting the lives of others. As you devote your expertise and dedication to driving success within your corporation, it's crucial to explore opportunities to enhance your benefits package and secure your financial future. One valuable avenue to consider is optimizing your compensation structure with tailored arrangements that align with your goals and aspirations.
Executive Bonus Plan Arrangements
An executive bonus plan is a performance-based compensation strategy that allows employers to reward top-performing executives for their contributions to the company's growth and success. By structuring a bonus plan, executives, including women leaders, are incentivized to achieve specific business targets, drive performance, and align their interests with the organization's strategic objectives. These arrangements can serve as powerful tools to motivate and retain talented executives while fostering a culture of performance excellence.
Key Person Insurance
Key person insurance is a type of life insurance policy that organizations can use to secure the lives of critical employees, such as top executives like yourself. In the unfortunate event of your unexpected passing, key person insurance provides the company with financial protection to cover potential losses associated with the disruption of your leadership, expertise, and unique contributions. By offering key person insurance as part of your benefits package, employers demonstrate their commitment to retaining key talent and safeguarding the continuity of their business operations.
Deferred Compensation Offerings
Deferred compensation plans provide executives with the opportunity to defer a portion of their income to a future date, usually during retirement. These arrangements offer tax advantages and enable executives to supplement their retirement savings beyond traditional employer-sponsored plans like 401(k)s. By participating in deferred compensation programs, women executive leaders can strategically plan for their long-term financial security, manage their tax liabilities, and maximize their retirement savings potential.
If your corporation does not currently offer executive bonus plans, key person insurance, or deferred compensation offerings, it's essential to explore options to enhance your benefits package and align it with your financial goals. Roni Talley, working with your HR Coordinator, can initiate discussions to introduce these valuable incentives that recognize your contributions, provide financial security, and support your ongoing success as a key leader within the organization.
As an esteemed woman executive leading and impacting the lives of others, optimizing your benefits package with tailored arrangements can elevate your financial well-being, enhance your motivation and commitment, and reinforce your valuable partnership with your employer. By proactively exploring these opportunities, you can solidify your position as a respected leader, secure your future, and continue making a lasting impact within your organization and beyond.
As an experienced financial professional, I specialize in empowering executive women nationwide. We specialize in developing strategies that help clients leverage executive bonuses, build strong protection portfolios, establish long-term wealth-building strategies for retirement sustainability, and implement comprehensive legacy planning for future generations. The specialized approach will provide you with the tools and knowledge you need to manage your career and financial journey confidently and successfully.
Roni M Talley
Call or text “Cheryl Magazine” to (770) 685-5532
Disclaimer: This article does not constitute financial advice. Consult with a qualified financial professional and include your tax professional in the conversations for personalized guidance according to your individual circumstances.
A Life of Jubilee!
Meet Janae Willis Beard
In the spring of 2023, Janae Willis Beard experienced a pivotal change in her life. While deeply involved in her business at Beard Marketing & Management Firm, she was approached by a mentor regarding an opportunity at Jubilee Theatre. The financial challenges brought by COVID added allure to the offer, presenting a welcomed break. Following an anxiety-inducing interview process in March, she was initially considered for the role of interim managing director. Eventually, she secured the marketing and education director position due to her marketing expertise. Her tenure commenced on June 16, 2023, and her strategic vision for advancement and sustainability soon led to her promotion as managing director on September 1, 2023, marking the start of Jubilee Theatre's season.
Recalling her journey, Janae expressed, "During Spring 2023, a supportive mentor approached me about joining Jubilee Theatre to assist with business development and marketing needs. At that time, my focus was on my business. The offer for a 90-day contract came at a time when financial pressures from the pandemic
were significant. The nerve-wracking interview process in March added to the anticipation, especially when there was no response for over a month. I was initially considered for the position of interim managing director. They offered me the marketing and education role instead. They recognized that my expertise in marketing could help re-engage patrons in the COVID era. Being the daughter of an educator, I understand how essential arts are for education. I was excited to contribute to Jubilee's goals in this area. My first day on June 16, 2023, as the interim marketing and education director was thrilling. The board saw my ability to envision growth and sustainability and decided that I could make an impact. This led to my appointment as managing director on September 1, 2023, at the start of Season 43."
One of the most memorable moments at Jubilee Theatre happened in December 2023 when the youth acting group performed "Bone Soup: A Kwanzaa Story." Initially planned for one show, overwhelming community support extended it to three performances. Seeing actors aged 11 to 17 gain confidence and skill as they brought the story to life was truly inspiring. "We welcomed a youth drama group to perform the play," Janae shared. "Initially, the director planned for one show."With the overwhelming support from the community, we ended up having three performances. It was truly heartwarming to see these actors, ranging from 11 to 17 years old, blossom in confidence
and skill as they brought this story to life. The way the North Texas community came together to cheer on these dedicated artists showcased the impact of theater in fostering a sense of community. It underscored how Jubilee Theatre provides a platform for African American artists to cultivate their voices and share their narratives. This experience further solidified my dedication to maintaining Jubilee Theatre as a nurturing and empowering environment. It emphasized the importance of securing funding for initiatives, knowing that every contribution directly benefits these individuals. Witnessing the outcomes of our efforts in nurturing the next generation of artists reaffirmed why Jubilee Theatre is indispensable for our community's cultural and artistic legacy."
Balancing Jubilee Theatre's storied past with new ideas requires a strategic approach. The campaign "Rooted, Reunited: The nEXt 42 ©" delved into the theatre's history from both operational perspectives. This examination shaped a vision that respects the theatre's heritage while also embracing innovation for the future. Season 43, themed "Rooted," is centered on reconnecting with patrons and reaching out to the next generation of theatre enthusiasts. Moving into Season 45, themed "Reunited," Jubilee Theatre aims to strengthen its connections with supporters and new audiences. By fostering meaningful relationships, Jubilee Theatre aims to maintain its relevance in the domain by honoring its past while embarking boldly into the future.
"In a world of flux, Jubilee Theatre ensures inclusivity by providing a platform for every voice—starting with defining what that platform entails," Janae elaborated. "Through our 'Reflective Rooted, Reunited: The nEXt 42 ©' initiative, we thoroughly examined our history from operational standpoints. This evaluation highlighted our strengths and areas needing improvement, guiding us towards preserving our heritage while embracing innovation for tomorrow. In our season known as 'Rooted' in Season 43, we are focusing on our growth, health, and life foundations. We are engaging with our customers, listening to their feedback, and delivering experiences they value. Simultaneously, we are broadening our perspective to attract the interest of the next generation and ensure that our content remains relevant and captivating for a younger audience. Looking forward to Season 45, titled 'Reunited,' our emphasis will be on completing
Photos courtesy of Janae Willis Beard
DIRECTED BY KHIRA HAILEY
the circle. This upcoming season will center on nurturing connections with the generations we have engaged with in previous seasons. Our objective is to foster a sense of community and inclusion, creating an environment where both longstanding supporters and new audiences feel welcomed. We are deliberate in forging every bond we establish, crafting each production meticulously, and engaging thoughtfully with every supporter we encounter. By blending our past with new concepts, we strive to maintain Jubilee Theatre's vitality as a dynamic influence within the cultural sphere. Our aim is to honor tradition while fearlessly embracing the future, leaving behind a legacy that will inspire generations to come."
Jubilee Theatre encounters distinctive funding obstacles, especially when it comes to securing support from individual donors. In the aftermath of COVID-19, the theatre has faced difficulties in selling season passes and engaging patrons, making it challenging to predict ticket sales and reconnect with donors. Nevertheless, these hurdles also open doors for new approaches. Implementing innovative marketing strategies, enhancing social media presence, and fostering community ties have become vital tactics. Through outreach initiatives, efforts are being made to inform donors about the significance of backing African American arts, nurturing a deeper understanding and commitment to Jubilee Theatre's mission. These endeavors are cultivating an involved donor community, ensuring the theatre's sustained progress and influence.
"The post-pandemic period has posed hurdles in selling Season Passes and engaging with patrons during production runs," Janae highlighted. "This unpredictability hampers sales projections and reconnection efforts with individual donors, crucial for our long-term viability. Nonetheless, these obstacles also bring forth prospects. They encourage us to come up with creative ways to engage our audience, like developing exciting marketing strategies and using social media to connect with a wider range of people. We're also putting effort into strengthening our bonds with the community by offering immersive experiences that captivate audiences right from the start. Moreover, we're working on creating outreach programs to educate and motivate donors on the significance of supporting American arts. Our goal is to showcase the stories we share and how they contribute to the community, aiming to cultivate a deeper
understanding and commitment to our cause. These initiatives are helping us tackle obstacles and establish a robust and involved donor community. This transition period is instrumental in building a close-knit community around Jubilee Theatre, ensuring its success and inspiration for years ahead."
Jubilee Theatre is dedicated to nurturing emerging playwrights and artists. The Marian & Rudy Eastman New Works Series serves as a platform for voices carrying forward the legacy of the theatre's founders. Through initiatives like Artistic Director D. Wambui Richardson's work introduced under this program, this commitment shines through. Additionally, in Season 44, the launch of the Junior Producers program aims at educating young talents about the nuances of theatre production.
"Jubilee Theatre is wholeheartedly dedicated to nurturing the talents of emerging playwrights and artists," emphasized Janae. "Our Marian & Rudy Eastman New Works Series stands out as an initiative aimed at offering a platform for voices to flourish and present their work. This series not only showcases talent but also carries on the founders' legacy by fostering creativity and innovation. An inspiring success story from this series is our Artistic Director, D. Wambui Richardson, who will unveil a new creation through this program. Wambui's participation reflects our commitment to empowering artists in our community, giving them opportunities to blossom and excel. Moreover, in Season 44, Jubilee Theatre will introduce a Junior Producers program with the goal of educating young artists on the intricacies of producing performances from inception to realization."
By going back to our origins as an institution for the Black artist community, we are guaranteeing that the upcoming generation is well-prepared with the necessary skills and knowledge to excel in the arts sector. By providing support, guidance, and a platform for new creations, we ensure that innovative and captivating narratives continue to emerge from Jubilee Theatre. This dedication to nurturing growth allows us to celebrate our cultural legacy while opening doors for future African American artists. Our assistance goes beyond the stage, nurturing a dynamic arts community that flourishes.
To support the Jubilee Theatre, visit jubileetheatre.org.
Getting Abundant Clarity About Your PurposeDriven Career
by Felicia Brown, Financial Resilience, AARP
Throughout our lifetime, many of us will probably have several jobs and careers. For some, it will be a journey of fulfillment and purpose, and for some it will be one that pays the bills, but not necessarily as purpose-driven as perhaps desired.
According to Zippia’s Average Job Satisfaction in the US research, only 20% of people are passionate about what they do. As we mature, change is inevitable, and sometimes the desire to live with purpose and meaning increases. If you are at a crossroads in your life and looking to pivot to something new, different, and meaningful that drives you toward your passion, perhaps now is the time to take that leap and see where you’ll land. Just get clear about what you want and how that will look for YOU!
Here are a few suggestions to help you gain clarity as you navigate the journey toward your purposeful career.
Pursue Your Passion. Start with getting clear about what you’re passionate about, then create a career path that will help you get there. Sometimes early in our careers we accept jobs that will make us lots of money, but we’re
not necessarily doing something we love. Now, don’t get me wrong, money is important for financing our livelihood and desired quality of life, but it’s equally important to follow your heart and do what truly fulfills you.
Set Goals and Direction. Once you’ve determined what you’re passionate about, get busy with setting goals. If your current role doesn’t give you the passion you’re seeking, consider launching a new path. Whether it’s looking for a new job or taking on new assignments in your current job, create a road map to get there. Consider taking classes, making new connections and/or getting expert guidance on what you need. Reach out to organizations like The Muse or Better Up or tap into your employer’s career development programs. However, be clear about your north star and let that determine your path.
Reskill or Upskill. Now that you’ve set goals, consider enrolling in a few courses or programs to help you achieve them. Continuous learning is not only good for the brain and longevity, but in today’s dynamic and ever-changing job market, it’s important to stay relevant. View it as an investment in yourself. Think about where you may need to reskill or upskill. Commit to taking a few courses or enrolling in a certification or degree program. Platforms like the AARP Skills Builder for Work, LinkedIn Learning, and Coursera offer courses in a variety of areas that may align with your goals. And if you’re not sure of what you want to pursue, they have courses to help you figure it out.
Network. Building and nurturing a professional network is critical. It can lead you to new opportunities and advancement. Think of your network as your
community—one that you can lean on for advice and new opportunities. Aside from the typical networking events such as conferences and trainings, use non-professional social gatherings, particularly if you are moving into a new field, to share your goals and expand your network. Remember, there is a networking group for everything! Find your tribe. Use social media and networking platforms like LinkedIn to expand your sphere and connect with groups in your desired pursuit. Don’t worry if you don’t know them personally. If you have a friend or an acquaintance that’s connected to them, just reach out.
Resilience
and Adaptability. The path to reach your desired goals will not always be straight and narrow. Matter of fact, the road is oftentimes a bit bowed. If you are pivoting toward something new, it may not happen as quickly as you’d like it to. Stay the course. Be agile, adaptable, and really find the space to do what is necessary to get where you want to go. While disappointments may occur along the way be resilient in your pursuit. And finally…
Practice Gratitude. If you’re setting out on a new career path, it may take time to yield results. Be patient and trust you will get there. Believe in yourself. Every day you wake up, be thankful you’ve been given another day to work on yourself to achieve your desired career goals. Consider incorporating a daily routine that invites a mindset of abundance. Tap into your inner strength and resilience to carry you along this journey. Appreciate the opportunities, embrace the challenges, and count the wonders along the way.
To find tools to help you navigate your career journey, visit www.aarp.org/work.
Cheryl's Choice: The Essential Rolodex
Picks from Business Brilliance to Event Mastery
Explore the key tools and resources that have fueled my journey from the world of business to the art of event planning. Here's a curated selection, from innovative networking to savvy funding.
intuit.com
Intuit is a global technology platform, powering prosperity with TurboTax, QuickBooks, Mint, Credit Karma, and Mailchimp.
Swain Consulting swainconsultingllc.com
Providing comprehensive financial services with an emphasis in Work Opportunity Tax Credit (WOTC).
Black Alzheimer’s Brain Study blackalzbrainstudy.com
Our mission is to create solutions for a healthier community.
Women’s Business Enterprise National Council www.wbenc.org/certification
WBENC is also an approved third-party certifier for the SBA’s Women-Owned Small Business (WOSB) Federal Contracting Program.
Small Business Administration www.sba.gov
The SBA has worked to ignite change and spark action so small businesses can confidently start, grow, expand, or recover.
AARP
www.aarp.org
AARP is a nonprofit, nonpartisan organization that empowers people to choose how they live as they age.
DFW Flower Wall www.dfwflowerwall.com
Full Brand Activation, Balloons, Design Maquees, Neon Signs, Flower Walls, Chiara Arched Backdrops, Shimmer Walls & more.
Woodard Worldwide Visions, LLC www.woodardworldwidevisions.com
Tammy Woodard - Owner, ICF Certified Professional Life Coach. As a seasoned life coach, she provides clients with the necessary tools and insights to transform their lives and rediscover their true selves.
Pinkney Creative www.pinkneycreative.com
Your Brand Drives Engagement, Authority, Impact, and Conversion. We specialize in crafting impact-driven brands that not only excel in marketability and profitability but also resonate deeply, ensuring they stand out and flourish in competitive environments.
Speak Beautiful www.speakbeautiful.com
Beautiful is a creative agency that leverages innovative talent to deliver exceptional publishing solutions and impactful graphic design, fostering deep audience engagement for entrepreneurial brands and organizations.
Photo courtesy of Vanessa Miller
Vanessa Miller: Crafting a Life of Abundance by Writing from the Heart
by Alexandria L. Barlowe
When I sat down to chat with Best Selling Author and Christian Book Lover’s Retreat Founder Vanessa Miller, I was eager to learn more about the dynamic woman who has published 54 titles spanning her two-plus decades as a writer. With her lifelong love for writing and her strong foundation of faith, Miller is creating a life of abundance and leaving a legacy for her children’s children while simultaneously changing the landscape of Christian fiction with highly acclaimed titles such as Something Good and The Light on Halsey Street.
As a young girl, Miller was never far from pen and paper. She spent much of her time writing poetry, plays, short stories, and novels. As her childhood musings and colorfully creative stories flowed from the corners of her mind to the pages of her notebooks, she had no idea that her hobby would one day be the avenue by which she could serve God and create a life of abundance. With every story, play, and poem young Vanessa chronicled, she was solidifying God’s plan for her life – which was to write compelling stories of faith, redemption and God’s unconditional love that would lead readers to Christ. Miller’s life and testimony attest to the fact that sometimes, the things we do organically or purely for enjoyment can usher us to our destiny.
While Miller has always loved to write, her gift of storytelling with words took on a greater significance after personal tragedy led her to a relationship with God. When she was in her mid20’s, Vanessa lost a close friend unexpectedly to a heart attack.
“I remember waving goodbye to her, not knowing that would be the last time I would see her alive. That was on a Friday and on that Monday, I got a call while I was at work. I was told that her heart had just stopped,” Vanessa explains.
The devastating loss of her friend left Vanessa feeling lost and in search of meaning. After being invited to church by a friend, Vanessa was moved to dedicate her life to God. This decision not only illuminated the possibility for her to serve God using her gift of writing, but it also sparked a desire for her to create stories that would lead others to Christ, one impactful character at a time.
“I don’t write about perfect people who go to church every Sunday and can do no wrong. My characters very clearly need Jesus,” Vanessa explained as she laughed heartily.
While certain chapters of Miller’s life caused her to question and doubt her career as a writer, in retrospect, she can see that writing was her destiny, decades before she realized it, and she offers insightful wisdom to others who have a love for writing.
“Stay in the game and keep writing because you never know which of your books will be ‘the one’,” Vanessa advises.
Miller follows her own advice and credits her success and longevity to being consistent.
“Writers write. My goal was to have 100 books published,” Vanessa explained.
“I’ve slowed down a bit since first setting this goal, but that was initially the plan. Now, I am more focused on quality than quantity, but I am still writing,” she added.
We took some time to discuss her latest title, The American Queen, a historical fiction that introduces us to The Kingdom of the Happy Land, a Black communal society of freed slaves living in Western North Carolina in the late 1800’s. Released earlier this year, The American Queen tells the heart wrenching story of Queen Louella who, with her husband, Reverend William, established The Kingdom of the Happy Land after escaping twenty four years of enslavement on Montgomery Plantation in Mississippi.
After a nudge from #1 New York Times Bestselling Author, Lisa Wingate, Miller learned of and became fascinated with the incredible history of a largely unknown people. She knew that she had to breathe life into this untold story of real African American royalty, right here on American soil.
“I stepped away from traditional publishing after my mother’s passing in 2010. When I was ready to come back to traditional publishing, I contacted Lisa Wingate for an endorsement of my book, Something Good. She not only gave me that endorsement, she told me about The Kingdom of the Happy Land and suggested that I investigate it because I lived in North Carolina where the kingdom had originated. I have been living in North Carolina for twelve years now and [before Lisa told me about it] I had never heard of Queen Louella and did not know anything about the Kingdom of the Happy Land. I remember saying a king and queen in America?! And they were black?! Yes, I absolutely want to write this story!” Vanessa explained.
From there, the story and idea for The American Queen were born. As Miller began researching Queen Louella, she was delighted to learn that she lived just two hours away from the land on which
The Kingdom of The Happy Land was built. “I had the opportunity to walk on the land; it is only two hours away from where I live. I have been honored to write Queen Louella’s story. It is my greatest honor so far as a writer, and I am just thrilled and very grateful,” Vanessa added.
Writing The American Queen sparked a keen interest in a new genre for Miller. Her earlier works, including the popular Rain and Family Business series, have been primarily Christian fiction, but she is now itching to break ground on more historical fiction, with the same themes of triumph and redemption that have highlighted her earlier titles.
As a lifelong writer, Vanessa is deeply passionate about telling meaningful stories and connecting people who have a shared love for reading and God. After a debilitating car accident prevented her from traveling (as she typically did to promote her books), an insightful conversation with her daughter sparked a game-changing idea.
“Mama, since you can’t go to the people, why don’t you bring the people to you?!” Her daughter asked. After conducting a poll of her Facebook friends,
asking whether they would be willing to travel to Charlotte for a retreat, the response was a resounding ‘yes’! In October 2016, the inaugural Christian Book Lover’s Retreat was held in Charlotte, NC. Nearing its tenth year in operation, the retreat grows and takes on greater significance with each passing year, as it signifies the importance of fellowship and for Vanessa—her legacy. Her love for her family radiated as we discussed her children and grandchildren.
“I am still waiting on the little writer in my family. I know one of them has to catch this [writing] bug! My grandson told me he wanted to write a book! I’m still waiting for him to finish it, but he mentioned it and that got me excited,” Vanessa laughs.
Miller gets great joy out of making her book tours a family affair as her family often travels with her.
“They have to sit and listen to me read the same book and say the same thing over and over again,” she laughed.
“I don’t necessarily want them to follow in my footsteps; I want them to do greater work than I have ever done,” Vanessa adds.
In creating her career and impact, Vanessa has, Vanessa has certainly set the stage for her lineage to use their gifts and talents to create a life of abundance, just as she has.
Miller is especially excited about her upcoming title, The Filling Station, which is a historical fiction centered around the Tulsa Massacre in 1921.
“I want readers to ask themselves, ‘What refills my soul after experiencing trauma?'” Vanessa explains.
To enhance the reader’s experience, Miller plans to develop a complementing workbook and workshop to roll out with the release of The Filling Station which is set for early 2025.
To learn more about best-selling author Vanessa Miller, visit her website: vanessamiller.com. The American Queen, and other titles are available on her website and at all major book retailers including Amazon, Target, Barnes & Noble, ChristianBook.com, and GoodReads. com. The 9th Annual Christian Book Lover’s Retreat is set for October 3-6, 2024. To learn more visit: christianbookloversretreat.com
He Makes All Things NEW
part 3
by Dr. Kerry-Ann Zamore Byrd
Dear Reader,
The last time we met, I took you through my second divorce and the testimony of my home going into pre foreclosure then selling at full price. As we concluded. I was once again questioning God as a new storm began to brew.
Blessings, Kerry-Ann
The Lord is NOT slack concerning his promises. One of my favorite scriptures indicates, “no weapon formed against you shall prosper”. It is a verse that I grew up with and recited on multiple occasions, but the part that came alive to me was the fact that the promise is NOT that the weapons won’t be formed, it is not that we won’t have trials nor bad times in life; what He promised is that they would not prosper, or they would not last. Going through bad times is a part of living. Everyone has had bad times, some have had more than others and others have coped better through bad times, but the reality is, that if you live long enough, you will have storms or bad times in life. The reality is bad things happen to all people, bad things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. It is a part of the cycle of life. By 40 years old I had had my share of bad times. I had survived domestic violence, I had survived an extra marital affair and abandonment, I had survived my own bad decisions and I survived losing everything. I had worked hard to regain my life after my second divorce. I was older and wiser and a lot more jaded. At 43, my life was looking better and brighter. In three years I had managed to work my way back to financial freedom. I had a thriving career as director of a program in municipality government. I had custody of my son, I owned my home and honesty, my life was good. As a playwright I expanded my stage plays to beyond the community theatre to different cities and other states. I had begun working on filming stories and won multiple awards for film work. Life was good. Those bad times were just a distant memory. “I was happy.” Whenever we become happy, or content, it is easy to become complacent in diligently seeking those things that sustained or helped us during perilous times. During perilous times, I was an avid mediator and worshipper. I journaled and budgeted and was very intentional in my time and space. As my perils began to subside, so did my time spent in praying, mediating and worshipping. In short, I began to rely on me. How dangerous it is to forget. This is where trouble struck again. Now, I am not saying that God caused chaos in my life. I don’t think that is the kind of God we serve. What I am saying is I was no longer intentional in discerning, focusing and paying attention and I was caught unprepared for the chaos that unfolded. I began to believe my own hype and listen to my cheerleaders. Remember this note; cheerleaders cheer even when the team is losing. At the height of my career as Director of program for a city my CEO told me that he was retiring after 30 years of service. He also confessed the agency was promoting the next in command. Let me explain the
premise. Six years prior, this CEO hired me, and gave me a blank card to create a program with a salary and a budget that no other person had. I essentially wrote my own ticket with ethical guidelines of course. Many people were not pleased that I held this position, but I had the support of senior leadership, so I was unfazed. I was the only female and the only person of color, which was yet another concern that did not phase me. The CEO in command who was hired a year prior took an immediate discontent to my position, my role, and my relationship with the CEO. So, this news, of my mentor’s retirement was very nerve wracking because I knew the next in command disliked me. He questioned my value, skills, and the program I had started – essentially, he did not think I should have the position for which I was hired. Two weeks after our initial conversation, the new CEO was announced. As he strolled the halls like a peacock in full bloom, he stopped by my office, stood at the door, and stared at me. His glare was neither friendly nor welcoming; it was meant to be intimidating. I met his glare with a smile. “Congratulations, I look forward to working with you,” I said, exhaling softly at the end of my statement. There was a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. By the following month, he had fully assumed the role and immediately came to me. He sat in my office and looked around. “What exactly does a social worker do?” he asked. I explained the position for which I was hired and detailed my roles as well as the outcomes. He remained silent. “I don’t think we need a degrees person to do that” He looked at me waiting for a response, I had none. I knew my value; I held a bachelor's degree and two master’s, and I had just begun my doctoral program. I refused to argue my education value with this idiot, so I sat back and allowed the silence to fill the room. He stood up. “I am going to be making some changes to your role here” he didn’t look at me as he spoke, then he left as abruptly as he had entered my office. I felt the presence of darkness surround me. I knew that this was a battle I could not win – he was out to destroy me and the program I built. As a salaried employee I made my own hours, I managed my schedule well, and was ethically sound with my time. He immediately wanted me to log hours and report to him; however no other salaried employee was asked to do this. I was no longer needed to senior staff meetings, rather I was told I would be back briefed. I normally attended a national conference for social work licensure; he canceled my reservation and membership with no notification, citing that I needed permission for all travel or conferences. I was told that the department would no longer support my social
work license because my position did not require it. My budget was removed, and I was now to request everything through his secretary. My work life became unbearable, and I dreaded every day I had to walk through the doors. I became a nervous wreck. My hair began to fall out in large chunks, my sleeping pattern was off, and my stomach ached daily. In short, I was depressed and anxious. I emailed a professional request to meet my CEO outlining my concerns. I was met with a request denied, citing that there was no need to meet. I spoke to a girlfriend who was a practicing attorney, and she encouraged me to report him to human resources. On the same day, I was summoned to his office, and he expressed concerns involving the quality of my work. I requested a meeting with our human resources department. I knew immediately that someone had alerted him. I had to clear my head, so I decided to take a short vacation to get my head together. I shared my concerns with my friend, who also admonished me to get back into my meditation time. To my surprise, my request for leave was approved. In preparation for my trip, I decided to braid my thick curls. It was a Saturday, and I was proud to obtain box braids to the middle of my back. Braids have always been one of my favorite “go-to” hairstyles. On Monday morning, I proudly walked into the office. At the end of the week, I would begin my vacation. I sat in my office listening to music. I will never forget that day as long as I live. I felt the presence of someone in the doorway, so I looked up. My CEO was standing there and said, "What did you do to your head? Why do you have those ropes on? You looked better the other way." I froze. "What did he say?" I thought. I blinked and fought back tears. I was angry and shocked. "Excuse me?" I was able to muster, after what seemed like an eternity.
"Your hair, why did you do that?" He snickered. A colleague walked in and stood next to him, equally shocked at his candor. Our eyes met, but like me, he remained silent, then he walked away.
I met his stare, unmoved and shocked. Unfazed, he walked back to his office. I must have sat there for thirty minutes, unsure of what to say or what to do. I packed my purse, closed my door behind me, and left for the day. I sat in my bathroom in my home staring at my face in the mirror. Every bad word I had taken in from my past came back like a flood. I was humiliated. I picked up my scissors and began to cut each braid from my hair. Then I sobbed. I sobbed for being silent,
I sobbed for not knowing what to do. I did not go into work the following day. I couldn’t, my hair was a mess, I felt stupid, and I did not want to face my CEO. I felt like a small, scolded child, but I was angry. I decided to use my personal leave for the rest of the week, then I left for vacation.
This vacation was the most profound time I spent in self-discovery, reconciliation, and repentance. I realized that I owed Kerry an apology. I had failed myself. I came from bad relationships, relied on God, but I never told that little girl who was broken, hurt, scared, abandoned, and rejected that it was okay to mourn the loss of herself. During my vacation, I spoke to the core of me. I spent time talking to my heart, singing to my spirit, and making amends for the many ways I let myself down.
My vacation was over. I felt rejuvenated and lighter. I decided to wear my natural curls. I carefully chose a cream-colored flare skirt, chocolate brown heels, and a brown blouse with soft pink flowers throughout. I felt like me. As I pulled into the parking space, I prayed, “Lord, shut my mouth and open my ears, allow me to see and hear.” I was going into battle; I had my war clothes on, and my mind was prepared. I walked into my office and turned my computer on. No sooner did I hear his laughter coming down the hall.
“Well, there you are. I didn’t know you still worked here.” He laughed, and a coworker laughed with him. I smiled. “Good morning.”
He looked at my hair. “I like that, way better than the ropes.”
I smiled again. “Have a blessed day. I have reports to get done.” He waited at the door with an uncomfortable snort. I didn’t look up; I continued to work, ignoring their presence at my door. I opened an email and read it. It was a job announcement (a significant promotion) which was sent to me. I clicked on the bottom and forwarded the application to my personal email. A wonderful peace came over me. I was about to walk into a new thing. I wasn’t scared this time, I wasn’t anxious, I was at peace. Whatever your will is Lord, take me through it. I knew that God once again, heard my cry. I felt like Samson in the Bible stories, my strength was renewed and God was about to make all things NEW again!
MY STORY, YOUR HOPE WHEN FEAR, PAIN, LOSS, AND GRIEF ARE TOO MUCH TO IGNORE
Dr. Michelle Kindred
Overwhelmed by the herds of people talking, eating, and reminiscing. I retreated to my room. I could still hear the clamor and decided to move to a quieter space – the solitude of my closet. Lying on the closet floor, curled up in a fetal position, I cried uncontrollably. Blubbering sobs of indistinguishable words, “Where are you, where are you, why did you leave me? I can’t do this; I don’t want to be here anymore.” I sat up and began trying to console myself with a wildly rhythmic rock, back and forth, back and forth. Suddenly, I felt a warm sensation and pressure around me, as if something or someone had embraced me and tried to pause my rocking. Time seemed to stand still. I felt like I had an out-of-body experience. Could it be?
-Excerpt from My Story, Your Hope, page 167.
Dr. Michelle Kindred is an educator, author, writer, substantive copy/contributing editor, and an intentional life & therapeutic writing coach. Her philosophy is driven by practicing intentionality, mindfulness, existential well-being, and recognizing our God-given purpose. Most of her work is coupled with a passion for listening and motivating Black and marginalized educators to overcome the unconscious barriers that impede their scholastic capacity.
Available at drmichellekindred.com
The Accidental Parent
by Adrienne Alexander
I can't fully emphasize the importance of having support in this season. Personally, it took a while for me to open myself up enough to ask for the help I needed. It was like being in a bubble that no one could pop. Although I knew the value of community, for some crazy reason, I thought I could do it alone.
For those like me, asking for help can be incredibly difficult. Feelings of shame or inadequacy prevent us from reaching out to others for support. We must break down these barriers and embrace vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness.
Accidental parenthood can easily break someone unprepared, which is what most of us are. We are immediately bombarded with the need to research laws related to guardianship, custody, adoption, and parental rights. As accidental parents, we must educate ourselves on the benefits available to us and establish legal authority to protect ourselves and the child’s rights. As we begin this process, you’re flooded with legal documentation, court proceedings, and numerous other formal requirements, which take time and money.
- Excerpt from the book
Adrienne Alexander, owner of the IPY Agency, is an author and former journalist. Her PR firm represents entrepreneurs in entertainment, lifestyle, and wellness. Adrienne's storytelling skills shine in her books, known for their sensitivity and insight, offering young readers thoughtful explorations of important issues. Available September 8 wherever books are sold.
Unstoppable Black Woman
by Donna Izzard
Growing up, I heard whispers like, "She is pretty, but she doesn't have any front teeth." Both adults and children, even within my own family, would taunt me during childhood fights. If I had allowed this trauma to keep me stuck, I would not have developed the spirit to be unstoppable. However, I made an early decision to be the exception and to become unstoppable.
-Excerpt - chapter “Keep Moving Forward”, Unstoppable Black Woman, page 9.
Donna Izzard, a speaker, entrepreneur, and best-selling author, has successfully launched and managed a business while serving as Deputy Chief of Operations at an AmLaw100 law firm. With 30-plus years in corporate America, she has honed her innovation skills. Recognized by the Huffington Post as a top coach to watch, she was also named one of 30 Black Global Leaders by Impact Magazine and a Notable Black Leader by Crain’s New York Business for her contributions to New York City.
Available on Amazon
A T O Interested in promoting your book? Secure your advertising space today!
Romanticizing your Life
by Briana and Erica Spruille
Doing what is necessary to live a calm, restful, leisurely life on your terms is the epitome of a romanticized life. This shares the concept of living a "soft life," which is the opposite of an over-booked, busy life of helping everyone, all while attempting to hold everything together. Where is the romance in doing for everyone else except you?
Choosing to romanticize your life means choosing you. Imagine how you would feel to have time to do what YOU love to do.
Romanticizing one's life has become popular, particularly with women who realize they need to add an element of balance to life. Their desire to live a fulfilling and thriving life is being met with confidence as they realize it is okay to do for others, but it is most important to do, or romanticize yourself— unapologetically.
Choosing joy, and opting out of overwhelm is the equivalent of romanticizing your life. When your romantic nature is allowed to move freely, you live according to your values, and with intention. You also prioritize peace. When you live a romanticized life, you have the freedom to enjoy your life with no limits. The rewards of that life include easing stress and anxiety and naturally improving mood and productivity.
What are the signs that you may need to set romanticizing your self as a priority in your life? If you feel life is forcing you to have it all, do it all, and be it all, you are a good candidate to engage in a practice that forces you to choose yourself. You deserve to be present with your loved ones, which will cultivate more connection and equanimity.
To help guide you into the life of romanticizing yourself, here are a few of Just BE’s tips:
Have slow mornings or quiet evenings. Meditate, sleep later, exercise, relax by the fire, sip water, coffee, or wine, lay in the sun, retire earlier, move with ease.
Enjoy little luxuries. Light candles, plant/buy flowers, dine out, savor meals and good wine, wear flowing clothing, wear perfume, bask in spa-time, hire a driver for the day.
Keep it clean and organized. Create a tidy, welcoming, and clean home, eliminate overcrowded spaces, keep your displays neat and meaningful, and be intentional. Your environment reflects your inner state, so make sure it is relaxing.
Mindful practice. Reflective journaling, seek clarity through stillness, pray or meditate, engage with like-minded people, create a playlist.
Romanticizing your life is subconsciously giving yourself ease and grace, and permission to do what is necessary to just be. A romanticized life is leisure at its best!
Calling All Storytellers: Your Voice, Our Magazine
We extend our heartfelt gratitude to our guest writers Briana and Erica Spruille, for enriching this issue with their exquisite contributions. Are you driven by a passion for disseminating stories that inspire?
Cheryl Magazine is looking for YOU! Join our publication with a story that captivates and resonates with our readers. To discover more, simply scan the QR code.
Your journey with us awaits!
Briana and Erica Spruille are the founders and operators of Just BE, LLC., a home organization and life simplifying business in New Orleans.
FAITH & INSPIRATION
with Tammy L. Woodard
Living a Fruitful Abundant Life
When you think of abundance, what comes to mind? Is it having a large sum of money, name brand clothing, luxury cars, jewelry and titles? To some people that may be considered living an abundant life. If that is true, why is it that most people that have these things are not happy?
Building an abundant life starts internally! Your mindset is the key to a fruitful life. It begins with YOU! The way you see yourself and the things that
you speak over yourself play a big part in living a fruitful abundant life. I want to share something with you that you may or may not know. Did you know that there are over 70 bible verses about abundance from scripture? One of my favorite scriptures is Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”
Tammy L. Woodard
Faith and understanding that God wants his best for you is the beginning of an abundant life. You don’t have to wait for heaven, you can choose to live it right now! Believing that God wants the best for you is the key to living a fruitful life. YOU have the POWER to live the life that you desire!
There was a time in my life when I thought that living an abundant life meant having a lot of money in the bank. Don’t get me wrong; there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having it. But now I understand what money is and its purpose. Money is a tool used to accomplish your dreams, help others, give back to your communities, and for some, tithing toward their spiritual needs. Even though money is a principle of abundance, living a fruitful life is much bigger. Now that I am older, I realize that living a fruitful life means excelling in all areas of my life. I see life from a different viewpoint. For me to experience God’s best, I must think the right thoughts and speak things as though they are. My mind is my superpower!
Many years ago, I was going through a difficult time when I came across a book titled “As a Man Thinketh” by James Allen. It was a short but powerful book! It talked about the effects that your thoughts can have on your circumstances, health, body, and achievements. Every thought is a seed! If you think good thoughts, your harvest will bear much good fruit. However, if your thoughts are bad, the harvest will wither and die. Having a fruitful life means expecting the unexpected! Greatness should be your expectation! Get rid of a mediocre mindset. You may
be wondering how to begin to live the life that you deserve. I have provided you with some tips to get started building a fruitful, abundant life.
5 Tips to Thrive By:
1. Have Faith! Many of us are not able to achieve our hopes and dreams because of lack of faith. Believe that you deserve the absolute best.
2. Affirm yourself daily! Write down what you want to see happen in your life. Then say it out loud and believe that it will happen.
3. Selfcare! Self-care is getting the proper rest, meditating, exercising, eating healthy and taking the time to pamper yourself. Sometimes self-care can be as simple as unplugging from your phone, social media, or finding a quiet place to read a book.
4. Healing from past trauma! Take a self-evaluation and address the issues that are holding you hostage. Talk to a counselor or your spiritual leader to help you. Forgive those who may have wronged you, but most importantly, forgive yourself.
5. Pray Continuously! Find some time in your day for daily devotion. Building a relationship with your heavenly Father will equip you with the tools and steps to build the abundant life. Next, ask God to renew your mind and create in you a clean heart. Ask Him for the life you want, then thank him in advance as if it’s already done. Gratitude! Gratitude! Gratitude!
Now expect the unexpected and watch the fruitfulness of abundance manifest in your life!
Tools and resources for experienced workers.
Get expert career advice and find the job search tools and professional resources that the everyday woman needs to sharpen their skills and get hired.
Visit www.aarp.org/work to become empowered to navigate your career journey.
Creating a Joyful Summer: Co-Parenting After Divorce
by Laurie A. Evans
Summer is the perfect season for renewal and growth. For families navigating the complexities of co-parenting after divorce, this time of year offers an opportunity to build a life of abundance, focusing on cooperation, communication, and shared joy. Here are some ideas on how you can transform this season into a time of positivity and enrichment for your family.
Embrace a Positive Mindset
When building a life of abundance, your mindset is key. Divorce can be challenging, but it also opens doors to new beginnings. Accept the changes with an open mind and look at the new possibilities rather than focusing on the loss. A positive outlook is beneficial for your well-being.
Effective Communication
Effective communication delivered with respect is a central element necessary for successful co-parenting. If you are carrying any leftover ill feelings or conflicts toward your co-parent, put them to the side, as they can make it harder to have the positive communication that is necessary. Have regular discussions related to schedules, summer plans, and any other issues or concerns.
Create Joyful Memories
Summer is a special time of year to create memories your family will remember forever. Plan fun activities
that everyone can look forward to. It can be something as simple as a fun-filled day at the park, beach, or a camping trip. Bring the camera and capture those moments to have and share. Do not let those great shots just sit in your camera or phone; take a trip to your local pharmacy or discount store to have them printed. Together, your family can put together a scrapbook to journal your memories and use this activity as a time to strengthen your bond.
Collaborative Planning
Work with your co-parent to create a balanced and fulfilling summer for your children. Discuss and agree on activities, vacations, and visitation schedules in advance. Working together reduces stress.
Foster Independence and Responsibility
Summer is a great time for your children to learn new skills and take on additional responsibilities. This could be helping with more household chores, taking up a new hobby, or attending summer camp. Fostering independence helps to build their confidence and sense of achievement.
Self-Care
Remember to take care of yourself. Co-parenting requires energy and patience, and you must refill your own reserve. Take time for self-care by indulging in a hobby, exercising, spending time with friends, taking a bubble bath, or my favorite, enjoying a book with a pint of Cherry Garcia!
Celebrate Milestones
Celebrate the milestones, big and small. Whether it’s a successful week of co-parenting, a child’s achievement, or just a breezy, easy day that brought you peace, celebrating creates a sense of accomplishment.
Remember that building a life of abundance through co-parenting after divorce is about creating an environment for you and your children that is nurturing, supportive, and happy. Embrace the summer as a time for growth, cooperation, and making cherished memories. Continue putting your children first and enjoy!
Laurie A. Evans is a multi-bestselling author and mother of two who took her experience of divorce and founded The Divorce Doula LLC, where she supports others through their journey of divorce as a certified Life and Divorce coach. As a former child support investigator and Court Appointed Special Advocate, she is determined to change the lives of children of divorce by coaching parents to share a successful, healthy co-parenting relationship. Contact her at: info@lauriethedivorcedoula.com
by Dr. Donna Hunter, Travel Coach
Representation in travel is a critical aspect that often gets overlooked in the travel industry. Travelers of color need to see themselves represented in the destinations they visit, the activities they participate in, and the people they interact with. This was never clearer than when I started my flying career in the late 80s. I saw Black people light up as I walked through the terminal in my uniform, and when I saw others who looked like
me, I was so proud. Representation helps create a sense of belonging and validation for travelers of color, allowing us to fully immerse ourselves in the travel experience without feeling like outsiders.
One key reason representation is essential in travel is because it challenges stereotypes and promotes diversity. When travelers of color see representation in travel media and marketing
materials, it helps to break down the stereotypes that have long been associated with people of color in the travel industry, which leads to more inclusive and diverse travel experiences for everyone, regardless of race or ethnicity.
Another important aspect of representation for travelers of color is the opportunity to connect with our heritage and culture. Our history saw us spread all over the world, and seeing representations of our own culture and history in the destinations we visit can be a powerful and meaningful experience. That fosters a sense of pride and connection to our roots while also providing a deeper understanding of our own identity.
This type of representation also plays a role in promoting equity and inclusivity in the travel industry. By showcasing diverse perspectives and experiences, travel companies can create a more inclusive and welcoming environment. This can lead to more opportunities to explore new destinations, try new activities, and connect with people from different backgrounds.
Understanding the importance of representation in travel is essential for travelers of color to unlock unforgettable experiences. By advocating for more diverse and inclusive representation, travelers of color can create a more equitable and inclusive travel experience for ourselves and for future generations. Let's continue to push for better representation in travel and create a more inclusive and diverse travel industry for all.
Overcoming Stereotypes and Prejudices While Traveling
As travelers of color, we are all too familiar with the stereotypes and prejudices that can accompany us on our journeys. From being followed in stores to facing discrimination at hotels or restaurants, it can be disheartening to experience these challenges while exploring new places. However, it is essential to remember that these negative experiences do not define us or our travels, but they present opportunities for growth and empowerment. One key to overcoming stereotypes and prejudices while traveling is to educate ourselves and others.
The National Memorial for Peace and Justice, Montgomery, AL
Photo Credit: jackienix - stock.adobe. com lynching muse
By learning about the history and culture of the places we visit, we can better understand the context in which these biases exist. We can also share our stories and experiences, challenging assumptions and stereotypes. Being open and honest about our identities can help break down barriers and build connections with people from different backgrounds.
Another way to overcome stereotypes and prejudices while traveling is to practice self-care and self-love. It's easy to internalize the negative messages we receive from others, but it is essential to remember our worth and value as individuals. By taking care of ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally, we build resilience and strength to face challenges that come our way. Surrounding ourselves with supportive communities and seeking spaces celebrating our identities can also help us feel empowered and confident in our travels. In addition to self-care, practicing assertiveness and advocacy while traveling is essential. We must speak up and assert our rights if we encounter
discrimination or mistreatment. Whether addressing a rude remark or reporting a discriminatory incident, standing up for ourselves and holding others accountable helps create safer and more inclusive travel environments for everyone. By advocating for ourselves and others, we can help challenge stereotypes and prejudices and create a more welcoming and accepting world for travelers of color.
Overcoming stereotypes and prejudices while traveling is about reclaiming our narratives and rewriting the script. By embracing our identities and celebrating our cultures, we can turn negative experiences into opportunities for growth and connection. By educating ourselves, practicing self-care, advocating for ourselves, and surrounding ourselves with supportive communities, we can unlock unforgettable experiences and create lasting memories on the road less traveled. Remember, our stories are powerful, our voices are valuable, and our journeys are worth celebrating.
Celebrating Cultural Heritage and Diversity in Your Travels
As travelers of color, it is essential to celebrate and embrace the cultural heritage and diversity of the destinations we visit. One of the most enriching aspects of travel is the opportunity to immerse ourselves in different cultures, traditions, and ways of life. By learning about and appreciating the unique histories and customs of the places we visit, we can deepen our understanding of the world and connect with the people we meet on a more meaningful level.
One way to celebrate cultural heritage and diversity in our travels is to seek local festivals, events, and traditions. These are wonderful opportunities to witness and participate in age-old customs and rituals integral to a community's identity. Whether it's a traditional dance performance, a religious ceremony, or a seasonal celebration, these events provide a window into a culture's soul and offer a glimpse of what makes it truly special.
Supporting local artisans and businesses is another way to celebrate cultural heritage and diversity in our travels. Purchasing handmade crafts, textiles, and other products from local makers, directly
contributes to preserving traditional craftsmanship and skills. Not only will we bring home unique souvenirs that tell a story, but we will also help to sustain the livelihoods of the talented individuals who create them.
Exploring historical sites and museums is an excellent way to celebrate cultural heritage and diversity in your travels. These places offer a wealth of information about a culture's past, present, and future and provide valuable insights into its values, beliefs, and achievements. Visiting these sites and learning about their significance helps us gain a deeper appreciation for the cultural heritage of the destinations we choose to explore.
Engaging with the local community is one of the most important ways to celebrate cultural heritage and diversity while traveling. Whether it's a conversation with a shopkeeper, sharing a meal with a family, or participating in a community event, connecting with the people who call a place home can be a truly transformative experience. Opening ourselves up to new perspectives and building relationships with locals, helps to create lasting memories and forge meaningful connections that will stay with us long after our journey has ended.
Dr. Donna, an expert traveling coach, has 30 years of travel experience, from flight attendant to luxury travel expert. With a doctorate and teaching certificate, she brings deep industry knowledge and a unique perspective, inspiring and empowering all travelers to chase their dreams.
Recovery
Matters Presents the
HOPE, HEART & HEALING WORKSHOP
Are you or someone you know grieving? Is your heart broken? The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses can help if you're ready for a change.
If you honestly answer 'yes' to any of these questions, you may be grieving, and we can help you move forward:
• Has a loved one died?
• Has a divorce or a relationship or friendship ended?
• Have you had to change jobs or been forced to make a career change?
• Have there been changes to your health?
• Are you a caregiver?
• Have you received a terminal diagnosis?
• Are you dealing with aging?
• Have you experienced trauma?
• Have you undergone a financial change, positive or negative?
• Are you facing legal problems?
• Is a spouse, child, family member, or someone else you know incarcerated?
Recovery is not an easy journey, but you can live again if you choose to change and do the work. The 6, 8, or 12-week action program for moving beyond is designed to help those grieving understand grief, loss, and recovery.
If you join our program with an open mind and heart you will have tools to move forward and complete what death and loss left unfinished.
For more information and to schedule an appointment, contact: Denise P. Kelly, CGRS, CLC, CTS | Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® Speaker, Workshop Facilitator, Author, Life Transformation Coach Phone: 833-733-2500 | Email: contact@recoverymatters.com
