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The refreshing newness of this time of year uplifts my spirit and reminds me that just as the beautiful flowers boldly bloom in the spring, I can boldly bloom, right where I am planted, and sis you can too!

In this season, I encourage you to use the power of affirmations to bloom and create the life of your dreams. I can’t think of a better way to kick off the spring! What does blooming look and feel like for you? Take some time to sit with your goals and desires for yourself in this chapter of your life. Ask yourself specific questions about what you want to achieve, but most importantly, how you want to feel when you are in bloom.

Perhaps, being in bloom for you in this season means embracing a renewed perspective on something that you have been working on. Maybe it means breathing life into a relationship that could use some nurturing. Could blooming be reminding yourself that you are powerful beyond belief? Use the fresh energy, warmer temperatures, and brighter days of springtime to become emboldened and use the power of positive affirmations to bloom, sis.

As we enter this new season, the warmth and sunshine help to melt away the cold of winter, and the power of positive affirmations can melt away the icy freeze of doubt, low self-esteem, and limiting beliefs. You are powerful beyond measure. The only difference between your current life and the life of your dreams is your mindset. If you believe that you can achieve it, you will. If you doubt that it can be done, it won’t. The time is now. Live abundantly, walk boldly in pursuit of your dreams and the life that feels most aligned and authentic to the truest version of you! Affirm yourself daily, and your words will become living action. Walk into this season emboldened, empowered, and affirmed.

Sincerely Yours, Cheryl

Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson Editor-in-Chief

Affirmations for Your Journey: Renewed, Affirmed, and Unstoppable

1. "Resting is an essential part of self-care, allowing me to recharge and show myself love."

2. "Taking time to prioritize my well-being is not selfish; it's necessary for a healthy mind and body."

3. "I honor my body's need for rest and relaxation, knowing that it's a vital aspect of self-love."

4. "By giving myself permission to rest, I am demonstrating self-compassion and nurturing my inner peace."

5. "Each moment of self-care and rest is a gift I give to myself, fostering a deeper sense of self-love and appreciation."

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LEADERSHIP AND LEGACY ENTREPRENEURSHIP DIVERSITY AND INCLUSION

8 Lucia Kaiser's remarkable journey from humble beginnings to becoming a trailblazing Emmy-winning producer reflects her dedication to breaking barriers in the entertainment industry and beyond.

in the film and television industry.

46Tiffany Capri Hainesworth channeled her resilience and entrepreneurial spirit to become the first Black woman to own a tequila brand after overcoming a severe injury.

COVER STORY

Niecy Nash-Betts' Emmy acceptance speech highlighted her strong self-belief and dedication to inclusivity, earning widespread admiration. She reflected on the significant personal and broader impacts of her win, supported by family and industry legends. Post-Emmy, Niecy emphasized her commitment to challenging roles and advocacy for authenticity and diversity in the industry.

Photographer: Robert Ector

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Robbi Rogers

Make Up: Naima Jamal

24Latasha Randle Gillespie champions diversity and inclusion at Amazon Studios, using her role to amplify underrepresented voices

5Letter from the Editor: Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson 22Daddy's Issues with Tess Alexandria Reflective Renewal

26Health Corner Dr. Maria D. Flowers Things You Should Know About ADHD Yes … You

37Foxxy Wizdom with Charmaine Roots Castillo Navigating Life's Open Doors

38Aging Well: with Dr. Michelle Kindred Renew and Refresh Your Spirit

42Family Corner Laurie A. Evans Let’s Talk About Co-Parenting

everyday inspiration lifestyle

30Tiffany Haddish discusses her new book, "Tiffany Haddish: I Curse You With Joy," in our interview, focusing on her experiences of overcoming life's challenges, embracing health, and her efforts to support youth through her nonprofit organization.

56Author's Corner

Dive into Part II of Prose & Perspectives with Dr. Kerry Ann Zamore Byrd's new story, "He Makes All Things New."

58Grief Loss and Recovery Pathways to Healing and Hope.

66A Spring Bounty Awaken Your Table with Seasonal Freshness.

72Event Spotlight: Highlights from the Second Annual Women of Influence Awards Luncheon in Dallas

40Faith and Inspiration with Dr. Janie Lacy From Darkness to Light

50Money Talks with Roni M. Talley Empowering Women's Financial Success

63Faith and Inspiration with Tammy L. Woodard There's a Blessing in Letting Go

62Navigating Life's Challenges with Spirituality and Self-Care

In this issue of Cheryl Magazine, we present thoughtful pieces by guest writers Brandy Tennile and Ericca Harvey. Brandy's "Your ways are not my ways, and I thank God for that" delves into the transformative power of faith, while Ericca's "Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That: Busy Moms Can Implement Personal Wellness" provides practical wellness strategies for busy mothers. Both articles emphasize resilience and self-care amidst life's challenges.

44Business Sense & Sensibility Renew and Refresh Your Career

52Cheryl's Choice: The Essential Rolodex Picks from Business Brilliance to Event Mastery

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Trailblazer Lucia Kaiser: Confidently Forging New Paths

by Siobhan Davenport

Lucia Kaiser is a two-time Emmy Award-winning producer, philanthropist, motivational speaker, and medal-winning surfer.

In 2023, she won the Ellis Island Medal of Honor for not allowing her family’s immigrant history to impede her achievements, breaking ground for women in the entertainment industry, and speaking out against human trafficking. She received the highest honor at the 2021 Cannes Festival, the Lifetime Achievement Award for breaking down the barriers facing women in entertainment. In 2020, Azorean-born model and fashion designer Avadora Mimouni honored Ms. Kaiser with the design of an elegant haute couture purse that reflects the personality and heart of its namesake.

Although she has many professional accomplishments, Lucia says she was born to be a dancer. Her family was working class and couldn’t afford tap-dancing lessons. One of her friends challenged her to audition for a dancing role on the show Hullabaloo, an American musical variety series. She landed the role and saved her earnings until her aunt saw her on television and told her mother. Everything was going fine until her aunt saw her on television and told her mother. Her mother was livid and went to the station and demanded that her daughter be removed from the show immediately. Ms. Kaiser was released.

When Lucia was fourteen years old, her mother became a Jehovah’s Witness, which was a turning point in her life.

“My mother made me walk with her in our neighborhood and knock on doors. Although it was difficult for me to have our friends and neighbors stare at us and turn us down, I now know that this experience gave me strength at a young age to face adversity. I never take no for an answer.”

After graduating from high school at fifteen, Lucia bought a plane ticket to Hawaii, partly because she always wanted to visit the exotic locale and knew this would be her only opportunity being that her strongly disapproving parents couldn’t afford to take a trip, let alone fly to Hawaii. There, she began her modeling career to pay for her housing and food. In her spare time, she embraced the surfing culture and was pretty good at it. She even won medals for her skills.

At the tender age of nineteen, looking to supplement her income, Ms. Kaiser began looking for other jobs in the modeling, television, and entertainment industry. After an excellent interview with a well-known celebrity, Ms. Kaiser began her entertainment career working her way up from an assistant’s assistant to eventually the first female executive – Booker of Talent for a national award-winning nighttime show on NBC featuring celebrity guests, The Tonight Show starring Johnny Carson.

“I have nothing but good things to say about Johnny Carson. He is the reason that I got my start in the entertainment industry. He personally interviewed me and immediately hired me as a gopher. I was the secretary to the secretaries. But I took advantage of my opportunity to learn everything about the business—producing, camera work, editing, and booking guests. Eventually, I was promoted to booker of talent, where I worked with everyone in the entertainment world.”

Although Lucia’s career was thriving in her role as Booker of Talent, by now, she had a rolodex filled with famous names, such as Stevie Wonder, Quincy Jones, and Natalie Cole but that was not the end of the road for her. She always believed in following her heart. Her motto was never to stay too long in one place. She vowed never to be a “Not a Lifer.”

Continuing to seek other opportunities, Lucia decided to leave the show to become the president of Venus Advertising Agency, the first all-women’s ad agency in New York City.

"The most alluring things a woman can have are her intelligence and confidence. "

“Although I was happy at The Tonight Show, I was intrigued by an offer from a wealthy man who shared that he wanted to fund an allfemale advertising agency. I never back down from a challenge, so I used my contacts from the show to help land big clients.”

After leading the agency to success, Lucia took about six months off and fulfilled her life’s dream of traveling throughout Europe. Upon her return to New York City, utilizing some of the experiences she had in Europe, she stepped into the role of president of Studio Film Exchange, an organization that purchased and marketed award-winning documentary films. Through various documentaries, Ms. Kaiser met even more intriguing people. When the legendary martial artist and actor Bruce Lee saw how talented she was and meticulous in her role as president, he offered her a job at his company. She negotiated a distribution deal with Warner Brothers for the movie Enter the Dragon, widely regarded as one of the greatest martial arts films of all time. Released in 1973, it grossed $400 million, equivalent to $2 billion today.

Although Bruce Lee tried to dissuade her, Lucia stayed true to her “not a lifer” motto; she left his company and traveled to Munich, Germany, where she met the love of her life, Steffan Kaiser. The couple’s best friend, Donna Summer, threw their wedding party. After three years in the cold climate of Munich, Ms. Kaiser persuaded her husband to relocate to Honolulu, where she had an extensive career in TV production, winning two Emmys. During this momentous part of her life, she achieved many firsts, paving the way for other women. As the first female general manager of Hawaii’s KGU talk radio station, she introduced a remote Larry King Live show to Hawaii. This broadcast, which was tremendously successful throughout the US and Canada, was a turning point for KGU Radio, lifting the station from number fourteen to number four in the market. Ms. Kaiser was also

the only female at the time to be chairperson of the Democratic Party for President Bill Clinton. The Clintons personally invited her to Washington to attend both inaugurations.

During this high point in her career, Lucia’s beloved husband died by suicide, sending her down a dark spiral.

“To get out of this dark period, I knew I had to give back. I wanted to make a difference for the homeless, battered women, and all those in pain.”

Partnering with Richard Mondio, Lucia cofounded the nonprofit organization and national radio program, You Can Make a Difference, which was broadcast to over 200 radio stations. The organization used the live radio show to connect individuals with services addressing a wide variety of social concerns. Listeners could call in to help without having to donate money. President George H.W. Bush’s Points of Light program recognized the duo for their extraordinary accomplishments in helping others.

Ms. Kaiser relocated to New York City and is now moving forward to produce her next project, Lucia: Beyond the Spotlight, a documentary film that delves into her extraordinary life and career. She hopes to inspire other women to embrace their uniqueness, pursue their passions, and make a positive impact in the world.

Lucia shared that she couldn’t have succeeded in the predominantly white, male-dominated spaces without the strength she gained from her childhood. She is a Black History shero we all should know—her life is a testament to forging new paths for other women to follow.

“My family says I was born with confidence. I agree. The most alluring things a woman can have are her intelligence and confidence. And this is me.”

Photography by Robert Ector

In my heartfelt, sister-to-sister, soul-to-soul conversation with the dynamic and multitalented woman I am honored to call a true friend, Niecy Nash Betts gushes about her recent Emmy win, how she selects roles, and her journey to finding true happiness and fulfillment— on and off screen.

The Radiant Reinvention of niecy nash betts

by Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson

Photography by Robert Ector

At the pinnacle of her career, what shines even brighter than her beautiful new Emmy statuette is her soul. With unapologetic confidence in her abilities and an unabashed belief in herself, NashBetts radiates as a luminous example of what it means to live with integrity, grace, and most importantly, self-love. Her achievements have solidified her as a trailblazer and a game-changer. She left the world swooning after her viral acceptance speech in which she proudly proclaimed, “I wanna thank me, for believing in me! For doing what they said I could not do! And I want to say to myself in front of all these beautiful people, ‘Go on girl with your bad self! You did that!’” As we delved into the larger-than-life experience of all things Emmy night, Niecy became emotional recounting the moments after her epic win.

“Honestly, I was just so grateful. I know that it was bigger than me. There were different people who saw themselves in that moment,” she explains through her tears.

It serves as an example of her heart and compassion for others that in such an iconic celebration of her hard work, talent, and commitment to her craft, Niecy thought of the greater impact of her Emmy win and the importance of representation.

“[This moment was about] people who love outside traditional norms, young girls from every hood, barrio, and back alley. My beginnings are very humble. I’m from Compton, California. I felt like it wasn't just about me in the moment,” she explains.

As we continued discussing the abundance of magic on that night, Niecy

beamed about how her wife Jessica’s presence added yet another layer of beauty to her winning season by recalling a memorable scene from one of her favorite movies.

“And then there's the fact that my better half was there. There's the fact that my mother lived to see this—it was so many things! It’s like in Mahogany, which is one of my favorite movies, when Billy Dee tells Diana Ross, ‘Success is nothing without someone you love to share it with.’”

She continues, “It was the fact that living legends Marla Gibbs and Quinta Brunson presented it to me. I probably cried for about four days straight because I was so overwhelmed!” She also let me in on the whirlwind of energy and excitement that ensued backstage after accepting the Emmy Award.

“What I did not know was that once you win, you [have to] go in the back and take a myriad of photos. Then you have to interview with a whole bunch of people back there,” she relates.

“So by the time I came out, the awards show was ending, and we had to go to the next event to get the Emmy engraved. I had to get a seat for my mother. I had to find her food. And I wasn't on my phone. I didn't know till about one o'clock in the morning that my speech was viral!” she chimes.

The pleasantly chaotic excitement of Emmy night continued into the next day as Niecy flew to Ireland just hours after learning that her speech had gone viral. She recalls still being emotional as it began to sink in that she was now an Emmy Award-winning actress.

Photography by Robert Ector

“I cried the whole way from Los Angeles to Ireland. I was like, look at God. The Lord has shone completely out,” Niecy says.

As we switched gears to catch up on her new normal and her life after the Emmy win, one of the first things I wanted to highlight was how she decides what roles to accept. I learned that she has a soft spot for two Hollywood power players, who, according to her, “will always have her at hello.”'

“That would be Ryan Murphy and Ava DuVernay,” she beams.

“Ryan's creativity and mind is simply unmatched. I know that anything he does is going to stir my soul. And I love Ava like we came out of the same womb. Her work is so insightful, and she is what you’d call a solid human being.” I also learned that when selecting roles, Niecy loves a challenge. A new and unprecedented character that she can add to her captivating body of work is a surefire way to secure a resounding yes! from her.

“If it’s something I've never played before, it feels new and exciting. It makes me feel like oh, I've never tapped into this,” she says.

We get to see Nash Betts tap into something new in her latest role of Marion Wilkerson in Ava Duvernay’s Origin. Released in January of this year, Origin is based on the book Caste: The Origin of Our Discontents, which tells the riveting story of journalist and writer Isabel Wilkerson, the first African American woman to win a Pulitzer Prize.

In addition to seeking new and challenging roles, Niecy shared the importance of surrounding herself with

people who see her through an authentic lens, and how she pivoted when this wasn’t the case with her own team.

“You have to hitch your wagon to people who see you like you see yourself. For example, the industry met me doing comedy. So, I was put in a box,” she explained.

She goes on to tell me about a time when she had to shake things up with her team as she was not being presented with opportunities that allowed her to showcase the depth and versatility of her skills.

“Well, I called a meeting with my entire team. [They asked] why are we here? [I responded], we're all here because I wanted to reintroduce myself to you. Because you [all] think you know me, but things [have] changed. I am a multihyphenate! I can make you laugh and make you cry. If you don't see me like I see myself, that just means I need to find people who do. But if you do, then here is what I need. I don't need you to give me anything. I just need an audition to go into unexpected rooms so I can show people who and what I am and what I can do,” Niecy shares.

By boldly, bravely, and unapologetically advocating for herself and pursuing roles beyond the confines of comedy, she not only earned the admiration and respect of her team and her colleagues, she also unknowingly foreshadowed her spellbinding Emmy Award-winning portrayal of Glenda Cleveland, the vigilant neighbor who bravely attempted to alert authorities to what was going on in serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer’s apartment in Dahmer Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story.

Photography by Robert Ector

With her stellar performance in Dahmer Monster, Nash Betts illuminated the plight of many black women, who are often overlooked and marginalized yet over-policed by law enforcement. Echoing the sentiment behind her iconic lines in the Netflix series “I knew. But nobody heard me,” refers to the fact that Glenda Cleveland went to great lengths to try to report Dahmer to police, but her formal complaint and numerous phone calls to the authorities fell on deaf ears—and ultimately resulted in the senseless murders of fifteen boys and young men, a majority of them minorities.

As she mentioned in her acceptance speech, Niecy’s portrayal of Glenda Cleveland and subsequent Emmy win is much bigger than her. This win (and the message behind it) serves as a reminder of the importance of advocating for yourself at all costs.

What if Niecy hadn’t had the courage to stand up to her team and push for more diverse auditions?

Chances are, that shiny Emmy statuette would be sitting on someone else’s shelf.

In addition to using her gift to tell amazingly powerful stories, Niecy’s most beautiful attributes are her generosity, her loyalty, and her warmth. In a world often consumed by the artificial and the superficial, Niecy remains refreshingly down-to-earth, never hesitating to provide a listening ear to the people in her life. When we began our interview, she was sure to remind me that I owed her a phone call, and she wasn’t too happy with me for failing to call her back. She was right. I need to do better about checking up on my girl. I decided to make it up to her by attending her epic Emmy-birthday celebration. I gave her the biggest hug

to apologize and congratulate her on her Emmy win in person.

As we spoke about her winning season, I was reminded of our very first conversation, which took place a little over two years ago. When I met Niecy (technically, we met via phone), God orchestrated an unexpected encounter that would prove to have a great impact on my life. She and I were both attending a luncheon hosted by the beautiful and talented Malinda Williams. Serving as a panelist at Malinda's event, I couldn't help but notice the beauty of Niecy’s aura when I spotted her in the audience. Without even speaking to or meeting her at that event, I could see and feel that she had a magnetic presence. Little did I know, the feeling was mutual, as Niecy later revealed that she, too, felt drawn to me when she saw me on stage.

An unexpected turn of events unfolded just two days after the luncheon, when I received a phone call from an unfamiliar number. Normally I am hesitant to answer these calls, but something urged me to pick up that day.

“Hi, Cheryl, this is Niecy Nash,” the voice on the other end of the phone announced.

You can imagine my surprise—and delight—as I momentarily paused to collect myself (and tell my husband that Niecy Nash was calling me) before engaging in what would become a deeply meaningful conversation.

“Hey, I know you did not give me your number, and we haven’t officially met, but I got your number from Kita Williams, the event planner for the Rise & Shine Luncheon. I hope it’s not a problem,” she added politely.

Photography by Robert Ector

“God told me that I needed to be in touch with you. I don’t know what that looks like or what it’s about, but I am supposed to be in touch with you,” she continued.

Since that phone call, Niecy and I have cultivated a truly special sister-friendship. From heartfelt check-ins and thoughtful messages to rallying our circle of friends to offer prayers and well wishes during my battles with COVID-19, Niecy's presence has been a source of love, light, and joy in my life.

Through her film production company, Chocolate Chick, Inc., she continues to shine a light on untold stories and unheard voices. Emmy Award-winning actress is only one of the many hats that Niecy wears. She is a passionate advocate for social justice issues affecting the African American community, an entrepreneur, and a philanthropist. Her compelling performances in combination with her offscreen efforts to serve and leave her mark on the world are why I took great pleasure in honoring her at the 2nd Annual Woman of Influence Awards Luncheon this year, which was themed “Trailblazers and Gamechangers.”

As Niecy and I continued reflecting on her personal journey, she spoke candidly about her initial reluctance to be with her now wife, confessing that just a few years ago, she would have never envisioned herself in a same-sex relationship.

"For me, that wasn't my bag," she admits with a chuckle.

Yet God had other plans, leading her to rediscover the beauty of love in the most

unexpected of places, her longtime friend, Jessica Betts.

“I’m a Pisces! I’m a lover, baby!” Niecy adds, laughing.

"I was hesitant at first, but I ended up seeing Jessica through fresh eyes. Once I began to see her differently, I saw her as the most beautiful soul that I have ever seen. I ran towards it with reckless abandon, and I have not regretted it at all." What shines through in Niecy’s and Jessica’s story is not just a tale of romantic love but a deeper exploration of our capacity for growth, evolution, and the magic that can happen when we first love ourselves.

As Niecy's journey unfolds, she continues to embody boldness, selfconfidence, and self-love. Her radiant reinvention from comedic actress to Emmy Award-winning actress in a drama serves as a reminder that we are truly powerful beings who are capable of achieving our wildest dreams. Most importantly, Niecy shows us that true happiness is found not in the pursuit of fame or fortune but in the embrace of love, authenticity, and self-discovery. Her golden hour is simply the fruit of her loving herself boldly and unapologetically, advocating for herself and not allowing anything or anyone to dim her light.

Niecy, continue to shine your light, and shine it bright, sis! We see you, we love you, and we celebrate you. You are a winner, baby!

DADDY ISSUES

with Tess Alexandria

REFLECTIVE RENEWAL

As I think back on the whirlwind that was 2023, I can’t recall a year ever flying by as quickly as 2023 did. All year long, we heard people jokingly say, “2023 must have somewhere to be, ain’t it?” I couldn’t have agreed more, especially since, for the entire year, I felt like I was on a hamster wheel trying my best to keep up with its pace and the goals I’d set for myself. Needless to say, I’m happy the holidays provided some reprieve and allowed me to relax, relate, and release

I’ve come to discover that if I’m not intentional with mapping out the upcoming year, I’m susceptible to repeating old patterns that no longer serve me. Whether it is binging far too many shows, skipping out on exercise and/or clean eating, not managing money as I should, or stagnation in my spiritual development, those bad habits always seem to be right there waiting at the door with open arms. I’ve found that without a plan, my focus is off and I easily lose sight of my goals. Before I knew it, 6 months had gone by and I’d barely moved the needle on the things I’d set out to accomplish. In turn, that led to feelings of defeat and a sort of detachment from myself and what I truly desired. If I’m being honest, there are times I’ve wanted the New Year to arrive quickly so that I could escape the year I was currently in. I wanted nothing more than to just sweep all the foolishness that may have occurred under the rug and “move on.” However, moving on cannot occur if things aren’t properly addressed. Just as I have before, you’ll fall victim to carrying past feelings and emotions from the previous year into your new year, and that only compounds whatever feelings and emotions come with the new year! Something I did in 2023 to help combat repeated cycles, as well as the urge to ignore what I should have been addressing, is becoming completely open, honest, and transparent with myself. That required a new level of self-awareness and humility to admit what I was struggling with. I had to ask myself, why do I resort to bad habits or vices when things get tough? I then wrote down a list of my fears, and I journaled about my feelings of inadequacy or imposter syndrome. I shared my journal entries with my therapist to discover why certain feelings were still resurfacing. I’m sure I cried 355 out of 365 days and did my best not to judge myself for feeling sad or anxious. If I felt unmotivated, I stopped

to decipher if that lack of motivation derived from laziness or if it stemmed from depression. Basically, I spent a ton of time with myself, and believe it or not, asking the tough questions and being transparent allowed me to feel relief and a lightness in my spirit. That was not an overnight process, by the way. It took until the end of November/ early December to feel like me again, but I’m proud of myself for fighting my way through all of those mental challenges.

Granted, no matter how much we plan or fail to plan, life is always going to throw us a plethora of curveballs. That in no way means we shouldn’t still put our best foot forward to get ahead of whatever those curveballs may be and be purposeful about keeping our spirits refreshed and renewed. For me, that starts with making my mental health a priority. Here are a few tips that I hope will help in keeping your spirit at a place of peace throughout the year:

If you find yourself in the midst of a move (especially to a whole new state) like I was at the start of 2023, pace yourself when it comes to your goals. Your day 1 for the new year may start on day 30/365. Getting started is what matters.

Your goals and plans will look different than others, so don’t be afraid to alter the steps or life hacks people tell you to follow in order to have a successful year for YOU.

You don’t need 25 short- and long-term goals. Sometimes, three or four of each will suffice. Or you may find that you are instead supposed to focus on a theme for that particular year. Something Mrs. Cheryl once said that stuck out to me is that one year, all she wrote was “God” on her vision board because she knew it was crucial that year to focus on Him and nothing else.

Declutter your life regularly. Take inventory of your friends and family and whether or not those relationships still serve you. You don't have to wait for spring to actually "spring clean.”

Go touch grass as Gen Z says: get active, go outside, and allow your feet to touch the earth to reground yourself.

Keep a record of your experiences throughout the year so that on a hard day, you can look back at all the other days that have gone well so far that year.

"Declutter your life regularly... You don’t have to wait for the

Spring to actually “spring clean.”

Thank you for joining me again for Daddy Issues. Why the name? I aim to reverse the feeling women get every time we hear that phrase. There is a stigma attached to it. It’s often used as a weapon, with the intent to make us feel like we are the problem. Dispelling the misnomer includes providing new information on something that was named before its true nature was known. I’ll attempt to do that in each Cheryl Magazine issue as I address behaviors and characteristics that developed from our father’s lack of skill and ability to bond with, encourage, teach, or support us. To all the young girls and grown women, it was never your fault.

The issue was his, and because of your daddy’s issue, you found yourself improperly navigating relationships. Let’s talk about it. For the record, Daddy Issues is an opinion column. I’m not a clinical professional or expert on the subject; I’m just a girl who needed her daddy. If you’d like to connect, follow me on IG: @tessalexandria_ or Facebook: Tess Alexandria. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to discuss, email me at tess@cherylmagazine.com.

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Latasha Gillespie Journey to Amplify Diverse Voices in Film and TV

Is your life so noisy that you can’t hear small whispers from God?

If so, get quiet, pull up a seat, and lean in.

You are about to meet a real sister who exemplifies what it means to be confident enough to share her spotlight.

Latasha Randle Gillespie has listened closely to the whispers and followed their guidance to build a brand that adds Black, brown, female, and other voices to the film and television genre as Amazon Studios’ Executive Head of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. She has a long career opening doors and keeping them open so that others can come through.

The Illinois native’s smile is like a warm embrace. She laughs easily and lives with a confidence instilled by her parents at an early age. Work hard and know that you deserve to be seen and heard. That was important advice for a young girl who was often the only “little Black girl” in class. Learning to be her own advocate became an important part of who she is.

“I got very comfortable with that at an early age, speaking up for what I felt was right. Then I realized that all my friends didn’t have that same thing; I would see things happen to them and think, 'That’s just wrong'. And so, I would

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lend my voice to their issue, and I think that really helped shape who I became in the world. Now this work feels very natural.”

That work began with a twentyyear stint at Caterpillar, Inc.—yes, the $156 billion world-leading manufacturer of construction and mining equipment, diesel and natural gas, and so much more—in finance and human resources. Gillespie also served as the company’s Chief Diversity Officer before going overseas to serve as the head of HR for Africa, the Middle East, Commonwealth of Independent States, Russia, and Asia Pacific, which includes Australia and New Zealand. The journey placed Gillespie in eleven different roles, supercharging her ability to rise to new challenges and deliver positive impact on employees and the corporation as a whole.

“I think my whole life, my whole career, I’ve always been like, ‘Well, I don’t know, but I’m open to learn. I’m open to listen. I’m open to find out.’” Gillespie found out a lot about foreign countries, different cultures, and just how much we all have in common. “Somebody sees the world differently than me. It doesn’t make me right, doesn’t make them right, it just makes us see it from two different sides. And usually, the truth is somewhere in the middle. I really think that experience helped me in conflict resolution, it helped in

goal-building, it helped in seeing the humanity in us.”

Living with the myriad of cultures in the territories she oversaw proved to be not only a “mind changer but also a heart changer” for many she knew. From seeing the Vietnamese perspective in the War Remnants Museum in Ho Chi Minh City, which displays artifacts from the “American War” (how the Vietnamese refer to the conflict), to having Muslim employees lead office Christmas celebrations, Gillespie deepened her ability to bridge divides with common experiences. “You can’t ‘other’ them once you’ve had that experience and broken bread and shared it with them. You can't ‘other’ people when you do that.”

Progressing on a comfortable career path at Caterpillar, Gillespie considered what her future milestone celebrations at the company would be like. Life and work there were so good that most people never left.

Then, the whisper.

In the midst of a rich life with her family in Singapore, Gillespie said God told her to leave the only industry she had ever known. While it was a huge change, she knew it was time.

“A lot of times, God will speak to us in whispers, like, ‘Don’t go here, don’t go there, turn left here,

turn right there.’ But oftentimes, particularly as women, we’re so busy, there is so much noise around us, we don’t hear the whisper. We can be so stubborn that we think, Yeah, I hear you, but what I want to do is over this way.”

The result can be the effect of “slamming into a brick wall,” she explains. “And we’ve all seen very public slamming into brick walls… And so my prayer has always been, ‘God, don’t let me miss the whisper.’”

Gillespie didn’t miss it and accepted the position at Amazon Films as Executive Head of DEI without significant experience in television and film but with a lot of faith and a great sense of purpose. “I am clear, too, that God put me on the face of this earth to bring hope, and

healing to people through the power of words. It’s taken me a long time to understand that as my mission statement on this earth—and it’s taken me even longer to say it out loud.”

Gillespie’s ability to listen and learn, to lead and follow has been key to her success. Hearing how the business works and what historical barriers have existed allowed her to find real answers about why the system clogs in certain areas. Why aren’t people moving from assistant director to director and from writer to showrunner? Just as she bridged cultural divides overseas, she is making real changes in media today and some that will impact generations to come.

Amazon Studios’ Howard Entertainment Program aims to diversify the entertainment industry by creating a pipeline for Black and other underrepresented students to study alongside executives and get real-life skills. More than credits and contacts, this initiative also addresses the barriers to success many of these students face, like help with tuition, housing, and living stipends. With obstacles removed, industry professionals say the students are “impressive” and produce “brilliant” work, something Gillespie already knew. “The only things these kids didn’t have was access and exposure.”

Another point of pride for her was working with Nneka Onuorah, the director of Lizzo’s Watch Out for the Big Grrrls. The eight-part

sit in the corner and be quiet. Good thing I don’t care about any of those things. We’re still going to be outloud and boisterous and fighting for this work.”

From her corporate perspective, DEI makes dollars and sense. “This is about markets, companies, and organizations trying to find new customers to buy in their services or goods who have not done so previously, and you can’t do that without understanding growing populations. And guess what? Those growing populations happen to be more brown. They happen to be younger, they happen to be more queer, they happen to have more disabilities. And if you don’t know how to reach those people, you’re essentially writing a business plan to fail.”

Amazon original series follows dancers auditioning for multiplatinum music icon Lizzo’s first live performance in two years. Onuorah had experience as a documentarian but no experience with a project of this kind. Naysayers aside, Gillespie advocated for Onuorah, and the work earned three Primetime Emmys. Gillespie continues to look ahead for people and projects to support. Despite the legislation and politicization surrounding DEI these days, Gilespie says she won’t give up on what she knows is right. “I think those powers and forces are designed to strike fear,” she says. “Designed to strike fear in people who have been historically marginalized and ‘othered’ as a tactic to dull their light, dim their shine, and make them

As women consider how to find their passion, share their gifts, and hear ‘the whisper,’ Gillespie encourages them to rely on trust.

“First, Trust yourself. Trust your voice, even though it may have been quiet or silent for a period of time, trust that inner voice. Trust it enough to let it be allowed. And then trust that your sister’s got you. One thing I love about being a Black woman, what I love about being a woman of color, what I love about being a woman, period, is that as women, we hold space for each other. We know how to uplift each other, we know how to care for each other. And sometimes it’s done without ever saying a word.”

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Tiffany Haddish

Cultivating Joy and Health in the Garden of Life

by Shannon Skipper Green Jarrett

Photo courtesy of Tiffany Haddish

There are many things you think you know about Tiffany Haddish. I must admit, during my initial research, I stopped reading at one point because I wanted to approach our interview with a clear head and an open heart. The conversation quickly took off, and by the end, I had made a new friend. As we started discussing her new book, 'Tiffany Haddish: I Curse You With Joy,' what followed was a roller coaster of insights into her life, packed with the kind of stories that only Tiffany can tell—with charisma, depth, and, of course, a whole lot of joy. Join us as we delve into the twists and turns of fame, health, and hearty laughter in the face of life...lifing!

Shannon: We hear you have a new book coming out this summer. Tell us about it.

Tiffany: Yes, it's called Tiffany Haddish: I Curse You With Joy. It picks up where The Last Black Unicorn left off. I had to cut some stories from the first book because it was already so packed. This one dives deeper into what it's like being famous—the good and the bad.

Right. And everybody's in your business all the time.

Exactly. Everyone's always been in my business, but it used to be court-ordered by the government. Now, it's just random people who don't even work, sitting at home judging me. They think bashing me will change my life, but really, they're just trying to gain clout off my name. I say I'm gonna curse them with happiness instead. I didn't get where I am by tearing others down.

Despite the naysayers, you're also on a healthy lifestyle journey. What does that look like daily?

I wake up at 6:00 AM and work out for about two to three hours. I hate it—especially gym workouts. But I do love running on the beach or hiking. It's exhausting, but it sets me up for successful, abundant days. On days I skip my morning meditation, everything feels off.

In my morning meditation, I command my day. I decide it's going to be great. I set up my mindset with an attitude of gratitude. I pray as if what I want has

already happened. I command peace and abundance and prepare myself to handle whatever comes my way.

If you had advice for our readers starting a healthy lifestyle, what would it be?

Don't drink, don't smoke. Alcohol damages organs and messes up lives through the judicial system. I challenged my fans to stop drinking for six months and see the impact—it improves relationships and reduces violence. Personally, quitting alcohol has helped me feel so much better. Plus, I've been eating raw foods, fruits, and vegetables, which has transformed my health.

You could, but eating the whole fruit is better for the fiber. I've set strong personal boundaries, like being in bed by 10:30 PM. If I'm up later without making money, someone's crossing those boundaries. If someone wants to chat late, I make it clear: respect my sleep time or we won't talk again.

Personal boundaries are critical , you've got to draw the line somewhere!

Right. A true friend won't keep you up when you need to rest. They'd say, "Go sleep, we'll talk tomorrow." But they often don't, and that's when I know to cut them off.

Looking at the industry, what have you done to overcome challenges and achieve success?

I stay focused and never compromise my personal morals. People try to stereotype me, twist my words. I've learned to set strict boundaries and ask lots of questions. I can't control editing or presentation, but I can make sure the editors know I'm watching. My experiences have taught me the importance of having the final say, whether that's as a producer, director, or studio head.

Tell us about the She Ready Foundation.

It started by giving foster kids suitcases because moving with your things in trash bags feels horrible. It's expanded to include scholarships, internships, housing, and life skills training, which are critical. These skills weren't taught in foster homes or schools, but they make life smoother. We're teaching kids how to manage households, handle finances, and much more.

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Life skills really are crucial; it is great that you are offering this program.

Yes, and nobody's teaching them anymore. We used to learn practical skills like home economics and budgeting in school. Now, I'm ensuring the kids in our program get those lessons— how to behave professionally, manage a home, and navigate relationships. It's transforming lives.

How can people help you with this organization? Are you looking for people to donate anything? How can they reach out and learn how to be a part of it?

Well, to learn more about the She Ready Foundation, you can head over to shereadyfoundation.org. We really need volunteers to help us hand out suitcases and stuff. We host lots of major events, like life skills workshops, and we teach them all sorts of important things... I’m so proud, you know? Two of my kids already bought houses—one at 24, the other at 22.

What? That is incrediable Tiffany!

Yeah, because we've been teaching them how to save their money, how to make their money grow, like teaching them business skills and just life skills in general.

Because, I really believe that you should be owning a home before you're 30. Really, before 25, you should own a home. I'd be telling kids all the time, “If you're not super focused, you'd be better off going to a trade school and learning electric to be an electrician or learning to be a plumber,” because we're always going to need plumbers, we're always going to need electricians, right?

Go apprentice under a plumber or an electrician. Get your money up, and take 10% of every check you get, every deal you make, and save that money. Within three years, by the time you're 21 or 22, you'll have enough saved for a down payment on a house. Buy that house near a college, and you can rent out the other rooms to your college buddies, your friends who are going to college. Now, they’re paying you rent, and that rent is going towards the mortgage. After another year or two, you might decide, “You know what? I'm going to get another house.” You can use some equity from the first house to secure a new mortgage for another house. You can rent some rooms in this new house, and rent out the entire first house. Now, the first house is paying for the second house. By the time you're 30, you could have three houses. If you buy near colleges, when you’re 30, you’ll be able to take trips, go places, and do cool things while your college buddies are buried under $100,000 to $200,000 in debt.

I’ve been teaching them stuff like that. And you have a skill that will sustain you for your whole entire life. Because, I'm sorry, robots are not gonna be electricians no time soon. Somebody got to wire the robot.

Protecting Your Peace. Unlocking the Power of DND

During our interview, Tiffany and I had the chance to educate my sister on the power of "Do Not Disturb" mode. Tiffany shared how disruptive phone calls at all hours of the night were affecting her sleep, and we all know how critical a good night's rest is for health and restoration. Waking up refreshed is certainly not helped by late-night interruptions! I chuckled during the interview and said, "I should put that in the magazine!" She quickly replied, "YES! Put that in there! People need to know how to do that!" So, I walked her through the process step-by-step, showing how to set your phone on DND to ensure uninterrupted quiet time.

Here’s how to do it*:

1. Open Settings and tap Focus. You may see existing modes like Do Not Disturb or Sleep.

2. Add a New Focus: Tap the plus sign in the upper right to create a new Focus, or select Set Up under an existing mode like Work or Personal. You can choose from predefined suggestions like Fitness or Gaming, or customize your own with a unique name and icon.

Customize Notifications:

1. Contacts: Choose which contacts are allowed to send you notifications.

2. Apps: Select which apps can notify you. Notifications from all other apps will be silent but visible in the notification shade.

3. Time-Sensitive Notifications: Decide if urgent notifications should break through even when other alerts are silenced.

Now you can be empowered to take control of who gets access to you and when!

* These are the steps if you have an iPhone, but don't fret, Androids do it too ;) .

I have a full-on garden. And I'm out there, girl, pulling weeds and everything. I've got kale, spinach—I just harvested all the spinach, and it was delicious. I've got collard greens, celery, cucumbers; you name it, I probably have it. Onions, bell peppers, sage, cabbage, beautiful marigold flowers, a lemon tree, plum trees. Yeah, I've got it popping in that garden ."

So, if you turn off everything; all your cameras, all your curtains are closed, you have no radio, nothing going on, there's no one for you to be “on” for, what does peace look like for you?

Me sitting next to my beehive listening to the bees.

Did you say beehive?

Yes, girl, I got a beehive.

I'm about to tear up. Can I tell you something?

Tell me.

I want bees so bad!

Get you some bees!

I am, it’s on my vision board along with my chickens. There seems to be a lot to get started with beekeeping though.

Girl bees [are] cheap, they’re not even that expensive. And the honey that you get from it, you can make a lot of money from it. But I don't even do it for the money, I don’t even make money off my bees, I just eat the honey, and I share with my friends. And just sitting next to that beehive is so healing. I think it's healing my PTSD, I don't know, the vibration of the hive…

They’re so peaceful

And I've only been stung one time by my bees. They love me. I don’t even put on the gear and all that stuff unless it's like the height of summer, or whatever, but they just be loving on me and I love on them.

So, do you have a garden too?

Yeah, I have a full-on garden. And I'm out there, girl, pulling weeds and everything. I've got kale, spinach—I just harvested all the spinach, and it was delicious. I've got collard greens, celery,

cucumbers; you name it, I probably have it. Onions, bell peppers, sage, cabbage, beautiful marigold flowers, a lemon tree, plum trees. Yeah, I've got it popping in that garden.

I love it! Fresh vegetables and all that fresh honey.

That honey is healing.

Before I had my bees, I would always drink like a 5-hour energy drink for energy. Now. I just take a spoonful of honey and I'm good to go. And I have my honey tested. They said that the honey from my bees is the highest quality of honey in Southern California. That they're the most productive bees, and the quality of their honey is so rich and so pure. It has everything in it, everything in it necessary. And they was like, “What do you keep around them?” And I'm like, “I have all these different vegetables. And I got marigold, and I got my devil's breath tree.” But also, all throughout my community, people are growing all kinds of pomegranate trees, and just all these different trees; orange trees, lemon trees. There are flowers everywhere. It’s beautiful.

What’s next for Tiffany?

So, the book is coming out on May 7th, but you can pre-order it now at Barnes & Noble. I'll be visiting Barnes & Noble stores and libraries as part of the book tour. My favorite spot is actually the library.

I love going to libraries. I'm big on that because, man, when I was homeless, the library helped me find housing at one point. There's always resources there. They have job opportunities—not necessarily working in the library, but they know about all the other jobs. City jobs and all kinds of stuff going on. There's training at the library. There's all kinds of cool stuff

happening at the library. So, I'm going to be reading my book there for people. I do the children's books. I read my children's books at the library all the time when I go to different cities. But now, I'm going to be doing the adult book, so leave your kids at home. Leave your kids at home because ‘Tiffany Haddish; I Curse You With Joy,’ is for grown-ups. It’s for the grown folks.

So, I'm doing that. I'm doing a book tour. And then, the music is coming out, I think, right around the same time. And I'm excited about that because I'm working with the best of the best. Timberland just sent me a beat, I can't wait to put my vocals on that track. Girl, it's fire. Fire. Fire. And then I got a song with Snoop, Lil Wayne, and Busta Rhymes. I got, man, Diane Warren, 15-time Oscar nominee songwriter, wrote three songs for me that's gonna change the game. One of the songs, (Singing) It's a breakup song, I love it.

As we wrapped up our lively conversation, it was clear that Tiffany Haddish truly embodies the saying, "Don't judge a book by its cover." From her poignant stories to her ambitious endeavors, she radiates resilience and joy. Whether through her upcoming books, her impactful community work, or even her gardening, Tiffany continues to inspire and entertain. Keep an eye on this dynamic star as she brings more laughter and wisdom into the world, proving that indeed, she is ready for anything.

THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT ADHD. YES, YOU.

by Dr. Maria Flowers

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, better known as ADHD is a diagnosis that we often associate with prepubescent males. You may think of a little boy you know that has a harder time sitting still or controlling emotions. Impulsivity, hyperactivity, and inattention which are some of the most common symptoms. Recent studies show that as much as 75% of ADHD diagnoses are missed in girls. For some, this leads to a life of struggles with education and career journeys. While it is unknown if all cases are related to a missed diagnosis, ADHD is emerging as a common disorder for adult women. Adult women with ADHD are often presented with mental health comorbidity such as depression, bipolar disorder, and anxiety. For African American women, ADHD can go undiagnosed and untreated for extended periods of time due to inequities in healthcare access and affordability as well as cultural stigma of mental health illness. Additionally, for women of a certain age, in an effort to better understand this condition and how we can help anyone who may be suffering with this disorder, I met with psychiatrist, Sarah M Fitzgerald, M.D. to discuss ADHD and how it impacts adult women of color.

Dr. Flowers: What exactly is ADHD and how does it differ from ADD?

Dr. Fitzgerald: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is the primary classification in the DSM-5, used globally to diagnose mental health conditions. Unlike ADHD, which includes symptoms of hyperactivity and impulsivity, ADD, or Attention Deficit Disorder, is an older term focusing on inattention. However, in the clinical setting, ADHD may manifest with varying degrees of inattentiveness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity, which are all aspects of the same diagnosis.

Dr. Flowers: How would one even know if they have ADD/ ADHD as a woman of a certain age, what signs to look for?

One of the main reasons people seek assistance for a possible ADHD diagnosis is what is called “Executive Dysfunction,” an inherent impairment in processing information, planning, focusing attention, remembering, and handling multiple tasks. Furthermore, a person may experience complications with getting organized and following through to complete tasks; procrastination, disorganization of information, taking abnormally extended periods of time to complete tasks, and forgetfulness are all hallmark signs of executive dysfunction. If anyone is

experiencing these symptoms or suspects they may have ADHD or any other psychological illness, it is important to seek professional medical help. However, please do not self-diagnose. If you are in crisis, you can call or text 988 for help.

Dr. Flowers: What treatments are available for ADHD?

Dr. Fitzgerald: Medication and psychotherapy are effective in managing ADHD symptoms, with treatment plans tailored to the individual's needs. A comprehensive approach is advised, especially when additional mental health issues are present.

Dr. Flowers: Can popular treatment options like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or EMDR help ADHD?

Dr. Fitzgerald: CBT can help ADHD. CBT addresses the thinking patterns of ADHD patients, especially those that suffer from anxiety. It can be used to help shift negative thought patterns toward more rational thought patterns and can certainly be a helpful treatment option for some patients.

If you are struggling with a mental health diagnosis, the symptoms can be serious and negatively impact your life. In some cases, mental health symptoms can be lifethreatening, and it is important to get professional help right away. If you are having suicidal ideations or any mental health crisis/symptoms, please seek help immediately from a licensed mental health professional. You can call 911 or 988 immediately. 988 can be accessed via phone or text and is specific emergency help for mental health crises.

Dr. Sarah Fitzgerald is a dual board-certified child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist. Graduate of University of Toledo College of Medicine. Founder of Focused Psychiatry located in New Jersey and has extensive expertise in addressing child, adolescent, and adult diagnosis of ADD/ ADHD.

If you are in the New Jersey area and looking for a mental health professional, you can learn more about Dr. Sarah M. Fitzgerald, M.D. at www.focusedpsychiatry.com.

Maria D. Flowers, Ed.D. is the CEO and Principal Consultant at Maria D. Flowers & Associates, a boutique health equity and patient safety firm focused on assisting organizations in providing safe and equitable care. She is also the Founding Executive Director at Safer Healthcare For All, a non-profit organization that empowers patients to self-advocate for quality treatment as they navigate the healthcare system. For inquiries, please email  info@mariadflowers.com.

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with Charmaine Roots Castillo

Navigating Life's DoorsOpen

Iloved the time of year when my mother opened every window in the house to “let some fresh air in.” There was something exhilarating about the fresh current of wind finding its way down the narrow hallway of our 960-square-foot house and filling every space with a fresh energy as it traveled through, ruffling the curtains and exposing things that needed to be anchored in a more secure fashion. I enjoyed the whimsical images I conjured up in my mind of me being the fresh wind that was running through the house, slamming doors and receiving no type of rebuke.

I didn’t challenge my mother’s authority when she directed me to close certain doors in the house, but I was curious about why some doors could be left open. I was fascinated by the cause and effect of the refreshing breeze and wanted to understand how it worked. My mom was prone to offering statements (not answers) in response to a lot of my questions, statements I tucked away, awaiting Father Time’s reveal.

“The revelation will be released when you have the capacity to understand.”

What?! As if my five-year-old brain could comprehend that. She would say things like that, and my younger self resolved to “understand it better, by and by.”

Many fresh winds later, I have come to understand a few things better in the by and by:

• Fresh winds don’t have the turbulent, destructive nature of storms, but much like storms, there are treasures to be uncovered in the aftermath.

• Fresh perspectives are the breeding ground for hope.

• Some doors are closed for your protection.

• Focus on the open door.

• Life is always pregnant with fresh new perspectives waiting to be delivered.

Those fresh winds that blew through my momma’s house signaled the time of year when the atmosphere was charged with making room for the lighter. Lighter curtains replaced the dark heavy drapes of the previous season. Lighter bedspreads replaced the hand-stitched quilts, weighed down by the cotton and love, filled by my grandma’s hands. It was a time of refreshing that always indicated new things on the horizon.

There is a fresh wind blowing right now, and whether you understand the cause and effect of it, now is as good a time as any to switch from the heaviness of the previous season and prepare to accommodate the light-bearing perspectives of the new.

Listen, the stairs leading to the basement also lead to the main level; so just remember, you’re taking the next step UP! It’s okay to rest on the landing (if you must), just don’t pitch a tent there.

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AGING WELL

with Dr. Michelle Kindred

Renew and Refresh Your Spirit

After the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, the house guests are gone, and the decorations are put away. Whether you are the family's matriarch or have a home where everyone gathers, aside from the love and laughter, various feelings and emotions can surface during the winter season. In some instances, ending the holiday season can trigger seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Ironically, SAD is heightened with the change of the season. Shorter daylight hours, colder temperatures, and depression can result in sedentary and solitary norms.

What do we do with all the emotions after the holidays? We tote them right into the new year. Not this year; this is where we flip the script. Take all of those triggers, depression, stress, guilt, and pain, and bag them up. Put that bag in the center of the room and acknowledge it. Acknowledge everything in it. This bag is often referred to as an emotional backpack. Open that bag and literally get to the bottom of it. Recognize your unexpressed feelings, separate the

temporary struggles, and list the top three things you want to change. Slow down and recognize when you must step back, rest, and regroup. Exchange those destructive emotions one at a time with a smile, a kind word, and a prayer.

Now, take a deep breath, sis; it's time to reset, renew, and refresh your spirit. Why? As we age, we want to do so elegantly, naturally, or, as some refer to it, aging gracefully.

Aging gracefully can be interpreted several ways, from the back-handed complemental phrase, 'You look good for your age,' to the cynical remark, 'You're not getting older, you're getting better.' Instead, I categorize our renewing and refreshing into three areas: personal looks, cognitive health, and attitude.

Renew and Refresh your Physical

Appearance.

Physical appearance can encompass your dress, hairstyle, and even your signature scent. Reset your style, out with the old, in with a newer version of you. I know you can still fit those comfy leggings and oversized sweatshirts and look good in them. Perhaps you have those 'mom jeans' that you actually wore when you were

parenting the littles or that blazer with the padded shoulders in your closet from 30 years ago. This year's fashion trends favor high-waisted jeans and shoulder pads, but treat yourself to the updated version. Spice up your casual look with a trendy jogger or warm-up suit, and pair it with a modest heel, wedges, or throwback chunky sneaker.

Embrace your mane. Keeping the sprinkles of gray, natural curls and eliminating harsh chemicals can give your hair a healthy break. However, be aware natural hair requires attention, work, and conditioning products. To remove the yellowish tones and smooth the wiry-course texture from gray or brassy blond hair, look for products with centaury flowers or violet or blue pigments. Indulge yourself and visit a salon-care professional for a deep conditioning treatment, a trim, and a style to keep your tresses healthy and beautiful.

Smells, scents, and aromas to set your mood. Aside from the seasonals, you can change your body fragrances to align with your emotions – whether warm, seductive, and musky or light, fresh, and citrusy; your scent can play up a different side of you. In some ways, fragrances highlight your personality and reveal your mindset.

Renew and Refresh Your Cognitive Health.

Cognitive health involves mental acuity or keeping your mind active. Reading, journaling, learning a new language, socializing, and doing crossword puzzles, Wordle, and Sudoku can keep our mental processing sharp. It can also favor maintaining healthy relationships and being open to new friendships or adventures. Emotional checkups also keep your cognitive health at its best. If that nagging bag of emotions continues to spill out or begins to refill, pause, get in touch with the underlying emotions, and seek alternative resources like mediation, mindfulness coaching, or a professional counselor or therapist.

Renew and Refresh Your Attitude.

Attitude is where we refresh our spirit. Let's be honest; your attitude is

your signature. It can be contagious even if it fluctuates, is unstable or if you are always upbeat and happy. As the poem "Solitude" by Ella Wheeler suggests, "Laugh, and the world laughs with you; Weep and you weep alone." At least if you smile, you keep the frown lines at bay.

Some suggestions to reset your attitude include recognizing the source of the negative feelings or thoughts. Change what is within your scope. Practice gratitude and acceptance, daily affirmations, and celebrate the small things. Surround yourself with positive people and immerse yourself in things that make you happy.

I would be remiss if I did not include a few words from the good book about renewing and refreshing your spirit. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 NIV

Put off your former way of life, your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be renewed in the spirit of your minds. Ephesian 4:22-23 NIV

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FROM DARKNESS TO LIGHT: Healing YourSpirit

After a Toxic Relationship

by Dr. Janie Lacy

I've spent years working with individuals affected by toxic relationships. The impact on one's spirit—how they view themselves and their capacity to engage with the world—is profound.

Toxic relationships often involve manipulation, deceit, and emotional abuse. They can leave you feeling drained, worthless, and disoriented. They can distort your selfperception and lead to self-doubt. You may begin to question your worth, your abilities, and even your sanity. This is how toxicity erodes the spirit.

It's essential to understand that the spiritual impact is not always immediately noticeable but manifests in subtle ways that affect your daily life and overall wellbeing. Here are some key signs that a toxic relationship is affecting you spiritually:

1) Drained Energy: If you constantly feel mentally and emotionally drained, this could indicate a spiritual toll. Your spirit is your source of energy and positivity, and a toxic relationship can deplete it.

2) Loss of Inner Peace: An inner sense of unrest or perpetual anxiety can be a sign of spiritual disruption. A toxic relationship can disrupt your inner peace, leaving you feeling restless and anxious.

3) Detachment from Spiritual Practices: If you find yourself less interested or detached from your spiritual practices, it could be a sign that the toxic relationship is affecting you spiritually.

4) Inability to Find Purpose: A clear sign that a toxic relationship is affecting your spirit is a loss of purpose or direction in life. Your spirit guides your passion and purpose, and a toxic relationship can cloud this guidance.

5) Feeling Unworthy of Love: If you start feeling unworthy of love or affection, it's a clear indication that the toxic relationship is impacting your spirit. Everyone deserves love and respect, and feeling otherwise is a sign of spiritual distress.

Acknowledging these signs is the first step toward healing. It's crucial not to ignore these signs and seek professional help if needed. You're not alone on this journey, and there are numerous resources and support systems available to help you heal and reclaim your spiritual well-being.

However, it's important to remember that healing is possible. Here are some steps you can take to renew and refresh your spirit after a toxic relationship:

1) Recognize the Toxicity: The first step is acknowledging that you were in a toxic relationship. It's not about blaming yourself; it's about understanding the unhealthy dynamics that were at play.

2) Seek Professional Help: Working with a licensed therapist can be incredibly beneficial. They can provide you with tools and strategies to understand and navigate your feelings, rebuild your self-esteem, and foster healthier relationships in the future.

3) Practice Self-Care: Engaging in regular self-care routines can help restore your spirit. This might involve physical exercise, meditation, journaling, or simply taking time each day to do something you love.

4) Reconnect with Yourself: Toxic relationships often lead us to lose sight of who we are. Take this time to reconnect with yourself. Explore your interests, values, and passions. This will help restore your sense of self and boost your confidence.

5) Surround Yourself with Support: Lean on friends, family, or support groups who understand what you're going through. They can provide comfort, perspective, and validation as you navigate this challenging time.

Remember, there's no standard timeline for healing. Everyone's journey is unique. But with patience, selfcompassion, and the right support, you can emerge from a toxic relationship stronger, wiser, and more in tune with your spirit.

Dr. Janie Lacy is a renowned licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, and accomplished speaker with international recognition. She brings decades of expertise to help individuals break free from toxic relationship cycles. Her passion for marriage and relationships has led her to create impactful solutions in mental health and relationship counseling.

Co-Parenting Through Divorce:Discussing Divorce with Children

by: Laurie A. Evans

Divorce is a challenging journey for any family, and when parents decide to part ways, a new set of complexities arises. One of the most delicate aspects of this process is discussing the divorce with their children. The way the parents approach this conversation can significantly impact the emotional well-being of their kids and set the

tone for their future relationships. The following tips offer insight on how to discuss divorce with sensitivity and compassion.

The Importance of Unity

Divorce doesn’t erase the fact that co-parents share a common responsibility: raising their children. Approaching the conversation as a united front is very important. Children often look to their parents for stability and assurance even during significant changes. By presenting a united front, you can convey that despite the divorce, you are both committed to the well-being of your children.

Timing Is Key

Choosing the right time to discuss divorce is crucial. Experts suggest picking a time when the family can sit down together without distractions. This might be a weekend afternoon or an evening after dinner and homework. Make sure there is ample time for discussion and questions—you want to create an environment where the children feel heard and supported.

Honesty and Transparency

While parents naturally want to shield their children from pain, honesty remains the best policy. Children are perceptive, and they often sense when something is amiss. Providing age-appropriate information about the reasons for the divorce, without placing blame, can help them understand the situation better. It is imperative to assure them that the divorce is not their fault and that both parents will continue to love and support them.

Encouraging Expression of Emotions

Children, like adults, experience a range of emotions during a divorce, including confusion, sadness, anger, and fear. Create a safe space for your children to express these emotions without judgement. Encouraging open communications develops trust and helps children navigate their feelings in a healthy way. You may need to seek the assistance of a therapist, divorce coach, or counselor to facilitate these conversations and provide additional support.

Crafting a Consistent Narrative

Consistency is important when talking about divorce with your children. Co-parents should aim to present a unified narrative about the separation, ensuring that the children receive a consistent message from both parents. This helps prevent confusion and minimizes the likelihood of the children feeling caught in the middle of parental conflicts.

Emphasizing Continued Love and Support

Reassuring children that the love and support from both parents will continue is paramount. Emphasize that the divorce is a change in the parents’ relationship with each other, not their relationship with their children. Let the children know that both parents intend to remain active and involved in their lives by attending events and making joint decisions about their well-being.

Acknowledging the Journey Ahead

Be honest. Divorce is a process, not an event.

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Approaching the discussion with empathy and understanding, you will help your child navigate this challenging transition with resilience and a sense of security.

Remember, always prioritize your children; make their well-being the guiding light in your divorce journey!

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RENEW AND REFRESH YOUR CAREER

by Felicia Brown, AARP

The new year is always a great time to reflect, refocus, and recalibrate around what you want to do or where you want to go in your career. It’s no question that the job market has changed. I remember the days when you would look at your local newspaper, apply for a job, get a call for an interview or a “no thank you” letter. Needless to say, those days are gone. Searching for a job and charting your career in today’s competitive market can be difficult, so it’s important to stay ahead of the game. Whether you are just starting out or have been on your journey for a while, here are a few tips and strategies you can consider.

Update or Improve Your Professional Brand

Your professional brand is who you are, not what you do. Oftentimes we think it’s our position at work, but in fact it’s the unique skills we build over time that allow us to stand out from others. Your professional brand is something that you build over time through various employment, and for some, volunteer experiences. For employers, it means ensuring customers know what they offer and how they are different from the competition. For employees, building their reputation as an authority and a credible subject-matter expert in an industry is important. If you want to be known as an industry expert, increase your knowledge and expertise so your brand stands out.

Leverage the Power of Social Media

If you are looking to start or elevate your career, using social media is a great option if you use it effectively. LinkedIn is a smart way to elevate your professional brand by listing your skills, certifications, and accomplishments. Employers use this platform to post jobs as well as search for candidates. Other platforms like TikTok and Instagram can be useful in sharing informational or creative videos to showcase your expertise. While social media is a good way to build your brand, try to keep your personal and professional footprints separate. Social media platforms are connected, so if someone searches your name, unless you are using an alias, they can find you, so be careful what you post.

Lean Into Your Network

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More and more people report that they found their job through someone they know. Networking is an increasingly common way to find employment. Think about who’s in your network: friends, alumni, former co-workers and managers, people you’ve volunteered with—let them know about your pursuits. These relationships are important, so tap into them when needed. It could help you go from getting invited for the interview to getting that offer letter.

Continuous Learning and Upskilling

Staying competitive is important in a tight job market. Updating or developing in-demand skills is important for navigation and advancement in the workplace.

Taking advantage of online courses, acquiring certifications, and attending conferences are all important for enhancing your skills and can give you a competitive edge and a leg up. You can find free courses on sites like the AARP Skills Builder for Work. However, if you must pay, consider it an investment. See if your employer offers tuition reimbursement or a career development program.

Create Targeted Résumé and Cover Letter

Gone are the days of having one résumé and a generic cover letter to apply for jobs, even if it’s in the same industry. The new rule of thumb is to tweak or customize each document with relevant key terms for the specific job you are applying for. This will show how your skills and experiences clearly align to the position. There are tools available to help you develop or review your résumé, one tool in particular, AARP Résumé Advisor (free for AARP members), which can help you show off your best self. A good practice is to add courses, certifications, and accomplishments to your résumé and ensure it stays updated.

Brush Up on Your Interview Skills

Now that you’ve been invited for an interview, it’s time to prepare. If you know someone inside the company, ask them to help you. Inquire about the kinds of questions you might be asked. Many employers now use the SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound) model to express your goals in the interview, which requires detailed examples of your work. These interviews really require preparation. This model allows the panel to gain insights into how well you work with people, individually and in teams, how you manage challenges and difficult people, and how you’ve managed and executed various aspects of your jobs. Yes, it can be stressful but remember, breathe, practice, and you’ll get through it. These are just a few tips to help you get ready and stay ready for what’s next. Looking for a job can be challenging, but AARP is here to help ease the stress and equip you with the tools for success. To empower you along your career journey, be sure to check out AARP’s job tools at www.aarp.org/work

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Spirit of Resilience: TIFFANY CAPRI HAINESWORTH'S Tequila Triumph

by Alaina Pinkney

Tiffany Capri Hainesworth’s journey to founding T Capri Tequila and becoming the first Black woman in the world to own a tequila brand is not just a story of entrepreneurship; it’s a testimony to resilience, faith, and the unyielding spirit of a woman determined to redefine her destiny in the face of adversity. In 2012, Hainesworth’s life took an unexpected turn when she was involved in a severe car accident that left her with a traumatic brain injury. This pivotal moment forced her to reevaluate her life’s direction and her commitment to a long-standing career in the federal government.

Despite the challenges posed by her injury, Hainesworth found solace and creativity in her kitchen. Known among her friends for her boozy desserts, she began experimenting more fervently during her recovery, eventually creating cocktail gummy bears and other liquor-infused treats. This hobby not only served as a therapeutic outlet but also sparked a realization in Hainesworth: she wanted to create something uniquely hers, a brand that could encapsulate her creativity and passion.

The idea for T Capri Tequila was born from Hainesworth’s desire to infuse her gourmet treats with her own spirit, quite literally. Where many people go into an industry like this with a multitude of partners to help anchor the success, for her, the journey was a solitary one, marked not by the presence of collaborators but by a deep, unwavering faith and an unshakable determination to fulfill her God-given destiny. She often likens her life to a GPS, acknowledging that despite the inevitable “red lights, obstacles, and accidents” along the way, there’s always a divine reroute guiding her to her ultimate destination. This belief propelled her to venture alone into these uncharted territories, both figuratively in the spirits industry and literally in Jalisco, Mexico— the heartland of tequila production, where she sought to create her tequila.

“You have to be focused, and you have to be determined. I look at life like a GPS; you’re going to have your red lights and your obstacles and your accidents, whatever, but that GPS is going to reroute you to your destination. And that’s how God is; he’s going to reroute your life to get you to where you’re supposed to be.”

Hainesworth states. “Although I’ve had my trials and tribulations - my heartaches and my pain, when you’re walking your God-given destiny, he’s going to get you there.” It wasn’t easy, though, but there was no stopping a moving train towards purpose. Despite facing significant barriers, including language and cultural differences, Hainesworth’s determination never wavered. She immersed herself in research, sought out distilleries, and navigated the complex process of producing tequila, all while managing the logistical challenges of cross-border business and health challenges. She can proudly say that when it comes to T Capri Tequila, she is the true mastermind of this brand—a brand that stands on integrity and excellence. But through it all, she was unwavering in her faith and relentlessness in pursuit of building a brand that not only she could be proud of but one she’s also proud to share with the world.

“I’m proud to say my tequila is certified additivefree—there’s no junk in my tequila. It’s 100% Blue Weber agave. Knowing my worth and my product’s worth was key. I picked the tops and the labels, and they come directly to my distribution warehouse. I own 100% of every aspect of this brand,” says Hainesworth.

Hainesworth’s journey from federal employee to tequila brand owner is the type of purposedriven story that should move you into action. It’s not just about the creation of T Capri Tequila but about the journey of a Black woman who, in the aftermath of a life-altering event, chose to pursue her dreams with unwavering faith and resilience. She gives power to the importance of seizing the moment, embracing change, and the incredible potential that lies in believing in oneself and fighting for one’s passions, even in the face of uncertainty and adversity.

“I was literally at a point in my life where I didn’t have anything to lose. I was like, I’m not going to leave this earth and not try to do something. So, either it’s going to work, or it’s not, but at least I tried,” Hainesworth shared.

T Capri Tequila and Hainesworth’s journey proves that with faith, determination, and a willingness to learn and adapt, it’s possible to overcome obstacles and create something truly remarkable from the ground up.

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MONEY TALKS

with Roni M. Talley

In a world where women are breaking barriers and achieving great success in various fields, it is imperative that we also take charge of our financial well-being. Taking accountability for our financial present and future is a crucial step towards achieving economic empowerment. This article aims to shed light on the importance of financial accountability, provide insights from a financial professional’s perspective, and share effective practices for protecting, accumulating, and preserving wealth, tailored especially for women and business owners.

1. Embrace Financial Accountability

Financial accountability entails being aware of your current financial situation and actively working towards your desired financial future. By taking control of your finances, you empower yourself to make informed decisions and secure a solid foundation for your financial well-being.

2. Protect Your Wealth

Personal Insurance: Safeguarding your health, life, and property through comprehensive insurance coverage provides financial security during unforeseen circumstances.

Emergency Fund: Creating an emergency fund is crucial to mitigate financial risks and ensure a safety net during unexpected events.

Estate Planning: Develop a thorough estate plan to protect your assets, ensure smooth succession, and minimize tax implications for those who will inherit the assets.

3. Accumulate Wealth

Goal-Setting: Clearly define your financial goals and create a roadmap to achieve them. Whether it's saving for retirement, starting a business, or buying a home, setting specific and measurable goals will drive your financial progress.

Budgeting and Saving: Implement a budgeting strategy that aligns with your goals, track expenses, and prioritize saving. Consistent saving habits—even small, regular contributions—can yield significant long-term results.

Investment Strategies: Educate yourself on various investment options, such as stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and real estate, and develop a diversified investment portfolio aligned with your risk tolerance and timeline.

4. Preserve Wealth

Retirement Planning: Prioritize retirement planning, exploring retirement savings accounts, such as Individual Retirement Accounts (IRAs) or employer-sponsored 401(k) plans. Start saving early, take advantage of compound interest, and review your retirement strategy periodically.

Tax Efficiency: Employ tax planning strategies to minimize your tax liabilities, such as optimizing deductions, making tax-efficient investments, and contributing to taxadvantaged savings accounts.

Continuous Learning: Stay updated on financial trends, changes in regulations, and investment opportunities. Seek professional advice when necessary to adapt your financial plan and incorporate new wealth preservation strategies.

5. Adopt Best Practices for Business Owners

Separate Personal and Business Finances: Maintain distinct accounts, track business expenses diligently, and establish a sound bookkeeping system.

Build an Emergency Fund for Your Business: Set aside funds to cover unexpected costs or sudden disruptions in your business operations.

Succession Planning: Develop a succession plan to ensure the longevity and smooth transition of your business, preserving its value for the future.

Taking accountability for your financial journey is an empowering step towards creating a brighter and more secure future. By adopting practices that protect, accumulate, and preserve wealth, you pave the way for financial independence. Remember, as women, we possess immense strength, resilience, and the ability to create extraordinary lives. Harness your financial power, unlock your potential, and celebrate the wonders that financial accountability can bring to your life.

Meet Roni M. Talley

I have made a personal commitment to increase financial awareness and financial literacy, to help lay a foundation of wealth-building strategies for generations to come. If I can be a resource for you or your organization, feel free to contact me at (770) 6855532. Text “Cheryl Magazine” for a free consultation.

Disclaimer: This article does not constitute financial advice. Consult with a qualified financial professional and include your tax professional in the conversations for personalized guidance according to your individual circumstances.

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He Makes All Things NEW

part 2

by Dr. Kerry-Ann Zamore Byrd

Welcome back. The last time we met, I shared that I once again found myself single after an extramarital affair ended my second marriage. I sold my house and moved on, angry, hurt, and betrayed. I followed the U-Haul a few miles. God is so intentional even during our storms; He gives us light, he renews and restores.

Blessings, Kerry-Ann

After I confronted my husband on his extramarital affair, he nonchalantly said, "Yes, I am involved with someone else."He didn’t even try to deny it. I searched his eyes for answers; he was done. I saw the slow change; the red flags were glaring banners. He had begun to subscribe to the idea of a polytheistic belief of marriage and religion. I believed in one spouse a man and woman, he did not. I believed in one God, he did not. No sis, it did not start that way. We met through church, we even counseled with our pastor before marriage. We were on the same page, until two years into the marriage. He had begun to read several books "that" contributed to an adoption of the conversion of a poly belief. I could not subscribe to the belief, and it was one of the many issues which caused a rift in our relationship. I felt the affair before he admitted it. He dressed differently. His shower pattern changed. His schedule changed. After I confronted him, within a month, he had packed his bags stating he was going to visit his family. He never returned. I was abandoned, I was left with the house and vehicles and my children who had already been through a horrific divorce.

I recall looking around the home thinking "I guess I could redecorate and remain here," until I received a letter in the mail. It was the final notice for foreclosure. I froze. What the hell! I picked up the phone and dialed his number. WHAT THE HELL! He admitted that he had stopped paying the bills a few months prior. I know what you are asking, sis, how did you not know this? Our bills are automated and went to his email address. He generally paid the mortgage, so I never thought of it, until I opened the mailbox, I saw the final, second and third notices. I trusted that he, my husband, covered the bills. Why wouldn’t he? What kind of person does not pay bills? My world unraveled quickly. I called the bank immediately and apologized profusely. I called every debt owed and began to write letters of intent. It was clear, I was in deep trouble. I called my girlfriend, who was a realtor. I needed to sell. My house was immaculate and in pristine condition, she was convinced that I would get top dollar in a normal situation, but this was not. I needed to list a short sale immediately. The goal was to get out of it immediately. The cars were in my name solely, my payments were on time, but I needed money. I was able to sell both at a huge loss in exchange for one vehicle, which in the long run would help. Damnit! I hated him! Lord, what lesson am I to learn from this? I sobbed every day. I sat in my walk-in closet and sobbed, then I went to the nearest Title One Boxing Club and punched and kicked the bags as hard as I could for an hour. Then I did my makeup and hair and dressed in my best clothing to face the world. No one knew my struggle. I could not bring myself to let anyone in. Who would believe that I was so stupid to allow myself to be in this situation. So, I suffered in silence.

The house was on the market for one day, when my realtor called. “Kerry, we have three offers above the asking price.” My house was sold AT VALUE, not short sale. My eyes immediately welled with tears. Okay, Lord, I’m listening. My mind raced--I needed to find an apartment immediately. I had rented the house I owned prior to my marriage, and there was still another six months on the lease. "There is one more thing," my realtor continued. "They would like to close at the end of the month. Can you make it work?" That is in three weeks! What? How? My chest tightened, I felt hot and dizzy. My mind screamed, "I have nowhere to go?"

“Sure, I will make it work," I said calmly. "Okay, Lord. You got me? Please show me that you still have me," I cried. The next morning, I received a call from the property manager of my rental property. “Kerry, I am not sure how to say this, but your renters have a devastating loss in their family, and they need to break the lease and move. They need to leave in the next few weeks. I would be happy to help you find another renter and they understand they will be penalized for this.” I laughed out loud, cried and screamed. My property manager called my name several times before I could respond. She asked again, “Are you alright?” I laughed, “I am better than alright! My daddy just told me out loud that He is making all things work out for my good!”

As my tears flowed while I was following the U-Haul I remembered that God made a way out of no way for me to move back into my own home. I followed the U-Haul down the familiar street and pulled into my driveway. The pink roses I had planted almost 9 years prior were in full bloom as if to say welcome back. I walked into the living room, the hardwood floors, were done by my dad and me. The large windows in each room filled the house with sunlight. This was my favorite thing about this house, I recalled, it is always filled with light. Although I was badly broken, my father answered my question, he still had me, and he was refreshing my spirit. I smiled a real smile for the first time in months as I watched my three year old explore this new home.

The phone rang. I looked at it in disgust. It was him. What did he want? My son. He wanted my son. Lord, I need you, the divorce proceedings were not quite over, custody had just begun. God, do you still have me?

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Unlock the Icon Within Contributing Author:

Tiffany R. Easley

Icons are all around us, and we often miss them when we have entered their presence. I was often unaware that I was in the company of icons because I was looking for them to make a grand entrance or take center stage at a particular event. These instances occurred before I understood the true meaning of an icon. Webster’s Dictionary defines an icon as “a person or thing widely admired, especially for having major influence or significance in a particular sphere” (Webster, 2022). Icons influence the world with their unique greatness. Do you know how many icons with whom you have shared space? Do you think about their journey to greatness? Webster’s Dictionary refers to a voyage as a trip or journey (Webster, 2022). As you continue reading, I hope you will find similarities of an icon within yourself as shared throughout “The Iconic Voyage: Preparation, Position, and Presentation.”

-Excerpt from the book, Unlock the Icon Within, Chapter: "The Iconic Voyage," pp. 211.

International keynote speaker, bestselling author, empowerment expert, and mindset coach, Tiffany R. Easley, is empowering professional women to confront their challenges, create a life they love, and S.O.A.R. She coaches with passion, guiding her clients to strengthen and elevate their mindsets to new heights.

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Unloading Divorce Baggage

by Dr. Kerry-Ann Zamore-Byrd

Hardly anyone goes into a marriage thinking of a pending divorce. Well, there may be a few celebrities and businesspersons who think of protecting their financial interests legally through prenuptial agreements, so there are exceptions. But the average person does not plan a wedding thinking of divorce, yet divorces are increasing at a rapid rate each year. If you have found yourself on the other side of “I do,” at “What the hell are we doing! And how the hell did I get here!” then this book is for you! If you have found yourself angry, frustrated, isolated, sad, and unsure about what’s next after signing the papers, or, or maybe you are already divorced, you may not be sad or mad, but you feel stuck, then, yes, this book is for you.

If you are blissfully married, I am sure you know someone going through a divorce. This is a great tool to help your friend get unstuck!

Dr. Kerry-Ann Zamore Byrd, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and University Professor. Dr. Zamore’s experience spans over 20 years’ of experience working with victims of various types of trauma and abuse. In this books she shares tips to grow and go and the baggage is unloaded.

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From Grief to Gratitude by

Charmaine LaFondé

…The phone call I had just made, hoping for clarity to a truth I did not want to hear, was even more perplexing. There have been a few moments in my life when coherent thought seemed to be foreign to me, but I will always remember that day, August 21, 2017, when I became exposed to the most evil and painful element the world had to offer. In one moment, everything changed—my child was dead.

When our world shifts under the weight of grief, a firm foundation is well able to withstand the trauma. The children of God can always take heart in knowing God is a rock of safety in the most treacherous of storms and that we have a safe place to hide until the storm passes over (and it will). Choosing to make that safe place our hideaway clears a pathway to hope.

-Excerpt from the book, From Grief to Gratitude: A 31-Day Devotional Guide to Greater Peace

Charmaine LaFondé, the author of Who Killed My Son: A Mother's Wait for Justice, writes with passionate desire to guide others onto a pathway to peace after a traumatic loss.

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GRIEF, LOSS, AND RECOVERY: Pathways to Healing and Hope

by Denise Polote-Kelly

So often, when we think about mental health, the thought or conversation that grief can be the underlying cause is not addressed. Unresolved grief can be the trigger of depression, anxiety, and other mental challenges.

Grief is a natural response to loss when someone or something you love is taken away. The pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from anger, guilt, disappointment, and absolute sadness. The pain of grief will often disrupt your physical health, making it difficult to breathe, process, sleep, eat, or even think and comprehend. These are normal reactions to loss. You must know the more significant the loss, the more intense the grief.

Coping with the loss of someone you love is one of life’s biggest challenges. You should associate grieving with the loss of things, pets, and secure situations, but the loss of these and other things causes deep grief, and most times, it is unresolved, and that causes it to intensify.

Even subtle losses in life can trigger grief. For example, you might grieve after becoming an empty nester, freedom, assisting elder parents, sudden health changes, and other triggers.

Everyone’s loss is personal to them, so don’t feel ashamed about how you feel or how long you take to move forward. If the person, relationship, pet, estranged family, or situation was significant to you, it’s normal to grieve the loss you’re experiencing.

How you grieve depends on many factors, your faith, life experience, including your personality and coping style. In time and with action, whatever the cause of your grief, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain and can ease the brokenness, sadness, and sorrow.

Denise Polote Kelly, CGRS, CLTC, wears many hats as a survival/thriving coach, speaker, and business owner. She runs Recovery Matters and D. Kelly Management, and is a partner at Healing Hearts Therapeutic Solutions. To learn more about Denise, visit her website at CoachDPK. com and connect with her on Facebook at Denise Polote Kelly.

In this space, here are a few tools to assist in moving forward:

1. Breathe.

2. You must be patient with yourself.

3. Give yourself permission to grieve.

4. Never grieve alone.

5. Never force yourself to hide the pain.

Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried, but it will happen if you choose to change and live.

“Your ways are not my ways, and I thank God for that.”

by: Brandy Tennile, Guest Writer

For years, I watched my mom walk the hardwood floors of our home at night in prayer. She held a small bottle of anointed oil in one hand, pouring a dab of it on her fingers in the other. Mom audibly spoke to God, thanking Him for the tangible and intangible blessings as she touched the walls and doors of our home. With every step and every touch of oil, Mom had a little talk with Jesus. It was normal for me to climb into bed with a glow on my forehead from the residue of prayer. This became a habit, a ritual before bedtime. My perspective of this nightly tradition deepened as I came to know God as my own Jehovah Jireh (Gen 22:14, KJV).

Although I fell asleep every Sunday in the Methodist church as a little one, I honored who I imagined God to be because of my mom’s walk. But I grabbed a hold of Him personally as life began to… well, life. I became a fatherless child in middle school due to the grip cancer had on Daddy’s bones at the end of his time on Earth. This is when God began to deal with me intimately, speaking to me through visions and dreams. I began to feel God in the most beautiful ways when I invited His presence into my space. Christianity was no longer a religion for me; my relationship with Him became my lifestyle.

I graduated from Alabama A&M University, finding myself with a degree, looking for a career that would catapult me into the life I dreamed of. I envisioned frequent trips to the Motherland, cruising around the city in a black-on-black 5-series BMW, and purchasing the perfect home with a circular driveway. It was all a dream that I promised would manifest in due time. Like most of us, I created a timeline that I could and would stick to. Focused, energized, confident, and creative, I was eager to leave my mark on this world!

As we know, adulting has a way of twisting and turning at the most inconvenient moments. Over time, I was forced to learn God has His plans when we have our own. Sometimes, they happen to align and intersect as expected. Other times, we find ourselves in the darkness with a flashlight, searching for direction with a roadmap. I married, became a proud mommy, divorced, and built a career in a field I was not passionate about while time was passing me by. The checklist I had in my 20's changed in so many directions. But God. My life diverted off the highway I planned, taking me on an unforgettable, unpredictable journey. But God. Even in my frustrated seasons of “God, what are we doing?” I held tightly to my peace and faith.

A few weeks ago, I virtually watched Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts preach her face off, per usual. In this sermon entitled “Push Through,” she reminded us to know our rightful place in God’s kingdom on Earth. Struggles and roadblocks should be expected. Hard times will show up, and doubt will whisper in your mind. Some people around you won’t understand your purpose or calling. There are times when God commissions us to walk a lonely road to remove distractions so we can hear from Him and Him alone.

“Your ways are not my ways, and I thank God for that, “Pastor Sarah excitedly proclaimed!

My spirit began to leap as I looked back over my life and heard those words. There were many moments in my life that didn’t make sense to me at the time, But God. The lion’s den was necessary to strengthen faith and cause others to believe in the God we serve (Daniel 6). The ark surely wasn’t on Noah’s list of goals (Genesis 6-7). But his obedience at 600 years old saved generations of humanity. Elizabeth didn’t think she would be a mom, accepting she was too old and could not carry a child. She couldn’t fathom conceiving and raising a child who would prepare the way for and baptize Jesus. But God knew. (Luke 1)

So, as my teenage son and I settle down each evening to seek rest from the day, I grab my own bottle of oil. The oil I laid prostrate before God to anoint. The oil I cried over as I worshipped His holiness, thanking Him for every valley and mountain. The very oil I consecrated with my prayers and humility. As I walk through our home at night, with oil on my fingertips, I talk to God audibly, touching the walls and windows, the pillows and bedding, the pantry and kitchen cabinets. I thank Him for grace, mercy, protection, and provision. I thank Him for the blood He shed on the cross. I thank Him for the fresh food and water, for an operable car, for lights and A/C. I thank Him for our family and our neighbors and pray for humanity. I thank Him for health, strength, wisdom, and obedience to His will. As my son and I climb into our beds each night, with the glow on our foreheads from my anointed oil, we rest well, knowing God’s way is the only way. And for that, I thank God His ways are not my own.

Brandy Tennile is an Atlanta native, HBCU alum, Delta Soror, writer, and fashionista. Above all, she is a woman of God and proud mom.

Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That: Busy Moms Can Implement Personal

Wellness

by: Ericca Harvey, Guest Writer

Being a mom is the most rewarding yet challenging job there is. Between managing the household and taking care of the kiddos, there’s barely enough time for self-care. Whether a stay-at-home, or a career mom, unmarried or married, the role is a tough one. But, mama, your wellness is important too! Being

well means taking care of your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health. It goes a long way in helping maintain your sanity during those nerve-pinching motherhood seasons. I will share some easy ways for busy moms to implement personal wellness into their daily lives.

Exercise! Squeezing in a workout might seem impossible, but it's about small, feasible steps. Start with accessible activities like brisk walking during your child’s naptime or short workout videos online. Desk exercises are a good fit for those with sedentary jobs. Exercise enhances both physical and mental health, reducing stress and lifting mood. Begin with gentle exercises and gradually intensify to improve strength and endurance. Consistency is key; even ten minutes of exercise a day can make a significant difference. Finding joy in these activities can also enhance the motivation to stay active.

Get Enough Sleep! Adequate sleep is essential for wellness. Aim for 6-7 hours per night, and consider power naps. Quality sleep can make up for shorter durations. Strive for a balanced sleep routine, recognizing when to power down and trust in the morrow. Good sleep hygiene, like a consistent bedtime routine and a comfortable sleep environment, can significantly improve sleep quality. Viewing sleep as a non-negotiable pillar of health can revolutionize your approach to rest.

I know you have a lot on your plate. The mere thought of adding another item to your already overflowing to-do list can be overwhelming. However, it’s important to remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s necessary.

Like a bud on a bare tree waiting anxiously for the awakening of spring, counting the time, it will be with each day closer to spring. Anticipating its true self and what life will be. Time is here, for it is spring. It blooms into a flower. Beautiful to See, Beautiful to Be!

Take A Break! Overwhelmed by endless tasks? It's vital to pause and rejuvenate. Carve out time for activities you enjoy, or indulge in a spa day. Social media might seem like a break, but it can lead to negative feelings. Real breaks help the mind unwind and refresh. Finding a hobby or activity that detaches you from daily stressors can be a gamechanger for mental health. These moments of respite are not just breaks from routine but essential investments in your emotional resilience.

Feed Your Spirit! Spiritual well-being is as important as physical health. Allocate daily moments for spiritual activities like reading scripture or meditation. These practices can ground you, foster gratitude, and deepen spiritual connections, contributing to overall wellness. Integrating spirituality into daily life provides a reservoir of strength and peace amidst chaos. This spiritual nourishment offers a solid foundation for facing life's challenges with grace and fortitude.

Don’t Neglect Your Relationships! Maintaining connections is vital, even amidst a hectic schedule. Simple acts like a phone call or setting playdates can strengthen relationships. Being open to asking for help is also crucial for building a supportive network. Relationships provide emotional support and a sense of belonging, which are fundamental for mental health and resilience. Investing in these bonds enriches your life, creating a network of support and shared happiness.

Incorporating personal wellness into your daily routine doesn’t have to be complicated, expensive, or time-consuming. You can start small, and gradually build momentum. It could be as simple as carving out a few minutes each day. Children old enough can have their quiet time, too; you may need to have them in their own spaces. These small acts of self-care can have a profound impact on your overall well-being, and your family also benefits from a healthier you.

Remember, you are worth investing in! By prioritizing your needs and wellness, you’ll have more energy, patience, and resilience to tackle all the challenges that come your way. So, give yourself permission to put yourself first and make self-care a non-negotiable part of your daily routine. You deserve it!

Ericca Harvey is a married blogger and mom of three passionate about helping women create ease & locate joy along the motherhood journey.

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Recovery Matters Presents the HOPE,

HEART & HEALING WORKSHOP

Are you or someone you know grieving? Is your heart broken? The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses can help if you're ready for a change.

If you honestly answer 'yes' to any of these questions, you may be grieving, and we can help you move forward:

• Has a loved one died?

• Has a divorce or a relationship or friendship ended?

• Have you had to change jobs or been forced to make a career change?

• Have there been changes to your health?

• Are you a caregiver?

• Have you received a terminal diagnosis?

• Are you dealing with aging?

• Have you experienced trauma?

• Have you undergone a financial change, positive or negative?

• Are you facing legal problems?

• Is a spouse, child, family member, or someone else you know incarcerated?

Recovery is not an easy journey, but you can live again if you choose to change and do the work. The 6, 8, or 12-week action program for moving beyond is designed to help those grieving understand grief, loss, and recovery.

If you join our program with an open mind and heart you will have tools to move forward and complete what death and loss left unfinished.

For more information and to schedule an appointment, contact: Denise P. Kelly, CGRS, CLC, CTS | Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® Speaker, Workshop Facilitator, Author, Life Transformation Coach Phone: 833-733-2500 | Email: contact@recoverymatters.com

FAITH

& INSPIRATION with Tammy L. Woodard

In this new season you must let go of the things that are holding you back. Holding on to things that are not beneficial to your journey is called dead weight. Read it again! Now let it sink in!

Oftentimes we hold on to people, places and things while praying and waiting for things to change that were never a part of God’s plans for us in the first place. We must see the value in ourselves and seek Him for self-awareness and guidance. You may be asking yourself; how do I do that? It’s simple… by the renewing of your mindset. Pray! Re-evaluate your circumstances and ask yourself "is this the way I want to continue to live my life"? Know your worth and don’t allow yourself to be shortchanged or discounted. Change the way you see yourself. See yourself the way God sees you. Check your price tag Sis! You are of high value! You are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. You are loved, valued and appreciated. You derived from a lineage of Queens. You are a phenomenal woman who deserves the absolute best. YOU ARE ENOUGH! Understanding who you are is crucial to the development process and how you will be able to make the best

There’s a BLESSING in LETTING GO!

decisions. Once you have opened the door of self-awareness and the renewal of your mindset takes place, the ability to let go will be powerful. I personally have been down this road before. You see, I was in a “situationship” that was going nowhere, holding on to the potential of what could be. I was stuck in a soul-tie hoping that one day he would see my value. I found myself continuously asking God to fix it, bless it, and to change the person. After many years of being taken for granted and feeling rejected, I realized that I had lowered my standards… a lack of self-worth. According to Webster’s dictionary, self-worth means a sense of one’s own value as a human being: selfesteem. It took me some time to come to terms with this because I considered myself to be a high-value woman with high self-esteem. But deep down inside I knew I deserved better and knew that I wanted more. The hard part was admitting that I loved the person more than I loved myself. Taking accountability for allowing this to get too far was the next hardest acceptance. I remember being asked by a friend, “What is distracting you from God’s best?” I knew instantly that it was this person, but I wasn’t ready to let go. It took

me some time, but after much prayer and taking a hard look at myself, my faith would not let me settle. I had to make the decision to let go. It wasn’t easy but it was necessary. As I stated before, there’s a blessing in letting go. Letting go is imperative to make room for the blessing. The blessings come with obedience. I changed my mindset. I let go and suddenly the windows of heaven opened. Let’s just say God has given me a glimpse of what can happen since I LET GO. Now it’s your turn. I will leave you with this: “Old keys do not unlock new doors”. Keep moving forward doing what God has called you to do. Affirm yourself daily with positive words and thoughts. I have faith in you! You can DO IT! Let Go and Let God!

Tammy L Woodard is a seasoned life coach dedicated to empowering individuals to redefine their lives. She offers the necessary resources and insights to envision and actualize the life you desire, fostering a refreshed sense of identity.

Driving Impact Through Diversity

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Learn more about AARP’s Supplier Diversity program at aarp.org/about-aarp/supplier-diversity.

ABountySpring

Awaken Your Table with Seasonal Freshness

From Mother's Day to graduations, springtime brings a plethora of opportunities to indulge in fresh produce. Crisp greens, sweet peas, tender asparagus, and earthy beets offer a variety of nutritious options to rejuvenate your menu. We've gathered some of our favorite springtime recipes that are sure to enhance your next meal. And now that spring is here, why not try dining al fresco? Bon appétit!

Spring Pea and Fennel Soup

Ingredients:

2-3 Tablespoons Olive Oil

1 fennel- chopped (bulb and leaves)

1 tsp salt

pinch of cinnamon

1 tsp pepper

2 cloves garlic - minced

4 cups chicken stock or broth

1 (16) oz package frozen peas or market fresh

peas

1 cup heavy cream

1 can garbonzo beans drained

Instructions:

1. Place a large stockpot or dutch oven over medium heat. Add the oil, once melted toss in the chopped fennel. Season with salt, cinnamon and black pepper.

2.Sauté until fragrant and translucent. Add the garlic, cook until fragrant, be careful not to burn garlic. Pour in the chicken stock. Bring the mixture to a boil and then add in the peas.

3. Simmer on medium for approximately 5 minutes or until the peas are tender. Add the cooked garbonzo beans and simmer for an additional minute.

4. Remove the soup from the heat and pour into a blender.

5. Puree the mixture until smooth.

6. Return the soup to the pot, add in the cream and mix until incorporated. Garnish with additional peas, croutons or a dollop of crème fraîche.

Ah, springtime! As the days grow longer, the urge to spend more time outdoors intensifies, and the desire for lighter fare grows as you work on shedding those few extra pounds gained over the winter. Try two of our quick recipes that are perfect for this season. First, Roasted Sesame Asparagus with Sweet Chili Sauce: this vibrant side dish can be ready in under 20 minutes and is the perfect pair for our 15-Minute Pesto Pasta. This quick yet satisfying meal is ideal for those evenings when soaking up the springtime air takes priority over laboring at the stove.

Roasted Sesame Asparagus with Sweet Chili Sauce

Ingredients

1 bunch asparagus

Extra virgin olive oil

Salt

Black pepper

1/2 cup sweet red chili sauce

1 tsp. Sesame seeds

Instructions

1. Preheat oven to 450°F. Wash asparagus and pat dry. Trim off the thick end of each stalk. Spread asparagus out on baking sheet (tip: line with parchment paper for quick clean up).

Lightly coat asparagus with olive oil. Season with salt and pepper. Place in the oven.

2. Roast for 12-15 minutes until tender with slight char on tips.

3. While asparagus is roasting, warm chili sauce in sauce pan.

4. Drizzle sauce over asparagus and spring with sesame seeds. Serve warm.

15- Minute Pesto Pasta Ingredients

12 ounces uncooked pasta

1 cup cashews

2 cups fresh basil leaves

2 cloves garlic, crushed

10 tablespoon olive oil

1 tablespoon lemon juice

1½ teaspoons salt

¼ teaspoon black pepper

1. Bring a large pot of water (salted) to a boil. Add pasta to boiling water and cook according to package instructions (usually 7-10 minutes). Drain when al dente and return to pot to keep warm.

2. While pasta is cooking, add cashews to a food processor or blender and process until fine.

3. Add basil, crushed garlic, olive oil, lemon juice, salt and pepper, and process until combined but still slightly chunky. (If using a blender, the texture will be more of a smooth paste.) Salt and pepper to taste.

4. Add pesto to warm pasta and toss to combine. Serve warm, sprinkle with Parmesan cheese if desired.

Welcome the flavors of spring into your kitchen with this Citrus Herb Salmon recipe, a refreshing blend of zesty lemon and fragrant herbs that pairs perfectly with the rich, buttery texture of salmon. Whether you're looking for a quick weeknight dinner or a healthy option that doesn't skimp on flavor, this dish is sure to impress. The combination of dill and mint offers a burst of freshness that enhances the natural succulence of the salmon, making it a delightful choice for any occasion.

Citrus Herb Salmon

Ingredients: Olive oil

2 tablespoons butter

2 -6 ounce salmon fillets

4 wedges fresh lemon

Salt and black pepper

1/2 teaspoon dried dill weed

1 tablespoon fresh mint leaves

2 tablespoons cooking oil

Cooking oil for frying

Green onions chopped (garnish)

Instructions:

1. Preheat your oven to 450°F. Line a baking pan with parchment paper.

2. Rinse the salmon fillets and pat them dry using paper towels.

3. Brush the salmon fillets with olive oil. Season with salt, black pepper, and dried dill.

The complexity of flavors in the Tulip Cocktail has been savored for decades. First published in 1930 by The Savoy Cocktail Book, this cocktail remains timeless. Warm your spring evenings with this delightful drink that continues to charm enthusiasts around the world.

Tulip Cocktail

Ingredients

1 oz Calvados or applejack

1 oz sweet Italian vermouth

½ oz apricot liqueur

½ oz freshly squeezed lemon juice

Lemon twist for garnish

Instructions:

1. Fill a cocktail shaker halfway with ice.

2. Add the Calvados (or applejack), sweet vermouth, apricot liqueur, and lemon juice to the shaker.

3. Shake vigorously for about 20 seconds, or until the mixture is well chilled.

4. Strain the cocktail into a chilled glass.

5. Garnish with a twist of lemon before serving. Enjoy!

4. Slice one of the lemons into thin slices and arrange them on the parchment paper. Place the salmon on top of the lemon slices.

5. Roast in the preheated oven for 18-20 minutes, or until the salmon reaches an internal temperature of 145°F and flakes easily with a fork. Note that cooking times may vary depending on the thickness of the fillets.

6. Once out of the oven, drizzle with fresh lemon juice and sprinkle with chopped fresh mint. Garnish with green onions and additional lemon wedges.

AWARDS

LUNCHEON

Cheryl Magazine and Soul Reborn Celebrate Trailblazers at the Second Annual Women of Influence Awards Luncheon in Dallas

by Kasey Woods

In the spirit of Women’s History Month, Cheryl Magazine, proudly partnered with Soul Reborn, to execute the second annual Women of Influence Awards Luncheon in Dallas, Texas. Themed "Trailblazers & Game Changers," this year's event recognized ten dynamic women of color who have left an indelible mark on their respective fields.

Conducted on Friday, March 15, 2024, the Women of Influence Awards Luncheon was held at the esteemed Gleneagles Country Club and celebrated the triumphs of women who exemplify excellence in leadership, mentorship, and empowerment, while tirelessly blazing the trail for others to do the same.

WOMEN OF INFLUENCE WOMEN OF INFLUENCE WOMEN OF WOMEN of INFLUENCE

The ten honorees included: Emmy award-winning actress and producer, Niecy Nash Betts; trailblazing CEO of the Dallas Mavericks and the first black woman to helm an NBA franchise, Cynt Marshall; Founder of Finding New Tomorrows, Patricia Bailey; the South Central Regional Director of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated, Joya Hayes; Emmy Award-winning news anchor, Tashara Parker; the Executive Vice President of Texas Capital Bank, Effie Dennison; Kim Roxie, Founder, and CEO of Lamik Beauty; Tanya Lombard, Vice President of Global External Public Affairs/Head of Multicultural Engagement & Strategic Alliance for AT&T; Chief of Staff for Do You Believe Enterprises Incorporated, Hope Rush; and Staff Program Manager & Global Leader at Intuit, Tia Bradley.

Together, these ladies formed an unparalleled lineup of influence, resilience, and entrepreneurship across industries encompassing business, entertainment, and lifestyle. Each, in her own right, has harnessed her platform and influence to foster an environment where fellow women can thrive and actualize their potential.

These distinguished women of power stand as catalysts for change, embodiments of leadership, and esteemed entrepreneurs who have reshaped their respective professional landscapes for the betterment of society.

Reflecting on the significance of the Women of Influence Awards Luncheon, Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson, EditorIn-Chief of Cheryl Magazine and Founder of Soul Reborn, remarked, "I sought to honor women who embody the ethos of changemakers, connectors, and educators, bridging the opportunity gap through their exemplary leadership." Through their unwavering dedication to excellence, these trailblazers set a precedent for others to follow, ushering in a new era of prosperity and growth.

In alignment with Soul Reborn's commitment to empowerment, a portion of the event's proceeds contributed towards awarding a scholarship to a deserving minority college student in the Dallas area, who is embarking on their journey in Journalism or Film studies. This initiative seamlessly aligns with Soul Reborn's overarching mission to uplift and equip disadvantaged women with the tools necessary for success in life and business. Over six impactful years, Soul Reborn has disbursed over $475,000 in aid, touching the lives of thousands of individuals and businesses globally. Notably, amidst the challenges posed by the coronavirus pandemic, Soul Reborn provided meals to over 8,000 essential workers and extended grants to 177 college women and 216 women-owned enterprises –including five based in Dallas.

With over 300 esteemed attendees in attendance; the Women of Influence Luncheon was proudly sponsored by Intuit, Texas Capital Bank, AARP, Mary Kay, and many more notable companies and businesses.

SOUL REBORN is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization founded by best selling author, transformational speaker, and entrepreneur, Cheryl Polote Williamson. Through the help of community leaders, influencers, and volunteers, Soul Reborn focuses on transforming the lives of disadvantaged, disenfranchised, and previously incarcerated women by educating and equipping them with the tools for life and business. The organization addresses both the personal and professional development needs of women who struggle