REST RESET
National Caregiver Day of Prayer
Sunday, November 26, 2023
7:00 AM CT - 11:00 CT
"We wait in hope for the LORD; he is our help and our shield. In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name" -Psalms 33:20, NIV
Are you a caregiver for a loved one? Are you an extended caregiver living out of town while someone else cares for your elderly parent? Is the weight and stress of caregiving feeling too much to handle? Would you like us to pray for you?
Join us online, Sunday morning, November 26, 2023. Caregivers, pastors, family members, and others who care will lift our voices collectively to pray for caregivers and their well-being. Matthew 18:20 (NIV) states, "For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them."
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The amazing women who are featured in these pages are trailblazers and trendsetters in their respective fields. What do they have in common? They are all over 50. Sis, that should tell you that it’s not too late! Your age does not dictate the feasibility of your dreams. Take this as a sign that now is the time for you to execute. You have been thinking about it for far too long;it is time to take those thoughts and turn them into action. Whatever you have been dreaming about, do it!
One of my favorite entertainers, Sheryl Lee Ralph, once said that it took her 40 years to become an overnight sensation. My dear friend, who is featured on the cover of this issue, Cynt Marshall, was in retirement when she got the life-changing career call of a lifetime. This is further proof that timing is everything. Sis, stay the course. Don’t think that it won’t happen because it hasn’t happened yet!
Great things take time and practice. Consider your age as evidence of your years of practice. If you are discouraged because your dreams haven’t manifested yet, remember to walk in your God-given power. You can manifest the desires of your heart with your words, thoughts, and actions. Dedicate time to manifesting your dreams, now. You don’t have to wait for the new year sis. Do it now. Write the book, start the business, apply for the job—the time is now! Don’t wait for validation from others because you don’t need it. Your dreams were valid when God gave them to you. Now, it’s time to bring them to fruition.
Actualizing your dreams is your birthright. I can’t wait to see you flourish. I can’t wait to celebrate your wins with you. Know that I am praying for you and cheering you every step of the way.
Sincerely Yours,
Cheryl
Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson Editor-in-Chief
Affirmations for Your Journey: Your Dreams Are Your Birthright
1. "I believe in my ability to turn my dreams into reality."
2. "I am committed to taking consistent actions toward my goals."
3. "I am open to learning and growing as I pursue my dreams."
4. "I trust the process and remain patient as I work towards success."
5. "I deserve the success and fulfillment that comes from living my dreams."
inside this issue
HEALTH & WELLNESS ENTREPRENEURSHIP EDUCATION & LEADERSHIP
8
COVER STORY
Explore the remarkable journey of Cynt Marshall, the groundbreaking NBA CEO. From her upbringing in challenging circumstances to her resilience, family love, and philanthropic commitment, her story is a testament to unwavering dedication to serving others, both in the limelight and behind the scenes.
Photographer: Octavia Whitlowe
Make Up & Hair
Simon Souvannarath
Stylist: Felicia Bell
Patricia Baliey transforms personal loss into a powerful mission, advocating for Alzheimer's awareness and holistic care for the aging.
22Dara Munson's journey from mentor to educational leader showcases the power of unwavering commitment and resilience.
40Germaine Bolds-Leftridge's 'IKnow' skincare celebrates ageless beauty, empowering mature women to shine from within.
everyday inspiration
5Letter from the Editor: Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson 20Daddy's Issues with Tess Alexandria Embracing Solitude 35Foxxy Wisdom with Charmaine Roots Castillo 26Health Corner Use Your Voice For Better Health Dr. Maria D. Flowers
36Aging Well: with Dr. Michelle Kindred Talks Nutritional Therapy
46Money Talks with Roni M. Talley Empowering Women's Financial Success
50Family Corner Laurie A. Evans Let’s Talk About Co-Parenting
61Faith and Inspiration with Tammy L. Woodard Dare to Dream and Don't Give Up
28Style Matters
Egypt's Indigo Road combines global inspiration with sustainable luxury in home furnishings.
56Author's Corner
Dive into Prose & Perspectives with Dr. Kerry Ann Zamore Byrd's new story, "He Makes All Things New."
52Entertainment Spotlight Waco, Texas, transformed by Dr. Lindsey-Warren's groundbreaking faith film festival. 64Feast to Impress Irresistible Holiday Recipes for Memorable Gatherings 72Travel & Leisure Experience Waco: The Ultimate Guide to Family Fun in the Heart of Texas
62Empowering Voices: Stories of Resilience and Joy
In this edition, Cheryl Magazine proudly presents two inspiring features. Cheryle T. Ricks' 'The Power of Sisterhood: Life Is a Bud Waiting to Blossom' delves into the transformative power of female bonds and self-discovery. Following this, Benedria Smith's 'Joy in All Seasons!' offers a heartfelt account of overcoming depression and embracing joy in life's challenging moments. Both pieces highlight resilience, healing, and the importance of emotional well-being for women.
Business Sense & Sensablity SHERO Business Trendsetters: Blazing Trails
48Cheryl's Choice: The Essential Rolodex Picks from Business Brilliance to Event Mastery
Navigating the Path of Compassion: An Intimate Dialogue with Patricia Bailey
by Shannon Skipper Green Jarrett
In a world that often prioritizes self-interest, there are those who stand as beacons of empathy and care, transforming their personal pain into a relentless drive to light the way for others. Patricia Bailey is one such soul. Her personal journey, stemming from the heartache of losing her mother to Alzheimer's, has propelled her into spaces of advocacy, innovation, and care, specifically targeting the challenges of aging and Alzheimer's through her initiative, Finding New Tomorrows and her groundbreaking personal care brands.
Patricia's story is one of love and innovation in the face of loss. Watching her mother succumb to Alzheimer's, Patricia was moved to ease her discomfort, seeking out ways not only to restore her mother's dignity but also to provide solace to countless others facing similar struggles. From this desire emerged Finding New Tomorrows, a series focused on Caregiving, Alzheimer's, and Aging. But Patricia's commitment didn't stop there; recognizing a broader need, she launched two personal care brands, Advance Comfort® and She Ages Well®, with He Ages Well® on the horizon.
Having built a formidable 40-plus year career in the beauty care industry, Patricia, a lifetime entrepreneur and known wealth builder, leveraged her extensive experience to make a difference. At the tender age of 25, she owned four beauty supply stores, two salons, and a distributorship in Chicago. She has since managed, marketed, and sold across the retail footprint of the US over 17 different personal care brand portfolios. Her strategic acumen has benefited small businesses and Fortune 100 clients alike, including ORS, McDonald's, Walgreens, The Potter’s House of Dallas, Cornerstone Baptist Church, Murrays Worldwide, Inc., University of North Texas Health Science Center at Fort Worth, and Proline International.
Shannon: Patricia, thank you for joining us today. Your journey is profoundly inspiring. What was the pivotal moment that led you to start Finding New Tomorrows?
Patricia: Thank you for having me, Shannon. The journey through my mother's illness was the catalyst. Witnessing her struggle, I felt a deep, personal responsibility to transform that helplessness into hope for others. That's where Finding New Tomorrows was born. It's more than a series; it's a mission to ignite
conversations, provide support, and advocate for those grappling with the realities of aging, Alzheimer's, and caregiving.
Shannon: It's incredibly moving, Patricia. This advocacy is undoubtedly a major shift from your extensive background in the beauty industry. Can you talk about how your professional experience influenced your new path?
Patricia: Absolutely, Shannon. My 40-plus years in personal beauty
care have been instrumental. Understanding the consumer mindset, developing brands, and most importantly, recognizing the intrinsic link between external beauty and internal wellness set the stage. When I stepped into the realm of caregiving and Alzheimer's, it wasn't a departure, but an evolution. My beauty industry insights were pivotal in creating Advance Comfort® and She Ages Well®, brands dedicated to promoting dignity, ease, and grace in aging.
Shannon: That's a fascinating bridge between external and internal care. With your upcoming brand, He Ages Well®, you're expanding this even further. What drives this inclusive approach?
Patricia: Inclusion is everything. Aging isn't exclusive to one gender; it's a universal journey. With He Ages Well®, I aim to shatter stereotypes and provide holistic solutions that embrace aging men with the same zeal as women. The goal is to create a world where everyone ages with dignity, confidence, and utmost care.
Shannon: Patricia, your philosophy is both profound and touching: "If we are accountable to each other, for persons spanning from the cradle to grace, the same village it took to raise the child is going to be required to care for the adult as they age well." Could you elaborate on the depth and meaning behind this ideology?
Patricia: Certainly. This philosophy is born from the recognition that life is a full circle. The tenderness, support, and community we offer our children shouldn't diminish as they, or we, age. It takes a collective, a 'village' if you will, to ensure that aging adults receive the same degree of love, respect, and care. This belief is the bedrock of my advocacy work.
Shannon: That's powerful, and it’s not just ideology; you've put this into practice. Your work with various clients, from small businesses to Fortune 100 companies, showcases your versatility. How have these experiences shaped your current endeavor?
Patricia: Each experience was a building block, Shannon. Whether strategizing for brands like ORS, McDonald's, diversity and inclusion consulting at Walgreens, or crafting experiential marketing programs for institutions like The Potter’s House of Dallas, every step honed my skills in empathy, innovation, and outreach. These experiences weren't just about
business growth; they were lessons in understanding diverse needs, which is crucial in caregiving and Alzheimer's advocacy.
Shannon: Your journey through these realms is nothing short of inspiring. During your time at Pro-Line, you were particularly moved by the impact of Alzheimer’s. Could you share how this period was instrumental in shaping your path?
Patricia: My tenure at Pro-Line was transformative. Alzheimer's wasn't just a concept; it was a devastating reality that affected my family and millions worldwide. I was determined to humanize the illness, to ensure that my mother and others like her weren't defined by their condition. We sought to restore their dignity, bring joy, and more importantly, reinforce their identity beyond Alzheimer's. That determination sowed the seeds for my future endeavors.
Shannon: It’s a deeply personal and yet universally resonant mission. Alongside this, you've established yourself as a caregiver coach, certified belief therapist, and certified dementia practitioner. How do these certifications enhance your work?
Patricia: These certifications aren't just titles; they're my arsenal in the fight against Alzheimer's, aging challenges, and the struggles caregivers face. They've equipped me with the knowledge, techniques, and empathy required to navigate these complex terrains, not just as an entrepreneur but as a coach, a guide, and a confidant. It’s why I am also currently the agency of record for advertising and outreach for the University of North Texas Health Science Center, Health and Aging Brain Study – Health Disparities.
Shannon: Beyond your professional achievements, you're a mother, grandmother, and avid learner with interests in activities like golf, yoga, and biblical history. How do these
aspects of your life feed into your work?
Patricia: Every facet of our lives colors our perspectives, Shannon. My family keeps me grounded and reminds me of the stakes involved in caregiving and aging. My hobbies, studies, and faith are my wellsprings of strength, resilience, and inspiration. They recharge me, provide fresh insights, and, more importantly, remind me of the joy and beauty in life, which is what I want for those I advocate for.
Shannon: Thank you for these insights, Patricia. As we wrap up, what’s one message you'd like the world to hear?
Patricia: That in the heart of immense challenge lies the opportunity for profound empathy, innovation, and change. My journey is testament to that. Whether you're a caregiver, someone battling Alzheimer's, or simply aging, remember, you're not alone. There's a community, a 'village', ready to support, and together, we can find new tomorrows.
Patricia Bailey is not just a successful professional or a passionate advocate; she embodies the very essence of empathy and transformative care. Her journey teaches us that personal trials can indeed become triumphant platforms for change, inspiring hope and action in countless lives. As she continues to forge paths in holistic care, community support, and Alzheimer's advocacy, one thing remains clear: Patricia's light will guide the way for many new tomorrows.
To learn more about Finding New Tomorrows visit: Findingnewtomorrows.com. Join Patricia for a National Care Givers Day of Prayer on November 27 at 6:45 AM CST to 12 PM CST. Log in on Facebook and Instagram @patricia.bailey.1804109
CYNT MARSHALL
Trailblazing OvercomingExcellence, Adversity, and Leading with Love:
A Lifelong Legacy of Achievement, Perseverance, and Giving Back
by Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson
We know her titles—wife, mother, published author, influential business mentor, and CEO of the Dallas Mavericks. I had the honor of sitting down to chat with the beautiful being behind the success. I can honestly say that her core character is even more impressive than the titles she holds.
Cynthia Marshall gained the nickname “Cynt the Sprint” as a track star in high school and has been affectionately known as Cynt ever since. As I sat down with this true survivor and pioneer, I felt such joy to highlight and capture the essence of my sister in service, whom I would describe as an angel here on earth. I knew I had to ask the right questions that would convey what a kind, humble, and gentle soul she is. I wanted to ensure that readers feel Cynt’s impact and legacy with every word, because anything short of that simply would not do her justice.
Cynt gained recognition in 2018 for becoming the NBA’s first Black female CEO. She was tapped to be CEO
of the Dallas Mavericks on word-ofmouth referral alone; her work ethic, reputation, and proven track record preceded her. With no sports business management experience, she captured the attention of Mark Cuban, the team’s owner, who called her out of retirement from corporate America after thirty-six years at AT&T.
Her success story began in the 1970s, though—long before she made history in the NBA. Born in Birmingham, Alabama, Cynt grew up in a housing project just outside San Francisco in Richmond, California as one of six children. She credits God and her mother’s determination for her tenacity and unshakeable spirit. Although her childhood was riddled with poverty and domestic violence, Cynt praises her mother, who worked in education, for her focus on academic success. After enduring years of abuse, her mother knew she had to find the courage and strength to leave after a brutal incident that left fifteen-year-old Cynt with a broken nose. After that night, Cynt, her mother, and three of her five siblings left and never looked back. She did not allow her father’s abuse to define her but instead used it as fuel to maximize her potential.
DREAMS HOPES&
“I had this whole plan I was going to go to college, graduate from college.
Two years after that, get married. Two years after that, start a family."
By the time she was preparing to graduate from high school, Cynt’s work ethic was already well established and had started to pay off. She earned a full academic scholarship to the University of California, Berkeley, where she studied business administration and human resources management. There she would officially earn her trailblazer title as the university’s first Black cheerleader. During the late 1970s, this was quite an accomplishment. One of the many precedents Cynt would set for those who would follow in her footsteps.
As a young, successful student with her whole life ahead of her, she remembers having it all mapped out. “I had this whole plan. I was going to go to college, graduate from college. Two years after that, get married. Two years after that, start a family,” she recalls.
After graduation, she married Kenny, whom she’d met years before. It seemed as if everything was happening the way she expected it to. “And it was going according to plan until I had my first miscarriage,” Cynt shares. She and her husband experienced four heartbreaking second-trimester miscarriages and had a daughter who died at six months old.
“We spent the first ten years of our marriage trying to have children. At some point, the Lord just revealed to us that He had another way to make our family, and it ended up being through adoption.”
As we discussed her family’s adoption experiences, I could hear and feel the love and care that she feels for her four children, now grown, as well as her passion for her work and advocacy for abused and neglected youth. She recounted how she and her husband adopted the eldest son. “The Lord had us show up [to an adoption meeting] just in time to keep him from going into a long-term group-home situation at two and a half years old. It was incredible.”
Years later, Cynt became more active in her advocacy for adoption. She currently serves on the board of directors for Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA) in Dallas, an organization and a cause that are near and dear to her heart.
One of the main reasons Cynt is so passionate about her work with CASA is because every year, upwards of 20,000 Dallas County children are reported as abused and neglected. It is often in their best interest to remove them from their home and place them in one that is suitable for their growth and development. Many of these abused and neglected children are forced to enter the foster care system and experience the difficult, emotional, and typically lengthy process of awaiting a judge’s decision on where they might safely and permanently reside.
"Big people take care of little people, and
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In the meantime, the children are often shuttled from one temporary home to another, plagued with uncertainty and never knowing when they will arrive in a permanent home. This is far from ideal, as children need lots of love and stability to thrive. A CASA volunteer can be a gamechanger for a child in this situation.
CASA volunteers build rapport with the children they serve. Their role includes (but is not limited to) reviewing records, researching information, and communicating with everyone involved in the child’s care, such as social workers, attorneys, judges, parents, teachers, and family members. CASA volunteers make important recommendations to the court that aid judges in deciding the best permanent home for the children.
“I always say big people take care of little people, and I am about taking care of the little people,” Cynt says.
Her success and accomplishments are undeniable, but my favorite thing about Cynt is that she is still one of the most downto-earth people I have ever met. She leaves an indelible mark on everyone she meets and everything she touches.
I have had the privilege of knowing Cynt for years now. We have attended events together and have connected because of our love for serving people. Words cannot express how blessed I feel to have the opportunity to tell a snippet of her story on this platform.
I love and appreciate Cynt for her grace, infectious laughter, the genuine warmth in her smile, and perhaps most of all, her profound and unwavering support. She has been the biggest supporter of many of my entrepreneurial and philanthropic endeavors.
A prototype for overcoming adversity and not allowing the vicissitudes of life to break her spirit or harden her heart, Cynt embodies resilience, excellence, perseverance, and most of all, love. Her essence can be felt the moment she enters the room.
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am about taking care of the little people.
THRIVING
When asked to whom or what she credits her successes, Cynt mentions her personal board of directors. “I have the pusher, the person who is just going to push [me] all the time, and the Lord has different people in my life like that,” she explains. “Then there are the mentors—they are like trainers, like coaches, they get you ready for the game. And I have had a lot of different coaches in my life,” she continues.
“And then there are sponsors, people who are like agents. They are in conversations you are not in, and they are saying, ‘Put her in there.’ I have had people like that in my life [as well].”
Citing her sister, Cassandra, Chuck Smith, and Mark Cuban as some of the members on her personal board of directors, Cynt has mastered the art of surrounding herself with the right people. Having meaningful relationships with people who fulfill different roles and needs throughout her life has helped her maintain her optimistic outlook in even the darkest times, such as when she was diagnosed with cancer in December 2010.
“On my fifty-first birthday, I got a call from the doctor saying, ‘You need to get to a surgeon. I do not like what I saw—it is a nasty tumor.’ He could not say it was cancer because, of course, he is not an oncologist. So, one thing led to another, and I was diagnosed with stage three colon cancer, one lymph node from what they would consider stage four. I spent 2011 having chemotherapy.”
Cynt recalls calling her mother to tell her about the
diagnosis. Her mother paused and then said, “This is for His glory. God will get the glory out of this. You have a high-profile job. You have an amazing story to tell. People will watch this. You were chosen for this.”
While Cynt did not realize it at the time, her mother’s words would become the title for her memoir, You’ve Been Chosen: Thriving Through the Unexpected, which was published in September of 2022. During our conversation, I learned that these words remained a theme for her as she battled cancer—especially after learning that her husband of forty years, Kenny, has also been chosen. He was diagnosed with cancer this year. They are on this journey together.
To be chosen for something means to be handpicked, selected. It is no accident or coincidence. With this mindset as her mantra, Cynt has courageously loved her husband through his journey as a chosen one. This mindset is empowering and can catapult one from victim to victor.
“[When I called my mother to tell her that I had cancer], I was devastated, my husband was devastated, we were crying, and all that, but my mother would not have a pity party with me, and I was trying to have a pity party,” Cynt explains.
By empowering instead of pitying her, Cynt’s mother strengthened her to embrace her cancer journey and helped to keep her spirits high. Now Cynt is providing her husband that same encouragement and support. “We
have been chosen together,” she says.
Cynt has never allowed her cancer journey to interfere with her philanthropic endeavors. In fact, it enhanced her desire to give back. “It is about other people. I believe, truly, I am here to serve,” she shares.
“What is your real call and purpose? Mine is to serve people, and a lot of that is about, yes, serving children, but also serving people who truly, truly need help and serving the sisterhood. I am here to help inspire people and to lift them up, and I have no problem with that. And I just pray, I say, ‘Lord, keep me with the means and the resources to be able to do it,’” she adds.
Anyone can serve and give generously when the cameras are rolling, indulging in advantageous photo opportunities. But Cynt is a silent giver. Yes, she has been publicly praised for her philanthropic efforts, but she has done even more secretly. One of the humblest people I have ever met, Cynt is energized by giving and serving behind the scenes when no one is watching. She does not give for the attention or public accolades; she gives quietly because she embodies what it means to be a woman of integrity. She gives and serves from the bottom of her heart and the depths of her soul because it is simply part of who she is.
A history-making trailblazer with a legacy of leading with love and giving back. She is Cynt Marshall, and I am honored to call her my sister and friend.
DADDY ISSUES
embracing solitude
with Tess Alexandria
This year has been one of the most challenging for me mentally, which was unexpected considering I had finally attained several lofty goals. It is so easy to assume that once you reach a certain place or a particular milestone, everything will be sunshine and rainbows. However, we often forget that everything will not suddenly be perfect just because we “made it.” One of my biggest surprises this year was the feeling of isolation. I accepted a position and moved to a new city, and almost instantly, I began to feel alone. I recognized changes in my friendship groups; some were starting families, some were going through hardships, and others were pursuing their own lofty goals. Either way, I could sense a shift taking place that ultimately created distance between myself and those I considered to be my closest friends. I also had to end a yearlong relationship to better serve myself, which was not an easy feat at all. I didn’t clearly understand what was happening or why this was happening, nor could I articulate my feelings about it all. In addition, my new job was so demanding that I didn’t have the time or the mental capacity to sort it all out and properly address issues with those individuals. If I’m being honest, all these changes within my relationships were hurtful. I began to feel as if what I was going through was not worth sharing. I also didn’t believe anyone would be able to relate to what I was feeling. I was convinced that the best thing I could do was to keep what I was experiencing to myself. This closedoff behavior is uncharacteristic of me, as many of you have come to know from reading my previous articles. I’m usually all about communication and not internalizing feelings, but at that moment, it felt like my only two safe spaces were my mom and my therapist.
Since I wasn’t spending as much time communicating with my friends, I had ample time to be with myself and sort out my thoughts. One of the things I realized from doing so is that for as introverted as I can be, once I establish a connection or close relationship with someone, I latch onto them. I think a lot of that stems from growing up an only child and my natural yearning for a closer relationship with my dad. So, suddenly, feeling disconnected from those I allowed to get close to me was shocking.
Even amid my hurt and disappointment, I tried to find the lesson in this season of my life.
Perhaps this isolation would propel and prepare me for the next level. Maybe it was simply time for me to stand on my own two feet again and not be so dependent on my friendships/relationships to help me come up with the answers in my life. In turn, I decided to give the love and attention I was so used to giving to others to myself. I once again picked up some of my old hobbies that I had been neglecting, spoke daily affirmations, and even took myself out on dates. I became open to establishing friendships in this new city and became a better friend to myself. I reflected on the type of person I wanted to be going forward and tried to find the beauty in a life more focused on me.
As I said in the beginning, it is not easy feeling isolated while simultaneously going through a period of transformation. However, I do believe it serves a greater purpose. If you find yourself in a similar season, try not to be offended or discouraged by things or people switching up. Take the time to find the positives in being able to experience yourself outside of your normal rhythm.
An extraordinary beauty waiting for you to behold.
"Even amid my hurt and disappointment, I tried to find the lesson in this season of my life."
Thank you for joining me again for Daddy Issues. Why the name? I aim to reverse the feeling women get every time we hear that phrase. There is a stigma attached to it. It’s often used as a weapon, with the intent to make us feel like we are the problem. Dispelling the misnomer includes providing new information on something that was named before its true nature was known. I’ll attempt to do that in each Cheryl Magazine issue as I address behaviors and characteristics that developed from our father’s lack of skill and ability to bond with, encourage, teach, or support us. To all the young girls and grown women, it was never your fault.
The issue was his, and because of your daddy’s issue, you found yourself improperly navigating relationships. Let’s talk about it. For the record, Daddy Issues is an opinion column. I’m not a clinical professional or expert on the subject; I’m just a girl who needed her daddy. If you’d like to connect, follow me on IG: @tessalexandria_ or Facebook: Tess Alexandria. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to discuss, email me at tess@cherylmagazine.com.
DARA MUNSON:
A Beacon of Inspirational Educational Leadership and Mentorship
by Alaina Pinkney
As we navigate the complexities of educational leadership, certain figures stand out, not only because of their personal achievements but also due to the impact they have on those around them. Dara Munson is one such leader. Her story intertwines perseverance, mentorship, and an unyielding commitment to uplifting others, especially within Chicago and surrounding communities.
Her unwavering commitment to mentorship outlines Dara’s climb to the heights of leadership. She often reflects on her mission, stating, “I always wanted to be supportive of individuals within the organization who showed promise and potential.” Instead of merely climbing the ladder, Munson consistently extends her hand to help others ascend alongside her. She has made it her mission to identify and groom at least two individuals annually for career growth. But this wasn’t a mere tick in the box; for Dara, this was a passion project. Her ultimate achievement was ensuring a succession of competent leaders, ready to take the baton and sprint forward. This
wasn’t just about filling her shoes; it was about leaving an impactful legacy of leadership. Interestingly, Munson’s leadership trajectory wasn’t set in stone from the beginning. She became a leader out of necessity after realizing the void in positive leadership during her early career days. This realization shifted her on a journey to create a more equitable society, ensuring that every individual, regardless of their socio-economic background, had a fair shot at success. Her time as the CEO of a major Big Brothers Big Sisters affiliate across the nation underscored her leadership prowess. It shone a light on the systemic challenges of the nonprofit sector.
At times, her path demanded leaps of faith. One such defining moment was when she decided to depart from her esteemed position at Big Brothers Big Sisters. While many saw it as leaving a pinnacle of success, for Munson, it was an opportunity to dive deeper into her commitment to children and families, to serve them even better. This choice, rooted in a deep-seated passion for equity, further solidified her as a steadfast leader in the education sector.
However, the journey to leadership wasn’t always a bed of roses. As Munson reflects on her journey, she emphasizes the inherent challenges and fears. Yet, in her words, she reminds herself and others, “that no good thing happens without some challenge or trepidation.” This mindset encapsulates her spirit – one of resilience, tenacity, and boundless faith. Every obstacle was either a launching pad or a learning opportunity, and her unwavering faith often played the role of her safety net.
One of the most profound impacts Munson has had on the Chicago school system is through her pioneering after-school programs. More than mere recreational outlets, these programs are transformative. They become breeding grounds for creativity, innovation, and empowerment. In one remarkable initiative, students from in and around Hyde Park rejuvenated an unused space, all under the guidance and mentorship of distinguished architects of color. This venture symbolizes Munson’s overarching vision: equipping the young with tools and exposure to carve out brighter, more promising futures for themselves.
"No good thing happens without some challenge."
On a personal front, Munson’s journey is an inspiring lesson in self-growth and empowerment. When she once secured second place in a body building competition, it didn’t deter her. Instead, it was a catalyst, fueling her desire to push her boundaries and achieve even more. Her resilient mindset underscores the essence of growth –the unyielding spirit to keep moving forward, regardless of setbacks.
Dara Munson isn’t just a remarkable leader; she’s a legacy in motion. Her indelible impact on Chicago and Norhtheast Illnois and the countless individuals she has mentored over the years stands as a testament to her prowess. Her story resonates beyond her personal achievements, shining a light on the profound difference one individual can make when they commit to uplifting and empowering others. In a world thirsting for genuine leadership, Dara Munson serves as a refreshing and inspiring beacon.
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Use Your Voice For Better Health
by Dr. Maria Flowers
Do you ever find it hard to speak up for yourself? At this point in life, most of us have found our voices. However, I’m sure every now and then, something happens where, in hindsight, you may say; I should have said something, or I should have said something sooner. I know I have had a few of these moments in my own life, in all kinds of situations. We all have our inner guide and intuition, and we should definitely listen to her, especially regarding our health. As a Black woman, it can be a life-or-death matter.
Recently the headlines have highlighted various Black women in their prime who have succumbed to death due to maternal or mental health issues. Black women are three times as likely to die from maternal healthrelated complications as White women - up to a year after childbirth.
According to Johns Hopkins University, Black women are less likely to get treatment for mental health issues like depression than White women. These statistics make us more susceptible to adverse outcomes from health-related complications. As Black women, we speak up for our children, parents, friends, and partners, but we often drop the ball when it comes to ourselves. It is important that we, as Black women know what to do when experiencing health concerns, especially when we are experiencing problems navigating the healthcare system. It is time that we self-advocate.
Self-advocacy includes speaking up for oneself and following through to ensure you get the safe and equitable care you deserve. It doesn’t matter if you access your healthcare services through self-pay, employee benefits, or government-funded care (also affectionately known as Obamacare). Whatever your means, you deserve safe, quality, equitable, and thorough care. You have a right to receive it!
The issue is that most may not know what to do when the need to challenge your physician or report unsafe care at a hospital arises. It is not as easy as sending a plate back at the restaurant. Some people are also slightly intimidated in medical settings and go with the flow.
Ladies, we have to stop doing this; we are losing our lives; we must speak up.
First and most importantly, if you are experiencing any health problems, please contact your care provider as soon as possible. If you cannot get an appointment in person, telehealth appointments are a great alternative to a live appointment where one can get questions answered. Do not ignore signs and symptoms; waiting until after that big project at work may be too late.
Next, if you ever feel uncomfortable about an interaction with a medical provider, please bring it up immediately. It is best to bring it up with your provider in the moment. Ask for clarification, speak up if you feel something was overlooked, and whatever you do, say something. A professional medical provider, such as a physician or nurse, should welcome the conversation. In healthcare, you have a right to be treated with courtesy and respect. You only get one body and one life.
Lastly, do you know what to do if you experience discrimination, an unsafe event, or, God forbid, an error in the healthcare setting? You should report it to the leadership at the physicians’ office, hospital, or clinic where it occurred. The organization should try to work with you. However, if you find yourself at a dead-end, there are other avenues you can explore to ensure the matter is reported and investigated properly. You can file discrimination complaints with the Office of Civil Rights or the US Justice Department Civil Rights Division. Reports of adverse events in the medical setting can be escalated to your state health department or the Office of the Inspector General tips.oig.hhs.gov. Please remember that this type of reporting should only be used after you have made an unsuccessful attempt to resolve the issue with the healthcare organization.
While our government healthcare agencies are making strides toward providing safer and more equitable healthcare, we should not sit by and wait for them to find a solution. We must take responsibility and control for our own care by getting educated on the tools and resources available. Be empowered and speak up for your own better health.
Maria D. Flowers, Ed.D. is the CEO and Principal Consultant at Maria D. Flowers & Associates, a boutique health equity and patient safety firm focused on assisting organizations in providing safe and equitable care. She is also the Founding Executive Director at Safer Healthcare For All, a non-profit organization that empowers patients to self-advocate for quality treatment as they navigate the healthcare system. For inquiries, please email info@ mariadflowers.com
Egypt on the sofa with the Indigo Blue Kent chair and Bianca table, and teak bowl, All the Kent chair colors, our alto coffee table, and raffia paneled storage cabinet.
Photo by Leslie Andrews
STYLE MATTERS
Egypt's INDIGO ROAD: A Journey Through Global Inspiration and Sustainable Luxury in Home Furnishings
Tell us about Indigo Road:
Indigo Road is my home furnishings and decor line for everyday living. It stemmed from my love of design, beautiful furnishings, and travel. INDIGO ROAD is attainable design and liveable luxury. We utilize performance fabrics so the entire family can enjoy home. I wanted to infuse all the layers of inspiration from my travels to Morocco, Italy, Greece, Bali, and South Africa, to even tracing my own Native American and Eritrean roots. There is so much peace I've found in the natural lush landscapes, the refined beauty, and the intricate thatching and print work seen abroad. That's why we strive to create pieces that interweave all of this richness and tell design stories from every land that can propel your life forward. I have partnered with Jeffan International to develop and distribute my decor pieces. The first collection is available on Wayfair and EastatMain.com. Meanwhile, my wallpapers are available on Wallpops.com. I have
also just inked a deal with Lichtenberg to expand the INDIGO ROAD line to soon include draperies and window coverings.
What were the three core elements you emphasized when creating your furniture collection?
Luxury, Comfort, and Sustainability. Our home impacts our mood and should reflect how we want to feel and imprint on the world. It should be our sanctuary and safe place. My personal mission is to prove that good design does not have to sacrifice comfort or sustainability. It's not only possible but essential to have both. This is why I embarked on my own path, my INDIGO ROAD, to prove that luxury and sustainability can coexist in a holistic way that relates to everyone. I made it my business to personally sit on every chair to determine the comfort level and had the prototypes of our tables sent to my home so I could test them out for durability with my kids.
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Egypt with the Marvel Dining Chairs and the Bianca Dining Table
As a champion of sustainable design and considering the excess of holiday decor, how would you suggest establishing a festive yet uncluttered ambiance?
We experience life through the use of our senses, so I consider that factor in both my real estate and design career. Room sprays, aromatic candles, and essential oils are all tools that help appeal to the sense of smell year-round. For the holidays, I love to simmer cinnamon sticks and orange peels on the stove, so that everyone who enters feels a warm holiday hug. Strategic placement of pine cones at the bottom of flower vases also looks festive while igniting your senses. Less is more when it comes to holiday decor. A beautiful seasonal wreath on the door, flanked by potted poinsettias, hollies, and yuletide camellias, gives just the right nod to the holiday without overdoing it. On the interior, I love a bundle of pre-lit holiday garland as it can be used on the table as a centerpiece, over the fireplace, or draped down the stair railing.
So, a few candles, a few plants, a few wreaths, and something playing from the Temptations is really all you need to welcome in the holiday spirit.
lavish living room chairs at $525, Sherrod’s range caters to diverse tastes and wallets. Discover the full range and purchasing guidelines on Wayfair.com, EastatMain.com, and IndigoRoad.com.
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The momentum of the hustle and bustle of the blitz season is considered the most joyful time of year for some, but for others, there is a season of silent cringes while they brace for impact. The sounds and smells of the season are in full effect, so now is a great time to execute your plan to carve out your special niche of seasonal enjoyment. For those of us who would prefer to hibernate rather than navigate the opportunities and invitations that always fill the air, let's see how we can mitigate the stressors constantly jockeying for our attention around this time of year.
Choose you.
With lives full of family obligations, job commitments, school, travel, community, and church involvement, adding more to our plates is not very appetizing. Are you prone to serving everyone else first? In this season, switch things up a bit. Try serving your own plate, honoring the idiosyncrasies of your unique palate, and be okay with acknowledging that your tastes have changed. Be okay with saying "no, thank you," and resist the urge to allow anyone else to put more of what they want to add to your plate.
Don't bite off more than you can chew.
Although it may all look good, smell good, and taste good, know your limit. Savor the taste of the experience and be fine with limiting your indulgence to the things you genuinely enjoy. Your presence is the gift, so put your best foot forward. Being mindful of just how much razzle and dazzle you can handle, set your own pace by controlling your own schedule.
Don't be a glutton.
A full stomach signals the brain by letting it know, "I'm satisfied." Determine ahead of time how much of the season and what part of the season you receive the most satisfaction from, and then schedule (as a priority) those activities. Choose with you (and nobody else) in mind. Is rest an activity? I'm asking for an over-committed friend.
Cat naps, power naps, just naps.
Burning the candle at both ends will leave you all burned out in the end. If your end goal is to show up as the best version of you, factor in naps as an integral part of your before and aftercare. It's okay to go the extra mile with someone else as long as you're not the one carrying the brunt of the weight. Commit to self-care by padding your schedule with lots of buffers to allow for the unexpected things that will manifest when you least expect it. Grumpy is never a good look, so schedule enough rest time to segue into your next grand entrance with greater ease.
When your festive boundaries are securely in place, you can take a different approach as you choose what goes on your plate. Before you accept or reject an invitation, figure in the necessary before and aftercare surrounding the commitment, check your schedule to see if you're free, and if you don't have to bend over backward to make someone else feel satisfied, prepare to eat, drink, and be merry.
Roots Castillo is a creative writer who enjoys promoting hope, encouragement, and brighter perspectives. CharmaineLaFonde.com
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AGING WELL
with Dr. Michelle Kindred
NUTRITIONAL THERAPY— NOT DIET
It sounds like a new fad, but it's just a different way to look at eating better and aging well.
As we become more seasoned in life, we should be more intentional about what we put in our bodies. I won't say eat healthy because that might scare you off. I know what some of you are probably thinking… I could have other vices, or I've paid my dues and deserve to eat whatever I want, or at the more extreme end of the spectrum, It hasn't killed me yet
All of that may be so, but the truth of the matter is we all need to try to eat better.
A heuristic approach is to eat with the intention of better results—you are what you eat! As harsh as that may sound, think about it: If you eat a dozen donuts each week, you are sure to resemble that eventually. The healthier your food intake, the better your health will be. This doesn't mean going on a diet but intentionally maintaining a more nutritious diet.
Here are a few tips for maintaining better eating habits and changing the behaviors that result in unhealthy food choices.
Try:
o Changing your meal-time routines.
o Eating more than 1-2 hours before bedtime.
o Eating at the table.
o Avoiding eating while watching TV or using other media devices.
o Drinking at least 8 oz. of water before your meal and eliminating sugary drinks during the meal.
o Eating to be satisfied, not to be full or stuffed.
If you must diet, focus on portions rather than calories.
a. When dining out (e.g., for lunch), choose what you like, but eat only half. Take the other half to go; you can have it for dinner later that evening (and vice versa for dinner).
b. Pack your lunch for work and limit takeout; include healthier snacks to enjoy throughout the day.
c. Give yourself variety. Repetition can be monotonous, and if you're bored, you might irrationally exchange nutrition for gourmandizing or self-indulgence.
For those who have been healthy eaters, for the most part, your focus is to maintain a nutritional balance. As we age, our energy levels decline, and our metabolism slows down. To avert bone and muscle weakening, eat more fruits, vegetables, and lean meats, and avoid saturated fats and sugars (cakes, ice cream, chocolate, soft drinks, red meats, and processed meats).
Simple changes in your food health can result in overall wellness and freedom from signs of disease.
Here are a few examples:
1. Replace refined grains with whole grains.
2. Substitute fresh fruits for added sugar.
3. Add superfoods to your menu, such as avocado, berries, cruciferous and dark green leafy vegetables, eggs, seafood, legumes, and nuts.
Clean and straightforward, these steps will balance your eating habits with variety, flexibility, nutrition, and grace. You can do a quick evaluation of your nutritional health by noting your overall food intake for the week and then gradually introducing
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are alike, and you may require a more in-depth nutritional strategy. You can learn more about the benefits of nutritional therapy, changing eating habits, and overall fitness by contacting your healthcare professional (National Institute of Health/NIDDK).
Dr. Michelle Kindred is a Professor of Education Leadership and Science Teaching Methods for master’s and PhD programs, helping scholars unveil their true potential and give back to the field of education. Her talents include curriculum development, collegial coaching, mentoring and supervision, and substantive editing and writing. She is the executive leader and owner of Cooper Kindred Ventures, LLC, which supports underrepresented and black communities through mentoring, education, scholarship, and well-being.
Reference: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (2020). Changing your habits for better health. National Institute of Health Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Disease. https://www.niddk.nih.gov/healthinformation/diet-nutrition/changing-habits-better-health
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Trendsetters: Blazing Trails
by Felicia Brown, AARP
According to the Small Business Administration, there are over 12 million female business owners. Among them, Black women have become the fastest growing demographic, reaching nearly 2.7 million among new businesses. This trend is a testament to the need and desire to bet on ourselves and take control of our future.
It’s not by accident that Black women have become leaders in the business arena and have been excelling for years, oftentimes toiling unrecognized. These women are SHEROs in our communities. We often hear about the founders who dominate the media cycle, but there are others equally worthy of our attention.
Over the past few years, I’ve had the pleasure of meeting some phenomenal female founders who are trendsetters, building their enterprises brick by brick and expanding how we view women in business. The women I highlight here are just a few examples of SHEROs who are blazing their own trails in the small business world.
Beauty
Beauty industry trendsetter Kim Roxie, founder of LAMIK Beauty, a vegan makeup line made with natural and organic ingredients for multicultural women. Prior to launching her beauty brand, she owned a successful makeup shop that gave her the skills, knowledge, and insights into the needs and wants of women of color, which led her to launch her own line of cosmetics. Kim recognized that vegan Black beauty brands were woefully underrepresented. She connected with a retired Estée Lauder chemist who bought into her vision and helped her become what she is today.
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College friends Tracy Green and Nancey Flowers-Harris, founders of fashion forward luxury brand Vontélle Eyewear. This dynamic duo creates eyewear that pays homage to their African, Caribbean, and Latin heritages. They recognized a cultural void in the eyewear industry, and it inspired them to travel abroad and meet with manufacturers to bring their business to life. These ladies bring not only their corporate experiences to the business but also their passion. They’ve secured major deals with the likes of Nickelodeon and have garnered several celebrity endorsements.
Nude is the new Black. Jeneba Barrie, a woman on the move, could not find a stylish nude pump shoe that matched her skin tone. What she didn’t know was that other women of color were experiencing the same problem. So she created Jeneba Barrie Nude Footwear, LLC to fill a gap in the market. Not long after, she realized that non-minority women were experiencing the same problem, so she began to create shoes that had crossover appeal to reach a wider audience, catapulting her to success.
Uplifting, elevating, and aiding students to channel their creativity through writing is what Terri Whitmire does as founder of the Writers Tablet Publishing Agency. She is a five-time author and the recipient of the 2021 Innovators Award from the Georgia After School and Youth Development Initiative. Her passion for students was a key driver for launching her business. Her nonprofit has been recognized across the state of Georgia for the incredible work she is doing to help students realize the joy of writing and help them get their works published. She believes writing can be a tool to help students blossom.
Perhaps when these women started their businesses, they didn’t know they were trailblazers, let alone trendsetters. No question, they are leading and making an impact within their industries and their communities broadly. To learn more about women founders, visit the Small Business Resource Center for the 50+ at smallbizrc.org
And if you want to be a small business trendsetter, here are some key takeaways from these trailblazers:
1. Believe in yourself.
2. Be creative and innovative.
3. Learn and watch other trendsetters.
4. Think like a customer. What products or services would you like to see?
5. Know and incorporate your own style.
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“There
is Joy in this Time of Your Life”: Germaine Bolds-Leftridge Speaks About ‘New
Beginnings’ in Her ‘4th Quarter’
by Kristen Myers
At the age of 61, Germaine Bolds-Leftridge decided to start something new. While most adults are slowing down and gearing up for retirement, Bolds-Leftridge had other plans: to start a skincare line for Black women over the age of 50. Called ‘IKnow,’ the brand features products from cleansers to moisturizers to serums, and more. All with one goal in mind: to make mature women feel good about themselves.
"The name of the brand is a celebration of age", Bolds-Leftridge said. And the wisdom, honor, and privilege that comes from growing older.
“If I knew then what I know now”, she said, “I would do some things differently.”
“I just want women to know that when you get to the 4th quarter [of your life] that there’s still a beginning,” Bolds-Leftridge explained. “You can still create desires that can be fulfilled. This is not the end.”
“I’m getting my hustle on even now”
Now 64, the hair and beauty sales and marketing mogul says she “finds joy” in this time of her life and that age isn’t going to slow her down.
“I don’t know how to retire,” she said. “I’m getting my hustle on even now.”
Bolds-Leftridge has been hustling her whole career, pivoting from an unfulfilling role in car sales to starting her successful sales and marketing company GBL Sales in 1990 when she was in her early 30s.
Her company caters to health and beauty brands and is responsible for making some of the biggest brands in Black beauty household names. Her vision, passion, and work ethic has helped boost sales for Mielle Organics, Luster Products, Oyin Handmade, and others.
Her work can be viewed up and down the beauty aisles in pharmacies and convenience stores around the country. But despite the success, Bolds-Leftridge wasn’t done. So the founder and Chief Executive pivoted again. She started Ubiquitous Expo, the largest wellness, health, and beauty expo in the DMV area for multicultural women. The expo has grown in size, with tens of thousands of attendees each year.
“I’ve got all the time in the world to sleep one day,” Bolds-Leftridge laughed. She’s still dedicated to making sure her clients are thriving, and explained that while she still can, she is “trying to get it all in.”
“If I don’t do it now, when will I do it?”
But it wasn’t until her mother died in 2020 that BoldsLeftridge stepped out from behind the scenes to start a
skincare line of her own.
“I always wanted to do something for myself,” she said. “But with GBL, it felt like a conflict of interest and so I put it on the back burner.”
“When she died, I felt she died with desires in her heart. And I didn’t want to do that. So I asked myself… if I don’t do it now, when will I do it?”
So she did what she does best: she pivoted again, and got her hustle on.
She started ‘IKnow’ with a mission: to be an example to others about what life in the “4th quarter” —as she calls it— can look like. The skincare brand is also an homage to the beauty executive’s mother, who she says always told her to “take care of your skin, so that it will take care of you later.”
“That’s what people see first,” Bolds-Leftridge said. “I wanted women of color to take care of themselves, and that starts with your skin.”
Putting yourself first
Every piece of the brand serves as a call to arms for mature women to put themselves first and remember that they still matter, despite what society says about older women.
The first product in the line is called ‘Me First,’ BoldsLeftridge explained, to remind users that it’s not selfish to put yourself first.
“It’s about saying ‘I need to take this time for myself,’” she said.
Even the brand’s logo, a dragonfly, honors the mission—and also her mother.
One day while
crying in her car about missing her mother, Bolds-Leftridge says a dragonfly hovered over the hood of her car and “wouldn’t leave.” Looking up what dragonflies symbolize, she explained, she noted that the dragonfly is born in the water to one day become a creature of the air.
“It’s always moving and pivoting,” she said. “And I thought: that’s the logo.”
“There’s ‘joys’ in this time of your life”
As Bolds-Leftridge thinks about her 65th birthday, the businesswoman says she has no plans of stopping anytime soon.
“I don’t have time to leave this earth tomorrow,” she laughed. “There’s things I still need to do. There’s a strong legacy I’m still building.”
“I want to have what Madame CJ Walker had,” she said. “I want to be everywhere.”
And how do you do that?
Bolds-Leftridge says it’s all about making a difference in other people’s lives. With ‘IKnow,’ she hopes to remind women to look in the mirror and tell themselves: ‘I still matter.’ But also, she says, to inspire them to prepare for this aging journey.
“There’s joys in this time of your life that you can’t get when you’re younger,” she said.
“I want to be an example for young people that if you’re blessed, you will be here sooner than you think,” she explained. “What you do now will show up later.”
For Bolds-Leftridge, that means taking care of herself and her spirit, so that she can “glow” from the inside out, which keeps people guessing about her real age. And for now, she says, she’s going to continue to defy expectations about how you should look and act past the age of 50.
“I’m going to be the oldest youngest person in every room.”
Kristen Myers is an award-winning journalist who covers business and finance news. She was most recently the Editor-in-Chief of the economics website
The Balance, and an on-air anchor and reporter at Yahoo Finance.
She has also worked with news organizations including Bloomberg News, MSNBC, and others, in the U.S. and abroad.
MONEY TALKS
with Roni M. Talley
Empowering Women's Financial Success: Assessing Goals, Planning for Year-End, andAchieving Fiscal Freedom
As winter approaches, it is time to take a moment and assess your financial goals for the year. As a mother, wife, corporate executive, or business owner, you have a lot on your plate, and it can be challenging to stay on top of your finances as well. However, with the end of the year just around the corner, it is important to ensure that you are on track to reach your financial goals and prepare for year-end results.
First, take a step back and assess where you are financially. Look at your income, expenses, and savings from the past year. Are you spending more than you are earning? Are there areas where you can cut back on expenses or find ways to increase your income? Take the time to create a budget and see if there are any areas where you can adjust.
Next, think about your long-term financial goals. Do you want to save for your children's education or for your retirement? Are there any large expenses in the next few years— maybe a home renovation or a new car—that you'll need to save for? Once you have a clear understanding of your long-term financial goals, you can start taking steps to achieve them.
As a busy woman, it is easy to put financial planning on the back burner. However, taking the time to review your goals and develop a plan to achieve them can pay off in the long run. Consider finding a financial advisor who can help you navigate complex fiscal decisions and provide guidance on how to reach your goals.
"Taking control of your finances is the first step towards achieving your financial dreams."
Finally, prepare for year-end results by ensuring that you have all your financial documents in order. This includes tax documents, investment statements, and any other relevant financial records. Take the time to review your records and make sure that they are accurate and up to date. If you are a business owner, make
sure that your financial records are organized for tax season.
In conclusion, taking the time to assess your financial goals as the year closes out and to prepare for year-end results is a crucial step in achieving financial success. By creating a budget, setting long-term goals, finding a financial advisor, and ensuring that your records are accurate and up to date, you can take control of your finances and achieve your fiscal goals.
As a financial professional, I am committed to helping individuals and business owners build a solid financial house one phase at a time— brick by brick.
If you are ready to begin your journey to financial independence or would like guidance for the next step on your current journey, reach out to me personally. Together, we will create a plan that helps you reach your specific goals.
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Explore the key tools and resources that have fueled my journey from the world of business to the art of event planning. Here's a curated selection, from innovative networking to savvy funding.
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Women’s Business Enterprise National Council www.wbenc.org/certification
WBENC is also an approved third-party certifier for the SBA’s Women-Owned Small Business (WOSB) Federal Contracting Program.
Small Business Administration www.sba.gov
The SBA has worked to ignite change and spark action so small businesses can confidently start, grow, expand, or recover.
AARP
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AARP is a nonprofit, nonpartisan organization that empowers people to choose how they live as they age.
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Let’s Talk About Co-Parenting
by: Laurie A. Evans
Chances are, you or someone you know is experiencing the journey of co-parenting.
The divorce rate in the US is often misreported as 50%, but in fact, divorce rates have been declining for decades.
Don’t cancel your next appointment with the marriage counselor, though—the possibility of your union ending is still real. Roughly half of American children will experience their parents’ divorce. Continue the hard work to keep your marriage thriving so your children won’t be among them.
The thought of shuffling your children between households is disheartening and challenging. In this space, I want to address some of your thoughts and fears and answer questions about your experience on this co-parenting journey. This is a safe space where you can read about these sensitive issues. Some topics will be light—funny stories or anecdotes; others will reassure readers that they are not alone and provide practical information to build optimal, cooperative co-parenting relationships.
Whatever the reasons that you are co-parenting, know that you and your children will survive this time and be more than okay. It does take a lot of work! Good communication, fair compromise, and the patience of Job are the crucial qualities necessary to succeed in your co-parenting journey.
I am excited to see what you might learn from this column and what you can implement in your family’s lives.
As you prepare to send your children back to school, here are a few things to remember:
Communication is critical in achieving and maintaining a good co-parenting experience—especially concerning our kids and school. I suggest creating a shared Google calendar so both parents and appropriately aged children can have access. Your calendar should include all your child’s activities, homework assignments, and project due dates, pick-up and drop-off schedule, visitation days, medical appointments, and any other important information.
Trying to remember who is expected to take your child to cheerleading practice or the next game can be exhausting and confusing, and the shared calendar can help. There are also useful co-parenting apps such as Cozi, Our Family Wizard, 2houses, and AppClose.
Email: Creating and using one family email address for everyone in your co-parenting family is extremely helpful, keeping all informed and more accountable. It’s comforting to know that one’s ex cannot claim ignorance of a parent-teacher meeting when both received the same email in the same email box.
Tip: If you are the first to read the email, change it back to unread for the other parent.
Don’t get me wrong—some people are simply not going to do right, but they can use those excuses for only a short time before their gaming becomes obvious.
Written Correspondence: Schools sometimes send notices of extracurricular activities home with the students. Realize that your co-parent may not have this information. Be thoughtful and send a screenshot as an attachment to your family (coparenting) email address to keep them in the loop. Teamwork really can make the dream work!
Remember, good communication is in your child’s best interests. Not sharing information related to the child hurts the child—and rarely anyone else.
Back-to-School Shopping: For a child, getting a new outfit and a new pair of kicks is exciting! As a co-parent, not so much. Who is going to pay for what? And when? These are real questions, especially if your co-parent is not financially supportive.
Plan (preferably in July) which parent is buying what and the budget needed for clothes and classroom, personal, and sports or club supplies. Start to stock up as soon as retailers offer back-to-school sales to alleviate lastminute chaos.
Set a date when items need to be at the primary residence. Aim for two weeks before the actual start of school.
Once again, communicate. It will eliminate duplicate purchases and avoid the infamous lines, “I didn’t know” or “I wasn’t thinking.
Visitation Scheduling Conflicts: Remember to input your child's school calendar and upcoming events as soon as you receive them into your shared calendar or co-parenting application. If any dates conflict with your pre-set child visitation arrangement, kindly bring them to your co-parent's attention and work together to adjust. While adhering to the visitation schedule ensures stability for your child, it's important to maintain a degree
of flexibility. Unexpected events arise, so be proactive and adjust dates when needed.
For commitments like parent-teacher meetings and medical appointments, remember that a time convenient for you might not be for your co-parent. It's always best to discuss and agree on dates and timings beforehand, ensuring a smoother experience and preventing any lastminute rescheduling.
Unfortunately, you cannot force someone to become a cheerful, compliant, responsible individual. The goal is to find supportive ways to make your co-parenting experience as uncomplicated and amicable as possible.
Like most things, these tools work only if you use them! What works for you may not suit someone else, but continue to find practical solutions for your co-parenting family.
Always keep your kids first!
Betts, Jennifer. “US Divorce Rates over Time and What the Numbers Really Mean.” LoveToKnow, 5 June 2023. www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/historicaldivorce-rate-statistics.
Lazic, Marija. “13 Saddening Children of Divorce Statistics,” LegalJobs, 20 May 2023. legaljobs.io/blog/ children-of-divorce-statistics
Afervent city, teeming with history and culture, and now, thanks to the tireless efforts of Dr. Tyrha M. LindseyWarren, a film festival that aims to be the Sundance of the faith and family genre.
by Alaina Pinkney
When one listens to the life story of Dr. LindseyWarren, it is immediately evident how her roots in Cincinnati, coupled with an extensive stint in Hollywood, forged her indomitable spirit. Mentored by powerhouses like Robert Townsend and influenced by her father's business acumen from IBM, Tyrha learned early on about the power of storytelling and the necessity of positive representation. As she navigated the corridors of Hollywood giants such as CAA, Quincy Jones Entertainment, and Edmonds' production company, she had a hand in the genesis of iconic shows like "Fresh Prince of Bel-Air" and "Soul Food."
Yet, it's not just the glitz and glamor of Hollywood that shaped her. Dr. Lindsey-Warren's background uniquely amalgamates film, business, and a profound urge for representation. Even on the bustling sets of "Love Jones" or while pursuing her MBA from Claremont Graduate University, the recurrent theme for her remained - portrayal of African Americans, especially women, in a reaffirming light.
Waco Family & Faith International Film Festival is customized to echo the spirit of the community.
Despite her Hollywood connections and impressive credentials, Tyrha's journey was not without challenges. The complexity of breaking into the industry led her back to Cincinnati, where she transformed from a marketing maven to a passionate producer, always with a clear vision: to uplift African Americans in media.
The transition to producing film festivals seemed a natural progression—notably, her collaboration on three film festivals, including pioneering the first international faith and family film festival with Bishop T.D. Jakes stands as a testament to her prowess. In Cincinnati, she rebranded and expanded a festival dedicated to individuals with disabilities, taking it from 2.5 to a whopping 5 days, demonstrating her dedication and the quality of her work.
However, the heart of her current journey beats in Central Texas. The Waco Family & Faith International Film Festival, under her guidance, seeks to empower emerging creatives, offering them a platform and a community that
celebrates faith, family, and art. Her endeavors have transformed Waco into a nexus for filmmakers, boosting the local economy through job creation and even enticing filmmakers to relocate.
One such collaborator, Malcolm Goodwin, and his partner, Victor Hawks, represent the festival's vision – fusing local talent with industry supporters, ensuring that the stories they bring to screen are genuine and resonating. As Tyrha is gearing up to commence production on her movie, it's evident that the festival is more than just an event; it's an incubator for dreams and aspirations.
At its core, the Waco Family & Faith International Film Festival is customized to echo the spirit of the community. With multiple streams of income, including pioneering distribution channels for filmmakers, Dr. Lindsey-Warren ensures that each artist gets the limelight they deserve.
This year's edition promises a blend of celebrity presence and community celebration. Honorees such as Bruce Smith and Alton Fitzgerald White elevate the event's stature, while the nonprofit –the GB Lindsey Family Charitable Fund, infuses it with purpose and heart. A parade of champions, fashion extravaganzas, and a golf classic further reiterate the festival's commitment to community enrichment.
But for Dr. Lindsey-Warren, the festival, with all its grandeur, is just a medium. Her ultimate mission is empowerment through storytelling. She envisions a space where diverse narratives are welcomed and celebrated, and the tales of black love, resilience, and triumph are showcased proudly. And through the Waco Family & Faith International Film Festival, she is carving out a legacy that champions diversity, inclusion, and, most importantly, hope.
In her quest to open doors for black and brown people, women, and herself, Dr. Tyrha M. LindseyWarren is not just crafting stories; she is rewriting history.
For more information visit: wacofamilyandfaithfilmfestival.com
AUTHOR'S CORNER: Prose & Perspectives
He Makes All Things NEW
part 1
by Dr. Kerry-Ann Zamore Byrd
I sat in the living room and looked around at heap of packing boxes stacked on top of each other, tucked away in the corner of the large room.
The room once filled with life, now devoid of décor seemed small and cold. The family pictures which once hung on the wall sat lazily leaning against the wall. I sat with my legs tucked into each other Indian style, as I packed the last items from my curio cabinet. I felt a tight tension in my back from sitting on the hard floor, so I decided to take a short break and examine the rest of the thirty five hundred square footage of a home I once loved. I looked through the large bay window overlooking the back porch with beautifully landscaped back yard, swing set slowly swaying in the light breeze. I surveyed the room, and smiled sadly at the fireplace remembering the Christmases and laughter we shared. I walked over to the dinning room, that table which was normally adorned with beautiful flowers sat barren. I continued to the kitchen which was my favorite room in the house. I opened each cabinet to ensure they were empty. My hands gently smoothed the black and white marble counter tops I hand picked only a few years before. My eyes welled with tears. I love this house, I loved this house, now I was forced to move. How the hell did I get here? I looked at the stack of papers at the edge of the counter top, an unopened envelope bearing the seal of the state brought that fateful night back to my remembrance. I numbly opened the envelope and read the court date for our final divorce hearing. It was real, this was happening, I had to sell my house, I had to leave. This is happening again. At 43 years old this was my second divorce and I was utterly humiliated and downright pissed off! Lord, why? I thought I was safe in your arms. How did you let this happen again? I asked inwardly.
My first marriage ended in divorce because of domestic violence at 33 years old. I married my college sweetheart and we had what appeared to be the perfect marriage on the outside. We had great careers, two beautiful children, a nice house and cars, but behind closed doors our life was filled with turmoil and chaos. Our marriage was riddled with violence and emotional abuse. After almost fourteen years together I was finally free. I learned to love me, listen to my own voice and trust myself. I waited, I healed, I prayed, I did everything that my therapist and pastors said that I should before moving on. At forty years old, after much prayer and counseling I remarried, but just three years later, I found myself at a loss and I was angry! I was furious! I was lost. My eyes welled with tears again, but I refused to allow them to cascade down my cheeks – I refused to release the hurt, I wanted to nurse it, I wanted to remain angry. Sis, have you ever experienced this? I wanted to remain angry. I was angry at my therapist, my pastors, my friends, anyone who supported or counseled me into the marriage was on my silent hit list of anger. I was angry at God. This marriage ended in an extramarital affair. It was an affair that I sensed, but when I uncovered the truth I was deeply hurt and felt abandoned. The evidence was clear, he didn’t deny it – rather he blamed me. For some reason this hurt cut deeper, it was more personal than my first marriage. It felt intentional, it felt like a direct attack on who I had become. My eyes welled up with tears again, I was alone again. I quickly finished the last of my packing, gathered myself and my purse. I looked at my watch, It was almost 2pm. I took a deep breath and looked at the house one more time. And walked through the threshold to the front porch. As I closed the front door, the tears fell. The U-Haul hummed softly in the driveway. I swore I would not cry, how dare my tears betray me now, I was angry, not sad. I walked to my car, opened the door and started the engine. I refused to look back, I drove away to my new beginning as a single mom. Okay Lord. You said you make all things new. I don’t really believe or trust you right now, but I am waiting to see what else you have planned.
Next time, join me on my journey He Makes All Things New... divorce is a death, the judge doesn’t ask any questions about love, its assets and custody. But Lord, You SAID…. Do you still have me Lord?
Dr. Kerry-Ann Zamore-Byrd is a licensed clinical social worker, university professor, transformation speaker and expert in social service issues such as domestic violence, child abuse. She is a skilled and experienced anti-racism facilitator trained through the Casey Foundation and People’s Institute. Restored: From Mourning to Dancing is available at kzamore.com.
AUTHOR'S CORNER:
Unlock the Icon Within Contributing Author:
Tiffany R. Easley
Icons are all around us, and we often miss them when we have entered their presence. I was often unaware that I was in the company of icons because I was looking for them to make a grand entrance or take center stage at a particular event. These instances occurred before I understood the true meaning of an icon. Webster’s Dictionary defines an icon as “a person or thing widely admired, especially for having major influence or significance in a particular sphere” (Webster, 2022). Icons influence the world with their unique greatness. Do you know how many icons with whom you have shared space? Do you think about their journey to greatness? Webster’s Dictionary refers to a voyage as a trip or journey (Webster, 2022). As you continue reading, I hope you will find similarities of an icon within yourself as shared throughout “The Iconic Voyage: Preparation, Position, and Presentation.”
-Excerpt from the book, Unlock the Icon Within, Chapter: "The Iconic Voyage," pp. 211.
International keynote speaker, bestselling author, empowerment expert, and mindset coach, Tiffany R. Easley, is empowering professional women to confront their challenges, create a life they love, and S.O.A.R. She coaches with passion, guiding her clients to strengthen and elevate their mindsets to new heights.
Available at tiffanyreasley.com
Unloading Divorce Baggage
by Dr. Kerry-Ann Zamore-Byrd
Hardly anyone goes into a marriage thinking of a pending divorce. Well, there may be a few celebrities and businesspersons who think of protecting their financial interests legally through prenuptial agreements, so there are exceptions. But the average person does not plan a wedding thinking of divorce, yet divorces are increasing at a rapid rate each year. If you have found yourself on the other side of “I do,” at “What the hell are we doing! And how the hell did I get here!” then this book is for you! If you have found yourself angry, frustrated, isolated, sad, and unsure about what’s next after signing the papers, or, or maybe you are already divorced, you may not be sad or mad, but you feel stuck, then, yes, this book is for you.
If you are blissfully married, I am sure you know someone going through a divorce. This is a great tool to help your friend get unstuck!
Dr. Kerry-Ann Zamore Byrd, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and University Professor. Dr. Zamore’s experience spans over 20 years’ of experience working with victims of various types of trauma and abuse. In this books she shares tips to grow and go and the baggage is unloaded.
Available on Kzamore.com.
From Grief to Gratitude by
Charmaine LaFondé
…The phone call I had just made, hoping for clarity to a truth I did not want to hear, was even more perplexing. There have been a few moments in my life when coherent thought seemed to be foreign to me, but I will always remember that day, August 21, 2017, when I became exposed to the most evil and painful element the world had to offer. In one moment, everything changed—my child was dead.
When our world shifts under the weight of grief, a firm foundation is well able to withstand the trauma. The children of God can always take heart in knowing God is a rock of safety in the most treacherous of storms and that we have a safe place to hide until the storm passes over (and it will). Choosing to make that safe place our hideaway clears a pathway to hope.
-Excerpt from the book, From Grief to Gratitude: A 31-Day Devotional Guide to Greater Peace
Charmaine LaFondé, the author of Who Killed My Son: A Mother's Wait for Justice, writes with passionate desire to guide others onto a pathway to peace after a traumatic loss.
Available at bit.ly/grief2gratitude
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Dare to DREAM…and Don’t Give UP!
Do you have hopes, dreams, and aspirations you haven't fulfilled? Do you feel a tugging inside, suggesting you have a purpose, but you’re unsure what it is? Perhaps you've told yourself it's too late. Lean in close and embrace what I’m about to say: Every morning when you wake up, you have the opportunity to change the trajectory of your life! It’s never too late…
It’s never too late to live the life you desire. It’s never too late to pursue what you've been telling yourself, “If only I had more time, money, knowledge, the right people,” or any other impediment that’s been in your way. Trust me; I completely understand. I was in that same headspace not long ago. I spent the majority of my life taking care of my family and others, sidelining my own dreams and aspirations. But deep down, there was an ever-present burning desire for more. I often prayed, asking God to reveal my purpose. Deep inside, I knew I was meant for greater things. A significant event at 42—becoming a divorced mother of two young men without any clear path forward—drew me nearer to my purpose. Armed solely with faith and belief that everything would turn out right, I remember standing in the bathroom, having what I term a “mirror experience,” asking God for clarity on my situation and the way forward. I recognized the need to love myself and, for the first time, prioritize my own well-being. I began speaking affirmations over myself daily, embracing the woman reflecting back in the mirror. As the fear of uncertainty waned, I knew it was time to chase the dream I'd shelved for two decades. I decided to pursue a master's degree. After earning it, I felt compelled to share my journey to possibly liberate others from their struggles. This led to co-authoring my first book, “Soul Talk: Twenty Stories of Women Who Let Go and Let God.” That endeavor unveiled my purpose. I refused to let detractors deter me from achieving my dreams. You, too, can realize yours. As long as you breathe, you possess the capacity for excellence. Put your trust in a higher power and never yield. It’s never too late to find love, to tick items off your bucket list, to pursue what preoccupies your thoughts. Believe in yourself, because I do. You've got this! I challenge you: DREAM and NEVER GIVE UP!"
Like a bud on a bare tree waiting anxiously for the awakening of spring, counting the time, it will be with each day closer to spring. Anticipating its true self and what life will be. Time is here, for it is spring. It blooms into a flower. Beautiful to See, Beautiful to Be!
The Power of Sisterhood: Life Is a Bud Waiting to Blossom
Guest Writer: Cheryle T. Ricks
Have you ever asked yourself why you don’t get along with other women or why you are always getting hurt and feeling so badly about yourself? Have you ever tried to figure out why being a woman is so hard, and it doesn’t matter what you do; you keep coming back to the same place with the same pain? Have you ever wondered why some women seem to have it all together when your life seems to be getting more and more miserable? Well, you are not alone. This article and future articles will answer these questions and a whole lot more. It will help you find yourself and teach you how to love the you that you find. It will help you process all of those things that brought you so much pain by identifying what the womanhood process is and how to complete it. It will allow you to see that the very thing we need as women is the very thing we avoid: each other.
The key to our well-being is in the hands of the women in our circle. Over the years, women have distanced themselves from one another, and some women now view each other as enemies. However, our strength and
wholeness come from interacting with other women. We have a great deal in common because of the process of womanhood. It is the same for all women. It plays out in different ways, but the pits we all fall into bring the same pain and devaluation to each of us. When women mature enough to recognize that other women are allies and not enemies, we gain the true secret of womanhood, oneness. God created the world, but women nurture it. God has entrusted women with this awesome job because He has connected us to the universe. Women have the ability to identify what is going on and what is needed. Therefore, we have our hand on the pulse of everything. What an honor and privilege to be chosen as the keepers of the world. But this job is too great for any of us to do on our own. We need each other! Together, we stand and divided, we all fall, along with everyone who is depending on us! You can have a life that you enjoy waking up to even if you are facing a problem or difficult situation by allowing God to love you right where you are, the way you are, also, by learning that receiving forgiveness and giving forgiveness frees us from the prison that many of us find ourselves in. We must give ourselves permission to be human and imperfect while still having a right relationship with ourselves, which is the key to having a right relationship with others. A sister circle will do just that because
it is a group of women who come together for the purpose of sharing their frustrations, challenges, and fears to gain the knowledge, assistance, help, and support that equip them to become better mothers, grandmothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, friends, and wives to their families and community. A sister circle can help women understand their value, worth, and their importance to the betterment of our world.
After many years of ministering and talking to women from different stages of life, I have discovered that many of them are facing some of the same issues that hinder them from enjoying their lives. In the upcoming articles, I hope to identify some of those issues and provide solutions that will enable each woman to see the realities that are not so evident in their busy lives and allow them to finally process the hurt that many women and girls are currently dealing with. Until the next article, remember that everything you need is inside of You!
Cheryle T. Ricks - President, Founder and CEO of The Women Empowerment Circle, LLC.
Cheryle teaches the importance of Sisterhood.
Joy in All Seasons!
Guest Writer: Benedria Smith
Joy, a word heard most during the festive season, is a gift we can open each day, in every season. This gift eludes some of us, though, especially as the holidays approach. Decreased sunlight, changes in routine, and holiday-related stress can trigger a rise in anxiety and depression. For me, the holiday season was the worst—high job stress and family issues combined with undiagnosed depression. Every day, I wanted to die.
That was my existence for many years. As a young girl, perpetual sadness was one thing I could count on, and that dark cloud followed me into adulthood. Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) is one of the most common but rarely discussed mental disorders in the US (NIMH, 2016). Also called clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think, and behave. You may struggle with normal day-to-day activities and may feel that life isn't worth living (Mayo Clinic, 2023). These are some of the symptoms to watch for, especially if you experience most or all of them every day for two weeks or more:
• Changes in sleep
• Changes in appetite
• Lack of concentration
• Loss of energy
• Lack of interest in activities
• Hopeless or guilty thoughts
• Changes in movement (less activity or agitation)
• Physical aches and pains
• Suicidal thoughts
Women wear many hats, and the pressure to be the pillar of strength for our families, friends, and communities comes with a heavy price. As a wife and mother, I felt I had to maintain the illusion of everything being “all right.” I smiled and said I was okay, but on the inside, I was dragging all my past trauma in a big ugly plastic bag, hoping no one would see. My inner voices said, You are a waste of space—you might as well die.
I felt so alone, like no one in this world could be as sad as me, but by God’s grace, I would not be one of the 48,183 who die by suicide each year (ASFP, 2021). Today, I want to share five selfcare strategies to help those struggling, especially during the holiday season.
Access your mental health and manage symptoms early. Schedule regular check-ins with yourself to assess your mental state. Pay close attention to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Awareness of your emotional state is the first step toward addressing any issues to prevent escalation. Consider seeking therapy or counseling from a qualified mental health professional. Therapy can provide tools and coping strategies. If necessary, consult a psychiatrist who can prescribe medication, a helpful part of treatment for some individuals.
Check in with a solid support system to prevent isolation. Find your tribe. Reach out to them when you're feeling overwhelmed. Sharing your feelings can provide relief and support. Also, locate and join support groups. Connecting with others who are experiencing similar challenges can provide a sense of community and validation.
Create healthy boundaries and opt for uncomplicated plans. Develop regular mindfulness (meditation) or journaling practice to stay attuned to your emotions and thoughts, to manage stress and anxiety, and help you stay present. Establishing healthy boundaries protects your mental well-being. Learn to say no to commitments that may overwhelm you. You can’t always be everywhere or everything to everyone.
Maintain a healthy lifestyle. Physical health and mental health go together. Regular exercise boosts overall mood and effectively reduces stress. Research shows that as little as 30 minutes of moderate exercise most days of the week is effective, so get moving! Last, sleep. Prioritize good sleep hygiene and aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night; sleep deprivation can intensify mental health symptoms.
Be gentle with yourself. The holiday season can be a challenging time for those dealing with depression. Being gentle with yourself is crucial. Understand that the holidays don't have to be perfect. It's okay if you don't feel as festive or joyful as others. Give yourself permission to have ups and downs. You have the right to make choices that support your mental health during the holiday season and beyond.
I never set out to be an advocate for depression and suicide prevention; it just happened along my journey to wellness. Stepping into the light and sharing my truth let me know that I was not alone. People from all walks of life deal with depression. This is a disorder that doesn’t care about your education, race, age, sexual orientation, bank balance, or political party. The more community I gained, the more I talked, and my confidence increased. In 12 years, I got help, dealt with my issues, and began to share the new life I had found.
Living a life full of joy is a gift no one can take from you. When you seek help to address your depression and anxiety, you will find that your growth helps others to grow. You see, your life's “dirt” has a purpose—to support growth. But only by uncovering our dirt and watering it with personal truth can the beautiful plant that is our life's path flourish and grow. Then we can stand tall, stand strong!
If you know of anyone dealing with suicidal thoughts, call 1-800-273-TALK.
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FEAST TO Impress
Irresistible Holiday Recipes for Memorable Gatherings
The holidays revolve around three F's: family, fun, and food. Sure, we cherish quality time with loved ones, and who can resist the infectious joy of laughter from hilarious games? However, the real star of any gathering is undeniably the culinary spread. A hit playlist might save a quiet party, but there's no coming back from lackluster dishes. Fear not, for we're here with irresistible recipes that'll leave your guests craving more!
Falling leaves, brisk winds, and the vibrant colors of pumpkins mean one thing, fall is here. An array of fruits, vegetables, and herbs give way to bountiful meals that will bring comfort to your family and friends. There is no doubt that the stress and anxiety in the world today can cause us to be uncertain about what is to come. Yet even amid the uncertainty, there is something soothing about a warm bowl of soup and a slice of a rustic sourdough loaf that makes you say, “all is well.” This selection of recipes is sure to add warmth and love to your everyday meals and fall holiday gatherings. The key to your success -- sourcing the freshest ingredients you can find. So, take your time and have fun finding produce for these meals, either foraging from your own garden, or strolling in your local farmers' market.
Pumpkin Soup with toasted pumpkin Seeds
Ingredients:
2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
1 large red onion, chopped
½ teaspoon sea salt
1 (3-pound) butternut squash, peeled, seeded, and cubed
3 garlic cloves, chopped
1 tablespoon chopped fresh sage or thyme
½ tablespoon minced fresh rosemary
1 teaspoon grated fresh ginger
3 to 4 cups vegetable broth
Freshly ground black pepper
For Serving Chopped parsley
Toasted pumpkin seeds
Crusty bread
Instructions:
1. Heat the oil in a large pot over medium heat. Add the onion, salt, and several grinds of fresh pepper and sauté until soft, 5 to 8 minutes. Add the squash and cook until it begins to soften, stirring occasionally, for 8 to 10 minutes.
2. Add the garlic, sage, rosemary, and ginger. Stir and cook 30 seconds to 1 minute, until fragrant, then add 3 cups of the broth. Bring to a boil, cover, and reduce heat to a simmer. Cook until the squash is tender, 20 to 30 minutes.
3. Let cool slightly and pour the soup into a blender, working in batches if necessary, and blend until smooth. If your soup is too thick, add up to 1 cup more broth and blend. Season to taste and serve with parsley, pepitas, and crusty bread.
Photo Cred: Heidi Pearson
Sizzling Cajun Delights & Verdant Sips!
"I do declare this is gonna be good!” As the golden crust of the fried turn harmoniously intertwines with the aromatic Cajun spices, we're transported straight to the heart of Louisiana. And what better to wash down that zesty treat than with our showstopper cocktail - the Verdant Reverie?
Verdant Reverie: A Tarragon Infusion Light and Fresh, this tarragon infused blood orange martini is not only a taste sensation but also a sensory delight. A delightful and invigorating concoction crafted with just four simple ingredients, it boasts a low sugar content, making it the ultimate drink for those conscious sips. Whether you're toasting to a girls' night out or setting the mood for a romantic date, this beautifully boozy and incredibly aromatic martini is sure to leave an impression.
So, grab your apron and shaker, and let's dive into the flavors and fragrances of Cajun country and beyond!
Cajun Fried Turkey
Ingredients
6 quarts Water
2 cups Sugar
1 cup Salt
1/2 cup Cajun Seasoning
6 cloves of Garlic
2 stalks Celery
1 medium Onion
4 Bay leaves
1 tablespoon whole black peppercorns
1 bundle of fresh poultry herbs (rosemary, thyme, and sage)
Juice of 2 lemons
1 (13 to 14-pound) turkey, with giblets removed
Approximately 4 to 4 1/2 gallons peanut oil*
Instructions
1. Combine 2 quarts of water with the sugar, salt, and Cajun seasoning in a pot and bring to a boil. Remove from the heat and
add the remaining ingredients, including 4 quarts of water. Allow the brine to cool for about an hour before pouring over the turkey in a brining bag and refrigerate overnight.
2. Remove the turkey from the brine, rinse and pat dry. Allow to sit at room temperature for at least 30 minutes prior to cooking.
3. Fill and warm oil according to your outdoor deep fryer directions. Once the temperature has reached 250°F, carefully lower the bird into the oil and bring the temperature to 350°F. Keep temperature at 350 °F. After 35 minutes, check the temperature of the turkey using a probe thermometer. Once the breast reaches 151°F, gently remove from the oil. The turkey will continue to cook and reach an internal temperature of 165 °F. Let rest for at least of 30 minutes prior to carving.
*It is important to follow your fryer manufactures' recommendations. Peanut oil has a higher burn temp so it is perfect for deep frying at high temperatures for long periods of time.
Verdant Reverie: A Tarragon Infusion
Ingredients:
Blood oranges - sliced of course!
Tarragon infused Vodka – this is the base for this martini recipe, and I think it fits very well with the flavors. Triple sec (*based on preference)
Lime juice
Simple syrup (*this is also optional, if you want your cocktail a little sweeter
Ice
3 tbsp fresh blood orange juice
2 oz (4 tbsp) Tarragon infused vodka
1/2 oz (1 tbsp) triple sec
1/2 oz (1 tbsp) lime juice
Splash of club soda
Optional: 2 tsp simple syrup
slices of blood orange and tarragon leaves for garnish
Enjoy!
Yes, traditional holiday fare is always cherished, but sometimes, you might crave a change from turkey and roast. We went on the hunt for a non-traditional dish that would delight your guests and stumbled upon this perfect sea bass recipe. It's moist on the inside, boasts crisp edges, and is complemented by a tangy sweet sauce. It's unbeatable. Plus, it won't keep you in the kitchen all day.
sEA BASS WITH thai Chili sauce
Ingredients:
1 500-700 grams whole sea bass cleaned, gutted
Salt as needed
1/4 cup red and green bell peppers
seeded, finely diced
1 small red onion finely chopped
4 cloves garlic finely chopped
3 tablespoons fish sauce (patis)
1/2 cup Thai sweet chili sauce
1/3 cup water
1/2 cup potato starch
2 tablespoons cooking oil cooking oil for frying lime wedges to serve green onions chopped, to serve
Instructions:
1. Prepare the Sea Bass: Preheat your oven to 450°F. Oil a rimmed baking sheet or use aluminum foil. In a bowl, mix onion powder, garlic, basil, instant bouillon, cayenne, black pepper, and ginger. Divide the mixture in two.
2. Rinse the sea bass and pat dry using paper towels. With a sharp knife, score both sides of the fish with diagonal lines about 1-inch apart.
3. Brush the fish with oil on both sides and also the inner cavity. Combine mushroom slices, olive oil, minced garlic, and half the spice mixture. Stuff this mix into the fish cavity.
4. Season the fish exterior with the remaining spice mixture.
5. Place the fish on the baking sheet
In the culinary world, the quest for the perfect cocktail to complement a dish is an art in itself. With our Chili-Sauced Sea Bass taking center stage, we journeyed to find that impeccable drink that would dance alongside its flavors without overpowering them. Enter the Bunny’s Reviver - a carrot-based cocktail with hints of ginger and lime. Its garden-fresh zest and subtle kick are the ideal accompaniment to the rich, spicy sea bass, elevating each bite. So, when you dive into the depths of our sea bass recipe, let the Bunny's Reviver be your refreshing lifeline, ensuring every mouthful is a harmonious blend of sea and garden. Cheers to finding that perfect pairing!
Bunny’s Reviver (carrot cocktail)
Ingredients
2 cups carrot juice
2 cups ginger ale (* based on preference)
1/4 cup gin
1/4 cup fresh lime juice
1/2 teaspoon fresh grated ginger Ice
4 carrots tops trimmed and peeled
Directions:
In a large pitcher, mix the first 5 ingredients. Divide among 4 ice-filled glasses. Garnish with small carrot tops
Enjoy!
and roast for 18-20 minutes or until it reaches an internal temperature of 145°F and flakes easily. Cooking time might vary based on the fish size.
6. Once out of the oven, drizzle with lemon juice and sprinkle with red chili pepper flakes and fresh chopped thyme.
For the Sauce: In a pan, heat oil and sauté peppers, onions, and garlic until aromatic. Add water and bring to a boil. Stir in fish sauce and simmer. Mix in sweet chili sauce and simmer for 2 minutes or until reduced. Adjust consistency with water if needed.
Frying the Fish: In a wok, heat oil. Dredge the fish in potato starch, shaking off any excess. Fry the fish until cooked through.
To Serve: Lay the crispy fish on a platter, spoon over the chili sauce, garnish with green onions, and accompany with lime wedges.
Photo Cred: Heidi Pearson
Returning by popular demand, our cherished holiday treat: The Ritz Carlton Lemon Pound Cake! Ever wonder about the origin of the pound cake name? It's all in the balance—historically, a pound each of flour, sugar, butter, and eggs. While variations exist, our lemon-infused rendition promises to be an unforgettable delight this festive season!
The Ritz Carlton Lemon Pound Cake
3 cups all-purpose flour
1 Tbsp baking powder
¾ tsp salt
3 cups sugar
1 cup unsalted butter, room temperature
½ cup shortening, room temperature
5 large eggs
1 cup whole milk
6 Tbsp lemon juice
1 lemon, zested
Instructions
1. Preheat oven to 350ºF. Spray or butter and flour 2 loaf pans or one large Bundt pan.
2. Sift flour, baking powder and salt into medium bowl. Set aside.
3. Using an electric mixer, cream together butter, shortening and sugar. Add eggs one at a time, beating Add dry ingredients in three additions to butter mixture alternately with milk, beginning and ending with flour mixture. Beat at low speed just until blended after each addition. Mix in lemon juice and zest.
4. Pour batter into prepared pans. Bake cakes until tester inserted into center comes out clean, about 55 minutes. Cool cakes in pans for 15 minutes. Turn cakes out onto racks and cool completely.
Make it festive and garnish with cranberries and fresh herbs.
Photo Cred: Heidi Pearson
Experience Waco: The Ultimate Guide to Family Fun in the Heart of Texas
Attending the 5th Annual Waco Family & Faith International Film Festival next year? Fantastic! Along with the cinematic excitement, Waco offers an array of family-friendly activities that are just as thrilling. From engaging museums and vibrant shopping spots to unique stays and culinary delights, Waco has it all. Dive into this dynamic city, where history meets mouth-watering cuisine and entertainment. Here are ten top picks to add sparkle to your Waco adventure!
1. Cameron Park Zoo:
Begin your Waco journey at the Cameron Park Zoo, beautifully nestled beside the Brazos River. This zoo houses a variety of animals, offering both fun and education for the whole family.
2. Waco Mammoth National Monument:
Travel back in time at the Waco Mammoth National Monument. The site provides a fascinating look into the past with its remarkable Columbian mammoth fossils.
3. Dr. Pepper Museum:
Explore the iconic Dr. Pepper Museum, celebrating America's oldest major soft drink.
Located in the 1906 Artesian Manufacturing and Bottling Company building, it offers an engaging experience for soda lovers.
4. Mayborn Museum at Baylor University:
The Mayborn Museum Complex at Baylor University features interactive exhibits and a historical village. It's a perfect spot for an educational and enjoyable family outing.
5. Waffle Chic at Magnolia Market at The Silos:
Savor the unique flavors at Waffle Chic. Owner Shamica Evans brings a delightful twist to the classic chicken and waffles, making it a must-visit dining spot.
6. Magnolia Market at The Silos:
Indulge in some shopping at Magnolia Market at The Silos, a renowned destination for stylish home décor and delectable dining options, linked with the famous Chip and Joanna Gaines.
7. Oh My Juice:
Refresh yourself at Oh My Juice, a health-conscious eatery founded by Baylor University graduate Denitia Blount. From
cold-pressed juices to acai bowls, it offers a range of wholesome treats.
8. Homestead Heritage:
Visit Homestead Heritage for a glimpse into a unique lifestyle of simplicity and sustainability. Engage in workshops or simply enjoy the peaceful surroundings.
9. Stay at Hotel 1928:
Relax at Hotel 1928, a boutique hotel blending historical charm with modern luxury. With its quaint library and rooftop bar, it's an ideal blend of past and present comforts.
10. Waco Wonderland:
Experience the magic of Waco Wonderland, especially if you're visiting during the holiday season. This event beautifully highlights Waco’s festive spirit with lights, decorations, and activities for all.
Whether you're in Waco for the Waco Family Film Festival in February or during the holiday season, you'll find the city’s diverse attractions and events are what make Waco the Heart of Texas. From educational museums to vibrant events like Waco Wonderland, the city extends a warm Texan welcome, ensuring a memorable visit.
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