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As the crisp air and twinkling lights surround us, we find ourselves embraced by the warmth and joy of the holiday season. In this special Christmas/New Year issue of Caregiver magazine, we joyfully celebrate the love, kindness, and dedication that make our community so remarkable. We want to honor the selfless caregivers whose compassion, empathy, and generosity truly shine. Your unwavering commitment to caring for loved ones is an inspiring example of kindness and goodness.
This holiday season, I wish you and your loved ones peace, joy, and togetherness. For many, Christmas is a time to reunite with family and reflect on life’s true treasures—one another. May we cherish the moments with our loved ones, honoring our faith, traditions, and family legacies. As guardians of our family’s heritage, let’s preserve and pass down the traditions that make our families special. May we find comfort in cherished memories and create new ones for future generations.
This season offers a fresh start, an opportunity to refocus on living a life filled with meaning and purpose. With gratitude, I’m reminded of Oklahoma’s exceptional people, whose hearts are big and whose hospitality is abundant. May we nurture our relationships and welcome new friendships in the coming year.
Wishing you and your family a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! May the message, meaning, and magnitude of this joyous season, as we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, transform the hearts and minds of all people with peace, love, wisdom, and goodwill.
Sincerely,
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When you meet Leela Baker, you don’t just meet a woman; you meet grace in motion. Baker founded Nana’s Closet for grandparents who are unexpectedly needed to care for their grandchildren. Baker knows the struggle, the sleepless nights, the worry, the expenses, because she’s lived it. Moved by faith and fueled by love, Baker turned her experiences as a grandmother rearing her grandchild into a mission to help others facing the same journey. Through Nana’s Closet, she offers diapers, clothes, car seats, and toys, everything needed for little ones, free of charge to the grandparents who open their hearts and homes a second time around.
A lot of grandparents feel isolated, but there are so many of us out there. I feel it’s my duty and my calling to let families know we can’t control our children, but we wish we could, just like God sometimes wishes He could control us. All we can do is remember our grandkids were not brought to this earth for no reason. God has a plan for them, and we just need to be part of that plan.
Baker’s mission is also about restoring dignity and hope. “Grandparents can feel so alone and so ashamed at what their children have done,” she shared.
With that belief guiding her, Baker has built a community where love replaces judgment, and faith turns heartbreak into purpose.
Baker knows the heartache runs deeper than the surface. Even what the children call their grandparents can tug at the soul. “It’s between the grandparents and the kids if they’re called Grandma and Grandpa or Mama and Daddy,” she explained. “But kids can be mean at school. When they hear a child call their caregiver Grandma or Grandpa, it sets off a red flag, prompting their friends to ask why their mom or dad isn’t picking them up. To spare their grandchildren that painful curiosity, many grandparents quietly step into the roles of Mom or Dad once again, carrying both love and loss in the same breath, so their little ones can feel like they belong.”
The need, Baker said, is staggering. “Over 90,000 Oklahomans are rearing their grandchildren,” she shared. “And that number keeps climbing.” Each statistic represents a story of love, sacrifice, and second chances. At Nana’s Closet, the impact is felt daily, as five to ten new applications for help arrive every week. Behind every request is a grandparent doing their best to keep a promise to love, protect, and provide for the little ones placed back in their care, often with little more than faith and determination to guide them.
Baker’s giving spirit shines during the holidays through Nana’s Christmas Sharing. This event makes sure no child or grandparent feels forgotten at Christmas. Families can apply through the website, and each sponsor is matched with a child, committing to purchase three items from the child’s wish list.
“Sometimes sponsors think the requests are too much,” Baker said. “But these kids just want to be normal. They’re asking for what their friends are asking for. They’re not being ungrateful; they just want to fit in.”
When a sponsor can’t fulfill a wish list alone, Baker suggests teaming up with friends or co-workers, everyone pitching in a little to make a big difference. The season culminates in a joyful Christmas party at the Indian Shrine Center, complete with cookies, cocoa piled high with whipped cream and marshmallows (courtesy of CAREGIVER Magazine), a festive skit, photos with Mr. and Mrs. Claus, and plenty of laughter. Each child takes home their wrapped gifts so Grandma or Grandpa can place them under the tree, keeping the magic of Christmas morning alive. Even the grandparents are remembered with raffle prizes and gifts just for them. Baker said, “Everyone deserves a little Christmas.”
Sponsors for Nana’s Christmas Sharing are always needed. Those unable to shop can donate funds, and Baker will lovingly handle the shopping herself, because for her, every act of kindness is another way to show that God’s love never runs out.
Keeping Nana’s Closet running smoothly truly takes a village. Faithful volunteers help fold clothes, organize shelves, and make sure the little shop stays warm and welcoming. Every helping hand makes a difference. “It’s not just about the clothes,” Baker said. “It’s about showing love.” If you feel called to volunteer, Baker would love to hear from you.
When families arrive for their appointment, the children head straight for the toy area while Grandma, or sometimes Grandpa, shops in peace. “It’s by appointment only,” Baker explained, “because I never want grandparents to feel like they’re competing for what’s available. This is their special time.”
Baker accepts only donations that look as new as possible, no worn-out clothes, no stains, no tears. “I have high standards,” she said, because “these kids need to know they matter, that they’re seen, and that they’re important.”
Baker accepts only donations that look as new as possible, no worn-out clothes, no stains, no tears. “I have high standards,” she said, because “these kids need to know they matter, that they’re seen, and that they’re important.”
From newborns to seventeen-year-olds, every child who leaves Nana’s Closet walks out not just with clothes, but with confidence and a reminder that they are loved. Baker smiles when asked how it all comes together. “The toys and clothes, that’s totally a God thing,” she said. “God has blessed Nana’s Closet. Maybe it’s because everything here is free.”
When families arrive for their appointment, the children head straight for the toy area while Grandma, or sometimes Grandpa, shops in peace. “It’s by appointment only,” Baker explained, “because I never want grandparents to feel like they’re competing for what’s available. This is their special time.”
Each visit is personal. Baker greets every family, answers questions, and makes sure each child receiv bag with brand-new socks and underwear.
Each visit is personal. Baker greets every family, answers questions, and makes sure each child receives a bag with brand-new socks and underwear.
From newborns to seventeen-year-olds, every child who leaves Nana’s Closet walks out not just with clothes, but with confidence and a reminder that they are loved. Baker smiles when asked how it all comes together. “The toys and clothes, that’s totally a God thing,” she said. “God has blessed Nana’s Closet. Maybe it’s because everything here is free.”
Baker doesn’t take a salary. Her reward is seeing the relief in the faces of the grandparents. “I care for these families,” she said. Baker's love shows in every folded shirt, every neatly hung outfit, every child’s giggle is a reflection of the
Baker doesn’t take a salary. Her reward is seeing the relief in the faces of the grandparents. “I care for these families,” she said. Baker's love shows in every folded shirt, every neatly hung outfit, every child’s giggle is a reflection of the faith that built Nana's Closet, where God’s love is stitched into every seam.
Baker’s dream stretches beyond the doors of her small shop. “My dream,” she said, “is to spread Nana’s Closet from border to border.”
For now, Nana’s Closet serves families across Oklahoma, Cleveland, Canadian, and Logan counties, but word is spreading fast. People from as far away as Pennsylvania, Colorado, and Florida have already reached out, hoping to start a Nana’s Closet in their own communities.
Baker’s dream stretches beyond the doors of her small shop. “My dream,” she said, “is to spread Nana’s Closet from border to border.” For now, Nana’s Closet serves families across Oklahoma, Cleveland, Canadian, and Logan counties, but word is spreading fast. People from as far away as Pennsylvania, Colorado, and Florida have already reached out, hoping to start a Nana’s Closet in their own communities.
Baker adopted her granddaughter, Evelyn, in 2019. Now eight years old, Evelyn recently began asking questions about her “belly mom,” and Baker believes in always telling her the truth. Evelyn is growing up surrounded by faith, honesty, and love, and she already shares her grandmother’s giving heart.
Baker adopted her granddaughter, Evelyn, in 2019. Now eight years old, Evelyn recently began asking questions about her “belly mom,” and Baker believes in always telling her the truth. Evelyn is growing up surrounded by faith, honesty, and love, and she already shares her grandmother’s giving heart.
She loves helping out at Nana’s Closet and proudly tells everyone that when her Nana gets too old, she’s going to take over and rename it Evelyn’s Closet. Baker reminds us, “We are God’s hands and feet.”
She loves helping out at Nana’s Closet and proudly tells everyone that when her Nana gets too old, she’s going to take over and rename it Evelyn’s Closet. Baker reminds us, “We are God’s hands and feet.”
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Gilbert Mike “Choc” Charleston, a proud Choctaw elder and one of Oklahoma’s most beloved sons, passed away on Thanksgiving Day, November 27, 2025, at the remarkable age of 101. Two years after losing his cherished wife of seventy-nine years, Billie Louise (Burns) Charleston, Choc now rests eternally beside her.
Born on Christmas Eve 1923 near Duncan, Oklahoma, Choc grew up immersed in the strength and stories of his Choctaw heritage. A champion boxer, he earned a scholarship to Cameron College before answering our nation’s call. As a tank driver in World War II, he saw intense combat from Normandy to the Battle of the Bulge, returning home decorated with honors and a quiet gratitude for peace.
On July 3, 1944, he married Billie—the persistent ten-year-old who once tagged along on his Marlow dry-cleaning runs and grew into the great love of his life. Together, they raised two sons, Mike and Steven, transformed a modest furniture shop into the legendary Antique Alley and Choctaw Trading Post, crafted jewelry that carried their spirit worldwide, and, after retiring in 1989, traveled the world hand in hand for five joyful years.
For decades, as an ambassador for Oklahoma tourism, Choc’s proud Choctaw face and gracious spirit appeared in countless publications and broadcasts, inviting visitors from around the globe to fall in love with the Oklahoma he cherished.
Choc never met a stranger. He was humility and kindness in motion, a gifted speaker who greeted politicians, movie stars, tribal chiefs, and everyday Oklahomans with the same warm handshake and genuine smile.
Later in his life, he and Billie called Hefner Mansions home. There, staff and residents formed a strong bond that fulfilled their need for connection and community. Choc was supported by a team of compassionate caregivers from Right At Home. Greg Self, Susan Foster, Cori Cole, and Anna Harris were his constant companions, caregivers, chauffeurs, and, more importantly, close friends.
Choc lived the Golden Rule every day and left the world a brighter place. Thank you, Choc, for showing us the true Spirit of Oklahoma—love, resilience, courage, and kindness. Your legacy will inspire future generations. Choc always reminded us that there is no word for 'goodbye' in the Choctaw language. His friendship is a cherished gift we will hold close to our hearts.
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Flex Medical Group is Oklahoma’s fully independent, brick-and-mortar limb salvage center, dedicated to helping Oklahomans keep their legs, their mobility, and their independence. Located in the Oklahoma City metro area, the 8,000-square-foot, state-ofthe-art facility brings every critical limb-saving specialty under one roof so patients don’t have to navigate a fragmented system when every day – and sometimes every hour – matters.
Inside the 8,000-square-foot facility, patients can be screened for PAD, undergo noninvasive vascular testing, receive timely revascularization procedures when appropriate, and start advanced wound therapies – all guided by the same integrated team. Infectious disease specialists work handin-hand with wound care and vascular surgery to control deep infections that often push borderline limbs over the edge to amputation.
For primary care providers, endocrinologists, podiatrists, and hospital teams across Oklahoma, Flex Medical Group is a referral partner focused on limb preservation first. For patients and families, it is a place where “amputation” is no longer the automatic next step, but a last resort after every evidence-based limb salvage option has been explored.
By combining cutting-edge technology with a multi-specialty, patient-centered approach, Flex Medical Group is helping Oklahoma turn sobering amputation statistics into stories of preserved limbs, preserved mobility, and preserved lives.
Peripheral artery disease (PAD) and diabetes are at the heart of Oklahoma’s amputation crisis. International and U.S. data show that around 20% of people living with diabetes have PAD, and some American cohorts report PAD in roughly one in three adults with diabetes – several times higher than in the general population. This silent loss of circulation to the legs is one of the leading causes of non-traumatic lower-extremity amputation. PAD, often combined with diabetes, contributes to more than half of all amputations and is a factor in roughly 400 amputations every day in the United States.
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Research led by Oklahoma vascular surgeon Kelly Kempe, MD, highlights just how urgent the situation is in our state. Her analysis of Oklahoma discharge data showed that between 2008 and 2019, the statewide rate of diabetesand PAD-related amputations nearly doubled. Among hospitalized Oklahomans with diabetes and/or PAD, the overall amputation rate was about 12 per 1,000 discharges, climbing from 8.1 to 16.2 per 1,000 during that period. These numbers translate into thousands of neighbors, parents, and grandparents losing limbs – and often, their mobility and livelihood – to conditions that are largely preventable with organized limb-preservation care.
Flex Medical Group was built specifically to change that trajectory. The center brings together five dedicated wound care physicians (MDs and DOs), three infectious disease specialists, and two vascular surgeons who collaborate daily on complex limb salvage cases. Rather than sending patients from clinic to clinic, Flex offers a true one-stop model: advanced vascular imaging and intervention, comprehensive wound care, aggressive infection management, and long-term prevention plans are coordinated in a single location.
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On Veterans Day, Morada Midwest City Assisted Living residents, team members, families, and friends were deeply honored to welcome the Carl Albert High School Junior ROTC for a heartfelt Missing Soldiers Ceremony. The cadets presented a beautifully moving tribute honoring not only the brave veterans who call our community home, but also the soldiers who are still missing from past and present conflicts.
Through precise ceremony, symbolic gestures, and moments of quiet reflection, the cadets created an atmosphere of reverence and gratitude that touched everyone present. Our veterans were invited to take part in the ceremony, making the experience especially meaningful as they were recognized for their service, sacrifice, and dedication to our country. It was an unforgettable day that left our community with a renewed sense of appreciation and reflection
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The Pet Food Pantry stands as a quiet beacon of compassion in our community, where the gentle rustle of kibble bags meets the grateful smiles of families who can finally breathe a little easier. Each month, volunteers turn a simple drive into a lifeline, delivering hope along with pet food to doorsteps that might otherwise feel forgotten. Their dedication keeps both human and animal hearts full and weaves a tapestry of support. Yet, this heartfelt mission now hangs in the balance, waiting for a few caring hands to step in and keep the wheels of kindness turning.
Candace Beatty, Executive Director of the Pet Food Pantry (PFP), recently expressed a major concern that could significantly affect the clients they serve: a severe shortage of volunteer drivers. This shortage is heavily burdening PFP’s capacity to deliver crucial pet food directly to their clients’ homes.
This logistical challenge, Ms. Beatty warns, directly threatens the health and well-being of both the human clients and their animal companions. PFP has observed a troubling pattern where pet owners facing financial hardship often prioritize their beloved animals, choosing to go without
By LaShanya Nash
Long before the star shone over Bethlehem, before the angels sang to shepherds, something quiet and wonderful was already waiting to be noticed. On the back of donkeys is a simple mark: a dark line down the spine crossed by another across the shoulders. Farmers call it the “donkey’s cross.” But for those of us who love the old stories, it is something far more tender—a love note written by God at the very dawn of creation.
When the Lord shaped the animals on the sixth day, He did not make them all alike. The peacock received jewels for feathers, the lion a roar that thunders across the plains, the eagle wings to kiss the sun. And the little donkey?
When the Lord shaped the animals on the sixth day, He did not make them all alike. The peacock received jewels for feathers, the lion a roar that thunders across the plains, the eagle wings to kiss the sun. And the little donkey? He was given strong legs for carrying heavy loads, long ears that listen well, and a coat the color of desert dust—except for one place. There, across his back, the hand of God drew a cross in darker hair, as if to say, “One day, this humble creature will carry the Hope of the world.”
Centuries slipped by, Prophets spoke of a coming King who would not ride a warhorse but a donkey. Zechariah saw it in a vision:
“Rejoice greatly, O daughter of Zion! Shout, O daughter of Jerusalem! Behold, your King is coming to you; He is just and having salvation, Lowly and riding on a donkey” (Zechariah 9:9).
Centuries slipped by, Prophets spoke of a coming King who would not ride a warhorse but a donkey. Zechariah saw it in a vision: He was given strong legs for carrying heavy loads, long ears that listen well, and a coat the color of desert dust—except for one place. There, across his back, the hand of God drew a cross in darker hair, as if to say, “One day, this humble creature will carry the Hope of the world.”
Rejoice greatly, O daughter of Zion! Shout, O daughter of Jerusalem! Behold, your King is coming to you; He is just and having salvation, Lowly and riding on a donkey” (Zechariah 9:9).
The Lord kept His promise on what we now call Palm Sunday, when Jesus rode into Jerusalem while crowds waved palm branches and cried “Hosanna!” But the donkey’s part in the Christmas story is even earlier and quieter.
In the little town of Nazareth, a young woman named Mary was with child. Soon, she and Joseph would travel the long road to Bethlehem because Caesar Augustus had ordered a census. The journey was nearly ninety miles—hard for anyone, harder still for a woman heavy with child. Step by step, mile by mile, he carried the young mother and, within her, the Son of God. The King of kings entered the city of David not on a golden chariot, but on the back of the animal God had marked from the beginning. The mark on his back feels like God’s signature: “Here is the kind of creature I choose for my greatest work—lowly, gentle, willing.”
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In the little town of Nazareth, a young woman named Mary was with child. Soon, she and Joseph would travel the long road to Bethlehem because Caesar Augustus had ordered a census. The journey was nearly ninety miles—hard for anyone, harder still for a woman heavy with child. Step by step, mile by mile, he carried the young mother and, within her, the Son of God. The King of kings entered the city of David not on a golden chariot, but on the back of the animal God had marked from the beginning. The mark on his back feels like God’s signature: “Here is the kind of creature I choose for my greatest work —lowly, gentle, willing.”
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This Christmas, when the trees are bright and carols fill the air, pause and remember the little donkey waiting outside the stable. He carried Mary safely to the place of Jesus’s birth. Then, when the holy family fled to Egypt to escape Herod’s sword, another donkey (or perhaps the same faithful one) carried them again—from Bethlehem to Egypt and back to Nazareth, the cross on his back pointed forward to the greater Cross that would one day stand on Golgotha.
May we take comfort in knowing that the God who planned Christmas before the foundation of the world has also planned a place for us. He still chooses the humble, the patient, the ones who simply keep walking forward in trust. And on the back of every burden we carry, if we look with eyes of faith, we may yet see His cross reminding us that the road that looks ordinary is the very one that leads to Bethlehem, and from Bethlehem to eternal glory and everlasting life.
This Christmas, may the donkey’s quiet mark whisper the ancient promise: “For unto us a Child is born, unto us a Son is given… and His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, The Mighty God, The Everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace” (Isaiah 9:6).
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If you’ve been following Caregiver Corner for the past few issues, you know about my journey with a rare sarcoma in the upper back of my right thigh. Anytime you hear the “C” word, it’s frightening—because even though many people survive cancer, many do not. The treatment itself can be overwhelming, involving multiple specialists, procedures, and decisions. When is good news not always so good?
Because my tumor was large, my surgeon told me after three weeks of radiation that he wouldn’t know what the surgery site would look like until he got inside. I might need wound care or plastic surgery—words that sounded terrifying. After surgery, though, I didn’t need either. Even with a seven-inch incision, he was able to close it completely. Good news.
Then the pathology report showed 99 percent of the tumor was destroyed by radiation—more good news. And my margins were clear—the best news. I was deeply grateful.
But recovery hasn’t been a straight path. Six days after surgery, I came down with the worst stomach bug I’d had in twenty years. My immune system was weak,
and my stomach struggled to recover. Then I found a lump under my arm—a clogged sebaceous gland that had to be removed. I became anemic and tired easily. Just as I started to feel brighter, insomnia hit. I began driving short distances with a pillow for pain, and even that made me anxious. The thought of returning to work felt overwhelming.
People often ask how I’m doing. Honestly, I’m not sure. It feels like I’m trying to pick up the pieces and move forward, rather than return to what life was before cancer. I feel better—but I still face physical challenges. I’m exploring physical therapy and gentle exercise to rebuild strength. When insomnia creeps in, it’s usually anxiety hiding beneath the surface. Counseling is helping me navigate that.
Sometimes my voice grows hoarse, and I wonder, Is this reflux—or something worse? A fellow survivor once told me, “You’ll see every new symptom as cancer.” That’s true. I often have to talk myself down from what I call the cancer ledge.
As I move out of survival mode, I’m learning how to live again—and that’s harder than I imagined. The emotional and physical toll doesn’t vanish when treatment ends.
Recently, one of our pastors asked me, “What do you need from us as a church?” I didn’t have an answer. I think I’ve stepped out of the dark tunnel of treatment, but now I’m standing in a hallway, waiting to see which door opens next. I’m not yet well enough to travel or return to work fully. Maybe for now, it’s enough to take small steps—to keep moving forward, even if I don’t yet know exactly where I’m going.
Because healing, I’m learning, is not a return to who we were—it’s the slow, uncertain process of becoming someone new.
If you’re in that hallway too—done with treatment but unsure what comes next—know that it’s okay to take your time. Healing isn’t about getting back to who you were; it’s about discovering who you’re becoming. Be gentle with yourself. Each small step counts.
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The holidays can feel like a whirlwind, but they culminate in a celebration more than just a date on the calendar—it's a feeling. As the air turns crisp and the scent of cedar fills our homes, we are reminded of the golden memories of Christmases past and the promise of new ones yet to be made.
Remember when "Black Friday" was a singular, post-Thanksgiving event, a mad dash for deals that signaled the official start of the Christmas shopping season? Holidays, like everything else, have changed, but the essence remains: this holiday season is a time for reflection, gratitude, and gathering with loved ones.
Christmas, a holy day celebrating the birth of Jesus, brings with it a unique blend of joy and remembrance. For many, this season is when the "ghosts of Christmas past" visit our hearts and minds. We recall the laughter of grandparents, the guiding presence of parents who have passed, and the simple magic of childhood moments. These memories can bring warmth and comfort, though sometimes, the absence of loved ones can cast a shadow of sadness or depression during a time when everyone else seems to be in good spirits. Memories are powerful.
By Larry Stein
Imagine Christmas Eve at Home. For us, Mom Made Christmas! For a throng of friends and family, it was Auntie Ann’s house where she had been baking special treats for several days—even weeks. While Mom made Christmas, Grumps (her husband, George) lit up with the Holiday Spirit, tolerated the mini-humans, and celebrated with the German Telefunken stereo, spinning classic carols by Crosby, Sinatra, Lanza, Williams, and Cole. “Friends-likefamily" filled every corner of the modest house. Despite Grumps, their house was a place of comfort and belonging that transcended DNA.
Aunt June’s contribution was always her famous shrimp dip with enough cholesterol to require a note from your cardiologist today, but no one cared back then. The walls hummed with decades of laughter, the air thick with the aroma of English sausage rolls and wedding cookies, leaving a dusting of powdered sugar on fingertips.
Later, everyone bundled up and stepped outside beneath the enormous Oklahoma sky filled with stars so bright they seemed close enough to touch. Everyone’s breath puffed in the cold air as the children wished for more snow.
Thoughts of many trailed to past holidays celebrated at military posts across the globe, separated by duty but united in spirit.
Unity of spirit is the true gift of the season, along with the simple reminder to be thankful for all things. The Bible urges this in 1 Thessalonians 5:18, “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you,” and Philippians 4:4 echoes, “Rejoice in the Lord always; again, I will say, rejoice.”
While "give thanks" is the easy part, understanding "in all things" can be a challenge. Yet, as Christmas arrives, we know the New Year is close, and with it, the promise of spring. These holidays are fleeting, which makes them all the more precious. As we rejoice and give thanks, we embrace the knowledge that the best is yet to come.
We are ready to squeeze these holidays dry, creating wonderful new memories while remembering to be than for the moments that have shaped us. It’s a “Merry Thanks Christmas New Year!”
by MJ Reporters
Neil Johnson and Shelley Stutchman
Christmas lights change ordinary nights into enchan ted wonderlands. Whether you walk through a light display or drive through t unnels of synchronized color, these displays evoke wonder across generations. Tre at yourself to one of the many Christmas light displays. The holiday spirit b ecomes irresistible amid such luminous celebration. ‘Tis the season to be jolly. Fa, la, la, la, la, la, la.
Chickasha Festival of Lights: Chickasha, OK: Shannon Park: Nov. 20-Dec. 31st
The Chickasha Festival of Light has dazzled visitors and earned its place among the nation's best Christmas light displays. Shannon Springs Park turns into a twinkling wonderland of more than 3.5 million lights. Wander beneath sparkling arches, walk past reflections on the lake, or drive through at your own pace, all for free. Chickasha is home to a replica of A Christmas Story’s famous house, available for overnight stays. Nearby, a towering 50-foot leg lamp pays glowing tribute to Ralphie’s unforgettable adventure. It's small-town charm wrapped in Christmas magic.
The Downs Family Christmas Lights: Norman, OK: 2900 72nd Ave SE Nov. 27 - Dec 31st
For nearly two decades, the Downs Family has transformed their Norman home into one of Oklahoma’s most spectacular private Christmas displays. More than 280,000 synchronized lights, including two towering 70-foot trees, dance in harmony to cheerful holiday music broadcast on 99.9 FM. Each twinkling light is a heartfelt “thank you” to the Lord for the gift of Christmas and a wa y to share joy with the community. What began as a family project has grown into a beloved local tradition, even earning national recognition on ABC’s The Great Christmas Light Fight. Visitors can drive in for free, tune their radios, and watch the 45-minute show from their cars.
Luminance An Enchanted Stroll: Edmond, OK: Mitch Park: Nov.21st -Jan. 1st
Step into a world, for free, where light comes to life. Luminance, Oklahoma’s only 3D holiday walk-through display, transforms Mitch Park into a glowing path of color and creativity.
Along the ADA-accessible trails, more than 30 luminous installations shimmer beneath the night sky. Stroll the quartermile path at your own pace and let the glow surround you. Though no cars are allowed, the experience is an easy walk, where every step feels like walking through a dream of Christmas lights.
Christmas in the Park: Yukon, OK: Chisholm Trail Park: Nov. 22nd-Jan. 1st
No cost to enter. Step into a holiday wonderland wi th over 5 million lights and 500 holiday displays. Walk or drive through the illuminated paths, snap photos at selfi e stations, and hop aboard the Santa Express Train fo r an enchanting ride around the park (small fee applies) .
Midwest City Holiday Lights Spectacular:
Midwest City, OK: J.B. Barnes Regional Park: Dec. 2nd-Dec. 28th
A holiday favorite since 1995, this one-mile drive through Joe B. Barnes Regional Park shines with over one mi llion lights. See the 118-foot Christmas tree ablaze with 9,000 LEDs, cruise through the twinkling tunnel of lights , and enjoy whimsical scenes like Santa fly-fishing and e lves in
Guthrie Territorial Christmas 2025: Guthrie, OK: Downtown: Dec. 1st – 24th
Guthrie earns its title as the Christmas Capital of Oklahoma because each year, the town transforms into a nostalgic winter wonderland. Historic buildings twinkle with lights, and carolers, dressed in old-fashioned costumes, fill the streets with traditional Christmas songs. Walk the cobblestone streets, sip some hot cocoa, and browse artisan booths for one-of-akind gifts. Tell Santa what you want for Christmas, enjoy carriage rides, and feel the spirit of old-fashioned holiday cheer.
Crystal Christmas: Woodward OK: Crystal Beach Park: Nov. 15th -Dec. 31st
Experience the beauty of the season at Woodward’s Crystal Beach Park, with over two million twinkling lights. Enjoy free admission to this glittering winter wonderland featuring train and wagon rides, live music, and food trucks. Meet Santa Claus, join in festive family nights on Fridays and Saturdays, and don’t miss the free horse-drawn carriage rides hosted by 1000 Hills Ranch Church each Saturday from 6–8 p.m.
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A true story that ignites the soul.
Reviewed by Medicare Jet-Setter Shelley Stutchman
The most inspirational films are those rooted in truth, stories of ordinary people who face unimaginable challenges and rise to extraordinary heights. Soul on Fire is one such film. It tells the remarkable story of John O’Leary, a nine-year-old boy whose innocent curiosity with matches led to a devastating house fire that burned 99% of his body. Doctors gave John O’Leary a one percent chance of survival. John’s love for baseball and his admiration for sportscaster Jack Buck became a lifeline. Buck’s compassion is moving, illustrating how the kindness of one person can change another’s destiny.
At the same time, the faith of John’s family grounds the story in love. I remained deeply moved throughout the story. The film does not shy away from the brutal reality of burn recovery, the endless cleaning, the pain, the delicate line between life and infection. In those scenes, we witness small acts of grace: a custodian keeping the room sterile, a nurse pushing John to endure one more painful step. Every role, no matter how humble, becomes part of the miracle. O’Leary’s journey from near-death to becoming a renowned inspirational speaker is nothing short of extraordinary. See Soul on Fire, it’s more than a movie; it’s a wake-up call to live with purpose. You get one life. Make yours matter.
Well Preserve p $1,200 00 check on October 1st, 2025, to the 4th quarter Well Preserved Pay Back Saturday recipient, Beautiful Day Foundation. Well Preserved with Eunice Khoury airs every Saturday from 9 - 11 am on Newsradio 1000 KTOK.
Beautiful Day began with a heartfelt mission to celebrate children, affirming that “The day you were born was a BEAUTIFUL DAY.” What started as monthly birthday parties in elementary schools—complete with balloons, cards, and volunteers personally telling kids they are seen and loved—has grown into something far greater.
Just one year after launching the children’s program, Beautiful Day’s founders felt called to extend that same message of worth and belonging to another deeply hurting group: widows. Thus, Kindred Community was born a dedicated ministry for women who have lost their husbands.
Every month, Kindred Community hosts warm, thoughtfully planned dinners where widows are invited to simply show up. Beautiful Day volunteers handle every detail, removing every barrier so these women can focus on connection. Around the table, they meet kindred spirits other widows who truly understand the unique ache of this loss.
Grief shared is grief lightened. Isolation begins to lift when women realize they are not alone. Laughter returns. New friendships form. And slowly, surely, hope rekindles.
Kindred Community exists to remind every widow that her community sees her, values her, and believes with her that Beautiful Days still lie ahead. Because no one should carry the weight of widowhood in silence.
A special thank you to the sponsors of Well Preserved with Eunice Khoury, who help make Pay Back Saturday possible every quarter. Well Preserved is taking applications. Nominate your favorite Nonprofit that focuses on helping seniors in Oklahoma. Visit the Well Preserved site at: www.wellpreserved.info/contact-8
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Written by LaShanya Nash
During the holidays, families who are geographically separated will gather together to visit loved ones. It’s no coincidence that calls to assisted living communities and other senior housing options increase right after the holidays. Seeing a loved one start to have difficulty with daily activities can be unsettling, but noticing the warning signs early allows you to step in before safety becomes a crisis. Here is a detailed look at the twelve most common red flags that might indicate it’s time to seek additional support or rethink living arrangements.
1. Unexplained weight loss or gain – Sudden changes often mean meals are being skipped, cooking has become too difficult, boredom is causing extra snacking, mobility issues have decreased activity levels, or it’s a sign of an undiagnosed illness.
2. Poor personal hygiene or neglected appearance— uncombed hair, body odor, wearing the same clothes repeatedly, or stained garments suggests that bathing, laundry, and grooming have become overwhelming.
3. Spoiled food in the refrigerator or expired meds –Rotten items, multiple open containers of the same product, or a fridge full of take-out indicate problems with grocery shopping, meal planning, and discarding old supplies.
4. Unopened mail, unpaid bills, or financial scams –Piles of mail, overdue notices, or unexpected large “donations” can signal cognitive decline or trouble managing finances.
5. Burn marks – Scorch marks on pots, pans, or an oven left on are significant fire hazards and classic signs of memory issues.
6. Frequent bruises, cuts, or new falls – Unexplained bruises (especially on arms, legs, or torso) or reports of “I must have bumped into something” often indicate balance issues or unreported falls.
7. Decline in housekeeping standards – Dust buildup, clutter that wasn’t there before, pet hair everywhere, dirty dishes piling up, or overflowing trash indicate chores have become too challenging to manage alone.
8. Medication mismanagement— Incorrectly filled pill boxes, missed doses, running out of medications early, or hoarding old prescriptions are warning signs of safety and health concerns.
9. Driving issues— New dents or scrapes on the car, getting lost in familiar areas, traffic tickets, or near-misses reported by others suggest it may be time to reassess driving.
10. Social withdrawal and isolation— Stopping favorite activities, missing religious services or club meetings, making fewer phone calls, or appearing lonely during visits—can indicate depression or cognitive changes.
11. Confusion about day/time or repeated questions – Not knowing the date, asking the same question multiple times, or trouble following simple instructions are classic signs of cognitive decline.
12. Mood or personality changes— Such as increased irritability, paranoia (“someone is stealing from me”), apathy, or unusual anxiety—especially if new—should be taken seriously.
What to Do Next
Pick the top 3 red flags you see most often. Talk to your loved one (or a trusted family member) about what you’ve noticed—use “I’m worried because…” instead of “You need help.”
Create a simple plan:
- Set a date to review medications together or schedule a doctor visit.
- Arrange a home-safety walk-through (look for tripping hazards, burn marks, etc.).
- Contact experts in the area of care needed and ask questions.
If you notice several of these signs, it’s a clear signal to start planning for extra help. Recognizing these warning signs early allows you to take thoughtful, compassionate steps that maintain your loved one’s dignity while ensuring their safety.
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The following story is an account of a Nativity play presented on Dec. 19, 1965, by children of the First Presbyterian Church in Norman, Oklahoma. It originally appeared in The Norman Transcript on Dec. 20, 1965, and was first reprinted on Dec. 16, 1966. It has since been reprinted in newspapers all across the country. As publisher of Caregiver Magazine, it is my true honor and privilege to rekindle this local favorite. Thank you, Robbie Lamberson, for bringing this warm literary tradition to these pages in December of 2019 our first Christmas issue, and thank you to the Norman Transcript for keeping it alive for so many years. We here at Caregiver Magazine are wishing you all a very, Merry Christmas!
A preschool version of the Christmas Story, complete with more than a few last minute improvisations, unfolded before a delighted audience at the First Presbyterian Church Sunday night.
The pageant of the Nativity, presented by members of the Cherub and Chapel choirs, in general had proceeded well at dress rehearsal. Mary, Joseph, the shepherds, wise men and other 4 and 5-year-olds in the cast had run more or less smoothly through their assigned parts. The Chapel Choir and a narrator provided the background, and
except for minor entanglements with flowing robes and headdresses, few problems were encountered. Then the Big Night arrived.
The first hint of trouble came even before the formal action opened when one of the younger members of the Cherub Choir, a boy of about 2, took a fancy to the doll representing the infant Jesus lying in the manger. Clambering on stage he made a beeline for the crib and was diverted from his goal only by the action of an alert father.
The innkeeper, exhibiting a lively proprietary interest in the stable, practiced leaping about the freshly strewn hay until the arrival of Mary and Joseph, whom he escorted proudly to seats beside the crib. The shepherds and white-robed angels arrived soon after. And it was then that the young Cherub, perhaps encouraged by his part as one of the children come to adore the Christ child, decided on another try for the object of his affections in the manger.
He squeezed his way through the crowd, grabbed the doll and lifted it from the crib. Mary, reacting like any mother, made a lunge for the swaddling clothes, and a tug of war ensued above the manger.
Joseph, stunned for a moment, gallantly came to Mary’s aid with a swing at the intruder. And the innkeeper, proving not a bad sort after all, picked up a handful of hay and threw it at the would be abductor.
The arrival of the harried father, towering some three feet above the rest of the cast, restored peace momentarily.
But it was the hay, omitted during dress rehearsal, that caused the eventual downfall. Piled liberally about the tiled floor, it proved a lumpy and slippery footing. One of the shepherds, head bowed above the manger, suddenly went down. He scrambled up and immediately plopped down again.
The third time he fell he grabbed the innkeeper; the innkeeper bumped an angel and half the cast toppled like a row of dominoes.
But the hay proved a soft cushion — fun to dive into, in fact. Soon the shepherd and innkeeper were competing in swan dives into the straw. A wise man scuffled with an angel whose gilded wings had slipped considerably below their proper place.
The Cherub, once more eluding his father, tried unsuccessfully to wrest a crook away from one of the shepherds.
The narrator and choir, unfazed by the commotion, continued like troupers to the end; the cast was enticed offstage and peace once more returned to the somewhat disarranged stable.
One spectator, his voice still trembling with laughter, was heard to remark as he left the church,“I’m glad I read the Book, ’cause they sure changed the plot!”
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The holidays are a time for celebration, connection, and generosity—but unfortunately, they’re also a peak season for scammers to take advantage of busy schedules and kind hearts. Each year, thousands of Americans fall victim to fraud between November and January, losing money, personal information, and peace of mind. The good news? A little awareness goes a long way toward keeping you and your loved ones safe.
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By Sgt. Tara Hardin
Oklahoma County Sheriff’s Office
Here are some of the most common holiday scams and straightforward steps you can take to protect yourself this season.
With so many packages arriving in December, scammers send fake emails or texts claiming there’s a problem with a delivery. These messages often include links that install malware or ask for personal information.
Don’t click links in unexpected messages – instead, go directly to the retailer’s website or app to check your order status
Delete and report these text messages &/or emails
Criminals often target gift cards and compromise the information on them before you ever load funds onto the gift card, and thereby steal your money electronically as soon as you put funds onto the card.
Only buy gift cards in-store from protected displays such as behind the counter or at customer service –never from the gift card wall displays
Order gift cards online from the retailer’s website Remember: If someone demands a gift card for payment, it’s a scam.
Fraudulent charities often pop up during the giving season, using emotional stories or urgent language to push people into donating.
Research charities at Charitywatch.org or CharityNavigator.org before giving anything.
Be cautious of pressure to “donate right now” - Real charities understand you may want time to think.
Never give banking or credit card information to unsolicited callers; instead, go directly to the charity’s official website and donate there.
Too-good-to-be-true deals or unfamiliar online stores may steal your money or send counterfeit goods. Remember ads are links and can potentially take you to a false website or install malware on your device.
Stick to reputable retailers and secure websites (look for “https”)
Avoid deals that seem far below normal prices and “free-trial” offers
Always use a credit card over a debit—t hey offer better fraud protection
Scammers may pretend to be a grandchild in trouble, a bank, a delivery service, or even a government agency.
Hang up and call back using a verified number from a statement, back of card, etc
Never share your login and password, account numbers, Social Security numbers, or holiday travel plans with unknown callers – even if you THINK you know them. Remember the golden rule: slow down & verify— scammers rely on panic and urgency.
The holidays should bring joy, not stress. By staying alert and taking a few simple precautions, you can keep your celebrations scam-free. Share these tips with friends and family—especially older adults—so everyone can enjoy a safe and happy season.
By Larry Stein, Oklahoma County Assessor
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A huge 34 percent income limit increase in six years - to $99,000 total household income for Oklahoma County residents to be eligible for the Senior Assessment Freeze for 2026. This is great news for homeowners to limit their property tax obligation. The Federal Housing and Urban Development (HUD) median income levels are adjusted every year, and inflation is helping these annual increases. If you are 65 years of age and older with a total household income of less than $99,000, you are eligible for an Assessment Freeze on the ‘fair cash value’ of your home.
Because bond elections for cities, towns, and schools can increase bonded indebtedness, this limits—but does not freeze property taxes.
This new income limit of $99,000 is an increase of more than 10 percent from last year’s total income of $89,500 and an even bigger increase over the last 6 years. If you already enjoy the Senior Freeze on your property, there is NO NEED TO REAPPLY.
The total income amounts vary by county, and only Alfalfa County has a higher income level set at $99,900. Most of the counties in Central Oklahoma, Canadian, Cleveland, Logan, McClain, and Oklahoma County have the income level set at $99,000.
To enjoy these property tax savings, you must have a Homestead Exemption, and the property deed must be in your name or a trust you control. While the Senior
Freeze is forever if you earn less than $99,000, the Homestead Exemption limits “assessment increases” to 3% a year if and when your home’s value increases.
If you don’t have a Homestead Exemption already, applications are taken every year between January 1 and March 15. There is NO COST to file for a Homestead Exemption, and you can perform the task online or call the office, and we can send the forms you need.
This year alone, ALL Oklahoma homeowners and businesses are saving more than $1.6 BILLION in lower property taxes because of the Homestead Exemption, 3-and-5 percent limits on assessments, Additional Homestead Exemptions, and the total elimination of property taxes for 100% Disabled Military Veterans.
While the legislature may make decisions about future property assessment limitations, it’s important to remember the current plans available are saving Oklahoma County residents more than $400 million in lower property taxes EVERY YEAR.
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(Recipe from The Spruce Eats)
Yield: about 42 cookies
INGREDIENTS
2 cups all-purpose flour
4 ounces (1/2 cup/1 stick) cold butter
1 cup vanilla ice cream (slightly softened)
Fruit or sweet cheese filling of choice (favorite jams work well)
Confectioners’ sugar
INSTRUCTIONS
1.In a large bowl, cut butter into flour as for pie dough until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Cut ice cream into small chunks and add to flour mixture. Cut in with a pastry blender until ice cream absorbs flour and dough binds together.
2.Knead dough in bowl 5 to 8 strokes or until smooth. Divide dough into 2 equal-size pieces. Wrap in plastic and refrigerate for several hours.
3.When ready to bake, heat oven to 400°. Roll out one piece of dough on a lightly floured surface to ¼” thickness. Cut with a floured 2½” plain or fluted round cookie cutter.
4.Place cookies on ungreased baking sheets, spacing about 1” apart. Spoon a level teaspoonful of filling onto the center of each cookie. Repeat with remaining dough and filling.
5.Bake 12-15 minutes or until cookies are golden. Remove from baking sheets and place on wire racks to cool completely. Store in an airtight container. When ready to serve, dust with confectioner’s sugar.
(Recipe from Cooking The Globe)
Yield: about 20 cookies
INGREDIENTS
For the cookies
½ cup sugar
6 tablespoons unsalted butter at room temperature
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
1 teaspoon lemon zest, grated
3 large eggs
2 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
For the icing
1/2 tablespoon unsalted butter
1½ cups sifted powdered sugar
1 tablespoon water
1 tablespoon lemon juice colored sprinkles (optional)
INSTRUCTIONS
THE ICING. Melt the butter over low heat. Add the sugar, lemon juice, and water. Whisk until the sugar melts. If icing is too thick, add some more water.
THE COOKIES: Preheat oven to 350°. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Set aside.
1.In a large bowl, beat together the sugar, vanilla, lemon zest, and butter with an electric mixer until well blended. Beat in eggs, one at a time. After adding all the eggs, beat for 1 minute more. Stir in baking powder and flour and blend just until mixed. Cover the dough and refrigerate for about 1 hour. The dough will be sticky, so we chill it to make it easier to handle.
2.To form the knots, roll pieces of the dough into logs about 5” long. Take one side and spiral the log into a circle. Repeat until all the dough is used. Bake for 15-17 minutes or until light golden brown.
3.Remove cookies from the oven and let them cool. Brush the icing over the cookies. If using, top with colored sprinkles. Let the cookies to dry for about an hour. Store in an airtight container. Enjoy!
(Recipe from Isabel Eats)
Yield: about 28 cookies
INGREDIENTS
½ cup unsalted butter, softened (about 1 stick)
1 cup dark brown sugar, packed
2 large eggs
¾ cup unsulfured molasses
¼ cup milk
1½ teaspoons vanilla extract
5 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons ground ginger
1½ teaspoons baking soda
1½ teaspoons ground cinnamon
INSTRUCTION
1.Preheat the oven to 350°F. Line cookie sheets with parchment paper and set aside.
2.In the bowl of a stand mixer, cream butter until smooth. Add the dark brown sugar and mix until well combined. Add in one egg, molasses, milk and vanilla extract. Mix together until smooth.
3.In a separate large bowl, add the flour, ground ginger, baking soda and cinnamon. Mix together to combine. Add the dry ingredients into the wet ingredients 1 cup at a time and mix until well combined. The dough should cleanly pull away from the mixing bowl.
4.Transfer the dough onto a lightly floured surface and roll out to ⅜” thickness (or a little less than ½”). Use a pig-shaped cookie cutter to cut into pigs. (For reference, look at the Big Pig Cookie Cutter on Amazon.) Place pigs 1½” inches apart on the prepared baking sheets.
5.Whisk the remaining egg in a small bowl. Brush the beaten egg over the tops of the pigs using a pastry brush. Bake for 10-12 minutes until the edges are lightly browned.
(Recipe from The View From Great Island)
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INGREDIENTS
For the cookies
⅓ cup almond flour
2¼ cups all-purpose flour
½ teaspoon baking soda
⅔ cup sugar
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
½ teaspoon ground cardamom
¼ teaspoon ground cloves
½ teaspoon ground ginger
1 large egg
1⅓ sticks unsalted butter at room temperature (about 11 tablespoons)
For the royal icing
2 egg whites (or you can use dried egg whites mixed with water according to the package)
2-3 cups confectioner’s sugar (add it in slowly, just enough so you get a spreadable consistency. Add more sugar for a stiffer icing. decorations, if desired Instructions Set oven to 350°.
INSTRUCTION
1.Cream the butter and sugar together until fluffy. Beat in the egg. Add the dry ingredients and mix well.
2.Turn the dough out onto a board and bring together into one piece; if it’s crumbly, knead it a bit. Cut the dough in two and form flat discs, as if for pie dough. Wrap in plastic wrap and refrigerate for at least an hour.
3. Roll out the dough to your desired thickness and cut your cookies. If you spray the inside of your cutters with cooking spray, they will release the dough more easily. Place the cut out cookies on a baking sheet lined with a Silpat mat or parchment.
4.Bake the cookies for about 10 minutes, depending on thickness, and cool on a rack. They won’t brown, and will firm up as they cool.
5.Frost with royal icing and add decorative sugars, etc., if you’d like.
6.To make the frosting, beat the egg whites until soft peaks form. Add in the sugar, and beat well, until you get stiff peaks.
7. Transfer to a baggie with the edge clipped, or a pastry bag. Or, you can just spoon the icing over the cookies for total coverage like I did. If the icing seems too thick, thin with a little warm water. Add in food coloring if you like.
By Danna Szymanski Oklahoma County Master Gardener
The coming of winter is truly beguiling. Have you heard and felt the calm stillness of this season? Nature seems to whisper the same invitation year after year: rest, renew, restore.
As the days shorten, even the earth’s spin seems to slow. The birds quiet their bustle. The urgent, throbbing growth of the trees is suspended as leaves loosen and tumble from their branches. Even before a leaf drops, a signal of rest is already in the air, gently imploring us to follow. Do we heed the call like the oak tree, steadying our growth and sending our energy deeper into our roots, away from the coming frost? Do we allow ourselves a deep rest so we can embrace all we are and all we have more gracefully?
If we can follow the prompts of nature, we can sit still and breathe. We can put off the push to grow. We can delay the urge to “do it all.” We can allow ourselves the same simple rest that even the sparrow allows himself.
Winter is one of the kindest gifts we give our gardens, even if it doesn’t look that way at first glance. Everything can seem bare and a little lonely: branches stripped of leaves, flower beds reduced to stubble, pots emptied and stacked away. But underneath all that quiet, meaningful work is going on.
For many plants and trees, cold weather is not the enemy; it’s the signal. Short days and low temperatures tell them, “It’s time to rest.” This rest period—what gardeners call dormancy—is like a deep, healing sleep. The tree looks
“dead,” but inside, it’s quietly repairing, storing energy, and getting ready to push out new growth in spring. Fruit trees, lilacs, peonies, and many favorite perennials actually need a certain number of “chill hours” to bloom properly. Without enough true winter—without that stretch of cool, consistent rest—their flowers may be fewer, smaller, or late. It’s a bit like children: if they don’t get a good night’s sleep, the next day simply isn’t their best.
Winter also slows the spread of pests and diseases. Insects, fungi, and other troublemakers are held in check by the cold, giving plants a break from constant nibbling, chewing, and infection. Some harmful bugs don’t survive a hard freeze at all, which is nature’s way of balancing the garden. The bare branches of winter help us, too. We can finally see the structure of our trees and shrubs, making it easier to prune dead or crossing branches and shape them for healthier growth. The garden in winter is like a simple pencil sketch—no color to distract us, just the clear lines of what is strong and what needs help.
And what about us—especially as we grow older? This same winter wisdom belongs to our bodies and hearts. This slowdown can hold us in a deeper, steadying rhythm. Even the pulsing wind seems to soften, and our minds can find a quieter place. Like a flower bulb holding its spring energy far beneath the crispy chill, we can be a living storage of strength and experience. We preserve the memories and wisdom we have gained. We protect ourselves, gently, from the constant demands of others.
Winter reminds us that stepping back is not giving up; it is preparation. An older body at rest in a favorite chair is not finished, any more than a bare tree is finished. It is simply in a season of repair and quiet gathering. All that calm gray and brown—outside in the garden and inside our own lives—is the pause before another season of color.
So when winter comes, we can take it as permission. Permission to slow down, to say “not today” to what drains us, and “yes” to what restores us. Permission to root deeply, rest fully, and trust that new growth will come in its own time.
Holiday shopping was an experience! Mom made sure every gift was perfectly wrapped and adorned with ribbons and bows.
Holiday parties were lively and festive, filled with food, merriment, and lots of cheer...
centerpiece of the home, glowing merry and bright, dripping with tinsel to welcome friends, family, and of course, Santa Claus! Kitchens were busy baking cookies and making Christmas candies!
You would run to the tree on Christmas morning with wide-eyed anticipation, hoping what you’d asked Santa for in your letter was actually under the tree!
