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Hello Friends,
I hope this issue finds you well. As we reflect on the past few months, I’m grateful for the opportunity to connect with many of you at our Better With Age FunDays and other community events. Your stories and feedback continue to inspire us, and we’re thrilled to know that our magazine and FunDays are positively impacting your lives. Our mission to provide encouragement, vital information, and resources to seniors and families on a caregiving journey remains at the heart of everything we do.
As autumn arrives in Oklahoma, I’m reminded of the beauty and significance of the changing seasons. Each season brings a chance for growth, reflection, and renewal. With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I encourage you to slow down and cherish the true spirit of the holiday. It’s a time to come together with loved ones, honor traditions, and find joy in the simple creation of memories that make life rich and meaningful.
For those who may be facing their first Thanksgiving without a loved one, my heart goes out to you. Losing someone is never easy, and the holidays can be especially tough. My advice? Allow yourself to feel the emotions, but don’t get stuck in the sadness. Remember the laughter, love, and happy moments shared with your loved one – those memories are precious. Grief can be a winding path, full of twists and turns, but it’s also a testament to the depth of your love, and it’s okay to feel its weight.
This issue is dedicated in honor of Veterans Day to all American veterans, service members, and military families who sacrifice so much to safeguard our freedom and way of life. May the Lord protect our troops as they deploy overseas, comfort their loved ones, and inspire nations embroiled in conflict to seek His wise counsel and pursue peace.
As we reflect on what is truly important to us and what we are thankful for, may we cherish the little things that bring us comfort and joy. I wish God’s peace and love upon you and your family.
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Brigadier General Paul Costilow is a soldier, a pilot, a leader, a scholar, a mentor, a role model, a husband, the father of three sons, and a grandpa to two granddaughters. He has never met a stranger and is known for his “off-the-wall” humor. Brigadier General Paul Costilow is a man who leads by example. Whether in his professional or personal life, those who served with him, those under his command, and those who worked with him in the civilian arena know he is an honorable man of his word.
Brigadier General Paul Costilow is known as Pete, a nickname given as a child. Raised in Lawton, Oklahoma, he was 21 years old when he and Irene(20) got married. He graduated from Oklahoma University in 1968 with a degree in Business Administration. He was in ROTC all four years of college and was commissioned in the U. S. Army Field Artillery as a Second Lieutenant at graduation ceremonies. He became a licensed pilot through the ROTC while in college. After graduation, he attended Helicopter flight training at Fort Wolters, Texas. In January 1970, he completed training on Chinook Helicopters at Fort Rucker, Alabama, and deployed
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to Vietnam as an Aviation Platoon Leader with the 243rd Aviation Company. His combat career involved flying to rescue personnel and dropping much-needed supplies to ground troops. Gen. Pete shared, “The Army doesn’t track each flight as a mission, but rather in the number of hours flown. While in Vietnam, it was a rare day that I didn’t fly— most of those flights involved ground-to-air fire intent on bringing us down. When you fly over 2000 combat hours, you will take fire. The more bullets coming at me, the closer I got to God.”
Stationed at Fort Sill, Oklahoma, from 1971-74. During his career, Costilow has served as Airfield Commander, Aviation Commander, State Aviation Officer in the Army, and Assistant Adjutant General for Oklahoma Army National Guard, assuming duty in May 2001. He oversaw training, administration, logistics, and personnel actions for the Army National Guard and advised the Adjutant General on matters concerning the more than 7300 citizen soldiers.
In 1992 Gen. Pete earned his Masters in Natural and Applied Science from Oklahoma State University. An avid historian and an advocate of lifelong learning, he was honored to be chosen to attend the 1996 Army War College, ten months of intense, advanced curriculum in strategies and knowledge of the global application of Landpower. The War College emphasizes developing military and civilian leadership with the ability to apply history, practices, communication, and theory to complex strategic issues. As worldwide leaders, they engaged in discourse on the role of ground forces in national security. The War College was a high point in his military career.
Gen. Pete married his high school sweetheart, Irene, in 1967. In 1969, Irene and Pete welcomed their eldest son, David; in 1973, the family welcomed twins, Kelly and Kevin, who were born with special needs. In 1974, the Costilows made the difficult decision to leave the military to provide them with more family stability and consistent medical care for the twins. Irene was their primary caregiver, medical liaison, and advocate. Gen. Pete resigned from the Army and became an air traffic controller with the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA), relocating to Amarillo, Texas. One year later, a career transfer to the Will Rogers Air Traffic Control Tower/TRACON brought them home to Oklahoma. Later, he became the assistant air traffic manager, giving the Costilows more healthcare options and educational opportunities for Kelly and Kevin.
Being a pilot and not flying feels like punishment for some terrible crime. It is an innate part of their physiological makeup. Not flying catalyzed the following significant change in his professional life as he joined the U.S. Army
National Guard. Allowing him to fly, serve his country, and continue his military career while working in air traffic control.
We honor our military families and thank them for their service. Acknowledgment of the sacrifices and shifting dynamics of the family unit is critical. It is difficult, at best, seemingly impossible, at times, to maintain a stable family life. Much of the responsibility for the family’s daily life rests on the spouse’s shoulders. Daily decisions regarding the care of the family are made primarily by the homebound spouse. Home and car repairs; minor or major medical emergencies; parent/ teacher conferences; setting boundaries and disciplining the children; household chores, meal planning; washing dishes; laundry; errands; grocery shopping; every detail of life is made virtually alone; this weighs heavily on both the military personnel and the spouses.
For the Costilows, raising two children with special needs affected the entire family. Irene became an active, outspoken advocate for children with special needs. In 2009, Irene Costilow was named Oklahoma Mother of the Year by the Oklahoma Association of American Mothers, inc., a national organization that strives to strengthen families through education and service. Irene
was selected for her exemplary service to her family and community. She has dedicated her life to promoting advocacy for families with special needs children. She is often called on as an inspirational speaker and has been a featured author in many books.
A dash of daredevil is a prerequisite for pilots. The adrenaline rush and that feeling of freedom seem to go hand-in-hand. General Pete has owned a couple of Harley-Davidson motorcycles and two fixedwing planes. Now, Irene does not strike one as a woman who loves motorcycles. However, she has accompanied the General on more than one cross-country trip on the back of his Harley. Irene said, “He challenges me to get out of my comfort zone. It has been an adventure.” In 2001, they joined thousands of motorcyclists headed to Washington D.C., becoming part of history as they traveled across the U.S. to participate in the Memorial Day Parade as part of Rolling Thunder, then on to the Vietnam Veterans Memorial. Visiting veterans in hospitals, shaking hands or exchanging bear hugs with fellow veterans, and hearing someone say “Thank you for your service” were all life-changing experiences filled with incredible memories and friendships that will last a lifetime.
Brigadier General Paul Costilow is the recipient of the Bronze Star, Air Medal (with Bronze Numeral #16), Army Commendation Medal, Army Reserve Component Achievement Medal (with Silver Oak Leaf Cluster), National Defense Service Medal (with Bronze Service
Star), Vietnam Service Medal (with three Bronze Service Stars), Humanitarian Service Medal, Armed Forces Reserve Medal (with Silver Hourglass), Army Service Ribbon, Republic of Vietnam Campaign Medal (with 60 Device), Republic of Vietnam Gallantry Cross Unit Citation (with Palm Device).
When asked what he considered his greatest professional achievement, the General replied, “I was blessed to serve my country, and I realized “freedom is not free.” I was honored to lead many fine soldiers in combat and peacetime and have made life-long friendships.” He added, “On a personal level, I somehow managed to stay married to my high school sweetheart for 57 years! Although, my humor often lands me in trouble with my wife. God blessed us with three outstanding boys. I credit my whole life’s accomplishments to God, my Lord and Savior, my loving wife, and my family.” As a side note, the General served as an elder for more than 20 years at his home church and served on multiple committees or task forces working to better our state and the lives of Veterans.
As those who know the General have come to expect, he is humble and deflects personal credit. His impact on soldiers under his command is not superficial. Albert Einstein once said, “Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” Mission accomplished, General Pete.
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Janet Winingham Monkres' journey is a testament to dedication, compassion, and leadership. Raised in a small Texas town, Janet was instilled with strong family and community values through her Baptist church upbringing.
She earned a degree in Architecture from the University of North Texas and began her career in corporate management, designing stores, graphics, advertising, and marketing. However, as CEO of Habitat for Humanity of Wichita County, Texas, Janet shifted her focus to serving others.
Janet held executive director positions in the senior living industry at Holiday Retirement, Atria Senior Living, and Sagora Senior Living. At Holiday Retirement, she achieved 100% occupancy in six months and earned flagship community status.
As Executive Director, Sales and Marketing Director, and Business Office Manager at Morada Lake Hefner, Janet has increased occupancy from 72% to 97% since joining six months ago.
Janet delivers Meals on Wheels to seniors, serves on local boards, and is a member of the Eastern Star of Texas and the Daughters of the Republic. Her daughters, Gabrielle and Alexandra, are her greatest joy; Gabrielle attends medical school at Baylor University, while Alexandra starts law school in the fall.
Janet's remarkable journey inspires, demonstrating the impact one person can have through leadership, compassion, and service. Her story showcases the power of following one's passion and making a meaningful difference.
Our names may be new but the unwavering commitment to providing exceptional personalized care services for seniors in our local Oklahoma City area remains firmly intact.
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The staff of CAREGIVER Magazine is committed to connecting those in need with services and programs. If you have a question or you are looking for services, call 405-314-7840 or email l.sydnor@betterwithageok.com; include your name and phone number in the message. We can help you find resources such as 211; NewView Oklahoma; Will Rogers Senior Center; a home health care agency; a place to live, fraud prevention, etc.
I don’t know about everyone else, but I dread Medicare Annual Enrollment. I contact my insurance broker, get as much information as possible, hope that I understood everything, and trust that my decisions will be correct. That is, I will have all the available coverage, I won’t need more, and my out-of-pocket expenses will be minimal. It is confusing, to say the least.
We are fortunate in Oklahoma to have an agency staffed by knowledgeable professionals who strive to educate as many beneficiaries as possible. They listen and guide the beneficiaries in decisions that will make life easier and ensure appropriate coverage. Ray Walker is the Director of the Medicare Assistance Program for the Oklahoma Insurance Department (OID). Mr. Walker is our go-to person for all things Medicare. Walker urges all Medicare beneficiaries to review their current coverage to identify any changes they might want to make for the coming year. Well-meaning friends may recommend their particular insurance option or prescription drug plan because “it’s the best.” But what may be the best for them may not suit you. Everyone is unique and has different needs. The counselors at the Medicare Assistance Program at OID can assist you in navigating these decisions. You can also take advantage of the many licensed agents
and brokers around Oklahoma. When going through one of these insurance professionals, it’s always a good idea to find a reputable local person rather than someone who may be licensed in Oklahoma but is in another state. When there’s an issue with your coverage, having someone local who can go to bat for you is always nice. Also, you should never enroll in a product or give your information to someone who cold calls you on the phone. The person with whom you are speaking may not even be an insurance agent but someone who wants your personal information to be used to commit fraud.
Oklahoma’s new “Birthday Rule” allows individuals on Medicare supplemental insurance plans, also called Medigaps, to take advantage of this opportunity. The rule allows those Medigap beneficiaries sixty days, starting on their birthdate each year, to purchase any Medicare supplement policy of equal or lesser benefits without going through underwriting. This is a great opportunity to save significant money on your monthly Medicare supplement premiums.
When asked what is new for 2025, Walker said, “We don’t have many details yet for the Open Enrollment Program. OID was informed that the maximum Part D deductible will go up to $590 (up from $545). This applies whether you get
drug coverage through a Part D prescription drug plan or a Medicare Advantage plan. This is the maximum deductible. Some plans may have a lower deductible.
The Inflation Reduction Act of 2022 includes several provisions to lower prescription drug costs for Medicare recipients and reduce federal government drug spending. The changes require drug manufacturers to pay a more significant share of the cost for Part D enrollees with high drug costs. A change for 2025 will be a $2000 cap on
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out-of-pocket prescription costs for beneficiaries and eliminating the coverage gap. I know $2000 sounds high, but you would be surprised by the number of Medicare beneficiaries who hit that amount in the first few months.
Starting in January 2025, the first expense the beneficiary will have to meet is their deductible, which, for our example, we’ll say is the maximum of $590. Once they have met that deductible, their drug plan will kick in, paying approximately 75% of the cost of covered drugs. The remaining 25% is the beneficiaries’ share. The copay for many prescriptions is significantly less because of the drug’s actual cost. Once the combined deductible amount plus the beneficiary’s copayments reaches $2,000, the beneficiary will pay nothing for their Part D covered prescriptions for the rest of the year.
For beneficiaries who will meet that $2,000 maximum very early, it might be beneficial to take advantage of the Medicare Prescription Payment Plan, also known as MP3, which allows them to spread the higher initial costs over the year. Beneficiaries interested in learning more about this new program can call and speak with one of our counselors. Call 800-763-2828 (only serves 405, 580, or 918 area codes) or 405-521-2828. OID staff are there to help you make informed decisions about your Medicare benefits.
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I recently listened to an audiobook by Mel Robins called The High Five Life. She woke up one morning, looked at herself in the mirror, and said, “You look terrible. You have so much to do, and you are failing.” She was beating herself up and feeling discouraged. She was one of the most sought-after motivational speakers of her time, but at that moment, she felt unmotivated. She put her hand up in almost a salute and gave herself a high five in the mirror. She began to do that day after day. Then, she began to feel energized and focused on everything she was getting right.
I am listening to this book for the second time. I can relate to seeing only my struggles and beating myself up. I want to see that sixty-year-old accomplished self in the mirror for many days. It got me thinking about how challenging caregiving is.
Recently, a woman said, “My children put me in this facility, and I can’t afford it. I want to go home. My sister is going to help pay for home care.” Therefore, she moved home.
I called the son about her medication. He said, “My mom thinks she is going to die, and she wants to be at home. I do not exactly know what medication she should take, and I don’t want to be responsible for the wrong medication and cause harm to my mother.”
I could hear the fear in his voice, and I reassured him that the state was not looking over his shoulder as he tried to assist his mother. I said, “What I would do is get an appointment with her cardiologist and find out what heart and blood pressure medicine she should be taking. Then, I would fill her medication so that she is taking the correct medication.”
The son was still working and felt overwhelmed by the task of simultaneously managing his and his mother’s needs. He was trying his best.
In the past twelve years, I have seen families try their best to care for their loved ones. Despite the best care, their family still falls, gets sick, or their heart deterioriates. As humans, we then feel that we have failed at caring for this vulnerable person who is our responsibility. Yet, how many years did our loved ones live their best lives because we took care of them?
I have a client who has been housebound for twenty years. He tells his children all the time. “You guys take good care of me and allow me to continue to live here.”
His children replied, “Dad, you took such great care of us; this is an honor.”
Their Dad still struggles with bedsores and bladder infections and periodically has to go to the hospital. At times, he has been very sick. Yet he knows his children are providing the best care possible for him.
I do not think I can quite channel the inner Mel Robins, but she said that research shows that high-fiving yourself in the mirror daily changes the neurology in your brain because you are celebrating your hard work and accomplishments. It is not positive thinking that the hard times will disappear, but amid the difficulty, you have stepped up to love your family.
I have a small heart on my mirror to remind myself to high-five myself every day when I first get up or brush my teeth. I remind myself of what I accomplished the day before. For me, I have had mental health challenges my whole life, yet it has also led me to become a nurse. It has filled me with compassion. There are days I wish I did not struggle with anxiety. Yet, I am learning to high-five myself for putting myself out there even when anxiety threatens to overwhelm me. I continue to put forth the practices that help me manage my anxiety— prayer and meditation, exercise, proper diet, good sleep, thankfulness, and medication. I used to be frustrated when the anxiety came. Now I realize it comes, and then it does go away.
What are you doing today that if you saw a friend do it, you would give them a high five? If you’re down or discouraged, write it down. Celebrate what you do get accomplished, not the things that you miss. If you get a chance, I recommend reading or listening to Mel Robins’s book The High Five Life. I am pretty sure that, as a caregiver, you are doing so much better than you think, even though you do not always get everything done. I know that everyone in this field salutes you as the caregiver for your love and dedication.
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Meet Staff Sergeant Markeisha Boykins, a dedicated Airman in the Oklahoma Air National Guard’s 137th Special Operations Wing (SOW). SSgt Boykins is proud to serve under Colonel Shelley Dreyer, Commander of the 137th SOW, who is the first woman to hold the position. The duties for this deployment are Personnel Support for Contingency Operations (PERSCO) and total accountability for the entire base.
SSgt Boykins is deploying to Jordan, where she’ll serve in a critical role. Due to operational security, all other details of her deployment remain classified. SSgt Boykin joined the Oklahoma Air National Guard (OANG) to enhance her leadership skills and pursue educational opportunities through advanced training. She applies these skills in her daily life to benefit herself and her family. As she prepares for her first deployment,
SSgt Boykins reflects on the invaluable skills and experience she’s gained through her military service.
In her civilian life, SSgt Boykins plays a vital role as the Business Office Manager at the Oklahoma Senior Living Association (OKSLA), where she plans, organizes, and executes critical tasks with precision.
Melissa Holland, Executive Director of OKSLA, shared, “As a wife of a retired National Guard soldier, I understand the sacrifices that soldiers and their family make. I also know their monthly and yearly obligations and the potential of being “called up” for active duty. When Markeisha Boykins applied to be our Business Office Manager, I was honored to be able to hire a soldier! Markeisha has been an outstanding employee. Her OKSLA family will be keeping her in our thoughts and prayers while she is deployed. We will also help her family while she is away. Her two daughters are like my family. I love them to pieces and will ensure I continue to spoil them while their mother is serving our country. We look forward to Markeisha’s safe return and having her back in the office at OKSLA.”
LaShanya Nash, publisher of CAREGIVER Magazine and a member of the OKSLA Board, praises SSgt Boykins: “Markeisha, she has become like another daughter to me. I’ve grown quite fond of her. She is a
devoted, loving mother to her girls. I admire her integrity, good-natured personality, and work ethic. She has excelled in indepth leadership training courses and quickly learned about the Senior Living and Healthcare industries OKSLA serves. She has been an integral member of the OKSLA office staff. Her military training and administrative and organizational acumen have been a valued asset. As a part of our CAREGIVER Magazine extended work family, she has participated in our Better With Age FunDays and monthly professional networking events. Her warm smile and kindness are genuine. She’s a joy to be around. I am
very proud of her. May God bless SSgt Boykins and keep her safe throughout her deployment.”
Markeisha’s passion for serving our country is matched only by her dedication to her family and community.
The OANG and its supportive community bring an added layer of joy and meaning to Markeisha’s life.
Markeisha and Latraye Peteet co-parent their daughters, Paityn(7) and Paisley(5). SSgt Boykins has a strong support system between Latraye and her mother, Sharonda Moch. This will be critical as the girls are very close to their mom, and although she has been
away for various training sessions, she has never been away for six months. This will be difficult for everyone. Despite thorough preparation, Markeisha anticipates a challenging adjustment period as she deploys. She is thankful for Latraye’s support and commitment to their daughters; knowing her mom is there for Latraye and the girls is a significant comfort.
Speaking with Markeisha, it’s clear that her military service is more than a duty – it’s a calling. Her eyes light up with emotion as she talks about her fellow wingmen, whom she regards with deepest respect and admiration. For those outside the military, the depth of this bond can be difficult to grasp. But for Markeisha and her fellow service members, their shared experiences and reliance on one another forge unbreakable ties – a sense of family that transcends traditional boundaries.
As we bid farewell to SSgt Boykins, we express our deepest gratitude for her service. Your sacrifice and dedication inspire us all. We’ll keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. Be safe, be strong, and know you’ll be deeply missed.
Thank you, SSgt Markeisha Boykins, for your selfless service. We look forward to welcoming you back home in six months.
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Caregiving isn't just a "job"; it’s a fulfilling opportunity. The nature of the work allows me to develop closer bonds with clients than I would in most situations. With caregiving, my work makes a tangible difference in someone's life and builds bonds, learning new skills such as empathy, compassion, sharing faith, & giving back. Caregiving helps me foster a deeper gratitude by reminding me that every day is an opportunity for kindness, compassion, and love. Whether it's caregiving for a loved one or helping someone in need, caregiving can remind us to be more grateful and appreciative of the world around us.
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Being in Home Health Care allows me to see clients in the comfort of their own homes. I get to see many different beautiful personalities, enjoy their companionship, and support them in living their best lives. I had a personal experience with my mother and dementia, and I know the difference our connections make in our clients' lives. It is extremely fulfilling!
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Neil Johnson and Shelley Stutchman
I met Shelley Stuchman for breakfast on a February morning in 2022. We both wrote for CAREGIVER Magazine but had never met. We lingered over our meal for nearly two hours, talking and laughing about everything. On the way out, I stopped at a table and asked if one of the gentlemen would take a picture of us. Graciously, one of them agreed. It is a reminder of how it was “before” - before cancer. Life and health are fragile and sacred, not to be taken for granted. Less than a week later, Shelley told me she had been diagnosed with breast cancer. I was stunned. Shelley’s diagnosis shattered her life.
Shelley is a survivor, a fighter. In the time it took to say, “Shelley, you have breast cancer.”, instantly, her life changed. In paralyzing fear and crippling sadness, she had decisions to make, and there was no time to sit and wallow in sorrow and self-pity. Shelley looked to her fiance, Neil Johnson, for strength. They decided to go forward with wedding plans and to “live” every minute of their lives. That is a testament to their love and faith.
Shelley is a survivor - a breast cancer survivor, yesbut more than that, she is a proponent of living life to its fullest. Surviving is one thing, but celebrating and genuinely living is entirely different. It forces a shift in priorities, an immediate change in how you view your world. Shelley shared, “When you are diagnosed with cancer, there are so many immediate decisions to make, treatment decisions, when and where to get treatment. You don’t know anything about anything. Everything is a gamble. You are gambling with your life, and although you are in control of your decisions, you question yourself: are they the right decisions? The medical professionals offered me choices and recommendations, but it all comes down to a choice you make with no real knowledge of the outcome. A gamble. I can’t emphasize enough the importance of an annual checkup.”
Shelley is a retired nurse and former community liaison for home health and hospice with invaluable medical experience. Her passion for research led her to become a test subject for Moderna’s COVID-19 vaccine. Shelley has left an indelible mark in the healthcare field. She has owned a mental health program for low-income women, founded a support group for women over forty, and received recognition from the governor for her work with Workforce Oklahoma. She has emerged as a dedicated patient advocate.
Her accomplishments as a renowned, award-winning author and speaker further recognize Shelley’s expertise. She is a featured writer for CAREGIVER Magazine. Today, she shares her stories through various platforms, including creating daily videos on TikTok and being a Facebook Digital Creator. Shelley’s commitment to spreading awareness about breast cancer is unwavering.
Her book, filled with inspiring quotes and supportive guidance, uplifts and motivates. Shelley helps readers find solace when grappling with doubts and despair.
Venture into the unique chapter “Man to Man,” penned by Shelley’s husband, offering a rare male perspective on battling breast cancer alongside a loved one.
When she’s not writing or advocating, Shelley enjoys simple pleasures—like watching hummingbirds on her front porch, dining at locally owned restaurants, and traveling with her husband Neil Johnson, aka Cameraman.
If you or someone you know has ever received a breast cancer diagnosis, you understand how overwhelming and scary it can be. In “PEEK-A-BOOB,” the author, Shelley Stutchman, offers a helping hand to those navigating the arduous journey from diagnosis to survivorship. Drawing from personal experience and thorough research, this book provides a roadmap through the maze of treatment protocols and medical jargon while also providing comfort and inspiration. “PEEK-A-BOOB” is a companion, guide, and testament to the resilience of the human spirit. It’s the book the author wishes she had when she heard her doctor say, “You have breast cancer.”
PEEK-A-BOOB is available through Amazon at amazon.com/author/pab1. For additional information, contact Shelley at 580-603-1372 or email her at Medicarejetsetters@gmail.com.
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I’m one of those people who rarely cry during movies. I was unprepared for the emotional journey that Reagan took me on. This film is much more than a political drama. Reagan is a tale of American patriotism, love, determination, and the devastating effects of Alzheimer’s disease.
Dennis Quaid’s portrayal of President Reagan was impeccable, and his delivery of the line, “We hire our president to do the job we elect him to do,” resonated with me long after the movie ended. The wise advice given to Reagan by one of his advisors, “Do what you do best. Tell them the truth,” left me wishing more politicians would adhere to this principle. Reagan is a must-see for every American, serving as a powerful reminder of the values and virtues that make our country great. God bless America and this incredible film.
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Whether you’re a family member, friend, or simply someone interested in understanding a veteran’s experience, knowing how to respectfully and appropriately approach conversations about a veteran’s military service is crucial. This article will explore how to approach veterans thoughtfully and respectfully when asking about their military history.
When approaching a veteran, I would suggest beginning with gratitude. Before diving into any conversation about military experiences, it is important to communicate an outlook of gratitude for their service. Veterans typically have made sacrifices, often at great personal cost, to serve their country, and acknowledging that can lay the groundwork for a positive interaction.
You don’t need to make it an elaborate speech—just a simple, heartfelt “Appreciate your service” can be enough. Something along these lines acknowledges the significance of their commitment and shows that you respect their background, which can make them more comfortable sharing their experiences.
Military veterans hold a unique place in American society and certainly here in Oklahoma. They have served their country, often in challenging and life-altering circumstances, and many carry with them stories of bravery, camaraderie, and resilience.
Make sure you respect certain boundaries. While many veterans are open to talking about their time in the military, others may prefer not to revisit specific memories, especially if those memories involve trauma or loss. It is essential to understand that military experiences can be deeply personal, and some veterans might find
it difficult or painful to discuss certain aspects of their service. For many veterans, you must earn the right to ask them about their military service. Keep in mind that some experiences were so intense the veteran carries the memory very close to their heart. For these reasons, always approach the subject with sensitivity and a willingness to carefully respect boundaries.
Do not ask questions such as, “Well, how many people did you kill?” or “What was the worst thing that happened to you?”
Instead, focus on questions that encourage positive reflection, such as “What were the most interesting experiences in the military?” or “What were some of the things you learned during your time in the military?” These types of inquiries allow the veteran to talk about the aspects of their service that they find meaningful without feeling like they are being interrogated or pushed to talk about, sometimes, terrible experiences. Sometimes, a veteran might be more willing to share more details with you after building trust and establishing a rapport. Be patient and allow the conversation to unfold naturally over time.
Try to avoid making assumptions or judgments about a veteran’s military background, even if what they share is pretty far outside of your personal understanding. Many military experiences are very different from what a civilian would ever experience.
While not every aspect of military life may have been positive, veterans often find strength in their ability to overcome adversity, grow as individuals, and are proud of their military service. Ask questions that focus on these types of details. I would suggest asking, “So, how did your military service shape who you are today?” or “What skills did you learn in the military that you still use in your life?”
Focusing on their growth and resilience allows veterans to reflect on the positive aspects of their time in the military and share stories that highlight their strengths. This can lead to a better, more meaningful conversation for both you and the veteran.
For many veterans, one of the most cherished aspects of their service is the camaraderie they shared with fellow service members. The bonds formed in the military, especially during a deployment, can be incredibly strong, and these relationships often hold deep emotional significance. Asking about their relationships with other service members can be a way to approach the conversation from a positive angle.
Not every conversation about military service needs to be accomplished in one sitting. In fact, some veterans
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may prefer to share their stories gradually, over multiple conversations, as they feel more comfortable and trust builds. Again, you may have to earn the right to hear their story. Leave the door open for future discussions by communicating your interest in spending time with them as well as willingness to listen whenever they want to talk. Always, thank them for the conversation because appreciation tends to go a long way.
In conclusion, appropriately approaching an Oklahoma veteran about their military service requires situational awareness and respect. As we approach Veterans Day this year, keep in mind that every veteran’s story is unique and that different people have different ways of processing their time in the military. By starting with a sense of gratitude, respecting certain obvious boundaries, and allowing the veteran the freedom to share what they want to share, you may earn the opportunity to hear about something from an Oklahoma warrior that is truly amazing.
Joel Kintsel is the former Executive Director of the Oklahoma Department of Veterans Affairs (ODVA) and a leader in the Oklahoma veterans community. He is a veteran of Operation Iraqi Freedom (OIF) and continues his service as a Judge Advocate in the Oklahoma Air National Guard. As a licensed attorney in Oklahoma, Joel is a dedicated advocate for veterans and senior citizens, championing their rights and addressing their legal needs. He can be reached
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Tbsp Extra-Virgin Olive Oil (EVOO)
3 Garlic Cloves, thinly sliced
1 Leek, trimmed, split lengthwise into quarters, cleaned well, and thinly sliced crosswise
1 1/2 lbs. Turnips
1 lb Russet Potatoes, peeled
6 cups Water
1 1/2 tsp Thyme, chopped
1 1/2 tsp Rosemary, chopped
1 Bay Leaf
1/4 tsp Dried Chili Flakes
Salt Pepper
1. Heat EVOO in a large pot over low heat.
2.Add garlic, and cook slowly for ~1 minute. Add the leek, and cook until soft and fragrant but not browned, ~6 minutes.
3.Add the turnips and potatoes. Cook everything for another 10 minutes.
4.Add 6 cups water, thyme, rosemary, bay leaf, chili flakes, and 2 tsp of salt to the pot.
5.Bring to a simmer and cook until the potatoes are falling apart and the turnips are very tender ~25 minutes.
6.Season generously with black pepper to taste.
7.To make it chunky, crush it with a wooden spoon or a potato masher. To make it smooth, add it to a blender or use an immersion blender. Add water to thin it.
1 1/2 cup Greek Yogurt
1 small Garlic Clove, minced
1/2 tsp Lemon Zest, finely grated
~2 lbs. Winter Squash (one kind or a mix)
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2 Tbsp Slightly Sweet White Wine Vinegar
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1/4 cup Walnuts, lightly toasted
1 cup Fresh Parsley Leaves
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2 Garlic Cloves, minced
1/2 tsp Dried Oregano
1/4 tsp Red Pepper Flakes
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2. In a bowl, combine yogurt, garlic, lemon zest, and 1/4 tsp salt
3. Trim off the top and bottom of the squash, then peel away the skin. Remove seeds and fibers, then cut into 1/2-inch slices.
3. In a large bowl, toss the squash in EVOO with salt and pepper, .
4. Evenly spread out on a baking sheet. Roast until tender and browned, ~20-40 minutes. Once roasted, let the squash cool slightly.
5. Arrange squash slices on a platter, top with yogurt, drizzle with vinegar, and spoon the green sauce over the squash. Top it off with toasted walnuts.
6. Serve warm or at room temperature
1. Combine all ingredients in a blender or food processor. Process until all ingredients are coarsely chopped, scraping down the sides.
2. Season with salt and pepper as needed.
Note — Sauce can be refrigerated for up to 3 days.
What happens when you need assistance with household chores and have limited financial resources? As we age, maintaining independence can become increasingly challenging. Most individuals want to maintain their independence as long as possible. There are services available to help people age in place.
The Oklahoma Department of Human Services offers options for seniors and adults with disabilities to longterm care facilities through the Advantage program. This program helps them stay independent and close to family and friends. It does so by offering individual choice and self-directed options.
Services include case management, personal care, skilled nursing, home-delivered meals, specialized medical equipment and supplies, prescription medications, home modifications, assisted living, adult day health, hospice, remote support, and assistive technology. You must apply and financially qualify for Soonercare Medicaid, meet the medical Level of
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Care (LOC) criteria, and be at least 65 years old or with disabilities, 19-64 years old without cognitive impairment. To apply, complete the online form or call Medicaid services at 800-435-4711.
A little-known OKDHS service option, Consumer Directed Personal Services and Supports (CDPASS), is bridging the gap for those with specialized needs who want to direct their services. Timothy Rossi, Programs Assistant Administrator, Community Living, Aging and Protective Services, Oklahoma Human Services, explained the service option, “CDPASS is a great service option available to ADvantage Members who need personal assistance services. CDPASS allows members greater freedom and autonomy in their care. CDPASS Members are the employer – meaning they choose who provides their services and when and how those services are provided. It can benefit a Member’s quality of life for the better.” For more information on the CDPASS service option, contact your case manager or local OKDHS office.
Mr. Rossi shared a testimonial from a client. Gina is a fan of the services ADvantage provides, but her favorite service option is CDPASS. Gina has muscular dystrophy and has used a powered wheelchair for the last twenty years. She requires assistance getting into and out of bed—assistance her husband, who has a work-related disability, cannot provide. “Tony makes all our meals and takes care of our home, but since he got hurt, he can’t help me shower or get into bed at night,” Gina said.
Because Gina needs support every day of the week, in the mornings and at night, becoming a CDPASS employer works better for her than using a home health agency. “Agencies have a lot of restrictions on them, and it was
hard for me to find someone who could provide the morning and evening schedule I needed. Enrolling in CDPASS gave me the flexibility I needed to find an employee who could provide the services at a time most convenient to fit my needs,” Gina said.
The Areawide Aging Agency (AAA) is a significant referral source for senior services. Areawide Aging Agency in Oklahoma City serves Canadian, Cleveland, Logan, and Oklahoma counties. Anyone over the age of 60 qualifies for services. A fantastic resource available through AAA is the Survival Kit for Seniors. You can get a copy or access online at areawideaging.org. This directory is published for older adults and their families. Areawide Aging Agency does not charge for the Survival Kit but gladly accepts donations for printing and mailing.
The Older Americans Act of 1965 funds a broad system of services and support for millions of older adults. These services enable seniors to remain in their homes, aging in place and maintaining their independence. AAA provides homemaker assistance, which includes light housekeeping tasks in the homes of eligible older adults. These tasks may involve meal preparation, shopping for personal items, or using the phone. If you need homemaker assistance, you can apply by contacting AAA and completing the assessment interview process. The interview assessment is reviewed and approved or denied. Your eligibility is determined from your responses to the interview questions.
The services approved are provided free of charge. Currently, AAA has providers in Oklahoma, Logan, and Cleveland counties. All three counties have a “wait” list. At this time, Canadian county does not have a provider. Contact AAA for more information at 405-942-8500 or
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83,000 men and women who shaped America’s fight for freedom. These records hold treasures beyond mere dates and names – they contain personal letters, diaries, family trees, and vivid accounts of soldiers’ lives. By transcribing these documents, you’ll uncover the human side of history, revealing struggles, triumphs, and sacrifices made by ordinary people who became extraordinary heroes.
Consider the story of Prudence Wright (17401824), an American colonial woman who played a significant role in the American Revolution. She is often referred to as the “First Woman Minute Man.” On April 19, 1775, Prudence’s husband, David Wright, a minute man, was fighting at the Battles of Lexington and Concord.
As we prepare to celebrate the 250th anniversary of American independence in 2026, seniors have a unique opportunity to contribute significantly to the celebration. The National Archives and National Park Service have launched a groundbreaking project to transcribe Revolutionary War pension files, and your skills are crucial to its success.
Since recorded history began, elders have been the guardians of history, preserving family stories and traditions. Your expertise in reading and writing cursive handwriting is needed to unlock the secrets hidden within these historical documents. Older Americans can decipher the intricate script that tells the rest of the story of Revolutionary War soldiers. You can help honor their sacrifice and preserve their legacy.
The Revolutionary War Pension Files Transcription Mission aims to uncover the experiences of over
“After the departure of Col. William Prescott’s regiment of ‘minute men,’ Mrs. David Wright of Pepperell, Mrs. Job Shattuck of Groton, and the neighboring women(approximately 40), collected at what is now Jewett’s bridge, over the Nashua, between Pepperell and Groton, clothed in their absent husbands’ apparel, and armed with muskets, pitchforks, and such other weapons as they could find, and having elected Mrs. Wright their commander, resolutely determined, that no foe to freedom, foreign or domestic, should pass that bridge. For rumors were rife, that the regulars were approaching, and frightful stories of slaughter flew rapidly from place to place and from house to house. Soon there appeared one on horseback, supposed to be treasonably engaged in conveying intelligence to the enemy. By the implicit command of Sergeant Wright, he is immediately arrested, unhorsed, searched, and the treasonable correspondence found concealed in his boots. He was detained prisoner and sent to Oliver Prescott, Esq., of Groton, and his despatches were sent to the Committee of Safety.”
Wright’s pension file reveals that her husband, David Wright, was a soldier who died in 1783, leaving her with five children. Prudence applied for a pension and received $96 per year.
Transcription excerpt: “She the said Prudence Wright did render important service to the United States by carrying intelligence to the Militia of Pepperell & other towns of the approach of the British troops in the year 1775.”
We hope you will join our local effort to preserve American history! We’re gathering a team of Oklahoma seniors and business professionals to decipher and transcribe Revolutionary War pension files. This unique collaboration will combine the strengths of both groups.
Many business professionals have already generously volunteered to provide technical support, ensuring seamless data entry and online submission. Now, it’s your turn to utilize your valuable skills. Together, let’s uncover the untold stories of America’s founding heroes. Your participation will ensure their legacies live on, inspiring future generations to cherish our nation’s history. Send your contact information to info@betterwithageok.com for updates we’ll share this winter.
Join the mission. Preserve the past. Inspire the future.
October is Cybersecurity Awareness Month, and while you may initially think you don’t need to worry about cybersecurity, I would encourage you to reconsider that as our world operates in the cyber realm for everything from medical records to court records to simple transactions such as buying groceries. Cybersecurity (and the lack thereof) affects us all!
Strong passwords, multi-factor authentication, upto-date antivirus software, and not clicking on links are the top ways to protect yourself (and, ultimately, the people you interact with).
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least 12 characters, a mix of upper & lower-case letters, numbers, and symbols, and a different password for each account. I know that last one sounds overwhelming, but if you focus on changing the passwords to your financial accounts first, you will have a good start. You can store these passwords in an encrypted password manager or use an old-fashioned address book and a pencil. Whatever you do, do not store your passwords on the notes or another document on your device, and never share them with anyone through text or email. Not reusing passwords is imperative, and I cannot overstate this enough. Please change your passwords.
Most financial accounts offer multi-factor authentication (MFA). If yours do, take advantage of it and use it. However, remember that this second (multi) factor becomes part of your login, and you should never share it with someone. Fraudsters pose as your bank sometimes to get you to share the code—don’t do it, as this is as good as sharing your password.
Install antivirus software; it should be on ALL your devices – remember, your phone is a device. Apple users did not need this as much in the past, but that is no longer the case with the malware being installed today. The rule of thumb regarding this software is “You get what you pay for.” While your device may come with some free software, it simply is not enough. One warning, however, is never to let your software company take control of your device remotely to “fix a problem” unless YOU CONTACT THEM. Pop-ups
claiming your device is infected are just a scam and were the top scam for 2023.
And lastly, if you have ever heard me speak, then you have listened to me say don’t click on links! Unless you have requested the link or you know and verified the sender who sent the link, do not click on it…not in an email, a text, or social media…don’t click on links! And don’t forget, unsubscribe is a link, as are advertisements. When you click on a link, you know where you want it to take you, but you don’t know where it actually takes you – it’s too dangerous and how a lot of the malware (including keystroke recorders) get installed on your device.
Cybersecurity isn’t just something we can leave to big businesses anymore. Hacking and data breaches have become the way of the world, and the price of falling victim can be too high to leave it in the hands of someone else. Follow these tips to help protect yourself and those you interact with for business, as well as friends and family.
Continue to educate yourself and be willing to change how you conduct business to protect yourself. I welcome you to participate in a free 1-hour class that I teach covering a different crime prevention topic each
month. You can attend in person at 20 locations throughout the OKC metro area or online. Please call 405-713-1086 or email me at tara. hardin@Oklahomacounty.org for information about places and times. You can register for the online class or view past classes at metrotech.edu/crimeprevention.
Our Quick Response Team defines a care model you won’t find with any other hospice. It’s comprised of five shifts of ON STAFF nurses and aides, not on call, in addition to our regular 9 to 5 daytime shift. That’s how Crossroads can go above and beyond to meet our patients’ needs, whether it’s 2 AM on a weekday or any time during weekends or holidays.
If a patient displays a noticeable decline, we increase our care to include multiple daily visits to closely monitor the patient’s condition.
When we identify that a patient’s passing is imminent, we exhaust every effort to stay by their side. Crossroads’ staff share this responsibility to ensure we are there when the patient and family need us most. This is why Crossroads significantly exceeds the national average for Attended Deaths.
We offer a special program to honor our Veteran patients who have served in the United States armed forces. Veterans receive a Certificate of Appreciation during a pinning ceremony that acknowledges their service.
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Qualified Oklahoma veterans can get total exemption from property taxes. More than $18 million will be saved in property taxes this year by 5,710 veterans in Oklahoma County who are 100% disabled.
Providing you with the very best long-term care means the generous use of preventive screenings. They help us get a more complete picture of your overall health and tailor our care to meet your specific needs. It’s just one of the many ways we help you live your best life, better. Visit ArchWellHealth.com or call (405) 251-8885 today to learn more. To see
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According to 2022 census information, veterans make up 8 percent of Oklahoma’s adult population, and Oklahoma County, with Tinker Airforce Base, has a veteran population of 46,016. Comanche County, home to Fort Sill, has the highest concentration of veterans of any county in Oklahoma. When we speak of homes across our State, it’s interesting to note that veterans occupy more than 10 percent of them.
A significant benefit offered at the Oklahoma County Assessor’s office is the 100% Disabled American Veterans Exemption, which eliminates ad valorem tax liability on the homestead of a U.S. veteran with a service-connected disability rating of 100%. The property tax break continues for the surviving unmarried spouse of the disabled veteran while he or she owns and homesteads the property.
The applicant must be honorably discharged, meet all homestead exemption requirements, and present an Award Letter issued by the Veterans Administration when application is made. If you have a service-related disability or are a surviving spouse of a veteran, you may qualify for this exemption. Our team is here to guide you through the application process, ensuring you receive the benefits you are entitled to.
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Non-disabled veterans may qualify for a Homestead Exemption or for the Senior Freeze. A veteran with questions about property exemption requirements should check the Oklahoma County Assessor website at www. oklahomacounty.org/assessor or call us at 405-713-1235. Exemption forms are also available for downloading on our website. If you need assistance with property assessments or have questions about eligibility, we want to help. Our staff is knowledgeable and ready to explain ad valorem taxation as it relates to your unique circumstances.
Veterans embody the spirit of resilience, courage, and service that defines Oklahoma and our nation. In the words of Winston Churchill, “Courage is rightly esteemed the first of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees all others.” The courage veterans demonstrate in the face of adversity has secured our freedoms and inspired subsequent generations to strive for a better future.
The staff at the Oklahoma County Assessor’s office is dedicated to ensuring veterans receive the recognition and support they deserve through the services we provide. We understand transitioning back to civilian life can present challenges, and our mission is to assist you in navigating the resources available to you.
Beyond getting any tax exemption for which you qualify, we encourage veterans to engage with local organizations and programs that support veteran initiatives. Oklahoma County is home to numerous resources aimed at helping veterans thrive in their communities. From job training programs to health services, these initiatives are designed to ensure that you are not only recognized for your service but also supported as you move forward in life. As we honor your service, Oklahoma County wants you to feel valued and appreciated.
Reach out to the Oklahoma County Assessor’s office if you have questions or need any assistance at the Courthouse. We know forms and procedures can sometimes be confusing, and we are here to help. We also know that eligibility for various benefits can change over time, so keep us informed of your status. Your service is the backbone of our freedoms, and it is our privilege to support you in any way we can.
immediately, discarded, or preserved by other means. It is possible to ripen tomatoes after plants have been killed by frost. It would be best to harvest tomatoes prior to the first killing frost. You can wrap them in paper towels or newspaper and store them in a dark place where the temperature does not drop below 60°. Do not store more than two layers deep; check the fruit often to remove overripe ones.
Pruning back plants may make the landscape more aesthetic, but there is no need to prune back plants until the following spring. You may decide to sow a cover crop on garden areas. A cover crop will help control erosion, hinder soil compaction, and put nitrogen back into the soil. Austrian peas or crimson clover would be good cover crops to consider.
Besides not sending plants into the winter dry, it would be good for most plants to have a dose of fertilizer. If you can only fertilize one time per year, the best time is in the fall after
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It is inevitable that some type of fungi will attack your garden plants. Weather conditions determine the effect. By the time it gets bad enough to detect, it’s too late. Nothing will fix the damage but a fungicide can prevent the spread. While the plants are small, begin spraying with an organic copper fungicide or consult your gardening center for alternatives. Continue spraying throughout the growing season. Always follow directions on the label.
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a frost. Follow the instructions on the product you use. A soil test will determine your soil’s needs. Your local county extension office will give you instructions on how to take a soil test. Scatter fertilizer on the ground under trees and shrubs. Do not pile fertilizer by the trunk of trees since roots spread 30% to 50% more than their branches.
Last of all; remember that you will want to enjoy your landscape during the winter months as well. During the fall, while temperatures are pleasant, clean up the beds and take notice of views from windows and porches. Ornamental grasses, interesting structures, trees, and shrubs with appealing bark and twisting limbs all add to winter interest. Make good use of the fall to enjoy the winter.
For more information contact the OSU Extension Center at 405-713-1125 or visit: extension.okstate.edu/
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A home or establishment that may provide assistance with personal care, medications, ambulation, nursing supervision and intermittent or unscheduled nursing care. They cannot provide 24-hour skilled nursing care. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health
Mainly Private Pay, LTC Insurance may cover , VA Aid & Attendance, & Tribal Benefits Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver)
Provides health, recreational, social and supportive services to impaired adults for more than four hours per day. Participants do not stay in the center overnight. Adult Day Care Act - November 1, 1989 Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health VA allows respite benefits Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver)
Combines the services of a nursing facility with an assisted living center or an adult day care center. It is licensed under the Continuum of Care and Assisted Living Act and must also meet requirements applicable to nursing facilities, assisted living centers and adult day care centers. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health Currently inOklahoma, all Continuum of Care’s only have assisted livings. Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver) for Assisted Living and Adult Day Care.
Apartments, cottages, and single-family homes for seniors 55 & over who do not require assistance with daily activities or 24/7 skilled nursing but may benefit from convenient services, senior-friendly surround-ings, and increased social opportunities. NOT Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health. No oversight since they are not licensed. May have “High Acuity” that is receiving Home Health and or Hospice services.
A nursing facility that provides 24-hour skilled nursing care and related services for residents who require medical or nursing care. Nursing Home Care Act - October 1, 1980. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health. Nursing homes provide the highest level of care. Options for Medicare/Medicaid
Created in 2013, this program is for residents who are veterans living in the state veteran’s centers. They are licensed as a nursing facility and can provide 24-hour skilled nursing care and related services for residents who require medical or nursing care . Falls under Nursing Home Care Act - May 29, 2013. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health
Provide residential accommodations, food service, and supportive assistance. May also provide assistance with meals, dressing, bathing, other personal needs, and medication administration. Cannot provide medical care such as skilled nursing. Residential Care Act - November 1, 1984 Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health A typical residential care resident is younger than other long term care options and only requires assistant with medication administration. NO Options for Medicare/Medicaid
Help is finally here for Oklahomans who provide care for their parents, spouses, and other loved ones. The Caring for Caregivers Act, which took effect January 1, gives eligible caregivers a tax credit for out-of-pocket costs directly related to providing care.
Now family caregivers in Oklahoma can get up to $2,000 in tax credit for money they spend on things like transportation and durable medical equipment. And as much as $3,000 a year if they’re caring for a veteran or someone with dementia.
Learn about this important new tax credit at aarp.org/OKCaregiverTaxCredit
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