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Becoming a Veteran right out of High School.

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PASSING THE TORCH TO THE NEXT GENERATION Every year when February rolls around, teachers dutifully shine a spotlight on contributions to our country made by African American inventors, artists, explorers, educators, scientists, leaders, laborers, soldiers and poets. So, this month of February I thought I would present something a little different to our readers. We are so proud to celebrate Black History for the entire month of February, but in addition to celebrating our cultural I decided to present to our readers some of our local young people that are striving to become like the thousands of African Americans that we celebrates in February. Observed annually during the month of February, Black History Month is an important American tradition that dates all the way back to 1926. It was established by historian Carter G. Woodson to ensure that contributions made by African American men and women throughout history, would not be forgotten.

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Black History Month

Originally called Negro History Week, it was celebrated on the second week of February, to coincide with the birthdays of two US leaders that helped African Americans gain equality - President Abraham Lincoln (Feb 12th) and human rights activist, Frederick Douglass (Feb 14th). While Mr. Woodson was hoping for a positive response to his idea, even he was surprised at the amount of interest and enthusiasm this week-long celebration generated - not just from the African Americans, but also, the progressive white population. What would have surprised him even more is that today, the event is celebrated for a whole month and not just in the USA - But also, Canada and even the United Kingdom. I think of it as passing the torch, which means it takes on added significance

Greetings! My name is Angela Williams. I am a first year freshman at Clark Atlanta University and I serve as Miss CAU Suites for the 2015-2016 school year. My current GPA is a 3.64 with recognition from the Dean’s List. My major is business with a concentration in management and I would love to pursue my career in seeking internship to develop and improve specific business principles and skills, either health administration or become a talent Acquisition for BET Networks.

Oprah Gail Winfrey, born in 1954, is an American media proprietor, talk show host, actress, producer, and philanthropist. She is best known for her show The Oprah Winfrey Show, which was the highest-rated program of its kind in history and was nationally syndicated from ‘86 to 2011. Dubbed the “Queen of All Media”, she has been ranked the richest African-American of the 20th century.

Oprah Gail Winfrey Angela Williams

My name is Isaiah Velez and I look forward to becoming a Robotic Engineer and will attend MIT in Massachusetts. My GPA is 4.0 and I am #1 in my class. I love to look at How-To-Videos on YouTube. I love to research things, I love Pizza, and going to the movies. I am a Christian and I love the Lord. I have always loved inventing things that will most likely become very popular when I’m patented, but I cannot let anyone know what my invention are at this time only my parents.

Otis Boykin (1920-1982), an African-American inventor and engineer, created more than 25 electronic devices during his life. These included an improved electrical resistor for computers, radios, televisions and an assortment of other electronic devices and a control unit for the artificial heart pacemaker. The device essentially uses electrical impulses to maintain a regular heartbeat. Boykin himself died of a heart failure in 1982 at the age of 61.

Otis Boykin

Isaiah Velez

Kiyah’s hard work all paid off with straight A’s. She amazes the family when setting her goals, she makes up her mind to meet the goal. She also knows that practice makes perfect. She demonstrates extraordinary artistic talent in her drawing of people’s faces. When Kiyah draws anything freehand it’s amazing how much detail she will put into that drawing. When looking at how she sees and draws the interpretation of anyone’s faces the first famous artist that most people compare her with is Pablo Ruiz y Picasso.

Faith Ringgold was born in 1930 in the Harlem neighbor. Ringgold’s oil paintings and posters begun in the mid-to-late 1960s. Ringgold expanded the format of her thangka paintings to quilt size. Her mother pieced and quilted the first of these new works, Echoes of Harlem (1980), before dying in 1981. It was in 1983 that Ringgold began to combine image and handwritten text in her painted “story quilts,” which convey imaginative, open-ended narratives; in the first one, Who’s Afraid of Aunt Jemima?

Kiyah Martin

Faith Ringgold

I started selling when I was 5. I took bottles and filled them with water and sold them to my friends on a hot summer day. When I showed my Grandmother she said, “Boy, where did you get that money?” I told her I decided to sell cold water. One day, she took me to the store and I asked for a box of ice cream bars. She said, “What are you going to do with all of those ice cream bars?” I told her that I wanted to sell them. I want to earn a billion dollars.

Tony Elumelu, a philanthropist and African billionaire, is a businessman with specialized training in economics, seeking to change the economic standing of those in the AfricanAmerican community. In 2014, Elumelu, along with other prominent American and African business moguls, formed a summit in Washington DC of more than 45 African and American business heads, along with 50 African business leaders.

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Erin Brockovich

By Elizabeth She popped up in the news again and I decided to do this article about Erin Brockovich. The name may seem familiar since there is a movie about her and Julia Roberts plays her. She was instrumental in building a case against the Pacific Gas and Electric Company of California in 1993. The amazing thing is she didn't even have a formal education in law, although she was an American legal clerk and she is an activist.

The events in the movie surrounding the contaminated water was true.

It was between 1952 and 1966 PG&E used hexavalent chromium to fight corrosion. The waste water was discharged to unlined ponds at the site and some soaked into the ground water near the plant.

After being seriously injured in a traffic accident in Reno, Erin moved back to California’s San Fernando Valley, and hired Masry & Vititoe to represent her. They won a small settlement but she still needed to work so she got a job at their law firm as a file clerk, it was while organizing papers on a

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pro bono real estate case that Erin first found medical records that would explode into the largest direct action lawsuit in US history.

The case was settled for $333 million dollars the largest settlement ever paid in a direct action lawsuit in US history.

She has such a fighting spirit that she has become the champion of countless women and men. She is this generation's “dear Abby” and in fact she receives thousands of “dear Erin” letter and emails each year asking for help. She has received countless requests for help in ground water contamination complaints in every state of the US, Australia and other international hotspots. A study in 2010 by the California Cancer registry shower cancer rates in Hinkley remained unremarkable from 1988 to 2008.

She has many awards such as honorary doctor of laws, honorary doctor of humane letters and has a Masters of Arts, business communication from Jones international university.

Erin also has a book titled “Take it From Me”, “Life's a Struggle But You Can Win.” She is the president of the Brokovich Research and Consulting. She is currently married to Eric L. Ellis and she has 3 children. To me and this is just my opinion I personally think Erin Brockovich is a brave and very caring person. She saw something that's wasn't right and she did not give up until she won and helped out the families that were affected by this water and that had mounting medical bill due to the contaminated water. Even though she gets a lot of requests each year she does look into them and only of big companies in my opinion always were careful when it comes to using chemicals because I'm sure if the shoe were on the other foot the big name companies wouldn't want their families affected by anything so they should carry that attitude as well. I hope you all enjoy reading about Erin Brockovich and maybe you will even watch the movie as well.

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Having a Mentor Mom

I have had a dysfunctional childhood. I’m not saying I didn’t have a mom and dad because I did. My dad did his best to provide for us. My mom, on the other hand, now that’s a total different story. I know some of you might say, “well no matter what, respect your mother.” I had trouble with that; I still do in fact to this day. My mom was never really there for me. She was too busy cheating on my dad and spending money that was meant to pay bills and get the necessities for us kids likes clothes and for me and my sister feminine products.

She never did. She spent the money on her boyfriends.

I admire my dad, though, because even though she did all of this he still wanted to keep his family together. My mom is the type to only think of herself and what is in it for her. Now some of you may be wondering, “well why you are telling us this backstory.” Well I will tell you why. The reason is because Ethel Miller got to know me and one day said, “I’m going to be your mentor mom.” Now, that caught me off guard because at first I didn’t know how to take it because I never had someone say that. Sad part is she has treated me like her daughter. She is always there as a shoulder to talk to when she can tell something is bothering me and that amazes me because I try to keep my emotions bottled up and not let people know how I’m feeling or even if something is wrong. There’s something great and amazing about Ethel that makes me feel comfortable. We can just be talking and I would literally quote from the Bible. Now those who know me would probably keel over because I never do that around anyone.

She always reminds me that my great grandmother who always took me to church to never put my granny to shame, and I haven’t. She brings out the best in me. She hovers over me and reminds me to eat even when I’m not hungry. In essence she’s like the mom I never had but wished I did have. Some people aren’t lucky to know someone that will take you under their wing, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t people who won’t. You never know for example you make a new friend and that friends’ mom after getting to know you might say “I’ll be your mentor mom.” It’s ok because in essence they aren’t replacing your real mom, but they are there when you need them. Especially when you need a shoulder to cry on.

Ethel never judged me from my past. By my past I mean from me getting out of an abusive relationship, my scars from when I cut when I was a teenager among other things. My daughter even loves her and that’s saying something because my daughter is wary around some people. I guess you can say it’s a child’s intuition. The first time my daughter, Rose, met Ethel she was talkative and hugged her and she was happy and I live seeing my daughter happy.

You never know what life may throw at you or the wonderful people God will put into your life.

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Well, this morning being January 25, 2016 I decided to write about a subject matter that has somewhat puzzled me and disturbed me when I am looking at different photos and comments made on Facebook. I hope my article will capture some of my reader’s attention that have Facebook and enjoy looking and reading about different situations that can appear on Facebook. As I mentioned in one of my precious articles last year I personally love Facebook for many different reasons when it comes to my business and my personal appreciation of how one can connect with family and friends.

The one subject that I am concerned about is at risk youth and young people. I have worked over fifteen years with at risk youth and young people within the Department of Children Services and on the streets not to mention children and youth in the church.

Facebook for some youth has opened a door where they are crying out for help and love but instead they are receiving very negative comments from hundreds of people. I have read some of these comments and it doesn’t help them when called all kinds of names. These comments are coming from adults after reading their comments I go and look up the individual. Please, these young people need us, especially the baby boomers. Times have changed but I hope it haven’t changed to the point that we can’t reach out to those young people with counseling and true concern.

Young people are cutting, piercing their entire face, tattooing their entire face for attention.

I have talk to and had to listen to so many adults speak about our youth and young people and many of them are afraid to approach them. Afraid that if they say something to them they might lash back at them, but to the contrary most will thank you, give you a smile and feel that you care about them. They are hunger for love and they don’t even know it and many adults maybe don’t realize that they are in need guidance from us.

One young lady on Facebook had her entire face pierced and the comments were from adults were; crazy, cracked, sad, never will get a job, Oh My God (OMG) and so on…. very little was written to her in a positive way. After reading their comments I went to look at the person Facebook because I was shocked to see that some of those negative statements came from Bishops, apostles and people in general, I just feel if you’re going to write a comment try to help the youth and young people. We as parents and leaders, we still have a responsibility not just to our own children or grandchildren but also to others children that we see hurting. I know the world is spinning like a top but we don’t have to spin with it. Hopefully I have some readers that have a Facebook page that feels somewhat the same as I do and if so please, when you see young person headed in the wrong direction on Facebook or in the streets reach out and say something to them to help them along the way in love. Also, if you will please go to our “Loving On Our Youth” Facebook page and write a comment on the page that will help us to encourage the young people and show them that they are loved. Yes it still takes a village to raise a child and we all must take the stand to help our young people alone the way. Trust me, it will pay off and it will be appreciated.

WE AS PARENTS AND LEADERS, WE STILL HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY NOT JUST TO OUR OWN CHILDREN OR GRANDCHILDREN BUT ALSO TO OTHERS CHILDREN THAT WE SEE HURTING.

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The Gospel Of The Circumcision - Blessings And Demands evident that even though Jesus began by dealing with the people of Israel, the scope of His mission was far greater than any of the circumcision realized. Twelve men were selected to be His disciples from this people, and to them He shared many wonderful things.

It is most important to note the commission given to these twelve disciples in Matt. 10:1-6. “Into the road of the Nations you should not pass forth, and do not enter into any city of the Samaritans, but rather be going to The Lost Sheep of the House of Israel.” Also remember Christ never went outside the Land of Palestine in His earthly ministry.

Only two gentiles were blessed during His Ministry and they were the centurion who was a proselyte, and the SyroPhoenician woman. When she asked for help, she was told that it is not meet to take the Children’s bread and give it to Dogs. As a Gentile, she was told she did not qualify to receive the “Children’s Bread.”

All the prophets in the Old Testament Prophesied concerning Israel, bringing instruction and direction and sometimes rebuke to them from the Lord. Israel had become a very proud people and that pride had elevated them in their carnal minds causing an arrogance to

As mentioned in prior articles these studies are being provided to you by Pastor John Clark of New Testament Church located at 580 East 6th Street, Pomona.

He has read and agreed with this study and wanted it shared to the community. Permission has been given to Pastor Clark by way of Cecil Spivey. You are welcome to come fellowship with Pastor Clark and the church family.

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Now enjoy this study on Circumcision.

In Gen. 17:9-14, the covenant of circumcision was made with Abraham, and his seed after him for their generations. Israel who are the descendants of Jacob was “set apart” from all the Nations of the earth by the rite of circumcision. These are the circumcision of the New Testament. The first five books of the New Testament are taken up largely with this people. It was declared by their prophets that the Messiah was to come and that He would be born in Bethlehem. But the nation of Israel into which He was born rejected Him and the religious leaders set about to kill Him.

It is recorded, “He came unto His own (people) but His own received him not.” However it soon became

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develop, which was most destructive. For this reason the four “Gospels” in the New Testament are more a part of the Old Testament than the New. In these Books Christ the Messiah is seeking some recognition from the people of the circumcision while calling for them to Repent of their wicked ways. This was like a special visitation of the Messiah Himself seeking to bring them back from apostasy.

Israel’s response to the coming of the Messiah was to oppose Him at every opportunity. They challenged Him concerning the Sabbath and sought to trap Him in His judgment of a woman taken in adultery. The religious leaders were jealous of His acceptance by the ordinary people and searched for an opportunity to destroy Him. Finally at the instigation of the High Priest, one of the disciples was bribed and made it possible for them to arrest Him. This resulted in a mock trial before the Sanhedrin, which passed the sentence of Death upon Him. However because the Jews were subservient to the Romans at that time they had no power to execute Him. Therefore they handed Him over to the Roman authorities.

This is the nation who had drunk water from the Rock that was Christ, every day in the wilderness and eaten Bread which came from heaven every night who delivered them from slavery in Egypt, sending them forth with much wealth from their captors. This is the same one who had opened the Red Sea before them providing a way of escape for them from their enemies, who were all destroyed as they tried to follow. This was the nation who stood at Mount Sinai and, “All that the Lord has said we will do.” After the crucifixion of Christ and the out pouring of the Holy Spirit Peter tells the people, “Ye men of Israel hear these words. Jesus of Nazareth a man approved by God among you by miracles wonders and signs, which God did by Him in the midst of you as you yourselves know; Him being delivered by the determinate counsel and foreknowledge of God, ye have taken and by wicked hands have crucified and slain, whom God hath raised up having loosed the pains of death, because it was not possible for Him to be holden of it. The result of Peter’s words the people realized what they had done and asked, “WHAT SHALL WE DO.” (Continue next month)

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About GOOGLE Drive

By Dr. Mildred Dalton Hampton

By Contributor Writer

Well, because I know a little about Google I thought those that use Google would appreciate the knowledge that I have. Many know about Google Drive but do they know all there is to know and how to use it.

If you have a Gmail account you have a Google Drive where you can add things like information on spreadsheets etc. Even if you don’t have a Gmail account I strongly recommend you get one. Say for example you got a new phone and instead of going one by one and adding in the contacts just sign into your Gmail account and all of your contacts will be loaded back onto your

need to make and once you make them just send it back to them.

I actually did this when I went to CNA School. We had a job assignment, which we had to do a resume and fill out a fake job application.

We had to do several things and since the teacher/ owner of the school daughter lived out of state we sent her the papers and she would send them back. This was done via Google Drive documents and once corrections were made send it back. At first even I was like um what is this and why do I need it? I am so happy I was taught that, I have never regretted it for one second.

EVERY SMALL BUSINESS SHOULD USE GOOGLE DRIVE NO MATTER WHAT. IT’S FAST. IT’S EASY. IT’S SIMPLE. YOU CAN NEVER FORGET HOW TO USE GOOGLE DRIVE ONCE YOU GET THE HANG OF IT. IT’S LIKE RIDING A BIKE YOU NEVER REALLY FORGET HOW TO DO IT. phone and it doesn’t even take that long.

It’s also perfect for small businesses to keep track of invoices and making spreadsheets of customer’s information like their name and address, phone numbers etc. Whatever you want to put on the spreadsheet you can. You can even have Google docs on your Google Drive which is almost like Microsoft Word but it will always be on your Google Drive and once you save it, it will even have the month you did it, recently Google Drive has become a more practical/cheaper option for storing static files, images in particular, but also PDFs, contacts, sponsor decks and onepagers. The ability to save a document as a PDF means we can collaborate on a document; then save a PDF copy when the final draft is locked.

When locked this means you can share a file to someone and mark the option add people and they will be added to the document. They can go over it and leave notes about what changes you

It may seem hard to understand or confusing but once you actually sit down and take a few minutes even you will be saying why didn’t I try this sooner or I wish I knew this sooner. It will especially get rid of a lot of papers because let’s be honest after a while having papers everywhere it can be frustrating.

If you’re still confused you can Google step by step and there are I’m sure some articles that will explain it step by step in greater detail than I can. Every small business should use Google Drive no matter what. It’s fast. It’s easy.

It’s simple. You can never forget how to use Google Drive once you get the hang of it. It’s like riding a bike you never really forget how to do it. It will save a lot of time and if you’re typing something on your spreadsheets or Google docs but close out of it, it will automatically save so you don’t have to worry about losing anything at all.

Friday January 8, I attended memorial services for a hardworking, relatively quiet pillar of the San Bernardino community. As others spoke of the tremendous impact Mrs. Belva Holder made on their lives, I said nothing.

I did not share that within two days of my arrival in San Bernardino to teach at California State University San Bernardino (CSUSB), the National Council of Negro Women helped me locate an apartment with Louise and Amos Ansley in Fontana. Two days later Belva Holder was on my doorstep to drive the Ansleys to Newport Beach. They invited this Arkansas girl to go along and experience my first sight of an ocean.

I did not share that we became sister friends and I spent many days eating fruit from Belva’s back yard (and refrigerator), and falling asleep in her chairs, on my way home to Fontana from teaching and working at CSUSB.

I did not share that Belva told me, “Look girl, if you are going to be waving your hands around at Cal State, you have to get your nails done.” I had never heard of such.

However, daughter Melanie said, “Auntie Millie, come on in here and I’ll fix you up”.

I did not share that when I told Belva of my desire to start an educational tutoring and training program in the community, Belva said, “I have a building you can use.” The late Frank Stallworth loved to tell that when he received an invitation to the PAL Center, he thought he was invited to speak. However, upon entering the building, I shoved a broom in his hand and he was asked to start cleaning so we could open an educational center. The PAL Center was born.

After telling me that “San Bernardino will kill you”, Belva helped me work around the pitfalls and did all that she could to help ensure a successful program. “Miss Belva” remained a dutiful board member of Provisional Educational Services, Incorporated, DBA, The PAL Center and Charter Academy, from incorporation in December 1984 until her demise on December 13, 2016. She faithfully supported the many yard sales held by Alonza Thompson and me in our efforts to keep the PAL Center doors open.

I did not share that during the entire duration of our friendship, this grand lady provided learning materials, words of encouragement, dressed, and role-modeled the moral, professional life of service that she taught and expected of her students and friends. This master teacher of the San Bernardino City Unified School District influenced the lives of many of our current leaders in all walks of life.

Because of the sensitivity and support of “Miss Belva”, and the PAL Center various programs, including our traveling, shown-on-TV, Substance Abuse Mobile (SAM II), we have positively impacted well over 100,000 lives.

Because of the Miss Belva’s impact on the San Bernardino community, it has been resolved that a scholarship be established at California State University San Bernardino in her name. The recognition will take place at the CSUSB Black Pioneer Breakfast January 2016.

“For they who think of others most Are the happiest folks that live.” - Phoebe Cary. Thank you Mrs. Belva Holder for a job well done! From Dr. Mildred Dalton HamptonHenry Professor Emeritus, CSUSB (Ret.) Founder and CEO, Provisional Educational Services, Inc. (Ret.)

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The Story of Alex Nataline

By Ethel Miller

We like to share true stories with our vets in hopes that they will know that they are not alone when it comes to some of the challenges and emotions that they experience upon their deployment of the military. We want our vets to know that they can make it back into civilian life. It is very important that family and friends be there when they return home supporting and encouraging them. Help them to pursue all the benefits that are available to them because they deserve them.

The best suggestion I can give to any vet is that as soon as they arrive home that they start working on all information and papers that will be needed if they are seeking benefits, employment, school, housing, etc. I say get started quickly because it is always a waiting list on everything and the sooner one get started the sooner things will start happening for them.

We have Alex Nataline story and hope you can read it and share with another vet. All of us can be a team in sharing any information that can assist out vets. There are so many different situations that our vets are faced with and here is Alex’s story of what he had to deal with upon his return home.

Joining the U.S. Air Force right out of high school, Alex Nataline wanted to be a part of something greater than himself, challenging himself physically, mentally and emotionally. He served three years as a Crew Chief, deploying for six months to Al Dhafra Air Base in the United Arab Emirates.

After his deployment, he was quickly transitioned to back to civilian life. Yet even with loving friends and family welcoming him back home. Alex felt isolated. He had no idea how many local veterans were having the same thoughts and feelings he was, or how many had seen and done the same types of things he had. There was no one to relate to or lead him through the next process of transitioning out of active, combat military life.

Alex moved up to Jacksonville with his grandparents to try to retreat, but his mother searched for help back home. She got in touch with David Booth, founder and CEO of Combat Veterans to Careers, who insisted Alex get in touch with him.

After some delay, Alex decided to give it a chance. He was still feeling the same frustrations in Jacksonville as he did back home. He spoke with David for two-and-a-half hours, opening up more about his military background than he ever had to anyone. David convinced him to move back to Lady Lake, where CVC could help him find a career path, access his V.A. benefits for a college education, find him affordable housing and most importantly, get him connected with other combat veterans who were going through or had gone through the same transition.

With the help of CVC, it didn’t take long for Alex to find the fulfillment and camaraderie he was missing. He’s currently living on his own, receiving a college education, working as an aircraft mechanic at Leesburg International Airport and has become fully involved in team CrossFit training.

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A New Parent in the Mix

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It seems that split families are becoming more of a normal occurrence. What most people don’t know is that behind closed doors is that at times they operate just like any family, and other times as extreme as a hostage hand off. In the end though no matter what the parenting situation, the child is affected the most. Because in the case of death, the child no longer has a father or mother. In the case of separation the child now not only has to deal without seeing their mother or father but has to allow someone new to take their place.

With deaths in any family the loss is great and the feelings for that person run deeper than we expect them to. The loss of a parent can sometimes be too great for a child to comprehend thus leaving them in a PTSD state of mine. Making the step parent feeling left out causing a snowball effect that can last a lifetime.

With separation comes a less traumatic experience but can have bursts of emotions that can destroy entire families. If the biological parent is still involved, it can leave the child feeling torn between the life they knew and the life they have to accept. If not then as in death they now have to come to terms they may not see their parent for a long time or forever.

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Take the Time and mediate

It appears these days that people are worrying, rushing, stressing at a record rate high. It makes no different what the age is, because the young to the old is included in the rush. Meditating can have a lot of benefits. Studies on the relaxation response have documented the following short-term benefits to the nervous system: lower blood pressure; improved blood circulation; lower heart rate; less perspiration; slower respiratory rate; less anxiety; lower blood cortisol levels; more feelings of well-being; less stress; deeper relaxation

There’s a lot of meditation techniques and depending on the person it can lead to yoga which is also technically a type of meditation technique. Here are several types of meditation techniques that anyone can try:

Concentration meditation is a concentrative meditation technique involves focusing on a single point. This could mean watching the breath, repeating a single word, mantra, even staring at a candle flame, or depending on the person listening to a repetitive gong or counting beads on a rosary. Since focusing the mind can be a challenge a beginner might meditate for only a few minutes and then work up to longer durations.

Mindfulness meditation is a meditation technique encourages the practitioner to observe wandering thoughts as they drift through the mind. The intention is not to get involved with the thoughts or to judge them, but simply to be aware of each mental note as the need arises.

There are various other meditation techniques. For example, a daily meditation practice among Buddhist monks focuses directly on the cultivation of compassion.

This involves envisioning negative events and recasting them in a positive light by transforming them through compassion. There are also moving meditations techniques, such as tai chi, chi kung.

Walking mediation is great one can listen to soothing music or just concentrate on all the nature and beauty that surrounds you only thinking of positive things.

In Buddhist philosophy, the ultimate benefit of meditation is being free of the mind from attachment to things it cannot control, such as external circumstances or strong internal emotions. The liberated, or “enlightened,” person practicing no longer needlessly follows desires or clings to experiences, instead maintains a calmness of the mind and the sense of inner balance.

The benefits when you meditate is immediate, tangible, and cumulative, and the practice itself is relaxing and enjoyable. It presents the mind with a field of profound peace, a state of deep silence that is irresistible. Both mind and body relax into a state of deep and profound restfulness in which deeply rooted stresses dissolve, and the experience of one’s own infinite potential for peace, joy and creativity is unfolded. One is encouraged to seek out what is best for you study the meditation technique and give yourself the time that you deserve and meditate.

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However the knowledge of having the parent available although they are unable, can lead to feelings of neglect that can spill to the new parent.

In every case comes different circumstances. It should not be confused for something else, this is not a good situation nor a bad one for either party, its life. One that the stepparent has to deal with in their own special way. Not every opinion is a good one and not every piece of advice can be relatable. The unfortunate truth is the only to solve any sort of problem is by stepping up and being what you need to be and that is the parent that every child needs. Taking a look at what a stepparent

ONE THING THAT NEEDS TO BE REMEMBERED THOUGH IS IT’S STILL A FRAGILE SYSTEM NO MATTER WHAT’S BEEN IN PLACE AND SHOULD BE HANDLED WITH CARE. or a bio parent goes through is a different story entirely versus the actual child. An adult can feel a wide range of emotions ranging from good to bad and a small emotion, to putting an entire relationship on a single moment. One thing that needs to be remembered though is it’s still a fragile system no matter what’s been in place and should be handled with care. As a step parent it is hard at times but I don’t regret anything. There are good days and bad days but there are those great days where it is worth it knowing that in the end the child or children do care about you. As a stepparent in my opinion everything is worth it even though it may be an adjustment for everyone involved.

In the end it is all worth it.

Are You Afraid Of Flying?

By Elizabeth

So some of you myself included are afraid of flying.

And hey it’s understandable.

It really is. According to some estimates, as many as 25 percent of all Americans suffer some nervousness about flying but the National Institute of Mental Health says this fear, usually called aviophobia, affects just 6.5 percent of the population. Now if you really think about it that is 20 million people. So you are not alone. Now some of you may say well OK but what are you getting at? Well I’ll tell you I’m deathly afraid of flying and it’s ironic that on my bucket list ( yes I have a bucket list) I want to go to France or Italy somewhere nice when my daughter is grown up. Well obviously that will be a tad hard if I’m scared of flying! I think I became scared of flying after hearing about airplanes exploding or people noticing things coming off of the flap of the wing and yes even 9/11. I think what really made me scared and yes you may laugh but the final destination movies. Yeah seeing those movies does not help at all. All I can do personally is basically get over it.

Now some of you might be claustrophobic or even an anxiety attack. The key to success is to understand what maintains your fear, and learn how to roll it back. When you’re working to overcome a phobia, it doesn’t usually help to spend a lot of time trying to figure out “why” you’re afraid.

The important questions are “what do I feel?” and “how shall I respond to it?” Now to get back to the topic of course final destination depending on the person is no big deal what’s so ever but it didn’t help when I saw the plane explode in midair.

Yes I am a chicken when it comes to those movies. I absolutely refuse to even watch movies after I sadly yes sadly I watched part of final destination. Now here is my point if you really

think about it those may be some people’s fears in those movies and it’s totally understandable.

Now here is some points that I had to realize after talking to someone I know, you may think wow that kind of harsh but hear me out. We have our own calendar and God has His. When it’s time to go it’s time to go. That’s also part of the final destination movies. We can’t run from death. Don’t let our fears control us at all. Let’s prove to ourself and our families and friends that we can beat our fears whether it’s the fear of flying, claustrophobia or even an anxiety attack. Think of anything heck even try reading or even knitting if you like to knit. Do not and I repeat do not cling to your fears. I can’t even say that enough. Clinging to your fears is giving in to them which will stop you from enjoying life or doing anything really.

Here is a question that I will leave you with. If your child or children live out of state and they needed help like an emergency help but you’re afraid of flying or anxiety attack or even being claustrophobic would you go to your child’s side?

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