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A More Meaningful Halloween: Teaching Empathy And Compassion Through Costumes and Candy

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Mummy Brownies

Jessica at Premium Providence has a simple and fun way to turn brownies into a Halloweenthemed treat. Bake a batch of your favorite brownie recipe, either homemade or boxed, and cut into 12 rectangles. Melt 12 ounces of white chocolate chips or white chocolate melts in a microwave-safe bowl in 30-second increments, stirring between each until completely melted.

Using a piping bag or a zip-lock bag with the corner cut, squeeze the melted white chocolate in a back and forth, zig-zag motion on the brownies to create the mummy’s cloth. Finish with candy eyes and place in the refrigerator to set. Full instructions and a video tutorial can be found at https://prettyprovidence.com/easy-mummy-brownies/.

Easy Spider Cracker Sandwiches

If your kids are fans of sweet and savory treats, try these easy peanut butter and cracker sandwiches from Laura at Southern Made Simple (https://www.southernmadesimple. com/spider-cookies/). You’ll need a sleeve of round salted crackers, some creamy peanut butter, pretzel sticks, and candy eyes. Simply spread a thick layer of peanut butter on one cracker, break pretzel sticks in half and place around the cracker to create legs, place a dab of peanut butter on the center of the second cracker and place on top of the legs. Then spread a tiny amount of peanut butter on the back of candy eyes and place on top of the cracker. Enjoy! Just be sure to check if any of your guests have peanut allergies before serving!

Frankenstein Sugar Wafers

This no-bake treat idea comes from Melissa at Shaken Together Life and you’ll need only a handful of ingredients: chocolate sugar wafer cookies, green chocolate melts, candy eyes, and chocolate jimmies. Melt the green candy in microwave safe bowl—again, 30-second increments are recommended. Dip your wafer cookie and use a popsicle stick to scrape off the excess green chocolate and smooth it out. Spoon jimmies over the top 1/3 of each cookie for Frankenstein’s hair. Finish by placing two eyes and a single jimmy for the mouth using foodsafe tweezers. Full directions can be found at https://www.shakentogetherlife.com/ sugar-wafer-frankenstein-cookies-halloween/.

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The Nutcracker is best suited for children ages 4 and up. Act 1 is about 55 minutes long, followed by a brief intermission, then Act 2 is 40 minutes long.

Enjoying The Nutcracker together is a festive memory your family will keep forever! Pro-tip: get dressed up and take some beautiful holiday photos in Shea’s grand lobby.

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—by Shannon Dean

A More Meaningful Halloween:

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Teaching Empathy And Compassion Through Costumes and Candy

t’s easy to see Halloween as a blur of plastic pumpkins, costume stress, and frantic trickor-treating. But what if it could also be meaningful? What if Halloween allowed us to build empathy, spark thoughtful conversations, and help our kids walk a little more kindly in the world, even if they’re dressed like Spider-Man or a sparkly vampire?

It may sound like a tall order. But buried under the candy wrappers and yard skeletons is a surprisingly rich chance to teach kids about understanding others. And it starts with what they choose to wear and how they treat those who show up at the door.

COSTUMES CAN BE MORE THAN JUST CUTE Choosing a costume can be more than just “What do you want to be?”

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It can become “Why do you like that character?” or “What do you think it would feel like to be them?” When children dress up as different characters, they’re essentially practicing perspective-taking, which is one of empathy’s most crucial skills. English Professor Cris Beam, author of I Feel You: The Surprising Power of Extreme Empathy, notes that one of the simplest, earliest forms of compassion is the ability to “stand in another’s shoes.” That’s exactly what kids do on Halloween.

So if your daughter chooses to be a firefighter, talk about what it feels like to run toward danger to help others. Your son wants to dress as a doctor?

Discuss how it feels to spend your days trying to heal people who are scared and hurting.

These don’t have to be long or serious conversations. In fact, they work best when they feel like a natural part of the

fun, but they insert a heart in the middle of the Halloween hype.

TRICK OR TREATING WITH KINDNESS AND ACCEPTANCE IN TOW Even in the holiday hustle, there’s plenty of room for kindness. Remind your child to make eye contact if they’re comfortable, say “thank you,” and be gentle with younger kids who are nervous. If you’re walking with siblings, encourage older kids to slow down and make space for little ones. If your child is shy, let them know it’s okay to hang back or skip a house. There’s no prize for filling the candy bucket to the top. The real win is having a night that feels fun, safe, and compassionate for everyone.

And what about the kids who don’t say thank you, barely speak, or the teens who show up without much of a costume?

These are the moments where empathy

After the Candy Rush: Sweet Ways to Give Halloween a Kinder Ending:

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really matters. Some kids experience Halloween differently. Misty Standard, co-owner of Milestones and Milestones at Home, explains it this way: “The sudden appearance of ghoulish masks, the flickering lights of jack-o’-lanterns, and the eerie sound effects are all part of the sensory smorgasbord” that can overload some children.

If a child seems overwhelmed, withdrawn, or out of sync, offer candy or a smile with compassion. And if your child notices and asks for an explanation later, try phrases like, “Let’s be supportive and friendly. We don’t know what someone else is going through.” Or “Sometimes people show up in ways we don’t expect, and that’s okay.”

Older kids deserve understanding, too. If a teen rings your bell dressed in a hoodie and says “trick or treat” with a voice deeper than yours, consider what they might be looking for. Maybe it’s not just candy, but a safe place to be a kid for one more year.

Remind your kids that neighbors who aren’t participating may have their own legitimate reasons.

Write “Thank You” Notes or Make Kindness Cards: Spend a cozy afternoon writing thank-you notes to neighbors who handed out candy or made their homes especially festive. Or create “You made Halloween special!” cards and drop them off with a small treat.

AN INCLUSIVE PORCH GOES A LONG WAY If you’re passing out candy this year, small choices can make a big impact. Consider offering non-food treats for kids with allergies. (Those teal pumpkins on porches aren’t just cute. They signal allergy-safe options.)

Some kids might not say “trick or treat” or might skip talking altogether. That’s okay. Patience and understanding are part of empathy. And when it comes to decorating, there’s nothing wrong with having fun, but remember that younger kids or those with sensory sensitivities might be startled by sudden scares.

One of my neighbors leaves a bowl of glow sticks labeled “Take one if you’re scared of the dark,” and has been amazed at how many kids, both big and small, take one proudly. It’s a small kindness, but one that acknowledges fear without teasing or judgment. continued on page 15

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Create Candy Gratitude Jars: Take one candy and name one thing you’re thankful for each day leading up to Thanksgiving

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Transform the Treats, Spread the Love: If your child ended up with enough candy to last until next year, consider letting them choose a handful of favorites and then repurpose the rest. Use cut-up pieces of candy to make baked goods for delivery drivers, teachers, or neighbors. Let your child help decide where it goes. That small act of giving makes a big impression.

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Talk About What Meant the Most: Sit down for five calm minutes and ask your child: “What was your favorite moment?” “Who made you smile?” “What did you learn that will stay with you?” “Is there anything you want to do differently next year?”

Even just talking about those warm memories helps reinforce that Halloween is about more than candy. It’s about community, connection, and kindness.

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Family-Friendly

Halloween Activities —by Mary Ann Blair

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re you throwing a kid-friendly Halloween party?

Or maybe just searching for different ways for your own kids to celebrate Halloween? Here are several family-friendly Halloween activities.

GLOW-IN-THE-DARK CANDY HUNT Who says Easter eggs can only be used once a year? Add glow sticks along with pieces of candy to plastic Easter eggs and hide them around your house. Turn off the lights and kiddos will have a blast hunting for glowing eggs!

PAPIER-MÂCHÉ PUMPKIN PIÑATA Kids love piñatas, and making a pumpkin piñata is pretty simple to do, even for those adults who don’t consider themselves to be very crafty. The needed supplies are probably things you already have around the house—a balloon, newspaper, white glue, orange and black craft paint, and string.

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small piece of newspaper (around 2” x 1”). Coat the newspaper with a little more glue mixture. Repeat this step until the balloon is covered, slightly overlapping the newspaper as you go. Once you have the first few layers down, let the balloon dry overnight. Add a couple more layers the next day. Once the balloon is completely dry, paint it to look like a pumpkin. Cut a small hole at the top and fill it with candy. Poke or punch two holes near the top edge, and add a strong string to hang it up.

HALLOWEEN MEMORY GAME Cut up a few sheets of card stock into 3” by 3” pieces, and write or draw Halloween themed words or images on the pieces of card stock. Make duplicates so each word/image has an identical card to match. Mix up the cards and spread them out on the table. Take turns trying to find matches. Whomever ends up with the most matches gets to choose a candy treat.

TRICK-OR-TREAT AT HOME Close all the doors to the rooms in your house, and have kids wait in one room while you hide. Have the kids go around the house, searching for you as they knock on each door. When they find you, they get to trick-or-treat. If you have Halloween costumes from years past, dress in a different costume for each “trick-or-treat” encounter to make it even more fun for the kiddos.

PIN THE NOSE ON THE JACK-O-LANTERN

—by Rebecca Hastings

This a twist on the classic pin the tail on the donkey game.

Use some freezer paper or tape together four pieces of construction paper to make the game board. Draw a pumpkin on the paper along with the eyes and mouth, and the outline of the nose. Cut out triangular noses out of black construction paper and attach small pieces of tape to the back of each. Blindfold each participant, spin them around, point them towards the pumpkin and let the laughter ensue.

HALLOWEEN MOVIE NIGHT End the party/evening with a movie night featuring your favorite Halloween movie and some Halloween treats. Check out your local library’s selection of movies, or see what is offered on your favorite streaming service.

Happy Halloween!

Mary Ann Blair is a mom of two boisterous boys. Besides chronicling her adventures in motherhood at maryannblair. com, she loves the outdoors, reading, and all things crafty.

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Pumpkin Patch Perfection:

Making the Most of a Classic Fall Day —by Rebecca Hastings

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ew fall traditions are as timeless as a trip to the pumpkin patch. The hayrides, cider donuts, and fields of bright orange pumpkins practically beg for photos and memories. But with kids in tow, even the simplest outing can quickly feel overwhelming. The key is planning ahead so your pumpkin patch adventure is fun, not frantic.

Here are simple ways to make the most of this classic fall day:

1. PICK THE RIGHT PATCH Not all pumpkin patches are created equal. Some are simple farm stands with a few rows of pumpkins, while others are full fall festivals with corn mazes, petting zoos, and food trucks. Decide what works best for your family. Do you want a quiet morning picking pumpkins, or a whole day of activities? Choosing the right spot sets the tone for your outing.

2. TIME IT WELL

Weekends can be crowded, especially in October. If possible, visit on a weekday afternoon or early on a Saturday morning. Cooler morning temperatures often mean fewer bugs and better light for photos. And don’t forget—kids (and parents!) have more fun when no one is hungry or overtired.

3. DRESS FOR SUCCESS Fall weather is unpredictable. Layer clothes so kids stay comfortable, whether it’s sunny or chilly. Closed-toe shoes or boots are a must for muddy fields, and don’t forget sunscreen—yes, even in October. A blanket or extra jacket in the car can be a lifesaver if the weather turns.

4. BRING SNACKS (AND MAYBE CIDER DONUTS) Pumpkin patches are full of delicious treats, but buying snacks on-site adds up quickly. Pack water bottles and a few easy snacks to keep energy up. Then, if you do decide to splurge on cider donuts or kettle corn, it feels like a treat instead of a necessity.

5. SET EXPECTATIONS WITH KIDS Before you get out of the car, take a moment to explain what the day will look like: “We’ll pick pumpkins first, then go on the hayride. We’ll get a treat before we leave.” Clear expectations can help avoid meltdowns when kids want to do everything at once.

6. HUNT FOR THE PERFECT PUMPKIN Some families love picking the biggest pumpkin they can find. Others enjoy searching for the quirkiest shapes or the best carving potential. Make it fun by setting a challenge—find the roundest pumpkin, the tiniest pumpkin, or one with the longest stem. This turns pumpkin picking into a game instead of just a task.

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Pumpkin patches make for beautiful backdrops, but don’t stress about picture-

perfect smiles. Candid shots of kids pulling wagons, climbing over pumpkins, or sneaking a bite of donut often capture the joy of the day even better than posed photos.

8. KEEP IT SIMPLE WITH EXTRAS If your patch offers extras like corn mazes, petting zoos, or bounce houses, choose one or two activities instead of trying to do everything. Kids will remember having fun together, not how many tickets you bought.

9. TURN PUMPKINS INTO MORE THAN DÉCOR Once you’re home, extend the fun.

Roast pumpkin seeds, paint or carve pumpkins, or even use small ones as a centerpiece for family dinners. This gives your day extra value and creates more family memories.

10. END WITH GRATITUDE On the ride home, take a minute to share everyone’s favorite part of the day. It’s a simple way to end on a positive note and helps kids remember the joy instead of the tiredness.

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KEEP IT FUN! Pumpkin patch trips don’t have to be complicated. With a little planning, some realistic expectations, and a focus on enjoying time together, your family can create memories that last far longer than the pumpkins themselves.

Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.

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Building a Fall Bucket List That’s Actually Doable —by Rebecca Hastings

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umpkin spice, crisp mornings, cozy sweaters— fall brings with it a certain kind of magic. Families often feel the pull to make the most of the season, especially with all the Instagram-worthy bucket list activities circulating online. Apple picking! Pumpkin patches! Hayrides!

Corn mazes! Leaf-peeping road trips! The possibilities are endless… and exhausting.

connected. They need a parent who’s present and not stretched too thin.

The truth is, you don’t need more pressure to do all the things. What you need is permission to choose a handful of activities that truly fit your family’s season of life, budget, and energy level. A fall bucket list should feel joyful and doable— not like another chore on the family to-do list.

Instead of a mile-long bucket list, try choosing three to five activities. These become your family’s “non-negotiables” for the season—the ones everyone is genuinely excited about and that feel doable given your time and resources.

Here’s how you can build a fall bucket list that works for your family, plus simple, affordable activity ideas to spark inspiration.

START WITH HONESTY Before making a list of fall activities, take a step back and ask yourself: What’s realistic for us this season?

Are your weekends jam-packed with sports games? Do you have a tight budget? Are your kids young enough that naps and bedtimes still rule the schedule? Or maybe you have teenagers juggling jobs, homework, and social calendars. Each stage of family life comes with unique challenges and opportunities.

It’s also helpful to be honest about your energy level. If you know that tackling a big outing after a long workweek will leave everyone cranky, give yourself permission to say no. Your kids don’t need every seasonal experience to feel loved and 12 WNY Family October 2025

Think of it this way: when you choose fewer activities, you actually create more space to enjoy them fully.

MAKE A SHORT LIST

For example:

• Go apple picking.

• Bake pumpkin bread together.

• Have a family game night with hot cocoa.

That’s it. Just three things. The beauty of a short list is that you’re more likely to follow through. And if you happen to add an extra spontaneous hike or backyard campfire along the way, that’s just a bonus.

INCLUDE EVERYDAY JOYS Bucket lists don’t have to be made of big, expensive outings. Some of the best seasonal memories are found in the little things:

• Walking the neighborhood to collect colorful leaves.

• Drinking cider in the backyard.

• Lighting a fall-scented candle during dinner.

• Reading a fall-themed book together.

When you notice and name these small joys, you help your kids do the same. You’re teaching them that meaningful memories don’t require money or perfection—they just need presence.

PLAN WITH YOUR BUDGET IN MIND Fall is full of tempting outings, but costs can add up quickly.

A day at a pumpkin patch might include entry fees, hayrides, treats, and a hefty price tag for that “perfect” pumpkin. Multiply that by several weekends and it can feel overwhelming.

Instead, decide ahead of time how much you’re comfortable spending on seasonal fun. Then, choose activities that fit within that budget. For example, maybe you pick apples at a local orchard but buy pumpkins at the grocery store for carving. Or you skip the pricey corn maze and opt for a free family hike in a state park.

Being upfront with your kids about budget limits also sets a healthy example. You can say, “We’re picking one special outing this month, and then we’ll do some fun things at home.”

Kids appreciate clarity, and it saves everyone from disappointment later.

BUILD IN FLEXIBILITY Even with the best intentions, life happens. Weather shifts, kids get sick, schedules change. The best bucket lists leave room for flexibility.

You might plan to spend Saturday raking leaves together, but if rain shows up, you can swap it for an indoor movie marathon with popcorn. Or if apple picking falls through, bake a crisp with store-bought apples instead.

Remind your kids that part of the fun of a bucket list is adapting as you go. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s connection.

15 EASY, AFFORDABLE FALL BUCKET LIST IDEAS Need inspiration? There are always the obvious pumpkin patch and apple picking ideas, but it’s okay to get more creative.

Here are some low-stress, budget-friendly activities families can enjoy together:

Leaf Hunt Walk – Collect the brightest leaves and press them in a book.

Make Pumpkin Bread – Bonus: share a loaf with a neighbor.

Fall Picnic – Sandwiches and thermoses of soup in a local park.

DIY Scarecrow – Use old clothes and leaves or straw.

Family Game Night – Add

cider and donuts for seasonal flair.

Pumpkin Painting – Less mess than carving and lasts longer.

Backyard Campfire –

Roast marshmallows or make s’mores.

Nature Art – Create collages

with leaves, acorns, and twigs.

Read Together – Choose a fall-themed book or a cozy family favorite.

Make Caramel Apples – Kids can dip and

decorate their own apple creations.

Go on a Hike – Even a short local trail counts.

Movie Marathon – Pick a cozy fall theme and make some popcorn.

Host a Chili Night – Invite a few friends or keep it

just family.

Volunteer Together –

Rake leaves for a neighbor or donate food.

Gratitude Jar – Write things you’re thankful for all season long.

These ideas work for families of all sizes and ages. Pick the ones that feel most doable, and remember: your list doesn’t have to match anyone else’s.

KEEP IT DOABLE, KEEP IT FUN A fall bucket list should serve your family, not stress you out. By being honest about your time, budget, and energy, you can create a short, meaningful list that works for you.

This fall, give yourself permission to slow down, enjoy the season, and focus on connection over perfection. The leaves will turn, the air will cool, and memories will be made—whether or not you check every box.

So grab a pen, gather your family, and dream up your fall bucket list. Just keep it doable—and keep it fun.

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SINGLE PARENTING — by Meagan Ruffing

Days of Family Fun: Daily Activities to Celebrate October

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ctober is one of my favorite months because of the crisp air, the smells of autumn, and the excitement around Halloween. I have been taking my kids to pumpkin patches, corn mazes, and trick-or-treating since they were born, and 16 years later, I’m still doing just that. With each year they grow, it’s just another year for me to add something more exciting to the mix that maybe they were too young to do the year before. Follow along for 31 days of fun!

Lobby, Michaels, and Joann Fabrics are among the best places to find home décor for any season. If decorating doesn’t come easily to you, hop on Pinterest for some inspiration. Sometimes when I’m not sure how to style something, I will include a prompt in my online search, which generates images to come up. I then keep those images on my phone and head to the craft store to try and find similar items.

2. Decorate your porch with fall/Hal-

loween décor. Craft stores like Hobby

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4. Go on a scenic fall nature walk and collect colorful leaves. This outdoor activity can elicit fun conversations between family members when you find leaves that look like different things.

Think about cloud watching and how the shapes can often resemble outlines of people or places. It’s the same with leaves, and this activity can be a fun and unique conversation starter.

5. Have a family movie night with a Halloween theme (e.g., Hocus Pocus, Hotel Transylvania)

1. Visit a pumpkin patch. There are usually several pumpkin patches to choose from, so my kids and I either visit as many as we can during the season, or we try a new one each year.

Pro tip: You can often get discounted tickets on opening day. To find out when your local pumpkin patch opens, follow them on social media, where they post about deals.

each kid decorate their own candy apple and then have a voting contest to see who wins.

3. Make caramel apples. This can be a 2-in-1 activity if you pick your own apples. Take the kids apple picking in the morning and make caramel apples in the afternoon. Switch it up a bit and have

6. Bake pumpkin bread or muffins and use an old family recipe that you’ve either made countless times or maybe one that you’ve never made but always wanted to.

This is a great way to continue family traditions with your kids.

7. Do a leaf-rubbing art project 8. Host a costume dress-up dinner

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MAKE THE MORNING AFTER MATTER

at home. Now, who said eating their vegetables while dressed up as a mermaid wasn’t fun? fair

9. Visit a local fall festival or craft 10. Make a gratitude pumpkin

(write daily things you’re thankful for on it). This is especially fun to do with older kids when looking for conversation starters with your teenagers.

11. Go on a hayride 12. Create a Halloween-themed

scavenger hunt around your house or yard and invite your kids’ friends to partake. This is a great way to have fun and sneak in some movement for kids who prefer to stay inside on their tablets.

Add surprises throughout the scavenger hunt, such as Halloween-themed snacks or ‘coupons’ for ice cream.

13. Make DIY Halloween decora-

tions together

14. Drink hot apple cider by a firepit (or cozy up inside). Play a Halloweenthemed soundtrack from your phone or streaming device to help set the scene.

15. Visit a corn maze 16. Paint mini pumpkins (instead of

carving). I much prefer this! I never did like cleaning up pumpkin guts and have found this to be just as fun.

17. Bake Halloween cookies and decorate them 18. Tell family-friendly “spooky” stories by flashlight. If you don’t know any stories, use Google to help you out.

19. Make a fall craft, like a leaf wreath or pinecone garland

20. Attend a local trick-or-treat or “trunk-or-treat” event 21. Make popcorn balls 22. Play a Halloween bingo game.

Find mini pumpkins on Amazon to use as the Bingo markers.

23. Try a “pumpkin taste test” (pumpkin pie, pumpkin ice cream, pumpkin donuts) 24. Create a Halloween playlist and have a family dance party 25. Do a fall photo shoot in a park with colorful leaves 26. Read Halloween or autumnthemed books together 27. Visit a farmers’ market and pick seasonal produce 28. Make a “mystery box” game with peeled grapes (eyeballs), cold spaghetti (brains), etc. This can be fun for a Halloween-themed party where the guests can stick their hands into the “mystery box” before entering the party.

29. Decorate the windows with

seasonal window clings

30. Have a “camp-in” with sleeping bags and a flashlight inside the living room 31. Go trick-or-treating or hand out candy in costumes Have fun checking off your list of fall-themed activities, and don’t forget to make memories along the way!

Meagan Ruffing is a parenting journalist, mental health therapist, and single mom who tries to do her best each day. She doesn’t always get things right but continually strives to do better.

Halloween doesn’t have to end when the candy bags hit the floor and the costumes get tossed in a pile. In fact, the day after can be a great chance to slow down and talk about what stuck with your child.

Try asking: “Who was the nicest person you met last night?” or “Did anything surprise you?” Kids often notice more than we think. They might mention a quiet kid who helped someone smaller, or a neighbor who gave out little notes with candy that said things like “You’re brave” or “You’re awesome.”

And if your child came home with a candy haul big enough to last until spring? Consider encouraging them to share the fun. Some families donate part of their stash to shelters or community programs. You can frame it as, “We had such a great night. Let’s help someone else have a sweet one, too.”

THE HEART BEHIND THE HOLIDAY You don’t have to take the fun out of Halloween to make it meaningful.

Embrace the candy, the silly costumes, and the neighborhood laughter. Keep it all. But also listen, notice, and ask the questions that make your kid pause and wonder. Empathy, compassion, and kindness linger longer than any candy high. And long after the mask comes off, the most meaningful thing they wear this Halloween might be the compassion that’s left behind.

Author Shannon Dean is the mother of two sons. She enjoys writing about the health and well-being of families.

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– by Shannon Carpenter

Night of the Living Playdate The Fitness Birthday Party our four-year-old received a birthday party invite from a girl in her preschool class. It’s at a gym, so you figure it will be tumbling. You walk in and boom, Fitness Mom is there to run a CrossFit birthday party. To even get in the door, each child has to do five pull-ups and one squat thrust. Parents, too. You think, “No way, I’m out of here.” Until you see your little girl with tears in her eyes.

You’re not even sure what a squat thrust is, so you attempt it but feel a muscle pop in the back of your leg.

The cake is made out of protein bars, the birthday girl benches more than you, and at the end, the gift bag is your readout of your body fat ratio.

Which Fitness Mom then posts to Instagram.

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Amusement Park Fun Time Nightmare You pull out your debit card because all you want is a bottle of water. It’s so hot, the rides hurt your back, and you can’t take it anymore.

Your ears hurt from the songs, and your sunscreen was a bargain basement brand. All you wanted to do was save a few bucks, especially since the tickets were three hundred dollars.

You run your card through the scanner. The bottle of water costs $29. *Declined* In the distance, a cartoon mouse laughs manically.

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house. You can’t make out the words— death’s last bellow of dying batteries.

“AAAAAA” the toy says. “BBBBB” it follows. Then silence. Maybe it’s over.

Maybe it’s done. You close your eyes.

Then it starts speaking in tongues. Half phrases that will keep you awake for the rest of the night.

You’ve looked everywhere for it.

You know it’s the cheerleader doll Uncle Jerk Face gave his niece two Christmases ago. Your daughter loved it until she lost the doll. You thought that was that. Then the voices started. They will never stop.

storm. The hallway wall looks like a vertical gopher hole farm. And at 3 a.m., when you hear the pounding, you already know it’s too late.

Everyone Deserves a Clean House.

Your video game controller was tossed in the dishwasher. The horror was too much to consider.

Aisle Six Clean-Up Inflation. The word haunts you like the Tell-Tale Heart. It’s always on the news. It stalks your social media algorithm. Inflation, thump, thump, thump, Inflation. At the grocery store, you get the same stuff you always get.

Bologna, rice, and twenty pounds of beans. It’s like you are a pioneer ready to cross the plains. You make plans to bake hardtack.

You no longer see prices, just the word: Inflation. You check out, the number, oh lord, the number! Your vision blurs, but your hearing remains crystal clear.

Inflation.

Let’s Get Dressed “Daddy, I can put my own shoes on!” said your little one. “I don’t need any help!” He moves like he is caught in a time warp; minutes fly by, but his movements are glacially slow. He must first find his shoes, undo the Velcro, fit his foot in, and then tighten it. It’s so simple, so simple.

You are supposed to meet your in-laws at the restaurant in four hours.

You are not going to make it. They always knew you weren’t good enough for their daughter. But then a miracle happens!

“I’m done, daddy!” he said. The pressure bleeds off you as you see two shoes on his feet. You’re going to make it! You’re going to make it!

Your toddler forgot to put on pants.

He doesn’t want help with that either. A scream escapes your lips.

Fantastic Crafting Time Every DIY project requires a helper!

One with little fingers, a thirst for knowledge, and an underlying desire for destruction. You’ve loved showing your growing boy all of your tools and what they could do. He’s six and loves to help dad! And he loves Dad’s small sledgehammer.

The car is his first victim, and your hood looks like it got caught in a hail-

Shannon Carpenter is the father of three and has been a stay-at-home dad since 2008. He’s the author of the book “Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome FullTime Father.” as well as the co-host of Dadhouse Pod. In addition to his writing on parenting, he is also a humor writer trained through the famous Second City. And we all know that having a sense of humor is essential to surviving parenthood!

Family Movie Options: In Theaters and Streaming Online The Short Game

Theaters

Rating PG

Overall B+

Violence B+

Sex A

Profanity B+

Alcohol/Drugs A

Jeremy needs a golf scholarship to achieve his university dreams but he has two problems: first, he’s in a slump, and second, he’s responsible for looking after Ethan, his autistic brother. Jeremy is frustrated that babysitting cuts into his practice time, but he soon learns that Ethan has unique gifts that just might save his game. This is an unusual Christian-lite sports film in that it never preaches and provides plenty of plot surprises to go along with its feel-good message.

Photo ©Abramorama

Triumph of the Heart

Theaters

Rating Unrated

Overall A-

Violence C

Sex B

Profanity C+

Alcohol/Drugs C

Overall B

Violence B

Sex A

Profanity A

Alcohol/Drugs B-

When ten men are selected to starve to death in Auschwitz, a Catholic priest steps forward and offers to take the place of one of them. Father Maximilian Kolbe is the heart of this film, strengthening his fellow prisoners and influencing other prisoners in the camp. This story of this Polish saint is both bleakly depressing and inspiring to Catholics and unbelievers alike. Violent scenes are carefully shot but unavoidable in telling the tale. Despite the brutality, the film is highly recommended for teens and adults. Photo ©Outsider Pictures

Light of the World

Theaters

Rating PG

Told from the perspective of a very youthful Apostle John, this is a child-friendly story of the life and ministry of Jesus Christ. There is plenty of non-canonical material in the script and scriptural details are often altered or rearranged but the story is tightly focused on demonstrating how Jesus brings light into the darkness of the world. The animation has a distinctive style and is a step above TV cartoons, but it is definitely mid-range. Christian families will probably enjoy this movie, but it’s unlikely to have mass appeal. Photo ©The Salvation Poem Project

The Thursday Murder Club

Netflix

Rating PG-13

Overall B+

Violence C

Sex B+

Profanity D+

Alcohol/Drugs B+

Four pensioners at a charming seniors’ home dabble in resolving cold cases until a very fresh murder lands on their doorstop. The retired nurse, union leader, psychologist, and MI6 operative pool their connections, knowledge, and skills to gather information and make deductions. Based on the best-selling British novel, this film is a beautifully cast, reasonably well-written adaptation that should be enjoyed by fans or casual Netflix viewers in the mood for a cozy whodunit. Photo ©Netflix

Ne Zha II

Theaters

Rating

Overall

Violence

Sex

Profanity

Alcohol/Drugs

Unrated

C+

C

A

A

A

After a bizarre series of events, Ne Zha and his frenemy Ao Bing are forced to share a body. Their only hope is for Ne Zha to compete in the ascension trials, become an immortal and gain a magical elixir. But war, treachery, and ambition stand in his way…The most profitable animated film in history, this movie is now available in America with an English dub – however, its animation quality is overshadowed by violence, incoherence, and a bloated runtime. Photo ©A24 Detailed reviews available at www.parentpreviews.com October 2025 WNY Family 17

—by Rebecca Hastings

Top Sheets, Matching Socks, and OtherThings I’m Letting Go Of

I

scowled as I looked at the basket of socks. How were there so many? There are only five of us. Rifling through them, it seemed they were all partnerless, making my job feel even harder. I dumped them all on the bed, hoping to find some matches so I could get through the basket and move on to the next thing that needed to get done.

There always seemed to be something that needed to get done. I was so busy sorting socks that I couldn’t do the things I really wanted to do.

Life is full of these things. Things that eat up our limited time and seem to loom over our heads. But what if we could change that? What if we could find more space to do the things that matter most to us?

DOING SOMETHING NEW

I’m not even talking about extravagant things like going on a trip. There are things that I want to make space for. Things like planning meals, reading a chapter of a book, or finally cleaning out my car. There are days when I want to play a game with my kids or take them out for a walk. Times when I want to drink a cup of tea with my husband or spend a little extra time on my daughter’s hair.

Looking at the socks spread all over my bed, I did something I’d never done before, something my mom would be horrified by. I gave up. This wasn’t the kind of giving up that comes with piling more clean laundry to rifle through later. I gave up matching the socks. It was easy to tell which socks belonged to each person, so I put each pile of unmatched socks in the person’s drawer. The socks were put away, and I had fifteen minutes to breathe. It felt glorious.

I want my life to have a little breathing room to do the things that feel important to me instead of spending all my time on baskets of socks that seem to multiply each week.

The shift wasn’t about the socks as much as it was about letting go of a standard or expectation I had set for myself. After this revelation, I set out to find other things I could release.

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WHAT ELSE COULD GO? Top sheets were one of the next things to go. They didn’t seem to serve a purpose on kids’ beds, and they always seemed to be tangled at the foot anyway. After removing the top sheet, all we had to do was smooth the blanket out each day. That felt easy.

I thought about the other things that always seemed to loom large and take up my time. I knew I couldn’t get rid of everything (we still needed dinner each night, no matter how much I didn’t feel like it!) But I could let go of other small things.

Along the line of socks, I stopped folding tiny pairs of underwear. They simply got unfolded when my kids wanted that pair with the special superhero anyway. One less thing to worry about.

Letting go came in other ways, too. I learned that I needed my house to be tidy more than I needed it to be perfect. If the books made it to the shelf, that was good enough. They continued on page 31

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Addiction Treatment & Mental Health Services:

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HORIZON CORPORATIONS

55 Dodge Rd., Getzville, NY 14068 716-831-1800 horizon-health.org Horizon Health Services provides hope and healing for individuals and their families dealing with substance use and/or mental health disorders.

227 Thorn Ave., Orchard Park, NY 14127 716-539-5500 www.shswny.org Helping families throughout WNY with mental health & substance use counseling needs.

Breastfeeding:

THE CARE CONNECTION

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Childcare Resources: CHILD CARE RESOURCE NETWORK

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This fall, experience favorite seasonal events and activities in the Chautauqua Lake Erie Region.

Cast your line on our five amazing lakes including Chautauqua Lake and Lake Erie to enjoy world class fall fishing. Grab your clubs and a couple of friends for a round of golf on over a dozen public courses lined by colorful trees. Take in the changing leaves while exploring miles of trails on foot, on horseback or by

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Enjoy live music, craft vendors and favorite fall treats. Plan a day of family fun with pumpkin and apple picking at local farms and markets. Stay at a luxury lakeside hotel, a secluded cabin in the woods or a charming bed and breakfast. Check out www. tourchautauqua.com and start planning your fall getaway today!

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Chiropractic:

CLARENCE CHIROPRACTIC

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4440 Shimerville Rd., Clarence, NY 14031 716-633-2036 www.MainChiropractor.com General Family Practice. Also specializing in Pregnancy, Children, and Athletic Injuries.

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Spezio’s Dance Dynamics

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Spezio’s Dance Dynamics, Amherst’s premier dance training center, has been educating young artists from beginner to pre-professional since 1993, while enhancing each dancer’s creativity, physical fitness and passion for the art of dance.

Director and Owner Michelle Spezio holds extensive teaching background in all genres and aspects of training enhances opportunities for all students whether they intend to pursue a career in the

arts or are dancing for enjoyment.

The professional staff of degreed teachers is dedicated to providing students a well-rounded dance education to all. SDD offers a professional studio with 4 class rooms, many amenities and versatile subjects of study as well as high level ballet training for dancers to discover their personal talents.

“Dancer’s TurnOut Better,” that’s what we believe. Research shows that students who study dance are disciplined, goal oriented and self-motivated.

Dancers are expressive in their communication of emotions, likely to excel, creative, imaginative and able to critically analyze and problem solve.

Educating dancers to use these life skills in pursuing goals, overcoming obstacles and staying physically fit throughout their lives is our goal.

Dance Dynamics Students have won significant awards for proper training/choreography all through the USA. Dancers have attended many prestigious summer intensives and awarded scholarships. SDD is committed to helping every dancer experience the joy of dance! Spezio’s Dance Dynamics is a proud member of Dance Master’s of America, International Dance Entrepreneurs Association, NDEO, Award winning faculty and director, and has had the pleasure of training so many talented dancers. SDD dancers are going places!

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ELITE DANCE COMPANY

5360 Genesee St. Bowmansville, NY 14026 716-288-7868 www.EliteDanceWNY.com Where every dancer counts so that each dancer can reach their fullest potential.

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EUGENIA’S DANCE STUDIO

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Dentists (Pediatric): TAMMY PERISON, DDS

425 Main St., West Seneca, NY 14224 716-674-5256 6590 E. Quaker St., Orchard Park, NY 14127 716-662-7651 www.perisondental.com Afraid of seeing the dentist?

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3724 Quaker Rd., Gasport, NY 14067 716-772-2211 www.beckerfarms.com U-Pick Fruit; Farm Market; CSA; Pies, Ice Cream; Animals; Educational Tours; A 131-Year Family Tradition! Visit Vizcarra Vineyards & Becker Brewing Co.!

GREG’S U-PICK FARM MARKET

9270 Lapp Rd., Clarence Center, NY 14032 716-741-4239 www.gregsupick.com U-Pick farm market and CSA. Produce, baked goods, animal barn and more.

Fencing Instruction:

FENCING CENTER OF BUFFALO

485 Cayuga Rd., Cheektowaga, NY 14225 716-553-3448 www.fencingbuffalo.com Learn to fence. Instruction in classical fencing. Kids, teens, adults.

Equipment provided.

Gymnastics:

BUFFALO TURNERS

3200 Elmwood Ave., Kenmore, NY 14217 716-877-2700 www.buffaloturnersgymnastics.com Gymnastics instruction at all levels.

CHILDREN IN ACTION

75 Mid County Dr., Orchard Park, NY 14127 716-662-6886 Email: ciagym@aol.com www.childreninactiongym.com Gymnastics, Boys & Girls 12 months and up. Parent-Tot, Preschool Program, Tumbling, Birthday Parties, Field Trips, Playgroups.

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70 Weiss Ave. West Seneca, NY 14224/Orchard Park border 716-677-0338 www.gymnastics-unlimited.net Infant-18 yrs., Tramp/Tumble, Learning in Motion, Open Time.

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ROLLY POLLIES

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NIAGARA HOSPICE

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HERSCHELL CARROUSEL FACTORY MUSEUM

180 Thompson St., North Tonawanda, NY 14120 716-693-1885 www.carrouselmuseum.org Fun events and activities for all ages. Once Around Is Never Enough!

NIAGARA POWER VISTA

5777 Lewiston Rd, Lewiston, NY 14092 716-286-6661 www.NYPA.gov/NiagaraPowerVista Powerful fun! Free and fun events, activities and interactive exhibits for all ages. Free group tours, school field trips and community event space.

Minutes from the Falls (free seasonal shuttle.)

OLD FORT NIAGARA

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Living history programs every day, special events, re-enactments.

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Museums & Attractions: AQUARIUM OF NIAGARA

701 Whirlpool St., Niagara Falls, NY 14301 716-285-3575 www.aquariumofniagara.org Visit WNY’s only aquarium. Sea lions, seals, penguins and more!

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5651 River Rd., Niagara Falls, ON L2E 7M7 905-356-8888 www.birdkingdom.ca Discover the world’s largest indoor free-flying aviary… an adventure for all ages! Open all year. Senior Tuesdays, 50% off admission.

BUFFALO AND ERIE COUNTY BOTANICAL GARDENS

2655 South Park Ave., Buffalo, NY 14218 716-827-1584 www.buffalogardens.com Connecting people and plants through beautiful gardens and extraordinary experiences.

Science and Mathematics Complex, Buffalo State University www.planetarium.buffalostate.edu Visit the planetarium for immersive astronomy programs and exciting laser music experiences!

Music Education: 716 MUSIC & MORE

716-390-8347 www.716MusicAndMore.com Family music classes for young children and their parents or caregivers.

FEELINGS ROCK

Locations Throughout WNY 716-903-6593 www.feelingsrock.com Music and Movement classes for preschoolers and their caregivers.

Obstetrics & Gynecology: GENERAL PHYSICIAN, PC WOMEN’S HEALTH

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Girls & Boys Gymnastics H Parent Tot & Preschool H School Age Classes H Trampoline & Tumbling H Team program Boys & Girls H Learning ‘n’ Motion Pre-school / 3 days per week

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1150 Youngs Rd., Suite 104 Williamsville, NY 14221 716-632-8124 www.gppconline.com Providing access to patient services for high-risk pregnant women and their babies.

QUEEN CITY OBGYN

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Preschools/Montessori: FOUNDATIONS

6445 West Quaker, Orchard Park, NY 14127 716-667-9377 www.foundationspreschool.net A private preschool offering an enhanced curriculum with progressive programs for 2-5 year olds.

LEARNING ‘N’ MOTION/ GYMNASTICS UNLIMITED

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ROOTS OF THE FUTURE MONTESSORI SCHOOL

8970 Main St., Clarence, NY 14031 716-545-8048 www.rootsofthefuture.com An education that understands and nurtures your child’s natural curiosity for knowledge.

Schools:

CHARTER SCHOOL FOR APPLIED TECHNOLOGIES

Paint Your Own Pottery: DESIGNING DISH

138 Grey St., East Aurora, NY 14052 716-655-4456 www.designingdish.com Where everyone is creative. Pottery, glass, pottery to go and much more!!

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Parenting Resources:

PARENT NETWORK OF WNY

1021 Broadway St., Buffalo, NY 14212 716-332-4170 www.parentnetworkwny.org Supporting families of individuals with disabilities through educational resources, 1-on-1 support and events.

WESTERN NEW YORK REGIONAL CENTER FOR AUTISM SPECTRUM DISORDERS

Niagara County’s Child Care Resource Center Administered by Niagara Community Action Program, Inc.

150 Stahl Road, Getzville, NY 14068 Email: wnyrcasd@thesummitcenter.org www.thesummitcenter.org A collaborative program offering workshops, trainings, and conferences to support parents, educators, human service providers, and other related professionals.

Performing Arts:

ZPAC PERFORMING ARTS CENTER, LLC

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2303 Kenmore Ave., Buffalo, NY 14207 716-871-7400 Email: koliverperez@csat-k12.org www.csat-k12.org Serving grades K-12, open to all residents, no entrance exams.

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CHRIST THE KING SCHOOL

2 Lamarck Drive, Snyder, NY 14226 716-839-0473 Email: office@myCTKschool.com www.myctkschool.com Offering PreK3 - 8th grade.

Small Classes & Strong Academics.

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ST. BENEDICT SCHOOL

3980 Main St., Amherst, NY 14226 716-835-2518 www.stbenschool.org High academic achievement in a rich spiritual environment. PK3-8th grade.

Senior Home Services:

CHRISTIAN HOME COMPANIONS

788 Birchwood Dr., Lockport, NY 14094 716-439-8100 Email: ChristianHomeCompanions@gmail.com www.christianhomecompanions.com In Home Help from the HEART.

Senior Housing:

PEOPLE INC. SENIOR LIVING

716-880-3890 www.people-inc.org People Inc. operates 20 Senior Living affordable apartment complexes throughout Western New York.

Skiing

BUFFALO SKI CENTER

7414 State Road, Colden, NY 14033 716-941-5654 www.buffaloskicenter.com Family Fun and Safe environment.

Lessons ages 3+. Closest resort to Buffalo.

547 Englewood Ave., Kenmore NY 14223 716-832-9334 www.dspgwny.org Raising awareness of and enhancing the lives of people with Down syndrome

PEOPLE INC.

1219 North Forest Rd., Williamsville, NY 14221 833-404-0032 www.people-inc.org

Special Needs Services: ASPIRE OF WNY

Serving all of Erie & Chautauqua Counties 716-838-0047 www.aspirewny.org Aspire of WNY Supports People with Disabilities Live Independent and Fulfilled Lives!

THE CHILDREN’S LEAGUE

THE DOWN SYNDROME PARENTS GROUP OF WNY

393 North St., Springville, NY 14141 716-592-9331 www.tclny.org Center & community-based educational & therapeutic programming. EI & CPSE Evaluations.

Serving children birth to 5 years of age.

People Inc. provides an array of services to people with intellectual and developmental disabilities, families and older adults to achieve greater degrees of independence and productivity. Services include residential, vocational and supported employment, respite, senior services, health care and affordable housing.

THE SUMMIT CENTER

150 Stahl Rd., Getzville, NY 14068 General Information: 716-629-3400 www.thesummitcenter.org Developmental evaluations, therapeutic and clinical services, family support services, behavioral health services, respite, & school programs for children and adults.

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Offering Programs & Services for Children with Autism and staff have master’s degrees as well as advanced training in applied behavior analysis therapy.

Our programs and services include • Summit Academy

To find out how The Summit Center can support your child’s growth and development, please call us at 716-629-3400 or visit our website at www.

TheSummitCenter.org.

• Early Autism Program • Adult Day Programs • Supported Employment The Summit Center offers programs for children and adults with developmental disabilities. We help individuals achieve their greatest potential by incorporating evidencebased practices and carefully monitoring progress.

Summit has nearly 650 employees including special education teachers, behavior specialists, speech pathologists, occupational and physical therapists, psychologists, and respite providers. Many of our faculty

• Respite Programs • Parent Training • Behavioral Pediatrics Clinic

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CHAUTAUQUA COUNTY VISITORS BUREAU

Chautauqua Main Gate, Route 394, Chautauqua, NY 14722 866-908-4569 www.tourchautauqua.com Experience amazing outdoor recreation and unique cultural attractions in Chautauqua County, NY. See Our Advertiser Spotlight.

Tutoring:

CENTER FOR LITERACY AND READING INSTRUCTION (CLaRI)

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University at Buffalo Foster Hall, South Campus Buffalo, NY 14214 • 716-645-2470 www.buffalo.edu/clari CLaRI provides reading evaluations and individualized one-to-one literacy tutoring.

Toy Store:

CLAYTON’S TOYS

5225 Main St., Williamsville, NY 14221 716-633-1966 1396 Hertel Ave., Buffalo, NY 14216 716-939-3000 www.claytonstoystore.com One Hundred and nine years of delivering smiles!

Urgent Care:

WNY IMMEDIATE CARE

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ABUSE/DOMESTIC VIOLENCE n New York State Office of Children & Family Services https://ocfs.ny.gov/programs/ prevention State Hotline: 1-800-342-3720 Report abuse/neglect of children.

If you believe a child is in immediate danger, call 911 or your local police department. n New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence https://opdv.ny.gov/survivorsvictims New York State Domestic & Sexual Violence 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-942-6906 According to Safe Horizon, a New York victims’ services agency, 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence; more than 3 million children each year witness domestic violence at home; without help, girls who witness domestic violence are more vulnerable to abuse, and boys are more likely to become abusers of their partners and children as adults, continuing a cycle of violence seen in families all too often. n Haven House Child & Family Services 24-Hour Hotline: 716-884-6000 (for HELP & Shelter) For over 35 years, Haven House has been working to prevent domestic violence/intimate partner violence and promote peace in the home. Services are based on a continuum of care ranging from a fully-inclusive emergency shelter in a confidential location to long-term transitional housing. The continuum of care includes an extensive counseling and advocacy program for all individuals regardless of gender that includes many satellite locations throughout Erie County.

Who Should Call? Anyone involved in an intimate partner violence or family violence situation,

including: domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, those in same-sex relationships, those with disabilities, male survivors, senior citizens, and immigrant and refugee victims of domestic violence. Friends, family members, co-workers, neighbors, or professionals with questions about domestic violence operates safe and secure emergency housing in a confidential location for women and their children, single women, and transgendered individuals identifying as female. Shelter supportive services include: Safety Planning, Individual Counseling, Support groups (including Art Empowerment), Advocacy.

Referrals can call the hotline for information. Haven House housing assistance, Referrals to transitional housing, Food, Clothing, Crisis Intervention, and Children’s Programs. n Family Justice Center of Erie County 716-558-SAFE (7233) www.fjcsafe.org Offers free services for domestic violence victims and their children through an extensive collaboration with 13 partner agencies, all located at one secured, comfortable location, where victims can get all the services they need to safely escape abuse. Appointments are not necessary but are recommended. All services are available virtually by calling 716-558-7233.

Buffalo 438 Main St., Suite 201, Buffalo 716-558-7233 (Monday-Friday; 8:30am-4pm) Orchard Park 4383 South Buffalo St., Orchard Park 716-662-0259 (Wed. 8:30am-4pm) Amherst 330 North Forest Rd., Amherst 716-634-4309 (Thurs.; 8:30am-4pm)

Grand Island 1801 Grand Island Blvd. Suite 3 Grand Island 716-507-0764 (Tues.; 8:30am-4pm)

BABY NEEDS There are a number of local “Baby Needs” programs that meet the emergency needs of infants and very young children by providing them with a supply of diapers, infant formula, baby food, and baby care products. Limited quantities available; supplies may differ at each location. Get in touch with Baby Needs programs at the following locations which serve specific zip codes: n Buffalo River Food Pantry 62 Republic Street Buffalo, NY 14204 www.old1stward.com 716-856-8613 Mon-Thurs, 8am-11am.

Serving zip code 14204. n Every Bottom Covered Delavan Grider Community Ctr. 877 Delevan Ave. Buffalo, NY 14215 716-896-7021 Provides up to 50 free diapers and/or 25 pull-ups for each child in eligible families. Diapers available for pickup on a monthly basis. n The Genesis Center 2163 Seneca Street Buffalo, NY 14210 716-822-1901 www.thegenesiscenter.us Hours by appointment only. Call to schedule. Serving zip code 14210 for parents with an emergency need; no residency requirements for children’s clothing. n Kenmore Alliance Church 175 Bonnet Ave

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n Harvest House Baby & Children’s Ministry 175 Jefferson Avenue Buffalo, NY 14210 716-824-7818 ext. 214 www.harvesthousebuffalo.org Serving Erie County; by appointment only.

BREASTFEEDING n La Leche League International www.lllusa.org The local La Leche group La Leche League of Western New York - can be found on Facebook. Leaders are available to answer your questions about breastfeeding. If you are unable to find a leader in your area, call 1-877-4-LALECHE (1-877-452-5324).

Western New York La Leche Leaders: Kimberly, 716-997-4662 Jenny - 716-512-5000

FOOD ALLERGIC FAMILIES n Greater Buffalo Food Allergy Alliance www.gbfoodallergy.org The mission of this local support group is to share information, tips, and experiences to ease the challenges of living with food allergies, as well as raise the awareness in the community; meets at the Orchard Park Library, 4570 South Buffalo St., Orchard Park. You can find meeting details and locations on the organization’s Facebook page.

NUTRITION ASSISTANCE n WIC - Women, Infants & Children https://www.ccwny.org/wic Women, Infants & Children (WIC) is a federal nutrition program that supports pregnant, postpartum, and breastfeeding women, infants and children up to the age of five to live a healthier life. WIC provides nutrition education and counseling, breastfeeding support, prenatal and postpartum support, referrals and supplemental food vouchers. All of our services are free of charge.

WIC is for all kinds of families - married or single parents, working or not working.

Fathers, mothers, grandparents, foster parents or other legal guardians of a child under five can apply for the child to receive WIC. WIC does not require US citizenship, social security number, green card or legal residency to receive benefits.

Catholic Charities operates the program locally through a variety of locations. To reach any of the sites serving Chautauqua, Erie and Niagara counties, call (716) 2181484.

Not all of their locations are open every day, please call for site schedules.

You may be eligible for WIC if you: • Are pregnant, breastfeeding or post-partum, OR • Have an infant or child under 5 years old, AND • Receive SNAP (Food Stamps), Temporary Assistance (TANF) or Medicaid or meet the income guidelines below, AND • Live in New York State You can also call NY State’s Growing Up Healthy Hotline toll-free at 1-800-522-5006 for further information about eligibility, etc.

PARENT ORGANIZATIONS n MOMS Club www.momsclub.org

The MOMS Club is an international non-profit organization, started by a California mom. Several local chapters have formed which offer monthly meetings with speakers and discussions, park play dates, holiday family parties, outings for mothers and their children, and activity groups like playgroups, arts ‘n crafts, and a monthly MOMS Night Out. They also do community service projects. Find a local chapter through their web site. n WNY Mothers Of Multiples formerly Mothers of Twins Club of Buffalo www.wnymultiples.org This support group for expectant and current mothers of twins (and more!) meets on the 2nd Wednesday of most months at 7pm at Good Shepherd Lutheran Church, 2669 Sheridan Drive, Tonawanda. In addition to their meetings which feature “meet and mingle” sessions, they organize activities such as moms’ nights out, toy/clothing sales, and a great vareity of other momoriented and family events.

Download membership forms on their website.

POISON EMERGENCY n Upstate New York Poison Center 24 Hours A Day, 365 Days A Year 1-800-222-1222 https://www.upstate.edu/ poison/ Calls are answered by Specialists in Poison Information (SPIs), registered nurses, and pharmacists trained in toxicology.

Specialists provide the most efficient and up-to-date poison information available. Physicians and toxicologists are on-call 24 hours a day for consultation purposes.

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Tonawanda, NY 14150 www.kenmorealliance.com/ ministries/kac-serves 716-876-5570 Many types of services are offered including emergency essentials for babies.

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didn’t need to be lined up and organized. Same for toys.

Picked up was more important than being put away in labeled spots on perfect shelves. This gave us all space to breathe.

FINDING MORE JOY None of these things was revolutionary. But they shifted the expectations for myself and my family enough that we could find space to enjoy the life we have. When given the option of spending thirty minutes matching socks or thirty minutes playing a game, I want to choose the game, and I’d rather spend five minutes reading a book than wrestling a top sheet.

When we begin to let go of these small things, we have more time and space to create the life we want to live. In a season when we want to pursue new goals or create new rhythms, the best way to make that happen is by releasing the inconsequential to create room for what is uniquely significant to you.

Think about your life: what can you let go of that will give you space to embrace what’s most important to you?

Maybe it’s packing beautiful lunches or hovering over your kids every minute. Maybe it’s having an Instagram-worthy fridge or closets organized by color. It will be different for all of us. But if you need an idea, socks are the perfect starting place.

Whether it’s top sheets and socks or something else, letting go can give you the space you need to do what matters most to you.

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Steam Engine No. 18

FAMILY TRAVEL — by Deborah Williams

New York Countryside Gems

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ew York’s countryside offers unique gems full of history. They provide the chance to step back into another world and are just plain fun.

Two of my favorites are a steam train and a special canal boat—both once the fastest modes of travel and now these unique experiences are among the slowest, inviting passengers to savor the experience.

The Arcade & Attica Railroad Steam Engine No. 18, built in 1920, is back in service this season after a seven-year restoration. The railroad company has the only steam engine offering rides in New York State. Railroad fans have been cheering the return of the very special engine which requires a ton of coal and 1,000 gallons of water for the 14-mile round trip between Arcade and the depot in Curriers.

“It’s like a breathing animal,” said Patrick Connors, chief mechanical officer of the railroad. “It pants and hisses.”

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People stop their cars and gather along the rural route to take photos and wave to the passengers onboard. Most everyone onboard waves back. Then there is the wonderful evocative sound of the horn put into play anytime the train nears a road.

The train was listed on the National Register of Historic Places in 1981. It is the oldest continuously operating railroad under the same corporate identity in New York.

The railroad has its origins in the Buffalo, Attica & Arcade Railroad, which officially opened in 1880. The rails we were riding on were first spiked down in 1881 and standardized in 1895 to connect with the Pennsylvania Railroad. For years freight kept the railroad chugging along.

But by the late 1950s, freight business had declined and something was needed to keep the railroad operating. Steampowered passenger excursions began and continue today. The #18, a 1920 2-8-0 American locomotive was purchased in 1962, and the inaugural

run was on July 27, 1962. Since then, more than two million passengers have experienced a ride back in history.

From the early days, the ride on the railroad has been a multi-generational outing. Many grandparents bring their grandchildren and reminisce about their first rides on the railroad. Several young children

arrived adorned with their railroad hats (available in the gift shop).

Curriers Depot wooden train

“I so enjoy welcoming generations of families who have been returning here for years,” explained Jeff Wolski, a veteran of nine years as a conductor.

“We have become part of the history of some families.”

At the Curriers Depot everyone is invited to leave the train. There is a building where snacks are available, a small museum, and a wooden train for children to climb aboard. The best part is when the locomotive uncouples from the train, moves onto a siding and stops.

Passengers are invited to take a closer look at the engine, take photos, and talk with the crew as they prepare for the return trip.

For the return trip, I joined many other passengers who were riding in the open car that was now in the front. We watched as the train climbed the hill coming out of Curriers and listened to the rhythmic chugs of the engine, the whistle, and the very loud horn.

The sounds immediately echoed the classic book The Little Engine That Could.

Of course, there was no problem as our 1920 steam locomotive pulled us along at the speed of about 10 mph that was once considered quite fast. This is certainly an engine that could.

I thought of the early years of the railroads when a train like ours was the very latest in technology. Now we were riding the train as travelers might have done 100 years ago.

Our conductor thanked us for coming along on the trip. Although the company still carries limited freight during the week, it is the passengers and the devoted staff who keep the railroad rolling along the tracks in the Arcade area.

The trip is not only fun, but I felt we were doing a good deed by supporting the railroad.

The Liz & Dave Beebe Camillus Erie Canal Park is named in honor of the founders who are now in their 90s.

They inspired a terrific group of volunteers who joined the cause and helped create this 420-acre park and saved the historic 1842 Nine Mile Creek Aqueduct.

After its more than $2.2 million restoration, it is now the only rewatered navigable aqueduct left in the world from the First Enlargement of the Erie Canal.

Out of the 32 aqueducts built as part of the first enlargement of the Erie Canal in the 1840s, this is the only one still standing.

In 2009, a canal boat crossed over the aqueduct for the first time in 89 years. It is also listed on the National Register of Historic Places.

An aqueduct is basically an artificial channel for conveying water and is typically in the form of a bridge across a gap. Best of all there are regular 45-minute canal tour boat rides on this waterway and aqueduct. Kayaks and canoes are also welcome to enjoy the waters.

“We like to point out that we offer the only canal cruise on an historic waterway from the early days of the canal,” explained Lisa Wiles, coordinator of the park and the only staff member.

She is also a member of the well-known Wiles boat tour family. continued on page 36

Arcade & Attica Railroad FALL FOLIAGE STEAM ENGINE RIDES: Weekends from October 4 -19

SENIOR FALL FOLIAGE RIDES: October 1, 8, 15 & 22 at 1pm

HAUNTED HALLOWEEN EXPRESS

October 25 & 26 • 11am to 2pm

Santa’s Wonderland Express Weekends from November 22nd through December 21st Introducing Santa’s Wonderland Express, where you will be traveling to the “North Pole” to visit Santa Claus, meet his reindeer, mail your wish lists and more! This event is a can’t miss!

278 Main St. | Arcade, NY 14009

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PICK OF THE LITERATURE — by Dr. Donna Phillips

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ome fall things never get old. Jumping in a pile of leaves, cozy sweaters and flannel shirts, apple picking, pumpkin carving, the smell of the autumn woods, fresh apple cider, fall festivals, squirrels gathering nuts, spooky movies, spices in the kitchen, crisp mornings and evenings by the fire, and of course…Halloween! With the many ways we have to celebrate, we can always rely on books to make the season even more special. Here are some I think you and your family will like.

of Halloween grace the pages, and the last page is a maze. With all of these fun Halloween jokes, this might be a fun book to use for Halloween party entertainment.

to see and do this time of year and ends with a recipe for Pumpkin Spice for the family to make and use for the upcoming holidays.

Pumpkin Spice (Grosset & Dunlap, New York, 2025, $7.99), written by Arie Kaplan and illustrated by Monique Dong, is a board book for the little ones that highlights almost all our favorite things about fall. Pumpkin Spice thinks she is responsible for all the sights, sounds, and smells of autumn. As she explores the woods with her friend Jack, she learns it is all just part of the season. This colorful book takes us on a tour of all the things 34 WNY Family October 2025

It’s Time for Halloween (Gibbs Smith, Kaysville, 2025, $17.99) by Kathrin Fehrl is the perfect board book for a first Halloween. With colorful detailed illustrations, the reader is asked to search for and find holiday characters, foods, activities, and treats.

As the pages are turned, the scene expands to the reveal of a Halloween masquerade party. This will surely become the holiday’s favorite.

For the youngster who is a jokester, Ha Ha Halloween (Penguin Workshop, New York, 2025, $10.99)

by Jill Howarth will certainly be their favorite Halloween treat. This fun and colorful board book has over 25 jokes with lift-the-flaps hiding the answers and a search-and-find activity. Images

For older readers, how about a book with a cover that glows in the dark and contains 20 spooky stories from around the country? Creepy Campfire Stories (Gibbs Smith, Kaysville, 2025, $17.99) by Anastasia Garcia and illustrated by Teo Skaffa are set in such places as the Grand Canyon, Redwood National Park, Glacier National Park, Rhode Island, New Mexico, Maine, and Louisianna. continued on page 41

DEAR TEACHER – by Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts

Helping all parents make their children’s educational experience as successful as possible

WHEN IT’S TIME TO TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN’S TEACHERS

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arents: There is one important rule when it comes time for you to talk to your children’s teachers. Be sure to contact them as they have indicated on Back-to-School Nights, in school handbooks, or with information that they have sent to you. You simply won’t be able to have a meaningful conversation if you attempt to waylay them at school events. You, of course, will need to set up an appointment time unless your conversation will be part of a parent/teacher conference.

Chats with teachers do not have to be in person. Phone conversations are often more convenient for both parents and teachers. Also, before talking to a teacher, even if it is just an informational session, do ask your children if there is anything that they would like you to discuss with the teacher.

If your child has a serious health issue, their teachers at all school levels, as well as the school nurse and even the administration, need to know about it before the first day of school.

They must know what it is and how it is to be handled, if necessary. Furthermore, you must make sure that the school has family contact numbers so they can quickly get in touch with you.

Basic Information to Share With Your Children’s Teachers The more teachers know about your children and any issues that may affect their performance at school, the better you can work together to help them succeed in school. Here are some things they wish you would share with them at a conference or at a time when you simply want them to know more about your children: Family Concerns: Whenever there are major changes in your children’s lives at home, they may impact how they are doing at school.

Do tell their teachers about divorces, separations, deaths, adoptions, and even moves to a new residence.

Personality Traits: It is likely that their teachers are aware of whether your children are introverts or extroverts. But do they know about other major traits like agreeableness, openness, and conscientiousness that strongly affect how they work with others?

Academic Strengths and Weaknesses: While teachers will discover children’s strengths and weaknesses over time, it can certainly add to their picture of children to know such things as a passion for geography or the British monarchy that they could share with classmates. And weaknesses, especially if they are considerable, should be discussed to determine what extra help might be needed.

Classroom Concerns: It can be helpful for teachers to know that children get very upset when they have to give solo speeches or reports. And if children need to make friends with classmates, teachers can definitely help them do this. And the same goes for behavioral issues, especially bullying.

Extracurricular Strengths: What children do outside of school, can be integrated into lessons and be shared with classmates. It is then likely to increase your children’s interest in school. So, tell teachers if your children are swimmers, tennis players, dancers, volunteers, gifted artists, scouts, or tutors. And don’t forget about their hobbies like playing chess or knitting.

Academic Challenges: As soon as parents observe that their children are having academic difficulties in a subject, it should be discussed with a teacher.

Are Your Children in School a Sufficient Amount Of Time?

Parents: It’s easy to conclude that the longer the time your children spend in school, the higher their achievement will be. Ironically, studies do not clearly show that more instruction time results in higher student achievement. You have to factor into this such things as the quality of instruction as well as student ability. In fact, there have been studies that show the most important basis for student achievement is the quality of their teachers. Every year that your children have a really good teacher, the more likely they are to advance academically.

One way that you can track their academic progress is by studying how well they do on standardized tests.

These scores let you see how well they continued on page 41

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Sims Store

FAMILY TRAVEL continued...

canal sign showing the spot that marks the halfway point of the early canal and “We are also the only place where trail. visitors can see the first two versions of Our guide on our boat tour was Bob the canal,” she said. “An overlook Randall, a 12-year volunteer and allows people to see a section of the first mechanical engineer, who clearly loved canal whose 200th birthday we are celehis mission of educating and entertaining brating this year.” passengers about the remarkable history The park founders were birdwatchof the Erie Canal. ers who discovered this area near SyraThe park founders hope people cuse and wanted to preserve the green continue to come to the Camillus boat park and learn about the history of the transformative Erie Canal. Its completion and opening two centuries ago truly changed the history of the state, the country, and the world.

Every year, about 2,500 fourth graders come to the park to learn photo credit: Lisa Wiles about the Erie Canal as part of their study of space for migrating birds. They soon New York State history. learned of the history of these lands. In The centerpiece of the park is the 1972, they partnered with the Town of Sims Store, a recreation of a canal store Camillus to buy the overgrown and that was located about two miles from abandoned land that became the Camilwhere the park now stands. The store is lus Erie Canal Park. full of canal memorabilia. Don’t try to The park is also the midway point have a conversation as I did with Mr. of the Empire State Trail, popular with Sims, a remarkably real looking cardbicyclists who often take photos of the board cutout.

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There are canal historical exhibits including photos of 19th century canal life and a video of canal history. There are also models of locks, aqueducts, and canal boats and a Steam Engine exhibit.

Travel Tip of the Month: Arcade and Attica Railroad, 278 Main St., Arcade, visit aarailroad.com or call 585492-3100. There are special fall foliage excursions in October and Santa Wonderland Express rides in November and December. There are other special rides throughout the year.

Liz & Dave Beebe Camillus Erie Canal Park, 5750 Devoe Rd., Camillus, visit www.eriecanalcamillus.org or call 680-800-5298. The boat tour season is May through early October. This year the last boat tours are Oct. 5. The Sims Store Museum is open year-round on Saturdays, and the park is open daily for hiking and walking year-round. It is also very dog friendly, and museum volunteers have a good supply of dog biscuits.

Deborah Williams lives in Holland, NY and is a veteran travel writer whose work has appeared in national and international publications. She is the recipient of the Society of American Travel Writers’ Lowell Thomas Gold Travel Writing Award

RAISING DIGITAL KIDS — by Mike Daugherty

The New AI Risks for Teens

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arenting in the smartphone era felt like learning a new language; parenting in the AI era feels like waking up to a whole new alphabet. The newest tools don’t just connect our kids, they can simulate friendship, fabricate images, and manipulate voices in ways a traditional web filter won’t catch. One growing concern is AI “companion” bots becoming a teen’s late-night confidant. A recent New York Times reported case describes parents suing OpenAI after their 16-yearold son died by suicide, alleging the chatbot reinforced harmful thinking instead of de-escalating, a warning about how easily young people can bond with bots when they are most vulnerable.

This column is your plain English guide to what’s changed, why it matters, and what to do next. Let’s look at the three fastest-growing concerns.

1. AI companions (a.k.a. “chatbots that feel like friends”) I did a whole column on these back in April. AI companions are apps where a bot remembers your child’s preferences, “role-plays,” and sends flirty or intimate messages. Teens are drawn to how easy these bots are to talk to. There are no awkward pauses, they are always available, and endlessly affirming. That combo can blur boundaries, especially when bots nudge toward romantic or sexual content, or give confident advice with zero real-world context.

Parents should treat AI companions like any other private messaging app, but pay extra attention to emotional health. Ask what needs the AI companion is meeting (loneliness? boredom? stress relief?) and find healthier ways to address them in real life.

2. Deepfakes (photos, videos, and audio) A deepfake isn’t just a celebrity face swap. It can be your child’s voice reading a script they never said, or a classmate’s face pasted into an explicit video. For teens, the danger is often social: bullying, reputational harm, and coercion (“Send money or I’ll share this”).

Remind your child(ren) to question the facts. Teach them that we now live in a world where seeing or hearing it doesn’t make it true. If a fake targets your child, preserve evidence, report to the platform, and loop in your school if peers are involved. Focus on support, not shame.

3. “Undress” apps (nudification tools) These tools can transform a normal photo into a fake nude in seconds with no technical skills required. They often live as disposable sites or bots, which is why parental controls sometimes miss them.

Be explicit that any photo (hoodie selfie, yearbook headshot, even a team

picture) can be weaponized by someone with the right tools. Pair that message with clear next steps if something happens (see “If harm happens,” below).

TALK FIRST, TOOLS SECOND When you find something concerning like an odd chat, a downloaded voice clone, or a risky link, start with curiosity, not courtroom cross examination. Ask what they saw, when they saw it, and how it made them feel. That tone keeps the door open for the conversation you’ll need next week, not just the one tonight.

You know your teen best, but here are some sample conversation starters.

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“What do your friends think AI friend apps are for? Do they help or just distract?”

“If you heard a voice message that sounded like me asking for money, what would you do?”

“How would you tell if a photo was faked? Want to see a few examples together?”

Keep it collaborative. Teens respond better to “Let’s figure this out” than lectures.

Then consider adding or adjusting guardrails. Filters help, but they’re not a substitute for a strong, honest relationship. Here are some additional guidelines to help you navigate this uncharted territory. continued on page 38

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1. Set a “no secrets” rule for AI chats.

If your teen uses a chatbot, they agree to show you sample conversations and settings upon request.

Explain that private AI relationships can slide into manipulation or sexualized talk, especially late at night. Pair this with screen free bedtimes, which blunt a lot of risk. Screen free bedtimes are very helpful at mitigating many internet-related risks.

2. Tighten device and network settings.

Without getting too technical, parents can use age ratings, block 17+ categories, and restrict web installs on phones. At home, enable family profiles on your router or wireless system. The win isn’t perfect blocking; it’s shared awareness and shared language about risk.

3. Practice the sextortion response script.

Rehearse like a fire drill:

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Stop responding.

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Tell a parent or trusted adult immediately.

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Save everything (screenshots, usernames, URLs).

Report to the platform and involve your school if peers are involved. Your calm plan beats the scammer’s countdown clock every time.

4. Balance the warnings with healthy digital goals.

Channel interest in AI toward creative projects: coding a game, generating concept art for a story, or learning how to spot manipulated media. Help kids build, not just scroll; it shifts them from passive consumption to active creation.

IF HARM HAPPENS, RESPOND—DON’T REACT Stabilize your child first. Remind them: “You aren’t in trouble. This is a mess, and we’ll handle it together.”

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Preserve evidence. Screenshots of chats, profiles, dates/times, and any payment demands. Avoid resharing harmful images; keep them secure for reporting.

Report widely. Use the platform’s abuse tools and notify your school if classmates are involved. For nonconsensual images, seek removal through reputable takedown services; they can often fingerprint content to help keep it down once it’s removed.

Loop in allies. School counselors, a trusted coach, or another adult your child actually talks to. The goal is to reduce isolation and shame.

HELP THEM SEPARATE “CREATOR DREAMS” FROM RISKY SHORTCUTS Plenty of teens want to build a following online. That’s not inherently bad.

In fact, learning to produce videos, code interactive stories, or livestream a hobby can build real-world skills when done thoughtfully and transparently. Frame the conversation around effort, ethics, and audience: What are you making, why, and for whom? Who sees comments? Who can DM you? What won’t you post, even if it gets views?

THE BOTTOM LINE AI companions, deepfakes, and undress apps aren’t science fiction; they’re showing up in group chats, gaming servers, and search results today.

Your best defense is the same trio that’s always worked: relationships, routine conversations, and reasonable guardrails. Teach your child how these tools work, agree on clear boundaries, practice what to do if something goes wrong, and keep creating together. You won’t catch everything. You don’t need to. You’re building a young person who can spot risks, ask for help, and make solid choices online and in real life.

Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible Starbucks addict. He is a certified educational technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his twenty-year career in public education.

Currently, Mike is the Assistant Superintendent of Innovation, Technology, and Communications for the Chagrin Falls Exempted Village School district in Northeast Ohio. As an IT director he has developed creative, well thought out solutions that positively impact teaching and learning.

On September 16, 2025, a bipartisan United States Senate Judiciary Committee Hearing was held highlighting the need to protect children from the harms of AI companion chatbots and calling for more guardrails and safety measures on these platforms.

Testimony was provided by three parents, each of whom provided harrowing accounts of severe changes in their child’s demeanor and behavior, which they claim was brought about by their child’s relationships with AI chatbots. Their testimony included disturbing stories of chatbots encouraging their children to selfmutilate, inflict harm on other family members, or commit suicide. Of the three parents who testified, one currently has their child in treatment at a residential mental health facility and two have lost their children to suicide.

A complete video of the Senate Judiciary Committee Hearing, including the parents’ testimony, can be found at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8ddg4460xc.

If you’re worried about your child, take it seriously and talk to them right away. You also can turn to these resources for 24/7 help: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: You can call or text 988. You also can contact them through their website (https://988lifeline. org/).

Trevor Lifeline for LGBTQ community: 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678678. You can also contact them through their website (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/).

MINDFUL COLORING

TWEENS & TEENS —by Sandi Schwartz

Playful Ways for Tweens and Teens to Practice Mindfulness

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few weeks ago, my son came home from school pretty stressed out about his math and Spanish homework and the pressure to study for the upcoming spelling and geography bees. I could see it in his eyes that starting his homework immediately after walking in the front door was not the best idea.

conflicts with parents. According to TeenHelp.com, most teens feel some sort of stress, and many are quite stressed out. It’s imperative that they learn how to manage their stress in a healthy way, and mindfulness is a simple and enjoyable tool to use.

“What?! Play games when I have so much work to do? Isn’t that a waste of time?” he quickly responded.

“You’ll see. I promise that after you focus on some Jenga, you will be ready to tackle your homework with a much clearer head.”

Being a tween or teen can be stressful when dealing with school pressures, puberty, bullying, social media, and

Coloring can help our teens feel calmer, happier, and more focused.

There are actual physiological changes that occur when we color. It slows down our breathing and calms the amygdala, the part of the brain that controls the fear and stress response. Coloring also gives us a sense of flow. When we do something artistic that requires intense focus, we can become so absorbed in our work to the point of being in a near meditative state. Finally, coloring provides a healthy distraction from our worries, allowing us to replace negative thoughts and images with pleasant ones.

“Studies show that coloring reduces stress and can have a positive impact on PTSD and depression,” explains Jaime Pfeffer, mindfulness expert, author, and success coach. “By logging off technology and getting engaged with an art project like coloring, teens can benefit from slowing down, getting disconnected from the hustle and bustle of daily life, and letting all of their cares and worries float away.”

“Let’s play some Jenga before you start your homework,” I suggested.

What does Jenga have to do with stress reduction? Well, it is a mindfulness activity in disguise. Mindfulness, the act of focusing on the moment in a non-judgmental way, helps our kids become aware of the present moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Thousands of studies show that mindfulness improves both physical and mental health by relaxing us.

When you first suggest to your teen that they do some coloring, they will probably look at you like you are crazy.

Some teens might think coloring is for younger kids, but it can be an enjoyable therapeutic activity at any age. Adult coloring books are a huge hit these days, with some doctors even “prescribing” coloring to their patients to help calm their nerves.

MINDFUL EATING However, we have to be careful not to make it too serious and complicated.

Instead of forcing them to attend a meditation class or sit cross-legged on a pillow in the corner of their room, we can introduce some playful ways for them to practice mindfulness. It will be such a blast for them that they may not even realize they are doing something positive for themselves—and I bet you will want to join them.

Being playful with food can also help our teens practice mindfulness during their day. Mindful eating involves slowing down to savor and truly enjoy what we are putting in our mouths. You can encourage your tweens to try some mindful eating exercises, such as asking them to use their five senses to describe the food on their plates. Through each bite they take, they will explore the continued on page 40 October 2025 WNY Family 39

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I recently took my son out to get a special ice cream treat after a busy school day. When he started shoveling it into his mouth as fast as he could, I told him to hold on a minute and try to enjoy it. We sat down on a bench and I told him to close his eyes. (He asked me if I was nuts, but I promised him that it would make the ice cream taste way better—and so much more.) I first asked him to take a big whiff of the ice cream. He smiled and then described its smell as chocolatey with a hint of peanut butter. Then I asked him to put a spoonful into his mouth and to describe how it felt on his tongue and the inside of his cheeks. He also talked about the flavors bursting in his mouth. I then asked him about the sounds he heard as he ate the ice cream. Finally, I asked him to open his eyes and to describe the color and other visual aspects of the ice cream.

After this fun mindful eating game, my son said he felt relaxed and more appreciative for the amazing ice cream. It was exactly what he needed after a stressful day.

OLD-SCHOOL GAMES AND TOYS Remember all of those fun toys when you were a kid? You know, the ones that don’t require a battery or outlet? One way to help our teens be more mindful is to take them on a trip down

memory lane. Check out how these oldschool toys can bring some mindfulness to your teen.

Building a House of Cards.

calm throughout their day by showing them simple mindfulness tricks that they can tap into whenever and wherever they feel stressed. Whether it be mindfully eating a snack or coloring in their school planner, these strategies can help them manage stress for years to come.

Dominoes. This game also requires tremendous attention and steadiness. Playing dominoes is the perfect mindful activity, and your teen will surely enjoy the challenge of lining them up in a variety of patterns like circles, horseshoes, arches, and even spelling out words.

Sandi Schwartz is a multi-awardwinning author, freelance journalist, and mother of two. She has written extensively about parenting, wellness, and environmental issues. As the founder and director of the Ecohappiness Project, her mission is to inspire and educate families to build a nature habit to feel happier and calmer. Both her parenting book, Finding Ecohappiness: Fun Nature Activities to Help Your Kids Feel Happier and Calmer, and children’s book, Sky’s Search for Ecohappiness, are available now.

Learn more at www.ecohappinessproject.com.

This is no easy task, and one that takes intense concentration, patience, and a steady hand. One expert site recommends that the builder take deep breaths and add the next card in that brief space between exhalation and inhalation. By incorporating deep breathing with focus, we can see how mindfulness is essential when building a house of cards.

Kaleidoscope. Looking at colorful, mesmerizing patterns can grab anyone’s attention for minutes on end, and is another wonderful way for our tweens to get lost in the moment.

Flying a kite. Every summer

my son loves flying a kite on the beach.

Gazing up into the sky, tracking the dancing kite with the crystal blue sky in the backdrop is very relaxing and another wonderful mindfulness activity to try with your tween. They will be sure to get lost in the moment, which is the whole point of being mindful.

Handheld Ball Maze. Sure,

your teen will probably mock this game because it has nothing on their video games, but with a little creativity they can be used as a wonderful mindfulness tool. These mazes require concentration to maneuver that tiny metal ball either around the maze or to secure it into one of the holes to win the game. I bet it’s not as easy as they think!

Kids are living hectic lives, running around from one activity to the next trying to balance school, friends, and family. We can help them stay

DEAR TEACHER continued... stack up against other children across the country. However, it is not a perfect measure as they may not have been exposed to all the material that is on these tests.

If your children are in school for 179 days and approximately 6 ½ hours each day, they are attending the average amount of time that most students do in our country. While this is equal to the amount of time that students in many other countries attend school, it is far short of Japanese students’ 220 days.

Parents should send questions and comments to dearteacher@dearteacher.com and visit the dearteacher. com website to learn more about helping their children succeed in school.

PICK OF THE LITERATURE continued...

A handy map at the beginning of the book locates the stories and helps to create the mood. The book is divided into 5 sections—“From the Wild,” “From the Earth,” “From the Trees,” “From Familiar Places,” and “From the River”—which adds even more interest and intrigue. If titles like “They Came from the Corn” in From the Wild, or “Beware the Tunnel Terror” in From the Earth, “The Rental Cabin” in From the Trees, “A Night at Peter’s Pizza Palace” in From Familiar Places, or “Fish Breath” in From the Water, don’t interest you, there are many more stories from which to choose. This is a fun Halloween book for the whole family!

Each of these books speaks to some or all of the best of the Halloween season and are a great way to bring family and friends together. With books for our youngest to introduce them to seasonal activities, jokes to engage the next in line, and spooky stories for the older ones, this is shaping up to be a season of treats with a few tricks thrown in.

Dr. Donna Phillips is an associate professor in the College of Education at Niagara University where her specialty is literacy and children’s literature. She lives on Grand Island, NY and is the mother of two adult children and the grandmother of one.

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Empower Ability —by Sarah Lyons

—by Sarah Lyons

Inspire Advocate

Special Needs Potential Thri

Growth Strategies

A Sensory Sensitive Halloween

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ostumes, Halloween parties with sugary treats, trickor-treating, and spooky decorations are fun and exciting for most kids, but for a child with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), Halloween celebrations can be very overwhelming. A child with SPD has trouble processing input from any of the five senses in a normal way—what is background music to others may be loud and distracting to a kid with SPD, costumes may feel too itchy, make-up may feel sticky, and masks may have a strong scent or may be too restricting for kids with Sensory Processing Disorder.

Prior to Halloween, talk about how you will celebrate the day. Discuss what situations may be challenging and talk about what will help them feel more comfortable. If going door to door trickor-treating is scary, do a practice run.

Ask neighbors, friends, or family if your child can practice knocking on their door before the day of Halloween so they know what to expect. Try on the costume and make any adjustments needed so that they can feel as comfortable as possible.

As a mom of a child with SPD, I have learned first-hand how challenging Halloween can be. My daughter struggles daily to find clothes that are comfortable and are not too distracting. Typically, if we find a pair of pants she likes, I buy as many pairs as we can find. Loud noises or new situations can also be very stressful for her. She has the desire to be part of the fun on Halloween, but as the day approaches, the pressure is too much, the costume is uncomfortable, and walking around in the dark knocking on strangers’ doors is scary. I end up frustrated and she ends up disappointed.

This year we are taking a different approach to the holiday and I hope these tips help other families dealing with SPD enjoy Halloween too.

Costumes are usually a huge challenge for the child with SPD but luckily there are a lot of options. My daughter prefers to wear her favorite clothes and paint her face. This is what makes her feel comfortable. Other kids may like wearing their favorite pajamas or other soft clothing under a costume so they cannot feel the itchy fabric on their skin. If your child does not want to dress up at all, try letting them ride in a wagon and decorating the wagon like a car so that they can be part of the fun without having to actually dress up. Other simple ideas can include using a prop, wearing a silly T-shirt, or incorporating tools, such as noise canceling headphones, into your child’s costume. Never make your child feel that they are odd because they don’t like to dress up or go trick-ortreating.

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PREPARE YOUR CHILD

COSTUMES

PLAN AHEAD Try to be flexible and prepare a backup plan, just in case things do not go as planned. My daughter was very excited about Halloween and even wore her costume to school, but when the time came to go trick-or-treating with her siblings, she was overwhelmed. It is okay if your child decides to stay home and hand out candy, needs to take a break during trick-or-treating, or wants to head home early. Parents may also look for alternative activities that are just as fun. Many communities or churches offer fall parties that are not scary, are offered during the day, and where costumes are optional.

Halloween can be fun for everyone if families work together to find a way to celebrate that works for all of them. It is understandable that these traditions do not always sound appealing or make sense to kids that have SPD. Consider coming up with your own Halloween traditions such as painting pumpkins, baking treats, or going to dinner or a movie. With a little extra effort, planning, practice and flexibility, Halloween can be something your whole family enjoys.

Sarah Lyons is a wife and mother of six. The inspiration for this article came from her daughter who was diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder in 2014. She writes from her home in suburban Kansas City.

THE FAMILY PET

— Courtesy of the Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society

Get Curious About Your Cat’s Health Adopting and fostering pets continues nationwide as people add furry friends to their families for company.

However, building a bond is just the first step to pet ownership; curiosity and care for your pet’s health lasts its entire life.

Strong bonds with pets were among the more positive outcomes that came out of the COVID pandemic. Nearly 40% of people agree they couldn’t have made it through quarantine without their pets.

However, more than half of pets do not receive a yearly veterinary exam.

Cats are typically stoic, so if they are giving obvious indications of not feeling well, they need an exam which may include bloodwork and tests. Accordingly, the Niagara Frontier Veterinary Association offer these tips for becoming more curious about your cat’s health.

Potential health signals If your cat is acting normal, there may be a few hints that he or she isn’t feeling well. Watch for weight loss, changes in appetite or water intake, coughing or sneezing, acting lethargic, vomiting, changes in stool quality and more or less urine in the litter box. Call your veterinary hospital if there’s anything unusual going on with your cat and you have concerns.

The staff at your clinic can help you determine if a visit is necessary.

Accessing veterinary care Currently many clinics offer curbside services where pet owners stay outside instead of entering the clinic. They get your cat from your car. You can tell your veterinarian about your concerns over the phone while he or she examines your cat. Another option is mobile veterinary services, which can be utilized for routine visits, sick visits, hospice visits, or other specialized care. Emergency clinics and specialty hospitals are also open if needed as veterinarian clinics are considered essential businesses.

Some veterinarians are also offering telehealth services for pet owners. Royal Canin, a popular pet food company, offers cat owners free access to Ask.Vet’s chat service, which provides access to licensed veterinarians from the safety of your home 24/7. Simply sign up at Ask. Vet or text “chatnow” to 67076 to be connected with a veterinarian who can answer health-related questions.

Preparing for a visit Especially for cats who are not accustomed to regular vet visits, a trip when they’re already feeling unwell can be stressful. Consider these tips to help ease the experience:

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Keep your cat carrier somewhere where your cat can become familiar and comfortable with the way it looks and smells.

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Consider placing it near or next to her food dish or occasionally putting food in the carrier.

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Make daily time for activities like brushing and nail trims that help desensitize your cat to being touched.

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Use pheromone wipes and sprays to help relax your cat and reduce stress before the trip.

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Play calming music at an appropriate volume to help calm cats at home and in the car on the way to the vet.

The Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society consists of more than 75 small animal hospitals and 200 veterinarians in Erie and Niagara counties. Learn more at www.nfveterinarysociety.org

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—by Tanni Haas, Ph.D.

How to Protect Your Kids from

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ne of parents’ greatest fears is that their kids will become the victims of cyberbullying, and for good reason: research shows that almost half of all middle and high school students are cyberbullied at some point. If that’s the case, what can you do to protect your kids?

First, monitor your kids’ online behavior on a regular basis and pay close attention to which sites they’re on, who they interact with, and the nature of their interactions. As Sarah Brown, an expert on children’s use of technology says, “Being familiar with their online world is the best way for you to notice if something is wrong.”

Research shows that parents who don’t monitor their kids’ online behavior are more likely to be unaware that their kids are being cyberbullied. There are many ways to monitor what your kids are doing online, including setting up their online accounts together with them so that you know their usernames and passwords, creating Google Alerts with your kids’ names, installing monitoring software on their devices, and requiring them to allow you to “friend” or “follow” them online.

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ahead of time that they can always come to you with any problem, no matter how big or small. It’s very important, say Drs. Sameer Hinduja and Justin Patchin of the Cyberbullying Research Center, to “cultivate and maintain open, candid lines of communication with your children, so that they’re ready and willing to come to you whenever they experience something unpleasant or distressing in cyberspace.”

Ensure your kids ahead of time that you won’t ban them from going online if they come to you for help. As Dr. Michael Nuccitelli, a well-known child psychologist and expert on cyberbullying, says, consistently remind your kids that “they’ll not lose their online privileges, interactive online gaming time, mobile devices or social network site privileges due to cyberbullying issues provided they are open, honest and forthright.” Try not to overreact to situations as this will make your kids think that you’ll overreact if they tell you about being cyberbullied.

When you speak to your kids about their online activities, encourage them not to respond in kind to wannabe cyberbullies: this will only exacerbate the problem.

Tara Fishler, a prominent expert on mediation and conflict resolution, says that “responding lets the bully know they affected you. Not posting a response gives you some con-

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trol so you are not sucked into their harmful activities.” Instead, help block any wannabe cyberbullies from reaching your kids.

As part of your regular conversations with your kids, teach them safe online habits. This includes such basic online security measures as never revealing identifying, personal information like their home addresses, phone numbers, and where they go to school; not sharing their usernames and passwords with others; not leaving online accounts accessible and vulnerable on public devices; and never opening messages and links from people they don’t already know.

Your kids should also learn to select appropriate privacy settings on their online accounts, so that they only accept friends or follow requests from people they personally know, and allow posts to be broadcast only to their circle of friends or followers. As Mrs. Brown succinctly puts it, “Limiting online exposure helps keep the bullies at bay.”

More generally, teach your kids to think carefully before they post anything online. They need to understand the potential repercussions from anything they post, including how certain posts could be used maliciously. A good rule of thumb is to say and do online only what you would say and do face-to-face to someone. Your kids should under-

stand that as soon as they post something, it’s out of their control. Their posts can be forwarded without their knowledge or consent. Ruth Carter, a lawyer who specializes in social media and internet law, says “Kids should be taught early and often that they have no idea when a post will take on a life of its own and go places they can’t control.” A more strict but no less useful approach would be to establish actual “rules” for your kids’ online activities, including by deciding which sites they’re allowed to access, for how long, and what they are permitted to do on those sites.

A final way you can protect your kids from becoming the victims of cyberbullying is to stay in regular contact with their teachers. Since a kid’s cyberbullies are often to be found among his or her class or school mates, teachers are some of the best sources of information about any potential problems at school. It’s important that you speak to their teachers not just about how they’re doing academically, but also socially. Teachers may notice troubling interactions inside or outside the classroom.

Tanni Haas, Ph.D. is a Professor in the Department of Communication Arts, Sciences & Disorders at the City University of New York – Brooklyn College.

Here are some FUN QUESTIONS to get things going!

What is your favorite book?

What is the hardest part about going to school?

Who is the best superhero and why?

If you could make up a new holiday, what would it be?

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3 Ways to Minimize Back-to-School Meal Prep Stress

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Family Features ack-to-school often means a few “ugh” moments for parents. From early wakeup calls and forgotten lunchboxes to extracurricular chaos, meltdowns at homework time and picky dinner eaters, easy solutions in the kitchen can help lighten the to-do list.

Turn those groan-worthy moments into “no big deal” with Borden® cheese—a versatile protein that adds both flavor and fun to your meals. Whether it’s shredded, sliced or in snack form, cheese provides simple ways to help keep meal prep stress to a minimum on school days.

PACK LUNCHES THE NIGHT BEFORE

Preparing sandwiches, salads or wraps in advance can streamline your morning routine and ensure your family members have a nutritious meal ready to take to school or work. A turkey and cheddar sandwich will hold up well in the fridge overnight. Add grab-and-go options like string cheese, fruit or

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whole-grain crackers to go with their favorite sandwiches to create a balanced and satisfying lunch.

Cheese sticks also fit perfectly in a pencil slot in backpacks to combat hangry kids after school.

RELY ON ONE-POT DISHES AT DINNERTIME

One-dish dinners can be a lifesaver when trying to balance packed schedules and get everyone to and from their activities. With easy prep and only a single pot or pan to clean up, you can cut down on the time spent in the kitchen and enjoy more moments with your family. Delicious and satisfying one-dish recipes, like Skillet Chili Mac, elevate a family favorite by adding Borden cheese. Made with real milk from American dairy farmers, it provides wholesome goodness you can feel confident serving your family.

EMBRACE ‘BATCH AND FREEZE’ COOKING

Instead of prepping a full week’s worth of meals, focus on cooking large batches of a few key components. For example, cheese serves as a delicious protein in baked dishes that freeze and reheat well for busy weeknights such as lasagna or macaroni and cheese.

Or freeze individual servings of homemade burritos or quesadillas filled with cheese and other family-favorite ingredients.

Find more tips and recipes to save time during the school year at bordencheese.com.

SKILLET CHILI MAC Cook time: 15 minutes Servings: 10 1 pound ground beef 1 cup chopped onion 1 can (14 ounces) crushed tomatoes 1 tablespoon chili powder 1 teaspoon cumin 1/2 teaspoon salt 2 cups elbow macaroni (8 ounces), cooked and drained 1 package (2 cups) Borden Cheese Thick Cut Four Cheese Mexican Shreds, divided 1 package (2 cups) Borden Cheese Sharp Cheddar Shreds, divided 2 green onions, thinly sliced 2 tablespoons chopped cilantro

In large skillet over medium heat, cook ground beef and onion 5-7 minutes, or until meat is browned, stirring occasionally.

Drain fat, if necessary.

Stir in tomatoes, chili powder, cumin and salt. Stir in cooked macaroni; reduce heat to medium-low.

Top with cheeses, saving some for topping; cover and cook until cheese is melted. Remove from heat; top with green onions and cilantro. Add final layer of reserved cheeses on top.

THE KIDDIE GOURMET — by Barbara Blackburn

Since 1979, the Village Eatery in Lockport, has been pleasing palates with their regular and special selections, including a kids’ menu for those under 10. Drinks are extra. A nice choice of kids’ food includes Spaghetti or Penne with one meatball ($7.99), Grilled Chicken Breast with broccoli ($7.99), Side of Fettucine Alfredo ($7.99), and Personal Cheese Pizza ($7.99) with extra toppings at $0.75 per item.

Village Eatery

429 Davison Road Lockport, NY 14094

716-433-0688

of a memorable meal. Plus, we enjoyed the honest enthusiasm of our delightful server.

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I’d be remiss if I didn’t tell you about the daily ~ SPOONS ~ specials: Sunday Dinner— FOOD 5/5 Gnocchi with sauce, and Pot Roast; Tuesday—Dinner for Two; and Saturday SERVICE 5/5 Prime Rib. Dinner for Two offered Spaghetti & Meatballs, Broccoli and Pasta FAMILY FRIENDLY 5/5 with chicken, and Eggplant or Chicken Parmesan. A gluten-free menu may be substituted in any pasta On a Monday night dish, with special pricing. when many restaurants There’s a gluten-free pizare closed, an impressive za, plus rolls and a chococrowd filled the dining rooms. Maklate torte—all gluten-free. ing up my mind was not easy with The sides are noteworthy, even ofthe quantity of choices. My Frutti De fering spinach at $0.99. As a point of Mare ($29.99) hit the spot and then some. The “Fruits of the Sea” is a interest, the consumption of spinach in combination of shrimp, mussels, scalthis country went up 33% after Poplops and clams simmered in a seafood eye appeared. (Something you always broth with fresh herbs and tossed with wanted to know!) linguine. Both looking lovely and Perusing the dessert tray, we noted tasting terrific, my palate rejoiced… all the standard Italian popular items. maybe a little more garlic though. The We smartly settled on the Italian BOGO Sangrias ($7.00 special), both Cream Cake ($7.99). A queen among white and red, brought extra “oomph” cakes it was, solidly constructed, with to the dining. nuts and coconut frosting inside and Doing opposite of white sauce, out with a real butter cream and then Dad chose Spaghetti Bistro Style topped with some spray cream. ($24.99). Another winner it was, with sliced Italian sausage, and homemade meatballs sauteed with Portabello Barb has been happily doing the mushrooms, tossed with a rich red Kiddie Gourmet for over 35 years. sauce over spaghetti and baked with She has two aging children and four a mozzarella cap. Most Italian restaugrandchildren, all living in Florida. rants boast about their red sauce, and She is a home instructor and commuthe Village Eatery earns theirs, judgnity education cooking instructor for ing from the “umami” filled combo of Williamsville Central Schools. She is blended flavors. the 2023 recipient of the Buffalo State Alumni Association Senior Service If what I didn’t order is as good Award. as what I ordered, diners can be sure

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