July 2025 • Volume 42 • Issue 5
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n Tips for Making Your Family Vacation More Affordable by Mary Ann Blair
16 n What to Do When Your Kids are at Camp? Ideas for Parents by Rebecca Hastings
33 n How to Plan for College Expenses
34 n Pick of the Literature by Dr. Donna Phillips
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• Mental Illness is Biologically Based: Let’s End the Stigma
• Raising Healthy Kids at Every Stage: What to Focus on from Bump to Adulthood
• The Dark Side of the Sun: How to Protect Your Skin
• The Art & Science of Sleeping Like a Baby
• Dressing Kids with Disabilities, Medical Conditions
• What Women Should Know About Their Heart, Kidney and Metabolic Health
Create Lifelong Memories on a Family Cruise by Deborah Williams 14 n Single Parenting Budget-Friendly Family Vacation Ideas by Meagan Ruffing
36 n Dear Teacher by Peggy Gisler & Marge Eberts
38 n The Daddy Track
A Burned-Out Parent’s Guide to Dinner This Week by Shannon Carpenter
39 n Parent Previews by Kirsten Hawkes
40 n Special Needs
Seeing Your Child Clearly: The Transformative Power of Understanding How Your Child’s Brain Works by Dr. Wellsley Radecke
42 n Raising Digital Kids From Bedrooms to Billions: Raising Kids in the Creator Economy by Mike Daugherty
44 n Tweens and Teens Six Things Every Teen Driver Should Know Before They Get Their License by Pam Molnar
46 n Family Flavors
Upgrade Summer Lunches with Nutritious Twists on Grilled Cheese
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The school year may be over, but the learning doesn’t have to stop! Make learning feel like fun and spark creativity this summer with these great toys!
TOSY’s Magnet Pyramid is a groundbreaking shape-shifting toy capable of transforming into over 1 billion unique shapes. Designed with 243 rare earth magnets and with a spinner accessory included, this patent-pending innovation unlocks endless possibilities for building, experimenting, and relaxation. Available in two eye-catching styles—Glow, which includes a UV flashlight to amplify the glow of its holographic stickers, and Stone, featuring bold, reflective holographic designs—it’s crafted from high-quality plastic with rounded edges, ensuring safe and enjoyable play. Perfect for kids, teens, or adults, this unique toy enhances brain activity, dexterity, and STEAM-based learning, even earning an official STEAM Stamp of Approval from The Toy Association™. (Amazon, Starting at $29.99)
The TOSY Magnet Cube 3x3 is a unique, multi-purpose magnetic puzzle and building toy featuring 240 rare earth magnets embedded in 30 building blocks, offering smooth, seamless movement and endless creative possibilities. Compact and engaging, it includes a UV flashlight to activate a glow-in-the-dark effect and a fidget piece that transforms it into a spinning toy for even more hands-on play. Made from durable, safe materials, this cube is perfect for all ages, encouraging creativity and STEAM-based learning. (Amazon, $36.99)
The TOSY Magnet Fidget Spinner Glow is an innovative sensory toy featuring 136 rare earth magnets embedded in 17 glow-in-the-dark building blocks that can be shaped into over 10,000 designs. Compact, durable, and user-friendly with smooth stainless steel allowing extended spin time, it delivers a calming, stress-relieving experience. STEAM accredited by The Toy Association™, it also helps improve creativity and logical thinking, as it can be transformed into a 2x2 magnet puzzle or a fully customizable infinity cube. (Amazon, $23.99)
The curtain is rising on another great season of live, family friendly entertainment at Theatre of Youth (TOY) with its 2025-2026 season. Starting things off is Fancy Nancy: Splendiferous Christmas, The Musical on stage from December 6-20, with a special Sensory-Friendly performance on Sunday, December 14. What could be fancier than Christmas? Presents with elegant wrapping paper, festive decorations, Christmas cookies with sprinkles— and who could forget the tree? This year, Nancy is especially excited. She bought a brand-new sparkly tree topper with her own money and can’t wait to decorate the Christmas tree. But when things don’t turn out the way Nancy planned, will Christmas still be splendiferous?
Diary of a Wimpy Kid—The Musical takes center stage from February 28 – March 14, 2026, with a Sensory-Friendly performance on Sunday, March 1. Author Jeff Kinney’s popular character Greg Heffley is determined not to be at the bottom of the popularity chart of his middle school. He’ll leave that to his weird neighbor, Fregley. Or maybe his best friend, Rowley Jefferson. Will Greg’s plans to become popular lead him to sacrifice his one true friend? Grab a hall pass and don’t be late for an adventure familiar to anyone who survived middle school.
The season wraps up with Corduroy, starring the beloved teddy bear, on stage from May 2-16, 2026, with a Sensory-Friendly performance on Sunday, May 3. Corduroy’s button has gone missing, and he can’t go home with kindhearted Lisa without it! Join him as he takes a rollicking ride up the escalator and begins a delightfully destructive romp through every section of the department store. Will he find his button at the top of a teetering store display? Will Lisa ever get to bring him home, or will the bumbling security guard catch him first?
Theatre of Youth performances take place at the Historic Allendale Theatre at 203 Allen Street in Buffalo. Tickets for all 2025-2026 productions are now on sale. Visit www. theatreofyouth.org for additional information and to purchase tickets.
When our family started searching for a getaway that combined natural beauty with rich history, we didn’t expect to find it nestled into the mountains of Vermont. But the von Trapp Family Lodge in Stowe surprised us all with its stunning scenery, Austrian charm, and activities that brought us together in ways we didn’t anticipate.
From the moment we arrived, we felt transported. The Lodge, perched on a mountainside overlooking rolling fields and peaks, looked like something out of a European postcard. Even our teenager, who doesn’t impress easily, paused to take it all in. “This is cool,” she said— and I had to agree.
room, and our balcony, complete with chairs, quickly became our favorite spot. Each morning, we watched the fog lift from the mountains, and I found myself wandering out there to relax whenever we had some downtime.
Our room was a wonderful blend of rustic style and modern comfort. The bathroom felt luxurious for a standard
Though we’d visited Stowe before, we didn’t want to spend this trip driving around looking for meals and things to do. The Lodge has dining options right on site, which made everything easier. On our first day, after settling in and taking a quick dip in the pool to stretch our travel-weary legs, we enjoyed dinner in the main dining room. It was elegant without feeling stuffy— a perfect fit for families. All of the food was delicious, but the highlight was a Vermont cheese and meat board that was so good, we talked about it the rest of the weekend.
—by Rebecca Hastings
After dinner, we discovered a movie showing in the lodge’s downstairs theater. We enjoyed the film for a bit before continuing to explore the lodge. The game room was right down the hall from our room, but it didn’t have things like foosball and ping-pong. Instead, it was filled with board games, puzzles, and a fireplace, making for a relaxed, screenfree family evening.
The next morning, we started with breakfast in the dining room—an inviting buffet with both hot and cold options. Sitting by the window as the sun rose over the mountains made it extra special.
Later, my daughter and I joined a yoga class offered at the lodge. It was
our first time trying it together, and it ended up being a fun, shared memory. Meanwhile, my husband checked out the property, visiting the cow farm on site. When we met back up, we joined one of the many tours available. The lodge offers historical talks and walks that connect the family’s real-life story with the beloved “Sound of Music” film. (Yes, that von Trapp family!) I learned things I never knew about the family, their remarkable journey, and the differences between the film and their real life.
Later that afternoon, we ventured down the road for a casual lunch at the von Trapp Brewing Bierhall. The food was hearty and delicious—don’t skip the giant pretzel appetizer! Afterward, we joined the brewery tour and learned how the family expanded the resort with their award-winning lagers.
Back at the lodge, we fit in more pool time and a short hike to visit the cows before grabbing a light dinner in the Lounge. After dinner we relaxed in the outdoor hot tub before winding down for the night.
On our last morning, after another delicious breakfast, my husband and I visited the Outdoor Center and hiked the short trail to the Chapel built for Maria von Trapp. Quiet and peaceful, it was the perfect way to end our trip. My only regret is missing a visit to Kaffeehaus with freshly-baked Austrian pastries and Austrian coffee. That will be my first stop for our next visit!
We visited in spring, when the mountain meadows were just starting to bloom, but the von Trapp Family Lodge has yearround appeal. In the summer, you’ll find miles of hiking and biking trails. Fall offers some of the best foliage in the country, and in winter, the lodge transforms into a cross-country skiing haven, complete with sleigh rides and snowshoeing.
Whether your family is passionate about exploring history, enjoys spending time on scenic trails, or simply craves the chance to relax and reconnect in a breathtaking setting, the von Trapp Family Lodge delivers an unforgettable experience. Blending the charm of Austrian heritage with the natural beauty of Vermont’s mountains, the lodge offers a getaway that’s both deeply rooted in story and refreshingly grounded in real, meaningful moments together.
Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.
Game Room Fun – Puzzles, board games, and cozy corners by the fireplace.
Swimming Pools – Indoor and seasonal outdoor pools are perfect for unwinding.
Hiking to the Cows – Easy on-foot adventure to visit the resident cows —great for younger kids!
Movie Nights – Family-friendly movies shown right on-site in a comfy setting.
Bierhall Pretzels with Root Beer
– A giant pretzel with a cold mug of root beer is the perfect snack!
—by Mary Ann Blair
he costs of a family vacation can really add up, especially if you are traveling a long distance from home. Here are some helpful tips for making your family vacation more affordable.
If you are flying to your destination and don’t plan to use a car much after you arrive, consider using a ride share company like Uber or Lyft to get around. These apps are easy to use, and their rates are very reasonable. Oftentimes, using these apps can be cheaper than the daily cost of a rental car. Another option is to explore the use of public transportation. Larger cities often have a subway or light rail system. Besides saving money, your kids will probably see this as a new adventure! And always check to see if your hotel provides a free shuttle to and from the airport.
you are flying,
Some credit cards are geared specifically for airline travel, like a Southwest Rewards card or an Alaska Airlines card. If you are able to figure out your
travel plans well in advance, applying for one of these cards might be worth it. They usually offer a large number of bonus miles if you spend a certain amount within the first couple months of opening your card. You can often cover the costs of a full plane ticket, or even multiple plane tickets with the number of bonus miles you receive. Some cards also offer a free or cheap companion fare and free checked bags. These cards typically charge an annual fee, but the money you save on tickets will more than cover this fee. Just be sure to cancel the card within the first year of opening it to avoid additional annual fees.
on your trip. Just remember, you have to pay off your credit card balance fully each month for any of these reward programs to really be worth it. You don’t want to spend all your earned rewards on credit card interest!
Search websites like hotels.com or expedia.com to book your hotel room. With both of these sites, you can earn rewards toward free future travel. Oftentimes, they will have sales and offer free cancellations. If you book directly with a hotel, sign up for their travel rewards program. It is typically free to sign up and can help you save money in the long run through discounts on future stays. Another tip to save a little money is to find a hotel with free parking and a free continental breakfast.
Even if you don’t have a credit card that is specifically geared toward a certain airline, most credit card rewards programs can be redeemed for cash back or gift cards that can be spent at various places. You can redeem your points for restaurant gift cards to spend while you are traveling. Or consider starting a travel fund. Every month, deposit any cash back you earn from your card right into that fund. You can use that money as needed to help pay for travel costs, or save it all and use it for “fun money”
While staying at a rental can sometimes cost a little more per night than a hotel, you get the added benefit of having a kitchen, which allows you to save money on meals. This can be especially nice if you have young children that you don’t want to take to a restaurant for every meal. Those meals can add up
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o you have a family reunion, special birthday, graduation or other happy occasion on the horizon? More and more families are turning to cruises to celebrate family milestones as the best value for the money with the greatest choice of activities for all ages and interests.
AAA projects 19 million Americans will go on cruises this year, a 4.5% increase over 2024, when 18.2 million Americans went on cruise vacations. 2025 is expected to be the third straight year of record cruise passenger volume. The cruise industry has rebounded post pandemic more strongly than other travel segments and cruise demand has exceeded hotel demand.
The cruise industry was impacted more severely than other travel segments by the 2020 pandemic. In 2022, cruise volume rebounded to 84% of 2019’s level, then surged to a new high in 2023, nearly 20% above the pre-pandemic baseline. That number has continued to climb since, with 2025 projected to surpass 2019 by 34%.
for everyone, no matter their age. And because most of the vacation is already paid for, travelers can focus on enjoying themselves and making lifelong memories with loved ones.”
“CLIA’s (Cruise Line International Association) 2025 State of the Cruise Industry report shows that cruising continues to be one of the most dynamic and resilient sectors in tourism, growing in
in the last two years being new to cruising, reflecting the sector’s high satisfaction ratings and ability to attract new customers.
• Intent to cruise: 82% of those who have cruised plan to cruise again. Gen-X and Millennials are among the most enthusiastic cruisers, drawn to the variety of cruise experiences, ability to visit multiple destinations, and value of a cruise holiday.
• Multi-generational travel: Cruise holidays offer experiences for all ages—nearly one third of cruise guests sail with three or more generations.
“What we’re witnessing in the cruise industry is nothing short of amazing, but it’s no surprise,” said Stacey Barber, Vice President of AAA Travel.
“There’s a reason most first-time cruise passengers become repeat cruisers. Cruise vacations offer something
line with strong demand for cruise holidays, particularly among younger generations and new-to-cruise travelers,” said Bud Darr, President and CEO of CLIA. “The industry is also an essential economic driver, contributing over $168 billion to communities around the world, supporting 1.6 million jobs, and investing tens of billions today in the sustainable fleet of the future.”
• First-time cruisers are driving growth with 31% of passengers
• Cruise travel earns higher satisfaction ratings compared to other holiday choices as shown in repeat factors—25% of repeat cruisers sail two or more times per year; 14% of cruise travelers cruise twice a year; and 11% of cruisers take three to five cruises a year.
Bringing celebration and vacation together—that’s the travel trend sweeping the country right now as families look to create long-lasting memories, according to Elizabeth Carey, Public Relations Director for AAA Western and Central New York.
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“Take the recent spring break, for example. Multigenerational travel, comprised of three generations, was up more than 40 percent compared to spring break 2022. It’s increasingly common to see grandma and grandpa with their kids and grandchildren enjoying travel opportunities and creating cherished memories,” she said.
“Oftentimes, a grandparent may be celebrating retirement, and they want to bring the entire family along to mark the milestone. AAA makes it easy by planning a celebration that meets each traveler’s individual needs,” said Carol DiOrio, Vice President of Travel at AAA Western and Central New York.
Summer is synonymous with family reunions, but many of those celebrations were put on hold during the pandemic, which means they are long overdue. “Now we’re seeing family reunions go from one-day backyard barbeques to weeklong immersive experiences as families realize the value of making memories together,” DiOrio said, noting that cruise vacations are popular.
Tyler Buffington, a travel advisor with AAA Western and Central New York, is a big time Disney fan with more than 25 Disney World visits and has become a Disney Cruise Line fan. It was on a Disney cruise where he became engaged and where the couple will honeymoon.
“It is hard to beat Disney cruises for families and celebrations,” he said. “While many cruise lines have well regarded kids’ programs for ages three and up, Disney goes one step further offering a nursery program for six months to three years for an additional charge. There is no charge for older kids for Disney or other cruise lines.”
In an era when many people have grown accustomed to making their own online travel arrangements, many experts recommend contacting an experienced travel agent when planning family and multigenerational cruise travels. There is no charge for their services. Best of all, the planning doesn’t fall on one family member because AAA’s expert travel advisors will take care of it all.
Buffington pointed out that the AAA staff stand ready to help handle travel mishaps and he also strongly encourages all
his travelers to be sure to get comprehensive travel insurance before sailing.
Families especially like the fact that traditional ocean cruises feature activities for all ages and include meals and entertainment, which is ideal for a large family vacation.
Megan Cooper lives in Springville with her husband, oneyear-old twin boys, and her four-year-old daughter. She is a big fan of Disney cruises from both a personal and professional standpoint as an agent with Denville Travel Company which specializes in Disney vacations.
Her daughter went on her first cruise at seven months, and the twins will board their first cruise in October.
“An experienced travel agent can really make a difference for families considering a family cruise vacation,” she said. “For instance, the Princess experience is very popular with young girls but sells out fast and I know to book it as soon as possible.
“I give my parent cruise passengers tip sheets and remind everyone that booking early can help secure coveted adjoining rooms for those traveling with grandparents or older children. I also check to make sure everyone has the correct documentation so there are no boarding issues.”
Kasey Labrie of West Seneca has an enthusiastic cruising family which includes four children now ages 18, 16, 14, and seven years. The family cruising history began when the three oldest were eight, six and four.
“We love cruising because it is affordable; there are activities for everyone; the children love the kids’ programs and they are exposed to different islands and different cultures in the Caribbean where we have been cruising,” she said. “The oldest kids have very different interests from our youngest and yet everyone is happy.”
One of my much-loved cruise memories was a June Alaskan cruise which was a graduation present for my niece. We mostly stayed together for exploring ports but one morning she enjoyed a separate kayak excursion in the Alaskan waters.
Bermuda cruises from New York have long been my favorite summer cruise experience. They are perfect for families
since most ships remain in Bermuda for three days allowing enough time for exploring the island’s perfect pink beaches, ferryboats, forts and special island programs.
This summer marks the bicentennial celebration for the Erie Canal. Just in time, a new Junior Ranger Activity Booklet that connects kids to the canals is available. The Erie Canal National Heritage Corridor and the New York State Canal Corporation have teamed up to create the project for children and their families.
Kids can complete activities to learn about the New York State Canal System and earn a badge, certificate and title of Erie Canalway Junior Ranger. Booklets are available online and at 14 canal sites. Locally, they are available at the Theodore Roosevelt Inaugural National Historic Site in Buffalo and the Erie Canal Discovery Center in Lockport.
The booklet contains fun activities geared for ages five to 13 and covers a range of topics including canal construction, immigration, water, and wildlife. Children can complete the activities at home or while visiting one of the participating canal sites. For information visit eriecanalway.org or call 518-237-7000.
Travel Tip of the Month: For information on cruising including family cruises and kids’ programs visit cruisecritic.com. For AAA travel advisor Tyler Buffington contact tbuffington@nyaaa. com or call 716-932-3147. For contact with Megan Cooper visit megan@denvilletravelco.
Deborah Williams lives in Holland, NY and is a veteran travel writer whose work has appeared in national and international publications. She is the recipient of the Society of American Travel Writers’ Lowell Thomas Gold Travel Writing Award.
If all else failed, I knew we had the pool to fall back on...
Ilearned a lot during my six years as a single mom, and one of the best things I ever perfected was how to continue doing fun things with my kids using less money. I made it a priority for our little family of four to keep living life as if we had it all, because we did. We still had each other, and I knew if I could keep things as normal as possible and maybe even have fun with the harder stuff we faced, that my kids and I would be better off because of it. Creating inexpensive ways for us to spend time together outside of work and school was more important than ever as we began to rebuild our lives after experiencing the kind of trauma that divorce leaves in its wake. I decided what kind of vacation I wanted to have and then I figured out what I could afford.
The first vacation I took my kids on by myself was to Branson, Missouri. I booked a hotel for two nights, and we drove the two hours from our rental into uncharted territory; Mom driving somewhere alone, with three kids, and a map. I looked for hotels online that had a pool and breakfast included. Bingo. I found one I could afford, and my vision for a
few days away with my kids was starting to become a reality. From there, I did the following things to keep the trip within budget:
1. Groupon is your friend! Always check out this website before you go on your trip. I found several things to do in Branson that were at least half the price, if not more. The kids and I were able to ride a Ferris Wheel, board the Titanic Museum, and play in water bumper cars. All these things would have been well beyond what I could have afforded, but because I planned ahead, we were able to do them all.
2. Look for a hotel with kidfriendly amenities that are included in the price. Since our first vacation was going to be outside of summer months, I knew I wanted a place that had an indoor pool. If all else failed, I knew we had the pool to fall back on, and so it was
important to me to find somewhere that had one. I also knew I wanted a hotel that included breakfast. The thought of driving my kids around in the early hours of the morning, looking for something that everyone would agree on, did not sound fun to me. To help my future self, I found a hotel that included breakfast, and to my delight, it was a buffet. Everyone was very happy.
3. I asked each kid ahead of time to pick one thing they wanted to do on our trip together. I did this because I wanted to know up front, before we left, if I would be able to afford what it was that they wanted to do. If I couldn’t, I could deal with it at home, and we could find an alternative. They all wanted to visit Silver Dollar City, Branson’s local theme park. Ya’ll, this park is not cheap. After doing my research and letting my kids know I could not afford it
this time around, but that we could do it the next time, saved so many tears and fights that may have come had I sprung that on them during our trip. Instead, I called the hotel to find out if they had any activities on-site, and to my surprise, they had an entire week of kidthemed activities planned for families. I planned out each day ahead of time and told my kids what to expect before we left. Providing them with a loose outline of what our plans would be made them feel at ease. This was especially important given the reality of how things were now for us as a family.
4. I packed snacks for our trip ahead of time. I knew I was going to have to pay for meals out, so I tried to save some money by stockpiling items before our trip. I bought extras here and there during my weekly grocery trips, and pretty soon, I had a nice stash to bring with me. I went to the Dollar Store, bought tote bags for each one of my kids, and filled them with their favorite
I gave each kid twenty dollars for a souvenir and let them decide how they wanted to spend it.
snacks. I also bought clear containers, stickers, movie theatre candy, and made personalized candy tackle boxes for them to enjoy on our way out of town.
5. I gave each kid twenty dollars for a souvenir and let them decide how they wanted to spend it. This helped alleviate the never-ending, “Mom, can I get this?” or “Mom, can we stop and get this?” Giving them their own money to be in charge of allowed them the autonomy to spend it on what they wanted and how they wanted. It was a win-win for all of us.
Planning a budget-friendly family vacation has continued to be a personal victory for me as I have gotten financially savvy as the years go on. I make it a fun mission to try to do something new each year with my kids so we can make memories without breaking the bank. Where will you vacation this year?
quickly! Plus, it is just nice to have that extra space!
Two of the most popular rental sites are VRBO.com and airbnb.com. You can also try searching for local rental companies in the area you are going to. Oftentimes, they will have less fees and more personalized service. Of course, it is a good idea to always check the reviews for any rental company you work with as well as the reviews for the actual rental property. Read the fine details closely to avoid any surprises!
Meagan Ruffing is a parenting journalist, mental health therapist, and single mom who tries to do her best each day. She doesn’t always get things right but continually strives to do better.
If you are headed out on a long road trip with your family, the cost of snacks, drinks, and meals out can quickly add up. Throw a cooler into your car with cold drinks, and pack plenty of snacks for the kids (and yourself!). If you are able to pack sack lunches for the day, that can help you save money as well.
I hope these budget-friendly travel tips will help you get the most bang for your buck!
Mary Ann Blair is a mom of two boisterous boys. Besides chronicling her adventures in motherhood at maryannblair.com, she loves the outdoors, reading, and all things crafty.
As I made dinner that night, everything felt different. For starters, the house was quiet. When you have three kids that never happens unless everyone is asleep. But my kids weren’t sleeping. They were not even home.
It can be disorienting when your kids aren’t there. This is especially true if they go to summer camp. The typical noise, activity, and even meal times aren’t the same. That may sound like heaven if you’re in the middle of refereeing a sibling squabble right now. You may even think you know exactly what you’ll do when the kids aren’t there. You may have been dreaming of a break, and there’s no shame in that. But when you look around and there is no one needing anything from you, it can be hard to know how to use that time well.
You can take the wait-and-see approach, or you can think about how you want to spend that time. Is there anything you
and your partner want to do? Can you use this time well? It’s okay to think about this. You’ll still miss your kids, but the time when they are at camp can be good for parents, too.
While the kids are away at camp, parents can use the time to reconnect, rejuvenate, and indulge in activities they might not always have time for. Here are some ideas:
Date Nights: This is often the first thing parents think of, and for good reason. Being able to have date time without worrying about a sitter or kid activities feels like a luxury. Use this time to have some date nights or participate in activities that you both enjoy but might not do often due to parenting responsibilities.
Explore Hobbies: Hobbies? What are those? For most parents, hobbies take a backseat to the demands of everyday life. Use this time to take up a new hobby or indulge in ones you’ve neglected. Whether it’s painting, gardening, or learning a musical instrument, this is a great time to dive in.
Travel: You can go on a trip without worrying about childcare! This is a great opportunity to plan a short getaway or a weekend trip to a place you’ve always wanted to visit. Enjoy the freedom of not having to plan around the kids’ schedules.
Home Improvement: This may not sound very exciting, but it’s amazing how much you can get done without the normal interruptions of daily life. You can work on home projects together or hire someone without worrying about how to steer kids clear of a project area. Whether it’s redecorating a room, renovating a part of the house, or starting a DIY project, it can be a fun way to bond or just get the work done.
Relax and Recharge: You can take advantage of the quiet time to relax and rejuvenate. Go for spa days, get massages, or simply spend quiet evenings at home. Use this time to relax and fill your cup so you feel recharged when the kids come home.
Fitness and Health: This is a great time to think about your health goals. Focus on fitness goals by going for hikes, trying out new workout classes, or simply enjoying long walks or runs together. It’s also a good time to try a new recipe or meal plan.
Cultural Exploration: Attend concerts, visit museums, or explore local cultural events that you might have missed due to parenting responsibilities. You can even take a cooking class together or explore different restaurants. Use this time to explore and try new things.
Volunteer Work: Dedicate some time to volunteer work or community service. It can be fulfilling and a great way to spend time with your partner or simply serve the community on your own.
Time
Getting together with friends can be challenging with the demands of everyday life. Use this time to reconnect with your friends. Organize gatherings like a dinner party, game night, or BBQ. You can even combine these ideas and explore or take a trip with friends. It will feel good to reconnect.
Remember, this time apart from your children can be an opportunity to strengthen your relationship as a couple and recharge individually. Enjoy the moment and have fun!
—by Kimberly Blaker
N“Unfortunately, people with mental illness experience a high degree of stigma.”
early one in five American adults experience mental illness in any given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health—and one in 25 experience a serious mental illness (SMI). Those with an SMI consist primarily of schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, bipolar disorder, and severe major depression.
Unfortunately, people with mental illness experience a high degree of stigma. They often experience discrimination in the workplace and their personal lives from those who see someone with a mental illness as odd or flawed. This often results from a misunderstanding of mental illness and not recognizing that it’s a medical condition.
In recent decades, the stigma surrounding mental illness has improved slightly. Yet it persists. Part of the problem lies in that it falls under the field of psychology, the study of human ‘behavior.’ Much of society doesn’t understand mental illness often has biological and genetic roots. So, people often see mental illness as indicative of personal-
ity flaws or learned behavior and think someone with mental illness should be able to just ‘snap out of it.’
Many experts and advocates recognize this problem and have called for biologically-based brain diseases to be reclassified into more appropriate fields of medicine such as neurology. This move would go a long way toward reducing stigma. Reclassification would also help to ensure those with brain illnesses can get insurance coverage and adequate treatment.
In the meantime, what can be done to reduce stigma? Educating society on what mental illness is and is not, is vital. When people with a mental illness brave coming out and telling their personal stories, more people hear the message. Celebrities sharing their own personal experience has been particularly helpful. The public is often more receptive when admired stars share their trials and tribulations.
The following illnesses qualify as serious mental illness. You’ll also discover some celebrities who’ve been diagnosed with each.
In any given year, 6.7% of the population will experience MDD. A smaller percentage suffers from severe MDD. Unlike the occasional sadness or blues many people experience, MDD is a persistently low mood that interrupts daily living. Symptoms include changes in appetite and sleep, lack of energy, difficulty concentrating, feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness, loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities, ruminations about death, suicide attempts, and in severe cases, psychosis.
The exact cause of MDD is unknown. What is known, though, is that a variety of factors can contribute to the disorder. These include biological changes in the brain, genetics, hormones, and brain chemistry.
Some people with MDD might experience a single bout. Yet for others, it’s chronic. Fortunately, antidepressants are effective for most people, though some are treatment-resistant leading to longterm disability.
Ashley Judd, Owen Wilson, Gwyneth Paltrow, Heath Ledger, and Winona Ryder are among the many celebrities who’ve battled major depressive disorder.
This disorder, affecting 2.6% of the population, is marked by emotional extremes ranging from depressive symptoms, as described above, to mania or hypomania. During manic episodes, sufferers experience a decreased need for sleep, extremely elevated mood, and increased energy or agitation. They’re also easily distracted, may have racing thoughts, and take foolish risks. For some people with BD, delusions, and hallucinations accompany mania.
Though the exact cause of bipolar is unknown, it’s biological and often genetic.
Bipolar is highly treatable, though some people experience treatment resistance. Also, during manic episodes, people with BD are typically unable to recognize their illness. Left untreated, it
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can be a very debilitating disease.
Some celebrities known to have bipolar disorder are Demi Lovato, Charlie Sheen, Mel Gibson, Carrie Fisher, and Sinead O’Connor.
These two diseases affect 1.2% and 0.3% of the population, respectively. Schizophrenia is the most serious mental illness of all. It’s marked by symptoms of psychosis, which are paranoia, delu-
sions, and hallucinations. Disorganized thinking, speech, or motor movement is also present. What fewer people are familiar with is what’s known as ‘negative symptoms.’ These prevent a person with schizophrenia from functioning. Those with schizophrenia often have poor hygiene, withdraw socially, and have a symptom known as avolition, which is a decrease in motivation.
Despite new and improved medications for this disease, only one-third of sufferers can lead a relatively functional life. Another one-third is treatment-resistant, with the final third receiving a degree of relief. As a result, two-thirds of those with schizophrenia are dependent, or often homeless or housed in America’s jails and prisons—known as
today’s new mental health institutions.
Schizoaffective disorder is marked by features of both bipolar disorder and schizophrenia.
While the cause of these two disorders is unknown, researchers believe genetics, biology, and environmental factors combined ultimately contribute to these brain diseases.
Finding celebrities with these two diseases is rare because schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder typically strike during the late teens to the early 20s resulting in moderate to severe disability. However, John Nash, Lionel Aldridge, Calen Pick (nephew of Glenn Close), and Eduard Einstein (son of Albert Einstein), all suffer, or suffered, from schizophrenia.
This perplexing disorder, which affects 1% of the population, is marked by obsessions and compulsions. Obsessions are most commonly seen in the form of fear of contamination or harm to self or others, excessive concern with order or bodily symptoms, or intrusive religious thoughts. In turn, those afflicted with OCD act out compulsions to alleviate their fears or thoughts. This is done through repeated acts of checking, organizing, washing, or senseless acts of tapping, counting, or repeating words.
Medication combined with therapy helps treat OCD, though the prognosis is better for those with milder symptoms. Many people with this disorder experience severe debilitation.
The cause of OCD is understood to be a combination of genetics, biology, and environmental factors.
David Beckham, Marc Summers, Howie Mandel, and Fiona Apple are known to suffer from OCD.
One in ten adults experiences a panic attack every year. Panic disorder, however, affects only one in 33 people. With this disorder, people experience sudden and repeated bouts of extreme
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—by Rebecca Hastings
Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, but when it comes to your child’s health, there are some key guideposts to help you along the way. From prenatal nutrition to teen mental health, each stage of development brings different needs, questions, and opportunities to build lifelong healthy habits.
Here’s a simple, age-by-age breakdown of what matters most and what you can do at home to support your child’s well-being every step of the way.
• Staying active with doctor-approved movement
• Managing stress and sleep
Parent tip: It’s okay if you don’t eat perfectly or feel exhausted some days. Just do your best. Hydration, small meals, and resting when you can go a long way. Keep showing up for your growing baby; you’re doing more than you know.
to begin trusting your instincts. Skinto-skin cuddles, bedtime lullabies, and quiet moments matter more than any milestone tracker.
Even before your baby is born, their health is shaped by yours. These nine months are a whirlwind of preparation, but one of the most powerful things you can do is focus on your wellness. Think of it as laying the bricks for your baby’s future health.
Focus on:
• Taking prenatal vitamins
• Eating whole foods, especially leafy greens, whole grains, and lean protein
The first year is full of milestones and messes. Feeding, sleeping, and bonding take center stage. Don’t worry about doing things perfectly; babies need love, safety, and steady nourishment more than anything else.
Focus on:
• Feeding on demand
• Responding to baby’s cues and creating secure attachment
• Safe sleep habits (back to sleep, firm crib, no loose bedding)
• Routine vaccinations and well visits
Parent tip: You’ll get lots of opinions during this stage. While they are well-intentioned, this is a great time
Toddlers are curious and full of energy (and opinions). This is a great time to help them explore food, movement, and routines in a low-pressure way.
Focus on:
• Creating regular mealtimes and snack times
• Letting kids feed themselves and respecting fullness cues
• Prioritizing sleep (12–14 hours including naps)
• Encouraging unstructured play
• Setting up safety (babyproofing, car seats, supervision)
Parent tip: It’s common for mealtimes to feel like a circus. That’s okay. Keep offering new foods alongside favorites. The foods you offer and how
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you handle meals are about developing a healthy, balanced approach to nutrition. You’re planting seeds that will grow in time.
Preschoolers are learning how the world works and how their bodies work, too. They thrive on routine and benefit from gentle guidance. This is the age when you start seeing their preferences take shape, so offer structure while staying flexible.
Focus on:
• Eating meals together when possible
• Encouraging outdoor, screen-free play
• Teaching basic hygiene (handwashing, toothbrushing)
• Creating calm bedtime routines
• Supporting emotional expression with books and conversations
Parent tip: It’s not about perfection. Let go of the pressure to parent the way people do on social media. Your child needs you, not a fake version of you. Consistency and love matter most.
strong, focused, and resilient. This is a great age to teach them why certain choices matter and to model them yourself.
Focus on:
• Packing balanced lunches with whole grains, fruits, and proteins
• Keeping physical activity fun, not a chore
• Teaching media literacy and setting screen time boundaries
• Ensuring 9–12 hours of sleep per night
• Talking about body changes and emotional health
Parent tip: You don’t need to be a nutritionist or fitness expert. Keep it simple: water over soda, movement over screens, connection over chaos.
School-age kids are navigating classrooms, friendships, and growing bodies. Healthy habits help them feel
Puberty brings a whirlwind of changes. Kids need trusted adults to guide them through physical and emotional transitions. Be ready to listen more than you speak.
Focus on:
• Encouraging breakfast (even if it’s small)
• Talking openly about puberty, peer pressure, and mental health
• Supporting identity and belonging
• Prioritizing physical activity to relieve stress and build confidence
• Watching for signs of anxiety or depression
Parent tip: You don’t need to be afraid of this stage. It’s okay if kids push away a little. Stay close anyway. Keep showing up. This is when they need your steady presence the most.
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—by Pam Molnar
“They are putting in a tanning bed at the gym,” my then 17-year-old told me. “I can get free tans.”
“We joined the gym so we can all get exercise. Those tanning beds are not good for your skin. Stay away from them,” I replied. Those words went in one ear and out the other. Her wind kissed skin told me that she was using the tanning beds despite my warnings.
A few months later, as summer was starting, I found my middle daughter laying on a towel on our deck trying to get ahead of swimsuit season. “I hope you have some sunscreen on,” I yelled over her Air Pods. She nodded yes, but the bottle next to her read “tanning oil.”
My son was no better. As a soccer player, he spent several hours out in the sun for games and practice. I would always ask if he packed sunscreen. “Yeah. It’s in my backpack,” he reassured me. Unfortunately, his bright red skin upon return was a sign that he did not, in
fact, apply the sunscreen that was in his backpack.
While I wish I was stricter about skincare, it is exhausting to parent teens. You have to pick your battles and at the time I was up to my ears in new drivers and high school drama. I hoped that the pain of sunburn would be enough of a punishment.
As adults, we get it. Our teenage years were spent in the sun without the thought of sun protection. We were told that a burn was a good base and slathered on the baby oil before heading out to the beach.
What we didn’t know then was, according to the Skin Cancer Foundation, your chance of melanoma doubles if you have burned more than five times. After years of abusing my skin, my luck ran out after a routine dermatology appointment. I had melanoma. Skin cancer. The one no one wants.
After getting healthy, I did what all parents should do—I turned my
bad choices into a teaching moment for my kids. We all learned to respect the sun and practice health instead of vanity.
Here are a few ways to protect yourself and your family:
1. Use sunscreen with an SPF of at least 30 as recommended by the American Academy of Dermatology. You should use sunscreen daily, even if you will only have brief exposure like walking the dog or running errands. Believe it or not, that includes cloudy days, winter days, and when you are sitting under the shade. Reapply every few hours if in water or sweating.
2. Use other protection when in sun for a prolonged period. On a day when you are doing yardwork or sitting outside for a soccer tournament, consider wearing protective clothing like long sleeves, hats, and sunglasses. When purchasing summer clothing, look for an ultraviolet protection factor (UPF) number on the label.
3. Avoid tanning beds. No one wants to look pale and washed out when they start to wear their summer clothes, but skin cancer is too big a risk for that vanity. If you want a little more color, dermatologists recommend using self-tanning sprays instead. You will get a much more even tan without the bathing suit lines.
4. Self-check. Look for new and changing spots. Follow the “ABCDE rule” when checking your skin. Asymmetry—Does one side of the mole look different than the other? Border— Does the mole have uneven borders? Color—Is the mole multi-colored versus one shade of brown, tan or black? Diameter—Is the mole larger continued on page 30
—by Jim Sears, MD
As a new parent, if you haven’t already had at least a thousand conversations about sleep—getting it, or lack thereof—you’re a shoo-in for the Nobel Prize for Perfect Parenting. Obviously, that category doesn’t exist (and never will), but what does is the age-old question of how to consistently get baby to sleep and stay that way. And by default, get some much-needed rest yourself.
While there are plenty of resources about sleep for kids, it really comes down to the fact that there’s no one size fits “small.” In other words, every baby is different, families come in all forms, and environmental factors can derail your plan at a pin drop.
So, first, give yourself a break. Realize that you’re not alone and it’s okay to spin through the sleep cycle until you find the right setting for you and your baby.
Second, it’s important to understand that getting baby to sleep is both an art and a science. This means you must be both creative and know the research.
Getting “creative” doesn’t mean throwing every idea against the wall and hoping something sticks—although you have probably been frustrated enough in the past to consider it. Creativity is looking at tried and true practices with fresh eyes and imagining how they can work for your family.
For example, if your little rooster awakens at the first ray of light, you might consider black-out shades for their room to buy an extra hour of darkness. But that might not work for all family situations. What can you do to get the same result? Can you move or angle the crib away from the window? How about hanging blankets around the crib?
A consistent routine is important because it helps baby predict when it’s time to sleep. But let’s face it, this isn’t always possible, not with other kids, pets, work schedules, and the general unpredictability of life. In this case, do the best you can to stay consistent knowing that it’s not going to be textbook. However, summer travel presents additional challenges with time zone changes and unfamiliar environments. This is where consistency might take some creativity. It’s key to mimic baby’s normal sleep and wake routine as much as possible. If baby beds down at 6 PM at home, stick to 6 PM in the new time zone. Naptimes should also stay the same—or as close to it. You might have a grumpy first day or so, but baby will adapt, and their internal clock will reset thanks to natural daylight and the dark of night. Again, all of this may take some creative planning, so be prepared.
While these old school approaches still work, tech is emerging to help parents amplify analog results. Chances
are good that you’re a digital native, so you’ll want to pay attention here. What if there was a handheld device with a computer’s mind which could help your baby sleep? A few years ago, “white noise” machines started popping on the market promising to lull your baby to sleep. The purpose was to block out external noise and help babies sleep more soundly. They could also help parents establish a routine and create a consistent environment for baby. Good things, right? The problem was that these first models were basically just the same machines already marketed for adults, without any specific changes for children. While they have gotten somewhat better, they vary in functionality, durability, and price. I strongly encourage you to research wisely and find the best “features” fit for your family.
As a pediatrician and dad, I had three major concerns: mobility, safety, and sound. Only one checked all three boxes for me and is the one I now recommend to my patients. It’s called The Dreamer. It’s not clunky like so many others; the size of a mobile phone and portable. It’s also exceptionally safe in its design (no sharp edges and easy to clean) and with a food-grade, BPA-free silicone exterior. The sound options are also excellent with curated “Dreamscapes” to create the optimal sleep sound
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According to the latest data available, nearly 240 million children in the world have some form of disability. While every parent must teach their child how to dress, parents of children with disabilities face unique challenges. And it’s not just getting dressed that presents a challenge. Traditional clothing often doesn’t account for the needs of children with physical limitations, sensory sensitives or medical devices.
Start with the right clothing. Depending on your child’s disability or medical condition you should look for clothing that will provide comfort as well as access to important medical equipment, casts or braces. Adaptive clothing, clothing designed to make it easier for people to dress and move around, can be key to getting both comfort and practicality out of your clothing. befree is an option when it comes to
adaptive clothing. The company makes lightweight and heavyweight adaptive pants that have zippers that span waist to hem so they can easily be put on standing or laying down without having to pull the pants up over the legs.
What makes adaptive clothing stand out? Here are some essential features to look for:
• Side openings: Allows for easy dressing and undressing.
• Elastic Waistbands: Provides comfort and accommodates medical equipment on the stomach area.
• Breathable Fabrics: Promotes comfort by regulating body
temperature and preventing irritation.
• Durability and Easy Care: Adaptive clothing should withstand frequent washing and wearing without losing functionality.
• Compatibility with Medical Devices: Designs that accommodate catheters, braces or casts ensure convenience and practicality.
Sensory Preferences. While purchasing clothing, take in consideration which fabrics and designs will suit your child best. Soft materials, seamless designs, tagless garments and elastic waistbands can be helpful.
Dressing Aids. Don’t be shy about using dressing aids to help you get your little one dressed. Dressing sticks can help with position and retrieving clothing and grip button aids can help with buttoning shirts and pants. Additionally, sock aid dressing tools, shoehorns and zipper rings or pulls can also be beneficial.
Stick with a routine. Like anything, having a routine can help children understand why and how they need to get dressed. Give yourself plenty of time so that you aren’t rushing and lay out clothing and accessories the night before so that you know what dressing tools will be needed, so you aren’t scouring the house for them in the morning.
Check in with doctors, therapist. Your doctor and/or therapist can also offer suggestions of tools that can help with dressing. They can also help you develop ways to help your child get dressed independently.
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environment for quality rest. The other prime feature is it has its own app which allows for regular updates. But again, do your homework and find the best fit for your family.
The next time you have a conversation about sleep in your home, give yourself some grace knowing there is no one size fits “small” sleep solution. But also realize that with a touch of creativity and a bit of digital determination, you can make it through the night.
Four-time
Emmy Award® nominee Dr. Jim Sears (www.AskDrSears.com) is known to millions as America’s goto pediatrician on the popular daytime show “The Doctors.” Dr. Jim has also appeared as a medical expert on “Dr. Phil,” and the PBS series “Help Me Grow.” Dr. Jim has co-authored several bestselling parenting books, including “The Baby Sleep Book,” “The Baby Book,” and “The Premature Baby Book,” all published by Little, Brown. When not traveling as a popular speaker for conventions and conferences, Dr. Jim maintains a thriving medical practice in Southern California and has two great kids.
fear that lasts at least several minutes, if not longer. The symptoms include shortness of breath, racing heart, trembling, weakness, dizziness, chest pain, tingling or numbing of hands, stomach pain, and nausea. Sufferers may also experience fear of dying, going crazy, being out of control, or impending doom. Panic disorder often results in the avoidance of things or places where attacks have previously taken place.
Panic disorder is highly treatable with a combination of medication and psychotherapy. It’s believed to be biological and genetic in nature.
It’s unclear whether the following celebrities have been diagnosed with panic disorder. Still, they’re known for experiencing panic attacks: Johnny Depp, Princess Diana, John Mayer, and Emma Stone.
These two eating disorders combined affect one in 40 Americans, mostly women, and share many of the same symptoms. These include the absence of periods, slow heart rate, swelling, dizziness, constipation, hypotension, hair loss, and more.
Treatment consists of medical care, nutritional counseling, psychotherapy, and medication. Prognosis varies by the particular illness, among other factors. Still, a significant percentage do not reach full recovery, sometimes resulting in death.
It’s believed genetics combined with psychological and sociological factors contribute to eating disorders.
Sadie Robertson, Gabourey Sidibe, Zayn Malik, and Beverly Johnson have all struggled with eating disorders.
These disorders affect one in 68 children. Symptoms include repetitive or unusual behaviors, intense interest in particular topics, making little eye contact, facial expressions and gestures that don’t match what’s said, an unusual tone of voice, and difficulty understanding other points of view. Other social, language, cognitive, behavioral, and emotional deficits are present as well.
Treatment for this developmental disorder includes behavior interventions and medication. Prognosis is dependent, in part, on early diagnosis and intervention.
Though the cause of autism spectrum disorders is unknown, genetics and environmental factor appear to contribute to its development.
Celebrities diagnosed with these disorders include Dan Aykroyd, Court-
ney Love, Daryl Hannah, and Paddy Considine.
Numerous other mental disorders afflict millions of Americans as well. Other depressive disorders, dissociative identity disorder, anxiety disorders, personality disorders, and attention deficit disorder are but a few. Each has the potential to be disabling, and those who suffer from these disorders sometimes experience stigma as well.
As more people who suffer from mental illness open up, hopefully, we can reduce the pervasive stigma that surrounds mental illness. Particularly crucial to ending stigma, however, is ensuring those with the most severe brain diseases (SMI) receive appropriate and adequate treatment.
Individuals with mental illness are more likely to be victims of violence than to commit violence. That said, the subset with SMI that’s untreated does have higher violence rates resulting from psychosis. By ensuring they receive humane medical treatment to manage their brain disease (and improve their quality of life), the violence that contributes to stigma will be diminished.
Just like any other organ of the body, our brains are prone to medical conditions. The brain is the most complex organ of our bodies. So, it only stands to reason it’s subject to a variety of biological conditions. As researchers come to understand our brains better, more sophisticated diagnostic tools will be developed for a more definitive diagnosis. In the meantime, we should treat those with mental illness with the same dignity, respect, and empathy we treat someone with a physical disability, heart condition, stroke, or Alzheimer’s disease.
Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She was diagnosed with major depressive disorder at the age of 27 and has a son with schizoaffective disorder (schizophrenia and bipolar).
Teenagers are figuring out who they are while juggling academics, activities, and emotions. They need more independence but still crave support and structure. You can offer both!
Focus on:
• Encouraging healthy eating habits amid busy schedules
• Creating open lines of communication about substances, sex, and safety
• Balancing freedom with structure
• Supporting consistent sleep (8–10 hours is ideal)
• Promoting self-care, mental health check-ins, and time offline
Parent tip: Don’t underestimate your influence. Even if they act like they don’t need you, your presence, questions, and encouragement make a difference.
learned so far. Letting go doesn’t mean letting go of connection. It means shifting your role to supporter and cheerleader.
Focus on:
• Teaching healthcare skills (making appointments, understanding insurance)
• Supporting emotional wellness and mental health care access
• Reinforcing the value of balanced meals, rest, and movement
• Encouraging boundaries, rest, and resilience in the face of stress
• Staying connected while allowing independence
Parent tip: Keep the door to connection open. Whether they text you daily or need space, knowing you’re there (without judgment) is the best support you can give.
Raising healthy kids isn’t about doing everything right; it’s about staying responsive to their needs as they grow. Every stage offers new chances to build strong habits and nurture lifelong wellness.
Start where you are. Whether it’s eating one more meal together each week, taking a family walk, or starting a bedtime routine, small changes add up.
And remember: your presence, love, and consistency are more powerful than any trend. You’ve got this.
As kids transition into adulthood, they’re building on everything they’ve
Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings. net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.
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1. than the size of a pencil eraser (1/4”)? Evolving—Has the mole changed in size, height, color, etc.?
2. Know your family history. Skin cancer is hereditary so your children, parents and siblings might be at risk. Talk to them about the results of your visit. Be sure to encourage your family to do a self-check, seeking assistance for areas they can’t see themselves like their back, neck and in their hair.
3. Make yearly appointments with a dermatologist for a full body scan. Bring a list of areas you are concerned with. Do not panic if the dermatologist finds something they want to biopsy. Most mole removals are benign. However, don’t be afraid to insist on removal and biopsy if you are uncomfortable with how something looks. You know your body better than anyone.
Pam Molnar is a freelance writer and skin cancer survivor. She hopes her story will encourage others to make their skin health a priority.
1. Skin cancer is the most common cancer in the United States, with approximately 9,500 people diagnosed every day. It is estimated that one in five Americans will be diagnosed with skin cancer in their lifetime.
2. Skin cancer can affect anyone, regardless of skin color. Lighter-skinned people are diagnosed 20 times more than Black and Asian individuals. However, those with darker skin tones are often diagnosed in later stages.
3. Skin cancer rates are higher in women until age 50, but higher in men after age 50. Children, thankfully, rarely are di-
agnosed with skin cancer as it develops from UV exposure. When applying sunscreen to your whole body, the recommended amount is 2 tablespoons or the equivalent of a shot glass.
4. The most common forms of skin cancer are Basal cell and squamous cell carcinomas and are highly treatable when detected early. These two non-melanoma skin cancers affect more than 3 million Americans each year.
5. Melanoma rates have doubled in the United States from 1982 to 2011. The cases for those 30 and younger have declined while incidences in older age groups have increased. More than one million Americans are living with melanoma.
Some women may be unaware they’re living with risks for heart disease, kidney disease and metabolic conditions like diabetes, which drive risk for cardiovascular disease.
The interplay among these conditions is called cardiovascular-kidneymetabolic (CKM) syndrome, according to the scientific experts at the American Heart Association. Consider these facts women should know about CKM syndrome.
Cardiovascular disease (CVD), which includes heart disease and stroke, affects nearly 45% of women ages 20 and older, and 1 in 3 women will die from it, according to the association.
“Despite heart disease being the leading cause of death for women, most women are not aware of their risk for heart disease,” said Sadiya S. Khan, M.D., M.Sc., FAHA, American Heart Association volunteer and a member of the science advisory group for the association’s CKM Health Initiative, supported by founding sponsors Novo Nordisk and Boehringer Ingelheim and champion sponsor DaVita.
Women may develop heart disease differently than men and experience symptoms uncommon in men. Women are more likely to have blockage in smaller blood vessels around the heart
and, while chest pain is the most common heart attack symptom, women are more likely than men to experience pain in the arms, jaw and neck, too.
According to a study presented at an American Heart Association scientific conference, women with either Type 2 diabetes or chronic kidney disease are predicted to reach elevated risk for CVD 8-9 years earlier than women with neither condition while women with both conditions may reach high risk 26 years earlier.
The health factors that comprise CKM syndrome are connected. They include high blood pressure, abnormal cholesterol, excess weight, high blood glucose sugar and low kidney function. If something goes wrong in one area, it affects others.
“Knowing your health numbers is critical to optimize your CKM health and prioritize prevention of heart, kidney and metabolic disease,” said Khan, who is also the Magerstadt professor of cardiovascular epidemiology and an associate professor of cardiology and preventive medicine at Northwestern School of Medicine.
Since high blood pressure and early stages of kidney disease and diabetes often don’t have symptoms, regular screening is necessary to be aware of your risk.
Each pregnancy is a window into later heart and kidney health, according to Janani Rangaswami, M.D., FAHA, professor of medicine at the George Washington University School of Medicine and Health Sciences and co-chair of the scientific advisory group for the American Heart Association’s presidential advisory that defined CKM syndrome.
Pregnancy complications such as pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes and gestational hypertension are risk factors for future chronic kidney disease and cardiovascular disease, Rangaswami said.
Changes during menopause also influence long-term heart and metabolic health. This includes declining estrogen levels, increased body fat around the organs, increased cholesterol levels and stiffening or weakening of blood vessels, per the American Heart Association. Early menopause (before age 45) is linked to a higher risk for kidney disease, Type 2 diabetes and CVD.
“Women can mitigate those risks by getting appropriate treatment for their menopause symptoms,” Rangaswami said.
Negative economic, environmental and psychosocial factors are associated with lower levels of preventive health behaviors like physical activity and healthy eating and higher levels of conditions like obesity and diabetes. Some factors affect women differently than men. For example, marriage is associated with worse health for women, and women are more likely than men to delay medical care because of costs, according to an American Heart Association. Women are also more likely to have their health concerns dismissed, Khan said.
Women should know their risk and self-advocacy is critical. They should request thorough screenings that assess heart, kidney and metabolic health at visits with their health care providers. Visit heart.org/myCKMhealth to learn more.
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Each year, a majority of American parents of college students are confronted with higher-than-expected costs for tuition and room and board, according to a College Ave survey. The same survey finds that the price tag on other college-related expenses, such as books, activity fees and transportation, also catch large portions of parents by surprise.
“Making a concrete plan to pay for college can help you overcome that initial sticker shock and navigate these important years with less financial stress,” says Dan Kennedy, chief marketing officer, College Ave.
Kennedy recommends taking the following steps to create your plan for paying for college:
Seek aid each year: Don’t forget to submit the FAFSA (Free Application for Federal Student Aid) each year your child is in school. This is the only way to receive need-based grants, loans and work-study offers from the federal government.
Read and compare financial aid award letters carefully: Use each school’s financial award letter, delivered in the spring, to get an apples-to-apples comparison of costs. Calculate the net direct cost of each school by subtracting offered scholarships and grants from the total cost of attendance. If applicable, you can subtract work-study aid too. You should also factor in expected year-to-year increases in tuition, room, board and other fees. This analysis can help you narrow down schools within financial reach for your family.
Consider appealing: While an award package can seem like it’s set in stone, you may be able to appeal for more
aid from the school of your choice. Don’t be afraid to ask for more aid if your financial situation has changed.
Look for outside assistance: Scholarships are typically based on merit or talents and can provide substantial assistance. Colleges and universities themselves award scholarships, as do national and local organizations. One of the easiest scholarships to apply for is the College Ave $1,000 scholarship sweepstakes. The submission process does not even require an essay and you can apply every month. Encourage your student to continue applying for scholarships year-round, as every little bit helps.
Explore private student loans: The College Board reported that the average amount of aid that undergraduate students received in grants, federal loans, tax credits and workstudy programs was $16,360 for the 2023-2024 academic year. Considering that the average total cost of attendance for a public four-year school that same year was $24,920 for in-state students, you might need more aid than your college initially offers. Private student loans are a great option to help supplement your financial needs. Shop around for a great rate and loan terms you can work with. Use College Ave’s student loan calculator to ensure you know the cost of borrowing and what your monthly payment might look like. It can be found at: collegeave.com/calculators.
For a private student loan, and for additional tips and resources for college-bound families, visit collegeave.com.
“With a clear financial plan, your family can stress less and enjoy the excitement that comes with sending your child to college,” says Kennedy.
— by Dr. Donna Phillips
July is the month to celebrate our amazing country and the people that make it so. It is a time when we reflect on where we have been and where we are going. While there are many different ways to do this, it is most often done with family and friends. Whether it is a party, a picnic, a day at the beach, a road trip to see family, or to explore historical places and parks, it frequently involves camping. And what better way to celebrate the USA than that tradition? It seems it is a particularly American thing to do. It doesn’t matter if you are roughing it camping in the wild or ‘glamping”, it is the perfect way to see the country, get a better understanding of our history, and spend time in our majestic outdoors. Using a book to get ready, to take with you on your trip, or read to reminisce about the experience is a wonderful bonding experience. Books
can help create lasting memories and provide opportunities to revisit them years later. Here are some books that I think you might like!
All children like dinosaurs and a great introduction to them is with Digging for Dinosaurs (Sourcebooks Kids, Naperville, $9.99, 2025) written by June Smalls and illustrated by Grace Habib. This sturdy board book has lift flaps and engages little hands and imaginations as the children dig and lift to find what is layng under the ground. Even with this simple story we learn about tools used to uncover fossils, where they can be found, and how to find them. We also learn about what paleontologists do besides just digging. Surprises abound under the ground and under the flaps.
Digging for Dinosaurs at the Beach (Sourcebooks Kids, Naperville, $9.99, 2025) is another book in this series for young children written by June
With the same lift the flaps concept, we can see what might be hidden underneath the sand at the beach. Children will learn scientific words that they will love to use as they talk about their newest interest. Some flaps hide things people left at the beach but others reveal wonders of nature and past animals that roamed the earth. This book can make a day at the beach an even more exciting adventure.
My First Book of Camping (Duo Press, Naperville, $8.99, 2025), written by Stephanie and Jeremy Puglisi and illustrated by Ekaterina Trukhan, is the perfect board book to introduce young children to the wonderful world and adventures that camping can provide. In this simple book, we learn about different ways to camp, the joy of sleeping in a tent and the fun of fishing. It shows scenes of camping on a beach or even in your backyard. We encounter different kinds of animals, ways to activate our senses, learn about the things we need to take with us, and fun things to do with family and friends. There is even more to explore in the book and it would be a perfect guide to a first camping trip.
Older children will enjoy Let’s Go Camping: A Journal and Logbook for Kids (Sourcebooks Kids, Naperville, $12.99, 2025) by Stephanie and Jeremy Puglisi. This book is
meant to be written in with many places to complete lists, take notes, record observations, and reflect on the moments of adventure and solitude. Places to sketch and draw provide creative outlets for children and parents. This is a wonderful book that will keep a record of the camping experience. This is a book that would be perfect to record various camping adventures and, once children understand how the book is organized, additional copies can be purchased to be used for other camping experiences. I can just imagine books created for each camping trip and how they will chronicle family adventures and how children can be changed by each one.
Hopefully you will be inspired to pack up your camping gear and head out to parks, woods, and seashore for a celebration of all we have in this remarkable country! I can think of no better way to spend July!
Dr. Donna Phillips is an associate professor in the College of Education at Niagara University where her specialty is literacy and children’s literature. She lives on Grand Island, NY and is the mother of two adult children and the grandmother of one.
– by Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts
Helping all parents make their children’s educational experience as successful as possible
Parents: You have a few more weeks to enjoy summer with your children as the new school year is rapidly approaching. Don’t let up on activities that you all enjoy. And try to add some new ones to make the end of their vacation even more enjoyable. Have you been on hikes that are challenging? Have you visited any historical spots? Have you spent time with relatives? Have you gone to fairs, festivals, or farmer’s markets, watched a sunset, or camped in the backyard? Doing something new will make this month more interesting.
Besides enjoying the remaining days of summer, now is the time to make sure you and your children are ready for the start of the school year. Here is our checklist that should help you in developing your own checklist of the many things that your family needs to do to have a smooth start to the new school year.
1. Check if the schools your children will be attending have any pre-school events for you or them. Many schools are now having fun socials like picnics, play times at school, and ice cream parties. If so, it is really important to attend.
And if your children are attending a new school level, look for any dates for orientation sessions to the school, or try to have your children visit the new school.
2. Be sure you know what transportation to and from school is provided and what you may need to arrange. These plans should be firm, and your children need to know them— including such things as the route to walk to school.
3. You need to be sure that your children are healthy, so schedule doctor and dentist appointments, and check that required immunizations are all up-to-date.
4. As soon as you get a list of the supplies your children will need for school, inventory what you have, and look where you can purchase new items cheapest. Some schools will sell the supplies your children need. Do not forget any supplies that they will need to use at home.
5. Read any guides schools sent out to you so you will know their policies on attendance, phones, and behavior as well as other school rules. Be sure
to discuss these guidelines with your children.
6. Of course, there are other purchases that you may need to make, like lunch boxes and backpacks. As far as clothing goes, it is not wise to go overboard in purchasing a new wardrobe for your children. Instead, it can be wise to just purchase a few items until your children can see what the other children are wearing. And if your children’s schools require uniforms, make sure you know what they are for each grade level as they can vary between levels.
7. Depending upon your children’s level of maturity, you should outline now exactly what tasks you expect them to accomplish before school. You can make a chart for this. By high school, children should be accomplishing everything necessary to get them out the door for school on time. As soon as possible, younger children need to be using alarm clocks to wake up on time and take more responsibility for getting ready for school from brush-
ing their teeth to making their beds.
8. Just as your children need to have certain responsibilities in the morning, they also need ones that they need to handle after school at home.
9. And one very important decision that needs to be made is what the guidelines for media use will be for your children during the school year. Obviously, complete freedom to use media anytime can interfere greatly with children getting their homework done. Try to wean your children a bit away from their media by actually having a few media free days for everyone in your home.
1. As school time approaches, you need to make sure that you have done any work that has been assigned over the summer. Don’t put it off any longer. It will make you feel more confident academically at the start of the school year.
2. Now is the time to touch base with your school friends. At least, visit with them online. However, it will be more enjoyable if you can do some things together. If you are younger, play dates are appropriate. If you are older, you may consider doing something together like attending a movie or visit ing a water park.
3. Make plans to go to the first day of school with a friend.
4. Ask your parents to schedule a hair appointment if you feel that you need one.
Parents should send questions and comments to dearteacher@dearteacher. com and visit the dearteacher.com web site to learn more about helping their children succeed in school.
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W– by Shannon Carpenter
ith summer here, it’s time to answer the most important question of your life. What’s for dinner?
You know that this is the most important question because it’s asked roughly 7,578 times a day. Your kids ask this question when they first get up in the morning. They ask it when you serve them lunch. They ask as you are actually placing the aforementioned dinner on the table. Like seriously, all they have to do is open their eyes and look. But nope because the question has to be asked.
And now that your kids are out of school, this just gives them more time to ask the question. Even if you are working, they will get on the computer and send an email. The subject line will read “What are we having for dinner?” And the body of the email? “What are we having for dinner?”
When you die, your kids will put this on your headstone. No one told any of us that when we became adults, we would have to figure out dinner every single day until the day we die. Not cool, man. Not cool. So, to help us all out and to finally answer the most important question in the entire universe, here are some simple answers that will finally convince someone else to figure it out. We’re tired. Leave us alone.
This marvelous dinner is from the French and translates to “The Left Side.” Open your refrigerator, and what’s on the left side is what’s for dinner. A half-eaten Reuben, a Lunchable that was opened and never touched, and the mystery meat in the green container. The mold is garnish. Bon Appetit!
Dino nuggets. It’s always dino nuggets. But you can make a nice cream sauce with your tears. Remember when you used to go to restaurants and didn’t have to tip based on how much food your kids threw on the floor or on other customers? Good times.
It’s the same as Rawr but with a cocktail for you.
My wife once called me from one of her work trips and said, and this is a direct quote, “I’m tired of eating steak.” Meanwhile,
one of my kids had thrown a crayon in the Mac-N-Cheese. It melted.
So now whenever she goes on a business trip, I get a giant steak. Like Tomahawk bone in steak. I’ll gnaw on that thing for three days until she gets home. I still served the Mac-N-Cheese.
Healthy and economical, dig through your couch cushions for all the food your kids have let fall in there. Goldfish crackers, bananas, and slimy teething cookies are all waiting to be discovered. Cook some spaghetti noodles and season with the crumbs that have fallen into your lap from all your comfort eating. To plate, put it in a nice decorative bowl, and throw it in the trash because it’s not like they were going to eat anything you made anyway.
Start by creating a business and incorporating it in Delaware. Then draw up a business plan and make sure you include a sizable marketing budget. Create a website, hire employees, and watch your empire grow. Once you reach a sufficient size, reach out to the local college and let them know you have paid internships for their students. When those students show up, their one and only job is to figure out what is for dinner. You are going to have to pay them very well, but all this is easier than figuring it out on your own for yet another day.
With fresh tomatoes, locally sourced cheese, and only the finest meets, this dish is guaranteed to please every member of your family. Start by going onto the internet. Type in “I quit. What’s for dinner?” Somewhere in the search results, you’ll find the website for a pizza place.
Shannon Carpenter is the father of three and has been a stay-at-home dad since 2008. He’s the author of the book “Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome Full-Time Father.” as well as the co-host of Dadhouse Pod. In addition to his writing on parenting, he is also a humor writer trained through the famous Second City. And we all know that having a sense of humor is essential to surviving parenthood!
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Overwhelmed by the death of his parents, Elio doesn’t feel like he belongs anywhere. In desperation he decides that he wants to be abducted by aliens – and when his dream comes true, he finds himself negot iating with violent would-be conquerors, befriending an eyeless, wormlike alien, and learning lessons about honesty, loyalty, and family. Original, heartwarming, and beautifully animated, this Pixar production also features dazzling visual design. It’s a win for viewers of all ages Photo ©Walt Disney Motion Pictures Studios
Scorned by the fierce Vikings of Berk, Hiccup wants to prove himself by killing a dragon. Then he wounds one and winds up befriending the creature who he names Toothless. This reboot of the original animated film is competently made and despite being considerably longer is well paced. The plot is compelling, the actors capable, and the jokes funny . Throw in numerous positive messages and it’s a win for family movie night. Photo ©Universal Pictures
Orphaned young, Lilo is cared for by her frazzled big sister, Nani. Then their lives are upended by an alien who crash lands on earth, bringing mayhem and a new perspective on family. A live action remake, this version sheds the charm of the original animated film, while amping up the annoyance factor. Inexplicably for Disney, the digital animation quality is uneven - a rookie mistake for a legendary studio Photo ©Walt Disney Studios Motion Pictures
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After his brother’s death, Li promises his mother that he’ll give up kung fu. But when they move from Beijing to New York, Li learns that he might need to master karate to defend his honor – and his new girlfriend Luckily, Li’s shifu from China connects him with Daniel LaRusso to help him learn from both martial arts traditions. Well cast and tightly plotted, this family -friendly flick is a solid reboot of the classic original film Photo ©Sony Pictures
When his grandson is diagnosed with a brain tumor, Joe has only one way to earn the six figures needed for his medical care: returning to the sport that nearly killed him. Can he stay on a raging bull for long enough to save Cody’s life? Intense themes make this movie too scary for little ones, but it’s a competent, sincere underdog sports flick with strong messages about love, commitment, and courage. Genre fans will approve. Photo ©Angel Studios
Charlie was the kind of child who lit up every room—curious, energetic, and eager to learn. He was full of zest and did well in elementary school, though his report cards often included comments like “talkative” and “has trouble sitting still.” When Charlie transitioned to middle school, things became more difficult, and his spark started to dim. Phone calls home became frequent, filled with words like “disruptive,” “impulsive,” and “can’t focus.” His confidence began to diminish, and he started to feel like something was wrong with him. His parents knew he was trying his best, but the calls kept coming, and each day left them feeling more overwhelmed and worried about their son…
As a clinical psychologist working closely with children and families, I often hear the question: What’s wrong with my child?
I invite parents to consider a different, more transformative question: How does my child’s brain work?
This simple shift embraces neurodiversity and can alter how we advocate for our children. When we understand how our children experience the world,
we can meet them with greater empathy and build a powerful foundation for support.
Neurodiversity is the concept that all brains are wired differently. Each of us processes the world in our own unique way, and all experiences are valid and valuable. Just as we celebrate diversity in culture, identity, and perspective, we can also honor neurological differences as part of the richness of the human experience.
When a child is neurodivergent, their brain functions in ways that may
fall outside of conventional developmental patterns. This may include Autism, ADHD, learning difficulties, sensory processing differences, or other unique profiles. While such individuals may face challenges with attention, transitions, or social cues—they also bring exceptional insight, creativity, and authenticity to the world around them.
Understanding neurodiversity helps us move away from labeling behaviors as “bad.” Instead, we can begin to ask:
• How can we support our child’s individuality in the world?
• What strengths can we identify and nurture?
• What accommodations might they need to access their fullest potential?
When we embrace this understanding, we open the door to personalized support and a more inclusive, affirming way of helping children feel empowered in who they are.
It is natural to feel a mix of emotions when you suspect your child might be struggling or have concerns about their development. Feelings of confu-
sion, fear, guilt, and helplessness are common. Many parents feel overwhelmed by uncertainty and unsure of what steps to take. It’s not always clear which professionals to consult, what behaviors warrant evaluation, or how to access the right support systems.
Navigating the uncertainty can feel isolating, but you are not alone. Seeking answers doesn’t mean something is “wrong,” it means you’re taking a courageous and loving step toward connecting with your child more deeply. With greater insight comes clarity and the ability to support them in the ways they need most.
Comprehensive psychological evaluations are one of the most powerful tools we have for understanding how a child’s brain works. They serve as a detailed map of your child’s inner world by illuminating the strengths, nuances, and potential within their cognitive, emotional, and social profiles. Like any good map, a psychological evaluation provides direction to help families navigate next steps with confidence.
At DENT Neurologic Institute, we offer neuro-affirming, comprehensive evaluations that honor each child’s individuality. We gather input from multiple sources—including parents and teachers—and observe your child’s natural behaviors. We then conduct gold-standard assessments and use a range of testing tools to create a holistic picture of how your child thinks, learns, feels, and interacts.
This process yields more than a diagnosis—it provides a personalized road map with actionable steps that can positively shape the trajectory of your child’s life. It invites collaboration among caregivers, pediatricians, educators, and therapists. With shared understanding, these supports come together to implement a cohesive plan, ensuring your child receives consistent, compassionate care across all environments.
When we embrace neurodiversity and take the time to understand how a child’s brain works, we create space for them to grow into the best version of themselves. Behaviors that once continued on page 47
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— by Mike Daugherty
Google the term “Movie Stars.” Go ahead... I’ll wait. The result is a scrollable list of individuals who have captured the hearts of people all over the world through their performances on the big screen. Their names range from classic icons like Marilyn Monroe and Marlon Brando to modern powerhouses like Zendaya and Timothée Chalamet. I scrolled through a few pages of celebrities, remembering the various roles they’ve played over the years.
Now, Google the term “YouTube Stars.” Again... I’ll wait. The result is a scrollable list of... um... who are these people? MrBeast? Emma Chamberlain? Kai Cenat? Should I know them?
These internet born personalities are today’s “instacelebs”—a term for those who’ve risen to fame via platforms like YouTube, TikTok, and Instagram. Most are in their teens to late twenties. Their content spans everything from gaming and comedy to vlogging and education. They are masters of branding and fan engagement. Many regularly respond to comments, answer questions, or even livestream Q&As. The result? Fans who are fiercely loyal.
Today’s youth view these digital stars the same way we once idolized movie legends. But there’s a twist—these new
celebrities feel real. They film from bedrooms, wear sweatpants, and share blooper reels. The glamour of Hollywood is replaced by authenticity. And perhaps most importantly, the gatekeepers—casting directors, producers, even geography—have been eliminated. All it takes to get started is a phone, an idea, and an internet connection.
OMG YES! My child wants to be a content creator/influencer.
How do I address this?
This is one of the most common aspirations for kids today, especially between ages eight and thirteen. The appeal of fame is powerful. And while most will move on to other interests, this phase presents a perfect opportunity to teach valuable lessons.
My wife and I have three children. The older two fall into that sweet spot, and both have their own YouTube channels. We didn’t rush into it. Here’s how we approached it.
Be Encouraging—Admittedly, we weren’t thrilled at first. But after some thought, we realized creating and sharing content builds real-world skills: storytell-
ing, video editing, public speaking, and digital literacy. We considered using private settings on platforms like YouTube Kids or even sharing just with family. But we landed on letting them try a true public platform—with guardrails.
Be Honest—We had a talk about how this works. Success doesn’t come from one viral video. It’s built through effort, creativity, and resilience. These are the exact values we want them to carry into adulthood, so we emphasized that from the start.
Be Responsible—Here’s where the parent hat comes on firmly. We set ground rules about respectful language, protecting personal information, and being kind online. Every video is previewed before posting. We monitor channel settings, check analytics, and yes—we read the comments. Visibility settings were a big focus at first. (Tip: Search “YouTube channel privacy 2025” for up-to-date guides.)
A quick note of reassurance, most kids won’t stick with it. The work required to create content: concept, shoot, edit, upload…is a natural filter. But for those who do stay with it, your role remains critical: privacy settings, content supervision, and general support.
The world of eSports has grown even more in 2025. It’s no longer just a fringe interest. It’s big business. It’s real competition, and for some, a viable career path. According to
Statista, global eSports audiences reached over 650 million viewers in 2024. Tournament prize pools are enormous; the 2024 League of Legends World Championship alone had a pool exceeding $45 million.
Even schools are onboard. High schools, colleges, and now even some middle schools are offering eSports teams. They’re treated like any other sport: regular practices, strategic coaching, fitness routines, and wellness plans.
While I still don’t know any YouTubers personally, I now know three college students with full scholarships, earned through their gaming skills.
I’m not saying you should throw out your family’s screen time rules. Think of gaming like you would any other extracurricular. There are lessons in teamwork, discipline, time management, and goal setting.
Do Your Research—To support your child, learn the basics. What platforms are they using? Which games dominate the scene this year? (hint: Valorant, Fortnite, League of Legends, and Rocket League are still hot.)
Choose a Game to Master—Most serious players focus on one title. Mastery, not general skill, is what recruiters and teams look for.
Join a Team or Tournament—Like any other sport, the best way to grow is to compete. Many areas now host local tournaments. Online platforms like Start.gg or Battlefy also offer regular competitions.
Gaming might be a passing hobby or it might be a stepping stone to something larger. Either way, our job is to be supportive, stay informed, and guide our kids through the twists and turns of the digital landscape.
As parents, we don’t have to fully understand every platform or trend our kids love, but we do have to show up. Their digital dreams may fade or evolve, but the values we help shape today (creativity, responsibility, resilience) will outlast any viral trend. By staying curious, setting clear boundaries, and offering support, we give our kids the tools to not just survive the digital age, but to lead in it. Because whether it’s YouTube, TikTok, or Twitch, one thing is clear: this generation isn’t just watching the world…they’re shaping it.
Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible Starbucks addict. He is a certified educational technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his twenty-year career in public education. Currently, Mike is the Assistant Superintendent of Innovation, Technology, and Communications for the Chagrin Falls Exempted Village School district in Northeast Ohio. As an IT director he has developed creative, well thought out solutions that positively impact teaching and learning.
Driving a car is a privilege and, in our house, just because you turned 16 didn’t mean you were ready. We wanted to make sure our teens were prepared with not only driving skills but basic car owner skills as well. Each of our kids was given a used car (yes, they are lucky) to get them to and from school, work, and sports. But before we let them leave the driveway, we made sure they were prepared with more than the rules of the road.
A tire gauge was one of the tools my dad put in the toolbox the kids got on their 16th birthday. Low tire pressure can affect braking and steering, so teens must know how to check and fill their tires. The proper tire pressure can be found inside the driver’s door. Take your teen to the gas station to show them how to fill their tires and use the gauge to determine the amount of air in the tire. This is also a good time to inspect the tire for any nails or damage.
Teens should also be taught the proper way to change a tire. This includes taking the spare out of its compartment, placing the wheel wedges on other tires so the car doesn’t roll, the proper placement of a jack and how to loosen or tighten lug nuts. Many adults don’t know how to change their tires so don’t worry if you are not the best teacher for that skill. Reach out to driver’s schools for lessons and make your teen aware of any road assistance programs you are enrolled in such as AAA.
—by Pam Molnar
Two of my kids had to have their cars jumped in the school parking lot due to leaving their headlights on before heading into class. Thankfully, they had a set of jumper cables in their car and we taught them how to open their hood and where the battery was located. There is a proper way to connect and disconnect the cables to both the booster car and the car that needs jumping. The car should remain running for at least 20 minutes after starting to allow the alternator to properly recharge.
My husband took our teens to the oil change place with their car the first time it needed to be changed. Your teen must know what to expect when they arrive and what questions they will need to answer. Most cars have six essential fluids—oil, transmission, brake, coolant, power steering and windshield wiper. Those same vehicles have four filters—cabin, air, oil and fuel. Teach your teens to keep track of how often those filters and fluids are changed. Free apps like aCar (Android) or Fuelly (iOS) are great tools.
My daughter had a windshield wiper come off during a rain storm. She and her friend pulled over at a gas station and were able to put it back on because she had learned how to do it before getting her license. YouTube is a great source for how-tos for your particular make and model. Also, if you live in an area
where you are constantly using your washer fluid, show your teen how to fill their own between oil change visits.
The art of hand washing and waxing your car is a dying skill, but one all teens should have to do at least once. It is important to keep your car’s paint clean to avoid costly repairs and extend the life of the car. Hand washing is especially important after long road trips to get the bugs out of the grill or after parking under a tree with a lot of birds. To extend the life of the original paint, wax your car every six months – usually right before the extreme heat and cold.
I was in a fender bender with my 15-year-old son in the car. He saw us move the cars to a safe area to inspect the damage. It was a great teaching moment as he got to watch the other driver and me exchange driver’s licenses and insurance cards. While we did not need medical care, I explained that he should call 911 if either driver or passengers were injured. When we returned home, I had him hang around while I made the claim online so he could see the other side of the process and why we carry insurance.
Pam Molnar is a mother of three drivers and the daughter of a car geek. Car maintenance is a life skill they learned before they got the privilege to drive.
When I turned 16, my grandfather made me a small kit to put in my car. My dad did the same for my kids when they started driving. All the items in the kits came in handy at some point, although neither my kids nor myself are mechanics.
1. Jumper cables
2. First aid kit
3. Portable charger
4. Bungee cords
5. WD40
6. Ice scraper
7. Tire pressure gauge
8. Flashlight/headlamp
9. Zip ties
10. Small tool bag with a hammer, wrench, screwdrivers, pliers, scissors and duct tape
When the kids are home for summer break, meal-prep becomes a must for busy families to ensure nutritious foods are on the menu. This summer, give your kiddos the fuel they need for all their warmweather activities and adventures with a healthy twist on a childhood classic.
One bite into a grilled cheese sandwich and you’re back in your childhood kitchen, bringing all the nostalgic vibes you can pass down to your little ones. Plus, with nearly endless combinations, there’s a solution for everyone from classics to creative versions.
Fruit in a grilled cheese may not be the first idea that comes to mind, but these Blackberry Grilled Cheese Sandwiches offer a juicy, slightly tart burst of flavor tucked between crunchy slices of bread. It’s a sweet, savory lunch that’s just funky enough to impress while putting fresh produce on your kids’ plates.
“We love juicy blackberries – not just because they’re delicious, but because they’re packed with fiber,” registered dietitian Tony Castillo said. “That fiber helps keep you full, supports gut health and keeps your energy steady. Plus, blackberries are loaded with antioxidants and vitamin C, making them a true superfood. They’re perfect for baking, savory dishes or just as a snack on the go.”
Picky eaters have met their match with Chicken and Apple Grilled Cheese Sandwiches. Tender shredded chicken meets tart apple slices, ooey gooey cheese and whole-grain bread for an unexpected twist that will have taste buds tingling. With minimal ingredients and maximum flavor, they’re ideal for busy weeknights or lazy weekend lunches.
If you’re aiming to upgrade your cheesy sandwich arsenal, consider these tips from Healthy Family Project:
• Cook low and slow over mediumlow heat so the bread reaches a crisp golden while cheese melts to perfection.
• Real butter or olive oil adds a level of crispiness and flavor.
• Experimenting with cheese can give sandwiches an extra boost. Cheddar is the classic option, but mozzarella, gouda and brie bring newfound flavor profiles.
• Look for the Produce for Kids or Healthy Family Project logo in your local grocery store to find brands dedicated to creating a healthier generation.
Serve up more delicious, kidfriendly lunches this summer by visiting HealthyFamilyProject.com.
Recipe courtesy of Healthy Family Project
Prep time: 5 minutes
Cook time: 10 minutes
Servings: 2
1 tablespoon mayonnaise
1 tablespoon stone-ground mustard
4 slices whole-grain bread
2 slices provolone cheese
10-12 blackberries, cut in half
Heat medium skillet over low heat. In small bowl, mix mayonnaise and mustard; spread on one side of each slice of bread.
Place bread mayo-side-down in skillet. Top with cheese and blackberries. Add second slice of bread mayoside-up.
Cook 3-4 minutes per side, or until bread is toasted and cheese is melted. Repeat with remaining ingredients.
Sandwiches
Recipe courtesy of Healthy Family
Project
Prep time: 5 minutes
Cook time: 10 minutes
Servings: 4
1 tablespoon unsalted butter
8 slices whole-grain bread
8 ounces sliced rotisserie-style chicken breast
4 slices sharp cheddar cheese
1 apple, thinly sliced prepared salad, for serving
Heat large skillet over medium-low heat.
Lightly butter one side of each slice of bread. Place bread butter-side-down in skillet. Top with chicken, cheese and apple slices. Top with slice of bread butter-side-up.
Cook 2-3 minutes, flip and cook 2-3 minutes, or until cheese is melted. Remove from heat and cut in half. Repeat with remaining sandwiches. Serve with prepared salad.
— by Barbara Blackburn
Adelicatessen serves ready to eat foods, sometimes delicate and always pleasing. Mayback’s Deli is such a deli. Always searching for eateries with printed kids’ menus, we found one here for kids under 12 years old. This featured Grilled Cheese ($7.49), Bologna, Ham, and Turkey Sandwich ($7.99), and 3 Chicken Tenders with fries ($12.99). An informal restaurant it is, but what it does, it does very well. There is a booster/high chair if needed.
We savored the Deep Fried Mushrooms, perfectly fried squirting out flavorful juice, when we were taking bites. Just as the mushrooms were respectfully treated in the fryer, so are the French Fries that came with the entree. There are also Spicy Fries ($4.49 small) and Wedge Fries ($5.49 small). The latest WNY food to make the iconic list has a place here, Pizza Logs (5 for $8.99). I read that a million logs have been made here in Western New York.
I was excited to hear about the soups, until I learned that they are only available in the cold seasons: fall and winter. Otherwise, Soup of the Day ($3.49 cup and $3.99 bowl) vies with French Onion.
From the Sandwiches, I chose Liverwurst ($8.99), an excellent comfort choice. A hefty amount of slices were packed into my choice of a white wrap, along with provolone cheese, lettuce, tomato, onion, mayo, and pickle. This delicious sandwich made two when cut.
The Friday special pleased Dad, 1/2 Tuna Sub, with one side, and he chose the excellent French Fries. Like my sandwich, it was more than expected. If you’re a fish fan, the Fish Fry is served with French Fries and Coleslaw ($15.99).
There are Specialty Sandwiches. One selection is the Country Melt, featuring turkey, bacon, and Swiss cheese; that would be my choice. The burger is not forgotten, with hamburgers and cheeseburgers ($8.49 and $8.99).
Let’s not forget breakfast, maybe an all-day sandwich of turkey, egg, and cheese ($5.49). There are 5 other breakfast sandwiches served on a roll.
If you’re 1ooking for a soft shell taco, how about a Stinger Taco, with some lettuce, tomato, onion, and cheese, of course, very hotly presented? Then there is the Personal Pizza, starting at $3.99, with extras at 50 cents each.
Prices here are reasonably affordable. “Let my family serve yours,” says the menu, and they have been doing that since established in 1970. We might say that it is the best version of a deli.
Barb has been happily doing the Kiddie Gourmet for over 35 years. She has two aging children and four grandchildren, all living in Florida. She is a home instructor and community education cooking instructor for Williamsville Central Schools. She is the 2023 recipient of the Buffalo State Alumni Association Senior Service Award.
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