LINK PLUS Vol 1 Issue 3

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Vol. 1 Issue 3 / Sep. 18, 2019

SWEET BEGINNINGS

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Happily Ever after Yom Tov, Family Style

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Happily Ever After...

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As yomim tovim are upon us, many will be spending time with extended family. Whether you’re traveling to visit parents or they’re coming to stay with you, time spent with the mishpacha can be filled with blessings — and also lots of stress.

Handling extended family and in-laws can be tricky for almost everyone. So how do you navigate the extended family waters this yom tov season?

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Schedule Private time Remember to take breaks. Even the closest family can get annoyed and bothered when living together in the same house for a week – especially when there are lots of children involved. Consider planning a meal or some quiet time just for your family to get away from the hullabaloo for a few hours. It can be so refreshing for each couple/family to squeeze in a few hours of alone time.

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ageS and StageS Don’t feel like everyone has to do everything together. Different ages and genders enjoy different activities at different times. Make space for various activities to be happening at once to keep fights and boredom at bay.

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Share reSPonSibilitieS Everyone wants to be on vacation. But often, there’s that one family member who feels the need to take care of the whole family, while cleaning the house all day. Don’t expect anyone else to mother your kids or clean up their messes. Everyone can get into helping mode when they know what’s expected of them.

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grouP conSideration While you may be fine with your kids eating Twizzlers and Bisli for breakfast, your sister-in-law may not.

Please be aware if others are trying to feed their kids before bringing out the nosh stash. And take that heated conversation outside if your sister’s toddlers are being put to sleep. And please don’t change your baby’s diaper on the couch. Thank you!

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SuPerviSion So you settled the kids in the playroom and now all adults want to sit back and chat over coffee and magazines. Fair enough, but keep a rotation of supervising adults. Don’t wait for kids to get hurt or turn aggressive. Be proactive by always having an adult present and watchful of bullying or danger.

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houSe ruleS While spending time with family makes for lots of fun, house rules should be clearly stated and adhered to. Whether it means no hide and seek in the master bedroom, or keep the bikes on the street, kids and adults alike should be notified of anything that is important to the host.

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don’t overtax the grandParentS/ SiSter’S-in-law While it’s great to have grandma and aunts around to play babysitter, their idea of yom tov might not involve playing Lego all day and night while you sleep and party. Even if they insist, make sure to be around and available during times when they may want to nap or unwind.

Happy family time this Yom Tov season! Send us your feedback on what worked or didn”t for your crowd this year. Looking forward in hearing from you at plus@weeklylink.com

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BY MALKY HAUER

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When Shua entered the Shidduch parsha, it was not with a bang. It was quiet. Very quiet, as in zero suggestions. He went through (or rather didn’t) the yeshiva system and had a rough time. Countless nights I stayed up, worrying, davening for him to come home already. Then came the endless search for a place that was right for him to learn and develop as a person. It was like climbing a mountain with roller skates. My heart was tested to the limits and I cried a lot those days.

By the time he was seventeen, he was starting to settle. He was so happy when we found a small yeshiva for him in Eretz Yisroel that sounded just right.

I remember the drive to the airport.

His eyes were on the watch.

“This is my last chance to make it in life.” He said. “I can’t miss the plane!”

I swallowed the tears threatening to come.

He was so excited when he said goodbye. He was so happy to be in Israel.

He felt right at home.

Fast forward three years. Shua had found a great starter position, and steadily worked his way up in the company. Two years later, he opened his own business. I was a super proud mother. His commitment to yiddishkeit was solid; his head was firmly planted on his shoulders. I thought he was a great catch. We finally reached out to shadchanim and told them so.

But months went by without a single

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suggestion. It hurt. A lot. Throughout it all, Shua was our inspiration and a foundation of Emunah, and together we hoped and prayed. A while later, when Shua was much more intensely committed to davening and shiurim, a shadchan made a suggestion. She was just short of her nineteenth birthday(!) and it took just a short time for them to announce their engagement. The great Mazel Tov! I couldn’t believe it. It felt like a dream.

Gitty was yummy, more than we could ever ask for—I was elated and so was Shua.

Imagine the joy I felt when I headed to shul on the Shabbos of his aufruf. I couldn’t wait for that climatic moment. All throughout our struggles, I had envisioned this milestone with a rush of warmth and emotion—the time when he would be called up to the Torah with a beautiful shtreimel crowning his head.

“Yaaaamoid” I kept singing the tune, with a spring in my step and a catch in my throat.

I arrived to shul early enough, so I stepped outside to finish davening in a side room. There seemed to still be plenty of time. But then, just a minute later, when I was up to a place where I couldn’t talk, I looked in and saw my mother gesturing wildly to me.

Nooooo! My heart dropped.

I had missed the Yaamoid. I was devastated. It can’t be, I thought, biting my lips, holding back my tears.

This is a nightmare. Please! This can’t be happening! Halfheartedly, I threw some peklach down to the men

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with excitement I didn’t feel.

I almost felt like I missed his chupah.

It was hard for me to smile to all the well-wishers.

You missed it! You missed it! You missed it!

And yet, I fought not to let my Simcha be ruined. I consoled myself with the thought that it was the chupah that really mattered.

Two days later, at the badeken I told Shua with tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat how proud I was of him and how his progress warmed my heart and soul. I hugged him and then watched him go.

I never told my son about the flopped aufruf. Why risk upsetting him? I stored the disappointment in the back of my mind but in the lower chamber of my heart, it still lurked.

Two weeks after the wedding, Shua and Gitty came to us for Shabbos.

I’m not in the habit of going to shul

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Shabbos morning, but that week, I decided to go. I made sure to sit in the front row, since very few women were there. I looked down and enjoyed seeing my sons there.

Suddenly, out of nowhere, I heard “Yaaaamoid…….Yehoshua ben….”

Whaaat? I wanted to dance. I looked down and stared at my son, smiling widely, making his way to the Bimah.

I know Hashem, you did this just for me, just for me.

I absorbed the image of my son from my post on the women’s balcony and looked down at his frame. It was a hug from Hashem. I closed my eyes and felt enveloped in His love. My eyes filled.

As I walked out of the shul, an acquaintance came up to me, smiling.

“Mazel tov, your son got married” she said.

“Yes, he did. Thanks.

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Apple & Honey Capons Ingredients: • 5 boneless chicken bottom (skin on) • 2 cups diced apples (preferably gala, or Fuji), about 2 large • ¾ cup craisins • 2 Tbls. onion soup mix • ¾ cup honey divided • ½ cup fine bread crumbs • ¼ tsp. salt • ¾ cup water • 1 Tbls. paprika Directions: Sep. 18, 2019

1. Combine apples, craisins, soup mix, ½ cup of the honey, bread crumbs, & salt in a bowl.

Divide stuffing in 5 parts. Stuff each capon & place seam side down in baking pan.

2. Combine remaining ¼ cup honey with water and pour over chicken in pan.

3. Sprinkle with paprika. Cover & bake in 350˚ oven 1 ½ hours. Baste with sauce every ½ hour.

4. Note: Can be frozen raw. Defrost & simmer on hot plate 2-3 hours for a fresh meal on Yom Tov. | 13

Sticky Caramel Apple Buns

Need an updated version for apple kugel? Try it in a yeast dough. Add the cinnamon, take a deep breath, and enjoy the aroma as well...

Ingredients: Filling: • 4 tart apples • 1 stick margarine • 1 cup packed dark brown sugar • 1/2 cup whipping cream • 1 tsp. cinnamon, optional Dough: • 1 Tbls. dry yeast • 1/2 cup warm water • 1/2 cup whipping cream warmed 110°115° • 1/2 cup sugar • 3 3/4 cups flour • 1/2 tsp. salt • 1 egg • 3 tsp margarine melted Icing: • 1 stick margarine • 1 cup packed dark brown sugar • 1/2 cup whipping cream • 2 cups confection sugar • 1/4 tsp. coarse salt Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 500°. Peel & dice or slice apples thinly. Place in single layer on a baking sheet. Add margarine & bake 8-10 minutes. Stir and return to oven for 8 minutes more. Add brown sugar & whipping cream, stir to combine. Return to oven for an additional 10 minutes until bubbly. Remove 14 |

from oven and allow to cool while you prepare dough.

2. Combine yeast, water, whipping cream and sugar in a mixing bowl. Add flour, salt, eggs, & melted margarine. Knead until smooth & elastic about 3 or 4 minutes. (This dough is nice and soft as well small in size, making it easy to knead by hand) Let rise covered in a warm place for 30-40 minutes.

3. On a lightly floured surface, roll dough into an 18” square. Spread evenly with cooled apple filling. Cut dough into 1” wide strips.

4. For ramekins – Roll up one strip at a time and place in 4” sprayed ramekins. For sticky buns, place them onto a cookie sheet (3x6 rolls). For large bun – cut dough in 2” strips, roll up one strip and place in center of greased 10” round baking pan. Wrap remaining strips around center to form one large roll.

5. At this point, buns may be frozen raw. Thaw completely and allow to rise before baking.

6. Allow to rise covered with plastic wrap for about an hour.

7. Bake in preheated 350° oven 30-40 minutes, depending on size, until golden.

8. While buns are baking, prepare icing. Melt margarine in a pot over medium heat. Add brown sugar and melt. Whisk in cream for 2 minutes. Remove from heat & add confection sugar, stir until smooth. Spoon onto hot buns and spread evenly over top.

Sprinkle with coarse salt..

Festive Honey Torte

(For a 9 inch cake you will need to make this recipe twice).

Ingredients: Cake: • 4 eggs, separated • Pinch of salt • 7/8 cup sugar • 1 tsp. baking powder • 1/2 cup oil • 1/2 cup honey • 1 Tbls. coffee dissolved in 1/2 cup boiling • water • 1 tsp. vanilla extract • 1 Tbls. liquor • 2 cups flour • 1 tsp. baking soda Filling: • 2 16 oz. cartons whipping cream (preferably semi-frozen) • 2 Tbls. coffee dissolved in 1 Tbs. hot water, cooled • 2 cups dark brown sugar Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 350°.

2. In a clean mixing bowl, beat egg whites with a pinch of salt until frothy. Gradually add sugar and beat until stiff; fold in baking powder. Add next 5 ingredients, mixing momentarily after each addition. Add flour and baking soda and mix just until flour is Sep. 18, 2019

incorporated (without lumps).

3. Pour into parchment lined cookie sheet and spread evenly.

4. Bake for 20 minutes, or until cake springs back when touched lightly in center. Do not test with a toothpick.

5. Dust a clean parchment paper lightly with flour and invert hot cake onto paper. Peel back paper from cake and roll up jelly roll style from short side.

6. Make second cake while first one is in the oven. Allow at least 1 hour for cakes to cool before filling.

7. For filling, beat whipping cream with coffee and brown sugar until stiff. Divide cream into 2 parts.

8. Unroll cake and cut away edges from long sides of cake. Spread 1/2 of 1 part cream onto each cake. Cut each cake into three- 3 3/4 x 16 inch long strips. Roll up 1 strip and put in center of serving plate. Attach second strip to end of first and continue rolling on platter. Repeat with all cake strips.

9. Spread remaining half of cream onto top and sides of cake. Use the back of a spoon to form decorative waves. Drizzle honey right before serving and allow to run down sides of cake.

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(If you’re worried about leftover stock, make sure to shop only in stores with a 90-day return policy.

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By Chana Friedman → If you get more excited than the kids when a new craft lands on the market, consider photographing your painted mugs and beaded clocks, and sell them on Etsy. Although there are some fees, including a 5% transaction charge, the marketplace will connect you to over 33 million buyers globally.

→ Do you have enough old baby stuff to open a small shop?

You can actually rent out all that gear to travelling parents.

(Remember how much it cost you to check in the stroller on the plane?) goBaby is a rental site where parents can contact you for a carriage or car seat, so they don’t have to travel with all that extra baggage.

→ If you’re a self-taught guitarist or only took preliminary lessons in calligraphy, don’t lose heart.

Many parents will be thrilled to send their children to you at a discounted fee for a “beginner’s course.” You can also cater to younger children, or pair up with someone professional and work as an assistant.

→ Cash in on your talents! It’s easy to create a step-by-step coloring book if you’re a drawing pro, or a crocheting guidebook, woodcarving manual, cooking pamphlet… Copies are a small investment, especially if you’re making them in bulk. Hang up signs to let us know you’re out there, and watch the bills come rolling in…

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TRAINING GROUND

by Chava Leah Beer

Recap: Miri Berman, Shoshana’s close single friend is down in the dumps after her younger siblings suggested what she deemed an insulting Shidduch.

Chapter Three Mr. Chaim Pressman thinks he may have a lead that will help Shoshana find out more about Ayala, the new bookkeeper at the Dr. Lowy’s clinic.

It was 1:43 a.m. Shoshana lay in her bed, trying unsuccessfully to fall asleep. Could this really be the last night, at least for the unforeseen future, that she would be the only one living at home, aside for her parents, of course?

She’d always envied Miri, one of 10 children, whose home had been

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a hub of action when they were growing up. Shoshana’s home had always been staid, orderly, and adult-oriented. It was lonely, and she secretly harbored a dream of having a sibling, someone close to her age to play and fight with.

Still, being an only child had its definite advantages. She could keep an erratic schedule and come and go as she pleased. There was no need to contend with someone else’s opinions, let alone cater to their idiosyncrasies. And tomorrow, this was about to change. Drastically.

Her parents had sat her down to discuss the situation a few days ago.

“I don’t know how to tell you this, Shosh,” Abba had said in his soft way, the calm that portended the

oncoming storm, “but this is what we must do now. There really is no better choice.”

Shoshana prepared herself for the worst. What could he possibly be referring to?

“Grandma Pressman is finding it increasingly difficult to function on her own. We felt it was only right to open our home to her, so we can give her the best possible care.”

Shoshana felt the room around her spinning rapidly. Grandma Pressman? In their home?

“Where will she sleep?” Shoshana asked.

“In the spare room, of course.”

Shoshana didn’t know what to say.

What about all her father’s siblings who lived in the neighborhood?

Why couldn’t they take charge of her grandmother? Why couldn’t they hire a 24-hour aide to live with her?

“There’s no use fighting reality,” she heard Rebbetzin Thaler’s voice in her head. “We must learn to make the best of the situations in our lives.

They have been purposely placed there by the Master Planner.”

That would take a lot of time to internalize. Shoshana felt tired and drained. “This will be some adjustment, to say the least. I wish you could have asked me first,” she said at last.

Now, a week later, Shoshana tossed and turned, trying not to think about the changes that would happen tomorrow. Suddenly she found herself in the same room, 25 years earlier.

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The smell of frying latkes wafted through the air and Shoshana licked her lips in anticipation. Chanukah!

Grandma and Grandpa were due to arrive soon. That meant presents!

And doughnuts, which Mommy never let her have otherwise. Aside for the gifts, Grandma’s visits were never a reason for celebration.

She was reading the newest library book when she heard a knock at the door. Mommy will probably answer, she thought, engrossed in the story of a disappointed birthday girl. Mommy, unfortunately, had the same line of reasoning and ignored the knocking as she ironed in the basement. The knocking continued, and then the doorbell rang.

Slowly, Shoshana pulled herself out of her bed and, still holding the book in her hands, her finger holding the page she was up to, ambled to the door.

Seeing her, Grandma flung the book out of her hands, sending it flying to the ground. “Who’s more important, your grandparents or Chaim Walder?” she bristled, her hands on her hips.

Grandpa patted Shoshana softly on the back, trying to diffuse the tension. “Rachel, it’s okay,” he said.

“Weren’t you a bookworm too when you were nine years old?”

Abruptly, Shoshana pulled herself back to the present. Grandpa was long gone, and Grandma’s sting had only intensified with time. But Shoshana wasn’t nine years old anymore.

She gathered her wits and turned on the lamp, pulled out her diary and

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grabbed a pen. Furious scribbling followed as her emotions tumbled out. Anger. Resentment. Anxiety.

Self-pity. Finally, she began to relax, as she began to think of ideas of how to make their shared quarters a place of civil coexistence. Slowly, a new set of emotions came to the fore. Pity for Grandma. Appreciation to her parents, for doing something that would be so difficult. Gratitude for the opportunity to do an altruistic act of kindness.

shul, glad he could help Shoshana in some way.

Shoshana allowed herself to stretch. The writing had been a strain, but it felt good. She shut her diary, flicked off the light switch, and fell asleep sitting up, leaning against the headboard.

There was no response. Shoshana pretended not to notice the odd silence as she went to turn on the heat.

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Shoshana popped a honey candy and offered one to Ayala.

“Ayala Roth?”

Daniel Weiss scratched his head with his yarmulke.

“Ah, I remember now. There was a terrible car accident two years ago.

A frum family was driving to the mountains when a deer crossed the road in front of them and the car couldn’t stop in time. The driver, Mr. Roth, was critically injured. The rest of the family was unscathed. He didn’t make it. Such a tragedy; he was only 46.”

Chaim Pressman listened intently.

“One more thing,” Daniel continued.

“I think the Tehilim name was posted in shul by Dr. Lowy. He was a close friend of this Roth. He spearheaded a massive Tehilim campaign during the three weeks Roth spent in the hospital.”

“That information was really helpful, Daniel. Thanks so much!”

Mr. Pressman headed out of the

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*** Her back and neck ached thanks to the awkward position she’d slept in, and she was utterly exhausted.

Shoshana ran the whole way to work, huffing and puffing. A few minutes later, Ayala arrived.

“Nice coat you’re wearing, Ayala.

Where did you get it? I could use a new one too.”

Ayala went straight to her chair and turned on the computer.

“Sometimes all you need is a sugar boost to get you going,” she said.

Boost – that reminded her of booster shots. Oh! How could she forget! Today was flu shot day!

Dr. Lowy was offering flu shots for the entire family from 8:30 a.m. until 7:30 p.m. A prize was promised for every child under 12 who was brave enough to tolerate the prick. It was going to be a busy day.

The first vaccine recipient came at 9:00 am. It was Mrs. Waldman, a longtime client who lived next door, with her three-year-old daughter, Shira.

“You can go to Room 2. Nurse Sara will administer the vaccine,” Shoshana told her.

Just then Mrs. Waldman noticed Ayala. “You’re new here?” she asked.

“Looks like you have a case on your hands. Lots of luck to you!”

Ayala nodded.

“You took over for Mrs. Morgan? Or is she just out for a vacation?”

Ayala turned to Shoshana for support, as if the question was a complicated one. Shoshana, distracted by the other parents in the waiting room, ushered Mrs. Waldman into Room 2.

A quick prick, pout and prize later, Mrs. Waldman and her proud daughter who looked very relieved to have the dreaded injection past her came out. Before they turned to leave, Mrs. Waldman gestured to Ayala’s back and whispered to Shoshana, “Looks like you have a case on your hands. Lots of luck to you!”

“Staff members are also entitled to have a flu shot today. Just a side benefit of working at a doctor’s

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office!” Dr. Lowy informed the staff at the clinic.

The next time she had a few quiet minutes, Shoshana scanned the room. There was only one patient in line and the next appointment was in 20 minutes. She turned to Ayala, who was industriously doing her job.

“Are you also going to get a shot, Ayala?”

Eyes glued to the screen, Ayala shook her head no.

“Why not? It might be a wise idea, since at this office we’re exposed to germs all day.”

Ayala’s face was flushed, and her eyes darted nervously around the room. She had something to say, that was clear. Why didn’t she voice her thoughts?

To be continued…

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Whiten Your

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BY ETTY BERKOWITZ

THE COLOR WHITE SYMBOLIZES PURITY AND GOODNESS. WHILE OUR FOCUS SHOULD REMAIN ON PURIFYING AND WHITENING OUR NESHAMOS, IN THE SPIRIT OF THE SEASON, LET’S LEARN HOW TO KEEP OUR WHITES, WELL, WHITE! 22 |

Wool Tallis/Tallis Kattan Woolen talleisim or tzitzis are best hand-washed with a delicate detergent such as Woolite. Soak it for several hours or overnight and then hand wash. Repeat if necessary. Your local frum grocery or Judaica store may have another product designed especially for titzis or taleisim.

You can also have it dry-cleaned, but be sure to only give it in to an establishment that is familiar with frum garments, or you may end up like the unfortunate customer in this classic Jewish joke:

below: Use a mild soap, or your favorite regular shampoo (no two-in-ones or moisturizing shampoos), because just like your hair, silk is a protein fiber.

Fill your sink or a bowl with cool or lukewarm water, a splash of the soap or shampoo, and the silk scarf. Swirl and soak it for a few minutes but be gentle; don’t scrub or wring it because agitation can damage and shrink wet silk fibers.

Rinse in

Moshe walks into the dry cleaners to pick up his tallis. The store owner hands it to him, wrapped in plastic, and tells him his bill is $300.

“Three-hundred dollars? That’s highway robbery! Why does it cost so much to clean one tallis?”

Moshe asked, indignant.

The owner replied, “The cleaning was just $8. The other $292 was for untangling all the knots!”

Forewarned is forearmed!

Silk White Tichel If it’s your minhag to wear a white silk tichel on Rosh Hashana and/or Yom Kippur, you’ll want to ensure it’s clean and bright in time for Yom Tov. Get rid of stains in silk fabric by using the method

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clean water that’s about the same temperature as the previous water, until the silk is free of soap. Then rinse again, adding ½ cup of distilled white vinegar to neutralize any soap residue, prevent alkali damage, and revive and brighten the silk. Soak and swirl for another minute or two.

Next, place the scarf flat on a towel and slowly roll it up like a jelly roll.

Squeeze the towel but don’t wring it. (Never dry silk on a clothesline or in direct sunlight.) When most of the moisture is gone, lay it flat on the towel until it’s completely dry. If you plan to press it, do it when the scarf is still slightly damp on the “silk” or gentlest setting. You can also hang in on a rust-proof hanger and put it in the bathroom while someone is taking a hot shower, and the wrinkles should steam out.

To store, place the silk item in a cotton pillowcase with some cedar chips to keep moths away. Don’t store it in plastic, or you’ll risk mildewed silk.

Kittel Kittels can be made of a variety of materials, including cotton, linen, or polyester. Check the fabric care label

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for instructions on how to best clean your kittel. Don’t forget to iron it so it looks crisp and white on Yom Tov.

Your Smile The easiest way to keep your pearly whites bright is to avoid staining them in the first place. Some foods can stain your teeth quickly. Try to avoid excessive intake of coffee, tea, berries, beets and other foods with strong pigments.

You don’t have to swear off these foods entirely. Simply rinse your mouth well with water right after eating or drinking any colored foods to prevent the stains from setting on permanently. For drinks, consider using a straw, which draws the liquid closer to your throat and away from your teeth.

Dental whitening treatments can damage your teeth, so consulting with a dentist is wise. Professional whitening with a recommended practitioner is the way to go.

And when your teeth are finally white, share it with the world by smiling often! Remember, Chazal tell us that smiling to a fellow Jew is more valuable than giving him a refreshing glass of milk. And it’s so easy to do! ■

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‫וו י‬

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Creations

creative

A weekly project for your entire fAmily

By Mrs. P.

Sukkah Decoration

As the air is getting cooler, hammers and saws can be heard from porches, and yards. Succos is on the way! What are you hanging up this year? Decorating a Sukkah is so much fun! If you like to make something yourself but don’t have the know-how or time for complicated projects, this sweet mobile is the perfect option. Simple and effective, it adds a dainty touch hanging on its own or clustered.

You’ll need: •Sheet of Hard Decorative Paper / “Star” Paper / Plain or Glittery Stiff Felt •Ruler •Xacto knife or Razor blade •Hot glue or Tacky glue •String or Ribbon

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Step 1 Take your paper of choice and cut it into a 6"x 6" square. (If you’re

using felt make sure it’s very stiff. Likewise it’s a good idea to back “star” paper with a harder paper or oaktag so the mobile will support itself.) Use the ruler to mark lines 3/4” apart all around the square, creating 3 smaller squares. Mark another line in the center through the squares, from the top tip to the bottom tip.

Step 2 With the Xacto/Razor, cut along the first line from the outer

corner downward to about 1/4” from the center line. Now cut this line upward stopping once again about 1/4” from the center line. The outer corner will be loose while the centers will stay connected.

Repeat until all lines have been cut, keeping all squares connected in the center.

Step 3 You will be working from the inside out. Lift the corners of the

innermost square and bring them together in the center. Secure it with glue. (Felt can also be stitched.)

Step 4 Flip the whole thing over. Take the next two corners, overlapping

them a bit, and glue together, forming a tube. Turn it over, lift the corners of the next square, overlap slightly, and secure the points with glue. Turn the piece once again, overlap the outermost corners, and glue.

Step 5 Create a hanging loop at one end by gluing string or ribbon. You may choose to add detail like felt/glitter/sequin balls or leave it as is.

Sep. 18, 2019

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ConneCting to others through FaCial ReCognition

By Liba Gottehrer

“I recognize that face from somewhere…” “now where have I seen that face last?...

“Those eyes look so familiar…”

“I know him – just can’t place him right now…”

Sounds familiar? Facial recognition – the art of recognizing and identifying the face you’re seeing – has baffled and amazed neuroscientists for years. Recently, though, with digital facial recognition burgeoning as more companies switch over to this technology each year, neuroscientists developed a renewed 28 |

interest in how this amazing process actually works. Facial technology is based on the simple formula that a brain sees a face as parts of a whole. This is backed by a study done executed by Le Chang, a neuroscientist at the California Institute of Technology, in 2014. In prior research, his lab director had already identified neurons in the brains of monkeys that processed and recognized faces. These specific neurons appear to be much more active when a person or monkey is looking at a face than other objects.

"But I realized there was a big question missing," Chang says. No one had yet figured out how these neurons recognize faces, only that they were pivotal to that specific brain function. In search of the method the brain uses to analyze and recognize faces, Chang decided to break down the face mathematically.

He created nearly 2,000 artificial human faces and broke them down into categories encompassing 50 characteristics that make faces different, from skin color to amount of space between the eyes. Then he implanted electrodes into two rhesus monkeys to record how the neurons in their brain fired when they were shown the artificial faces.

By then showing the monkeys thousands of faces, Chang was able to map which neurons fired in relation to which features on each face. It turned out that each neuron responded in certain proportions to only one feature or "dimension" of what makes faces different. This means that, as far as your neurons are concerned, a face is a sum of separate parts, as opposed to a single structure. Understanding this pattern allowed Chang to create an algorithm by which he could actually read the monkeys’ brain activity to recreate a face. He did this by noting which neurons were more active when the monkeys would focus on a particular face and choosing the corresponding facial feature. He then combined all the features into a complete face. In nearly 70 percent of cases, the original face and the Sep. 18, 2019

recreated face were confirmed as being the same.

"People always say a picture is worth a thousand words," co-author neuroscientist Doris Tsao said in a press release. "But I like to say that a picture of a face is worth about 200 neurons."

This work is crucial to anyone who relies on facial technology, such as the government, airport security, phone makers who use facial recognition to unlock their phones, social media companies, retailers, and marketers and advertisers in campaigns. Facial recognition using biometrics is still a relatively new and untapped field, and there’s room for lots of improvement. Chang even sees his work as potentially being used in police investigations to profile potential criminals from witnesses who saw them. Ed Connor, a neuroscientist at Johns Hopkins University, envisions software that could be developed to adjust features based on these 50 characteristics.

Such a program, he says, could allow witnesses and police to fine-tune faces based on the characteristics humans use to distinguish them, like a system of 50 dials that witnesses could turn to morph faces into the once they remember most.

"Instead of people describing what others look like," Chang speculates, "we could actually directly decode their thoughts."

The facial recognition market is expected to grow to $7.7 billion in 2022 from $4 billion in 2017. But | 29

how exactly do companies use this system to make money? This is how it works:

Apple says the chance of a random face unlocking your phone is about one in 1 million.

A facial recognition system uses biometrics to map facial features from a photograph or video. It turns this information into data, which can then be stored and accessed. For instance, half of all American adults have their images stored in one or more facial-recognition databases that law enforcement agencies can search, according to a Georgetown University study. According to a May 2018 report, the FBI has had access to 412 million facial images for searches. The system compares the data it processes by scanning your face with a database of known faces to find a match. This can be used for everything from surveillance to marketing.

• Some companies have traded in security badges for facial recognition systems. This makes coming and going more seamless and discourages potential thieves.

Some examples:

Facial recognition systems can monitor people departing and arriving in airports. The Department of Homeland Security has used the technology to identify people who have overstayed their visas or may be under criminal investigation.

Customs officials at Washington Dulles International Airport made their first arrest using facial recognition in August 2018, catching an impostor who was trying to enter the country.

• Apple first used facial recognition to unlock its iPhone X, and continues with the iPhone XS. Face ID authenticates — it makes sure you’re you when you access your phone.

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• Retailers can combine surveillance cameras and facial recognition to scan the faces of shoppers. This aids in identifying suspicious characters and potential shoplifters.

• Marketers often consider things like gender, age, and ethnicity when targeting groups for a product or idea. Facial recognition can be used to define those audiences even at something like a concert.

So how does all this information concern you? Privacy is becoming increasingly difficult to maintain.

This includes any rights you have to control your personal information and how it’s used — including your faceprint. If you shop, travel, or do anything that doesn’t involve hiding under your blanket, it’s highly likely that dozens of companies have captured and store your faceprint together with their other information about you, which can include your social security number, credit card information, and medical records.

It’s possible for hackers to access and steal that data. That’s the price we pay for convenience, but as facial technology evolves and becomes more advanced and secure, it may just be worth it.

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