Courage Issue 116

Spring 2025

Issue 116

Courage

The magazine of

War Widows Association of Great Britain

www.warwidows.org.uk • Reg Charity No. 1002656

Member of the Confederation of Service Charities (Cobseo)

PATRON His Majesty King Charles III KG KT GCB OM AK QSO CC PC ADC

PRESIDENT: The Baroness Fookes of Plymouth, DBE DL VICE-PRESIDENTS: The Viscount Younger of Leckie The Rt Hon Baroness Garden of Frognal, PC The Baroness Crawley of Edgbaston, The Baroness Watkins of Tavistock AMBASSADORS: Dame Shirley Bassey DBE, CH DBE, David Domoney C Hort, FCI Hort TRUSTEES CHAIRMAN: Chris Dziuba: chair@warwidows.org.uk VICE CHAIR: Debbie Bowles: vice-chair@warwidows.org.uk SECRETARY: Sue Raw: secretary@warwidows.org.uk TREASURER: Richard Steele: treasurer@warwidows.org.uk GOVERNANCE TRUSTEE: Jeannette Strachan: governance@warwidows.org.uk REGIONAL ORGANISER LIASON TRUSTEE: Liz Carter: rol@warwidows.org.uk REMEMBRANCE TRUSTEE: Chris Dziuba: remembrance@warwidows.org.uk EVENTS TRUSTEE: Kerry McNally: events@warwidows.org.uk POLICIES TRUSTEE: Terry Whittles: policies@warwidows.org.uk CONTRACTS & DISPUTES TRUSTEE: David Whimpenny: contracts@warwidows.org.uk COURAGE TRUSTEE: courage@warwidows.org.uk COMMITTEE ASSISTANTS: Sue Concannon: Book-keeper, bookkeeper@warwidows.org.uk Helen Raw: IT & website, administrator@warwidows.org.uk Susan Williams: Merchandise, merchandise@warwidows.org.uk Helen Hudson: Assistant to database. database@warwidows.org.uk Margaret Hind: RO assistant, ROassistant@warwidows.org.uk - §§§ -

Please note that we are continuing to use the address War Widows’ Association Mail, PO Box 29265, Dunfermline, KY12 2FH for mail

“Campaigning, Caring, Remembering Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow”

Contents Reports..................................................................................................................................................................4 AGM Weekend in Winchester.......................................................................................................8 A Remarkable Tale of Sobriety and a 1764 Gravestone............................... 13 Betty Withers’s 100th Birthday............................................................................................... 14 Online Book Club................................................................................................................................. 15 Colour and Light Show, York Minster February 2025................................... 16 Down Under in Portsmouth....................................................................................................... 18 A day out in London.......................................................................................................................... 20 ‘The Falklands Fallen’...................................................................................................................... 22 Noticeboard................................................................................................................................................. 23 Beryl Mackinder..................................................................................................................................... 27 Remembering Together.................................................................................................................... 28 In Memory.................................................................................................................................................... 30 Honouring Their Memory: A Guide to War Graves and Headstones...... 31 AGM 2026 Bradford and the Midland Hotel.......................................................... 34 The Union Jack Club......................................................................................................................... 36 ROL Report & R O Reports....................................................................................................... 44 When Tirpitz Went to Cranwell – (No not that one!)...................................... 44 War Widows get online................................................................................................................... 46 Hospital........................................................................................................................................................... 47 -3-

Reports Presidents Ponderings What is uppermost in my mind at the moment is that I missed the AGM Weekend – an occasion to which I always look forward , especially in meeting old friends and making new ones. I was in fact on my way when I tripped and fell as I was going from Waterloo East to Waterloo, the main station. To cut a long story short I was most kindly looked after by several people getting off the train at the same time and then by station staff.

I spent the afternoon and evening in A and E at St Thomas’s Hospital while I had every test imaginable. The care was superb but I was told firmly I should not continue my journey to Winchester to join everyone for the weekend. I was not able to give our Chairman much information at the time so the news about my mishap was kept low key. In fact I was fortunate not to break any bones save for one cheek bone which it was decided should be left to heal on its own. I sported hideous bruising on a lot of my face, originally in tones of imperial purple but at the time of writing is softening to a delicate mauve. I was told not to blow my nose or sneeze. Once told that the desire to do the forbidden becomes well nigh irresistible!

The bush telegraph system worked a treat as Vice President Mary Watkins contacted my close friend Lady Stedman-Scott who alerted Lord Hayward with whom I share an office and who lives in Central London. He came immediately and I was so grateful to have his company all the evening. He appeared the next morning to escort me to the station, handing me over to the guard like a 10 year old travelling alone for the first time. My good friend Debbie Stedman-Scott met me at my local station so I was wonderfully well looked after then and since.

I do want to thank most warmly the Vice Presidents who were able to attend the AGM - Mary Watkins, Sue Gardner and James Younger. I am especially grateful to the latter for stepping in at the last minute to give a speech at the AGM in my place – though he had no idea of what I was planning to say. I know from a number of sources that he did the job splendidly. I don’t recall missing an AGM since I became President so missing out this time is especially galling!

However I did make it to another event – nothing to do with war widows as such but I know many of our members value greatly their lovely pets. I was at a tea party arranged at the slightly curious time of one o’clock in the afternoon organised by the RSPCA. It was to pay tribute to the role women have played historically in the work of the Society and the number of high level roles women play in running the current organisation and in their role as volunteers. I was there as the guest of honour as they wanted to present me with a special lifetime award for services to animal welfare as member and chairman of its governing body years ago now and my work in both Houses of Parliament to improve the lives of animals. It was all slightly embarrassing but so kind as well. In my short speech of thanks I said I was not proposing to rest on my laurels but I had set my sights on improving a bill now before the House of Lords -4-

allowing tenants the right to keep a pet.

I am so looking forward to attending the lunch arranged for those widows going on to the Royal Garden Party afterwards. Let’s hope I take more care with my feet and arrive in one piece! The Garden Party should always be such a happy occasion but I feel that one or two may feel a trace intimidated by going to such a big event and will be buoyed up by the company of other widows meeting over lunch first. Let’s pray for fine weather to make the day perfect. I am not going myself but one of my odd little pastimes in the past was seeing how many women arrived wearing highly unsuitable shoes for a lot of standing and walking and how many would later be seen sitting down or lying on the grass with their shoes kicked aside!

I wish all of our members a very happy summer enjoying the long days and warmth.

Janet

Chaplain’s Address Eighty years ago, on 8th May 1945, the world erupted in celebration as Victory in Europe (VE) Day was declared. Crowds flooded the streets, bells rang out, and a warweary nation let out a collective sigh of relief. It was a day of joy, yes—but also one of remembrance. For while the war in Europe had ended, the scars it left behind were deep, and for many, the cost of victory was far too high.

As we mark this significant anniversary, we rightly celebrate the courage and resilience of those who fought for freedom. We remember the street parties, the bunting, the dancing in Trafalgar Square (and no doubt a few celebratory tipples!).

But we also remember those for whom VE Day was not a moment of jubilation, but of quiet reflection—those who had lost family members and friends. For the war widows of Britain, the victory came with a painful price tag.

Today, as we face global instability, war and uncertainty, we are reminded that history has an unsettling habit of repeating itself. Many of us have watched in disbelief as conflict once again grips parts of the world, bringing devastation to families much like our own. And yet, if there is one thing that war widows understand better than most, it is what it means to have your world turned upside down—and, crucially, how to find your feet again.

At the heart of the War Widows Association is something truly precious: the immense power of supportive, loving friendship. If VE Day taught us anything, it’s that we can endure even the darkest of days when we stand together. So let’s raise a glass—not just to victory but to the strength of those who carry on and to the friendships that make it all a little bit easier. Cheers!

Padre Ian

Chair’s Corner As I sit here, looking out at a clear, bright blue sky with the sun shining down, I can’t help but wonder - why isn’t it warm? Despite appearances, there’s still a chill in the -5-

onder - whyIisn’t it warm? Despite appearances,htthere’s still a chill in the air.

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They would like to correspond via email.

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Neither ofremy ladies usethe email when I get asu ple and thrill the idea regularly.

If any of you would be interested inmy becoming a pen friend, do tget ugh I tho soplease ail these em use ladiesthey hem postcards whenever I was away; so delighted were to get little snippets of r the Nei nd. frie pen a to ting wri in touch. were theiny to get the deligh y; so awa was of abroad that we you would beted interested wheneverIfI any m postcardsregularly. d thecorrespond sennow be inter - 6 -ond regularly. If any of you would ming a pen friend, touch. corresp t weinnow thaget abroaddo from please t in touch.

At the AGM last weekend, I heard from members who, despite no longer having a Regional Organiser (RO), continue to meet for coffee and lunch. I am delighted to tell you that these gatherings can qualify as funded lunches and the Association is prepared to subsidise them up to twice per year. All that’s required is for someone to contact the ROL at the email address: rol@warwidows.org.uk and submit the names and signatures of each attendee. There is no obligation for anyone to take on the role of RO, but the procedure is so simple and it does seem a shame not to take advantage of the support available for these lovely get-togethers.

At the end of March, I was honoured to attend a dining-in night at RAF Shawbury - the last station where my late husband served. RAF Shawbury is the training centre for Air Traffic Controllers and helicopter pilots. In fact, both Prince William and Prince Harry learned to fly helicopters there. The Air Traffic Control School, now known as the College of Air and Space Operations, presents an annual award to the top-performing student in both practical and theoretical studies. The award is named in honour of my husband, and I am always deeply proud to present it.

We have a busy few weeks ahead. I look forward to seeing many of you at the National Memorial Arboretum in Staffordshire for A Time to Reflect, which is always a special and uplifting day. Following that, I shall be attending the service at the RAF Memorial at Runnymede; and then I shall be off to London to greet members of the Association who have been invited to a Buckingham Palace Garden Party. Baroness Fookes and I will enjoy a light lunch with them before waving them off to the Palace. I shall remain in London to lay a wreath at the Cenotaph for the International Day of UN Peacekeepers.

Next on the calendar is the Royal Hospital Chelsea Founders’ Day Service, which six of our members will be attending. Please remember, our policy ensures members may attend these special events only once, to give as many as possible the opportunity to participate.

For those who joined us at the AGM, you’ll know that we’ve selected Bradford as the location for our AGM in 2026. Trustee Terry Whittles visited the proposed hotel recently, and his report will appear later in this edition of Courage.

I do hope you like the cover of this edition of Courage. No worries if your face doesn’t appear this time, we have many more photographs.

Until then, take care and stay safe. I look forward to seeing many of you over the coming months.

Warm regards, Chris

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AGM Weekend in Winchester

AGM Weekend in Winchester

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Our hotel was ideally located, just the famous Winchester Cathedral, the shops, the River Itchen,a and so lucky to en were and short stroll from thengfamous Cathedral, shops, Riverwe Itchen, where ester,the Winch city of the to the historic usWinchester walking routes. took This year’s gatheri stroll fro short a just , some truly beautiful walking our stay. Our hotel was ideally located outroutes. e through s sunshin gloriou

the famous Winchester Cathedral, the shops, the River Itchen, and some walking routes.

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AGM Weekend in Winchester

ear’s gathering took us to the historic city of Winchester, where we were lucky to enjoy s sunshine throughout our stay. Our hotel was ideally located, just a short stroll from mous Winchester Cathedral, the shops, the River Itchen, and some truly beautiful g routes.

It was a real pleasure to explore Winchester in It was a real pleasure to exp to made time ly, we natural lovely weather and, lovely weather and, natural way! the along enjoy some refreshments

enjoy some refreshments a

unable to join us this year. She was greatly Sadly our President, Baroness Fookes-, 8was tha Wetowere her again d to seeing Sadly President, Baroness Fookes, wassoon. unable joindelight us thisedyea look forwar much veryour missed and we

It wastoa explore real pleasure to explore inand, suchnaturally, we It was a real pleasure Winchester in suchWinchester lovely weather lovely weather and, naturally, made time to made time to enjoy some refreshments along thewe way! enjoy some refreshments along the way!

Sadly our President, Baroness Fookes, was unable to join us this year. She was greatly missed and we very much look forward to seeing her again soon. We were delighted Baroness Fookes, unable jointous this year. was that Viscountwas Younger wastoable step in at shortShe notice to greatly deliver the AGM’s opening much look forward to seeing again soon.

We were delighteda that address.

I must admit toher being a little envious - he produced superb speech with ten hours’ notice, whileto mine had been in the making for several weeks! s able just to step in at short notice deliver the AGM’s opening address.

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little envious - he produced a superb speech with just ten hours’ notice, n the making for several weeks!

TheAGM AGM itself took place on Saturday The itself took place on Saturday m morning.

We were honoured to have parad were honoured to have our standard our standard paraded by Edward, Edward, a cadet from Winchester College a cadet from Winchester College, looked incredibly smart. smart.

He wasHe accomp who looked incredibly Major Darius Szwajkowski, the Continge was accompanied by Major Darius Commander CCF. Contingent Viscount Youn Szwajkowski,of thethe Commander of the CCF. Viscount alumnus of Winchester College, was plea Younger, an alumnus of Winchester and chat with them both.

College, was pleased to meet and chat with them both.

It was lovely to see so many familiar face It wasencouraging lovely to seetosowelcome many familiar more some new faces, and even more encouraging to welcome some new ones.

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alumnus of Winchester College and chat with them both.

The AGM itself took place on Saturd ay morning. We were honouredIttowas ny familiar face maade to see havlov elystan e our dardsopar d by e new Edward, a cadetmo e som wel ngr to from Wiour nchagi re enc este Col legcom e, who looked incredibly smart. He was acc ompanied by Major Darius Szwajkowski, the Con tingent Commander of the CCF. Viscount Yo unger, an alumnus of Winchester College, was pleased to meet and chat with them both.

AGM Weekend in Winchester cont...

It was lovely to see so many familia r faces, and even more encouraging to welcome some new ones.

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announced that next year we will be holding our AGM in Bradford - this year’s f Culture. We’re very much looking forward to it.

ffet lunch, members took advantage of the free afternoon in different ways - some he shops, one went for a run, and another had an unexpected encounter with two s (fortunately nothing serious!)

ay evening, we were joined for dinner by the Winchester and his wife. After the meal, the r beckoned, and we danced the night away, e energetically than others!

our AGM in Bra forward to it.

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UK City of Culture. We’re very much looking forward to it.

After a buffet lunch, members took advantage of the free afternoon in different ways - some free afterno tage of theencounter explored the shops, went lunch, for a run, and another an unexpected withon twoin diffe advan ers tookhad memb a buffet After one paramedics (fortunately nothing serious!) one went for a run, and another had an unexpected enco shops, explored the

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On Saturday joined for dinner by the holdingevening, our AGMwe inwere Bradford - this year’s UK City of MayorCulture. of Winchester and his wife.

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Danes to commemorate the 107 Anniversary of the y, while three of us ed on Sunda ers depart Many memb On Saturday evening, we were joined for dinner bye at St Clement Foundation of the Royal Air Force. servic to London for a church

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the Mayor of Winchester and his wife. After the meal, ersary of the te the 107th Anniv commemora Danes the dance floor to beckoned, and we danced the night Force. of the Royal ation Found away, some more energetically thanAir others!

As it was Palm Sunday, many members attended the Sunday Service in Winchester Cathedral, and stopped for tea and cake in theAs Cathedral café. Sun it was Palm

members attended in Winchester Cath for tea and cake in

Fourteen members remained in Winchester for an additional night, and we returned from London in time to join them for a relaxed evening meal. By Monday, the last few departed, heading home to all corners of the United Kingdom.

Many members departed on Sunday, while three of us travelled to London for a

All in all, it was a thoroughly enjoyable weekend—and I’m already looking forward to our nal night, an additio church service at Stmemb Clement Danes toedcommemorate thefor 107th Anniversary of theand we in Winchester remain ers en Fourte next reunion.

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om. in Winchester KingdService of the United corners attended to allmembers As it washeadin Palm Sunday, the Sunday g homemany Cathedral, and stopped for tea and cake in the Cathedral café.

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weekenight, and we returned ghly enjoya thorou it was a in in all,remained Fourteen All members Winchester for an ble additional from London time ton.join them for a relaxed evening meal. By Monday, the last few nextinreunio departed, heading home to all corners of the United Kingdom.

All in all, it was a thoroughly enjoyable weekend—and I’m already looking forward to our next reunion.

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A Remarkable Tale of Sobriety and a 1764 Gravestone By the time you read this we will have been to Winchester for our AGM. How many of you visited the Cathedral and how many of you saw the gravestone of a Thomas Thetcher I wonder.

In the peaceful grounds of Winchester Cathedral lies a gravestone with a fascinating and somewhat ironic history that has touched the lives of many. The story begins in 1764, when Thomas Thetcher, a young grenadier in the Hampshire Militia, tragically died aged 26. His untimely death came after drinking “small beer” – a weak brew typically consumed to avoid contaminated water. The inscription on his tombstone reads: “In Memory of Thomas Thetcher, a Grenadier in the North Regt. of Hants Militia, who died of a violent fever contracted by drinking Small Beer when hot the 12th of May 1764. Aged 26 Years.”

The tombstone goes on to honor Thetcher’s kindness and devotion to his comrades.

But it’s the poetic lines of the memorial that have caught the attention of many over the centuries: “Here sleeps in peace a Hampshire Grenadier, Who caught his death by drinking cold small Beer, Soldiers be wise from his untimely fall, And when ye’re hot drink Strong or none at all.”

Though his death was likely caused by a disease in the beer (not alcohol poisoning), the rhyme became a cautionary tale. In 1918, a young American soldier named Bill Wilson, who was stationed near Winchester during World War I, came across the gravestone. The inscription struck a deep chord with him – particularly the part about drinking “strong” beer when hot. Little did Wilson know, the gravestone would later play a crucial role in his life story.

After the war, Wilson struggled with alcoholism, and in a desperate bid to save himself, he sought out help. Incredibly, Wilson and a few others – including his old friend Ebby Thacher – went on to form Alcoholics Anonymous, a movement that would change millions of lives worldwide. In his autobiography, Wilson recalled how the gravestone in Winchester had been an “ominous warning,” one he failed to heed in his younger years.

What makes this story so poignant is the irony: in Thetcher’s time, drinking “small beer” was considered safer than water, which was often contaminated with diseases.

Had Thomas Thetcher drunk “strong” beer, with its higher alcohol content, he might have survived. Yet his tombstone became a symbol for another battle entirely: the fight for sobriety.

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part of recovery history, and the AA’s famous “Big Book” has inspired millions. It has sold over 30 million copies and continues to be a beacon of hope for those struggling with addiction.

The gravestone itself has travelled through time. It was replaced in 1802 after the original was destroyed and moved to the Royal Hampshire Regimental Museum in 1966 for safekeeping. Today, visitors can see the memorial in both the museum and the cathedral grounds, where it continues to remind us of a remarkable story of perseverance, hope, and the power of change.

For those seeking inspiration, the gravestone of Thomas Thetcher is a moving reminder that, even in the most unexpected places, we find the lessons we need for a better tomorrow.

Betty Withers’s 100th Birthday Betty was 100 on 1st May we celebrated with a party. Betty was in the WRNS during the war based on Hayling Island, and is still a member of the WRNS, British legion and RNA. Chrissy Withers

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Book club has been such a rewarding experience.” source it. We’ve used Borrowbox and Libby (accessed through your local library) supermarkets, bookshops either Highstreet or online to keep costs down.

Since May we Choices have met reg Of course, we haven’t just talked about the Wednesday of by theDelia month a have included ‘Grown Ups’ by Marian Keyes and ‘Where the Crawdad’s Sing’ books and it’s been comforting to know so many reading and discussing Owens which we all loved but were all equally unsure about watching the film in casea range of us have encounteredpast similar experiences 11 months.

Not everyon of disappointment.

month but we do try, and hav with regards to being a war widow.

At the moment we’re reading ‘The Light Behind the Window’pleasure.

by Lucinda Riley. It was Forthethose of youof D-Day who would like to there’s join us,a chosen because it’s set in France, anniversary is approaching, As one member said “Being par contact at Riley novels! the chooser lovesme Lucinda WW2 connection and not least, please

up avoluntary. book and The readgreat knowing tha Don’t be daunted by the thought of choosing a book it’s purely roassistant@warwidows.org.uk was going to sit down and conne thing about reading books others have chosen is because it’s an opportunity to read same as me. Book club has bee authors you may well have passed by and discover love them or there again …..

Reading Force isyou a charity specifically for those

with about military connections, both adults and Of co Of course, we haven’t just talked the books each month and it’s been comfortingchildren, to know so many us have and ofencourages communication books encountered similar experiences with regards to being a between family and friends. If you want to know of us with re war widow. more you can find them at www.readingforce.org.uk For those of you who would like to join us, although I do already have a list of interested association members, please contact me at roassistant@warwidows.org.uk Reading Force is a charity specifically for those with military connections, both adults and children, and encourages communication between family and friends. If you want to know more you can find them at www.readingforce.org.uk Margaret Hind - 15 -

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notherthe wonderful light show complete projected onto the external fabric of athe 10 minute spectacular, with accompanying music, run on continuous and evening, what’s more was free!3What morewe could one ask for?the 10 minute Minster.loop Every forit almost weeks could enjoy with accompanying music, run on a continuous loop and what’s it of With time running out, we 3 widows, one with mobility issues and in more possession ould one ask for? that most coveted of trophies, a blue badge, decided to see the show for ourselves. ruary 2025 Febnearly sterstart, k Min Being able to park withinCo 50 lou Yards of the show, we were there at the , Yor ow ht Sh Lig r and we 3 widows, one with mobility issues and in possession of that most dark, and a fine, all be it cold, evening. lue badge, decided to see the show for ourselves.

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After 2 years ted to the spectacle of my mother feeding Percy, the Mu young peacock thatand seum still a dull brown bird, in their back garden. After 2 years and still a dull brown bird, Dick dared s. den gar Dick dared to question hiscocks n-Law and Percy was duly renamed Pricilla! the pea do rememberand IMother-in-Law Percy erised by the magnifice me wassm duly renamed Pricilla! . My ve us everything, the tail feathers each spring Back theute show, n fox, horses, all kinds of away an s waItlkgave y10tomin onl Percy, t he rare iridescent Tansy g din fee r - 16spe - ctacle of my mothe rs, we were treated to the LeuchaBog, l a dull und at Askham stil and 2 years ence in their back garden. After

emem mesmerise tail feathers onl y10 minu Leuchars, we were treated to the spectacle of my mothe had taken up residence in their bac k garden. After 2 yea to question his Mother-in-Law and Percy was duly renam Back to the show, It gave us eve rything, the cats, the bats, the urban fox, hor ses, all kinds of insects, even showing the rare irid escent Tansy Beetle that has been found at Ask ham Bog, which you pass as you leave Yor k on the train as you head South.

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us everything, the cats, the bats, the urban fox, horses, all kinds of insects, even showing the rare iridescent Tansy Beetle that has been found at Askham Bog, which you pass as you leave York on the train as you head South. Yes, once was not enough so we endured the cold and saw far more animals as the sky darkened and the full spectacle could be enjoyed, I’d missed the mallard, the owls and the cat creeping across the Minster above the windows. As a Yorkshire Lass, I leave you with the finale, the Yorkshire rose.

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Down Under in Portsmouth In November 2024 I had the great pleasure to meet with my special pen friend from the War Widows Association of Great Britain – Audrey Skillman. We had established a contact earlier in the year and as I had planned to be in the Southern part of England in November for other family purposes, so we agreed it was the time to meet in person.

We decided to spend Remembrance Day in Hampshire and to take part in the Remembrance Sunday Service in historic Portsmouth where the ladies meet each month for their War Widows meetings. At the request of the Hampshire County Guild President Madlaine Dunn, Audrey and I were invited to be with her as part of the official party for the Remembrance Sunday Celebrations.

The Service was held in the Guild Hall square in the centre of the city and was attended by the Lord Mayor and church leaders of the major religious groups in town, and was broadcast by the BBC. Also present were representatives from many other community groups be they military groups, or other special groups both young and old who identify with the Commonwealth soldiers from all theatres of conflict, as well as their families and friends.

I had the privilege of laying a wreath on behalf of the Australian National President, the Queensland State President and all the Queensland War Widows.

After the Service and the wonderful interactions, Audrey and I joined a group of these family and friends for a celebratory luncheon.

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The following week was the monthly War Widows Guild of Hampshire meeting.

This was held in one of the conference rooms at HMS Nelson, which is one of the beautiful historic buildings in Portsmouth. The Commander of HMS Nelson attended our meeting and was very interested in our endeavours. He then invited us to join him for lunch in the Ward Room. This was yet another historic room with beautiful art treasures from previous centuries decorating the room from floor to ceiling – including the windows.

As well as the military part of my visit to Portsmouth, Audrey was a wonderful tourist guide who took me to all sorts of places and explained the relevant history. It is indeed a beautiful and historic city. I had hoped to cross to the Isle of Wight but the weather became inclement and plans were cancelled.

The other special part of being with Audrey was the opportunity to meet with her lovely family. We shared generous hospitality in their homes. I also shared in one of their Christmas traditions. In November an afternoon tea is arranged for the family members at a special tea shop where the discussions of ‘door wreaths’ happens.

There were three generations present. We then went to the special florist shop which hosted the making of these wreaths. The florist is a family friend and has been part of this tradition for many years. We were shown an array of many products to fashion these wreaths and with the help of the florist and much frivolity we all finished with a Christmas tribute to welcome guests to our homes. I had to leave mine there with Audrey as quarantine regulations do not allow me to take fresh plants into Australia.

It was a privilege to meet with wonderful people during their special time of Remembrance. We hope that in the future we can meet again- maybe in the Somme in France for the very special Dawn Service Ceremony at the Australian War memorial in Villers- Bretonneux, followed by a tour of the British and Australian places of interest from World War I. Mary-Ann Wheatley - 19 -

A day out in london Many of you will know - either in person or from reports in Courage - of the cadets from the City of London School who support us with such dignity each year at our annual service of remembrance at the Cenotaph. On 12 March we were invited to their Annual Inspection Parade at the School, by St Paul’s Cathedral on the banks of the Thames. Chris our Chair had other commitments, so I gladly undertook to represent the Association.

My journey took me into Liverpool Street Station, through which I have travelled many times, but I can’t remember ever stopping to look at the Kindertransport statue at the entrance. It commemorates the Jewish children brought to the UK from Germany in the 1930s to avoid the Nazi Holocaust - a subject too relevant in current world circumstances. And some of you may remember the programme ‘That’s Life’ introducing Nicholas Winton who played such a key role in this humanitarian effort. I had the chance to watch the film about him, with Anthony Hopkins - ‘One Life’ - on one of my transatlantic flights recently. It was very moving.

But moving onwards to the school I passed the memorial commemorating the role of the London Fire Brigade in World War 2. Just in front of St Paul’s Cathedral - one of the firemen points towards the Cathedral as if he is raising the alarm!

The School, which was founded in the 15th Century, moved to its current site in 1879.

But today it sits in a modern building constructed in 1986, with amazing views across the Thames. It has cadets for all 3 Services and they paraded smartly in the central courtyard, along with their excellent band. On my arrival I had met one of the School’s alumni, Peter MacDonald and he revealed that his grandmother had been a war widow, in the First World War. He told me: “My mother’s father Samuel Anderson, Mate RN, lost his life in 1917 when the early submarine HMS C16 was rammed & sunk off Harwich by their RN escort ship.

Through secrecy it was only in recent times that we learned how Grandpa met his end. In 1917 there were of course no self-contained breathing apparatus in those days, this equipment was only developed many decades later. As second in command, a message was tied to Grandpa’s wrist & they tried to fire him out of the torpedo tube so those on the surface could be alerted. The idea didn’t work. As the air in the submarine would only last a day of two, the crew tried to open the damaged hatch, the submarine flooded and sadly all the crew died. I think Grandpa was a bit of a hero but the powers that be in those days didn’t recognise people who lost their lives. The Navy did pay for my mother’s & her two sisters’ education.

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Grandma was always very careful with money, clearly, times were very hard but she was very thrifty.”

Then, as we moved to watch the parade we were joined by our own Treasurer, Richard who has recently retired as the RAF Cadets CO and later would be presented with a Spitfire model to mark his over 40 years of service to the cadets.

After the parade it was into the Great Hall for awards and presentations to the cadets before lunch with the reviewing officer, Commodore Bellfield DBE ADC RN and his ADC S/Lt Jamie Hawkins-Dady RN who was an ex-pupil of the school and approx10 years ago had carried our standard at Remembrance!

And so the day was complete and I set off home – glad to have had the chance to show how much we appreciate their contribution to the Association.

Debbie

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‘The Falklands Fallen’ ‘The Falklands Fallen’ published by Pen & Sword Military on 5 November 2024. was written by author & public speaker Jay Morgan Hyrons, a War Widow from the Falklands War with a Foreword by Major General (Retd) Chip Chapman CB.

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The first of its kind in Military History The Falklands Fallen took seven years to research, it is written in alphabetical order with no favour for rank or service. The Falklands War of 1982 was a brief 74 days of intense warfare resulting in the losses of 255 British Service personnel and just three civilians.

Many books have been written with varying accounts about the military action, this book is the personal stories of the men behind the uniforms, the untold details of the three civilians who died towards the end of the war.

Whilst researching the backgrounds of the fallen links to other military campaigns come to life through the personal stories of these brave men and their forebears.

These stories are often unknown even to family members but ensure their immortality.

The Book Launch was held on 30 November 2024 at the Soane Stable Yard, Royal Hospital Chelsea. All Royalties from the book have been donated to the Royal Hospital Chelsea.

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The HM Forces Railcard Operated by the Royal British Legion The HM Forces railcard available through the Royal British legion (this card is not currently accepted in Northern Ireland). To be eligible you must be in receipt of a Forces Family Pension from the Armed Forces Pension Scheme (AFPS) 1975 or AFPS 2005 AND a War Widows / War Widowers Pension OR An Armed Forces Compensation Scheme 2005 Survivors Guaranteed Income Payment (SGIP) For more information visit the www.britishlegion.org.uk or telephone Edd Robinson, Grants manager on 0808 802 8080 or email centralgrantsteam@britishlegion.org.uk. or write to The Pensions Officer (Railcards) The Royal British Legion, 199 Borough High Street, London SE1 1AA War Widows Association Senior Railcard - operated by the War Widows’ Association A small number of war widow/ers may not be eligible to apply for the HM Forces War Widow/ers Railcard; if this is the case you may apply for a War Widows’ Association Senior Railcard. You must be over 60 years of age, a Full member of the War Widows’ Association and in receipt of a War Widow/ers Pension.

The application form is available to download from our website www.warwidows.org.uk or by emailing the Secretary at secretary.warwidows.org.uk or by writing to: The Secretary, The War Widows’ Association of GB c/o 199 Borough High Street, London SE1 1AA Veterans Concessionary Travel Scheme (VCTS) Operated by Transport for London.

War Widows/ers, AFCS War Widows and recognised partners of any age, in receipt of ongoing payments from the War Pension Scheme or the Armed Forces Compensation Scheme may apply for a VCTS Oyster Photo Card which entitles the bearer to free travel at any time in London on the bus, tube, Docklands Light Railway and London Overground Services. There are some concessions on travel on mainline rail services just outside the Greater London Zone.

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Beryl Mackinder “ My mum - Beryl Mackinder - recently passed away having reached the milestone of 100 years. Some may remember her as a Regional Officer for the Warwickshire area. She took on the post in 1997 and was active until at least 2008 to the best of my knowledge.

The role really gave her a purpose - she often talked about how much she enjoyed helping “her ladies”.

She organised numerous local social events, attended Remembrance Days and War Widow Association Conferences regularly. She was fortunate enough to meet the Association’s Patron, King Charles when he was Prince of Wales, several times. I was proud to attend the VJ Day commemoration in London with her in 2015 as my mum continued to be involved with the WWA when Lucie Wilkinson took over the role.”

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5th September Founders Day Guard’s Chapel, London

Refreshments in Wellington Barracks 6th – 9th November - Remembrance 6th November Opening of Field of Remembrance, Westminster Abbey

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Coffee, lunch and reception in 61 Whitehall 8th November Festival of Remembrance

Royal Albert Hall

9th November National Parade Whitehall Application Forms are in this edition of Courage, and those with email will also have received them via email.

Please complete and return as soon as possible.

Any member wishing to be a part pf the Bereaved Families walk at the Royal Albert Hall please contact the Chairman, at chair@warwidows.org.uk, and include details of your spouse’s military service and the circumstances of their death.

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Remembering Together: The War Widows Cenotaph Service I have to be honest with you that when my mum first suggested that I accompany her to the War Widows service at the Cenotaph and the lunch afterwards, I was initially a bit reluctant.

I was only 8 months old when my dad died on UN peacekeeping duties in Cambodia and growing up in North London, I didn’t meet any other children whose parents were in the military. The last War Widows Association event that I had attended was a visit to 10 Downing Street many years ago when I was ten. My abiding memory of that event was a realisation that I wasn’t the only child that had lost their dad because of military service and that there were a group of other children with whom I had so much in common. That was an eye opener for me, and I thoroughly enjoyed meeting the other children. Many years later at the War Widows service at the Cenotaph, I had the same experience. There is a cohort of sons and daughters of war widows who are now in our twenties and early thirties and our shared experience means that we find that we have an instant rapport. We bonded over drinks and lunch after the service as we shared our anecdotes of growing up without a parent and our coping mechanisms.

My experience of War Widows including my mum is that in order to cope with what they have been through they have a very well-developed sense of humour. I realised that the first time I went to the War Widows Cenotaph service. At lunch some of the ladies were asking me somewhat unusual questions and they kept thanking me. It transpired that they had agreed amongst themselves that I was an undercover police woman send in as their personal protection. This was based on the fact that I am very tall and whilst everyone else was looking forward and used to military parades, I wasn’t and was looking all around absorbing what was going on. The War Widows were great fun and I thoroughly enjoyed their company.

I have a very strong bond with my mum because for so many years there were just the two of us. The War Widows Cenotaph service is the chance for us to get together with others who have lost a loved one in the service of their country and to remember them. It is a precious time because there is a shared understanding in the group and a shared support for each other.

So, for me the War Widows service at the Cenotaph and the drinks and lunch after are now an unnegotiable fixture in my diary. I look forward to seeing you there!

Emma

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Mrs Nora Alesbury Mrs Sally Chappell Mrs Marguerite Doyle Mrs E Duncan Mrs Mavis Gray Mrs Margaret Hart Mrs Margaret Haywood Mrs Mary Kooistra-Kruyf Mrs Sheila Richardson Mrs Connie Roberts Mrs Antointette Rutherford Mrs Wendy Woods Mrs Ruth Hillman Mrs Shelagh Mary Lee Mrs Lyn Pedersen Mrs Elsie Louise Howard Mrs Nancy Downing

The War Widows’ Association extends condolences to family and friends of all those members who have sadly passed away.

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Honouring Their Memory: A Guide to War Graves and Headstones Losing a loved one who served their country is a profound sacrifice, and ensuring their final resting place is respected and well-maintained is a way to honour their memory. For war widows and families, understanding the rules surrounding war graves, headstones, and their upkeep can be confusing. This article aims to clarify eligibility for Ministry of Defence (MOD) headstones, the care of Commonwealth War Graves Commission (CWGC) graves, and the maintenance of private Portland stone headstones for those not under CWGC care.

Eligibility for MOD Headstones The MOD provides headstones for eligible service personnel and veterans at no cost to the family. To qualify, the deceased must meet one of the following criteria: •

Died in service (whether in combat or from service-related causes).

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Received a war pension at the time of death for a condition that caused or contributed to their death.

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Served in the armed forces and was discharged due to injury or illness that later caused their death.

The headstones are typically made of Portland stone and bear standardised inscriptions, including rank, regiment, and dates of service. Families can sometimes add a short personal inscription, but there are restrictions on wording.

Differences Across the UK and Beyond •

England, Wales, and Northern Ireland: MOD headstones are managed by the Joint Casualty and Compassionate Centre (JCCC).

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Scotland: The process is similar, but some administrative details may vary.

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Overseas: For personnel buried abroad, the CWGC usually maintains the graves, but MOD headstones may still be provided in certain cases.

Care of CWGC War Graves The care and maintenance of CWGC war graves is a priority for the Commission, which oversees the upkeep of thousands of memorials worldwide. In the UK and many Commonwealth countries, the CWGC ensures the graves are kept in excellent condition, with standard procedures for cleaning, repair, and even replacement of headstones if necessary.

However, families of those whose graves are maintained by the CWGC can also take an active role in preserving these memorials. The key rules for families are as follows: 1. Contact the CWGC for Any Repairs or Modifications: If a grave requires any repairs or modifications, such as the addition of an inscription or the removal of overgrowth, families should contact the CWGC rather than attempt the work themselves.

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2. Planting and Decoration: The CWGC allows for the planting of flowers at graves, but families are advised to avoid plants that could damage the integrity of the stone, such as deep-rooted plants or those that may encroach on neighbouring graves. The Commission also requests that families refrain from placing objects on the graves that could obstruct maintenance work or detract from the memorial’s solemnity.

3. General Upkeep: Families can maintain a CWGC grave by regularly visiting and removing litter, dead flowers, or overgrown weeds. However, as noted, it is important that families do not undertake any substantial alteration or repair work without first consulting the CWGC. 4. Volunteer: Become an Eyes On, Hands on volunteer for the CWGC. As an EOHO volunteer, you will receive comprehensive training and ongoing support form our regional EOHO coordinators, on the best way to clean and maintain CWGC war graves.

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UK: CWGC graves are maintained to a consistent standard, but local authorities may assist in upkeep.

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Overseas: In some countries, war cemeteries are jointly managed with local organisations, but the CWGC retains responsibility for maintenance.

Maintaining Private Portland Stone Headstones For those whose loved ones are not eligible for CWGC or MOD headstones but have privately commissioned Portland stone memorials, proper care is essential to preserve their condition. Many memorials use Portland stone—a natural, durable material used for commemorative headstones across the UK. While Portland stone is incredibly resilient, it does require periodic care to ensure its longevity, particularly in areas with high humidity or pollution.

If your loved one’s grave features a Portland stone headstone, here are some tips on how to care for it: 1. Cleaning the Stone: Use only mild, non-abrasive cleaners when cleaning Portland stone. A soft cloth or sponge with warm water and a gentle detergent is ideal.

Avoid harsh chemicals, acid-based cleaners, or power washing, as these can damage the stone’s surface and erode its inscriptions.

2. Protect from Damage: It is crucial to ensure that any objects or plants near the memorial do not cause damage. For example, roots from nearby plants can crack the stone or cause it to shift. Families should ensure that plants are kept well away from the headstone.

3. Repointing and Restoration: Over time, some Portland stone headstones may require repointing or restoration. This should only be done by a professional who specializes in cemetery memorials to ensure the work is done to a high standard.

If your loved one’s headstone shows signs of wear, contact a professional conservator for advice.

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4. Regional Differences: Care guidelines may vary slightly depending on the region.

In some areas, councils or local authorities may offer more specific guidance on how to maintain memorials. In general, ensure that any work done to a Portland stone memorial complies with local regulations.

Regional and International Variations While the general principles of grave care are consistent, there are slight differences in the guidelines across various countries and regions: 1. United Kingdom: In the UK, the care of war graves is predominantly handled by the CWGC, which sets high standards for maintenance and repair. Local authorities may also be involved, especially in public cemeteries. Local council rules: Some cemeteries have strict guidelines on cleaning or decorating graves—always check before making changes.

2. Canada and Australia: These countries have their own organizations similar to the CWGC, such as the Canadian Virtual War Memorial and the Australian War Graves Commission. While the overall standards are similar, the processes and regulations may vary slightly.

3. International Grave Sites: For war graves outside the Commonwealth, each country’s national authorities generally oversee the maintenance, although the CWGC often provides advisory services or assists in maintaining graves in former British colonies or other designated areas.

Final Thoughts Whether your loved one’s grave is cared for by the CWGC, marked by an MOD headstone, or maintained privately, each represents a lasting tribute to their service. By understanding the rules and best practices, you can ensure their memory is honoured with dignity and respect.

For further guidance, you can contact: • CWGC: www.cwgc.org • MOD JCCC: For headstone enquiries, via Veterans UK. Their sacrifice will never be forgotten—and neither will your care in preserving their legacy.

By Sehar Sardar

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Du blin, Guernsey and Jerse beautiful Victorian stone buildings of which the Midland Hotel is one. Like most cities Bradford has all the shops you would expect, plenty of eateries and its main railway, coach and bus station (Bradford Interchange) has direct rail connections to, amongst others, London, York, Leeds and Manchester. Leeds/Bradford airport, 8 miles from the city centre (taxi or the frequent direct “Flyer” bus), has direct connections to Belfast, Dublin, Guernsey and Jersey.

The Midland Hotel

The Midland Hotel

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The Midland Hotel The

Midland Hotel

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Hotel reception area

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Brad Bradford is home to the com completely refurbished and muc much-admired National Science and and Media Museum – less than a hal a half mile (almost) level walk from from the hotel. By autumn 2025 all th all the refurbished galleries and exhib exhibits will be fully open.

Cente Centenary Square is a large open open space with seating areas on the on the way to the museum – watch watch for the youngsters runnin running around the dancing founta fountains and getting a little damp damp (or soaked) by the occasi occasional burst of spray.

The hotel itself, originally a railway hotel sitting alongside Bradford’s other railway station, Forster Square, has been completely refurbished over the past few years and is now warm, welcoming and comfortable.

Bradford is home to the completely refurbished and much-admired National Science and Media Museum – less than a half mile (almost) By autumn 2025 all For thoslevel e withwalk othefrom r intethe resthotel. s, Salts Mill (about 4 miles from the refurbished galleries and exhibits will be fully open.

Victorian village created by Titusthe hotel) in the model Salts Mill (about 4 miles from Salt to provide housing for r interests, othe with e thos arra For y of with shops an and also has , museum Centenary Square is a large open space seating areas onfor the way the kers hou wor his man y to of Dav id Hockney’s w s Salt to provide housing ses

by Titu ted crea ge villa n oria to Haw Vict orth (abo visit – watch for the youngsters running around the dancing fountains and getting a little ut aps 10 perh mile Or s) ks. to wander the streets athat the B many of David Hockney’s wor houses also andthe shops by y of – perh arra aps of damp (or soaked) occasional burst spray. well so trav w ellin kne g ily in styl fam e ntё from Bro nea the rby that Keig ets hley stre the on the Ke der to wan to Haworth (about 10 miles) stea m railway.

Valley Worth and hley the Keig For those with other interests, Salts Mill (about 4 miles from the hotel) in the model on hley Keig rby nea from e styl in aps travelling – perhvillage Victorian created by Titus Salt to provide housing for his workers, has an ay. railwand m stea array of shops also houses many of David Hockney’s works. Or perhaps a visit to Terry Haworth (about 10 miles) to wander the streets that the Brontё family knew so well – perhaps travelling in style from nearby Keighley on the Keighley and Worth Valley steam railway.

Terry

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The Union Jack Club

The Union Jack Club

Despite the obvious financial advantage o

Despite the obvious financial advantage of the trustee committee meeting via Zoom are still advantages for us to meet face-to – there are still advantages for us to meet face-to-face, from time to time.

Astowe meet several trustees need stay overnight an in London, several trustees need to stay overnight and so Union we have been enjoying the Jack Club, as have many members o facilities of the Union Jack Club, as have many members over thethe years.

But much about Club or its how history?

It is a fascin do any of us know about the Club or its history? It is a fascinating story!

The Club opened in 1907, since when ove

The Club opened in 1907, since when over 23 million people have enjoyed the Club’s hospitality.

Whilst, many of us will have h 1 nurse Edith hospitality. Whilst, many of us will have heard the name of of the WW name Ethel McCaul is less well known. voices Cavell, the name of Ethel McCaul is less well known. Yetinfluential she was oneinofArmy thenursing most in the e reformation battlefield prominent and influential voices in Army nursing in the early part ofofthe 1900s healthcare and a – a l of Florence Nightingale. key figure in the reformation of battlefield healthcare – a less well remembered, and more modern, version of Florence Nightingale.

Ethel Rosalie Ferrer McCaul was born in 1867, and became (1867-1931) a British Royal Red Cross nurse, an author and advocate for improvements in military medical practice and care. She founded a private hospital in London in the 1890s though which she met Sir Frederick Treves, a well known surgeon during the WW1.

Early in her career, Miss McCaul distinguished herself as a front-line nurse during the South Africa Boer War campaign at the turn of the 20th Century, while at the same time becoming an outspoken critic of shortcomings in British medical practices, and a crusader for improvements.

Ethel Ro (1867-1 advocat care. Sh thought surgeon

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She founded The Union Jack Club in London because, while hadUnion theirJack clubs, She officers founded The Club in Londo servicemen below commissioned rank had nowhere reputable to stay when alone, or rank had servicemen below commissioned with their families, in the nation’s capital. She was determined that they should have their families, in the nation’s capital. She w to at have and of to a see Londo the opportunity to have this and to see London and all itsopportunity sights, but nothis more one day’s pay. cost than one day’s pay.

Her tireless, skilled and highly effective fundraising efforts began in and 1903 with Her tireless, skilled highly effective fu entertainment and events the concerts, entertainment and events throughout the country.

She felt that a newthroughout club the Armed Forces and ability to prot would benefit the Armed Forces and their ability to protect the Empire.

Thetheir central Waterlooitseemed the principal obvious place beca London area of Waterloo seemed the obvious place because was the ports and garrisons that served the Empir railhead leading to the ports and garrisons that served the Empire. The Prince of July 1904 and as King Edward VII, officially Wales laid the foundation stone in July 1904 and as King Edward VII, officially opened at his side. the Club in 1907 with Queen Alexandra at his side.

originally as a National Memorial to Built originally as a National Memorial to those who hadBuilt fallen in the South African original Edwardian building which was com War, the original Edwardian building which was completed towards the end of 1904 extensive public rooms and 208 bedroom and had extensive public rooms and 208 bedrooms. Over the years, particularly throughout WW1 and WW11, there was a great demand for the services provided and the need for expansion became urgent. Waterloo remained the area of choice and

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a families’ block in Exton Street was added to help solve the problem of the Club’s popularity. The subsequent acquisition of a separate annexe in Holmes Terrace n meant that by 1939 the Club could offer 1018 beds and had become a major part of for expansio need and WW11, there was a great demand for the services provided and the Street Exton in block families’ the Waterloo community, as it is today. a became urgent. Waterloo remained the area of choice and

of solve the problem of the Club’s popularity. The subsequent acquisition to help added was and WW 11,the ther e was a grea During Second World War, thethe area around Waterloo Station wasbeds bombed severely t dem and meant offer 1018 for could Club the serv 1939 by ices that prov Terrace ided Holmes in and annexe the need for expansion a separate beca meThe urgeUnion nt. WatJack erloo remained and suffered considerable which required extensive the today. area of choi is it damage, ity,a as commun ce and Waterloo of the part itself fami a majorClub lies’ block in Exton Street haddbecome andadde was to help solve the prob lemneed of theto Club repair. As time went by the modernise décor and services became ’s popularityamenities, .

The subsequent acqu isition and a separate annexe in Holmes Terrace of severely mea bombed was nt Station that by Waterloo 1939 around area pressing, and in 1970 it was decided to construct a completely new the the War, Club World coul Second the d offer During 1018 beds building. On and had become a major part of the Wat extensive erlooin required which com damage, munity, as able consider it is toda Club itself Jack Club Union Jack landsuffered Investment Industry (now 3i) y.built three repair. tower blocks and Union The pressing, and became services and décor s, amenitie se moderni to need the by went time As themselves one block for a period of 125 years.

The two remaining became Duri ng the Secondleased World War, the area around Wat Jack Club land Union erloobuilding. t a completely new Station On was decided to construc wasUnion itJack bom 1970nNew bed sevethe relyblock Thein and Unio ‘The Club’.

Demolition work began in 1971 and Club opened for Club itselJack f suffe red considera leased one andhthemselv damblocks tower age, whic threeble requiredes Industry (now 3i) built in the extensive repair.

As Investme time wennt t by business on125 itsneed new on 16 October 1975. to premises on mod Demoliti ernis Club’. e Jack ame Union New nitie s, décor‘The and services became pressing, and years. The two remaining became of period for a it in 1970 was decid ed to construct a complete 16 October premises newUnio its On oning. lybusiness new build forJack opened Club the and 1971 in began n Jack on work Club land But from founding the Union Club Ethel is a fascinating character. She was Inve stmeapart nt in Industry (now 3i) built three towe r bloc ks and them selve s lease d one bloc for 1975. k South African atrained period of at125 theyear Radcliffe Infirmary, Oxford, and saw active service in the s. The two remaining became ‘The New Union Jack Club’. Demolition work begathe n in 1971 and the Club open War, Russo-Japanese War, and in the Great War organised and owned the Naval r. She was ng characte busin fascinati ess is Ethel onaits JackforClub new prem from founding the Union ed ises on 16 But October 1975 . apart War, African and Military Officers’ Hospital known as the McCaul Hospital.

In South Africa she South the in trained at the Radcliffe Infirmary, Oxford, and saw active service Military and Naval the owned and d organise nursed in a Field Hospital with Buller’s column from the Battle of Colenso to the Relief War Great the panese War, and in But the aparRusso-Ja t from foun ding the Union Jack ClubHospital.

Field in a Japanese nursed she Africa Ethel to South is aIninspect fasci natin the McCaul g char of and inasJapan was sent the work the Red Cross known acte r.ofShe was trainOfficers’ ed Ladysmith, at theHospital Radcliffe Infirmary, Oxford, and saw h, and in Ladysmit of Relief the to Colenso activ of Battle e the serv from ice column in Buller’s the with Sout Hospital h Afric Society.

In addition to founding the Union Jack Club, she was key in the formation an War the Russo-Japanese War, and in the Grea In addition to , WarJapanese Society. organisedRed oft the andCross work the ownand inspect to ed sent the was Nava Japan l and Milit Officof ary ers’the Army and Navy Male Nurses Co-operation of the Central Depot (Surgical Hosp ital known as the McCaul Hospital. In formation of the Army and Navy Male South Africa she nursed in a Field was key in the the Union Jack Club ,she founding HospBranch) ital with Bulle of Queen Mary’s Needlework Guild which at one time had 200 branches r’s column from Central Mary’s BattleDepot of Cole Branch) (Surgical nso to the ReliefofofQueen tion and of thethe Co-opera Ladysmit Nurses h, and in Japan was sent to inspe ct the work held throughout thewhich country.

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Postcard from the UJC circa 1910

Postcard from the UJC circa 1910

And today!

And today!

Postcard from the UJC circa 1910

And today!

An exhibition of early records at the front of the Club.

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An exhibition of early records at the front of the Club.

ROL Report & R O Reports REGIONAL ORGANISER LIAISON RAMBLINGS Contact details - Email: rol@warwidows.org.uk As the ROL I wish that I had more ROs around the country to work with, but unfortunately I don’t! I haven’t forgotten about all of you without one though. We will, again, be discussing the situation at the AGM weekend so hopefully some ideas will have been formulated. I continue to be grateful for the ROs who we do have, and who arrange events for their members.

In the meantime, in the early summer the trustees are each organising an event in various parts of the country to which anyone can attend even if you’re only in the area on holiday! Details will be passed on as they are arranged.

I am going to try to visit as many areas as possible, by the time you read this I will have been to Essex and hopefully been joined by the members there for lunch. You do not need me to be there to enjoy a subsidised event though, if a group of you who already know each other would like to arrange one do contact me and I’ll send you the claim form and guide you through the process. Alternatively, if somebody would like to arrange something in their area but doesn’t really know people, I can send out the invitations for you and again, guide you through the process. A couple of ladies have already done it this way and it worked well, email addresses are really useful for this process, it saves me having to stick stamps on umpteen envelopes, so please do consider letting us add yours to the database if you haven’t done it already! You are all entitled to 2 events a year and I will keep a tally of how many each person has attended so there’s no worry for you on that score.

To comply with all the various GDPR regulations each RO now has a WWA email address, which will refer to their region rather than any name. This also will mean that it can be passed on if the RO retires, or monitored by the ROL if the RO is unable to carry on their role for a while. I am now monitoring all the recently retired RO’s emails but if you are not sure who to contact, email me directly.

I hope that one way or another we’ll all get a chance to meet up with others soon!

Best wishes §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§

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Liz Carter

CORNWALL___________________________________ Area 4 Contact details - Susan Williams 0845 2412189 Email: rocornwall@warwidows.org.uk I trust you are all keeping healthy, happy and by the time you read this enjoying some lovely sunshine. My apologies for not joining the AGM this year held in lovely Winchester a place that I have visited in the past and thoroughly enjoyed as I am sure you all did so this time. I have been in hospital for my hip revision, a procedure which is to remove my replacement hip with a new replacement one that hopefully is the correct fitting and does not dislocate like the old one did on many occasions, I am now slowly recovering and doing my exercises and thank goodness been given the all clear to drive short distances again. You really do need a car living in a rural Cornish RO Report village where buses just do not exist.

I am looking forward to seeing members over thewith summer months for afternoon tea the re It is a heavy heart that I write then looking further ahead I will be arranging our Christmas get together, where does Marguerite Doyle, passed away in Janu time go!!

years and was a great support to me wh

I shall keep in-touch with dates for your diaries. and feeling rather nervous about joining Very best wishes to all

great bunch of individuals. Marguerite w laid up with honours by the Rev Bob Wi Susan §§§ §§§ §§§beside §§§ §§§ it at the Festival of Remembranc

DUNDEE AND CENTRAL SCOTLAND_ ______________ Area 59 that Little did I know at that first meeting

Contact details - Sue Raw 07500 060518been my pleasure to do so, and I thank Email: Scotland rodundeecentralscotland@warwidows.org.uk It is with a heavy heart that I write the report for Dundee this time. Since I last wrote, our previous RO, Marguerite Doyle, passed away in January at the grand age of 93. Margeurite had been RO for many years and was a great support to me when I first started going to her meetings, not knowing anybody and feeling rather nervous about joining a well-established group. I needn’t have worried – they are a great bunch of individuals. Marguerite was instrumental in procuring the Scottish Standard – recently laid up with honours by the Rev Bob Wightman in Dundee Congregational Church, and is pictured beside it at the Festival of Remembrance in the Caird Hall, Dundee.

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well-est and feeling when I first started going to her meetings, not knowing anybody rather nervous about joining ly – recent ardgreat Standworried Scottishhave ing theI needn’t ental in procurgroup. instrum bunch ng a well-established – they are ofaindividuals. Marguerite w is picture h, and Churc egationalthe Dundee Congr man laid up–dwith honours by the Rev Bob Wi was in instrumental in procuring Scottish Standard recently Littleindid I know at e. that first meeting that Marguerite had me to take over Dunde Hall, n the Caird beside it at targeted Wightman Dundee Congregational Church, and is pictured the Festiv al of Remembranc her! It Hall, has been my pleasure to do so, and I thank her for her support to me and nce in from the Caird Dundee.

It has to thedAssociation. me to take over from her!Little had targete ite service arguerher did I know at that first meeting that iation.

Assoc to thefrom servic and her me taken rt towere suppo her ratfor been my pleasu Marguerite had targeted me to Queen’s takee over her!morning It has tosummer do so, lunch, and I thank Other photos at the Hotel coffee andre the k her for her support to me and her service to the Association. when Margeurite passed the baton to me. RIP Margeurite.

Monthly meetings take place on the second Tuesday of the month at 10.30 in the DCA (next door to the Queen’s Hotel) for Dundee members, but all are welcome if you’re in the area! Summer lunch will be on the second Tuesday in June (10th) – and will be at the Beefeater at Discovery Quay at 12 noon. All are welcome – but please let me know for numbers.

Sue

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Hotel coffee morning and the summer lunch, when

HAMPSHIRE_________________________________ Area 16

Contact details - Madlaine Dunn 07879 640253

Email: rohampshire@warwidows.org.uk Hi everybody, I hope you are keeping well? Let’s hope everyone will feel better now that we are going into spring, more so that there are a lot of spring flowers about to lift our spirits.

A few of us attended the remembrance service in Portsmouth and I laid a wreath on behalf of the Association. In December eight people had their Christmas lunch at the Briny restaurant in Southsea, it was enjoyed by all.

I am still holding meetings at H.M.S. Nelson on the second Tuesday of the month at 11.00 am, finishing with lunch in the mess. All are welcome, but if you wish to join me, I need all your information as it’s a military establishment and you cannot get in without it. I also hold Sunday lunches on the third Sunday of each month now at the A/Bar in old Portsmouth (please note its a new venue as we were not happy with the last place).

Anybody who needs help or information do get in touch, please note my e-mail address has been changed you can only reach me on the official Association email.

Ladies of the I.O.W, I hope you are keeping well? You are always welcome to join us if you can, if you need help,or just wish to talk I am here.

Take care, Madlaine §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§

MANCHESTER________________________________ Area 30

Contact details - Margaret Crerar 0161 789 5334 Email: romanchester@warwidows.org.uk Hello, from Manchester.

As I sit writing this the sun is shining and it’s lovely and warm out., leaving me to ponder what clothes to pack for the AGM in two weeks time - I think a bit of everything!

We met up in Manchester for Christmas Lunch back in December and I look forward to meeting up with you at the AGM in the next few weeks. Best Wishes, Margaret §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§

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NORTH WILTSHIRE____________________________ Area 53 Contact details - Liz Carter 01249 890219 Email: ronorthwiltshire@warwidows.org.uk

The bi-monthly at Crowns café continue to be popular, If everyone pitched up on the same month, I think we’d swamp the place! They’re a very informal chance to get to catch up with old friends or make new ones.

It seems a very long time ago now but 7 ladies enjoyed a very filling Christmas meal at the Pheasant in December. I’ll probably organise another afternoon tea sometime in the summer, however, do contact me if you have another suggestion.

As always, if anybody else from a neighbouring region would like to join us at any of our meetings, do contact me and I can give you details and directions.

Diary Dates Coffee mornings; 7th May, 9th July, 10th Sept, 12th Nov 10-12 noon.

Crown’s café REME Museum SN15 4XX Contact Liz Carter on 01249 890219 ronothwiltshire@warwidows.org.uk §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§

Liz Carter

STAFFORDSHIRE_____________________________ Area 45 Contact details - Gill Gibson 01782 611569 or 07954 696573 Email: rostaffordshire@warwidows.org.uk

Spring at last, whilst the snowdrops and crocus fade away, the daffodils are in full bloom continuing to cheer the garden up.

I travelled to London for the War Widows Association Remembrance Service on Saturday 9th November 2025. Always a lovely service at the Cenotaph, followed by lunch, which this year was held in a familiar haunt of the Association, Sixty One Whitehall. It had been closed for refurbishment in recent years. The food was excellent and the company friendly, fun and chatty.

On Sunday 10th November, always an early start. Those who were able gathered on Horse Guards Parade, before marching out onto Whitehall. This year we were among the first to be positioned very near to the front, with a great view of the balcony where the Royal Family gather. Don’t get me wrong, there is a very long wait, but we manage to amuse ourselves and the crowds, which are already ‘bagging the best spot’ are extremely friendly and we are able to chat to them too!

I returned home to North Staffordshire that evening as the following day I represented the Association at the National Memorial Arboretum, Alrewas.

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Before the service began, I took the opportunity to take the War Widows wreath for a whistle stop tour/ photo opportunity.

A remembrance service is always held on 11th of November, with dignitaries and a large military presence, alongside the public. The service is held at the Armed Forces Memorial AFM. Her Royal Highness The Duchess of Edinburgh GCVO laid the first wreath.

The War Widows wreath joined them all.

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Six Arches Restaurant, Trentham Garden Centre. Attended by Mrs Doreen Craddock and accompanied by her daughter Julie. Whilst we were a small group, we had a lovely lunch from an extensive menu and had a jolly time.

The second funded lunch, held at The George Hotel, Lichfield on 3rd December, attended by Mrs Chris Birch and myself went really well. We enjoyed a lovely lunch in the restaurant and chatted away for hours.

Please remember, don’t be nervous about joining the Staffordshire group. Bring a friend for moral support if it helps. All will be made welcome. You will find my contact details in Courage Magazine HAPPY NEW YEAR FOR 2025 Regards §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§ §§§

Gill

When Tirpitz Went to Cranwell – (No not that one!)

A few months ago, I was asked to provide a short (15mins) presentation on the items in the IWM Collections. Clearly this was an impossible task given we have many millions of items – so I chose what I described as 3 of my favourites. First was Gena Turgel’s wedding , of which I have written before. The second was about the only Victoria Cross awarded on DDay – to CSM Stanley Hollis and thirdly I took an item that perhaps reflected the thousands of quirky items we hold. So, I’d like to tell you about the time Tirpitz went to Cranwell. No – not that one – Tirpitz the pig!

Apparently, many German warships kept animals aboard during WW1 to provide fresh meat during the long sea journeys. SMS Dresden was no different - it had a pig. In March 1915 SMS Dresden was sunk after a battle with HMS Glasgow and HMS Kent – close to the Falkland Islands. After the ship sunk the Royal Navy crew on HMS Glasgow spotted a pig swimming in the sea. They rescued the animal (some reports suggest that the pig nearly drowned at least one sailor as they attempted this) – and aboard HMS Glasgow, she was adopted as a mascot. She was named TIrptiz – after the German Admiral and another report says that as the pig ‘had heroically stayed with its ship to the end – it was awarded an Iron Cross’.

Tirpitz stayed aboard HMS Glasgow until it returned to the UK and the plan was for her to be rehomed to the Island training base at Portsmouth. Initially there were issues with her meeting animal regulations then in force against swine fever but the ship’s captain produced a certificate which stated how ‘Tirpitz had not been contact with - 44 -

other swine during the previous year on board the ship.’ and the rules were waived so that she could be disembarked.

However, once ashore she made rather a nuisance of herself and so she was returned to the former commander of HMS Glasgow – now based at the Naval Airbase – Cranwell! But Tirpitz did not appear to mend her ways and so it was decided that she would be raffled in aid of the Red Cross. At this first auction she raised 400 guineas - £20,000 today.

There are reports that Tirpitz was raffled again several times – raising possibly £1,700 before her life ended in 1919. I’ll not dwell on how that came about!

But at the time of her death she was owned by the Duke of Portland who had her head stuffed and mounted and donated to the newly founded Imperial War Museum. In addition, he had a carving set made from two of her trotters, which were returned to HMS Glasgow until came to their resting place alongside Tirpitz’ head possibly in the late 1950s.

Today Tirpitz is part of the WW1 galleries at IWM London. She lies a little askew in her display case and you have to look for her. But she is there! I’ve been and checked.

Tirpitz in more recent times. Photograph: Gordon McLeod/Imperial War Museum © IWM https://www.iwm.org.uk/collections/item/object/205022108 https://www.theguardian.com/science/blog/2013/aug/14/pig-tale-porker-first-world-war-tirpitz https://blog.britishnewspaperarchive.co.uk/2020/07/10/story-of-tirpitz-the-pig/ https://historywithatwist.wordpress.com/2013/09/24/tirpitz-the-p-o-w-pig-of-world-war-one-2/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tirpitz_(pig)

Tirpitz in more recent times. Photograph: Gordon McLeod/Imperial War Museum © IWM https://www.iwm.org.uk/collections/item/object/205022108 https://www.theguardian.com/science/blog/2013/aug/14/pig-tale-porker-firstworld-war-tirpitz https://blog.britishnewspaperarchive.co.uk/2020/07/10/story-of-tirpitz-the-pig/ https://historywithatwist.wordpress.com/2013/09/24/tirpitz-the-p-o-w-pig-ofworld-war-one-2/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tirpitz_(pig) Debbie - 45 -

WAR WIDOWS GET ONLINE - PROJECT UPDATE Twitter: @WarWidows_WWit Website: warwidows.org.uk/war-widows-get-online Veteran’s Foundation: www.veteransfoundation.org.uk This project has been underway since October 2024 and has been made possible by funding from the Veterans’ Foundation.

This project follows on from the success of the War Widows InTouch (WW.it) and War Widows Get Connected projects. WWit was run throughout the pandemic and War Widows Get Connected ran from January – December 2024. You can read about both projects on our website: warwidows.org.uk/campaign.

The Veterans’ Foundation has given us a grant to run another similar project to get more of our members online with a device and internet connectivity. Part of the project will also be looking at how to improve the members area of the website and create a more structured Regional Organiser Network.

The project was open to all members of the WWA and application forms were sent out in December 2024 with a closing date of 25th January 2025. 7 members were successful in being selected to take part in the project.

After many phone calls to find out what our lovely members would like to be able to do on their iPads, they all received their pre-configured devices at the end of February, along with the first evaluation form.

Training has started and some members have booked in for their 3rd session already!

On behalf of the WWA, I would like to thank the Veterans’ Foundation for funding this project.

If you have any questions about this project, would like to express interest in applying next year should WWA apply for funding again, or would like some IT training / help with a device / assistance with accessing emails etc for yourself, please do not hesitate to get in touch with me directly and I will help you as much as I can.

Please remember to go and join the members area of the WWA website if you haven’t done so already – it’s private and the information and updates contained within are not available to the public.

To join, visit warwidows.org.uk/members-area to register and we will get you approved ASAP.

Helen Raw Project Manager, War Widows Get Online Project 07775 592 604 | warwidowsgetonline@helenraw.com

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Hospital Pope Francis always surprised with his reflections: The walls of hospitals have heard more honest prayers than churches ...

They have witnessed far more sincere kisses than those in airports .

It is in hospitals that you see a homophobe being saved by a gay doctor.

A privileged doctor saving the life of a beggar ...

In intensive care, you see a Jew taking care of a racist ...

A police officer and a prisoner in the same room receiving the same care ...

A wealthy patient waiting for a liver transplant, ready to receive the organ from a poor donor ...

It is in these moments, when the hospital touches the wounds of people, that different worlds intersect according to a divine design. And in this communion of destinies, we realize that alone, we are nothing.

The absolute truth of people, most of the time, only reveals itself in moments of pain or in the real threat of an irreversible loss.

A hospital is a place where human beings remove their masks and show themselves as they truly are, in their purest essence.

This life will pass quickly, so do not waste it fighting with people.

Do not criticize your body too much.

Do not complain excessively.

Do not lose sleep over bills.

Make sure to hug your loved ones.

Do not worry too much about keeping the house spotless.

Material goods must be earned by each person - do not dedicate yourself to accumulating an inheritance.

You are waiting for too much: Christmas, Friday, next year, when you have money, when love arrives, when everything is perfect ...

Listen, perfection does not exist.

A human being cannot attain it because we are simply not made to be fulfilled here.

Here, we are given an opportunity to learn.

So, make the most of this trial of life - and do it now.

Respect yourself, respect others. Walk your own path, and let go of the path others have chosen for you.

Respect: do not comment, do not judge, do not interfere.

Love more, forgive more, embrace more, live more intensely!

And leave the rest in the hands of the Creator.

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“If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done” Thomas Jefferson

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