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On behalf of our entire team, thank you for being an essential part of our story. We’re excited for everything the coming year holds, and we look forward to continuing this journey with you—growing, improving, and creating even more memorable experiences together. Here’s wishing all of you a wonderful holiday season and a bright, fulfilling New Year!
PARADES
Tri‑Cities parades
Johnson City, TN Christmas parade – Saturday, December 6, 2025, at 10:30 a.m. in downtown Johnson City.
Kingsport, TN Christmas parade – Saturday, December 6, 2025, at 6:00 p.m. in downtown Kingsport.
Bristol Christmas parade (Bristol TN/VA, State Street) –Thursday, December 4, 2025, at 7:00 p.m. along downtown State Street.
Nearby TN communities
Church Hill, TN – Saturday, December 6, 2025, at 11:00 a.m.
Rogersville, TN – Saturday, December 6, 2025, at 4:00 p.m.
Greeneville, TN – Sunday, December 7, 2025, at 2:00 p.m.
Elizabethton, TN – Saturday, December 13, 2025, at 6:00 p.m.
Jonesborough, TN – Saturday, December 13, 2025, at 6:00 p.m.
Mount Carmel, TN – Saturday, December 13, 2025, at 6:00 p.m.
Nearby VA communities
Lebanon, VA – Monday, December 1, 2025, at 6:00 p.m.
Abingdon, VA – Saturday, December 6, 2025, at 5:30 p.m.
Gate City, VA – Saturday, December 6, 2025, at 7:00
VOICE Speaks FREE
Warmest holiday greetings!
As the year draws to a close, I want to take a moment to reach out with heartfelt gratitude and appreciation.
Many of you know that my mom passed away this year. It has been a tough road to walk. But my strength comes from my faith, my friends, and acquaintances that shared their condolences and support, reminding me that life does go on, as does business.
I have always felt that running this business is about more than products, services, or day-to-day operations—it’s about the community of people who support, inspire, and motivate us. Whether you’ve been with us since the beginning or connected with us for the first time this year, your presence has truly made a difference.
This season is a meaningful time to pause and reflect on what we’ve built together. JCP has been around for more than 20 years in the Tri-Cities region and has the legacy of being the first to acknowledge women and their voices in the area’s first magazine for women, Voice Magazine for Women.
So, from the conversations we’ve shared to the challenges we’ve overcome, every step has been shaped by your trust and enthusiasm. I am continually humbled by the loyalty and encouragement we receive, and it drives us to push further, dream bigger, and serve you better. Thanks to you, JCP has grown Voice Magazine for Women , the number of JCP authors and the books we publish, our podcast, and now, our first online literary magazine, Tapestry Journal . We could not do this without you and your support. Thank you!
As you celebrate the holidays, I hope your days are filled with warmth, peace, and connection—with family, friends, and the traditions that matter most to you. May you find moments of joy in the small things, moments of rest in the busy ones, and moments of inspiration as you look toward the year ahead.
On behalf of our entire team, thank you for being an essential part of our story. We’re excited for everything the coming year holds, and we look forward to continuing this journey with you— growing, improving, and creating even more memorable experiences together.
Here’s wishing all of you a wonderful holiday season and a bright, fulfilling New Year!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Verse of the Month: “Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ…” — Ephesians 5:20 KJV
Thought of the Month: “...it’s hard to turn the page when you know someone won’t be in the next chapter...but the story must go on...” — Thomas Wilder
Celebrating our 21st anniversary! We wouldn’t be here and there without all of you!
Janie C. Jessee, Editor-in-Chief
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Unique Christmas Traditions Around the World
Here’s a look at some notable Christmas traditions across the globe.
Yule Goat
The Yule Goat is a Christmas tradition in Sweden. The goat is believed to be an invisible spirit that ensures that Yule preparations are done correctly. A popular theory connects the goat to the Norse god Thor, who rode a chariot pulled by two goats.
Krampus
While many people celebrate the benevolence of Santa Claus, some celebrate a much grumpier alter-ego of sorts. Krampus is a man-goat, half-demon monster who punishes misbehaving children at Christmastime, says Britannica. He is the evil companion of St. Nicholas, and is believed to have originated in Germany. His name comes from the German word “krampen,” which means “claw.”
Christmas chicken
Christmas Eve is a popular romantic occasion for couples and families in Japan. In addition to gift-giving and romance, many people choose to feast on a meal of KFC fried chicken and strawberry shortcake for dessert.
Roller-skating to Mass
In the city of Caracas, Venezuela, it’s customary for Christmas Eve celebrants to roller skate to early morning Mass. Known as “Misa de Aguinaldo,” these special church services take place on the days leading up to Christmas, with the most festive held on December 24. On this day, the streets of Caracas are closed to automobiles, enabling revelers to cheerfully skate to church.
Mummering
In Newfoundland, Canada, celebrants known as mummers dress in elaborate disguises featuring mismatched clothing and whimsical accessories. The mummers obscure their identities and visit neighbors’ homes during the 12 days of Christmas,
performing songs, skits, or dances while others attempt to guess their identities.
Las Posadas
In some Hispanic regions, including Mexico, participants reenact Mary and Joseph’s search for shelter in Bethlehem through vibrant processions. They travel from house to house, singing traditional songs and requesting shelter, only to be turned away until they reach a final home or church that will symbolically welcome them in.
Spiderweb decorations
Individuals in Ukraine decorate their Christmas trees with artificial spider webs. This tradition is inspired by a tale of a poor widow and her children who didn’t have money for tree ornaments. Upon waking up on Christmas morning, they found their tree covered in sparkling, glimmering spider webs that resembled tinsel. A spider had spun the beautiful display as thanks for finding shelter and warmth in the family’s humble abode. Today’s spider webs symbolize unexpected blessings and gratitude.
A Season of Gratitude: Thank You, All, for an Extraordinary 2025
As the holiday season approaches, we at YWCA Northeast Tennessee and Southwest Virginia want to extend our heartfelt thanks to everyone in our region who made 2025 a year of growth, connection, and meaningful impact. From our sponsors and corporate partners to community organizations, donors, and volunteers, your support has empowered us to continue serving more than 9,000 annually across NETN and SWVA.
This year, our programs again touched countless lives. What follows is just a snapshot of 2025:
Program Highlights
Early Childhood Education Centers: Our centers in NETN and SWVA served nearly 300 children and their families with high-quality care and education.
Moms-R-Us: 100% of participants in our prepared teen childbirth and parenting classes graduated or remained on track with their education.
TechGYRLS: While the state goal for students with a GPA
below 3.0 to show improvement is 25%, the girls in our afterschool STEAM enrichment program averaged an impressive 66.7%.
Strive for Teens: Multiple cohorts of youths in counties across NETN and SWVA were engaged and empowered to reach their full potential at home, school, and work.
Family Network: Our many supports and referrals provided direct assistance to 108 adults and 172 children.
Powerhouse: Programming that includes everything from physical health to parenting and recovery supports to workforce development and professional training strengthened families and community resilience in SWVA.
Events
MLK Jr Youth Day: A variety of activities educated and enriched students on the life and work of Martin Luther King Jr.
Prom Dress Sale: Our sale allowed numerous students in NETN and SWVA to find their perfect dress at significantly lower prices.
Tribute to Women: We again celebrated women across multiple sectors who work to empower their communities.
Baby to Family Expo: This comprehensive resource fair brought partner organizations and providers from across the region under one roof to support parents.
Week Without Violence: Our 2025 campaign drew attention to the challenges mothers face in abusive relationships.
Women’s Turkey Trot: This year’s event brought a record number of participants to support YWCA health and safety initiatives for women and girls.
Classes, Workshops & Services
Health & Safety Services: Vision and hearing screenings, pediatric dental care, car seat checks, infant water safety, fitness classes, Mount Rogers Health District’s Integrative Health Services Mobile Unit, childbirth/newborn preparedness classes, and more.
Education & Skills-Building: Financial workshops, youth volleyball, teen and adult financial literacy and workforce development, entrepreneurship and small business trainings and supports, literacy enrichment, women’s self-defense training, and more.
Family & Community Support: Child abuse prevention training, Youth and Adult Mental Health First Aid, suicide-prevention workshops, nutrition classes, Feeding SWVA’s Mobile Marketplace, and more.
Each of these accomplishments was made possible by your generosity, partnership, and commitment to our mission. And while this list highlights some key programs and events, it represents only a fraction of the lives touched and the work accomplished this year.
As we look toward 2026, we carry deep appreciation for each sponsor, donor, volunteer, and partner who makes this work possible. Your dedication proves that meaningful change happens when communities come together to lift one another up.
From all of us at YWCA Northeast Tennessee and Southwest Virginia, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and a bright and hopeful New Year. May the season bring joy, peace, and renewed inspiration for the year ahead.
YWCA Northeast Tennessee and Southwest Virginia is on a mission to eliminate racism, empower women, stand up for social justice, assist families, and strengthen our community. With a goal of supporting family resiliency in our region, as well as to foster confident, successful, and healthy girls and women, the YWCA is part of an international movement serving over 2 million in the United States and 25 million worldwide.
Special and Affordable Homemade Gifts
Theholiday season is a joyous time of year, but it also can be expensive. According to the National Retail Federation, American consumers spend an average of $998 on gifts and additional holiday items each Christmas. In 2024, the anticipated spend for holiday travel, entertainment and gifts was expected to top $1,600 per shopper.
While some people have no qualms about spending so much come the holiday season, others may be tightening their budgetary belts this year and could be interested in some cost-effective gift options. Homemade gifts are very thoughtful, and they tend to be more budget-friendly than some commercially sourced items. Check out these inexpensive homemade gifts.
Bath bombs
Bath bombs are fizzing, scented balls that dissolve in bathwater. Popular retailers sell bath bombs, but such products can be expensive. However, bath bombs are easily made at home with some basic ingredients like baking soda and citric acid. Simply search online for popular bath bomb recipes and then wrap the finished product in cellophane treat bags with ribbon.
Photo ornaments
There are various ways to create photo ornaments, which provide an excellent reason to make prints of some of your favorite images. Insert a print inside of a clear ball ornament, purchase a small photo frame and add a hook for hanging, or use a photo transfer product to transfer photo ink to another object, like a cardboard or wood cutout. Recipients will love hanging these thoughtful photo ornaments on the tree or around the house.
Sugar scrubs
Just like bath bombs, it’s relatively easy to recreate a spa experience by gifting homemade sugar scrubs. These scrubs are made from mixing sugar with coconut oil and a few drops of essential oil for a scented boost. If desired, add vitamin E oil or jojoba oil to soothe the skin even more.
Potted plant
Utilize an interesting container in lieu of a traditional flower pot to put a creative and personalized spin on this gift. A coffee mug with a witty saying can house a plant or even a small ramekin picked up at the dollar store. Choose a plant that matches the care style of the recipient. Someone whose green thumb isn’t perfect may appreciate a cactus or another succulent, which tend to be low-maintenance.
Personalized stickers
Many people now have printing and cutting craft machines that enable them to expand their crafting options at home, or even start home businesses. Kids may appreciate a stack of homemade, personalized stickers they can use to adorn water tumblers, phone cases or notebooks.
Homemade gifts are thoughtful and often inexpensive options for creative types shopping on a budget.
NEW YEAR’S EVE Celebration Ideas for Families
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enjoy celebrating the arrival of a new year. While New Year’s Eve may be known for its raucous nature, complete with overflowing cocktails and packed dance floors, parents looking to celebrate with their young children have plenty of options to turn NYE into a more family-friendly affair. Explore these ideas for family-friendly NYE fun.
• Noon Year’s Eve: Staying up until midnight might be a stretch for young children, who tend to get wired and cranky the later into the evening they go beyond typical bedtime. Instead of waiting until 12 a.m. for the countdown, move it back (or ahead) 12 hours to 12 noon. Young children won’t mind if it’s the sun out instead of the moon, as long as they get to make noise and throw confetti.
• Homemade noisemakers: Making noise is part of the fun of welcoming the new year. Kids can get in on the act of crafting their own noisemakers from items that already may be around the house. Collect empty toilet paper or paper towel cardboard tubes for this purpose. Cover one end of the tube with masking tape or a round piece of plastic. Fill the tube with beads, small seashells, rice, or dried beans, leaving enough room for the materials to move around inside the tube. Seal the other end and allow the kids to decorate their noisemakers. Then it’s only a matter of shaking them when it’s time to welcome 2026.
• Dress-up photo booth: Many people love to dress up for a special occasion. At a family-friendly New Year’s Eve celebration, set aside a corner of a room with dress up props like funny glasses, feather boas, top hats, and NYE-specific items. Explore digital disposable camera apps like POV, Lense or Pixel Party. Guests simply scan a QR code for the event that the party host has established for a low price, and can snap moments at this “photo booth” that are shared effortlessly to one digital place.
• Kids beverage bar: Ensure that younger guests can be age-appropriate mixologists with sodas, fruit juices, citrus slices, and maraschino cherries. Or set up a hot cocoa bar with miniature marshmallows, whipped cream, chocolate shavings, and peanut butter chips.
• Family-friendly dance club: Put together a playlist of popular songs and choose the “clean” versions so children will not hear questionable lyrics. Clear an area of the party to serve as the dance floor, and utilize strobe lights or a disco ball to enhance the atmosphere.
Families can celebrate New Year’s Eve with kids in entertaining ways that are appropriate for everyone in the home.
Gifts for Winter Gardening
THereRelaxing in the Shade
By April Hensley
By April Hensley
we are again with another year close to being behind us. I hope you all had a great season of planting and growing and enjoyed using your green thumbs. Every seed and plant is a chance to build more knowledge and make wonderful memories.
With the holiday season upon us, most people would think gardening is probably one of the last things on our minds. We are bundling up in coats on our way out to find the perfect gifts and visit loved ones.
But just because the weather is chilly doesn’t mean gardeners stop thinking about growing. Our minds are thinking about spring planting, the newest seeds, or maybe even what recipe we will use for our homegrown produce. We love green things and taking care of them.
he temp is going to get very hot soon, and that means we will be searching for shady spots to spend our outdoor time in. Your family, pets, and wildlife will be looking for cooler places too. Walk around your property during the time you would usually be outdoors to see where the shade falls. If you have a porch, pergola, or a big shade tree, you are set! If not, use the shade from your home or create artificial shade with help from things like a pop-up gazebo or shade cloth.
Think about how you want to use the space. Is it for children to have to place to play, a BBQ area, or a place to nap in a hammock? You can create an outdoor area for family get-togethers or a nice quiet spot to unwind and relax.
If you have a gardener on your Christmas list or are a gardener yourself, consider giving a thoughtful gift for winter gardening. Here are a few things I’ve noticed in stores while out doing my own shopping.
If you like being outdoors during the summer, you will be spending a lot of time here through the next three months. Let’s jazz up your outdoor living space to suit your style and purpose and make it more inviting.
• Cold frames to protect plants over winter and to start seedlings earlier in the spring. These can be small and homemade from recycled windows, to store store-bought kits.
• Get some shade-loving plants together. These can be planted in-ground or arranged in pots to brighten your space. Special pots are available for deck railing, and shepherd’s hooks can be used
• Bulb forcing kits like amaryllis and paperwhites are a beautiful addition to Christmas decorations and after.
• Countertop and window garden herbs and plants bring life and delicious recipes to kitchens while the snow flies outside.
for hanging baskets. For pots, you can do not only plants but bushes and trees.
• Chia pets are so adorable and small enough to be placed on a desk.
• Terrariums are fabulous for adventurous gardeners.
• Some colorful shade lovers include hydrangeas, ferns, Japanese maple trees, begonias, azaleas, hostas, and evergreens.
• A sharp pair of pruning snips can be used to cut greenery for making live wreaths during the cold months, and can also be used year-round in the garden.
• Garden gnomes and concrete statues make a cute addition.
• Poinsettias are a traditional hostess gift.
• If using the space for an eating area, look for a sturdy table and chairs that will survive windy storms.
• Some air plants come with magnets to attach to refrigerators and file cabinets.
• Decorative garden wall hangings for indoors and outdoors add color while the ground sleeps.
• Orchids are elegant and the perfect gift for more experienced growers.
• A large patio umbrella can create temporary shade for your outdoor space or picnic area. Umbrellas come in many shapes, colors and sizes and some can be adjusted for the movement of the sun.
• Seed storage containers are great for getting organized.
• Look into seating, whether to unwind or gather. It can be as simple as a couple of folding chairs to a large outdoor sectional with side tables.
• Books about gardening, such as medicinal herb growing or inspirational gardening tips, are perfect to curl up with on wintry nights.
• Heat mats and grow lights give a jumpstart on starting plants from seeds.
• Micro-greens kits are perfect for health-conscious folks wanting to add nutrients to salads, sandwiches, and smoothies.
• Sometimes we like being outside after the sun sets when it’s cooler. In that case, look at solar lights. They have them for in-ground, steps, railing, hanging, and rope lights that give a magical feel. These are great safety features, too. Shepherds’ hooks can be used to help suspend the lights.
• Give a simple gift certificate to a local nursery so your gardener can go on a shopping spree.
• Mosquito repellants and traps will be a must whether during the day or night.
{April Hensley works as an office manager and is an avid gardener, writer, and greenhouse hobbyist. Her debut book, Four Seasons: Gardening & Growing in Zone 7, is available now. April loves the outdoors and is passionate about animal welfare and the environment. She can be reached at aprils1105@embarqmail.com.
Why Working with a Financial Planner is a Good Move
According to Merill Lynch, planning ahead for events like retirement better positions individuals to reach their financial goals and manage any unexpected challenges that may arise. The benefits of hiring a wealth management financial advisor can outweigh the costs. Those still weighing whether or not to make that call can consider these reasons to seek out a financial planner.
Navigate complex tax issues
A financial advisor can help people identify tax-efficient financial strategies. As income and savings grow, so, too, may tax obligations. Working with a financial advisor can help mitigate tax burdens by identifying tactics like strategic asset allocation. This strategy and more may help save a person thousands of dollars each year.
Maximize money’s potential
Some people have a large amount of cash in the bank earning minimal interest in low-yield accounts. Others may have inherited money and are not sure what to do with it. People may miss chances to put their money to work for them, which is where a financial advisor can step in. These individuals are trained and may be certified to help make strategic decisions to maximize your earnings and savings.
Ride out market downturns
Working with a financial advisor may help people navigate downturns in the market. Advisors might be a steadying voice during turbulent times, helping individuals stay focused on long-term goals and building portfolios that can endure market volatility.
Advise for major financial changes
Whether a person is planning to buy or sell a home, get married or start a family, a financial planner can walk one through issues to begin saving and managing money for the long haul. He or she may recommend when to start saving for a child’s college education while also keeping a retirement plan on track. A financial planner also can help figure out how much debt a person can take on when it comes to buying a home. Marriage or divorce also are key milestones that call for careful financial planning. Again, a financial advisor can offer
thoughtful ideas about how to navigate and make changes to financial strategies.
Like the other professionals people rely on to give them advice, a financial planner is an important asset who can help instruct individuals regarding smart money moves that help them to achieve their goals throughout life.
Holiday Greetings and Well Wishes from the JCP Family!
By Allison Lawson
Hereat Jan-Carol Publishing, we work as a team. We celebrate success as a team—both professionally and personally. Now that the holiday season is upon us, enjoy this special interview with the JCP family as we recap the 2025 year and look ahead to 2026.
Janie C. Jessee, CEO and Publisher
Janie Jessee, JCP’s CEO and publisher, thinks of the holidays as a time for family and friends to gather. “We always exchange gifts on Christmas Eve and special gifts on Christmas morning,” she said. “This is a tradition we do every year. Faith, family, and food create our holiday season.”
Other Christmas traditions, Janie said, include decorating for the holidays and putting up a Christmas tree. “It’s a tradition that I hope will always be a special part of the season,” she said.
This year, Janie shared, the holidays will look a bit different with the passing of her mother earlier in the year. “With Mom passing away in July of this year, this Christmas holiday has a void,” she said. “As Mom got older, she didn’t want a Christmas tree, and she didn’t cook, so the holidays changed for her, meaning they changed for me with her. But I will celebrate this holiday by holding onto the memories that can never be replaced or forgotten.”
As 2025 comes to a close, Janie said she wants to extend her heartfelt gratitude to readers. “Whether you’ve been with us from the beginning or connected with us for the first time this year, your support has meant more than words can express,” she said. “This season reminds us of the importance of community, connection, and the small moments that bring joy. Thank you for allowing us to be part of your year, for trusting our business, and for continuing to inspire us to do what we love here at JCP.”
Her holiday message is as follows: “Wishing everyone a holiday season filled with warmth, rest, and celebration. May the new year bring you renewed energy, meaningful opportunities, and plenty of reasons to smile.”
Tara Sizemore, Senior Graphic Designer
Tara Sizemore, JCP’s senior graphic designer, will be spending the holidays with her family in an annual trip to Mexico, and “plenty of rest after a busy fall,” she said.
Tara has worked at JCP for 18 years and says what she enjoys most is the creative partnership with authors and illustrators. “Collaborating to create meaningful work and helping authors achieve their dreams is the most rewarding part of my job,” she said.
Her favorite Christmas tradition is a newer one. “A new holiday tradition for the last couple of years has been making and sharing homemade apple butter,” she said.
When asked about reading recommendations, Tara shared, “I just finished Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy. It’s about a family on a remote island, a mysterious woman washed ashore, and a rising storm on the horizon. I loved reading about the biology—plants, seeds, and sea animals.”
Tara’s year has been full of accomplishments, one being her recent move. “A personal accomplishment this year has been successfully selling our first home and buying a new one with a spacious yard,” she said. “It’s a wonderful new space for family and nature around us, where we can enjoy watching nearby goats, horses, and cows.”
Tara’s holiday message is simple: “Wishing everyone a season of peace, good health, joyful family moments, and plenty of laughs.”
Draco Bailey,
Communications Director and Publishing Assistant
Draco Bailey, JCP’s communications director and publishing assistant, plans on celebrating the holidays with their husband and family friends. “We bake plenty of sweets, watch holiday movies, and play a plethora of tabletop games,” they said.
Draco has been with JCP for eight years, and their favorite part of the job changes from time to time. “For a while now, my favorite part has been how close we all are as a team and how well we work together,” they said.
Draco’s favorite Christmas tradition is beginning to decorate for the holidays in November. “I wait all year to start decorating on November first,” they said. “We also invite our friends to come hang ornaments on our 12-foot Christmas tree each year.”
Regarding any reading recommendations, Draco joked, “I may be biased, but I’m loving every story in Christmas All Year Long: An Anthology of Holly Jolly Tales .”
Draco shared that they celebrated something very exciting this year. “After seven years together, my husband and I tied the knot in a very small, Christmas-themed ceremony,” they said.
Draco’s holiday message for readers is one of hope: “No matter how old you are or how chaotic the world is, there is always room for holiday joy and magic with loved ones.”
Allison
Lawson,
Magazine Content Editor and Editorial Assistant
Allison Lawson, JCP’s magazine content editor and editorial assistant, will be spending the holidays with loved ones. “My husband and I have a lot of family, so I’ll be spending the holidays visiting everyone and having the best time,” she said.
Allison has been with JCP for almost four years, and her favorite part of the job is “getting to play a role in seeing authors’ books get published,” she said. “As an editor, I see all of these books when they are still just manuscripts, and I
get to help authors on their way and shape their manuscripts into the final products you see. It’s a dream come true for me to work on books for a living.”
Allison’s favorite Christmas tradition is taking a trip to Greeneville, Tenn., to see her parents. “We always visit my parents during the first week of December and help them pick out their Christmas tree,” she said. “They get a ‘real’ one every year. Then, we go home, decorate it, and listen to Christmas tunes or watch a Christmas movie.”
Allison has several reading recommendations. “I’ve read all kinds of great new releases in 2025,” she said. “Some of my favorites have been The Knight and the Moth by Rachel Gillig and Atmosphere by Taylor Jenkins Reid. Both of those were amazing. In general, I always recommend The Secret History by Donna Tartt. It floored me when I first read it; I even have a tattoo for it!”
This year, Allison also celebrated a wedding. “I got married in April of this year to the love of my life,” she said. “I’ve never been happier. We’re living in Kingsport with our two cats, and life is good.”
Allison hopes everyone has the best holiday season ever, “full of warmth, family and friends, hot chocolate, mistletoe, and maybe even a visit from Santa,” she said.
Chocolate Pudding and Mixed Berry Trifle
Makes 8 servings
1 1⁄2 cups sugar
1 1⁄3 cups all-purpose flour
2⁄3 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
1⁄2 teaspoon baking powder
1⁄4 teaspoon salt
3⁄4 cups strong brewed coffee
3⁄4 cups buttermilk
6 tablespoons vegetable oil
2 large eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
2 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons cornstarch
2 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
1⁄8 teaspoon salt
1 1⁄2 cups whole milk
1⁄2 cup heavy cream
2⁄3 cup good-quality milk chocolate, chopped
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
6 cups fresh raspberries
6 cups fresh blueberries
Milk chocolate, shavings for garnish
1. For the cake: In a large bowl, sift together the first 6 ingredients. Add the coffee, buttermilk, eggs, oil, and vanilla and mix until just combined. Transfer the batter to a parchment-lined baking pan. Bake at 325 F for 25 to 30 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into the cake comes out clean. Cool and then cut the cake into 2-inch pieces.
2. For the chocolate pudding: Whisk together the sugar, cornstarch, cocoa powder, and salt in a large saucepan. Gradually whisk in milk and cream. Bring to a boil over moderate heat, whisking constantly. Boil until mixture thickens, about 2 minutes — it will get thick very quickly. Remove from heat and whisk in chocolate and vanilla quickly. Continue whisking until smooth. Transfer to a bowl and chill, placing a piece of plastic wrap directly on the pudding to prevent a skin from forming. Chill until cold, at least 2 hours.
3. To assemble the trifle: Get out eight small serving cups (approximately 8 ounces). Place cake pieces, a bit of raspberries and blueberries at the bottom of each serving cup. Spoon chocolate pudding on top, spreading it into any spaces in the cake layer and smoothing the top so it is as flat as possible. Continue with the second layer of cake pieces, berries and pudding. For the third top layer, sprinkle only pieces of cake and berries and then garnish with shaved milk chocolate. Source: Lines+Angles
Oatmeal
Cranberry Cookies
Makes approximately 16 to 18 cookies
3⁄4 cup unsalted butter
3⁄4 cup brown sugar
2 small eggs
1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
1 1⁄2 cups all-purpose flour
1⁄2 teaspoon salt
3⁄4 teaspoon baking soda
1⁄2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1⁄2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
1⁄4 teaspoon ground ginger
4 cups rolled oats
1 cup dried cranberries
1. Preheat the oven to 350 F. Grease and line a large cookie sheet with parchment paper.
2. Melt the butter in a small saucepan set over medium heat. Once the butter has melted, pour into a large bowl and add the brown sugar.
3. Mix until well combined. Add the eggs and vanilla, and continue to mix until incorporated.
4. In a separate bowl, whisk together the flour, salt, baking soda, spices, and oats. Add the dry ingredients to the wet and mix well. Add the cranberries and stir until thoroughly incorporated.
5. Drop scant tablespoons of the batter onto the cookie sheet, spaced apart. Press down slightly in the centers.
6. Bake for 10 to 12 minutes until golden and set. Remove from the oven and let them cool on the cookie sheet for a few minutes before moving to a cooling rack to finish cooling.
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Daily Tasks to Keep your Kitchen Clean
The kitchen may be the heart of a home, but health experts notes it’s also the dirtiest room in the house.
According to the National Sanitation Foundation, areas where food is stored and prepared have more fecal contamination and bacteria than other places in a home, like the bathroom. The NSF found more than 75 percent of dish sponges and rags tested positive for salmonella, E. coli and fecal matter. This is a much higher percentage than bathroom faucet handles, 9 percent of which were found to contain these harmful microorganisms.
Kitchens also are vulnerable to additional pathogens. Since food is found in kitchens, there may be higher rates of insect and animal pests, which come with their own health dangers. Pest droppings can be a serious health hazard that contaminate food sources and spread airborne pathogens that can trigger asthma and allergic reactions. Pest waste also can lead to gastrointestinal upset.
Kitchens require frequent cleaning. In fact, the following daily cleaning tasks can help keep people safe and healthy.
• Wash dishes. Hand wash all dishes or load them into the dishwasher promptly after use.
• Clean away clutter. Remove unnecessary ingredients, tools and other items that do not need to be on countertops, as such items may be vulnerable to contamination.
• Address surfaces. Use an all-purpose cleaner to clean countertops and the stovetop. Clean up spills
as they happen. Look for cleaners that offer microbial protection, but warm, soapy water also works.
• Clean frequent-use items. Cutting boards, the coffee maker, the kitchen sink, and areas of the refrigerator that come in contact with uncooked and unwashed food require frequent, thorough cleaning.
• Soak sponges. Sponges can collect germs. Heating damp sponges in the microwave for a minute can kill bacteria, offers Healthline. Sponges also an be soaked in a quart of warm water with half a teaspoon of concentrated bleach. Others have said to run sponges through the dishwasher cycle to sanitize.
• Wipe down handles. T ake time each day to wipe refrigerator handles, stove knobs, microwave handles, faucets, and light switches in the kitchen.
• Replace towels. Frequently switch out kitchen towels, and especially if they have come in contact with raw food. Use a separate towel for drying hands than you do for drying dishes.
• Clean the floor. Vacuum the kitchen floor each day, particularly after dinner. Routine mopping also ensures floors remain clean.
Keeping on top of kitchen cleaning each day can keep these popular areas safe for all.
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By Ken Heath
’Tis the Season!
We’re wrapped up wrapping presents right about now, the “Big Day” is just a few sleeps away. And then, before we know it, we’re tossing 2025 into the can with leftover party streamers and champagne (or grape juice, here at The Cliffside) as we somehow find ourselves in the latter part of the Roarin’ Twenties.
It’s a good time to reflect, to pause the hustle and bustle of shopping, cooking, visiting, to not only take assessment of all our blessings of food, family, and friends. Most of us play the resolutions game, as you can see in the jump in gym memberships as we all promise ourselves to get fit, to be healthy, to take care of ourselves a bit better.
It’s A Classic!
Short and sweet film reviews of old, classic movies perfect for a girls’ night in!
By Allison Lawson
Happy Holidays! As we enter the month of December, I wanted to recommend a Christmas classic that I used to watch every year growing up: Santa Claus is Comin’ to Town (1970). While this isn’t technically a movie, it’s a must-watch around the holidays for me. This stop-motion television special is directed by Jules Bass and is narrated by Fred Astaire. In it, Burgermeister, the ruler of Sombertown, vows to destroy all the toys, but Kris Kringle (voiced by Mickey Rooney) and his friends decide to deliver them. Things get complicated when he finds out about their plan.
While we’re reflecting on the year past, and planning for the months to come, let’s make one more resolution— one that’s a bit easier to keep than the 5 a.m. workouts and bulgur wheat protein bars we swear we’re gonna actually tackle in ’26. Let’s make ourselves, and our communities, a resolution to spend our money locally, to support our neighbors instead of shipping our dollars off to Arkansas or in the big blue truck with the growing smile on the side. Oh, it’s sure easier to click or go to a big box store, but we get the community we pay for. If we don’t support the traditional “mom and pop” shops, they’ll go away—and then we won’t have a choice. For now, entrepreneurs are getting by, certainly not getting rich. Every dollar helps. And they’re the ones that, in turn, host the fundraisers and donate to our kids’ ball teams. They truly are our neighbors. So let’s resolve to treat them as such. Let’s be neighborly. Let’s shop local as much as we can, as often as we can. And let’s pray for a healthy and successful New Year for everyone in our hometowns. After the past several years, we’ll take all the prayers we can get!
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All in all, this is a nostalgic viewing for both kids and adults alike, and if you’ve never seen it, I can’t recommend it enough around Christmastime. It harkens back to simpler times, and I think we could all use a bit of holiday magic.
Pair this fun watch with a glass of champagne of your choice. After all, it’s almost New Year’s!
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Did you enjoy Santa Claus is Comin’ to Town? Then you’ll love The Adventures of Little Dooey: Santa’s Helper by Kim Rohrer.
Ken Heath is a Marion, VA hometown boy who expresses his passions in his writings and through music. After his ‘real job’, Ken is owner of the legendary Cliffside Roadhouse, doggie dad to Miss Reagan and their rescue Scottie the Wonder Dog with his wonderful wife. Follow him on Facebook and on Twitter at #kenheath.
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Christmas All Year Long
An Anthology of Holly-Jolly Tales
Keep the holidays in your heart with Long: An Anthology of Holly Jolly Tales. bring stories of family gatherings, Christmas music, Santa Claus, and more to spark joy in your holiday season. For all who can’t wait to hear the jingle of bells or feel the chill of the season’s first snow, Christmas All Year Long is perfect to get your holiday fix any time. Online readers: click here
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Volition: A Gothic Tale
Written by John H. Hilton
The Charms of US Farms: Finding Out How Things Work
Written by Raven Howell
Illustrated by Ann Pilicer
Students are in for many surprises when Ms. Miller takes her classroom on a school trip to visit farms. Discovering fascinating facts about how tall corn stalks can grow, what a jujube is, where the material for clothes comes from, and how many stomachs a cow has, the students enjoy an exciting day. Only classmate Billy remains grumpy until it appears Farmer Dole has a magic baseball trick up his sleeve to catch everyone’s attention. Online readers: click here to order.
An unambitious and privileged playboy from an illustrious and pedigreed Virginia family finds himself thrust into the serious world of power, intrigue, and the dispensing of justice. Jack Devereaux was an undistinguished lawyer who excelled mightily at all of the superficial pleasures Virginia Hunt Country Society offered, only to be threatened with disinheritance by his disappointed father. By happenstance, Devereaux received an appointment as a judge in the county where the family lived. From that point forward, Judge Devereaux began to turn the tables on his reputation and everyone around him, demonstrating extreme mastery of the dark arts of power. Will he get away with it all? Online readers: click here to order.
Life Through Poetry: Thoughts from a Divided Mind
Written by Corey W. Gibson
A raw, intimate collection of poems exploring the depths of schizophrenia, addiction, heartbreak, and fleeting love. Through vivid language and emotional honesty, the author trudges through pain, healing, and spiritual awakening. Each verse reveals a journey toward clarity, capturing the struggle and beauty of a mind trying to be free. Online readers: click here to order.
Nutshell & Friends: New Heights for Northern Lights
Written by Madelyn Spindler and Rebecca Williams Spindler
Illustrated by Brian Schmidt
Nutshell, a young squirrel, is joined by a chickadee and a gopher. Together, they learn the value of new friendships, find the courage to reach new heights, and have educational discoveries in a forest to view the Northern Lights. Nutshell, a young squirrel, is joined by a chickadee and a gopher. Together, they learn the value of new friendships, find the courage to reach new heights, and have educational discoveries in a forest to view the Northern Lights. Online readers: click here to order.
Be Brave, Alice!
Written and Illustrated by JeanAnn Taylor and Addison Lynn Meliski
Alice is a first grader who has difficulty expressing herself and making friends. She meets Pearl, a mermaid who helps her learn to trust her feelings and speak up. Be Brave, Alice! is for anyone who struggles with self-expression, insecurity, or simply loves a sweet story. Online readers: click here to order.
Glimpses into Haywood County’s Past
Written by Carroll C. Jones
Glimpses into Haywood County’s Past by Carroll C. Jones offers an engaging look at Western North Carolina’s history, brought to life by a retired structural engineer with a passion for preserving his homeland’s heritage. Through meticulous research and evocative storytelling, Jones shares local stories, historical accounts, and architectural wonders, including the course of the Pigeon River and the county’s nineteenth-century bridges. This comprehensive and immersive volume guides readers on a journey through time, offering a tribute to the rich historical tapestry of Western North Carolina and an essential resource for all who want to connect with its legacy. Online readers: click here to order.
Down at the “No Gotty”
Written by Donna Snow King
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Where else but in Texas can rodeos and radios come together to save a small town? In this captivating small-town adventure, the world of high school rodeo collides with the hidden magic of amateur radio. When Donna Snow King and her lively cast of characters spanning three generations join forces for the good of their community, nothing can stand in their way. Amid the dust and laughter at “The No Gotty,” discover an unforgettable story of courage, hope, and the joy of learning something new. Bulls, horses,
and radios are a combination that will win every time!
Melissa Sneed Wilson Linda Hudson Hoagland
During the holiday season, a cynical economic consultant, grieving the loss of his parents, butts heads with a Christmas-obsessed hospital administrator over their town’s annual holiday festival. As they navigate their feelings about Christmas and each other, they learn maybe they aren’t that different from one another after all. This book is to be read, shared, and is perfect for the holiday season!
Lindsay, Emily, Ellen, and Ryan snoop into the reasons for the murder of Otis Greene, a neighbor. When the children disappear one at a time, Ellen asks her friend, Jed, to help her find them and bring the family together for Christmas. Follow Lindsay and Jed as they try to find the children, even after Lindsay gets shot in the pursuit.
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Keep the holidays in your heart with Christmas All Year Long: An Anthology of Holly Jolly Tales. Ten authors bring stories of family gatherings, Christmas music, Santa Claus, and more to spark joy in your holiday season. For all who can’t wait to hear the jingle of bells or feel the chill of the season’s first snow, Christmas All Year Long is perfect to get your holiday fix any time.
Donna Snow King
The roads Donna has traveled throughout her life — some boring and some not so boring — have formed the person she is today. Each road had a side trail that led her to many adventures, resulting in life-changing experiences. Growing up a house mover’s daughter had its challenges. The hardest one to overcome was being a female in a male-dominated industry. Donna’s Daddy always said she could do anything she put her mind to, and she believed him. She wears her badge of being a third-generation house mover with great pride. Some of Donna’s other adventures include team roping, amateur radio, and making her way to writing a book.
With each story set in the Appalachian region, Snowy Trails: A Short Story Collection presents a strong sense of place and belonging. Noted authors contributed stories capturing trials, tribulations, and triumphs, each one sprinkled with a gamut of emotions. In Snowy Trails, readers will be immersed in the varietal settings and characters, and will share the feelings of heartache in challenges and the joys of survival.
Linda Hudson Hoagland
Author of: The Lindsay Harris Murder Mystery Series, The Best Darn Secret; and anthologies Easter Lilies; Broken Petals; Wild Daisies; Scattered Flowers; Daffodil Dreams; Christmas All Year Long: An Anthology of Holly Jolly Tales; and These Haunted Hills: A Collection of Short Stories Books 1–7
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Delightful illustrations bring you inside Grandpa Charlie Green’s mountainside farmhouse. Join Maggie the cat, Pip the goat, Grandpa Charlie Green, Daddy, and of course, little Wilhelmina Olive Blessing, as she tells us this sweet wintertime story. What do they do to get little Maggie home? Join the fun!
Piddle Diddle is a Penguin for every child reader. Piddle Diddle will hold the attention of a child with her mischievous and adventurous actions. Despite her small size, she can be an example to children. Lessons in the story. Size is an obstacle only if you let it be. Piddle Diddle entertains and engages the child reader with beautiful illustrations.
Author Hunter Darden enlightens children with a “real” life story in the children’s book, The Everlasting Snowman . Through beautiful illustrations, Hunter simplifies how in life there is a beginning, an ending, and a renewal of living. What a treasure for parents wishing to demonstrate to their children that living goes on after a loss in our lives. Colorful, joyful, and positive!
Author Kim Rohrer is back to deliver the fourth book in her children’s series featuring everybody’s favorite monkey, Little Dooey! Young readers have followed the escapades of the adventurous little monkey in The Kite, The Doctor, and The Surprise. Now he’s back again, and this time he visits Santa to tell him he wants to be his helper and help make children happy this Christmas.
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What Aging Drivers Can Do to Improve Their Driving Skills
Age is a variable unique to each driver that merits consideration when considering road safety. The National Institute on Aging notes that certain conditions associated with aging, including increased stiffness of muscles and joints, can make it difficult for seniors to safely operate motor vehicles. Seniors who want to ensure they’re safe to drive can take various steps to ensure they are not compromising their own safety or the safety of others when getting behind the wheel.
• Have your driving skills assessed by a trained professional. The NIA notes that the American Occupational Therapy Association maintains a database of driving specialists who can help seniors assess their skills behind the wheel. These trained professionals may assess existing skills and offer advice about how to overcome any issues aging drivers might be having.
• Take a driving course. Safe driving courses can help drivers of all ages stay up-to-date on the latest safety protocols and advice on how to drive safely. Modern driving is vastly different than it was when many current seniors became licensed drivers. A safe driving course can refresh drivers’ memories about safety protocols, and some may even offer advice on how to navigate modern roadways, which may be marked by distracted drivers and feature vehicles with brighter headlights that can make it more difficult for older drivers to drive at night.
• Speak with your physicians about your medications. A recent study from the U.S. Food and Drug Adminstration found that the average adult age 65 and older now uses roughly four medications. Medications produce side effects that can affect every area of a user’s life, including their ability to drive. Those effects might be heightened when taking more than one medication, and interactions also can lead to side effects that might not manifest if individuals were taking just one prescription. Aging drivers can maintain
an honest and ongoing dialogue with their physicians to ensure they’re aware of the effects their medications might be having on their ability to drive safely. Report any new side effects the moment they appear. Aging can compromise seniors’ ability to safely operate motor vehicles. But aging adults can employ various strategies to improve their skills behind the wheel.
Smiles, Joy, and Holiday Cheer
I’m Not Moving
By Jim Liebelt
And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say? — Luke 6:46 KJV
Interpretation: Why do you call me “Lord, Lord,” and do not do what I say?
It was a sunny, and unusually warm autumn Sunday afternoon, so I thought I would take advantage of it by going fishing on a local river. As I took the dirt-road cutoff that would take me near my favorite fishing spot, I rounded a bend in the road and slammed on my truck’s brakes.
There, in the middle of the road, was a woman lying on a blanket, working on her tan. I was both taken by surprise, and quite relieved that the truck had stopped without running the woman over. When the dust from my sudden stop had cleared, I got out of my truck, and approached the woman.
Me (fairly calm given the situation): What are you doing?!
Her (startled and angry): What does it look like I’m doing?!
Me: You are lying in the middle of the road.
Her: So?!
Me: I don’t think it’s a great idea to lie in the middle of a road. I could have run you over!
Her: [Bleep] you. I’m not moving!
Me [sarcastically]: Okay. Have a nice day!
I got back into my truck and backed it down the road until I found a safe place to park.
I’ll admit that I was frustrated. Sure, there are certainly times when people ought to take a stand, regardless of the consequences. But, I didn’t feel that this qualified as a great example, for either one of us. To me, it was a moment of stubbornness and will, and while the woman didn’t back down, I did.
This experience caused me to reflect on all of the times when I know there are things that God is asking of me, and I, in effect, say to Him, “I’m not moving!” Yes, I want all of the good things that God has for my life, but I want life to be easy. When it becomes uncomfortable and difficult to obey, too often, I turn stubborn.
In one way or another, we all have these stubborn moments with God. No person is immune from them. The question becomes, how can we minimize the times when we won’t budge? I don’t know the complete answer. I wish that I did. “Just say yes to God, whatever the circumstance,” is the right answer, but most of us already know this and still struggle in carrying it out.
The long journey toward consistently saying yes to God is found in taking small steps. Perhaps the first small step is in the realization that taking the easy road in life rarely takes you where you want to go, nor leads you to becoming the person God wants to make you into. Obedience to God is not always easy, but whatever pain it brings, it also reaps the benefit of molding us more completely into the image of Jesus.
Today, take some small step when you find your first response to God is to say, “I’m not moving!” Get up off the road, pick up your blanket and walk toward Jesus. Happy Birthday Jesus! www.homeword.com
Healing Our Relationships at Year’s End
By Dr. Jami Lee
As the year draws to a close, many women feel an instinctive pull to return to their roots—not just the home we grew up in, but the emotional, relational, and ancestral soil that shaped us. December has a way of stirring memories like dust rising from a long-unopened trunk. We feel it in our bodies before we make sense of it in our minds. The nervous system remembers our stories—our traditions, our wounds, our breakthroughs— long before we speak them out loud.
Throughout this year, we’ve explored who we are beneath the surface. In January, we began with self-rediscovery, honoring the way life’s storms scatter us and reshape us into someone new. We learned that rebuilding isn’t a sign of failure—it’s the quiet work of a woman who refuses to stay buried beneath her past.
By February, we confronted the truth that the relationship we have with ourselves sets the tone for every relationship that follows. We learned that self-love isn’t indulgence; it’s the foundation of physical and emotional health, the soil from which every part of our life grows.
In November, we revisited our traditions—some warm, some heavy, some ready to be rewritten. We faced the reality that not all family memories feel like holiday movies, and yet even the painful stories have shaped our resilience and our desire to pass down something healthier, something truer, to the next generation.
And as we close the year, December invites us into a full-circle moment: to examine the relationships that shaped us, the roots we inherited, and the ones we’re choosing to plant for the future.
Our roots aren’t just emotional; they’re biological. Each relationship—healthy or harmful—imprints a pattern into our nervous system. Sometimes, the holi-
days reawaken these patterns: the fight, the flight, the freeze, the fawn. We’ve learned this year just how profoundly dysregulation affects our health, from cortisol surges to adrenal fatigue, weight changes, inflammation, and emotional overwhelm.
But awareness is powerful. When we recognize our patterns, we gain the ability to choose differently.
You Are Allowed to Outgrow Your Roots
Contrary to what many of us were taught, growth doesn’t mean abandoning where we came from. It means refusing to remain planted in soil that can no longer sustain us. You can honor your lineage without repeating its pain. You can love your family without adopting their coping mechanisms. You can redefine what connection looks like going forward.
Just like our bodies, relationships need nourishment—boundaries, truth, compassion, repair, and sometimes release. Whether you are healing from childhood trauma, redefining your marriage, reconnecting with community, or learning to trust again, every relationship in your life is an ecosystem that reflects your internal world.
A new legacy begins now.
As you step into the season of reflection, ask yourself:
• What roots still nourish me?
• Which relationships am I ready to heal?
• What generational weight am I no longer willing to carry?
• What legacy do I choose to grow from here?
December isn’t an ending; it’s compost. It’s the sacred breakdown that enriches the soil of who you are becoming.
May this year’s close be the moment you choose relationships—past, present, and future—that honor your health, your feminine power, and the woman you are courageously becoming.
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Comparing Eldercare Services
By Cindy K. Sproles
We’re never ready when the time comes to need eldercare services. It’s as though the harsh realization of our once very active parents suddenly screeches to a halt. Where did the time go, and when did Mom or Dad reach this point? These are questions that, regardless of how we prepare for the future, still catch us off guard. Our parents, the strength behind us, have suddenly become dependent on our help.
Aging is one of the necessary evils of adulthood and one that eventually has to be addressed. Early planning is always best, despite its awkwardness, but those family meetings are essential, and when the time comes to implement the directives discussed, things are much easier. If families have these discussions without pressure, parental decisions, wants, and desires are addressed, noted, and prepared for the future. Having these times for planning not only helps if your loved one’s need arises suddenly, but also ensures a plan is in place and can be executed without guilt or worry.
Drop the sibling rivalry – During these meetings, parents can express their desires for their golden years, where they want to live, how they plan to manage financially, and even who will manage their affairs. It’s important to remember that, as aging parents choose who will be the “managing partner,” these decisions are not based on which sibling is the favorite. Allow your parents the freedom to choose who they feel can shoulder the brunt without being offended or hurt. Parents know their children’s hearts. They know their strengths, their weaknesses, their
dependability, and their responsibility to others. After all, they brought you into this world. Who better knows you than your parents? Most of the time, the manager is chosen for their personal strengths, not because they are the favorite. If sibling rivalry comes into play, take a step back. Make the effort to work as a team to care for your parent(s) rather than assuming their decision is a personal jab.
Elements of the meeting – Early on, it’s good to know how your parent feels about leaving their home. Many desire to stay home as long as possible. This is normal. In fact, aging in place is the most popular option these days. If this is the first choice, then discuss how and who will help them manage. In-home, non-medical companies will provide caregivers, but the cost is equal to, or sometimes higher than, the cost of facility living, depending on the parent’s needs. Agree that in-home is the first choice, and then work to agree on plan B. This is why these meetings are best when parents are healthy and able to see reason, rather than a sudden, last-minute, “this is what we’re going to do.”
The hard part of aging for the parent is the loss of independence. Remember, they’ve cared for themselves for the greater part of their lives; suddenly, that ability, the one thing they have been able to control, is now gone. It isn’t easy. Rather than making a forced decision, having that plan in place well before it’s needed brings stability and a reminder that, actually, the parent is still in control—this is the plan they made long before they needed it.
Discuss finances – This is the time to open the vault and allow adult children to see what they have to work with financially for their senior. Some seniors participate in
long-term care insurance programs that offer monthly withdrawals to help cover their care costs. Others have that “nest egg” set aside. 401 (k) s, investments, even additional homes or land assets that parents were saving to divide among their children, may need to be made available to provide for their care. Whatever the situation, open the vault to plan for the future. Many baby boomer parents still believe they can keep their life savings for their children. In today’s world, the costs are simply too high for that to remain feasible. Again, full disclosure so plans are available. Social Security is not meant to, nor will it cover long-term housing costs or even caregiver costs. Expecting to depend solely on Social Security is a mistake for aging parents.
Deciding the needs – There are several assistance programs available to seniors, but not all parents are eligible. If home is where your loved one wants to be, decide whether it is, first and foremost, the safest and most feasible place
for them. Families can check with their local Area Agency on Aging and food banks. Aid is available for specific bills, such as electricity and water. Ask the question: what is the crucial need, and then decide whether these can be met at home, keeping in mind that safety trumps everything. It is important to remember that many services available are only eligible if a parent’s income is extremely low.
These are only a few of the things families need to discuss in preparation for their parents’ future needs, and, honestly, for their own needs as they grow older. If a parent could leave behind the most cherished gift in the world, it wouldn’t be cash. It would be knowing they made their care as simple and worry-free for their children as they could.
{The Benefits of Getting Your Flu Shot
Cooler temperatures bring many things, including the arrival of fun and festive holidays. But flu season also kicks into high gear between the months of December and February. Getting an annual flu shot is another notable and highly beneficial strategy to beat the flu.
Reduces risk of getting the flu
The primary reason to get a flu shot is to train the body’s immune system to recognize and fight off the most common strains of influenza anticipated in a given year. During seasons when the shot is a good match, individuals who get it can reduce their risk of flu contraction by 40 to 60 percent.
Lessens severity of the flu
For those who do get the flu, being vaccinated means the illness is likely to be less severe than it might be for those who are not vaccinated.
Prevents serious conditions
The flu can be dangerous to vul nerable populations, but the virus also can lead to health problems like inflam mation of the heart or brain, pneumo nia, or the worsening of conditions like asthma and diabetes. By getting the vaccine, one can reduce their risk of these serious outcomes.
Offers protection to pregnant women
Pregnancy increases risks posed by the flu. The flu shot can reduce the chances of flu-related hospitalization for pregnant women. Also, the mother’s antibodies to the flu will be passed to the fetus, helping to protect the newborn baby for several months during a time when the infant is too young to be vaccinated.
Protects kids
A flu vaccine can significantly reduce a child’s risk of pediatric intensive care unit admission and even death from the illness.
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Cindy K. Sproles is a novelist, speaker, and conference teacher. She is the cofounder of ChristianDevotions.us and the managing editor for Straight Street Books and SonRise Devotionals, imprints of Lighthouse Publishing of the Carolinas. Visit Cindy at www.cindysproles.com.
Drink Safely this Holiday Season
Alcohol, when enjoyed in moderation, can be part of holiday celebrations. However, people must be mindful to consume alcohol safely and responsibly. Here are some tips to avoid getting tipsy this holiday season.
Understand standard drink sizes
Drinks like beer, wine, and distilled spirits contain varying amounts of alcohol. Therefore, the “size” of a drink varies depending on one’s beverage of choice. The National Association on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism says a 12-ounce bottle of beer at 5 percent alcohol by volume is one standard drink, as is a five-ounce glass of wine at 12 percent alcohol by volume. Those who enjoy distilled spirits should recognize that a 1.5-ounce shot glass at 40 percent alcohol by volume is a standard drink. The higher the alcohol volume, the smaller the portion size one should have.
Follow the “1-2-3” rule
The 1-2-3 rule is a guideline for more responsible drinking. Typically, it means having no more than one standard drink per hour, no more than two standard drinks per occasion, and no more than three standard drinks per day. This will help the body to process alcohol safely and prevent binge drinking.
Consider the “20-minute” rule
Another guideline for reducing alcohol consumption is to pause for 20 minutes after finishing a drink before having another. This allows time to decide if a second drink is truly desired. This strategy, although not scientific in nature nor based on any general guidance on safe moderate drinking recommendations by health experts, simply is a way to drink less by slowing down consumption.
Eat food prior to drinking
Johns Hopkins University notes eating before drinking slows the rate at which alcohol reaches the small intestine. This helps to taper absorption to a pace that the body can handle more effectively. Eating food while drinking alcohol also increases the rate of alcohol elimination from the
bloodstream by 25 to 45 percent. Foods that blend a mix of protein, fat and carbohydrates work best for this purpose.
Alternate with water or seltzer
Drinking still or sparkling water between alcoholic beverages gives the body time to process any alcohol being consumed and helps to prevent dehydration (alcohol is a diuretic). An added bonus is that drinking water between alcoholic drinks slows the rate of consumption.
Skip driving
Alcohol affects one’s ability to make sound decisions and also impairs reaction times and motor skills. That is why it is essential to have a plan for getting home before consuming alcohol. Taxis, rideshare services and designated drivers are each better means of getting home than driving oneself after consuming alcohol.
Alcohol may play a role in holiday celebrations. Through responsible and safe behavior, the holidays can remain merry.
Come New Year’s Eve, it’s customary to count down the last 10 seconds until the clock strikes midnight and the new year officially begins. It seems like the 10-second countdown is as old as time itself, but the tradition actually is much more modern. According to Alexis McCrossen, a history professor at Southern Methodist University, prior to the twentieth century, New Year’s Day was celebrated rather than New Year’s Eve. And even up until the mid-twentieth century, countdowns were not associated with New Year’s Eve or even festive occasions. However, the tides turned on countdowns with the Apollo moon launch in 1961. After that, countdowns for radio hits and other fun activities began.
Go ‘Mutts’ for These Pet Gifts
Dog Parents Can Practice Pet Etiquette
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et parents try to ensure their companion animals never want for anything. People will go to great lengths to pamper their pets with the best care, food and accessories. According to the American Pet Products Association, consumers in the United States spent $147 billion on pets in 2023. And it’s not just the essentials that have people opening up their wallets for pets. A 2022 YouGov survey found that 57 percent of owners buy holiday gifts for their pets and 40 percent host birthday celebrations.
t’s important for pet parents to always be mindful of their dogs’ behavior when out and about, or even hanging closer to home. Dog owners can follow these dog etiquette pointers to be responsible pet owners.
• Quiet nuisance barking. Do not leave your dog outside unattended for a long time. This can cause what the American Kennel Club characterizes as boredom barking. Quiet your dog if he or she is barking, or bring the pet indoors.
With the holiday season on the horizon, there’s a good chance that beloved pets are on gift lists this year, particularly for Gen Z pet owners. A study of 1,000 U.S. adults conducted by Talker Research for Newsweek found that Gen Z spends an average of $148.50 on their pets each month, the highest of all surveyed. For those shopping for gifts their pets will enjoy, these options could have tails wagging.
• Aways leash your dog. Some people are not comfortable around dogs. And even if your dog is friendly, others met on walks or outings may not be. To prevent uncomfortable situations or even dog bites, it’s best to always leash your dog. Choose a leash short enough to prevent your dog from jumping on passersby.
• Treat dispenser: It isn’t possible to be home with their pets all of the time. A dispenser that can be programmed to offer treats at certain intervals or connected to an app that enables a person to release one at the push of a button can be a nice gift to surprise stay-at-home pets.
• Ask permission first. Check to see if your dog is allowed to greet people or other dogs. If someone says, “no,” respect that answer.
• Clean up after your pet. Always have waste bags at the ready so you can clean up after your dog. This also applies indoors, should your dog have an accident inside a pet-friendly store.
• Puzzle toy: Pets need to keep their brains working; otherwise, they may get bored and into trouble.
• Be mindful of shopping with pets. Many stores do not allow dogs inside, but employees may be
A puzzle toy that has treats or kibble hidden behind panels helps pets remain mentally sharp.
• Pet booties: When the weather gets chilly, walking dogs outdoors on the ice and snow can be painful on their paws. A pair of booties can protect the delicate pads of pets’ feet from ice melt products, snow and sharp objects.
• New bed: Upgrade a pet’s bed to something even more lush and comfortable. A fleece blanket and a dedicated pet pillow can help pets feel even more pampered.
• Safety belt: Guarantee that trips in the car to the dog park or other excursions are safer by gifting a safety pet harness that works like a seatbelt in a vehicle.
hesitant to approach pet owners about such policies. Many stores only allow trained service dogs that are Americans With Disabilities Act-compliant. Service animals are defined as dogs that are individually trained to work or perform tasks for people with disabilities. Service animal designations are exclusive to dogs. However, a number of people have “emotional support animals,” which are not recognized as service animals. As a general rule of thumb, know a store’s policy on non-service animal pets before visiting. And, when shopping at food stores, it’s best to leave the dog at home.
• Grooming package: Everyone wins when a pet is washed, dried and primped to perfection. Professional groomers have the skills to tame excess fur and trim nails so pets smell wonderful and remain comfortable.
• Train your dog . A dog that knows basic obedience training will behave better in the community. If you are having trouble training your dog alone, consider working with an experienced dog trainer.
• New toys: Whether a pet is a parakeet or poodle, gifts of new toys can be engaging for animals who have grown bored with their old ones.
Dogs are beloved members of the family. However, pet owners should practice proper etiquette when dogs are out and about.
Be sure to wrap up clever gifts for pets so that every member of the family has something to enjoy come the holidays.
Hidden Veggies for Kids – and Adults!
By Raven Howell
Whusband and I would tuck roasted zucchini in the layers, even AS a layer, and no one would notice.
hen I was a child, my mother would cleverly incorporate vegetables into meals. Mushrooms and white onions from our garden were chopped up into tiny pieces, sauteed until soft, and combined into the meatloaf mix. Broccoli from a neighboring farm was shredded and stirred together with breadcrumbs, cheese, and a whisked egg, then baked to crispy, mouthwatering mini “tater tots”.
I recently published a children’s book about farming in the United States. It instigated me to revisit and share a few healthy meal tricks to increase vegetable intake—and to give a little shout-out to support local farms at the same time.
Pepper up the pizza!
During the winter months, I love choosing carrots, squash, purple cauliflower, kale, and parsnips at the farmer’s markets. If you’re thinking, blah, blah, blah, I’d rather order a plain pizza, that’s fine— you can have both!
While you’re waiting for your pizza delivery, sauté farm-bought spinach and sliced red peppers in olive oil. Puree the vegetables into a smooth sauce. When the pizza arrives, top it with the veggie puree. It’s preferable for picky eaters to have their hidden veggies in their favorite, popular meals. Same with lasagna—my
Mac and cheese, please!
When my children were little, they requested macaroni and cheese on a fairly regular basis. Steam your farmer’s market butternut squash and/or cauliflower. Add a touch of salt, pepper, and olive oil, and puree. Warm it up and combine your healthy vegetable sauce with the pasta. If you wish, you can still add cheese to the mix.
Kid-friendly desserts: hide and seek
Desserts are super easy to hide veggies in! Use fresh carrots in your carrot cake recipe and add some finely grated parsnips. They’re sweet and further evoke a holiday aroma when baked with a pinch of nutmeg or allspice.
If you’re a chocolate lover, add pureed kale or a softly baked sweet potato to your brownie batter to bake a nutrient-dense treat. Shhh...the kids will never know!
Whatever recipes you’re using for the winter holidays, try to integrate seasonal veggies. Your whole family will benefit from eating food grown in tandem with a natural farming schedule, since the shorter the time between harvest and consuming them, the more peak vitamin content. { Raven Howell is a children’s book and magazine writer. Her work has won several awards, including Excellence in Children’s Literature and the Literary Global Award. She is the Director of Kids Corner and Publishing & Creative Advisor with Red Clover Reader. Raven writes children’s educational books and is a contributing author for Reading is Fundamental SoCal.
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