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Jackie Schatell CONTRIBUTING WRITERS
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BY JACKIE SCHATELL
The Media Dinner Club: Where Networking Meets Friendship
For media professionals, networking often means stiff cocktail hours and business cards. But The Media Dinner Club is rewriting the script—turning networking into meaningful friendships over a shared meal. Now expanding to Northern NJ, thanks to Kate English Mankoff of South Orange, this global group welcomes all women across the media industry, no matter position or title, into an inclusive, relaxed setting.
Dinners have no agenda—just great conversation. The only formality? A host invites you to come as you are, fostering authentic connections before guests unwind and enjoy each other’s company. Attendees split the bill, making it affordable, and diverse locations ensure accessibility.
For just $5 a month, members gain access to dinners across 33+ cities globally plus a Slack community for ongoing communication, career support, recipe-sharing, a book club and more.
The next dinners are scheduled for April 8th and May 20th. New events and a mentorship program are coming soon! To learn more, or join, visit: themediadinnerclub.com.
Emi Zanelli, a Summit resident, has turned her love of architecture and art into a thriving business, capturing cherished homes and historic buildings through hand-drafted watercolor portraits.
Summit Native Captures Homes and History Through Art
Her journey began during the COVID-19 pandemic while she was studying architecture. A family friend mentioned wanting a house drawing as a gift, and Emi realized she could do it. From there, she reached out to local real estate agents, and commissions quickly followed. One of
her most memorable projects was painting a portrait of her childhood home for its new owners. In addition to private commissions, she has painted well-known Summit landmarks such as the Albion Hotel and Summit Diner.
Emi uses a combination of hand drafting—an oldschool architectural drawing technique using drafting boards and triangles—and watercolor, giving each piece a timeless and personal touch.
Now a full-time artist and elementary school art teacher, Emi continues to blend her passion for architecture and fine art. She shares her work on Instagram at @mezdraws.
Attendees at the March Media Dinner Club event, which was held at Artie’s in Maplewood, pose for a group photo: Front row (l-r): Kate English Mankoff, Danielle Mann, Ran Wei, and Melanie Kleinman.
Back row (l-r): Zoe Berkovic, Sabrina Blom, Elizabeth Garrett, Lisa Boyars Gehrke, Stephanie Somogyi, Chelsey Etkin Johns, Natalia Fosselman, Anni Cuccinello, Michelle Gudema, Lisa Golodner, Veronica Salcedo, Karen Wiessen, Jackie Gagne, and Alison Waldman.
Build a Fairy House to Enter the South Mountain Reservation Fairy Trail Contest!
Bring a little magic to the forest! Over the past decade, the volunteers of the South Mountain Conservancy have created and cared for a charming village of tiny, handcrafted fairy houses that have been appearing along a half-mile stretch of the South Mountain Reservation, a 2,112-acre nature preserve spanning Maplewood, Millburn, and West Orange.
Now, the beloved Fairy Trail invites all fairy fans to join the enchantment by designing and submitting a fairy house for the 2025 Fairy House Building Contest! Entries will be judged on creativity, craftsmanship, use of natural materials, and whimsical charm. The trail is located at South Mountain Reservation, Locust Grove parking lot, 197 Glen Avenue, Millburn.
HOW TO PARTICIPATE:
• Submit for Approval: Review the house building guidelines at somocon.org/fairytrail. Before bringing the fairy house to the trail, send a photo and short description to fairytrail@somocon.org at least one week before installation. The South Mountain Conservancy must approve all houses before placement.
• Installation Days: Accepted fairy houses can be installed along the trail on Saturday, April 12, or April 26. Participants will place their houses in designated areas after evaluation.
• Winners Announced: The contest results will be revealed during the Third Annual Fairy Trail Day on May 3. You don’t need to be present to win—but the Conservancy would love to celebrate with you!
Reeves-Reed Arboretum’s
Daffodil Day
Festival Returns
Spring’s most anticipated celebration is back as Reeves-Reed Arboretum welcomes visitors to its annual Daffodil Day Festival on April 13, from 11am to 3pm. With over 50,000 daffodils in full bloom, the Arboretum’s Daffodil Bowl transforms into a breathtaking sea of yellow, providing the perfect setting for a day of festivities.
Guests can enjoy spring-themed games and crafts, live music, history and story trails, market vendors, and delicious food. A special highlight is the return of the Green Goats of Rhinebeck, delighting visitors of all ages. The event also features the latest art exhibit, Gardens on the Hill.
Reeves Reed is located at 165 Hobart Avenue in Short Hills. Advance registration is required at reevesreedarboretum.org.
If you or someone you know in Essex/Morris County is doing something interesting, send an email to Jackie.subessex@gmail.com
Running for a Cause with the South Mountain YMCA
For James Goodger, District Executive Director of the South Mountain YMCA, running started as part of his injury recovery but has become much more—pushing limits, building community, and making a difference. Now, he’s leading the YMCA’s team for the Philadelphia Marathon weekend this November, where there will be 8K, Half, and Full Marathon options.
James isn’t just training for himself; he’s rallying others to run for a cause. The team is raising funds to help local families access YMCA programs like summer camp, after-school care, and financial assistance. The YMCA evens the playing field in life, ensuring no family is turned away due to the inability to pay.
Recruitment kicks off in April for runners of all levels. Training begins in May with group runs, coaching, socials, and a shared goal—crossing the finish line for personal achievement and community impact.
Join the team: https://givebutter.com/MetroPhiliMarathon25/ jamesgoodger. For more information about the YMCA visit jgoodger@metroymcas.org.
Make a Difference by Volunteering at the Cora Hartshorn Arboretum!
Volunteering at the Cora Hartshorn Arboretum & Bird Sanctuary in Short Hills is a rewarding way to support local woodlands while gaining hands-on experience in conservation, education, and community engagement. Whether you’re passionate about nature, eager to learn new skills, or looking for meaningful ways to give back, CHA offers diverse opportunities for all ages. The Arboretum is located at 324 Forest Drive South, Short Hills.
TEEN VOLUNTEER PROGRAMS
• High School Volunteer Days – Help with forest restoration, trail maintenance, and education programs once a month. No experience needed, training provided.
• Summer Discovery Camp Volunteers – Gain experience working with children and environmental stewardship during summer camp sessions.
ADULT VOLUNTEER PROGRAMS
• Corporate Volunteerism – Team building through conservation projects for groups up to 10.
• Individual Volunteers –Assist with trail maintenance, invasive species removal, or weekend support.
• Community Scientists –Contribute to research by collecting environmental data (September–May).
To learn more, email info@hartshornarboretum.org, or visit: https://hartshornarboretum.org/support/volunteering/
SOUTH ORANGE LOCAL IS MAKING A DIFFERENCE THE RESCUE SQUAD
BY JACKIE SCHATELL
FFor over 30 years, Dan Cohen of South Orange has served his community as a volunteer with the South Orange Rescue Squad. What started in high school evolved into a lifelong commitment to Emergency Medical Services (EMS).
“I started volunteering in 1991 as a cadet at Columbia High School,” Cohen recalls. “Three decades later, I’m still here because it’s incredibly rewarding to help people in their most vulnerable moments.”
Unlike police and fire departments, the South Orange Rescue Squad is entirely volunteer-run and receives no taxpayer funding. Instead, it relies on donations and fundraising to operate. The squad responds to over 2,300 calls annually, providing basic life support (BLS) for South Orange and Maplewood while serving as a backup for Newark, Irvington, and Orange.
A LIFELINE FOR THE COMMUNITY
The squad has about 70 active members and runs a cadet program for Columbia High School students. Each year, seven cadets train alongside experienced EMTs. Cohen, who oversees the program, says it introduces young people to EMS and community service.
“We tell our cadets that while some calls may seem routine to us, they can be the scariest or worst day of a patient’s life,” Cohen explains. “It’s incredibly rewarding to be that calming presence.”
RAISING FUNDS FOR LIFE-SAVING EQUIPMENT
Without government funding, the squad must raise money for ambulances and essential equipment. “We currently have three ambulances and one first responder vehicle,” Cohen says. “We need new Computer Aided Dispatch (CAD) systems, which cost about $8,000 each, to receive real-time 911 call information and GPS tracking.”
Another priority is acquiring additional LUCAS devices, which provide automated chest compressions during CPR. “Right now, we have one LUCAS device, but our goal is to equip all three ambulances,” Cohen explains. “Each unit costs around $20,000.”
THE 5K FUNDRAISER: A COMMUNITY EFFORT
To support operations, the squad hosts an annual 5K run/walk. This year’s event is set for May 4 and includes a community open house where residents can tour the facility, meet volunteers, and learn about EMS services.
“We turn it into a fun, family-friendly event,” Cohen says. “We have a crepe and waffle truck, a face painter, and crafts for kids.”
Last year’s event drew 250 runners, and the squad hopes to surpass 300 this year and raise at least $25,000. “All proceeds go directly toward keeping our squad operational,” Cohen emphasizes. “We also welcome sponsorships from businesses that want to support local EMS.”
A CALL FOR SUPPORT
Unlike fire and police services, EMS is not classified as an essential service in NJ, meaning municipalities are not required to fund them. “We don’t bill for our services, so fundraising is our only way to stay operational,” Cohen says. “A new ambulance alone costs over $300,000 before adding medical equipment.”
Through fundraising efforts like the 5K and community support, Cohen says the squad will continue its vital work. “We’re always there when someone calls 911—but we need the community’s help to keep showing up.”
For more information on the 5K, visit: tinyurl.com/SORS5K.
To support the squad, visit: southorangerescuesquad.org.
1st Row: Charlotte Fitzsimmons, Chief Victor Rothstein, Captain Dan Cohen, and Sally Barksdale. 2nd Row: Josie Busch-Vogel, Julia Cohen, Haley Kampner, Ben Morganstein, and Julia Feinberg.
3rd Row: Augustus Valente, Cole Fitzsimmons, Lea Bachenheimer, Estelle Svenson, Daniella Skeoch, Simone Kelly, Caroline Kang, Lena Cakulev, Crystal Robert-Ubaechu, Elsa Paul, Mike Barnett, and Captain Sean Cass.
4th row: Gerard Pierresaint, Barry Bachenheimer, Mun Ahmed, Khaliq Ahmed, and Jeff Hark.
South Orange Rescue Squad responds to a recent fire in Newark where they deployed their rehab trailer and tent. (L-R): Kasmira Lancaster, Captain Sean Cass, Chief Victor Rothstein, Saxby Whipple, Crystal Robert-Ubaechu, Julia Cohen, Mitchell Pressel, and Captain Dan Cohen.
BRIDGING COMMUNITIES THROUGH BOOKS:
A LOCAL EFFORT TO SHARE THE LOVE OF READING
BY JACKIE SCHATELL
AAnne Quinn of South Orange has built something extraordinary—out of her home, her garage, and the trunks of countless donors’ cars. With the help of several dedicated volunteers, she runs a small but powerful book pantry dedicated to getting books into the hands of children who need them most across Essex County.
Essex Book Pantry has been changing lives for seven years. The pantry collects donated books, primarily from families in South Orange, Maplewood, Millburn, and Short Hills, and distributes them at food pantries and community events in lowerincome areas such as Newark, Orange, and Irvington.
Among the program’s biggest supporters are SwimQuest-Millburn and owner Kenny Gantman, which have played a
crucial role in sustaining the effort. “Kenny’s swim school families donate hundreds of books every month,” Anne says. “That consistent supply allows us to serve more sites and reach more children.” In addition to SwimQuest, books come from individual donations, book drives—often organized as part of Bar/Bat Mitzvah projects—and families simply looking to share their children’s favorite books.
Anne stepped in. What began as a way to find a new home for those books quickly evolved into a full-fledged initiative.
Today, the book pantry operates as a conduit between communities— connecting book-rich areas like Millburn and Short Hills with families in Newark and Irvington, where books can be scarce. “It’s the opposite of what you’d see in my house, where bookcases are just a normal part of the living room,” Anne explains. “In many of the homes we serve, books aren’t readily available.”
Anne’s journey into this work started through her volunteerism and grant-writing experience. Years ago, she helped expand access to the Girls on the Run program for lower-income girls, which deepened her understanding of community needs. Then, through a chance connection, she met a retired social worker—affectionately known as the “Book Lady”—who collected books for children in Orange schools. When the Book Lady moved out of state,
The research is clear—kids who grow up with books in their homes have better literacy outcomes. She says, “Early literacy is key to breaking cycles of poverty. And providing books is one of the easiest, most costeffective ways to make a difference.”
Anne’s efforts reach a variety of locations, including OLS Food Pantry in South Orange, Interfaith Food Pantry of the Oranges, a preschool in Irvington, and a baby pantry at West Side High School in Newark. Most of the sites are affiliated with MEND-NJ, a nonprofit addressing food insecurity in Essex County.
Anne’s book pantry is a grassroots effort, and it thrives on community involvement.
“I encourage people to reach out to see what our current needs are,” she says.
“There are some categories of books we go through quickly, like board books and early readers, while books for older kids move more slowly.”
To learn more about how to support the pantry, contact Anne at essexbookpantry@gmail.com.
Anne Quinn gets ready to distribute books.
Anne Quinn delivers books in a carline.
South Orange Downtown Food Stroll Returns for a Flavorful Afternoon
TThe South Orange Downtown Food Stroll is back for another year of delicious discoveries, inviting attendees to explore the best flavors from local restaurants and unique finds from downtown retailers. This beloved community event will bring an afternoon of food, shopping, and fun to the heart of South Orange.
Throughout the event, participating restaurants will offer tasting stations inside or outside their locations, providing exclusive samples for wristband holders. Retailers will also join the festivities, some offering sweet treats and others featuring special shopping deals available only to attendees with wristbands.
While wristbands grant access to food tastings and promotions, alcoholic beverages are not included but will be available for separate purchase at select locations.
Wristbands for the event are required and are available for purchase in advance or on-site while supplies last. Each year, wristbands sell out quickly, so attendees are encouraged to buy theirs early.
Don’t miss the chance to taste your way through South Orange while supporting the incredible local businesses that make the downtown district so special.
Sunday, April 27, 12-4pm Downtown South Orange Pick up wristband: Spiotta Park, 20-32 Village Plaza, starting at 11pm on the day of the event. For details and reserve wristband visit: southorangedowntown.org/food-stroll-2025
GFriday, April 25, 6pm - Saturday, April 26, 9am Cora Hartshorn Arboretum & Bird Sanctuary 324 Forest Dr. S, Short Hills Registration required: bit.ly/3FEu9Cv LOCAL
SPEND A NIGHT UNDER THE STARS AT CORA HARTSHORN ARBORETUM
Get outside before the summer rush and experience an unforgettable night in the forests of Cora Hartshorn Arboretum (CHA). Families are invited to pitch their tents and enjoy a funfilled evening packed with games, crafts, animal presentations, a home-cooked meal, and a guided night hike. Wake up to the sounds of nature and enjoy a peaceful morning surrounded by the beauty of the arboretum. Enjoy a cozy night in nature and make unforgettable family memories! Don’t forget to bring a tent, sleeping bags, flashlights or lanterns, comfortable outdoor clothing, and an adventurous spirit.
LOCAL BUZZ
TThis live concert performance presents works by two composers who were born in different countries and centuries, and wrote these symphonies at opposite ends of their careers. Nevertheless, they share similar journeys as they create these selected symphonies, a mature Haydn in his final London Symphony No. 104, and 19-year-old child prodigy Richard Strauss with his Symphony No. 2 in f minor.
Saturday, April 5, 7:30pm Heritage Middle School 20 Foxcroft Drive, Livingston Tickets available online or at the door. 973-9801809 / www.lsonj.org
Choose from many styles of fire pit dining & chat groups AND individual gas or woodburning fire pits… Pelican’s can’t-be-beat prices make it easy to turn your backyard into a personal paradise… day or night, all year long! CUSTOM ORDERS OUR SPECIALTY! Wicker, Cast, Resin, Wood, More! Replacement Cushions Umbrellas • Spas Gas & Wood Fire Pits
DON’T MISS HABIBI FEST NJ!
SSouth Orange and Maplewood will be home to vibrant cultural celebrations this spring, highlighting the traditions, food, and arts of diverse communities. Hosted by SOMA Cross-Cultural Works, Arab American Heritage Month will be celebrated in April as part of the organization’s ongoing mission to bring diverse cultural experiences to the community. Organizers encourage residents to attend, participate, and celebrate the multicultural richness of the area.
The Arab American Heritage Month Habibi Fest NJ will feature music, dance, food, and vendors showcasing the rich traditions from Arab countries. Enjoy performances including Moroccan, Egyptian, and Lebanese dance, along with a DJ, belly dancing, and authentic cuisine.
LOCAL BUZZ
Last year’s festival saw thousands of attendees at this family-friendly event with activities for all ages, and organizers expect a similar turnout this year.
Sunday, April 27, 11am
The Woodland, Maplewood 60 Woodland Road, Maplewood somaccw.org
EASTER EGG HUNT for Neurodivergent Children
TThis month, in celebration of Neurodiversity Month, the South Mountain YMCA is introducing a brand-new event: a sensory-friendly Easter Egg Hunt designed for children on the autism spectrum and those with sensory sensitivities.
The event will feature a calm and welcoming environment, with designated areas that allow children to participate at their own pace. The goal is to provide an enjoyable and stress-free experience for all families while fostering inclusion and community engagement. To add to the fun, families can also take their own DIY Easter Bunny photos in a relaxed setting.
“We want to ensure that every child can experience the joy of an Easter egg hunt in a way that suits their needs,” said James Goodger, Executive Director of the South Mountain YMCA. “This is an opportunity for families to connect and enjoy a special holiday tradition in a supportive setting.”
Sign-up is required, and space is super limited!
Sunday, April 13, 9:30am, and 11am
South Mountain YMCA 13 Jefferson Ave., Maplewood To register visit: smountainymca.org
BOOK SIGNING AND MEET AND GREET WITH KEENAN THOMPSON
WWhen I Was Your Age, by Keenan Thompson, is packed with hilarious yet poignant essays that aim to offer any reader valuable parenting advice, focus on positivity, and have fun in life. Kids, new parents, fellow fathers, budding comics, and aunties who want to pinch his cheeks can all learn from his biggest mistakes and most triumphant victories. There’s something for everybody here!
Kenan Thompson is Saturday Night Live’s longest-ever-serving cast member and a star of such pioneering sketches as “Black Jeopardy” and is hugely beloved thanks to a tidal wave of nostalgic fans who grew up on early 2000s classics “All That,” “Good Burger,” and “Kenan & Kel” on Nickelodeon. He’s also a dad (to two girls) in his mid-40s, living in suburbia. His universal, relatable, family-friendly humor has created unbelievable appeal and engagement from fans from middle America to coastal elites. Becoming a dad sucked the cool right out of him —and he’s OK with that! Tickets are required and can be purchased at the bookstores’ website.
Friday, April 14, 6-8pm
Chapter One Bookstore & More 84 E. Main Street, Mendham 973-224-7858 / chapterbookstores.com
E78th Annual BANNJ Golf Tournament
Enjoy a day at this exclusive new venue, in memory of Don DiNovi, and tee-up new business while enjoying a day on the course at this beautiful, private club. Includes a full day at golf, driving range, brunch, golf card, beer cart/snacks, lunch on the course, premium cocktail reception, dinner, and gifts.
Fantastic sponsorship specialty packages and options for all price points to market your company to the Northern NJ building community are available. Not a golfer? Join the event for fantastic networking at the cocktail reception and dinner following the outing.
Corporate sponsors include: Renos Appliance, Ferguson, Anderson Windows/Doors, Builders FirstSource, James Hardie, Wolf/Sub-Zero/Cove, and SportsProsUSA.Rain or Shine event. No refunds after April 25th.
Monday, May 12, 10:30am-7:30pm Edgewood Country Club, 449 Rivervale Road, River Vale To register or sponsor visit: members.bannj.org/events or call 201-843-6868
Planning for a MEANINGFUL RETIREMENT
BY JACKIE SCHATELL, PHOTO BY DAN EPSTEIN
PPlanning for retirement isn’t just about reaching a certain age—it’s about ensuring financial security, understanding healthcare costs, and making informed decisions about Social Security, Medicare, and estate planning. We spoke with Patrick J. McCahill, Jr., CFP®, of Egan Wealth Advisors, a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® professional, with over a decade of experience, to discuss what individuals should consider when preparing for a meaningful retirement.
Q: What are the key factors people should consider when planning for retirement?
A: The first thing to ask yourself is whether you’re emotionally prepared to retire. Beyond that, a solid retirement income plan is essential. You’ll want to know where your distributions and income will come from—whether it’s through Social Security, pensions, dividends, or annuities. Understanding healthcare costs, especially Medicare planning at age 65, is also crucial. Many people assume their income stops when they retire, but with proper planning, you can create a steady income stream.
Q: When is the right time to start working with a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® professional?
A: There’s no single "right" time. Some clients come to us as they approach retirement, while others start decades earlier. The sooner you begin, the more flexibility you have to build a plan that suits your goals. Working with a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® professional ensures you address investments, estate planning, Social Security, and tax strategies holistically.
Q: What advice do you have for those thinking about retirement?
A: Retirement planning is not just about numbers— it’s about creating a lifestyle you’re comfortable with. Having a trusted advisor to guide you through the process can make all the difference.
Egan Wealth Advisors
Patrick J. McCahill, Jr., CFP®
Seven Giralda Farms, Suite 125, Madison 973-261-6567
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Patrick J. McCahill, Jr., CFP®
A BEAUTIFUL PLACE TO PERCH
EXPERIENCE A UNIQUE PLACE TO SHOP, EAT, AND CELEBRATE
BY SUE BALDANI, PHOTOS BY DAN EPSTEIN
Chef Carter, Sandra Kosik, Michele Bessey, and Mackenzie Troncone
IIn 2006, Michele Bessey used her creativity to turn a small space in a Maplewood building into a showcase for unique gifts. “A store didn’t even exist in that building,” she says. “It was just apartments, but I had seen the possibility there. I called it Perch Home because it was perched up on the corner.”
She loved being a part of the community and developing relationships with her customers. But, in 2023, she unexpectedly lost her lease. “I thought I could either retire or I could create the best version that I ever imagined for my store.”
Michele chose the latter, and took over the space of a former Indian restaurant that was right across the street. It was just a big, empty, dark black box, but it was the only place in town that had an outdoor patio area. Michele’s mind churned with possibilities. Six months later, the new and improved Perch Home opened its doors.
“We installed a big window so all this light came in and expanded the upstairs to accommodate our corporate gifting offices,” she says. “It was a labor of love.”
In addition to curated gifts, this space allowed her to offer so much more. “My big thing is experiential retail,” she says. “I want to make customers feel like you do when you’re on vacation and you discover that cool shop.”
Manager, Mackenzie Troncone, ensures seamless day-to-day operations across Perch Home’s retail, cafe, and event offerings.
Photo credit: Brian Tisza
She added a café where everything is made by an in-house chef. Brunch is served Wednesday through Sunday, and menu items includes a Peaches and Cream Parfait, Farmer’s Omelet, Chicken Salad Croissant, and Café Crème Pancakes. For lunch, customers can enjoy a fresh salad with Buttermilk Biscuits slathered with house-made jams and honey butter. Children love the French Toast Sticks and Animal Toast.
The coffer bar is also a huge hit. “We serve Kobrick coffee which is roasted in Jersey City. We try to incorporate some of the things we sell in the kitchen area into our
food, like the olive oil and honey, plus tea and coffee.” There’s also cocktails and walk-up gelato available.
On that once empty patio now sits a lovely garden area. A vintage camper bar is available to serve non-alcoholic drinks, and private parties can be held there, or in the café or upstairs flex space.
“It’s so great because now I can celebrate with my customers all the way through,” says Michele. “They can come in, buy a baby gift, and also have their baby shower with us.” Perch Home is known for beautiful gift wrapping too.
Chef Carter creates daily in-house baked goods, seasonal menus, and custom catering for private events.
There’s also now plenty of room for her corporate gifting business, which is geared towards supporting other small, local businesses. “Our whole thing is meaningful gift giving,” she says. “If we get an order for 5,000 gift boxes, ordering one item from one vendor can change that business dramatically. We include the vendor’s story in the box as well.”
Michele and her assistant manager, Mackenzie Troncone, choose each item in the store with care. “The two of us have a rule that if we both don’t say yes, we don’t get it. It has to be ‘perchy.’”
They are definitely doing everything right. Perch Home has won the 2024 Retailer Excellence Award (REA) for best store redesign and the 2025 Global Innovation Award (GIA) representing the U.S. at the Inspired Home Show. “It was amazing to be recognized by others in the industry,” she says. “It made me feel good.”
Sandra Kosik curates the corporate gifting program, offering ready-to-ship, fully custom and branded gifts solutions.
Michele Bessey with the REA and GIA awards.
INTERIOR & EXTERIOR
Hardscaping • Carpentry • Millwork
INTERIOR & EXTERIOR
Bathroom & Kitchen Renovations
Hardscaping • Carpentry
Floor Installation & Refinishing
Millwork
Bathroom & Kitchen Renovations
Gutter Installation • Masonry
Floor Installation & Refinishing
Roofing • Painting • Additions
Gutter Installation • Masonry
Basement Renovations
Roofing • Painting • Additions
Basement Renovations
ATTRACTING BACKYARD BIRDS with the Right Seed
BBirdwatching in your backyard can be a rewarding and entertaining hobby. One of the most effective ways to attract a variety of birds is by offering the right seeds. Different species of birds have different dietary preferences, so understanding what types of seeds to use can turn your garden into a vibrant avian hotspot.
Birds are generally attracted to seeds that are high in energy and provide essential nutrients. Here are some common seed types and the birds they attract:
Sunflower Seeds: Black oil sunflower seeds are among the most popular seeds for attracting birds. Their high oil content offers a great energy source. You can expect to see species like chickadees, cardinals, finches, and jays flocking to your feeders.
Safflower Seeds: These seeds are favored by cardinals and some finch species. Unlike sunflower seeds, safflower seeds are less appealing to some of the more common backyard pests, such as squirrels.
Nyjer Seeds (Thistle): Nyjer seeds are tiny but packed with fat and protein, making them a favorite among goldfinches, pine siskins, and doves. Use a special nyjer feeder to keep the small seeds contained.
Millet: White proso millet is often loved by ground-feeding birds such as juncos, sparrows, and doves. Mixing this with other seeds can attract a wider range of species seeking food on the ground.
Peanuts: Whether in-shell or shelled, peanuts attract a variety of birds, including woodpeckers, jays, and nuthatches. Be sure to offer unsalted peanuts to ensure their health.
So fill your feeders, enjoy the sights and sounds of nature, and don’t forget to keep your eyes peeled for new feathered visitors. Happy birdwatching!
The Benefits of Pocket Doors
When it comes to optimizing space and enhancing aesthetics, pocket doors offer practicality and sophistication that can’t be ignored. These innovative doors slide into the wall instead of swinging open, providing numerous advantages.
One significant benefit is their ability to save space. Traditional hinged doors require clearance to swing open, which can be limiting in smaller rooms. Pocket doors maximize available square footage, especially in cramped areas like bathrooms and closets.
Available in various styles, materials, and finishes, pocket doors can complement any home decor. Whether you prefer a modern glass slider or a rustic wooden door, they enhance the visual appeal of any room. They can create unique entryways or separate spaces without the bulk of traditional doors.
Pocket doors slide open seamlessly, facilitating movement between rooms, especially in high-traffic areas. They can also create fluidity between indoor and outdoor spaces, making gatherings more enjoyable.
While serving as room dividers, pocket doors offer privacy without sacrificing style. When closed, they effectively block noise and visual distractions, providing a haven for relaxation or focused work. They are an excellent option for home offices or guest rooms where privacy is essential.
Lastly, pocket doors can significantly enhance comfort and independence for those who rely on mobility aids, ensuring everyone can move freely throughout the home.
BLENDING MODERN
FUNCTIONALITY
WITH
HISTORICAL
CHARM A KITCHEN THAT INVITES PEOPLE TO GATHER
BY SUE BALDANI, PHOTOS COURTESY OF ROBINWOOD KITCHENS
RRobinwood Kitchens focuses on the heart of every home. One recent project involved a traditional colonial in Florham Park. Originally built in 1729, it has been updated and added on to many times over the years.
“The homeowner’s goal was to design a kitchen that seamlessly blended modern functionality with the historical charm of the home,” says lead designer, Rebecca Mahoney. “Their goal was to preserve and highlight original architectural details—such as exposed beams, moldings, and period-appropriate materials— while incorporating updated appliances and conveniences that complemented the home’s era.”
The kitchen is now their favorite place in the house!
This kitchen features a harmonious blend of rustic charm and modern sophistication. This space boasts warm wood tones, brass accents, and a professional-grade range, creating a perfect blend of function and style.
Custom details such as a built-in towel paper holder keep the space neat and tidy.
Built in appliances integrate seamlessly into the architecture of the space.
ROBINWOOD KITCHENS TO PARTICIPATE IN MANSION IN MAY 2025
In collaboration with Sonja Gamgort Designs, Robinwood Kitchens will remodel the butler’s pantry in this year’s Mansion in May in Chester. Similar to this featured project, the goal is to highlight some of the home’s original character while blending new and modern details.
“It’s our first designer showhouse experience, so we’re excited to showcase our talents and style,” says Rebecca. “The group of designers selected for the Mansion in May is very accomplished and skilled, and we’re honored to be a part of this special community.” 560 Springfield Ave. Berkeley Heights, NJ 07922
908-665-5900
RobinwoodKitchens.com
The perfect space to easily access your favorite beverage and store all small appliances.
A color drenched walk in pantry provides extra counter space and storage.
Custom cabinetry was utilized to accommodate the homeowner’s needs such as a produce drawer.
AWAITS
BY NATHALIE MASSE
WWildfair in Chester Township, a breathtaking Designer Showhouse and Gardens, will open to visitors on May 1. This year’s Mansion in May promises to be one of New Jersey’s most captivating spring outings, offering
a rare glimpse into an historic estate transformed by some of the areas most talented interior and landscape designers. As the signature fundraising event of the Women’s Association for Morristown Medical Center (WAMMC), Mansion in May supports vital health care initiatives while providing a one-of-akind experience for design lovers, history buffs, and nature enthusiasts alike. This year’s Mansion in May proudly supports the new Proton Therapy Center in the Carol G. Simon Cancer Center at Morristown Medical Center.
Spanning over 220 years
of history, Wildfair began as a working farm before evolving into the exquisite country retreat it is today. Originally home to a gristmill, sawmill, and millstone workshop, the property was transformed in 1934 by Elizabeth and Harry Bowly Hollins III, who worked with the renowned Philadelphia architectural firm Willing, Sims & Talbutt to create a masterpiece of Colonial design. In the mid-1990s, a subsequent owner of the property retained architect Hiland Hall Turner and Eberle Builders, Inc. to design and construct extensive additions and alterations to the house, creating the beautiful, rambling country estate we see today. The estate’s stately fieldstone construction, small-pane casement windows, and French doors offer an intimate glimpse into a bygone era, while
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the surrounding gardens provide a peaceful retreat with stunning pond views.
Months of dedicated work by top interior and landscape designers have brought Wildfair to life in new and unexpected ways. Visitors will wander through meticulously designed rooms, each reflecting a unique vision and showcasing the latest trends in home décor. Outdoors, expertly curated gardens provide a tranquil escape, blending history with innovation in landscape design. Whether you’re inspired by bold
interior transformations or enchanted by the serenity of lush greenery, Wildfair is a feast for the senses.
To enhance the experience, guests will be able to enjoy lunch at the charming on-site café and browse an array of boutique shops located on the estate. Gather friends and family for an unforgettable visit before Wildfair closes its doors to the public on May 31. Don’t miss this extraordinary opportunity to explore a hidden gem of New Jersey’s architectural past while supporting a worthy cause.
Plan your visit today, purchase tickets at www.mansioninmay.org and experience Mansion in May 2025 before it’s gone. Private tours are also available for those seeking a more intimate look at Wildfair’s transformation.
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S Summer Camp Builds Self-Esteem in
Kids and Teens
Summer camp isn’t just about canoe rides, campfires, and s’mores—though those are definitely perks. It’s also a powerful environment for building self-esteem in children and teens. Away from the pressures of school, social media, and everyday routines, camp offers a fresh setting where kids can grow into more confident, independent versions of themselves. At camp, kids are gently nudged to try new things—whether it’s climbing a rock wall, learning archery, or performing in a talent show. These experiences are designed to challenge them in a supportive environment. Every time a child pushes past their fears and succeeds (or even just tries), it reinforces the belief: “I can do hard things.”
Being away from home encourages kids to manage their own schedules, belongings, and personal hygiene. It might seem minor, but these little responsibilities add up. When a child realizes they can navigate daily life on their own, they gain a strong sense of independence, which is key to selfesteem. Without the constant distraction (and comparison) of social media, kids have the chance to reconnect with themselves and others in a real, grounded way. This
disconnection from digital pressure often allows selfesteem to flourish naturally, rooted in real experiences and real feedback.
Camp friendships are often built on shared experiences, teamwork, and authenticity. Kids meet others from different backgrounds, learn to collaborate, and often form bonds that boost their social confidence. In a community where individuality is celebrated, campers feel seen and valued for who they are—not just for how they perform.
Camp counselors often act as mentors, offering encouragement, guidance, and emotional support. They model healthy self-esteem and provide affirmation in moments of doubt. For many campers, having a trusted adult outside of their family believe in them can be lifechanging.
Summer camp is more than just fun—it’s a meaningful journey of self-discovery and growth. Through adventure, connection, and new experiences, campers return home with more than just memories; they come back with a stronger sense of self-worth and the confidence to face life’s challenges.
There’s no better place to explore the performing arts this summer than NJPAC! Connect with accomplished faculty and other young artists of all ages in a variety of programming.
Scan the QR Code or visit njpac.org/education to learn more.
Or email artseducation@njpac.org to inquire about registration and pricing.
Harness the Power of WALKING Benefits of Being Physically Active
AA walk isn’t just good for your body; it’s a simple, powerful way to care for your mind and soul. Physical activity, like walking, reduces stress, boosts mood and promotes overall well-being. Yet physical activity levels in the United States continue to decline, a trend threatening both mental and physical health.
Less than half of adults and fewer than 1 in 5 children in the U.S. get the recommended amount of physical activity needed for heart health, according to the American Heart Association’s 2025 Heart & Stroke Statistical Update.
National recommendations call for children to get at least one hour of physical activity each day, but the latest statistics show less than 19% of children in the U.S. achieve that target. Meanwhile, less than half of adults get the recommended 150 minutes or more of weekly physical activity.
What’s more, according to data from a National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, 1 in 4 U.S. adults sits for longer
than eight hours each day, which can have negative consequences on physical and mental health.
For decades, the American Heart Association has championed the importance of physical activity in communities across the country through events like National Walking Day on Wednesday, April 2. These tips and information can help you understand how a brisk walk can make a world of difference for heart health and mental clarity.
Benefits of Physical Activity
Staying active is one of the best ways to keep your mind and body healthy.
The physical health benefits may be obvious, but research suggests physical activity can also help bring more joy to your life. According to the 2019 Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans, people who get the recommended amount of physical activity are less likely to experience depression.
Regular physical activity enhances your mood, sharpens your mind, improves sleep and boosts overall well-being, all while reducing the risk of disease and depression and increasing both the quality and longevity of life.
How to Be More Physically Active
Exercise as simple as a brisk walk can put a major spring in your step. It can even energize you to finish other tasks at hand, whether it’s cooking or running errands. Give your daily physical activity level a boost with these tips:
• Exercising outdoors is a great way to get moving. Spending time outdoors has been shown to reduce stress, promote a sense of belonging and improve mood. It’s even better if you can enjoy the sunshine outside, which can improve mood, boost your immunity and help you get some vitamin D.
• Invite a family member or friend along with you. It’s good for them, it’s good for you and it’s good company all around.
• Instead of wondering if you’ll move today, explore how you’ll move. A walk, a dance or a stretch all count.
Getting Pets Involved
Pets are part of your family, and they can help you get healthy together. Pets provide a fun reason to spend more time outside and get the exercise needed to reduce the risk of disease later in life.
Getting moving along with your pet adds more exercise to your routine, which means living longer, reducing risk of dying from heart attack or stroke, reducing risk of diabetes, reducing stress and even boosting your overall happiness and wellbeing.
Exercising with your pet can also mean enjoying more socializing. You may find yourself meeting other dog owners in your area on a walk or at the dog park.
Learn more about how simple habits like walking can support your overall health at heart.org/MoveMore.
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Source: American Heart Association
GREEN POINT JUICERY
As Green Point Juicery moves into 2025, General Manager, Natalie Lowry, is focused on strengthening community connections and expanding the offerings within the business. With locations in Verona and Morristown, the café is known for its fresh cold-pressed juices, smoothies, and vegan, gluten-free, kosher offerings.
While many customers come for healthful options, Lowry has noticed a shift—more people are turning to Green Point not just for a nutritious meal, but to make lasting lifestyle changes. And she welcomes it. “It doesn’t have to be all or nothing,” she says. “Just making one healthy choice when you can is a great start.”
What sets Green Point apart? “We make eating healthy easy and enjoyable,” Lowry says. From acai bowls to avocado toast, the menu blends nourishment with flavor, proving that healthy choices never have to compromise on taste.
Green Point Juicery
28 Speedwell Avenue, Morristown | 532 Bloomfield Ave, Verona 973-500-3044 | https://www.greenpointjuicery.com
SOUTH ORANGE RESCUE SQUAD SOUND THE SIREN 5K RUN/WALK & EMS OPEN HOUSE
TThe South Orange Rescue Squad is thrilled to bring back its USATF Certified “Sound the Siren” 5k Run / Walk & EMS Open House. This family-friendly event not only promotes health and wellness but also provides a unique opportunity to learn more about local Emergency Medical Services.
Participants will start and finish in front of the South Orange Rescue Squad headquarters at 62 Sloan Street in South Orange. After crossing the finish line, both kids and adults can tour the ambulances, equipment, and headquarters while meeting the dedicated volunteers who provide life-saving services to South Orange and Maplewood. Free food and beverages will be available for all attendees.
All proceeds from the event directly support the South Orange Rescue Squad, a 100% volunteer-run, 501(c)(3) charitable organization that provides free emergency medical services to the residents of South Orange, Maplewood, and surrounding communities. The squad receives no taxpayer funding, never charges a fee for services, and is sustained solely by community contributions.
Join the community in this meaningful event that combines fitness, fun, and an inside look at the incredible work of local EMS volunteers.
Sunday, May 4, 9am
South Orange Rescue Squad headquarters 62 Sloan Street, South Orange For more information and to register visit: southorangerescuesquad.org/5k-event
S Celebrate Earth Day
Saturday, April 22 marks the 55th annual Earth Day Celebration. The themes change year, with 2025 being, “Our Power, Our Planet.” There are many fun and educational projects you can do with your family to celebrate Earth Day! Here are a few ideas:
Plant a garden
Planting a garden with your family is a great way to celebrate Earth Day and teach children about the importance of plants and the environment. You can plant a vegetable garden or a flower garden and involve your children in the planning and planting process.
Clean up a local park
Gather your family and some friends and organize a park cleanup. This is a great way to give back to your community and help protect the environment. You can pick up litter, plant flowers, and make the park a more beautiful and enjoyable place for everyone to enjoy.
Create a compost bin
Composting is a great way to reduce waste and create nutrient-rich soil for your garden. You can create a compost bin with your family using a few simple materials, such as a plastic bin, leaves, and food scraps.
Make a birdhouse
Building a birdhouse with your family is a fun and educational activity that can help attract birds to your yard. You can use simple materials, such as wood and nails, and paint the birdhouse to make it your own.
Start a recycling program
Starting a recycling program with your family is a great way to reduce waste and protect the environment. You can start by setting up recycling bins in your home and educating your children about what can and cannot be recycled.
Earth Day, April 22, is a great opportunity to spend time with your family, teach your children about the environment, and make a positive impact on the world.
UNLOCK RADIANT SKIN:
Getting a good night’s sleep is not just a luxury; it’s a fundamental aspect of maintaining vibrant, healthy skin. While you rest, your body works hard to repair and renew skin cells. This natural renewal process helps heal and rejuvenate your skin, giving you a youthful glow.
Quality sleep boosts circulation, ensuring that essential nutrients and oxygen reach your skin. This results in a radiant complexion that reflects your inner health. A well-rested body is better equipped to combat inflammation. This means fewer breakouts and redness, leading to clearer and calmer skin. Sleep also plays a crucial role in regulating hormones like cortisol, the stress hormone known to wreak havoc on your skin. Lower cortisol levels lead to reduced oil production and fewer issues like acne.
Adequate sleep allows your body to maintain hydration more effectively, preventing that dry, lackluster appearance and promoting a plump, nourished complexion. A restorative night’s sleep reduces dark circles and puffiness under your eyes, leaving you looking refreshed and alert. Sleep strengthens your skin’s protective barrier, making it more resilient against environmental stressors and pollution, ensuring long-term skin health.
Prioritizing sleep lowers stress levels, which can lead to fewer stress-related skin issues and an overall improvement in your skin’s appearance. By embracing healthy sleep habits, you can unlock the secret to glowing, youthful skin and enhance your overall wellbeing.
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BERKELEY HEIGHTS
Nagoya Sushi & Tiki Lounge
538 Springfield Ave, Berkeley Heights 908-898-1188 | www.nagoyasushiandbar.com
Japanese restaurant featuring a wide selection of sushi, rolls, and other Japanese favorites.
Proud Thai Cookery
645 Springfield Ave, Berkeley Heights 908-665-0055 | www.proudthainj.com
Authentic Thai cuisine
Trap Rock Restaurant & Brewery
279 Springfield Ave, Berkeley Heights 908-665-1755 | www.traprockrestaurant.net
A microbrewery offering seasonal craft brews & a delicate menu that accentuates a southern flare.
CHATHAM
Charley’s Aunt Restaurant
8-10 S Passaic Ave, Chatham | 973-635-6772 www.charleysauntchatham.com
Traditional American cuisine.
Gregorio’s Mediterranean Restaurant
255A Main Street, Chatham | 973-635-2777 www.restaurantgregorios.com
Italian Mediterranean cuisine bursting with flavor.
Mitsuba Japanese Cuisine
237 Main St, Chatham | 973-635-3888 www.MitsubaChatham.com
Traditional Japanese specialties and cuisine
Scalini Fedeli
63 Main Street, Chatham | 973-701-9200 www.scalinifedeli.com
French-influenced Italian fixed-price menus in an elegant, vaulted interior with Tuscan touches.
Restaurant Serenade
6 Roosevelt Avenue, Chatham, NJ 07928 973-701-0303 | www.restaurantserenade.com
Artful dining, as conceived by award-winning Chef James Laird. A showcase of the finest hand-selected seasonal and regional ingredients in simple, refined presentations by Chef Laird.
GILLETTE
Vintage Tavern
342 Valley Rd, Gillette | 908-580-1100 www.VintageTavern.com
New American tavern with pub-grub standards, including burgers, thin-crust pizzas and more. Your go-to spot for sports, live entertainment, trivia, bingo, private parties & much more!
LIVINGSTON
Assado Portuguese Steakhouse 222 N Livingston Avenue, Livingston 973-422-0501 | www.assadonj.com
Their rustic yet modern decor provides the perfect setting for a Portuguese steakhouse experience. Assado is a BYOB welcoming our patrons to pair their desired wine with our traditional dishes. They also offer online ordering so you can enjoy our food from anywhere.
Boccone
471 W Mt Pleasant Ave, Livingston, 973-378-9222 | www.bocconeristorante.com
Southern Mediterranean Italian Cuisine
Lithos Estiatorio
405 Eisenhower Parkway, Livingston 973-758-1111 | lithosgreek.com
Greek Cuisine
Mezza Mediterranean
277 Eisenhower Pkwy, Livingston 973-992-9300 | www.mezzalivingston.com
At Mezza Mediterranean, patrons will find a fusion of Old-World tradition and New World innovation to the palate.
Pizzeta Enoteca
62 W Mount Pleasant Ave, Livingston 973-740-2264 | www.pizzetausa.com
Pizzeta Italian Kitchen & Bar serves classic Italian dishes, using only the finest ingredients. Online ordering available—Please pre-order on Fridays & Saturdays, to allow for better service.
Sweet Kneads
38 S. Livingston Avenue, Livingston 973-320-9030 / www.sweetkneadsnj.com
A Kosher certified boutique bakery.
MADISON
Bottle Hill Tavern 13 Waverly Place,, Madison | 973-949-6060
www.thebottlehilltavern.com
Tavern Fare—Comfort Flare
Grillera Mediterranean Cuisine 91 Park Ave, Madison | 973-301-2080
www.grillera.com
Distinguished Mediterranean Cuisine
MAPLEWOOD
Artie’s 15 Newark Way, Maplewood | 973-378-5800 www.artiesnj.com
Destination featuring a bread bakery, plus a wood-fired pizzeria, wine & cocktails.
Luna Stella 5 Highland Pl, Maplewood | 973-761-7600 www.restaurantlunastella.com
New American with an emphasis on creativity, fresh ingredients, and inventive cocktails.
Osteria LK
180 Maplewood Avenue, Maplewood 973-327-2871
Elevated Italian cuisine
MILLBURN
La Pergola
120 Essex Street, Millburn | 973-376-6838 www.lapergolanj.com
La Pergola has curated a delightful outdoor garden dining experience, as well as a signature indoor dining space. So, whether you prefer to dine surrounded by the lush, flower-filled beauty of nature, or in the candlelit elegance of our chic interior, we look forward to serving you the region’s best Northern Italian cuisine in style!
Liv Breads
184 Essex Street, Millburn 973-218-6922 | livbreads.com
Artisan bakery & coffee bar
Ms. Lin Chinese Cuisine
59 Main St, Millburn | 973-912-8838
www.MsLinMillburn.com
Ms. Lin Chinese provides convenient take-out and delivery for lunch and dinner and specializes in off-premise catering.
Umi Sushi
339 Millburn Ave, Millburn 973-921-2848
www.MillburnUmi.com
Traditional and Fusion sushi and sashimi. Also find teriyaki, tempura, udon and soba noodle dinners. Most fish is wild-caught. Free delivery.
NEW PROVIDENCE
Moe’s Bistro and Bar 535 Central Ave, New Providence 908-840-4540
moesbistrobar.com
Located inside the Best Western Plus & Murray Hill Hotel and Suites, Mediterranean flare.
Providence Bar & Kitchen 1288 Springfield Avenue Italian-inspired cuisine
SHORT HILLS
Boxcar Bar & Grill
25 Chatham Rd, Short Hills 973-912-0002
www.boxcarbar.com Bar fare
Par 440 Restaurant & Lounge 440 Parsonage Hill Road, Short Hills 973-467-8882
www.par440.com
A full service restaurant, bar & lounge located on the East Orange Golf Course in Short Hills. Offering bar bites, burgers and tasty entrees.
STIRLING
Trattoria Biagio 239 Main Avenue, Stirling 908-350-8064
Authentic Italian cuisine
Twelve Islands Greek Taverna 1255 Valley Rd, Stirling 908-647-2193
12islandsgreektaverna.com
Traditional Greek fare
SUMMIT
Due 36 50 Maple St, Summit 908-608-0222
Authentic Argentinian/Italian tapas restaurant
La Pastaria
327 Springfield Ave, Summit 908-522-9088
www.lapastaria.org
Italian cusine
Natale’s Summit Bakery
185 Broad St, Summit 908-277-2074
natalesbakery.bakesmart.com
Enjoy a selection of house made specialties including breads, pastries, pies and cakes. Daily specials. This family owned and operated bakery is serving up their delicious twist on bakery classics for over 80 years.
Roots Steakhouse
401 Springfield Ave, Summit 908-273-0027
rootssteakhouse.com/summit
Old-fashioned NY- style Steakhouse—expect delicious USDA aged prime beef sourced from the highest quality ranches in the mid-west.
Tonydoms
529 Morris Avenue, Summit 908-472-0187
www.tonydoms.com
Bone-in fried chicken, chicken tenders, sandwiches, biscuit sandwiches, wraps, bone-in fried chicken, fresh hand cut French fries, mac-n’ cheese, and handrolled biscuits.
Serra Restaurant
10 Bank Street, Summit 908-273-1713
www.serrasummit.com
Authentic Portuguese BBQ restaurant.
Summit House Restaurant + Bar
395 Springfield Ave, Summit 908-273-6000
www.summithousenj.com
An American restaurant and bar offering seasonal cuisine, craft cocktails, fresh local beers, and terroir-driven wines.
Pain/Pleasure Principle
BY BARRY FARBER
AAll humans have one thing in common. We are fundamentally guided by the “pain-pleasure principle,” which means we are motivated to seek out pleasure and avoid pain. This is understandable. Nobody goes around looking for painful experiences, right?
Well, maybe we should.
That’s not to say we need to go out and actively search for ways to experience pain. Pain happens to us all, whether it’s an actual physical injury, depression, loss, mental anguish, or needing to make a difficult choice. We need to learn to deal with pain when it inevitably appears in our lives.
I was having a conversation with my son when he brought up research. He found that the brain releases dopamine when one has pleasure from drugs or alcohol, but then the brain makes us pay for the pain with depression, withdrawals, and feeling miserable afterward. Then my son mentioned something interesting about the Seesaw Metaphor…
“If you indulge in pleasure first (like drugs, alcohol, etc.), dopamine is released, and you’re riding high on the seesaw, but there’s always the pain from withdrawal when your body then craves that dopamine chemical and you go low on the seesaw. Versus, you can experience “pain” first (working out, running, ice bath, reading, getting your mind to do something difficult), and you’ll be low on the seesaw, but then your brain/body
rewards you afterward with the release of dopamine.”
According to recent data, nearly 50% of Americans claim to actively try to eat healthier, with many citing healthy eating as a top priority; however, barriers like cost and time constraints often hinder their efforts, with a significant portion still consuming fast food regularly. So, what is painful about how we eat? It has to do with the choices we make, for instance, let’s say you’re deciding on what to have when you’re out for dinner. What choice would you feel better having:
• Fried chicken/T-bone steak with macaroni and cheese, ice cream, and cake for dessert? Or…
• Salad with broccoli, mushrooms, chickpeas, carrots, walnuts, lentil soup, and fruit for dessert?
Sure, that steak makes some people’s mouth water. Maybe you won’t have the same excitement if you choose the salad direction. Here’s the scenario. At first, it was painful mentally for me to go to a steakhouse with 20 people and order a cauliflower steak and salad for dinner. But guess what? Here are a few of the pleasures you experience after that painful decision.
You feel amazing that evening, the next day, and for the rest of your life because you made food your medicine, not the other way around.
Barry Farber
Believe it or not, after 30 or more days, your taste buds begin to change, and all the healthy foods start to taste better.
You fueling your body with healthier choices.
(By the way, it’s OK to enjoy cake and certain pleasures once in a while I’m not against that… I’m just citing an example).
Here’s another beneficial example. I have worked with various training methods in martial arts to increase strength and resiliency over the years. One is rolling on various surfaces like grass, sand, cement, and wood. Or weighted steel rings around your arms slamming into your muscle tissue and bones over time. At first, there is a little pain, but it goes away after a while.
But here’s the interesting phenomenon that took place. I recently had a bad fall from a flight of stairs with steel rings on my arm. The interesting part was that there were no bruises or pain from that fall. After that, I spoke with a cardiovascular surgeon who explained that all those minor hits over time create microscopic tears in your muscle fibers, and they become stronger and more resilient over time.
Most of us are afraid of pain because we don’t realize that there are many lessons to be learned from embracing pain for future pleasure.
BARRY FARBER is a best-selling author, an award-winning radio and television host as well as an agent and marketing consultant for corporations, professional athletes, and entertainers. He’s also the creator and marketer of the FoldzFlat® Pens. His latest release is an inspirational children’s book, “In search of the magic tree,” available at www.barryfarber.com. Tune into his new TV Show, Diamond Minds, now on Brinx.tv and follow him @barryfarberofficial.
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