Then I’d swim around in copious amounts of alcohol to numb how I was feeling and repeat the cycle over and over again. It was a destructive path that heightened my loneliness, and lack of self-compassion. Whether you’re single or in a relationship you get to prioritise selfcompassion. Take inventory of where you are being hard on yourself. There is a difference between constructive feedback and reflection, and selfdeprecation.
So notice this. Don’t confine your analysis to V-day. Spend the whole month on this. Each day, take note of every time you are criticising yourself. Bring awareness to your behaviour around this criticism. Do you go to the fridge and grab the ice cream after your verbal abuse? Do you text that reliable fallback guy for a booty call? What’s the pattern? Jot it down. Now it is crucial you don’t criticise yourself more if there is a pattern. This is the time for you to put a microscope on your self-talk. As if you were carrying an overflowing cup of tea so it doesn’t spill one precious drop. Be gentle with yourself, you are the tea. Look within. Ask, how can I be loving to myself right now?
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