Spencer Rouse, Anthony Tamalge, Jeannette Koczela, Christina Stäudle, Darrel Hammon, Mary Boutieller, Marnie Schneider, Sam Adeyemi, Stéphane Narcis, Jo Mooy
We all carry stories—beliefs we once accepted as truth—that may have helped us survive, belong, or stay safe. But over time, those same beliefs can quietly begin to hold us back from the fullness of who we are.
WHAT IS A LIMITING BELIEF?
It’s simply a thought that we’ve mistaken for a fact. It’s the quiet voice that says:
• “I’m not creative.”
• “People will judge me if I fail.”
• “All the good opportunities are already taken.”
These thoughts feel true. They hide beneath the surface of our daily choices, shaping how we show up in the world. Most often, they’re rooted in fear, self-doubt, or past pain—and they appear when we’re about to grow.
HOW THEY SHOW UP
Limiting beliefs are subtle but powerful. They may sound like logic or self-protection, but in truth, they’re walls built from old stories. Here are a few ways they tend to appear:
• Avoiding opportunities that might help us grow.
• Procrastinating—not from laziness, but from self-doubt.
• Falling into “should” thinking: I should be better… I should have known.
• Acting in ways that prove the very beliefs we wish weren’t true.
There’s an old story about a man who threw salt over his shoulder every morning. When asked why, he said, “To keep the elephants out of my backyard.”
“But there are no elephants in your backyard,” his friend replied.
“See?” he said. “It works!”
That’s the power of belief—it shapes our world, whether or not it’s based in truth.
WHERE LIMITING BELIEFS ORIGINATE
These beliefs don’t appear out of nowhere. They begin early—absorbed from family, culture, religion, or experiences before we had the wisdom to question them. Painful moments—like rejection, failure, or betrayal—often leave us with “rules” meant to protect us, such as, Don’t try again or, Don’t stand out.
Over time, repeating those thoughts carves deep grooves in our minds. They become automatic— what psychologists call Automatic Negative Thoughts patterns like:
• All-or-nothing thinking (“If I’m not perfect, I’ve failed.”)
• Catastrophizing (“This will never work.”)
• Overgeneralizing (“It always goes wrong for me.”)
• Harsh labeling (“I’m just not good enough.”) But automatic does not mean accurate.
HOW TO SPOT A LIMITING BELIEF
Start by noticing where you feel stuck, anxious, or small. Ask yourself:
• Where in my life do I feel afraid to take action?
• What story tells me I can’t have what I want?
Watch for phrases that begin with:
• “I can’t…”
• “I’m not…”
• “It’s impossible…”
• “They won’t…”
The moment you hear those words, pause. You’ve found a doorway to freedom.
THE POWER OF LANGUAGE
Language is a mirror of belief. One of the biggest culprits is the word “should.”
• “I should be further along.”
• “I should stop feeling anxious.”
• Each “should” adds pressure and guilt. Try replacing it with “choose” or “could.”
• “I could take one small step today.”
• “I choose to be gentle with myself.”
That single shift opens the mind toward possibility.
BREAKING THE BELIEF LOOP: A 5-STEP PRACTICE
1) Name it. Say, “This is a story, not a fact.” Then take a slow, deep breath.
2) Test it. Ask, “What’s the evidence for this belief? What’s the evidence against it?”
3) Take a tiny opposite action. If you believe you’re “not creative,” doodle for five minutes. If you believe “people won’t care,” share something heartfelt anyway. These small acts begin to rewrite the narrative.
4) Release the emotional charge. Energy practices like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping can help. Try this simple script:
“Even though I believe this story—‘I’m not good enough’—I deeply and completely accept myself.” Then gently tap through the points on your face and body as you name the fear, the old story, and your new choice: “I’m practicing a new story: I am enough.” (Learn the tapping points and download a chart here.]
5) Reinforce the new pattern. Repeat it often. The more you embody the new belief, the stronger its frequency becomes.
HOW MINDFULNESS SOFTENS THE GRIP
Mindfulness offers a compassionate way to loosen the hold of negative thoughts. Rather than fighting them—or trying to make them disappear—we simply notice them with kindness. You might say, “I’m having the thought that I’m a failure.” instead of, “I am a failure.”
That small shift can change everything. You’ve moved from being in the thought to observing it. The thought becomes like a cloud drifting across the sky—temporary, not permanent.
Mindfulness reveals that thoughts rise, linger, and fade. When we see them as passing visitors, they lose the power to define us. And in the stillness beneath the chatter, peace is always waiting.
A GENTLE REMINDER
You are not your beliefs. You are the vast awareness behind them—the light that sees them come and go. When we bring compassion and presence to our negative inner stories, they begin to dissolve. And what remains is truth, freedom, and the quiet strength of knowing: You are enough. You always have been.
Elemental Wisdom
with Spencer Rouse
Spencer Rouse has been a professional psychic and intuitive reader, energy healer, life coach, and lecture/workshop facilitator for more than 20 years, working one-on-one in counseling sessions, in groups, and at psychic fairs and other events. She works primarily through the gifts of claircognizance—an inner knowing—and clairsentience—the ability to sense information through feelings and emotions. Spencer also connects with the different layers of the human energy field (the aura) using color and sound to help balance and invigorate life force energy. Visit her online at http://www.SpencerRouse.com or email PsychicSpencer.com
Wisdom can speak through us— if
we let it.
By Anthony Talmage
The human mind is an amazing instrument: Not only does it guide us through a lifetime of mundane decision-making, but it is also capable of conjuring works of genius —like a Mozart piano concerto, or Leonardo da Vinci’s “The Last Supper” or Johann Sebastian Bach’s “Mass in B Minor.” Yes, you might say, but most of us aren’t lucky enough to have that kind of talent. But what if these gifted people were tapping into something outside of themselves and “downloading” their creations? After all, it was Mozart who said, “I don’t know where my music comes from—tunes just walk into my head.”
For centuries people have reported receiving creative inspiration, or wisdom, seemingly from beyond their conscious mind. Welcome to the phenomenon of channeling—
one of the most intriguing mysteries of human consciousness. And believe it or not, in our hyper-connected, information-saturated 21st century, when we can Google any fact in seconds, channeling isn’t fading away —it’s thriving.
The phenomenon has a rich history. In 1913, Pearl Curran, an ordinary St. Louis housewife, began receiving messages from an entity calling herself Patience Worth, supposedly a 17th-century Englishwoman. Over 25 years, Mrs. Curran produced millions of words in archaic English so convincing that scholars still puzzle over them today.
Matthew Manning, the British healer, produced drawings and signatures attributed to deceased artists like Picasso and Dürer with startling accuracy. “It simply flowed through me,” he said. And Helen Schucman channeled A Course in Miracles back
in the 1970s after hearing an inner voice saying, “This is a course in miracles. Please take notes.”
Fast forward to the 21st century, and channeling has moved from dimly lit séance rooms to packed conference halls and bestseller lists. For instance, Esther Hicks draws thousands to seminars worldwide where she channels a group consciousness called Abraham, a joyful, loving and witty non-physical group consciousness whom Esther calls “infinite intelligence.” Their teachings on the Law of Attraction and emotional guidance have influenced millions.
What’s striking is how many contemporary spiritual authors describe their work as channeled or guided rather than conventionally authored. Rebecca Campbell speaks of “downloading” her books. Kyle Gray describes angelic guidance flowing through his writing.
In our 21st-century world, you might wonder why anyone would turn to channeling when we have therapists, life coaches, and endless self-help resources at our fingertips? The answer is we’re drowning in information but starved of wisdom. We have access to more knowledge than any generation in history, yet many of us struggle to connect with the quiet voice within ourselves.
This is where channeling becomes relevant—not as some mystical parlor trick, but as a bridge to deeper layers of consciousness that our busy, anxious, screen-addicted minds rarely access. Channeling typically requires what our modern world fights hardest against—silence and the willingness to surrender control. It happens when we get out of our own way—when the ego’s grip softens allowing something else to emerge. Some people enter trance states; others describe a gentle “overshadowing.” Some speak aloud; others write or create art.
A word of warning: Not every random thought that pops into our heads is channeled wisdom. True guidance, experienced channelers say, brings a sense of clarity, peace, and upliftment—certainly not fear, confusion, or ego inflation.
Where does the stuff we “download” actually come from? Sceptics point to the subconscious mind— that vast, largely uncharted territory that stores far more than we realize. Or, Carl Jung’s collective unconscious suggests we all have access to a shared
reservoir of human knowledge. Others see the brain not as a generator of consciousness but as a receiver—capable of tuning into intelligences beyond our material realm.
Whatever the source, channeling reminds us we are connected to something vast—whether we call it higher self, universal consciousness,
or the Infinite Mind. In a world that often feels fragmented and chaotic, that quiet voice of wisdom is more valuable than ever. Not because it has all the answers, but because it reconnects us to the truth that we’re part of something far greater than ourselves. But if we want to channel, we must learn to listen.
Anthony Talmage is author of five books in his Psychic Mind series: Dowse Your Way to Psychic Power, In Tune with the Infinite Mind, Unlock the Psychic Powers of Your Unconscious Mind, How to Crack the Cosmic Code and Mindfulness and the Pendulum, all available in Kindle, printed and audio versions from Amazon and all good online bookshops. Find Anthony on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/anthony-talmage
BUILD A SOLID BUILD A SOLID
Build a Solid Foundation
Strategic planning for growing your life coaching business.
By Jeannette Koczela
In a life coaching business, several areas require strategic planning to ensure success and sustainability. That’s because effective life coaching goes beyond just offering advice; it involves creating a comprehensive business plan that includes understanding your target market, developing a unique value proposition, and establishing a strong online presence, among many other things. To help get you started in this process or evaluate where you need to enhance your focus going forward, here are 12 key areas that need attention:
1. BUSINESS STRATEGY
Vision and Mission: Define the longterm vision and mission of your business.
Goal Setting: Establish short-term and long-term goals.
Market Analysis: Understand your target market, competition, and industry trends.
2. CLIENT ACQUISITION AND RETENTION
Target Audience: Identify and understand your ideal clients.
Marketing Strategy: Develop a comprehensive marketing plan to attract new clients.
Sales Process: Create a streamlined process for converting leads into clients.
Client Retention: Implement strategies to retain clients, such as loyalty programs and regular follow-ups.
3. SERVICE OFFERING AND PRICING
Service Packages: Design various coaching packages tailored to different client needs.
Pricing Strategy: Set competitive and profitable pricing for your services.
Value Proposition: Clearly articulate the value and benefits of your services.
4. MARKETING AND PROMOTION
Branding: Develop a strong brand identity, including logo, colors, and messaging.
Content Marketing: Plan and create valuable content to engage and educate your audience.
Social Media Strategy: Develop a strategy for maintaining an active presence on social media platforms.
Advertising: Plan and budget for paid advertising campaigns.
5. SOCIAL MEDIA MANAGEMENT
Content Calendar: Create a content calendar to schedule posts in advance.
Post Scheduling: Utilize tools to automate posting and ensure consistency.
Engagement: Plan for regular interaction with followers and timely responses to comments and messages.
6. CLIENT ONBOARDING AND MANAGEMENT
Onboarding Process: Develop a smooth onboarding process to welcome new clients.
Client Management Tools: Use CRM systems to keep track of client interactions and progress.
Session Scheduling: Plan and manage client sessions efficiently.
7. FINANCIAL PLANNING
Budgeting: Create a budget to manage income and expenses.
Cash Flow Management: Monitor cash flow to ensure financial stability.
Tax Planning: Plan for taxes and ensure compliance with regulations.
8. OPERATIONS AND ADMINISTRATION
Scheduling: Use tools to manage your schedule and appointments.
Record Keeping: Maintain organized records of client sessions, contracts, and financial transactions.
Technology: Invest in technology and tools that streamline operations (e.g., scheduling software, communication tools).
9. PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT
Continued Education: Plan for ongoing training and development to enhance your coaching skills.
Certifications: Pursue relevant certifications to establish credibility.
Networking: Attend industry events and join professional organizations.
10. LEGAL AND COMPLIANCE
Contracts and Agreements: Use legally sound contracts and agreements with clients.
Data Privacy: Ensure client data is protected and comply with data privacy laws.
Insurance: Consider liability insurance to protect your business.
11. METRICS AND EVALUATION
Performance Metrics: Identify key performance indicators (KPIs) to measure success.
Client Feedback: Regularly collect and analyze client feedback to improve services.
Business Review: Conduct regular reviews of your business strategy and operations to identify areas for improvement.
12. SCALING AND GROWTH
Expansion Plans: Develop strategies for expanding your business, such as adding new services or entering new markets.
Team Building: Plan for hiring and training additional coaches or support staff as your business grows.
By planning in these areas, you can create a solid foundation for your life coaching business and increase your chances of long-term success.
Jeannette Koczela, a certified Spiritual Life, Entrepreneur, and Business Coach, is the Founder/President of the International Association of Professional Life Coaches®, which is an online life coach directory and professional organization supporting life coaches with visibility, credibility, community, marketing strategies, and business tools. She curates content so coaches have the marketing skills to make a profit without the overwhelm or unnecessary expenses. She is also the author of four business books for life coaches and the publisher of seven group books. Join the IAPLC here: https://www.iaplifecoaches.org
Understanding the balance of compassion and wisdom in building trustworthy relationships.
By Christina Stäudle
Trust is a foundational element of any relationship, whether personal, professional, or spiritual. As humans, we are wired to connect, to care for one another, and to build bonds. However, knowing whom to trust and why—especially when you seek deeper connections—requires intentionality and discernment. Too often, we place trust in people based on familiarity, compassion, or sheer hope. But not everyone in our lives deserves that level of trust. Trust is a treasure, not to be given recklessly, and it must be built with care, time, and a wise heart.
HEALTHY CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS: WHAT DO THEY LOOK LIKE?
Healthy close relationships are marked by mutual respect, open communication, and reciprocal trust. In friendships, confidants, mentors, and counselors, trust must be
earned over time, not assumed. Friends should be those who encourage your growth and bring out the best in you. They should make you feel safe, valued, and respected. The bonds of friendship, once forged, are strengthened by shared experiences and consistent trustworthiness.
Confidants are those rare people with whom you share your deepest thoughts and vulnerabilities. They listen without judgment and offer sound advice rooted in care, compassion, and wisdom.
Mentors and counselors guide you toward greater self-awareness and personal growth. They offer wisdom from their experiences but also hold you accountable, ensuring that your decisions align with your values and principles.
One of the personal criteria I have for a close friendship is the ability to have an argument, reconcile, and come out stronger on the other side. It’s through disagreement, tension and conflict that you truly get to know someone. You learn if they can communicate respectfully, self-regulate their
emotions, and work through an issue thoughtfully. You discover if they’re willing to ask for forgiveness, grant it, rebuild trust, and ultimately grow from the experience.
We’re fortunate to have a few friends who exemplify these qualities. These friendships, where both sides can face challenges and still grow closer, are ones we cherish deeply.
Self-Reflection:
• Reflect on a time when you experienced a healthy close relationship. What qualities in that person made you feel safe and valued?
• What role have your mentors or confidants played in helping you build trust?
THE PSYCHOLOGY AND BIOLOGY OF TRUST
Trust is not just an emotional or rational experience; it’s deeply embedded in our biology and psychology. When we trust someone, our brains release oxytocin, a hormone linked to bonding and connection. This chemical reaction is part of our natural biological makeup, encouraging us to build relationships that foster cooperation and mutual support.
Trust, in its essence, helps reduce anxiety and stress, allowing us to feel safe in our relationships. However, trust is fragile and can be easily broken, leading to the release of cortisol—the stress hormone—when betrayed. Psychologically, trust is a cognitive process that requires an assessment of reliability and consistency. When we trust, we
rely on our judgments about someone’s intentions, behaviors, and actions. Over time, our experiences help us develop a “trust schema” that informs our future decisions about who is worthy of trust. This schema can be influenced by past relationships and experiences, which is why people with a history of betrayal or neglect may find it more challenging to trust others.
Self-Reflection:
• Consider a time when your trust was broken. What was the impact on your body and mind?
• How did you rebuild trust after it was lost, either in someone else or in yourself?
A BRIEF NOTE ON ATTACHMENT
Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby, explains the dynamics of how we form emotional bonds in relationships. According to attachment theory, our early experiences with caregivers influence how we relate to others later in life.
People with secure attachments tend to form healthy, trusting relationships because they feel safe and valued. In contrast, those with insecure attachments—either avoidant, anxious, or disorganized—may struggle with trust and fear of abandonment or rejection.
Understanding your attachment style can provide valuable insight into how you form relationships and manage trust. If you’ve experienced difficulties with trust, exploring your attachment history can help you understand why these issues may arise and guide you toward healing.
Self Reflection:
• What attachment style do you think you relate to most?
• How has this shaped your relationships over time?
THE
COACH’S
HEART AND DISCERNMENT
As coaches, our role is to walk alongside others in their journeys. We love people because we relate to their struggles and triumphs. We listen with compassion and provide safe spaces where clients can unravel their challenges and rebuild themselves. Our work is rooted in empathy, non-judgment, and unconditional support. We help people uncover their strengths, face their vulnerabilities, and embrace transformation.
However, in the midst of this compassionate work, there lies a tension: How can we, as coaches, hold space for others without recklessly extending trust to everyone? How do we remain open and loving without neglecting the need for discernment?
This is a critical aspect of our work. As coaches, we are not immune to the vulnerability of being human. We too must be mindful of the individuals with whom we build close relationships. While we may hold space for clients and offer them our love and support, we must also maintain clear boundaries and a wise understanding of whom we can trust with our own hearts.
It’s a delicate dance between being compassionate and wise, between being loving and discerning. Here’s how to reconcile these two aspects:
• Loving without Enmeshment: As coaches, we must show love and care, but that love should not create enmeshment. We can love someone deeply without allowing them to compromise our personal well-being or our ability to stay objective.
• Holding Compassionate Boundaries: While we are empathetic, we can still say “no” when necessary. Boundaries protect not only our energy but also the integrity of the relationship. Establishing boundaries ensures that we can serve our clients effectively while also protecting our personal lives and values.
• Discernment is Not Judgment: Discernment is about recognizing the nature of relationships, not about judging individuals. You can care deeply for someone without necessarily inviting them into your inner circle. Being discerning means seeing people clearly for who they are, understanding the role they play in your life, and giving them the appropriate level of trust. This balance is vital not only for the growth of those we coach but also for our personal well-being and integrity. We are called to love, but that love should always be seasoned with wisdom.
I once mentored a lady who started off enthusiastic but became distracted and unclear about her goals. After she fell ill, we paused our calls, but when she recovered, she kept canceling to prioritize other things. When I asked if she still wanted to continue, she took three weeks to reply with a “maybe.” So kindly but firmly I communicated that I was ending the mentorship. She accused me of not caring, trying to guilt me into continuing. But I calmly explained that I had been holding space for her and could no longer do so if my time wasn’t valued. In her final message she stated how
disappointed she was in me. Her reaction showed me that I had made the right decision. If I did not value my time, my expertise and my boundaries, I had no right to expect that from others.
Self-Reflection:
• Share a situation where you had to set a boundary with a client or peer, balancing compassion and discernment.
• How did your decision to discern wisely impact the relationship?
TRUSTING IN YOURSELF AND REBUILDING IT WHEN LOST
When trust is broken, especially in ourselves, it can feel devastating. Self-trust is built over time, and when lost, it requires deliberate action to rebuild.
The first step is self-awareness—recognizing where and how we lost our trust. Did we betray our own values or ignore our inner voice? Understanding the root cause can offer insights into how to heal.
Next, compassionate self-forgiveness is essential. Trusting yourself again begins with grace, forgiving yourself for past mistakes and allowing space for growth. Small actions build self-trust. Start with setting small, achievable goals and following through. Each success reinforces the belief that you can be trusted, both by others and by yourself.
Finally, rebuilding self-trust requires consistency. Trust, whether with others or ourselves, is earned through actions that align with our words and values. Be patient with the process—rebuilding takes time.
For years I would not finish what I started. It took some deep work to get to the root causes, but eventually I have been able to outgrow that habit. One crucial aspect on that journey was to realize that I had let myself down often enough to significantly damage my trust in my new identity. Part of me was sure I would fall back into my old self after a few weeks. In order to make sure I was not doing that to myself, I had to learn to embrace my design and make what I value work to fit who I was. And not try to fit into rigid misrepresentations of things like discipline or daily structure.
GOING DEEPER SPIRITUALLY: DISCERNMENT IN CHOOSING WHOM TO TRUST
When it comes to trust, there’s a deeper, spiritual layer that guides us in choosing who to let into our lives. For those who believe in God, the Bible provides valuable wisdom and insights on whom we should trust and how to discern trustworthy individuals. In various passages, scripture emphasizes the importance of discerning the character of others. For example, Proverbs 12:26 warns, “The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” This highlights the importance of choosing relationships based on integrity and shared values rather than superficial traits. It teaches that being cautious in whom we trust is not a sign of mistrust, but a way of protecting our peace and well-being.
Moreover, it is stated that trust should be earned, not freely given. Proverbs 14:15 states, “The simple believe anything,
but the prudent give thought to their steps.” This speaks to the importance of being discerning and thoughtful in our relationships, taking the time to observe and evaluate the actions of others rather than rushing into trust. Trusting someone requires a careful balance between openness and caution.
Additionally, the Bible encourages forgiveness and reconciliation, but it also teaches that trust is not automatically restored after it is broken. “Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out” (Proverbs 10:9). This wisdom suggests that while forgiveness is essential for healing, trust must be rebuilt through consistent integrity and demonstrated responsibility.
Also, the Bible is straightforward regarding to whom to avoid:
• people who lack integrity (Proverbs 11:3—“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.”)
• people who exploit others, call good evil and promote injustice (Proverbs 22:22-23—“Do not exploit the poor because they are poor and do not crush the needy in court, for the Lord will take up their case and will exact life for life”, Micah 6:12—“Your rich people are violent; your inhabitants are liars and their tongues speak deceitfully.”)
• people who are proud (James 4:6—“But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: ‘God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.’”)
• people who gossip and spread negativity (Proverbs 20:19—“A gossip betrays a confidence”.)
As a believer myself, I used to struggle to balance compassion, kindness, practicing love with wisdom and discernment regarding whom to trust. But one day I realized while God still wanted me to be kind an inclusive, that did not mean that everyone would “qualify” for a seat at my table or a place in my inner circle. That realization was truly freeing to me.
Self-Reflection:
• Reflecting on your own life, how do you discern whom to trust?
• Have you experienced moments where your trust was tested?
• In those times, did you notice any patterns of behavior that influenced your decision?
• How can the wisdom of careful discernment, forgiveness, and observing actions help guide you in your relationships today?
FINAL THOUGHTS
The journey of building trustworthy relationships requires a delicate balance between compassion and wisdom. Compassion allows us to connect with others and offer love, empathy, and support, while wisdom ensures that we are not giving our trust recklessly. It is crucial to cultivate discernment in all of our relationships—whether personal, professional, or spiritual—so that we can protect our well-being and make informed choices about who we allow into our inner circles. Trust is not something that should be given lightly, but rather earned over time through consistency, integrity, and shared values.
As coaches, we bear the responsibility of holding space for others while also maintaining clear boundaries and wise discernment. This balance not only supports the growth and wellbeing of those we serve but also ensures our own personal integrity and safety. Learning to love without enmeshment, hold compassionate boundaries, and make discerning choices will allow us to walk confidently in both our professional roles and personal relationships.
CONCLUSION
Trust is the foundation of every meaningful relationship, but it must be built and maintained with intentionality and care. Whether it’s building self-trust, navigating our relationships with others, or discerning whom to trust, it all comes down to a commitment to wisdom and self-awareness. As we continue to grow in compassion and wisdom, we are better equipped to foster deep, authentic connections while protecting our peace and integrity. Let us be thoughtful in how we extend trust and, at the same time, open-hearted enough to give love, kindness, and grace. By doing so, we can build relationships that not only endure but flourish, rooted in trust and wisdom.
Christina Stäudle is a trauma-informed psychotherapy practitioner, TA Master Transformation Coach, and founder of Mission Transformation International. Known as Mrs. Antifragility, she equips individuals to break free from toxic cycles, build authentic purpose, and grow through adversity with grace and strength. Her work blends self-leadership, resilience, and soul-deep transformation—empowering emerging leaders to move from survival into sustainable impact. Christina is based in Germany and East Africa. You can connect with her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-stäudle-mt.
How do we honor our innate nature and honor what our bodies, minds and hearts are asking of us?
By Mary Boutieller
What is important in your life, and how is it that you attend to those things?
I ask that because I struggle, sometimes, with attending to what’s important, like eating healthy during this time of year, getting enough rest, working out, seeing family and friends. It seems that there isn’t enough time in the day to do everything I want to do, even though I have all the time in the world. There is ample time to write, to rest, to ponder, to love, yet at the end of the day, I feel tired and can’t help
but notice that not much on my list of important things has gotten done.
I have always been a maker of busyness. I rarely sit down for long, even while watching a movie. I fuss and flit and I know, I know, that this restless energy is not helping me accomplish the things I want more of in my life, like connection, contemplation, mental calmness.
Sometimes my soul just needs to be soothed and metaphorically “rocked to sleep” by someone who says, “Shhhh, it’s going to be okay.”
I’ve tried sitting meditation many times, but I always squirm my way out of it. Walking meditation is better; mindful activity is great in
the moment; multitasking—not so much! So, how do we honor our innate nature (squirmy) and honor what our bodies, minds and hearts are asking of us?
I often think of the space between the inhale and the exhale—about how it is the moment of truth between life and death. It’s like the pause between stimulus and response or the brief awareness that we can choose another way. In yoga, the transition from one pose to another is similar. Seasonally, we are witness to changes both big and small—things that blossom and perish; the sun’s light
changing its trajectory over the course of the year so that nothing is truly the same on any given day.
For most of us, with age comes wisdom. Each time we step off the hamster wheel and catch our breath, we give ourselves a moment to rethink what we are doing. If we hesitate, choosing the familiar over the uncomfortable, we might stay on the hamster wheel our entire lives wondering why
we are so busy and why we didn’t take the time to call someone and tell them that we love them.
We are wise, though. We know what our bodies need when we are bone-tired. We know what our hearts need when our connection with a loved one is severed. We know what our souls need when we crave the childhood safety of being rocked to sleep as if all is right with the world.
It starts with us and with the pause between the inhale and the exhale. It begins when we hear our internal guide say, “Call them; sit and rest; let go of your anger.”
Within this season of giving thanks, let’s start by feeling gratitude for all the lessons we have learned, all the people who make our world go round, and for the endless opportunities to choose what is important.
The Yoga of Life
with Mary Boutieller
Mary Boutieller is a Registered Yoga Teacher through Yoga Alliance. She has been teaching yoga since 2005. Her work experience includes 22 years as a firefighter/paramedic and 10 years as a Licensed Massage Therapist. Mary’s knowledge and experience give her a well-rounded understanding of anatomy, alignment, health and movement in the body. She is passionate about the benefits of yoga and the ability to heal at all levels through awareness, compassion, and a willingness to explore. She can be reached at: SimplyogaOm@gmail.com.
Five pillars to help find tranquility and comfort in challenging times.
By Darrel Hammon
Recently, my wife and I took an afternoon drive through Provo Canyon, along the Provo River, to Bridal Veil Falls and then on to Sundance Resort, one of the many ski resorts in Utah (Best snow on earth, and it’s a mere 30 minutes from our home!) Just above Sundance on a windy road, we stopped a few times to take pictures of the majestic fall with all its stunning arrays of colors—oranges, reds, and yellows. While in a grove of quaking aspens (I call them “quakies”) and enjoying the rustling of their yellow leaves, I felt an overwhelming sense of peace and comfort; it was what my entire being needed to experience.
Finding peace amid the chaos of today’s ever-changing society may cause many people—including your clients, peers, and even yourself—consternation and sense of despondency that they do not want to feel. Here in Utah, we have experienced a variety of very unsettling events that many of you probably have read about. Amazingly, while standing in the grove of quakies, that sense of peace distilled over me and was profoundly therapeutic.
If I could transport people who are suffering to this very spot just to have them experience this wonderful feeling of tranquility, I would in a moment, but I cannot. So, I pondered: What else can I do to help others feel a sense of internal peace and comfort during these continuing challenging times?
Hence, five pillars to help find peace in today’s chaos:
1. SEEK PEACE WITHIN YOURSELF
One of the primary pillars is first seeking and finding peace within. Perhaps you are asking, “How can I truly become a peacemaker when my own life
is in commotion? One of Jesus’ teachings comes from the Beatitudes: “Blessed are the peacemakers” (Matthew 5:9).
In a recent conference, religious leader Gary E. Stevenson, a cofounder and former president and chief operating officer of ICON Health & Fitness, Inc., an exercise equipment manufacturing company, said, “We are all born with divine inclinations toward kindness and compassion… and that peacemaking begins in the most basic place: in our hearts.”
It is from our hearts that all blood flows, from the tip of our head to our toes. Once the heart accepts and feels peace, we will become the peacemakers we need to be. It all starts with us as individuals!
2. FIND PLACES OF PEACE
Often, it is a challenge to find places of peace, especially if you live in highly populated areas. Fortunately, I grew up in the country and could easily find places of peace, including the haystack out by our barn or somewhere out in the potato or alfalfa fields. Even now, though, I find places of peace in my backyard, in my computer room, my bedroom, up the canyon, in parks, in my church or other religious facilities, or even in my car. You will have to determine where your places of peace might be. Find them and use them wisely. You may have to be creative and innovative in finding and nurturing your places of peace and comfort.
3. PRACTICE PEACEMAKING IN YOUR HOMES AND FAMILIES
In my opinion, the roots of peace are planted in the home and family and emanate from there. I realize that many homes and families are not peaceful havens; yet I feel that we all can strive to nurture this area of our lives. Maybe
there can be what Gary Stevenson calls, a “contention-free home zone where, when contention starts, people can pause and reboot, with kind words and deeds.”
One suggestion is having a family council where there are conversations about peacemaking—and other pressing topics—with family members to determine ways to practice peace, or maybe even to roleplay on how to keep the peace and then continue forward. Will it be successful the very first time? The second or even third? I doubt it, but if you keep trying and practicing, you will be pleasantly surprised with the short-and long-term results.
4. PRACTICE PEACE IN YOUR COMMUNITIES AND SCHOOLS
Communities should be the next place to find peace, and this can be one of the most challenging efforts. Remember, you can only foster peace in communities when everyone is willing. Unfortunately, convincing every member to climb onboard will be an uphill battle but one that can happen, especially if you start with one group or organization at a time. It’s like playing it forward. If your group practices peace, and people see that everywhere you go, you exude peace, and it will catch on—slowly, very slowly, but it will gain momentum over time. Even schools can practice peace because they are also communities.
5. FILL YOUR LIFE WITH POSITIVE THOUGHTS
I am a firm believer in being a positive person and having positive thoughts. Throughout my life, I feel I have been mostly successful. Granted, there have been times when a challenge
emerged that disrupted my positivity, but I always remember—and truly believe— that it will pass—and it does.
To fill your life and thoughts with peace and positive intentions, you must consider your friends, colleagues, acquaintances, and even environments. For years, I have used a specific phrase on a variety of occasions: “You are the product of the company you keep.” Sometimes our friends or environments do not generate peace or allow positive thoughts, but we can help by being positive. I have
seen negative situations and friendships change because positive people create environments where people gravitate.
CONCLUSION
For many, experiencing peace may seem so far away. We must remember that gaining complete peace can be a lifelong process. The key, however, is to begin with yourself. Change the way you see yourself, the way you think and act, the environment you choose to be in, and the company you keep.
Take time for peaceful moments through reading, studying, contemplation, meditation, writing, or whatever helps you through those challenging, unsettling moments. Sometimes you will have to choose quiet over conversation, maybe even sing songs of peace, since music can provide the power of peace and healing, or even change the way you live and think.
May you become the peacemaker that creates a difference in your life and the lives of the people around you.
Darrel L. Hammon has been dabbling in writing in a variety of genres since his college days, having published poetry, academic and personal articles/essays, a book titled Completing Graduate School Long Distance (Sage Publications), and a picture book, The Adventures of Bob the Bullfrog: Christmas Beneath a Frozen Lake (Outskirts Press). He also was the editor of the Journal of Adult Education (Mountain Plains Adult Education Association). Most of his essay/article writing has focused on topics about growing up, leadership, self-awareness, motivation, marriage/dating, and educational topics. Some of these articles/essays are in Spanish because Darrel is bilingual in Spanish/English, having lived in Chile, Dominican Republic, and southern California, and having worked with Latino youth and families all of his professional life in higher education. He has two blogs, one for personal writing at http://www.darrelhammon.blogspot.com/ and one for his consulting/life coaching business (http://www.hammonconsults.blogspot.com/).
Success comes from filtering the noise, focusing on the facts, and leaning on the people
whose words are constructive and credible.
By Marnie Schneider
It really works when you consider the source. In life—personally and professionally—that phrase has a way of cutting straight to the core. My mom used it as both shield and compass, and over the years I’ve come to see just how powerful it is.
Here’s the truth: Most of the time, the unkind person saying something about you doesn’t really know you. They’re not invested in your life, your work, or your heart. And that’s the freedom—why should you care what they say? That, to me, is true self-care: not carrying weight that was never yours to begin with. When the source isn’t credible, you let it roll off. But when the source is someone you respect— someone whose voice comes from experience, character, or love—that’s when you lean in. That’s when the feedback or the compliment becomes fuel. And even when the words sting, they still can be a teacher. We learn as much from others’ poor choices and careless comments as we do from encouragement and praise. Sometimes the reminder of who we don’t want to be is just as valuable.
FAMILY WISDOM ON AND OFF THE FIELD
I grew up in a family where football was both a passion and a classroom. My grandfather, Leonard
Tose, who once owned the Philadelphia Eagles and cofounded the Ronald McDonald House, taught me that leadership meant being invested. His mantra was: “If you’re not invested, you can’t collect.” He never wasted time on opinions from people who hadn’t put in the work.
My mom, Susan Tose Spencer, lived that lesson every day as the first female General Manager in the NFL. She faced constant criticism—often louder than it was accurate. But she showed me how to put it in perspective. She knew the difference between credible voices and careless ones, and she used both as lessons: Respect the feedback that comes from truth and learn resilience from the noise.
COACHING, FACTS, AND FOCUS
Because I grew up in sports, I also see consider the source as factbased. Coaches don’t run plays based on gossip. Quarterbacks don’t call audibles based on the loudest fan in the stands. They study film, break down patterns, and trust voices that are reliable and invested.
Leadership in life works the same way. Success comes from filtering the noise, focusing on the facts, and leaning on the people whose words are constructive and credible.
BECOMING THE GOOD SOURCE
The real opportunity isn’t just in whom we listen to—it’s in who we
are. Every day, we get to decide whether our words and actions will be careless noise or credible guidance.
When you’re a coach, a parent, a teammate, or a leader, your voice carries impact. Praise only matters when it’s genuine. Criticism only helps when it’s constructive. Guidance only lasts when it’s consistent.
That’s the responsibility, and privilege of being a good source. When people know your words are grounded in truth, kindness, and reliability, they trust you. And trust is the foundation of every great team, every strong family, every lasting legacy.
THE FINAL PLAY
In life and in work, it always comes back to this: Consider the source. Protect your energy by remembering that most of the voices tearing you down don’t know you—and don’t deserve space in your head. That’s real self-care.
But don’t stop there. Strive to become the kind of source that others can count on. A source of encouragement. A source of wisdom. A source of genuine strength.
When you show up consistently in mind, body, and spirit, you don’t just win games—you win trust, respect, and loyalty. And that’s the real scoreboard of life.
5 WAYS TO BE A GOOD SOURCE:
1) Lead with truth. Ground your words in honesty and fact, not gossip.
2) Encourage, don’t flatter. Real praise matters; empty praise fades.
3) Make criticism constructive. Point to solutions, not just problems.
4) Stay consistent. Reliability builds trust; inconsistency breaks it.
5) Show up whole. Be present in mind, body, and spirit—people follow leaders who are aligned.
HOW TO TELL GOOD FROM BAD SOURCES:
• A good source is invested in you, credible, and constructive. They want you to succeed.
• A bad source is careless, uninformed, or motivated by jealousy or ego. They may be loud, but they’re not reliable.
Learn to tell the difference, and you’ll protect your confidence, sharpen your focus, and strengthen your leadership.
Live as a reliable source— mind, body, and spirit—and you won’t just play the game, you’ll change it. Because in sports, in leadership, and in life, the strongest play you can make is to be the good source.
Marnie Schneider is CEO of the nonprofit Gameday and an inspirational speaker, author, podcaster, philanthropist, certified Happiness Life Coach, and—best of all—daughter and mom. A Philadelphia native now living in the Carolinas, she consistently devotes her time and resources to help others achieve their own victory. Marnie thinks of this as “showing up” on life’s playing field, with positivity and energy, day in and day out. Her passion for sports shines through in her book series, Gameday in the USA, which is in the Top 100 Kids Sports Travel books by Amazon. Marnie’s pride is her three kids—Jonathan, Goldie and Leo—and she has a heart for animals and has two rescue dogs and her handsome pony, Billy. For more information visit: https://www.marnieschneider.com and https://www.gamedayintheusa.com
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The Shift
THE SHIFT THE SHIFT
When we learn to see growth and quality as investments rather than expenses, the potential for workplace transformation becomes unlimited.
By Dr. Sam Adeyemi
Many of us see things in our workplaces that need to change—processes that no longer work, values that don’t seem to match behavior, or opportunities for excellence that are being overlooked. The challenge is this: How do you shape your workplace when you don’t have official authority?
In 2000, a young Eli Lilly employee stepped away from a very lucrative job to begin volunteering at his local university. Brad Stevens, currently the President of Basketball Operations for the Boston Celtics, went from an unpaid Butler University men’s basketball volunteer to a head coach in the NCAA title game in nine years. His Butler team would make backto-back title games, leading the Celtics to hire Stevens as head coach —a position he would hold for eight seasons, until stepping into his current role.
What would lead a major university to hire a virtually unknown assistant coach who started as a volunteer? According to Barry Collier, the Butler Athletic Director who ignored the big names to make the hire of his lifetime, it came down to the way Stevens interacted with his players, along with his “clarity of thought and gift of expression.”
After his hire, Stevens molded the Butler team to his own personality, enjoying the most atmospheric threeyear rise an NCAA coach has ever seen: 89 wins in his first three seasons. His bosses hired him because of his relentless vision and pursuit of excellence. And, because he’d been promoted from within, the players he was now responsible for knew him, knew his heart, and knew he had the best interests of the team at the root of every decision.
Those who consistently bring clarity, excellence, and solutions to their
teams tend to get noticed. Over time, they become recognized as leaders—often long before they receive the title. What follows are some common stumbling blocks that lead great employees to frustration, along with strategies to overcome them.
ACTIONS UNLINKED FROM VALUES
Stumbling Block: Most people don’t think very hard about consistency between their actions and values. Simply because you’re reading this, you’ve already reflected on it more than many people ever will. Because of this, frustration can arise when people who are deeply committed to aligning their actions and values (or stated company values) interact regularly with people for whom that’s not a pressing concern.
Strategy to Overcome: When coworkers’ actions seem out of sync with the stated values of the company (or their own personal values), it’s often useful to frame the situation as confusion rather than conflict. Few things trigger defensiveness faster than being explicitly accused of hypocrisy. Instead, frame it as a misunderstanding on your part:
“I may be missing something here, but it seems like BCCing managers on emails to coworkers is out of line with our commitment to total honesty within the group. Can you help me understand what I got wrong?”
This opens dialogue instead of shutting
it down.
PRICE THINKING VS. COST THINKING
Stumbling Block: One of the most subtle yet powerful stumbling blocks is the mindset that asks, “What’s the price today?” instead of “What will this eventually cost us?” These questions sound similar but are quite different. Individuals, businesses, and even nations must constantly fight the temptation to focus on the current price tag of a decision, rather than the long-term potential cost to the organization and its values. This is how organizations become mired in a cycle of mediocrity, never quite abjectly failing, but also never quite able to rise to true excellence.
The consumer experience with kitchen gadgets is instructive here: You don’t have to look hard to find someone who constantly opts for the cheapest coffee grinder, toaster, etc. on Amazon, rather than taking the time to research more expensive options. It works for a few months and then breaks. So, they buy another, and another. (This problem is one of the reasons the Amazon return process is so painless: It happens so often that an unwieldy return process would cripple a massive chunk of commerce on the site.) In the end, they’ve spent more money on low-quality items than they would have by taking the time to research and truly invest in the product they deserved to own in the first place.
Strategy to Overcome: When negotiating change with coworkers, shift the conversation from sticker price to cost Ask: “What will this cost us in lost opportunities, wasted time, and rework if we don’t invest in doing this right?” Framing excellence as an investment helps people see that quality pays dividends, while shortcuts extract hidden costs.
COMFORT IN THE FAMILIAR
Stumbling Block: People often resist change because they are attached to what has worked in the past. Past successes create a sense of comfort and security, and any suggestion of doing things differently can feel like an attack on those past wins.
Strategy to Overcome: Instead of dismissing the past, honor it. Acknowledge the value of what has worked: “The system you created helped us grow to this point—it’s been a big part of our success.” Then pivot: “Now that we’ve reached this stage, we need to adapt so that success can continue.” By showing respect for the past, you make it easier for others to release their grip and embrace the future. Stevens himself did this by truly embracing “The Butler Way” as an assistant, then finding a way to honor it as a head coach even while reshaping it to fit his vision for the program.
GROUPTHINK AND THE DESIRE FOR HARMONY
Stumbling Block: In many workplaces, the desire to maintain harmony can outweigh the desire to challenge ideas. Groupthink makes it hard to introduce change because people prefer to conform rather than risk standing out. Leadership is, by definition, the rejection of a current consensus and the proposition of a new norm. In short—it’s risky, and everyone knows that standing out can mark you as a leader or as a problem.
Strategy to Overcome: To counter this, normalize dissent by inviting questions and making disagreement
seem more than safe—make it feel positively useful, as if we would be crazy to not entertain it. Instead of asking, “Do we all agree?” ask, “What might we be missing?” or “Who sees it differently? There’s no way we got this right on the first try.” Encouraging alternative perspectives creates space for change to be considered without breaking social bonds.
BRINGING IT ALL TOGETHER
Negotiating change with coworkers isn’t about winning arguments or proving who is right. It’s about recognizing the stumbling blocks that keep people from embracing change and applying strategies that lower resistance. Whether the block is inconsistency between actions and beliefs, the short-term mindset of “price over
cost,” comfort in the familiar, or the paralysis of groupthink, the key is the same: Approach others with curiosity, respect, and an invitation to think differently. Excellence doesn’t come cheap—but the cost of mediocrity is far greater. When individuals, teams, and even nations learn to see growth and quality as investments rather than expenses, the potential for transformation becomes unlimited.
And here’s the deeper truth: As Brad Stevens shows us, you don’t need a title to lead. By practicing these strategies, you can begin shaping the workplace from the trenches. In doing so, you set yourself apart as someone who embodies excellence, someone who inspires others to follow, and someone who should be empowered more directly to continue creating value. That’s how leaders are made.
Dr. Sam Adeyemi is CEO of Atlanta-based Sam Adeyemi, GLC, Inc. and founder and executive director of Daystar Leadership Academy (DLA). More than 52,000 alumni have graduated from DLA programs, and more than 3 million CEOs and high-performing individuals follow him on top social media sites. Dr. Sam is the author of “SHIFTS: 6 Steps to Transform Your Mindset and Elevate Your Leadership” (Wiley) and “Dear Leader: Your Flagship Guide to Successful Leadership.” He holds a Doctorate in Strategic Leadership from Virginia’s Regent University and is a member of the International Leadership Association. Learn more at http://www.SamAdeyemi.com
RECLAIM YOUR RECLAIM YOUR
Reclaim Your Power
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YOUR POWER YOUR POWER
How to handle a narcissist at work without losing your sanity.
By Dr. Stéphane Narcis
If you’ve ever found yourself caught in a web of deception, drama, or blame-shifting at work, you may be dealing with a workplace narcissist, and their toxic behaviors can drain your energy, sabotage your career, and leave you questioning your reality. But don’t worry—you are not powerless. You can protect your peace of mind and maintain your professional reputation with the right strategies.
Here are the best tools and strategies to neutralize a workplace narcissist while staying professional.
RECOGNIZE THE SIGNS OF A WORKPLACE NARCISSIST
The first step in dealing with a narcissist is understanding their behavior. Workplace narcissists often:
• Take credit for others’ work and downplay others’ contributions.
• Shift blame when things go wrong.
• Manipulate and gaslight to control narratives.
• Create drama and division to maintain power.
• Exhibit a sense of entitlement and demand special treatment.
• Exploit colleagues for personal gain. Once you recognize these traits, you can implement effective strategies to protect yourself.
1. Set Clear Boundaries at Work.
Boundaries are vital when dealing with a narcissist. Without them, the narcissist will manipulate and take advantage of you.
• Limit interactions as much as possible. Keep communication short and professional.
• Stay firm when they push your limits. If they demand too much of your time, politely but firmly say, “no.”
• Avoid sharing personal details—narcissists use personal information as ammunition.
Example:
If a narcissist tries to offload extra work onto you, say: “I’m currently at full capacity and won’t be able to take that on. Perhaps you can check with someone else on the team.”
2. Use the “Gray Rock” Technique
Narcissists feed on emotional reactions. The more you engage in their drama, the more control they have over you. Instead, make yourself uninteresting:
• Respond with neutral, unemotional replies (“Okay,” “Noted,” “Let’s focus on the task”).
• Avoid reacting emotionally to their provocations.
• Keep communication transactional—stick to facts, not feelings.
Example:
Narcissist: “You never contribute anything valuable in meetings.”
You: “Let’s focus on the agenda items for today’s discussion.”
3. Document Everything
Narcissists are experts at rewriting history, twisting facts, and blaming others. Protect yourself by keeping records.
• Save emails and messages—especially instructions or feedback.
• Summarize verbal conversations in follow-up emails.
• Take notes in meetings to track what was agreed upon.
Example Email:
“As per our discussion today, I will proceed with [a specific ask] by [deadline]. Let me know if there are any changes to this plan.”
This ensures a paper trail, making it harder for a narcissist to shift blame later.
4. Stay One Step Ahead
Because narcissists thrive on control and chaos, they always have a proactive strategy.
• Anticipate their moves—if they usually steal credit, keep evidence of your contributions.
• Build relationships with other colleagues so you have allies.
• Stay focused on your goals and avoid getting sucked into their drama.
Example:
If you suspect a narcissist will take credit for your project, send team-wide updates on progress:
“As part of the project team, I’ve completed [task] to help move us forward. Looking forward to collaborating on the next steps.”
5. Stay Professional and Assertive
You don’t have to be aggressive, but you do need to stand your ground.
• Use direct and clear communication. You MUST avoid passive-aggressiveness or emotional appeals.
• Call them out professionally when necessary.
• Redirect conversations to facts and solutions instead of emotions.
Example:
Narcissist: “You clearly don’t know what you’re doing.”
You: “I’d be happy to discuss solutions, but let’s keep this professional.”
6. Escalate when Necessary
If a narcissist’s behavior crosses the line into harassment, bullying, or professional sabotage, don’t hesitate to involve human resources or a manager.
• Compile evidence before escalating the issue.
• Stay factual when reporting—stick to behavior, not emotions.
• Know your company policies on workplace harassment and misconduct.
Example Email:
“I’d like to report ongoing issues with [narcissist’s name] that are affecting my ability to perform my job effectively. Attached are instances of [specific behavior]. I would appreciate guidance on addressing this professionally.”
7. Protect Your Mental Well-Being: It’s Essential.
Narcissists can drain your energy and confidence. Make sure to:
• Practice self-care—exercise, meditate, or engage in hobbies.
• Seek support from trusted colleagues, mentors, or a therapist.
• Maintain a strong work-life balance to avoid burnout. If the toxicity is overwhelming, consider whether staying in that workplace is worth your mental health. Sometimes, the best move is to step away.
FINAL WORDS
Dealing with narcissists at work requires three techniques: strategy, restraint, and firm boundaries. Neutralize their influence by remaining professional, documenting interactions, and not interfering in their work while maintaining professional integrity. Stay focused on your goals, and don’t let a workplace narcissist dictate your career trajectory.
Stéphane Narcis DProfQAHE, PhD, Dr. h.c. is a distinguished academic, researcher and educator specializing in film studies, intercultural communication and psychological analysis. His work focuses on media representation, nonverbal communication and narcissistic personality disorder. Holding a PhD in Film Studies, and aDoctor of Letters & PostDoctor of Letters (DLitt & PDLitt), he has received multiple awards for his academic contributions.
As a certified expert in body language and lie detection, he provides professional training to leaders and educators. His research has gained international recognition, offering insights into toxic relationship dynamics, workplace conflicts and societal structures. Stéphane aims to bridge academic research with real-world application, empowering individuals through education, cultural awareness, and psychological resilience. Connect with Stéphane: https://www. instagram.com/stephanenarcis_officiel
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It’s time for Boomers to take stock of life and leave future generations with a message of hope.
By Jo Mooy
Reviewing the year is a rite of passage in December. This one is particularly noteworthy given all the turmoil and upheaval on the world stage. As I write this, I’m looking back not only on 2025 but also my own decades-long journey as the final days of the year wind down.
In January, dozens of wellknown psychics made startling predictions for the year, most of which were driven by fears or headlines designed to grab clicks on social media. Here are two that didn’t pan out: Dictators and tyrants will be removed from power. Nope. Instead, they continued to drop bombs that maimed hundreds of thousands. And, if UFO first contact happened, I sure missed it.
But at least one psychic prediction from all the forecasters did come true: There was indeed a heightened focus on spiritual awareness, which caused a subtle shift improving global consciousness. I believe the factions of turmoil and discord being witnessed by citizens in every country caused a return to spiritual interests and a belief that these spiritually conscious individuals could make a difference through prayer or meditation.
But something else is happening that also bears witnessing. For reference, a horde of souls called Baby Boomers, (78 million strong in the United States alone,) were born beginning at the end of World War II. Their births peaked around 1964, and by 2060 all of them will be gone from Earth. They’re being replaced by newer generations that have taken the helm, those who will be faced with wildly different political, cultural, technical, and environmental challenges. How they deal with it could refresh, stabilize or upend our current lifestyles, which we often take for granted.
Throughout the year, I’ve written articles for Transformation Coaching Magazine on the various stages and roles of these generations. At the same time, the end of 2025 has given me an eye-opening perspective on mine. As a front-line member of the Boomer generation, I’m watching the staggering changes in my cohorts as we leave the stage. There’s the usual stuff as we adjust our lifestyles to the metamorphosis occurring in our bodies. Once-healthy black hair is now silver, dry, and requires special potions. When we were younger, every invitation was a cause to celebrate. Now, when invited to some social event, the
calendar is already filled up with doctor appointments. Going out to dinner in the old days began at 8 p.m., followed by hours of barhopping. Nowadays, the meal must be lunch or an “early bird” special because Boomers can’t drive in the dark.
THE GREATEST JOURNEY
But there’s much more happening than the physical changes we’re experiencing. Boomers are standing on the edge of tomorrow and will soon be embarking on the greatest journey to another place with only faith and belief in an afterlife to guide us. Just as one year passes into history, our friends are also passing away. We grieve the losses deeply. Each farewell is a reminder of the transient nature of life and that our generation’s runway is very short now. It’s prompted us to collectively take stock of our lives. Taking stock of life, lived well or not, is a sobering undertaking. It’s not just putting right everything in the external world. It’s also preparing our inner world and connecting at a deeper level with our soul consciousness for the journey ahead—whenever that
moment occurs. It’s common to find that seniors in their 70s and 80s have much clearer contact with their inner world. They’ve finally cut through all the distractions that hampered quiet reflection. It makes their intuition stronger. They can see the subtle patterns that governed their life situations with surprising depth. All the hours wasted on superficial nonsense are behind them.
Now the focus radically shifts to the big questions of life. How was this life? Did I fulfill my purpose? Did I do the best I could in all my endeavors? Are there regrets? Are my worldly affairs in order? Am I making peace with old enemies before the final curtain? And the real biggie: How do I begin to prepare for the afterlife?
The torch is going to be passed to the next generation. They’ll be faced with lots of problems. Many of them blame us for leaving the world in its current state of unrest. Choose one of them, (a younger friend, a student, or a grandchild) to mentor. Spend the time listening. Ask them questions. Answer with the wisdom of your experiences honed through decades of life. As you stand on the edge of tomorrow, leave them with a message of hope that they’ll get through this and assure them all will be well. Despite appearances, things always work out.
Conscious Living with Jo Mooy
Jo Mooy has studied with many spiritual traditions over the past 40 years. The wide diversity of this training allows her to develop spiritual seminars and retreats that explore inspirational concepts, give purpose and guidance to students, and present esoteric teachings in an understandable manner. Along with Patricia Cockerill, she has guided the Women’s Meditation Circle since January 2006 where it has been honored for five years in a row as the “Favorite Meditation” group in Sarasota, FL, by Natural Awakenings Magazine. Teaching and using Sound as a retreat healing practice, Jo was certified as a Sound Healer through Jonathan Goldman’s Sound Healing Association. She writes and publishes a monthly internationally distributed e-newsletter called Spiritual Connections and is a staff writer for Spirit of Maat magazine in Sedona. For more information go to http://www.starsoundings.com or email jomooy@gmail.com
