Transformation Coaching Magazine June 2025

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PUBLISHERS

Natalie Rivera

Joeel A. Rivera, M.Ed.

EDITOR

Lisa Cedrone

CONTRIBUTORS

Jowanna Daley, Jo Mooy, Heather Smith and Yanni Charalambous, Danielle Duncan, Mary Boutieller, Marla Albertie, Anthony Tamalge, Christina Stäudle, Spencer Rouse

Here at Transformation Academy, we are excited to announce June’s IMPACT Coaching Spotlight—Jennifer Bunderle-Johnson!

Our goal with this initiative is to recognize and celebrate members of the IMPACT Coaching Collective who demonstrate the heart, leadership and service it takes to be an impactful coach. IMPACT is a community of likeminded, heart-centered life coaches who come together to learn, practice and grow.

This article is a modified transcript of an interview between Kimberly Rich, host of The Profitable Coach Podcast, and guest Jennifer Bunderle-Johnson.

Get 30 days free in the IMPACT Community: https://store. transformationacademy.com/pages/join-the-community

Listen to this interview on the Profitable Coach Podcast: https://store.transformationacademy.com/pages/ep73-jennifer-bunderle-johnson-impact-member-transforming-paininto-purpose-jennifer-s-path-from-educator-to-grief-coach

ABOUT JENNIFER:

Jennifer Bunderle-Johnson

https://www.carpediemcoaching.org/ https://www.facebook.com/jennifer.carpediem/

TELL US ABOUT YOUR JOURNEY INTO COACHING. WHAT LED YOU TO THIS PATH?

My entry into coaching was a natural evolution from my background as an educator. Whether I was teaching in a classroom or leading fitness sessions, I always found joy in helping others grow. While living in Ecuador, I stumbled upon a podcast about the Enneagram*—a tool I had never encountered before. That discovery opened a whole new world for me. I became

*The Enneagram is a personality typing system that describes nine interconnected personality types, each with unique motivations, fears and core beliefs. It’s a tool for self-awareness, self-discovery, and understanding others. The Enneagram is represented by a nine-pointed diagram, illustrating how the types relate to each other.

deeply curious and eventually certified as an Enneagram coach. Coaching, for me, felt like a continuation of teaching, but with deeper emotional connection.

Around that time, Danielle, one of my trainers, became my life coach and mentor. As I prepared to transition back to the United States, I leaned into her support and started to envision a broader coaching practice beyond the Enneagram. Then, life took a sudden and heartbreaking turn—my husband became ill and passed away unexpectedly. That loss deeply impacted me and introduced me to somatic and grief work on a profoundly personal level. It became clear that grief coaching wasn’t just something I could do—it was what I was meant to do. I now support widows as they navigate their grief, helping them find peace, strength and purpose again.

DOES WORKING WITH CLIENTS ON GRIEF HELP YOU PROCESS YOUR OWN?

Absolutely. Grief is not something with a fixed endpoint—it evolves, shifts and often resurfaces. Being in close, empathetic connection with other widows is healing for me. In the beginning, it was overwhelming—I often joked that I needed a shirt that said, “I cry when I work.” The emotions were intense, and the weight of grief was palpable.

But over time, I learned how to hold space for others, while also caring for myself. It’s about balance—being fully present with my clients, while also maintaining boundaries that support my own emotional well-being. Each session becomes a mirror, reminding me of our shared humanity and the universality of grief. It’s a sacred exchange, one that continues to help me process and grow.

HOW DO YOU BALANCE BEING IN YOUR OWN PROCESS WHILE COACHING OTHERS THROUGH THEIRS?

That was one of the hardest lessons for me. When my husband passed away, it triggered waves of unresolved

grief from other parts of my life. I initially tried to serve everyone—I was casting a wide net, hoping to help as many people as possible. But I quickly realized that was unsustainable.

Boundaries became essential. Now, I choose to work specifically with widows, and I’m honest with them about where I am in my own healing. Some days I feel deeply grounded, and other days I need extra space and care. I schedule intentionally, make time for rest, and ensure that my energy is aligned with my capacity to support others.

This approach allows me to show up authentically while maintaining integrity in my work. It’s not about being perfectly healed—it’s about being real and compassionate with myself and my clients.

HOW DOES THE ENNEAGRAM INFLUENCE YOUR COACHING APPROACH?

The Enneagram is woven into the fabric of my coaching practice. Our personality type influences how we experience and express grief. For example, a Type Four may feel a deep sense of emotional intensity, while a Type Seven might struggle to stay with difficult emotions. Knowing a client’s type allows me to meet them where they are and tailor my approach to suit their needs.

As a Type Nine with a One wing, I bring a unique blend of peaceful presence and structured support. I help clients feel safe, while also guiding them with intention. For Type Sevens, I gently encourage them to slow down and allow uncomfortable feelings to surface. The Enneagram adds a layer of understanding that makes each session more meaningful and effective.

WHAT WERE YOUR EARLY COACHING EXPERIENCES LIKE? HOW DID YOU ATTRACT CLIENTS?

Interestingly, before I officially launched into private coaching, I was appointed as a memorial service coordinator in

a job I held. That role came unexpectedly, but it was incredibly formative. I worked closely with grieving families, planned memorial services, and held space during very tender moments. It gave me hands-on experience with grief work, long before I knew it would become my calling.

When I started coaching privately, clients came to me through organic connection and word of mouth. I didn’t focus on marketing. Instead, I focused on presence and compassion. People were drawn to that. It wasn’t about being everywhere— it was about being fully here, with the people who needed me.

WHAT HAPPENED AFTER YOUR HUSBAND PASSED AWAY AND YOU WERE STILL WORKING IN THAT ROLE?

I tried to keep going—I really did. I thought I could push through the pain and maintain my professional responsibilities. But after about four months, I realized I was burned out. I wasn’t serving anyone effectively, least of all myself. I needed to pause. I transitioned my clients and responsibilities, took a step back, and gave myself the space to heal. During that time, I discovered grief coaching certifications and somatic healing programs that supported me both personally and professionally. What started as personal recovery turned into a new chapter of professional purpose. I trained in the exact tools I needed, and now I offer them to others.

HOW DO YOUR COACHING OFFERINGS REFLECT YOUR GROWTH AND PHILOSOPHY?

My coaching is holistic and intuitive. I incorporate various modalities—homeopathy, aromatherapy, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), somatic work—and I let the client’s energy guide the direction. Some clients thrive in structured programs like the Grief Recovery Method, while others need a softer, more fluid approach.

I cocreate the journey with each client. During the first sessions, we explore their needs and preferences. Some want a clear roadmap; others need a safe space to simply be. My role is to hold space, offer tools, and walk alongside them as they uncover what healing looks like for them.

WITH GRIEF BEING SO UNIQUE, HOW DO YOU DEFINE SUCCESS IN A COACHING RELATIONSHIP?

Success, for me, is centered around three pillars: hope, growth and healing. These look different for everyone. For one woman, success might be attending a family gathering for the first time in months. For another, it might be expressing emotion openly after years of silence.

I offer flexible coaching packages—three months, six months or a year—and empower clients to choose when they want to pause or continue. Some women come to me after completing programs like GriefShare and are looking for the “what now.” Others have been holding grief for years and are just beginning to explore it. Success is defined by their movement, however small, toward a more empowered and peaceful self.

DID YOU FEEL LIKE YOU NEEDED A FULL WEBSITE OR ONLINE PRESENCE BEFORE COACHING?

Not at all. When I started, I didn’t have a website. What mattered most was connection—real, heartfelt connection. My early clients came through community, referrals and authentic relationships. The website came later, once I had more clarity about my offerings.

Now, the site reflects who I am and what I do. But even now, it’s a work in progress. I’m currently working on a new book series for widows and grievers, and the website will eventually incorporate those resources, too. Ultimately, presence and authenticity matter more than perfect branding. The people who need you will find you.

YOU’VE AUTHORED SEVERAL BOOKS. WHAT’S YOUR NEXT WRITING PROJECT?

I’ve written three books so far, primarily focused on education and teaching. But my next book is part of a new series dedicated to widows. It’s a resource for both grievers and those who support them—coaches, therapists, spiritual leaders.

Writing is a huge passion of mine. It’s where I process, reflect and share. I’m excited to pour myself into this series and offer something meaningful to the grief community. This project feels like a culmination of my personal and professional paths coming together.

HOW DO YOU LIVE OUT YOUR “CARPE DIEM” COACHING PHILOSOPHY?

I live one day at a time. That’s all any of us are promised. Losing my husband showed me—painfully—that life can change in an instant. So, I embrace each day with presence and intention. I look for beauty in the ordinary and allow space for both joy and sorrow.

In my coaching, I help clients do the same. We focus on the now, honor their emotions, and cultivate gratitude. “Carpe Diem” isn’t about forcing happiness—it’s about fully inhabiting your life, moment by moment.

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO FEELS STUCK IN GRIEF YEARS LATER, ESPECIALLY IF THEY

HAVEN’T

CHANGED THEIR ENVIRONMENT SINCE THE LOSS?

I would invite them to explore why. Why have they held on to certain things or routines? Is it out of love? Habit? Avoidance? There’s no judgment—just curiosity.

Sometimes, keeping a space the same brings comfort. Other times, it becomes a barrier to healing. It’s not about forcing change but understanding the motivation behind our choices. Awareness is the first step toward transformation. Once we understand the “why”, we can begin to make empowered decisions.

WHAT DO YOU WISH YOU KNEW WHEN YOU FIRST STARTED COACHING?

I wish I had known that being myself was more than enough. Early on, I thought I had to fit a certain mold—be polished, perfect, professional in a specific way. But that’s not what people need. They need realness.

Clients are drawn to authenticity. The more I allowed myself to be fully me—flawed, evolving, open—the more impactful my coaching became. That’s where the magic lives: in being unapologetically yourself.

WHAT’S NEXT FOR YOU?

Right now, the book series is my main focus. It’s been delayed due to some health challenges, but it’s still very much alive. I’m also back in grad school—an unexpected but exciting new chapter. I had a retreat planned, which is on pause for now, but I trust it’ll happen in its own time.

Everything is unfolding as it should. I’m learning to flow with life, embrace the pivots, and trust the timing of it all.

Final Thoughts: Jennifer’s story is a powerful reminder that transformation and grief can coexist. Her journey teaches us that healing is not about erasing pain but about walking with it—day by day—with courage, compassion and authenticity.

F ROM STRANGER F ROM STRANGER

From Stranger to Guide

STRANGER TO GUIDE STRANGER TO GUIDE

Why every coach should know their future self.

It was just a regular pod meeting—one of those small peer groups where coaches check in for accountability. Earlier this year, I had made a quiet promise to myself: Invest more in me. Do things differently.

So, when the question came up, “Who is your future self to you?” I paused and answered honestly.

“A stranger.”

I wasn’t shocked by my own words, but I was in awe of the concept. I had never thought about my future self before. But once I did, it clicked.

Until then, my relationship with goals had felt like climbing a mountain—gritty, demanding, and a bit isolating. Suddenly, it wasn’t just about me pulling myself up. I imagined a wiser, more grounded version of myself already standing at the top, looking down at me with compassion and clarity.

It was like discovering I had a fairy godmother—one that was me.

And I wanted to get to know her instantly. From awe to action.

Connecting with my future self changed everything. All things started to feel possible. That one mental shift gave me permission to act as if I already was the version of me I wanted to become. I wasn’t trying to reach her—I was becoming her.

Later, as part of a challenge in one of my coaching certification programs, I created a one-hour workshop based on the future self concept. I expected it to be helpful. I didn’t expect to be thrilled by how much others latched onto it.

Participants—ranging from young adults to retirees—connected to the idea like it was something they had always needed but didn’t know they were missing. And maybe they were? I know I was.

That’s when I realized: This isn’t just another mindset tool. This is a coaching essential.

THE SCIENCE OF THE FUTURE SELF: WHY IT WORKS

When we talk about the “future self,” we’re not just borrowing from pop psychology. The concept is rooted in philosophy, psychology, neuroscience and behavioral science. And it all started with some powerful ideas:

1. Identity is Evolving, not Fixed.

For years, dominant identity theories argued that who we are stays relatively static over time. But modern thinkers have challenged that assumption:

• Memory Theory holds that we are our memories— but memory is unreliable and doesn’t fully define us.

• Soul Theory imagines a single, unchanging self—but this doesn’t account for transformation or contradiction.

• Social Identity Theory focuses on how our affiliations shape us—but overlooks how we grow beyond roles or labels.

Philosopher Derek Parfit broke from these views, arguing that our identity isn’t a single, stable entity—it’s a sequence of overlapping selves, evolving across time. As coaches, this empowers us to stop asking, “How do I fix this version

of you?” And start asking, “Who are you becoming—and how can I start showing up as that individual today?”

2. The Stronger the Connection, the Better the Choices

Neuroscientist Hal Hershfield found that when people visualize and emotionally connect with their future selves, they make wiser long-term decisions—financially, socially and personally. That connection strengthens commitment to values, habits and goals.

3. Future Thinking Reduces Regret

Psychologists Ross and Wilson discovered that thinking forward rather than backward helps people reframe their experiences and reduce emotional regret. Your future self becomes a symbol of healing and possibility—especially for clients struggling to let go of the past.

4. Your Future Self is a Guide, Not a Stranger

Hazel Markus and Paula Nurius introduced the idea of “possible selves”—versions of ourselves we hope or fear to become. By helping clients get specific about that possibility and develop emotional connection, we transform it from fantasy into identity in progress.

5. Without Future Thinking, Present Bias Can Derail Growth

Without a strong connection to the future self, people tend to prioritize short-term rewards over long-term wellbeing—a phenomenon tied to present bias and self-interest theory. But when the future self feels real and relatable, clients are more likely to delay gratification, take healthier risks, and align their current habits with their long-term goals.

(See the sidebar table for a summary of researchers’ contributions to this field.)

WHAT THIS MEANS FOR YOUR CLIENTS

Helping clients connect with their future selves isn’t just a mindset shift—it’s a practical tool with measurable outcomes. When clients engage with their future selves, they:

• Make values-aligned decisions with greater confidence.

• Reduce procrastination and increase follow-through.

• Let go of past regret and focus on forward momentum.

• Experience greater motivation, emotional clarity and purpose.

• Build an inner support system rooted in self-trust. By strengthening this connection, we empower clients to lead themselves more effectively—and that’s the ultimate goal of coaching.

WHY EVERY COACH SHOULD TRY IT

The best way to understand the power of this work? Experience it yourself. Whether through a guided visualization,

journaling practice or workshop, get curious about the version of you who’s already doing what you dream of.

When you embody your future self, you don’t just feel more empowered—you coach with more clarity, compassion and conviction.

Because here’s the truth: Clients feel that difference. They don’t just need you to tell them what’s possible. They need to see you living in alignment with the person you’re still becoming.

And when you show up like that? You’re not just a coach. You’re a living invitation to transformation.

Author’s Note: Ready to meet your future Self? If this concept sparked something in you, don’t ignore it—explore it.

The Future Self Coach Certification from Transformation Academy gave me the language, tools and science-backed framework to deepen my practice—not just for my growth, but for my clients’ transformation, too. Whether you’re new to coaching or well into your journey, this course offers fresh insight and practical application for real results.

To learn more, visit: http://www.transformationacademy.com and search for Future Self Coach Certification. Your future self—and your future clients—will thank you.

RESEARCH CONTRIBUTIONS SUPPORTING THE POWER OF FUTURE SELF EXPLORATION

Researcher

Derek Parfit

Hal Hershfield

Daphna Oyserman

Markus & Nurius

Ross & Wilson

Contribution

Debunked fixed-identity theories; proposed identity as a series of connected selves

Found that stronger connection to future self improves decision-making

Explored identity-based motivation; showed how imagined selves shape behavior

Introduced the concept of “possible selves”

Found that future-oriented thinking reduces rumination and regret

Why It Matters for Coaches

Validates that growth is natural and expected— not a contradiction of self

Clients who “see” their future selves take aligned actions today

Helps coaches create momentum by anchoring goals in identity

Coaches can help clients bring future possibilities into the present

Supports emotional resilience and positive reframing

The Daley Word

with Jowanna Daley

Jowanna is a business and personal coach, consultant, freelance blogger, and personal brand photographer. Jowanna uses her 20-plus years of business, information technology, business analysis, and project management experience to serve solopreneurs, microbusinesses, and professionals through consulting, coaching, training, and workshops. She is also a freelance blogger who serves corporate and non-corporate clients. Visit her website at https://www.jowannadaley.com/about/

The practice of allowing spirit, or the soul, to release a word that will direct your focus and journey over the next 12 months.

From making simple sounds that warned of predators, humans have evolved to using complex words to convey thoughts, ideas, ideals and—if we’re open enough—emotions. Words can profoundly influence our relationships and our society. String a few words together

in a phrase, and they will have the remarkable power to stir others to action or to calm troubled situations. For example, Dr. Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream” speech inspired a movement across the world where people envisioned justice and equality. Words, threaded together into a phrase, cause an acoustic physiological and psychological response that engages the listener.

Just as everything carries a notable vibration, each word carries high or low vibratory frequency depending on its meaning and the situation the word is used in. The word “No” usually has a negative meaning, but, when used proactively to stop a behavior, it’s fiercely empowering and carries a high frequency. Meanwhile, a complimentary word or phrase is encouraging and enough to lift someone’s mood, which is like a sincere apology that can rebuild trust and improve the course of a relationship. Such is the power of words: A well-chosen word can eviscerate someone more effectively than a blade—just as a magically tuned uplifting word will instantly heal the wounds of the downtrodden.

With that as a background, we unveiled a spiritual practice at the start of 2025. It’s one my partner and I have done for 20 years with remarkable success. The practice is called “Your Guiding Word.” It asks participants to sit either in meditation, or in a quiet place in their home and ask for a single word to float into consciousness from the subconscious. The practice is not about imagining a word. Rather, it is the art of allowing spirit, or the soul, in stillness, to release a word that would genuinely help the individual in their personal behavior or activities during the coming year.

As you sit in silence, you’ll hear or sense a word. If you’re consciously thinking about words, they’re not the right ones. If the word emerges without any thoughts, that’s the right one. Many will question that word. So, it takes a bit of trust to let the word occur without secondguessing it, or worse, canceling it with another one that comes from the conscious mind. You’ll know the right word when you hear it. Next, write it down somewhere prominent so you will see it daily. I put my word on the side of the refrigerator where I’ll see it every day. Then contemplate the word. Look up the meaning. See if it hits any inner notes for you, because this word is the one your soul or spirit has decided you should focus on in the coming year. That’s your Guiding Word for the full 12 months. There’s also a responsibility in sticking to your word. If this is your first attempt at the practice, many of the words that you “get” are predictable. Those words come from your conscious thinking. The typical words range from calm and peace to hope and love. If it’s the first time doing it and it’s the word you feel comfortable with, then let it be and use that word. But if you really want to subscribe to the essence of the practice, then go much deeper. The word that floats up from the subconscious is different. And it will shape or influence your daily life because this word always comes unbidden and without any thoughts.

Some of these words will gather you up and make you think. If you get a word like “compassion” it means I’m here for you or I see your pain. If the word is “diligence” you’re pointed to a trait like procrastination. Or upon reflection, the word reveals a deficiency you might not have been aware of. “allowance” is a difficult one. It directs you onto a neutral spiritual path where all judgment is held at bay and the outcome, when it arrives, may not be the one

you wanted to experience. Yet, “allowance” begs you to step back from either or, positive or negative, and remain at peace with whatever happens.

The last part of the practice is to be aware of the word every day. Review it, think about it, and see how it’s playing out in your life. If a situation arises, find out if your word is helping you to resolve it. At the sixmonth mark, take stock and inventory of the word. Journal your experiences with the word and record how it has changed your behavior or activities. If it hasn’t, then there’s a bigger challenge to find out why not.

At the end of one year begin again and make it an annual practice. We begin the “meditation process” on the Winter Solstice and it goes through the 12 days of Christmas, ending on January 6th. After a few years, you should see a pattern developing. And if nothing else, you’ll become aware of the power of words.

Editor’s Note: Find out more on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoandPatricia22.

INSTRUMENTS OF CHANGE

Words Can Inspire and Motivate

Even in our everyday lives, words of encouragement can lift us from despair and remind us of our own potential. Whether it’s a friend telling us they believe in us or a mentor offering guidance, these words can create a sense of hope, motivation and empowerment that drives us to reach for goals we might have once thought impossible.

Words Can Heal and Comfort

Words also have the power to heal. A comforting message during a time of loss, a supportive text after a challenging day, or an apology when we’ve wronged someone—these are all examples of how words can offer solace. The human desire for connection often leads us to turn to language when we need emotional support. A simple phrase like “I’m here for you” or “It’s going to be okay” can provide immense comfort during difficult moments, creating a sense of safety and reassurance. Furthermore, words can repair relationships. A heartfelt apology, when genuine and sincere, can rebuild trust and mend broken bonds. On the other hand, words used carelessly or harshly can have the opposite effect, causing pain, resentment and distance between people.

Words Can Damage and Destroy

Unfortunately, words are not always used for good. Just as they can heal, they also can wound deeply. Insults, criticism and harsh words can leave lasting scars that may not always be visible but can be

just as damaging as physical injury. Bullying, whether in schoolyards, workplaces or on the Internet, often relies on the power of cruel words to break down the self-esteem of others, causing psychological harm. Moreover, words can be used to manipulate, deceive and control. Politicians, leaders and individuals in positions of power have long understood the power of rhetoric—the ability to persuade or manipulate the masses through persuasive language. History is rife with examples of how language has been twisted to spread propaganda, incite hatred or justify harmful actions.

Words Shape Reality

Perhaps one of the most profound effects words have is their ability to shape our perception of reality. Our inner monologue—the constant chatter in our heads—is a direct result of the words we use. Negative self-talk can contribute to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt and anxiety, while positive affirmations can build confidence and resilience. The language we use to describe the world around us can influence how we experience it. Describing a difficult situation as a challenge rather than a problem can make it feel more manageable. Similarly, the words we use to describe others often reflect our biases and can either perpetuate stereotypes or challenge them.

On a societal level, words shape culture. The way a society talks about certain issues—race, gender, politics, mental health—can either promote understanding and inclusivity or reinforce division and stigma. Language evolves with society, and as we become more conscious of the impact of words, we often see shifts in how we address topics of importance, whether it’s advocating for

gender-neutral language or pushing for more respectful and accurate representations of marginalized groups.

The Responsibility of Words

Given the power words hold, it’s essential to recognize the responsibility that comes with using them. Words can build up, but they can also tear down. As we communicate, we must be mindful of the impact our language has on others, being careful not to spread negativity, misinformation, or harm. Choosing our words thoughtfully can create a more compassionate, respectful world. It’s a reminder that with every sentence, we have the potential to either lift someone up or bring them down.

In our digital age, where communication is often brief, impersonal and public, the power of words is more pronounced than ever. Social media platforms, where messages can be spread rapidly to millions, provide a platform for both positive change and harmful rhetoric. We must remember that behind every screen is a person—someone who may be uplifted by our words or deeply hurt by them.

Conclusion

Words are much more than simple combinations of letters; they are instruments of change, vessels of emotion and mirrors of culture. They possess the power to shape lives, to heal wounds, and to break down barriers. Recognizing the influence language holds can transform how we interact with the world. By wielding our words with care, empathy and understanding, we can unlock their full potential, using them as tools for good and creating a more compassionate world for all.

Conscious Living with Jo Mooy

Jo Mooy has studied with many spiritual traditions over the past 40 years. The wide diversity of this training allows her to develop spiritual seminars and retreats that explore inspirational concepts, give purpose and guidance to students, and present esoteric teachings in an understandable manner. Along with Patricia Cockerill, she has guided the Women’s Meditation Circle since January 2006 where it has been honored for five years in a row as the “Favorite Meditation” group in Sarasota, FL, by Natural Awakenings Magazine. Teaching and using Sound as a retreat healing practice, Jo was certified as a Sound Healer through Jonathan Goldman’s Sound Healing Association. She writes and publishes a monthly internationally distributed e-newsletter called Spiritual Connections and is a staff writer for Spirit of Maat magazine in Sedona. For more information go to http://www.starsoundings.com or email jomooy@gmail.com

How to take your power back by consciously disengaging from thoughts and judgements about appearances.

In part 1 of this article series, we addressed the important distinction that we are spiritual, not physical, beings, and shared an exercise that enabled us to become more consciously aware of our true identity. In this month’s installment, we’re explore how Joel Goldsmith’s mystical teachings and the wisdom of Ho’oponopono can help us navigate the world we experience through our senses.

Heather: Barbara Muhl, one of Joel Goldsmith’s early Infinite Way teachers, found that her students were having difficulty “seeing through” the appearances presented by the senses to the spiritual truth that was actually there. This led her to write a book, The Royal Road to Reality, in which she explained that thoughts are a collective phenomenon—they’re not our own. We don’t create thoughts, and they don’t belong to us. We simply witness them appearing and become hypnotized into believing them. In Truth, we are Spirit, changeless and eternal. We’re not a physical body, and we’re not the sum total of a human life experience.

Yanni: Thoughts, feelings and emotions have nothing to do with what You are…They are arisings out of the collective field of consciousness. You are the witness of them, but you are not them. Our practice is to let the harmony of Mind become apparent by perceiving clearly and resting in the very Presence that we are.

Heather: Barbara Muhl explained that the carnal mind (or “collective consciousness”) is so ingrained, we take onboard beliefs unconsciously until we learn to discipline ourselves to become fully present as the Observer—as Yanni just said, the Witness of all that’s arising in our field of Awareness.

Thoughts are magnetic and attract circumstances of a similar vibration. For this reason, we often mirror and reinforce each other’s beliefs (or “scripts”, as Muhl called them). Muhl explained that Joel was teaching how to take our power back by consciously disengaging from thoughts and judgements about appearances. This, in turn, enables us to remain as the Observer, thus revealing the purity and perfection that’s always there as the underlying substance.

Yanni: Dr. Hew Len shared a similar approach in his transformative work based on Ho’oponopono, an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation, self-healing and forgiveness. It involves taking responsibility for one’s thoughts and actions and practicing forgiveness, repentance and gratitude to restore harmony and balance.

Dr. Len was a trained psychologist who believed that attempting to work one on one with people when endeavoring to resolve their problems was never effective. He first discovered Ho’oponopono when his mother took him to a seminar by Mornah Simeona, an early pioneer of these Hawaiian teachings. His passion for this method eventually guided him to the Hawaii

state hospital, where he was commissioned to work on the patients in a mental health, criminally ill, insane ward. He never actually saw any of his clients in person. Instead, using the notes given, he worked in private on his own reactions, mentally asking for their repentance, forgiveness and love. He also spoke to their subconscious minds while they were asleep. The purpose of this was to allow the healing process to take place without any conscious rejection that might have occurred if he’d seen them face to face. Whatever emotion came up within him regarding these cases, he embraced fully and viewed these shared memories of people and situations as an opportunity to let go. He understood that doing so released the error from the person in whichever area of life they’d been experiencing issues.

Within three years of this inner work, patients— who’d previously been shackled and violent in the ward and to the staff—were making cookies and playing tennis. His work was so successful that eventually the ward was closed and all the patients released.

Heather: Dr. Len understood that our outer experience is a reflection of our inner thought patterns. In essence, just as Muhl described, we have shared collective memories through our perceptions and senses that have been created, accepted and accumulated. Our thoughts are memories that have been replaying in the subconscious over eons of time, from this life and past lives.

Yanni: We have 11 million memories replaying per second and are conscious of only 50,000 thoughts a day, so we don’t really have any idea what will arise into consciousness. What we do have is the choice to take 100 percent responsibility to mitigate these collective memories through repentance, forgiveness, love and gratitude, thereby transmuting and releasing blocks that bind and attach us to the past.

Here is one translation of the Ho’oponopono prayer that can be used: “I am sorry for whatever we have done. Please forgive me for the memories that we have manifested. Thank you for giving me one more chance to make amends. I love you”.

Thus, we release and cut the akashic cords.

When we forgive, we release the burden within the inner child of our subconscious mind to connect with the

mother aspect, or “Divine Mind”, within. This takes us back to “Zero State”, transmuting the situation and allowing the right inspiration to appear. In this way, we are forgiving everything: the land, buildings, places, animal kingdom, mineral, vegetable kingdoms, etc., of stuck vibrations.

Heather: Let’s address the question: “Can I reach a place of forgiveness by rising above thoughts I might be having about someone?”

Yanni: Yes, absolutely, by taking 100 percent responsibility for the thoughts within us.

Heather: Joel referred to this as the principle of “Impersonalization”—the understanding that all thoughts are appearances and impersonal. They’re not “our” thoughts. We didn’t create any of them. Our perception of another is based on shared memories (which Joel refers to as the “carnal mind”).

When we’re expressing love and forgiveness for any thought that arises, that’s the first step in becoming conscious conduits for Divine Mind, the very mind that constitutes our Being. The next step is to surrender and rest in the conscious awareness of that. This is what Joel means by “letting go”, and thus it’s the Light of our Consciousness that appears to transmute the problem. By seeing through the lens of Mind, we perceive the non-reality of any sensory dissonance, and it dissolves.

Joel often cited the example of Hitler. Despite his own inner work, he felt unable to forgive Hitler. But he came to the realization that he humanly wasn’t required to do the forgiving. His role was to be a conscious avenue for Divine Forgiveness to flow through. In Absolute Truth, there are no personalities—there’s only One: Spirit, and therefore nothing and no-one to forgive, just the presence of Love. The key is to live in conscious awareness of that inner radiance.

Yanni: Let’s mention here our Oneness. When a problem is released from us, it’s released from all of us because we’re all one. We’re no longer in a place of reacting because we know we’re only ever experiencing our own Omnipresence. There is no “other.” Ho,oponopono means to correct an error in me, the subconscious mind, so it all begins with me. Peace, healing and abundance do not come from the outside, they come from within—within my own

Dr. Heather Smith is the Founder of “Mystical Meditation,” an online platform used to share Joel Goldsmith’s work. She has been studying and practicing The Infinite Way teachings for over 30 years, and hosts spiritual talks, meditation groups and events online and in person, in London and America. Contact her via email at: mysticalmeditation@ yahoo.com. Find out more at: https://www.linktr.ee/mysticalmeditation

Consciousness. Therefore, we focus on our Soul and rest consciously in that Presence, the Essence of what we are, which is the peace we’ve been seeking all along.

Suggested reading:

The Infinite Way, by Joel Goldsmith

The Royal Road to Reality by Barbara Muhl

Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len

JOIN THE ONLINE CLASS

This article series is based on a special online course designed to bring healing and positive change into your life. It explores the art of living from “Zero State” Mind, letting go of thoughts that serve no purpose, gaining inspiration, taking right action and finding lasting inner peace.

Drawing on the spiritual wisdom of Joel Goldsmith’s Infinite Way teachings together with the love and forgiveness principles of “Ho’oponopono”, authors Heather Smith and Yanni Charalambous presented the first class in April and the second in May. You can join the third class online: June 28, 2025. Audio recordings for each class are available either as a compilation of the whole course or as individual recordings. One-on-one private consultations also are available throughout the course and beyond. To register and for more information, contact Heather via email at: mysticalmeditation@yahoo.com

Yanni Charalambous is a clearing the mind expert and life coach who has dedicated the past nine years to guiding and empowering people through inner stillness and positive thinking. He also draws from his extensive research and practice of the Ho’oponopono teachings.Contact him via email at: yannimindbodyandspirit@gmail.com. Find out more at: https://www.linktr.ee/yannicharalambouscoaching

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Finding the key to lasting happiness in relationships.

Happiness is a fundamental human desire, and when it comes to romantic relationships, it plays a crucial role in building a strong and fulfilling connection. To help you on this journey, let’s explore the concept of happiness in relationships and discuss some key strategies for achieving and sustaining it.

Happiness in relationships is not just about feeling good in the moment; it is about creating a deep sense of contentment and fulfillment that endures over time. This type of happiness is built on a foundation of trust, respect, communication and mutual support. It involves feeling valued, understood and accepted by your partner, and reciprocating those feelings in return.

One of the first steps to achieving happiness in a relationship is to prioritize self-awareness and self-care. It is essential to understand your own needs, desires and boundaries, and communicate them effectively to your partner. Taking care of your

physical, emotional and mental well-being is also crucial, as it allows you to show up fully in the relationship and contribute positively to its growth and development. Effective communication is another key component of building happiness in relationships. Open and honest communication fosters understanding, trust and connection between partners. It is important to listen actively, express your thoughts and feelings clearly, and be willing to compromise and find common ground. By communicating effectively, you can prevent misunderstandings, resolve conflicts and strengthen your bond with your partner.

Cultivating gratitude and appreciation also is essential for creating lasting happiness in relationships. Taking the time to express gratitude for your partner’s qualities, actions and efforts can enhance feelings of love and connection. Similarly, showing appreciation for the little things your partner does for you can go a long way in fostering a positive and supportive dynamic in the relationship.

Creating shared goals, interests and experiences with your partner can also contribute to your overall happiness as a couple. Whether it’s planning a vacation together, pursuing a hobby, or working towards a common life goal, shared activities can strengthen your bond, create lasting memories, and deepen your connection with each other.

Ultimately, happiness in relationships is a continuous journey that requires effort, commitment, and a willingness to grow and evolve together. By prioritizing self-awareness, effective communication, gratitude, shared experiences, and mutual support, you can cultivate a deep sense of contentment and fulfillment in your relationship that will stand the test of time.

I encourage you to embrace these strategies and make them a part of your daily practice. Remember that happiness in relationships is not a destination but a way of being, and by investing in your connection with your partner, you can create a love that lasts a lifetime.

Danielle Duncan is a Saint Louis, MO-based Relationship Coach who felt a deep calling to uplift others from a young age, and, after a successful career as a spoken word artist, she transitioned to become a Life Coach. She holds four certifications from Transformation Academy: Happiness, Purpose, Self-Care, and Attracting Authentic Relationships. In August 2021, she founded Root & Revive Life Coaching Services, focusing on guiding single black women through personal development and career transitions. Danielle also is the author of three self-help books and a proud member of the Impact Coaching Collective. Outside of coaching, Danielle enjoys traveling and cherishes simple pleasures in life. She hosts two podcasts, spreading messages of personal growth and positivity to a wider audience. Danielle's resilience, empathy, and faith inspire others to embrace their true selves and pursue their dreams. Find out more online at: https://www.rootrevivelifecoachingservices.org/ or email her at: danispeakstruth2021@yahoo.com

Life is meant to be felt and experienced, even in our lowest of times.

I attended a funeral a few weeks ago for my niece’s mother-in-law. In the middle of the service, my niece looked back at me and mouthed the words “I love you.” In that vulnerable, raw space, in the middle of her sadness and heartbreak, she took a moment to let me and others in the room know that we were important to her.

In that moment, I felt the flood of love coming from her to me, a sensation that knew no distance, no pretense— it was simply and courageously love.

I wanted to immediately get up and hug her, but thought the pastor wouldn’t appreciate the interruption. Instead, I silently told her that I loved her too.

And I thought, how many of us are so brave? How many of us are willing to expose our hearts so openly when we are at our most vulnerable?

The lesson that day swirled all around me. It followed me home; it became a part of my dreams that night. Allen Saunders said, “Life is what happens while we are busy making other plans.” Yet, somehow, we’ve forgotten the lesson that life and love and the people in our lives are worthy of noticing and acknowledging. We think that we will send that text or make that phone call later, when we’re not so busy. We promise ourselves that we will forgive someone’s trespass when we are good and ready…we remind ourselves that we have time…

Sometimes I think I need a tattoo to remind myself that “Now is the Time” because now is the only time we really have. Tomorrow makes no promises. What would happen, do you think, if we laid down our armor, just for a little while. Who would we be without all the layers and numbing and hiding, without the defeatism and cynicism?

The truth is, we weren’t born this way. Our hearts were wide open in the beginning. So were the hearts of all those we are struggling to forgive. But life is what happens while we are busy making other plans, and, when we get hurt, we layer up to protect ourselves from future harm. Yet, life isn’t meant to be covered up or muted. It is meant to be felt and experienced, even in our lowest of times. That is the lesson my niece taught me that day. That it is okay to hurt and still love. That it is okay to be angry and still forgive. That it is beyond brave to reach out even when all you want to do is curl up into a ball. I may not get that tattoo (at least not a permanent one), but I may write down somewhere where I can see it, that “Now is the Time” to live this life with a grateful and open heart. Now is the time to say, “I’m sorry” and “thank you” and “I love you”. Why wait?

The Yoga of Life

with Mary Boutieller

Mary Boutieller is a Registered Yoga Teacher through Yoga Alliance. She has been teaching yoga since 2005. Her work experience includes 22 years as a firefighter/paramedic and 10 years as a Licensed Massage Therapist. Mary’s knowledge and experience give her a well-rounded understanding of anatomy, alignment, health and movement in the body. She is passionate about the benefits of yoga and the ability to heal at all levels through awareness, compassion, and a willingness to explore. She can be reached at: SimplyogaOm@gmail.com.

Framework for Healing

F FRAMEWORK RAMEWORK

FOR HEALING FOR HEALING

How to harness I/O psychology to navigate grief, regain a sense of control, and chart a path forward in life.

Losing my son is an indescribable pain—a loss that has reshaped my world in ways I never imagined possible. In the midst of this profound grief, I have sought solace and structure in unexpected places. One such beacon of hope has been the principles of Industrial/Organizational (I/O) Psychology, which traditionally focus on workplace dynamics, but offer powerful insights into human behavior, resilience and well-being that can also help in navigating personal loss.

I/O Psychology emphasizes the value of structure, clarity and purpose—elements that have become unexpectedly therapeutic in my journey through grief. When everything feels uncertain, creating a daily structure can serve as a stabilizing force. Inspired by goal-setting techniques used to boost performance in organizations, I began setting small, achievable objectives each day. Whether it was a short walk, a few moments of mindfulness, or even organizing a corner of my home, these micro-goals helped me regain a sense of control and gradually rebuilt my capacity to function.

THE POWER OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

A cornerstone of I/O Psychology is the development of emotional intelligence. Learning to recognize and manage

emotions—both my own and those of the people around me—has been crucial in my healing process. Emotional intelligence is not about suppressing pain; rather, it’s about acknowledging it, understanding its impact, and finding ways to express it constructively. I began to practice reflective journaling, a technique often encouraged in organizational settings, to process my emotions. This daily practice allowed me to articulate the complex layers of my grief, transforming raw pain into a narrative that I could eventually share with trusted friends and colleagues.

LEVERAGING SOCIAL SUPPORT NETWORKS

Another valuable lesson from I/O Psychology is the importance of social support and communication. In many workplaces, fostering a collaborative environment helps employees thrive, even under pressure. I realized that I, too, needed a network—a “community of care” that extended beyond the traditional boundaries of the workplace. I reached out to colleagues, support groups, and even professional coaches trained in I/O principles, who helped me understand that my grief was not a sign of weakness, but a natural human response to profound loss. This network provided both emotional support and practical advice on how to manage the challenges of daily life while grieving.

RESILIENCE AND ADAPTATION IN THE FACE OF ADVERSITY

I/O Psychology often explores resilience—the capacity to recover from setbacks and adapt in the face of adversity. Through my own exploration of resilience-building strategies, I have come to appreciate that grief, while deeply painful, can also catalyze personal growth. Techniques such as cognitive reframing, mindfulness and stress management, which are frequently applied in workplace settings to enhance performance under pressure, have

helped me view my loss from a new perspective. Rather than seeing grief as an insurmountable obstacle, I began to see it as part of a broader, more complex journey toward healing and self-discovery.

CREATING A COMPASSIONATE ENVIRONMENT

One of the most transformative aspects of I/O Psychology is its focus on creating environments that support well-being. I have seen firsthand how organizations that prioritize employee well-being—with initiatives like flexible work arrangements, supportive leadership, and employee assistance programs—can help individuals navigate personal crises. Inspired by these models, I have made a concerted effort to cultivate a similar atmosphere in my own life. I have learned to set boundaries, allow myself moments of rest, and seek help when needed, understanding that self-compassion is as essential as professional competence.

MOVING FORWARD WITH PURPOSE

While the pain of losing my son will never fully dissipate, I have found that embracing the principles of I/O Psychology has allowed me to chart a path forward—a way to honor his memory while still striving to live a meaningful life. The techniques I have learned have not erased my grief, but they have provided me with tools to manage it more constructively. They remind me that even in the depths of sorrow, there is potential for growth, resilience, and renewed purpose.

As I continue on this challenging journey, I remain grateful for the unexpected guidance that I/O Psychology has offered. It has taught me that, like any organizational challenge, personal grief can be met with strategies that foster understanding, resilience and ultimately, healing. Though my path is one of loss, it is also one of learning—of discovering new ways to live, to support others, and to carry the memory of my son forward in every step I take.

Dr. Marla J. Albertie, Ph.D. is the founder Truth Speaks Group, LLC, a multi-media coaching company dedicated to creating solutions for integrating work and life to create harmony. Marla loves to read, is a concert and comedy show junkie and a cruiser for life. Follow Marla on Twitter @tspeakscoaching and IG @Tspeaksgroup. Sign up for the Truth Speaks Group LLC Newsletter at https://www.truthspeakscoaching.com/.

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The Earth isn’t just a lump of rock spinning in space. It’s alive, conscious and surrounded by an energy field—just like us. And because we are energetic beings, there is an affinity between us and our planet home.

Have you ever stood on a hill, gazing across a landscape and felt part of creation? Or maybe you were walking through a cathedral, or standing in the center of a stone circle, and a strange sense of the eternal touched you? Have you felt drawn to a particular location for reasons you couldn’t explain? A patch of woodland? A windswept ruin? A chapel tucked into a hillside? That might not be coincidence. Because we are energetic beings perhaps our frequency has “tuned in” to the frequency of our location.

These resonances are all around us, but one particular manifestation of them demonstrates that

humans and the Universe are in harmony. Some more sensitive people can even have telepathic exchanges with them. These energies are called ley lines.

The term was coined in 1921 when Alfred Watkins, enjoying the countryside of Herefordshire, England, noticed a curious thing: ancient sites—stone circles, hill forts, churches—seemed to connect in straight lines. Intrigued, he mapped them and worked out that these alignments were remnants of old trackways or trade routes. He called them “leys.”

But long before Watkins, indigenous people already knew about these energy arteries. For instance, Australian Aboriginal songlines are not only literal paths across the land, but spiritual ones that map geography, ancestry and myth in one breath. In ancient China, Feng Shui masters understood that Earth’s energy flows in currents, like a living body.

They called them dragon lines. And many Celtic traditions spoke of “spirit roads”—paths that the souls of the dead or faeries might travel.

Ley lines, then, are not a quirky, New Age theory. They’re echoes of a truth felt by cultures across the globe: That through these lines the Earth communicates with its human inhabitants, transferring vital life force (often called chi or prana) across fields, landscapes, countries and continents. Tuning into them can boost or drain our own energies. And, crucially, it works the other way too. Humans can either “give back” to these lines with positive vibrations or poison them with negativity.

Sensitive people claim to feel changes in their body or consciousness when near or standing on these alignments: some report tingling sensations, a feeling of weightlessness, or an overwhelming calm. Others feel creatively charged or spiritually cracked open. There’s even anecdotal evidence that meditating or performing rituals at these sites can accelerate healing, deepen insight or amplify intention.

I like to picture the Earth as a living being, complete with its own version of a nervous system. Ley lines are the meridians—the energetic channels— through which vital energy flows. Where these lines intersect, the energy intensifies, forming nodes or vortices, much like chakras in the human body. And just like us, the Earth needs balance— and we humans have an important part to play in maintaining (or disrupting) it. In healing traditions, when energy in our own system becomes blocked or stagnant, we fall ill. I believe that detrimental disruptions in these planetary lines—whether through war, environmental destruction or even neglect—makes Gaia fall ill too. And, in a negative feedback loop, this has a detrimental effect on human well-being.

One of the world’s the most celebrated alignments is the Mary and Michael Line, which cuts across southern England, linking Glastonbury Tor, Avebury, St. Michael’s Mount and more. It was discovered by UK dowser Hamish Miller and his colleague Paul Broadhurst. In their influential book, The Sun and the Serpent (1989), they write of how they meticulously dowsed and mapped this specific energy current across southern England. They identified two distinct energy pathways within this alignment: The Michael Line (solar, masculine energy) and The Mary Line (lunar, feminine energy). It has now become a spiritual and cultural walking pilgrimage across southern England from Cornwall to Norfolk.

Although the concept of ley lines originated in England, the world is crisscrossed with them, and the United States has more than its fair share. If you Google “Ley lines in the United States”, endless maps are offered covering the whole country.

I’m an energy dowser, and ley lines are a particular favorite of us dowsers. But, even if you’re not the kind of person who carries a pendulum or dowsing rods in your backpack, ley lines might need you and you them. Because this is ultimately about connection—between you and the land, you and the past, you and the energy that binds all life together. Feed love, kindness and empathy into the lines and the planet benefits. Do the opposite and it suffers— and us with it.

You don’t need a compass or a doctorate in geomancy to benefit from ley lines. Just pay attention. Seek out sacred sites and notice where you feel most alive, most “in tune.” Trust the tingle in your feet or the silence that falls over your thoughts in certain places. Let curiosity be your compass. After all, Gaia has always been speaking. Maybe ley lines are just one of the ways she’s trying to get through.

Anthony Talmage is author of five books in his Psychic Mind series: Dowse Your Way to Psychic Power, In Tune with the Infinite Mind, Unlock the Psychic Powers of Your Unconscious Mind, How to Crack the Cosmic Code and Mindfulness and the Pendulum, all available in Kindle, printed and audio versions from Amazon and all good online bookshops. Contact Anthony via facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/anthony.talmage.

Mastering your light and shadow to fully shine and step into wholeness.

THE MOMENT OF DISCOVERY

For most of my life, I believed my biggest struggles were flaws that needed fixing. I was too intense, too analytical, too impatient—never quite balanced enough. No matter how much I refined my skills, self-awareness alone didn’t bring peace. There was always something to work on, something to adjust.

Then, I read an article called “The Strength-Saboteur Connection” by a fellow coach, which deeply resonated and made me reevaluate my strengths and weaknesses. Here’s what I found: The things I had been fighting were not flaws that “de-validated” me in my worth and identity, but simply the unbalanced shadow of my strongest qualities.

What if strength and weakness weren’t opposites, just mature and immature expressions of the same design?

What happened next in my inner world felt almost like a revelation. Like a heavy mantle of shame was lifted. I wasn’t broken. I wasn’t too much or not enough. I was simply me— whole, yet learning how to integrate every part of myself into alignment and maturity.

THE PARADOX OF STRENGTH AND SHADOW: A UNIFIED DESIGN

There is often an internal tension between who we are and who we are becoming. Strengths feel natural to embrace, but weaknesses? Those tend to bring discomfort. They challenge us. They reveal where growth, discipline and refinement are needed. Ignoring them doesn’t make them disappear. If left unaddressed, weaknesses don’t remain neutral—they either take control or become areas for refinement. Acknowledging them isn’t about self-criticism but about creating space for growth.

THE ROLE OF STRENGTH AND WEAKNESS IN MATURITY

• Strength, when left unchecked, can lose its balance. Confidence without humility turns into arrogance. Passion without discipline leads to recklessness.

• Weakness isn’t something to hide; it’s a signal for development. It highlights areas where character work and alignment can take place.

• Taking responsibility for both strengths and shadows allows for more intentional choices in leadership, relationships and personal integrity.

Growth doesn’t mean rejecting certain aspects of ourselves, but learning how to shape them with wisdom.

There is true good and evil in the world. There are actions that lead to justice, truth and integrity, and others that lead to harm, deception and destruction. The way we engage with our own strengths and weaknesses affects not only us but also those around us.

This is why growth isn’t about proving worth—it’s about embracing the responsibility of becoming who we are meant to be.

THE SCIENCE OF COHERENCE: ALIGNING LIGHT AND SHADOW

Resisting parts of ourselves creates internal friction and cognitive dissonance. This tension leads to exhaustion—mentally, emotionally and even physically.

Coherence, on the other hand, allows everything to work together. It doesn’t require suppressing certain traits but, rather, learning to regulate and balance them.

Quantum Cognition: We Exist in Superposition

Neuroscience and quantum principles align in one truth: we are not linear beings.

• It’s not about being either strategic or intuitive, strong or sensitive, bold or cautious—it’s about knowing when and how to engage different aspects of ourselves.

• The ability to adapt and integrate rather than polarize allows for more fluid, intentional responses to life.

• Accepting all parts of ourselves brings clarity and alignment, making room for strength and refinement to coexist. Coherence vs. Imbalance

Shadows don’t disappear when ignored—they only lose their power when integrated with integrity.

Maturity isn’t about eliminating struggle but about learning to channel strengths wisely. The areas where the greatest tension exists often hold the most potential for transformation.

PRACTICAL INTEGRATION: EMBODYING YOUR FULL DESIGN

This isn’t just a conceptual shift—it’s something that can be lived out daily. Here are a few ways to start integrating strengths and shadows in a way that fosters wholeness:

Reflection Prompts for Reintegration

• What strengths have felt easy to embrace?

• What qualities have been harder to accept?

• Where do strengths occasionally tip into their shadow side?

• What shifts when I see weaknesses as invitations for refinement rather than as flaws?

Daily Practices to Cultivate Coherence

• Recognizing imbalance: Becoming aware of when a strength is tipping into excess.

• Real-time adjustments: Instead of suppressing traits, practicing subtle shifts—like refining a skill rather than abandoning it.

• Commitment to refinement: Growth isn’t about eliminating challenges but about learning to navigate them with wisdom and intentionality.

Growth = Starting Where You Are

• There is no need to be fully developed before taking action. “I can only grow if I start somewhere, and starting means not knowing, not being able, not being proficient, not being mature—yet.”

• The goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress.

Going Deeper Spiritually

The Bible, as one example, tells us that humans were created in the image of God—not as mere copies, but as reflections of His majesty, magnitude and excellence. Each of us carries a facet of His nature, woven together in a unique composition of personality, character and gifting.

To truly know ourselves is, in many ways, to recognize the hand of the Creator in the intricacy of our design.

Understanding how our design works—how different facets of our persona interact, complement, and enhance each other—is first and foremost a deeply healing experience:

• Where we once saw contradictions, we begin to see harmony.

• Where we once felt fragmented, we recognize intentionality.

• Where we once struggled with our identity, we find peace in knowing we were crafted with purpose.

It is not about achieving perfection, but about stepping into wholeness.

RECONNECTION: BEING PLUGGED BACK INTO THE SOURCE

For me, discovering my unique design was not just an intellectual process—it was a spiritual homecoming. It felt like being plugged back into my Source—like light flowing through me freely, unobstructed. Not striving, not forcing, just shining as intended.

To the believer, this is the invitation to experience the difference between self-improvement and Creator-led transformation.

And in the alignment with the fullness of that design, we find a flow of purpose, clarity and light that no striving could ever produce.

FINAL THOUGHTS: THE JOURNEY HOME

Coming home to our design isn’t about fixing what’s “wrong” with us. It’s about recognizing what has always been right—but unbalanced, unrefined or misunderstood.

There is no need to live in shame about our shadows or give them permission to run unchecked.

When resistance gives way to alignment, we step into coherence.

When we embrace who we are fully, we lead ourselves—and others—more intentionally. And when we align with our design, we find clarity, energy and purpose in ways we never imagined possible.

We are not broken.

We are whole—learning, growing and becoming. And that is enough.

Christina Stäudle is a trauma-informed psychotherapy practitioner, TA Master Transformation Coach, and founder of Mission Transformation International. Known as Mrs. Antifragility, she equips individuals to break free from toxic cycles, build authentic purpose, and grow through adversity with grace and strength. Her work blends self-leadership, resilience, and soul-deep transformation—empowering emerging leaders to move from survival into sustainable impact. Christina is based in Germany and East Africa. You can connect with her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-stäudle-mt

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How to use affirmations to change your thinking and improve your reality.

The world around us is shifting rapidly—and even the most stable among us are experiencing shock and disbelief as the old gives way to the new. To adapt, we need to reevaluate, look deeper within ourselves, and see where our daily habits hold us back. From there, we can adopt a more powerful mindset and use affirmations to create a positive reality that helps us—and the world—grow in consciousness. Do you criticize others when their opinions do not align with yours? How do you react when the actions of others upset you? Do you respond harshly? Why? Perhaps these actions are triggering a fear that is stuck inside you. Maybe you are trying to fit more into your day than your mind, body and emotions can comfortably process. Are your thoughts and words creating a reality that keeps you stuck in a pattern of behavior you are ready to outgrow?

Jose Silva, who taught guided meditation on how to achieve the “alpha” brainwave state of relaxation for personal growth, creative problem-solving and psychic development, reminds us that every word we use—whether in speech or thought—triggers a reaction within us. It can be physical, resulting in our taking an action. It can be mental, causing a new thought process. Or emotional, resulting in specific feelings. Every word we allow into our minds has a certain power and consequence. These words can sit in our energy fields and gather momentum over time.

When we focus on a thought, our mind and body will start turning it into a reality that resonates with it.

My first metaphysical teacher, Rev. Dorothy Flexer, at the Shrine of the Master Church in Sarasota, FL, taught us to use affirmations as a gentle way to train our minds to use positive words and change our thinking for the better:

• Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.

• If anyone can do it, I can do it.

• I am filled with life and health and joy.

• All things work together for my good. Here are more from Florence Scovill Shin:

• I am harmonious, poised and magnetic.

• All obstacles now vanish from my pathway.

• I have a wonderful business in a wonderful way; I give wonderful service for wonderful pay. Other affirmations can be found on YouTube, Google, and through metaphysical writers. Make up your own to fit your circumstances. At first, affirmations can replace negative thoughts that keep circling in your mind. By repeating them, you can break the mind chatter. They can produce powerful results because they carry a high frequency.

But it is not enough to simply parrot affirmations. It is essential to let them sift through your conscious mind (in the beta brainwave state) to the alpha brainwave state (daydreaming, meditative) and then into theta (deep relaxation, subconscious) so that you create a more satisfying reality.

“It is your actions, your gestures, and your attitude in life that must bear witness to what you have understood, not merely your words.”—Omraam

This is the first step to attract the synchronicities and the assistance you need to come into your life at the frequency you desire. Like attracts like. Saying the words with positive emotion amplifies the power of the affirmations. You are engaging more of yourself than just your mind.

To avoid attracting disappointing circumstances, refrain from thinking and speaking negative words. It is not enough to understand this intellectually. You must follow through with repetitive action to ground your thoughts and words into a more substantial pattern of behavior.

As you repeat affirmations and feel them at deeper levels, the rest of your words and actions will begin to shift to harmonize with the affirmations. You will likely start recognizing synchronicities in your life—a little cash showing up for you at just the right time, someone coming forth to help in your time of need, small coincidences that make you smile, and more. The next step will be fulfilling some larger desire, often unexpectedly. As you integrate affirmations into your life, you will realize that you are the creator of your destiny.

You are the master of your soul.

Elemental Wisdom

with Spencer Rouse

Spencer Rouse has been a professional psychic and intuitive reader, energy healer, life coach, and lecture/workshop facilitator for more than 20 years, working one-on-one in counseling sessions, in groups, and at psychic fairs and other events. She works primarily through the gifts of claircognizance—an inner knowing—and clairsentience—the ability to sense information through feelings and emotions. Spencer also connects with the different layers of the human energy field (the aura) using color and sound to help balance and invigorate life force energy. Visit her online at http://www.SpencerRouse.com or email PsychicSpencer.com

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