PUBLISHERS
Natalie Rivera
Joeel A. Rivera, M.Ed.
EDITOR
Lisa Cedrone
CONTRIBUTORS
Stéphane Narcis, Marnie Schneider, Spencer Rouse, Christina Stäudle, Marla Albertie, Jeannette Koczela, Jo Mooy, Owen Waters, Mary Boutieller, Darrel Hammon
Growth isn’t always visible but it’s always possible when you are aligned with your purpose and inner truth.
By Dr. Stéphane Narcis
Before I ever wore a sash or held a pageant title, I was doing the most critical work of my life: facing myself. Not the self the world sees but the one that doubts, overthinks, and sometimes hides in fear. The one that, like so many people I now coach, quietly battled impostor syndrome. That voice that whispers, “You’re not enough.”
And while this voice still echoes from time to time, today I know how to silence it, not with ego, but with inner truth.
I didn’t expect to become Mister Globe Indian Ocean 2025—the winner of a pageant that focuses on promoting identity, journeys, and the empowerment of voices from the Indian Ocean region on a global stage. I didn’t pursue pageantry—but I did pursue authenticity. And somewhere along the line, that led me to compete for and win this title.
Transformation doesn’t always come from chasing it; most often, it arrives when you’re finally aligned with your purpose.
As a life coach, my work is rooted in helping people reconnect to themselves. Whether it’s through Zumba movement, emotional intelligence workshops, mindset sessions, or meaningful conversation. I’m here to guide people back to their own power.
One of the most significant mindset shifts in my journey came from reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. The lesson that transformed me most? Don’t take things personally. Once I internalized that, I stopped giving power to outside noise and started reclaiming my emotional space. That’s the essence of internal growth recognizing that what others say or do is more about them than about you.
Inner work, for me, looks like this: daily affirmations, sometimes quietly while journaling, sometimes out loud in the mirror. Or it’s a dance that unleashes heavy emotions during Zumba. It’s being gentle with myself in pain, writing down how I feel without judgment, and returning later to reflect with clarity. I don’t rush the discomfort: I sit with it. Then I transform it.
Emotional intelligence, to me, is the ability to understand not just feelings, but their functions. Emotions are not enemies: they are signals. One of the hardest lessons I had to learn was that emotional intelligence isn’t about suppressing pain; it’s about allowing it without letting it define your next step.
In my coaching philosophy, I believe deeply in this: never judge, always listen, and set firm boundaries. Coaching is not fixing. It’s not giving advice. It’s holding space. My favorite questions begin with how and what—questions that guide people toward
unlocking their own solutions. Because coaching isn’t about telling people who they should become. It’s about reminding them who they already are.
I’ve found that the difference between someone who grows and someone who stays stuck is self-awareness and readiness. People say, “I want to change,” but they often fail to examine their resistance. Growth begins the moment we stop blaming and start asking better questions. A simple but powerful example? Learning to say “no.” That’s transformation. The day someone says, “No, I deserve better,” is the day their story shifts.
There are many tools I love, but one I recommend often is the Wheel of Life: a visual snapshot of balance across areas like health, relationships, career, and personal growth. When people see their imbalance clearly, they can finally begin to realign.
I also resonate with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and the GROW model frameworks that blend reflection with action. But beyond theory, I love metaphors and stories. They bypass the brain and go straight to the soul. When someone hears a story that mirrors their own struggle, healing begins.
While I don’t yet coach full-time professionally, I live it. I guide friends, strangers, students—anyone seeking clarity. Coaching doesn’t happen only in sessions. It happens when you walk your talk, when you become a lighthouse for others.
So, what do I want people to know?
That they are not broken. That it’s okay to start small. That growth isn’t always visible but it’s always possible.
If I could speak to my 18-year-old self, I’d say: “Dear Stéphane, life may confuse you right now. People may leave. Doors may close. But please, stay true to your core. You’re already enough. Just keep going.”
And today, what makes me proud isn’t the crown or the title Mister Globe Indian Ocean 2025. It’s the alignment. I still help. I still listen.
But now I also protect my peace. I’ve grown not into someone else, but more fully into myself.
If you’re reading this and wondering if change is possible for you: this is your sign. If you want to pack your bags and travel the world, do it. If you want to reinvent your path, start now. Life is a blank page. You are the author.
And here’s the truth: The most radical transformation begins when you stop performing and start returning to yourself.
Stéphane Narcis DProfQAHE, PhD, Dr. h.c. is a distinguished academic, researcher and educator specializing in film studies, intercultural communication and psychological analysis. His work focuses on media representation, nonverbal communication and narcissistic personality disorder. Holding a PhD in Film Studies, and aDoctor of Letters & PostDoctor of Letters (DLitt & PDLitt), he has received multiple awards for his academic contributions.
As a certified expert in body language and lie detection, he provides professional training to leaders and educators. His research has gained international recognition, offering insights into toxic relationship dynamics, workplace conflicts and societal structures. Stéphane aims to bridge academic research with real-world application, empowering individuals through education, cultural awareness, and psychological resilience. Connect with Stéphane: https://www. instagram.com/stephane_narcis
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As a mom of three and a children’s book author, I get asked about parenting all the time. People assume I’ve got it all figured out because I write for kids. I definitely don’t. My kids aren’t perfect. Neither am I. And if I’m being honest, the teenage years brought a gigantic learning curve—for all of us. There were tough conversations, growing pains, and moments I wanted to hit rewind. But through it all, I’ve learned that some of the most valuable lessons come from the mess.
That brings me to what I call “The Sippy Cup Theory.”
I still remember the day I knocked over what I swore was the biggest glass of chocolate milk in the world. We were at a restaurant, and it went everywhere—across the white tablecloth, dripping off the edge of the table, soaking everything. I was mortified. But you know what? I don’t remember ever spilling chocolate milk again. Whether I got better or just more aware, that spill taught me something important: most people have been around kids before— they understand messes. And sometimes, you only need to mess up once to learn the lesson.
Today, kids rarely get the opportunity to spill. We hand them sippy cups—no spills, no fuss, no growth. Sure, they’re practical. But what are we giving up for the sake of convenience?
THE REAL COST OF CONVENIENCE
According to child development experts, early childhood is the most critical time to build confidence, resilience, and motor skills—and those lessons often come from trying, failing, and trying again. Dr. Angela Duckworth, author of Grit, emphasizes that perseverance is formed through challenge, not ease. Kids don’t build confidence from avoiding mistakes. They build it from recovering.
And yet, parenting today feels more overwhelming than ever. In a recent Pew Research study, 80 percent of parents say it’s harder to raise kids now than it was two decades ago. Between technology, pressure to be perfect, and the constant barrage of conflicting advice, it’s no wonder we reach for shortcuts: tablets instead of books, screen time instead of story time, and sippy cups instead of learning how to balance a real glass.
But what seems easier now actually can make things more difficult later. I learned that the hard way.
DO THE HARD THING NOW
During the toddler years—and especially during those tricky teen ones—I often did what made life smoother in the moment. I made things easier for me. But later, those shortcuts revealed themselves as longer-term setbacks. The phrase “do the hard part now” hits home more than ever. It’s the hard parts that shape our kids—and shape us, too.
We want to raise strong, independent, kind, and resilient humans. That doesn’t happen in perfectly padded spaces. It happens when we let them take risks, get frustrated, make mistakes… and learn how to clean them up.
IT’S THE DETAILS THAT ARE LOVE
The most powerful parenting moments come from the smallest, messiest places: sitting on the floor and reading a book when it’s easier to hand over a screen. Letting your toddler drink from a real cup, even if it means wiping up five spills in a row. Choosing to engage rather than distract.
Because those little choices? That’s where love lives. Love is in the details—the daily, imperfect efforts that show our kids they matter. Not because we protected them from everything, but because we trusted them to grow through it.
LEAVE IT BETTER THAN YOU FOUND IT
This is something I try to live by and teach my kids: leave people, places, and things better than you found them. That applies to friendships, to schoolwork, to life—and yes, even to chocolate milk spills.
So, to every parent out there second-guessing, feeling overwhelmed, or wondering if they’re doing it “right”: I see you. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be present. Let them spill. Let them grow. Let yourself off the hook, too. Because while it might have started with a sippy cup, it doesn’t have to end there.
So, grab a real glass —filled with chocolate milk, coffee, or maybe something stronger—and raise it to the mess, the magic, and the beautiful imperfection of parenting. Spill a little. Laugh a lot.
And celebrate yourself for showing up.
FROM BENCH TO BOLD
A transformational podcast journey.
What happens when two women—each bold in her own right—come together to create a podcast rooted in truth, transformation, and a touch of Southern sparkle? You get Bench to Bold, the new show hosted by Alisa Hood and Marnie Schneider that’s already making waves in the world of personal growth and reinvention.
Alisa, the epitome of a true Southern Belle— graceful, resilient, and sharp as a tack—and Marnie, a dynamic entrepreneur, author, and legacy-builder, have come together for this podcast as longtime friends who have seen each other through life’s biggest pivots. Their friendship is the foundation of the show: real, supportive, loyal—and loud when it needs to be.
Each episode dives deep into the transformational moments that define our lives: career changes,
loss, love, reinvention, motherhood, identity shifts, and finding strength when the playbook suddenly changes. With an open heart and a sense of humor, Alisa and Marnie invite listeners to pull up a seat and lean into stories that inspire.
The podcast features bold guests—from CEOs and pro athletes to stylists, doctors, trainers, and everyday heroes—each sharing the lessons and breakthroughs that helped them get back in the game.
In a world that often applauds perfection, Bench to Bold celebrates progress. It’s messy, real, uplifting, and deeply human—everything transformational coaching stands for.
Whether you’re rebuilding, reinventing, or just remembering who you are—this is your invitation to get off the bench and into your bold.
Listen to Bench to Bold wherever you get your podcasts and follow @BenchToBold.
Marnie Schneider is CEO of the nonprofit Gameday and an inspirational speaker, author, podcaster, philanthropist, certified Happiness Life Coach, and—best of all—daughter and mom. A Philadelphia native now living in the Carolinas, she consistently devotes her time and resources to help others achieve their own victory. Marnie thinks of this as “showing up” on life’s playing field, with positivity and energy, day in and day out. Her passion for sports shines through in her book series, Gameday in the USA, which is in the Top 100 Kids Sports Travel books by Amazon. Marnie’s pride is her three kids—Jonathan, Goldie and Leo—and she has a heart for animals and has two rescue dogs and her handsome pony, Billy. For more information visit: https://www.marnieschneider.com and https://www.gamedayintheusa.com
Alisa Hood, right, and Marnie Schneider.
How to detach and clear through the ancient Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono.
By Spencer Rouse
What if you could experience peace even while losing something or someone who meant “everything” to you? What if surrendering your attachment to material possessions is the key to receiving deeper abundance?
The things we cling to as “ours”— money, titles, objects, and relationships— are all illusions constructed in our minds. These illusions create anxiety and fear, even in the absence of any external events.
If you feel a sense of loss, ask yourself: “Why am I so attached to [object, person, etc.]?” The journey of clearing begins with this awareness: When you detach from “ownership”, what comes to you arrives freely—not from clinging, but from vibrational alignment. This state of being is grace. Moreover, grace begins with your relationship to the Source—the one thing that cannot be bought, stolen, or taken from you.
Much of our suffering does not stem from loss itself, but from our attachment to what we believe we need or deserve. It is not our lack that causes pain, but rather our fixation on possessing certain things. The paradox is simple yet profound: By letting go of attachment, we
create space to receive what truly benefits us at the right time.
When we align ourselves with Source energy, we navigate the offerings of the physical world more effectively. We are here to create, experiment, learn, and grow. The gifts and identities of this world are temporary by design, and this is how it should be. By examining and releasing our emotional ties to all temporal things, we begin to experience true freedom. What comes to us resonates with the vibrational frequency we are emitting, arriving not with a sense of needing to grasp or control it, but as a gift—often unexpected. Our true needs are fulfilled more wisely, and the abundance that arrives aligns better with the goals we hold in our hearts and souls. We can enjoy and use the gifts and achievements of the material world, but we must not become tethered to them. Even in close relationships, it is wise to maintain personal autonomy to enjoy the fuller benefits of deeper love.
As we begin to embrace detachment, we may realize we are still carrying the weight of disappointment, personal inadequacies, or complex relationship issues. How can we cleanse our energy of these burdensome feelings?
INTO PRACTICE
Ho’oponopono is a beautiful traditional Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness that means “to make right” or “to correct.” The core mantra consists of four phrases:
1) I love you.
2) I am sorry.
3) Please forgive me.
4) Thank you.
Each phrase serves a unique purpose:
• “I love you” reconnects you to your divine source and all of life.
• “I am sorry” acknowledges your part in any imbalance or hurt.
• “Please forgive me” invites release and clears blame.
• “Thank you” completes the cycle with gratitude and grace.
You can apply this mantra to any troubling situation, whether it is a conflict, a scarcity mindset, or an emotional wound. Try repeating the complete mantra 30 times in a rhythmic manner, similar to a
meditation practice. Allow it to become a sacred expression, spoken with specific intent, and feel it resonate deeply within you as you repeat the words.
At its core, Ho’oponopono is based on several powerful beliefs:
• We are all connected.
• Problems are reflections of stored memories and beliefs within us.
• By taking full responsibility, we can cleanse these memories and heal.
• No one else is to blame; we must turn inward.
This practice teaches us that every issue we perceive is filtered through our own minds, shaped by our memories. These memories distort the present moment, creating pain and confusion.
Ho’oponopono beautifully encourages us to embrace our responsibility in releasing emotional burdens. It is not about blame or guilt; rather, it is about honoring our spiritual journey and unlocking the incredible freedom that comes from healing and letting go.
Let’s celebrate this transformative path together!
Elemental Wisdom
with Spencer Rouse
Spencer Rouse has been a professional psychic and intuitive reader, energy healer, life coach, and lecture/workshop facilitator for more than 20 years, working one-on-one in counseling sessions, in groups, and at psychic fairs and other events. She works primarily through the gifts of claircognizance—an inner knowing—and clairsentience—the ability to sense information through feelings and emotions. Spencer also connects with the different layers of the human energy field (the aura) using color and sound to help balance and invigorate life force energy. Visit her online at http://www.SpencerRouse.com or email PsychicSpencer.com.
Unpacking the silent roadblock to coaching success.
By Christina Stäudle
Every coaching relationship is built on trust, growth, and transformation. But beneath the surface, unspoken expectations often shape interactions in ways that can either deepen the connection or create subtle roadblocks.
Maybe the client assumes the coach will provide clear solutions. Maybe the coach expects the client to take full ownership of their process. When these expectations go unaddressed, they can lead to misalignment, frustration, or even disengagement.
The truth is this happens to all of us. Our assumptions— about roles, communication, and even success—don’t always align with reality. And that’s okay. The key is recognizing them, naming them, and making space for honest dialogue.
A COACHING SCENARIO: SARAH AND DANIEL
When Sarah, an experienced executive coach, first met Daniel, a mid-level leader from a high-context culture, she was excited. He was bright, eager, and highly motivated. But after a few sessions, she sensed something wasn’t right.
Daniel was attentive but hesitant. His responses were brief, and his engagement felt passive. He rarely pushed back, rarely asked deep questions. Sarah expected a collaborative, exploratory process, but Daniel seemed to be waiting for her to provide clear solutions.
One day, after yet another session where Daniel nodded politely but left without much dialogue, Sarah decided to address it directly.
“Daniel,” she asked gently, “I want to check in. How are these sessions working for you? Are we moving in a way that supports your growth?”
Daniel hesitated, then finally admitted, “To be honest, I thought coaching would be more… directive. In my culture, when you work with a senior professional, they usually tell you what to do. I wasn’t sure if I was allowed to ask you for concrete guidance.”
Sarah was stunned. She had assumed Daniel understood coaching as a reflective process, while Daniel had expected
a structured mentorship model. Their misalignment had silently shaped every session.
From that moment on, they redefined their coaching relationship—integrating both approaches. Sarah provided clearer guidance and frameworks while still encouraging Daniel’s self-reflection and agency. The shift was immediate: Daniel became more engaged, took initiative, and started seeing real progress.
This experience taught Sarah a powerful lesson: unspoken expectations don’t just hinder coaching—they shape it. And the only way to bridge the gap is through open, intentional dialogue.
KEY PSYCHOLOGICAL CONCEPTS AND HOW THEY APPLY TO COACHING
1) The Expectancy Effect: Self-Fulfilling Prophecies in Coaching
The Expectancy Effect (Rosenthal & Jacobson, 1968) suggests that our expectations—whether expressed or unspoken— can influence the reality we experience. In the coaching context, if a coach believes a client is highly self-directed, they may unintentionally provide less guidance, which could lead to the client struggling more than necessary. Similarly, if a coachee expects the coach to provide all the answers, they might become passive, waiting for solutions rather than actively engaging in self-discovery.
Application: To avoid these patterns, a coach can set clear expectations from the start by openly discussing the roles and responsibilities of both parties, helping to create an environment where growth can thrive.
2) Implicit Bias: Hidden Assumptions Shape the Coaching Relationship
Implicit biases (Greenwald & Banaji, 1995) are unconscious beliefs or assumptions we hold based on past experiences, culture, or societal influences. A coach might assume that a coachee from a hierarchical culture expects authority, while the coachee may be expecting more of a mentor relationship. These biases can subtly influence how we interpret silence, initiative, resistance, and overall engagement.
Application: Coaches can foster a more inclusive environment by embracing cultural humility and self-awareness. By actively reflecting on their own assumptions and inviting coachees to share their expectations, the coaching process becomes more collaborative and supportive. Being aware of these patterns helps us move from frustration to clarity. When we surface and address expectations early on, we build trust, strengthen alignment, and create a more effective coaching partnership.
3) Projection: Seeing Our Own Assumptions in Others
Projection (Freud, 1895) happens when we project our own thoughts, feelings, or expectations onto others. For instance, a coach who thrives in structured environments may unintentionally impose rigid goal setting on a coachee who prefers a more flexible approach.
Application: To prevent this, coaches can practice active listening and regularly ask, “What do you need from me?” This ensures the coaching relationship remains centered on the coachee’s unique needs, rather than the coach’s personal preferences.
HOW TO REVEAL AND ADDRESS HIDDEN EXPECTATIONS
Set clear expectations from the start:
• Ask: “What do you expect from this process? What do you need from me?”
• Clarify roles and responsibilities so both coach and client are aligned.
Check in regularly:
• Expectations shift over time. Create space to reflect: “Is this working for you? What would make it even better?”
Listen for what’s left unsaid:
• Sometimes, silence speaks volumes. Pay attention to body language, tone, and hesitations.
Create a safe space for honest conversations:
• When expectations surface, approach them with curiosity rather than judgment.
FINAL THOUGHTS: NORMALIZING UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS
Unspoken expectations aren’t just a coaching challenge—they show up in every relationship. And we don’t always recognize them right away. What matters most is what we do
once we do notice them. If we approach them with honesty and openness, they can become catalysts for deeper trust, accelerated growth, and richer coaching experiences. Instead of seeing them as roadblocks, we can choose to see them as invitations—invitations to communicate more clearly, connect more deeply, and cocreate a coaching journey that truly serves both parties.
SELF-REFLECTION:
1) What assumptions do I have about my role in this coaching relationship? Have I shared them openly?
2) What unspoken expectations might my client (or coach) have? How can I bring them to light?
3) Have there been moments of misalignment or frustration? Could unspoken expectations be a factor?
4) How can I create a safe space where both I and the other person feel comfortable discussing expectations?
5) In what ways could addressing hidden expectations lead to deeper trust and more impactful coaching outcomes?
Christina Stäudle is a trauma-informed psychotherapy practitioner, TA Master Transformation Coach, and founder of Mission Transformation International. Known as Mrs. Antifragility, she equips individuals to break free from toxic cycles, build authentic purpose, and grow through adversity with grace and strength. Her work blends self-leadership, resilience, and soul-deep transformation—empowering emerging leaders to move from survival into sustainable impact. Christina is based in Germany and East Africa. You can connect with her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-stäudle-mt
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Leaders who invest in building a culture of trust and autonomy help employees develop a sense of ownership.
By Marla J. Albertie, Ph.D.
In today’s complex and sometimes confusing workplaces, autonomy has become an essential ingredient for thriving teams—not simply a nice-to-have perk. Autonomy, defined as the degree to which employees have discretion over their tasks, time, and methods (Albertie, 2024), is strongly tied to job satisfaction, psychological well-being, and sustained engagement. Unfortunately, many organizations still undervalue autonomy, believing that tighter control will ensure results. But evidence tells us the opposite is true: Autonomy is what fuels commitment, innovation, and even equity in the workplace.
My own research, which examined job crafting and workplace autonomy among marginalized workers, especially Black and Latinx women with lower postsecondary education levels, showed that autonomy helps break through the barriers of systemic exclusion (Albertie, 2024). When these employees were given greater freedom to shape their work—selecting projects, organizing their time, and applying their strengths—their confidence and sense of belonging increased. This job crafting
process empowered them to see themselves as valued contributors rather than simply a number on a schedule. Why does autonomy matter so much?
First, autonomy taps into a universal human need for agency. When people feel they have choice and control, their motivation shifts from compliance to authentic commitment. They become willing to go beyond the minimum, to innovate, and to take pride in their contributions (Albertie, 2024). Second, autonomy supports psychological safety. Teams that experience high levels of trust and freedom are more open, collaborative, and resilient in the face of change.
Autonomy is not simply a managerial technique; it is a pathway to equity. In workplaces where marginalized individuals have historically been denied opportunities for decision-making, granting autonomy is a way of restoring dignity and voice. It signals to employees that their perspectives, talents, and lived experiences truly matter—and that they can help shape the work culture for the better (Albertie, 2024).
Too many leaders still cling to outdated, command-and-control mindsets, believing that supervision
guarantees results. Wrong! Research shows that this approach can stifle innovation, kill engagement, and contribute to burnout and turnover (Albertie, 2024). In contrast, leaders who invest in building a culture of trust and autonomy help employees develop a sense of ownership. This ownership motivates employees to solve problems, support their teammates, and align their personal values with organizational goals.
These insights were the reason I started the Autonomy at Work Certified Facilitator (AAW-CF) program. This program was never about selling a trendy leadership buzzword. Instead, it was built from a commitment to share an evidence-based, researchbacked model that empowers leaders and practitioners to bring autonomy to life in their own workplaces.
Autonomy is also an answer to today’s challenges around hybrid work, remote teams, and shifting employee expectations. As my research supported, employees who experience higher levels of autonomy are more likely to navigate change successfully, stay engaged, and develop long-term commitment to their organizations
(Albertie, 2024). In times of uncertainty, autonomy is a stabilizing force, allowing people to adapt with confidence and self-trust. Ultimately, centering autonomy is about creating workplaces where people can do more than survive —they can thrive. When individuals are trusted to manage their roles, shape their work environments, and apply their unique gifts, they bring energy, creativity, and purpose to their organizations. This, in turn, benefits communities, families, and society as a whole.
My hope is that by continuing to elevate the conversation around workplace autonomy — backed by research and lived experience—more leaders will see that autonomy is not a luxury. It is a moral, strategic, and psychological necessity for the future of work. If we want workplaces that are just, resilient, and humancentered, then autonomy is where we must begin.
Reference: Albertie, M. J. (2024). Examining the Effect Between Lower Postsecondary Education Levels and Job Crafting and Workplace Autonomy for Marginalized Individuals (Doctoral dissertation).
Dr. Marla J. Albertie, Ph.D. is the founder Truth Speaks Group, LLC, a multi-media coaching company dedicated to creating solutions for integrating work and life to create harmony. Marla loves to read, is a concert and comedy show junkie and a cruiser for life. Follow Marla on Twitter @tspeakscoaching and IG @Tspeaksgroup. Sign up for the Truth Speaks Group LLC Newsletter at https://www.truthspeakscoaching.com/
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THE POWER OF THE POWER OF
The Power of Consistency
CONSISTENCY CONSISTENCY
Building trust one update at a time.
By Jeannette Koczela
Today, when social media platforms reign supreme, consistency has emerged as a cornerstone of building trust with your audience. Whether you’re a budding influencer, a small business owner, or a multinational corporation, the mantra remains the same: Consistency builds trust
Consistency in posting on social media and in emailing your list is not merely about flooding your audience’s feed or inbox with content. It’s about creating a rhythm, a regular presence, that your followers come to expect and, more importantly, rely on. Let’s delve into why consistency is paramount and how it cultivates trust.
First and foremost, consistency fosters familiarity. Imagine walking into a favorite coffee shop where the barista knows your name and your order without having to ask. Similarly, when your audience sees your posts regularly appearing on their feed or receives your emails consistently, they become familiar with your brand, voice, messaging, and values. This familiarity breeds comfort and trust
Consistent posting also can signal reliability and commitment from you. It shows that you’re invest-
ed in your audience and dedicated to providing value. In a sea of fleeting trends and viral sensations, consistency demonstrates that you’re here for the long haul. This commitment resonates with your audience, and, over time, earns their trust.
Consistency also helps to establish your authority and expertise within your niche. By repeatedly sharing valuable insights, tips, or updates relevant to your industry, you position yourself as a knowledgeable resource. Your audience begins to see you as a trusted source of information—someone they can turn to for guidance or advice.
In today’s digital landscape, where attention spans are fleeting, maintaining an ongoing presence on your social media platforms and your emails ensures that your brand remains relevant, memorable, and top of mind.
Even if your audience doesn’t engage with every post or email, just the fact that they see your content regularly is enough to reinforce your presence in their minds. This increased visibility enhances brand recall and fosters trust by ensuring that your audience doesn’t forget about you. For example, sometimes I wonder if my
subscribers are actually reading my content, and then I’ll get an email or comment from someone thanking me for the value of the content I share.
Consistency also plays a crucial role in building anticipation and engagement. When your audience knows when to expect your next post or email, they’re more likely to actively engage with it. Whether it’s a weekly newsletter, a daily Instagram story, or a monthly blog post, consistency primes your audience to anticipate your content. This anticipation fuels engagement by driving likes, comments, shares, and ultimately, deeper connections with your audience.
In conclusion, consistency in posting on social media and in emailing your list is not just an option; it’s a necessary approach to building trust and fostering meaningful relationships with your audience.
By maintaining a reliable presence, you establish familiarity, authority, and top-of-mind awareness. You keep your brand relevant, build anticipation, and help drive engagement. In essence, consistency is the bedrock upon which trust is built in the digital age. So, keep posting, keep emailing, and above all, keep being consistent. Your audience is counting on it.
a certified Spiritual Life, Business, and Entrepreneur Coach, is the founder of the International Association of Professional Life Coaches®, which provides curated monthly business and marketing strategies, masterclasses, and a life coach directory at $47/month. She is also the author of four business training books for coaches and the publisher of secwn compilation books. Get a copy of her free “Coaching Business Blueprint: 7 Essential Components to Create a Profitable Coaching Business” at https://www.iaplifecoaches.org/blueprint.
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During a recent three-day stay in the hospital, Brahms’ Lullaby was a ritual honoring the arrival of new souls and saluting the old souls departing.
By Jo Mooy
I never heard of Room 799, nor did I expect to be a resident in it for three days. One morning, when pain and fluttering in the chest grabbed my attention, something said, “Go to the ER!” If you present in the ER with chest pain, you’re triaged to the front of the line. Nurses and doctors materialize from every direction. You’re wired up to machines that track every movement in the human bio-system. Hours later, the head of the ER, (a too-young doctor named Jude) said I was being admitted, but they were waiting for a room to open. I was now entrenched into the “Western medical system” with all the whistles, bells, medicines, and technology it afforded.
A few more hours passed before I was wheeled into Room 799 on the cardiology floor. Brahms’ Lullaby was playing on the loudspeaker as I crossed the threshold of the room. The hospital’s practice was to play the lullaby to announce the birth of a new baby. I made a mental note that it was two days before the full moon, and there might be many more lullabies to come. When I mentioned it to the nurse connecting my monitors she replied, “I know. That’s when all the crazies arrive.” But it wasn’t until day two that I realized the new babies announcing their arrival on Earth had become musical counterpoints to the dying roommates leaving Room 799. The occupants in 799 were not going back home; they would all be discharged to hospice care. You see, Room 799 is an acute cardio-memory care room positioned close to the nursing station. I’d been sent there because it was the only room available.
Toots was my first roommate. She was 97 and still fiercely independent through her dementia. She told me she legally changed her name to Toots because “that’s what they called her during the war.” I figured she meant World War II. She laughed easily and engaged in conversation readily but remembered nothing. Toots was not allowed out of the bed unless accompanied by a nurse. She ignored them then loudly cursed the alarm that went off whenever she left the bed to go on frequent bathroom breaks. The alarm wailed like an air-raid siren, blasting three rapid sounds that brought the nurses running. Toots always sneaked out of the bathroom when they told her to ring the bell to go back to her bed. Maybe she forgot because every time she passed my bed, she asked me, “Where am I going?” I pointed, she laughed, and she plodded to the other side of the curtain. Toots left Room 799 at 10 p.m. the first night saying to anyone in earshot, “I don’t think I’ll be back.” Soon after Brahms’ Lullaby played on the speaker. A crew came in, cleaned Toot’s side of 799, and Elaine arrived. She also had dementia but, gratefully, there were no alarms on her bed. (Maybe I would sleep?) Poor Elaine had been in the hospital a week with pneumonia. Each time she became conscious she asked where she was. Her two daughters repeated the same mantra. “Mom, you’re going to rehab to regain your strength.” They never mentioned hospice. I mouthed the words “You’re going to rehab” whenever Elaine came out of her coma and asked where she was. There was a theme going on— so far neither roommate knew where she was or why she was in Room 799.
Later another staff person came in to discuss “the diabetes results” with Elaine. The nurse addressed her as “Ruth”, and Elaine answered yes. Her name’s not Ruth I thought, but no one corrected the nurse who kept doling out instructions for diabetes control. Finally, one of the daughter’s said, “What diabetes? She’s here for pneumonia.” The staffer asked, “Isn’t she Ruth Blah blah blah?” then realized she was in the wrong room, with the wrong patient, on the wrong floor. Then, when Brahms’ Lullaby began to play, Elaine asked her daughters if that music was to make her sleep not realizing she’d been sleeping 95 percent of the time she was in Room 799. Somewhere in her lost memories she remembered it was a sleep lullaby. And, 24 hours after arrival, Elaine also left for rehab and Hospice. Three new babies had been born that day and two patients in Room 799 had gone to Hospice. I wondered if there was a cosmic birth and death balance sheet for planet Earth that someone was tracking on a heavenly monitor. If there was, the balance sheet was about to even out when Charlotte, my next roommate, arrived. Sadly, she needed acute care. She began screaming help, help, help She’d stop for a few minutes if a nurse spoke to her, then screamed when they left the room. Without any family, Room 799 was a frightening place for Charlotte. With no conscious memories to draw on, she only communicated through screams. Each time the blood curdling sounds came through the curtain I quietly hummed the tune, Hush hush sweet Charlotte, Charlotte don’t you cry! But the only music that calmed her was Brahms’ Lullaby.
Lying in the darkness it felt like the lullaby was well chosen as an anthem for birth and death by the invisible cosmic accountant. Brahms ends the first verse with a soothing cadence, but the words are not: “Tomorrow morning, if God wills, you will wake once again.” The baby hears the soothing rhythm of the music, but the
parent fears the threat of death behind the words. And maybe too, the elderly women in Room 799 heard the real meaning of the words hidden in the lullaby.
In ancient times, after a battle was over, the dead and dying were left on the field. A holy person would hold a ritual to honor the dead and then sing their souls into
the afterlife. For three days, Brahms’ Lullaby was that ritual honoring the arrival of new souls and saluting the old souls departing. When I hear that song, I’ll forever remember those three warriors, Toots, Elaine and Charlotte, who left the battlefield of Room 799, and were sung over to the afterlife to the sounds of Brahms’ Lullaby.
Conscious Living with Jo Mooy
Jo Mooy has studied with many spiritual traditions over the past 40 years. The wide diversity of this training allows her to develop spiritual seminars and retreats that explore inspirational concepts, give purpose and guidance to students, and present esoteric teachings in an understandable manner. Along with Patricia Cockerill, she has guided the Women’s Meditation Circle since January 2006 where it has been honored for five years in a row as the “Favorite Meditation” group in Sarasota, FL, by Natural Awakenings Magazine. Teaching and using Sound as a retreat healing practice, Jo was certified as a Sound Healer through Jonathan Goldman’s Sound Healing Association. She writes and publishes a monthly internationally distributed e-newsletter called Spiritual Connections and is a staff writer for Spirit of Maat magazine in Sedona. For more information go to http://www.starsoundings.com or email jomooy@gmail.com.
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Your inner being is naturally empowered with the strength to overcome all obstacles.
By Owen Waters
Courage is a product of higher purpose. Courage conquers the fear of pain, of loss of life or the loss of a loved one. With higher purpose, you gain the power to spring into action and achieve your mission despite any fear that you may feel.
The conquest of fear is one of the primary reasons for life on Earth. When you identify with a higher purpose you rise above the fear. From this, you learn that higher consciousness frees you from the immobilizing numbness of basic, primeval fear.
Acts of great heroism occur when a person rises above their own fear for survival and acts to
save others from injury and death. Even those who physically die in the attempt pass on into the spirit realms with the knowledge of a very valuable lesson: that higher purpose, realized in a higher state of consciousness, is the key to overcoming basic fear.
Courage is required to be ready to let go of a loved one who has a terminal illness when it is their time to pass on to the next life.
It takes courage to stand up for your beliefs, especially if they are not widely held.
It takes courage for you to be who you are when you know that your mission is to be yourself and to express who you truly are.
It takes courage to break through the fear that you might be inadequate and then, step by step, go on to discover your inner power.
Your inner being is naturally empowered with the strength to overcome all obstacles.
Courage springs from communion with your inner being. Love springs from communion with your inner being. The elements of courage and love come together to express themselves as service to others.
As a result, the path to enlightenment and wisdom is formed.
Editor’s note: For further study, see The New Enlightenment: Transformation into an Age of Abundance by Owen Waters.
iNFINITE BEING
with Owen K. Waters
Owen Waters is author of the Indie award-winning book, Spirituality Made Simple and a cofounder of the Spiritual Dynamics Academy and InfiniteBeing.com, where a where a free spiritual growth newsletter awaits you at https:// www.InfiniteBeing.com. He is an international spiritual teacher who has helped hundreds of thousands of spiritual seekers to understand better the nature of their spiritual potential. Owen’s life has been focused upon gaining spiritual insights through extensive research and the development of his inner vision. He has written a spiritual metaphysics newsletter since 2004 which empowers people to discover their own new vistas of inspiration, love and creativity. Spiritual seekers enjoy his writings for their clarity and deep insights. Contact Owen via email News@InfiniteBeing.com
In the face of true loss, and in the face of true joy, the nonsensical takes a back seat to the wide expanse of possibilities.
By Mary Boutieller
It recently dawned on me what a luxury it is to complain…to be cranky or crabby about things or people who aren’t exactly up to my standards. We might grumble that the weather is too hot, a coworker always calls in sick, or developers are taking over the neighborhood…You get the idea. And trust me, there are many times when I’ve been all in for a juicy trash-talking session, going on about someone’s behavior, clothing choices or political stance. It’s like having enough money in the bank and complaining about the interest rate, or having enough food in the cupboard but not wanting anything that’s in there. In our abundance of riches (monetary and otherwise), we are comfortable enough to nitpick, forgetting about our own good luck.
Yet, somehow, today, it seems an extravagance to comment about some unimportant thing that
irks me when there is so much unspeakable tragedy happening. I try to imagine what the family members who lost someone in the recent Texas floods are thinking right now, and I don’t think they’re dissing a neighbor who let their grass grow too long. Their hearts and their pain are so wide open with grief that the small inconveniences we occupy our minds with mean nothing to them. There is no space for anything insignificant. In the face of true loss, and in the face of true joy, the nonsensical takes a back seat to the wide expanse of possibilities.
In his book, Tattoos on the Heart, Jesuit Priest Gregory Boyle writes, “The ancient Desert Fathers, when they were disconsolate and without hope, would repeat one word, over and over, as a kind of soothing mantra. And the word wasn’t “Jesus” or “God” or “Love.” The word was “Today.” It kept them where they needed to be.”
This moment is all we have, and we get to choose—over and over again—how we will live it. We get to choose love or apathy; wholeness or pettiness; kindness or divisiveness. We get to choose what takes precedence in our minds and hearts, and maybe we choose to let go of some of the nattering negativity that we allow to consume us.
I am, by no means, going to get this right, this time or the next time. As humans, we want to coalesce around a good story and be part of the group. Yet, with awareness comes the ability to choose a different outcome. I don’t want to wait for another tragedy to understand that we are all in this together and what I do and say affects me and everyone around me. Energy is contagious and, each time I catch myself jumping into the fray, maybe I can step back for a moment and ask myself how my behaviors are contributing to the world around me and then choose wisely.
The Yoga of Life
with Mary Boutieller
Mary Boutieller is a Registered Yoga Teacher through Yoga Alliance. She has been teaching yoga since 2005. Her work experience includes 22 years as a firefighter/paramedic and 10 years as a Licensed Massage Therapist. Mary’s knowledge and experience give her a well-rounded understanding of anatomy, alignment, health and movement in the body. She is passionate about the benefits of yoga and the ability to heal at all levels through awareness, compassion, and a willingness to explore. She can be reached at: SimplyogaOm@gmail.com.
Step Up Your Change Game
STEP UP YOUR GAME STEP UP YOUR GAME
YOUR CHANGE YOUR CHANGE Five principles to achieve positive transformation.
By Darrel L. Hammon
Over the last several years, the word “transformation” has become more commonplace (ubiquitous) in our vernacular, although its etymology in the English language emerged around 1400 A.D. It comes from Old French transformation, transformacion, and directly from Church Latin transformationem (nominate transforatio). (Also see Etymology of “transformation” by etymonline).
Many of us become overwhelmed by the notion that we must do things that transform us. So, what are those processes, practices and activities that can help us transform and step up our change game? I would like to share five principles that have helped many people I know on this journey—including me.
1) Seek the best information possible and implement it.
Often, we do not engage in enough research to make the best and most appropriate decisions. I have seen people make rash decisions who are ultimately disappointed with their outcomes. I’ve watched others make decisions based on sound data and information and still experience disappointment; however, they often ultimately enjoy great successes. The difference between these two scenarios is: Those who makes rash decisions
do not circle back and put in the time to discover the best way to achieve a better outcome. On the other hand, when those committed to doing the research are not satisfied with results, they typically say to themselves: “I need to put in more time in researching and coming up with a better conclusion.” They do not rush on; rather, they elevate their efforts to determine a different way around obstacles to success.
2) Develop an appropriate plan.
We are all planners at some level—although some of us do not plan well or our plans don’t encompass all the parameters needed. A good plan is always comprised of appropriate goals, and, most importantly, solid strategies that define exactly how to get there. Plus, we need to include “the resources” it will take to get there. Resources can come from many sources, while strategies may change along the way because we hit a dead end or a fork in the road that leads to a better strategy. Moreover, resources should include the right people who can help us along the way. One of the final ingredients here is clean and encompassing “assessments” that can propel us to rethink goals/strategies/resources to produce better outcomes. This rethinking is called “next steps.”
3) Associate with people who embrace transformation.
In undergraduate school, I heard the phrase: “You are the product of the company you keep.” I liked it so much that it became one the quotes I shared at the bottom of my email signature—and I still use it today in coaching and leadership consulting. It’s important to choose friends who make good choices; move along their paths in successful ways; elevate how they see things in the real world; and practice being generous, gracious, and genuine. Our friends and colleagues should help us evolve and grow—not hold us back from where we want to go.
4) Make choices that lead to transformation.
If there is one principle that must be followed, it is choosing the appropriate paths that lead to transformation. Often, these choices may not be the most popular ones. They may be 180 degrees different than the way we have been going. As a result, these decisions will be challenging—but making the difficult
choices will help us with our transformation journey. Strategic choices will always help us move forward, elevate us to where we can more clearly see the path before us, and propel us to make even better decisions.
5) Leave behind that which does not serve.
As already mentioned, “You are the product of the company you keep.” The way we act or perform, the choices we make, the habits we have formed in life, etc., may not elevate us to the next level of success.
Some time ago, I heard a story about two people walking along the beach who saw a man separating crabs into two groups. One group of crabs went into a bucket without a lid and the other group was placed in a bucket with a lid. The couple watched for a moment, and they asked the man: “What is the difference between the two types of crabs in the buckets? They look the same to us.”
The man stopped what he was doing, looked at them, and said: “The bucket without a lid is full of crabs that don’t like to see their pals climb out of the bucket to freedom. If one of them tries to crawl out, the others just reach up and pull it back in. The other bucket has a lid because they all want to crawl out, and they literally will help each other.”
The “open bucket crabs” in our lives can be habits, choices, friends, and other distractions that will not allow us to break free of limitations; they will pull us back into the abyss from which there is no escape. We must leave behind all that does not elevate us to the heights we want to go. We must find those who will help us out and then continue to help and support us along the way.
THE BOTTOM LINE
In essence, transformation is not a single act; instead, it is a series of intentional actions—choices—that propel us forward down a path of constant and consistent advancement in our lives, thoughts, and actions. Yes, it takes time. Yes, it requires us to make difficult choices and life-alternating changes. Yes, it necessitates eliminating habits and distractions. But ultimately, we transform into better and healthier human beings in all aspects of life.
Darrel L. Hammon has been dabbling in writing in a variety of genres since his college days, having published poetry, academic and personal articles/essays, a book titled Completing Graduate School Long Distance (Sage Publications), and a picture book, The Adventures of Bob the Bullfrog: Christmas Beneath a Frozen Lake (Outskirts Press). He also was the editor of the Journal of Adult Education (Mountain Plains Adult Education Association). Most of his essay/article writing has focused on topics about growing up, leadership, self-awareness, motivation, marriage/dating, and educational topics. Some of these articles/essays are in Spanish because Darrel is bilingual in Spanish/English, having lived in Chile, Dominican Republic, and southern California, and having worked with Latino youth and families all of his professional life in higher education. He has two blogs, one for personal writing at http://www.darrelhammon.blogspot.com/ and one for his consulting/life coaching business (http://www.hammonconsults.blogspot.com/).
