Senior Living Spring 2023

A decade of care and inclusion

The Outer Banks Dementia Friendly Coalition celebrates 10 years of service

Any Monday, you can visit the Dare County Youth Center and follow the signs that read “Caregivers’ Day Out.” Walking down the hallway, you’ll hear laughter, talking and singing –all at the same time – coming from a welcoming room staffed with caring, gregarious volunteers who are interacting with participants who have dementia. It’s a joyous scene and immediately obvious to an onlooker that the participants as well as the volunteers are happy to be there.

“Look at him,” one woman says, indicating a man across the room who appears to be the center of

attention. The woman is a caregiver who has just dropped off her husband so she can run errands.

She smiles and says, “He’s having so much fun that he’s forgotten I’m here, so I’m not even going to say goodbye!”

The Caregivers’ Day Out Program operates from 9:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. on Mondays at Family Recreation Park in Kill Devil Hills and on Thursdays at the Virginia S. Tillett Community Center in Manteo. While caregivers get a break, program participants have a chance to socialize, giving them a sense of purpose and fostering community

inclusion.

This program is sponsored by The Outer Banks Dementia Friendly Coalition, which celebrates its tenth anniversary this year. Originally launched in 2013 as The Dementia Task Force, it became a 501(c)(3) in 2020, and concurrently changed the name. The coalition can be credited with helping the Outer Banks earn the distinction of being one of the first dementia-friendly communities in the state.

According to the Centers for Disease Control, about 10 million people in the US suffer from cognitive impairment, the most

common of which (in those over 65) is Alzheimer’s disease. Social isolation often occurs for the caregiver as well as the person being cared for, and caregivers face challenges of needing emotional and financial support, caregiving assistance and the time necessary to recharge.

With caregivers in mind, The Outer Banks Dementia Friendly Coalition hosts a support group, “People Caring for People with Dementia,” that meets the second Wednesday of each month at the Baum Center in Kill Devil Hills from 2:30 p.m. to 4 p.m. Par

ticipants can share their

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experiences and discuss the ever-changing trials of day-to-day care while forging productive relationships with others facing similar challenges.

The Dementia Friendly Coalition has been instrumental in its business community outreach as well. If you’ve noticed a purple seahorse decal at a restaurant’s entrance, that decal signifies that the staff members have been trained to interact with people who have dementia. To date, staff members of 20 local restaurants have been trained to help

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A marine animal would be a logical choice as a symbol for our coastal community, although the symbology is richer than strictly geography.

The hippocampus –the part of the brain whose main functions are learning and memory – is shaped like a seahorse. Conversely, “Hippocampus” is also the scientific name for a seahorse.

And why purple? The Alzheimer’s Association of America chose purple as their signature color “because it combines the calm stability of blue and the passionate energy of red.” The association asserts: “We are strong and unrelenting in the fight against Alzheimer’s disease.”

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First Bank participated in Dementia Friendly training.

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The Christmas Party at Caregivers’ Day Out program.

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Getting the last word

By Courtney N. Gallop Founder – Gallop Funeral Services, Inc.

Although writing an obituary can seem daunting, and summarizing an entire life into a couple of columns on a news page may seem impossible – it’s a worthy endeavor. A written and printed obituary creates a permanent tribute, records family history, and contributes to genealogical and local history. The process of writing the obituary can also be cathartic and the start of a healthy grief journey for loved ones. These tips can take make crafting the perfect written legacy a special family project rather than a draining chore:

1) Recall accomplishments: Educational, professional, business, scientific, military, literary, and athletic milestones are great to include in the obituary. Enjoy reviewing their life works and sharing them.

2) Get personal: Many people, in life,

were proud of their victories over adversity, illness, addiction, and other struggles. If they were important to the decedent, consider mentioning these efforts in the written tribute.

3) Be passionate: What was loved one passionate about? Animals, NASCAR, knitting, surfing, traveling, music, church, motorcycles? A richly written tribute often highlights these unique aspects of a life well lived and will be remembered and treasured later.

4) Don’t sweat it: It’s not necessary to get too bogged down with grammar, punctuation, and technical issues in your written piece. Your funeral director and the newspaper staff can assist you with “cleaning” the obituary before publishing. Spend time telling the story.

5) Stay in bounds: An obituary is forever. Colorful language, personal slights, family drama, some “nick-names,” and potentially objectionable phrasing will

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generally be edited out, even before online publishing. Also, avoid including family addresses, phone numbers and highly personal information that may compromise safety and privacy.

6) Accuracy matters: Spend extra time and focus on naming and spelling relatives

(and spouses) correctly. This is a society full of blended families, trans-global relationships, adoptions, multiple marriages, domestic partnerships, and other modern family structures. Take care to correctly and respectfully identify and name family members and relatives. This avoids confusion, typos, and hurt feeling later.

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Engaging hobbies for seniors

The value of hobbies is undeniable. A 2014 study published in the Journal of Occupational and Organizational Psychology found that employees who engaged in creative hobbies outside of work were more creative on work projects and had a better attitude on the job, while a separate study published in Psychosomatic Medicine in 2009 reported that individuals who engaged in enjoyable leisure activities had lower blood pressure and a smaller waist circumference.

The myriad benefits of hobbies is good news for seniors, many of whom have ample time for leisure activities. Whether seniors are retired or still working but free from the responsibilities of parenting, the following are some fun and engaging hobbies to fill that free time.

• Cooking: Years spent hustling and bustling through the daily grind of personal and professional obligations might have forced individuals to embrace cooking that emphasized convenience over culinary skill. Now that there’s more time to embrace one’s inner Emeril, seniors can look to cooking classes or take the selftaught route and purchase a new cookbook filled with delicious recipes. A wellcooked homemade meal can provide a sense of accomplishment and affords seniors an opportunity to control the ingredients in the foods they eat, which can be important for individuals with health-related dietary restrictions.

• Writing: Many successful individuals have penned their memoirs after long, notable careers and lives. While individuals needn’t follow suit with the goal of making their memoirs public, writing can be a great way for seniors to document their own lives and the lives of their families. Interest in genealogy has risen considerably in recent years, as easily accessible websites have made it easier than ever for individuals to learn where they came from. Seniors can contextualize the information provided by genealogy websites by writing about their personal experiences and sharing what they know about the lives of their parents, siblings, grandparents, and other family members.

• Gardening: Seniors looking for hobbies that get them out in the great outdoors need look no further than their own backyards. Gardening can benefit the body in myriad ways. According to the Mayo Clinic Health System, gardening can burn as many calories as working out in the gym. In addition, the MCHS notes that individuals who grow their own fruits and vegetables are more likely to include those foods in their own diets, thus saving them money at the grocery store and also increasing their intake of nutrient-rich foods.

• Swimming: Swimming is an ideal exercise for seniors, as it’s low-impact but still a great way to utilize the entire body. A 2007 study published in the journal Quality of Life Research found that water-based exercise improves older adults’ quality of life and decreases disability. A separate study published in 2008 in The Journal of Sports Medicine and Physical Fitness found that water-based exercise can improve or help to maintain bone health in post-menopausal women. These are just a few of the many hobbies seniors can pursue as they look for positive and fun ways to spend their free time.

Three fun and effective outdoor exercises for seniors

The benefits of spending time in the great outdoors are significant. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, spending time outdoors may improve mental health and help to reduce stress, and the vitamin D the body absorbs while outside can have a positive effect on blood cells and the immune system. Seniors can benefit from the great outdoors as much as anyone. Vitamin D helps the body absorb calcium, which strengthens bones. That’s especially beneficial for seniors, as the National Council on Aging notes that bone density often decreases after age 50, which can increase the risk of fractures. That’s especially so in women over the age of 50, as a 2021 report from Amgen, Inc., indicated women can lose up to 20 percent of their bone density within five to seven years of menopause. Spending time in the great outdoors also provides a social benefit, encouraging individuals from all walks of life, including seniors, to get out of their homes and spend time with other people.

diffuse difficult situations and make caregivers comfortable. Often, a caregiver can feel isolated or embarrassed about taking a loved one to a public place when that loved one doesn’t act the same as he or she once did. The coalition strives to bring receptivity and understanding to the community while being encouraging to caregivers.

The coalition’s awareness training extends to pharmacies, EMS services, police departments and financial institutions. Bank employees are particularly sensitive to the plight of those with dementia, who are highly susceptible to

With so much to gain from spending time outside, seniors can consider these three outdoor exercises as they seek to maintain or improve their overall health.

1. Walking: Walking is free and effective. In fact, WebMD notes that a brisk 30-minute walk can improve blood flow, contribute to a stronger heart, strengthen bones, and even help people sleep better at night. In addition, a 2022 study published in the journal JAMA Neurology found that people between the ages of 40 and 79 who walked about 9,800 steps per day were 51 percent less likely to develop dementia than people who didn’t walk much at all.

2. Cycling: Riding a bike is both fun and a great form of outdoor exercise. Though many studies regarding the health effects of cycling have looked at the value of riding a bike to work, a scenario that does not apply to retirees, the results of such studies still offer insight into just how valuable it can be to ride a bike. For example, a 2020 study published in the journal The Lancet found that people who cycled to

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Seven years ago, the coalition helped The Outer Banks Hospital with its plan to make its institution dementia friendly. The coalition assisted with initial training and then the hospital took over responsibility for educating volunteers and staff.

Volunteer “sitters” receive training to help care for emergency-room patients who exhibit symptoms of cognitive disorders. Without these volunteers, patients who are no longer fully oriented might react to unfamiliar surroundings by being disruptive or injurious. Additionally, the sitters allow for patients’ regular caregivers to take essential breaks in order

work were 24 percent less likely to die of heart disease and 11 percent less likely to develop cancer. Seniors, whether they are still working or retired, can incorporate cycling into their daily routines and enjoy all the fun and health benefits that riding a bike provides.

3. Hiking: Hiking is a bit more strenuous than walking, particularly when individuals choose to traverse steep and/or rocky terrain. WebMD notes that hiking after age 60 can help people reduce their risk of falls and fractures; lower their risk for a host of ailments, including coronary heart disease, colon cancer and diabetes; reduce blood pressure, even in adults who have already been diagnosed with hypertension; and maintain healthy bones and joints. Hiking is not a one-size-fits-all activity, so seniors, especially those who would characterize themselves as novice hikers, are urged to speak with their physicians prior to hiking trails that are not flat. Seniors can consider these three fun activities and others as they answer the call of the great outdoors. Walking, cycling

to have a meal, go home or get some rest. “Where did they find you?” one ER doctor asked a volunteer sitter, adding, “You are just what we needed.” Often, the presence of a volunteer companion helps the medical team focus on providing necessary treatment to a patient. The Outer Banks Hospital was the first medical facility in North Carolina to earn a dementia-friendly designation. Fundraising is another key focus for the coalition. Through such programs as The Walk to End Alzheimer’s and the “Love to Remember” Tennis and Pickleball Tournament, the coalition raises funds for respite care. Working with Social Services and the

a great reason to get out of the house and reap the health-related benefits of spending time outside.

Dare County Health Department, they provide financial assistance to families to help with daily care.

The Outer Banks Dementia Friendly Coalition is a 501(c)(3) charitable organization created and operated exclusively for the care of those living with dementia and their caregivers. Board members are Dianne Denny, executive director; Janis Collins, president; Dr. Sheila Davies, vice president; Tess Judge, treasurer; Anne Kelleher, secretary; and Noel Preston and Marcia Bryant, members at large. For more information about the coalition and its training opportunities, visit outerbanksdementiafriendlycoalition.com.

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A partnership with Dare Arts for their “Power of Art” program has expanded opportunities.

Great part-time jobs for retirees

Many adults nearing retirement age count down the days until they can bid adieu to the daily tasks of commuting and working so they can enjoy much more time for recreation, travel or whatever is they aspire to do.

As enticing as unending free time may seem, some retirees find it is not ideal to be entirely free from the responsibility of working. As current seniors can attest, inflation can drive up the costs of living, meaning that seniors who were once able to afford a certain retirement lifestyle may no longer enjoy that hardearned luxury. Others may miss the daily opportunities to socialize that working provides, or the way problem-solving on the job stimulates the brain. But even retirees who miss working may not be ready to return to the workforce fulltime. That can make part-time employment an ideal fit for mature workers.

Here’s a look at some part-time positions that could be a good fit for older adults reentering the workforce.

Retail sales associate

Working in retail opens seniors up to a wide array of responsibilities and scenarios. Jobs may include greeting customers, making sales, putting out inventory, and helping customers select

merchandise. Being personable and having good customer service skills are necessary traits to have when working in retail. Many stores offer part-time employees flexible hours so schedules can be customized.

Consultant

Retirees who loved their job but wanted to spend less time doing it can return as consultants. According to The Balance: Money, individuals often find they earn more per hour working as consultants than they did as full-time staff members. Consulting is a way to share expertise and experience without making a full-time commitment.

Customer service representative

A customer service representative is tasked with helping customers solve problems and ensuring customer satisfaction. He or she may work ain a traditional office or store location, or answer calls and resolve issues from home.

School positions

Retirees may want to consider jobs working in schools or in related capacities. Driving a school bus is an option if people are willing to undergo the proper training and licensing to operate this type of vehicle. Seniors also may consider working as lunchroom aides or lunch

Helping yourself and others through mentoring

The role of mentor is complex and sometimes vulnerable to misinterpretation. According to the employment resource Indeed, a mentor is an individual who acts as an adviser or coach for a less experienced person. Mentors often share their experiences and may even offer advice to their mentees.

Anyone can serve as a mentor, though individuals who accept that responsibility are typically older and/or more knowledgeable than their mentees. Mentors may be athletic coaches, teachers, business associates, or esteemed family members. Mentoring is something older adults can consider as they look to share

their knowledge with others.

Mental and emotional benefits

Many successful individuals credit mentors with helping them achieve their goals. However, mentors also walk away from mentoring having gained something significant. According to the caregiving company Seasons, mentoring can keep an aging mind sharp. Being a mentor may help at-risk seniors reduce their chances of developing dementia, particularly Alzheimer’s disease. According to a 2009 study published in the Journal of Gerontology, gains were shown for mentors in “executive function and in the activity of

service providers, crossing guards, substitute teachers, and paraprofessionals. Receptionist Receptionists greet patients or customers in office settings. According to AARP, they are the welcoming faces of organizations. Answering phones and light clerical work also may be required of receptionists. Those who want to work off-peak hours can think about working nights and weekends in hospitals or skilled nursing facilities.

Seniors have many different options if they decide they want to return to the workforce in a part-time capacity.

prefrontal cortical regions in older adults at elevated risk for cognitive impairment.”

Mentoring also may give seniors extra reasons to get up and go each day. A scheduled task like mentoring fosters social interactions and changes of scenery. Information published in Harvard Business Review indicates seniors who mentor young people may be three times happier than people who do not.

Qualities of good mentors

Seniors considering mentoring should go over what can make a good mentor-mentee relationship. The following are some characteristics of successful mentors.

• Engage: The mentor should show genuine interest in the mentee, asking about their goals and expectations. Conversation should come easily.

• Participate actively: It’s

important to make the time for mentoring sessions according to what the mentee can manage with his or her schedule. Lessons should be tailored to what the mentee hopes to gain from the relationship. Gauging success along the way and tweaking things as necessary can keep mentoring sessions on target.

• Listen well: Mentors recognize the importance of listening first and then responding to the questions and needs of the mentee.

• Possess expertise: A mentor needn’t have an advanced degree or special certification, but he or she should have more experience in a given field or subject than the mentee. Mentoring is a consideration for seniors looking to remain active in their communities and share their knowledge with others.s

People are living longer, a reality that can be traced to a number of factors, including advancements in medicine and greater dissemination of information regarding preventive health care. According to data from the United Nations Population Division, the average life expectancy in the United States is 81.65 for women and 76.61 for men.

As people live longer, some may outlive their significant others and ultimately find themselves once again interested in sharing experiences with a special someone. Seniors ready to re-enter the dating pool may find that things are quite different from what they experienced as naïve teenagers or young adults. Dating used to be about hanging out with friends and meeting people at shared events, such as school dances or work parties or even while enjoying a night out with friends. Nowadays, dating often begins in cyberspace. This can be confusing and anxiety-inducing for adults who didn’t grow up with technology guiding their every move.

According to a report in The Atlantic, more than one-third of baby boomers are not currently married, and this generation has had higher rates of separation and divorce and lower rates of marriage than the generations that preceded them. Many boomers have years ahead of them to devote to new relationships. Here’s what they may want to know before navigating twenty-first century dating waters.

• You’re not in this alone. While online dating may be portrayed as a young person’s game, plenty of older adults are now finding connections online. In fact, many different dating apps are geared toward the senior set.

• You have more time for fun. As a senior, you may have more time to devote to recreation and leisure. This can be a great opportunity to get out and meet someone who shares your passions and interests.

• Online dating has its advantages. While online dating apps and websites may have certain things working against them, particularly if their algorithms for pairing people are not fine-tuned, they also can be helpful. Online dating can expand social circles beyond local neighborhoods or even states, provinces or countries. You’re casting your net over a much larger body of water. Furthermore, dating app profiles typically spell out exactly what another person is seeking, which can save seniors from having to revisit awkward dating moments from years past.