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The Betty Pages - December 2013 Betty’s Corner


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By Betty Desire, The Betty Pages

Bettie Page Reveals All Pickford Film Center

In The Mix + an extra note By Bridget Adams

Oo La La Liberace By Lyle Pearson

Village Books Dec. Events

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The Hanged Man


Valley Views


By Kevin Walder

By Kathy Reim

Living the Dream


The Comics!


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About our Contributors... Miss Betty Desire has been entertaining anyone who would listen in Bellingham for nearly 10 years, and is proprietor of The Betty Pages, the monthly publication that you are reading at this very moment. It is her hope that your perusal of the Betty Pages will enrich your life one chuckle at a time. Writer Bridget Adams currently resides in Washington State but that is always subject to change. Lucky enough to be a full-time, if poor, writer, she is most likely somewhere in front of her computer with a cup of coffee. Lots and lots of coffee. Queer Film Historian Lyle Pearson has published in Film Quarterly Sight and Sound, International Film Guide, Filmfare, Youth Times, and Manshots. With a BA from Pacific Lutheran College (1959) and a MA from San Francisco State College (1968), he has also taught film at Western Washington University. Naomi graduated Whatcom Community College with an Associates in Visual Communications -Graphic Design but prefers more hands on tinkering such as wire craft & random projects (of which she always has many still to finish). She believes that everyone has a right to pursue their happiness as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone

Staff Photographer John Phillip after 40+ years of television

production engineering work John has settled down in Bellingham to semi retirement and is now revised his love of photography. His education touched on Theology, pre-med, law enforcement, fire protection engineering and film production. John likes to keep broad horizons. “Don’t Dream It, Be It”

Kathy Reim is a PFLAG mom who volunteers in a variety of leadership roles because she gets to meet amazing people and use all the skills gathered over a lifetime as a teacher, mediator and political activist. One of her proudest moments was being called a ho-mo-sex-u-al activist six times by a leader of the anti-Referendum 71 campaign. She was impressed by his enunciation and repetition and her ability to keep from laughing until later.

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Betty’s Corner Betty Desire, The Betty Pages

December, the last month of a very amazing year! I am now 59 years young! I want to thank all who joined me in the Epic celebration the 18th of last Month, from what I remember I had a great time!

You know we have come a long way in the last 59 years! Gay and Lesbian citizens have gone from the “love that must not be named” to Equal marriage rights in 16 States and the District of Columbia. We have a reason to celebrate! Fully 1/3 of the citizens of the United States live in a State where marriage equality is the law of the land. As an optimist I like to think of our glass being 1/3 full, but that means we still have work to do. Two thirds of our citizens still reside in a State where their love is “a love that must not be named” Many are able to travel to where Same sex marriage is legal, get married there and then return home and at least the Federal Government will extend some rights to them. That is still a relegation to second class citizenship. If they have the financial means they can vote with their feet and move to a State like Washington where they would be free to marry the person they love. We would welcome their talent and contribution to our body politic with open arms! Yet how sad that after 237 years our Nation’s Pledge of Allegiance still carries an asterisk after the line “Liberty and Justice for all” *not available in all jurisdictions.

Alabama Alaska, Arizona, Arkansas, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Michigan Mississippi Missouri Montana Nebraska North Carolina North Dakota Oklahoma Ohio Pennsylvania South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Virginia, West Virginia and Wyoming. These are the States where the fight for basic worker protection continues. Life for all of us would be so much easier if both Major political parties believed in equal rights and protection for GLBT citizens. Sadly we do not live in that reality. We must continue the struggle for equality using a patchwork of State laws until the Federal Government wakes up from it’s “right wing morality” induced slumber. It is my hope that our Federal legislators will push their chairs away from the Tea Party table, wipe the sleep from their eyes, and smell the Coffee! we must never give up and never surrender until we truly stand for Liberty and Justice for all. When that day arrives the asterisk can then be removed from the end of Our Pledge of Allegiance.

Liberty and Justice for all!

Betty Desire

Community Event Save the date and time! December 1, 2013 Save the date and time please: Evensong: A World AIDS Day Service for Remembering and Looking Forward. Skagit Valley College Phillip Tarro Theatre 2405 East College Way. Mount Vernon WA 98273-5899 2:00-3:30 PM. More information will follow. Let your family and friends know and invite them to join you. w w w. t h e b e t t y p a g e s . c o m

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With the right to Marry moving in the correct direction, it may surprise people to know that in 29 States it is still quite legal to fire an employee for appearing to being gay. The United States Senate passed the Employment Non Discrimination Act last Month, (it took 40 years to do so) in an effort to remedy that situation. Republican House Speaker John Boehner said after the Senate vote that he would not bring the Measure to a vote in the House because in his words “it isn’t needed.” Speaker Boehner and his House Republican Caucus seem quite content to allow employers to fire gay workers regardless of work performance and based solely on the workers perceived sexual orientation. You can’t fire a “Bible thumping, anti-gay spewing Religious Fanatic, (Religious choice is a protected class) but if that Queer appearing worker at the end of the assembly line creeps you out he’s outta there! (Washington State has protections in place to prevent you from being fired because you are perceived gay, but we are a hire at will fire at will State so it is difficult to prove discriminatory firing based.on perceived sexual preference) Judging on the comments of Republican Speaker Boehner, and the current make up of the Republican controlled House of Representatives, it may be another 40 years before we see a fix of this problem at the Federal level. That means the struggle continues on a State by State basis. Here are the States where you can be fired from your Job if your employer thinks you are Gay and doesn’t approve of your lifestyle choice:


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Put the Kink in Christmas with hot new Bettie Page doc

Bellingham, Wash. - This winter you are invited to Put the Kink in Christmas and celebrate one of the most stunning and most loved icons of the 21st Century, Miss Bettie Page. Pickford Film Center and The Betty Pages have joined forces to present the hot new documentary Bettie Page Reveals All - showing at the Limelight Cinema from 12/14 - 12/19. Join us for a fabulous opening night reception on Saturday, December 14 at 8pm - featuring live performances by Betty Desire, drink specials and more.

The Limelight Cinema is located at 1416 Cornwall Ave is strictly age 21+ only, and carries a full selection of Beer, Wine and Cider which you can take into the theater with you to enjoy during the show and film. Contact: Lindsey Gerhard, Pickford Film Center Marketing Coordinator

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BETTIE PAGE REVEALS ALL is an intimate look at one of the world’s most recognized sex symbols, told in her own words for the first time. In Mori’s alluring documentary, the real Bettie Page emerges from the veil of myth and rumor via audio interviews taped a decade prior to her death in 2008. With earthy, razor sharp wit, Bettie tells her life story -- from humble beginnings as one of six children in an impoverished southern family, to high school salutatorian, to scandalous 50s pin-up model, to shocking retirement in 1957 at the peak of her modeling career. Sharing rare details about her short-lived first marriage and many torrid affairs, this keen insider’s glimpse follows Bettie through decades of broken marriages, born-again Christianity, and bouts of mental illness, before her ultimate return to the public eye in the early 90’s, unaware of her cult status. Ranked by Forbes in 2012 as one of the top ten posthumous celebrity earners, Bettie and her legacy continue to flourish.


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In The Mix Bridget Adams

Hey Poppets, this is a slightly different article than I usually write. My usual In The Mix style article is here, too, so consider this a PSA of sorts. While the holidays are a joyous time for many of us, for others, not so much. For some of us, the holidays can be a reminder of how alone we feel. And for a transgendered person, that loneliness can be even more magnified. It was out of the understanding of this loneliness that The December Project was born. The December Project is run and staffed by Jennifer Finney Boylan (national co-chair of GLAAD), Mara Keisling (director of the National Center of Transgender Equality), Dylan Scholinski (director of Sent(a)mental Studios), and Helen Boyd (professor at Lawrence University). Two transgendered women, a transgendered man, and the spouse of a transgendered women, they are uniquely qualified to understand how important a friendly voice can be. The December Project is based on providing that friendly voice to transgendered men and women, and anyone who loves a transgendered person. Here’s how it works: If you are transgendered, or the partner of someone who is transgendered, and could use a supportive, caring phone call, be in touch with Jenny Finney Boylan. She can be reached at Email her your name and phone number and one of the four of them will give you a call sometime in the month of December. Know your information will be kept completely confidential, so you don’t have to worry about it if you aren’t out or open. Also, keep in mind that this is a friendly phone call, not therapy. If you are in crisis, call the suicide prevention hotline at -1-800-273-8255. This is about spreading a little happiness, reassuring you that you are loved just the way you are, and building good memories of the holiday season. If you want more information, you can get it here: And if you are someone, anyone, who is lonely this time of year, remember, I think you’re pretty great. None of us are as alone as we feel. The December Project is a great reminder of that. Happy Holidays, Poppets.

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It’s December, Poppets, and that means my almost-annual article on giving. In the past, I have written about what to give. I’ve even written about how to give. This year, let’s chat about where to give. First, let’s start with the usual caveats – if you aren’t giving this year, for whatever reasons, fine. You know your budget and your heart better than I do, and I won’t judge that. And if you have a favorite charity you like, great! But if you’re looking, maybe I can help. First, those red Salvation Army buckets outside every store…About those – in case you don’t know, the Salvation Army is notoriously anti-LGBTQ. They try to cloak it in neutrality, but only so long as the LGBTQ person is celibate. If you actually act on your orientation and attraction, they aren’t so neutral any longer. So, try not to drop your spare change in those red buckets, even though they are convenient. Instead, if you want to give to a national organization with a local focus, consider Goodwill Industries of Seattle, with a shop here in Bellingham (http://seattlegoodwill. org/shop/locations/bellingham), United Way of Whatcom County (http:// or Volunteers of America of Western Washington ( Like the Salvation Army, all three were originally founded through faith-based initiatives, but, unlike SA, all three have evolved to stress including and embracing all people. Each is in need of donations year-round, but especially at the holidays. Contact any of these organizations for details on specific holiday donation needs. If, however, you’d like to stay laser-focused on local charities, that’s easier than you make think. First, the organization Gender Diversity offers support to and education about gender identity/nonconformity. They are based in Seattle, and offer classes and groups here in Bellingham. Unfortunately, this article missed their big November double donation push by a month, but somehow I think they would still appreciate whatever you

have to offer. Contact them for more information at www.genderdiversity. org,, or 1-855-443-6337 (1-855-4GENDER). The Sean Humphries House, right here in Bellingham. The Sean Humphries House provides supported housing arrangements for low-income adults living with HIV/AIDS. The House has year-round donation needs, but also has a list of special holiday requests, if you want to specialize your giving. Their list of requests, and more contact information, can be found at or by calling 360-7330176. If you want to focus specifically on youth, consider one of these two programs: Amy’s Place for Youth or Northwest Youth Services. While neither of them are exclusively LGBTQ-centric, both are accepting and inclusive. Amy’s Place is a drop-in center for homeless and street-involved youth in Bellingham. Open on Friday and Saturday evenings, it gives teens a safe place to be, get a shower, grab some food, talk to someone. Just be off the street for a few hours. The anti-bullying codes are strict and explicitly include sexuality and orientation. Their budget is tight right now, so every little bit helps. Find out more at or 360-671-5567. Finally, Northwest Youth Services has been providing services for homeless and endangered young people since 1976. They have several programs geared toward fostering self-sufficiency, including the Queer Youth Project, which provides a safe and positive environment for LGBTQ kids and their allies in Whatcom County. Find them here: http://www.nwys. org/about-us/ or call them here: 360-734-9862. There you go, Poppets. Some places you might not have thought about now that it’s the season of giving. Give a little, give a lot, give what you can – these organizations will be grateful and will use what you give wisely. Until next month – until next year – Poppets, take care of you, and each other.


OO LA LA LIBERACE: A Queer Film Bibliography Lyle Pearson

Soderbergh claims he wanted to make a film, but not a standard biopic, on Liberace for several years, and finally settled on adapting Thorson’s memoir MY LIFE WITH LIBERACE: BEHIND THE CANDELABRA (Old Saybrook CT, Tantor Media Inc.,1988; reprint 2013), written with Alex Thorleifson. But Soderbergh continued to struggle to make this into a real movie, claiming that the subject was “too gay” for any Hollywood studio. He repeats this claim in THE ATLANTIC (5/26/13), and the magazine makes it clear that this is Soderbergh’s phrase, not THE ATLANTIC’s. But there could be other reasons for Hollywood not to want to touch this gay romance. A biopic that presented Liberace’s rise to and peak of fame would have been far more entertaining, but expensive; and one that depicted Thorson’s life could have been plagued with lawsuits, perhaps even from Michael Jackson’s family. Thorson in THE HUFFINGTON POST (3/6/13)  claims to have had a six-year affair with the singer, that Liberace introduced him to Jackson, and that he, Liberace and Jackson all recovered from their plastic surgery together “at Liberace’s compound in Palm Springs.” An afterword to his book, and an online transcript of Thorson’s appearance on CNN’s LARRY KING LIVE (8/12/02) reveals Thorson’s serious drug problems, his part in the drug-related ‘Wonderland’ murders, his time in the government Witness Protection program, and his stints in jail. You can find out more about those 1981 murders, also involving John Holmes, aka Johnny Wadd, in James Cox’s WONDERLAND (2002), although unlike BEHIND THE CANDELABRA it’s not available at Film Is Truth. Most of those murders were carried out with lead pipes.

In any case, Soderbergh turned to HBO, renowned for dealing in controversial subjects with top talent but small budgets. So, that may be why we never see Liberace at his best. We learn in the final titles that he played Carnegie Hall over twenty times, but we never see Carnegie Hall -- that would have been too expensive. He seems to play only the Vegas Hilton lounge throughout the entire proceedings, and one suspects that the audience is mostly made out of cardboard, because he never invites them onstage at the end of his act, the way the real Liberace did. Everything is bizarre, but also curtailed. Not only is Liberace in need of a facelift even when we first meet him, his plastic surgeon (Rob Lowe) and mother (Debbie Reynolds) seem to have already had theirs. When he insists that Thorson go on diet pills, Damon doesn’t lose weight, Soderberegh just puts a jacket on him to hide his girth. Debbie herself has little to do (she always sat in the front row, not just at a slot machine) and where is brother George, Liberace’s bandleader? He’s mentioned in the dialogue, but never puts in an appearance. (Two of my favorite kitschy albums are not Liberace’s, but brother George’s pseudo-French OO LA LA LIBERACE, and a pseudo-Spanish “Liberace Cha Cha.”) THE NEW YORK TIMES (25/5/13) has its reservations about CANDELABRA also, not so much about Douglas’ “uncanny...lounge lizard,” but Soderbergh’s superficiality. The script, by Richard LaGravenese, who also scripted THE BRIDGES OF MADISON COUNTY (1995) and THE MIRROR HAS TWO FACES (1996), it calls “a classic weepy,” and Damon’s performance too passive, his relationship with Douglas like that of a”frat brother” except in bed refusing an amyl nitrate popper. THE NEW YORKER (3/6/13), in a gayer mood, calls CANDLEABRA “fabulous,” “Hollywood, post-Stonewall, pre-AIDS,” the illicit pair “cuddling, sipping champagne in a hot tub,” Douglas a “’bossy bottom,’” Damon akin to Rocky Horror -- all before Thorson’s palimony suit. SIGHT AND SOUND (7/13) still calls CANDELABRA a “biopic,” noting it acknowledges that Liberace borrowed his iconic candelabra from Charles Vidor’s Chopin biopic SONG WITHOUT END (1945), and that Thorson here calls himself bisexual, while the real one, in spite of his love of Liberace, calls himself straight. S&S however is at a loss to explain Douglas’ lack of “charm,” seemingly oblivious to the film’s portrayal of Liberace only when he was over the hill, and in his “perfumed claustrophobia.” The settings are often the real ones -- the Las Vegas Hilton Lounge, the LA apartment, the West Hollywood Post Office where Thorson worked after Liberace threw him out, the Catholic church where Liberace’s funeral took place after their reunion (although the funeral turns into Thorson’s soaring fantasy, rather than the dismal, unattended affair that he describes in his Afterword).

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In the beginning I was disappointed by Steven Soderbergh’s BEHIND THE CANDELABRA. I wanted the Liberace that I first remember, on his own syndicated TV-show, back in the 1950s. Born in 1919, Wadziu Valentino Liberace was only in his forties then. Flamboyant he was, alright, and I knew he was gay before I knew I was. He almost invented the closet, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick not withstanding, and pulled out fabulous costumes, some of them weighing a hundred pounds, that could put any of today’s queens to shame. “Wearing this makes me feel horny,” I remember him saying. Anyone who can co-author a cookbook featuring “Liberace’s Sticky Buns” must be peering out of that closet with at least one eye. He knew who he was, but he didn’t want us, or at least his straight audience to know. That would have ruined him in the 1950s. But Soderbergh himself, born in 1963, and now only 50 (I’m 76), no matter how much research he has done, can’t really remember Liberace at his peak, and neither can one of his penultimate lovers, Scott Thorson. Instead of Liberace at the piano, CANDELABRA begins with Thorson as an animal wrangler at 17 (41year old Matt Damon), about to meet and bed the 57-year old, emaciated Liberace (Michael Douglas, just recovered from treatment for throat cancer), an over the hill Vegas lounge entertainer.  I wanted to see the Liberace that made Liberace famous, not the ossified one that he became. Douglas looks so poorly from the beginning you’d think he had AIDS before he met Thorson. He probably didn’t: their relationship lasted five years, and Liberace died in 1987. It was rare for anyone with AIDS at that time to last that long.



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Queer Film Bibliography continued I liked CANDELABRA more than Soderbergh’s MAGIC MIKE (qv), but wouldn’t have the 36-year old Channing Tatum been a better choice than the six-year-older Damon as Thorson? If CANDELABRA was “too gay” for a Hollywood studio, it may have been too gay too for Tatum. In spite of showing us his bare bum twice as Magic Mike, there is no homosexuality in that film -- Tatum’s onscreen audience consists solely of hysterical women. Surprisingly, there is far less male nudity in CANDELABRA than MIKE -- the most erotic image is of Damon in his gold jockstrap, still wearing an open jacket. Damon’s appeal has always been one of passivity -- in the Bourne franchise, he begins with neither a name or memory, unfortunately picking up those of a CIA assassin from an abandoned passport. Soderbergh made one film between MAGIC MIKE and CANDELABRA, SIDE EFFECTS (2013), also with Tatum. Reviewing it in the NEW YORKER (2/11&18/13) David Denby finds that “if there’s a recurring theme or style that ties [Soderbergh’s films] together I can’t find it,” but then inexplicably goes on, that he “loves audacity; he likes loners, outsiders, and con men who travel light, do things for the hell of it, and outwit the literal-minded and the dull,” like the push-up bra-ed Julia Roberts in ELLEN BROKOVICH (2000) and the “smarty-pants thieves” Damon, Clooney and Pitt in the OCEAN’S trilogy (2001-2007). From the beginning, in his independent SEX, LIES AND VIDEOTAPE (1989), in his status as an outsider Soderbergh has fought for groundbreaking subjects, often sexual, and low budgets. w w w. i s s u u . c o m / t h e b e t t y p a g e s

In CANDELABRA he has succeeded too well. This isn’t a standard biopic, okay, but a cut-rate HBO “It isn’t TV,” but it isn’t a full movie either. HBO has invented something in-between, a new genre with lots of talent but not much money, concentrating on a death around a celebrity: I call them ‘diobics.’ The same is true of David Mamet’s HBO ‘diopic’ PHIL SPECTOR, despite the talents of Helen Miran and Al Pacino. SPECTOR begins only after Spector is accused of killing Lana Clarkson, and only alludes to his work as a record producer creating the “Wall of Sound” with girl groups in dialogue, and his later work with the Beatles with photos on the wall of his bizarre mansion. Frankly, I found it difficult to choose between two titles for this article, the first being OO LA LA MATT DAMON, the second LIBERACE LITE. It seemed to me that Damon gave the better, if more passive performance, particularly wearing that gold jockstrap. But the more research I did the more I realized that CANDELABRA whitewashed Thorson far more that Liberace. So I combined he two titles. The most fascinating person here, despite this being only a ‘diobic,’ is still Liberace.

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Village Books Events December 2013 Unless otherwise noted, all events are free and take place in the Readings Gallery at Village Books, 1200 11th Street, Bellingham, WA, 98225 Please check our website for further details or questions and to see if authors attend the event. For questions regarding events please contact our Events Coordinator, Christina Claassen at 360.733.1599 or Changes, additions, and cancellations do occur.

Photos with the Grinch Join us this holiday season for photos with the Grinch. Come have your picture taken with the Grinch in our Readings Gallery. Digital images will be taken by local photographer Tim Chandonnet and will be available for $10 and proceeds benefit Blue Skies for Children. Dates and times: Sat., Dec. 7, 12-5pm; Sun., Dec. 8, 12-5pm; Sat., Dec. 14 12-5pm, Sun., Dec. 15, 12-5pm. Interested in being a Grinch who helps out Blue Skies for Children? Tim may still need volunteers to don the Grinch costume and pose with

Have a Merry Grinchmas and Grow Your Heart Three Sizes Beginning Dec. 1st and lasting through Christmas Eve, take part in Village Books’ Grinch Community Cares project, aimed at spreading good deeds throughout the community, while building a sense of togetherness and holiday spirit. Stop by our store and pick up a “25 Days of Grinchmas Bingo Card” which gives suggestions for 25 days of good deeds (like supporting local independent businesses). Fill out at least one row of good deeds and come back to Village Books for a special gift. Our Grinchmas celebration will also benefit our annual Giving Tree program. Purchase two Dr. Seuss books at Village Books and we’ll donate a Dr. Seuss book to a child through our Giving Tree program. We hope you’ll help us celebrate the season of giving! Santa is Coming to Bellingham, And He’ll Sign Your Book! Of course we all know that Santa comes to Bellingham every year. But this year there's a book just about his visits to Bellingham. Join us at Village Books on Saturdays, December 7 and 14th from 11am-noon for a special visit with Santa. He'll sign the book, Santa is Coming to Bellingham, and will be handing out a treat to those who visit. For kids of all ages, we hope you’ll stop by our store to get this fun keepsake book signed by Santa himself. Sun., Dec. 1, 11:30am-1pm Socrates Café (We'll be meeting on the mezzanine during December) The group meets the first and third Sunday from 11:30 am to 1 pm.

Sun., Dec. 1, 4pm JoAnn Roe - The Columbia River: An Historical Travel Guide Mon., Dec. 2, 7pm VB Reads...General Literature Book Group Join Cindi and discuss books from a variety of genres at 7 pm, the first Monday of each month. Everyone is welcome. Beautiful Ruins by Jess Walter Tues., Dec. 3, 6:15-8:15pm VB Writes…Nonfiction Writing Group This group meets twice a month, on the first and third Tuesday of each month, from 6:15-8:15pm. Tues., Dec. 3, 7pm—slideshow! Christine Smith - More, Faster, Backwards: Rebuilding David B Village Books is welcoming back local author Christine Smith for a slideshow presentation and discussion about her book, More Faster, Backwards. Thurs., Dec. 5, 5:30-7pm VB Writes…Poetry Writing Group This group is open to newcomers and drop-ins and meets the first and third Thursday of each month from 5:30-7pm. Thurs., Dec. 5, 7pm Gregory Fields, editor, with Felix Solomon A Totem Pole History: The Work of Lummi Carver Joe Hillaire Fri., Dec. 6, 6-7pm Whatcom Young Writers “Friday Night Writes” for Teens To register, visit our website:www. Write On! This is the last meeting for the season. Join us again in the New Year beginning on Fri., Jan. 31, 6-7pm. Sat., Dec. 7, 10:30-11am Preschool Storytime with Claire

For ages 3-5 years old. Our preschool story time takes place the first Saturday of each month from 10:30-11am on the bean bags in the Kids' Section. Sun., Dec. 8, 2-3pm VB Reads... Motherhood by the Book The Snow Child by Eowyn Ivey The book group meets on the second Sunday of every month at 2pm near the poetry section and beside the Book Fare Café Mon., Dec. 9, 5-6pm VB Reads…Environmental Conservation Book Group Join us the second Monday of each month from 5-6pm in the Readings Gallery Authors DO NOT attend. Apocalyptic Planet: A Field Guide to the Future of the Earth by Craig Childs Mon., Dec. 9, 7pm Red Wheelbarrow Writers NaNoWriMo Group Reading, The Arboretum Tues., Dec. 10, 6-8pm VB Writes…Spec Fiction/Sci Fi Writing Group We meet the 2nd and 4th Tuesday of each month from 6-8pm on the mezzanine level. Tues., Dec. 10, 7pm David Christensen The Red Umbrella: Danish Resistance and Johna’s Escape from Nazi Occupation Tues., Dec. 10, 7:30pm Stuart McLean & the Vinyl Café Christmas Show—Ticketed event at the Mount Baker Theater lies. Tickets are $52.00 full price, $37 Students, plus applicable fees, and are available at

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Fri., Nov. 29 - Wed., Jan. 1 Village Books and Paper Dreams Holiday Hours Beginning Friday, November 29th and continuing through Sunday, December 22nd, Village Books and Paper Dreams will be open later! Monday–Saturday: 10am until 9pm & Sundays: 10am until 7pm. We’re staying open late on Sun., Dec. 22, until 9pm, to help with your last-minute shopping needs. Our stores will be open Christmas Eve 9am-6pm, New Year’s Eve 9am-6pm, and New Year’s Day 10am-8:30pm. We will be closed Thanksgiving & Christmas Days.

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The Hanged Man Kevin Walder

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One of my very favorite cards in the major arcana is the Hanged Man. The artwork in this card varies somewhat from deck to deck but most commonly shows a man hanging from one ankle from a tree and it will often show runes scattered on the ground beneath him but he is obviously looking at the world from a new perspective. I look at the Hanged Man and I contemplate the new perspectives that are thrust upon us at times. There really isn’t any situation that cannot be looked at from a number of directions. There really isn’t any situation that cannot have its meaning adjusted or corrected by looking at it from a number of perspectives. In recent months we’ve begun to analyze directions and what we will do in the future and how what we are doing is maturing and it has caused us to turn things upside down a bit to look at things from a new perspective. Life is such that we are always given a choice, we can either choose to turn our own world upside down and look at it from a new perspective, or we can accept that someone else will be there to force us to see it from a new perspective. We always have the choice of being proactive in analyzing a situation or just accepting it as it comes to us. Neither way is inherently wrong but being proactive can at least put us in a new position with new capabilities of directing what is needed and wanted for the future. For example have you ever considered the possibility that something you have thought of as one of your greatest mistakes might actually have produced one of your greatest triumphs? Sometimes a little slip up can look like it will cause a huge problem but in the final analysis actually only serve to clean up the situation without direct intervention. We are all faced with dozens of choices every day some will be menial and some will be quite momentous but each of them needs to be considered on their own merits


VILLAGE BOOKS EVENTS Wed., Dec. 11, 1pm VB Reads...Afternoon Book Chat Readings Gallery on the 2nd Wednesday of each month for an open book chat, at 1pm. Remarkable Creatures by Tracy Chevalier

Thurs., Dec. 12, 7pm Kate Lebo A Commonplace Book of Pie Kate Lebo makes poems and pies in Seattle. Her writing has appeared in Best New Poets, Gastronomica, and Poetry Northwest.

Thurs., Dec. 12, 4pm—At the Willows Inn on Lummi Island An Afternoon with Alice Medrich, the “First Lady of Chocolate”

Fri., Dec. 13, 6pm Readings from the Whatcom Young Writers Literary Journal, Snippets, Vol. 4 Join the Whatcom Young Writers special book launch and open mic event in the Readings Gallery of Village Books!

Thurs., Dec. 12, 6-8pm VB Writes… Fiction Writing Group Mezzanine level, meets the second and fourth Thursday of each month from 6-8pm.

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and the Hanged Man reminds us that each decision we undertake can produce both positive and negative results and we must be prepared and willing to accept both. The Hanged Man is a perfect example for us because it also can represent sacrifice and compromise. This card reminds us that in order to gain a new insight or in order to gain a new perspective sometimes we give up a bit of control or even a bit of freedom. There are times when we are called upon to let go of something very important to us in order to gain something which is for the greater good and this card reminds us to look at it in a way that is constructive, it reminds us to change our focus from what we lose to what we gain. Personally the Hanged Man reminds me to step back from every situation and look at it with new eyes to do everything within my power to remove ego from the process of decision-making. This card reminds me to be more open to new ideas and concepts, and much less quick to judge or to accept negative viewpoints as fact. This card reminds me to approach every day as a new venture. What is passed no longer rules and poor choices in the past can be corrected with better choices in the future. This card also reminds me to enjoy the process, that it should never become such “work” that we lose the joy of gaining that new perspective. The whole point of the Hanged Man is that we never stop learning we never stop growing there will always be new ideas there will always be course adjustments and we are only cheating ourselves if we are not willing to do that work ourselves. So as 2013 progresses and the abundant changes that we began in 2012 continue we will find the journey much easier if we keep looking for the joy of making decisions based on new ideas and new perspectives.

Sun., Dec. 15, 11:30am-1pm Socrates Café (We'll be meeting on the mezzanine during December) The group meets the first and third Sunday from 11:30 am to 1 pm. Tues., Dec. 17, 6:15-8:15pm VB Writes… Nonfiction Writing Group Mezzanine level of Village Books Previously held on the second Tuesday of the month, this group is now meeting twice a month, on the first and third Tuesday of each month, from 6:15-8:15pm. Wed., Dec. 18, noon-1:30pm VB Reads...Engaged Citizens Book Group Join Mary Dumas on the 3rd Wednesday of the month from

noon to 1:30. Meetings are in the Readings Gallery The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander Wed., Dec. 25 Village Books and Paper Dreams will be closed. Have a Happy Holiday! Thurs., Dec. 26, 6-8pm VB Writes… Fiction Writing Group Mezzanine level of the store. This group is open to newcomers and drop-ins and meets the second and fourth Thursday of each month from 6-8pm. Mon., Dec. 30 No Open Mic This Month Join us again in the New Year, the last Monday of each month.

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by Kathy Reim - PFLAG mom I think provincialism is an endemic characteristic with mankind. I think everybody everywhere is provincial, but it is particularly striking with Texans, and we tend to be very Texcentric. Molly Ivins


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I was very pleased when my friend Betty Desire asked me to write for the Betty Pages to offer a perspective from Skagit County. It gives me a chance to introduce myself and to start with some observations about how provincialism does not serve us well as we work to further social justice for anyone. When we are able to move beyond it and unite in our efforts, we see the kind of success we just experienced in the passage of Referendum 74. When I do presentations, I point out that prejudice based on geography is just another kind of prejudice. When I moved from Texas to Washington State, some people thought my IQ went up 20 points. When I moved from Bellingham to Sedro-Woolley, some people thought it dropped 25. I grew up in a small town in north central Texas and I get how important it is to think we are smarter, more sophisticated and just so cool when compared to a nearby community. Those of you reading this know that some Bellingham folks make jokes about Ferndale, and Blaine andâ&#x20AC;Ś Lynden. Here in Skagit County people in our largest town display some attitude sometimes and one idea that makes me laugh is smarts, talent and money travel down the Skagit River so Anacortes is the really the center of the universe. Our state is Seattle-centric, and I enjoy asking people if they know that historically China saw itself as the center of the universe. (Really!) So while this is an amusing aspect of the human experience, it can also be damaging. We learned with the failure of Prop 8 in California that ignoring organizing in rural areas and small towns was a disaster. At the debrief after our hard-earned victory last year, 23 groups sat around a table (in Seattle, of course) to review our success. Referendum 71 had provided solid networking and the brilliant team put together for 74 was remarkable because groups left their egos at the door and worked on the common mission. They started with a focus on the entire state and some of us reminded them as we went along. I want to honor the Pride Foundation in particular for pulling that sensibility together and creating a truly collaborative culture. It has become the model, and now we all need to turn our support to Oregon as they work on the freedom to marry in 2014. As we assess moving forward, we need to take care of our kids. In those very places we think are fair game for our humor there are kids in families struggling to stay safe. We need to stay informed about access to health care services for transgender, lesbian, gay and bi-sexual people and their families. We have been on the edge of this concern in Skagit County and have found ourselves in conversations with our Whatcom County neighbors as the challenges expand. We just sent three people to lobby for ENDA (the Employment Non-Discrimination Act) in Washington, D.C. and while we have good laws here, we still have people suffering discrimination at

work- especially our transgender neighbors. These protections need to be national. I hope this is a place to talk more about creating a safe quality of life for everyone in our fourth corner of the state. There does not have to be an invisible wall at our county line and the roads can run both ways. We can be invited to work more closely with our northern neighbors, and we hope those of you reading this recognize the growing strength in Skagit County. Whatcom was a progressive community when we left there in 1992. I think we can all celebrate that Skagit County voted for Ref. 74 by 50.23% of the vote and that San Juan, Island and Snohomish Counties are places that overall welcome our families and their votes showed it. We have much to do to support, educate and advocate for one another. Betty Desire has been driving and encouraging and leading this effort for all of us. She never lets the geography get in the way unless her car dies or she runs out of gas. If you are not familiar with Molly Ivins, I invite you to look her up. One reviewer explained Molly was noted for her quick wit and astute political observation. Betty did not ask me to write this as a tribute to her but it seems like an appropriate beginning to this column to mention two people I admire so much who share this description.


Living the dream Marcymark

Here we are again in December trying to stay warm. If it wasn’t for having a wonderful warm summer I’d be.......Not happy. How ever we did have a great summer and now I’m ready to bring out the winter coats..... with a smile. If I was asked just a few years ago if I was going to spend the the rest of my life in a dress I would have laughed at that person & said to myself “In my dreams”. It’s been almost 3 years now that I have come out of the closet & into the public eye as a hybrid. And it’s been a full year since I have been writing for the Betty pages & I’m still loving it all. For those who missed my first article I had explained my being a hybrid (half man half woman) and how wonderful it has been with you all being so accepting with me. I have only received 1 rejection since. My work. Unfortunately there beliefs in the matter are different then mine and they are not accepting my change. I have considered the options to take a legal action in a discriminating manor but considering all possibilities & my current circumstances I’ve decided to hold tight for a bit. Weighing out my pros and con’s has given me the contentment for the time being.

I wish you all closer to your dreams as you all brought me closer to mine and I hope that this holiday season fills your hearts as you helped me fill mine. Hold on to the hope and hold on to your dreams. If your not living your dream now, you may not realize it but your life dream may just be around the corner. With love and wonderful holiday wishes

What does “living the dream” mean to you? That special car you’ve always wanted. That house you pictured in your dreams. The job you dreamed to have; or not having to have a job at all. The places you dreamed of going to. A life style you wish for. At peace with the shape of your own body. That special person in your life. Cuddling with that special person. Children. Or how about just all the above.

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Living the dream comes in so many different variables. To each and every one of us this simple phrase has it’s own meaning.


“Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.” My life goal was not to live in a dress but look at me now with about 20 dresses in my closet. My dream was to become a race car driver. I don’t think that’s gonna happen but then again I never thought I’d be wearing a dress for the rest of my life. Who knows, maybe I’ll be wearing a dress driving a race car in the future. lol Years ago I met the woman of my dreams and that’s when all my dreams changed. There are so many ways to live your dream. I’ve told myself to look at the simple pleasures in my life and turn them into simple dreams. The cup of coffee I have in front of me now. The computer I’m typing on. The heaters running behind me to keep me warm in my humble abode. I put all these little dreamy things together and create a life. I may not have all my bills payed and I’m in dept to the point of not seeing daylight of dept free but I have a lot of other dreamy things to focus on. My family,my friends, my health, and so many little things. I put them all together and create one big dream. In my mind, I’m living the dream. My dream. And to have every one around me know that I’m a hybrid and have all your acceptance makes my dream so much better. w w w. i s s u u . c o m / t h e b e t t y p a g e s

The Comics!


GLBT Organizations in Whatcom and Skagit Counties -ISCEE The Imperial Sovereign Court of the Evergreen Empire is affiliated with the International Court System and has been actively raising money for charity for over 30 years by sponsoring drag shows and pageants. The group is open to all regardless of race, gender, or sexual orientation, seeking to provide social activities and community service opportunities for gays, lesbians, and their friends and allies in Whatcom, Skagit and San Juan Counties. -Leather, Levi & Bear Social Monthly gathering of men who like Leather, Kink, and Unabashed Masculinity. Second Saturday of the month, Rumors Cabaret, 7:30 to 10:30. Info 360.380.6409 This website includes a gay resource guide for Bellingham located at

-Triskeli Guild The Triskeli Guild is Bellingham’s BDSM group that promotes community and education for safe, sane and consensual play. They encourage participation by all sexual preferences, race and age 18 and up people. www.triskeli. org-Queries— -Sean Humphrey House A housing unit for people who need assistance living with HIV/AIDS in Bellingham. For more information call 360-733-9357

-Whatcom County PFLAG Whatcom County Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays meets the 2ND Thursday of each month, 7pm at First Congregational Church, 2401 Cornwall Avenue, Bellingham. For more information and events visit

-Washington Gender Alliance A support and educational organization for anyone dealing with issues of gender identity or expression, and the people in our lives. We have weekly Open Support meetings in Bellingham and Everett. For more information, please write to us at info@ or call 360-445-2411, or visit our web site at

-WCC’s Queer Straight Alliance is committed to supporting the GLBT community by promoting awareness of queer issues and entertaining and educating students and staff of WCC. We can be reached at

-PFLAG of Skagit County Support meetings for Parents, Friends and Families of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender people and GLBT individuals are held at Central United Methodist Church, 1013 Polte Rd, Sedro-Woolley on the second Monday of every month at 7 PM. For directions and information all 360-856-4676 and for additional information and events check online at -Cascade Rainbow Community Cntr is a community of LBGQT people that enjoy each other’s company. We gather every Friday @ 6:30 PM for community, sharing of food, conversation, ideas, and current events. Each Friday is either game or movie night. The group has a lending library, Pride participation, and educational support. We are located at The Center for Spiritual Living @ 1508 N 18th St., Mount Vernon, WA. For information call (360) 840-8499 and for additional information checkout and subscribe to our Facebook Page. -Whatcom County KINK is a group to help organize events, munches, help if you have items to sell, or just a way for people to get to know each other. Meetings are the 1st Tuesday of the month at Rumor’s Cabaret. Happy Spankings!

-Bellingham Bi/Pan Potluck We are a monthly gathering of pansexual and bisexual people, partners, family and friends on second Thursdays from 6:30-8:30pm at First Christian Church (Disciples of Christ) on the corner of E. Bakerview and Deemer Roads. Bring food or drink to share. For more information email gregory.lindon. -WWU LGBTA The Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Alliance at Western Washington University is a student organization which supports lesbians, gays, bisexuals, people who identify as transgender, and their allies; in the various stages of their coming out process, in the creation and affirmation of positive self identities, and in the promotion and defense of their human and civil rights. The LGBTA is located on Western’s Campus in Viking Union 515 and is open from the first day of Fall quarter until the last day of Spring quarter. For information call 360-650-6120.

-Mount Baker Planned Parenthood Mt. Baker Planned Parenthood proudly demonstrates its commitment to the LGBTQ community in all of our educational and service areas, by partnering with LGBTQ service organizations and through sponsorship and participation in Bellingham Pride. Our goal is to ensure that every individual has the information, services, and freedom to make healthy, responsible decisions about sex, sexuality, and parenthood. We offer comprehensive reproductive care, affordable STD testing and treatment and annual exams. Sliding scale available. Make an appointment on-line! http://www. Bellingham Clinic: (360)734-9095 Mount Vernon Clinic: (360)848-1744

Support Education Healing Advocacy counseling Safety planning Legal assistance Support groups Trainings and Workshops 24-hour helpline: 360.715.1563/877.715.1563 Talk to us in-person: 1407 Commercial St. Bellingham, WA

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-4th Corner Poly Polyamory is the practice or acceptance of having more than one loving, honest relationship at a time. We’re a friendly, welcoming group for people involved in or curious about polyamorous relationships. Our group consists of and welcomes diverse sexual and gender identities . This is a family, kid-friendly get-together for sharing experiences and desires—not a dating or swing scene. we meet every 4th Thursday evening at alternating locations. For more information: http://groups. y a h o o. c o m / g ro u p / 4 t h c o r n e r p o l y

-Evergreen AIDS Foundation Evergreen AIDS Foundation provides support services for people living with HIV and AIDS who reside in Whatcom, Skagit, Island, San Juan and Snohomish counties. Bellingham: 115 Unity St. 360-671-0703, Everett: 2709 Wetmore Ave. 425-740-3000


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