Richardson Life Magazine Issue 2

LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

Welcome to the second issue of Richardson Life Magazine! Our relatively “young” city of Richardson is celebrating its 150th birthday this year. While history books are now our only sources to “ask” about life in the 1870’s, I sat down with Mr. Charles Smith, a 102-year-old Richardson native, recently. He loves to share stories about riding the Interurban as a young man, visiting Cash Dry Goods, and courting a young beauty named Rose Ann Julian, who eventually became his bride. You can “meet” Mr. Smith here and on video at http://richardson150th.com. The City’s official anniversary website is a treasure trove of history, details on upcoming celebratory events, and even 150th anniversary merchandise.

As we celebrate our anniversary, we do so alongside a leadership change in City government. In our Spotlight on Civic Leaders, you’ll hear from our new mayor and City Council members. Since their official bios are public, we’ve asked them to answer questions about hobbies, favorite foods, special memories and more. Mary Bedosky, Richardson’s 2022 Citizen of the Year, and Marta Frey, 2022 Volunteer of the Year, also give their time and talents to the City and are our newest Movers and Shakers.

In these pages, you'll also meet Preston Stout, an up-and-coming #1-ranked junior golfer who just graduated from JJ Pearce, and Nicole Gregory, owner of Staycation Coffee and our Women in Business spotlight. These stories and so many more fill our summer issue, including ones about the Richardson Symphony Orchestra, Network of Community Ministries, and RISD’s Backpack Bash. And for our Healthy Living section, we take a deep dive into the mental health issue of breaking free from online addiction, thanks to the professionals at Escapingthe.Com, PLLC.

As we did in our inaugural issue, we’ve created a calendar of upcoming events and a section entitled the Richardson Scene, which includes photos of spring activities in Richardson. Have a photo for our August issue? Please send it to us for publication!

If you love reading about Richardson and believe in our mission of making strong connections across our city, we hope you’ll support our advertisers as they are the backbone of our success. And if you’d like to join their ranks, we’ll gladly save a spot for you to promote your business or nonprofit. Richardson Life Magazine is YOUR magazine. We continue to want to hear from you about people you’d like to see highlighted, organizations you love, upcoming events we should include in our calendar and more. We’re just an email away. See you again in August!

Publisher

Kyla Obert

Editor Patti Otte

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Special Thanks Dan Barrios, Mary Bedosky, Michael Belvin, Joe Corcoran, Curtis Dorian, Bob Dubey, Daniel Echols, Jeremy Edge, Marta Frey, Laurie Garvie, Nicole Gregory, Raquel Henry, Ken Hutchenrider, Ben Jones, Jennifer Justice, Arefin Shamsul, Charles Smith, Preston Stout, Carrie Thomas

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THE RICHARDSON SCENE

Richardson’s vibrant community hosts an array of civic, social, educational, sporting, philanthropic and business events throughout the year. If you would like to have a picture included in the Richardson Scene, please send submissions to thescene@hylogroup.com.

Lockwood Distilling Co.'s Cocktails for a Cause

RISD Foundation Prom

RPD Citizen Police Academy

RALC Murder Mystery

Richardson East Rotary "Games & Gala"

Network Senior Day

JJ Pearce Tennis Team

Richardson Animal Shelter donation

Richardson Reads One Book Reveal Party

CIty of Richardson Annual Trash Bash

Richardson Community Chorale April performance

Seniors visiting Fire Station 1 on National Firefighters Day

JoAnn and Rudy Mueller at Senior Center Richardson Symphony Ball

Huffhines Park

JJ Pearce Robotics Team

Richardson East Rotary Club Games & Gala

Patti and Kyla at Chamber meeting

Leadership Richardson Healthcare Day

PRESTON STOUT

Richardson’s Golfing Pride and Joy

By Patti Otte

Tiger Woods appeared on The Mike Douglas Show at age 2, putting with Bob Hope. He shot 48 for nine holes at age three and was featured in Golf Digest at age five. Rory McIlroy started golfing at age 7. Preston Stout, on the other hand, grew up playing baseball, football, soccer and basketball. But in the summer after fifth grade, his parents enrolled him in a golf and tennis camp at Canyon Creek Country Club in Richardson. He fell in love with golf and, within a few months, played in his first tournament. Fast-forward just seven years and Preston Stout is now ranked #1 in the state of Texas on Golfweek and #4 on the AJGA Junior Golf Scoreboard.

At eleven years old, Stout knew that golf was going to be a long-term passion: “The challenge and pressure was something I loved and quickly found very addicting.” From a young age, his dad taught Stout the value of a solid work ethic and the importance of passion and dedication. Stout credits his work ethic for setting him apart from other players his age. He states, “I love practicing and the satisfaction that it gives me after a long day of grinding on the golf course. I think a lot of kids get bored or distracted while practicing and that is something that has never been an issue for me.”

Stout tries to emulate what he sees in successful pro golfers, noting that “All successful tour pros have very strong mental toughness and grit when competing. I believe I have this same mindset when on the golf course.” During his high school years, Stout typically practiced for two to three hours every day after school. That practice schedule changed, in between traveling to tournaments, to six to seven hours a day during the summertime. And in a fortuitous twist of fate, the pandemic provided Stout the chance to “live on the golf course, thanks to online school and limited

US Junior President's Cup tournament

class time.” He credits that time with improving his game significantly and catapulting him to success.

JJ Pearce golf coach Steven Buchanan was Stout’s mentor and coach for four years. When asked to explain what he thinks makes Stout so special, he replies, “Preston brings a level of competitiveness to every event that makes him unique. Because golf is an individual sport, many players have a hard time learning what it means to compete. Preston played many sports growing up and I feel like he has transferred traits and qualities that he acquired from those sports into his overall golf game.” He continues, “He doesn’t just want to win the event; he wants to win leaving no doubt who the best player was. Selfishly, I have enjoyed knowing that, wherever we show up to play, I have the best player in the field.”

Stout recently graduated from JJ Pearce High School and heads to Oklahoma State University in Stillwater, OK, this fall. This summer, he will transition from junior golf to amateur golf. In between tournaments and practice, Stout plans to soak in as much time on the lake fishing and hanging out with his buddies and family as he can. He also plans to be at the beach as much as possible. Just a few weeks ago, Stout received the prestigious Byron Nelson International Junior Golf Award, which “recognizes the achievements

of junior golfers around the world who distinguish themselves with a high level of junior tournament play as well as excellence in academics, exceptional character and a commitment to community service.” When asked to reflect on his successes to date, Stout says, “God has definitely been the most influential thing in my life the past year. I have come to understand that I'm not just playing golf for myself or my family but playing to glorify God. He is the reason I have been blessed with the opportunities I have received today.” Stout’s mantra for living is “Never give up on your dreams.” He states, “I believe to get where you want to be in life, you will be tested and put through adversity. You have to overcome these challenges to be successful.” We’re rooting for you, Preston. You’re on your way.

Preston, Hailey Ashcraft, and JJ Pearce Coach Steven Buchanan

Tournament

USGA Tournament

Preston with his parents Kelly and Chris

Preston and Mrs. Byron Nelson

Richardson Symphony Orchestra A Musical Treasure in Our Hometown

By Laurie Garvie and Patti Otte

One of Richardson’s cultural crown jewels, the Richardson Symphony Orchestra was founded in 1961 by Maestro Chris Xeros and a group of dedicated volunteers. In 1990, Maestro Anshel Brusilow became the second conductor of the RSO. The orchestra continued to grow and is now recognized as one of the premiere orchestras in the region. It is the resident symphony of the Eisemann Center for Performing Arts and offers six concerts (four classical

and two pops) each season. The orchestra consists of 70 professional musicians led by Music Director and Conductor Clay Couturiaux, who just completed his eleventh year with the RSO. The Symphony is supported by a dedicated Board of Directors, the Richardson Symphony League and community volunteers. According to Executive Director Laurie Garvie, “We are a small but mighty nonprofit, with just two full-time and one part-time staff members.”

Throughout its history, the orchestra has been known for its innovative programming and as a showplace for brilliant up-and-coming talent. Many notable artists have made their DFW symphony debut with the RSO, including cellist Yo-Yo Ma, violinist Nadia Solaerno-Sonnenberg and pianist Behzod Abduraimov.

In addition to its critically acclaimed concerts, the RSO is regarded as a leader in education and community outreach programs. The Ann & Charles

RSO Season Finale Concert

Photo By Carmel Studios Photography

Eisemann International Young Artists Competition annually draws talented young performers from around the world who compete for cash prizes and the opportunity to perform with the orchestra at its March concert. The orchestra is also involved in enriching the Fine Arts education of Richardson Independent School District students through Symphony Days, a three-part program culminating in all third graders attending a concert at the Eisemann Center.

When asked what makes her glad to be associated with the RSO, Garvie states, “One of the things I’m most proud of is that we provide music beyond the walls of the concert hall to share the joy of live music with as many people as possible. Through the generous support of our donors, corporate sponsors, and the City of Richardson Cultural Arts Commission, we offer a wide variety of community outreach programs. Our newest platform is the RSO concert trailer, which enables us to

transport a portable stage to casual settings – parks, neighborhood parties, Main Street celebrations, Light Up Lockwood, and several new locations in the months ahead.”

She continues, “I’m also proud of

our podcast program, ‘Portraits in Music,’ which debuted in June 2020. Maestro Couturiaux shares his insight into the pieces to be performed at each concert. Most episodes include an interview with a principal musician

Winners of the 2023 Ann & Charles Eisemann International Young Artists Competition with the Eisemann family and Maestro Couturiaux

Richardson Symphony Orchestra concert trailer

or a guest artist. Several episodes feature conversations with RSO musicians and community supporters who have been instrumental in sustaining the RSO through their generous support. Our podcast has more than 3,000 downloads from 36 countries and 48 states in the USA and is produced by Ross Sivertsen.”

The RSO just wrapped up an exciting sixty-first season. Joyce Yang returned to perform with the orchestra at their Season Finale Concert in April. An exceptional pianist who performed the Brahms Piano Concerto No. 1, Joyce is a powerhouse performer and such a joy to work with, which made for "an absolutely amazing weekend," according to Garvie.

During the February pops concert, “Fascinating Rhythm,” the orchestra was joined by two Broadway veterans, Capathia Jenkins and Aisha de Haas. It included chart-topping songs popularized by Ella Fitzgerald, Nat King Cole, Judy Garland, and many more iconic vocalists. One of the RSO’s goals has been to collaborate with the Eisemann Center for Performing Arts to co-present a pops concert. That dream will soon come true as the two entities co-present Judy Collins with full orchestral accompaniment on January 27, 2024.

For more information about the Richardson Symphony Orchestra, visit http://richardsonsymphony.org or follow the RSO on Instagram @Richardson_symphony.

MAESTRO CLAY COUTURIAUX

Music has been present throughout Clay Couturiaux’s life. He could sense the power of music when he started singing in the church choir at age 5. By age 8, young Clay was playing the piano, which soon fueled his interest in other instruments. By age 10, he had found his instrument: the violoncello. Because it was an orchestral instrument, the violoncello introduced Clay to the symphony orchestra and, through the orchestra, he gained an appreciation for all instruments. However, he admits to remaining biased toward the cello.

After attending his first orchestra rehearsal as a cellist at age 12, he knew he wanted to be a conductor. Couturiaux said, “Understanding what a conductor actually did opened up a new world to me.” Although he views great composers as the “true geniuses” and is content to leave the work of composing to them, he believes the role of the orchestra is to perform and to “recreate their music.” That process of re-creation is driven by the conductor.

Along his path to becoming a conductor, Couturiaux earned his Bachelor of Music in violoncello from the University of North Texas in Denton, graduating with honors in 1994. He then continued his studies at the University of North Texas, earning a Master’s and a Doctorate in orchestral conducting by 2000. In addition, he developed his conducting skills at the world-renowned Pierre Monteux School for Conductors and Orchestra Musicians in Maine and at the National Arts Centre Conductors Programme in Ottawa, Canada. Maestro Couturiaux is now the Assistant Director of Orchestral Studies at the University of North Texas, where he teaches fundamentals of con-

ducting technique, advanced orchestral conducting, administrates the orchestral studies area, and is conductor of the UNT Concert Orchestra.

Couturiaux describes the art of conducting as “one of the most complex and demanding activities in the realm of music” because three things must come together: the conductor’s personal study, the preparation of rehearsal, and the culmination of the performance itself.

Clay Couturiaux is the proud father of two teenage daughters. In his free time, he enjoys all sports (especially the Dallas Cowboys), scary movies, and traveling with his family. He also loves trying new beers, though his favorite beverage is always an Old Fashioned. He is a music connoisseur and, beyond classical music, the Oskar Peterson trio is one of his favorites.

A little-known fact about Maestro Couturiaux is that he was the first person to have an ice cream named after him at Sweet Firefly Gourmet Ice Cream. Maestro Couturiaux loves Butterfinger candy bars, so the local ice cream shop partnered with the RSO to create Conductor’s Crunch in his honor, a delicious and handcrafted combination of Sweet Firefly’s sweet cream ice cream, decadent Ghirardelli caramel sauce and Couturiaux’s beloved Butterfingers. A decade later, it’s still a fan favorite.

States Garvie, “Clay Couturiaux is a remarkable man and it’s a tremendous honor to work with him. He’s a genius when it comes to classical music and I marvel at how hard he works to prepare for each concert and how skillfully he works with our musicians throughout each rehearsal to create such moving and powerful performances.” Musician, father, sports fan and overall great guy, Clay Couturiaux is a Richardson gem.

RICHARDSON’S MOVERS AND SHAKERS

Editor’s Note: Movers and shakers are people who make things happen, influencers whose energy creates positive change. They’re always busy and often pioneers in their respective fields. In each issue of Richardson Life Magazine , we highlight an individual, couple or group of people who we feel fits this definition. If you would like to nominate a mover and shaker to be celebrated in the pages of the magazine, email pmotte@hylogroup.com .

MARY BEDOSKY 2022 Citizen Of The Year

By Patti Otte

Network of Community Ministries donor reception

In March, the Richardson Chamber of Commerce honored individuals whose exceptional contributions to the community made a lasting impact in 2022. Small but mighty, fun and feisty Mary Bedosky was given the well-deserved title of Citizen of the Year.

Mary grew up in Madison, Wisconsin, where she spent winters sledding and ice skating. Always a hard worker, Mary’s first job was cleaning the scuff marks off new men’s white shoes at the Nunn Bush Shoe Factory in Edgerton, Wisconsin. A music education major at the University of Wisconsin - Eau Claire, she specialized in voice and piano and was a lead singer in a rock band, “playing regular gigs with lots

of 70’s music at a smoky bar with fellow music majors,” Mary recalls.

The young musician also had a knack for business and her career took her in that direction. She has worked in retail store management, residential real estate and banking for many years. Currently, Mary works for Prosperity Bank in Richardson as the Banking Center President and will soon celebrate sixteen years with Prosperity. Mary describes herself as flexible, organized and a great partner.

Mary’s greatest partnership was with Matthew, her soul mate and husband of twenty-six years, whom she lost in 2019. Mary and Matt moved from Rochester, NY, to Richardson in 1993. Together, in addition

to pursuing separate careers, they owned a cigar shop in Richardson called Calypso Cigars, which Mary sold after Matt’s death. Her eyes still light up when she talks about Matt.

Her father Lester, a small business owner himself, taught Mary the importance of

Mary with her mom and brother

Mary happily networking

relationships in business and giving back to the community. Her 91-year-old mom, Helen Ryan, lives with Mary now. A retired nurse and former amateur pilot, Helen “is a blast to live with – she always keeps me laughing,” states Mary fondly.

Mary’s earliest memory of volunteering is selling tickets at the Kehl School of Dance recital back in Madison. She did so well that she won a pair of ballet shoes for selling the most tickets! Once she arrived in Richardson, Mary met longtime Richardson mover and shaker Bonnie Perry, who invited her to serve on the RSO Board. They collaborated on many causes over the years and Bonnie introduced Mary to several people who she now considers her best friends.

Mary is a member of the Richardson East Rotary Club, the Executive After Hours and Women in Leadership committees of the Richardson Chamber, and serves on the Board of Directors of the Methodist Richardson Hospital Foundation. When asked what she would say to someone wanting to make a difference in the community, Mary states, “There are so many ways to give back. Network of Community Ministries and RALC come to mind. I would ask the person, ‘What is your passion?’ It is so much fun to work alongside others doing something you love and believe in.”

Fellow volunteer and Logotology owner Monica Scott states, “Mary is smart and

Mary's March birthday celebration

funny and has such a rich history in this community. I don't think there is one aspect of this City that she hasn't been involved in and is always open to sharing and brainstorming new ideas to build upon successes. She is one of those people who, when you talk to her, you know you have 100% of her attention. We are truly blessed to have her!!!”

Besides “catching some rays” in her backyard pool, Mary loves the patio and vibe at Fernando’s, the concert hall at the Eisemann Center, and the Wildflower Festival. She also enjoys visiting and photographing lighthouses, drinking wine and chatting with friends, and shopping! When asked what she would like folks to remember her for, Mary replies, “I would hope that they talk about the great times we had together and how we improved our community as a team.”

Congratulations, Mary. You’ve certainly made your community a better place simply by being you.

Mary and Matt in Wyoming

MARTA FREY 2022 Volunteer Of The Year

By Patti Otte

Another awesome and accomplished leader, Marta Frey was honored as the Richardson Chamber of Commerce's Volunteer of the Year. Marta was born in Puerto Rico before moving with her family to Richardson in 1976. Marta attended Dartmouth Elementary, Hamilton Park Elementary, Apollo Jr High and Berkner HS. She then graduated from Texas A&M University with a BA in history and languages.

Early on, Marta’s family life centered around maintaining their Hispanic culture while learning about their new Texas home. Her family hosted potlucks incorporating Puerto Rican and Colombian (her father was from

Colombia) cuisines with their American friends. Her childhood was spent sharing countless days with cousins, aunts and uncles.

Marta’s family, including son Alex, a Richardson-based software engineer, and Noah, a market researcher living in Chicago, is a central part of her life. Says Marta, “My sons are my inspiration and provide my sense of direction. My mom, Myrta G. Gómez, a former educator, taught me why giving back is so important. And my father Hector, affectionately known as 'Papapa', was well-respected in the engineering consulting community and taught me to embrace a strong work ethic.”

Marta continues, “Mimi (my mom) taught

me to serve always, in all ways. She showed me how there can be creativity in who and how I serve, as long as I serve. As I child, I didn’t yet have causes I was passionate about, so she encouraged me to use my favorite hobbies in ways to serve others. For example, when I was in the Dallas Girls’ Choir, we sang to and volunteered at local hospitals.”

Marta currently serves as the director of the Collin Small Business Development Center. In that role, she advocates, advises and educates small business owners as they seek to grow their companies. The Center is a nonprofit grant program that provides marketing, financing, growth strategies, startup, and business expansion

Alex, Marta and Noah campaigning in 2017

consulting services at no cost. Says Marta, “I absolutely love what I do.”

Winston Churchill famously said, “We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.” His words inspire Marta. “Fortunately, with so many servant leaders in Richardson, our community has a strong foundation on which to build our vibrant future,” she states.

Currently, Marta serves in a variety of capacities within the Richardson community: as the Incoming Board Chair for Network of Community Ministries; on the Methodist Richardson Medical Center Foundation Board as Vice Chair, Governance; on the Richardson Chamber of Commerce Board of Directors; and as a Counseling Advisory Board member for RISD Memorial Park Academy.

When asked what she would tell the next generation of volunteers, Marta thoughtfully replies, “There is need everywhere: in education, the arts, social services, business mentorship and leadership, city government, within our houses of worship, and so much more. Find whatever cause is close to your heart, an activity you enjoy doing, or a treasure you can share and offer it to someone. Those that need it will be filled with gratitude.”

When she’s not volunteering or working, Marta loves spending time in the Spring Creek Nature Area, an oasis filled with trees, a creek and bike trails,

where neighbors enjoy the outdoors. She can also be found in Chinatown— one of Richardson’s cultural hot spots. There she enjoys viewing the Dallas Chinese Community Center’s many amazing works of art, attending cultural celebrations, and enjoying its diverse cuisines and restaurants. Furthermore, as a small business advocate, Marta is proud to see how Lockwood and the CORE Districts have blossomed over the past few years.

If she had no responsibilities, Marta would be traveling the world. Instead, she spends her time enjoying music, hanging out with family and friends (pool time with a cocktail is a favorite), and thrift shopping. She’s also a huge English Premiere League soccer fan and watches it every weekend! She admires Audrey Hepburn and quotes St Ignatius of Loyola: ““Go forth and set the world on fire.”

To Marta, setting the world on fire means to “Move forward with passion. Continue to learn and excel. Share and inspire others.” As an excellent mother, a devoted friend and a servant-hearted leader, Marta is doing just that.

Marta and her Papapa

Marta's large Puerto Rican family

Marta with Monica Scott

Noah, Mimi, Alex and Marta

Editor’s Note: In each issue of Richardson Life Magazine, we are shining a spotlight on ways to improve mental, physical, emotional or spiritual health. This issue focuses on mental health, in particular healthy approaches to online access. If you have a healthy living topic you would like to see us address, email pmotte@hylogroup.com.

Finding The Power To Unplug In A Digital Age

By Jeremy Edge, LPC Founder of Escapingthe.com, PLLC

Online access is no longer a luxury but a necessity in so many settings. Certain screen-related activities—video games, social media platforms and streaming services—can enhance our lives and provide hours of entertainment. In some cases, the Internet can improve our social capital, increase our productivity, and bolster our mental health. However, there’s a dark side to unlimited online access in that it can become problematic and addictive as we become trapped by its enticing experiences.

Parents struggle with knowing how to help their 14-year-old son, who becomes irate when video games are limited. Couples suffer from a partner’s pornography use. And young adults struggle with knowing how to manage their screen time. Escape means to break free from confinement or control. In 2019, I founded Escapingthe.com, PLLC, a counseling service designed to help individuals address the growing need to break free from addiction to online-specific activities such as video games, pornography and social media.

In a seminal moment in January 2022, “Gaming Disorder” was added to the World Health Organization’s ICD-11. And studies have found that social media can exacerbate mental health struggles. Children as young as eight years old are being exposed to graphic pornography, setting them up for failure with navigating healthy sex. And about 64% of people spent more time and money on online gambling during the COVID-19 pandemic.

In 2023, we can’t simply stop using all screens. We are in an online, connected world and most of us

cannot completely abstain from all Internet usage. However, at times we may need to stop a certain Internet activity such as video games or social media. Doing so gives us the

opportunity to create a more balanced lifestyle. The mental health counselors at Escapingthe.com, PLLC work with clients to find balance and solutions to problematic and addictive screen use.

What does problematic screen use look like? Here are a few signs:

• Someone who cannot control online activity.

• A person who'd rather use online activity than do other things they used to enjoy.

• Someone who does not see personal problems developing at work/school, in relationships, and in overall health from their online activity.

• A person who has a strong desire to use online activity as often as possible.

• Someone who has a negative emotional response when asked to discontinue online activity.

Tactics For Escaping Online Addiction

Improve relationships.

Stop SPECIFIC online activity for 90 days.

Let’s take social media. If social media has become problematic, stop all use for 90 days. Uninstall all social media apps from your phone and block all social media platforms from your web browser. For that three-month period, keep yourself from engaging in that specific online activity as much as possible. This gives your brain the chance to reset and enjoy other activities. When we are addicted to a behavior or substance, our brains primarily find the most pleasure in that behavior or substance. Going on a walk outside on a nice day does nothing for us if we are addicted to social media. Stopping that problematic online activity gives our brains the time to enjoy other activities again and set up different, healthier habits.

Redirect online motivations. Certain reasons motivate our online activities. For social media, maybe you are motivated to stay connected to your friends, meet new people, and improve your professional network. Maybe you enjoy the novelty of seeing what others are doing and get a little excited when you see others comment on your vacation pictures. Your motivation to use social media is to enhance your social capital. So, while you stop using social media for 90 days, focus your extra time and energy on fulfilling your motivations in other ways. Join a local book club or social group. Get involved in your neighborhood or volunteer at a local organization you believe in. These outlets can give you similar rewards for being on social media, but the outlet will be healthier for you.

At some point along the way, some important relationships were likely harmed by problematic screen use. Use this 90-day period to work on those relationships. Have an honest conversation with your partner about your challenges. Apologize to those whom you have hurt. Talk openly with friends about your desire to change and how they can help. It’s natural to feel we don’t need others or view vulnerability as weakness. But as researcher and vulnerability expert Brené Brown says, “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” Improving relationships is vital in helping us escape problematic screen use.

Address underlying challenges. Screen use is a way to mask problems. We can easily escape from work or homelife challenges by jumping into an online world. When we take away our online coping strategy for 90 days, we will also need to work on those underlying challenges. Talk to your trusted family and friends to explore challenges you might be running away from. Journal, meditate and pray about what challenges need to be addressed. Work with a trusted mental health counselor to help work through these underlying challenges. The counselor doesn’t have to specialize in problematic screen use to be effective. The key is to look for a counselor you trust and like. The therapeutic relationship is one of the most important pieces of effective therapy.

Discovering the Root Causes of Online Addiction

By Daniel Echols, LPC Escapingthe.com

something spiritually nourishing that provides sustainable purpose and direction. In the throes of addiction, technology becomes a surrogate meaning-maker. Replacing online addiction with a sense of purpose and authentic meaning through spiritual connection is an integral part of a return to healthy living.

Developing psychological flexibility is key for balance and health. Psychological flexibility can help you:

• BE OPEN and accepting of thoughts and feelings without needing to escape them, fix them, or be controlled by them.

Online addiction is real. Whether an individual abuses gaming, pornography or social media, the results can be the same as any addiction: loss of self, health problems, financial trouble, separation from those we love. Helping people discover and find freedom from the root causes of this growing epidemic has become my passion. Two things stand out in my work with clients: 1) a desire to change how we feel; and 2) a lack of purpose. When we have unwanted feelings that won’t go away and we don’t know what else to do, we find ways online to numb those feelings or distract ourselves. And when we don’t know what to do with our time, finding ourselves bored and without direction, it’s easy to get lost in appealing online options to pass the hours.

On the bright side, technology and screen time can be a worthwhile and meaningful tool when used in healthy service to valued activities: playing video games online with a faraway friend and bonding over the shared experience; shopping online during

the holidays to save time and energy; promoting a business through social media; or taking online courses to complete a degree program.

The danger comes when technology becomes a dead end instead of a tool. When this shift occurs, screens no longer provide enrichment or meaning. Instead, they simply kill time and take life away. Typically, this change takes place when an individual is simply seeking an escape from uncomfortable feelings, some hurt or regret about the past or present, some anxiety or fear about the future. Sometimes the restless feelings come from deeper, more spiritual places within us. And when we can’t accept or embrace those uncomfortable feelings, being on a screen promises temporary emotional relief, yet the feelings return afterward and the costs escalate.

To escape from addiction at a deeper level, we must explore why we sometimes feel restless, irritable and discontent. We don’t always equate this emotional discomfort with a spiritual root cause: a lack of connection to

• BE PRESENT to each moment, attending to the world through your true, spiritual Self.

• ●DO WHAT MATTERS in accordance with your values.

We help you to escape the virtual world and reconnect with the real world, which can create a new sense of well-being, provide physical experiences and community, and improve overall health. The heart settles and the addiction is replaced with abundant life.

TOOLS FOR DISCOVERING YOUR VALUES

Examine your value system through these lenses to help you achieve a healthy and fulfilling life.

SWEET

Discover your values by reflecting on “sweet” moments when you experienced great joy or abiding, life-giving energy. Determine which activities give you a “sweet” sense.

SOUR

Analyze the “sour” moments, too…those when we hurt after something we did, ached for something/someone missing in our lives. What is missing during these times provides info that points us to a value.

HEROES

Who are the people who have lived in a way that caught our eye and made us want to emulate them…people who had something about them that was a “light” in the world? Identifying our heroes helps us ascertain what we value.

AUTHOR

Explore your values by authoring your own life. Decide how you want to be seen in this world. Know that you are the author of your own life and can write a life filled with passion and purpose.

Like food, screen use can be healthy or unhealthy, depending on what and how much we consume. It can be a constant battle to pursue healthy online choices. If you would like help exploring the process of breaking free from problematic screen use, reach out to us at Escapingthe.com, PLLC. Visit http://Escapingthe.com or call 214-433-2721.

Richardson’s 2023-2025 Mayor and City Council Members

On Saturday, May 6, Richardson elected its 2023-2025 Mayor and City Council Members. While their official bios were widely publicized during the election, we wanted to get to know each civic leader on a more informal basis. We sent twenty questions to each civic leader and asked them to choose ten to answer. These are their responses.

MAYOR BOB DUBEY Place 7

All-time favorite pet - tell us about him or her. My favorite dog was Dutchess. She was an Airedale. When I was a sophomore in high school, I saved my money and purchased her. She was a fabulous dog. She won her obedience class training as the best trained dog. She was loyal, smart and obedient. If I asked her to sit and stay, she would never move until I called her. She could catch a Frisbee in the air and return it to you for hours on end. She was a great friend and an amazing dog.

One special skill/story/hobby not commonly known about you.

When I was younger, I enjoyed doing magic tricks. I won the 5th grade talent show (at RISD Dover Elementary) with my amazing tricks.

What's your favorite board or card game? Backgammon.

What is one ability you believe everyone should possess? Everyone should have the ability to forgive.

What was your favorite childhood book?

My favorite childhood book was The Night Before Christmas I love Christmas and the excitement it brings. My mother would give every child a dollar who could recite the book without reading it. This was a family tradition that I hold dear to my heart.

What are the songs that make you sing along when you hear them?

I sing along to almost every George Straight tune.

Coffee or tea? Favorite meal...breakfast, brunch, lunch or dinner?

My favorite drink choice is tea! My favorite meal is dinner.

What is the most useless talent you possess? My ability to flip drink coasters.

What is the strangest food you have ever eaten?

The strangest food I have eaten is turtle soup. Wow! It is really good!

What is one hobby you would like to develop but have never made time for?

I wish I was better at golf. I never have time to practice and I wish, through osmosis, I could improve. However, I know practice makes perfect when practiced perfectly. So, I will continue to shoot bogie golf and have fun with the game and the fellowship.

COUNCIL MEMBER CURTIS DORIAN Place 1

If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would you go and why that particular destination?

I have two locations: Santa Fe, NM, and Italy. We travel to New Mexico annually and enjoy driving up Artist Road to Santa Fe Mountain for skiing and sightseeing. A scheduled appointment to Ten Thousand Waves is another great experience. The food and downtown square always light up the evening. Italy is one of my all-time favorite places to visit. The culture is amazing. The food is incredible and if you have a chance to visit Lake Como villages, Rome, Venice and Tuscany, you will agree.

What is your mantra for living/favorite quote?

“I have the simplest of taste, I only prefer the best.” – Oscar Wilde “I firmly believe that quality is remembered long after the price is forgotten.” – Stanley Marcus

COUNCIL MEMBER JENNIFER JUSTICE

Place 2

If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would you go and why that destination?

Switzerland. I wrote a report about Switzerland in the 4th grade and have wanted to visit ever since.

Best childhood memory?

Camping with my grandparents and cousins.

All-time favorite pet - tell us about him or her. This is like asking a parent to choose his or her favorite

How would your best friend describe you?

Outgoing, humorous, fun, genuine and honest.

What’s your best childhood memory?

Spending time with my great-grandmother at the homeplace.

If you could sit down and have a meal with anyone, living or dead, who would you choose and why?

My mother – She left this world too early and I was not old enough to appreciate her.

If given a time machine, what period would you travel to and why that particular time?

1980’s. I would make a few adjustments before traveling forward.

If you had a day with no deadlines, no responsibilities, and unlimited funds, how would you spend it?

Helping animals and advocating for their safety and working to find homes for these little angels. They need someone to take care of them and love them.

What is your favorite season of the year and why?

Fall – I love the start of a chill in the air, with promises of holidays ahead and a roaring indoor/outdoor fire.

What is your favorite family tradition?

Driving out to East Texas and enjoying the countryside.

If you had to get a tattoo today, what would you get and why would you choose it?

An equilateral triangle – three stabilizing sides – body/mind/spirit. A Circle – It represents eternity and equality.

child, but I would probably say Miss Kitty. She was a gray and white tabby with piercing blue eyes. I rescued her my freshman year in college and she was my constant companion for twelve years. She was my road trip buddy (and even joined me on a few flights) and demanded to rest her head on my pillow next to mine every night. She (like all pets) was a gift.

One special skill/story/hobby not commonly known about you?

I make the self-proclaimed world’s best chocolate chip cookie. It is a quadruple chocolate chip cookie that has just enough dough to hold the chocolate chips together.

What's your favorite board or card game?

Monopoly. I may get a little too competitive!

If you could sit down and have a meal with anyone, living or dead, who would you choose and why?

PePaw, my grandfather. I have so many questions I did not think to ask as a child.

What is one ability you believe everyone should possess?

Empathy.

What is an item on your bucket list that you have already checked off? Which one is next?

I attended the French Open. A hot air balloon ride over the tulip fields in the Netherlands is next!

What is your favorite holiday and why do you love it?

Christmas. We have a bit of an unspoken (I guess the

COUNCIL MEMBER DAN BARRIOS Place

3

If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would you go and why that particular destination?

I would choose a month-long culinary tour of India. It’s a very large country filled with various culinary regions and traditions. I would love the opportunity to immerse myself and experience its food and perhaps learn to cook a few dishes.

What’s one special skill/story/hobby not commonly known about you?

I love to dance. A few years back, when I had a bit more time, I could be found dancing all types of music: Country, Salsa, Swing, Tejano, or just Top 40.

What is one ability you believe everyone should possess?

The ability to sit down and talk through disagreements. It’s an important skill, not just personally or professionally but for society. We’ve lost our ability to sit and talk about things we disagree on. I believe that it benefits one personally and society to have the ability to sit with people you disagree with and carry on a productive conversation. Not for the basis of convincing others to your stance on an issue, but for the purpose of understanding the other person’s point of view.

What is one hobby you would like to develop but have never made time for?

Ceramics. I have always wanted to learn how to throw on a wheel. I don’t have any particular artistic ability but have always thought that I wanted to try ceramics. A few years ago, I took a few classes at Quiggly’s Clayhouse in Richardson and loved it. Maybe someday I’ll make time to take it a step further.

cat’s out of the bag) decorating competition going with our awesome neighbors.

Where is your happy place?

Cuddled up on the couch with a cat in my lap, a dog by my side, reading a Greg Iles book.

What was your favorite childhood book?

Stories That Must Not Die by Juan Sauvageau. I struggled with reading as a kid and this book was the first to get me interested and excited about reading. It is a collection of South Texas folk tales. I had a teacher who would read a short story to us every week. I keep a copy of this book in my office.

What is the most flattering compliment you have ever received?

Early on in the campaign, I received a flattering compliment that made me chuckle and stood out. In talking to one of our city’s long-time community leaders, he said that his only concern about my campaign was that I was too nice. He then proceeded to ask if I had ever considered going into Ministry instead. I found it funny and a high compliment that he thought I was too nice and that he thought highly enough of me to suggest ministry instead.

If you could have one superpower, what would it be?

Flying, just like Superman. As a child and throughout my life, I’ve had recurring dreams of flying and think that would be the coolest superpower.

What is one item on your bucket list that you have already checked off and one you’ll check off next?

Item I’ve checked off: my MBA. The next item I would like to check off…that’s tough. It would be either to visit all fifty states (I’ve visited forty-six) or write a book.

What is the most valuable thing you’ve learned in life so far?

Surround yourself with the right people. The right people will challenge you to be better, whether that is in your personal, professional or civic life. They will support you, teach you, let you know when you are wrong, go to battle for you, and help you become a better version of yourself.

If you had a tattoo today, what would you get and why would you choose it?

The number “525,600.” It is the number of minutes in a year and was made famous in the song “Seasons of Love” in the musical Rent. The song talks about love and appreciating those small moments that make up a year of life. It would serve as a reminder to appreciate and focus on those moments that truly make life memorable: things like family, love, grief of life lost, service to others and friends. It is a way of appreciating and celebrating the little moments that we often overlook in our busy lives.

COUNCIL MEMBER JOE CORCORAN Place 4

Favorite book and/or movie?

Cry, the Beloved Country has been my favorite book for years. It’s a moving story about a provincial Zulu pastor who travels to Johannesburg to save his son on the eve of apartheid rule in South Africa. I’ve read it five times. It taught me about injustice, faith and forgiveness. A large part of who I am as a man comes from this book.

Mantra for living/favorite quote?

“People can smell the BS” - this was told to me before I ran for Council, but it applies to everything. I try never to be someone I’m not. I really try not to make myself seem more important than I am. I never respected anyone in politics or life that did that.

One special skill/story/hobby not commonly known about you?

Kind of the opposite of a special skill, but I never learned to whistle, snap, or wink. So if you see me snapping my fingers, know I’m definitely faking it.

What's your favorite board or card game?

RISK will always be my favorite game. I have so many good memories with family and friends taking over the world, making (and breaking) alliances, and letting my imagination fly.

If you could sit down and have a meal with anyone, who would you choose and why?

President John Adams would be great! But only if his wife Abigail could join us. They were truly a power couple. I find that idealistic people make the best dinner company, and that’s them to aT. They were abolitionists when it was unpopular.

What was your favorite childhood book?

There is a book called Three Trees about three little trees that have grand plans for what they’ll become when they grow up. Each of them is initially disappointed, but becomes an object along Jesus’s journey and finds fulfillment. It was a heartwarming book. Otherwise, Jurassic Park as a teenager. Easily the most fun book I’ve read even to this day. It’s also a great treatise on being too reckless with emerging technology.

If you had a day with no deadlines, no responsibilities, and unlimited funds, how would you spend the day?

After a two- or three-hour bike ride in the countryside, I’d probably spend the rest of the day trying to make my partner's life easier. Errands, buying her some awesome presents, treating her like a princess. Making her happy makes me happy!

Coffee or tea? Favorite meal...breakfast, brunch, lunch or dinner?

Coffee and breakfast, no question. But Middle Eastern food is my favorite food overall. It’s so varied and can do a lot with just a little.

What is the most flattering compliment you have ever received?

That I’m good company. I’m self-conscious about being boring.

Do you still believe in Santa Claus?

“Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! How dreary would the world be if there were no Santa Claus. It would be as dreary as if there were no Virginias. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The eternal light with which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.”

That quote by Francis Church makes me tear up every time and says what I believe better than I could.

What do you usually eat for breakfast?

Eggs with Tabasco, eggs with Sriracha, eggs made with olive oil.

If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would you go and why would you choose that location?

Hawaii. I have been several times and it is my favorite getaway spot as I am far enough away to get away but still have all of the conveniences of being in the US.

Best childhood memory:

I grew up in a very modest home. One Christmas was a particularly tough year. At work, my father won a canned ham as a Christmas prize. Mom made a great meal with that canned ham and macaroni and cheese and biscuits. We ate and laughed and loved that day. It was a very special time given what we thought the alternative would be.

What are the songs that make you sing along when you hear them?

All of the 80’s songs! I drive my daughters crazy!

If you could only have one superpower, what would it be?

The ability to fly!!! With this superpower, I could go anywhere at any time!!!

Do you still believe in Santa Claus?

Yes...definitely!!! I love the spirit of Christmas and Santa Claus plays a major role in this. Plus, who wants to take a chance of not getting presents?!?

What is your favorite season of the year and why?

Spring! I love all of the blooming trees and plants and the warmer weather.

What do you usually eat for breakfast?

I normally do not eat breakfast…just coffee!

What is your favorite holiday and why do you love it?

Thanksgiving for sure! We smoke a turkey and just eat and relax and watch football.

What is your most cherished possession?

I have a ruby ring that was my grandfather’s, which was handed down to my father. On his passing, it was handed down to me.

Where is your happy place?

The golf course! I love to golf.

What is your favorite season of the year and why?

Spring or Fall – I love the colors of the trees blooming and flowers coming in. But I also love the cooler weather and leaves turning colors.

What is your favorite holiday and why do you love it?

I love Christmastime because we have such a long period of joy and take time to reflect on our blessings.

What is one ability you believe everyone should possess?

Listening. Too often, people listen to reply and do not listen to learn. I cherish listening to others, gaining new perspectives, and trying to fully understand where the other person is coming from.

What is one item on your bucket list that you have already checked off and which is next?

I enjoy traveling and seeing new parts of the world. I wanted to go to Egypt and was able to in 2012. My ultimate goal is to visit every state in the US.

What’s one special skill/story/hobby not commonly known about you?

When I had more time, I really enjoyed sketching.

What is the most valuable thing you’ve learned in life so far?

It is serving people. Service has been a significant part of my life and I encourage neighbors to find ways to get involved. Connecting with fellow community members and seeing the world from multiple points of view makes you stronger and builds the connectedness of your local neighborhood. Maybe it’s picking up trash on the weekend or simply showing up at a neighborhood event – find a way to get involved and do your part.

COUNCIL MEMBER KEN HUTCHENRIDER Place 5

COUNCIL MEMBER AREFIN SHAMSUL Place 6

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Celebrating Charles Smith, Richardson’s Very Own Centenarian

By Patti Otte

On September 24, 2023, Charles Smith will turn 103 years young. Mr. Smith’s mind is filled with vivid memories of a time when Richardson was mainly farmland and the best mode of transportation was the Interurban Railway. Mr. Smith is one of the oldest—if not THE oldest—citizens of Richardson, having been born in 1920. He still has a sharp mind and loves sharing stories of the past. To put his age in perspective, 160,000 people lived in Dallas in 1920, versus 1.3 million today, and eighteen presidents have served during Mr. Smith’s lifetime.

Back then, Richardson was just a bedroom community of farmland and oak trees, with a half dozen houses in the area between Campbell, Arapaho, Jupiter and Greenville. Born in Richardson, Mr. Smith remembers walking from his grandparents’ house on Interurban Street south of Beltline, where he lived for a short time while his parents’ home was being built, over the Interurban railroad track to school.

According to city records, the Interurban, an electric railway, commenced service in 1908 and ran north to Denison, south to Waco, southeast to Corsicana and west to Fort Worth. By 1910, 600 people lived in Richardson and the newly built (in 1914) schoolhouse Mr. Smith attended on Greenville Avenue eventually became home to the RISD administrative offices. The offices are still located there today.

Thomas F. McKamy was Richardson’s first mayor, elected in 1925, and he owned the local Cash Dry Goods, another of Mr. Smith’s frequent stops in his boyhood. It housed the original Richardson library. In 1927, just before the Great Depression, Mr. Smith moved into his parents’ home at 324 Huffhines Street, which still stands today. The home looks just like it did then, with the exception of the now blue exterior; originally, the Smiths had it painted white.

The area where Richland College now stands was “Roy Chick’s farm, prime dove

hunting land,” according to Mr. Smith. He hunted there often in his youth.

During those early years, Mr. Smith met a girl named Rose Ann Julian, who would eventually become his bride. He and Rose Ann were classmates and both graduated in the Class of 1938 from Richardson High School. According to Mr. Smith, Rose Ann’s father was “the best cotton and wheat farmer in Dallas County.” Around that time, Mr. Smith’s dad owned Western Auto in McKinney, where the young Smith worked. Mr. Smith recalls riding the Interurban from McKinney to Richardson after work. He’d then “clean up and get the car and drive over to Addison to pick Rose Ann up at her farm.” Fun fact: Mr. John Elbert Julian owned the farm where Addison’s school was located and that building is now the Magic Time Machine on Beltline Road.

Mr. Smith married Rose Ann on March 11, 1944, while he was on leave from the Navy. Prior to their marriage,

Three generations of Smith men

World War II Naval Aviator Charles "Smitty" Smith, Lieuenant Junior Grade

Mr. Smith served his country as a Naval Aviator, Lieutenant Junior Grade, during World War II. He joined the US Navy in September of 1942 and went to pre-flight school in Athens, GA. Now known by his military nickname, "Smitty," he transferred later that year to Grand Prairie , where he started flying Stearman airplanes with open air dual cockpits

After a transfer to Pensacola, FL, in 1943, Smith did his advanced flight training in a North American SNJ, widely known as the Yellow Peril for its yellow color. He earned his wings in June 1943. He moved between Florida and Georgia a couple of time to receive Instrument flight rating training. He soon received orders to go to Alameda, CA, and in March 1945, he was transferred to Honolulu, HI. During the war, Lt. Smith was a co-pilot on an R5D—a 4-engine plane—delivering personnel and supplies from Honolulu to the Philippine Islands. Thankfully, he never saw any combat as the Hawaiian Islands were secure. Mr. Smith thinks back and remembers that he “never saw so much water in [his] life.”

Mr. Smith can recall the families who built Richardson, one of which was the Campbells. Passersby can still see JW Campbell’s home on the northwest corner of Arapaho and Plano Roads. It’s now barely

visible behind a jungle of trees and overgrowth, but Mr. Smith remembers it well. He also remembers Richardson being known as “the community with the most Ph.D’s.” He and Rose Ann were founding members of the

The Smith family home at 324 Huffhines Street

The Smiths' 50th wedding anniversary

Naval Aviator certificate

World War II memorabilia

Canyon Creek Country Club back in 1963. At the time, a membership cost $15-18 per month. They loved golfing and were members until 2000. Mr. Smith lost his beloved Rose Ann in May of 2001.

When asked to describe his dad with three adjectives, Mr. Smith’s son Charles, Jr. said Mr. Smith is steadfast, honest and trustworthy. His grandson Jason, who lived with his grandparents

for many years and then next door to them later, describes him as kind, generous and loving. The man I had the privilege of meeting fit those descriptors well. When a Richardson reporter interviewed Mr. Smith recently for Richardson’s 150th celebration, Mr. Smith told him he thought he’d live till at least 105. For all of our sakes, let’s hope he lives even longer as he still has so many stories to share.

Author’s Note: The remarkable part of this story is that almost every single historical references included here came directly from Mr. Smith. He can still vividly recall tiny details of the past—like a talking history book—and I feel so privileged to have had the chance to share a small part of his story with you.

Rose Ann Julian, Class of 1938

Class of 1938 high school reunion

Richardson High School girls' basketball team

Charles Smith, Class of 1938

Keepsake photo of Charles and Rose Ann and classmates

Graduating class of 1938

What is your name and how long have you had Staycation? Is that the full name of the shop?

Nicole Gregory and yes, that is the full name. I opened Staycation in November of 2021.

Tell us about Staycation. What makes it unique along coffee shops?

I think what makes any concept unique is the heart and energy of the people who gave life to it. The heart and energy behind Staycation is simply about the enjoyment of simple yet beautiful things, moments and conversations alongside other humans.

Does Staycation have a motto? If so, what is it and why did you choose it?

Our tagline is “stay awhile.” I think it speaks for itself, especially in tandem with the brand name. I felt like coffee shops were becoming more geared towards the remote worker and by

association, this age of productivity that we live in, and I wanted a space that was geared towards “staying awhile” with a friend, with yourself, in conversation, in contemplation, in a moment—slowing down enough to maybe do nothing but savor the present moment and sit with it.

Who is your typical customer?

One of the special qualities about Staycation is that it is a space for ALL and that is truly what we get. All age ranges, all life backgrounds, all social statuses. It’s a mixing pot of beautiful life.

What inspired you to open Staycation and what is the inspiration for the name?

This question is a complex one for me because I did not set out to be a sole business owner when this project began. I was in a partnership with an individual and when that partnership came to an end, I made the decision to build the company and give it life. The inspiration

Staycation Coffee

Nicole Gregory Owner, Staycation

behind the name comes from the ethos I’ve operated within throughout my time in the coffee industry: it’s an idea around living a life that we do not have to “vacation” from in order to find rest. An idea around balance, around honoring the “new” in the middle of lives that we so often equate to ‘normal’ and ‘mundane routine.’ Life is magical and being alive is material enough to always be in wonder and curiosity—if we are willing to slow down our pace and experience and savor it. After sharing these ideas with my ex-business partner, he said, “Staycation fits that” and so Staycation it became.

Do you live in Richardson? If so, what brought you here? If not, what made you decide to locate your business in our city?

I lived in Richardson until I was 11 and now live in East Dallas. Richardson came up through a series of events and when the little house on the corner was proposed, I knew it fit well with everything that rang true to me for a coffee shop brand. I have also been a longtime fan of Richardson’s diversity in its population and its food and cultural scene. I wanted to be a part of that.

What made you choose the house where you located the coffee shop?

Through a series of introductions, I met the developers who own the house and discussions began for a coffee shop. Because I tend to love what most would label the “the simple way of living,” having an old house as a backdrop for the brand seemed absolutely fitting.

What is your background? Have you always been an entrepreneur?

My background is one of a simple life. I grew up within the Mennonite community and spent my childhood in the garden, exploring the woods on our property, cooking, sewing and learning about LIFE. Due to that free and untethered way of growing up, I believe I’ve always had an entrepreneurial spirit in me and even though I’d go on to work for corporate companies, I’ve always operated within a certain rogue mentality, if that makes sense.

What are three adjectives which describe you?

Passionate, Creative, Authentic

What skills do you find most necessary in running a new small business?

I believe the skills I’ve found most necessary for me have been the ability to say “no” and perseverance.

What do you look for in a team member…especially in a barista? Authenticity and life-giving energy.

Are there certain menu items that are unique to Staycation? What is your best-selling drink?

Our Ginger Turmeric latte is unique to us. I make all of our syrups and that one is made from boiling down ginger and turmeric root into a syrup and it is absolutely delicious. Our top seller is probably our Dulce De Leche latte.

Share with us a funny or awesome story of having a business in Richardson.

The amount of awesome stories I have are unending. Probably the one

that has stuck with me most is when our back communal table got taken over by a Bible study group and a Muslim group—both on opposite ends. They were all regulars, but I was so curious how that seating union was going to pan out. After about an hour and a half of listening to them laugh together, open their Bible and Koran and share stories and similarities, I realized that THIS is what makes Staycation IN Richardson so special: this interfacing of diversity that supports, nurtures and encourages conversation/interaction outside of where our normal routines take us.

Anything else you’d love for your neighbors to know about Staycation or you?

Life is the most precious gift we’ve all been given and to spend it here— on this planet that’s teeming with magic and organic complexities (that we still cannot fully comprehend)— is truly special and I hope that as a person and as a brand, I never stop inspiring people to honor and take part in its beauty.

Nicole and friends at Staycation

Staycation interior

Staycation's back yard

Editor’s Note: In each issue of Richardson Life Magazine , we will focus on philanthropies that are making a difference in our community. If you would like to nominate a nonprofit to be celebrated in the pages of the magazine, email pmotte@hylogroup.com.

NETWORK OF COMMUNITY MINISTRIES

Offering Respect and Dignity to our Richardson Neighbors

By Ben Jones

Since 1985, Network of Community Ministries (a.k.a. Network) has been working to provide important resources for our neighbors in need. The organization has become deeply intertwined with the Richardson community, partnering with Richardson ISD and the City of Richardson to better meet the needs of its citizens. However, Network’s services don’t stop at providing food and clothing for those within Richardson’s city limits. This organization’s services reach much further and deeper than many know. Network’s service area consists of the fourteen zip codes that make up Richardson ISD, which means helping families from parts of Dallas, Garland and Plano in addition to Richardson. With a service area

spanning from White Rock Lake to the President George Bush Turnpike and consisting of more than 400,000 individuals, Network impacts a diverse population coming from a variety of circumstances. Additionally, Network’s neighbors may not be what people expect. More than half of those receiving services are employed, retired, or on disability. With the economic difficulties of the past two years, many neighbors who were scraping by are no longer able to make it on their own. “The day that you have to walk into a food pantry and ask for help is not a good day,” said Abbie Kauffman, Network’s President and CEO. “A big part of our mission is listening to our neighbors, treating them with the respect and dignity that they deserve, and

working with them to improve their quality of life.”

Although Network is most closely associated with the Community Food Market and Clothing Closet, the organization also works to provide deeper and more personalized care. Network offers stabilization programming to help neighbors in need and to improve their situations—including budgeting, career readiness, job fairs, childcare assistance and a continuing education fund.

Stabilization coaches meet with neighbors and assess barriers to success. Whether neighbors need childcare, job skills training, GED classes, or a variety of other resources, stabilization coaches make the connections that change

lives. “Our neighbors all have unique stories and this program allows us to sit with them, understand their situations, and connect them with resources to improve their quality of life,” said Kauffman.

Of the 26,000 individuals served by Network in 2022, a quarter were retired. Many retirees are on a fixed income and, while costs have risen over the past few years, their income has not. Network knows that this age group has unique needs and serves them through the Seniors’ Net program. In addition to access to basic needs assistance and stabilization services, neighbors over the age of sixty benefit from Seniors’ Net programming, including home deliveries for those who are homebound, companion calls to ensure their connection to the community, and access to seniorspecific items in the Community Food Market.

After moving to its new facility in 2021, Network began hosting Senior Day every Thursday. This program provides a chance for seniors to get connected with the community, make friends, and enjoy a hot meal! Each Senior Day features some sort of entertainment, whether it be a presentation on emergency

preparedness, a local choir, or a troupe of tap dancers!

“For many of our attendees, this is the only chance they get during the week to socialize,” said Jane Kovacs, Seniors’ Net Coordinator. “We want to make sure that they know we are here to serve them as a vital part of our community.”

“The past few years have really shown the importance of organizations

like Network,” said Kauffman. “When times are hard, it’s important to know that your community is there to support you. To me, Network is a symbol of how deeply our neighbors care about each other. As we look to the future, Network is excited to serve the community in even deeper, more rigorous ways.”

To learn more about Network, visit http://thenetwork.org or call 972-234-8880.

Senior Day at Network

Network's Mobile Market

Community Career Fair

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BIG MEALS FOR LITTLE KIDS

Network’s Big Meals for Little Kids Program supplies school-aged children with healthy and convenient food options during the summer months when they are no longer receiving breakfast or lunch from their school’s free or reduced cost meal program.

You can support this critical program by donating school-age appropriate items like individually wrapped snacks, shelf-stable kid friendly meal items like Macaroni and Cheese or Chef Boyardee, or a monetary donation to support purchasing different items for our youth! Volunteer opportunities are available to assist with both the Summer Snack Pick-Up and Mobile Market that distribute these items to children throughout the summer at http://thenetwork.org/volunteer.

TOOLS 4 SCHOOL

Network’s Tools 4 School Program provides backpacks filled with supplies for school-aged children. Send or bring donations of your new school supplies to 1500 International Parkway in Richardson, Texas 75081. You can also make a donation online at http://thenetwork.org/donate to support Network’s sponsorship of the RISD Backpack Bash!

REGARDLESS OF THE TIME OF THE YEAR, NETWORK IS ALWAYS IN NEED OF THE FOLLOWING ITEMS:

Food:

Hygiene products (Soap, shampoo, toothpaste, deodorant, etc.)

Diapers

Canned Meat and Fish

Baking Items (Oil, sugar, flour, etc.)

Single Serve Snack Items

Clothing:

Toddler Clothes

Baby Clothes

New Socks

New Underwear

Kids’ Shoes

Big Meals for Little Kids recipient

School supplies

Tools 4 School volunteers

SHADOW SHINE

A New Nonprofit with Big Plans for the Future

By Michael Belvin and Patti Otte

When Evie Belvin arrived, parents Katie and Michael Belvin were overjoyed; however, the doctors quickly swept Evie away for additional evaluation. It was in those initial days that the Belvins’ journey with Evie began. Evie spent 227 days in the NICU before finally being released in July of 2015. Over the next few years, Evie underwent countless overnight hospital stays, procedures, surgeries, tests and outpatient visits. As her health challenges continued, Evie’s medical care became the family’s top priority. Her older sister, Charlotte, was too young to fully grasp the gravity of Evie’s situation and her parents’ need to give extra attention to her little sister.

Like so many siblings of children with special healthcare needs, Charlotte felt frustrated and overlooked at times. One day, Charlotte verbalized to her parents that she felt as if they cared about Evie more than her. Although that concern couldn’t have been further from the truth, Charlotte was indeed living in the shadow of her sister due to circumstances beyond the family’s control. Michael shared Charlotte’s worry with his good friend Chad Ray. The two discussed ways in which they might be able to help not only Charlotte, but other siblings facing similar situations within their own families.

As Michael and Chad searched online for programs to help Charlotte

feel less alone, nothing appeared outside of traditional therapy. The statistics they discovered were staggering: one in five children in the US under the age of eighteen has a special healthcare need, which meant that Charlotte truly wasn’t alone. In that moment, it dawned on them that the existence of young adults who had been through Charlotte’s situation was a real possibility—the challenge was finding them.

And that’s when Michael and Chad came up with the idea for Shadow Shine, a nonprofit whose goal is to build connections between the siblings of children with special healthcare needs. They want to help

The Belvin family

siblings in the shadows feel loved and special by building bridges between families with the same dynamic. The nonprofit’s mission is to create a safe space for the siblings to have their voices heard through constant support, meaningful relationships, and leadership opportunities. “Developing something from the ground up is always tough, with no compass to guide you on the path, but it has been incredible to see the excitement people have displayed towards the idea of this organization and what it can accomplish,” states Michael.

By design, the nonprofit plans to pair a high school aged sibling mentor—the “Scout”—with a younger sibling from a different family—the “Sidekick.” A unique attribute of the program is that both the Scout and Sidekick must have siblings with special healthcare needs. “Truly an ‘I have walked in your shoes’ approach,” says Michael.

Shadow Shine is a grassroots, geography-based program. Michael and Chad want Scouts and Sidekicks to be able to easily interact and spend time together without distance being a factor. To date, the organization has

relied solely on word of mouth at local schools, pediatricians' offices, and children’s hospitals to spread the word about their brand-new nonprofit. The men enthusiastically share that they “have some incredible self-proclaimed dreamers on our board, and we could see Shadow Shine growing to help serve families across this country as time goes on!”

Shadow Shine held a kickoff event in March, at which time the Shadow Shine board shared their dreams for the organization with members of the community. Up until that point, their work had transpired behind the scenes. After the event, Shadow Shine began receiving inquiries from people wanting to get involved with the organization. States Michael, “We are excited to put together our first pairings this year, ideally in August as the school year commences. We are not setting a specific limit to the initial number of pairings right now, but we do want to make sure to nurture these initial relationships. We are also looking to hire an Executive Director to help guide the growth of the organization.”

“The heart of Shadow Shine stems from a firsthand need experienced by our family and is rooted in the place we call home. The people of Richardson mean so much to us, so we wanted Shadow Shine to start in the community that has supported us throughout the years. We are also looking forward to building relationships and partnering with schools, counselors and physicians in Richardson,” states Michael.

For more information about Shadow Shine and its mission, visit http://shadowshine.org.

Charlotte and Evie Belvin

Editor’s Note: In each issue of Richardson Life Magazine , we will highlight an individual or organization making a difference in the lives of Richardson Independent School District students. If you would like to nominate an RISD teacher, staff member or organization, email pmotte@hylogroup.com.

BACKPACK BASH 2023

RISD’S Economically Disadvantaged Students Need Our Help

By Patti Otte

Within the Richardson Independent School District, 57% of all students are economically disadvantaged, which means that more than 20,000 kids go hungry at least part of every day. 20,000 kids depend on getting a solid meal at school…and in some cases, that school lunch may be the only meal they eat each day. Imagine if every single citizen in Celina or Wylie or Stephenville, TX,

went hungry every day. Each town has approximately 20,000 residents. That’s how many kids living in RISD’s borders are hungry. Every. Single. Day. And if meals are being skipped due to financial need, school supplies are an even lower priority. Ask any teacher what happens when one of those 20,000 children comes to school hungry and/or lacking school supplies. Anyone who has ever taught in a Title I school—and 31 of

RISD’s 55 schools fall in that category— has a story to tell of a student suffering from hunger or a lack of preparedness due to no fault of the child.

Four years ago, members of the Richardson community decided to change the narrative and the Backpack Bash program was born. In the years since, the program has grown to two Backpack Bashes each summer, thanks to the generous support of

Backpack Bash 2022

RISD’s invaluable sponsors. States Dr. Carrie Thomas, Director of Community Engagement, “Our donors’ contributions ensure that every student is ready for the first day of school. The two events connect RISD families to programs and services in a festive back-to-school fair atmosphere.”

“We have a motto in RISD that we serve every student, every day,” Superintendent Tabitha Branum says. “That means we are going to fill in a gap wherever that gap exists. And if 60% of RISD students qualify for free and reduced lunch, that means about 20,000 students need access to backpacks and school supplies to be ready to learn every day. This is hard work, educating and growing 37,000 kids, but our sponsors make it easier for us to focus on that academic growth.”

The annual Backpack Bash provides RISD students with a backpack full of school supplies and gives families access to hygiene kits, haircuts and much more in a fun environment. Last year, the program raised more than $120,000 to help fund the event, at which more than 6,000 backpacks and school supply kits were distributed to RISD families.

As successful as the program is, approximately 14,000 RISD students still need help each year. With Richardson citizens’ individual and collective sponsorship, donations and volunteer hours, the program will continue to grow and even more backpacks and supplies will be distributed. To achieve that goal and maximize this event's impact, Dr. Thomas and her team need community support. They can also accept in-kind donations of goods or services.

To learn more about this worthwhile program, visit http://risd.org/backpackbash. If you have any questions or would like to set up a meeting to chat about the best option for your participation, contact RISD Director of Community Engagement Dr. Carrie Thomas at carrie.thomas@risd.org

Please note that all funds provided through sponsorship or donation are tax deductible.

BASH BACKPACK

Thank you for your interest in becoming a Richardson ISD Backpack Bash sponsor! Through supporting this annual summer event, your organization helps make sure all RISD students will begin the school year with the tools they need to connect, learn, grow, and succeed.

The two events provide school supplies, enrollment support and other resources, while connecting RISD families to programs and services in a festive back-to-school atmosphere.

For more information, contact Director of Community Engagement Dr. Carrie Thomas at carrie.thomas@risd.org or 469-593-0307.

Backpack joy

Happy recipients of school supplies

THE CORE THEATRE

Local Playwright and Performers Celebrating Richardson’s 150th

Not many cities can point to a play based on their history. Far fewer the size of Richardson can make that claim. As part of Richardson’s 150th celebration, the “City of Richardson History” will be performed for local audiences from June 16 - July 16, 2023, at the Core Theatre, a hidden jewel currently in its fifteenth season of performances.

James Hansen Prince, founder and creative director, is often the playwright and director of the plays performed at the Core Theatre and the “City of Richardson History” is no exception. For the past fifteen seasons, Mr. Prince has used the theatre, located just around the corner from City Hall on Arapaho

Road, to perform more than fifty plays hundreds of times. “I established the Core Theatre to create productions that entertain, educate and elevate society by instilling hope and understanding. We looked around the Metroplex and felt like Richardson was a perfect location to serve the residents of Richardson, Dallas and the suburbs to the north and east especially,” noted Mr. Prince.

“We do classic and iconic plays for audiences because we know that people want to see performances and stories they are familiar with, stories like ‘Driving Miss Daisy.’ But one thing that separates us from many theatres is that more of our plays are written and performed by artists

Actors Miracle Lewis and David Keller

Photo By Autumn McNamara

from the local area. I am a playwright myself, so many of our plays are ones I have written over the years, such as ‘Inferno! Fire at the Cocoanut Grove’ and ‘Behind the Cotton Curtain: Remembering Medgar Evers.’ These are plays based on important moments in our nation’s history. There is always something for us to learn in the present, by watching plays based on our past,” says Mr. Prince. This passion for history and focus on giving artists a chance to shine on the stage is one of the many reasons the City approached Prince to ask if he would be willing to write and produce a play about the history of Richardson. Prince jumped at the chance and looks forward to performing the play for Richardson audiences.

Prince notes that this play will be performed with a twist: “I don’t want to give everything away, but I like

doing plays that involve the audience and create a sense that you are part of the story. This play is what we call devised theatre. We did this not long ago when local art patron Charles Eisemann gave us funding to write and perform a play that told the story of international students attending school at UT-Dallas. It was great fun because we used actual students from UTD to perform the play and asked the audience to participate in some things that all international students experience when they come to school here.”

Prince’s goal is to entertain, but also to teach Richardson residents about the community’s history. He states, “The history of Richardson play will be performed in the same vein [as the UTD play]; we will ask the audiences to imagine themselves in the story and, with the help of well-rehearsed

performers, participate as a way of discovering the history of the city. Richardson’s history is not unlike most cities in the South. We will not shy away from parts of its troubled past, such as the topic of segregation, but in keeping with our mission to instill hope, we are also going to show how Richardson became one of the most diverse and economically vibrant cities in North Texas.”

While the Core Theatre is already busy preparing the anniversary play, area residents can attend “Portal to the Keep,” a science fiction “steampunk” popcorn melodrama right now. A lively show, audiences are even invited to throw popcorn at the actors performing in the play! The Core Theatre is located at 518 W. Arapaho Rd. For tickets, dates and times of all upcoming performances, visit http://thecoretheatre.org.

OLD 75 BEER GARDEN BRINGS PATIO VIBES TO RICHARDSON

BRAND NEW RICHARDSON HOT SPOT NOW OPEN

By Raquel Henry

Richardson’s newest casual retreat for the Holy Trinity of a Texas good time—live music, great food and cold beer—Old 75 Beer Garden is now open for business. Located just off Central Expressway between Beltline and Spring Valley, the 20,000-square-foot beer garden and venue celebrated its Texas-sized grand opening in April. The tables were filled all weekend long and live music set the tone for a perfect weekend retreat. Showcasing Texas hospitality from the moment guests enter to the second

they leave, Old 75 prides itself on warmth, friendliness and community within its Texas-style beer garden. With two bars featuring the ‘friendliest bartenders in DFW,’ a stage with regular live music performances, an open lawn area with backyard games, a variety of seating options for kicking back, and themed private cabanas, including a She Shed, He Shed, Ski Shed and Cowboys Cabana which are available to rent for any guest’s party needs, Old 75 is an excellent spot to take a load off and escape the everyday.

“Old 75 embodies the pride of Texas with Matthew McConaughey vibes— cool, casual and designed to simply unwind, no matter the occasion—and we hope guests enjoy it as much as we enjoyed creating it,” says Kirk Hermansen, owner and founder of Old 75 Beer Garden. “Pick your poison… all in all, and not coincidentally, we have over 75 drinks to choose from.”

Both the Drink Bar and the Tap Bar feature covered and outdoor seating, designed to encourage guests to put phones down for a while and talk to

their neighbors. With 34 beers and six specialty drinks on tap (and a large variety of canned and bottled beverages), guests are sure to find something to wet their whistle. And the kitchen offers a handcrafted menu rooted in South Texas flavors with a touch of New Mexico personality.

“Don’t let our easygoing vibe and casual hospitality fool you…Old 75 serves only premium meats, fresh produce and made-from-scratch Texas

dishes daily,” states Hermansen. “Our friendly employees and atmosphere encourage others to do good, which is why we even included a ‘side of nice’ at no charge on our menu.”

Old 75 allows guests to book out the entire beer garden or just a specific section. They will also host pop-ups and events throughout the year, including Backyard BBQs, Crawfish Boils, Steak Night and Oktoberfestivities. “We pride ourselves

on community and giving back as often as possible,” said Hermansen. “Our goal is to treat every deserving person in Dallas-Fort Worth to an ice-cold beer or delicious burger at some point or another, while also supporting the charities in our community who are doing good.”

For more information about Old 75 Beer Garden, visit http://Old75BeerGarden.com or on Instagram @old75beergarden.

Opening Day celebration

Fun at Old 75

Live music at Old 75

Old 75's specialty cocktails

Richardson’s city-wide calendar is filled with opportunities to learn, have fun and give back in the place where you live. If you know of a future event you would like to see posted in “Out & About,” please email calendar events to pmotte@hylogroup.com.

June-August 2023

June 3

Saturday, 2:00 PM - 4:00 PM

June 4

Sunday, 12:00 PM - 5:00 PM

June 10

Saturday, 10:30 AM - 11:30 AM

June 16

Friday, 2:00 PM - 3:00 PM

June 22

Thursday, 2:00 PM - 3:00 PM

June 23

Friday, 2:00 PM - 3:00 PM

Dewey Knit

Knitters of all ages and abilities are invited to join for an informal gathering of enthusiasts. Held in the First Floor Program Room.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson, Texas 75080

Culture in the CORE

Celebrating the Tastes, Sounds, and Spirit of Richardson

In honor of our globally oriented community, the City of Richardson will celebrate the inaugural Culture in the CORE. This free event will feature a variety of international cuisines and vendors, as well as multicultural dance and music performances.

Location: Downtown Richardson

Mini-Canvas Winner Reveal

Winners of our May 13 Mini-Canvas event will be revealed, along with prizes in several categories. Winning canvases will be displayed in the library.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson, Texas 75080

Science Heroes: Saving Earth Together

Two unlikely heroes work together to save the planet using science! They will explore Newton’s laws of motion, air pressure, and chemical reactions along the way. Audience participation is a must! For ages 5 and up, younger children allowed if accompanied/supervised by a parent at all times.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080

T(h)inker Thursdays - Catapults

Explore the power of physics and engineering to create your own popsicle stick catapult. For ages 8 - 11 only.

Registration required starting on June 8. Visit Youth Services in person or call 972-744-4358 to register.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080

Family Concert - Kindness ROCKS! A Hot Toast Music Company Jam

It’s a lively hour of toe-tapping, jump, dance and sing-along fun with Mr. Symon! For all ages, younger children need to be accompanied/supervised by a parent at all times.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080

June 30

Friday, 2:00 PM - 3:00 PM

July 8

Saturday, 10:30 AM - 12:00 PM

July 29

Saturday, 3:00 PM - 4:00 PM

August 5

Saturday, 9:00 AM- 11:00 AM

August 12

Saturday, 2:00 PM - 5:00 PM

August 19

Saturday, 3:00 PM - 4:00 PM

August 26

Saturday, 2:00 PM - 5:30 PM

Tales for Tails: Meet the Therapy Dogs & Handlers

Meet and learn about therapy dogs from the Heart of Texas Therapy Dog handlers. Everyone is welcome, no ticket required. For all ages.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080

Make Your Own Shadowbox Ocean Scene

A Richardson Reads One Book Craft Event

Using ocean-inspired cut outs and decorations, make your own shadowbox ocean scene to hang and display. Registration required. Call 972-744-4376 to register starting Saturday, June 24. For adults and teens. Held in the Basement Program Room.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080

Tommy Terrific’s Peace Magic

Celebrate World Peace in the summer of 2023. In Tommy Terrific’s new Peace Magic Show, magic tricks are presented representing symbols of peace throughout the world. Kids will help Tommy with magic tricks involving everything from a magically appearing Peace Quilt to doves to a tie dye Peace t-shirt. For each magic trick, the kids will learn how to say “Peace” in another language. This show will inspire kids to help foster Peace in their homes, communities and throughout the world! For all ages younger children need to be accompanied/supervised by a parent at all times.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080

Backpack Bash

See details for this event on page 40 of this issue of Richardson Life Magazine

Location: Richardson High School

Art for All! All for Art!

Paint some “kindness rocks” and yarn “bomb” (wrap yarn around things like table legs) the Youth Services area! Enjoy a smorgasbord of craft supplies and be as art smart as you like! It’s your opportunity to make whatever springs to your imagination!

For all ages, younger children need to be accompanied/supervised by a parent.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080

Teen Program - Worldwide Game Time

Games are popular worldwide – challenge your friends to play and learn some new ones! Games include go, mancala, backgammon, mahjong, and more. For ages 13 - 18 only.

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080

Studio RPL Open Lab

Visit Studio RPL, located in the library’s basement, for access to creative technology such as: Greenscreen A/V recording room

Laptops with Adobe Creative Cloud Software

LittleBits and Arduino kits

Sphero SPRK+ robots

Lego Mindstorms

Location: Richardson Public Library • 900 Civic Center Dr. Richardson , Texas 75080