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Bits and Pieces Just Horsin’ Around Santa Rosa Rose
Build a Boat Mochi & Music Half-Shell Heaven Race on the River
22 Family Fun Mother’s Moment
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How special needs camps empower kids.
12 Homeschooling Primer
24 Calendar of Events Happy to Be Sober
34 Humor Break Lice Letters
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14 Ready to Fly Parting wisdom for your new graduate.
16 A Case of Comfort Kind acts for foster kids.
18 She’s the Queen One mom’s strategy for protecting her time.
20 All Mothers Work A woman’s journey to stay-at-home mom pride.
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he grueling work of birthing a baby is just the beginning of the labor that is mothering. Whether or not moms are breadwinners, they Sharon Gowan all have 24/7 jobs. Publisher/Editor Sharon@family-life.us That’s what Shannon Dean, author of “All Mothers Work” (page 20), learned when an extended maternity leave was far from the vacation she expected. In between endlessly changing diapers and “singing concerts of lullabies,” she barely had time to shower. And it’s not only babies that demand a lot of attention. With their sibling squabbles and cries of “I’m hungry!,” Christa Melnyk Hines’ two teen boys were reluctant to leave her alone long enough for her to focus on other priorities. Find out her unique strategy for getting her kids to respect her space when you read “She’s the Queen” (page 18).
If, this month, you’d like to recognize the work moms do, see “Mother’s Moment” (page 22) for a list of local activities we created with Mother’s Day in mind. Or turn to our Calendar of Events (page 24) for other celebratory ideas.
With all the love and effort that goes into raising children, letting go of them is hard. But that is what parents must do when they launch their new graduates into the world. “Ready to Fly” (page 14) offers bits of wisdom and practical advice to pass on to kids who are preparing to spread their wings at college. Whether or not you will be celebrating a child’s graduation, we hope your May is full of positive anticipation of summer’s gifts. And we wish a happy Mother’s Day to everyone.
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Bits & Pieces
Just Horsin’ Around
Plow Play Day
p until the early part of the 20th century, horses were fundamental to both transportation and farming in the United States. The annual Plow Play Day harkens back to that time, with harnessing and horse-drawn plowing demos, carriage rides, and the chance to see Clydesdale, Percheron, Shire, and Belgian draft horses. Visitors can also get a look-see at an Early Day gas engine and watch blacksmiths working at a forge. The annual event will be held on May 19, 10 a.m.–3 p.m., at the Jack London State Historic Park in Glen Ellen. Admission is free; parking is $10. ¶
Santa Rosa Rose
n annual event for 125 years, the free Luther Burbank Rose Parade and Festival is more about community than flowers. This year’s logo is a rose with two embracing hands serving as petals. It’s a symbol for the festival theme: “Together We Rose,” which refers to Santa Rosa’s recovery from the devastating 2017 Tubbs Fire. With this theme in mind, a slew of floats, representatives of nonprofit organizations, and marching and high school bands will walk along E, Fourth, and Third Streets on May 18 at 10 a.m. Their journey will end in downtown Santa Rosa, near Courthouse Square, where, 9 a.m.–2:30 p.m., there will be live music, food booths, and a variety of other family-friendly activities. For details, go to roseparadefestival.com. ¶
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onstruct a wooden boat in three hours without using power tools (except a battery-operated drill) and then prove it water-worthy in a race. That’s the Wooden Boat Challenge. A highlight of the annual Fisherman’s Festival in Bodega Bay, the family-friendly competition attracts a crowd of more than 2,500. The rest of the festival is also a big draw, and will feature live music, seafood and food trucks, craft booths, a pet parade, a kids’ zone, and children’s events. The festival will be held on May 4 and 5, 10 a.m.–5 p.m., in Westside Park in Bodega Bay. Admission per day is $12–$14, free for ages 11 and younger; a two-day pass is $25. The adult boat-building contest and race will be held on May 4 while the youth contest is on May 5. The nonrefundable team entry fee is $280, including materials. For more information about the boat-building contest, see woodenboatchallenge.org and for the festival see bbfishfest.org. ¶ 8 SonomaFamilyLife
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Mochi & Music
Sonoma County Matsuri Festival
reparing a cup of tea is raised to high art in a traditional Japanese tea ceremony. Those who have never been to one will get a chance to experience the ritual at the free Sonoma County Matsuri Festival. In its tenth year, the festival will showcase many aspects of Japanese culture, including mochi pounding, Japanese storytelling, taiko drumming, folk music and dancing, and treats like matcha popcorn. The festival will be held on May 19, 11 a.m.–5 p.m., at Juilliard Park in Santa Rosa. Go to sonomamatsuri.com for a complete schedule of events. ¶
he humble bivalve is a part of many a seafood feast. But at the Oysterpalooza, it’s the main attraction. The annual event features raw-on-the-half-shell and fried oysters, and seafood and sausage gumbo, with smoked brisket tacos for meat lovers. Diners can listen to local bands churning out tunes during the feast. It all happens on May 26, noon–7 p.m., at Rocker Oysterfeller’s Kitchen and Saloon in Valley Ford. Tickets are $25–$28 and may be purchased at rockeroysterfellers.com. ¶
Race on the River
Great Russian River Race
he Russian River wreaks havoc in the winter, with flooding damaging homes and businesses; but it’s a source of joy in the spring, when boaters come to participate in the annual Great Russian River Race. Competitors paddle their kayaks and canoes through the five-mile course while spectators indulge in wine, beer, and tri-tip and dance to live music at a free beach party. This year’s entertainment includes the pop cover band the Freshmakers and, in the kids’ zone, face painters who will turn children’s cheeks into colorful art. The event happens on May 4, 9 a.m.–4 p.m., at Healdsburg Veterans Memorial Beach in Healdsburg. Racer entry is $50–$75 (plus fees). For families who compete as a team, non-paddling kids are free. Register at greatrussianriverrace.com. ¶
to the campers’ needs. This gives them a chance to shine.” That’s what 9-year-old Tiffany Wells found when she attended a special needs camp. During the school year, Tiffany, who has cerebral palsy and asthma, played on the children’s softball team and a community bowling league. But because none of the children she played with were disabled, the competition wasn’t always equal.
I Can Do It! Benefits of Special Needs Camps
“Attending a special needs camp allowed Tiffany to compete on more even ground because all the other
“My daughter needed to learn to do things on her own, and I needed to let go a little.” —Kim Kelly
By Denise Yearian
t age 6, Kim Kelly paid her first visit to a special needs’ residential camp. It was an experience she and her family will never forget. Up to this point, she had lived a pretty sheltered life, her mother Ruth explains. “Because she has a hearing loss and an orthopedic problem, it was natural for me to want to hold her close.” By bringing Kim to camp, her mother realized two things: “My daughter needed to learn to do things on her own, and I needed to let go a little.” For the Kellys, it was a positive experience.
There’s a host of benefits children derive from attending camp, but for kids with special needs, those benefits are amplified, says Sandy Cameron, editor of the Camping Magazine. “Traditional camps do a great job mainstreaming special needs’ children into their programs, but a special needs camp lets them be with other kids who have similar 10 SonomaFamilyLife
disabilities. The programs are pretty much the same, but may be altered to meet the children’s needs,” she explains. Heidi Haldeen, summer program specialist for Easter Seals, agrees. “At a special needs camp, kids have the same opportunities they have at traditional camps. The only difference is the activities are modified according
kids were playing with some kind of disability,” reports her mother, Linda. The result? “Tiffany saw that she could actually win and come out on top.” One of the beauties of a special needs camp is that the kids can learn and experience new things with others who have similar disabilities, says Cameron. “It’s like a camaraderie. It gives them the confidence they need to try new things they might not have otherwise tried.” This was the case with Kim Kelly. When she first went to camp, Kim was afraid of the water. “She cried just getting her face wet,” reports her mother, Ruth. Through the encouragement of the trained staff, Kim slowly edged her way into the
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water. “By summer’s end, she was jumping in the deep end and had received her first American Red Cross swimming certificate.” While some see summer camp as an outlet for fun and recreation, others use it to continue education and therapy goals, and teach life skills. This is accomplished one step at a time. “It may mean being 10 minutes late for breakfast so Timmy can learn to tie his shoes by himself,” says Haldeen. Developing new skills isn’t the only thing kids glean at a special needs camp. They learn about friendships, too. Last year when Tiffany went to camp, there was a girl in her cabin with a more severe case of cerebral palsy than Tiffany had. Because
Tiffany had spent her whole life with people helping her, she naturally wanted a chance to help others. “When we went to the dance, I got to
One of the beauties of a special needs camp is that the kids can learn and experience new things with others who have similar disabilities. push my new friend around in her chair,” says Tiffany. “I also got to help her eat.” “One of the best things to be said about camp—any camp—is the opportunity for the children to make friends. And for children
with special needs, it’s especially important. They find out they are not alone, that there are others with similar disabilities,” says Cameron. When camp is over, what do the children take with them? For some, new skills. For others, new friends. And for many more, simply a fond memory of having had a break from their normal routines. Many campers look forward to returning year after year, says Haldeen. “For many, we are their summer vacation. The minute they drive away, they are making plans to return next year.” ¶ Denise Yearian is the former editor of two parenting magazines and the mother of three children and four grandchildren.
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Homeschooling Primer Tips for Getting Your Child Started
By Kerrie McLoughlin
Structured curricula. To get started, some homeschoolers buy an entire packaged curriculum. These packages, which usually come with lesson plans, work well for parents who are unsure about what to teach or where their children are on the academic spectrum. It’s also great for those who are co-teaching with spouses, family members, or babysitters. Curricula packages come in a variety of choices, including religious, secular, classical, K12, Latin-centered, and more. The choices can be overwhelming, so do some Internet research and join some online
If your kid has a fascination with a particular topic, a unit studies approach can make learning fun.
groups, where you can find out about the programs others are using. Even better, find some local homeschoolers (see Resources) and ask if you can come over to check out their curricula in person.
Multiple approaches. The first thing you need to know is that there is no “perfect” or “right” way to homeschool. Teaching methods are as varied as the families who homeschool. Homeschooling parents range from the super-structured to “unschoolers.” The former may start at the same time each day, teaching solely from
Child-led learning. “Unschooling” or “natural learning” is a homeschooling philosophy that allows children to decide what and when they learn. In an unschooling home, children let their parents know when they are ready to read, add, write, etc. “Science class” could mean field trips to nature centers and zoos, along with walking around the neighborhood to explore trees and plants. Grammar is learned not from language arts texts, but from reading books on a variety of topics and from conversations with people of all ages. Similarly,
omeschooling has become quite a popular education choice. More than 2.3 million students in the United States are homeschooled, according to the National Home Education Research Institute. But deciding to homeschool your children can feel overwhelming. There are so many questions: How do you get started? What does a typical day look like? How do you keep toddlers from emptying the cabinets while you teach your older kids? What about socialization? As a veteran homeschooler of five, I have a few answers.
textbooks and giving weekly tests, while the latter do not try to replicate a classroom but employ child-led learning, using field trips and outings to create teachable moments. There are so many ways to instruct your kids, and you’d be surprised at how well most of them work.
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history is learned from stories and historical fiction, or even animated movies (think Prince of Egypt). Unlike homeschoolers who favor structured days, unschoolers have free-flowing schedules. Unschooler Jessica Mattingly says, “There is no typical day! Our schedule is generally determined by our outside commitments (classes, work, field trips, etc.), and when we are home we relax and pursue a variety of projects/ interests.” Favorite things. If your kid has a fascination with a particular topic, a unit studies approach can make learning fun. Unit studies use kids’ interests as vehicles for instructing on a variety of subjects. For instance, if your child is a dinosaur fanatic, you can incorporate reading, writing, spelling, history, geography, math, etc. into a unit study on dinosaurs. Your child could use a world map to learn where dinosaur fossils have been found. Then she could read a historical book about dinosaurs, on which she could write a book report. Math lessons might feature word problems like: How would you split 5,000 cookies among 1,000 dinosaurs? Little and big kids. So how do homeschoolers handle the challenge of balancing the needs of younger and older children during the teaching day? “While our ‘homeschool’ time is not separated from the rest of our life, balancing the needs of the youngers and olders is a persistent challenge,” says Mattingly. “When my kids ranged in age from two to tween, we employed a variety of strategies. Sometimes one of the kids would play with the baby/toddler while I focused on one or more of the older kids. If www.sonomafamilylife.com
Kerrie McLoughlin, mother of five, has been homeschooling since 2006 and is happy to answer readers’ questions at thekerrieshow.com.
we can involve the younger kids in the activity (or a parallel activity), we will do that.” Another idea is to have a special tub of activities—blocks, play dough, puppets, coloring books—that younger children use only during homeschool time.
Just say Hi. Socialization isn’t usually a concern among homeschoolers. If you want to join a homeschool group, head to the Internet where you can search for groups based on how you homeschool, the ages of your children, where you live, etc. Not every group will be a good fit; so don’t be afraid to move on if you aren’t getting what you need. Your kids can also hang out with other children at library programs, parks and recreation activities, co-ops, and play dates with school-going kids. ¶
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good. Guide them according to their God-given aptitudes and passions.” While it’s important to help your kids figure out what they love to do, it’s also necessary to help them gauge their weaknesses. “Do not tell your kids that they can do or be whatever they want to be,” she says. “It just isn’t true.”
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Do, however, help them pick out new activities that tap into their interests and challenge them. And make sure they know that their worth as a person
7 Tips for Helping Graduates Prepare for College
By Kim Seidel
t’s a bittersweet time when a child graduates from high school and prepares for college. The mix of strong emotions and new information can make the process of transitioning from high school to college overwhelming for both parents and children. Here are some tips for making it a little easier. 1. Discuss how college courses will differ from high school classes. Talk to your children about how, depending on the area of study, college-level material is typically more abstract than high school work. Let them know that more synthesis, evaluation, and research will be required than in high school, where they probably practiced more memorization than analysis. 14 SonomaFamilyLife
2. Help kids to make choices that honor their true selves. “Don’t force [your kids] to [take on] the family business or follow the career path you wish you had taken,” says Lissa Raines, author of 8 Crucial Realities: Successful Choices for Graduates (B&H Publishing Group, 2011). And, she says, “don’t fall into the trap of guiding them toward a lucrative career just because the money is
When they mess up, let your children know that you will always love them, no matter what. is not based on the ease or difficulty of the course of study they choose or how successful they are at achieving their goals. 3. Teach graduates to ask for guidance. Let your children know that it’s okay to ask for a helping hand if the workload and stress are too much for them, or if they feel homesick. “Let them know many students need help, especially in their freshman year,” Raines says. Counselors on campus can provide a listening ear while student study centers can offer tutors for that extra push through a hard course. 4. Set up a budget. Kids may be in the dark about how much money they will spend at college. After all, you’ve taken care of their needs for their entire lives. Figure out how much they will need to earn to cover basic
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items such as clothing, food, gas, and entertainment, says Raines, and then help them create a realistic budget.
your advice.” And that’s helpful when you see them headed toward a bad situation.
Kids are relentlessly pursued by credit card companies, says Raines, so teach them how to firmly say No to telemarketers, and to shred mailed credit-card offers to better avoid identity theft.
6. Encourage good habits. While kids don’t want their parents to nag them, you can get away with occasionally reminding them to do
5. Communicate with respect. From choosing a school to figuring out what to buy for the dorm room, the transition from college to high school requires a lot of discussion. Allow your new graduate to express his or her opinions with freedom. “Resist harsh rebukes and condemnation for their choices,” Raines advises. “When graduates feel respected, they are more likely to seek
“Do not tell your kids that they can do or be whatever they want to be. It just isn’t true.” —Lissa Raines things like eat right and get enough sleep. The most effective way to get your children to develop healthy habits is to adopt them yourself. Making positive diet and exercise choices as
well as modeling perseverance, hard work, and an attitude of gratefulness “will encourage them to do likewise,” Raines says. 7. Offer unconditional love. Many teenagers and early 20-somethings make pretty big mistakes. When they mess up, let your children know that you will always love them, no matter what. “That doesn’t mean enabling them to live recklessly or rescuing them from the consequences of their actions,” Raines says. “It does mean emotionally being there for them and not turning your back on them when they fall.” ¶ Kim Seidel is a writer and mom of two daughters, one of whom is inching her way toward high school graduation.
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cases, requesting donations from various organizations. My efforts were successful: Gymboree donated more than $1,000 worth of clothing (pajamas, socks, and underwear); Lowes donated 25 flashlights; Stop and Shop donated a $25 gift card; Target donated a $100 gift card; and CVS donated a $200 gift card, all of which were used to purchase needed items. Meanwhile, the local library donated books, and the girls created
A Case of Comfort
Helping Foster Kids Adjust
By Cheryl Maguire
n high school and college I used to volunteer for causes I was passionate about. Then I had children and my volunteer efforts revolved around their interests. I enjoyed spending time with them and getting to meet their friends and other parents, but it wasn’t the same as volunteering for causes I believed in. Recently I had the opportunity to do both—volunteer for my daughter’s Girl Scout troop and help a cause that was close to my heart. I used to be a counselor for children, some of whom were involved with the foster care system. Through blogging, I met Deirdre Littlefield, who is a foster parent. She told me that when 16 SonomaFamilyLife
a foster child goes to their house, they receive a comfort case—a backpack filled with items such as pajamas, a toothbrush, or other things that they might need for their first night in foster care. My daughter’s Girl Scout Troop agreed to create 25 comfort cases. I went in search of items for the
This experience restored my faith in the goodness of people and alleviated my feeling of powerlessness. supportive cards to place in each bag. They decorated the cards with hearts, smiley faces, and flowers, including messages such as “Dear Friend” or “I’m thinking of you.” During a Girl Scout meeting, the troop sorted through all the donations and made the comfort cases, which Deirdre was there to accept. She shared a personal story with the Girl Scout Troop about how a young foster child came to her house feeling scared and nervous. When Deirdre gave her the comfort case, the child’s demeanor changed and she was able to engage with the family. The comfort case helped the child to feel safe. After hearing the story, one of the Girl Scouts shouted out, “I feel so happy right now.” I was overwhelmed with the generosity of all of these businesses, and I loved the supportive cards the Girl Scouts
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created. With all the negative news stories and politics leaving me feeling sad and helpless, this experience restored my faith in the goodness of people and alleviated my feeling of powerlessness. We had all done something that actually helped others. It’s easy to volunteer. It could be as simple as offering to help someone you just met. Simply ask, “How can I help you?” According to a recent review of research by the
I was overwhelmed with the generosity of all of these businesses.
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Corporation for National and Community Service (CNCS), you’ll be the better for it. CNCS has found that volunteering is beneficial to our health, lowering levels of depression and increasing levels of happiness and life satisfaction, as well as the length of our lives. If you’d like to volunteer and help foster kids in Sonoma County, contact Love in a Shoebox, an organization that puts together packages like comfort cases, but in shoeboxes, for local kids in need. See loveinashoebox.com or visit the organization’s Facebook page for more information. ¶ Adapted from an article originally published on Signature Moms. Cheryl Maguire holds a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in Parents Magazine, Upworthy, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Count Your Blessings and Your Teen Magazine. You can find her on Twitter @CherylMaguire05.
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cut short her three-year-old’s temper tantrum by putting a silly hat on top of her head to redirect his attention. Could I tweak the idea to help send a message to my kids? After digging through a basket of some old hats in my closet, I discovered a tiara I received after running a 5K a few years back. The playful tchotchke features cheap
She’s the Queen The Power of the Perfect Accessory By Christa Melnyk Hines
s a work-from-home mom raising two sons, finding dedicated time to focus during the summer months is usually fraught with frustration. Then I landed on a gem of an idea that might seem a little kooky, but turned into a brilliant way for me to rescue my workday.
On a typical day, no sooner do I slide into my office chair than I’m interrupted with some sort of family situation. Usually the crises range from “I’m hungry and there’s nothing to eat!” to allegations of injustices like “He won’t give me a turn on the Xbox!” It’s not that I haven’t tried to establish clear boundaries between work and family. As I shut the door of my office, I encourage my adolescent sons to be their own best problem solvers and to only interrupt me for code-red 18 SonomaFamilyLife
emergencies, i.e. blood or fire. I’ve taped Do Not Disturb notes on my office door and promised outings when I’m done with my work. Nevertheless, they perceive my calls for time alone the same way speeders treat a speed limit sign— simply as a suggestion. My grouchy responses to yet another inane interruption while in the midst of a pressing deadline have little effect other than a sheepish, “Sorry, I forgot.” I gave the situation some thought and remembered how a clever friend
The esteem a tiara carries is so hardwired into our DNA that anyone could sense its power, possibly even one of my sons. circlets of diamond rhinestones topped with three teardrop pink gems. I’d never before considered it as anything special. Taking it downstairs, I looked in the hall mirror and popped the tiara onto my sun-bleached blonde hair. Paired with my raggedy blue jean shorts and green cotton t-shirt, the ensemble wasn’t electrifying, but the visual impact was beside the point. Historically, the tiara symbolized wealth, leadership, and distinguished social ranking. It seems to me, the esteem a tiara carries is so hardwired into our DNA that anyone could sense its power, possibly even one of my sons. The rhinestones winked in the sunlight streaming through the hallway window. I wiped the amused smile from my face and walked into the room where my boys were haggling about whose turn it was to play Xbox. The living room resembled
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a disheveled frat house littered with microwave pizza boxes, Popsicle sticks, and cups of half-drunk lemonade.
“Um. Ooo-kay, Mom,” Nolan said with a grin. He popped a tortilla chip into his mouth.
“I have an announcement,” I said to my two sons.
Drew rolled his eyes and pulled his headphones back on.
I stood in front of the television and snapped my fingers in the air to get my 11-year-old Drew’s attention. He reached up and pulled the noise-canceling gaming headset off of
“And clean up this mess!” I declared, my hand regally sweeping across the living room. I spun around gracefully and walked slowly and stately back into my office and firmly shut the French doors.
I deserve sacred space, solitude, and time to fulfill my priorities. his ears. Sitting on the floor, leaning his back on a chair cushion against the ottoman, his green eyes widened as he stared up at me. I looked over at Nolan, my 13-year-old, standing in the kitchen behind our center island munching on tortilla chips, which had scattered across the grey countertop and wood floor. His blue eyes gawked at me. For once, my pair of rowdy boys was silent. “See this tiara on my head?” I asked calmly. They nodded. “Whenever you see me wearing it, it means I can’t talk to you. It means I can’t go looking for your shoes, download a new video game, or resolve an argument that you guys can figure out for yourselves.” I paused for dramatic effect. “It means your mother, the queen, is working and is not to be disturbed.” I raised my eyebrows at them, holding their gaze. www.sonomafamilylife.com
A little while later, still wearing my tiara, I heard the boys tromping down the hall toward my office. “Shhh, Drew, stop! We can’t talk to Mom right now. Look!” Nolan loudly whispered. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw them turn and tiptoe away. I smiled to myself. My bejeweled accessory may seem like a silly head ornament, but it has taken on the important role of protecting my personal time. It informs those around me that I take my time seriously. What’s more, it is a reminder to myself that in the midst of the demands of motherhood, I deserve sacred space, solitude, and time to fulfill my priorities. I am, after all, the queen of my domain. Besides, even managers with opendoor policies sometimes have to shut themselves away if they are going to accomplish anything. Moms are no different. If there is one accessory every mother needs, it’s a tiara. ¶ Find Christa Melnyk Hines at christamelnykhines.com.
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demanded. We decided that, for the time being, I would forgo paid work and stay home. My stay-at-home mom position was more of a full-time, allencompassing, exhausting job than I could have possibly imagined before I became a parent. Feeling
Suddenly I realized how much time I’d wasted worrying about falling short.
All Mothers Work Proud to Be a Stay-at-Home Mom By Shannon Dean
ight before my first son was born, I anticipated maternity leave the way a child covets Christmas vacation. I pictured myself tied to no particular schedule, lounging in my immaculately kept house with my happy, healthy baby. I was sure that during these 12 blissful weeks, I could slow down, sleep late, organize my home, and cook healthy meals. I actually anticipated it to be kind of a mini vacation. I couldn’t have been more wrong. My infant was a tiny ball of colicky discontent; he insisted on being at the breast and in arms at all times. On the rare occasions he slept, it was only briefly, and in a sling on my body. Some days, I did not even have the luxury of a shower, let alone the time to clean house or make healthy meals. If I was able to leave the house, draw a nap out of my son, find a way to get something 20 SonomaFamilyLife
edible on the table, and fold a load of laundry, it was a red-letter day. About six weeks into maternity leave, my husband begged me not to return to work, knowing that my work schedule frequently required overnight travel. He feared going it alone, and we both wondered how on earth we‘d find a caregiver willing to provide the constant holding and reassurance my son
inadequate, I saw myself as a sort of pretender mom, the kind whose juice boxes were never cold and whose bagged Cheerios were a touch stale. When asked what I did for a living, I would respond I was “justa” mom, while shamefully looking down. Admittedly, I was projecting my inability to meet my own expectations, but many times people asked me, “Aren’t you bored? What do you do all day?” Some days I was pretty unclear about the answer to that question. I ran around in circles, vigorously completing a slew of tasks such as reading stacks of storybooks, playing countless games of peek-a-boo, changing mountains of diapers, and singing concerts of lullabies, before collapsing into bed after my son finally gave out. Yet, I often wondered exactly what I had truly accomplished. Then one day a little voice answered that question for me. My then three-year-old and I were at a story time where the librarian was reading a book about “the perfect
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day.” Later, I asked my son to describe his perfect day. I thought he might say a day spent at Disney World, but he answered, “The day we fed the ducks.” I had to search my memories before I realized what he meant. We’d recently planned a trip to the zoo, but it had rained and I had forgotten our raincoats (stale Cheerio mom again). My son had been disappointed, but then we grabbed some fast food, found a park with covered tables, and watched the rain. After the rain stopped, a few families joined us as we fed our leftovers to the ducks residing in the park’s pond. My son and his new friends played in puddles, and we even saw a rainbow. “My perfect day is with you, Mom,” my son so eloquently said.
Suddenly I realized how much time I’d wasted worrying about falling short. I didn’t grasp that when I thought I was merely treading water, I was creating priceless memories for someone who would only be young and impressionable one short, fleeting moment in time.
Many times people asked me, “Aren’t you bored? What do you do all day?” Today, since both of my children are in school, I now work for payment and am every bit as busy as I was with two small kids underfoot. Having been both an employed and stay-at-home mom, I know
that all mothers work, whether or not they are paid. Staying home with your child is definitely not a vacation. While I still occasionally tell people I am “justa” mom, I make no apologies and maintain full eye contact. I know what I do is extremely important, if not always perfect. There are only so many story times, a mere handful of fall festivals, and a finite number of little league baseball games. I am blessed to have “mom” as one of my job descriptions. I consider it the most important job in the world, and one that directly benefits those I love. Paid or not, it’s what I do. ¶ Shannon Dean is a freelance writer and mother of two sons. Thankfully, her colicky infant is now a well-adjusted honor student.
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o little kids, moms are magic. They seem to have all the answers and their kisses make everything better. But for moms, parenting is blood, sweat, and tears—sleepless nights, morning meltdowns, and daily getting slimed with all manner of kid debris. Regular doses of TLC are in order. And Mother’s Day is the perfect opportunity to give Mom some. Take her to one of these fun local events, and help her keep her mojo strong.
Penngrove If you are looking for a kid-centric Mother’s Day diversion, Down Home Day will have live music, games, and contests and prizes for the younger set. Kids may particularly enjoy Hula-Hooping in front the of the Spyralites, who will perform Grateful Dead and other rock tunes, and playing Help! Fire! Save Me!, in which local firefighters will watch them use water to extinguish plywood “flames.” This free event will be held on May 11, 11 a.m.–4 p.m., at Artful Arrangements. See artfularrangements.org for details.
Tu Mole Madre
Windsor The brand new Tu Mole Madre Community Event Center and Kitchen is a “free expression chef house,” which means it serves up whatever the cook is inspired to make on any particular day. But in honor of Día de Las Madres there will be a special Oxacan–style menu (think mole, lots of it). Try it on May 10 at 6 p.m.—because Mama siempre cocina/Mom always cooks. Tickets are $55 and can be purchased on eventbrite.com (search on “Día de Las Madres”). To learn more about the center, go to tumolemadre.com.
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Charles M. Schulz Sonoma County Airport Healdsburg The Russian River Rose Company’s collection of 650 varieties of roses will be in full bloom during Mother’s Day weekend. Mom can stroll under flower-covered trellises and along rose-lined paths while kids visit the children’s garden. Rose water and plants will be available for purchase. The gardens will be open May 11 and 12, 10 a.m.–5 p.m., and admission is a donation of $2 each day. Find out more at russian-river-rose.com.
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Sonoma Does Mom have a passion for cooking? Give her a chance to express her culinary chops at the Hands-On Cheesemaking class at the Sonoma Community Center on May 12, 1–3 p.m. She’ll start off the afternoon with some Napa or Sonoma wine and an artisanal cheese tasting. Then award-winning cheesemaker Sheana Davis will teach her how to make a warm ricotta cheese, plus Potato Whey Soup. It all costs $75. Purchase tickets via theepicureanconnection.com or on eventbrite.com. ¶ www.sonomafamilylife.com
Sebastopol Arty mamas with a sweet tooth may enjoy the Pie-Eyed Reunion Show, which will feature the work of 85 artists as well as a free piece of host Lauri Luck’s homemade fruit pies. (The Lemon Chess, made from an 1850 recipe, is the most popular.) A variety of media will be represented, including painting, printmaking, drawing, photography, collage, ceramics, jewelry, metal work, and junk sculpture. The free show will be up May 10, 3–7 p.m., and May 11 and 12, noon–4 p.m., at Pie-Eyed Studio. See facebook.com/ pieeyedstudio for more information.
Santa Rosa If the lady of Rose Company the house is a fan of Agatha Christie, take her to the Murder in Vegas murder mystery dinner. She’ll be served a three-course meal while she watches the misadventures of Pelvis (that’s not a typo) Presley in 1962 Las Vegas. Costumes are encouraged at this show, which will be performed at the Tudor Rose English Tea Room on May 11 at 7 p.m. Purchase tickets, which are $75, at tudorrosetearoom.com.
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ive music concerts and alcohol and drug consumption often go hand in hand. It’s a challenge for recovering addicts that RockSoberFest aims to remedy. The event will feature a wide variety of local acts—from the surf-punk band The Happys to R&B and funk rockers Clean Sweep, to Americana singer-songwriters the Real Sarahs—all performing in an alcohol- and drug-free environment. There will also be Alcoholics Anonymous speakers and meditation and qi-qong classes. The festival will be held on June 1 and 2, noon–7 p.m., at the Mendocino County Fairgrounds in Boonville, with camping available. On June 2 at 5 p.m. the Happys will offer a free performance for youth. Admission for the rest of the festival is $10–$25; kids 10 and younger get in free. Two bucks from every ticket purchase goes to the Mendocino County Youth Project. See cleanandsobermusicfest.org for the complete lineup and to purchase tickets. ¶
Friday 3 FREE Pride Book Club for Teens.
Discuss the latest young adult queer fiction. This month the group will talk about We Are Okay by Nina LaCour. Pick up a copy at the adult reference desk. 4 p.m. Healdsburg Regional Library. 139 Piper St., Healdsburg. sonomacounty.libcal.com.
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Thursdays–Sundays. 2 & 7:30 p.m. shows. Thru May 19. 6th Street Playhouse. 52 W. 6th St., Santa Rosa. 6thstreetplayhouse.com. FREE Maker Studio: Soft Circuits.
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From Russia with Love. Featuring pianist Olga Kern. $24–$87. Ages 7–17: free. (1 free youth ticket per 1 paid adult). May 4 & 6: 7:30 p.m. May 5: 3 p.m. Green Music Center.
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1801 E. Cotati Ave., Rohnert Park. gmc.sonoma.edu. FREE Comic Book Day. Get a free Woodstock mini-comic book (while supplies last). 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org. Great Russian River Race. 5-mile
course for kayaks, canoes & stand-up paddleboards. Costume contest. Race entry fee: $50–$75. Beach party with live music: free. 9 a.m.–4 p.m. Healdsburg Veterans Memorial Beach. 13839 Old Redwood Hwy., Healdsburg. greatrussianriverrace.com. Fisherman’s Festival. Live music,
seafood & food trucks, kids’ zone. $12–$14, free for ages 11 & younger. 2-day pass: $25. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Thru May 5. Westside Park. 2400 Westshore Rd., Bodega Bay. bbfishfest.org.
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Wooden Boat Building Challenge.
Build a boat in 3 hours with no power tools, except a battery-operated drill, then race the boat. Adult competition: May 4. Youth: May 5. Entry free: $280, includes materials. Westside Park. 2400 Westshore Rd., Bodega Bay. woodenboatchallenge.org.
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Guided Farm Tours. Saturdays & Sundays. 11 a.m.–noon. Arrive at 10:45 a.m. If no one shows by 10:45 a.m., the tour will not be held. Parking: $10. Tara Firma Farms. 3796 I St. Ext., Petaluma. 765-1202. tarafirmafarms.com.
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58th Annual 4-H Chickenque. $13. 11:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m. Free parking. Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. sonomacountychickenque.com.
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Los Reyes & Folkloric Dancers. 3 p.m. Central Santa Rosa Library. 211 E St., Santa Rosa. 308-3020. sonomacounty. libcal.com/event/5082306.
Tuesday 7 Terrific Tuesdays. Fun activities &
snacks. $10. Tuesdays. Noon–4 p.m. Fundemonium. 579 Rohnert Park Expy. W., Rohnert Park. 800-4060. fundemoniumtoys.com. FREE Teen Virtual Lounge. Drop
in/sign up for sessions with the VR headset. Signed waiver form required for ages 14–17. See event announcement on website to access form. 3–5 p.m. Rohnert Park–Cotati Regional Library. 6250 Lynne Conde Way, Rohnert Park. sonomacounty. libcal.com/event/4874184.
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methods that avoid threats, bribes & punishment. $15. 7 p.m. Chabad Jewish Center. 205 Keller St. #101, Petaluma. Register online. jewishpetaluma.com. People’s Yoga Pop-Ups.
Rejuvenating yoga practice in nature. Event: free. Parking: $7. 6 p.m. Riverfront Regional Park. 7821 Eastside Rd., Healdsburg. parks. sonomacounty.ca.gov.
Saturday 11 Mother’s Day Weekend Open Garden. Experience rose gardens
at full bloom. Thru May 12. $2 donation. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Russian River Rose Company. 1685 Magnolia Dr., Healdsburg. russian-river-rose.com.
FREE Family Bicycle Workshop.
First half is instructional; second half is bike ride. 10 a.m.–12:30 p.m. Advance online registration is required. Rohnert Park–Cotati Regional Library. 6250 Lynne Conde Way, Rohnert Park. bikesonoma.org.
Kronos Quartet with Mahsa Vahdat.
Music for Change: The Banned Countries. $35–$55. 7:30 p.m. Sonoma State University. Green Music Center. Weill Hall. 1801 E. Cotati Ave., Rohnert Park. gmc.sonoma.edu.
Friday 10 North Bay Sinfonietta. Chamber
orchestra concert of Mozart & Mendelssohn featuring tenor soloist Mark Kratz. $10. 7:30 p.m. Church of the Incarnation. 550 Mendocino Ave., Santa Rosa. FREE Pie-Eyed Reunion Show. 85 artists show work. Diverse media. Free homemade pie. May 10: 3–7 p.m. May 11 & 12: noon–4 p.m. Pie-Eyed Studio. 2371 Gravenstein Hwy. S., Sebastopol. facebook.com/pieeyedstudio. Día de Las Madres Cena. Mother’s Day Oxacan–style dinner. $55. 6–9 p.m. Tu Mole Madre Community Event Center & Kitchen. 8464 Old Redwood Hwy., Windsor. eventbrite. com. (Search on “Día de Las Madres.”) Cinderella. Rodgers &
Hammerstein’s musical. $18–$36. Fridays–Sundays. Shows at 2 & 7 p.m. Thru May 26. Spreckels Performing Arts Center. 5409 Snyder Ln., Rohnert Park. spreckelsonline.com. www.sonomafamilylife.com
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& activities for kids. Live music by Spyralites. Free admission & parking. Chicken BBQ: $3–$10. 11 a.m.–4 p.m. Artful Arrangements. 205 Orchard Ln., Penngrove. artfularrangements.org. Murder in Vegas. Murder mystery
dinner. $75. 7 p.m. Tudor Rose English
Tea Room. 733 4th St., Santa Rosa. tudorrosetearoom.com. Second Saturday Cartoonist: Brian
younger). 1–3 p.m. Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org.
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Orchestra Concert. Good Grief, It’s Brahms! $10–$20. 3 p.m. Sonoma State University. Green Music Center. Weill Hall. 1801 E. Cotati Ln., Rohnert Park. gmc.sonoma.edu. Bill & Dave Tolay Lake Hike.
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Sunday 12 Hands-On Cheesemaking. Sheana
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Mothers get free admission to the museum. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org.
Tuesday 14 FREE Resilience: The Biology of Stress & the Science of Hope.
Film screening. 5:30 p.m. Clover Theater. 121 E 1st St., Cloverdale. Seating is limited. RSVP by May 10 via eventbrite.com (search on “Resilience”). Get a brochure and ﬁnd a camp near you!
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build a robot & program it to perform tasks. Ages 7–12. 4 p.m. Healdsburg Library. 139 Piper St., Healdsburg. sonomacounty.libcal.com. FREE Zumba for Kids. Ages 5 & up. 4 p.m. Rohnert Park–Cotati Regional Library. 6250 Lynne Conde Way, Rohnert Park. sonomacounty.libcal.com. Chicago—High School Edition.
Presented by the Apprentice Program of Roustabout Theater. $16–$26. May 17: 7:30 p.m. May 18: 3 & 7:30 p.m. May 19: 3 p.m. Luther Burbank Center for the Arts. 50 Mark West Springs Rd., Santa Rosa. lutherburbankcenter.org.
Saturday 18 Luther Burbank Rose Parade & Festival. Parade: 10 a.m. Festival: 9
a.m.–2:30 p.m. Downtown Santa Rosa. roseparadefestival.com. FREE Storytime with Natasha Yim. In honor of Asian-Pacific
Heritage Month, local children’s book author will read from two of her books. Ages 5–9. 10:30 a.m. Rohnert Park–Cotati Regional Library. 6250 Lynne Conde Way, Rohnert Park. sonomacountylibcal.com. Castles & Kites. Celebrate
the joys of sandcastle building & kite flying at the beach. Longtime sand sculptors will make elaborate creations. Event: free. Parking: $7. 11 a.m.–4 p.m. Doran Regional Park. 201 Doran Beach Rd., Bodega Bay. parks.sonomacounty.ca.gov. Open Cockpit: Supersonic Weekend.
Look inside the Blue Angels F-4N Phantom II Cockpit Simulator, the F-106 Delta Dart, the F-4C Phantom I & the T-38 Talon. $5–$10. Ages 5 & under: free. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Pacific www.sonomafamilylife.com
Coast Air Museum. One Air Museum Way, Santa Rosa. 575-7900. pacificcoastairmuseum.org. To the Moon, Snoopy. Celebrate
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Museum. Free with admission ($5–$12, free for ages 3 & younger). 1–4 p.m. Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org. An Evening of Music for the Shakuhachi. Japanese flute music by Grand Master Riley Koho Lee &
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11 a.m.â€“3 p.m. Cloverleaf Ranch. 3892 Old Redwood Hwy., Santa Rosa. FREE Sonoma County Matsuri Festival. Japanese arts & culture festival. 11 a.m.â€“5 p.m. Juilliard Park. 227 Santa Rosa Ave., Santa Rosa. sonomamatsuri.com. Plow Play Day. Demos of harnessing & horse-drawn plowing. Carriage rides, Early Day gas engine, blacksmiths. Event: free. Parking: $10. 10 a.m.â€“3 p.m. Jack London State Historic Park.
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Tuesday 21 Resiliency 101: Art & Science of Thriving. Workshop.
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Friday 24 Baile (Mexican Dance). Admission: TBD. Parking: $10. Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. sonomacountyfair.com.
Saturday 25 Tea & Memories in the Rose Garden.
friend or loved one. $4 donation. Thru May 27. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Russian River Rose Company. 1685 Magnolia Dr., Healdsburg. russian-river-rose.com. Del Sol Band. Bossas, sambas & Latin jazz. $25. 7:30 p.m. Cloverdale Performing Arts Center. 209 N. Cloverdale Blvd., Cloverdale. cloverdaleperformingarts.com.
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Humor Break louder than a Real Housewife who just noticed her bottle of wine is empty. After a quick trip to the store, you unload every lice product they sell onto your counter. The next few days entail combing, combing, and more combing along with washing, washing, and more washing. As you take out the 13th load of laundry, you let out another scream followed by a whining, “Whyyyyyyyy meeeeeeee?”
Hours and hours filled with combing, washing, and screaming pass by and somehow you manage to finally eradicate the little critters. You are amazed and in awe of the bug’s ability to survive despite being removed one by one and/or doused with chemicals and hairdryer heat.
By Cheryl Maguire
When you receive the lice letter from your kids’ school or daycare, instead of denying that your kid has lice, you smile and think, “No need to worry. After all we’ve been through, my kids have to be lice-free—I hope.”
Chronicles of an Infestation
here is something all moms dread more than anything, and I’m not talking about potty training (although that’s up there). I’m referring to the fear that your child will contract lice—ya know, those gross little bugs that take up residence in your head? I’ll give you a moment to finish itching your scalp.
When your kid gets lice (notice I didn’t write if), in all likelihood it will go something like this: You receive a letter from the school or daycare saying, “Check your kids’ heads because lice is going around.” After you finish scratching your head, you think, “No way do my kids have lice. I’m fanatical about cleaning, and I’m not cut out to deal with it so it is not going to happen to me. I refuse to even look.” 34 SonomaFamilyLife
Then your kids utter the alarming phrase: “Mom, my head itches.” Despite just reading the letter that lice are multiplying faster than Kardashian reality shows, you respond, “You probably just have some dandruff. I’ll buy some dandruff shampoo for you.”
Lice are multiplying faster than Kardashian reality shows. After using three bottles of dandruff shampoo, your kids still can’t stop itching. Shining a flashlight on their scalps, you say a small prayer and then mumble, “Please let this only be dandruff.” Then you recognize the movement of tiny bugs. With the realization that your children have live bugs on their heads, you scream
And then you itch your scalp—just because it’s an automatic reflex whenever someone hears the word lice. But another more likely reason is that now the bugs have found a new head to call home. ¶ Originally published on Signature Moms. Cheryl Maguire holds a master’s degree in counseling psychology and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in Parents Magazine, Upworthy, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Count Your Blessings, and Twins Magazine. Find her on Twitter: @ CherylMaguire05.
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