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10 Features

10 Finishing Strong

High school seniors push to successful graduation.

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7 Ways to Prepare for College Move

Using summer to be university ready.

18 Olympic Inspiration

Summer camps bring out kids’ inner medalist.

20 Garage Sale Guide

Declutter and earn some extra cash.

22 Overcoming Mother’s Day Dilemmas

Keeping the holiday stress free for all moms.

24 Celebrate the Meaning Behind Memorial Day

Honoring those who have died in service.

May 2024

Every Issue

6 Dear Reader

7 Cooking with Kids

Cracker Critters

8 Bits and Pieces

Experience a Passionate Re-enactment

Fire and Earthquake Preparation

Learn About

Chinese Pioneers

Toast to Murder, She Wrote

Join in Youth Art Project

26 Calendar of Events Get Ready to Rodeo

32 Humor Break

Twin Wins

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With Mother’s Day the second Sunday in May, you may be wondering how to juggle recognition of all the moms in your life at once. In this edition, we offer tips on doing just that while celebrating yourself, too (page 22). It’s OK to divide your time so that everything doesn’t fall on the same day. Perhaps you and your mother figures want to do something Saturday instead, like a morning of garage sale shopping together (we’ve got tips on hosting successful yard sales on page 20, too)!

May also means the end of school is near! Help graduating high school seniors finish strong with our advice for avoiding “senioritis” (page 10)

with an eye toward last-minute preparations for college (page 14).

The whole family can begin counting down the days until summer camp this month, inspired by the impending Summer Olympics and the sports showcased there, from traditional to unique (page 18).

You might wrap up this month relaxing over Memorial Day weekend with barbecues and boating, but don’t lose sight of the meaning behind the day (we’ve got an explanation, page 24). Consider some of our simple ideas for remembering those who have died during military service—the real purpose behind the holiday!

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Cracker Critters

Edible Creatures Mark Pet Month

By Angel Jenkins

May is National Pet Month and there is a fun way to celebrate your favorite animal by making rice cracker critters. These edible creatures could also be made on your favorite toasted bread.

Once Again’s organic creamy almond butter is made with just one ingredient (dry roasted almonds) and is free of added sugars, salt, and preservatives. It contains plant protein to sustain energy, calcium to support growing bones, plus Vitamin E and Omega 3s for little one’s brain development.

Whether used to make edible characters for lunch or drizzled over apple slices for a snack with friends, this wholesome, versatile, and sustainable spread is a summer pantry staple. Once Again’s almond butter is also available in crunchy and lightly toasted varieties. ❖

Once Again Nut Butter was created in 1976 by Jeremy Thaler and Constance Potter. The duo met while establishing Mifflin Street Co-op in Madison, Wisconsin. Moving to Rochester, New York, they founded a worker cooperative distribution, and a whole-grain bakery that also produced granola, and, eventually, nut butter.

Rice Cracker Critters

Prep Time: 10 minutes

Serves 4-8

1 jar Once Again’s Almond Butter

1 package rice cakes

1 apple, sliced

1 banana sliced

1 container blueberries

Instructions

1. Spread Once Again’s almond butter on top of your favorite rice cracker or toasted bread cut into a circle.

2. Add two slices of apples as the ears, one slice of banana for the nose, two blueberries for eyes and a final blueberry for the nose to create your puppy rice cracker snack.

3. Add one small slice of apple for the fish mouth, one blueberry for the eye, and five banana slices for the fins and tale of the fish rice cracker snack. Enjoy!

Experience a Passionate Re-enactment

The Lake County Outdoor Passion

Play brings together more than 150 performers to re-enact the Crucifixion. Mounted Roman soldiers sweep across the 1,000-foot stage; sheep wander across the hillside; a sound system carries the dialogue drawn from the Bible books of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. Men, women, and children from many denominations come together for this Ecumenical experience. A team of directors, producers, and costume designers work throughout the year to create this experience. Admission is free but the project is completely donation funded. 4–6 p.m. May 18–19. 7010 Westlake Rd., Upper Lake. Learn more at lakecountypassionplay.org

Fire and Earthquake Preparation

Join your community for a fun, free day of emergency preparedness and hands-on activities. The Fire and Earthquake Safety Expo is the largest in-person emergency preparedness event in Sonoma County. Bring the entire family and watch the look on your kids’ faces when they sit in a fire engine, visit with animals, or participate in races. Educational lessons will be shared in English and Spanish from first responders and other experts. Watch emergency demonstrations, live simulations and browse exhibits featuring state-of-the-art products. Experience Henry 1 and Sonoma County 1 helicopters and speak with experts in the Firewise Landscape Room. Enjoy free giveaways and food, while supplies last. This fourth annual event is hosted by Cloverdale Citrus Fair, Northern Sonoma County CERT, Fire Safe Sonoma, Sonoma County Department of Emergency Services, and Nuestra Comunidad. Sunday, May 19. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Cloverdale Citrus Fairgrounds. 1 Citrus Fair Dr, Cloverdale. For more information, visit fireandearthquakeexpo.org

Lake County Passion Play

Fire and Earthquake Safety Expo

Learn About Chinese Pioneers

The photographic exhibit, “Chinese Pioneers: Power and Politics in Exclusion-Era Photographs” offers a visual history of the social, political, and judicial disenfranchisement of Chinese Californians—as well as moments of Chinese agency and resilience— in the decades before and after the 1882 Chinese Exclusion Act. The exhibition is drawn exclusively from the California Historical Society’s collections with tours through Exhibit Envoy. Free admission but donations welcomed. Through June 9. 10 a.m.–4 p.m., Thursdays-Saturdays. Noon–4 p.m. Sundays. May 18 is Family Fun Day from 11 a.m.–3 p.m. Courthouse Museum. 255 N. Main St., Lakeport. Learn more on the Museums of Lake County social media pages or at tinyurl.com/ycx5p33s

Join in Youth Art Project

Students are sought to help create a new mural project on 40th Street, with the theme “Under the Lake.” This project aims to cover up the blight in the area and provide a platform for young artists to showcase their talent. Through the CMAS Youth Project, students will research Lake County Ecology as they learn to draw an underwater landscape. CMAS Youth Art Project is at no cost to families. To assist in covering cost of materials, donations are appreciated and can be made at facebook.com/fund/cmaslakecounty. Parents are invited to volunteer during mural activities which will take place June 10 or 27 and July 8 and 25. 8:30 a.m.–Noon. CMAS Activity Center. 15210 Lakeshore Dr., Clearlake. Deadline to register is May 24 at tinyurl.com/cmasthewall.

Toast to Murder, She Wrote

Join Kelley House Museum in toasting the memory of Angela Lansbury, star of TV’s Murder, She Wrote. “Deadly Lady,” one of the first episodes filmed in Mendocino, will be screened Saturday, May 4. 4 p.m. Matheson Performing Arts Center, 45096 Cahto St., Mendocino. Afterwards, walk across the street to a hosted reception at the Blair House Inn, made famous as the home of Angela’s character, Jessica Fletcher. Appetizers, wine samples and Angela Lansbury truffles. Explore the inn’s rooms, including Angela’s Suite, and peruse original scripts from the TV show. Bid on items in a silent auction, with proceeds benefiting the Kelley House Museum’s education program. A walking tour and tea tasting will take place Sunday, May 5. 1–3:30 p.m. Tour begins at the museum. 45007 Albion St., Mendocino. Purchase tickets at tinyurl.com/3evcmrer

Chinese Pioneers: Power and Politics

Under the Lake Mural Project

Murder, She Wrote

Finishing Strong

Avoiding Senioritis; Getting College Ready

By Katy M. Clark

My teenage son has come down with a curious affliction. His symptoms include increased indifference and frequent use of the snooze feature on his phone’s alarm clock. I believe he is suffering from Senioritis, a common condition that strikes most 17-and 18-year-olds in the waning days of their senior year. I bet my son, like so many seniors, wonders why these last weeks matter anyway.

However, Senioritis can have real consequences for teens. They might see their grades plummet, which could affect merit aid or even an offer for admission at colleges that require a final transcript. Teens might stop preparing as well as they could for AP exams, which means they miss out on potential college credit. Not to mention that seniors could lose

out on overall learning and increase their odds of a challenging transition to college or the workforce after graduation.

So how can seniors finish the year strong? Here are ways teens can conquer Senioritis …

Maintain a routine. Teens should keep doing what they have been doing all year. Go to classes

and attend activities such as club meetings and team practices. Try to maintain a good sleep routine, too. Staying busy with day-to-day activities and getting enough sleep will combat the desire to check out.

Stay organized. It is important for your senior to keep track of test dates, meetings with a guidance counselor, and other events such as cap and gown fittings as they move toward graduation. Encourage them to use a planner, whether in hard copy form or through a phone app, to log deadlines and other important events. This practice will reap benefits in the future, too, as they attend college or start a new job.

Enjoy this special time. Having fun is a reward for hard work, provides something to look forward to, and can motivate teens to stay the course. After all, life is not always serious. Maybe your senior can attend prom or host one last epic get-together with friends. Plan a special family event, such as a weekend road trip or decadent dinner

from your teen’s favorite restaurant to enjoy in person or at home.

Focus on finalizing college, trade school, or career plans. Once your teen has decided which place of higher learning will be their new home, they will need to select housing, browse orientation dates, and contact an advisor for guidance on choosing freshman classes.

Apply for scholarships. Have your teen prepare for college by looking for scholarships. Applications may need your teen to answer a few questions or write an essay. Some scholarships may match up with your teen’s intended major or celebrate their heritage. Applying for scholarships is an excellent

habit to start during senior year and continue throughout each year in college.

For college-bound teens as well as those going to trade school or starting their careers, the simple

Staying

act of focusing on their future plans, called future-oriented thinking, has been shown by psychologists to predict better behavior in the present as well as increased success with future plans.

Rest and recharge. Senior year can present an exhaustive pace of school and year-end events and some teens might be suffering from Senioritis that stems from just being tired. Making time for self-care, such as journaling or creative activities like painting, will help your teen hit the reset button. Even as little time as a half hour a day to unwind can leave your teen feeling refreshed.

Stay physically healthy. Have your teen battle sluggishness with exercise, which releases endorphins and boosts energy. They can practice making healthy, fresh meals, too, especially since they are still under your roof and you’re footing the bill! Your teen will

notice a positive difference in how they feel after eating well and also gain confidence in this life skill. Talk to someone. Some teens may realize that they are checking out and suffering from Senioritis. Talking with their guidance counselor, who has witnessed the

effects of the senior slump time and time again, can help your teen get back on track. Or there may be a best friend, favorite teacher, coach, or parent (ahem!) your teen can confide in to help them plug back in. Nudge your teen to consider why they should finish senior year strong.

LAKE COUNTY PASSION PLAY

SATURDAY

Christian Play for People of all Faiths

Free Admission

Please join us in the story of the Passion, Death, Resurrection and Ascension of our Lord, Jesus Christ, here in beautiful Lake County, California.

• Free of charge; donations are gratefully accepted.

• Bring your own chair.

• No smoking, food, drink, or pets on grounds.

• Water available.

• Facilities for the handicapped. 707-263-0349 www.lakecountypassionplay.org

Choose something tangible, like a college flag or letter of employment, and have them hang it on their wall. Or they could write a letter to their future self, listing all that they’ve accomplished and congratulating them on achieving their dreams.

Finally, surround your teen with love. That could mean sometimes spoiling them with small gifts like gas cards or comfy socks, or performing little actions like making their bed or their favorite breakfast, even though you know

Talking with their guidance counselor, who has witnessed the effects of the senior slump time and time again, can help your teen get back on track.

they are fully capable of doing those things themselves. Maybe you can’t stop staring at them with affection, soaking up this special time together before it changes. Teens will notice your love and the sense of security it generates. This will no doubt buoy them as graduation approaches.

Remember, if your teen can conquer Senioritis and stay engaged during the final weeks of senior year, then your teen will be one step closer to achieving their goals and dreams for the future, whether that includes college, trade school, the military, or a new job. ❖

Katy M. Clark is a writer and mom of two who embraces her imperfections on her blog Experienced Bad Mom

7 Ways to Prepare for College Move

Transition Tips for Summertime

By Rosalie Anthony

Congratulations! You have chosen and committed to a college. Are you prepared? Through my own experiences, I have learned a few tips and tricks that can help you make the most of your summer before starting college.

Join Online Communities

Joining online communities before starting college can be a great way to connect with fellow students and faculty. This may be through the school or organized informally by your fellow classmates. For example:

• Roommate Finder to find a compatible roommate.

• Class Page to find other people in your class or specific program of study.

• Parent Pages for your parents to find other parents whose students are going to college at your school.

• Buy/Sell Page: A lot of students will sell their textbooks/dorm items at bargain prices.

• Any other kind of organization aimed for freshmen that has something to do with orientation and/or move-in.

Sometimes you will find these groups on your own or people from your school will start reaching out to you through your email, personal and new school email, so start checking both! Utilize your school’s social media for direction to other online communities, too.

Look Into Major Requirements

Before starting college, it is important to research and understand your major requirements to avoid scheduling issues later on. Most schools will have a class registration day,

Joining online communities before starting college can be a great way to connect with fellow students and faculty.

orientation, or time for you to meet with your advisor to make your schedule.

It is important to familiarize yourself with the courses you will take each semester, including your general education electives. When it comes to general education electives, they may not all be offered at the same time or every semester. Research that and if there are certain professors that are harder than others by speaking with upperclassmen or visiting RateMyProfessors.com

Contact Roommates Summer before move-in is a great time to get to know your roommates via email or phone number provided by the university. Send a quick message to introduce yourself. Some universities may have an online platform or app that allows you to connect with roommates and other students before move-in day.

Discuss things like sleeping habits, cleanliness, study schedules, and any potential conflicts that

may arise during the semester. This can help create a positive living environment and prevent misunderstandings.

Attend New Student

Orientation Orientation is typically designed to give you a comprehensive overview of your college experience. You will have the chance to become familiar with the campus layout and important landmarks, such as the library, student center, and dorms. In addition, orientation is an opportunity to learn about the various resources your college offers. You may receive free college merchandise and a new student ID, as well as have the opportunity to schedule your classes for the upcoming semester.

Pack Your Bags Consider the specific requirements of your living situation. For instance, if you will be staying in a dorm, you might need XL twin sheets instead of

It is important to familiarize yourself with the courses you will take each semester, including your general education electives.

regular twin sheets. Investing in a quality mattress pad is also a wise choice. By planning ahead, you will be able to move in with ease and start enjoying your new living space.

Visit Your Doctor

College life can be stressful, which can lower your immune system. Ask yourself a few key questions:

• Will your doctor still see you if you are out of state?

• Does your insurance cover you if you need to see a doctor while away at college?

• What resources are available at your school’s health center?

• Does your school have a psychology clinic to offer therapy? If not, how else does your school support students’ mental health?

• In the event of a physical injury, what would be your plan, and how accessible and accommodating is your campus?

DID YOU KNOW?

It is also a good idea to visit your primary care doctor, dentist, and any other specialists before you start school to ensure that you are in good health.

Gather Identifying Documents

Some of the key documents that you will need to have on hand include your passport, driver’s license, birth certificate, and social security card. These documents will be required by potential employers, as well as by many of the agencies and

Summer before move-in is a great time to get to know your roommates via email or phone number provided by the university.

organizations that you will be dealing with during your time in college. Keep them organized and in a safe place. Consider making digital copies to store securely online, so that you can access them from anywhere and in case the physical documents are lost or damaged.

Conclusion Preparing for your freshman year of college can be daunting, but advanced planning can help alleviate stress and ensure a smooth transition. College is a time of exploration, self-discovery, and growth, and with the right preparation and mindset, you can make the most of this transformative experience. ❖

Rosalie Anthony authored this piece as a student attending Point Park University earning her Dance-B.F.A degree. It is reprinted with permission from Niche.com

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Olympic Inspiration

Kids Can Explore Unique Camp Sports

By Cherie Gough

Iremember the enthusiasm for the Olympic Games that set my imagination soaring as a girl. I turned cartwheels, improved my handspring, and created routines dreaming of becoming a gymnast. This summer will be buzzing with excitement surrounding the Olympic Games.

Watching the games as a family might inspire your children to try a new sport. Summer camps offer an easy introduction and opportunities to try unique sports that can broaden your child’s experiences and add to his or her confidence.

“Exposing children to new experiences can help them with developing a ‘growth mindset.’ This is the idea that we are constantly in a state of growing, and that we are always able to learn new things,” said Certified Life Coach Bonnie Hayman at Cultivate Counseling Collective. “Sports, creative activities, social settings, and even new foods can encourage children to resist the ‘I can’t’ or ‘I don’t

like that’ attitude that can hinder confidence and flexibility.

The Paris Games will debut sports that are popular and easy to participate in such as breaking, skateboarding, sport climbing, and surfing. Go on, catch the wave of enthusiasm and enroll the kids in a sport off the beaten track.

Make a Splash

Some of the most watched and competitive of the Olympic games, water sports enhance a child’s love for swimming and develop skills they can carry throughout life.

Local recreation centers, universities, and club pools offer opportunities in individual sports such as diving and

teach team sports like water polo and synchronized swimming. Outdoor water sport camps also abound. On the coast, surf camps are popular. You’ll also find camps in other Olympic sports that may spark an interest in your child such as sailing or rowing.

Water sports teach campers water safety, proper use of equipment, and improve athleticism and swim skills.

A sports camp is a great way to allow high-energy kids a safe space to take risks and ignite a new passion …

These camps are perfect for kids who feel comfortable in the water but have outgrown swim lessons.

Camps to Flip For Paula McCalester, retired gym owner and gymnastics coach, sees the enthusiasm that the Olympics bring to the sport. “My husband and I were both gymnasts and it has been so exciting to see how the sport has evolved,” she said. “This year’s Olympics should be epic, with athletes like Simone Biles who dominate the sport and are pushing the boundaries of what the human body is capable of. Kids that follow the Olympics are motivated and excited to learn the sport.”

McCalester said that gymnastics teaches much more than cartwheels and flips, including a healthy lifestyle, self-confidence, work ethic, respect, discipline, balance, friendship, compassion, and grit. “Gymnastics provides you with core strength and flexibility to make you able to

transition into, and be successful in, other sports,” she said. “We’ve had kids start in gymnastics and go on to be successful in diving, track and field, cheer, rowing and more.”

Seek New Adventures

The Olympics are sure to inspire adrenaline junkies. A sports camp is a great way to allow high-energy kids a safe space to take risks and ignite a new passion where they can jump, spin, and climb to new heights. Research the wide variety of camps for thrill-seekers including aerials/silks, rock climbing, skateboarding, and BMX.

Through use of games, team-building activities, and contests, these camps emphasize children’s safety while developing proper technique in the

fundamentals of the sports, and build strength, flexibility, and coordination.

Create a Healthy Mind/Body Connection Look for Martial Arts during the Olympics such as Judo and Taekwondo. Martial arts teach self-discipline, goal-setting,

Summer camps offer an easy introduction and opportunities to try unique sports that can broaden your child’s experiences and add to his or her confidence.

respect, listening, and increase self-esteem and confidence.

Taekwondo is something families can even do together, setting goals and working toward belts. It builds friendly competition and respect between siblings.

Into The Great Outdoors

Outdoor-based camps like horseback riding and archery are classics.They offer young people opportunities to respect nature, gain focus and confidence while learning safe techniques to improve skills.

Take advantage of the enthusiasm surrounding the Summer Olympics to not only bond with your family by watching, but also to encourage your children to look for sports that might spark their own interests. ❖

Cherie Gough is a writer and mom of two. Find her on IG @cgoughwrites.

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Garage Sale Guide Successfully Get Rid of Unwanted Stuff

By Kimberly Blaker

Are your garage, basement, and closets overflowing from the heaps of stuff you’ve been saving “just in case?” Rummage sales are a great way to clear out, recycle, and make some extra cash. Follow these suggestions for a successful sale and a clutter-free home.

The Storefront A garage is usually the best place to hold a sale offering shelter and requiring little daily set up and tear down. If your garage is hard to access, hidden from view, or contains valuables that can’t be easily hidden, use a covered porch, patio, or your yard. Have plenty of tarps available to protect your goods from rain and for covering at the end of the day.

All in the Timing Plan your sale when temperatures are between 60-90 degrees outdoors. Typically, the best days to hold sales are Thursdays-Sundays, with Fridays and Saturdays bringing the most traffic. Mornings bring the most significant flow of shoppers, and the earlier you’re

ready, the better. If you open by 7:30 or 8:00 a.m., rummagers will flock.

Displaying Your Wares Don’t heap your merchandise on tables or leave it in boxes to be ransacked. While some don’t mind digging through messy stacks, most people won’t bother.

Hang as much clothing as possible. Use a laundry pole or portable closet, or install two support brackets and a closet rod. You can also support a bar or board between two stepladders. If you only have a few clothing items, a clothesline will do.

Plenty of table space is also a must. Borrow folding tables, and if you run out, make a table by resting a sheet of

plywood over sawhorses, or prop spare planks of wood between chairs. Keep all but big items off the floor for better visibility.

Neatly fold and stack clothing that can’t be hung on tables, and label stacks according to size. Organize

Mornings bring the most significant flow of shoppers, and the earlier you’re ready, the better.

good toys and complete sets where parents and grandparents will easily spot them. Set up a “guys” table with hand tools, gadgets, electronics, and home repair items. Then place small articles such as jewelry in divider containers or egg cartons, so they’re easy to view.

One exception to the disorderly rule is for small toys. Stick all these little goodies in boxes on the ground where young children can dig for treasures to take home. Label boxes according to the price per item or allow kids to choose one as a prize.

Finally, make sure batteries and electricity are available so you can show shoppers that items are in working condition.

Next-to-New Sells Appearance plays a big roll in the sale of used goods and how much they can bring. Wash and dry all clothing and linens, then fold or hang immediately to prevent wrinkles. Wash dust, dirt, and grime from toys, tools, and household items. Also, repair broken merchandise when feasible.

Priced to Go Don’t overprice, or you’ll end up packing up nearly as much as you started with. For big

items, look online for average resale prices. But if you check eBay, keep in mind that eBay pricing often isn’t comparable to what people will pay at a garage sale. Some top-quality items in like-new condition can bring 25 to 35 percent of the replacement cost at rummage sales. Occasionally, tools, equipment, and other things in small supply can be priced higher and sell for 50 to 60 percent of replacement cost, depending on age and condition. Most used merchandise will bring 5 to 10 percent of replacement cost at best.

Advertising Newspaper classified ads or Craigslist, as well as the more popular online garage sale locator websites, usually bring the best results. The exception is if you live on a main street or a heavily traveled highway. In your ad, be sure to include your address and main cross streets, dates

and time of your sale, and what you’ll be selling. List special items individually and share categories like “tools” or “toddler clothes.”

Also, post fliers on the grocery store or laundromat bulletin boards. If there are no regulations against doing so, posting signs on nearby corners is a must. Don’t forget to

Set up a ‘guys’ table with hand tools, gadgets, electronics, and home repair items.

put a bright sign in front of your house, too. Balloons tied to your mailbox or a tree can also make your sale more visible.

Tips for Success The bigger the sale, the more traffic you’ll get. Go

in with family, friends, and neighbors and hold one big sale rather than several small ones. Hold a street or subdivision-wide sale. This will draw people from surrounding areas. Move big items such as furniture or appliances into the driveway to attract passersby.

Finally, have your items priced. Many people will walk away from a sale when things aren’t priced. They don’t want to make an offer that’s too low and risk offending you. They also don’t want the hassle of having to ask the price for every little thing they might consider buying. ❖

Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She also owns an online store, Sage Rare & Collectible Books, specializing in out-of-print, scarce, signed, and first editions; fine bindings; ephemera and more at sagerarebooks.com

How to Overcome Mother’s Day Dilemmas A Stress-Free Guide to Mom Holiday

By Kerrie McLoughlin

Remember Mother’s Day when you were a kid? It probably revolved around your own mom, stepmom, grandmother, or other maternal figure. Then maybe your mother-in-law came into the picture, and you were posed with the challenge of figuring out how to split your time every second Sunday in May.

Once YOU became a mother, you realized that juggling Mother’s Day visits could be an Olympic event—or at least a reality TV show. While it’s true you can’t make everyone happy all of the time, you CAN honor all the moms in your life—including yourself—every year …

Challenge: So many moms, so little time.

Solution: Who says Mother’s Day should only be celebrated on

that specific Sunday in May? Have your stepmom over for dinner one night during the week leading up to Mother’s Day. Take your mother-in-law out to dinner the night before. When Sunday rolls around, have your own mom over, showering her with cards, flowers, and gifts. Serve up a special (easy or takeout) meal. You can get the best of both worlds on Mother’s

Day: Being with your own mom and being with the little ones who made YOU a mom.

Challenge: A long-distance maternal relationship.

Solution: FaceTime, Zoom or Skype! Also, consider an out-of-town Mother’s Day one year, then the next year stay put; or have one of the moms come for a special weekend visit at your place.

While it’s true you can’t make everyone happy all of the time, you CAN honor all the moms in your life …

Challenge: You feel selfish and guilty for wanting it to be about you.

Solution: You’re entitled to decide how to spend the day once you become a mom yourself. Get away for a spa day, sit at a coffeehouse reading alone, or chat with a friend for a few hours. Other years you might want to hang out around the house letting the kids pamper you.

Challenge: Your household inboxes (laundry hamper, kitchen sink, calendar) are always full.

Solution: Take TODAY off, which means NO housework! Close your eyes as you walk by the sink, hold your nose as you stroll by the laundry hamper. Have paper plates and cups on hand for when your family serves you like the queen you are.

Challenge: Your kid is a baby, and your husband can’t cook.

Solution: This is what restaurants are for. If wrestling kids at a restaurant isn’t your style, hit up DoorDash. Make sure you have something indulgent on hand, like cheesecake bites or a lovely double-chocolate cake because this is the day you get to spoil yourself or be spoiled without guilt!

You can get the best of both worlds on Mother’s Day: Being with your own mom and being with the little ones who made YOU a mom.

Challenge: You’re a single mom.

Solution: Hopefully your kids will take over or a trusted adult will assist them in making your day special. If your ex has the kids for the weekend, focus on yourself. The “no housework” rule applies here … do what you love to do all day long. Head outside or to an indoor track for a walk, read a juicy novel, see a movie, soak in the tub with a bath bomb, hang out with your own mom.

Try to make today out-of-the-ordinary in some way. Just as you help your children enjoy birthdays and holidays in ways they love, let them know how you want to spend the day. It’s all about balance, and it CAN be done! ❖

Kerrie McLoughlin is the homeschooling mom of five and author of The Tater Tot Casserole Cookbook

Celebrate the Meaning Behind Memorial Day

Honoring Those Lost in Military Service

By Rebecca Hastings

While we all enjoy a day off to throw some burgers on the grill, teaching kids about Memorial Day is an important way to honor our country and all who served. But it can feel hard to know what to say, how to make it memorable, and ways to make a difference. These simple tips will help!

What is Memorial Day? The last Monday of May is set aside for one simple thing: Remembering those who have died during active military service. Technically, it is set aside to honor only those who have died. However, it is often observed as a celebration of the U.S. with American flags, parades, and cookouts.

But What About Veterans Day?

Many people get confused between Memorial Day and Veterans Day because they both celebrate people

who have served our country. While Memorial Day is specific to those who died while serving, Veteran’s Day is a chance to honor all those who have served in the U.S. military. These people can still be living. Veterans Day is always November 11, the anniversary of the end of World War I.

What Can We Do? There are many ways we can celebrate and honor those who lost their lives during active military service. Even the freedom to

have a cookout and be with family is a way to honor their sacrifice.

Read a Book: There are many children’s books that show the value of the men and women who serve our country and highlight patriotism. To go a little deeper about Memorial Day, The Wall, by Eve Bunting, which tells the story of a child visiting the Vietnam War Memorial, is a great choice for preschool ages and up.

Teach kids the importance of standing when the flag or military service members walk by.

Plant a Flag: Memorial Day is the perfect time to leave flags on the graves of local military men and women. Small flags can be purchased online or locally. Just be sure to check with the cemetery for guidelines.

Sing-Along: Learn a song that celebrates America. Great options for kids include The Star-Spangled Banner and You’re a Grand Old Flag. You can find age-appropriate sing-alongs online to enjoy.

Say Thank You: Memorial Day can be hard for those who have lost someone in military service. Teach children to recognize that these people have sacrificed something for the freedom we all have. A simple thank you, a card, or a kind gesture goes a long way.

Make a Flag: There are endless ways you can teach kids about the American Flag. Be creative! Try making a flag-themed dessert or coloring a big flag in your driveway with sidewalk chalk. Whatever you

decide to do, just make sure you have plenty of red, white, and blue!

Watch a Memorial Day Parade: Full of fun, music, and festivity, a Memorial Day parade is a great way to celebrate and recognize the meaning of the holiday. Teach kids the importance of standing when the flag or military service members walk by. These simple things go a long way in showing honor.

Adopt a Military Family: The reality of Memorial Day is always on the minds of those with someone in the military. Consider choosing a military family to show extra kindness to by sending them cards, making a meal, or inviting them to join you for holidays. These little acts of kindness go a long way.

Enjoy Time with Your Family and Friends: When you think about Memorial Day, consider the cost paid by the men and women who lost their lives serving our country.

The last Monday of May is set aside for one simple thing: Remembering those who have died during active military service.

Think about the cost to their families, friends, and communities when they lost the person they cared about. Each one of those who died serving our country did so for freedom. We reap the benefits of their sacrifice.

That makes it even more important to celebrate. Spend time with the people you love. Enjoy a beautiful late spring day. Play and rest and live knowing that this, too, honors those who died. It is for this kind of life that they served our country.

If You Lost Someone Memorial Day takes on a different feeling for those who have lost someone in service. If someone you love died serving our country, know that their sacrifice, as well as your own, is seen and honored. May we always remember. ❖

Rebecca is a published author and former teacher passionate about authenticity, faith, and family. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate. Connect with her at rebeccahastings.net and on Instagram.

May Calendar of Events

Get Ready to Rodeo

The Potter Valley Rodeo is a California Cowboys Professional Rodeo Association-sanctioned rodeo that has provided fun family entertainment for more than 77 years. From bull riding to barrel racing, top-notch cowboys and cowgirls show off their rodeo skills. Families can compete in axe throwing, mutton bustin’, and wood-cutting, and enjoy food plus toe-tappin’ entertainment. Some events are free, with day passes costing $15 for other activities. Various times throughout Memorial Weekend. May 26–29. Potter Valley Community Parks & Recreation. 10747 Main St., Potter Valley. See the schedule of events at pottervalleyrodeo.com.

Wednesday 1

FREE Virtual Positive Parenting Group. Hosted by Triple P. Program of First 5 Mendocino. Wednesdays. 10 a.m.–Noon. Runs thru May 29. Register for Zoom link: tinyurl. com/3h5wrawj.

FREE Shadow & Walk-Through High School Tour. Prospective students come shadow while parents tour the school. 8–9:30 a.m. Summerfield Waldorf School & Farm. 655 Willowside Rd. Santa Rosa. Register: summerfieldwaldorf.org

FREE Queer & Trans Parent

On-line Support Group. Open to queer/transpeople who are expecting, adopting, &/or parenting babies up to 2 years of age. Wednesdays. 11:30 a.m. Register: postpartum.net/get-help/ queer-parents.

FREE CMAS Youth Art Project

“Under the Lake” community-wide event. Recruiting students to create new mural along side the way located on 40th Street & Old Hwy. 53 during June & July 2024. Sponsored by

Children Museum of Arts & Science. Registration ends May 22. For details & sign-up: tinyurl.com/yahf38u9

FREE Family Transitions Triple P Virtual Support Group. For parents who are experiencing personal distress from separation or divorce, which is impacting their parenting. For Mendocino residents only. Via Zoom. Hosted by Triple P Program of First 5 Mendocino. Wednesdays. 8:30–10:30 a.m. Runs thru May 22. Register for Zoom link: tinyurl.com/5haf32ye

FREE Grandparents Raising Grandchildren Group. Facilitated support group for talking & sharing ideas & experiences. Hosted by MCCP Family Resource Center. Wednesdays. 11 a.m.–1 p.m. MCCP Family Resource Center. 244 N. Franklin St. (corner of Redwood St.), Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/yc3j8kjp.

FREE The CanTeen. An all inclusive teen group. Wednesdays. 2–4 p.m. MCCP Family Resource Center. 244 N. Franklin St. (corner of Redwood

St.), Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/ ycm8a6ez.

FREE Shade Canyon Playgroup. Waldorf-style story, crafts, or nature walk. Ages 5 & younger. Held first & third Wednesday of the month. May 1 & 15: 10–11:30 a.m. Peace & Plenty Farm. 4550 Soda Bay Rd., Kelseyville. shadecanyon.org

Thursday 2

FREE Events at the Museum of Lake County. New exhibition: Chinese Pioneers: Power & Politics in Eclusion Era Photographs. Thursdays–Saturdays. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Sundays. Noon–4 p.m. Runs thru June 9. Lake County Historic Courthouse Museum. 255 N. Main St., Lakeport. tinyurl. com/mtnyhmzk

42nd Annual Spring Dance Festival. Original dance works, live music & visual arts in celebration of student, alumni, facility, & guest artist’s work. $10; May 2–4: 7:30 p.m. May 5: 2 p.m. $15; May 3 only: 7 p.m. Preshow Scholarship Gala, wine & hors d’oeuvres, followed by

the performance. Mendocino College Center Theatre. 1000 Hensley Creek Rd., Ukiah. Tickets: tinyurl.com/ bdem29d3

FREE Operation Tango Mike Open

House Packing Party. Join in the fun & prepare care packages for deployed military personnel. Free food provided.

5–8 p.m. Thursdays. 5 p.m.: Social. 6 p.m.: Packing Party. Umpqua Bank. 805 11th St., Lakeport. thebloom. news/big-calendar

Friday 3

FREE Middletown Farmers Market. Locally fresh produce, crafted goods & artisanal treats. Double your EBT benefits up to $30. Fridays. 5–8 p.m. 21256 Washington St., Middletown. tinyurl.com/ykx8b896.

FREE The Blue Zone Project

Walking Moai Fort Bragg. A moai Is a group of 5–8 people who walk together for an hour, once a week. Sponsored by Blue Zones of Mendocino. Open to all. Fridays. 4–5 p.m. Meet up: Café 1. 753 N. Main St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl. com/5n8jme3j.

Circle time at Mendo LEAP. Weeky themes dances, songs, & stories designed for 0–5 yrs. Included in 2-hour general play admission. $15/ child. Membership options available. Each child gets 2 free adults. Tuesdays & Wednesdays. 10–11 a.m. Mendo Leap. 203 S. State St., Ukiah. mendoleap.com/Calendar

Friday Skate Nights. $1 admission. $2 skate rental. More info call: 707-984-8089. Fridays (except May 17). 6–8 p.m. Harwood Hall. Harwood Rd., Laytonville. tinyurl. com/3hvmc6ky

FREE RCRC Autism Parent Virtual Group. Hosted by autism specialists, Dr. Wendy White and/or Jillian Guevara, BCBA, Redwood Coast Regional Center. First Friday of the month via Zoom. Meeting ID: 995 2860 5123.10–11 a.m. tinyurl.com/ t3u746e3

FREE 2024 Pride Prom Planning Committee. LGBTQ+ Youth Voices is planning Lake County’s second Annual Pride Parade. Looking for assistance. Ages 14–25 welcome. In-person & via Zoom. May 3, 17, & 21: 4–5 p.m. 150 S. Main St., Lakeport. Register for Zoom link: tinyurl. com/5n9yr74k.

Skate Night. $2 to rent skates, $1 to enter. Fridays. 6–8 p.m. at Harwood

Hall. 44400 Willis Ave., Laytonville. tinyurl.com/28b86j6f

Saturday 4

FREE John Druecker Memorial Rhododendron Show. One of the largest shows on the west coast with over 800 entries. Raffles, refreshments, educational displays, & more. Cost included with Museum admission. $8–$20. Age 5 & under: Free. May 4: 9 a.m.–5 p.m. May 5: 10 a.m. –4 p.m. Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. 18220 N. Hwy. 1, Fort Bragg. Advanced tickets required: gardenbythesea.org.

“Murder, She Wrote” Festival. May 4: Episode screening. 4–5 p.m. Matheson Performing Arts Center. Ford & Cahto Streets, Mendocino. Hosted reception: 5–7 p.m. Blair

House Inn. 45110 Little Lake St., Mendocino; $60–$70. May 5: Walking Tour & Tea. 1–3:30 p.m. Kelly House Museum. 45007 Albion St., Mendocino; $30. Proceeds benefit the Kelly House Museum. Tickets: tinyurl. com/bdhkpb7u.

FREE Spring Craft Fair. Local artisan crafts, vendor, & food booths. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Clearlake Senior Center. 3245 Bowers Ave., Clearlake. clearlakechamber.org

39th Annual Hopland Fire Fundraising BBQ. Live music, dinner, & dancing. Adults $30. Ages 6–12: $15. Beer/wine available for additional fee. Proceeds go toward essential firefighting equipment. 5–11 p.m. (Dinner: 5–7 p.m. & dancing until 11 p.m.) Hopland Fire Protection District.

21 Feliz Creek Rd., Hopland. tinyurl. com/ye649wnt

FREE Pastels in the Plaza Fundraiser. Local artists create artwork on pavement. Hosted by the River Oak Charter School. Live music, food/drinks available for purchase. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Alex Thomas Plaza. 300 State St., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/d7sfhndt.

Yoga at the Gardens. Led by certified yoga instructor Delphine Davidson. All-levels welcome. Class is outside; $15. Cost not included with Museum admission; $8–$20. Sundays. Noon–1 p.m. (Arrive at 11:30 a.m. to allow time to reach Event Lawn). Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. 18220 N. Hwy. 1, Fort Bragg. gardenbythesea.org

Sunday 5

FREE First Fiddlers’ Jam. Listen to fiddle tunes played by members of the Northern California Old Time Fiddlers Group. Noon–2:10 p.m. Ely Barn. 9921 Soda Bay Rd. (Hwy128), Kelseyville. lakecountyhistory.org/ events.

FREE Cinco De Mayo Festival. Food, music, games & activities. Local vendors, showcasing Latin artisans & their crafts. 11 a.m.–5:30 p.m. Library Park. 200 Park St. Lakeport. thebloom. news/big-calendar.

Tuesday 7

FREE The Blue Zone Project

Walking Moai Mendocino College

hour, once a week. Sponsored by Blue Zones of Mendocino. Open to all. Tuesdays. 11 a.m.–Noon. Runs thru May 21. Meet-up: Mendocino College. 1211 Del Mar Dr., Fort Bragg. tinyurl. com/5n8jme3j

Saturday 11

FREE 3rd Annual Firefighters Appreciation Day/Grill Off. All First Responders & family welcome. Hosted by Lake Co Fire Protection, North Shore, Lakeport, & Kelsey-Cobb CalFire. Each department will have their own grill & choice of meat.

11 a.m.–4 p.m. 10892 Harbor Rd., Kelseyville. tinyurl.com/2efbfy4b

FREE Mother’s Day Craft Show. May 11–12, 10 a.m.–6 p.m. Fort Bragg Town Hall. Main & Laurel streets, Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/bddp97yy

Sunday 12

Mother’s Day Pops Concert. The Lake County Symphony presents “A Salute to the Golden Age of American Pop Music.” $25–$30. 11 a.m. Open Rehersal: $5. Ages 18 & younger: Free. Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. Tickets: tinyurl. com/3bbpzn3t

Blue Wing’s Mother’s Day Supper. Featuring live music by Jules & the Family Jules. 6–8 p.m. Blue Wing Restaurant. 9520 Main St., Upper Lake. tallmanhotel.com/events. Mother’s Day at the Mercantile. Enjoy a glass of wine while listening to live music by Austin & Owens, a neo-flamenco duo. 1–3 p.m. Shannon Family of Wine Mercantle. 4350

Thomas Dr., Kelseyville. tinyurl. com/2mex9k8c

Monday 13

FREE Mental Health Matters Day for the Whole Family. Kids’ activities, raffles, resources, games, & much more. Hosted by the Lake County Behavioral Health Services. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Austin Park. 14077 Lakeshore Dr., Clearlake. tinyurl.com/4vevp6wx

Wednesday 15

FREE Walk Through the Grades Tour. Take peek into Waldorf classrooms. Check out the campus & working biodynamic farm. Adults only. 9 a.m–11 a.m. Summerfield Waldorf School & Farm. 655 Willowside Rd., Santa Rosa. Register: summerfieldwaldorf.org.

City of Clearlake Recreation

SATURDAY MAY 11

6PM–8PM

CLEARLAKE YOUTH CENTER

4750 GOLF AVENUE, CLEARLAKE

Bring Your family & friends for a fun-filled evening of games, music, & exciting prizes. Food & beverages (non-alcoholic) available for purchase.

A book of tickets is $50

All proceeds go directly to Youth & Community programs at the Youth Center

FIRE AND EARTHQUAKE SAFETY EXPO 2024

Sunday, May 19th, 10am to 3pm Cloverdale Citrus Fairgrounds

• First Responders

• Helicopters

• Free Giveaways

• Firewise Demos

• Live Simulations

• 75 Exhibits

• Kid’s Races

• English & Spanish

Thursday 16

FREE I.D.E.A.Monthly Parent Group. I.E.P. training, community support with other parents, & guest speakers. Snacks provided. Led by Annie Bone, RCRC’s I.D.E.A. Specialist, 707-445-0893, ext. 360. Held the third Thursday of the month. 6–7 p.m. RCRC Lakeport Office. 180 3rd St., Lakeport. tinyurl. com/53cprm58

Friday 17

Lake County’s Talent Showcase Competition Final Gala. Local performers vie for the title of Best in Lake County. Diverse talents from singers to magicians. Top 3 finalists will be chosen. Appropriate for all ages. $30. 7 p.m. Soper Reese Theatre.

275 S Main St., Lakeport. Reserved seating: tinyurl.com/2ct8m2hk. Vote at tinyurl.com/zm4as34n.

Annual Catfish Derby. Tournament features separate divisions for adults & kids. Food, entertainment, & more than $10,000 in cash & merchandise prizes. Adults $50. Kids: $10. Fishing starts May 17 at Noon & ends on May 19 at Noon. All profits donated back to community. Derby headquarters. Clearlake Oaks Fire Station, 12655 E. Hwy. 20. clearlakeoaks.org/derby.

Pinot Fest Fun. Enjoy all things pinot this special weekend in Anderson Valley. Relax in the beautiful historic orchard. Walk-ins welcome; reservations recommended. $20. Non-alcoholic apple cider also available. May 17–19. 11 a.m.–5 p.m.

See the Seabirds

Join Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens’ Horticulturist Paul Ruiz-Lopez for monthly guided tours through the horticultural and natural areas of the gardens. The main focus of the walk will vary from month to month, with May’s focus being North Coast Seabirds. You will also keep an eye out for plants and animals such as birds, marine mammals, insects, amphibians, and more. The idea is to highlight the prominent “phenomenon” occurring in the garden and natural areas each month. Bring your own binoculars, windbreaker, journal and pencil. Walks are free with regular Gardens admission or completely free with memberships. Saturday, May 25. 10 a.m. (arrive early, space is limited). Tours leave from the entry place at MCBG. 18220 N. Hwy. 1, Fort Bragg. Learn more at gardenbythesea.org

Gowans Apple Orchards. 6320 Hwy. 128, Philo. (1/4 mile north of Gowans Apple Stand). gowansheirloomcider. com/event

Saturday 18

FREE Ukiah Community Yard Sale. Vendor: $35/space. 8 a.m.–2 p.m. Todd Grove Park. 600 Live Oak Ave., Ukiah. cityofukiah.com/communityyardsale.

FREE Lake County Outdoor

Passion Play. Men, women, & children from many denominations come together each year to participate. Bring your own chair. No smoking, food, drinks, or pets are allowed. Donations accepted. May 14 & 15. 4–6 p.m. 7010 Westlake Rd., Upper Lake (off Hwy. 29). lakecountypassionplay.org.

FREE Buckingham Test & Tune

Vintage Boat & Classic Car Show. May 18-19: 10 a.m.–3 p.m.

Buckingham Golf & Country Club. 2855 Westlake Dr., Kelseyville. tinyurl. com/5cckcfrz.

First Aid & CPR Training in Spanish. Capacitación en primeros auxilios y RCP en español. $95–$125.

9 a.m.–4:30 p.m. Alex Rorabuagh Recreation Center. 1640 S. State St., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/4995vjmr.

Shanél Valley Academy 1st Annual Spring Gala. Drinks, dinner, & auction. $75. Proceeds to purchase a new playground. Purchase tickets: Kathi or Julie at 707-744-1485. 6–10 p.m. Brutocao School House Plaza. 133500 Hwy. 101, Hopland. facebook. com/shanelvalleyacademy

Sunday 19

FREE Fire & Earthquake Safety Expo. Emergency demonstrations

including Earthquake Disaster Simulation, exhibitor booths, kids activities, & food vendors. Education both in English & Spanish. Free giveaways while supplies last. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Cloverdale Citrus Fair. 1 Citrus Fair Dr., Cloverdale. fireandearthquakeexpo.org

Hopland Research & Extension

Open House & Fundraiser. Celebrate science & nature, tour museum, explore behind the scenes of research projects, learn about sheep & cattle, talk to HREC scientists, lunch, & live auction. $80. Ages 16 & under: $25. Deadline May 12 to purchase tickets, space is limited. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Hopland Research & Extension. 4070 University Rd., Hopland. Tickets: hrec. ucanr.edu.

Wednesday 22

FREE Blooming Kindess: “Living in Harmony” hour of storytellings & arts. Hosted by Ukiah Library & Instilling Goodness Developing Virtue School. 10:30 a.m. Ukiah Library. 105 N. Main St., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/52cwyasy.

Friday 24

Annual Potter Valley Rodeo. Parade, rodeo, performances, competition, food, local artisan crafts & more. $15. Ages 10 & under: Free. May 24: Parade, 11 a.m. May 25: Children’s Animal Scramble, 1 p.m. Runs thru May 27. Potter Valley Park. 10747 Main Street, Potter Valley. Complete schedule at: pottervalleyrodeo.com.

Lake County’s Lip Sync, Music That Moves. A lively & entertaining showcase as iconic songs are performed by the audience. Appropriate for all ages. $25. May

24–25: 7 p.m. May 26: 2 p.m. Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. Reserved seating: tinyurl. com/2yp6taep

FREE Memorial Weekend Vendor Fair & Movie in the Park. Vendor fair/market. At dusk, free movie screening of Top Gun. Fair opens: 4 p.m. Movie begins: 8:45 p.m. Clearlake Recreation & Events. 14077 Lakeshore Dr., Clearlake. tinyurl. com/5t4sw62s

Saturday 25

FREE Memorial Day Craft Fair. Local artisan crafts, vendor, & food booths. Hosted by Lakeport Rotary Club. 8 a.m.–2 p.m. New location: Xabatin Park. 800 N. Main St., Lakeport. lakeportrotary.org/ memorial-day-craft-fair

FREE Memorial Day Parade. 11 a.m. Main Street, Lakeport. tinyurl. com/2p8na485.

Sunday 26

FREE Lower Lake Daze Parade & Street Fair. Live music, vendors, food/drinks for purchase. Parade starts: 11 a.m. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Main Street, Lower Lake. tinyurl.com/ zvea3kxw

Thursday 30

The Little Mermaid. Presented by Mendocino Ballet, Trudy McCreanor, Artistic Director. $10. Reserve seats: Call 707-463-2290 or email office@ mendocinoballet.org. May 30–31, two seatings: 9:30 a.m. or 10:45 a.m. Mendocino College Center Theatre. 1000 Hensley Creek Rd., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/36wk966h.

Twin Wins Mom of Multiples Shares Perks

By Cheryl Maguire

Admitting I am a mom to twins usually elicits a myriad questions:

Who was born first?

Are they identical?

Do twins run in your family?

How do you manage?

I had no idea how fascinated people are by twins until I became a mom of twins. And people are even more intrigued by twin babies. Maybe it’s because they can’t comprehend how to take care of two babies at once.

Whatever the case, when mine were newborns, I couldn’t even go to the grocery store without strangers approaching me to get a closer look at the twins. They would peer inside the double stroller and then start rattling off a list of questions. Sometimes I felt like I was warding off the paparazzi and would try to run toward the nearest exit.

I don’t have to worry about what I look like, everyone is too busy staring at the adorable twins.

Now that my twins are older, no one even knows they are twins since they are a boy and girl and don’t look alike. Although that doesn’t stop people from asking, “Are they identical?” when they find out they are twins— who don’t even look alike. My son and daughter also don’t acknowledge each other in school, so some people don’t even know they are siblings.

I wrote this top 10 list when they were babies—for me it was a more challenging time to be a parent than now. I still feel this way, but some of the statements are more relevant to when they were little (they are now 14 years old). I would also

add to the list they can help each other with their homework since I definitely don’t remember eighth grade math equations or other similar school-related things!

Top Ten Reasons Why I Love Being a Mom of Twins

10. Only one pregnancy, for two babies—talk about a two-for-one deal!

9. I don’t have to worry about what I look like, everyone is too busy staring at the adorable twins.

8. Needless to say, no one expects me to arrive on time.

7. After having twins, I feel like I can handle anything … twice!

6. I only need to plan and pay for one birthday party for two kids.

5. After potty training twins, my fear of germs is officially a thing of the past.

4. They have been sharing since they were in the womb—no teaching necessary (OK, this might be a stretch but, in theory, it helps).

3. Twin discounts (Who knew companies sometimes offer “duplicate birth discounts?” From formula to photography, it pays to research twin deals!)

2. Everyone opens the door for us.

And the No. 1 reason I love being a mom of twins is …

1. Daily affirmations from strangers that my hands are, indeed, full! Happy Mother’s Day to moms of multiples and singles, too!

Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. You can find her on X @ CherylMaguire05.