Methodist Message: May 2025

MCI (P) 008/11/2024

Vol 127 No 5 MAY 2025

CONTENTS

/ Bishop’s Message /

Editorial Board Adviser and Publisher Dr Anthony Goh Chairperson, Council on Communications

/ News / 3 New chapter of care:

Communications Manager

MWS dedicates latest nursing home

Lynn Tan

Managing Editor Alvin Tay

/ Features / 4 Sharing life, health and peace through Jesus—Behind the scenes

Editor

with "You & Your Family" columnist Benny Bong

Lianne Ong

6 Rehabilitation doctor wakes up from a coma

Communications Executive

after nearly 5 years

Kathrynn Koh

9 Intentional love: Strengthening the heartbeat

Sub-editors

of Christian community

Lucy Cheng Janice Khoo Tan Chiu Ai Elliot Soh

/ Opinion / 12 Soundings: The foundational role of the family in society

Proofreaders

14 THINK: A quick guide to Christian denominations

Kenneth Lee Christabel Tan

/ Outreach / 18 He was just 17 when MWS helped him

—now he sits on its Board 22 Singapore Mission School Kindergarten

officially opens at new premises in Laos

/ Relationships /

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All Scripture quoted is based on the English Standard Version Anglicised (ESVUK) unless otherwise stated.

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Bishop's Message

The family unit as the cornerstone and bedrock of society Bishop Philip Lim was elected Bishop of The Methodist Church in Singapore in 2024. Previously, he served as a missionary in Cambodia under the Methodist Missions Society (MMS), and as Executive Director of MMS from 2012 to 2018.

I

n recent years, it seems that the institution

All of us, whether by blood or bond, have

of marriage and the concept of family have

some sort of family, and because mankind

come under great pressure and scrutiny. In

is fallen, the state of family reflects that

actual fact, it has been under attack since the

brokenness and fallenness. The time to

beginning of time. When we look at the first

stand in the gap and intercede for families

family (Adam, Eve, Cain and Abel), we see so

is always now. It can be argued that, more

much dysfunction and brokenness.

so than any other social issue, the issue and strength of families is transcendent. It

If we look at the state of family today in

affects any and all. The Church must face

Singapore, what do we see? We may see the

the reality that the family has been, and will

positive outcomes of strong families, but more

continue to be, under attack.

likely, most will see vicious cycles of pain and estrangement, misunderstanding and more.

When we look at God's response to Cain's act of murder (Genesis 4:15), we see a just

Even after Section 377A of the penal code was

God meting out punishment for sin, but we

repealed to decriminalise gay sex in November

also see his mercy when he marked Cain

2022, the Singapore government has

to protect him from being killed by others,

repeatedly affirmed their stance on supporting

thereby allowing him the chance at a new

"the family unit, the cornerstone and bedrock

life in a different place.

of Singapore society".1 Fortunately, more than two years after the repeal, marriage in

We need to continue to pray for the

Singapore is still recognised to be between

covering of the blood of the lamb and God's

one man and one woman. This stance aligns

mercy for families in Singapore. As with God

with the belief that children are, ideally,

and Cain, while we see the consequences of

a fruit of marriage and that they can grow

sin in the cycles of pain in our families, we

best within the protection and stability that

can extend grace and mercy, and cling on

marriage gives.

to the hope of healing and reconciliation.

Yeo, M. (2024, May 25). Government policies will continue to strengthen role of families: PM Wong. The Straits Times. https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/government-policies-will-continue-to-strengthenrole-of-families-pm-wong

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May 2025 Methodist Message 1

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News

By the Methodist Welfare Services Communications Team. / Photos courtesy of Methodist Welfare Services

New chapter of care:

MWS dedicates latest nursing home

community to (enrich) lives—a movement grounded in

Meet the first resident of MWS Nursing Home – Eunos

compassion for those around us, especially those in need, and

From gloomy to glowing—

grounded in dignity, because these are souls precious before God,"

that's how Mdm Koh Ah Hua

said Eugene Toh, Chairperson of the MWS Board of Governance.

(bottom right), 64, described the

(above left) MWS Nursing Home – Eunos

"This is an extension of a movement within the Methodist

(above right) Bishop Philip Lim with key MWS leaders at the dedication of MWS Nursing Home – Eunos

transformation of her 86-yearHe was speaking at the Dedication Service of MWS Nursing Home –

old mother, Mdm Yap Eng Hway

Eunos (ENH) on 8 April 2025, attended by about 70 representatives

(bottom left), the first resident

from the Board of Governance and Centre Governance Committee,

admitted to MWS' third Nursing

members of the Methodist community and MWS staff.

Home on 10 March 2025.

Key leaders from the Methodist community came together to

For years, Mdm Yap was cared

dedicate the Nursing Home, its residents and their families, as well as staff and volunteers, to the Lord.

"At the heart of our mission is the deep Methodist ethos of caring for those in need. We are reminded of Jesus' teachings to love our neighbour—and we live this out in service to others," said MWS CEO Calvin Ngo in his opening address.

Located alongside MWS Senior Care Centre and SingHealth Polyclinic, the 171-bed MWS ENH is part of an integrated care ecosystem—offering seamless access to primary healthcare, rehabilitation, and palliative care in one place.

As MWS' third Nursing Home, ENH marks a major milestone in our commitment to holistic, 24/7 residential care and customised rehabilitation for seniors—made possible by the generosity of Wesley

for by her three children on a rotational basis. But as dementia worsened her long-standing behavioural issues, the strain became too much. Balancing caregiving with work and family left Mdm Koh and her siblings physically and emotionally exhausted. "I lost nearly 5kg from the stress," Mdm Koh shared.

Since her mother's admission, the change has been profound.

"She's like a different person now— pleasant, cheerful, and socially engaged," said Mdm Koh. "She even looks prettier!"

Methodist Church (WMC), MWS ENH's founding church partner.

Bishop Philip Lim, MWS Patron, delivered the Scripture message and led the Dedication prayer, joined by Rev Reuben Ng (TRAC), Rev S Kumar (ETAC) and Rev Raymond Fong (WMC).

We commit MWS, ENH and future nursing homes to God's hands.

To him be the glory!

May 2025 Methodist Message 3

Janice Khoo serves in the Choir and Media & Comms Ministry at Kampong Kapor Methodist Church. / Photos courtesy of Benny Bong

Feature

Sharing life, health and peace through Jesus Behind the scenes with "You & Your Family" columnist Benny Bong

(far left) Benny has more than 40 years of experience in counselling and therapy (left) As a trainer, Benny conducts regular talks and webinars

I

magine having to submit an essay to

The column was named "You & Your Family"

your school principal every month, the

by Mr Lau. One article led to another and

said principal having a reputation for

19 years later, Benny has written over 200

sternness and being a stickler for the

articles for the column.

proper use of the English language. This is what family and marital therapist Benny

Selected articles from Benny's monthly

Bong agreed to when Mr Earnest Lau, who

contributions have been compiled into a

was his principal at Anglo-Chinese School,

book, Restoration: Rebuilding Four Areas

asked him to write a regular column for

of My Life. It is distributed at no cost with

Methodist Message (MM).

MM's May issue. (If you are holding a print edition of MM, chances are you would

"He was on the editorial committee and I

have received a physical book. The book

could not say 'No' to my principal," recalls

is also available as an e-book online and is

Benny, 68. The late Mr Lau served as Associate

free to download).

Editor from February 1998 to March 2011 and was a member of

"I have always had an interest in the

Kampong Kapor

human condition," says Benny, when

Methodist Church.

asked what had led him to become a therapist. "I did not know what I

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"I was prepared for

wanted to study in university. By divine

honest feedback

providence, I was admitted to the Faculty

when I submitted

of Arts and Social Sciences at the National

the first draft. Mr

University of Singapore. After graduation,

Lau said it was okay

I was exposed to counselling work at the

and it was with relief

SAF Counselling Centre. I liked it and

that I continued to

later had the opportunity to study at The

write the column,"

Counselling and Care Centre under the

Benny said.

late Anthony Yeo."

Mr Yeo, also known as the "father of

develop skills to stand on their own feet. He

counselling" in Singapore, was the first

observes that, while people turn to counsellors

Asian director of The Counselling and Care

more now than in the past, there is still the

Centre, a joint initiative of Wesley Methodist

stigma of having to acknowledge that one has

Church and St Andrew's Cathedral.

failed and needs help. Benny says, "Counselling should not be the last resort, but it should not

Born to Christian parents, Benny attended

be the first, either." Expanding on this in the

Kampong Kapor Methodist Church from

context of Christians, he says, "I feel we need

the age of two.

to teach people to be more resilient, to have a good relationship with God and learn to

Benny sees clients of varying backgrounds

depend on him."

and faiths but his objective to bring about reconciliation between parties and

Benny is cognisant that his "You & Your

within individuals remains unchanged.

Family" articles may be read by both

He explains, "If my clients are Christians, I

Christians and non-Christians. He says, "As a

bring them back to what the Bible says. If

Christian asked to help people, I know that

they are not Christian, I don't mention the

sometimes the simple direction of 'What

Bible, but the underlying values still apply.

would Jesus do?' doesn't go down so well. In

My Christian values are personal to me, not

my column, I tend to talk about my clients'

my client. As a counsellor, I'm there to help

struggles so that the readers can see how

people, not to convert them."

they can be true to their faith amid what they are facing."

And help them he does, by working alongside his clients as they grapple with issues. For

He applies the same philosophy for MM's

clients who know God, Benny's work is not

"At The Well" column where he also serves

unlike that of a pastor in that he turns them

on a panel of counsellors who respond to

towards how God wants them to lead their

relationship questions.

lives. Lengthy conversations often ensue, and he acknowledges a common struggle: "We

Faced with the issues and pain his clients

know the law but how do we live it out? It's

share with him, Benny recognises the

often less about ignorance and more about

need for authenticity in his role as a

making hard choices."

counsellor. He elaborates, "It is important that my readers know that I am human,

Work as a counsellor can mean being

and I may struggle with some of the issues

exposed to the suffering of others when

they struggle with too." His readers will

the pain is conveyed by the client. In

know that Benny shares candidly from his

other words, the counsellor experiences

own personal and family experiences. "I

secondary trauma. When that happens,

am careful with issues of privacy when I

Benny's faith supports him and he is

write about some client experiences. But

reminded to turn to God because God

my wife is supportive of me sharing from

knows the person's pain more than he, the

our personal life and I do tell her before it

counsellor, can. Benny says, "I surrender my

goes to print."

clients to God's care. I do my best and often end the session by praying and committing

Grinning, he adds, "Sometimes."

that person to God. I pray the same prayer for the Christian and non-Christian because God knows and loves them."

More information on Restoration: Rebuilding Four Areas of My Life is found on the back

Having been in practice for more than 40

cover of this issue. The "You & Your Family"

years, Benny maintains that a counsellor aims

column is paused this month to give Mr Bong

to work himself out of a job by helping clients

a well-deserved break.

May 2025 Methodist Message 5

Feature

Janice Khoo serves in the Choir and Media & Comms Ministry at Kampong Kapor Methodist Church. / Photos courtesy of Preima Doraisamy

Dr Preima Doraisamy shares her story of God's miraculous healing from a coma with Methodist Message.

P

reima Doraisamy was born in 1946 to

she initially sought to leave.

a family of faithful believers spanning

generations. Her father, Theodore Royapan

But God had other plans for her. In her

Doraisamy, was Bishop of The Methodist

autobiography, Before and Beyond Coma:

Church in Malaysia and Singapore from 1973

Memoirs of a Victim, she writes, "I had

to 1976. Hers was a close-knit household

changed my mind. I had started to love

where the family sang hymns and prayed

rehabilitation medicine …" 1

together nightly, with her mother doing daily devotions with the children in the taxi

Subsequently, Dr Doraisamy embarked on

ride to school. Young Preima attended Tamil

specialist training in rehabilitation centres

Methodist Church at Short Street, where her

in England and Scotland, becoming the

father was the pastor.

third person and first woman in Singapore to specialise in this area of medicine. She

Following her primary and secondary school

says, "I considered myself an expert in brain

education at Methodist Girls' School, Dr

injury because there was no one else here at

Doraisamy attended pre-university at Anglo-

that time who was interested." Among her

Chinese School where she enrolled in the

accomplishments was developing the Coma

Medicine Class. She went on to Christian

Arousal Programme to expose patients to

Medical College (CMC) in Vellore, India to train

stimuli to trigger their senses of touch,

to become a doctor. On her return to Singapore,

smell, taste and vision, with the intention

Dr Doraisamy was posted to the Rehabilitation

of aiding brain recovery. All this became

Unit at Tan Tock Seng Hospital, a job which she

significant years later when she herself

approached with much reluctance and which

suffered injury to the brain.

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(above left) Bible stories with Dr Doraisamy's parents: (from left) Padhma, Preima, Mrs Doraisamy, Heima, Rabi and TR Doraisamy (above right) Dr Doraisamy in Oxford, 1989

Going under the knife for a brain tumour

The lost years

Things changed in 2014 when Dr Doraisamy

These were the years that I lost. I have no

was found to have a vestibular schwannoma,

memory of them except what I have been told

or in layman's terms, a brain tumour. She

in 2021 and 2022." 3

"From February 2016 to December 2020 …

underwent gamma knife radiosurgery for the tumour. Before undergoing radiosurgery

Dr Doraisamy was told that she had

for the brain tumour in 2014, she prepared

fluctuated from Coma I to Coma III; in other

her will, Lasting Power of Attorney and an

words, she was mostly unresponsive and

Advanced Medical Directive with a "Do Not

would respond only at times. "I recognised

Resuscitate" order.

visitors at times and was completely unaware at other times. I had a blank look on my face

When the tumour recurred, she had to

and my voice was like a child at times … I was

undergo open surgery to excise it in 2016.

totally dependent on my carers for mobility

Unfortunately, it led to complications

and all activities of daily living."4

including meningitis and seizures. Her medical reports described her as being

Those years were spent in hospitals and then

"left with permanent disability due to brain

a nursing home before Dr Doraisamy was

stem stroke". 2

able to return home.

As result of the brain injury, Dr Doraisamy's

Assessing her condition through a doctor's

physical and cognitive functions were

eyes and based on medical reports and family

impaired. Her movements were weak and

members' observations, she says, "Coma IV

uncoordinated, and she became forgetful

is when you are completely unaware. Coma

and confused. Surrounded by a supportive

III is when you respond to pain. Beyond that,

network of family and friends who lovingly

you are only minimally conscious. I made my

cared for, encouraged and prayed with and

own diagnosis that I was actually fluctuating

for her, Dr Doraisamy spent almost five years

between all the stages. My friends and family

in the daze of a coma. She herself became in

say I used to talk to them and tell them

need of the Coma Arousal Programme that

things during those coma years but I cannot

she developed years earlier.

remember any of it."

Dr Doraisamy (first on left) with visitors in 2019, just before the pandemic

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Rehabilitation doctor wakes up from a coma after nearly 5 years

While in a coma, Dr Doraisamy came close to

regained by looking through old photographs

returning to the Lord as several medical close

and written records as well as having many

calls had her family prepared for the worst.

conversations with family and friends. Much like the young woman she describes in her

"I cannot explain it scientifically"

autobiography, she is still lively, quick-witted

During the Covid-19 pandemic in 2020,

and gifted with a ready smile. Food is still

Dr Doraisamy's condition deteriorated.

something she enjoys, albeit with concessions

Restrictions to hospital admissions because

made to her age rather than her medical

of the pandemic meant that she could not

history. She jokes, "I don't know where my

go to National University Hospital (NUH)

disability ends and old age starts." She goes to

where she usually went. She ended up at

the gym regularly and visits malls to window

Changi General Hospital (CGH). There, she

shop with the help of her personal mobility

came under the care of Dr Chris Lien, a friend

device. "I'm planning to travel to Vellore for

and former colleague.

my CMC reunion, God willing," she says, as she continues to stay connected with friends and

Dr Lien took Dr Doraisamy off many of the

family in Singapore and around the world.

medicines that she had been prescribed so that he could focus on treating the blood

Returning to the question of God's purpose

infection she was suffering from. She explains,

for healing her, Dr Doraisamy, who currently

"He decided not to put me back on the

joins online services at Barker Road Methodist

medicine for treating seizures. It was a risk

Church, says, "My friend says my purpose is

that he took. That was divine intervention. I

to give my testimony, to tell people about the

never had an epileptic fit after that. Instead, I

miracle God did in my life."

awoke from my coma."

And sharing her story of God's miraculous Dr Doraisamy says, "Somehow, I was sent to

healing is just what Dr Preima Doraisamy

CGH and Chris decided to take on my case.

now does.

That, I feel, is where the miracle happened."

Speaking as a doctor, Dr Doraisamy says, "I cannot explain it scientifically. It must be something greater. It can only be a miracle.

I have treated a lot of patients in my career and I have never seen patients recover to this extent." She continues, "I don't know why God gave me that miracle and let me recover. Pastors I have spoken to say there would be a reason, but the fact remains that this was an answered prayer, and it is testimony of God's power to heal. I am very

Dr Doraisamy challenged herself to write her memoirs in order to aid her rehabilitation process

grateful and in awe that it happened."

Having awoken from her coma, Dr Doraisamy diligently applied herself to the myriad exercises needed for rehabilitation. As a rehabilitation physician, she knew very well what she needed to do to aid her recovery.

At 78, Dr Doraisamy has now recovered much of her memory, which she painstakingly

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1 Dr Preima Doraisamy, Before and Beyond Coma: Memoirs of a Victim, Singapore: Preima Doraisamy, 2024, 60.

2 ibid., 106.

3 ibid., 104.

4 ibid., 144.

Feature

Dr Morgan Zhou is the Chairperson of TRAC Board of Children's Ministry and core team member of the Methodist Fathers Movement.

He is also Vice-Principal of ACS (Academy) and worships at Fairfield Methodist Church.

Intentional love:

Strengthening the heartbeat of Christian community In a world that celebrates the loudest voices and those with stellar achievements, it is easy, even within families, to overlook the quieter roles or unseen efforts that hold everything together. The apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 12 on the other hand, reminds us that every member of the body is indispensable, no matter how visible or hidden our contributions may be.

P

aul likens the Church to a human body

stubbed! And yet, toes are vital for balance

that is diverse in its parts yet unified in

and mobility. There is even an annual

purpose. Each part—the eye, hand or foot—is

World Toe Wrestling Championship held in

different but each one is essential. "The eye

England, giving honour to this overlooked

cannot say to the hand, 'I don't need you!'

part of the body in a rather humorous

And the head cannot say to the feet, 'I don't

way. But humour aside, Paul's point is

need you!'" (1 Corinthians 12:21 NIV). This is

noteworthy that even the "weaker" parts

a message that everyone in our homes and

are necessary.

church families needs to hear again and again: no one is too small, too young, too old,

This principle has powerful implications

too quiet or too weak to matter.

for our homes. We might applaud the breadwinner, the decision-maker or the one

Take the humble toe, for instance. We rarely

in charge of household affairs. But what

think about our toes until one of them gets

about the child who encourages a sibling?

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Intentional love: Strengthening the heartbeat of Christian community

The parent who does laundry late at night?

It was a trying season emotionally, physically

The grandparent who prays daily over the

and spiritually. But amid fear and uncertainty,

family? These hidden acts of love are the

we experienced what it meant to be part of a

very heartbeat of Christian community

larger body. God ministered to us through our

within the home.

family and community: Fairfield Methodist Church leaders, cell group members, friends,

To further illustrate this truth, consider

relatives and even acquaintances we had

the story of Dr Paul Brand, a medical

not connected with for years. They cooked

missionary who served in India. He noticed

meals, watched over our boys, and shared

something fascinating about the way

songs, verses and hand-drawn cards. They

families cared for patients in hospital.

prayed, visited and supported us in countless

Often, loved ones would bring hot meals,

ways and gave us space when we needed

sleep on the floor beside the patient's bed

it by interceding in the background. This

and massage their limbs through the night

outpouring of love and solidarity sustained

when pain flared up. Initially, Dr Brand

our family through the storm.

found these practices unsanitary and disruptive. But over time, he saw something

Our then Pastor-in-Charge, Rev Wendy Tay,

remarkable and realised that patients who

who was going through her own health

received this tender, loving care needed

challenges, regularly checked in and prayed

less pain medication and recovered more

with Angela, and ministered to her through

quickly and fully. These family members

a meaningful time of prayer before the

were not trained doctors but their love and

second surgery. Our cell group organised

presence brought healing in ways medicine

prayer vigils during Angela's hospitalisation,

could not. These acts of love are not

surgery and subsequent chemotherapy

unlike the spiritual support that forms the

sessions. They even processed the situation

heartbeat of Christian community where

with our sons and gave them opportunities

members can experience "healing through

to express their emotions by checking

presence, not just prescription".

in periodically on how they were coping.

Amazingly, our boys ministered to us in

This is the essence of Paul's teaching in

quiet, powerful ways too. We praise God for

verse 26: "If one part suffers, every part

how they have matured!

suffers with it; if one part is honoured, every part rejoices with it." The body of

Angela, usually strong and independent,

Christ works as God intended when it

learnt to receive care and support.

feels, responds in love and supports one

She later shared that it was through

another as one.

these "angels" —in texts, prayers and presence—that she experienced God's

Our own family experienced this truth

love and reassurance, especially during

over the past year and a half when

moments when everything felt silent and

my wife Angela faced a serious health

she felt alone.

challenge. What began as abdominal cramps escalated into emergency

In all of this, I am reminded that every person

surgery. Doctors discovered not just a

in our homes and communities plays a vital

ruptured appendix but also cancerous

role in the body of Christ. As we intentionally

cells within it. In a matter of days, Angela

love, support and honour one another daily,

had to undergo a second surgery to

may we reflect God's love and strengthen the

remove part of her large intestine.

heartbeat of Christian community.

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Soundings

Dr Roland Chia is Chew Hock Hin Professor of Christian Doctrine at Trinity Theological College and Theological and Research Advisor at the Ethos Institute for Public Christianity.

The foundational role of the family in society

I

n a speech delivered at the launch of

Because marriage and family are instituted

National Family Week at Suntec Convention

by God, they bear certain normative features

Centre on 4 June 2022, then-Prime Minister

which cannot be subject to revision or

of Singapore, Lee Hsien Loong, articulated

adaptation in response to the changing whims

the Singapore government's unwavering

of culture. Following the Bible, the Church

commitment to support the family in these

teaches that marriage is between a man and a

memorable words:

woman, and that children are a gift from God as the result of the conjugal union.

Strong families are the bedrock of our society. They are crucial to develop

The family is the fundamental and primary

resilient individuals. Our families mould

environs where moral and spiritual

our character and values. They shape our

formation takes place, the school of

personality and beliefs. They anchor our

humanity, as some writers have put it.

sense of belonging in our society.1

Parents are the spiritual shepherds of their children, nurturing and guiding them in

These words express truths about the

such a way that they imbibe values such as

importance of the family that can be

love, kindness and respect for others.

described as universal, transcending time and culture. They convey the very kernel of the

Most importantly, Christian parents are to

Christian understanding of the family and its

teach their children the commandments

importance for the well-being of society.

of God as found in his written word, the Scriptures. This is articulated clearly in

The Christian faith has a high view of marriage

Deuteronomy: "And these words that I

and family because of the belief that they

command you today shall be on your heart.

are the institutions ordained by God, and not

You shall teach them diligently to your

merely a social construct as it is sometimes

children" (Deuteronomy 6:6-7).

perceived by contemporary society. The origins of marriage and family can be traced

The family also plays a formative role in

to the very first book of the Bible which tells

that it is in this context that children learn

the story of God uniting Adam and Eve in

the importance of practices such as prayer,

marriage and giving them the mandate to "be

Scripture reading and worship. That is why

fruitful and multiply" (Genesis 1:26-30).

theologians such as John Chrysostom in the

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fourth century have described the Christian

Alternative marriage and family structures

household as a "little church".

such as same-sex civil unions and marriages, same-sex parenting and transgender

The family is where children first learn to relate

marriages and families, which are being

to others with the love and respect that they

mainstreamed in the West, have also

themselves have received. In other words, the

challenged the traditional norms of marriage

family serves as the child's first community—a

and family. Not only do they signal a radical

nurturing environment where they are

departure from Christian teaching concerning

introduced to the principles of justice, mutual

these institutions, they are also a perversion.

respect and the common good.

Church, society and the state have the Families therefore contribute—however

responsibility to address these seismic shifts

imperfectly—to the stability and flourishing

in sensibilities that threaten to relegate

of society. They do so by nurturing and

marriage and family as they are traditionally

preparing their youngest members to

understood to obsolescence.

be socially responsible individuals in the larger community as well as engaged and

The Church can do this by faithfully upholding

active citizens.

the biblical teachings about sexuality, marriage

Church, society and the state have the responsibility to address these seismic shifts in sensibilities that threaten to relegate marriage and family as they are traditionally understood to obsolescence.

The foundational role of the family in society is

and the family and resist the pressure to

eloquently articulated in the Catechism of the

conform. Societal institutions can also

Catholic Church:

contribute by reinforcing the value of traditional marriage and family through

The family is the original cell of social life. It

education and awareness. And the state

is the natural society in which husband and

can protect the traditional family by

wife are called to give themselves in love

introducing more pro-family policies and

and in the gift of life. Authority, stability,

by not acquiescing to the pressure to enact

and a life of relationships within the family

laws which make it easier for couples to

constitute the foundations for freedom,

terminate their marriage or legalise same-

security, and fraternity within society. 2

sex union or marriage.

However, there are powerful developments in

The three institutions—Church, society and

our time—some subtle while others not so—

the state—can work collaboratively to foster

that are slowly eating away at the fabric of the

a culture where traditional marriage and

traditional family like acid. Writers as diverse

family are valued and supported for the

as the American sociologist Charles Murray

common good.

and the late Pope John Paul II have sounded the alarm that the traditional family has come "under assault" and is being undermined by social and cultural forces.

In the West, rabid individualism and the sexual revolution which erupted in the 1960s and which resulted in significant shifts in sexual mores are the chief sources of opposition to the traditional family.

"Transcript of speech by PM Lee Hsien Loong at the launch of National Family Week at Suntec Convention Hall 403 and 404 on 4 June 2022," Prime Minister's Office Singapore, accessed Feb 3, 2025, https://www.pmo.gov.sg/ Newsroom/PM-Lee-at-the-Launch-of-NationalFamily-Week-2022.

1

Catechism of the Catholic Church (1992), para 2207, https://www.vatican.va/content/catechism/ en/part_three/section_two/chapter_two/ article_4/ii_the_family_and_society.html 2

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Rev Dr Andrew Peh is a lecturer in mission and world religions at Trinity Theological College (TTC). He is an alumnus of TTC as well as Asbury Theological Seminary in Wilmore, Kentucky, USA. He is ordained as a diaconal minister in the Chinese Annual Conference of The Methodist Church in Singapore and is attached to Bukit Panjang Methodist Church. His research interests are in colonial missions history of Southeast Asia (particularly Singapore) and the missions history of East Asia (particularly Japanese Christianity).

THINK

A quick guide to

Christian denominations

I

t has often been said that there are too many

denominations and cults;2 where the former

denominations in Christianity, which is overly

is understood as a branch that may have

confusing for those without and perhaps also for

varying emphases and practices, yet are all

those within. It should be noted, however, that

aligned with the major tenets of doctrine

denominationalism is not unique to Christianity

of the faith, whilst the latter holds on to the

since it is an equally common phenomenon

view(s) of particular charismatic leaders that

evident in all the major world religions.

is (are) at variance and regarded as apostate (unorthodox or heterodox). In short, a Christian

The dictionary definition of the word renders

denomination is one that holds on to the major

denomination as "a particular religious group

tenets of the Christian faith, as articulated

which has slightly different beliefs from other

by such as the Nicene Creed or the Apostles'

groups within the same faith." It is perhaps

Creed, but exhibits a particular or unique

important to make a distinction between

emphases in polity and practices.

1

A simplified timeline of Christian denominations

Miaphysite Churches

(pejoratively labelled "Nestorian Churches")

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Great Schism

Roman Catholic Church Eastern Orthodox Church

Radical Reformation

Church of the East

Council of Chalcedon

AD 1054

Magisterial Reformation

Council of Ephesus

AD 451

The Reformation

AD 431

Major schisms

emerged in different geographical contexts

Historically there have been a few major

with quite differing foci, albeit as a response

schisms that have splintered the Church,

to the deterioration within the Roman

giving rise to various denominations. We are

Catholic Church. In response to pomp and

perhaps more familiar with the denominations

pageantry of Roman Catholic practices, the

such as Anglicanism, Lutheranism and

reformers' emphasis on the five "solas" 3—

Presbyterianism which arose as a result of the

sola Scriptura, sola gratia, sola fide, solus

Protestant Reformation, catalysed by Martin

Christus, and soli Deo gloria—became

Luther's posting of the ninety-five theses at

foundational for understanding the Gospel

the door of the castle church in Wittenburg

and particularly the doctrine of salvation.

in 1517. It should be noted that Luther's post was not intended to fracture the Roman

Church historians have classified the

Catholic Church but instead marked his desire

Reformation in two movements—the first

to bring attention to the ecclesial authorities

is the Magisterial Reformation, where

including the Pope, the need to return to the

"mainstream reformers worked closely with

Scriptures especially regarding the practice

the state and city officials (thus the term

of the sale of indulgences (a practice that was

"magisterial"), seeing the Reformation as

contrary to the counsel of the Scriptures).

involving both church and state."4 Alongside

Not unlike human institutions, the medieval

this, is what has been termed as Radical

Church had become increasingly bloated with

Reformation, where the protagonists of these

its own power and wealth. The moral laxity

movements felt that the magisterial reformers

of the clergy, the growing general apathy

were too restrained and had not gone far

towards the Scriptures, a stifling obduracy to

enough in bringing about a more thorough

traditionalism and a sense of impassivity to

reformation in returning the Christian faith

the work of the Holy Spirit sparked separate

to its biblical roots. They were referred

movements across Europe.

to as "Anabaptists" for their rejection of paedobaptism and emphasis on re-baptism.

Hence the Reformation should not be perceived as one monolithic movement, but

While we often locate the development of

instead multiple reform movements which

denominations primarily to the Protestant

1607 Congregationalists

Evangelical Free (1884), United Church of Christ (1957) and others

1534

Anglicans Anglican Communion (1534), Episcopal Church of America (1789) and others linked to the Anglican communion

1609 Baptists

Baptist Union (1813), Southern Baptist Convention (1845) and other Baptist denominations

1738 Methodists

UMC (1784/1964), Wesleyan (1843), Free Methodist (1860), Nazarene (1895) and other Wesleyan denominations

1901 Pentecostals

1517 Lutherans

Evangelical Lutheran (1818/1988), United Evangelical Lutheran Church of Germany (1948) and other Lutheran denominations

1525 Anabaptists

Mennonites (1537), Quakers (1570), Amish (1693), Brethren (1708) and others

1536 Reformed

Presbyterian Church of England (1876), Reformed Church in America (1792) and others associated with the Reformed Churches

ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH ●

Headed by the Roman Pontiff in Vatican EASTERN ORTHODOX CHURCH ● Includes various

Greek-speaking Orthodox Churches as well as national patriarchates of Bulgaria, Georgia, Serbia, Russia and Romania

MIAPHYSITE CHURCHES ● Various Oriental Orthodox Churches - Armenian, Coptic, Ethiopian and Syriac CHURCH OF THE EAST ● Assyrian Church of the East, linked with Mar Thoma Church of India and others May 2025 Methodist Message 15

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Reformation, there are perhaps three other

that oneness, however, does not negate

points in the history of the Church that

our uniqueness; and that unity is NOT

have resulted in splintering the Church. At

uniformity. Insofar as a church upholds the

the Council of Ephesus, 431 AD, more than

Word of God and the theological dogmas

theological discussions/debates, it was

articulated in the historic creeds, both of

political manoeuvrings that resulted in the

which helpfully guard against theological

"establishment" of the Church of the East,

excesses and errors, there is room for

an oft misrepresented and yet missional

diversity (including structural and cultural

Syriac-speaking ecclesial community that

variations), wherein Paul employed the

brought the Gospel to India as well as Tang

analogy of the body in highlighting that

China in the 7th century.5 A second break

"there are many members, but one body".

occurred when the debates on the nature

For Paul, the mark of Christian unity is

and person of Jesus Christ at the Council of

when the different parts of the body

Chalcedon resulted in what we refer to as

exhibit the "more excellent way"—that of

the non-Chalcedonian churches, that is, the

Christian love, in the passage of

Miaphysite Churches.6 The most (in)famous

1 Corinthians 13.

split is perhaps the division between the Latin-speaking churches in the West (of the

Practically, in our local context, this "more

Mediterranean, under the Pope) and the

excellent way" is demonstrably enacted in

Greek-speaking churches in the East (under

the way the four denominations (Anglicans,

the Patriarchs, notably the Patriarch of

Lutherans, Methodists and Presbyterians

Constantinople) over the filioque7 controversy

- the 4Ds) have collaborated especially in

as well as differences over papal/patriarchal

the Chinese churches. Another notable

primacy, polity and practices (such as the

example is the establishment of a union

dates of Easter and clerical celibacy)!8

college, Trinity Theological College, for the theological training of pastors

Let me explain this visually with a simplified

and church workers, not only for the

timeline (see page 14-15).

founding churches but also for the greater Christian community in Singapore. Such

United but unique

collaborations and cooperations exemplify

In John 17, Jesus prayed for his disciples,

the body analogy of Paul in 1 Corinthians

that they may be one. We understand

and put into action the prayer of Jesus—

oneness as being of "one hope, one

"that they may be one".

Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God" (Ephesians 4). And this is perhaps why denominations cause us to pause and question our oneness. We should note

Collins Dictionary - see https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/denomination It should be noted that the word "cult" in its original context does not necessarily have a negative connotation as it is used today. The Latin word "cultus" references the adoration and care given to the god(s); specifically, it is "to tend, to take care of", from which we derive the word "cultivate". The current usage tends towards a more negative connotation, one which highlights the doctrinal difference between what is understood as "mainline" and "orthodox" and that of the cult, which is regarded as heterodox.

3 See https://www.logos.com/grow/5-solas-reformation/ 4 Robert Solomon, The Reformation - the thoughts, lives and legacy of the Reformers, (Singapore: Armour, 2017), 31.

5 Samuel Moffett, A History of Christianity in Asia Vol 1, (Maryknoll, NY: Orbis Books, 1998) 2nd ed, 168-184 6 Mark Noll, David Komline, and Han-luen Kantzer Komline, Turning Points - Decisive Moments in the History of Christianity, (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2022) 4th ed, 46-64.

7 A seemingly small and extremely divisive addition to the Nicene-Constantinopolitan Creed, the Latin word filioque, which means "and from the Son," was included in the creed without consultation with the Greekspeaking churches in the East. This further fuelled the East-West power politics.

8 Mark Noll, David Komline, and Han-luen Kantzer Komline, Turning Points, 107-127.

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May 2025 Methodist Message 17

By the Methodist Welfare Services Communications Team. / Photos courtesy of Methodist Welfare Services

Outreach

He was just 17 when MWS helped him—now he sits on its Board

T

he year was 1981. Terence Wee, a

slightly over $200," he recalled. "We recycled

17-year-old student at Anglo-Chinese

wastewater, used just one light at night, and

Junior College, was awarded the Methodist

didn't turn on the fan even during the hot June

Scholarship (later renamed the MWS

and July months."

Bursary)—a financial assistance scheme by Methodist Welfare Services (MWS) to support

Against the odds, and thanks to his parents'

children from low-income families with school-

unwavering belief in the value of education,

related expenses. Rooted in the belief that

Terence graduated with a degree in engineering

education is one of the keys to breaking the

and steadily rose through the ranks in the

cycle of poverty, the bursary gave students like

corporate world. At the peak of his career, he

Terence a vital leg up.

led a 1,200-strong team across the Asia Pacific and managed an annual operating budget of

The eldest of three children, born to a factory

over US$100 million.

production foreman and a homemaker, Terence grew up in modest conditions—his

Coming full circle

childhood home was a rented room above a

Decades later, Terence's journey came full circle.

shophouse in Chinatown, then known for gang

The former bursary recipient returned to head

fights and gambling dens. "Our per capita

up the very committee that had once supported

household income after CPF deductions was

him: the MWS Bursary Programme Committee.

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It all began with an act of generosity. In

literacy training to help families clear debt

2006, after 18 years in the corporate world,

and build sustainable saving habits.

Terence stepped off the fast-paced corporate treadmill by accepting a retrenchment offer.

"With some money on hand, I began looking for meaningful causes to support—and as a Methodist, I naturally looked within the community," recalled Terence, who worships at Wesley Methodist Church. "I was especially drawn to student and education-related causes, so the MWS Bursary Programme immediately caught my eye."

A directed donation to the MWS Bursary Programme led Terence to connect with

Terence Wee, then Chairperson of the MWS Bursary Programme Committee, presenting an award to the parent of a bursary recipient in April 2013

then-Group Executive Director Jenny Bong. for education and giving back. Over the next

From beneficiary to board member: a journey of giving back

two years, that connection opened the door

In 2015, Terence began serving on the MWS

for him to volunteer with the MWS Bursary

Board of Governance (BOG). He currently

Programme Committee—a journey that

chairs the Information Technology Sub-

eventually led him to serve as its Chairperson.

Committee, drawing on over 30 years of

In their conversations, he shared his passion

experience in IT consulting to guide policy, "My role was largely administrative—going

governance and long-term planning.

through pages of A3 printouts in size 10 font, checking and validating applicants'

The 61-year-old father of two also sits on

eligibility, cross-referencing with past

the Finance Sub-Committee and previously

recipient lists, and aligning awards for

served as Assistant Honorary Treasurer. He

siblings from the same household," he

is also helping to set up the IT infrastructure

recalled. "Imagine sifting through hundreds,

and services for ACS (Academy)—a special

nearly thousands, of applications to identify

education (SPED) school by Anglo-Chinese

those who qualified."

School (ACS) in partnership with MWS— which is slated to begin operations in 2026.

It was while serving on the Committee that Terence began to reflect: beyond financial aid,

Additionally, he is a member of the Steering

how else could MWS make a lasting impact?

Committee for The Healing Nation—an MWS

"If I had had a mentor back then, I wouldn't

social outreach initiative marking the 140th

have stumbled so much—or made as many

Anniversary of The Methodist Church in

mistakes and U-turns," he shared in a 2013

Singapore (see sidebar)—where he contributes

speech to MWS Bursary recipients.

to strategic planning to maximise impact.

That insight sparked the birth of Torch

Balancing volunteer commitments with

(JC)—a mentorship programme for junior

a demanding career was not always easy.

college bursary recipients, pairing them with

Until his retirement last year, Terence held a

mentors in their fields of interest to provide

senior leadership role overseeing operations

both guidance and encouragement.

across 12 time zones—from Algeria to New Zealand—which meant long hours and

The MWS Bursary Programme has since been

frequent travel. "Thankfully, the shift to

integrated into the MWS Family Development

remote engagement during Covid-19 made

Programme (FDP)—a holistic initiative

it possible to stay involved—whether from

offering counselling, casework and financial

home or 6,000 kilometres away," he shared.

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"While we can't offer a comforting hand over

as ourselves'—so my actions reflect what I

Zoom, it still allows us to stay connected and

believe and preach," he said.

serve, even from afar."

Terence likens volunteer support to "building bricks" that pave the way for transformation. "We're simply passing along a brick to help someone build a better future," he shared. "One brick alone doesn't change a life, but many—combined with the person's own grit and hard work—can.

And when someone is uplifted, the impact can span three generations."

Terence at the dedication of MWS Christalite Student Care Centre in 2021

"Each of us can offer a brick—to touch a life, transform a future, and uplift a family."

Reflecting on his own journey, Terence

Not just giving—also gaining

added, "People who've been uplifted often

Volunteering, Terence believes, has shaped

look for ways to give back. I'm a simple

him into a more empathetic leader.

testimony of that. Before 1981, someone set up a scholarship that changed my life. Today,

"Sure, my corporate background helps

decades later, I'm paying it forward and hope

with understanding P&L statements

it helps the next generation."

and formulating strategy," he shared.

"But it's through volunteering that I've learnt to pause, listen and see people as individuals with stories—not just numbers on a spreadsheet."

He recalled a colleague in the Philippines who showed up for work tired every morning. "I learnt that she had to wake up at 4.30 a.m. and commute for two and a

"Each of you should use whatever gift

half hours," he said. "She needed the job

you have received to serve others,

to support her family. I didn't let her go;

as faithful stewards of God's grace

instead I restructured her working hours."

in its various forms."

Reaping the blessing, sowing it forward For Terence, volunteering is deeply tied to his Christian faith. "I became a Christian and started volunteering at 17, so the two have always gone hand in hand. Being a Christian means being a volunteer," he shared.

He draws strength from Matthew 25:35-40 and 1 Corinthians 9:24–27, which remind him to serve with purpose and discipline.

"These verses call me to do good, stay faithful in service, and 'love our neighbours

- 1 Peter 4:10 (NIV) Bring hope and healing to those in need by offering your gift—whether it's your time, talents, or resources. As The Methodist Church in Singapore marks its 140th Anniversary, its social concerns arm, Methodist Welfare Services, is rallying members to contribute 1.4 million volunteer hours—that's about 35 hours per person—to uplift lives and reflect Christ's love in action.

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Outreach

Woo Li Chun is the MMS Country Coordinating Officer for Laos. / Photos courtesy of Methodist Missions Society

Singapore Mission School Kindergarten officially opens at new premises

O

in Laos

n 27 February 2025, the Singapore

the new premises. In addition, four more

Mission School (SMS) in Laos, one

classrooms in the existing SMS school

of the schools under Methodist Missions

building were created to make provision

Society (MMS), reached another milestone

for the new secondary school expansion

in its 15-year history with the opening of its

slated to take place soon.

Kindergarten at new premises.

At the thanksgiving ceremony, which was Since 2023, there had been an exponential

graced by Guest-of-Honour Dr Eileen Aw,

growth in enrolment from 65 students to

former Chairperson of the School Board of

148 students in January 2025, of which 55

SMS, all 148 students gathered to witness

students are in the Kindergarten classes.

and participate in giving thanks to God.

Anticipating this growth, SMS searched for an

Principal Jayanthi Ramaiah (Shan) began

additional premise to house the Kindergarten

the ceremony by inviting Dr Aw to address

in 2024. By God's grace, a premise was

the children and guests. Dr Aw spoke to

available just a few shophouses away from

the children about loving each other and

the school, enabling the three Kindergarten

to always remember that God loves them

classes to move over. Operations began at the

and would always help them. Rev Vincent

new premises in December 2024.

Lim, MMS' Regional Director for Laos, then prayed for the children and SMS.

This was made possible with the help of donations from members of Methodist

The ceremony ended with a song by the

churches in Singapore, which were given

Primary students and the singing of the

towards the rental and renovation work of

school song followed by a tour of the new

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(above inset) Rev Vincent Lim, SMS Principal Jayanthi Ramaiah and Dr Eileen Aw (above) The Kindergarten children showed their commitment with their handprints on a painting, "Like a tree planted by streams of water"

Kindergarten premises. The new premises

were also recognised at the Long Service

has two floors, offering three air-conditioned

Award ceremony where three staff were

classrooms for the Kindergarten classes, a

given a gift for their 5-year-long service and

teacher's room and dining-cum-playrooms

another, a 10-year Long Service Award.

for the children. Located at the back of the building is a water play area and sand pit for

SMS is now reviewing plans to start

outdoor activity time. With the upgraded

Secondary school with one Secondary

facilities, it was encouraging to see how

One class soon. The challenge is to

happy the children and teachers were.

engage and recruit sufficient Secondary school teachers for English, Mathematics

The next day, SMS held a student leaders

and Science. As SMS operates a dual

installation ceremony. These included

curriculum programme, subjects are

class monitors and student leaders to lead

offered in Lao and English. However, there

in specific areas like library, environment

are very few teachers who are competent

and sports. Almost 30 students were

in English in Laos and hence, there is an

given appointments and encouraged by

urgent need for trained or retired teachers

Principal Shan to take the lead and set an

who are willing to commit to teaching

example for their peers. At the end of the

for one to two years in SMS. Please pray

investiture, the School Board members

for the provision of favour, resources

were each surprised by handmade cards

and expertise to bring the plans for SMS'

presented by the Primary 5 students. Staff

Secondary school expansion to fruition.

(right) SMS Principal Jayanthi Ramaiah with the School Board of SMS (far right, top & bottom) The new K3 and K2 classrooms

(right) Installation of student leaders

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Rev Joey Chen is currently pastoring at Paya Lebar Methodist Church, and oversees the Family Life, Youth and Young Adult ministries. Prior to pastoring, Rev Joey had stints in the public and private sectors doing communications work. She is married to Andrew, whom she met in seminary.

Benny Bong has over 40 years of experience as a therapist, clinical supervisor and trainer. He also conducts regular talks and webinars.

Benny has helmed MM’s You & Your Family column for more than 19 years and is a member of Kampong Kapor Methodist Church.

Sue-Lynn Teo is a registered psychologist with the Singapore Psychological Society and is trained in Educational and Developmental Psychology. She specialises in assessments and therapy work with children who have learning, behavioural or special needs. She worships at Toa Payoh Methodist Church with her family.

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Dating & Marriage

I cannot go on any longer in this marriage I have been married for more than 30 years. I do not have a healthy relationship with my husband as he tends to be critical and even verbally abusive. I've wanted to divorce him many times over the years but didn't because I know God does not want divorce and I stayed on because of the children. I bear with him because he came from a broken family and perhaps doesn't know better. Now that my children are grown up and things have not changed, I am thinking that I should think about myself in my later years. In fact, my children have encouraged me to leave my husband because of how he treats me. I have suggested going for counselling but my husband is not open to that. Even when I tried to explain how I feel, he ends up blaming me. I feel that I cannot go on any longer in this marriage and don't know what to do.

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Benny says Dear Exhausted, We are all rational beings and make decisions in life based on things that mean something to us. Like you, many parents stay on with unfulfilling and even pain-filled marriages because they believe that this somehow may be good for their children. Others, like yourself, have values and beliefs that tell them to submit themselves to the greater will of their God and faith. And then there are others who tolerate the bad behaviour of their spouses because they think that these originate from a place of ignorance or a lack of personal volition. These are all sometimes seen as push or pull factors for change or for keeping the status quo.

What happens when some of these reasons shift in importance? This forces you to rethink why you should continue to remain

disappear to pay for his medical bills. But as a believer and as a decent human being, she felt compelled to do so. She knew that it was not driven by love for him but by compassion towards an old colleague, a friend and to a fellow human being. Her compassion was not because of his merits, but because of who she is as a compassionate person.

So Ms Exhausted, you need to rethink if you have any good reason to still stay in this marriage because the old reasons are no longer valid. Perhaps, having very open and honest conversations about this will help.

Drawing on who you are as a person will provide the answer. Lastly, do not neglect yourself. Care of self is important if we are to sustain ourselves in our care of our marriage and our family. Whilst it is wonderful if our spouses can care for us or if the care for each other is mutual, you have a duty to care for yourself too.

married. What makes the current situation of unhappiness and sadness meaningful to you?

One of my clients who married late discovered

Dating & Marriage

within a few short years of marriage that

Is it possible to remarry in a Methodist church?

her husband's health was in a bad way after years of alcohol abuse. She was angry at his negligent behaviour and felt that she was left with the chore of looking after him and seeing most of her hard-earned savings

I'm a divorcee and I'm looking to get married again. My ex-wife and I divorced because of her money habits. She had lent various people/family members over $40k without telling me and had issues about saving money, amongst other issues that led to mental neglect. Our divorce was not due to infidelity.

Now, I have found someone that I would like to settle down with and give marriage a second try. Would it be okay for us to get married in a Methodist church? Would a Methodist pastor be able to solemnise our wedding? If not, would it be okay to use the church hall but have a non-Methodist pastor solemnise our wedding?

 Joseph

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Joey says Dear Joseph, There isn't a uniform position on divorce and

Pastors also hold differing views on whether

remarriage across the board for Methodist

remarriage is permissible. Some hold to

pastors. Whether or not a Methodist pastor will

the view that while divorce is acceptable,

be willing to conduct your wedding depends

remarriage is not as long as the former

on his/her personal conviction.

spouse is alive, as only death releases them from the marriage covenant (Romans 7:3,

Most pastors recognise that while God

1 Corinthians 7:39). Others believe that our

designed marriage to be a lifelong covenant,

God is a God of second chances, and having

there are biblical grounds on which

had a broken marriage—especially when

divorce—though not recommended—may be

one is on the receiving end of infidelity,

permissible. Scripture speaks of divorce being

abandonment or neglect—does not

permitted when there is sexual immorality

preclude one from remarriage.

(Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:9) or when there is abandonment (1 Corinthians 7:15). Some

My recommendation is for you to speak with

pastors hold to the view that if the wedding

the pastor you'd like to have conduct your

vows are violated, the covenant is null and

wedding about your intention to remarry to

void. For instance, if there is abuse (emotional,

find out his/her position. If (s)he is agreeable

mental or physical), it violates the vow to "have

to conducting your wedding, (s)he will also

and to hold" and to "love and cherish". Some

likely want to assess how ready you are

may also recognise neglect (Exodus 21:10-11) as

for remarriage and prepare you to have a

acceptable grounds for divorce.

resilient and healthy marriage.

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Dr Judith Laoyan-Mosomos is the Director for Worship & Church Music at the Methodist School of Music and a member of Kampong Kapor Methodist Church.

Worship

Is true

worship also learning

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to sit at a table together as a family?

T

he world is messy. We see conflict, division and broken relationships everywhere. A small irritant can cause one person to snap—and what begins as a petty argument can lead to silence, estrangement or even the breaking of a lifelong relationship. So we ask: How do we fix it? Where does healing begin? Is it with the family? With worship? With the Church?

There’s a familiar African proverb: "It takes a village to raise a child." It speaks to the role of community in shaping a person. But before the child ever enters the village, there is the family—the place where life begins, where patterns are formed and where identity is first shaped.

For this reflection, let us imagine the village as the church. Ideally, a child who

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is nurtured at home and then grows up in the church will find a beautiful continuity: the values lived out in the home are echoed in the body of Christ.

But what exactly does the child learn from home and church? At the core, the child learns that they are first and foremost a child of God—loved, cherished and created with purpose. In the family, they learn love, forgiveness, trust and worship through simple, daily rhythms: praying before meals, saying sorry, giving thanks and singing songs of faith. In the church, these values are affirmed and practised in community: loving others, serving and worshipping together.

As the child grows, they carry these values into the wider world. Faith becomes action.

Grace becomes a way of life. In this way, family and church form the foundation of a just and compassionate society, where values are not just taught but lived out.

In God's divine design, worship does not start on Sunday morning. It begins in the everyday moments of family life and grows into a way of being that touches the world.

Having lived in Singapore for 19 years now, I often find myself longing for the closeness of family. My children's friendships and communities have been shaped by experiences very different from my own upbringing. Even their cousins are growing up in cultures that do not necessarily mirror our traditions.

My parents passed in 2013 and 2014, and since then, there have been moments I wish our family was not scattered across

the globe so that we could share more of life in the same space.

During a recent trip to the United States, I travelled with a mission: to gather around a table, share a meal and reconnect with family and friends. We shared stories, laughed about the old days and reflected on how much life had changed. In those moments, I felt the warmth of belonging.

But I also became aware of how some had unintentionally been left out over the years. This realisation stirred something deeper in me: a longing for a table big enough for all, where differences were not divisive but enriching.

This vision of worship is taking shape in the everyday, making room for one another across generations and cultures. It can come alive in practical ways, too.

What if, instead of letting our civic calendar shape our Christian lives—letting exams, holidays and school breaks dictate our priorities—we allow the Christian year to shape our families’ rhythms instead? What difference might it make if our children knew the significance of Advent before the rush of Christmas, or understood Lent as a season of reflection and not just a countdown to Easter eggs?

May our families, however near or far, be places where Christ is made known, and worship becomes a way of life.

In June, the Methodist School of Music is holding a children’s camp—Worship Generation Children's Camp—centred on music and worship, shaped by the life of Christ as told through the Christian year. This is more than just a camp. It is an invitation for children to encounter the story of Jesus not just as a set of lessons, but as a rhythm that gives shape to life. The hope is simple but profound: that families begin to live out a Christ-centred year together, learning to worship not only on Sundays but through the seasons— anticipation, birth, growth, suffering,

Maybe the goal is not to preserve sameness, but to make room for difference. And maybe worship—true worship—is about learning to sit at the table together, to listen deeply and to delight in one another as we are. This, too, is part of the divine design of the family.

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Louis Isack Kumar worships at Ang Mo Kio Tamil Methodist Church and serves as Chairperson of the Finance Committee. He is the Associate Lay Leader of ETAC and Chairperson of ETAC's Board of Archives & Communications, as well as council member of the Council on Communications and the Council on Archives & History. / Photo courtesy of Louis Isack Kumar

is about not having all the answers

L

ife has a way of bringing unexpected challenges, and for me, one of the greatest struggles was learning to trust God

in uncertain times. In 2010, I migrated from India to Singapore, filled with hope and uncertainty. For almost a decade, my family and I faced numerous struggles trying to settle down. The journey was filled with challenges—adjusting to a new culture, securing stable employment and navigating the complexities of life in a foreign land. There were moments of doubt when my prayers seemed unanswered, and I felt lost.

Yet, in that season of waiting, God was working in ways I could not see. Through Scripture, he reminded me of his faithfulness: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God" (Philippians 4:6 NIV). Slowly, I learnt to surrender my worries to him. Doors opened unexpectedly, opportunities arose and God, in his perfect timing, helped us make Singapore our second home.

Through these struggles, God not only strengthened my faith

Louis Isack Kumar with his wife, Paulin, and children, Adrian and Fiona

but also guided me in my career, church ministry and service at ETAC and at the General Conference. The greatest lesson he taught me was that trust is not about having all the answers, but believing he is in control no matter what happens. Looking back, I see how he was shaping my path, even in my weakest moments. Today, I walk with confidence, knowing that his plans are always greater than mine.

Kopi kakis by Lau Peng Leong, Yen Tun I and Zachary Yong

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NEW BOOK RELEASE in celebration of

RESTORATION

FREE

Also available in e-book

Rebuilding Four Areas of My Life Brokenness is a heartbreaking, and sadly, common experience.

It is an outcome of our mistakes and folly, or that of those around us. It affects our relationships with others and regrettably even with the very ones we love the most. It can also impact our walk with God and ultimately our sense of self.

This book is a collection of different encounters with brokenness gleaned from Benny Bong’s many years of counselling and curated from his long-running column in Methodist Message.

He urges us to rebuild and restore four important areas of our lives—our personal being, our relationships with our community, our spouse and our children.

We hope readers will find hope in Restoration: Rebuilding Four Areas of My Life. May you be encouraged and be an encourager to others.

As an experienced family therapist and committed Christian, Benny uses the stories of people he has helped in his work to put forth wise principles, biblical frameworks, and encouragement for those who struggle with their relationships in life. In so doing, he highlights the faith, hope and love we can find in Christ who leads us to the joys of abundant living. ~ Bishop Emeritus Dr Robert Solomon

ABOUT THE AUTHOR Benny Bong has over 40 years of experience as a therapist, counsellor and trainer. He also conducts regular talks and webinars. Benny has helmed the You & Your Family column in Methodist Message for more than 19 years and is one of the panellists in its relationship advice column, At The Well.

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