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3 First principal of ACS (Academy), a veteran SPED educator, takes office this month
7 "Love the Lord your God":
Bishop Philip Lim exhorts Methodists as the Church celebrates 140 years of Methodism in Singapore
10 MSM's Worship & Church Music Director receives the Perkins Sacred Music Soli Deo Gloria Award
/ Features /
12 The neurodivergent believer and the body of Christ
16 In conversation with Dr Eunice Tan on neurodiversity education and the Church
/ Opinion /
20 Soundings: From inclusion to belonging
/ Outreach /
22 Love your volunteer gig? It just could become your career
24 Choosing inconvenience
/ Relationships /
27 You & Your Family: A victim mentality and the blame game
30 At The Well
/ Worship /
34 On Earth as it is in Heaven: Worship as a catalyst for inclusivity
/ People /
37 Returning to family roots
Come, let us celebrate!
Bishop Philip Lim was elected Bishop of The Methodist Church in Singapore in 2024. Previously, he served as a missionary in Cambodia under the Methodist Missions Society (MMS), and as Executive Director of MMS from 2012 to 2018.
On 20 April this year, Christians all over the world will celebrate Easter. We remember the virgin birth and hope of the world during Christmas, but more so than his birth, the resurrection of Christ validates, and is the foundation of, Christianity. It was the resurrection of Christ that showed the world God's triumph over sin and death. Christ's resurrection was the fruition of the hope that the world had at his birth.
However, when first faced with the fantastical news that Christ is risen, the disciples "did not believe the women, because their words seemed to them like nonsense" (Luke 24:11 NIV). Even after three years of experiencing the life of Jesus and his miracles first-hand, the disciples doubted and could not comprehend that he was alive again. Later, when Jesus appeared to the disciples, they finally believed.
When we share the gospel with prebelievers, we do not only share that Jesus was born, or that he loves each one of us. We must also share that Christ triumphed
over death and that is why we can have salvation and eternity with him.
In 1 Corinthians 15:14 (NIV), Paul states, "And if Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith."
This is why the resurrection of Christ is central to the Christian faith and is celebrated with such joy.
The Apostles' Creed says, "I believe in Jesus Christ, his (God's) only Son, our Lord; who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died and was buried; he descended to the dead. On the third day he rose again; he ascended into heaven …". The resurrection of Christ gives power and hope to our testimony, for if Christ has already defeated death, what else can stand before him? When we consider all that we face on this earth in the light of eternity, what else can overshadow this hope for our future?
So, brothers and sisters, whatever you may be facing today, let us celebrate the good news that Christ is risen!
First principal of ACS (Academy) , a veteran SPED educator, takes office this month
Ms Esther Kwan has been appointed the first principal of ACS (Academy), Singapore's fifth special education (SPED) school that supports students on the autism spectrum who are able to access the National Curriculum. ACS (Academy) will be the first Methodist SPED school in Singapore.
Ms Kwan has spent her entire career since 2006 until March 2025 at Grace Orchard School (GOS). She joined GOS as a teacher and left as its principal. GOS, a school under Presbyterian Community Social Services, caters to children aged 7 to 18 with Mild Intellectual Disorder (MID) as well as those with a co-morbidity of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD).
Ms Kwan was a recipient of the MOENCSS Outstanding SPED Teacher Award in 2016, and in 2018, she obtained a Master's Scholarship in Special Education (Overseas) from the Ministry of Education. "God fulfilled the desires of my heart to be better equipped for the work," Ms Kwan said about being able to study at Vanderbilt University.
An alumna of Methodist Girls' School, she knew from an early age that she wanted a career in teaching. "I never thought I would be in special education because I didn't think I would make a very good SPED teacher," she said. "But God had other plans."
After she completed her Bachelor's and first Master's degrees in the US, she returned home and "applied for any (job) related to education". She was drawn to GOS because it was a mission school and she would be given more autonomy in the classroom.
With more than 18 years of experience at GOS, Ms Kwan has found it bittersweet to move to a new school. "My students have taught me what it means to have true joy in learning," she said. "They've also shown me what tenacity and resilience looks like. Most of them experience social isolation and the stigma that comes with a disability label, but I see them never giving up, boldly trying and picking themselves up after a 'fall'."
Ms Esther Kwan
Perfect imperfections
A Christian, Ms Kwan's understanding of neurodiversity is informed by her faith. "The term 'neurodiversity' is man's way of reframing 'disability' which is often associated with the idea of brokenness, of imperfection. But the Bible tells us that each of us are created in God's image, and that we are fearfully and wonderfully made," said Ms Kwan, who worships at Pasir Panjang Christ Church.
"I call it 'perfect imperfections'. I believe every child has been given exactly what they need to fulfil God’s purpose for their lives. But there is a mismatch between a person's competence with societal demands. SPED must bridge that gap, equipping our students with supports that will allow them to remove or overcome the barriers they may face."
As a SPED educator, Ms Kwan's goals are to provide students with equal opportunities and experiences their mainstream peers would have. "I want them to find their voices, to exercise self-determination and advocate for themselves. It's been heartening to see this happening now—we have the good 'problem' of finding them pathways and opening doors for them."
In 2021, Ms Kwan—who has a brother with special needs—co-founded SibsUnite, a support group for siblings of persons with special needs. An experienced chorister, she also initiated SPEDacular Voices, a combined choir comprising more than 150 students from 12 SPED schools, which ran from 2016 to 2018.
Joining the ACS family
Prior to this role, Ms Kwan collaborated with ACS (Independent) to create an opportunity for a class of high school GOS students to attend ACS(I) twice a week. Together with their ACS(I) buddy classes, a Sec 4 class and a Year 5 class, they would have physical education (PE) lessons and recess together, plan and execute Values-in-Action (VIA) projects and take part in the "Play Inclusive" floorball competition. The programme culminates in a yearend dinner where parents of all the students are invited for a dinner that is planned by the students. The annual collaboration is in its third year, and Ms Kwan says the impact this programme has had on all students, from both GOS and ACS(I), has gone beyond their original intent.
Having seen the benefits of this collaboration, Ms Kwan is excited by the co-location of ACS (Primary) with ACS (Academy) in Tengah, where authentic platforms for students to practise the application of social skills can be provided.
On joining the ACS family, Ms Kwan says, "I have been humbled by the extensive support that has already been given to ACS (Academy) by more than 80 volunteers from the Methodist and ACS community. Together with Vice-Principal Dr Morgan Zhou, our focus for the first year would be to build on this strong foundation—both spiritual and physical—working closely with our key partners, Methodist Welfare Services (MWS) and Bukit Panjang Methodist Church (BPMC) so that the work we establish will be on solid ground."
Dr Morgan Zhou, an old boy of ACS, has served in education at ACS and the National Institute of Education for 20 years. He currently chairs the Board of Children's Ministry in the Trinity Annual Conference of The Methodist Church in Singapore and serves as the Vice-Chairperson of the Methodist Fathers Movement.
To future parents of ACS (Academy), Ms Kwan says, "Kintsugi, a Japanese art form that uses gold to mend broken pottery, often results in a piece that is more beautiful and stronger than the original. My prayer is that in the years our students and their families are with us, they will experience what is akin to Kintsugi and in so doing, be a 'beacon of truth and light' of the God who created them. For truly, the Best is Yet to Be."
Kintsugi, a Japanese art form that uses gold to mend broken pottery, often results in a piece that is more beautiful and stronger than the original. My prayer is that in the years our students and their families are with us, they will experience what is akin to Kintsugi and in so doing, be a 'beacon of truth and light' of the God who created them. For truly, the
ACS (Academy) will serve students diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) who have no intellectual impairment and can access the National Curriculum (NC), or what is known as the ASD-NC student profile. Students in ASD-NC schools are exempted from Mother Tongue Languages (MTL) and will receive an assigned MTL score between Achievement Level (AL) 6 and AL 8 in the Primary School Leaving Examination (PSLE). Please note that there are no alumni or affiliation considerations for priority admission to special education (SPED) schools. Additionally, SPED schools in Singapore do not offer affiliation benefits for admission to any secondary school or post-secondary institution.
For more information about ACS (Academy), please visit www.acsacademy.edu.sg
ACS (International)
ACS (International) Singapore is a distinctive international secondary school open to all Singaporeans & other nationalities, offering an all-round English-based education for students aged 12 to 18 years leading to the International General Certificate of Secondary Education (IGCSE) and the International Baccalaureate Diploma Programme (IBDP)
• Exceptional examination results, strong value-added achievement and an all-round holistic education
• 50:50 mix of local and international teachers who uphold the dual Methodist ethos and ACS heritage
• Small class sizes with overall student-teacher ratio of 8 7 : 1
• 40 different CCAs – 16 Sporting, 12 Visual and Performing Arts, 12 Special Interest Groups
• Over 200 formal student leadership positions
• Scholarships for four Singaporeans to undertake the IBDP
Building Through Belief, this school of choice provides Achievements
• Students with perfect score of 45 points in IBDP
• 23 “Top in the World” awards in IGCSE examinations over each of the past twelve years
• Students accepted to Oxford and Cambridge universities for the past eight years
• Admissions to top universities in the UK, the US, Australia and Singapore
• PSLE and GCE ‘O’ Level students obtaining outstanding value-added examination results for the IBDP and improved pathways to good universities
• Successes at national level in Athletics, Touch Rugby, Debating, Orchestra, Volleyball, Taekwondo, Ice Hockey, Fencing, Swimming, Artistic Swimming, Rhythmic Gymnastics and Wushu.
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"Love the Lord your God"
Bishop Philip Lim exhorts Methodists as the Church celebrates 140 years of Methodism in Singapore
The Methodist Church in Singapore (MCS) celebrated the launch of its 140th Anniversary as part of Wesley Methodist Church's 140th Anniversary Service. The milestone anniversary is marked from the time Wesley Methodist Church was founded by Bishop William Oldham and Rev James Thoburn in 1885. After its early years at the first Methodist Chapel at Coleman Street, a new church building was built at Fort Canning, where it still stands today.
About 1,338 congregants were present at the 8.30 a.m. service, which included guests from the Methodist community such as the Presidents of the three Annual Conferences,
Rev Reuben Ng, Rev Lek Yong Teck, Rev Saravana Kumar; Secretary of Trustees of MCS, Mr Guan Yeow Kwang; and Mr Anton Moses, Chairperson on the Council of Episcopacy. From the Methodist schools, several board chairpersons and principals were in attendance.
Bishop Philip Lim brought greetings from the connexional body of MCS to Wesley Methodist Church. "We cannot separate the two anniversaries," he said, reminding the congregation of how the first Methodist sermon was preached by Rev Thoburn on the verse, Zechariah 4:6, "Not by might, nor by power, but by my
MCS office bearers and Wesley Methodist Church leaders
Spirit, says the Lord of hosts." On reaching this milestone anniversary, Bishop Lim said, "All this can only be the work of God, we are only his instruments."
The traditional service incorporated familiar Wesleyan hymns and prayers for united community. An intergenerational prayer led by representatives from different generations thanked God for "guiding The Methodist Church in Singapore and Wesley Methodist Church through the ups and downs the past 140 years."
Year-long events to celebrate MCS 140
Bishop Lim highlighted several events planned for a year-long celebration, such as the Church-wide Holy Week services from 14 to 16 April.
Bishop Lim also shared that MCS' social concerns arm, Methodist Welfare Services (MWS), would be taking the lead in organising a large-scale volunteer initiative to rally Methodist church members to contribute 1.4
million hours (about 35 hours a person) to serve the community in any area of social concern. There will also be a fundraising concert, "The Healing Nation" on 1 November 2025 at Star Performing Arts Centre, showcasing collaborations between our churches, agencies, schools, beneficiaries and Christian artistes. This concert will be another occasion to commemorate MCS 140 as we come together for a time of worship and celebration.
Love the Lord your God
Bishop Lim preached from Mark 12: 28-34 where a teacher of the law asks Jesus which commandment is the most important, and Jesus responds by stating that the greatest commandment is to "love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength" and the second is to "love your neighbour as yourself". Bishop Lim said that for this quadrennium, he wanted to go "back to basics" and re-orientate the focus of the Church towards loving God.
(above, left) About 1,338 congregants were present at the 8.30 a.m. service
(above, right)
Bishop Philip Lim preached on loving God with our whole heart
He shared three reflections on the passage:
• Our relationship with God The covenantal relationship between God and his people means that loving God and being faithful to him would derive blessings. But if one acted contrary to that, one would have to "be prepared for destruction".
Bishop Lim cautioned that there was a danger of being so engrossed in loving our neighbour that God became second or third place.
• Love must be performed with everything we have Bishop Lim called on Methodists to examine whether our different demands consumed us until we had no more space for God, preventing us from loving God with our heart, soul, mind and strength.
• A total devotion to God
"To love God fully means to devote 100% of our time and energy to him, not part of the time … or when we feel like it. Or
worse, … only when we have gotten into trouble," Bishop Lim said. He elaborated on what it meant to love God with our heart, soul, mind and strength and challenged the congregation with questions: Are we ready and willing to lay down our life for Jesus? Do we fill our minds with the word of God?
Bishop Lim concluded his sermon by asking the congregation if they were near the Kingdom of God and encouraged them to draw near to God by loving him wholeheartedly.
NEW CORPORATE VIDEO
To commemorate 140 years of Methodism in Singapore, MCS produced a new corporate video. Scan the QR code to watch the video and learn about MCS 140 events happening this year.
https://www.methodist. org.sg/mcs-140/
The 140th Anniversary Combined Choir at the traditional service
Gwendolyn Tan is the Senior Executive for Communications, Methodist School of Music. / Photos courtesy of Methodist School of Music and Judith Laoyan-Mosomos
MSM's Worship & Church Music Director receives the Perkins Sacred Music Soli Deo Gloria Award
The Methodist School of Music (MSM) celebrates the achievement of Dr Judith Laoyan-Mosomos, Director for Worship & Church Music, who has been awarded the prestigious Perkins Sacred Music Soli Deo Gloria Award. This honour, presented by the Perkins School of Theology at Southern Methodist University in Dallas, Texas, recognises distinguished graduates who have made significant contributions to church music ministry and education.
The Soli Deo Gloria Award, established in 2010, is reserved for individuals with at least 25 years of service who have demonstrated excellence in church music. Dr Laoyan-Mosomos joins an esteemed group of past recipients,
including Dr Lim Swee Hong, Deer Park Associate Professor of Sacred Music and Director of the Master of Sacred Music Programme at Emmanuel College, University of Toronto.
Dr Laoyan-Mosomos has served in church music across the Philippines, the United States and Singapore. Her career includes teaching at esteemed institutions such as the Asian Institute for Liturgy and Music, St Andrews Theological Seminary, Sekolah Teologi Malaysia, the Cambodia Methodist Bible School and MSM. At MSM, which she joined in 2006, Dr LaoyanMosomos has been instrumental in shaping worship education, pioneering initiatives such as the Certificate in Christian Worship (2013),
(far left) Dr Laoyan-Mosomos with her mentor and supervisor, Dr Michael Hawn, University Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Church Music & Adjunct Professor, Doctor of Pastoral Music Programme, Perkins School of Theology
(left) Dr LaoyanMosomos conducting the Methodist Festival Choir at the TRAC Ordination Service in 2024
a programme for church worship leaders and musicians, and Children in Worship (2022), a training programme equipping children in church music.
A gifted choir conductor and passionate advocate for congregational singing, Dr LaoyanMosomos has served with the Methodist Festival Choir—a choir comprising Methodist and nonMethodist church choristers in Singapore—as its Artistic Director since 2013. Her influence extends beyond Singapore, having contributed to hymnal committees for the Episcopal Church in the Philippines and the interdenominational hymnal Let the Asian Church Rejoice.
Dr Laoyan-Mosomos has worshipped at Kampong Kapor Methodist Church (KKMC) since she joined MSM and has been instrumental in shaping the worship ministry and liturgy there. She also conducts KKMC's Chancel Choir.
"Serving at MSM for 19 years has been a deeply fulfilling journey. From equipping worship ministers to planning liturgies, meeting choristers from diverse backgrounds in the Methodist Festival Choir, being part of KKMC's worship team and introducing congregational songs—every step has been a privilege. My hope is that those who have received these gifts have been as blessed as I have. To God alone be the glory!" said Dr LaoyanMosomos, who is married to Brent. They have two children, Canaan Agkhoyo, 29, and Chaya, 26.
MSM's Executive Director, Clarissa Tan, also highlighted Dr LaoyanMosomos' impact, stating: "Judith's deep passion for worship and church music has been a blessing to MSM and the churches we serve. Her work in education, training and choral leadership continues to nurture and equip worship leaders and musicians for the Church."
Her leadership and dedication have been invaluable to The Methodist Church in Singapore (MCS). Col (Ret) Quek Koh Eng, who has chaired the AldersgateSG committee for several years, reflected on her contributions. "Judith has been very creative, helpful and an inspiration to many of us. Her leadership in worship and music ministry has deeply enriched our Methodist community," he said.
Mark Toh (PhD in Clinical Psychology, MA in Theology) is a clinical psychologist with over 30 years of clinical experience working with children, adults, couples, families and those in ministry. He is an associate with Promises Healthcare.
The neurodivergent believer and the body of Christ
Many of us are able to sense that someone is "different", but do we understand that difference, or know how to respond to the person? Dr Mark Toh explains what neurodiversity is and presents a profile of autism to help us in the quest to be an inclusive church.
The word neurodiversity was first coined by Australian sociologist Judy Singer in 1998 1 to highlight her view that everyone's brain develops in a unique way. The diversity pertains to differences in sensory processing, social cognition and motor abilities. This diversity also falls on a spectrum of differences in neurocognitive functioning.
Neurodiversity is an umbrella term to highlight certain conditions that were otherwise considered as disabilities. These conditions include autism spectrum disorder (ASD), attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), dyslexia (difficulty with reading)
and other learning disabilities such as dysgraphia (difficulty with writing), dyscalculia (difficulty with maths), dyspraxia (difficulty with coordination), Down syndrome and Tourette syndrome. People who are not neurodivergent are termed "neurotypical".
The word arose from a social justice movement to promote equality and inclusion of people who process differently from the neurotypical. This is a paradigm shift away from the previous view that people with such conditions are disabled, as its usage downplays the stigma of disability or pathology.
However, it is controversial: some people still view the conditions as separate from the norm ("normal vs abnormal" which is employed in the medical model) rather than merely processing differently. These disability advocates are concerned that accepting neurodiversity without acknowledging the specific limitations could lead to the possibility of downplaying the need for treatment or support as, for example, ADHD can be managed through behavioural reinforcements and medication.
In contrast, neurodiversity supporters believe that by highlighting that the neurodivergent brain works differently from the neurotypical's, differences in their ways of learning, in the perception of their environment, in communication and in social preferencing can be expected of them. This brings to the forefront their unique strengths and struggles. Similar to the neurotypical, they can benefit from educational and specific programmes to nurture their strengths and work on their limitations. This way, they are offered the best chances to pursue their own happiness.
There are famous people who are neurodivergent and have found enormous success. They include Elon Musk (CEO of Tesla and SpaceX, ASD), Mark Zuckerberg (co-founder of Facebook, ASD), Michael Phelps (Olympic swimming champion, ADHD), Simone Biles (Olympic gymnastics champion, ADHD), Anthony Hopkins (Oscar-winning actor, ASD), Greta Thunberg (climate activist, ASD), Steve Jobs (founder of Apple, dyslexia), Richard Branson (founder of the Virgin Group, dyslexia) and Keanu Reeves (actor, dyslexia).
Responding to the neurodivergent
The social movement to be inclusive of the neurodivergent is commendable. In the mystery and complexity of life, our neurocognitive status is not selfdetermined and the neurotypical and neurodivergent co-exist. We are each other's neighbour, despite our neurocognitive differences. No distinction is made when Christians are called to "love [our] neighbour" (Matt 22:39), and to "look not only to [our] own interests, but also to the interests of others" (Phil 2:4). Our own child or relative may be neurodivergent, though born to neurotypical parents. But, being different from the norm and in the minority, the neurodivergent stand a greater chance to be socially marginalised.
The prevalence of ADHD in Singapore is estimated to be between 5 and 8 percent of children and adolescents, and between 2 and 7 percent of adults. 2 The prevalence of autism is estimated to be about 1%. 3 The prevalence of dyslexia is about 10% with 4% of that to be severe enough to warrant intervention. 4 These conditions can be collectively viewed as expressions of different ways of neurocognitive functioning, yet they are distinct enough to warrant separate attention and consideration of specific interventions to address their respective limitations. The view of them as "invisible" disabilities is apt because they express limitations that are less obvious, but amenable to specific therapeutic interventions that support their adaptation into mainstream society. For example, the Autism Resource Centre in Singapore provides a range of services to support and empower those on the autism spectrum including job
placement and training for adults. Pathlight School offers Singapore mainstream academic curriculum to autistic children along with life skills education.
For the Christian, "loving our (neurodivergent) neighbour" starts with having empathy . Empathy is an attribute of Jesus (e.g. when he wept, John 11:35). We need to extend ourselves beyond our own comforts and perspectives to enter another's world of struggle, be they neurodivergent or neurotypical.
Engaging with those on the autism spectrum
Perhaps, among the neurodivergent, those on the autism spectrum encounter the biggest challenge in social and behavioural interactions. The symptoms and severity of each person's condition depends on where they are on the spectrum and hence each person's presentation is unique.
Some common characteristics include how they perceive the environment and those around them differently, and how they process and verbalise information. This in turn can pose barriers to communication.
A diagnosis of autism can be made from toddlerhood, but some people can go undiagnosed until adulthood. Different levels of support are required as the spectrum ranges from mild to severe.
Challenges
1. Social and communication challenges
Initiating and maintaining conversations
• Reading social cues
• Understanding someone else's perspectives
Establishing and maintaining eye contact
• Expression through speech which may not reveal emotions
• Understanding figures of speech
Fixation over certain topics of interest to them
• Building and maintaining close relationships with others
• Need for noise when silence is expected
2. Emotional challenges
• Regulating their own emotions
Adapting to changes in routines and expectations
Need for rigidity in routines and schedules; need for repetition of rituals
• Adapting to sudden outbursts
3. Physical challenges
Balance, coordination and motor skills
Strengths 5
1. Sensory strengths
• Attention to detail and pattern recognition
Tunnel vision where the focus of attention is sharper
Colour intensity
• Synaesthesia (multiple senses are perceived simultaneously)
• Acute hearing and superior auditory discrimination
• Heightened pitch detection
Enhanced olfactory detection
2. Cognitive strengths
Correlation with intellectual giftedness
• Savant syndrome
• Powerful memory
Encyclopaedic knowledge
• Superior problem-solving skills
Rational decision-making
• Hyperfocus (ability to exert more intense focus and visualisation)
• Hyper-systemising (a high drive to analyse and construct systems)
• Pattern recognition
• Lateral thinking (ability to generate unusual and novel ideas)
3. Behavioural strengths
• Strong work ethic
Not all these strengths and challenges are found among those diagnosed with ASD. But they are common enough to be noticed.
The Christian's response
Believers who are autistic may grapple with issues similar to the neurotypicals', but often face additional obstacles in learning, gaining social acceptance or finding jobs of their choice. They may appear to be a riddle to the non-autistic. But we can better understand their plight when we recognise that we all struggle with limitations, albeit different ones. Our pride, arrogance and propensity to displease God are instances that reveal our spiritual deficits or limitations. What we share is the struggle to get along with those around us, to overcome adversity and those limitations, to succeed, to survive and to thrive. The Church is a gathering of people in community to support each other to grow towards sanctification. The neurodivergent Christian is no less deserving of this community and support.
1 Singer J (July 3, 2016). NeuroDiversity: The Birth of an Idea (2nd ed.).
4 Teo, Jee Ti et al. “Early Intervention for Dysxlexia in Singapore”, Embrace Dyslexia, DAS Handbook 2019, https://das.org.sg/ handbook/das-handbook-2019/.
Sue-Lynn Teo is a registered psychologist with the Singapore Psychological Society and is trained in Educational and Developmental Psychology. She specialises in assessments and therapy work with children with learning, behavioural or special needs. Sue-Lynn is one of the panellists for At the Well. She worships at Toa Payoh Methodist Church with her family. / Photos courtesy of Eunice Tan
In conversation with
Dr Eunice Tan on neurodiversity education and the
Church
Special needs education is a growing field in Singapore. Dr Eunice Tan , who heads the Special Education Programme at Singapore University of Social Sciences, sits down with psychologist Sue-Lynn Teo for a chat on her experiences in the field of neurodiversity education.
Sitting across the table from Dr Eunice Tan at Starbucks, I can already tell her dedication to the field of neurodivergence from her resume. After graduating with a broad-based Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of British Columbia in 1989, she went on to obtain a Bachelor of Education from the same university, then a postgraduate diploma in Special Education, and finally, a PhD in Special Education.
Out in the workforce, she spent several years as a special education teacher in an international school and at a local special school. At one point, she was a principal at a special school as well as working at MOE headquarters. Then, there was a three-year stint in the social services sector before
she assumed her current position as Head of the Special Education Programme in the Singapore University of Social Sciences (SUSS) in 2019.
Along the way, her calling to the field of neurodiversity was heightened and felt bittersweet, when her elder son Christopher, now 24, was diagnosed with autism at a young age.
Pondering on her storied career in the field of special education, she said, "I enjoyed my university studies and my job as a special education teacher to neurodivergent children, even before Christopher was born. The more I studied, the more my interest grew. So, teaching was a natural career path for me."
(left) Dr Eunice Tan and her parents, Mr & Mrs Tan Wah Thong, Christopher and husband, William
Asked what spurred her to join SUSS to pursue the academic side of neurodiversity, in other words, "educating the educators", Eunice looked reflective. "I suppose you could say I am a late starter. When the opportunity came, I didn't start off thinking, oh, is this my calling then? At first, it was just a way to prove to myself and others that I could achieve something in this area. But after joining SUSS, I realised I could meet more people and have greater influence in the area of neurodiversity and the positive impact I could make. I can teach my students, mentor my PhD students and impact the community through my research, organise workshops and talks on the different topics related to neurodiversity. All my students have their own niche and unique paths, so I am also learning from them, and it's been rewarding. I'm really in a very happy place right now."
What's in a name?
Although I am a psychologist specialising in neurodivergence, I asked Eunice what people should understand about neurodiversity today. She said, "The terminology has evolved through the years: from 'persons with disabilities', to 'special needs', and now to 'neurodiversity'. It describes people with neurological or brain-based differences in the way their brains work and process information. The term 'neurodiversity' is perceived as a kinder and more respectful term. We have to shift our mindset to use this word rather than, say, 'mental retardation' which implies that someone is subnormal. But as language is ever evolving, who's to say what it will be replaced by in five- or ten-years' time?
"In fact, the term 'neurodiversity' has liberated people to identify themselves with the condition. For example, there are a growing number of neurodivergent people in the autism community who identify as being autistic and would prefer
that they are referred to as 'autistic' rather than 'a person with autism'. They see being autistic as a key part of their identity as 'neurodivergent' and are proud of being autistic," said Eunice.
Indeed, the neurodiversity movement advocates for a strengths-focused approach, which acknowledges and affirms what the neurodivergent individual can do, instead of only focusing on "remediating their weaknesses". When I asked Eunice what she thinks is the Christian perspective of neurodiversity, her answer was candid and personal.
"I think for parents like me with a neurodivergent child, we try to rationalise, and struggle for satisfying answers to 'Why is my child like this?' While I used to feel sad and depressed about it, I have reconciled those feelings over time. As a Christian, I try to think of it not as a punishment but as how God has chosen me because he knows I will be a good parent to my neurodivergent child."
Her answer affirms what the Bible teaches: everyone is created in the image of God, and he makes no mistakes in creation. Every human being, whether neurodivergent or neurotypical, is created in God's image. Practically speaking, the lived experience of raising a child with special needs or even being a sibling to someone with special needs, is both challenging and rewarding in their unique ways.
What can the Church do?
Looking at the bigger picture, Eunice believes the Church has come a long way in its efforts to embrace neurodivergent individuals. She cited Faith Methodist Church, which she used to attend with Christopher, and Wesley Methodist Church as examples of churches with a Sunday school programme for children with special
needs. I was impressed to learn that during the years when she attended Covenant Community Methodist Church, she and a good friend who also has a neurodivergent child ran a small Sunday school for children with special needs.
Speaking like a true educator, she enthusiastically shared her vision with me. "Some sort of monitoring, to get the same quality of teaching, will be helpful. It would be good if the Methodist Church has a repository of resources, such as a short introductory online module for Sunday school teachers to help them better understand special needs and how to intentionally include children with special needs in their classes. Any secular curriculum out there can be very much tailored to our faith and to the Methodist culture; the specialised curriculum will help the teacher plan for meaningful participation and inclusion and for the child to be engaged during the class. Classroom accommodations should also be considered (e.g. visual supports/timetables for children with autism). When children with special needs are meaningfully engaged in Sunday school, their parents can attend the church service. Thus, going to church will be a more inclusive and family-centred experience.
When it comes to neurodivergent adults, the church can match them with cell groups or prayer groups of members within a similar age range, as they tend to have more commonalities than with, say, people who are 10 to 20 years older. For those willing to start such cell groups/ prayer groups and be more inclusive, a similar online introductory course will help to equip the members with the necessary understanding, skills and knowledge."
The first Methodist special education school
Our talk turned to the upcoming ACS (Academy), in which Eunice has a role as advisor. ACS (Academy), within the family of Methodist schools in Singapore, will
be a special school catering to children with autism who are able to access the national/mainstream curriculum. It will seek to inculcate Christian values and to follow the ACS brand of education where every child is embraced.
While some details of what Eunice shared with me are under wraps, her excitement was evident. "We are hoping to have training for all staff, including administrators and volunteers, on managing students with autism. We will do research, evaluate the 'new' programmes and track outcomes. For example, getting the parents', teachers' and students' perspectives of whether the programmes implemented were beneficial and what the beneficial aspects were. Some of the programmes that we will be trying will be bespoke programmes, not tried in Singapore before. It has been very encouraging to see the ACS alumni coming together to use their professional knowledge and expertise in their respective fields, in the planning for and building of ACS (Academy)."
Both Eunice and I are encouraged to look ahead with hope that God will continue to use whom he has called and equipped, to serve and welcome the neurodivergent community in schools and the Church.
Dr Tan with former President of Singapore, Mdm Halimah Yacob, pictured here with a book Dr Tan wrote about Christopher, Christopher Is Loved
Soundings
Dr Roland Chia is Chew Hock Hin Professor of Christian Doctrine at Trinity Theological College and Theological and Research Advisor at the Ethos Institute for Public Christianity.
From inclusion to belonging
In an article published in the April 2024 issue of the Methodist Message, it was reported that:
The Church in Singapore has been key in supporting people with disabilities through social services. Social service agencies such as the Methodist Welfare Services, St Andrew's Mission Hospital, Singapore Anglican Community Services and TOUCH Community Services have made a significant impact on the national disability landscape. While we may boast about our presence in the social service space, hardly the same can be said of the churches. Only 5 per cent, or 26 churches, have one or more disability ministries among the 600 Protestant churches in Singapore.1
Clearly more can and must be done to help churches here understand the importance of ministering to its members with disabilities. But even while that is being done, we must also reflect on what such a ministry entails.
If we were to consult the literature on the subject, including the articles published on
various media platforms, we will find that the idea that dominates the discourse is that of inclusion. Society, we are told (and by extension, the Church), must be inclusive and welcome people with disabilities.
This is of course a laudable and much needed exhortation. We must indeed try to create an environment where people with disabilities do not feel excluded or pushed to the margins and alienated. Instead, we must welcome them and ensure that they truly feel welcomed.
However, while inclusion is certainly very important in our attitude towards and treatment of people with disabilities, it is only the starting point. For people with disabilities to really flourish in our churches, they must not only feel that they are included. They must also have a profound sense that they truly belong.
The Bible and Christian tradition offer abundant resources for developing a theology of belonging that should be explored and applied to the Church's approach to people with disabilities.
At the most fundamental level, a Christian theology of belonging is established on the gospel message itself. Jesus Christ, the incarnate Son of God, has died for the sins of humanity. All who call upon his name and put their faith in him as their Saviour and Lord are reconciled to God and have become his sons and daughters.
This directly impacts how each member of Christ's Body should be regarded. Paul powerfully emphasises this in his well-known chapter on the unity and diversity of the Church, where he writes: "For in one Spirit we were all baptised into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit" (1 Corinthians 12:13).
The apostle spells out the significance of this further in his letter to the Christians in Galatia: "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus" (Galatians 3:28). To this list we can surely add "neither abled nor disabled".
Thus, every believer is part of the Body of Christ. No one is lesser than the other. No one is dispensable. Through the work of the Spirit, every believer belongs to the one body, the Church.
But what is the difference between inclusion and belonging?
Belonging points to a deeper, more profound understanding of membership in the Body of Christ than inclusion. Inclusion generally suggests making room for someone at the table, while belonging involves an invitation to participate fully in the life of the church and contribute meaningfully to its ministry.
Inclusion often points to efforts to ensure that people with disabilities have access
to the full range of the activities of the church. Inclusion places emphasis on what some writers have called structural accommodations: wheelchair ramps, large print bulletins, sign language interpretation etc.
While all these are of course important, belonging goes much deeper. It is less about the structures that are put in place to assist people of disabilities, but involves a mindset, an ethos and a culture which embraces all people fully for who they are. It involves the creation of a social space where people with disabilities are truly valued as an integral part of community and where they can use their God-given gifts to bless the Church.
Belonging emphasises genuine relationships established on our identity and unity in Christ. This means valuing members with disabilities as brothers and sisters in Christ, not merely "tolerated" or "accommodated", but loved and treasured as indispensable members of the Church.
Belonging also stresses interdependence. This recalls Paul's words to the Corinthians: "The eye cannot say to the hand, 'I have no need of you,' nor again the head to the feet, 'I have no need of you'" (1 Corinthians 12:21). Belonging recognises the fact that our brothers and sisters with disabilities have much to contribute to the building up of the Church.
Moving from inclusion to belonging means going beyond merely making room for our brothers and sisters with disabilities to fully embracing them. In doing so, the Church becomes more fully what it is meant to be.
1 Joanna Ong, "Whither the Church and disability ministries in Singapore?," Methodist Message, April 4, 2024, https://www.methodist.org.sg/methodistmessage/whither-the-church-and-disability-ministries-in-singapore/).
Outreach
Love your volunteer gig? It just could become
your career
Melissa Teo left her corporate job to pursue a degree in guidance and counselling. A volunteering opportunity at an MWS Active Ageing Centre turned her passion into a career.
"I never knew I had such endless patience and empathy for seniors."
When Melissa Teo began volunteering at MWS Active Ageing Centre – GreenTops@ Sims Place (GTAAC) in May 2022, she was eager to gain experience in the social service sector. Having left the corporate world after more than 20 years to pursue a degree in guidance and counselling, Melissa saw it as a chance to discover new career possibilities.
But what started out as casual volunteering soon turned into a calling. "I came to realise that I truly love the seniors—the good, the bad and the difficult—and I wanted to continue engaging with them," she shared.
As a volunteer, Melissa played an active role in befriending socially isolated seniors and running programmes such as bingo and sing-along sessions. "Some seniors get so excited during sing-along sessions that they even start dancing," she laughed. "Seeing them happy makes me happy, and as Proverbs 17:22 says, 'A joyful heart is good medicine.' "
Using her skills to help seniors avoid squabbles
Volunteering also became a meaningful way for Melissa to apply her counselling skills.
She recalled an incident where an elderly woman with a walking stick arrived late to an activity and was turned away by the groups
Melissa Teo (in MWS tee) leading a Reminiscence Facilitation session at MWS Active Ageing Centre – GreenTops@ Sims Place
she tried to join. Feeling excluded, she shouted in Hokkien, "I am just an old lady with walking difficulties! Why do you people push me around?" before storming out.
Melissa quickly followed, calming her down before encouraging the other seniors to put themselves in her shoes. "I asked them to consider how they would feel if they were told they didn't belong," she shared. "That was one of many times I was able to counsel seniors struggling with resentment and bitterness. It was fulfilling to help them find peace."
Determined to foster a more supportive space, Melissa worked with staff to launch a six-session workshop on positive mindsets and respectful communication. Through games and skits, seniors explored topics like embracing diverse perspectives and managing emotions.
The impact was clear—a more mindful and respectful environment, where seniors felt a stronger sense of belonging.
From volunteer to senior executive
When a full-time position opened up at the AAC, Melissa saw it as the perfect opportunity to turn her passion into a career. Now, as a Senior Executive responsible for Volunteer Management, she encourages other seniors to volunteer and develops innovative programmes to boost engagement. She also empowers volunteers to colead activities, givin g them ownership in shaping an environment where seniors can thrive together.
For Melissa, this work is deeply tied to her faith. Citing Matthew 5:16, she shared, "There were times when I had the opportunity to visit sick seniors in the hospital and, with their permission, pray for them. It is truly meaningful to live out God's word in this way."
Melissa's journey shows how acts of service can bring purpose and transformation—both for volunteers and those they serve. You, too, can make a difference by stepping up to serve the marginalised and vulnerable in our community.
As The Methodist Church in Singapore celebrates its 140th Anniversary, its social concerns arm, Methodist Welfare Services, is rallying members to contribute 1.4 million volunteer hours (about 35 hours per person) to uplift lives.
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Outreach
Rev Vincent Lim is a Diaconal Minister in The Methodist Church in Singapore and serves as the Regional Director (Laos & Thailand) for Methodist Missions Society. / Photos courtesy of Methodist Missions Society
Choosing inconvenience
Everyone loves a comfortable and pleasant environment. A quiet classroom can quickly become unsettling when disrupted by shouting or running. Rushing to an appointment, only to be delayed because the bus driver waits patiently for a person in a wheelchair to board, can cause frustration. A joyful gathering interrupted by a meltdown can create discomfort. Many of us have found ourselves in situations where we feel uneasy or inconvenienced due to the disabilities of others. Disabilities can be physical, sensory, intellectual, mental or related to chronic illnesses. These moments often challenge us to respond with patience, understanding and compassion.
When Methodist Missions Society (MMS) founded Little Sheep Childcare Centre in Khon Kaen, Thailand, we were thrilled to teach children and instil godly values in them. Daily challenges like crying, disobedience and delayed learning were normal situations which we handled everyday. However, one day, we encountered a situation that tested us in new ways—a child began exhibiting signs of autism. This child struggled to interact with others, often screamed during classes, and disrupted nap times with loud singing and outbursts.
The teachers grew physically and mentally exhausted. They were also concerned about the impact on the
Art class outside the classroom
other children's learning if this situation continued. During our discussions, we faced a difficult decision; either gently ask the parents to find another school better suited to their child's needs or take on the responsibility of teaching and nurturing the child to the best of our abilities.
As we prayed, we asked ourselves: How does Jesus view this child? What would he do? The answer was clear. Jesus loved this child deeply and would not have turned him away. Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven" (Matthew 19:14).
pales in comparison to the surpassing love of God, who demonstrated his love for us in this: "… while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8).
Jesus did not let the inconvenience of coming to earth stop him from redeeming us from our spiritual brokenness. During his time on earth, he reached out to the marginalised, the disabled and the excluded, showing us how to love them unconditionally. Likewise, the disabilities of others should never stop us from loving, caring for and accepting them for who they are.
When we told the child's mother that we would work together to support her child, she was overwhelmed with gratitude. With tears in her eyes, she said, "We've been asked to withdraw from previous schools before. The teachers couldn't handle my child. I didn't know what I
would
do if your centre turned us away too."
Jesus did not exclude children with special needs, and neither should we. It felt like a battle between doing what was right versus doing what was easy.
We chose the right path, even though it was the more difficult one. When we told the child's mother that we would work together to support her child, she was overwhelmed with gratitude. With tears in her eyes, she said, "We've been asked to withdraw from previous schools before. The teachers couldn't handle my child. I didn't know what I would do if your centre turned us away too."
Disabilities and special needs often leave children and their families feeling abandoned by society. By choosing to embrace this child, we offered them acceptance and love. Yet, what we did
You and Your Family
Benny Bong has over 40 years of experience as a therapist, counsellor and trainer. He also conducts regular talks and webinars. Benny has helmed the You & Your Family column for more than 18 years and is a member of Kampong Kapor Methodist Church.
A victim
mentality and the blame game
Life can be very unpredictable and some may say unfair. This is especially so when things outside our control happen to us. This includes being born with a disability or into a family where the level of care falls short. Or being betrayed by someone we trust. Or being in the wrong place at the wrong time when hit by a crime. When we find ourselves in such circumstances, we feel like a victim.
We often respond to such unfortunate situations with some form of questioning and soul
searching. We may wonder if we could have done anything to prevent it. This may lead to blaming ourselves over every minute decision we could have made differently to prevent it. An example of this is a date rape victim who blames herself for not keeping an eye on her drinks at a party. Maybe then, she thinks, no one would have had a chance to put something into her drink. Or maybe she should not have gone on the date in the first place. As you can see, this self-examination can spiral into a whole string of "what-ifs" or "maybes".
When the difficulties are totally beyond one's control, who do we blame? These reflections arise from meeting two clients with similar struggles. One was born with an incurable heart defect. The other was born into a family where his younger sibling has severe autism. Both are young men in their thirties, well-educated and hold professional jobs. The first impression one gets is that they have a bright future ahead. Yet as one digs deeper, their outlook on life is pessimistic and they are even depressive in their mood.
It is hard for these young men, and I am sure for many other men and women, to plan for their future. Hopes of getting married and starting a family are all viewed through the lens of their personal challenges. They have taken to declaring their circumstances at the start of any romantic relationship so as not to "mislead" any interested party and then suffer the disappointment of rejection.
all very natural human needs.
How should others respond to such persons? Well, for one, the search for answers should not be stifled nor cut short with trite responses like: "This is just the way it is. Sometimes bad things just happen, no one is to blame." These responses may contain a grain of truth but if said too early, will only fan the flames of anger. What we can do is to listen with as much understanding as we can summon. We need to acknowledge the appropriate place for emotions like anger, rage and sadness.
We can then move on to having conversations about how they can live their lives in spite of these circumstances. Not because of the circumstances but even with them. What hopes and dreams can still be entertained? What interests can still be pursued and how can others help make them possible?
We understand that nothing happens outside of God's perfect and complete will. If we submit ourselves to it, we may find this to be a time when our faith can grow stronger.
Earlier, I mentioned soul searching for who or what to blame. Such efforts are understandable as a way of venting some of the anger and frustration. Unfortunately, these strong emotions are usually not quenched. Instead, they may grow even stronger with all the blaming. This is because the purpose of blaming ourselves or others is to find answers or ways to control our lives in future even though we could not prevent what has happened. The need to understand our life's circumstances, to grieve when hurt and to gain some degree of control are
As believers, there is one other dimension to our response. We understand that nothing happens outside of God's perfect and complete will. If we submit ourselves to it, we may find this to be a time when our faith can grow stronger. We can find peace and rest even when these negative circumstances remain unchanged because even these situations cannot separate us from his love. When this happens, we change from being a helpless victim to a survivor and can even transform further to be a victorious child of God.
Rev Joey Chen is currently pastoring at Paya Lebar Methodist Church, and oversees the Family Life, Youth and Young Adult ministries. Prior to pastoring, Rev Joey had stints in the public and private sectors doing communications work. She is married to Andrew, whom she met in seminary.
Benny Bong has over 40 years of experience as a therapist, clinical supervisor and trainer. He also conducts regular talks and webinars. Benny has helmed MM’s You & Your Family column for more than 18 years and is a member of Kampong Kapor Methodist Church.
Sue-Lynn Teo is a registered psychologist with the Singapore Psychological Society and is trained in Educational and Developmental Psychology. She specialises in assessments and therapy work with children who have learning, behavioural or special needs. She worships at Toa Payoh Methodist Church with her family.
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Dating & Marriage
My husband is "fighting his feelings" towards another woman—is this infidelity?
My husband of 25 years told me he fell in love with someone my daughter's age. He says he has never felt this way before. I consider this infidelity. He does not because he says he is fighting his feelings. I am so hurt. Is he right? Am I too sensitive? How can I be with a man who doesn't love me but loves someone else?
Broken
Joey says
Dear Broken,
My response is based on the understanding that no physical boundaries were crossed between your husband and the lady, since there was no mention of it.
It is painful to hear your husband say that he has feelings for someone else. However, it is a promising sign that he has chosen to be honest with you and is choosing to fight the feelings. That he is fighting and not going with his feelings indicates that he treasures the marriage. He may be reaching out to you for support in this fight by being honest. If that's the case, I would encourage you to fight alongside him.
It is possible that there was emotional infidelity but that depends on how far the emotional ties went. Regardless of whether there was or wasn't an emotional affair (that can be sorted out later), what is key in the immediate future is how you and the relationship will heal from this. His developing feelings for someone else may be a symptom of existing marital issues that need to be dealt with. If you are both committed to the marriage and to the healing process, there is a good chance that you both can heal and recover from this, and the marriage can come out of this stronger. Looking for a professional marriage counsellor that you have rapport with to help guide you both through this episode will be a matter of priority.
The healing journey will be difficult. When you feel overwhelmed by the pain, take it to God in prayer. Let him show you what he wants for your marriage and let him lead you in your response that your response may be God-honouring (and not out of your own flesh).
Friendships Caught between two friends
I am friends with a couple and have known the husband and wife for nearly a decade now. On the outside, they look like the perfect couple— stable jobs, great kids, nice house, God-fearing family. However, both the husband and wife confide in me separately and share their deepest, darkest secrets with me. They do not know that I am hearing both sides of their stories. I have told them to talk to each other in my separate chats, or to consider couples counselling. How should I tell them I do not want to be involved and that it's too much for me?
Friend in the middle
Benny says Dear Friend in the middle,
One of the gifts and responsibilities of being a close friend to someone is that they may take you into their confidence. As they trust you, they may begin to confide in you more and more. Even if they do not do so to get some advice or some concrete form of assistance, the mere fact that they can share with someone they trust and whom they believe cares for them, affords them some temporary relief.
It is a gift because being taken into someone's confidence is not a given. It is also a gift as you, the listener, makes yourself available. To your credit, not one but both these friends have come to see you as someone in whom they can confide.
It is a responsibility too because your friends may expect that you keep their sharing to yourself. Caring and yet restraining oneself is not always easy. It takes a special quality, a good set of skills and finally, loads of discipline to do so.
What complicates matters is that each has independently shared things about the other. Their sharing may colour how you see each friend. Listening to their "deepest, darkest secrets" sounds like it is taking a toll on you.
It is right to encourage them to speak with each other and resist being the messenger. Avail yourself less and less to both, but let them know that this is a deliberate action on your part as you value their friendship and cannot help but feel drawn in to be their counsellor, a role which you do not want nor are you able to manage.
Additionally, providing a listening ear may give them sufficient relief to tolerate and cope with the current situation and thereby delay their need to resolve the problems. It may, in the long run, prove to be unhelpful.
Family
Teenage son talks back to his teachers
My nearly-adult teenage son does well in school both academically and in CCAs. However, he gets into trouble every year for talking back to his teachers. Some teachers absolutely adore him; they are the ones who see his heart. But teachers that are "not nice" will bear the brunt of his talkback because he has no respect for either their poor teaching skills or their difficult personalities. He is often the one at fault, but I don't know how to get him to rein in his tongue.
Fed-up Mama
Sue-Lynn says
Dear Fed-up Mama,
It's hard getting our teenage children to listen to well-meaning advice on not talking back to teachers out of respect for their seniority in age and position, especially as they get older. Your son, as a Gen Z, may have grown up in a generation and school environment where teachers are regarded as peers rather than being positionally more senior and thus commanding more respect.
Trying to understand the "why" behind your son's "talkback" is a good start, especially when approached with a curious, non-judgemental stance. For example, "Teacher A is not great at teaching, can you help me better understand what you mean?" Use his words as far as possible.
Next, try to understand the intent of his "talkback" without assuming, for example, that it is out of disrespect (keeping in mind that Gen Z teens may have different definitions of "respect" from their Gen X parents). For example, he may be expressing his frustration/annoyance/
disappointment over what he thinks is poor teaching or the teacher's difficult personality. Validate those feelings (e.g., "I hear/see that you're feeling _______ because of _______") and when you sense he is ready, encourage him to find alternative, more helpful ways to express his underlying emotions and thoughts/ perceptions about his respective teachers.
Prayerfully bring in God's word that encourages us as Christians to let our words reflect the truth of the gospel and how it has transformed our lives ( "Let our conversation always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer to each person"Colossians 4:6). Thereafter, ask him to consider how he might re-examine the way he talks to his teachers. Provide guidance if needed (i.e. scripts to use to communicate more respectfully with his teachers) and as necessary, pray for a continued heart change that would lead to a continued change in his speech ( "Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer" - Psalm 19:14).
On Earth as it is in Heaven: Worship as a catalyst for inclusivity
It was a typical weekday morning dropping my daughter off at preschool— until the principal approached me with unexpected news.
The children were preparing for their year-end concert, and my daughter had been paired with a classmate with special needs. The principal gently warned me that the boy might have a meltdown during rehearsals or the performance and suggested that I be mentally prepared for any incidents.
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I felt a mix of emotions. On one hand, I was proud that my four-year-old had been entrusted with this role. On the other, a small part of me hesitated, wondering about the challenges she might face. And in that moment of hesitation, I felt the Spirit's rebuke.
How does worship shape our ability to embrace those who are different from us?
For years in my last job, I had worked on disability policy in the civil service. Today I actively promote inclusive music and dance programmes through the Methodist School of Music. So why was it difficult to embrace inclusivity when it became personal?
That question lingered in my heart, but it soon expanded into a bigger reflection: How does worship shape our ability to embrace those who are different from us?
In 2015, artist Hyatt Moore painted a striking image of the great banquet in Luke 14—a table where the poor, crippled, blind and lame are honoured guests. It is a powerful vision of God's upside-down kingdom. Yet, while we affirm this vision, living it out is another challenge.
How does our worship prepare us for the kind of kingdom Jesus describes?
• Does our worship reflect this vision of radical hospitality?
Do our churches welcome those with disabilities and neurodivergence, not just as visitors but as fully participating members of the body of Christ?
• Do we make space for different abilities in our liturgies and music?
Is there room for the participation of those who may not fit conventional expectations of engagement?
• How does our worship shape our responses outside the sanctuary?
If worship is meant to form us, does it move us towards compassion and inclusion in our daily lives?
In the end, I chose to see my daughter's experience as a teachable moment. After each rehearsal, we processed what happened together. On the concert day, she danced on stage, at times alone, as her partner hesitated. But in one small, beautiful moment, she gently nudged him to join in. Some may have felt sorry for her, but to me, that moment held a glimpse of hope—of a world where differences are embraced with love and patience.
If worship is truly about shaping us into God's people, then it must cultivate a posture of openness and love, especially towards those whom society often overlooks. Worship is not only about the words we sing or the prayers we say but also about the habits it instills in us— habits that should form a people ready to embody the inclusivity of God's kingdom.
As we pray "on earth as it is in heaven", may our worship not only reflect the vision of heaven but also lead us to live it out, here and now.
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Joanna Sia serves as a keyboardist in the Worship & Music Ministry at Paya Lebar Methodist Church, and serves in the same worship band as her husband, Paul Khoo. / Photo courtesy of Joanna Sia
Returning to family roots
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Paul, Joanna and their children
When I was 10 years old, my mum brought my brother and me to Paya Lebar Methodist Church (PLMC). My fondest memories of my younger days were my loving Sunday school teachers and the youth camps I attended.
After my husband and I started our own family, we moved to another church for several years. After some years, I felt an aching in my heart to return to PLMC. I began to seek the Lord on this but kept the matter to myself
at first. Subsequently, our children began to show reluctance to go to church on Sundays and it did not improve despite our efforts to address their concerns. This only intensified my longing to return as I recalled how I was nurtured in my faith growing up in Sunday school. When I shared my desire to move back to PLMC with my husband, he revealed that God had also placed on his heart to "return to family roots". PLMC was the first church where his grandparents and extended family worshipped at while living in Kovan Road in the mid-1900s. Praise God for aligning our hearts in agreement to return to PLMC!
In 2015, our family of five returned to PLMC after being away for 10 years. Our children also adjusted very well to Silver Boxes, PLMC's children ministry. While tucking the children into bed one Sunday night shortly after moving back to PLMC, our youngest asked me, "Mummy, when are we going back to church?"
Till today, my heart is so full of thanksgiving. We have returned home.
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