Manner | Issue 8

MANNER

HITTING THE HIGH NOTES WITH

BREAKING THE PERIOD TABOO

THE HEALTH ISSUE

SUMMER STYLE

Hannah Campbell

CONTENTS

FASHION

17. TRENDING

What's trending now

19. SHOPPING

Editor's picks of the hottest pieces right now

20. SUMMER TRENDS

Crochet, tropicana and neon

27. ALL WHITE

Head to toe white

29. CALI GIRLS

Liana Shaw looks at the Cali trend, from boho dresses to distressed denim

33. ACID TRIP

Get trippy with acid wash and tie dye

34. O.T.T JEWELLERY

Layered necklaces, bracelets and rings? Why not.

36. HOW TO WEAR VOLUME

Explore volume in exaggerated proportions

39. SEASON KEY PIECES

Everything you need to get you through the season ahead

42. LIVING CORAL

Everything from fashion to homewares in the "Pantone Colour of the Year"

45. MUSINGS

Marshaine Maubec shares the things she's loving right now

56. HOLIDAY WARDROBE

Mark Stephenson photographs Toni at The Atlantic Hotel

FEATURES

46. THE SECRET LIFE OF A TEACHER

One anonymous teacher shares her views on the recent teacher strikes

48. EDUCATION PROVIDES A GLIMMER OF HOPE

Bodhgaya is a location of polar opposites, discovers Emily Smith

50. TALKING ABOUT LIFE AND WORKING OUT THE HARMONIES

WITH HANNAH CAMPBELL

Hannah Campbell tells Lucy Sanderson all about her journey from a shy and sensitive teenager to a confident performer and singing teacher

BEAUTY

67. FACE MASKS

The most recommended face masks of 2019

70. 3 TIPS FOR HEALTHIER HAIR

Laura Butlin-Policarpo shares her tips for healthier hair

72. SUMMER METALLICS

Mark Stephenson photographs Robyn Kent

78. SPF DECODED

Liana Shaw looks at the latest SPF products available on the market right now

81. CHRONIC PAIN

Laura Butlin-Policarpo talks chronic pain

82. BREAKING THE TABOO

Cliona Elliott talks all things periods

85. FOREST BATHING

Cliona Elliott on forest bathing

TRAVEL

86. ON THE RIVIERA

We spent one week on the Riviera, visiting Nice, Monaco and Cannes

LIFESTYLE

92. THE LUST LIST

Must-have pieces for your home

84. LAGOM

Hannah Carolan discusses the benefits of a lagom lifestyle

98. FOOD: HEALTH KICK

Recipes by Christian Gott

100. COMPLETE WELL-BEING

By Chloe Bowler

102. DATING: THE UNEXPECTED JOY OF BEING SINGLE

Bex Evans is embracing being single

CULTURE

107. BOOK CLUB

Hannah Carolan's must-read books

108. HARNESSING THE POWER OF MINDFULNESS

Lucy Sanderson speaks to Glenda Rivoallan, author of Mindfulness for Well-being

110. WHY I'VE STOPPED CALLING PEOPLE PUSSIES

Cliona Elliott looks at the power of language

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MANNER contributors

Laura Butlin-Policarpo is a style-conscious supporter of independent businesses, a floral enthusiast and brunch connoisseur.

Emily Smith has just spent 14 months travelling NZ, the Philippines and India. All of her spare time is spent on the beach or searching for hedge veg.

Hannah Carolan is a freelance writer, marketer and event management professional. Hannah enjoys drinking prosecco, sleeping, creating stuff and exploring new countries and cultures.

Lucy Sanderson is a freelance commercial copywriter and content marketer. She loves witty words, conjuring up campaigns, hanging with her side-kick, Ava Grace and doing a lot of cooking.

Chloë Bowler is a celebrity personal trainer and owner of Health Chef, which delivers freshly prepared, healthy and delicious meals straight to your door, three times a week.

Editor

Sophie Wilkinson 07829 828033 sophie@mannermagazine.co.uk

Bex Evans is originally from Leeds, but has called Jersey home for 14 years. She can be found writing, reading and jogging around the island.

Mark Stephenson is originally from Liverpool, but moved to Jersey in 2008 and is a passionate semi-professional photographer. He specialises in lifestyle, fashion and portraiture.

Liana Shaw is a freelance writer and blogger. When she isn't writing, she's off exploring far and exotic places.

Sales Mark Wilkinson 07829 838844 mark@mannermagazine.co.uk

MannerJersey @Mannerjsy www.mannermagazine.co.uk

Christian Gott is a full-time chef here on his fourth and favourite island and a father of two. Any spare time is spent writing about food.

Cliona Elliott is a freelance writer. She loves travelling, brunching, listening to stories and anything sparkly.

Cover shot by Mark Stephenson

Hannah wears dress £289 Ganni at Voisins, Earrings £48, Aqua

Makeup: Sandra at Mac

Hair: Damian Philpott

Hello..

As we step into summer, with the sun on our faces and toes on display, this edition of Manner has a focus on health and wellness, we also delve in to women’s rights, the power of language, building confidence, super summer recipes and how to create a vibrant summer wardrobe. Let’s face it, it’s the season of freedom, fun and fashion flair; longer days, shorter nights and a plethora of places to go and people to see. In order to make the most out of summer and keep up with all those al fresco cocktail events, garden BBQs and the kids’ summer hols, it’s important to be mindful of our wellbeing.

Our cover story is with the unstoppable and utterly gorgeous, Hannah Campbell. Lucy Sanderson chatted to the Roodmood front-woman and super soulful singing teacher to find out how she took shyness and turned into confidence. Some people have just got ‘it’ and this Jersey girl has got it in spades.

We touch on a few pretty pertinent points in this edition too; ladies, we’ve got lots in here to entertain you but also to get you thinking. As always, we don’t impress our views on anyone else, rather, we like to let people speak their mind. Our girls who’ve contributed to this edition have brought some interesting chatter to the table, sparked by the recent worrying law change in Alabama: The latest US State to move to restrict abortions by passing a bill to outlaw the procedure in almost all cases including incest and rape, only allowing abortion where the mother’s life is at serious risk. Abortions would also be illegal to perform, with doctors facing 99 years in prison for carrying out the procedure. Abortion should not be taken lightly, but it’s a woman’s choice and we’ve been hard pushed to avoid this topic at Manner HQ.

Moving on, but still on the subject of women’s rights, Cliona Elliott looks at breaking the taboo surrounding periods. According to statistics, Plan International found that 137,000 girls in the UK missed school because they couldn’t afford sanitary products. In Nepal women are banned from the home and sent to live in a shed. In Sub-Saharan Africa, 1 in 10 girls miss school due to lack of toilets, menstrual products, menstrual pain and teasing from classmates. We need to talk. We need to break the taboo and normalise periods once and for all.

From taboo to typical language; phrases, labels, sarcastic remarks - using sexist terminology is almost ingrained into our psyche. Cliona looks at the power of language.

From words to pictures, our holiday themed editorial was shot at The Atlantic Hotel with Toni Neil, by Mark Stephenson. The pages are bursting with colour and insurmountable summer style; of course, in one of the island’s most delectable settings.

Thumb through our pages of info on how to keep hair healthy this season, how to rock a tropical print, what bags will set off your outfit best and which face masks will give you that summertime glow as well as a host of other fabulous trend insights and forecasts.

On a personal note, Beatrice had her first holiday! At the beginning of May, we went to the French Riviera for a week. Mark and I took baby Bea to spend a couple of days in Nice, Monaco and Cannes. It was so nice to switch off from work and spend some quality family time together. You can read all about our trip on page 112 and find out all the best places to eat, stay, shop and strut - avec, or sans le pram!

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MANNER fashion

GOING NATURAL GOING NATURAL

Le Petit Baci tote from Jacquemus is made from raffia with large, exaggerated fringe spilling out of each seam. Made in Spain, it is trimmed with white leather, giving you two carrying options: by the two rolled top handles or via the removable shoulder strap.

GRAFFITI

Bold colours, prints and graphics are a testament to street art. Designers from Versace to Matty Bovan incorporated graffiti-style elements into their designs.

WILD BLUEBELL HOME CANDLE

Escape the everyday with Jo Malone London's latest offering in this gorgeous scent.

"Vibrant sapphire blooms in a shaded woodland. The delicate sweetness of dewy bluebells suffused with lily of the valley and eglantine, and a luscious twist of persimmon. Mesmerising. To uplift, to wind down or simply to add an air of luxury."

Available from Jo Malone London at Voisins Department Store.

Trending

What's trending right now

Tilda Swinton.

Fashion: Gucci, Marc Jacobs, jewellery: Lisa Eisner Jewelry, Vela, Uno de 50, A. Brandt + Son. Renishaw Hall, Derbyshire, 2018. © Tim Walker Studio

TIM WALKER: WONDERFUL THINGS

Experience the extraordinary creative process of one of the world's most inventive photographers through his pictures, films, photographic sets, and special installations – including ten new series of photographs influenced by the V&A's collections.

Opening on Saturday 21st September 2019 at the V&A Museum, London

FESTIVAL VIBES

Finger print makeup, excess glitter and neon everything. Complete the look with chunky trainers and pink hair just like Winnie Harlow at Coachella.

Images: Simon Armstrong

EYESHADOW PALETTE £16, NYX PROFESSIONAL

NEON CLUTCH £29, CHICHI

Shopping

The pieces on our wish list

SWIMSUIT £210, DIANE VON FURSTENBERG

RUBBER FLIP-FLOPS £28.80, LACOSTE AT DE GRUCHY

LES GEORGETTES BRACELET £99, SHADES OF TIME AT DE GRUCHY

DRESS £144, GANNI AT VOISINS

DRESS £113, SUNDRESS AT NAUTILUS

SKIRT £206.10, POLO RALPH LAUREN AT VOISINS

SILK SCARF £345, ALEXANDER MCQUEEN

BAG £625.50, MULBERRY AT DE GRUCHY

MULES £290, KALDA

CROCHET

Add some texture into your wardrobe with macramé and crochet details.

Images: Shutterstock/ Fashionstock.com, Ovidiu Hrubaru

TOP £25, NEXT

CARDIGAN £94.99, AFFINITY

CARDIGAN £150, ODD MOLLY AT NAUTILUS

BAG £77, CHICHI

BAG £20, TOPSHOP BRALETTE £29, FREE PEOPLE AT VOISINS

TROPICANA

Birds, fruit, fish, exotic flowers, palm leaves - think paradise island.

RICHARD QUINN

BORA AKSU

PETER PILOTTO

Images: Shutterstock/ Ovidiu Hrubaru, Aleksandr Dyskin

SWIMSUIT £63, BILLABONG AT HAPI

BLOUSE £113,RIXO AT VOISINS

DRESS £135.63, TOMMY HILFIGER AT VOISINS

DRESS £152.10, WHISTLES AT VOISINS

TOP £62, MINT VELVET AT DE GRUCHY

TOP £29, OASIS AT DE GRUCHY

DRESS £265, LK BENNETT AT DE GRUCHY

NEON

Lime green, blinding yellow, extra hot pink and flame orange, the brighter the better.

Images: Simon Armstrong

MALAN BRETON

JASPER CONRAN

JUMPSUIT £116, MINT VELVET AT DE GRUCHY

DRESS £152.10, DAMSEL IN A DRESS AT DE GRUCHY

BAG CHARM £27, CHICHI

DRESS £176, REISS AT VOISINS BAG £148.50, MARC JACOBS AT VOISINS

BAG £60, CHICHI

DRESS £194, MICHAEL KORS AT VOISINS

TROUSERS £69.99, AFFINITY

TOP £84.99, AFFINITY

all WHITE

Ahhh, all white. It can look so good but avoid looking like you’ve stepped out of a 90s boyband video with these simple styling steps. Firstly, mixing up the textures and shades is key when creating a more relaxed look. White denim paired with a slightly oversized off-white or cream knit, tucked in in an oh-so-casual way. Secondly, if you want to wear the same shade top and bottom, go for tailored pieces in the same fabric instead. If you’re going matchy-matchy, fit is key. Lastly, make like Philip Lim with an uber cool white dress and shoe combo.

OFF-WHITE

DRESS £219, WEEKEND MAX MARA AT VOISINS BAG £225, KATE SPADE AT VOISINS SHOES £100.62, TOMMY HILFIGER AT VOISINS

JIMMY CHOO • KATE SPADE • MAUI JIM • POLICE • TED BAKER • POLAROID • LACOSTE • SEVENTH STREET • CARRERA • BOLLE • LIPSY

CALI girls

Liana Shaw talks us through the Cali trend, from boho dresses to distressed denim

California; One of the most iconic places in the world, the home of Hollywood and surf culture, incredible coasts and Beverly Hills. More often than not, when we think of California, we think of the beaches, the sand, the sea; the glorious sunshine filled days driving down the west coast with the surfboard in the back and the Pacific to the left.

Fashion is also taking its inspiration from this vision for a key trend this season. Perfect for summer, Cali style brings to life the freshness and freestyle ethos that we associate with California dreaming.

The boho chicness we love from the days of hippie revolution is a major piece of this trend. With texture playing a part, natural fabrics are best for achieving this look. Distressed linen, light, flowy cotton and slouchy knitwear all work brilliantly. Tailoring, structure and over worked fabric makes way for gentle crochet, wider weaves and cheesecloth style fabrics instead. Crinkles and creases? How low maintenance.

However, it’s not just the sort of fabric that can lend its hand to the trend. Colour plays a big part too. There’s quite a broad spectrum; a mix of earthy tones in blues, greens and ochres, contrasted with bright and bold pinks, yellows and reds. The softer colours add a more relaxed vibe to an item of clothing; cream as opposed to the sharpness of white, a gentle greyish blue instead of a strong royal blue. That’s not to say there aren’t brighter colours involved, but the look is more laid back than stand out and colour can help make that work. 

Look too for specific patterns. Florals, of course, are going to be a good option, but aim for a smaller ditsy print than massive in-your-face blooms. Another pattern giving us a nod to the past glory days of the hippie trend is paisley. Often seen as a vintage print, it’s making a comeback. Etro is nailing it with their ready to wear collection, bursting with the most Cali style ruffle dresses and paisley patterns in floaty, chiffon fabrics. On the high street, Free People are synonymous with Cali/ skater girl chic. Their cute kimono style cover ups, floaty sleeves and tassel details are the sorts of things you imagine wearing in Malibu, or while sipping a fresh juice whilst roaming around Santa Monica. Cool logos of California and skate or surf culture hotspots are great on a t-shirt or sweater and prints evoking the sea and beach life are perfect too. Michael Kors may be offering some hot pink knitwear, but it’s surfer print gives a nod to the west coast life, so if you’re looking for something a little higher end but still on trend, then that could be just the thing. However, if you want to keep things plain and simple, a cute cotton or linen cami, especially one with tortoise-shell or wooden buttons, is a fuss free way to rock the trend. Paired with some cool denim and beachy style accessories, it can help you rock the simplistic Cali girl cool without too much trouble. And after all, the California look is about being not so put together.

Denim is big too. Super cute and stylish flares give off a 70s Farrah Fawcett LA streetwear feel. A denim waistcoat or jacket over a floaty floral muted tone maxi dress is an easy look to achieve and is fairly subtle. Cali style is about the feeling of summer days and freedom, so relaxed, faded denim is the way to go here, rather than crisper dark indigo colours and skinny jeans. For Cali denim, look instead for frayed edges, straight cut jeans, patchwork details and embroidery. By all means rock the double denim, but again, make sure it’s not too structured.

If you’re not sure about going for the head to toe Cali look, accessories will probably do you well. A simple

pair of Ray-Ban’s work better than over-sized movie star black frames. A backpack looks instantly hippie chic but is practical too. Plus, there’s one must have jewellery accessory that everyone is obsessed over which is perfect for this trend. If you haven’t gotten yourself a shell necklace or some sort of shell jewellery yet, where have you been? Yes, it seems a bit 90s, because let’s face it, that’s when they were last popular, but now they are everywhere and available at every price point.

For shoes, think cool ankle boots and summer style Vans. Looking polished and put together isn’t massively essential for this trend to work, in fact, wearing your beat-up canvas pumps will work great. Channel the free spiritedness with a lack a structure and conformity and you’re pretty much good to go. California is about effortless cool with a hint of quirk. So, go and soak up the ocean vibes (and hopefully some sun) and release your inner surfer chick. 

JERSEY GRANITE FLIP-FLOP EARRINGS £48, AQUA

MICHAEL KORS

ASHLEY WILLIAMS

DRESS £80, MINT VELVET AT DE GRUCHY

The jersey stripe dress also comes in a top and a sundress.

Raw linen jacket/ shirt - perfect for this changeable weather!

Service with a smile

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Open Tuesday - Saturday 10-5pm & Sunday 10-2pm (Closed Mondays!)

acid TRIP

Did you ever make one of those homemade tie dye t-shirts? Well it’s back on trend and better than ever. Acid washes and colour blending evokes a cool, boho style, from acid faded denim to the 90s tie dye revival tees. Balmain presented us with a denim jacket and short combo in a strong acid wash, Isabel Mourant was all about the acid baggy trousers and Stella McCartney had the best of both worlds in an outstanding acid/ tie dye jumpsuit with varying blue tones. No doubt about it, with this style, we’re getting trippy.

DIOR STELLA MCCARTNEY

ASHLEY WILLIAMS

PRABAL GURUNG

TOP £104, CHICHI DRESS £112, ONE SEASON AT NAUTILUS BIKINI TOP £16, TOPSHOP BIKINI BOTTOMS £14, TOPSHOP

O.T.T

Make this summer an unapologetically bold one with layered necklaces, chunky bracelets, and shoulder sweeping earrings - all worn together.

RALPH LAUREN

NECKLACE £89, AQUA

BANGLE £99, OBAKU AT DE GRUCHY

EARRINGS £122.99, TI SENTO AT SHADES OF TIME

JERSEY GRANITE RING £79, AQUA

BRACELET £189, MICHAEL KORS AT DE GRUCHY

NECKLACE £69, CALVIN KLEIN AT POUR TOI

EARRINGS £89, CALVIN KLEIN AT POUR TOI

JERSEY GRANITE NECKLACE £89, AQUA

Tory Burch

Alexander Wang

MALAN BRETON

Images: Simon Armstrong

How to wear: VOLUME

The SS19 runways explored volume in exaggerated proportions with almost every designer paying homage to the trend. Here we advise you on how to style voluminous articles of clothing with ease.

SUMMER BALL

Turn up the volume when it comes to evening wear. Slip into a pleated dress and pair with strappy sandals for added elegance.

FESTIVAL FUN

Experiment with exaggerated sleeves. Pair a blouse with denim cut-offs and complete the look with cowboy boots and a matching hat.

HAT £70, WEEKEND MAX MARA AT VOISINS

BLOUSE £99, GANNI AT VOISINS

SHORTS £145, 7 FOR ALL MANKIND AT VOISINS

BOOTS £330, ZADIG&VOLTAIRE

DRESS £152, COAST AT DE GRUCHY

SANDALS £675, JIMMY CHOO

Dresses by Pomodoro

HATS ON

Floppy hats, visors, hatinators, headbands, baseball caps... Whatever your style may be, earn fashion kudos with a strong head game.

Season KEY PIECES

Everything you need to get through the season ahead

FLATFORMS

Cute, comfy and casual, flatforms are the perfect solution for height without heels.

FLIP-FLOPS

A major trend amongst influencers, the humble flip-flop is the shoe of the moment.

CHANEL

JIL SANDER

STAUD

£29, PIA ROSSINI AT NAUTILUS

£113, HELEN KAMINSKI AT NAUTILUS

£27, BILLABONG AT HAPI

£50, LK BENNETT AT DE GRUCHY

£22, WAREHOUSE AT VOISINS

£98.10, CARVELA AT VOISINS £13.50, COLOKO AT VOISINS

£67.50, DUNE AT DE GRUCHY £71.95, MODA IN PELLE AT DE GRUCHY

£90, DKNY AT VOISINS

£12.29, ANIMAL AT HAPI £16.19, ANIMAL AT HAPI

SHORTS

Pair a lightweight blouse with denim for a relaxed look or add a blazer and kitten heels to tailored shorts for a ladylike twist.

ONE PIECE OR TWO?

Look stylish on the beach or relax by the pool in our edit of must-have swimwear.

TOM FORD ISABEL MARANT

£70, ALL SAINTS AT VOISINS

£121.50, POLO RALPH LAUREN AT VOISINS £32, TOPSHOP

£86, REISS AT VOISINS

£141, WEEKEND MAX MARA AT VOISINS

£58.50, GANT AT DE GRUCHY

£98, WATERCULT AT VOISINS

£77.50, TOMMY HILFIGER AT VOISINS

£28, TOPSHOP £162, RALPH LAUREN AT DE GRUCHY

£99, RIXO AT VOISINS

TOP £12.60, BOTTOMS £10.80, DORINA AT DE GRUCHY

TOP £34.25, BOTTOMS £29, CALVIN KLEIN AT VOISINS

TOP £34.25, BOTTOMS £34.25, TOMMY HILFIGER AT VOISINS

BAGS AND BASKETS

A classic summer staple - now all you need is a towel and a copy of Manner and you're ready to hit the beach!

SUNGLASSES

Break away from traditional styles with cat eye or oversized shades.

£53, MINT VELVET AT DE GRUCHY £59, CHICHI

£46, LOVE ROCKS AT NAUTILUS £110, LK BENNETT AT DE GRUCHY £60, CHICHI £49.50, BANANA MOON AT HAPI £49, CHICHI £17.99, SUN JELLIES AT DE GRUCHY £79, WHISTLES AT VOISINS

£153, MIU MIU AT DE GRUCHY £202.50, GUCCI AT DE GRUCHY

DRESS £172, KAREN MILLEN AT DE GRUCHY

CLUTCH £89.10, KAREN MILLEN AT DE GRUCHY

LIP OIL £18, ELIZABETH ARDEN

NAIL POLISH £7.99, ESSIE

SHOES £39, TOPSHOP

Living coral

PANTONE COLOUR OF THE YEAR

"An animating and life-affirming coral hue with a golden undertone that energizes and enlivens with a softer edge."

VASE

£20, HABITAT.CO.UK

WALL HANGING £32, NEXT

CUP £5.39, SMIDGE AT DE GRUCHY

CUP £8, HABITAT.CO.UK

PHOTO FRAME £17.99, ZARA

I’m embarrassed to admit I’m a bit of a sneakerhead and usually match the colour of my shoes to my outfit, so when Nike came out with these in various colour-ways I had to purchase.

Collusion Cord Suit

I’ve been searching long and far for an affordable, ethical suit and Asos have pulled it out the bag with the collusion brand which contains sustainably sourced cotton.

BLAZER £45, TROUSERS £30

MUSINGS

Marshaine Maubec shares the things she's loving right now

I don’t run but with these glasses I sure look athletic. High-impact colours are the boldest trend this season but can be pretty intense, so the perfect midway point is a colourful pair of shades.

We all love Frida Kahlo with her unique style and positive outlook on life. Why not channel her this season and wear her on your ears?

2.5 billion coffee cups are thrown away each year in the UK, so by bringing a cup with you every time you get a drink you're helping combat this serious waste issue. I love this Stojo cup as it folds down small enough to fit in your handbag - perfect!

Travelling with a food allergy can be pretty troublesome, however I was surprised at how many gluten free options were available on my recent trip to Florence. Ciro & Sons is a family run pizzeria offering gluten and lactose free pizza and pasta. Gelati De Bondi was another place which catered to allergens, their dairy free chocolate gelato was to die for.

boy

Shine to the gods with this lip gloss. I’ll be packing this bad boy on all summer both alone and paired with a red lip.

LIP LUMINIZER £16, FENTY BEAUTY

DIAMANTÉ LADY EARRINGS £12.99, NEW LOOK

NIKE ZOOM 2K £80, SCHUH

The secret life of a teacher

At the time of printing, it looks as though there is a deal on the table agreed upon by all. One teacher explains why the recent strikes were necessary in the first place.

Teachers. Love them or hate them right now, it’s understandable, because the recent Teacher’s Strike did affect many people. Hopefully, here, I can enlighten those who aren’t 100% sure of what the strikes were all about, why teachers finally said ‘enough’, why they continued for so long, and what is happening next.

All the teachers I know are incredibly selfless people with enormous hearts. I see them comforting that child whose hamster died that morning, I see them buy breakfast for children who came to school without, I see them treating emotional children and parents with care and compassion.

But we are also human, and we are not perfect. It’s easy to forget that teachers have their own complicated lives too: divorce, deaths of loved ones, illness. We also just have to go through day to day life like everyone else: grocery shopping, appointments, doing household chores, being a parent etc.

The strikes started simply because, like pretty much all strikes, those actually doing the job felt like they weren’t being listened to after years of trying to be listened to. Unvalued and underappreciated. Disrespected in what used to be seen as a very prestigious and noteworthy career. And it should be. The many years studying and continuous training throughout a teacher’s career means that our own learning never ends. There is a never-ending stream of new teaching techniques to try, systems to get on board with, cutting edge research to practice and so you are never just a teacher. You are forever a student too.

Ask any teacher (and there are few left now) who have been teaching for 20 or more years and they all say similar things.

Technology advances have helped – thank goodness for interactive whiteboards and online data systems. But many other things have gone downhill. Teachers have never been expected to do more and be more than now. And whilst all teachers go into the profession with an understanding of ‘this is NOT going to be easy’, we do it anyway. And that, according to some, means that we don’t deserve to complain. Or if we don’t like how the system is, then just find another job.

Any person, if their work has changed in a way that is detrimental to their health or the service they can provide, should be allowed to speak up. The strikes weren’t a quick, selfish decision. They were talked about years ago, when teacher’s pay and job satisfaction started steeply declining. And feedback was given, but nothing changed.

As school budgets have been cut for resources, staff and services, it’s the children who lose out. Yes, teachers and other school staff won’t receive pay rises, which is sad and unfair, but when resources are stopped and the people holding the purse appear to stop listening, that’s when the pot boils over. Teachers, like many others in community serving professions; hospital staff, care and social workers, emergency services – all providing the most necessary of jobs, somehow aren’t taken as seriously as they used to be.

Many teachers face daily physical and emotional abuse. Many spend thousands of their own money over their careers buying resources to fill in where budget cuts affect even the simplest things, like paper, pencils, rubbers and rulers. Let alone luxuries like art supplies, costumes for drama and science or sports equipment.

"Many teachers face daily physical and emotional abuse."

Speaking to Mrs X* (a friend who is a parent of 3 children under 16) about the strikes, her support was clear, but I felt her frustration and pain. Childcare costs are astronomical. How will she manage this month? What about her son’s exams? Why won’t the SEB engage properly with pay deals if that’s the only way this whole mess is going to get sorted?

I didn’t have all the answers to give her. Unfortunately, pay is a big part of ‘this whole mess’. And it’s great that it looks like after a month of action, there might finally be a deal on the table that is agreed upon by all. “When compared to average earnings, which have consistently exceeded inflation since 2008, teachers’ and lecturers’ pay will be more than 15% behind by 2020” explained Chris Keates, NASUWT General Secretary. So, all this comes at the end of what was a 10-year real terms pay cut, when school budgets were being slashed and teachers were stretched to their last resource and emotional breaking point. The strikes had to happen for things to get better, whether the teachers wanted to do them or not.

Of course, when you look purely at numbers, a teacher’s wage seems a good deal (apart from an £8000 pay cut for Newly Qualified Teachers). But many earn less than minimum wage by the time you add in those 60+ hours a week and money out their own pocket, when their rents, bills and life costs are going up too, just like everyone else’s.

In any job, when your job role changes, and you work longer hours and take on more and more responsibility, you ask for a new job title and pay rise to match the commitment you’re giving. Teachers nowadays perform so many roles. They give up lunchtimes, after school and Saturday mornings for clubs (often unpaid) because they want to enrich the school. But there is only so far goodwill and expectations will take a person. Teachers don’t ‘just’ educate. They are marriage and family counsellors, they work with so many different agencies such as Social Services and doctors, police and charities, to support families. They are expected to be listeners, researchers and problem solvers for all aspects of life that might affect the children they teach and their families.

The paperwork and general workloads are ever increasing, teacher mental health has never been lower, and in a recent study, nearly 45% of teachers leave within 5 years. Teacher retention and turnover is huge. You have to ask yourself why? What environment is being created that makes so many leave or turn to strike action? And what is that environment doing for the children? Wouldn’t you want better for your child’s education?

The strikes were an unpleasant situation, and regardless of how I personally feel about the strikes, having been in this system for 10 years, I still love to teach. And at the end of the day, when your child’s teacher goes home after a 12 hour day with no lunch or toilet break, with a stack of marking to do when they should be spending time with their own family, they are also thinking of that child who achieved something amazing that day, the cuddle they received that put a smile on their face, the ‘wow!’ exam score they helped attain, and they are going to keep doing it all over again. Because they love it too. 

EDUCATION PROVIDES A GLIMMER OF HOPE

For thousands of pilgrims and monks from all over the world, it is the holiest place on the planet ¬– Buddhism’s Mecca. For tourists, it is a crazy Indian town filled with pristine temples, market stalls and street food. For the locals it’s life. For the poorest of those, it’s an opportunity to beg for food and money.

The Mahabodhi Temple towers over Bodhgaya, in Bihar, north-east India, and is the area’s main attraction. Tourists also flock to the 25-metre Great Buddha Statue, the Mahakala Cave ¬- where Buddha is said to have meditated for six years without food and water - and Sujata Temple, where Buddhists say Gautama Siddhartha (Buddha) was given milk rice upon leaving the cave.

Outside the gates of the historic monuments, lines of men and women push their children, often disabled and deformed, into the paths of tourists and pilgrims to beg for money and food. These children sit for hours in temperatures exceeding 40C in the summer - no education and little hope. But, for all of India’s faults, most children, especially in Bodhgaya, have access to free education.

One free school is the Lord Buddha Charitable School, situated in Chora, 6km from Bodhgaya on the opposite side of a river that runs dry outside the rainy season.

Chora’s locals are known as ‘untouchables’ ¬–members of Indian society who rank so low they do not fall into its controversial class system known as caste. So-called untouchables perform the lowest paid jobs. Despite being known as the lowest in society, more than half of the families living in Chora send their children to school. About 80 children attend the Lord Buddha Charitable School for two hours a day.

‘We believe that if we can give time and education to some people then there is hope that their future will be bright,’ says Kapil (29), one of the founders of the charity school.

‘Most of the people in Chora are of the untouchable caste. They don’t own any land. Families in Chora might live off as little as 200 rupees a day (£2) – which will need to support a family of five.’

On a cold February morning, as the sun peaks above the mistcovered rice fields, children, many wearing no shoes, dirty t-shirts and ripped trousers, run from their clay homes as the school cowbell chimes. The boys and girls, clutching at their tired pencils and notepads, greet European volunteers with warm smiles and lots of hand-shaking.

Mahendra (38), co-founder of the school, explained that before the facility was opened children from Chora would have to walk for over an hour into neighbouring village Sujata to go to school.

‘A volunteer came to help in the school in Sujata and they knew there was no school in Chora,’ Mahendra recalls. ‘They went and knocked on doors in Chora and asked people whether they wanted a medical centre or a school – they said school.’

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The volunteer donated 600,000 rupees (£600) that paid for the build of the two-room school. Most of its students live in clay/straw houses and after finishing class go to work in the surrounding fields.

There is currently enough funding, 4,000 rupees per month (£40), for two teachers, two-hours a day. The school is made up of two basic classrooms, the youngest children are taught outside on a rug. Each classroom has a small whiteboard but, at least in March 2019, only one pen was shared between the classes. The shoestring budget extends to buying each child a pencil or piece of chalk and some paper every couple of months.

Mahendra and Kapil, fathers to young families, say they felt compelled to help those in Chora because they were given hope through education as children. Neither of the men are paid for supporting the school.

Mahendra is an English teacher in a government-run school and Kapil farms land and drives a taxi.

‘I did not have a job when I started the school,’ says Mahendra.

‘I saw many children who did not go to school. When I wasn’t working, I would go to Bodhgaya and tell tourists about the school we were setting up in Chora and try to raise money.

‘My parents are not educated but I was able to get a good education in a government school – for me that was really important because not many people get that opportunity. Lots of people who have parents who are not educated will end up not going to school.’

But despite tight budgets and limited facilities, two hours of education a day gives hope. Students at the Lord Buddha Charitable School are passing the tests required to attend highschool – the first rung on the ladder to a brighter future.

Mahendra now hopes to get enough funding to employ two teachers full-time. He needs just 20,000 rupees a month or £200.

Life for Lord Buddha Charitable School’s 80 pupils is a world away from that of children growing up in Jersey. School is not only a source of education in Chora it is a lifeline. It’s a chance to smile, play and learn. It’s not a ticket out of poverty but a licence to hope for more than just being an ‘untouchable’. 

To find out more about donating to the Lord Buddha Charitable School email emzjsmith@live.com

"Families in Chora might live off as little as 200 rupees a day (£2) - which will need to support a family of five."

TALKING ABOUT LIFE AND WORKING OUT THE HARMONIES WITH HANNAH CAMPBELL

We love sharing stories of the people who shoot for the moon and land amongst the stars. Our cover story this month features Hannah Campbell, a Jersey girl who has done just that. You might recognise her from one of her many musical pursuits, heck, maybe she’s sung at your wedding! Many of Jersey’s young people will know her from Chordz Music School, where she teaches singing.

Hannah is a born creative with a breath of fresh air attitude to love, life and learning.

Settled into one of the big comfy, leather sofas at Chordz coffee shop with a brew in hand, Hannah’s interview was a raucous chat; candid, funny, inspiring and did I say funny? Some girls have just got ‘it’ and the Roodmood front-woman has got ‘it’ in spades. The interview with Hannah was intended to see what makes her tick; her vivacious personality, approachability and quirky style sets her apart and this gorgeous Jersey girl is writing her own song as she goes along.

Starting life within a close-knit family with a strong bond between her and her younger sister, Sophia, the girls grew up in a busy and vibrant home. Hannah seems to get a lot from her mum, who is a seasoned performer and television broadcast journalist. In fact, it was Hannah’s mum who steered her toward

the pursuit of happiness from a career in music.

“My mum is a real go-getter, a powerhouse. She’s so confident and ever since I was a young girl I’d look up to my mum and love watching her present the news on Channel TV in the mornings. She’d be up at 3:30am and out the door to write her news scripts before appearing on the telly. She’s literally the hardest working person I know!”

Sharon Campbell comes across as a very empowering mum who has worked mega hard in her job as well as following her passions with gusto and success, with Hannah following closely behind in her footsteps. Daddy Campbell, Sacha, is the free-spirited one and Hannah speaks of how her dad is a very grounding and fun-loving chap. Hannah describes her mum and dad as the Ying and Yang of the family; both are very different and that’s what makes it work so well.

“My dad’s a bit of a hippy I suppose! He’s super intelligent and was Head Boy at Vic, but he doesn’t like to conform or be told what to do and doesn’t stress about things. He is the best listener you could ever meet, he’s sensitive and understanding and a real people person. Some days I feel more like my mum, and on others more like my dad!”

Seems like Hannah’s parents provided a delightful balance and a very happy childhood indeed. 

Hannah Campbell tells Lucy Sanderson all about her journey, from a shy and sensitive teenager to a confident performer and singing teacher.

From a loving and supportive family home and school at JCG, Hannah has always loved to perform. Her passion stemmed from dancing and she took her skills to London’s School of Musical Theatre following a gap year after her A-Levels. It was at LSMT that Hannah quite literally found her voice. The change in pace and levels of pressure were the catalysts for progress and practicing the art of being more confident. Having cut her gap year short to attend the prestigious stage school, at 18 years old, Hannah was thrown in at the deep end; moving from our little island to live right in the middle of London. Long days, which consisted of drama, dance and ‘chunky singing’ classes, were accompanied by jobs in the theatre in some form or another at the weekends. In a new class with new faces all around her, Hannah made friends with peers who’d essentially end up being her competition in this ‘fast track route to the West End’.

“I’d definitely have benefitted from going to a place like Chordz in the lead up to LSMT. It was totally different to anything I’d done before. I guess that with confidence and anxiety as an issue for young people, it’s important to keep them interested and enthused by making things fun and relatable. As I grew up, I was really, really shy and quite sensitive, and I’d never have thought I’d end up doing any of this!”

As she went off to London as an avid dancer, Hannah says that LSMT opened a door for her to pursue singing. Having grown up watching her mum sing (Sharon Campbell is still a regular performer and recently starred in ‘Bette & Joan’ at the Jersey Opera House), Hannah had always believed that dance would ‘be her thing’.

“I hadn’t really thought about singing much before - and I loved it. The only thing was that I struggled a bit with my confidence. Singing is such a personal thing; it’s like baring all.”

As a music teacher herself, Hannah taps into some of the lessons she learned back in London. People and practices that really boosted her teenage confidence now influences her own teaching style. Recounting a method used by one of the top level professionals that would visit them each Friday, Hannah told us about a time she was plucked from the group and asked to copy exactly what her teacher did.

“She asked me to sing first and I died a little bit inside! not great when you’re a young girl who’s trying to look cool! I had to mimic her, following her round the room, flailing my arms and singing crazy noises louder and louder. Suddenly she stopped and told me to sing my song again… I sung and my voice just went big - I never knew I could do that! It really was a pivotal confidence building moment for me.”

“It’s about working out the harmonies,” she says, “and that goes for learning music to life itself”. Fist bumps were had in agreement at this point and Hannah’s face shone as we talked about her students and how they grow confidence by having fun whilst learning at Chordz. In fact, she wasn’t a bit wrong, Hannah is a sensitive soul as there was most definitely a happy

tear in her eye as she recounted one particular story of a young lad who had gone from strength to strength at Chordz Rock School. Camaraderie within the students is fervent and flourishing and the teachers are quite the opposite of ‘typical’. If you think up the notion of the coolest big brother or sister, then you can start to get the vibe of how these guys work at Chordz. It’s hardly any wonder; as we sit in the cafe downstairs where the vibe is relaxed yet perky, fun and a place that any young person or teenager would feel right at home - that goes for parents too!

A couple of students give mega props to their favourite music teacher as they nip in for a smoothie and parents of students all stop to say hi to Hannah. Working alongside the people she describes as family, it’s no wonder she loves her day job.

Outside of ‘school’ Hannah is known for her performing. From her time in the trio known as Honeybun; a talented line up, styled to perfection, the girls became stars of the stage from hotels to big events like The Big Gig and were even flown to London to perform at a swanky, private event. Singing with her mum in an Abba Tribute band was her first memory of getting up on stage and she’s gone on to sing with The Optimistic Voices who played at the recent Liberation Day celebrations.

Hannah’s always evolving with her music and her performances and is never afraid to mix things up or change direction completely.

Nowadays, alongside some of her Chordz cohorts, Hannah is the lead singer in the Roodmood covers band. Hitting the high notes of many a wedding or special event, the band has gone from strength to strength (do check out their gorgeous Insta feed!). Driven by a passion for music and with the effervescence of a happy crew behind her on stage, Hannah’s performances are always a treat. Putting a lot of her confidence and ability down to experiencing new things and staying focused, Hannah thinks that travel is a ‘must’ when you come from a small island.

“I’d say it’s really important to get off of Jersey at some point in order to really value what we have here. You’re always happy to come home to Jersey aren’t you? On the other side though, Jersey can feel a little small and definitely when it comes to music, it can be competitive or sometimes people are afraid that they might be treading on other peoples’ feet. I think it’s so important to keep your eyes on what you want to do; what you want to achieve. I’m really mindful to keep a check on staying focused. As a function covers band, we have to keep things fresh and different - although they’re covers, we like to put our unique stamp on all of our performances. When I sing something, I have to feel proud of it.”

With a team of equally talented musicians behind her and job that involves her nearest and dearest friends, as well as a fabulous family, Hannah isn’t shy about expressing how happy she is. We don’t blame you, Hannah; living the dream whilst working out the harmonies in life. 

"I guess that with confidence and anxiety as an issue for young people, it’s important to keep them interested and enthused by making things fun and relatable."

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3 tips for healthier hair

Laura Butlin-Policarpo shares her tips for healthier hair

Whilst genetics dictate a large proportion of your hair characteristics, you do still have some control over how your locks behave, and here’s how:

Protect your hair

Protecting your hair is crucial, we are often exposed to heat, wind, rain or pollution and in excess these can lead to dirt build up, dry hair and even issues with your scalp. Whilst there are specific SPF products on the market that target hair protection, it could be as simple as using an umbrella, or a hat when needed.

Not only is it said that satin and silk pillow cases help prevent fine lines, they can also help keep your hair in tip top condition. The material reduces friction where cotton and other fabrics can be rough in texture. More friction increases the risk of breakages. And whilst you’re at it, make sure you’re not sleeping with your hair in a tight hair tie.

The right nutrients

Inadequate nutrients can result in weak, brittle hair with a lack of colour and shine, and sometimes even hair loss. Consuming well rounded meals could possibly make the biggest difference to your hair. Your tresses are

predominantly made up of protein which means you need to be eating enough, at least 45 grams daily is advised. Getting the right amount will help your hair grow stronger. Zinc can be found in leafy greens and nuts which can prevent hair loss. Increasing your omega 3 intake might stimulate your sebaceous glands and hair follicles which will improve scalp health. Find your omega 3 fatty acids in salmon, sardines, flax seed and yoghurt.

Picking products

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the scrub provides a really thorough cleanse and treatment

It’s not about how many products you use it’s about find the right products for your hair. When it comes to my regular shampoo and conditioner I am yet to find a set I am loyal to, always check the label and try to avoid: formaldehyde, parabens and sulphates. But there are two hair products that I haven’t stopped purchasing since I discovered them. The first is the Christophe Robin cleansing purifying scrub with sea salt. When I use this, my hair always looks it’s best, the scrub provides a really thorough cleanse and fights any build up, whilst providing a lot of volume. The second is the Olaplex Hair Protector No. 3, a weekly treatment that strengthens and repairs by rebuilding the damaged bonds. So good that I have back ups. 

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SPF decoded

Liana Shaw looks at the latest SPF products available on the market right now

You can't see or feel UV radiation, a type of electromagnetic radiation from the sun. And actually, one of the best and most widely accessible beauty ‘secrets’ isn’t actually much of a secret at all. We all know UV rays damage our skin, so why do so few of us wear SPF all year round?

One of the biggest skin saviours out there, SPF (sun protection factor), should be part of our everyday skincare routine, especially on our face. Even on a cloudy day, a high UV index means that those damaging UVA and UVB rays are more likely to get through. UVB is the offender behind sunburn on the epidermis (your skin surface layer), while UVA rays, which penetrate the dermis (deeper layer), are associated with lightinduced effects of aging (photoaging) e.g. wrinkles and leathery skin.

So, what to do to protect yourself? In busy day to day lives, multi-tasking skincare is a winner. A moisturiser or foundation with SPF integrated will help, as you can avoid the greasy residue or heaviness of using full sunscreen under makeup. For that first skin routine step, a light moisturiser like Kiehl’s Ultra Light Daily UV Defence is perfect, because it’s an oil free lotion that doesn’t feel at all clunky on the skin. Or if you need a vitamin C boost, The Body Shop’s Vitamin C Glow-Protect Lotion SPF30 gives a double whammy with radiance boosting vitamin C, but protection from the sun. If you have oily, dry or generally problematic skin, look for the SPF product that is specifically designed with your skin type, to avoid clogging, drying or shine.

Foundations and tinted moisturiser are jumping on the bandwagon too. It seems like every makeup brand from high end Dior to budget friendly Rimmel have their own line of SPF primers or foundation, so there’s a product out there for every age and skin type. And as it’s never been easier to get flawless healthy skin and keep it healthy with a little extra SPF, you know your skin will thank you for it in the long run.

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CHRONIC PAIN

Butlin-Policarpo talks about dealing with chronic pain

If you read the words Fibromyalgia, Endometriosis, EhlersDanlos syndrome and you have no idea how to pronounce them or what they mean chances are you are in the majority. These words are only a couple of chronic illnesses leaving those suffering in persistent pain. What is chronic pain? Chronic pain is defined as “pain without apparent biological value that has persisted beyond normal tissue healing time” or in some cases, pain that has not healed or subsided within 3-6 months. Those with chronic pain can also have no evidence of tissue damage or biological reason. This is one of the factors that doctors find these diseases so difficult to diagnose. It could also be to do with the fact that doctors spend under 20 hours across all their years of medical training studying pain, unless it’s an area they are interested in and choose to educate themselves further.

It’s hard for most of us to imagine how it would be to live with persistent or intermittent chronic pain. The closest we have

probably come to being able to relate is a broken bone. This really doesn’t compare at all, but it’s a starting point. When you break a bone, the pain is only a part of the problem. Then secondary effects that come alongside the pain can be even harder to come to terms with. The limitations of what you are now able to do; from simply your new range of movement to the impact at work and if you are even still able to do your job. The social activities you are no longer able to be a part of; swimming with friends, travelling on a new adventure. Chronic pain often brings with it a list of frustrations accompanied by loneliness and other valid feelings. When you break a bone, you most likely have a cast, crutches or some way of those around you identifying that you might be struggling. Those with chronic pain often don’t have the luxury of people knowing they maybe struggling, or even believing them. In the last few years, celebrities have spoken out about their battles with these diseases; Lady Gaga, Jack Osbourne, Selma Blair, and Lena Dunham are amongst them. And whilst this has been crucial to raising awareness there is still a very long way to go both within the general public and also within the medical community. Pain is unique to each individual and misunderstood. This requires quality individualised treatment for the body and mind. Unfortunately, we are still trying to get the masses to recognise chronic pain as a condition.

The majority of those advocating for more research and trying to raise awareness are those trying to manage their chronic pain. Whilst this is admirable, it often leads to more flare ups and slips in mental and physical health. This is something that could affect anyone of us at any time, it’s up to us to educate ourselves and those around us and to not doubt those who battle symptoms on a daily basis but who do it with a smile for our benefit.

Pain Support Jersey is a local charity who aims to help those on island suffering from chronic pain manage their symptoms so they can improve their quality of life. The organisation arranges gentle indoor and outdoor exercise sessions lead by qualified physiotherapists as well as mindfulness sessions, social events and walks, talks and hydrotherapy.

"Pain is unique to each individual"

BREAKING THE TABOO

Earlier this year, a woman called Demetra Nyx went viral when she uploaded photos of herself with period blood smeared over her face. Naturally, this attracted a huge amount of attention and comments about how disgusting and insane she is. While I can’t say using my blood as a face mask is something I or most people have considered, I salute Demetra for being such a badass in destigmatising periods. Menstruation is a taboo in many cultures, and social stigma wraps a thick layer of shame around one of the most natural things in the world.

From the slang used to describe periods to the messaging in sanitary product adverts, menstruation is still considered to be dirty and offensive. The time of the month. She’s on. Them. Those. Granny is in town. On the rag. Aunt Flo is here. Bloody Mary. On the blob. Code Red. Some of these terms are so cringey it hurts, and while there is nothing overly wrong with using slang, there is a clear sense of obscurity that lies beneath it. There is also an emphasis on discretion, like periods are something that should be hidden away. Is it not time we completely break the taboo?

The female body has always been a goldmine for the beauty industry. Women are continually told to fix

their wobbly bits; buy creams and ointments to defy ageing; do stupid yo-yo diets to achieve a bikini body in thirty days; et cetera. Advertisers play on women’s insecurities to sell body confidence and happiness in a plastic bottle or jar. The irony is that the majority of women’s insecurities spawn from these unrealistic and unattainable standards of beauty. We can’t just love ourselves for the way we are because the multi-billion dollar beauty industry would cease to exist. Our eyes are so accustomed to seeing sexualised and pornified images of women that we accept this as the norm; it’s unpalatable to see the female body in its real and functioning form. The images of Demetra with her bloody face mask were shocking and uncomfortable because they are so opposed to the sterile images of periods we are fed. Is there really a massive difference between period blood and the blood from a cut on your leg?

The femcare industry emerged during World War One when nurses realised bandages worked well for periods. Brands like Tampax and Kotex emerged in a new market of disposable sanitary products that were a very welcome change from homemade sanitary pads made from cloth and rags. Advertisers found it tricky to advertise something that had always been strictly women’s business, so they took an informative and educational stance and used medical and maternal figures in the ads. In the 70’s when second wave feminism fired up debates on women’s marriage rights, birth control and abortion, sanitary ads evolved to include more language of freedom. But the theme of periods being something to hide prevailed, and brands were not allowed to use words like “vagina” or “blood”.

"Is there really a massive difference between period blood and the blood from a cut on your leg?"

"The taboo and stigma surrounding periods has definitely improved compared to years ago, but there is still so much work to do," says Cliona Elliott.

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liquid in a sanitary pad advert would’ve been too horrifying.

The 90’s ads also told us that period blood was blue. The blue “blood” perpetuated the social shame surrounding periods and just how offensive they were. It was perfectly acceptable to watch gory scenes on television, but using red liquid in a sanitary pad advert would’ve been too horrifying.

The stigma associated with menstrual health is one of the main reasons why period poverty is a big problem in both the developed and undeveloped world. Globally, over 2.3 million people do not have access to basic sanitation, which makes menstrual health a huge challenge for millions of women every month. Period taboo, myths and misinformation also make women vulnerable to gender discrimination, child marriage, untreated health conditions and exclusion. In India, 80% of women living in poverty do not have access to disposable sanitary products, resulting in the use of homemade pads made from rags, leaves and sawdust. An alarming 70% of girls in India have no knowledge of menstruation, menstrual hygiene and waste management before their first period. In some cultures, women and girls are ostracised from normal everyday activities when they are menstruating because they are seen as dirty and impure. There is a tradition in Nepal called chhaupadi where women are banned from the home and sent to live in a shed, shack or separate room from the rest of the family. In remote and poorer communities, the huts are often dirty and women have died from freezing temperatures, smoke inhalation and snakebites. Period poverty creates a barrier between girls and education. In Sub-Saharan Africa, 1 in 10 girls miss school due to lack of toilets, access to menstrual

their first period. In some cultures, women and girls

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products, menstrual pain and teasing from classmates. There is also a link between menstruation and lost wages due to a lack of workplace sanitation facilities.

Plan International found that 137,000 girls in the UK missed school because they couldn’t afford sanitary products, and 27% of girls have reused a sanitary product because they couldn’t afford a fresh one. The tampon tax, also known as the “pink tax”, is applied to menstrual hygiene products as non-essential luxury items. Items excluded from valueadded tax include postage stamps, cycle helmets, bingo and edible cake decorations - all of which are apparently more essential than a tampon. Several countries including Canada and Australia have scrapped the tax on sanitary products to make them affordable for women, but it remains an issue in the UK. The UK government have attempted to change the rules on the tampon tax, but EU tax regulations have made it difficult and progress has been minimal. Brexit has also hindered any progress being made. The tampon tax makes periods a political issue. It’s ridiculous that governments are profiting from something women have no choice or control over.

and 27% of girls have reused a sanitary product because they to which but progress issue. It’s ridiculous that governments are profiting from something women have no choice or control over.

The taboo and stigma surrounding periods has definitely improved compared to years ago, but there is still so much work to do. Menstrual health and hygiene is a human right, but period poverty will continue until the shame, myths and misconceptions are gone for good. People should be able to talk about periods without feeling embarrassed or uncomfortable, and women should feel empowered over their bodies. So, let’s get talking. Let’s break the taboo and normalise periods once and for all.

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"There is a tradition in Nepal called chhaupadi where women are banned from the home and sent to live in a shed, shack or separate room from the rest of the family."

~ Rupi Kaur

“ you want to keep the blood and the milk hidden as if the womb and breast ne ver fed you ”

FOREST BATHING

In Japan there is a practice called shirin-yoku, which literally means “forest bathing”, or to bath in a forest atmosphere. Shirin-yoku was developed as a response to karoshi, a Japanese word for “death by work”. In the 1980’s Japan had an epidemic of deaths and illnesses from work-related stress and exhaustion, and forest bathing was implemented into the national healthcare system. It has remained a vital part of preventative healthcare and therapy since. Forest bathing isn’t an edgy new trend, in fact people have been retreating to nature as therapy for centuries. There’s something so universally calming and restorative about being enveloped under a leafy green ceiling and hearing the gentle trickle of water in a stream. The average person today spends twenty-four hours per week online, and it’s estimated that 75% of the world’s population will live in cities by 2050. We are becoming more disconnected from nature than ever. Forest bathing is the perfect way to switch off from the news, social media, work and other peopleto disconnect from everything and reconnect with yourself.

Taking a forest bath is really simple, and unlike the name suggests, you don’t need a bar of soap and a towel. It’s different to going on a sweaty hike as the aim is not to walk far, but to take things as slow as possible. The goal is to engage all five senses to fully immerse yourself in your surroundings, and to observe things you wouldn’t usually notice. Look at how the roots intertwine around the tree trunks; listen to the birds sing and the crunch and crumbling of leaves and dirt under your feet; smell the earthy scent of bark; taste the freshness of the air; and feel the cooling moisture of the forest on your skin. When you focus on engaging every sense, you distract the internal chit-chat of

the mind and restore a sense of inner balance and calm. The recommended time for a forest bath is two hours, but even half an hour is enough time to soak up the benefits.

Nature is a free therapist, and science agrees that immersing yourself in a leafy green environment soothes our stress, boosts our mood and is great for our overall wellbeing. Forest bathing has some wonderful benefits on your physical and mental health, including reduced levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Cortisol stimulates the fight or flight response mode and overexposure to it has been linked to increased blood pressure, heart disease, depression, anxiety and impaired memory. Relaxing in nature can also strengthen the immune system, not just because it lowers stress, but also because of the phytoncides, or essential oils, emitted by trees and plants. People who take regular forest baths have also noticed improved sleep, a boost in creativity and the ability to focus more.

The beauty of forest bathing is that it’s free. The only thing you need to spend is your time. You don’t need to travel far, if at all, to take a forest bath. Take yourself to a nearby forest or park, walk down a country lane or even sit in your garden. If you are looking to get away to recharge the batteries, a forest bathing retreat could be just what you need. As Japan is the home of forest bathing there are some amazing trails and retreats to be found there, but there are also some incredible forest bathing retreats closer to home in the UK and Europe. Think of a weekend full of guided meditations, yoga, tai chi and lots of feel-good food in a lush forest setting.

It’s more important than ever to put the smartphone down and reconnect with nature. A regular dose of forest bathing could be just what we need. 

Forest bathing isn’t an edgy new trend, in fact people have been retreating to nature as therapy for centuries, explains Cliona Elliott

"Taking a forest bath is really simple, and unlike the name suggests, you don’t need a bar of soap and a towel. "

ON THE RIVIERA

The French Riviera has it allseaside towns, sophisticated resorts, sandy beaches and cutting-edge museums, but where is the best place to stay? Why not consider a few stops along the coast rather than opting for one location? We spent a couple of days in Nice, Monaco and Cannes which provided a snapshot of the Côte d'Azur. 

Words by Sophie Wilkinson

MANNER travel

Nice

With its central location and role as the main transportation hub, Nice makes a great base for a trip to the Riviera. Don’t rush through Nice though, spend a day or two and take in the charm and character of the city. Note the Italian influence as you wander around and soak in the mix of old and new.

We flew into Nice Côte d'Azur Airport and caught the bus directly into Nice city centre - not the easiest thing to do with a baby, a buggy, a suitcase and three pieces of hand luggage!

Stay

Stay at the famous Hotel le Negresco, located next door to the gardens of Musée Massena, just across the road from the beach. The flamboyant 5-star hotel is home to thousands of pieces of contemporary artworks, antiques and sculptures, transporting guests through a mixture of eras and styles. The hotel’s signature pink dome has dominated the Promenade des Anglais for more than a century.

If ultra-modern is more your style, then The Boscolo might be more appropriate. A boutique hotel offering guests a luxury spa and rooftop pool.

See

If you're happy to clock up the steps, take a walk along the Promenade des Anglais towards the old town, where you'll find an abundance of stalls selling everything from fresh meats, cheeses and flowers to furniture, paintings and other home accessories.

From here, make the climb to the top of Castle Hill (or take the elevator if you’re feeling lazy!), and discover the castle ruins, cool down by the massive artificial waterfall and enjoy spectacular views of the deep blue Med - all 92 metres about sea level.

For lunch, head to Chez Pipo, a favourite with the locals, to sample their homemade Socca, a naturally gluten free chickpea bread found throughout Nice. Spend the afternoon wandering the narrow lanes of the old town and stop for a glass of wine at one of the many Al fresco bars.

For art lovers head straight to the Musée Matisse and be blown away by one of the world’s largest collections of Henri Matisse’s works, tracing his evolution from his beginnings through to his final pieces.

Eat

All socca'd out? Niçoise Salad is another classic dish found in Nice. Traditionally made of tomatoes, hard-boiled eggs, Niçoise olives, anchovies, and dressed with olive oil, this dish is best served with a cold glass of crisp Sauvignon Blanc. If you're looking for something a little more elegant, JAN is a Michelin-starred celebration of South-African and French hospitality.

Above: The Negresco hotel

Below: Old town market in front of the Chapel of Mercy, Le Grand Cafe de France

Below right: The waterfall at the top of Castle Hill

Monaco

Monaco is the world's smallest city but boasts the most billionaires per capita than anywhere else in the world. Known for its casinos, super yachts and designer boutiques, Monaco is the playground for the rich and famous.

Day trips can be done to and from Nice, but for a more relaxed break, stay for a couple of nights to really experience Monaco. Take the bus or train from Nice and arrive at Gare de Monte Carlo. (The bus is slightly longer, but promises sensational seaside views along the coast, however, the train does only take 20 minutes.)

Stay

In the less touristy area of Fontvieille, you’ll find the Columbus Hotel. Adjacent to the Princess Grace Rose Garden and a twominute walk from the Fontvieille harbour, you can’t ask for a better location. The cosy boutique hotel offers a cooler and less stuffy feel than that typical of a hotel in Monaco. With contemporary decor, a swimming pool and views to die for, the hotel is perfect for those looking to obtain a taste of the luxurious lifestyle whilst avoiding the hustle and bustle of Monte Carlo.

See A short 15-minute walk from the hotel will have you right in the old town. Start at the Prince’s Palace of Monaco, which has been the official seat of the Grimaldi family for over 700 years. The best time to visit is around 11:55am when the traditional ritual of the changing of the guard takes place. Then, head down to the cathedral, the final resting place of many of the Grimaldi’s, including Grace Kelly and Rainer III. Dedicated to Saint Nicolas, the cathedral is an impressive monument definitely worth a visit. A mere 200 metres away sits one of the oldest aquariums in the world – The Oceanographic Museum. Set 90 metres above sea level, dive into the marine world and explore over 6000 marine life creatures.

A stay in Monaco wouldn’t be complete without a trip to Monte Carlo. Marvel at the size and beauty of the casino, dine at Cafe de Paris and be prepared to spend some serious money. Even though the crowds of tourists and Louis Vuitton clad locals distract from the luxury of it all, a trip to the capital is a must.

A modest 20-minute walk or 10-minute bus will take you back to the Fontvieille harbour.

Eat 5* hotel and double Michelin star restaurants are the norm in Monaco, but if that’s not your cup of tea, you’ll also find a whole host of informal, budget friendly restaurants.

Blue Bay, a restaurant within the Monte Carlo Bay Hotel and Resort, will awaken your taste buds with fabulous food pairings and a view to boot. The menu mostly comprises of Caribbean and Mediterranean cuisine, but for the ultimate experience, go for the sixcourse tasting menu.

Just a few steps away from the Prince’s Palace you’ll find La Montgolfière. Run by renowned Monaco-born chef Henri Geraci and his wife Fabienne, this delightful little restaurant serves up insta-worthy food at reasonable prices.

If you’re looking for somewhere closer to the hotel, the Fontvieille harbour is lined with eateries. Enjoy nachos and dance music at Nacionalista and hang with the locals at Beefbar.

Fancy a night in? Columbus Monte-Carlo's new restaurant Tavolo delivers delicious Mediterranean dishes and superb cocktails, all in a relaxed yet sophisticated setting.

Above: The Columbus hotel

Left: The Prince's Palace

Below left: Cafe de Paris and the Monte Carlo Casino

ÈzeÈze Village is one of the most picturesque spots in the region. Situated between Nice and Monaco, the clifftop gem sits 400m above sea level and promises spectacular views overlooking the Med. Èze is full of charm and character, resembling something not too different from a medieval movie set with its winding streets and cobbled roads.

A walk around the exotic botanical garden is a must. Here you’ll find an impressive collection of cactus, plants and rare vegetation surrounding the remains of an ancient château. If you enjoy walking, take the Nietzsche Path from the village down the beach. The path is about an hour walk and marks the spot where Nietzsche composed part of his work: Thus Spoke Zarathustra. There is also a bus from the village for those who aren’t so eager to hike!

Other points of interest include La chapelle des Pénitents Blancs and the Parish church and its baroque nave.

Bursting with original boutiques, Èze makes shopping hard to resist. You will find souvenirs, local crafts, perfumes, and herbs.

Enjoy a meal at the Chevre d’Or, a five-star hotel with one of the world’s most famous restaurants boasting two Michelin stars. The service is impeccable, the food exquisite and the views are to die for.

You can reach Èze by bus or train from Nice or Monaco. The bus will take you to the village, whilst the train will take you to Èze Sur Mer – the beachfront.

Cannes

I didn’t have high hopes for Cannes, I’m not entirely sure why. I’m thankful we went though as it ended up be my favourite place on the Riviera! It has the charm of old town Nice, but the extravagance of Monaco, without the pretension – the perfect combination. The train from Monaco to Cannes only takes about an hour and passes through Eze Sur Mer and Nice. Stay

Stay at The Grand Hotel. Right on the Croisette, the hotel shares a block with the likes of Fendi, Akris and Bottega Veneta, so you know you’re in good company. The luxurious 5-star hotel offers a private beach, a Michelinstarred restaurant - Le Park 45, and the only gardens on the boulevard – a picture-perfect setting to unwind after a long day. With Bulgari toiletries, a terrace and stunning sea views it seems almost a shame to leave the room!

See Cannes has many fascinating cultural attractions as well as some great places where you can relax and indulge. Take time to stroll around the old down, most notably Rue Meynadier - a narrow, pedestrianised street filled with cafés and shops. You’ll find everything from touristy souvenirs, clothes and accessories to fine wines, cheeses and meats. If fashion is more your forte, Rue D’antibes is the street for you. From high street to high end, you can spend as little or as much as your budget allows.

Left and above: Èze Village

Below: The view from the Grand Hotel, Cannes

Above: The Grand Hotel Right: Hotel gardens, Below: Food at Le Park 45 Below right: Feeding Beatrice on the Croisette because, well, baby's gotta eat

For the ultimate view of Cannes, take the gradual climb to the Church of our Lady of Esperance. The hilltop Gothic-style stone church was built between 1521 and 1627 making it the oldest church in the city. If you don’t fancy the up-hill walk, you can always take the petit train!

Explore the Lérins Islands. Just off the Bay of Cannes, the tranquil islands of Lérins make a refreshing day trip destination, bursting with history and natural beauty. A quick 15-minute ferry will have you on Île Sainte-Marguerite, the largest of the islands. Search for the Fort Royal tower that, according to legend, was where the mysterious ‘Man in the Iron Mask’ was imprisoned. There are some gorgeous scenic walks over on the neighbouring island of Saint Honorat too, as well as a medieval monastery dating back to the 5th century.

For a completely chilled day, laze around on the beach, before sipping on baileys coffee at the Armani Caffè – just a couple of doors down from the hotel.

Eat

With a Michelin-starred restaurant literally on your doorstep, why would you want to go anywhere else? Le Park 45 is a gastronomical delight, serving fresh, Mediterranean cuisine to be enjoyed in the dining room or on the terrace. From milk-fed Limousin veal to tender fillet of Simmental beef, this really is fine dining at its best.

If you are looking to get away from the hotel, Le Caveau 30 is just a 20 minute stroll away. With contemporary art deco-inspired décor and a terrific French menu, it’s no wonder Le Caveau 30 is a hit with the locals. We stopped for lunch and were shocked at how good the food was - the lamb was cooked to perfection and covered in a rich gravy, served with homemade ratatouille and chunky chips. Our best meal on the Riviera.

Antibes

Antibes is just an 8-minute train away from Cannes, making it an easily accessible day trip destination.

Upon arrival, head down to the waterfront and see the multitude of incredible mega yachts moored up at Port Vauban. From the harbour you can see the 16th-century Fort Carre perched on the edge of the SaintRoch peninsula. According to research, Napoleon was imprisoned here for some time during the French Revolution.

You'll find museums and galleries peppered all over Antibes, from The Naval and Napoleonic Museum to the History & Archaeology Museum. Our favourite? The Picasso Museum. Step inside the medieval castle, Château Grimaldi, to admire many of Picasso's works.

Picasso lived in Vallauris from 1948 until his death in 1955. He used one of the rooms in the castle as a workshop where he made paintings and drawings, many of which he gifted to the town of Antibes.

For an afternoon stop off, Choopy's Cupcakes & Coffee shop offers gluten free dishes, desserts and homemade cupcakes. Nestled on a quiet street in the old town, it’s the perfect place to take a breather.

If you have a little more time, venture down to the Cap d’Antibes and discover the many beaches, including family friendly stretches of golden sand and rocky coves, perfect for snorkelling.

All in all, the Cote d'Azur lived up to its reputation. I don’t think I’d be in a rush to re-visit Monaco, but it’s safe to say I’ll be returning to Cannes in the near future. 

Clockwise from middle: Picasso's Buste d'homme au Chapeau, Choopy's Coffee shop, Fort Carré d'Antibes, Fort Royal Tower on Île SainteMarguerite, The view from the Church of our Lady of Esperance, Armani Caffe

MANNER lifestyle THE LUST LIST

GOAT HIDE AND TEAK STOOL £61.66, BB DESIGNS

SMART BOOK LIGHT £62, POUR TOI

WALL PLATE £220, FORNASETTI

MUSES MARILYN MONROE SPECIAL EDITION BALLPOINT PEN £600, MONTBLANC

3 QUART TEA KETTLE £140, MACKENZIE-CHILDS

CRYSTAL EYE PHOTO FRAME £283.33, BACCARET

Escape to The Atlantic

Lagom

Balanced living, the Swedish way

The annual World Happiness Report, which ranks a total of 156 countries “by how happy their citizens perceive themselves to be”, saw Sweden climb two spots up to seventh place this year.

The report finds that the happiest countries “tend to have high values for most of the key variables that have been found to support wellbeing: income, healthy life expectancy, social support, freedom, trust and generosity.”

So, what makes Swedes some of the happiest people in the world? Aside from the country’s economic stability, honest government, and it being one of the world’s most beautiful places to live, one of the prime factors for the country’s happiness is its balanced way of living.

Pronounced lah-gum, the term lagom translates to "not too little, not too much or just right"- and in Sweden it represents the art of living a slower, balanced, fuss-free life. The word is said to come from the phrase ‘lager om’, meaning ‘around the team’. In Viking times, mead and other goods would be passed ‘lager om’, and you would be expected to take just enough for yourself, ensuring there’s enough for everyone.

What are the benefits of a lagom lifestyle?

A sense of belonging

A lagom attitude can help you feel part of something bigger and provide a sense of purpose in life.

Improved mental wellbeing

By taking time out to pause and reflect, you can live life in a more genuine and focused way.

Greater physical space

Decluttering and conscious consumption can make your home a more peaceful place to live.

Enhanced finances

At the beginning of each year it’s common to make resolutions to save more money. By becoming more conscious about your consumption, you’ll consume less while learning to look after and be thriftier with your finances.

How do I get more lagom?

Take more breaks

The Swedish fika paus is a coffee break, usually taken in the middle of the afternoon, often involving strong Swedish coffee and a sweet treat. It’s a common phenomenon shared with friends, family and co-workers all around Stockholm - in cafés, workplaces, even at home. Formal or informal, it’s about taking time out from daily routine to give yourself a breather, catch up with loved ones

and switch off for a few minutes.

A recent study by the Draugiem Group found that the most productive people work for 52 minutes and then take a 17 minute break. Worth keeping in mind!

Create a capsule wardrobe

Having a capsule wardrobe makes it easy to pick an outfit while taking the stress out of getting dressed. It’s also far more economical, and those who try it say it makes them feel happier.

Learn the art of listening

Converse with a Swede and you’ll notice that they very rarely interrupt or talk over anyone else. Voices are kept to even tones and pauses in conversation are completely acceptable. To Brits, this can feel painfully awkward. Culturally, we’re so anxious about a gap in the conversation that we constantly overlap before people have completed their sentence.

Perform random acts of kindness

As with all things lagom, sometimes the most ordinary acts add the most meaning and spread the greatest happiness of all. Here are a few simple gestures you could try:

• Leave money on a vending machine for someone else to use

• Pick up litter on the beach

• Give a stranger a compliment

• Give up your seat on the bus

• Write a list of things you cherish about a friend

• Finally, and most importantly, always be kind to yourself! 

Hannah Carolan discusses the benefits of a lagom lifestyle

"The most productive people work for 52 minutes and then take a 17 minute break."

HYDROPOOL SWIM SPAS AND HOT TUBS

Hydropool Channel Islands opened in August 2018 and has since gone from strength to strength. The award-winning showroom reflects the quality of the Canadian built Hydropool range of Hot Tubs and Swim Spas, all available to 'try before you buy'.

Based at the old Jersey Gas Showroom site opposite the Grand Marche car park in St Helier, Hydropool has made an immediate and significant impact on the Hot Tub and Swim Spa market in the Channel Islands.

“We know we have the product at the highest level” said Dennis Shore, Hydropool CI’s General Manager, “but the client base here has not seen the likes of this product in the Channel Islands before, and certainly not in the environment we want to show it in”. There are a number of Hot Tubs and a Swim Spa for clients to try before they buy, with a changing room sited adjacent to them, so clients can grab a robe and jump straight in. “We felt it was really important for people to try the tubs out, this is not about pushing a lot of water through lots of water jets just to make bubbles, this is about the quality and deliverance of a spa experience” Dennis explained. “Our jets are strategically designed and located in each seat, to deliver a massage particular to a user’s needs. These are not marketing tools to woo the client, these are genuine hydrotherapy programs, designed to relieve several ailments, from back and leg ache to headaches, from stress relief to an awakening program to get you ready for the day ahead. A massage complimented with Chromotherapy lighting and Aromatherapy oils; the right massage will set you up for the day or relieve the effects your day has had on you.”

Hydropool is the longest established brand name in the Hot Tub market in the UK having been introduced from Canada in 1996, though the company itself was established in 1986. Over 21,000 units have been installed in the UK since that time, with the market growing year on year. Hydropool also invented the Swim Spa, the self-contained extended Hot Tub, with high volume water jets at one end for the user to swim against whilst remaining stationary. The holy grail in Swim Spas is to have a flat, wide swim channel, with minimal turbulence produced from the jets. In this quest, Hydropool Swim Spas have evolved over the past 20 years with the latest 16- and 19-foot Executive models, released into the European market this year. Whilst these are aimed at the

serious sports person in training, there are several other models starting at just 12 feet in length and at all budgets. Everything is measured in “feet” on these products, harking back to their roots in Canada where decimalisation is yet to arrive, but the build quality is there for both extremes of Canadian weather.

Other products to see in the Showroom are Canadian Cedar Barrel Saunas and outdoor showers, originating from the Mennonite people in Northern Toronto, they are fantastic examples of high-quality products produced from the very gentile peoples like the Amish communities found throughout North America. The craftsmanship and construction are really things of beauty.

There are also a range of hot tub covers and outdoor buildings - one of these being the Covana electric Hot Tub cover/lid. It is truly amazing that your Hot Tub or Swim Spa can be put to bed once you have finished with it for the day by simply turning a key and the lid lowers onto the Tub, hermetically sealing it. A fantastic advantage for those of advancing years or physically unable to cope with removing a cover in the conventional manner, whilst being the greatest beneficiaries of a spa therapy session.

Also, on display is a 4m x 3.2m garden building, quite a thing to see inside the showroom! This has been specifically designed for Hydropool Europe as a garden destination space. It is large enough to house a Hydropool Hot Tub, making the winter months a bit warmer in which to use your Hot Tub if you are not into the Ski Chalet experience of being outdoors. With a built-in bar, stools, table and bench seats, it is a great space to simply chill or entertain friends and family.

Finally, both Dennis Shore and Dave Moore the Managing Director, are incredibly knowledgeable about all things Hot Tub and Swim Spa related. They also have a building business as part of the group of companies at their disposal, making this a true one stop shop for all your garden or outdoor space needs. They look forward to welcoming you through the door and giving freely of their time and knowledge. 

"These are not marketing tools to woo the client, these are genuine hydrotherapy programs."

THE CHANNEL ISLAND AGENT FOR O-CARE

O-Care breaks down the biofilm that is present in the pipe work of all hot tubs and swim spas thus allowing your sanitiser to eradicate any trace bacteria. This results in a large reduction in the amount of chemicals required to treat the water in your hot tub or swim spa.

HEALTH KICK

With summer now in full swing, what better a time than now to start eating healthily. Follow these three simple recipes by Christian Gott to start you on your health kick.

SHIITAKE MISO BROTH

There is growing evidence that fermented foods such as kimchi and miso offer great health benefits. This is a quick and simple nourishing supper enhanced with the silky smokiness of the tofu and the earthy savouriness of the mushrooms.

1 dessert-spoon dashi granules

1 litre water

3 tbsp miso paste of your choice

1 pack of smoked tofu

6 shiitake mushrooms, cleaned and thinly sliced

2 pak choi, washed and sliced across the diagonal

1. In a medium saucepan combine the dashi granules and water and bring to the boil. Thoroughly dissolve the dashi then reduce heat. Add mushrooms and simmer. Place the miso paste in a bowl and whisk in a little of the dashi stock. Add the tofu and pak choi to the pan and simmer for two minutes. To finish, add the miso paste mix, warm through for a minute and serve.

RAW CHOCOLATE WALNUT BARS

Many people are turning to a raw food diet to improve their health. These raw chocolate energy boost bars are great as a midmorning snack.

300g walnuts

15 medjool dates

80g organic maple syrup

A handful of rolled oats

3 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder

2 tbsp coconut oil

1. Place walnuts, dates and cocoa in food processor and blitz for ten seconds. Add the maple syrup, oats and coconut oil and blitz again. When everything is mixed together, remove from food processor and spoon in a small food tray. Smooth and flatten mixture then place into your fridge and chill for at least an hour allowing bars to harden. Remove from the tray and cut using a sharp knife.

BEETROOT AND EDAMAME HUMMUS

A quick and easy way to reach your five-a-day. Serve with vegetable crudités such a celery, carrot batons, green beans and cauliflower florets.

TIME: APPROX. 5 MINS

2 packs precooked beetroot

400g tin chickpeas, drained

200g frozen edamame or soybeans, defrosted

250ml quality olive oil

3 tbsp tahini paste

Juice and zest of 1 lime

Sea salt and cracked black pepper

1. Place the beetroot, chickpeas and edamame beans into a food processor and puree. Add the tahini, lime juice and zest, restart the food processor and slowly pour in the oil to achieve a creamy paste. Season to taste and serve drizzled with a little more oil and sea salt. This can be stored for a couple of days in an airtight container in the fridge.

Complete wellbeing

It is important to look at good health as complete wellbeing, including physical and mental health, says Chloe

Bowler

What exactly is health? The World Health Organisation 1948 definition of Health is “A state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity”.

It has taken society a long time to catch up with this definition. For so long, people have really referred to health as in physical condition. I think it is important to look at good health as complete wellbeing, including physical health and mental health.

So how do we transfer this to improving health in our everyday lives? I always try to reset clients to tackle their health in a positive way. There are too many restrictive diets, where you have to wake up one Monday morning and convince yourself that you no longer want chocolate, pudding or your favourite takeaway.

This is such a physical way of looking at diet, whereas I firmly believe you have to look at the mental side of your diet as well. For example, if you are binge eating, what are the reasons behind it? If you can start a diet with a positive mindset or at least understand the reasons behind negative eating choices, you have a better chance of success at sticking to a healthy diet.

The same goes for exercise. If running isn’t your thing, or you can’t face joining a new gym, find something that you feel is achievable. This can be as simple as going for a walk twice a week, or doing some gardening outside. Exercise releases feelgood endorphins, and outdoor exercise can also give you the benefit of Vitamin D and fresh air. So if you are struggling with motivation, try to look at exercise as a positive thing to do for both your physical health and your mental wellbeing.

Eating and exercise should be enjoyable. Healthy eating and beneficial exercise is available to everyone. It doesn’t have to be expensive, timeconsuming, or restrictive.

Adjust your diet by adding in, rather than taking away. So instead of promising that from tomorrow you’ll give up all your favourite foods, or cut out carbs (something I really don’t believe in), add in positives. For example, try to eat two different vegetables with each meal. Have some green in every meal, or aim to try making a new, healthy recipe once a week. This way, improving your diet can feel like a positive project you are in control of.

Start exercising by thinking realistically about what you might enjoy. If you can’t see yourself being a gym bunny, think about what you do enjoy. Would yoga be your thing, or a weekly cliff path walk with a friend? Exercising with a friend can help you succeed by having a commitment to meet someone, and to chat to really take the work out of working out.

Be conscious of your mental health. It is becoming a much more public conversation, and you can take inspiration from the many people who are speaking out about their experiences. There are also a lot more resources for you to use. Apps such as Headspace and Calm, as well as many more, could help you to focus on yourself and your inner happiness. In today’s busy society, where we are all rushing from one thing to another, this can be really helpful to just take some time to focus on you. It is really empowering and anything that can help your mental health will help your physical health, so embrace it, be positive and do what makes you feel good. 

"This way, improving your diet can feel like a positive project you are in control of."

The unexpected joy of being single

In the last edition of Manner, I wrote about the way that single women are perceived by society, in comparison to their male counterparts, and how we as females face pressure from a young age to seek a partner.

These days I'm all too aware of the gender-imbalanced coercion that we all face and am much better placed to resist it, but I'm not ashamed to say that for years I was completely compliant with society's suggestion that I had to be part of a couple.

Like many women, I had a solid pattern of bouncing from each break-up straight back into the hunt for a new mate. I would never give myself a decent amount of time to recover or reflect, always filled with the fear that time was slipping away towards some dreaded undefinable sell-by date. I stayed in relationships that had long since turned sour and made terrible decisions because I was so convinced that being alone was bad. I was so consumed with trying to be what other people wanted that I lost sight of who I really am.

About 18 months ago, something finally snapped. I was emotionally and mentally exhausted after yet another unhealthy situation that I'd let drag on for far too long, and just couldn't face doing it again. So, I didn't. I put all thoughts of romance and that illusive fairy-tale ending out of my mind and concentrated on fixing my broken self. Ladies; I'm here today to tell you that being single shouldn't be a sad stop-gap between relationships; being single when you embrace it is great!

But you don't need to take my word for it; statistics show that more women are declaring themselves single than ever before, having come to the conclusion that despite social conventions, not everyone thrives as part of a pair.

It turns out there is a whole range of benefits to being on your own that largely eluded me when I was fixated on finding 'the one' but make so much sense now. I’ve listed just a few of them here;

Boost Your Confidence

Nothing builds confidence in yourself and your own ability to manage life like being faced with making big decisions or overcoming problems on your own. Not having the fall back of a second opinion, or someone to delegate a tricky job to (or indeed someone to blame if it goes wrong) does wonders to sharpen the mind, and the feeling of accomplishment when you know you’ve made the right choice, or even just when that picture you hung stays on the wall, is like no other boost to self-esteem.

Enjoy Your Own Company

Being comfortable alone, and not allowing the fact to limit how you spend your time, is very liberating. Even when I was in a relationship I often missed out on shows I wanted to see, restaurants I fancied eating at, or trips I’d like to take because my partner wasn’t keen. Now I’ve become accustomed by default to just going out on my own and doing whatever I want to do.

Cherish Your Own Space

Unless a couple is lucky enough to have tastes that align exactly, chances are that all cohabiters face compromises in their home space. He demands a TV that dominates 40% of the lounge, she likes the bedroom window open, even in January. Being single allows the freedom to design a home that is exactly to your own specifications. For some that might be a house full of pets. For me, it’s eye-wateringly kitsch Flamingo wallpaper.

Make Time For Others

Instead of focusing on the needs and desires of one person, the time and energy freed up by living solo can be redistributed to nurturing relationships with friends and family. Just having more opportunities to be around, to visit those who are far-flung more often, or to offer help to loved ones when it’s needed can be hugely beneficial on both sides of the coin.

Be Spontaneous

Being single offers boundless spontaneity. Drinks with friends arranged an hour in advance; Why not? A last minute weekend to Rome because it’s too good a deal to miss? Sign me up. Not having to coordinate any and all plans with another person's schedule opens up a world of opportunity to drop everything and embark on an adventure.

Better Sleep

This goes without saying really, but the quality of sleep achieved when you’re the only person in the room is wonderful. No snoring, no shifting, no hogging of blankets. Bedtime bliss.

I’m not suggesting that the couples reading this all throw in the towel and go their separate ways; of course there are equal benefits to being in a healthy and loving relationship; but if someone had told me earlier how much I could enjoy being single, how much more sure of myself I’d feel after some time alone, and that there’s nothing to be afraid of on this side of the fence, I’d have wasted far less time getting here.

For a long time Bex Evans felt like she had to be in a relationship, but she's now embracing being single.

"...despite social conventions, not everyone thrives as part of a pair."

Energy for Bliss & Becky

She’ll say this till the cows come home

Becky loves her job. But it’s many hours work to get a return. Every penny counts. So to keep her business fluid (rich Jersey milk) thank goodness the Island has some of the cheapest electricity in the EU. Energy for everyone.

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Jersey’s electricity is 15% CHEAPER than the EU average

VOISINS KITCHEN

Now open Monday to Saturday 9:30am - 5pm, pop in to the new Voisins Kitchen for breakfast, lunch or an afternoon sweet treat.

Cafe1837 at Voisins Department Store has recently undergone a refurbishment and reopened in April as Voisins Kitchen. The new name reflects the new interior with the Kitchen being a main feature of the dining experience. The rest of the refurbishment is a minimal scandi-style design, complemented by a stand-out piece of neon signage for extra wow factor.

With the familiar Voisins focus on exceptional customer service, Voisins Kitchen welcomes foodies, fashionistas, coffee enthusiasts and sweet treat seekers to Shop, Eat and Relax for a complete Voisins experience.

The Head Chef and Manager have re-imagined the menu to include healthy dishes, departing slightly from the old menu to something a little more adventurous. The exciting new menu features Taste of Jersey produce and VK specials using the freshest, local ingredients available. Local collaborations include Cooper & Co, Stinky Bay Brewery and Flour Patisserie, for those afternoon sugar cravings.

Through careful menu design they aim to manage stock to reduce food waste.

Pop in to enjoy the fresh new menu and exciting new Kitchen refurbishment all served with the same great customer service. Call for reservations: 01534 837121

Shop, Eat, Relax for a complete Voisins experience.

Menu Highlights

VK Sun Up Breakfast Bowl

Healthy grains, fresh greens, hummus and curried fried egg served with sourdough toast. For veggies and vegans the egg can be substituted for panko halloumi or smoked tofu.

VK Bircher Muesli

Rolled oats, nuts and seeds soaked overnight, topped with coconut yoghurt, fresh raspberries, strawberries, honey and grated apple. The sprinkling of edible flowers is the perfect finishing touch!

Cuban Steak Bowl

A Cuban style hanger steak served with healthy grains, avocado, fresh greens, pineapple chimichuri, served with a grilled flatbread and coconut yoghurt.

VK Soup of the Day

Head Chef Gerard is a soup enthusiast and his daily soup special creations are always a crowd pleaser.

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Hannah's book club

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Hannah and I’m a biblioholic. My love of reading, and creative writing, is the result of three years spent at Oxford Brookes University where I studied for a degree in publishing. I love a good murder mystery book, but I also regularly read travel, health, action & adventure and science fiction titles.

LOST DOG: A LOVE STORY

Kate Spicer

Lifestyle journalist

Kate Spicer has come to the realisation that she must ditch her causal drink and drug use in order to stop her life going off the rails.

Craving comfort and a remedy for her loneliness, she adopts a rescue lurcher dog called Wolfy. But when Wolfy disappears, Kate is left to scour the streets of London to find him. Over a nine-day search, that tests both her sanity and relationship, Kate comes across the unlikeliest of allies who are prepared to help her, at all times of the day and night.

Brimming with razor-sharp wit, honesty, self-exploration and hope, Spicer’s debut memoir is so much more than a story about a lost dog.

FURIOUS HOURS: MURDER, FRAUD AND THE LAST TRIAL OF HARPER LEE

Casey Cep

Casey Cep’s Furious Hours is the story of an Alabama serial killer and the true-crime book that Harper Lee worked on in the years after To Kill a Mockingbird.

Rural preacher Reverend Willie Maxwell was accused of murdering five of his family members for insurance money in the 1970s. With the help of his lawyer, ‘Big Tom’ Radney, he escaped justice for years until a relative shot him dead at the funeral of his last victim. Maxwell's murderer was acquittedthanks to the same attorney who had previously defended him. Curious by the story consuming her home state, Harper Lee makes a journey back to Alabama to witness the Reverend's killer face trial. Despite spending many years investigating the case and writing the book, The Reverend was never published. A fascinating insight into the racial politics of the Deep South and the elusive Lee’s struggle with fame and success.

ZEN: THE ART OF SIMPLE LIVING

Shunmyo Masuno

This beautifully illustrated hardback from renowned Zen Buddhist monk Shunmyo Masuno is the ultimate guide to slowing down, finding true happiness and feeling calm. In clear, practical and easy to follow lessons - one a day for 100 daysMasuno draws on centuries of wisdom to show you how to apply the essence of Zen to everyday modern life. Feel more relaxed and fulfilled, with a renewed sense of peace, by learning how to breath properly in order to eliminate negative emotions, arrange your house to declutter your mind and worry less about what you cannot control.

THE BEEKEEPER OF ALEPPO

Christy Lefteri

Nuri is a beekeeper; his wife, Afra, an artist. They live a simple, happy life in the beautiful Syrian city of Aleppo - until the unthinkable happens. When war breaks out and ISIS take over the city, they are forced to flee to be with his cousin and business partner in Britain.

The narrative weaves between their arrival in Britain to be processed for asylum and Nuri’s flashbacks of the heartbreaking journey and struggles they’ve faced to get here.

Emotional, haunting and moving, The Beekeeper of Aleppo is based on Lefteri’s first-hand experience of working in a Unicef supported refugee centre in Athens.

Harnessing the power of MINDFULNESS

Entrepreneur, mindfulness expert and author, Glenda Rivoallan, spoke to Lucy Sanderson about her best-selling book; Mindfulness for Well-being.

Whilst being busy is now a given for most of us, mindfulness has never been so important.

I caught up with Glenda Rivoallan from Club Soulgenic, to discuss how she has harnessed the power of mindfulness, earned a doctorate, opened a gym, kickstarted an online wellness business and written her first best-selling book.

Glenda is renowned in Jersey as a revered speaker and expert in the remit of mindfulness and she’s one of the busiest women we know, so who better to give us the lowdown on calming down and tackling stress?

So, Glenda, what kick started your interest in the power of mindfulness?

I was always interested in how the mind copes with stress, how we become more resilient. I was actually at a BBQ and I met a mindfulness practitioner, Dr Alessio Agostinis. I was chatting to him about my plans to study a Doctorate and how I was fascinated with why some entrepreneurs

are more resilient than others. Why some entrepreneurs make it, and some don’t. He began telling me about mindfulness and how it benefits people, and my hunch and interest was born.

From what Alessio told me, I could see the connections between mindfulness and improved resilience. When I then later researched it, it became apparent that although mindfulness books in the mainstream cite that mindfulness improves resilience, it hadn’t been empirically tested until my study.

A lot is said about self-care and mindfulness and the importance for women to take time for themselves; we shouldn’t feel guilty for pressing stop so we can reset and recharge. How important is it for women to invest in themselves?

In my experience women are natural multitaskers, we tend to take on a lot whether it’s family, work, friends or hobbies. This may seem like a great skill to have but

for some people it can result in feeling overwhelmed, struggling to cope and may even result in burnout. Science also tells us that women are more self-critical than their male counterparts. We all have an inbuilt negativity bias where we are wired to look out for and remember bad experiences. We are often our harshest criticssometimes our own worst saboteurs of our happiness. For a healthy body and a healthy mind, it’s important that women invest in selfcare. I would also argue that learning to control the mind by something such as mindfulness is simply quite liberating. Learning to accept and enjoy the here and now, in a non-judgemental way helps us to enjoy life’s simple pleasures. It’s amazing just how many of us have got to stuck in the past or focused on a future which might never happen at the expense of enjoying every moment for what it is.

"Becoming more aware of our senses as events unfold is also a great practice."

What made you decide to undertake such heavy-duty studies and write a book?

(Whilst juggling being a kick ass mum, gym owner and online entrepreneur!)

I have always loved writing and since practicing my own mindfulness I have become better at spotting opportunities as and when they present themselves, as I said before learning to live for today is an important mantra that I recommend for anyone who has struggled to find their happy place.

In terms of the book I was looking through LinkedIn and a post came up, “Best-selling book retreat in New York”. It obviously grabbed my attention and I thought I'd just seize the moment, make it happen! It’s how I’ve been living my life since leaving a public sector job, which was the same thing and same routine each and every day. For me now, life is about experiences, enjoying everything I do no matter how small it is and having no regrets. I didn’t want to look back on the book experience and say I should have - the rest is history.

I booked the course, booked the flight and became a best-selling author, beating Ruby Wax (for one day I think) to the top spot!

Can you give us some easy steps to start their journey into mindfulness?

I am a great believer that having a read about what mindfulness is is a good start. It quickly shows you that mindfulness is not as difficult as people first think - it doesn’t involve being in a dark room meditating for hours on end.

Anyone can practice mindfulness and it can be easily integrated into one’s everyday life. Just noticing things more is a great start. That could be being more aware when brushing your teeth, driving to work in the car or when eating a meal. We are often going about our lives in automatic pilot mode where we do things with little thought or focus. Simply turning off the automatic pilot and noticing and experiencing. Becoming more aware of our senses as events unfold is also a great practice to bring mindfulness into your life.

Where’s your favourite place to invest in some ‘you’ time?

For me, ‘me’ time is being at home. I love nothing more than being at the bottom of my garden relaxing and enjoying my own company. I do also love walking my dog. I

feel that walking my dog naturally puts me into a mindful state.

It’s important to create these moments throughout the week, as simple as that may seem; the simplest things are key to calmness and essentially, to dealing with the stresses of everyday life. 

Glenda’s book, “Mindfulness for Wellbeing”, can be bought online or at Club Soulgenic. Manner readers, however, can bag themselves a copy by heading over to www.mannermagazine.co.uk to enter our give-away competition. Discover optimal living and build your resilience to stress using Glenda’s tried and tested mindfulness practices.

Glenda Rivoallan

"TELLING SOMEONE THEY ARE WEAK IS NOT VERY CONSTRUCTIVE, BUT BASED ON ANATOMICAL DESIGN, IT WOULD BE MORE FITTING TO CALL SOMEONE A TESTICLE"

Why I’ve stopped calling people pussies

Let’s ditch the language that underpins the pillars of gender inequality, says Cliona Elliott

Afew months ago I promised I would never call someone a “pussy” again. By “pussy” I don’t mean a small fluffy cat, but the word commonly used for vagina. Vaginas have acquired an extensive and dubious list of euphemisms, and pussy is definitely one of the better words on that list. People throw the word "pussy" around without thinking about what it means, and while it’s mostly used in light-hearted banter - “Oh, go on. Don’t be a pussy!” - it is a derogatory term that implies someone is weak and cowardly. Calling someone a pussy should actually be a compliment, because let’s not forget that vaginas push actual baby humans into the world. That may be one of the most obvious facts of life, but I still think it’s absolutely amazing. Not only do they give life, but they have a whole organ functioning purely for pleasure, and they are self-healing and self-cleaning. If a pussy isn’t the epitome of strength, power and endurance then I don’t know what is.

Telling someone they are weak is not very constructive, but based on anatomical design, it would be more fitting to call someone a “testicle” or a “ball” instead of a pussy. Balls are the most sensitive and vulnerable part of a male body, and men are just one kick or accidental knock away from what they describe as the most crippling pain. However, we should just leave the names of all genitalia alone and stop using them as derogatory and sexist terms. Language is one of the most powerful tools in constructing gender biases. In most cultures, balls are not metaphorically weak at all, they are the epitome of strength. Apparently having a pair of literal or figurative balls between your legs makes you more equipped to handle difficult situations. If you are scared or nervous about something, someone might tell you to “strap on a pair”, “grow some balls” or be more “ballsy”. You may also be told to “man up” and get on with it. This language isn’t just locker room talk among men, because women use it with other women. It’s interwoven so tightly in our culture that I often have to stop myself in my verbal tracks before blurting out a statement like, “I don’t have the balls to do that”. There is so much strength to be found in vulnerability and expressing how we really feel is one of the bravest things we can do. The traditional and rigid stereotype of a “real man” or a “man’s man” excludes weakness and vulnerability from its mould. Regardless of our gender, sometimes we need to put on a brave face and be headstrong when we feel like we’re crumbling, and sometimes we need to ask for help. Suicide is the main cause of death among young people aged between twenty and thirty-four in the UK, and men are three times more likely to take their own lives than women. Telling someone to grow a pair is not the sole factor behind this statistic, but it’s certainly not the solution.

Children internalise gender biases through language from a young age. I doubt you would hear gender-derogatory remarks in schools now, but I remember teachers making comments like, “you throw like a girl” or “don’t run like a girl”. This “like a girl” phrase is disempowering and encourages girls, and boys, to think girls are lesser and weaker than their male counterparts. In 2015 the brand Always ran a campaign to redefine the “like a girl” phrase and challenge the stereotypes of women being weaker, less skilled and less confident than men. But the “like a girl” phrase is still

bouncing around. Just recently, I heard a guy call a half push up (the modified version of a push up with your knees resting on the ground), a “girly push up”. He denied it was sexist and said it’s what he has always known them to be called. He then remarked, “but women are weaker”. Yes, women are biologically different to men, but anyone is capable of doing a full push up if they have the body strength; it’s irrelevant to gender. There is absolutely no need to conflate women with weakness by attaching the word “girly” to a modified and somewhat easier version of an exercise. What about a man who can only do a “girly” push up? Does it make him less of a man? This language feeds into toxic gender narratives and reinforces the idea of women being inferior to men.

The term “toxic masculinity” has become a bit of buzzword over the past few years, particularly in the wake of the #MeToo movement. Toxic masculinity is not a concept conjured up by angry feminists. The term was coined by professor Shepherd Bliss during the mythopoetic men’s movement in the 1980’s, which aimed to remove the limited archetypes of masculinity. Toxic masculinity refers to the pressure on boys and men to conform to gender norms and certain behaviours associated with traditional masculinity or “real man” stereotype, like aggression, repressed emotions and dominance. Toxic masculinity is not an attack on masculinity itself, nor does it imply that all men display toxic behaviour. In January, the razor brand Gillette released a campaign called We Believe: The Best Men Can Be to stand against toxic masculinity. The brand spun their time-honoured slogan, “The Best a Man Can Get” to question the stereotypes and expectations of what it means to be a man today. The ad highlights issues including sexual harassment, intimidation, bullying and the #MeToo movement. It encourages men to help other men do better by acting against “boys will be boys” behaviour, and to call other men out on toxic behaviour such as catcalling and derogatory behaviour towards women.

Boys will be boys behaviour is harmful because it means certain behaviour from boys and men is to be expected and tolerated. It removes the responsibility and accountability for someone’s actions just because they are male. Toxic masculinity can subtly teach young boys that it’s not OK to cry, and that they must suppress their feelings in order to fit in. Although Gillette’s campaign was widely praised for addressing an important issue, it was also heavily criticised and “#boycottGillette” quickly spread through social media. Journalist Piers Morgan said the ad was “absurd” and tweeted, “Let boys be damn boys. Let men be damn men”. The brand was also slated for being “anti-men”. Gillette’s campaign is by no means anti-men, nor does it imply that men should apologise for being men. Gillette have simply opened up space for a conversation that has been bypassed for too long. It may be a heated and divisive conversation, but it has an overdue and well-deserved place in society as we strive for gender equality.

Gender is multifaceted and complex, and there is no one-size-fitsall mould for femininity, masculinity or any gender for that matter. So, no more calling people pussies (unless you’re telling someone how amazing and powerful they are), or telling people to grow a pair or man up. Let’s ditch the language that underpins the pillars of gender inequality. 

The Harbour Gallery Jersey, home of Art in the Frame Foundation

As Art in the Frame Foundation, the managing charity of The Harbour Gallery Jersey, celebrates its 21st Birthday, the two are fundraising to raise awareness and the profile of both the charity and the gallery. This is to enable it to expand its work in art education through workshops and classes, promotion for up-and-coming artists and craftworkers through exhibitions, plus events, talks and demonstrations over the next few years.

‘All Washed Up 2’ is a mixed media exhibition featuring the work of 38 local artists working in many different mediums to include painting, prints, ceramics, 3D, jewellery, textiles and much more. There is a focus on the seas, sands, cliffs, sea life and what might be washed up onto the local beaches and often what can be made from it.

Amongst the 38 exhibitors, pieces featured include: watercolours by Lynne Jenner; paintings and ceramics by Rosemary Blackmore; pottery by Andrew Sinclair; photography by Sheila Birch; textile art by Naomi Renouf; screenprints by Paolo Sebastianelli; textile art by Eleanor Balston; resin work by Judith Clare; and driftwood figures by invited UK artist Lynn Muir.

All Washed Up 2

This fabulous mixed media exhibition will be held at The Harbour Gallery Jersey in St Aubin from 11 July to 15 September, Open 10 am to 5.30 pm, seven days a week

Keep up to date with all the latest news by following The Harbour Gallery, the home of Art in the Frame Foundation, on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter or visit the website. Tel: 01534 743044.

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