River Valley Woman December 2020

BY EILEEN MADSEN Editor

How many times have we either asked this or heard it from someone else? We all like to get something special now and again. Sometimes we are the bringer and sometimes the bringee.

Nowhere is this more evident than in our favorite Christmas carols. Take for instance the door-todoor songsters who insist on having figgy pudding brought right to them, and threaten not to go until they get some. Best bring it before they launch into another chorus of The Wassail Song, and demand a cup of that as well, to wash down all the pudding. It might be worth it to get them off your front step before the cops show up.

Then there is Good ol’ King Wenceslas, who upon seeing a poor man gathering sticks for his lowly abode, instructs his page to bring him flesh, wine, and pine logs hither to bear them to said poor man thither. This kind act in turn brings forth a miracle from King W of toasty footprints sizzled into the snow for the shivering page to tread upon. Fortunately, no intimidation for desserts and booze, or trudging through the freezing elements are involved in this month’s issue, where we spotlight those women who Bring It! And we are the lucky bringees. Bringing joy through music and myriad other attributes is cover feature Andrea Lyn. A recognizable name and face in the entertainment world in the area, the songbird is known for her homegrown style that was cultivated as a child. This nature girl, who has a love for the land, is also

a United Way Spirit Award winner for her dedication to community.

A familiar voice with her own influential style is veteran radio personality Lisa Kaye, who is known for Radio Mankato’s “Talk of the Town,” as well as other shows. Talk about bringin’ it, Lisa has been on the air for over 20 years, making her the longest running female FM radio host in the area.

We are bringing you HERstory again in this issue to honor the extraordinary, 90-year-old Millie Daufenbach. A 55-year veteran in the education system since 1965, Millie has been the one who students depended upon to look out for them on the playground, the lunchroom, the athletic field and beyond. Being cited for her kindness and positive attitude, Millie was nominated many times over for the school’s Everyday Hero Award.

To be commended during these certainly uncertain times are those in the bar and restaurant industry. If ever there was a time for wine, Carrie Sharp of Waseca’s Trio Wine Cafe, our It’s Her Business feature, can hook you up. She knows how to bring it, then not, then sort of, then not again, sort of, through no fault of her own. The pandemic is no match for Sharp and her husband, who have devoted themselves to their passion for invigorating the town through their history savvy, and a kickin’ back vibe.

Speaking of which, historical architecture is something one comes to expect in New Ulm. But head up the stairs and down the hall in one iconic downtown building and you’ll be surprised with a modern, industrial apartment with a river valley view. Our Spaces pages brings you the hot property that is oh, so cool.

This season especially, it’s up to you how and what you bring hither—whether it’s music, hospitality, dedication, kindness, a sense of humor, food for thought or actual pudding and punch… we’re not gonna go until we get some, so bring it thither.

By KATHERINE AUSTINSON

inger-songwriter and performing artist

Andrea Lyn sings of many things. Lightning storms, stronger women, and honeybirds are at the top of the list. Gold finches, by another name, are birds that her young son delights to call honeybirds.

Andrea’s new recording will showcase songs such as ‘Honeybird,’ allowing Andrea to share joy, peace, and wisdom from her heart. She combines melodies to move the soul with lyrics of reflection, rooted in American folk, traditional country, and Americana. You could call her music style ‘homegrown.’

Starting as a seven-year-old, piecing together tunes on the old upright piano in her childhood home, Andrea has found her peace in music. With encouragement from a favorite music teacher, her musical talent became evident by third grade as she wrote her first song. In her teen years she was singing her songs in coffee houses.

Andrea is completely self-taught. She says music is how she moves through life.

“It’s how I pause to embrace things, things that most of us wouldn’t normally pause to let sink in,” she explained.”

Noticing nature and people becomes an inspiration for her compositions.

Naming a music album is very meaningful to Andrea. So much so, that she frequently doesn’t settle on a name until the recording is in process. Her first CD, Make Believe, was recorded in a garage. It propelled the popularity of her song “Stronger Woman.” It is a song she wrote for her oldest daughter.

Stronger Woman lyrics: When I heard our little girl was coming to the world I started writing things down I wanted her to know. Things that I had learned the hard way, to shield her from the storm, so she’d be a stronger woman when she’s grown. Now we’ll both be stronger women when she’s grown. This is only the beginning of so much still yet to live. These words I write are the things I wish for you, oh the moments go so fast, I hope you never take time for granted and you make every moment last, if you find a love that moves you, chase it like the sun chases the rain and live and laugh and thank God every day.

Andrea’s CD titled Lightning was recorded in New Ulm at Lantz Dale’s Studio. Crista Bohlman, Lantz Dale, Sam Nilson, Dick Kimmel, and Ian Kimmel added their time and talent to this album.

Quoting from the Lightning album cover: “When I was about eight years old, I ran away one night to the back yard. As night fell, I grew afraid of being alone in the dark. I walked to stand outside of the kitchen window and shined the flashlight that I had brought to catch my dad’s attention. Seeing my light, he then went to grab a flashlight from his dresser. He flashed back at me in a sort of Morse code. Eventually he shined three short clicks of his light, meaning, ‘I love you.’ My dad has since passed and I often think of lightning in a storm as his way of sending messages from heaven.”

Recording sessions planned in April 2020 were postponed due to the pandemic. This has given Andrea time to refine her compositions before the session is rescheduled. Prairie Lakes Regional Arts Council and executive director Brenda Byron granted funds for her production expenses. She will be collaborating with Twin Cities-based— 

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Andrea Lyn performed her music for Greg Travis’ Southern Minnesota Christmas Festival live online, November 21 with entertainment, stories with Santa, holiday entertaining, cooking ideas, crafts, and more. The annual event was the kick off for Toys for Tots annual toy drive.

Andrea Lyn will create virtual Holiday Concerts for nursing homes. Last spring she contacted all nursing homes in the area and donated an online concert for their residents.

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 turned local— Americana musician Eric Koskinen.

Andrea’s musical style is shaped by her admiration for artists Sarah McLaughlin, Indigo Girls, Merle Haggard, Gillian Welch, Emmylou Harris, John Prine, Marc Cohn, Bonnie Raitt, and more.

One of her favorite songs will be on this new recording. It’s called “Utah,” and tells of leaving college to drive cross-country in a Honda Accord with all of her belongings in a cardboard box.

Far from fitting her belongings in a box now, Andrea finds herself managing time between raising three children in New Ulm with her husband, expanding her entrepreneurial business Twin River Design, and making space for her music—a visceral part of her identity.

Andrea Lyn has been heard performing at the North Mankato Taylor Library Music in the Park series, The Grand Center for Arts & Culture, the Rock Bend Folk Festival and more.

Twin River Marketing & Design is Andrea’s business consulting company. It wraps together a marketing and business strategy package for clients. Andrea creates innovative marketing strategies, with search engine optimization (SEO). It’s all about brand strategy and business development.

Lyn began Twin River Design in 2017 for her initial client, St. George’s Caye Resort in Belize.

Andrea acquired her brand development and business strategy skills working for 20 years with the Anytime Fitness franchise. Initially, she grew 11 clubs from scratch. She was 22 years old and pioneering Anytime Fitness studios domestically. Next, working with the Anytime Fitness corporate office she developed clubs in the Netherlands, Spain, Qatar, and more. Andrea shares, “I think I got nine lives and I’m going for the tenth!”

“Someday I want to grow my half-acre vegetable farm,” she said, planning to have chickens in the near future.

The owner bought the land in honor of his mother, Shirley Domeier. Andrea has a small corner of that land and calls it Clear Lake Farms, by Shirley’s Park.

“It’s one of those things where you start out not knowing what you’re doing and then it just comes together,” Andrea said.

Her greatest pleasure is having children out to the farm. The long-term plan is to provide farm education on this land. Watching a tiny two-yearold child squeal in delight seeing where sweet potatoes—her favorite food—were planted, “met the moment” for Andrea. It is why she continues her labor of love.

Andrea also turns out custom songs commissioned for special occasions. A song written for a couple in their early twenties, about to be married, is an example. The bride and groom met online and virtually had no story to

Who would you cast as you in a movie?

Kate Winslet. I would want to consider the character of the person plus their acting skills. (Note: IMDB.com describes Winslet as having “made a point of eschewing straightforward pretty-girl parts in favor of more devilish damsels.”)

Favorite road trip: I love driving to Duluth for the arts and music and coffee and geography that is different than anywhere in the state of Minnesota. Also, Nashville, Tennessee. I have driven there three times. I was able to sit in with a few bands, and I love the historic guitar stores. People there will struggle for the arts because they love it so much.

Favorite season: Summer, there is no way anybody can top summer.

Favorite subject in school: Science. I was biology major. I spent 15 months during college working for the Minnesota DNR Conservation Corp where I fought fires, cut down trees, and worked with fisheries.

One thing you couldn’t do without every day: Family.

What technology still needs to be invented: An app to get people to go back to the basics and stop over-stimulation when they’ve used too much technology and should go read a book or plant a garden or be with family.

What TV show would you like to be on: I’ve always wanted to go on Shark Tank and have a brilliant new idea!

share with Andrea. Creating something for them was challenging. But once the song was written, the couple knew it was perfect.

“I get as much as I give when someone comes up to me in tears and asks me to write a song for their wedding,” Andrea said. “People are very open and trusting when they approach me and tell me how my songs speak to them. That gives me joy. I’ve come through a lot of really hard things in life. I’ve gotten a lot of chances from others. Now I want to use this time to give a piece of my heart to others. And it fills me up, too.”

In March 2020, as communities shut down due to the pandemic, Andrea saw an opportunity to impact more people. United Way of the Brown County Area was starting an assistance fund for residents, so Andrea volunteered to help. She designed and promoted a website to create more emotionally-engaged marketing, encouraging people and corporations to donate toward recovery. She partnered with Flying Buttress Media to use their beautiful video for the website. United Way funneled donations to assistance grants through this new site, TipJarBrownCounty.org. Because of this work, Andrea was given the Spirit Award for her commitment and dedication to the community. Andrea said that reaching more people in her community and receiving that award filled her heart.

Leaving a legacy for her children drives Andrea’s focused energy. “I want to pass on the wisdom that no matter where the world goes, you can be a source of joy, inspiration, and empowerment for others,” she said. Lyn’s constant hope is to connect and inspire others.

“I don’t want to over complicate it,” she said. “You never know what someone is going through. They just may need a moment of joy in their life, that welling-up-in-your-soul moment you can’t control. I get a lot of advice to slow down, but what is life if you can’t live every moment.” RVW

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When it comes to “bringin’ it,” Lisa Kaye has her own unique and influential style. Lisa is the long-time morning host of Radio Mankato’s Minnesota 93 and Magic 100.5. Lisa also has the opportunity every day to serve the community by addressing relevant and sometimes controversial topics on her AM radio show, “Talk of the Town.”

For over 20 years, Lisa has been a voice on the airwaves of southern Minnesota, even staking claim as the longest running female morning host on an FM station in our area. As a morning host with faithful followers and friends, Lisa brings it everyday with her familiar, smooth voice starting

our days out right as we drive to work, or listen to the latest local news in between our favorite songs. Lisa has even become a well-known community figure through her work as emcee for many local events.

But in the last year and a half on Talk of the Town, Lisa has grown both personally and professionally. She’s realized one of her new strengths has become making other people heard.

“The radio allows me to amplify voices that aren’t normally heard, and don’t always get heard,” she said. “We all learn from the new voices and stories. Agree or disagree, all viewpoints can be heard.”

This, according to Lisa, is the best part of Talk of the Town.

On the show, Lisa is able to bring understanding to topics of division, such as racial justice. She feels that there is so much division on both sides and that it is important to educate oneself so those differences are less scary.

“I’m not afraid to ask the questions that make other people uncomfortable,” she said. “Fabulous guests are willing to put themselves out there and address tough topics.” On her radio program, listeners don’t have to ask the difficult questions or broach sensitive subjects, they just need to listen and learn.

For many years, the topic of racial justice has been of particular importance to Lisa. She grew up in Minnetonka, Minnesota in a multicultural home. She didn’t think about how that was different from many other families in Minnetonka until sixth grade when someone pointed out that her mom was Korean.

Throughout her life, Lisa has had to answer the question, “What are you?” That’s something she says isn’t asked of her white or Black friends. Lisa even sees how her children are treated differently based on how they look, specifically two of the four who have features lending more to their Korean heritage. They are subject to the sort of race-related questions and comments Lisa has faced herself.

“My goal is to send our children out into the world with strong, humble empathy and to always respect and see the value and worth of others,” Lisa said. She and husband Kevin are raising their four children (ages 11 to 19) to be inclusive members of the world. Maya, Nico, Ryan and Jacob have always had the benefit of open communication about race in their household.

“Most kids already get it more than their parents do,” she said of being inclusive. Her advice to parents is to have open conversations with your kids. If there are topics you are uncomfortable with, dig deep and find out why. Then educate yourself until you understand it better.

“The Golden Rule is to treat others as you want to be treated,” she said. “The Platinum Rule goes above that. Treat others as they want to be treated.” That comes down to getting to know others and respecting them enough to know how they want to be treated.

With co-host Bukata Hayes from the Greater Mankato Diversity Council, Lisa has created a podcast called DEI—Engaged Exchanges with Lisa Kaye and Bukata Hayes. DEI stands for Diversity, Equity and Inclusion.

“The best way to describe this show is really digging deep into people of all colors about their stories, experiences, and expertise—shining a light on how their contributions to our community are so overlooked and needed,” she said.

The bi-weekly podcast brings in different guests each episode and covers topics such as:

• How to be a good ally (SCMN Pride)

• The NAACP Chapter forming in Mankato

• Minnesota State University, Mankato’s director of African American Affairs and the MultiCultural Center

• Lakota Heritage

• Black Excellence around Minnesota

• Region 9’s new equity director talking about her Puerto Rican culture

• Civic engagement with Indivisible St Peter Greater Mankato Lisa said it was a big honor to have the opportunity to host Talk of the Town after Pete Steiner (30-year veteran of the radio program) retired. She chooses the topics presented on KTOE based on what is happening in the community, her current listeners, and her own personal experiences. She said management at Radio Mankato trusts her to handle all topics fairly and allows her to address the topics she feels most relevant. Lisa jokes, however, that her interviews range from “birds in the backyard to racial justice.”

Lisa has had the opportunity to really get to know people in her long-form interviews—18 to 20 minutes—on Talk of the Town. Those interviews allow her to really dig in and find out the why. Lisa says it’s a skill of listening so the next questions come naturally. It allows her listeners to get to know the radio guests as well.

“I love life-long learning from other people,” said Lisa. “There are so many cool people in this community doing cool things. I just want to say, ‘You’re so cool—take the mic and tell everyone!’”

Lisa feels that meeting interesting people who do amazing things and getting to know them as people is another gift of Talk of the Town.

Aside from her work at the radio station, Lisa is active in the community. While being involved in a number of youth sports boards for her kids has been important to her, Lisa says community involvement goes beyond her family. It is important for her to have her kids see her doing what she’s passionate about and to see her stand up for what she thinks is right. She is doing just that with her work on the Greater Mankato Diversity Council, the Board of the YWCA and its Racial Justice Program, and on the Board for South Central Minnesota Pride.

You can see Lisa out and about in the Mankato area, speaking up about racial justice, marching to support Minnesota Pride, or sharing her voice at community events. This is quite the feat for a self-described introvert in a career as a professional extrovert.

“When you’re on the radio you don’t think about the number of people you’re speaking with, you just consider it a conversation,” Lisa said. You’d never guess Lisa is an introvert as she gets up in front of a room and speaks to a crowd—but you also can’t deny her knack for an intimate conversation in a one-on-one setting.

From being the voice behind the mic to putting the mic in front of those who need to be heard, Lisa has evolved in her years on radio. She’s bringing it everyday through her dedication to bring relevant topics to southern Minnesota through her work at Talk of the Town.

“If you enjoy your work, you never work a day in your life,” Lisa commented.

She considers her conversations on the radio as conversations directly with the listeners who have become friends. Lisa says that’s what makes working in a smaller market like southern Minnesota so great. She’s able to use her influence on the radio and the relationships she has built along the way to make a difference for our part of the state. It also doesn’t hurt that she’s able to address topics she’s passionate about.

Talk of the Town airs on KTOE-1420 AM each day between 11:00 a.m. and 12:00 p.m. The DEI-Engaged Exchanges Podcast can also be found on the podcast page of KTOE.com. RVW

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has been said that the extraordinary can be found in the ordinary. Millie Daufenbach has certainly appeared to find a way to embody that sentiment throughout her life.

Born at the beginning of the Great Depression, to parents who immigrated to the United States from Lebanon, Daufenbach’s early life was filled with financial struggles.

“We didn’t have a lot, but we were always very appreciative and grateful for everything,” she said.

This mindset of gratitude has defined Daufenbach’s life and it hasn’t gone unnoticed by those she has encountered throughout her 90 years. Despite leading a seemingly ordinary life, friends and colleagues attest that Daufenbach has touched others’ lives in extraordinary ways.

Despite challenges, Daufenbach recalls how her early experiences helped shape her into the person she is today. Her family worked together to support and take care of one another.

“I had the best dad anybody could ever ask for,” Millie said, “Despite being poor, he worked very hard and never had a bad thing to say about anyone.”

Millie’s mother was more of the disciplinarian and ran a tight ship. After losing her mother just as she was graduating high school, Millie watched her older sister, Elizabeth, take on that role and supply that needed glue for the family.

Additionally, Daufenbach calls her eldest sister, Sadie, “A blessing to us all.” Sadie left home for opportunities in Minneapolis and was able to send money home to help support the rest of her family.

These early life lessons of kind—but firm—self-sacrifice and positive support were a perfect fit for Daufenbach’s 55-year career working with the Mankato school district.

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Millie’s tenure began in 1965. She was hired by Roland Utzinger, then principal of Franklin Elementary, to supervise the playground before school. After a short absence during the birth of her second child, Daufenbach returned to the job, this time at Kennedy Elementary, where she stayed for the next 25 years—assisting in the lunchroom and again with playground duties.

During her time, Daufenbach received praise from both students and faculty. She recalls one elementary student saying, “I know that even when you blow the whistle, you are doing it because you care about us.”

Always dependable, aware, and fast on her feet, Daufenbach was the one to respond in a time of crisis. During her time in the lunchroom, a student began choking on a hot dog. Daufenbach’s quick action performing the Heimlich maneuver saved his life. “Anyone would have done the same,” she said. Outlasting most of her colleagues, and with no plans of slowing or leaving the job she loved, Daufenbach soon began double duty when a position in the athletic department doing laundry at East High School opened.

That is where she eventually stayed for the remainder of her 55-year career. There she washed and folded uniforms and jerseys and gained a following of appreciate athletes.

In 2018, one of these athletes, Kayden Mueller, highlighted Daufenbach as an Everyday Hero. He stated, “I know that no matter what, I can always count on Millie.” This was not the only time Daufenbach was nominated for the school’s Everyday Hero award; in fact, she was nominated several times over the years.

Beyond that recognition, Daufenbach was inducted into the Mankato East Athletic Hall of Fame in 2005 for her exceptional job performance and positive attitude. The committee was unanimous in its decision.

Teacher Charyl Korpal met Daufenbach at East High School and the two soon became fast friends. “I was drawn to her kindness and positive

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attitude,” Korpal said, “I just wanted to be around her, I think everyone did.”

When COVID-19 shut down Minnesota’s schools, Daufenbach, at 90 years old, decided to retire.

“I loved all the people so much,” Daufenbach said. “I miss them all and the camaraderie.”

Daufenbach works hard to stay connected. Several students and former colleagues still write, call, and visit when they can.

“Millie remembers everyone, Korpal said, “She always builds you up and makes you feel special.” RVW

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he old saying “necessity is the mother of invention” proved true when Sandy and Lynn Adams put their house up for sale back on January 1, 2011. When the house sold in less than a week, they wondered what to do next.

True, they had their recently purchased second home in Mesquite, Nevada where they were wintering—but where would they live when they returned to New Ulm that spring? And, they had a 36-foot cruiser at Wabasha where they could stay while figuring things out.

Lynn and Sandy also had a commercial building with vacant space upstairs on Minnesota Street in downtown New Ulm. Sandy, a retired hairdresser, and Lynn had purchased the building housing Haar Friseure salon in 1995. Part of the upstairs—an 11-room apartment—was rented out, but there was that empty space in the back. But it had boarded up windows, cement floors, brick walls…and college kids had used the space for their party room.

Lynn and Sandy Adams met when she applied for a beautician job at his barbershop in the Twin Cities. They married and came to New Ulm—where Sandy had family. They lived on South Minnesota Street for 30-plus years before moving to the upstairs apartment.

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When the Adams returned to New Ulm that spring, they hooked up with Ron Lambrecht and Puhlmann Lumber to draw up plans to turn that deserted space into a cozy apartment.

“We had a lot of work to do—all the electrical and plumbing,” Sandy recalled. “Paint Boys sprayed the ceiling but we did the rest. I stained the concrete floors. I just splattered them and put a sealer on. My husband went hunting—he gets nervous when I start doing projects.”

The two-bedroom apartment is “nothing fancy, but it has what 

An open floor plan, stained and sealed cement floors, and exposed ceilings give an industrial feel to the Adams apartment.

A view from the living room toward the entryway. The master bedroom is to the right. The doorway (right side of photo) is to the second bedroom—also a catch-all room.

The L-shaped kitchen backs up to the bathroom so the plumbing is on the same wall.

“Magnificent Maggie,” the Adams’ faithful Black Lab, is remembered in a painting that Sandy did. Maggie’s collar and hunting whistle hang on the frame. A legend in the field for her hunting skills, Maggie lived to be almost 14 and travelled wherever Lynn and Sandy went. Sandy’s love of animals is shared with the Brown County Humane Society where she’s volunteered for more than a decade.

Sandy’s love of rural areas is evident in her paintings. These adorn the entry hallway. She laughed as she told how some of them came about because she and another painter got lost in a rural area.

The living area is comfortable and includes a sectional with slipcovers. Sandy spent a week sewing the covers, rather than having the pieces reupholstered.

Like everything else in Sandy and Lynn Adams’ apartment, the bathroom is simple and functional. It opens off the master bedroom, as well as the hallway near the second bedroom.

Large egress windows were installed in Sandy and Lynn’s master bedroom. They open toward the back of several downtown businesses—which can lead to overhearing some interesting conversations when the windows are open. A walkin closet off the bedroom leads to the laundry room.

This little passage, at the end of the hallway above Haar Friseure, leads to the Adams’ apartment.

 we need,” according to Sandy. The kitchen/dining/living area is completely open.

The industrial-looking place with a cool vibe, was ready by the fall of 2011. Sandy and Lynn spend May through November there each year—before heading to their winter home in Nevada.

An accomplished painter, Sandy has claimed one corner of the dining area to create her artwork—which hangs on all the walls

of the apartment. While Sandy has always enjoyed painting, she didn’t have time for it until about 20 years ago when she took a community education watercolor class from Ruth Lindemann.

“Ruth is a great mentor. We’ve taken painting trips together to the North Shore, Tamarack, Lanesboro, and more,” Sandy said.

Both Ruth and Sandy added awards to their resumes at this fall’s Springfield Juried Art Show. RVW

Sandy took up painting about 20 years ago and has had a number of winners at the Springfield Juried Art Show, including this one that hangs in the master bedroom.

An award-winning artist, Sandy uses a corner of the dining area for her art studio.

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Tina Schlumpberger has been lending her talents to local restaurants for over 23 years. She has been a head chef, kitchen manager, prep cook, soup artist, banquet chef and, most recently, owner of the home-based baking business, Sugar Belly.

When asked, “What’s your favorite thing to cook?” my response has become, “Anything I’ve never made before.” What I love the most about working in the culinary arts is that there is always something to learn. The possibilities are endless!

I started baking with my grandmother in New Ulm when I was six years old. We made fresh breads, Christmas candies, and cookies together. I was the designated dough-kneader while she coached me with words of encouragement like “a little more elbow grease!” She also called the rubber spatulas “lickers,” which still makes me smile.

I chose to include grandmother’s recipe for Honey Ginger Cookies because they are great as an alternative to your basic sugar cookie for the holidays. The dough is chilled just like sugar cookie dough, which you can roll out on a floured surface instead of balling them and rolling in sugar. No matter which way you choose to make this recipe, it delivers with just the right amount of sweetness, a little spice, and a soft chewy texture.

My professional career took a big leap in my 20s when I was working at the former Richard’s, an upscale French restaurant in St. Peter. At the time, no other local restaurants were making cuisine of this caliber, and I knew this was where I needed to be to take it to the next level. I practically forced the chef to take me on and, fortunately, neither of us would regret it. Her menu included a lot of unknown words, like “hericot verts” and “dauphinoise.” I took the menu home and researched what I was really getting into. As it turned out, dauphinoise are basically scalloped potatoes and hericot verts are really just green beans. That being said, the food was amazing and I learned that butter is food gold!

Shortly after, I started specializing in soups. Creating unique flavors such as Pizza Lovers, Philly Cheesesteak (before that was a thing), Meatball Barley, and German Sausage Sauerkraut. While management claimed me a ‘Soup Goddess,’ some customers were leery of my unique creations.

I’ll admit it, “Pizza Lovers Soup” sounds weird, but I’ll also admit, it was absolutely delicious. Soon I had an adventurous fan base anxiously awaiting the next soup experiment, which ultimately totaled over 20 original recipes.

More recently my resume includes creating the banquet menus at the Country Inn and Suites, managing Bonfire in Mankato, and planning their Sunday brunch buffets. Any chef can cook good food—and any chef can cook a lot of food— but the unique challenge of doing both is one I have came to master. Easter and Mother’s Day routinely saw over 900 guests in a five-hour period. Along with 45 buffet items, we also had a 12-item dessert table.

With the pandemic, Bonfire became a casualty, closing permanently in April. I am currently still employed at the Country Inn, but banquets at this time are few. With more time on my hands, I took on the challenge of mastering the French macaron. This ultimately spun into a home-based baking business, Sugar Belly, which specializes in macarons and other gourmet treats. I also have the pleasure of working part-time at Nollabelle where I get to work with creative dishes and fabulous people.

My future is uncertain, but I will never stop loving to create.

¾ C. honey

¼ C. molasses

1 C. granulated sugar

3 well beaten eggs

4 C. all-purpose flour

1 t. ground ginger

2 t. baking powder

¼ t. salt

1 t. vanilla extract

Measure out flour, ginger, baking powder, and salt. Stir to combine and set aside. Crack 3 eggs and beat with wire whisk, set aside.

Combine honey, molasses, vanilla, and sugar in bowl or stand mixer. Beat on medium speed until incorporated. Turn mixer to low and slowly add 1/3 of the flour mixture, then alternate adding some of the beaten eggs, then the flour then the eggs, etc. Continue to mix on low speed until incorporated then turn up the mixer speed to medium for one minute. Batter should be thick and sticky! Wrap batter and refrigerate for 6 hours or overnight.

When ready to bake, pre heat oven to 325 and grease 3 cookie sheets. Scoop out batter and roll into 1 ounce balls (or no larger than an inch in diameter). COOKIES WILL EXPAND!!

Take the balled cookies one at a time and roll in sugar. Space them two inches apart and smash with bottom of a glass.

Bake for 10 minutes. Let cookies cool before removing from pan. If using recipe for cookie cut outs, make sure to heavily flour your rolling surface so they don’t stick. I found that 350 degrees for 6 minutes works well for this preparation. Happy baking!

Though many of us won’t be holding large holiday gatherings this winter, we will, hopefully, still make time for traditions and cheer. Nothing brightens up an indoor winter day like a new houseplant, especially a flowering one, and there are lots of readily available seasonal houseplants to choose from during the holidays. Once you get your new plants home, here’s what you need to know about keeping them alive and looking their best.

Poinsettia Of the holiday-themed houseplants, poinsettia (Euphorbia pulcherrima) is certainly the most common. Americans buy millions of red, white, and pink poinsettias each year to decorate their mantles and dinner tables for Christmas. (Poinsettias can also be dyed other colors and/or coated with glitter. I don’t know if these practices affect the plant’s health, but I, personally, prefer the natural ones.)

Place your poinsettia in a south, east, or west facing window where the plant will receive as much natural light as possible. Poinsettias will do best in temperatures between 65 and 70 degrees Fahrenheit, so avoid homing them too close to outdoor entryways. You should also avoid placing them above heating vents or space heaters, which can dry the plants out too much. Poinsettias prefer consistently moist—but not wet—soil. Never allow them to dry to the point of wilting or to sit in excess water.

Amaryllis Amaryllis (Hippeastrum sp.) are bulbous plants native to Peru and South Africa. Here in Minnesota, gardeners often save them from year to year, bringing them in and out of the house as the seasons change. The amaryllis bulbs sold in garden centers during the winter have already undergone a period of dormancy that the plant needs to produce flowers. A freshly potted and watered bulb will begin to send up leaf and flower stalks shortly after its roots begin to grow again.

During the first few weeks, be careful not to overwater a newly potted amaryllis. Water thoroughly only when the top two inches of soil are completely dry, allowing water to drain out through the bottom of the

pot. Place the pot in a sunny window or somewhere it gets lots of natural light. To promote flower growth, fertilize occasionally with a phosphorus-rich houseplant fertilizer. Move the plant out of the full sun when the flower bud begins to open.

Christmas cactus The Christmas cactus (Schlumbergera bridgesii ) is a succulent plant originally native to the rainforests of coastal Brazil. Its waxy green leaves trail slightly before sprouting large colorful flower buds that resemble lipsticks. The blooms can be red, pink, purple, white, orange, yellow, or some combination of these. Healthy Christmas cacti can stay in full bloom for four to six weeks.

Despite having the word “cactus” in its common name, the Christmas cactus is not drought tolerant. As a tropical rainforest plant, it needs consistent moisture and humidity, so I’d recommend watering every time the top inch of soil dries out. As with most houseplants, good drainage is also important. The Christmas cactus also prefers to grow in a small pot, where the roots can quickly fill up the container. Bright indirect light is best for the Christmas cactus—full sunlight can burn the leaves and stress the plant.

Norfolk Island pine Although Araucaria heterophylla isn’t truly a pine, its shape and form strongly suggest one. My neighbors have a large Norfolk Island pine that they use as a Christmas tree substitute—it lends a rather tropical feel to the winter holidays. As its name implies, this plant is native to Norfolk Island (near Australia), where it can grow to over 200 feet tall. Here in Minnesota, we have to grow it indoors during the winter, so it grows much more slowly, probably maxing out around eight feet tall after several years of growth.

When grown indoors, the Norfolk Island pine does best in direct sunlight, though it also tolerates low light. In lower light conditions, turn the plant periodically to keep it growing straight and upright. The Norfolk Island pine prefers high humidity, which is difficult to maintain in our dry Minnesota winter homes. Keep it away from heating vents and drafty windows, and mist the plant with a spray bottle periodically. Water thoroughly once the top few inches of soil dry out completely—if in doubt, wait a few more days before watering.

LAURA SCHWARZ New Ulm native Minneapolis-based horticulturist & writer

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As a kid, I asked my parents for a dog every holiday. I didn’t care where it came from, I just wanted one! Now, as an adult that has been working in veterinary medicine for 15 years, I have learned that there is much more that goes into finding the right dog for your lifestyle and individual needs.

When deciding that you want a dog, the absolute best thing you can do is research a breed that is right for you. Not doing your research before getting a puppy is like getting married on the first date. People forget this step, so much so that rescue dogs are often adopted based on a photograph online. Pump the brakes and slow it down. Purchasing a dog from a shelter comes with a risk of the unknown.

Aggressions, anxiety and health conditions are all hereditary and— without knowing the parents—we do not have a clue as to the dog’s temperament or future health. We also miss prime socialization periods——specifically under 16 weeks of age. Many people want the “safer option” and choose to purchase from a breeder. But, purchasing from a breeder does not guarantee you will have a healthy, welltempered, well socialized dog. Or could it?

I recently did a behavior consult for a family of six that is incredibly knowledgeable. They called me with concerns after adopting a 14-week old pit bull puppy. The puppy immediately started displaying aggressive behaviors in regards to resources, meeting new people, and would snap when uncomfortable when being touched. Mom knew that a puppy that was on the end of “prime socialization” (ending at 16 weeks of age), they were in trouble. Yet, she gave it a 100 percent effort. After a week of increasingly noticeable aggression and a conversation we had, we both agreed that their beloved puppy was not a good fit for this social and active family.

Fast forward a couple months and the neighbors bring home a Goldendoodle puppy. The puppy is great with the kids and super chill. Mom researches the breed and reaches out to the breeder. The breeder says they have puppies on site that are various ages. Mom has done her research and knows that she wants a puppy at eight weeks of age, as this will give her the best socialization time frame. So she opts to wait for a new litter. The puppies are born and the family heads to the breeder’s home (which seems clean), with their “breeder interview” questions in tail. They see mom is on site but are told that the puppy’s dad is their son’s poodle and this is their first litter with these parents. Their research tells them to pick a puppy that is outgoing.

After a couple weeks at home, they notice that this puppy is starting to show some guarding tendencies with bones, is barking and sometimes growling at new people, and is growling when being picked up. Mom calls me, devastated. They paid $2,000 for this puppy, thinking they had done everything “right” but—after talking—feel they may have missed some “red flags.” Was this puppy from a breeder any different than their rescue puppy? Cost does not equal quality but it can, if you learn what to ask and what to look for.

So what do you look for in a “good breeder?” A good breeder should be breeding to better the breed and produce well-tempered puppies, not to collect a paycheck. They put their attention into one litter at a time, should never have left over puppies from previous litters, and never sell remaining litters to pet stores or shelters. They place puppies in homes that are a good fit and will provide lifelong support for that puppy. Their dogs should be health tested and the results should always be forthcoming. They should provide you with a pedigree and honor your request to meet your puppy on site and the environment should be clean. It would be ideal to be able to meet the mom and the rest of the litter but usually the dad is not on site.

The truth is, it can be very difficult to find a good tempered, wellsocialized, healthy dog in this crazy world. I specialize in behavior and work with dogs that are anxious, fearfully aggressive, reactive, and show all kinds of other behavioral concerns. By no means are these dogs bad dogs, but they are challenging. Unfortunately the average family does not have the skills, patience, and time to raise or convert these dogs into good citizens. Not only is this heartbreaking for the families, but the dogs suffer as well. We need better education, better expectations and better understanding when it comes to raising dogs in today’s world.

People who do their research generally end up with a dog that is a better fit. If you do have further questions, ask your veterinarian for guidance. We want to see happy families and well-tempered dogs strengthening the human/animal bond.

NICOLE LUECK, CVT MN Valley Pet Hospital Mankato

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VITAMIN C: There have been many studies that show that vitamin C provides your body with the ability to make neurotransmitters, like dopamine, noradrenaline, and serotonin. These all provide mood stability and can prevent depression.

FOOD SOURCES: oranges, lemons, strawberries, bell peppers and broccoli.

VITAMIN B6: Vitamin B6 acts like an antidepressant, by increasing serotonin uptake. Therefore, it is known to improve your mood and help prevent and treat mood disorders by reducing symptoms like anxiety, mood swings, nausea, and fatigue.

FOOD SOURCES: carrots, spinach, sweet potatoes, green peas, bananas, lentils and other legumes.

OMEGA-3 FATS: Omega-3 fatty acids travel easily through the brain cell membrane and can interact with moodrelated molecules found inside the brain. They also have anti-inflammatory actions, working together to help lessen the symptoms of depression.

FOOD SOURCES: chia seeds, flax seeds, wild salmon, herring and sardines.

ZINC: Increasing zinc intake has been shown to improve mood as well as cognitive function because it is crucial in neurotransmitter balance.

FOOD SOURCES: Legumes, beef, pork, seeds, nuts and whole grains.

MAGNESIUM: Your body relies on magnesium to enable hormone balance, neurotransmitter function, enzyme activity and enhance overall mood and health. It was the first nutrient recognized to treat depression back in 1921.

FOOD SOURCES: legumes, tofu, whole grains, and leafy greens.

FOLATE: Folate contributes to serotonin regulation as well as helps your body create new cells and supports the formation of DNA. Serotonin is important as it is a natural mood stabilizer.

FOOD SOURCES: avocados, oranges, asparagus, and spinach.

SELENIUM: Selenium is an important nutrient when it comes to brain health. Higher intake has been linked to elevation in mood.

FOOD SOURCES: Brazil nuts, wild yellowfin tuna, mushrooms and lentils.

VITAMIN D: Vitamin D is known as the sunshine vitamin! Our bodies can absorb sunlight and convert it to vitamin D or we can get it through the food we eat, in small amounts. Vitamin D increases production of neurotransmitters associated with mood, like serotonin.

FOOD SOURCES: mushrooms when exposed to UV light, fatty fish, fish liver oils, fortified milks and orange juices.

Better Beef Burrito

INGREDIENTS

1 tbsp. chipotle seasoning

2 tsp. Gustare Vita olive oil

1 lb. boneless beef top sirloin steak, cut 1-inch-thick

1/2 avocado, seeded and peeled

1/4 c. Hy-Vee plain Greek yogurt

1 tsp. fresh lime juice, divided

2 c. frozen cauliflower rice

1 tbsp. cilantro, finely chopped

4 (10-inch) spinach tortillas

1 c. Hy-Vee HealthMarket organic baby spinach

1 c. Hy-Vee no-salt-added canned black beans

drained and rinsed

1/4 c. Hy-Vee pico de gallo

1/4 c. queso fresco cheese, crumbled

DIRECTIONS

1 2 3 4 5

Preheat a charcoal or gas grill for direct cooking over medium-high heat.

Combine chipotle seasoning and oil; rub mixture all over steak. Grill steak for 12 to 15 minutes or until it reaches medium doneness (140 degrees), turning once. Let stand 5 minutes.

Place avocado, yogurt, and 1/2 teaspoon lime juice in food processor. Process until creamy. Cover and refrigerate until serving time.

Place cauliflower rice in a small microwave-safe bowl. Microwave, covered, on HIGH 2 minutes. Stir in cilantro and remaining 1/2 teaspoon lime juice.

Cut steak into small cubes. Wrap tortillas in paper towels; heat in the microwave until warm. To assemble burritos, divide spinach, steak, cauliflower rice, and beans among tortillas. Top with pico de gallo, cheese, and avocado cream. Fold bottom edge of tortilla over filling. Fold in the sides. Then, starting from the folded bottom edge, roll up the tortilla to encase the filling.

Nutrition facts per serving: 310 calories per serving, 28g Total Fat, 9g Saturated Fat, 0g Trans Fat, 90mg Cholesterol, 880mg Sodium, 51g Total Carbohydrates, 7g Dietary Fiber, 3g Total Sugars, 0g Added Sugars, 38g Protein.

Add UV-exposed mushrooms for selenium and vitamin D

We’ve been taught to deck the halls with boughs of holly, but there’s no song solution for setting a table fit for holiday entertaining. When someone is intentional with their hosting, it sets the meal apart from everyday dining and can create traditions to stand the test of time.

Lining up in my aunt’s kitchen during the holidays waiting to feast on turkey and mashed potatoes is one of the strongest memories I have. Stocking footed, we all shuffled down her butcher-block countertops loading up on all the holiday classics. Then we walked with our plates over to the dining room, where we scooted together at the table or the infamous folding kids’ table if you were under the age of 12 or let’s face it… the single cousin not wanting to be asked about your dating habits. Even though space was tight, it never felt crowded. My aunt had a way of making chaos cozy. She would mix and match Fiestaware dishes and saucers for each place setting. The bright colors were jolly and made simple stovetop dressing seem elevated and special. Ever since then, I wanted to give my guests the same intimate experience around the table.

Setting places for your guests can be done on any budget and in any space. Whether you are aiming for family-style passing dishes around the table or guiding guests down a buffet line, there are simple tricks you can do to up your hosting game.

The Traditional Table

If you plan to gather around the table, make sure to focus on the place settings rather than the centerpiece. We all love a show-stopping candelabra adorned in evergreens, but they can get in the way if you put your dishes in the center of the table to be passed. Layer your plates on top of decorative chargers or dig out some cloth napkins and drape them between your dinner and salad plate.

Pro Tip: Use place cards at each seat. Individuals will find comfort in being told where to sit, especially if it’s their first visit to your home and it’s a thoughtful touch. These can be as simple as cardstock tents or elaborate as gift tags tied to a rosemary sprig with ribbon.

The Busy Buffet

This is my specialty. I love creating a holiday themed centerpiece with florals and candles, so I prefer to set my dishes out along a buffet or kitchen counter and have my guests dish up and then grab a seat. This is an easy option if you do holiday meals potluck style so guests can toss their dish on the line up with ease.

Pro Tip: Keep a water carafe and a couple bottles of wine on the table so people are not juggling their cocktail glasses while filling their plates. Or better yet, pour drinks for your guests once they are seated. It will give you the chance to talk with everyone individually.

Disposable Dining

Thinking about washing dishes and using breakable stemware can keep you up stressing the night before. Don’t sweat the matching flatware and dishes and opt for plastic cutlery. Newer options of plasticware are looking more sophisticated each year. Faux silver and holiday themed plates are excellent for quick clean up and kids with literal butter-fingers.

Pro Tip: Wrap your plastic flatware in a paper napkin and tie with curling ribbon from leftover present wrapping. These cute bundles are easy to grab and show that you’ve put extra thought into making your gathering look nice, while still seeming effortless.

No matter what your hosting style is, your guests will feel loved and cared for if you are enjoying yourself. Take the stress out of setting the perfect table and do what is attainable for you and your crew.

Wishing you all the merriest holiday season and a happy new year!

*Editor’s note: During the pandemic, River Valley Woman urges you to use caution with gatherings, to observe social distancing and wear masks when reasonable to do so.

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As we cozy up with family and admire our decor, we notice hanging stockings and wrapped-up gifts galore. Our eyes do linger longest on our drapery before we remember how we loved it, when we bought from Blinds & More.

This time of year can bring about more anxiety and depression. Our days are getting shorter and there is more darkness than light. And let’s face it, 2020 has brought its own set of challenges.

Anxiety occurs when you are focused on something that has already happened (past) or something you fear will happen (future). Mindfulness is being present in the moment—noticing what is happening in present time and appreciating all you see in the moment. Anyone can do it. It is a way of living. We don’t have to take mindfulness on faith. Both science and experience demonstrate its positive benefits for our health, happiness, work, and relationships.

I use mindfulness with patients daily. You do not even need to have a diagnosis of anxiety or depression to be mindful; many find it helpful. Here are some of my recommendations on how you can be more mindful and incorporate mindfulness into your life style.

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• 5 things you can see

• 4 things you can touch

• 3 things you can hear

• 2 things you can smell

• 1 thing you can taste

Be detailed when describing these things. Use as much detail as you can. Instead of saying that picture on the wall, describe it. It is small, is it large, what colors are in it (dark blue, light blue, teal, white, gray, etc), what does the frame look like, and what is the frame made of are some examples of detail.

The nice thing about this exercise is that you can do it anywhere and anytime—and no one will know you are doing it. It is kind of like I spy in the car. Whether you are at work or school, you can go to the bathroom and do this for five minutes. This is also an exercise you could do together as a family.

Mindful eating exercise

This is another exercise you can do solitary, in a group, or as a family. You can choose one food item or a variety of foods such as potato chips, gum, celery, peanut butter, yogurt, nuts, and grapes to name a few.

• What does it smell like?

• What does it look like (soft, hard, colorful, squishy)?

• Does it taste like it looks or smells? Is it bitter or sweet?

• Roll it around your mouth before you bite into it. What does that feel like?

• Slowly bite into it. Does it squirt when you bite into it?

Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Progressive muscle relaxation is a relaxation technique that involves tensing and relaxing all of your various muscle groups in a specific sequence. Edmund Jackson discovered this in 1929 when he realized the body responded to anxious and fearful thoughts by storing tension in the muscles. He found they could be released by consciously tightening the muscles beyond their normal tension point and then suddenly relaxing them. He discovered that repeating this procedure with every muscle group in the body could induce a deep state of relaxation.

Get into a comfortable position in a quiet room where you will not be disturbed. Take slow, deep breaths. Breathing should always be through your nose, not your mouth, so that you can feel your

diaphragm rising and falling. Let your body relax and feel the looseness. Clench your fists and bend them back at the wrist. Feel the tension in your fists and forearms. Relax them and feel the looseness. Notice the contrast. Now bend your elbows and tense your triceps. Tense them as hard as you can and observe the feeling of tautness. Let your hands drop and relax. Feel that difference.

Turn your attention to your head and wrinkle your forehead as tight as you can. Feel the tension in your forehead and scalp. Now relax and smooth it out. Imagine your forehead and scalp becoming smooth and at rest. Now frown and notice the strain spread throughout your forehead. Let go. Allow you brow to become smooth again. Squeeze your eyes closed. Relax them. Let them remain closed gently and comfortably. Now, open your mouth wide and feel the tension in your jaw. Relax your jaw. When you relax the jaw, your lips will be slightly parted. Notice that strain in the back of your mouth. Relax. Press your lips now, purse them into an “O.” Relax your lips. Let go more and more….

Now roll your head slowly around your neck, feeling the tension shifting as your head moves and then slowly roll your head the other way. Now shrug your shoulders, bringing them up toward your ears. Hold that. Drop your shoulders back down and feel the relaxation spreading through your back, neck, and shoulders. Notice the relaxation, deeper and deeper.

Next, tighten your stomach and hold. Feel the tension. Relax. Place your hand on your stomach and breath in deeply, and notice it pushing your hand up. Hold and relax. Feel the sensations of relaxation as the air rushes out. Now arch your back, without straining. Focus on the tension in your lower back. Now relax. Let the tension dissolve away. Tighten your buttocks and thighs. Relax. Now straighten and tense your legs and curl your toes downward. Experience the tension and then relax. Straighten and tense your legs and bend your toes toward your face. Relax.

Feel the comfortable warmth and heaviness of deep relaxation throughout your entire body as you continue to breathe slowly and deeply. You can relax even more as you move up your body, letting go of the last bit of tension in your body.

Visualizing a Peaceful Scene

Those who know me well know how much I love the beach. I am very skilled with allowing people to experience it in their minds. You can use any place that you think would be relaxing. Be sure to use all of your senses for a better experience.

Imagine sitting on the sand, feeling the warmth from the sun striking it. Pick some sand up and let it flow through your fingers. Take a look around, noticing the bright blue skies and the birds flying around. Notice the clouds and the shapes they may form. Are there any cruise ships in the distance? Notice the brightness of the sun that blinds you from looking directly at it. Now turn your gaze to the ocean water. Isn’t it the clearest, beautiful shade of blue? Notice the waves as they are far out and how they roll in, becoming smaller and smaller the closer they come to the shore; where they then kick up the sand and roll back out. Smell the saltiness of the air.

Take a drink of your beverage and notice how cool it feels as it swirls in your mouth and then as it drains down your throat. Notice how condensation has formed on the glass as you hold it.

Listen to the birds chirping, the waves rolling in, the wind blowing, kids playing on the beach. Allow yourself to sink deeper into the sand and just RELAX….

TAMMY ULMEN, MA Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Stepping Stones Mental Health Center

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For most of us, this year has meant more family togetherness and time at home than ever before. Heading into the holiday season and upcoming winter, we will no doubt continue to experience life a little differently. Why not bring the joy and excitement of the holiday season into our current situation?

Even if you can’t travel or host as many family and friend gatherings as you’re used to, it doesn’t mean you can’t create something really special and memorable. Nothing is going to cancel Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, or New Years holidays. With a little planning, you can make the most of what you can do, and stop worrying about what you can’t.

This is the year to amp up your home decorations. If you’re going to be around to enjoy them, don’t hold back. Haul out grandma’s nativity scene that you’ve kept stored for a few years. Switch from your fake tree and enjoy a fresh one this year. You may be home to keep it watered!

Plan the putzy appetizers, desserts, and labor-intensive dishes you would normally avoid. Use your extra time to try your hand at traditional recipes or something new like lefse, krumkake, or donuts. Put your family members to work helping and let the kids learn some cooking techniques you don’t normally have time to work through together.

Plan some holiday light drives in your area or investigate some neighboring community displays to go on an adventure from the safety of your own vehicle. Plan a movie marathon and introduce your kids or grandkids to the classics. Buy or learn some new board games or plan to swap a bunch with a friend. Organize a scavenger hunt in the yard or one to do from the car as you take a drive.

Plan some hikes if we don’t get snow—and sledding if we do. Take time to do a time capsule that captures the uniqueness of 2020 and engage your family and friends to contribute photos and written stories. Don’t be sad about missing visits with your loved ones, and plan a holiday Zoom gathering instead. There are tons of Zoom games out there to play—like Bingo or Scattergories— or make up a trivia game based on your own family members. Be sure to scan Pinterest and create a keepsake ornament for the tree or simply repurpose a worn-out fabric mask and have some fun creating a wreath with a silly centerpiece.

The holidays will be what you make of them, and you don’t have to spend tons of money to have fun closer to home. The pandemic will be a distant memory before we know it and future generations will ask to hear stories. Let’s make them interesting and memorable!

Q: Our family needs a bigger home and we want to use the equity in our current home for the down payment. This seems like a difficult process and how can we do this without moving twice?

A: That’s a great question and it comes up a lot. There are a couple of different options depending on how you would like to move forward, but don’t worry, both are very easy and I make it as stress free as possible.

The first option would be to sell your current home and purchase your new home on the same day. We do this often and coordinate with your real estate agent to make sure everything goes smoothly and according to plan. Typically you will sell your current home and buy your new home in a matter of hours. We take care of scheduling, timing, and money transfers so you can focus on your new home. The second option is to purchase your new home first while still owning your current home. This can give you the time to move into the new home at your own pace, allow you to make necessary changes to your current home for the upcoming sale, or even upgrade your new home before you move in. This also allows you a stronger negotiating position for purchasing your new home. For the loan we do a minimal down payment, as low as 3%. Once your current home sells we apply the proceeds from the sale to your current loan and recalculate your payments based on the new balance. You could think of it as a delayed down payment. This process is very simple and is not a refinance of your loan.

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Q: I already own a home but I want to take advantage of the historically low rates I have been hearing about. How do I refinance and what do I need to know?

A: Refinancing has been extremely popular lately due to the rate market being very favorable. The process itself is very simple. We can have a 15 minute conversation over the phone to set up your file and fill out all of the required documents. At this point I would provide you with a complete breakdown of your options, what your savings would be, and what costs are applicable to your particular loan. After that we submit the file to underwriting and complete their requirements which generally can be completed in 21 days or less! You may not even need an appraisal for a refinance depending on the last time your property was appraised. It’s a very quick and simple process.

Nicole Bangasser is a Senior Loan Originator and Vice President of Marketing and Community Involvement for PrimeSource Funding. Her office is located at 1751 N Victory Drive Suite 500 in Mankato MN. Nicole enjoys helping people reach their homeownership goals through new purchase and refinance loans.

Brief background about yourself:

I was born and raised in Morristown, Minnesota and my parents continue to reside there. I graduated from Waseca High School in 1994, then from Southwest State (now Southwest Minnesota State) with a BA in Psychology. For over 19 years, I worked as a social worker in a wide range of settings from county social work, health plan, and finally to the State of Minnesota. Wanting to reduce travel and try something completely different, I decided to take the leap—when an unexpected opportunity presented itself—and started Trio in downtown Waseca. My husband Jeremy and I have one son, Aidan, who is 18 years old and a senior at Waseca High School. He is a talented musician and frequently plays live music at Trio!

Tell us about Trio:

Trio Wine Cafe is a bar/cafe that features boutique wines, craft beers, and scratch cocktails with a fresh and fun food menu. Prior to COVID, we frequently had live music performances by local musicians. We also showcase local art on our walls. We recently began expanding our cocktail and bourbon menu.

How long have you been in business?

We opened the doors to Trio Coffee, Wine & Ale House on October 20, 2018. When we purchased the business and the building, it had been a coffee shop and—honestly—we really hadn’t thought about being a coffee shop. We had always wanted to be a wine cafe with craft beer and had lots of ideas. So—we ended up merging the coffee in with the wine and beer. This is actually how our original name came into play. When COVID occurred and we were forced to close for a period of time, we took the opportunity to get back to our original dream and let go of the coffee shop aspect. We continue to sell our whole bean coffees from our local roaster, European Roasteries, and we have cold brew and a number of other non-alcohol drinks that were coffeehouse favorites, but we’ve let go of espresso-based drinks. It’s been a huge change but has allowed us to shift our focus, and we have changed our name to Trio Wine Cafe. How is it unique?

Trio is unique because we really focus on our drinks—alcoholic and nonalcohol—but we’ve paired them with a very different fresh food menu, but not the typical items you’d find elsewhere. Also, it’s a priority for us to have a menu with gluten and dairy free alternatives for those with food sensitivities or diet choices. We also have a super small staff right now of just four, but you’re going to feel very welcome and we all try to be knowledgeable about what we do. Another unique aspect of Trio is our wine club that we named after the Arlington Club. We’ve really started to

grow this club and make it something that people want to be part of. What can customers expect when they come to Trio?

Customers can expect a quaint and cozy atmosphere where they can hang with friends or family and find a variety of options. A fun new addition to Trio is the Arlington Room that is the lower level of Trio. Named after a young gentlemen’s business entrepreneurial club, it is a work in progress, but features a gorgeous fireplace and the original bank vault when the building was Citizen’s State Bank back in the early 1900s. We’re gradually adding more soft seating to the space and are so excited about this work in progress. I love to see people posting pictures on social media of the fireplace, with their drinks and just relaxing. After an evening of work, you’ll frequently find Jeremy and I sitting by the fireplace in the Arlington Room—thinking up ideas for the building, the menu, the furniture…it’s where some of our best ideas come from!

How do you decide what to put on the menu?

From the very start, we really wanted to keep our food simple and fresh. We have a super small kitchen so we know we’ll never have a huge menu and we know we have to make everything pretty fast. We started with simple soups and sandwiches, then started to add items based on demand. After that, we just started trying out new things on seasonal menus and added things when something became super popular. One of our most popular menu items, our Korean BBQ Street Tacos, is a shining example. We put it on a seasonal menu, kept it on the next, and people started talking about them and loved them. We, of course, had to put them on the permanent menu. It was the precursor to having a pretty diverse street taco menu. Now that’s something we’re known for. Customers will notice that—after we came back from the COVID shutdown—our food menu looks different. We took the opportunity to change the focus of our menu to get away from sandwiches and soup—that you’d see during a lunch crowd—and moved our menu towards an evening crowd menu. It’s really taken off. For drinks, our most popular really changes from day to day but, recently, we’ve really been making lots of martinis. Again, lots of fun options and we enjoy coming up with new ideas and, of course, serving them.

Have you always wanted to be in the food business?

This is such a complex question for me. I’m a baker at heart and grew up making desserts with my Grandma Laura. She really instilled a passion for spending time in the kitchen. Having never been in the food industry before, it was tough. When Jeremy and I sat down to develop our business model, drinks were meant to be the main feature, with food being a complement. From our experience going to breweries and wineries, we

found that, a lot of time you leave to go grab a bite to eat and there might be a really small menu. When we opened our doors, lunch became our most popular time of day. We even started opening for breakfast, due to demand. We took a step back during the COVID closure and used it as an opportunity to get back to our dream. We reduced our hours to evening only and started really featuring our wines, cocktails, and beers. It’s taken some time, but the response has been great and it’s really afforded us a better balance and a shift to what we really want to focus on.

What do you enjoy most about owning a business?

I really enjoy being able to take the business in the direction we feel is the best fit for us. Food is very fast paced and stressful. The ability to make that change has made it such a different type of atmosphere and we want to pass that feeling on to our customers.

What is the most challenging?

The most challenging areas have been responding to popular demand and balancing that with what we dream about for the business. You have to rise above what might be popular and choose the right thing for you and the business—and hope that your customers will understand. We’ve really learned the importance of sticking to our vision and dreams, and the rest will fall into place.

Who would you like to play you in a movie about your life?

Oh wow! That is such a cool question that I’ve never been asked. I would have to say a younger version of Susan Lucci. I grew up watching soap operas and have always loved her. She’s little but feisty and, of course, a little dramatic! I can imagine her buzzing around the kitchen, dodging plates, and getting stuff done! My parents will certainly get a chuckle out of that answer for very different reasons.

What do you enjoy doing during time away from work?

In my free time, Jeremy and I continue to visit wineries and breweries, as well as taking in some fabulous local restaurants. We also love going to Aidan’s activities, golfing, spending time with family and friends, and I can’t forget to mention walking our dog Jack, our ten-pound ball of energy.

It’s the holiday season—time for family, gifts, and parties. Then why are you beginning to feel stress and pressure? While it certainly isn’t wrong to want to create the best holiday for your family, your finances can be one of the biggest holiday stressors. The good news is that you don’t have to be a Scrooge this holiday season. In fact, there are plenty of ways to make your holiday stress-free and to avoid spending regrets . And—in these current times—having a spending plan is even more important than ever.

The average American is said to spend about $1,000 more on the holidays each year than their normal monthly spending. Are you planning to spend that much? More? Less? Decide on an amount and then ask yourself how you’re going to pay for it. Is it coming from a savings account? Are you working extra hours this month? Once you answer these questions, you can effectively put together a plan to get through the holidays without a spending hangover in the new year.

Celebrating the holiday season means something different to everyone. Maybe you don’t exchange gifts, but you host a lot of parties. Maybe your family takes an annual vacation. Think of the times you might find yourself reaching for your wallet and create your expense categories. Some suggestions include:

• Gifts. Put all the people that you intend to buy for on your list. Don’t forget small gifts for office gift exchanges or at your children’s school.

• Holiday greetings. If you send Christmas cards, calculate the full cost. Remember to include the cost of postage.

• Entertaining. You’ll want to think about how many different events you will attend or host. Remember meals, appetizers, desserts, and drinks.

• Travel. Headed out of town for the holidays? Add the cost of fuel, meals, hotels, flights. Remember any house or pet-sitting costs. No matter how much you plan to spend during the holidays, it’s always necessary to create a realistic budget for yourself. Use the categories you have established and begin to build your plan. You may combine this with your regular monthly budget or create a separate one for the holidays.

There is no right or wrong, it’s whatever works for you. Be reasonable and realistic. Put every holiday-related expense that you anticipate into your budget, even the smallest items which can add up quickly.

Begin by adding up all the costs of your planned expenses and recording them on your budget form. While shopping, be sure to get receipts for each purchase and fill in the amounts in your budget categories. A good practice is to also match up your receipts to your bank and credit accounts. Fraud exists at all times and during the busy holiday season, you may not catch it as early if it happens. Remember to record purchases made with cash, it’s easy to buy with cash and not recall where those dollars were spent.

The key to keeping to your budget plan is to maintain a clear picture of your spending so you will always know how you are doing. Once a week, or after each shopping trip, evaluate how you are doing and make adjustments as needed. While staying disciplined during the holidays isn’t always easy, it is possible to achieve. Remember what you’re working toward, be honest about what you can and cannot afford, and don’t give in to the pressure of spending just because it’s an expectation of the season. How you manage your spending during the holiday season will determine whether you’ll start the new year strong and calm or feeling overwhelmed and stressed.

In addition to a good budget, set expectations for your family and friends so that everyone is on the same page. It is okay to tell others that you won’t be spending as much on holiday purchases and parties this year. It’s important to discuss your spending limitations with your family and friends and stick to your decision. And remember that the true meaning of the holidays is not all about the purchased gifts, it’s about the gift of being with your family and friends, celebrating and enjoying your time together.

DAROLYN JUBERIEN Financial Coach Live Full Financial Coaching

CELEBRATE!

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Time to shine!

Give your small event more impact using sequins. Shorter guest lists will make our time with each other more special when we all come ready to light up the room.

Let’s romp!

Sequins are not just for your cocktail dress, they bring a youthful, on trend look with rompers. This romper is our favorite—comfortable and cute!

It’s in the details.

The detailed neckline and velvet material give this bodycon a special look to stand on its own. Let this be your go-to for years to come. It will not disappoint as it celebrates your uniquely beautiful figure.

It takes two.

Two-piece rompers are such a cute trend right now. With the cold weather of Minnesota upon us, we can extend this look by adding a contrasting turtleneck giving this military look versatility.

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Dress it down.

If your “quaranteam” celebration requires a little more conservative look than an evening dress, keep the festive look with a fun 90’s trend by adding a fitted turtleneck that keeps you warm and adds functionality to your look. Wear with your favorite pumps or tone it down with a pair of booties.

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Party time!

Satin and fur can give your “pod party” elements of class and sophistication that is perfect for the holidays. Find your grandma’s string of pearls and add some nostalgia.

Simplicity hits glitz!

This halter neckline will narrow your shoulders and give you more reason to stand tall. Glitter, along with sequins is a fun way to shine at all your holiday events.

Reckless by Her Happy Place | St. Peter

QThe holidays are coming but we are unable to gather and celebrate like we used to before the pandemic. How can I manage my loneliness?

AOur relationships provide meaning and a directional sense of purpose to our lives. We are drawn to authentic interactions, and these human connections can have a powerful impact. The distress we feel as a result of loneliness can have a dramatic effect on our well-being. Humans are inherently social beings and, historically, group interaction has been crucial for survival by providing herd protection and safety. When we are isolated, our brains become hyper-alert for threats and danger. This perpetual state of attention can lead to anxiety, stress, and insomnia. A body under chronic stress will eventually fall apart, mentally and physically. So while the thought of spending another holiday catering to the whims of your in-laws fills you with dread, keep in mind that social interaction is improving your longevity—provided you aren’t drinking excessively to make it through the evening.

Here are some tips to battle the loneliness.

1. Shift your perspective

Start a daily gratitude practice where you recognize three things you are grateful for. Rather than feeling “trapped” inside your home, rather look at it as an opportunity to cultivate relationships with people. Make an effort to find the “Good Things” in your days, rather than letting the negative things tap all of your energy.

CORINNE JORDAN, MD, FACS General Surgery Physicians Group of New Ulm

2. Fifteen minutes of fame everyday

Pick one person in your life and give them 15 minutes of fame every day. Give this person 15 minutes of your undivided attention, uninterrupted, and really be present with that person. You can choose a different person each day, or dote on the same one over and over. You can take advantage of Facetime, Zoom, or Skype, if necessary, just eliminate all distractions if possible. Doing so will cultivate connection and a sense of wellbeing.

3. Mix it up

We need three types of support in our lives: intimate, circle of friends, and shared-interest. Intimate support comes from a spouse, partner, or best friend that knows you very well. A circle of friends provides support through weekend events or shared vacations. A shared-interest group is a community of like-minded individuals all on the same path toward personal growth. Mix up the support system that you tap into, because each is important for different reasons.

4. ‘Quaranteam’

Build your tribe in the virtual space. Perhaps you have a virtual book club, poker night, girls’ night, or other get-together. Or arrange meet-ups following safe social distancing practices. Check in with your tribe daily to weekly to keep yourself connected.

5. Ministry and service

Service is the best antidote for feelings of isolation. Connect with the community and see where those opportunities are available. Mitch Albom once said “The only time we waste is the time we spend thinking we are alone.”

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE HOLIDAY MEMORY?

Ashley: Watching my little guy put the ornaments on the tree!

Mary: My son lying under the Christmas tree a few days before Christmas with the bathroom scale weighing some of his gifts. He wanted to see if they matched up to what he had circled in the Sears Wish Book.

Kathy: Christmas pageants at church and getting to be an angel.

Emmy: Sleeping under the Christmas tree with my siblings!

Amber: Making cookies with my mom and decorating them with family.

Samantha: My dad would interview us every year and record it on a cassette tape. We still have the tapes.

Lisa: I have two, their names are Norah and Owen! Both were supposed to be born in February, but arrived December 24th and December 27th. Spending the holiday season celebrating them is a joy.

Barbara: This will date me but going to Grandma’s house on Xmas eve and watching her light the candles (real) on the tree. They were only lit for about 5 minutes. And she had a pail of water next to the tree (just in case). Those 5 minutes were magical.

Joan: When we were little my dad dressed up as Santa and would tap on the windows of our home for us to look out to see Santa looking in on us to see if we were being naughty or nice. It usually scared the crap out of us, but it worked!

Stefanie: Going to cut a fresh Christmas tree as a family the day after Thanksgiving.

Maria: Every Christmas Eve our family watches the movie “Christmas Vacation” and enjoys hot fudge cake. We know every line but still love it!

Sue: Eating all the good food that goes with the holiday, many special family recipes!

Jean: One of my favorites was when my brother was a resident at New Ulm Oak Hills (at age 59) due to a stroke, I helped dress him in his Santa suit that my mom had made for him many years ago and we stopped at each room and dropped off a treat for the other residents. He loved them like family and it was so special to experience the love he had for his Oak Hills family.

Chelsey: Christmas light night. We would load up the car and just drive around looking at all the beautiful lights. I now do this with my own kids. Mary: Driving around town looking at the Christmas lights singing Christmas carols with my little nephews.

Karry: In the 90s as a kid going to N Broadway and looking at all the houses’ Christmas lights. And the center strip had all the trees lit up. Santa walked the sidewalk with candy canes, and one of the houses had a small creek on the side with ice skaters on it. Fun memory!

Holly: My Mom quilted our stockings and left a little 2”x2” pocket hidden in the front. When my brothers and I were little, she’d place a little music player in the pocket each year. When I got older, that little pocket held the best tiny trinkets: rings, dainty necklaces, or handwritten notes. That little pocket always held the best Christmas surprises.

Mandy: When I was little, I was afraid of Santa Claus. (Honestly, I don't understand how more kids aren't afraid of a home intruder, even if he does leave gifts and only takes cookies.) Anyway, my brother was a couple years older than me, and usually he was a typical big brother, teasing me every chance he got, but on Christmas Eve, he would always sleep on cushions on my bedroom floor because he didn't want me to be scared. I would even make him listen to my Sweet Valley High cassette tape. It became an annual tradition that we carried on long after we both knew Santa wasn't real. It was like the sibling rivalry paused for the holidays, and if that's not a Christmas miracle, I don't know what is.

Kim: As a child in the late 80s and growing up in New Ulm, bundling in the snow suit and going to Joe’s Camper Sales for their free warm apple cider and picking out a tree from their lot. Every time I sip warm apple cider, it brings me back. Oh, and Herman the German hill for sledding—it is huge and VERY scary. Only the strong survived!

Jenny: I remember always waiting impatiently and being very excited to see what was under the tree. I especially remember getting new outfits for my favorite dolls several times. I was amazed that my mom managed to sew or crochet these unbeknownst to my sisters and me. I realize now that she put a lot of time and love into making them. Thanks mom!

'Tis the Season to Give Back

Many of us are worried about how to cope with this long Minnesota winter amidst a global pandemic.

The days of outdoor social gatherings and nighttime bonfires are—for the most part—behind us and, for many people, that means the days of in-person gatherings are behind us as well. So what can we do to get through?

One thing we can do is look outside of ourselves and focus our attention on a greater good. According to research, giving back through donating and volunteering has a positive impact on our mental and physical health. According to the Cleveland Clinic, the benefits of giving back include, “lower blood pressure, increased self-esteem, less incidence of depression, lower stress levels, and even longer life and greater happiness.”

Giving back can also be a way to combat isolation by finding a group of likeminded individuals working toward a meaningful cause.

If you’re interested in volunteering or donating, but don’t know where to start, try starting right where you are. Does your workplace participate in a giving program or volunteer initiative? Does your child’s school run a winter coat drive? Perhaps you’re a regular visitor at the community library or drive by your local animal shelter every day. Your community and neighborhood is one of the best places to get started.

KRISTEN WALTERS Development & Communications Manager CADA, Mankato

It is important to get involved in a cause that is truly important to you, otherwise it will be too easy to put your commitment on the back burner. At CADA, most people who volunteer or donate to our organization have a close personal tie with our mission. Maybe they have never experienced domestic or sexual violence themselves, but they grew up seeing it in their homes. Perhaps their best friend was in an abusive marriage for years. Or maybe they have a passion for women’s rights. It is rare that people end up as supporters by accident.

To find a place to become involved, try thinking about what has touched your life and what missions and organizations might align with your personal values. Whether you’re passionate about social justice issues, the arts, ensuring all children have access to resources, homeless animals, or politics, there is a cause and mission out there for you.

When thinking about how you want to give back, consider your strengths, interests, and the time you are willing to commit. Through working with volunteers at CADA, I know that not everyone is interested in working directly with the women and children staying in the shelter but are still extremely passionate about our mission. Some people prefer to help behind the scenes. We’ve had volunteers help us with building maintenance, sewing blankets for the people we serve, or helping with fundraisers. Some people don’t have the time to volunteer but can support a cause by donating money or goods. One of our donors once said to me, “I don’t know how to help people like advocates do, but I can help out this way.”

There are many different ways to volunteer and every agency has different needs. Some ideas for giving back through volunteering are:

• Creating a recurring day or committing to an annual event to volunteer at with your friends or co-workers.

• Getting the whole family involved and find opportunities you can participate in together.

• Making a commitment and scheduling it. This way you’re more likely to follow through.

• There are many contactless or remote volunteer opportunities. You could write letters to people in senior living facilities or do contactless grocery delivery for a food shelf.

Another way to advocate for a cause that is close to your heart is to donate. Donating—even a little bit—can give you the “helping high” of giving back. Some ways you can donate to causes that are important to you are:

• Participating in local fundraisers. You can run a half marathon or attend a wine tasting. There’s something out there for everyone.

• Switching up your gift giving routine. Instead of buying gifts with your group of girlfriends, put the money you’d normally spend on each other toward a cause you all care about.

• Hosting a social media fundraiser and getting your circle of friends involved in the cause you’re passionate about.

• Making it automatic. Many organizations offer a monthly giving opportunity. That way you’ll never forget and you can make a sustainable impact.

Giving back is an opportunity to turn your focus outward—which might ease your own stress and anxiety-based thoughts. Finding a cause you’re passionate about, or even incorporating random acts of kindness into your life, can make you feel more connected to your community, reduce loneliness and isolation—all while making a positive impact in the world around you.

Greta Johnson General Manager Lindsey Westphal Intake Coordinator

Registrations are accepted throughout the year. In-person Covid-19 compliant, or virtual class options.

For more information please visit us at www.mankatoballet.org

1650 Tullamore Street, Suite 200 Mankato, MN

Phone: 507.625.7716

Email: info@mankatoballet.org

NEW STUDIO

MBC Capital Campaign

We are all moved in and it has been tremendous for the dancers and staff to be able to use such an amazing space. To make a few projects come to an end we need to raise the final $31,000 to meet our Capital Campaign goal. We are almost there! Scan the QR code or go to our website, www.mankatoballet.org to make a taxdeductible donation before December 31st!

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In these uncertain times, be sure to check ahead to see if events are being held.

Now thru Fri, Jan 1

• Holiday Lights in Motion, Sportsman’s Park, Hwy 4 N, Sleepy Eye, 5-10 pm. Info: sleepyeyeholidaylights.org.

Thurs-Sat, Dec 3-5

• Winterfest, downtown Faribault. Info: visitfaribault.com/calendar/.

Thurs-Sun, Dec 3-6

• Hometown Holiday Weekend, downtown, Owatonna. Info: 507451-7970, oacct@owatonna.org or visitowatonna.org.

Fri, Dec 4

• Annual Christmas Tree Lighting, Mother’s Louise Park, Le Sueur, 6:30 pm. Info: chamber@ lesueurchamber.org.

Sat, Dec 5

• Belgrade Holiday Parade, entire length of Belgrade Ave, Lower North Mankato, 6:30 pm. Info: Facebook.

• Santa Day & Holiday Craft & Vendor Fair, Community Center, Gibbon, 9 am-1 pm. Info: Facebook.

• Craft & Gift Expo, Event Center, Hutchinson, 9 am-3 pm. Info: enchantedtrunk.com or Facebook.

• Farewell 2020 Dart Tournament, Eagles Club, St. James, 2-7 pm. Info: localendar.com/public/ stjameschamber.

• Craft & Quilt Sale, First Ev Lutheran Church, 925 E 13th St, Glencoe, 9 am-1 pm. Info: firstglencoe. org, 320-864-5522 or office@ firstglencoe.org.

Sat, Dec 5, 12 & 19

• Cannon Valley Farmers’ Market, Faribo West Mall, Faribault, 1-4 pm. Info: cannonvalleyfarmersmarket@ gmail.com or Facebook.

Sun, Dec 6

• 3rd Annual Craft and Vendor Show, Event Center, 110 12th Ave NE, Sleepy Eye, 10:30 am-2:30 pm. Info: Facebook.

• Holiday Stroll and Shop, specialty shops, Waseca, 3-7 pm. Info: wasecachamber.com.

• Drive-thru, Walk-thru Meet Me Under the Mistletoe—A Winter Wonderland, Oak Terrace, Gaylord, 5:30-8 pm. Info: 507-995-7683 or angieweber724@gmail.com.

Fri, Dec 11

• Christmas in the Country, Hahn’s Café & other locations, Winthrop, 2-8 pm. Info: Facebook, sandy. kley1995@gmail.com or 507-647-5353.

• Winter Carnival Parade, 1st St S to 1st Ave. S to 7th Street S, St. James, dusk. Info: localendar. com/public/stjameschamber or discoverstjamesmn.com.

Sat, Dec 12

• Holiday Farmers’ Market, The Depot Marketplace, 25 Adams St SE Hutchinson, 11 am-4 pm. Info: 320-234-5652.

• Main Street Christmas, Center for the Arts, 15 Franklin St SW & St. John’s Episcopal Church, corner of Hassan St and 2nd Ave, Hutchinson, 1-4 pm. Info: 320-234-5652.

• Drive-Thru Living Nativity, Oak Leaf Park, Glencoe, 5-7 pm. Info: Glencoe MN Living Nativity Facebook page, 612-840-6308 or eggersgluesscindy@gmail.com

Mon, Dec 13

• Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting, Redeemer Lutheran Church, 700 S Broadway, New Ulm, 7-8 pm. Info: 507-3592727 or rdjohns@hickorytech.net

Thurs, Dec 17

• Lifelong Learner Series—Backyard Birding, Ney Nature Center, 28238 Nature Center Ln, Henderson, 12 pm. Info & registration: 507-3578580 or info@neycenter.org

• A Grand Ole Opry Christmas, Paradise Center for the Arts, Faribault, 7:30 pm. Info: 507-332-7372 or info@ paradisecenterforthearts.

Sat, Dec 19

• Bean Bag Tournament, American Legion Hall, 715 3rd St, Nicollet,, 1 pm. Info: Nicollet Legion Facebook page.

• Farmers’ Market In the Greenhouse, Drummers Garden Center & Floral, 281 Saint Andrews Dr, Mankato, 10 am-12 pm. Info: manager@mankatofarmersmarket. com or Facebook.

Sat, Dec 26

• Biker Breakfast, Faribault HarleyDavidson, 2704 W Airport Dr, Faribault, 9-11 am. Info: visitfaribault.com/calendar/.

Sun, Dec 27

• S.A.L. Omelet Breakfast, Legion Friendship Hall, 715 3rd St, Nicollet, 8:30 am-12:30 pm. Info: Nicollet Legion Facebook page.

Mon-Thurs, Dec 28-31

• Winter Camp for K-8, Ney Nature Center, 28238 Nature Center Ln, Henderson, 12-4 pm. Info & registration: ney-nature-center. square.site, 507-357-8580 or info@neycenter.org

Tues, Dec 29

• Beer & Hymns on Facebook LIVE, 6:30-8 pm. Info: facebook. com/riverofhopehutchinson/, riverofhopehutchinson.org or 320-587-4414.

Thurs, Dec 31

• New Year’s Eve Celebration with Jazz10, State Street Theater Co, 1 N State St, New Ulm. Info: statestreetnewulm.org or statestreettheater@gmail.com.

Sat, Jan 2

• Bingo, American Legion Post #510, 715 3rd St, Nicollet, 4 pm. Info: Nicollet Legion Facebook page.

Fri-Sun, Jan 15-17

• WinterFest, Gibbon. Info: Facebook, 507-276-1252 or gibbonfunfest@yahoo.com.

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Direct 507-389-8275 Mobile 952-261-5699 1751 N Victory Dr. Suite 500, Mankato primesourcefunding.com

Nicole Bangasser

DecemberMust

HAVES

1. Your own Elf on the Shelf!

Doll up your tiny tots to make the season bright. From tip to toe, you’ll find a wonderland of comfort and joy for you and yours.

Neutral Groundz

229 Belgrade Ave North Mankato, MN 56003 507.720.0321

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2. Stressless Mayfair

Recliner & Ottoman

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Appearance-wise, Stressless Mayfair has that classic Stressless look you’ve come to recognize –elegant and laidback. Its cushioning is extra supple and comfortable, and contributes to making this one of our top sellers. This recliner comes in 28 colors of glove soft leather. Johnson Furniture and Mattress

126 E Cherry St. Mankato, MN 56001 507.345.3223

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3. Basin Gifts make Great Stocking Stuffers

Basin brings the relaxation of a spa to your home. With a refreshing line of sweetly scented bath bombs, scrubs and soaps that will help relieve your daily stresses. Scents range from Serenity or Electric lemonade and even Florida Sunshine, something to fit every mood. These products make the best stocking stuffers this holiday season.

Hy-Vee Hilltop

2010 Adams St. Mankato, MN 56001 507.625.9070

Hy-Vee Riverfront

4. Toys & Games from C&S Supply

When you are looking for quality toys look no further than C&S Supply in Mankato. We carry an extensive line of high quality toys from names like Melissa & Doug, Lego, Ertl, Radio Flyer, Schleich, and New-Ray. These are toys that will last and give your child many years of enjoyment

C&S Supply 1951 N. Riverfront Dr. Mankato, MN 56001 507.387.1171 or 800.879.1938

5. Soberdough Brew Bread

Need a quick easy side for dinner, or a Christmas gift for those hard to buy for? Try out our new Soberdough Brew Bread! Simply add a can of beer or sparkling water, mix and bake. It’s that easy. 6 flavors including: Cinnamon Swirl, Apple Fritter, Classic, Rosemary, Cheesy Garlic, Hatch Green Chile Cheddar. Only $10. Pairs great with our new Carmies Dip Mixes. Bella Nova Boutique

521 N. Riverfront Dr. Mankato, MN 56001 507.779.7444

6. Botox & Jeuveau

Quick 10-minute treatments that work beneath the surface and temporarily reduce the underlying muscle activity that causes moderate to severe frown lines, crow’s feet and forehead lines in adults. $80 off jeuveau treatment. Schedule your appointment today. Mankato Med and Skin Clinic

1603 N Riverfront Drive Mankato, MN 507.382.8356 mankatomed.com

7. Cozy Pajamas

This mix and match pajama set is the perfect bit of coziness for after all of your glamorous celebrations. The buttery peach skin material will keep you comfortable and warm without sacrificing festivity.

Top: $20 Bottom: $21. Her Happy Place

217 S. Minnesota Avenue St. Peter, MN 507.931.0008

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8. Carhartt Watch Hat

The Adult Carhartt Acrylic Watch Hat will be your most versatile winter accessory. Constructed from thick acrylic rib-knit yarn, this Carhartt beanie is super soft and incredibly warm on a cold winter day. Plus, the stretchy fabric ensures that this Carhartt hat stays put all day. Additional features include a fold-up cuff and a classic Carhartt logo patch. The Adult Carhartt Acrylic Watch Hat will soon be an everyday staple—you'll want one in every color.

Scheels

River Hills Mall

1850 Adams St. Mankato, MN 56001 507.386.7767 scheels.com

9. Diamond Earrings

Distress jean days to dressy nights out these diamond earrings are sure to impress. Available in many size and color options. Shop Julee’s Jewelry to find your perfect pair!

Julee's Jewelry

Downtown Mankato

507.388.8878

Downtown St. Peter 507.934.3344 jewelry.com

10. Holiday Gift Set

Holiday pajamas paired with a book and new furry fawn friend make the perfect gift set. Available at bumbelou.com or in stores. Bumbelou

Mankato

405 N Riverfront Dr. Mankato, MN 56001

507.594.9072 New Ulm

5 N Minnesota St. New Ulm, MN 56073 507.594.9072 bumbelou.com

11. Healthy, Vibrant Rejuvenated Skin Skin Essentials offers DERMALINFUSION®, an advanced skin-resurfacing treatment that simultaneously exfoliates, extracts and infuses skin with condition-specific serums for an all-inclusive treatment in one step to improve skin health, function and appearance with no downtime. Call Skin Essentials and schedule a free consultation to discover if DERMALINFUSION is right for you.

Skin Essentials, Mankato Clinic

1400 Madison Ave. Suite 400A

Madison East Center Mankato, MN 56001 507.625.6599 skinessentialsmankato.com

12. Liquid Spell

You have to experience Liquid Spell to understand how important it will become to your beauty regimen. This transformative liquid-to-foam silky elixir repairs mildly damaged and lackluster hair, providing instant softness and vitality as you blow dry. Get your bottle today! Only $45. Fréy Salon & Spa 429 S Minnesota Ave. St. Peter, MN 56082 507.934.7399 freysalon.com

13. Detox Today

A detox foot soak makes joint movement easier in the knees and elbows. It’s an alternative medicine option for people who suffer chronic lymphatic and bone pain. Detoxification also promotes weight loss, as it rids your body of crippling chemicals and raises your metabolism to higher levels.

Body Concepts LLC

1615 N. Riverfront Dr. Mankato, MN 56001 507.381.5467 bodyconceptsmankato.com

14. Renewal by Andersen Windows: Professionally Installed by Schmidt Siding & Window

You can be confident in Renewal by Andersen® custom replacement windows, which are backed by one of the strongest transferable warranties in the industry. Soon you’ll be saying, “I love our new windows.” Schmidt Siding & Window expert crews install them all year round. Renewal by Andersen® windows are custom-made to fit within the exact space of an existing window. They are an easy, hassle-free way to enhance your home’s comfort and appearance without the major disruptions that often come with remodeling projects. Schmidt Siding & Window 901 N 5th St. Mankato, MN 56001 507.625.6412 schmidtmankato.com

15. Our Traveling Showroom

Blinds & More travels to your home or office with custom samples. We offer window coverings and interior design services. Our team will travel within a 60-mile radius of Mankato. Schedule your free consultation today! Blinds & More Window Coverings & Decor 507.380.5019 blindsandmore.org

16. Adorable Gnomes

With their telescopic legs, these adorable gnomes go from 34" to 44" in an instant. A great addition for any holiday decor, this pair is totally delightful! Shop Nordaas today. Nordaas American Homes 10091 State Hwy 22 Minnesota Lake MN 56068 800-658-7076 nordaashomes.com

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When life gets difficult—and we know life has been difficult in 2020—we can still find joy in our everyday lives. And sometimes, joy actually finds us. So how do we boost the joy factor in our lives?

Joy is more than a feeling. It’s like a lingering presence of feelings such as great pleasure, delight, or happiness that is infused with a dose of peacefulness. You may notice joy during a family dinner, a call from a friend, going outside, warm socks, movie night, Facetime with a grandchild, a family dinner, seeing your son or daughter score a goal, cooking to your favorite playlist, dancing in the kitchen. These are just some of the everyday

experiences in which joy shows up in the moment.

Research shows that 50 percent of one’s happiness is genetic, 10 percent is affected by life circumstances, and 40 percent of our happiness is within our power to affect. While happiness can be more dependent on situations and circumstances outside our control, joy stands alone. Yet by seeing the joy in our lives, we may be able to nudge the dial on happiness.

More joyful people tend to embrace and live virtues such as gratitude, engagement, meaning and savoring.

Here’s how to boost your joy factor. Make a list. Ask yourself what you would want to be known for by the sunset of your life. For example, “She knew how to make everyday things fun.” Make a list and choose the top five or six qualities that are consistent with gratitude, engagement, meaning, and savoring. Then, let these top values guide you in your decisions.

Develop crow’s feet. Risk a genuine smile to encourage yourself and those around you. Studies show that smiling is contagious and feels good. When a person smiles, chemicals like dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin are released. These chemicals help lower stress, relax the body, lower heart rate and blood pressure, and act as a mood lifter. Cultivate resilience. Get up when you fall and be kind to yourself when you do. Respond to difficulties in ways that reflect the values and principles that guide your life. You may need to slow things down enough to choose responses that match your most cherished values.

Sleep well. Develop healthy sleep hygiene that includes exercise and a dose of sunlight in the morning.

Be assertive in ways that match your values. Practice the art of saying no to things that are not consistent with meaning or value in your life. And, commit to the activities and involvements that fit your passion, meaning, and purpose by saying yes.

Savor the moments. Tune into the here and now with your senses. Take pleasure in the smell of morning coffee, the silence of falling snow, a child’s laugh, a hug, a warm bowl of chili.

Refuse to let your inner critic run the show. Step back to center yourself in your values, passion, and purpose. When you do that, you will find more compassion for yourself.

Laugh often. Refuse to take yourself all that seriously.

Be vulnerable. In relationships of trust, risk vulnerability often. This is how to deepen your relationships and make them more meaningful and rewarding. It brings music to the dance.

GREG NELSON, MS, LP, Mankato Clinic Department of Psychology

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