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This month, as well as featuring a community-minded resident on the cover (you can also read about them in our 5 Mins With feature), we’ve got a packed issue full of inspiration, insight and ideas to keep you entertained; from our feature on brain training for superstar kids, to how Artificial Intelligence is already shaping our daily lives, we’re sure you’ll learn something new.

And, of course, don’t forget to check out our ‘What’s On’ guide to help you plan your social calendar for May. Whether it’s community events, live performances or family-friendly days out, there’s plenty to get involved in! Got an event coming up? You can upload it to our website for free! Help spread the word and get more people involved in the local community.

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Firefront Line............ 7 Celebrating 10 Years of Tapi............ 8 Noticeboard...........10 Remarkable Residents...........14 What's On...........16 History...........20 5 Mins With...........24 Mayor's Voice...........26 Lines From Linda...........26

This issue is dedicated to Tania Todd – a shining light with an unwavering community spirit. She gave so much and asked for so little, always bringing warmth and kindness to those around her. Taken far too soon, her presence will be deeply missed, but her legacy of generosity and compassion will live on in the hearts of all who knew her.

Apply To Be A Judge (The ABBBAs)...........30 Behind The Business...........31 Ask The Experts...........32 Advertisers' Index...........35

LIFESTYLE Book Bites...........14

WIN! Puzzles...........23 Did You Know...........28 Final Thought...........34

Get to know us: The one food I couldn’t live without…

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Poetry corner...

Picture perfect

I am a local photographer and take great pleasure in taking pictures. Here are a couple of my photographs to see my work, some of which has been published on the official Canon website.

Yasen Tsonev

A farewell So my time has come to leave you all A farewell service, and time to recall My life has been an adventure for me Of happy and sad times, as I am sure you agree

Many thanks for sending us these wonderful pictures taken in the borough Yasen – you’ve bagged yourself a £15 drinks voucher to spend at The Landing Hotel! If you’re a budding photographer, we’d love to see your local pictures. Send them to hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk

Handy hint

Our WiFi went down recently and we had to call out an engineer. He told us that our problem was that foxes had chewed through our wires. It turns out they like the taste of the coating. We replaced the wire and then sprayed them with wd40 to keep them at bay.

Thanks to local resident, Richard London, for sending in this handy hint!

Orpington after dusk

I was putting my bins out tonight and caught this amazing sunset over St Paul’s Cray!

Ann Cooper

But time has come for me to go I want no sadness, of this you must know I’m now free of pain, my suffering no more Death came knocking, and I opened the door You’ll be sad, this is true But we all have our time, and wait in the queue I thank you for your love, your kindness and caring For many good times, of which we enjoyed sharing My pain is no more, so take that as comfort To be free of aging, well, that’s quite triumphant I’ll not keep you long, so be on your way And remember me often, with good words to say Michelle Harvey 2023

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Joined PIB (People in Business) at their monthly business networking meetings (last Thursday of every month at 8am) See www.pibnetwork.co.uk for the deets!

Caught up with Roy from the Ravens Chat (sponsored by Bromley Rotary) at Broomfields, Bromley FC. Roy will be featured in an upcoming 5 Minutes With soon – watch this space!

We love receiving your thoughts, ideas, feedback, general comments and pictures!

You can email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk or text 07403–550068. Remember to include your name and email with the subject line ‘Write It, Say It, Message It’. In doing so, you agree to your comments and pictures being published.

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Behind the Badge

INSIGHTS FROM THE SUPER

We continue to see some really effective crime fighting happening in Bromley. On 1st April (not an April Fool’s joke!), we ran a Live Facial Recognition operation in Bromley Town Centre.

I was there with the officers on a positive day to engage with communities and explain how it works. In essence, it does not store or retain any personal data from anyone, but instead checks images against a database of people who are wanted or have certain orders against them, so that we can either arrest them or check that they are complying.

It was great to have lots of chats with people who were curious about the technology and found almost overwhelmingly that people were fully positive we were acting in this way to make the community safer. Those who had concerns we were generally able to address their worries about it and put their minds at rest.

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The day was successful; we had three arrests for offences including wanted on recall to prison, possession of stolen items, drug supply and stalking. This goes to show the effectiveness of this tool by apprehending offenders, often for harmful offences. We use this carefully in suitable areas, and make sure to stop and explain to anyone interested in what we are doing. Whilst there, one of our eagle-eyed sergeants also spotted two other individuals who were wanted on warrant but were stood out of the camera range.

For me this demonstrates a combination of the latest technology, alongside some good old-fashioned police work using local knowledge of the patch makes an excellent approach. We will continue to make use of the latest innovations to keep Bromley safe.

Next time you see us in the Town Centre running this operation feel free to come and ask us about it, we’ll be happy to discuss!

Superintendent Luke Baldock Bromley Borough Neighbourhood Policing

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Keeping Bromley Safe: Identifying and Supporting the Most Vulnerable

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Individuals in abusive relationships where fire is a threat Victims of arson linked to domestic violence

Many vulnerable people in our community remain unseen – living alone, facing mobility challenges or unaware of fire risks in their homes. As firefighters, we’re dedicated to keeping Bromley safe, but we can’t do it alone. We need your help to identify those most at risk.

Young renters & first-time tenants Moving out is exciting, but fire safety is crucial. We can help young renters check smoke alarms, plan escape routes and understand landlord responsibilities. We also want to hear from young renters or first-time renters within the borough of Bromley.

Who is most at risk?

How You Can Help

A fire spreads rapidly, leaving little time to react. While many of us instinctively know what to do, some may struggle.

Vulnerable individuals typically fall into these categories: Cognitive Impairment – Some may not recognise danger or respond effectively, including: • People with dementia or learning disabilities • Those with severe mental health conditions • Individuals affected by substance misuse Physical Impairment – Some may struggle to escape quickly, such as: • Elderly individuals with reduced mobility • People reliant on walking aids or wheelchairs • Those recovering from illness or surgery Domestic Abuse & Fire as a Weapon – Fire is sometimes used to threaten or control victims. Those at risk include:

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If you know someone at risk, refer them for a free Home Fire Safety Visit: 4 Identify fire hazards 4 Install/test smoke alarms 4 Provide safety advice and escape plans

To refer someone:

Visit www.london-fire.gov.uk/safety/ the-home/home-fire-safety/ Call 0208 536 5955 Speak to a firefighter Your vigilance could save a life – act today!

Ian Frame, Borough Commander London Borough of Bromley, London Fire Brigade

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Celebrating 10 Years

Celebrating a decade of transforming homes with stylish, high-quality flooring, Tapi Carpets & Floors marks its 10th birthday in style. We caught up with Brand & Communications Director, Johanna Constantinou, and Director of Buying, Charlie Harris, to reflect on the journey so far, the secrets behind Tapi’s success and what exciting plans lie ahead for the next 10 years…

Johanna Constantinou Brand & Communications Director

What inspired the founding members to start Tapi?

We were a group of flooring experts with decades of collective experience.

Having witnessed the challenges in the industry, we saw an opportunity to create something better. Our vision was to prioritise every customer and their home, placing their journey at the heart of everything we do, offering a seamless experience from choosing flooring to installation and aftercare. We wanted to transform shopping for flooring from a chore into a joy—bringing a fresh, customer-focused approach to Britain’s homes.

What changes have you seen in the last 10 years at Tapi?

Over the past decade, Tapi has transformed from a single store into a thriving network of over 200 locations, all the while staying true to our core values. Our commitment to exceptional customer service remains as strong as ever. A decade ago, we had just 100 Trustpilot reviews—today, that number has soared past 80,000, with customers consistently rating us as excellent. This success is driven by our passionate teams, whose specialist expertise ensures every customer interaction is seamless and personalized. Meanwhile, our digital transformation has made it easier than ever for customers to explore, visualize, and find their perfect flooring, bringing convenience and inspiration right to their fingertips.

How do you keep up with the latest trends?

We stay ahead of trends by constantly innovating in flooring.

We monitor industry forecasts and draw inspiration from emerging interior styles, colours, and lifestyles. Additionally, we actively engage with social media trends to ensure we offer customers the latest and most stylish flooring options.

For inspiration, we encourage everyone to follow us on Instagram!

What’s your proudest achievement?

Every achievement at Tapi is a team effort, but opening our first store in Tooting on May 15, 2015, was a defining moment. Now, celebrating our 10th anniversary, it’s rewarding to see how fresh and pioneering our brand remains. Another key milestone was launching our free sample and home consultation services, empowering customers to make confident flooring choices from home - reflecting our commitment of exceptional service and to making inspiring flooring reassuringly simple.

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What is your personal favourite flooring style?

That’s a tough question because flooring has such a transformative impact on any space! I love luxury vinyl tiles and planks for their durability and aesthetic appeal. And nothing excites me more than a beautifully contrasting stair runner—it adds such a stunning touch to a home.

Charlie Harris

Director of Buying Where do you see Tapi in the next 10 years?

I hope that Tapi will continue to grow and consolidate our position as the largest and most profitable flooring retailer in the UK and continue to deliver great value for money and market-leading service for our customer.

What’s the key to Tapi’s success?

Beautiful stores, the best products at the best prices and also world class customer service. We’re very lucky that our colleagues in stores have a wealth of experience and are able to offer the right advice for our customers.

As Tapi celebrates its 10th Birthday, what’s next and what should customers expect to see in the coming year?

I think our customers should expect evolution rather than revolution. We have some exciting projects on the go looking to extend our offering and ensure we’re the go-to destination for all things flooring.

Are there any key flooring collections or partnerships that stand out to you as gamechangers?

Recently we have been able to partner with Nike Grind to bring an underlay to market that is made from the manufacturing waste of Nike trainers. This has proven to be a massive success and our customers love the two products we have launched.

Why do you think it’s important for brands to incorporate more sustainable methods looking ahead?

It’s important to us because it’s important to our customers.

We’re seeing sustainability becoming a key input in people’s decision making and it’s important we have products available to meet this increased demand.

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Mother’s Day surprise

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Gary Valentine, founder of the charity The MumMum Foundation, had a wonderful idea of gifting mothers a care package complete with a bouquet of flowers ahead of Mother’s Day. The MumMum Foundation’s mission is to support families affected by cancer, aiming to bring smiles to those who need them most. The packages included gifts from Sarah Miller of The Healing Hut and Gary dropped them off to Jo Gallier-Wicks from The Primrose Centre to help with the distribution. The Primrose Centre offers access to holistic therapies, lymphatic drainage and support to women who have had a breast cancer diagnosis. Pictured is Gary dropping off the beautiful gifts with Jo. For more information see themummumfoundation.org and primrosecentre.org.uk

Sue Rivers Irving Berlin, Jerome Kern, Cole Porter…. the Great American Songbook! … and more

Friday 30th May 2025 7.30pm

Orpington Methodist Church

Tickets: £15, £7 under 16

email: davidhowkins@virginmedia.com or pay on the door.

The 76th Orpington Ma y Queen is Amber Baker and her Prince is Charley Miller.

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We asked, you answered!

Thank you to all our readers who responded to our reader survey! We’re delighted to share some of the feedback and results with you!

• 60% of you receive your magazine through your letterbox and 33% pick it up from one of our stockists. The remainder read it online.

• 81% of readers read this magazine cover to cover!

• 90% of readers feel that the community content is just right • The most popular feature is the What’s On (events) pages, closely followed by the community noticeboard! (we’re clearly very community minded) • Nearly 60% of readers have Googled an advertiser’s website after seeing them in the magazine • 50% of readers pass on the magazine to others to read – thank you!

• All of you (100%) feel that it’s important for residents to support and shop local – way to go!

• 70% of readers have visited an attraction venue restaurant or cinema as a result of the magazines coverage In answer to the question ‘What can we improve on?’ responses included: - More content for young people - Offers or discount vouchers at more local venues - High street updates - More photos of residents (fun for locals to see themselves in the local magazine) - More content about tackling crime in the area (statistics) - Local job opportunities or volunteering locally - And our favourite: come out weekly!

Bromley gets its name from the wild broom that covered the hills nearby in ancient times.

Join us to celebrate:

Broom Day! Saturday 3rd May 2025

Exhibition in The Glades

10am—4pm

Walk

at 11.00 a.m. from The Glades to see the spectactular broom in flower on Martin’s Hill

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Flying high

by JAMES BROOMFIELD

Win a family pass to Knockhatch Adventure Park!

We’ve teamed up with Knockhatch Adventure Park in Hailsham to give one lucky Orpington family of 4 the opportunity to win free admission!

The attraction offers exciting animal encounters, thrilling rides and indoor and outdoor play for all ages.

Meet meerkats, lemurs, and owls, explore adventure playgrounds and enjoy attractions like the Dino Drop and Lost World Playbarn.

For details see https://knockhatch.com/ All you have to do is email ‘WIN’ to hello@ lifeinmagazines.co.uk with your name and email address by 16th May. All entries will also receive Life In Magazines’ free digital magazine subscription.

In 2024, I set ambitious goals by pushing my limits with a wing walk, the Ben Nevis climb for the 3 Peaks Challenge, a four-day run and a London to Brighton cycle, ultimately raising over £6,000. This fundraising was dedicated to CASPA, a charity that provides vital support and a safe community for families and children with autism. CASPA's comprehensive services, from social clubs to legal and parental advice, combat social isolation and empower individuals.

My connection to CASPA deepened through multiple avenues, and I was particularly moved by their dedication. Having worked extensively with autistic children, their strong affinity for technology has always been evident, reinforcing my belief that these passions deserve encouragement and support.

Building on last year's momentum, my 2025 challenge is already underway! In April, I'll be tackling the London Marathon, followed by a four-day, 110-mile run along the Solent in May. I'm also planning another exhilarating wing walk, and in June, my dad and I will cycle from London to Whitstable, with more challenges to be announced soon. My ambitious goal is to raise £10,000 for CASPA! If you can help support James in reaching his target, please visit: https://tinyurl.com/jamescaspa

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community NOTICEBOARD Life In… Mags gets Bank of Dave’s approval!

We were delighted to attend Startup Bromley’s Bank of Dave event recently in Bromley, featuring the very wonderful Dave Fishwick, a consumer champion known for his mission to reform banking. Rising from humble beginnings as a minibus salesman, Fishwick gained national recognition for founding Burnley Savings and Loans, a community bank designed to offer fair lending to local people and small businesses. His efforts were documented in the hit TV series Bank of Dave and later inspired a Netflix film of the same name, followed by Bank of Dave 2: The Loan Ranger. We were delighted to see him reference Life In…Magazines at the event. He said: “People want to know what's going on locally and you should always remember where you came from. If you don't use these magazines there is a risk you will lose them. It's up to us as residents and local businesses to use them as much as we can because that's how we stay together as a community. With these sorts of magazines, long may they continue!"

Genuine, down to earth, naturally funny and committed to making a difference: every town needs more Dave Fishwicks! We hope you enjoyed the magazines Mr Fishwick – and thank you for your support!

Walk & Talk 999 Supporting Men that are serving, served or retired from the Blue Light, NHS and Military Services.

By providing Leisurely walks at various locations across the UK in a safe non-judgmental space supporting your mental and physical health.

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Walnuts development plans Developers have unveiled proposals to transform Orpington’s Walnuts Shopping Centre into a mixed-use development featuring residential units, retail spaces and community facilities.

The plan includes demolishing the existing shopping centre to construct several buildings ranging from three to 19 storeys, accommodating up to 990 new homes. Additionally, the development aims to provide new shops, leisure facilities and public spaces. The project has elicited mixed reactions from the community, with some residents expressing concerns about the scale and impact of the proposed changes.

For details see thewalnutsorpington.co.uk

Petts Wood Art: A 55-Year Journey Petts Wood Art Group is celebrating its 55th year. The group was formed in 1970 by a member of the Petts Wood and Lynwood Townswomen’s Guild known as ‘Johnny’. In 1981 its Constitution formalised its intent "to promote interest in art by encouraging and providing opportunities for the pursuit thereof". It was, and still is, run by volunteers and open to anyone over the age of 16. The group has a Facebook page "Petts Wood Art Group” and has reintroduced Figurative drawing sessions and trips to London Galleries, together with en plein air opportunities in the summer.

They meet on Thursdays (from 1.30pm) at the Memorial Hall in Petts Wood. For details email pettswoodartgroup@gmail.com

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Remarkable Residents

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Name: Maxim Pathirana Age: 15

How does it feel to be a published author?

What’s remarkable? Maxim Pathirana is a 15-year-

I cannot fully comprehend it.

It was a long and strenuous process and I am very proud to have reached this point and published this novel.

old secondary school student who used lockdown to his advantage to draft and publish his first book, ‘The One They Have To Fear.’

How did you become interested in writing?

My family have always encouraged my interest, especially my father being a journalist which explains my own passion for writing in both Russian and English. Seeing the success of authors reported in the media also inspired me.

What is your book about and how did you come up with the idea for it?

Florindil Menace was an orphan. She had nothing apart from magic. It was what defined her, what made her into a person. But it was also what made her so incredibly special, so incredibly valuable.

Who or what has been your inspiration?

The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien inspired me to include an aspect of adventure in my book as well as the Alex Rider series by Anthony Horowitz, which made me incorporate action into my book to make it more entertaining.

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Book Bites FICTION

Title:

All The Light We Cannot See Author: Anthony Doerr Publisher: Scribner Reviewed by: Holly Norris

The first chapter detailing MarieLaure’s blindness is a bittersweet read. You can’t help but feel sorrow for how she was robbed of sight so young, however the love and time her dad shows in trying to keep things as normal as possible is wonderful. The twine leading from the kitchen table to the bathroom, teaching her to read in braille and quizzing her on things at his work. You get a sense of the same sort of love when reading about Werner and his sister Jutta. She is his responsibility, and he’ll care for her no matter what. Moving through the book, you almost forget Marie-Laure is blind; she navigates the world perfectly. A beautifully written book, one I wouldn’t have initially read, but I’m pleased I did.

5 stars!

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What was your favourite part about writing your book?

Coming up with the ideas and action scenes. These ideas were very personal to me and refining each idea to improve the plot was very enjoyable.

What’s next for you?

I would like to continue writing and publish my second book, perhaps even make this a trilogy series.

How can people get hold of your book?

People can purchase my book at Waterstones, Foyles, Blackwell’s, Hive.co.uk, on Amazon, WHSmith and Pegasus Publishers website.

Literary delights read & reviewed by Bromley borough residents NON-FICTION

Title: Skin Care – The Ultimate NoNonsense Guide Author: Caroline Hirons Publisher: HarperCollins Reviewed by: Lauretta Wright

I bought this book a few years ago when I became a Tropic Ambassador and wanted to understand more about skincare so that I could better advise my customers. Although it’s a chunky book to get through, the layout, design and bite-sized chunks of information means that it’s easily digestible depending on what you want to know. I learned that the last thing to go on your skin should be SPF (yes – even in winter) and I’d go as far as to say the book feels like the bible of skincare, covering everything from what kit your need and how to deal with weather-worn or hungover skin, through to menopause and skincare myths.

It's a solid 5-star rating from me Read an interesting book? If you would like to submit a book review, please email your details, the book title and details to hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk

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Your essential guide for events, activities, clubs & groups

ACTIVITIES Broom Day!

Saturday 3rd May, Exhibition 10am-4pm; Walk at 11am

The Glades, 64 High Street, Bromley, BR1 1DN & Martin’s Hill nr the War Memorial, Bromley BR2 0XH Cost: Free Contact: Email chair@bromleycivicsociety.org.uk Bromley gets its name from the broom that flowers on Martin’s Hill. Join us in celebrating the flowering of the Broom with an Exhibition in The Glades and a Walk to the Broom on Martin’s Hill, dressed up in green and yellow and decorated with sprigs of broom! For details visit www.bromleycivicsociety.org.uk

Master Williams 7th Dan Taekwondo Club Every Tuesday 7pm-8pm.

Every Saturday 11am-12pm

Holy Trinity Church Hall, Church Lane, Bromley Common, BR2 8LB Cost: £10 per lesson PAYG Contact: 07952 503660 or email martialartwilliams@gmail.com Master (Tony) Williams has 42 years of experience teaching self-defence and fitness, and as a judge at National, European, World and Super League competitions. He has taught a range of nationalities at schools, universities, sports centres and private clubs and has numerous past student successes. He also offers 1-to-1 and black belt enhancement classes.

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Tuesday evening 6.55pm at Christ Church URC,

Petts Wood - Vinyasa Flow Class (1hr) Cost: PAYG £13 or 4 classes for £40.

Tuesday at 8.15pm at Christ Church URC, Petts Wood – Hatha Flow (45mins) Cost: PAYG £10 or £34 for a block of 4 classes Wednesday at 9.45am at Orpington Village Hall Hatha Yoga classes (1hr) Mixed ability and beginners welcome at both classes.

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Mel has partnered with the Primrose Centre (based in the grounds of PRUH) to offer Yoga For Breast Cancer patients. Tuesdays 2pm-3pm (free if receiving treatment) or small donation, Wednesdays 6pm-7pm and 7.15pm8.15pm. Wednesday evening classes are for those who have returned to work, where possible a donation of £10 per class.

business & NETWORKING Kickstart Your Business

Tuesday 6th May, 10am-3pm

Thursday 8th May, 10am-5pm Bromley Central Library, High Street, Bromley, BR1 1EX Cost: Free Contact: Email bipcldn@bl.uk Day 1 of this all-day workshop will help you understand the multiple areas of intellectual property and their relevance to your business, as well as provide you with practical tips on how to utilise the BIPC’s resources to protect, research and develop your business idea.

Day 2 will cover how to set up your business and avoid common start-up pitfalls. Topics will include marketing, sales and finance. For details see https://tinyurl.com/ kickstartbizday1 for 6th May and https://tinyurl.com/ kickstartbizday2 for 8th May.

Bromley Business Network

Wednesday 7th & 21st May, 7am-9am

On Teams or in person at Bromley Football Club (Hospitality Suite), Hayes Lane, BR2 9EF Cost: £12.50 on Teams or £23 in person Contact: 07957 819008 or email hello@ bromleybusinessnetwork.co.uk Fortnightly business networking events. Attendance includes unlimited refreshments and a full cooked breakfast buffet. Attendees can also attend via Teams if they can’t attend in person and the first meeting is discounted.

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community & CHARITY The Elderberry Café

Every Wednesday, 9.30am-12 noon

Church Hall, St Paul’s Church, Crofton Road, Orpington, BR6 8JE Cost: Free Contact: E: elderberrycafe@stpaulscrofton.org.uk The café serves hot drinks, home-made cakes and much more. The Elderberry Café – where friendship, food and faith meet. Everybody is welcome.

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VE DAY 80 Celebrations

Saturday 10th May 11am-4.30pm

All Saints Church, Bark Hart Road, BR6 OQD Cost: Free Contact: allsaintsorpington@gmail.com

In order to remember and to join the 80th anniversary of VE Day, All Saints Church has opened its archives with interesting material about the Church and Orpington during World War II. Come and find out more about War time life with first-hand memories from those who lived through the War as well as interesting facts about the local area. The Exhibition is free and light refreshments are available.

Community Café

1st and 3rd Wednesday of every month, 2.30pm-4.30pm

Chelsfield Village Hall, Chelsfield, Orpington, BR6 7RL Cost: Free Contact: chelsfieldvolunteers@gmail.com Chelsfield Volunteers offers tea, coffee, cake and conversation. All are welcome – old friends & new faces.

Bring a friend or a neighbour! If you need transport or if you can offer help with transport, please call Peter on 01689 831826.

The Orpington Hub, run by Rotary District E-Club Tuesday 13th May, 9:30am–12pm

Mytime Active Strength Workshop: 10:30am 11:00am Vital 5 Advice: (9:30am – 11am window) Tuesday 27th May, 10:00am–12pm SELCE - Energy Saving Information Session Orpington Methodist Church, Sevenoaks Way, Orpington, BR6 9JH Cost: Free

Contact: Email theorpingtonhub@gmail.com Where Coffee, Cake and Chat are brought to you for free. Community coming together and making friends – all are welcome.

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Polymyalgia Rheumatica & Giant Cell Arteritis Support Group 1st Wednesday of the month

St Paul's Church, Crofton Road, Orpington, BR6 8JE Cost: £5 Comtact: Email orpington@pmrgca.org.uk

We are the local support group for the Bromley area for all who are affected by PMR and/or GCA, two little known and poorly understood conditions. Being diagnosed can be devastating and life changing. Our speakers range from rheumatologists to pharmacists, ophthalmologists to Bromley Lions Clubs. Our meetings are an opportunity to share with others who understand.

Call 0300 999 5090 for more information or visit pmrgca.org.uk/author/Orpington

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Macular Society Bromley Support Group

1st Tuesday of every month (except January & August) 10am for tea/coffee & biscuits.

Meeting starts at 10:30am, finishing at 12pm

Bromley Town Church, 2 Ethelbert Road, Bromley, BR1 1JA Cost: Free Contact: No need to contact - just turn up We are a local support group for people suffering with Age related Macular Degeneration (AMD). Being diagnosed with AMD can be devastating, so we look to provide social interaction and mutual support to those affected. We have a variety of speakers and a mixed and diverse programme.

The Wednesday Club

Every Wednesday, 12.30pm onwards

Sovereign of The Seas, 109-111 Queensway, Petts Wood, BR5 1DG Cost: Free Contact: 020 8462 2569 (Joyce) This friendship club meets weekly and gives people the opportunity to enjoy a social get-together. There is the opportunity for people to purchase lunch and arrange outings at other times with each other.

MUSIC, entertainment & FOOD All Saints Orpington Coffee Recital featuring Josh Luxon-Robinson (Piano) Saturday 17th May, 12pm – 1pm

All Saints Church Orpington, 44 Bark Hart Road Orpington BR6 0QD Cost: Free Contact: Email allsaintsorpington@gmail.com A free Coffee Recital featuring Josh Luxon-Robsinson (Piano). Coffee and Tea will be served from 11am and the Recital starts at 12 noon. There is a retiring collection.

Josh Luxon-Robinson is in his fourth undergraduate year studying at the RWCMD under James Kirby, supported by a scholarship. During his time there he has participated in masterclasses for both chamber and solo performance with a number of world class musicians.

Green Street Green Community Choir & guest orchestra present "The Armed Man: a Mass for Peace" by Karl Jenkins Saturday 10th May, 7.30pm – 9.15pm

Bromley High School, Blackbrook Lane, Bromley, BR1 2TW Cost: Tickets £15 (adult), £10 (under 16s) Contact: Email gsgcommunitychoir@gmail.com Please join us for an exciting concert featuring Karl Jenkins’ “The Armed Man: A Mass for Peace”. Paul Showell conducts the Green Street Green Community Choir, under their musical director Amanda Butler, and guest orchestra. Tickets are available in advance via www.gsg-choir.com/performances or at the door on the day.

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American Contra Dancing

1st and 3rd Thursdays of every month, 2-4pm Liberal Club, 7 Station Road, Orpington BR6 0RZ (opp entrance to Tesco car park) Cost: £6 pay on the door Contact: Email janetmaile@rocketmail.com or call 01689 836407

Churchill Theatre, Bromley

American Contra dancing is a fun, low impact form of exercise. No partner or experience needed. All dances are walked through first, and the steps called throughout the dance. Join us for a fun afternoon. For details see https:// juiceofbarley.weebly.com

Cost: From £30 Joel returns to his stand-up roots with a brand-new show. With glamorous tales from behind the camera and less glamorous anecdotes of first-time fatherhood, Joel remains a charming, exhausted, happy idiot.

Into the Daylight – Jazz and Blues evening, Green Chain Quartet Thursday 1st May, 8pm-11pm

Daylight Inn, Station Square, Petts Wood, BR5 1LZ Cost: £5 admission (supporting Bromley Food Bank, Ukraine Appeal & MSF - Doctors without Borders).

Contact: 01689 877402.

Green Chain Quartet with special guests Afterours.

The Club is on the first Thursday of every month.

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Bromley Symphony Orchestra Concert 17th May, 19:30 – 21:30

Langley Park Centre for the Performing Arts, Langley Park School for Boys, South Eden Park Road, Beckenham BR3 3BP Cost: Tickets £12, £18 & £22 Contact: mark.g.cousins@gmail.com The sizzling power of Shostakovich’s Fifth follows Ravel’s piquant Alborada del gracioso and Brahms’ passionate Double Concerto performed by Lionel and Thelma Handy who last played it with us over thirty years ago!

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Joel Dommett – Happy Idiot Monday 12th May

Wolf Hall

Thursday 29th May

Cost: From £35 In this special concert, Debbie, the Ensemble and soprano Grace Davidson perform music from the bestselling score, alongside extracts from the ‘Wolf Hall’ trilogy read by BAFTA-nominated Anton Lesser – who plays Thomas More in the BBC series. ‘Wolf Hall’ and Tudor-period imagery set the scene for this special evening of drama, intrigue and storytelling.

The Croft

Tuesday 3rd - Saturday 7th June

Cost: From £20 The past won’t be silenced. Based on a true highland story. In the remote Scottish Highlands two women arrive at a former Crofters Hut in the deserted village of Coille Ghillie. When suddenly the weekend getaway takes an unexpected turn. Cut off from the modern world, Laura and Suzanne find themselves drawn into the dark history of the Croft and the lives that passed before them.

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Reviving ‘Broom Day’

by TONY BANFIELD, Chair of Bromley Civic Society

Tony Banfield

This long-lost springtime event, which used to attract “thousands of people”, celebrated the Town’s pride in its namesake shrub, Broom, flowering on Martin’s Hill late April to early June just a few minutes’ stroll from Market Square.

The Anglo Saxon ‘Bromleagh’ means a clearing where Broom grows. By 1850 most of the Broom had disappeared and beautiful Martin’s Hill was almost the last place in the Town where it could and still can be seen. Local historian, Muriel Searle in her book ‘Bromley Yesterdays’, tells us that early railway gazetteers drew passengers’ attention to the blaze of yellow on the hillside as they passed through the Shortlands Valley on the train in May. Up until the outbreak of war in 1939 the Town came out in force on Queen’s Mead and Martin’s Hill to celebrate Broom Day. “Wear Broom and Banish Gloom” was the tag line of the 1933 Broom Day Gala programme.

The newspaper report of the day says “once again thousands of people will be wearing sprigs of Broom and by purchasing this delightful little emblem of the town of which they are so proud they will be helping the local hospitals and a dozen other good causes. As in previous years the classic Queen’s Mead (below Martin’s Hill) will be the gay scene of a host of attractions”. The 1933 programme lists many community events not least a ladies’ football match between Invictas and Marks & Spencer - very relevant to today’s achievements in women’s football.

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For a number of years The Friends of Bromley Town Parks promoted interest in our namesake shrub during the flowering period through social media under the ‘Broom Time’ banner. Now we are also looking to revive ‘Broom Day’ itself.

In May 2024, Bromley Civic Society with The Friends of Bromley Town Parks, started the ball rolling with an exhibition in The Glades enthusiastically supported by the management. In 2025, on the 3rd of May, we are staging an extended exhibition combining Broom Time with our architectural and historical exhibition of the Town which The Glades are, once again, kindly hosting. The present Mayor of Bromley will lead a parade out from the exhibition through the Town onto Martin’s Hill. The aim, in time, is that the festival will grow, not only bringing visitors to the Town but also showcasing the rich and varied community activities on offer in this ancient, once proud, Market Town.

The origin of Broom Day is unclear. Many spring and summer festivals have pagan origins. These were revived in the late 19th / early 20th centuries, when there was a resurgence of interest in our disappearing folk traditions of music, dance and festivals. The Broom flowering through May coincides with many of our traditional spring festivals, celebrating rebirth and regeneration. Some, like Easter, are adapted from pagan festivals.

At Helston’s Flora Day, with its ancient Hal an Tow tableau, the townsfolk dance through the streets in costume.

In Padstow it’s the ‘Obby Oss’, at Coopers Hill it’s the perilous cheese rolling event and at Hastings it’s the Jack o’ the Green parade. May Queen events are still popular in many places. The scope to showcase community activities and talent is huge and, combined with spectacle, can once again attract “thousands of people” to Bromley.

It will take time to establish an annual event. The Friends of Bromley Town Parks and Bromley Civic Society are liaising with the Council, Your Bromley and other local groups.

We hope eventually to form a Broomtime/Broom Day committee. It is time to bring back the civic pride in our historic Town which Broom Day once symbolised.

On Saturday 3rd May come and see the Exhibition in The Glades (10am to 4pm) and join us on the Walk at 11am to see the Broom in glorious flower on Martin's Hill

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Cecilia Evans

by ELLIE MORGAN

Cecilia Evans is the Petts Wood May Queen for 2025. The May Fayre is a traditional celebration of spring consisting of a parade and festivities on the May Bank holiday each year. Cecilia will be crowned on 5th May after ten years of being part of the May Queen group and here she chats about what it means to her…

Hi Cecilia! Can you tell us more about the May Queen and why it’s celebrated?

We meet in Petts Wood every May bank holiday to celebrate the beginning of spring and the new life that it brings by crowning the May Queen and dancing around the May Pole. The tradition began in 1913 by Mr Deedy, who cycled around the villages of London asking local girls to come and represent their villages. He assigned each village, or realm, a flower and a colour; Petts Wood’s flower is a yellow primrose, and the colour is venal green. Around ten groups are still actively representing their communities in the May Queen today.

What is the primary role of the May Queen?

women and I have found that it helps to challenge people’s perceptions of what girls and boys can do.

What are you most looking forward to about being the Petts Wood May Queen?

The opportunity to speak to my community about the things that are important to me – the scouting movement and the celebration of women and girls. The group gives me a sense of connection between all the girls that came before me.

Although we all live different and complex lives, we are all connected by our fond memories of the May Queen.

What would you say to someone who thinks the May Queen is old-fashioned?

Despite beginning as a tradition celebrating the purity of young girls, May Queen is also a celebration of the coming of spring, of youth and of new beginnings. This year we plan to focus on the girls and their achievements, celebrating young people and their potential.

What can people expect on 5th May at the Petts Wood May Fayre?

To raise money for her chosen charity, teach girls May Pole dances and represent her realm at May Queen celebrations.

I personally hope to move the tradition on from a focus somewhat on purity, to a celebration of women and girls and their achievements.

The parade begins at 11:15am from Petts Wood Library, led by the phenomenal samba band, Bloco Fogo. The parade ends at the memorial gardens where many stalls are pitched up for attendees to enjoy, as well as numerous fun-fair rides.

The crowning begins at 12pm and is followed by our May pole dancing.

What charity are you supporting this year?

What are your favourite hobbies and pastimes?

I am raising money for 5th Petts Wood Scouts, including the Squirrels, Beavers, Cubs, Scouts and Explorers groups.

Scouting is a big part of my life and I have had unforgettable experiences and made lifelong friends. I want to encourage local children and teens to get involved. To any girls worried that scouting is a male space, many of our leaders are

As I am in year 12 studying the International Baccalaureate, most of my time now is taken up with studying which I really enjoy. In my free time I represent Qatar in my school’s model UN and I also run a revision Instagram account where I coordinate the sharing of revision resources in my year. I also play netball and participate in my school’s economic society where we debate topical economic issues.

Who has been your inspiration?

I have always felt it is important to live your life in service to others and my parents have inspired me to hold that philosophy. They have always encouraged empathy and open-mindedness.

What does community mean to you?

Community is everything to me; having grown up involved in scouting, the May Queen and a local dance school, I have always felt connected to my community. I think it is important to feel connected and Petts Wood has defied the odds of the modern world and remained a vibrant and connected town that I am proud to live in.

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I also had the privilege of attending the Bromley Primary Schools Concert’s opening night, organised by one of my charities, BYMT. The level of musical talent on display was nothing short of extraordinary.

Mayoral events continue to unfold at a remarkable pace, with over 50 events scheduled for this month alone. One highlight was hosting a meeting for Bromley District Scouts alongside local councillors, where we launched an appeal for 60 new volunteers in celebration of the borough’s 60th anniversary. It brought back memories of my time as a Queen’s Scout, although much has changed since then, including the introduction of the youngest age group, the Squirrels, alongside the Beavers, Cubs, and Scouts.

As Mayor, I’m honoured to serve as president and patron of seven local associations and societies. This month, I had the pleasure of chairing the AGMs of both the Bromley Town Twinning Association and the Bromley Local History Society, the latter coinciding with the historic occasion of Bromley’s 60th anniversary.

My mayoral themes of environment, health and wellbeing, and science and technology have been at the forefront of recent activities. We held service of reflection marking five years since the onset of the Covid pandemic, with visits to frontline workers to express our gratitude for their service.

On the environmental front, I’ve visited the desilting program at Kelsey Park, attended planting ceremonies for two new micro forests, and helped plant a tree for Bromley’s 60th anniversary as part of the Council’s Treemendous project.

Lastly, I had the pleasure of visiting three care homes, where I learned about the innovative practices they’re implementing and sharing across the sector. While there is always more to be done in this vital area, it’s heartening to see the progress we’re making in creating a supportive ecosystem for those living with dementia and their carers.

Volunteers in all sectors contribute significantly to improving our community, and it was an honour to present the Mayor’s Volunteer Awards this month, recognising the outstanding contributions of six incredible individuals. The stories behind their awards were truly inspiring.

Following the completion of my borough boundary walking challenge in support of three charities, we’ve also introduced a series of town centre walks to showcase our borough’s rich history. The first walk, covering Penge to Beckenham, is now available on our website.

Another memorable moment was attending the spring primary school cross-country run at Crystal Palace. This year’s event saw a record 63 primary schools participate.

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peeped through the branches and burnt his legs).

In the play he has to turn to see me and say the line, ‘You look lovely,’ and I am supposed to turn around at that point to face him and say, ‘So do you.’ However, as I walked backwards down the stairs I was aware there was a lot of laughter coming from the audience as he revealed his legs. So, consequently, when I turned around as he said his line, ’You look lovely,’ and I was about to answer, ‘So do you,’ I saw for the first time his striped red and white legs. I knew the audience were finding May is the this highly amusing, so instead of saying, ‘So messenger that do you,’ I turned to the audience with a lift of tells us summer my eyebrows and a giggle in my voice, and I is just around said, ‘Well actually, you look like a tube of Signal the corner toothpaste.’

There is something about May that brings a smile to all our faces. There are blossoms covering trees and bushes in their glorious colours of pink, white and lilacs. The nights are now longer and sometimes even the sun is out to brighten our May days. And, along with two lovely, lazy bank holidays, May is the messenger that tells us summer is just around the corner.

May is the month I met my hubby. We were in a play together, Wife Begins at Forty. Funnily enough, we were cast as husband and wife.

That was where we met.

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It was a comedy play. The wife is young and the husband a little older and more of a stop at home. She is bored and is talking of breaking up their marriage, but in the end scene they fall back in love.

For that end scene I had to walk backwards down some stairs, dressed in a pretty negligee while he has his back to me bending down to turn on some romantic music. He is in his shorts and a tee-shirt, showing his legs.

However, unbeknown to me, he had been sunbathing that day, under a tree. Consequently, as, like me, he doesn’t tan, just goes red, the under-tree sunning had coloured his legs in red and white stripes. (White where the tree had shaded the sun from him, and red where the sun had

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He looked down at his legs and then the audience, then answered, ‘Yes, but Signal toothpaste gives you a bright smile.’

Which it did. I laughed and the audience did too. And to this day hubby has always made me laugh and smile.

This column is in loving memory of him.

RIP Brian Murphy.

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Local Hero...

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(Because not all heroes wear capes)

Margaret Baldwin Margaret, 79, has lived at Summerlands Lodge in Locksbottom for the last four and a half years. She was nominated by the residents of Summerlands Lodge who said: “Margaret continuously tries to help all the residents in the Lodge, besides going out of her way to raise money endlessly for different local charities.

She deserves to be celebrated.” When Margaret isn’t busy raising money for local charities, she enjoys puzzles and reading. We caught up with her to find out more…

Hello Margaret! How did you feel when the residents of Summerlands Lodge nominated you as a Local Hero?

Many people would like to do more for their local community but don’t know where to start. What advice would you give them?

I was surprised but grateful. I am just a small part of a large effort. If it weren’t for them also helping me like supplying raffle prizes, making tickets and cakes for free, I wouldn’t be able to do what I do.

It depends on what they are interested in. There are plenty of centres for the elderly in the borough for people to volunteer at. There were also opportunities to help children.

Well, this is sometimes more difficult, it is so rewarding to be there to help them. If you can get into any kind of centre, they are the best places to go.

What motivates you to spend your time giving to others in the community?

It stems from my own experience. My first home I worked in was in 1979, and when it was about to close, I suggested a get together with a farewell party. We raised enough money for both a disco and to send two people to Paris. At the next one, the money raised there bought painting easels for them. The one after that, we raised money for our units. Then I just suggested that we hosted a Valentine’s Day celebration. I used fancy dress for that for the first time and it attracted even more interest, so we chose a charity, and it all went from there! I loved it.

How do you decide which charities to raise money for?

We decide between ourselves. We’ve raised money for The Primrose Centre, Chartwell Charities and, most recently, for St Christophers Hospice. Typical amounts raised in the past have varied, but a few times we’ve raised in excess of £500. The money goes a long way for these charities. Even though this might not seem like a lot, the charities are so grateful, and that’s why it’s so meaningful to us.

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Margaret with local residents receiving her bouquet from Sue Ball at Time For Flowers

So, people looking to help should think what they are passionate about and choose causes close to their heart?

Yes. As an example, St. Christophers only receive a small donation from the NHS. The rest is reliant on donations.

It is an eye-opener volunteering there and the beautiful garden was all done by volunteers. My daughter and I have our ones we like to focus on such as children’s hospitals or schools. Its just knowing what you are invested in.

What do you enjoy most about living at Summerlands Lodge?

How naturally friendships have formed. People genuinely wanted to connect, share stories and welcome new faces.

Over time, those casual coffee meetups have turned into lasting friendships, and that’s what makes Summerlands Lodge so special. We have two separate buildings here, but when we have any events such as our quiz evenings, bingo, cheese and wine evenings etc., people from both buildings get together and everyone enjoys themselves.

The people here are incredibly kind, always willing to help and truly generous with their time. There’s a A special ‘Thank real sense of community, You’ to Time For where everyone looks Flowers for sponsoring out for one another. I feel the bouquets and incredibly lucky to be part plants for our of such a warm and caring Local Heroes. environment!

Nominate a local hero – it could be a friend, neighbour, local business or a member of your family! Email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk

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Did You Know?

by THOMAS TEELUCK

THINK AI IS THE FUTURE? IT’S ALREADY HERE! Today Artificial Intelligence (AI) is now more widespread and prevalent as ever, to the point where it is integral to our daily habits - without us even noticing!

• What do you want to watch tonight? Many entertainment apps such as Netflix, Spotify and YouTube use AI to see trends in what you enjoy listening to or watching and suggests others that it thinks you might also like.

• Hey Siri! AI assistants and voice-controlled search engines (like Google’s new Gemini) are made to recognise your voice, get you information and even play music or turn on your lights.

• No more spam: Gmail and other email services have AI that run over emails to check if they might be spam or strange emails, so you only see the important stuff.

• Are we there yet? Navigation tools like Google Maps and Waze help you get where you need to be by using AI to predict which route is quickest, how much traffic

How to… make a silent 999 call

there is and if there have been any accidents so you can avoid them.

• Shopping spree! Online platforms like Amazon use AI to look at your shopping habits and what you search for to suggest other items you might like.

• Your money is safe: Most banks use AI in order to flag suspicious activity on your account – if it finds strange transactions, it can alert it and help prevent fraud.

• Remember this? Lost a photo in your endless gallery?

Most phones have AI attached to your gallery, allowing it to identify people, compile albums for a topic and tag your friends!

Source: https://www.visme.co

Did you know? Oxford Children's Word of the Year was Kindness, with 61% of the children aged 6-14 choosing the word, with Artificial Intelligence as the runner up!

Words we find hardest to spell

If you're in danger, call 999 and try to speak to the operator if you can, even by whispering. You may also be asked to cough or tap the keys on your phone to answer questions.

A study performed by SEO platform Ahrefs analysed Google searches over a year long period for the top 100 most searched words to discover what words Brits struggle to spell the most. Here are the results!

Calling 999 from a mobile

Rank

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1.

Diarrhoea

4,816

2.

Beautiful

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3.

Colour

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Favourite

2,991

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Gorgeous

2,156

6.

Decision

2,100 2,025

If you don't speak or answer questions, press 55 or tap when prompted and your call will be transferred to the police. The police will usually be able to find your location. If you don't press 55 or respond, your call could be ended.

Calling 999 from a landline

If you don't speak or answer questions and the operator can only hear background noise, they'll transfer your call to the police. If you replace the handset, the landline may remain connected for 45 seconds in case you pick it up again. Calling 999 from a landline automatically gives the police information about your location.

Source: Met Police

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Average monthly spelling searches

7.

Lose

8.

Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

1,970

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Receipt

1,958

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Business

1,955

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Preparations are underway for this year’s Above and Beyond Bromley Business Awards (The ABBBAs) and we’re seeking this year’s Resident Judge – and it could be you! If you are 18-years and above, live in the Bromley borough and don’t own your own business, you can apply to be the fifth and final judge for this year’s event which takes place on Thursday 13th November at Oakley House, Bromley Common.

Fill in your details below and either email to hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk or post to: Life In...Magazines, Devonshire House, 29-31 Elmfield Road, Bromley, BR1 1LT by Friday 9th May. If you would prefer the form emailed to you, please email us at hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk Your full name:

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Behind The Business

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Michelle Harvey, Life Celebrant Supporting local businesses means getting to know the passionate people behind them.

This month, we step Behind the Business with Michelle Harvey, a dedicated life celebrant who helps families honour their loved ones with heartfelt and meaningful ceremonies. From writing eulogies to founding a bereavement café, Michelle’s journey has been shaped by empathy, compassion and a deep commitment to supporting those navigating grief…

Michelle, could you share a little bit about your background and career journey?

My journey as a life celebrant probably started back in 2002. My dad, who had retired, took up work in the funeral profession as a pallbearer and driver. One day, he was chatting with a funeral director who mentioned they needed someone to write eulogies. Without hesitation, my dad said, "Michelle can do that!" At the time, I was a stay-at-home mum with two young children, so I took on some work writing eulogies. I had always loved writing poetry, so this reignited my passion for words. The idea of being a celebrant was still relatively new then, and I knew it was something I would need to fully commit to – but with two little ones at home, it wasn’t the right time. Fast forward a few years, and my husband lost a dear friend.

I helped the family put the service together and it just felt natural. That night, I couldn’t shake the feeling that this was what I was meant to do. The next morning, I called my dad, who was immediately on board. He put me in touch with Gary Valentine at GM Valentine, and the rest, as they say, is history. A couple of years later, I completed the NOCN Level 3 Diploma in Funeral Celebrancy through Civil Ceremonies Ltd and I haven’t looked back since.

How and why did the Bereavement Café start?

I quickly realised I couldn’t just do a service, walk away and forget about the family. I wanted to do more. So the idea of the Bereavement Café started. It all began with a gentleman named Jeff, who had lost his wife, Jenny. When I visited him

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after the funeral, he shared how they used to cook together with jazz music playing, but now he didn’t feel like eating alone. It struck me – where could people like Jeff go for support? And so, in 2017, the Bereavement Café was born.

It’s been running ever since, providing a space for people to share, connect and heal. It is held at Orpington Village Hall on the last Thursday of the month from 11.45am1.30pm.

So what exactly does a life celebrant do?

We officiate funeral services that are neither strictly religious nor strictly humanist – we sit in that middle ground, respecting all beliefs and cultures. When a funeral director informs us that a family needs a celebrant, we arrange to meet them, usually in their home where they feel most comfortable. We take time to learn about the person who has passed, from their passions to their quirks.

I always pay attention to little details – a trophy cabinet filled with golf awards, for instance, could be a great conversation starter. From these discussions, we craft a personalised and meaningful service. We also liaise with funeral directors regarding music, the order of service and those personal touches that make each ceremony unique and memorable.

What’s the best thing about your job?

Helping people, without a doubt. Walking into a home filled with grief and being able to offer comfort is an honour.

When families tell me how much the service meant to them, it reinforces why I do what I do.

How has being a celebrant shaped your personal growth?

It has taught me patience and the art of truly listening. I’ve learned to trust my instincts and, most importantly, never to judge. Everyone has their own battles, and this role has deepened my empathy and understanding of people.

What advice would you give to someone supporting a bereaved friend?

Don’t worry about finding the right words – just be there.

Simply saying, "I don’t know what to say, but I’m here for you," is often enough. Avoid comparing losses or saying, "I know how you feel." Instead, acknowledge their pain and offer your presence.

Final thoughts?

Grief is a journey we all face. If we navigate it the right way, it can be bearable. I feel privileged to walk alongside families during their most difficult moments, offering a little comfort when they need it most.

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Ask The Experts

Q: What can I do to improve my chances with a planning application?

You asked – and they answered! Send your need-to-know questions to our local experts by emailing hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk with the subject line ‘Ask The Experts’

Understand Local Policies: Familiarise yourself with local planning policies and regulations. Ensure your proposal aligns with the local development plan.

by TORI HOWE

Q: What are some good painting and decorating tips?

A: I’d say always consider the following when starting any new project: Planning and Preparation • First of all, don’t do it when you’re tired, secondly clear the room • Choose the Right Colours (all paint comes up darker). Consider the mood you want to create. Lighter colours can make a space feel larger, while darker shades can add coziness.

• Test Samples: Paint swatches on your walls to see how they look at different times of day.

• Measure Your Space: Know your room's dimensions to avoid buying too much or too little paint.

Tools and Techniques • Invest in Quality Tools: Good brushes, rollers, and painter's tape make a big difference in the final result.

• Use Primer: Priming can help with coverage, especially if you're making a drastic colour change or painting over a dark colour.

• Buy good quality paint.

• Cut In First: Use a brush to paint the edges and corners before using a roller on larger areas.

Application Tips • Work in Sections: Paint one section at a time to maintain a wet edge, which helps avoid lap marks.

• Keep a Wet Edge: When rolling, always overlap slightly with the wet paint to ensure even coverage.

• Apply Multiple Coats: Two or more coats often provide a richer colour and better coverage.

Finishing Touches • Use High-Quality Finishes: Satin or semi-gloss finishes are great for durability in high-traffic areas.

• Remove Tape Carefully: Take off painter's tape while the paint is still slightly wet for cleaner lines.

• Consider Accessories: Use decorative elements like curtains, rugs, and artwork to complement your paint colour.

Maintenance and Care • Touch Up: Keep leftover paint for quick touch-ups as needed to maintain your walls.

• Clean Regularly: Use a damp cloth to wipe down walls to keep them looking fresh.

These tips should help you create a beautifully painted and decorated space! If all else fails, get a professional in to help!

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A: Improving your chances of a successful planning application involves several key steps:

Engage Early: Contact your local planning authority for advice before submitting your application. Early discussions can highlight potential issues.

Conduct a Site Assessment: Assess the site for environmental impact, access, and community concerns. Address any potential issues in your application.

Consult with Neighbours: Inform and discuss your plans with neighbours and the community. Gaining their support can strengthen your application.

Professional Help: Consider hiring a planning consultant or architect. They can help navigate the process and prepare a strong application.

Detailed Plans: Submit clear, detailed plans and supporting documents.

Include drawings, site plans, and impact assessments.

Justify Your Proposal: Clearly articulate the benefits of your proposal and how it meets community needs, environmental standards, and local policies.

Mitigate Concerns: Address potential objections in your application. If there are known issues (e.g., traffic, noise), propose solutions.

Be Prepared for Changes: Be open to modifying your plans based on feedback from the planning authority or community.

Follow Up: After submission, keep in touch with the planning officer to address any questions or additional information they may need.

Taking these steps can significantly enhance the likelihood of your planning application being approved.

Adam Wilkinson, Planning Property Services www.planningpropertyservices.co.uk

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A Final Thought…

Brain training for super stars

by Dr NICOLA BAILEY

Schools are back and most of our children are working hard – but is that enough for them to achieve their full potential? Usually not. School achievement is governed by many factors, thinking skills being the most crucial.

Thinking skills From around the age of four, children can access thinking skills that boost self-confidence. These are rooted in critical thinking (based on reasoning accumulated through every-day life) rather than logical thinking, which needs formal reasoning coupled with maturity. Parents can promote critical thinking by:

- Being specific with praise. Praising effort and process is much more effective than saying how clever a child is. Let me explain. Specific praise, for example, ‘wow, you’re so good at football, your passing skills are really slick now, you’ve really developed some great footwork!’ is more meaningful than ‘wow, you’re a great footballer’, and the comment is more likely to be absorbed.

- Giving space for thinking. Tempting as it is, try not to jump in with solutions or suggestions. Even if your child arrives at a solution, you know will not work, let them try it out. Important learning takes place through experimentation and, understanding why something doesn’t work is as significant as a positive outcome.

- Encouraging an open mind. Children spend most of their day absorbing fact from others and the media around them. It’s useful to help them spot judgements, opinions, and bias by asking them ‘why’ questions, followed by ‘what do you think’ wider conversation.

- As a parent we can give no greater compliment or message to our children than we have full faith that they are always enough, in every situation. Yet, if we rush in as a ‘fixer’, not only are we indicating a lack of faith in them, but we also miss the chance to understand how our children think. It’s not always a comfortable space but watching our children metaphorically fall over, all-be-it safely, allows both parent and child the opportunity to learn. We don’t all process in the same way and watching children problem-solve offers insight into their approach which in turn allows us to tailor our encouragements and interventions to their future needs.

- Embracing a growth mindset. A positive mindset affects our own expectations of our ability and subsequent attainment. Reminding children how far they have come and where they have used problemsolving strategies is helpful to them to understand their progress and their pathway to it.

- Having the right or smart answers are held by many as the golden goals yet this approach squeezes out the legitimacy of the journey to our goals. Indeed, if the learning pathway was seen as a higher prize than the destination, then our children could enjoy and be proud to own their trials as well as their successes.

- Involving children in family discussions. An invitation alone makes children feel their thoughts are valued which boosts their confidence. Open discussion increases listening, analytical skills and subject knowledge.

- Spending time talking with children, hearing their thoughts, getting them to think creatively, strategically and freely, opens their mind to the possibility of big ideas and becoming a super star and if in the process we listen carefully enough, we might just learn something.

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