Avery Merry December from us at Life In Orpington magazine! ��
As we reach the most magical month of the year, we wanted to take a moment to say a huge thank you to you – our loyal readers, advertisers and community supporters. Without you, our magazines simply wouldn’t be what they are today. Every story shared, event attended and business supported helps keep our local towns buzzing with community spirit.
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In response to the story on the October Noticeboard, ‘A road safety overhaul’, I thought I’d share my thoughts. This country is way behind others in testing drivers. The EU brought all 28 countries into line with the style of driving licences and some unity was introduced then. In Spain, every ten years, anyone under 70 must renew their driving licence. To get a renewal, you must undergo a medical at any one of the specialised units. This will include not only an eye test, but a hearing test and a general fitness test. Further, you will have to pass a co-ordination test on a computer to demonstrate your ability and reaction time. If you are over 70, then you will have to retest every four years. In this country, if you are over 70, then every three years you can self-certify. The Spanish system is way in front of this country to ensure you are fit to drive on the road.
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Fantastic Mr Fox
I just wanted to share this picture I managed to capture of a fox in Orpington! I know there have been many pet pictures in the past so I thought, how about pictures of local wildlife!
Chloe Southon
Thanks Chloe – what a lovely picture!
Poetry corner
Normal People
They met one night, on a full moon at the end of the summer. The sky shone bright, they sat on the shore, they laughed and kissed and a seagull came and sit: He watched them through the night. It was her birthday but he didn’t know. They drank whiskey and danced and everybody saw: For an instant of bliss, they were free. They held hands and talked while people stood still like a backdrop on their stage. Then, entangled in passion and whispers they let the moon slip away while morning broke in and warned them about the end. So, they said goodbye and walked away.
Sometime, when the day is dark, they still think of that night, they remember and smile. For a short moment, they believed they were special, different, yet they were normal people.
Claudia Colella
5 Mins With community
The Mayor of Bromley
Born and raised in the borough, Cllr Jonathan Andrews has deep roots in the community. Growing up in Orpington, since 2022 he has represented Darwin Ward, which covers some of the borough’s most rural areas including Downe, Cudham, Pratts Bottom and Leaves Green. Jonathan served as Deputy Mayor last year, championing Bromley’s local charities and voluntary work – a journey that has now led to the Mayoral chains. We sat down with this year’s Mayor to find out more…
Cllr Andrews, we understand that the Mayor’s role is very varied, but is there such a thing as a typical day?
Not at all! It depends on the events on the day and the time of year. The Mayor chairs council meetings about six times a year, but the majority of the role is attending events with communities, schools, charities and local businesses. Sometimes we’ll have up to five events in a single day. It isn’t a nine-to-five role and weekends are often the busiest.
Never a dull moment then! How many events do you attend in a year, roughly?
Definitely several hundred! August is “quieter”, but even then there are events almost every day. It’s really important for the Mayor to be visible and supportive – as Queen Elizabeth II once said, “I have to be seen to be believed.”
Do you have a favourite local event or tradition you look forward to?
The fun ones like the Downe Duck Race, which raises money for Christmas lights, are great, but I’d also highlight the more solemn ceremonial events like Remembrance Sunday and Armed Forces Day - extremely important occasions that I’m honoured to lead.
Where do you go to relax - do you have a favourite spot locally?
I enjoy long walks across Bromley’s many green spaces – such as my ward’s 12 square miles of rural countryside. Across the borough we’re lucky to have parks like Crystal Palace and Priory Gardens. Spending time in nature is great for mental health, especially after lockdown.
Can you tell us about your chosen charities and why you selected them?
My chosen charities are CASPA, which supports autistic people, and The Maypole Project, which supports children with serious medical needs and their families. I chose CASPA because I was diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum at nine. My family and teachers were supportive, and it never held me back. The Maypole Project provides crucial counselling and emotional support for families in difficult situations. Both are charities very close to my heart.
What’s one thing about being Mayor that people might not realise?
People often confuse civic Mayors with directly elected Mayors, like the Mayor of London. Bromley’s Mayor doesn’t run the council – that’s the Leader’s role. The Mayor is the civic head, chairing council meetings, supporting community groups and representing the borough at events - it’s very varied and you have to be adaptable.
What are you most proud of in Bromley right now?
There’s a lot to be proud of – our green spaces, thriving local businesses and huge voluntary sector. There are also many positive regeneration projects ongoing, and we’ve refurbished and reopened several libraries recently, with more to come!
What does community mean to you personally?
It’s about recognising that we’re part of something greater than ourselves – looking out for each other, supporting local businesses and being proud of where we live. Bromley is full of different communities, but we come together as one borough with a shared civic pride and values.
What legacy would you like to leave from your time as Mayor?
Raising awareness around autism and disability, showing what it’s possible to achieve. I’d like to raise funds and visibility for my chosen charities, and more broadly, to shine a light on the voluntary and community work across Bromley. If I can do that, I’ll be happy.
How will you be spending Christmas?
No doubt attending a number of Christmas lights, carol services and other events in the lead-up! But as for Christmas itself, spending time with my family!
For details and to contribute to The Mayor’s chosen charities visit bit.ly/mayorcharitycaspa and bit.ly/mayorcharitymaypole
ACTIVITIES
Free Mindful Walk in Priory Gardens
Sunday 14th December, 11am – 12:30pm
Priory Gardens, Church Hill, Orpington, BR6
Cost: Free
Take a moment for yourself on this slow, guided mindful walk around Priory Gardens, inspired by the Japanese practice of “forest bathing.” Open to anyone aged 16–90, the walk uses your senses to help reduce stress, anxiety, and over-stimulation. Suitable for low mobility, this gentle walk is a perfect way to connect with nature, enjoy the autumn colours, and join a supportive local community initiative that has already helped over 1,600 people.
For details see https://bit.ly/parkbatheorp
Flin's Fitness: Group | On Demand | Online
See website for class dates & times
Cost: from £6 PAYG, or memberships available
Contact: Fran 07976 412027
All genres of fitness class, for every type of lifestyle: group classes, streamed online, and an exceptional On Demand platform. Cross Training, Pilates, Yoga, Body Conditioning, Zumba and more.
Mornings and evenings locally, at Westcombe Park RFC or Tubbenden & Crofton schools.
FREE monthly "Dance Because Nobody's Watching" event, aiming to bring people together for mental health & well being, and FUN. All are welcome. See www.flinsfitness.co.uk
Mel Crisp Yoga
Tuesday evening 6.55pm at Christ Church URC, Petts Wood - Vinyasa Flow Class (1hr)
Cost: PAYG £13 or 4 classes for £40.
Tuesday at 8.15pm at Christ Church URC, Petts Wood – Hatha Flow (45mins)
Cost: PAYG £10 or £34 for a block of 4 classes
Wednesday at 9.45am at Orpington Village HallHatha Yoga classes (1hr)
Mixed ability and beginners welcome at both classes. Cost: PAYG £13, Block Payment Classes £40 for 4 consecutive classes. First PAYG class is free.
Contact: Mel on 07504 855 424. Email melcrisp41@icloud.com www.melcrispyoga.com
First class is FREE when mentioning Life In Orpington magazine.
Mel has partnered with the Primrose Centre (based in the grounds of PRUH) to offer Yoga For Breast Cancer patients. Tuesdays 2pm-3pm (free if receiving treatment) or small donation, Wednesdays 6pm-7pm and 7.15pm8.15pm. Wednesday evening classes are for those who have returned to work, where possible a donation of £10 per class.
Improve Your Fitness Dancing for Seniors
1st and 3rd Thursdays every month, 2pm-4pm
Liberal Hall, 7 Station Road, Orpington, BR6 0RZ (opp Tesco)
Improve your mobility, balance and muscle tone while enjoying the company of other seniors. Easy dances, steady pace. If you can walk, you can dance! Friendly, sociable class. No partner needed. For more information see www.juiceofbarley.weebly.com
business & NETWORKING
Registering your Business with HMRC
Tuesday 16th December, 10am-12pm
Bromley Central Library, High Street, Bromley
Cost: Free
Contact: Email StartupBromley@GLL.ORG
HMRC will show the key steps to take when registering as a Sole Trader for self-employment or when registering your small business. Start Up Bromley (BIPC Bromley) is pleased to collaborate with His Majesty’s Revenue and Customs (HMRC) to bring you a workshop which will demonstrate the key steps to take when registering as a Sole Trader for self-employment or when registering your small business.
See https://bit.ly/startupbromleyevents
Bromley Business Network
Wednesday 3rd & 17th December, 7am-9am
On Teams or in person at Bromley Football Club (Hospitality Suite), Hayes Lane, BR2 9EF
Cost: £12.50 on Teams or £23 in person
Contact: 07957 819008 or email hello@ bromleybusinessnetwork.co.uk
Fortnightly business networking events. Attendance includes unlimited refreshments and a full cooked breakfast buffet. Attendees can also attend via Teams if they can’t attend in person. For details see bromleybusinessnetwork.co.uk
community & CHARITY
Green Street Green Primary School’s Christmas Fair
Saturday 6th December, 11am-3pm Green Street Green Primary School, Vine Rd, Orpington, BR6 6DT
Cost: Free entry
Contact: Email friendsofgsgschool@gmail.com
Save the Date for Green Street Green Primary School’s Christmas Fair! Green Street Green's annual fair is back with local crafts, games and Christmas themed activities. Delicious food and drink will be available and an amazing raffle, that you do not want to miss! The school choir will be also on site to add to the festive spirit.
All Saints Orpington Toy & Parade Service
Sunday 14th December, 9:30am – 11am
All Saints Church, 44 Bark Hart Road, Orpington, BR6 0QD
Cost: Free
Contact: 01689 832031
Join All Saints Orpington for a special Family Eucharist celebrating the Guiding and Scouting Communities. Attendees are invited to bring an unwrapped toy to be donated to the Petts Wood Playgroup, which supports children with special educational needs. Your gift will help ensure every child feels seen and celebrated this Christmas.
Community Café
1st and 3rd Wednesday of every month, 2.30pm-4.30pm
Chelsfield Village Hall, Chelsfield, Orpington, BR6 7RL
Cost: Free
Contact: chelsfieldvolunteers@gmail.com
Chelsfield Volunteers offers tea, coffee, cake and conversation. All are welcome – old friends & new faces. Bring a friend or a neighbour! If you need transport or if you can offer help with transport, please call Peter on 01689 831826.
The Elderberry Café
Every Wednesday, 9.30am-12 noon
Church Hall, St Paul’s Church, Crofton Road, Orpington, BR6 8JE
The café serves hot drinks, home-made cakes and much more. The Elderberry Café – where friendship, food and faith meet. Everybody is welcome.
The Wednesday Club
Every Wednesday, 12.30pm onwards
Sovereign of The Seas, 109-111 Queensway, Petts Wood, BR5 1DG
Cost: Free
Contact: 020 8462 2569 (Joyce)
This friendship club meets weekly and gives people the opportunity to enjoy a social get-together. There is the opportunity for people to purchase lunch and arrange outings at other times with each other.
CASPA Christmas Carol Concert
Saturday 20th December, 6pm
St John’s Church, Park Road, Bromley, BR1 3HJ
Cost: £5 or a family ticket for £10
Contact: www.caspabromley.org.uk
Join CASPA for their 2nd annual Christmas Carol Concert – a heart-warming, family-friendly evening filled with festive cheer! Enjoy performances from the fabulous Rock Choir and talented soloists, plus an interval serving mulled wine, soft drinks and mince pies. The event is fully accessible and open to all in the community. Book your tickets at https://register.enthuse.com/ps/event/ CASPAChristmasCarolConcert.
Father Christmas Breakfast
Sunday 14th December, 8.15am
The Drawing Room, Locksbottom
Cost: Free
Contact: justine@thedrawingroomlocksbottom.co.uk
Enjoy a magical festive morning as Father Christmas makes a surprise visit during breakfast! There’ll be singalongs, photo opportunities and plenty of Christmas cheer as Santa stops by every table to chat with guests.
what's on
MUSIC, entertainment & FOOD
Family Christmas Concert by The Orpington Chorale
Saturday 13th December, 4.30pm
All Saints Church, Barkhart Road, Orpington, BR6 0QD
Cost: Tickets £10 in advance, £12 at the door. £5 for unwaged or 18-25 Under 18s - free
Get into the festive spirit with The Orpington Chorale’s much-loved Family Christmas Concert. Enjoy seasonal favourites performed by the choir, joined by Kathryn Bartlett (piano), Bryan Wells (organ), and conductor Dominic Wells, alongside The Choir of St James’ R.C. Primary School led by Elizabeth Atkinson. A retiring collection will support The Chartwell Cancer Trust.
Into the Daylight – Jazz and Blues evening, Green Chain Quartet
Thursday 4th December, 8pm-11pm
Daylight Inn, Station Square, Petts Wood, BR5 1LZ
Cost: £5 admission (supporting Bromley Food Bank, Ukraine Appeal & MSF - Doctors without Borders).
Contact: 01689 877402.
Green Chain Quintet with special guests: Xmas Special with Francesca Payne and Jukebox Voices. 2026 1st January New Year Jazz! Book a table or walk in: www.thedaylightinn.co.uk. For details see www.greenchainquartet.com
theatre & Performances
Churchill Theatre, Bromley
Contact: tickets@churchilltheatre.co.uk
Beauty and the Beast
Saturday 6th December – Sunday 4th January
Get ready for a magical panto treat as Beauty and the Beast takes to the stage in a spectacular show for all the family. Starring TV favourite Samantha Womack as
the Enchantress and Hi-de-Hi! legend Su Pollard as Mrs Potty, the cast also includes Britain’s Got Talent star Jamie Leahey, panto dame Ben Stock, and Sheri Lineham as Belle. Join Belle as she discovers that true beauty lies within in this heartwarming, laugh-out-loud retelling packed with songs, sparkle and panto magic!
Robin Hood and the Christmas Cracker
Saturday 6th – Sunday 21st December
It’s Christmas in Sherwood Forest, and the sneaky Sheriff of Nottingham has stolen the famous Christmas Cracker from the woodland animals! Join Robin and his Merry Men on a fun-filled adventure to get it back. Packed with original music, larger-than-life characters and festive magic, this reimagined tale by StoryMakers Theatre is perfect for the whole family.
The Churchill Comedy Club
Saturday 13th December
Pull up a chair and enjoy a night of world-class entertainment, right on your doorstep. Featuring the funniest comics from the circuit and TV, performing the very best stand-up comedy. This double headliner show includes a brand new line up of top comedians every month, plus resident host Carly Smallman. Get your tickets, bring your friends, and come and have a laugh with us!
Christmas Cabaret: Ex-Drag-Aganza
Friday 19th December
Get ready for a fabulous festive night hosted by drag superstars Ula Lah and That Girl! Enjoy live vocals, dancing, comedy, games and much more, plus a welcome drink on arrival. A fun Christmas event like no other! Age Restriction: 18+
Silent Disco: Dancing Through The Decades
Saturday 20th December
Party the night away with your friends at our fun and fabulous Silent Disco for Adults. With 3 different music channels to choose from on our high spec LED headsets, take your pick from a whole range of party anthems and dance floor fillers from the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s that will be sure to keep you dancing the night away. Age restriction: 18+
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Behind the Badge
INSIGHTS FROM THE SUPER
This month I would like to update you on Operation Zoridon. You may have seen this in news coverage, but it is the largest operation the Met Police has ever run to tackle retail crime across London.
I was the operational lead as we deployed to over 120 premises across London, including many right here in Bromley, suspected of being involved in handling stolen goods. This crime type enables and encourages those who steal prolifically from our shops and businesses, and brings so much harm to our communities. In fact, your Bromley teams working with Trading Standards and the London Fire Brigade visited more locations than almost any other Borough.
The results were extraordinary, with police making 32 arrests and seizing thousands of items of believed stolen property. Trading Standards seized tens of thousands of pounds worth of illicit and dangerous tobacco and vape
related products and, working together with both Trading Standards and the London Fire Brigade, we used our powers to close down businesses causing nuisance or that caused danger. This is part of our commitment to making high streets and retail spaces safer for everyone. As I have written about before, this was preceded by a year of focussed work on tackling prolific shoplifters with Operation Kelleher, and this is now the next phase moving into organised crime.
We didn’t stop there, and the following week we conducted a series of five coordinated search warrants in the Penge area targeting drug supply, handling stolen goods and criminals exploiting vulnerable people by taking over their homes to deal drugs from. This led to several arrests, illegal items being seized and two further premises being closed down. This is the style of policing we want to deliver, where we are more proactive and front-footed with our crime fighting based on what matters to communities.
Superintendent Luke Baldock Bromley Borough Neighbourhood Policing
Firefront Line
Bromley Fire Stations: At the heart of our community
As Borough Commander of Bromley, I’m proud to lead a fire service that’s not just about emergency response –but about being a visible, trusted and active part of the community we serve.
Over the past few months, our teams have opened their doors to residents across the borough, hosting four incredibly successful station open days. These events weren’t just about showcasing our equipment or explaining our work – they were about connection. From children climbing aboard fire engines to families chatting with firefighters over tea, we saw firsthand how powerful community engagement can be.
That’s why I’m thrilled to announce our next festive initiative: Green Watch Bromley, in partnership with The Rotary Club of West Wickham, will be hosting a Santa’s Grotto Event at Bromley Fire Station on Saturday 6th December 2025, from 11am to 3pm.
For a donation of £5.00, children will have the chance to:
• Visit Santa in his magical grotto and receive a present
• Explore our fire engines up close
• Enjoy festive crafts and activities while they wait
All proceeds will go to The Firefighters Charity, supporting the wellbeing of our brave men and women across the UK.
Events like these remind us that the fire service is more than sirens and hoses – it’s about people. It’s about being present, building trust and creating moments of joy and safety. Whether it’s through fire safety education, community events or simply being a friendly face in the neighbourhood, we’re committed to being a service that reflects the values and spirit of Bromley.
We hope to see you there – bring your festive cheer and help us make this a day to remember.
Warm wishes, Ian Frame, Borough Commander London Borough of Bromley, London Fire Brigade
Location
History
The evolution of Christmas traditions
Pam Preedy
by PAM PREEDY, BEd, BA (Open), MA.
In pagan times it was the tradition to hold a winter festival called Yule in late December to January. We would recognise many of the traditions of this pagan festival today in the 21st century. It was a time to welcome the returning sun and banish evil spirits.
A large log was gradually fed into a fire over the 12 days of Yule. The ashes were kept to bring good fortune. Decorations of evergreens like holly and ivy symbolised the return of spring and new life, while mistletoe was hung above doorways as a symbol of hospitality and a charm to ward off evil spirits. There was a tradition of visiting homes, singing carols, drinking a shared spiced alcoholic drink: wassailing to wish good health and prosperity.
Gradually these traditions evolved to fit with Christianity: the festival became linked with the story of the birth of Christ. It was a time when the idea of childhood was gaining ground. The greatest changes came with Victoria and Albert and their nine children. They became the archetypal family and helped popularise the 19th century Christmas traditions, such as bringing the Christmas tree indoors and decorating it. Even then they were not the first to celebrate with a Christmas tree. Queen Charlotte, wife of George III was the first to bring the idea to Britain, but it was Albert who popularised it.
Queen Victoria brought glass ornaments to Britain to decorate the Christmas tree in 1848 and the idea captured the public’s imagination. Hans Greiner was credited with inventing these baubles in the 16th century in Lauscha, Germany. Meanwhile, Father Christmas began to appear as a present giver. At this time the focus shifted from the New Year to Christmas Eve. At first presents were simply placed at the bottom of the child’s bed. By the end of the 19th
century, stockings were placed there for Father Christmas who reputedly climbed down the chimneys to leave the presents. Later, the more optimistic children placed a pillow for Father Christmas to fill. At first family presents were placed on and around the Christmas tree which was revealed in all its glory on Christmas Eve with its candles alight. Children were handed presents straight from the tree. The days leading up to Christmas today are busy; decorations to decorate their homes. Christmas presents are bought especially for the children. Christmas cards were introduced by Henry Cole, the first director of the South Kensington Museum. He had lots of people expecting Christmas letters. He asked his friend, J C Horsley, RA, to design a Christmas card in 1843. His design depicted three generations of the Cole family raising a toast in a central, hand-coloured panel, with depictions of acts of charity in the outer panels. One thousand copies were commissioned. All Cole had to do was sign and send them: much easier and quicker than writing letters. The idea caught on very quickly. By the 1860 and 1880s the Post had to warn their clientele to ‘post early’. This custom is changing today in the 21st century and more people are using technologies including email.
After the October break in schools today, there is growing excitement for younger children. There are nativity plays for the infants, while the older children perform other Christmas plays to their parents. Lists are made of desired presents and letters are written by some to Father Christmas asking for presents. There are parties to enjoy.
The traditional Christmas dinners are prepared and served with turkey and roast vegetables although in Dicken’s time (1843) of A Christmas Carol, they were still serving goose. Turkeys gained popularity in the 19th century as they were large enough to feed their large families. They were originally brought to England from the Americas in the early 1500s, a bird fit for a king; Henry VIII. Happy Christmas everyone.
Queen Victoria and Albert celebrate Christmas with their family
Images Wikimedia
To purchase Pam’s book, Living Through The Great War: How The People of Bromley Faced The Challenges of War, you can email her at pampreedy@gmail.com
Henry Cole and his family celebrate Christmas on the first Christmas Card 1843
MAYOR'S VOICE
I wanted to take this opportunity to reflect on the period of Remembrance that Bromley, along with the rest of the nation – and, indeed, the Commonwealth of Nations and wider world – came together to mark recently.
Our national period of Remembrance of course takes place every year, but commemoration this year was particularly poignant with 2025 marking the 80th anniversary of the Second World War and the 85th anniversary of the Battle of Britain – a battle which was absolutely instrumental in securing allied victory, with Biggin Hill’s extremely important strategic role recognised by Winston Churchill himself as Britain’s “strongest link”.
Earlier this year, as Deputy Mayor and then Mayor, I attended commemorations across the borough to mark VE Day in May, and the final end of World War II with VJ Day in August, followed by a service in September commemorating the Battle of Britain (alongside a number of living veterans). It was extremely moving to witness all generations coming together to remember these vital cornerstones of our national history that must never be forgotten.
Lines from Linda
‘Where did the year go?’ everyone is asking. And I don’t know the answer as I am as confused as everyone else. However, it has gone and now it is Christmas.
And, for the first year ever, as I have given up performing in pantomimes, I have more time for socialising and celebrating. I knew I wanted a seasonal jumper with all the reindeers on it, along with Father Christmas. Reindeers carry the presents to the children, they deserve to be on Christmas jumpers.
I found a classy looking jumper with just one reindeer knitted into it. The reindeer had no red nose, so I asked the assistant which reindeer it was. ‘There’s only Rudolph, isn’t there,’ she said indignantly. ‘It’s Rudolph.’ ‘No, Rudolph has got a shiny red nose,’ I argued, ‘This one hasn’t, and it looks quite feminine. Rudolph is male.’
And it was an honour to attend Bromley’s Parish Church of St Peter & St Paul on Remembrance Sunday, and to attend Orpington two days later on Armistice Day, paying my respects and honouring the sacrifices of generations who fought, and in a great many cases died, for us all. I also thought it fitting to visit St George’s Chapel of Remembrance, Biggin Hill – as well as nearby churches in Downe and Cudham, which I know well as their local councillor and have attended Remembrance Sunday services at for several years – both for a quiet moment of reflection, and to deliver a Remembrance Message to the borough, which is available on our website at www.bromley.gov.uk/remembrance
As well as attending these important formal ceremonies, the Mayoress and I also thought it particularly important to visit and support poppy sellers up and down the borough. These hardworking volunteers freely give their time, effort and commitment each year to ensure that the nation remembers those who fought and died for our freedom, and to raise funds to support our servicemen and women, and veterans, of today. We Will Remember Them.
Best wishes
Cllr Jonathan Andrews Mayor of Bromley (2025-2026)
Find out more at www. bromley.gov.uk/mayor
it at a stall there. There were many stalls. I stopped at one that was selling jumpers displaying Santa on the front. There were batteries on the inside. When you pressed the battery, it played a tune.
‘You can pick your tune,’ the marketer told me, ‘and we add that. Any tune you like. All Christmassy of course.’ I liked that idea, but couldn’t decide which tune to pick to play across my chest over Christmas. ‘Do you have a list to choose from, or could you suggest an appropriate one?’ I asked him. He nodded. ‘We do have a list,’ he told me, ‘Or I could suggest a good one for you.’
I couldn’t decide which tune to pick to play across my chest over Christmas "
‘Oh well I couldn’t say for sure,’ she told me. ‘With only his head on the jumper, no body or bits on display, one couldn’t say either way. Anyway, I didn’t know there were any other reindeers I thought it was just Rudolph.’
I left the shop feeling very sad for Dasher, Dancer, Prancer, Vixen, Comet, Cupid, Donner and Blitzen. They too fly across the rooftops delivering presents on Christmas Eve.
I decided to go to a famous London market, I felt confident I would find a jumper with all the reindeer on
‘Yes, what would you suggest?’
He gave me a little wink. ‘I’ve got nobody loves a fairy when she’s 40, but I can change wording, to nobody loves a fairy when she’s 60, or even 70 if you want to keep it another year.’ I was speechless. I walked away. I now knew how Dasher, Dancer, Prancer, Comet, Cupid, Vixen and Blitzen felt, being forgotten and insulted. 70! No way! But it was the season to be happy, so I kept a smile on my face. I bought a framed picture of the nine reindeers with Santa, instead of the flashing jumper, and wished everyone I passed a Very Happy Christmas. As I wish the same to all Life In Orpington, readers, and adding, ‘A healthy and prosperous New Year to follow!’
For more about me and my crime novels see www.lindareganonline.co.uk
St George’s Chapel of Remembrance, Biggin Hill with Deputy Lieutenant Deirdre Barr (right) and Margaret Wilmot, the Chapel Verger
Perfect for young football fans, this mini 3D football puzzle game and fidget toy from Smart Toys and Games is sure to strike a winning goal!. Simply fit all 7 puzzle pieces on the ball. But watch out! Moving the small starting piece during the game will give players a red card! Worth £9.99 (see smarttoysandgames.co.uk ) this is sure to entertain the kids for hours while you get some downtime!
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saviour Nature’s Repair Balm from Green Therapy, the cosmetic range by Honey Heaven, is a gentle,100% natural solution for dry, irritated skin. Lightweight and non-sticky, it is packed with calendula, lavender and hemp oil to sooth eczema, calm redness and restore healthy skin – and kind enough for babies and the whole family to use. RRP £15 for 50ml, available at honeyheaven.co.uk.
A little London luxury
Add a touch of calm to your Christmas with this beautiful Hopscotch soy candle, hand-poured in London and delicately scented with uplifting Bergamot. Worth £9, this 95g candle brings a cosy glow and a hint of citrus freshness to any room — perfect for those quiet festive moments when you just want to unwind with a cuppa and enjoy the twinkle of the fairy lights.
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A treat for green fingers
After a day of pottering in the garden, this Gardener’s Therapy luxury soap is just the ticket. Weighing in at 150g and worth £16, this triple-milled bar gently exfoliates and deeply moisturises, leaving hands feeling soft and pampered. With its fresh, herbaceous scent of spearmint and rosemary, it’s a spa-like indulgence for hardworking hands – and the perfect stocking filler for any garden lover.
A trip down sweet memory lane
Who doesn’t love a bit of nostalgia at Christmas? This 650g tub of Swizzels’ Sweet Shop Favourites is packed with all the classics –from Love Hearts and Refreshers to Drumsticks and Parma Violets. Worth £6, it’s the perfect treat to share (or not!) while you reminisce about pocket money days and paper bags filled with pick ’n’ mix. A proper blast from the past to sweeten up your festive season!
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Afternoon tea for two
The Landing Hotel offers comfortable stays and exceptional dining experiences for all. Now you can indulge in their Afternoon Tea experience and enjoy a selection of delicate finger sandwiches, delectable desserts and exquisite teas, all handcrafted by the talented team of chefs at Air Culinaire Worldwide. Worth £59.90 (£29.95 each), this exquisite prize of Afternoon Tea for Two will have you devouring every mouthful. For more details see thelandinghotel.co.uk
New year, new start
If you’re looking to kick off the year with a boost of inspiration, you’ll love How to Make Your Life Amazing by J.C. Zielinska – a motivational guide that helps you harness the power of your thoughts and imagination to create the life you truly want in 2026. Worth £12.99, it’s described as a ‘pick-me-up’ read, ideal for anyone wanting to make small, intentional changes that lead to big results.
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This prize comes courtesy of CityDays and offers tickets for a team of 4 for Race Across The World: The Experience, the official live adventure inspired by the hit BBC TV show. This immersive, escape room-style city challenge, worth £150, takes place across London, where teams must solve clues, unlock checkpoints and outsmart a virtual budget – with no public transport allowed! For details see raceacrosstheworldexperience.com/london
Celebrate Christmas at Remoli Bromley!
This festive season, we’re spreading some holiday cheer with an exclusive giveaway - enjoy two complimentary soft drinks and three delicious antipasti dishes on us! Gather your friends, share some Italian joy and make your Christmas dining extra special at Remoli Bromley. Buon Natale!
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Piece together the wonders of nature Perfect for puzzle lovers and curious minds alike, this 1000-piece jigsaw puzzle from All Jigsaw Puzzles is bursting with charm, wit and natural history magic. Designed exclusively in partnership with the Natural History Museum and British illustrator, Tim Bulmer, it’s packed with dinosaurs, dodos, dazzling gems – and plenty of cheeky humour. Worth £16.99 (see alljigsawpuzzles.co.uk), it’s the perfect gift for any puzzle fan – and guaranteed to keep them happily puzzling for hours while you enjoy a well-earned tea break!
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This gorgeous lip and eye collection from Dr.PAWPAW is packed with nourishing treats to soothe, tint and protect – ideal for beauty lovers who like their products multitasking and naturally powered. Featuring four vegan, cruelty-free favourites, this prize is worth over £18 (see drpawpaw. com) and makes the ultimate gift or a fabulous treat for yourself –perfect for popping in your bag, desk drawer or makeup kit!
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All Saints Church Christmas Services
We would love to see you at our services, either in church (Bark Hart Road, Orpington BR6 0QD) or via our live-streams to our Facebook Page.
Sunday 30 November: 8am Holy Communion (Said), 9.30am – Advent Sunday Eucharist, 5pm – Advent Sunday Carol Service
Sunday 14 December: 8am Holy Communion (Said), 9.30am Toy & Parade Service
Sunday 21 December: 8am Holy Communion (Said), 9.30am Eucharist, 6.30pm Community Nine Lessons & Carols
Wednesday 24 December: Christmas Eve 10am Said Eucharist (streamed), 4pm Christingle Service (not streamed), 11pm Carols by Choir followed by 11.30pm Midnight Mass (streamed)
Thursday 25 December: Christmas Day 10am Christmas Day Eucharist
For details call 01689 832031, see www.allsaintsorpington.org.uk or email allsaintsorpington@gmail.com. Facebook: www.facebook.com/AllSaintsOrpington
Monkey Music Orpington –Friday classes added!
Monkey Music Orpington is excited to announce that their award-winning baby and toddler music classes will be running in Orpington on both Thursdays and Fridays from January. With three age-specific classes to choose from, these classes are perfect for babies and toddlers who love music.
Call 020 3750 2228 or see www.monkeymusic.co.uk/area/ beckenham-orpington
SINGING FOR HEALTH IN BROMLEY
Medising has received a grant from The National Lottery Community Fund to run its Singing for Hypertension project in Bromley for a year. Following a successful pilot funded by the Bromley Innovation Fund, 89% of participants saw lower blood pressure during and after the course. Sessions run until July 2026 online on Thursdays, 6.30pm–7.30pm and in person on Mondays, 2pm–3pm at St Mark’s Church Hall, Westmoreland Rd, BR2 0TB. To register, email Nicola at info@medising.co.uk.
On the cover
If you’ve ever driven around Orpington’s War Memorial roundabout in December, you might have noticed one building in particular on Spur Road, dazzling with festive decorations. This is Philip Harris House – HQ of Tapi Carpets and Floors and Harris Ventures Ltd.
As you can probably guess, Lord Harris and his team are big fans of the festive season and here's his Christmas message to readers: “I wish everyone a Merry Christmas and hope you have the best Christmas ever. Let’s all have great fun and stay healthy for the year ahead!”
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RETURN OF THE SLEIGH!
There’s festive magic in Farnborough Village this year as Father Christmas makes a grand appearance on 20th December, followed by Mrs Claus on 21st December in their revamped sleigh! The much-loved Farnborough Village Sleigh, which officially belongs to the Farnborough Village Society, has been lovingly restored by a team of volunteers led by Bex Lang from The Woodman and Charlie White. The project was brought back to life in memory of cherished resident Tania Todd, who sadly passed away earlier this year. Funds raised from the sleigh’s festive journey will also honour the late Barry Hutton, who played Santa himself for many years, with proceeds going to the Royal Marsden’s Kids Wish List. So, wrap up warm, step outside, and give them a wave as they spread joy through Farnborough Village all for a great cause this Christmas!
SUPPORTING LOCAL AUTHORS…
Animals are people
by Lydia Thompson, aged 8
My article is about saving animals. They are being killed every day and it can become a problem killing them for food, clothes and other resources because animals are not blank slates who are supposed to be killed.
Why shouldn’t we kill animals? Animals can help people make money. The first way, if others are ok with it, you can sell them to farmers/animal lovers. The other way is that they can make primary sources like food and drink without having to be killed and then the animal’s owner can sell this.
If we keep killing animals, then there may be more risk of human deaths per year because some animals, like snakes, can save lives with medicines. And if humans just kill animals, it will be an unequal balance. If we stop killing animals, then economic growth and petting zoos would gradually increase. Animals worldwide would be saved and everyone on earth could live in harmony again.
Scientists are currently finding new ways to think, solve and do things. They are always trying to make lab-grown, vegetarian replicas of foods that taste similar to real meat. We can also recycle things that are harmful to the environment and give it good use. For example, we can reduce plastic bags by cutting them up, turning them into a sort of wool, and use knitting skills to make some other things that last longer instead of using things like tiger fur. Reducing animal killing relies on everyone and not just adults or important people. Children from all over need to help as well, because everything makes a difference on Earth and we need YOU to be the change.
What a thought-provoking article Lydia! It’s inspiring to see a young person so passionate about making a difference for animals and the planet. Keep sharing your voice and spreading awareness; every idea like yours brings us closer to a kinder, more harmonious world.
Beckenham-based business consultant, Emma Meheux, has turned her extensive experience in sales, marketing and digital into her first business book, Sales Before Marketing. Emma, who lives with her fiancé and has grown up locally, said: “I’ve always loved writing. Around ten years ago, I faced some serious mental health challenges which meant I had to slow down and reduce stress. That’s when I realised I wanted to spend more time on creative activities, especially writing, as it really helped my wellbeing. From there, the idea of writing a book started to take shape.”
Aimed at small business owners, Sales Before Marketing introduces a ten-point sales planning process designed to help businesses build strong sales foundations, create a strategic approach and understand the difference between sales and marketing – something many small business owners struggle with. Emma celebrated the book’s launch with a local event at Bromley Old Town Hall, describing it as “a brilliant afternoon with amazing support from so many members of the Bromley business community.”
Emma has other writing projects in the pipeline, including children’s books and a poetry book, which she hopes to publish in the future. The book is available now at salesbeforemarketing.com.
If you’re a local author or know of one, email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk for the chance to be featured.
Affordable homes proposed for Poverest Road
Plans are emerging to deliver 44 affordable homes on Poverest Road as part of the Council’s Bromley Homes for Bromley People programme. The development will be on the site of the Poverest Adult Education Centre once courses move to other locations across the borough, including Kentwood Adult Education Centre and Council sites such as libraries.
The proposal includes a mix of two- to four-bed homes, including accessible properties, alongside public realm improvements to green spaces like Tillingbourne Green Playground and Poverest Park playground. Trees will be retained and access to Poverest Primary School will be enhanced for vehicles and pedestrians. The homes will be 100% affordable and let through the Council’s housing service, helping reduce reliance on costly temporary accommodation.
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Greener and Cleaner is celebrating after receiving funding from Benefact Group’s Movement for Good Awards to launch England’s first Community Sustainability Support Network (CSSN).
The CSSN will connect and support local sustainability projects – from Repair Cafés and Community Fridges to allotments, wellbeing gardens, and energy initiatives – helping them share knowledge, access resources and collaborate for greater impact.
Founder Parisa Wright said: “Community projects across England play a vital role in building resilience and sustainability. This network will help them thrive, grow, and make an even bigger difference in their communities.”
Membership is free for any group delivering community sustainability work. Keep an eye out for joining details and updates on progress via www.greenerandcleaner.co.uk
Honouring local heroes
by JENNIE RANDALL
On behalf of the Royal British Legion, Petts Wood, I am gathering information about service personnel from the Army, Navy & Air Force from Petts Wood who lost their lives during the Second World War. I have already consulted the records from the Commonwealth War Graves Commission, but these are not fully comprehensive, nor do they include photographs of the fallen.
If one of your ancestors, or anyone you may be aware of, was a Petts Wood resident in the armed forces who lost their life during WWII, and you can provide me with any information (copies of photographs, documents etc.) I would be most grateful. Please contact me, Jennie Randall, on 07840-542261.
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Colour Your World
Spending just 20 minutes colouring will work wonders for the soul. Make a start with this wonderful Christmas picture then stand back and admire your handiwork!
London Biggin Hill Airport is one of Bromley’s largest employers - with over 70 companies employing more than 1,700 people across the site.
We are deeply committed to fostering strong ties with the community so that when we succeed, so do local people.
From supporting the next generation with our early careers programme to giving back to a range of local initiatives, London Biggin Hill is proud to support its community - with investment totaling more than £150,000 over the last decade.
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Ask The Experts
You asked – and they answered! Send your need-to-know questions to our local experts by emailing hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk with the subject line ‘Ask The Experts’
Q: I’m planning on selling my home early next year. What can I do now to improve its presentation and make it more attractive to potential buyers?
Jennie: The time between now and New Year is one of the most popular periods for homeowners to browse properties – many people are starting to think ahead and prepare for a fresh start in the new year.. It’s the perfect opportunity to prepare your home before the January rush. A property sells well when two things are right: the price and the presentation. That’s where we can help. Home staging is the hidden secret that helps homes sell faster and for more money. It’s about styling your space to appeal to buyers – making it feel brighter, bigger and more inviting. Start by decluttering, packing away personal items and adding simple touches like fresh cushions or neutral décor. If you're unsure where to begin, I’m your local home stager and I offer expert advice and hands-on help to make your property stand out.
Visit Jennie Farrow, Farrow Home Staging for a free home staging guide at www. farrowhomestaging.co.uk and for further details on how we can help you!
Jennie Farrow, Farrow Home Staging
Q: I have never changed windows or doors before – what tips can you offer?
Oliver: Firstly - I would advise looking at the windows of other properties in your road, are the houses similar to yours? What style/age is your property? What windows do other homes have in terms of style & material?
• Do they have any glazing bars? Leaded lights? Patterned glass?
• Standard colours are matt black, matt anthracite & white gloss –Many others colours & finishes are available, plus you can have dual colours – different outside to inside (this will increase cost)
The Window Sanctuary are a local, family owned and run company, with a fully stocked showroom in Brasted. We specialise in aluminium and timber replacements windows and doors. We are independent and offer free unbiased advice. We can provide quotations following a showroom visit, a home visit or if you wanted to send in photos and measurements.
For details see www.thewindowsanctuary.com
Oliver Dolan, The Window Sanctuary
Q: I'm considering extra tuition for my child, how do I go about finding the right tutor?
Reshma: Choosing the right tutor can make a big difference to your child’s confidence, progress and attitude towards learning. Start by considering your child’s needs – do they need support to catch up, stretch ahead, or prepare for exams like the 11+ or GCSEs? Look for tutors or centres that match your child’s curriculum so teaching aligns with what they’re learning at school. Ask about the tutor’s experience, where materials come from, whether lessons are personalised, and how progress is tracked and shared. Visit the centre or arrange a trial to ensure your child feels comfortable. Practicalities also matter –check availability, location, cost, flexibility and whether childcare vouchers or tax-free childcare can be used. Recommendations from parents and schools can be invaluable. Ultimately, the best tutor understands your child’s learning style and motivates them to succeed. When your child leaves a lesson smiling and more confident, you’ve found the right fit.
Find more tips on our website: www.numberworksnwords. com/uk/blog
Reshma Narni, NumberWorks’ nWords Bromley
Life Hacks
MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR TIME OFF IN 2026!
Ready to get clever with your annual leave?
With a little smart planning, you can turn a handful of days off into long, glorious stretches of free time – without using up all your holiday allowance! Here’s how:
Spring into Easter: Book off Tuesday 7th April to Friday 10th April, and with Good Friday (3 Apr) and Easter Monday (6 Apr) on top, you’ll enjoy 10 consecutive days while using just four days of annual leave. Perfect for a spring getaway or a home refresh!
Double up in May: With two bank holidays – 4th and 25th-you have another opportunity to maximise your holiday. Book 5–8 May, and you’ll get nine days off in a row (Sat 2nd to Sun 10th May). Do the same again at the end of the month (book 26–29 May), and you’ve got another nine-day stretch (Sat 23rd May to Sun 31st May). That’s 18 glorious days off for the price of just eight leave days!
6 tips for a stress-free dinner party
Plan ahead! Try to have at least one of the courses made ahead of time
Double check if your guests have any dietary requirements
Keep table decorations simple – guests are there for the food and company, not the decor
Don't put pressure on yourself to make everything. Allow yourself a few shopbought items
Cook something you are confident at making and don't plan a complex recipe unless you've tried it before
Plan your meal according to the season and, if you can, go for a theme so the flavours flow seamlessly eg Turkish, Italian etc
Stretch out the summer: Fancy a late-summer breather? Take Tuesday 1 to Friday 4 September off after the Summer Bank Holiday (31 Aug), and you’ll unlock nine consecutive days of downtime (Sat 29th Aug to Sun 6th Sept).
Festive finale: Christmas 2026 falls on a Friday, with Boxing Day on Saturday (so the substitute is Monday 28 Dec). If you book 21–24 Dec and 29–31 Dec, you’ll end up with 16 days off in a row – from Saturday 19th December to Sunday 3rd January 2027 – and you’ll only use seven annual leave days! Just imagine it: no emails, no meetings and endless mince pies.
A little planning now means you can maximise time off for more adventures, lie-ins or doing absolutely nothing (which, let’s be honest, sounds rather nice). So, grab your calendar, get in early with the holiday requests – and make 2026 your best-balanced year yet!
How to... clean your iron
Spots or gunk showing up on your clothes while you iron? Your iron’s probably crying out for a clean! Over time, fibres from clothes can melt onto the plate – not great for your favourite outfits. Here’s a simple fix:
1. Soak a tea towel in white vinegar.
2. Set your warm (not hot!) iron plate-down onto the towel and let it sit for 30 minutes.
3. Wipe it down, and voilà — clean and shiny!
4. For steam holes, dip a cotton bud in vinegar and gently clear them out.
Keep your Xmas tree fresh for longer!
Mix one teaspoon of sugar and one teaspoon of vinegar into your tree water to keep it hydrated and needle-fall minimal.
Relationships
THE RISE OF “SILVER SEPARATORS”
by CLAIRE SCHNECK
In recent years, there has been a marked shift in the age of divorcing couples. Whilst the overall divorce rate has fallen, and the majority of millennials are choosing to cohabit rather than marry, the number of individuals aged 60 and above getting a divorce is steadily rising. Some scholars argue that this shift reflects the changing social attitudes towards divorce, as well as a growing emphasis on personal fulfillment and well-being, particularly in later life.
The term “silver separators” typically refers to older couples, who have often been in long-lasting relationships. Typically, these divorces involve couples who have spent decades together, raised families, and built a life together. As such, a divorce in later life can be emotionally and financially complex, and the considerations involved tend to differ significantly from those facing younger couples.
What is driving the rise in later-life divorces?
Arguably, there are several factors that may be attributed to the increasing number of older couples choosing to separate:
• Empty nest syndrome – This refers to the stage in a relationship where children move out of the family home. Unsurprisingly, this is often a major catalyst in older-couples divorcing as, for many, their children are the cornerstone of their relationship. Thus, when the primary focus of their relationship has flown the nest, it then highlights issues in the relationship which may have previously been overlooked, and couples are forced to confront how much they have grown apart.
• Longer life expectancy – Some argue that as people are living longer, often with decades ahead of them after retirement, many individuals are reconsidering whether they want to spend the next 20-30 years in an unhappy relationship.
• Increased financial independence – Nowadays, many women enjoy greater financial autonomy, often earning as much as or even more than their spouses. This greater financial equality provides a greater sense of freedom and means that older women are increasingly able to support themselves independently.
• The reduced stigma around divorce
Unsurprisingly, “silver divorces” present many unique challenges, particularly with regards to financial arrangements. Unlike younger couples, who have more working years ahead of them and a greater ability to rebuild wealth, older couples may have limited earning capacity and are often more reliant on existing assets and pensions to support their retirement. Crucially, they are more likely to have accumulated significant joint assets and have limited opportunities to earn new income. As such, pensions become vitally important and can often be the largest asset in the marriage. Therefore, there will be an increased reliance on pensions and pension sharing to fund retirement.
These considerations require careful handling by family lawyers to ensure stability for their clients in later life. Furthermore, whilst court proceedings remain an option, many couples may prefer to explore non court dispute resolution methods as they may be less adversarial, more cost effective and ultimately better suited to preserving the family relationships.
Ultimately, the ending of any relationship is rarely easy and for many, the decision to separate after decades together is not taken lightly. For older couples, it involves not only the emotional process of untangling decades of shared life, but also the practical challenge of starting over in later life. Many argue that the rise of “silver separators” reflects the evolving views on marriage, shifting gender roles, and a growing desire to prioritise happiness in later life.
For family law advice contact Claire Schneck, Partner and Head of Family at Clarkson Wright & Jakes on 01689 887887
A Final Thought…
Unlocking the mystery of dreams
by MILLA GRANT
Did you know that Paul McCartney’s song ‘Yesterday’ came to him as a full melody, in a dream? Or that the sewing machine was invented because its creator, Elias Howe, had a nightmare about being attacked with spears that had holes in their tips?
Dreams can take many forms and are considered scientific phenomenon’s involving complex brain activity, yet we still don’t know their true purpose. Many theories exist, and some researchers suggest that decoding dreams could potentially lead to humans developing a greater selfawareness and enhanced emotional clarity which could potentially aid in the healing process for trauma.
What are dreams?
Dreams are images and thoughts experienced during sleep, often occurring in an apparently meaningful sequence and usually involving emotions. They are driven by our subconscious and memories, so ‘real-life’ rules don’t really apply, which is why odd things can happen in our dreams and some things, such as our reflection and the time are indistinguishable or blurry. We only dream about things we have encountered somewhere in our lives before (even if it was only a glimpse), as the brain can’t ‘invent’ new people or places.
Historical theories
Throughout history, dreams have always fascinated people and have been deeply rooted in religion and culture. Many ancient civilisations (and religions such as Hinduism) paid close attention to their dreams as they believed they were messages from the Gods that could guide decisions. Others believed that dreams were your spirit wandering through other worlds. The Egyptians, on the other hand, interpreted dreams as a foresight into the future and they used them to navigate life events. These are known today as precognitive dreams, in which people have claimed that they foresaw a disaster in their dream before its occurrence. A famous example is Abraham Lincoln, who reportedly dreamt his assassination before it happened. But was this genuine foresight or simply the subconscious replaying fears that already existed?
Psychological theories
In more recent history, psychologists have tried to understand dreams. Freud believed that the importance of dreams was to delve into the unconscious mind, holding our hidden fears or desires (which we are not able to
access when awake). Other psychologists see dreams as a way for the brain to process daily experiences or emotions. Which is where the quote ‘Sleep on it’ came from for decision-making, since our brain can process the decision while we dream to aid us in making the best decision when we are awake. On the flip side, many researchers propose that dreams are simply random brain activity with no deeper meaning at all. But this is hugely opposed however, since if dreams were truly meaningless, why can they affect our moods, shift our perspectives and inspire?
Disrupted dream risks
Although the exact meaning of dreams remains uncertain, there is growing evidence that disruptions in the dream state are linked to various health risks. Dreams occur primarily during the rapid eye movement (REM) stage of sleep, when brain activity closely resembles that of wakefulness, which stimulates vivid dreaming. Research from the Framingham Heart study suggests that individuals who developed dementia spent less time in REM sleep. Additionally, a study published in the Alzheimer’s and Dementia magazine found that longer intervals to reach REM sleep correlate with higher levels of amyloid beta and tau proteins, which have both been found to contribute to the progression of some types of Dementia. The reasons for the correlations could be due to the REM stage of sleep being the time where the brain processes and consolidates memories. A delay or insufficiency in this phase can disrupt memory consolidation and affect learning, while also promoting the buildup of tau proteins thus blocking neural communication and causing cellular damage.
We spend roughly six years of our lives dreaming - that’s about two hours each night. Some dreams vanish instantly upon waking, while others can stick with us for decades. Whether they’re a window into the unconscious, a form of brain processing, or just a meaningless form of entertainment, dreams remain one of the most fascinating mysteries of the human mind. So, the next time you wake from a vivid dream, ask yourself: was that just random noise - or a hidden message worth paying attention to?
Sources: Alzheimer’s Society, Alzheimer's Research UK, Pubmed, Very Well Mind, Sleep Foundadtion
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Christmas lunches & dinners available from 1 December
Christmas lunches & dinners available from 1 December
We’re an independent café / restaurant & record store open 7 days a week for breakfast, all-day brunch, lunch & coffee. At the Orpington, the festive season is our favourite time of year… whether you are looking for a festive classic or something with a modern twist, our menu is designed to suit all tastes. Established
from 528 reviews No. 1 restaurant in the Bromley area 4.9 from 381 reviews
from 528 reviews No. 1 restaurant in the Bromley area 4.9 from 381 reviews
Christmas lunches & dinners available from 1 December 4.7 from 528 reviews No. 1 restaurant in the Bromley area 4.9 from 381
Christmas lunches & dinners available from 1 December 4.7 from 528 reviews No. 1
We’re an independent café / restaurant & record store open 7 days a week for breakfast, all-day brunch, lunch & coffee. At the Orpington, the festive season is our favourite time of year… whether you are looking for a festive classic or something with a modern twist, our menu is designed to suit all tastes.
We’re an independent café / restaurant & record store open 7 days a week for breakfast, all-day brunch, lunch & coffee. At the Orpington, the festive season is our favourite time of year… whether you are looking for a festive classic or something with a modern twist, our menu is designed to suit all tastes.
We’re an independent café / restaurant & record store open 7 days a week for breakfast, all-day brunch, lunch & coffee. At the Orpington, the festive season is our favourite time of year… whether you are looking for a festive classic or something with a modern twist, our menu is designed to suit all tastes.
We’re an independent café / restaurant & record store open 7 days a week for breakfast, all-day brunch, lunch & coffee. At the Orpington, the festive season is our favourite time of year… whether you are looking for a festive classic or something with a modern twist, our menu is designed to suit all tastes.
161 High Street Orpington, BR6 0LW (next door to Iceland)
161 High Street Orpington, BR6 0LW (next door to Iceland)
161 High Street Orpington, BR6 0LW (next door to Iceland)
