another jam-packed issue and we’ve really enjoyed putting this one together. As usual, we’ve got some great features and updates including What’s On this month, a new ‘Remarkable Residents’ feature and some great Life Hacks (namely 20 ways to simplify your life).
This month a few of us are taking a well-earned break (and hoping for good weather), but in the meantime, we’d love to hear from you with your comments, suggestions and nominations for Local Heroes and of course The ABBBAs (see www.the-abbbas.co.uk).
Until next month, enjoy August!
Lauretta Wright, Editor
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A piece of history
With reference to the history page in the June issue (The Enigmatic Cockpit on Chislehurst Common: More Than Meets the Eye), it was an interesting read, but I just wanted to clarify on the measurements of the Cockpit. The metric system came here when we joined the EU, but we are out of it now and I personally think we should go back to our system of yards, feet and inches. After all, our roads are signposted in miles and not kilometres nor do our roads have speed limits in metric either. The woods referred to in the article (Petts Wood woods rather than Chislehurst Woods) are part of the National Trust and has a Keepers Cottage on the road that runs from Petts Wood to Chislehurst and is situated on the left-hand side of this road. As soon as you walk into the woods (from the level crossing over the railway line from the Petts Wood end) there is a bridle path which the horses from the Chislehurst Stables used. These of course do not exist anymore and there are houses there instead. On the left-hand side of the bridle path there was a barbed wire fence for Colonel Edelman who had Gamekeepers with Shotguns on his estate which went from the Railway lines and up to Chislehurst, but I do not know where the end of the estate was.
John Baker
It’s lovely to read about your memories from growing up in Petts Wood John and your recollection of the area over the years. As our ‘Star Response’ this month, you’ve won a £15 One4All Gift Card courtesy of The Bed Post.
The shine in the shade
I noticed this lonely flower in the hedges that flank Bromley Road in Beckenham. The trees along the road give the hedges - and flower - shade for most of the day. I wondered how the flower did so well when it was in the shade for most of the day. I imagined how beautiful the flower would be in full sunlight. But I didn't know when the sun would shine on it, as every time I passed the flower at different times of days it was in shade. So, one day I resolved to find out. When I passed the flower in the morning it was sunny and I observed how the light fell through the trees. I worked out roughly how much the sun would move in how long a time. I came back at 2:30pm and the flower was in shade. I came back at 3pm and it was in shade. My intuition told me the flower would be in sunlight at 4pm, so I came back then and took the picture. I'm completely blind in one eye and the other eye sees all the beauty of life. I specialise in shooting flowers and plants, but will give anything a shot. Despite having weak vision I'm immensely visual and will adore photography all my life. I can't see the small data in the viewfinder of cameras, hence I shoot with my phone. Leiden Delpassen (The Half Blind Photographer) PS If the photo were to have a caption of a name, I'd call it the shine in the shade on Bromley Road!
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Seven seas
I painted this picture after my visit to the Scilly Isles recently, which prompted me to share some information about the island we call home and a bit of my background. We are surrounded by seven seas – the English Channel, North Sea, Atlantic Ocean, Irish Sea, Bristol Channel, Celtic Sea and the North Channel. Over the years I have sailed the 7 Seas around UK raising money for various charities along with boats from the Greenwich Yacht Club.
Paul Woodhead (Hon Port Pilot Medway)
JUST RECENTLY WE…
Caught up with Oliver Wright (left) and David Cheeseman from The Bed Post at their HQ in Crayford.
Were invited to celebrate at the launch event at Clinic 1618. Pictured is the company’s owner, Dr Ercan Buyukakincak.
What a lovely story Leiden and thank you for taking the time to write to us.
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History
Bethlem Museum of the Mind
by COLIN GALE
Many Bromley residents don’t know it, but they have on their doorstep a museum that engages the contested history and contemporary practice of mental health care.
Bethlem Royal Hospital is the historic ‘Bedlam’, founded in 1247 and located originally in Bishopsgate, central London. It was founded as a religious community of monks in 1247. At Bethlem and elsewhere, hospital functions emerged out of monastic traditions of hospitality. The earliest recorded indications of patients being resident in the Hospital date from the early fourteenth century. The term Bedlam or Bethlem comes from the name of a hospital in London, “St Mary of Bethlehem,” which was devoted to treating the mentally ill in the 1400s. Centuries of negative public perceptions concerning the mentally ill have shaped the word ‘bedlam’ into a synonym for confusion and disorder.
In 1632 it was recorded that Bethlem Royal Hospital, London had "below stairs a parlour, a kitchen, two larders, a long entry throughout the house, and 21 rooms wherein the poor distracted people lie, and above the stairs eight rooms more for servants and the poor to lie in." Inmates who were deemed dangerous or disturbing were chained, but Bethlem was an otherwise open building. Its inhabitants could roam around its confines and possibly throughout the general neighbourhood in which the hospital was situated.
Bethlem’s central location, first in Bishopsgate, then from 1676 to 1815 in Moorfields, ensured that its work was a matter of public awareness. For 140 years, two massive stone statues, of ‘Raving’ and ‘Melancholy’ Madness
respectively, were celebrated London landmarks advertising the Hospital’s Moorfields location. (These statues are now housed in Bethlem Museum’s foyer.) The curious were permitted access to the hospital as visitors until 1770, when this questionable and disputed practice was curtailed. Doctors had little understanding of the ‘diseases of the mind and merely used medieval methods such as bleeding, purging, vomiting and cold baths.
Management and improvement of the Hospital’s living environment, talking therapies, and drug treatments came much later, largely due to the work of William Tuke, a Quaker. He founded the York Retreat, where about 30 patients lived as part of a small community in a quiet country house and engaged in a routine combination of rest, talk, and manual work to give them a sense of contribution. The well-behaved were rewarded, others received some restraints.
Bethlem Hospital moved south of the Thames in 1815 to St George’s Fields, a green and pleasant suburban site chosen with a view to promote patient wellbeing and recovery. Its patients included the watercolourist Richard Dadd (1817-1886) and cat cartoonist Louis Wain (1860-1939), both of whom have artwork on display in the Museum today.
In 1930, still in search of the green open spaces believed to be consonant with recovery, the Hospital moved to its present site, further out into the suburbs and on Croydon / Beckenham borders. A wide range of mental health services are provided on the site to this day, alongside grassland and woodland.
The Museum shares its centrally and easily located building with the Bethlem Gallery. Together the Museum and Gallery form a calm and poignant space for visitors to reflect on the past, present, and future of mental healthcare provision, and to appreciate the creative talents of those who have accessed such services over the years.
Open to the public every Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday. Bethlem Museum of the Mind (www.motm. org.uk) is at the heart of Bethlem Royal Hospital, and 150 metres away from the Superloop 5 bus stop of the same name, at the halfway point on the route between Bromley North and Croydon town centre, on Monks Orchard Road.
Colin Gale is Director of Bethlem Museum of the Mind. For more information visit https://museumofthemind.org.uk/
New naturethemed book club
Calling all parents, educators and nature fans! An exciting, new nature-themed book club for adults will be starting in early September. Julia Packwood, founder of Nurturing Wild, is starting the club in collaboration with Beckenham Bookshop (42 High Street), which recently held a launch in store with Julia. Copies of the first title 'Wild Child' by Patrick Barkham are available to buy now in store. For details visit or call Beckenham Bookshop on 020 8650 9744.
Stop. Think. Change
Reducing Parental Conflict is a free programme for all parents in the borough, whether together, separated or considering separation, and offers support to improve parents’ relationships.
The initiative’s new social media campaign is called STOP. THINK. CHANGE and helps raise awareness of how conflict between parents impacts children.
For more information see www.bromleyparentinghub.info
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Community
Bromley’s Volunteer Awards
At Community Links Bromley, we know how important it is to say ‘thank you’ to all the volunteers across the borough. Often, it’s the only reward volunteers are looking for. The Volunteer Awards is an annual event where we celebrate and recognise our wonderful volunteering community here in Bromley. This is our opportunity to thank volunteers for the incredible contribution they make to their organisations and the wider community. Our 15th Annual Volunteer Awards Ceremony will be held on 26th September and nominations for this year's ceremony close on 9th August. This year’s categories include Lifetime Achievement of the Year Award, Young Volunteer of the Year Award, Corporate Volunteer of the Year Award, Disabled Volunteer of the Year Award,
The Leslie Marks Trustee Volunteer of the Year Award, Supporting an Individual of the Year Award, Volunteer Team of the Year Award and Volunteer Manager of the Year Award.
To nominate visit https://bit.ly/CLBawards
Catford-based author and illustrator Allison Parkinson was born in Jersey. A former journalist, Allison has self-published seven books to date, including the Laurella Swift historical fiction series which is aimed at seven-12 year-olds and chronicles the adventures of a ten-year-old mixed race Catford schoolgirl. Allison said: “I was inspired to start writing when my daughters were younger because we found it impossible to find chapter books with a central mixed race character that looked like them, so I created a girl based on and for them.”
The first ‘Laurella’ book won an award judged by children which makes Allison’s heart sing! She’s also written a picture book trilogy for younger children about a tiger called Zarif and runs free storytelling sessions and story crafting workshops at local schools, libraries and festivals. “I hope, through my books and visits, I can help more children see themselves at the centre of adventures,” she says.
Allison’s books range from £5.99 to £7.99 and are available from her website: www.tigerseyebooks.co.uk
If you’re a local author or know of one, email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk for the chance to be featured.
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Charity spotlight
Bromley Brighter Beginnings
by CLARA BERTHOUD
Bromley Brighter Beginnings (BBB) is a volunteer-led charity which reduces the pressure of poverty in a practical way by providing baby, child and household items to local families.
One of their crucial initiatives, the "A Bed for Every Child" campaign, ensures that children in financial need receive their own beds and bedding. The initiative began when BBB realised many children they supported were sleeping on old or broken beds, sharing with siblings or parents, or sleeping on the sofa or floor.
The campaign provides beds with a new mattress, duvet, bedding, pillows and built-in storage. Each year the demand for this initiative grows as referrals increase and the number of families in poverty rises; the charity provided 238 beds last year alone, 400% more than it did in 2018/19.
The charity is only able to provide the sets thanks to funding from grants, donations and fundraising. To find out more or to offer help visit https://linktr.ee/bromleybrighterbeginnings
From the left are YEAA founder, Sazz Wanogho-Maud; Megan Bastable, Goldsmiths University; and YEAA Ambassador, Tosh Wanogho-Maud.
Goldsmiths University of London has been unveiled as the new host venue for this year’s Young Entertainers in the Community Awards, which recognises young people for their outstanding achievements in community performance, and those who work with them.
The fourth event takes place on Saturday 26th October in Goldsmiths Great Hall and will offer an exciting ‘Oscars style’ awards ceremony, with 12 award categories that reflect the best in community performance, including The Every Child: Equality & Diversity Award, Rising Star Award and Performing Arts School in the Community Award.
Tosh Wanogho-Maud, Young Entertainers Academy Awards Ambassador, said: “Supporting the wins of young people is so important. The future is governed by the young and investing in them is the only way we can ensure the future is a positive one. My hope is that in the near future that the awards can represent the success of young people globally and that we can create a global community that supports, lifts up and champions our young people.”
Nominations for this year’s Community Awards close on Wednesday 24th July and all finalists will be invited to attend the October awards ceremony.
GOING ELECTRIC ON THE 358 ROUTE
The all-electric Route 358 (tram buses) are expected to start operating this summer, the Mayor of London, Sadiq Khan, has confirmed. The route will operate between Orpington and Crystal Palace, although no exact date has been provided.
Sadiq Khan said: “The all-electric Route 358 will be Transport for London’s (TfL) first end to end ‘Opportunity Charging’ trial, and it is important to get the hardware installed properly before the buses are introduced. The electric buses will use pantograph technology for a quick boost charge at either end of the route, allowing the buses to stay out for the full day. The new buses, which resemble a tram, will have enhanced customer features and the latest bus safety specifications.”
Source: thomasturrell.co.uk
Image: Goldsmiths University of London
5 Minutes With
Richard Jolly
Richard Jolly is co-founder and CEO of Splash Damage, which is renowned for its expertise in multiplayer game development and one of Bromley’s biggest employers. We get the lowdown from Richard on how the company has grown, the gaming industry in general and why it’s good to learn from our mistakes…
Richard, can you talk us through your background and how you became involved in the gaming industry?
I actually dropped out of university to start the company. I was studying to become an architect and never thought games was a possible career. I remember being at home between university years and my dad said to me, “Son, you’re getting a bit old for games. You need to focus on your career.” Weirdly, they were the catalyst words that forced me to find a way into games. I found the only degree in the world that offered a course on games at that time, in Dundee, and went for an interview. They said I could join from second year, but that I’d have to teach myself programming. I bought one of those ‘For Dummies’ books and enrolled! I would still play a lot of games with a bunch of friends, and we thought, why don’t we start a company together? We’ve been in Bromley for about 20 years now at least!
You’re one of Bromley’s biggest employers – how rapidly has the company grown?
It was actually quite gradual. It always surprises people how many people it takes to make a game. Our first game had about 14 people involved, the one after that had around 30, and then 60, 100, 200 – and now we’re at around 400 in our Bromley studio!
What has been the highlight of your career so far?
We’re so lucky to do what we do and it’s been amazing to work on some of the biggest gaming IPs (intellectual property) in the world – Doom, Quake, Halo. For me, we work with really talented people and every day is different. I love coming to work and learning new things. That’s the thing about games – new consoles, new systems and now AI! We’re always cutting edge. Right now, we’re working on a new Transformers game, which is the ninth biggest IP in the world.
How do you envisage AI affecting games and gaming development?
I love AI and I think it’s probably one of the biggest things to happen to this planet since the Industrial Revolution. I think it’s heavily underplayed and misunderstood. There are massive fears surrounding what it will do to the job market, for example. AI won’t replace people, people using AI will replace people. It still needs human input and it’s like having a superpower. It’s a good sounding board and takes away a lot of the monotonous tasks we have to do so I’m a big advocate for it!
As much as devices are a great way of switching off, what would you say to people who want to give their kids a more balanced childhood? Thinking back to my childhood, my dad would just pull the cable out so we weren’t able to play. Parents have to be far more cognisant of what their kids are playing and, now more than ever, there is a need for parental controls. From a positive perspective, gaming has introduced people to real-life communities. There is very much a social element to gaming. If you are someone that has a neurodivergence or you are introverted, it’s a great way of meeting new people without exhausting yourself. The whole studio is testament to that fact – we all met online and then started a company together!
What advice would you give to your younger self?
I wouldn’t be the person that I am if I hadn’t made the mistakes that I made – so make mistakes and learn from them.
Splash Damage is great at community involvement. Why is that important to you?
I think it’s deep-rooted in how we started. We came from a gaming community, a collective where people were sharing information and knowledge and people wanted to succeed together. We’re now here 20 years later and have the opportunity to give back. We’re really invested in supporting the local community as much as we can. We have a huge partnership with Bromley and Croydon Women’s Aid, who do great work. If there’s a way we can support, we’ll always try.
ACTIVITIES
Get Started Climbing Sessions
Adults 18yrs+ – every Tuesday & Thursday from 19:15-20:15.
Youth 8-17yrs – every Saturday & Sunday from 12:45-13:45 & 15:15-16:15.
Little Rhinos 4-7yrs – every Tuesday from 16:1517:15 and Sundays from 10:00-11:00.
Rhino Boulder, Unit 6 & 7 The Mall, Bromley, BR1 1TR
Cost: £21.50pp – use discount code IGS30M1 for 30% off your Get Started session!
Contact: Email bromley@rhinoboulder.co.uk or call 0208 0508720. See @rhinoboulder_bromley on Instagram and Rhino Boulder Bromley on Facebook.
Our Get Started session is a fun-filled taster of what bouldering is all about. Designed for those with little to no experience in bouldering, or if you’ve climbed before but feel a little rusty. A qualified instructors will get you exploring the climbs around the centre in a fun and relaxed environment.
For details see www.rhinoboulder.co.uk
Beckenham Place Parkrun
Saturdays, 9am
Beckenham Place Park, Beckenham Hill Rd, Beckenham, BR3 1SY
Cost: Free
Contact: Email beckenhamplace@parkrun.com
A free, fun, and friendly weekly 5k community event. Walk, jog, run, volunteer or spectate – it's up to you! This is a free event but you will need to register before you first come along. You only need to register once and remember to bring a scannable copy of your barcode (if you forget it, you won't get a time). For details see https://bit.ly/beckenhamparkrun
Bethlem Royal Hospital Parkrun
Saturdays, 9am
Bethlem Royal Hospital, Monks Orchard Road, Beckenham, BR3 3BX
A free, fun, and friendly weekly 5k community event. Walk, jog, run, volunteer or spectate – it's up to you! This is a free event but you will need to register before you first come along. You only need to register once and remember to bring a scannable copy of your barcode (if you forget it, you won't get a time). For details see https://bit.ly/bethlemparkrun
community & CHARITY
Macular Society Bromley Support Group
1st Tuesday of every month (except January and August)
10am for tea/coffee & biscuits. Meeting starts at 10:30am, finishing at 12pm Bromley Town Church, 2 Ethelbert Road, Bromley, BR1 1JA
Cost: Free
Contact: No need to contact - just turn up and introduce yourself
We are a local support group for people suffering with Age related Macular Degeneration (AMD). Being diagnosed with AMD can be devastating, so we look to provide social interaction and mutual support to those affected. We have a variety of speakers and a mixed and diverse programme. No need to book - just come along and introduce yourself!
Ever Thought About Fostering? (Online Information event)
Tuesday 13th August, 12:30pm-2pm (On Teams)
Cost: Free
Contact: Call 020 8461 7701 or email fostering@ bromley.gov.uk
Have you ever thought about fostering? Would you like to know more? Join us at our next online information session to learn more about becoming a foster carer and fostering with Bromley. The informal session is hosted by social work professionals and existing foster carers and whether you are ready to dive into making an application, or you are simply gathering information, the session will be most valuable in supporting you to understand more about fostering and how you can help change children's lives. For details see www.bromley.gov.uk/fostering
Your Bromley Midsummer Movies in association with Remoli 15th–17th August, 15th August: 2pm and 7pm. 16th & 17th August: 10am, 2pm, 7pm Queens Garden, Bromley town centre
Cost: Free
Contact: enquiries@yourbromley.com
Your Bromley is transforming Queen’s Gardens into a free ‘Midsummer Movies’ open-air movie theatre for three days this August. The big screen will show everything from family favourites to modern blockbusters. Headline sponsor, Remoli, who recently opened their pasta restaurant in The Glades, will be providing refreshments. The event is also supported by The Pavilion Leisure Centre. Tickets will be free to book, with the option to make a £10 charity donation to book a Your Bromley deckchair. Keep your eyes on Your Bromley’s website and social channels for tickets!
Get a free MOT for your bike from our fully qualified mechanics at one of our Dr Bike events where we can inspect your bike and fix minor faults such as brakes, chain, cables, gears and tyre pressure. We can also advise you on correct saddle height and help to fit your cycle helmet correctly. For details see bromley.gov.uk/ DrBike
u3a Talks: Dr Livingstone– A talk by Fran Sandham
Tuesday 20th August, 10.30am-12pm 4th Floor, Bromley Central Library, High St, Bromley, BR1 1EX
Cost: Members free, visitors £5
Contact: 020 8777 6345 or email membershipsecretary@u3abromley.org.uk
The story behind the legendary meeting in Africa in 1871 between the missing Explorer, Dr. David Livingstone, and the ambitious news reporter Henry Morton Stanley.
exhibitions & fairs
Exhibitions at Bethlem Museum of the Mind and Bethlem Gallery
Exhibitions at Bethlem Museum of the Mind and From 8th June: 'A World Apart'; and from 24 July: 'Our Eyes Will Dance'
Wednesday to Saturday, 9.30am-5pm (except public holidays)
Bethlem Royal Hospital, Monks Orchard Road, Beckenham, BR3 3BX
Cost: Free admission, donations welcomed.
Contact: Call 020 3228 4227. Workshops and free tours are also available to book online.
‘A World Apart’ is an exhibition of large paintings of scenes observed by art therapist and artist Charles Lutyens, great nephew to renowned architect Edward Lutyens. ‘Our Eyes Will Dance’ is a retrospective of Bethlem artist Courtney's work, exploring the human condition. For details see www.bethlemgallery.com and www.museumofthemind. org.uk
So Last Century's Vintage Market at the Mansion
Monday 26th August (Bank Holiday), 10am–5pm
The Mansion, Beckenham Place Park, Beckenham Hill Road, BR3 1SY
Cost: Free
The popular vintage market returns to The Mansion in Beckenham Place Park on the Bank Holiday Monday, with another great summer event. You’ll find the market brimming with around 50 of the best vintage traders inside and outdoors, plus street food and live music. The Mansion's resident artists also have their studios open to visit on the day.
For details see www.solastcenturyfair.co.uk
FAMILY
Monkey Music classes for babies and toddlers aged 0-4
Contact: Email: beckenham.orpington@monkeymusic. co.uk or call 020 3750 2228
Monkey Music is an award-winning music class for babies and toddlers. It has a 5 stage, progressive curricula, written by professional musicians to nurture a lifetime of music for you and your family with classes for ages between 0 months and 4 years. For details see www.monkeymusic.co.uk/area/beckenhamorpington
what's on
MUSIC, entertainment & FOOD
Mods & Rockers
30th August from 7pm
The Ravens Lounge, Bromley Football Club, Hayes Lane, BR2 9EF
Cost: £10 per ticket
Contact: Call 020 8460 5291 (option 3)
Join us for an unforgettable evening where the spirit of the 60s comes alive with the best beats from the Mod and Rocker eras. Whether you're a sharp-dressed Mod grooving to Northern Soul, Motown and ska, or a leatherclad Rocker ready to rock out to classic rock 'n' roll and rockabilly, we've got something for everyone. Expect live DJ sets spinning iconic tracks from both sides of the divide and a vintage fashion contest with prizes for the best-dressed. Come for the music, stay for the vibe. It's more than just a night out; it's a cultural experience. For details see www.bromleyfc.co.uk
Carefree Singers –
An Afternoon at the Musicals
Saturday 3rd August. Doors open at 2.30pm for a 3pm start. Runs until approximately 5pm.
Cost: £10 to include tea and cake. Free entrance for children under 12.
Theatre 62, Wickham Theatre Centre, Corkscrew Hill, West Wickham, BR4 9BA
Contact: Tickets to be booked in advance at christine. richards0025@gmail.com
Carefree Singers invite you to An Afternoon at the Musicals filled with music and mirth.
All your favourite songs and more – there will be cake!
NETWORKING & business
Bromley Business Network
Wednesday 14th & 28th August, 7am-9am On Zoom or in person at Bromley Football Club (Hospitality Suite), Hayes Lane, BR2 9EF
Cost: £12.50 on Zoom or £23 in person. The first meeting is free to attend. Contact: 07957 819008 or email hello@bromleybusinessnetwork.co.uk
We meet every other Wednesday from 7am-9.30am at Bromley Football Club. Attendance includes unlimited refreshments and a fully cooked breakfast buffet. Attendees can also Zoom into the meeting for £12.50, making it a hybrid meeting. For details see bromleybusinessnetwork.co.uk
theatre & Performances
Churchill Theatre, Bromley
Contact: tickets@churchilltheatre.co.uk
The Rocky Horror Show 19th–24th August
2.30pm, 5.30pm, 8pm & 9pm
Cost: Tickets from £22
The Rocky Horror Show is the story of two squeaky clean college kids – Brad and his fiancée Janet. When by a twist of fate, their car breaks down outside a creepy mansion whilst on their way to visit their former college professor, they meet the charismatic Dr Frank’n’Furter. It is an adventure they’ll never forget, filled with fun, frolics, frocks and frivolity. Ready to thrill you with fun and naughty moments, Richard O’Brien’s legendary rock ‘n’ roll musical comes to Bromley as part of its sell-out tour, having been seen by over 30 million theatregoers. Recommended for ages 12+.
The Northern Soul Classics Orchestra
29th August, 7:30pm
Cost: £31
The Northern Soul Classics Orchestra will take you on a musical journey that's steeped in nostalgia yet bursting with timeless energy. The rhythm section lays down a beat so deep you'll feel it in your bones, while the brass section blares with a force that can lift your spirits to new heights. Our four vocalists channel the spirit of Northern Soul with harmonies that send shivers down your spine and a stage presence that oozes charisma.
Cluedo 2
10th–14th September
2:30pm and 7:30pm
Cost: tickets from £22
The hit new whodunit show based on the classic boardgame comes to Bromley with a brand-new murder mystery starring West End and TV star Jason Durr as Colonel Mustard and award-winning actress and Strictly Come Dancing champion, Ellie Leach, playing Miss Scarlett. Set in the swinging 1960s, rock n roll legend Rick Black has not had a hit for years and he’s broke. But as he settles into his brand new, expensive home, Graveny Manor, Rick is desperate to revive his fading career and reclaim his fame and fortune…. and is prepared to do anything to get it back. A listing costs £15 or £60 for 6 months (£10 a month). Charities and non-profits are eligible for a 15% discount. Life In...Beckenham cannot be held responsible for any changes or cancellations of an event. We recommend you double check times, places & dates if attending an event listed.
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Pittsmead Grange is a beautiful new care home in Bromley, offering tailored care in the very best surroundings.
We’ll treat everyone as an individual, ensuring residents continue their much-loved hobbies and routines, and are served their favourite dishes in sociable dining rooms.
We welcome our first residents to Pittsmead Grange in August, but are open for visitors and we’d love to show you around.
Please call to arrange a visit:
Behind the Badge
INSIGHTS FROM THE SUPER
By the time you read this, we will have held the second iteration of the Bromley AntiSocial Behaviour Conference, following on from the first held earlier this year.
This is again being supported by the Safer Neighbourhood Board to bring together the community and partners to look at this important issue. The first conference was to jointly understand the issues and clearly identify key themes. The next stage is action, and we will form firm plans to start tackling this as a partnership. All key partners will be there such as Police, Council, Fire Brigade, Councillors and Community. We take this matter seriously and realise the impact it has on lives.
We have launched our new approach to Community Crime Fighting, and from July have been utilising our new computer system to really drive problem solving and innovative approaches. This puts Ward Panels at the heart of decision making, and we have formulated new data
dashboards in order for communities to make informed decisions based on data around what they want their team to focus on. If you want to be a part of these Ward Panels you can get in touch with your local team, we are keen to expand the membership.
As of this month, we once again have our own dedicated Licensing and Anti-Social Behaviour Team on the Borough with one Sergeant, five Constables and Civilian Support to really start improving our operations in this area. The team report to me and we no longer have to share them with Croydon and Sutton. This is a great improvement and adds to our capability following the return of a dedicated Superintendent, Chief Inspector and an uplift in Sergeants and Inspectors delivered over the last year. This gives us a stronger foundation to work on and improve our ability to fight crime.
Superintendent Luke Baldock Bromley Borough Neighbourhood Policing
Firefront line..
Be water aware!
As I write this month’s article I am once again looking at our prevention work across the Bromley Borough. Working together we can look at the risks we face and prepare for in our community.
Water safety
• Don’t go into the water if someone else is in trouble – call London Fire Brigade or the Coast Guard.
• Never drink alcohol and then go for a swim or attempt to jump into water.
• Avoid walking/running near water on your own or late at night - it’s easier than you think to slip and fall in.
Float to live
• Take a minute. The initial effects of cold water pass in less than a minute – don’t try to swim straight away.
• Relax and float on your back to catch your breath.
• Try to get hold of something that will help you float.
• Keep calm then call for help or swim to safety if you are able.
What do I do if you see someone in the water?
• If you go into the water to rescue people, pets or belongings, you could be putting yourself at risk as well.
• If you do see someone in the water there are steps you can take to help them:
o Dial 999 and ask for the fire service or coast guard
o If you don’t have a mobile phone, shout to raise the alarm, or go and get help.
o Try to give an exact location of where you are. Look around for any landmarks or signs; for example bridges will often have numbers on them which can identify their position.
o If a person is in trouble, keep talking to them, encourage them to stay calm and float on their back.
o Keep your eyes on the spot where you last saw them so you can tell the emergency services when they arrive.
o If there is life saving equipment such as a lifebuoy or a throwline nearby throw it to them. If not, throw anything that will float.
Chris Line, Borough Commander London Borough of Bromley, London Fire Brigade
community MAYOR’S VOICE
It has been an exciting start to my time as Mayor, with the Mayoress and I enjoying meeting many of you at over 60 events so far, which alongside all the engagements of the Deputy Mayor and Mayoress has meant many visits across our great borough.
During these travels, I have been struck by the fantastic tradition of volunteering and service in Bromley, with many of the inventive activities from schools, church fetes and community groups focused on promoting our green spaces and local health and wellbeing, two of my Mayoral themes for the year. Both of these were key features at Penge Festival, the Kesfest, Chislehurst Thrives and Biggin Hill Festival, but with many more examples across the borough. As well as protecting our green spaces, I have been delighted to join in looking after our waterways recently, with visits alongside Thames 21 and local volunteers to help clean the River Ravensbourne, and to assist in building a new stone dam to improve oxygen levels in the water.
There has also been huge sporting achievement for the borough recently, with Team Bromley winning the Jubilee Trophy at the London Youth Games.
Lines from Linda
What’s not to love about August? It’s the height of summer – the month of holidays, seaside visits and outdoor socials. And, as we have been enjoying some amazing weather, I am planning an outdoor barbecue for friends. Last year's was a complete disaster, so I have invited the same guests again (fingers crossed they will accept).
This year I have bought a brand new, top-of-the-range barbecue and ordered a variety of drinks. Nearer the time I will personally oversee the food and I won’t insist on vegetarian only, as I did last year. To each their own. Last year I had told everyone they would love my vegetarian barbecue. Think of the health benefits with extra vegetables, I told them. I ordered loads of veggie sausages, burgers and soya slices, tons of tomatoes, hundreds of peppers and enough onions to feed a million.
I had the pleasure of witnessing some of these great performances at Olympic Park and meeting some of those involved – a clear demonstration of what can be achieved by focusing on health and wellbeing locally. The start of my time as Mayor has also given much opportunity to recognise service, both to our borough and to our nation. Bromley’s Armed Forces Day flag raising ceremony was a particular highlight, as we came together to recognise and celebrate those who serve. As the Council continues with its work to uphold the Armed Forces Covenant and support our veterans, I have been delighted to join recent services and events across the borough, including to commemorate the 80th Anniversary of the D Day landings and a recent veterans service at the St George Chapel of Remembrance in Biggin Hill.
There is much going on across the borough this summer and while the Mayoral calendar is filling up, please do get in touch if you have events coming up, as we want to be a part of as much as we can and to thank those working to bring residents together.
Cllr David Jefferys Mayor of Bromley (2024-2025)
Find out more and stay connected at www.bromley.gov.uk /mayor
of my best kebab skewers, a piece of meat substitute, then tomato, pepper and onion. They were looking very appetising. As soon as I knew I had enough, I gonged my gong and hubby shouted ‘Ladies and Gentlemen please come and feed your faces!’
Last year I had told everyone they would love my vegetarian barbecue "
The guests arrived. The drinks had been chilled (not the red wine) and I had all the right outside glasses. I offered everyone a glass of bubbly as they arrived and, as the sun went down, we all raised our glasses to a good time ahead. Hubby then lit the barbecue and as my guests mingled and danced to Phil Collins music, I got on with chopping and creating great looking kebabs. Hubby was in charge of cooking the soya burgers and sausages, (He had bought himself a new plastic apron with ‘try my baps’ written across it). I was carefully cutting and creating, with the help
Our friends obeyed, all muttering complementary words about how appetising vegetarian truly was. Next thing they were all hopping up and down like frogs on hot stones. Most bolted for the water jugs, a couple even grabbed the garden hose. No one could speak to tell me what was happening. Then someone shouted, ‘Peppers.’ I was horrified. Nobody had warned me, not even the delicatessen shopkeeper that I bought the peppers from. They were the hottest pepper ever grown anywhere in the world. A tiny slither only was recommended in a large salad and I had cut large chunks and plaited them through the kebabs. Thankfully my guests forgave me, when the burning of their gums and the roofs of their mouths had calmed enough for them to speak.
This year, they are all invited again. And I have promised no peppers of any kind, and any food they want, be it meat or substitute. One learns by one’s mistakes. Although I seem to make more than most. Happy holidays.
For more about me and my crime novels see www.lindareganonline.co.uk
The Council’s Armed Forces Day Ceremony.
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Which gardens in Bromley do these gates belong to?
You see a boat filled with people, but there isn't a single person on board. How is that possible?
Which animal do these eyes belong to?
Which animal do these eyes belong to? Giraffe
How is that possible? all the people on the boat are married
You see a boat filled with people, but there isn't a single person on board.
What is full of holes but still holds water? a sponge
Which gardens in Bromley do these gates belong to? Gates at the entrance to Queens Gardens, Bromley
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Remarkable Residents community
Name: Rebecca Williams & Stella the cat!
Lives: Rebecca Williams lives in Beckenham and is the proud owner of Stella, Beckenham’s famous cat. What’s your day job Rebecca? I’m the head teacher of a pupil referral unit.
How did you come to adopting Stella? We wanted a cat as we have always had them so we looked at Romney House in Downe as they rescue all sorts of cats. When did Stella start going on adventures around Beckenham – and where has she been? She was quite adventurous from the outset. Exploring neighbours’ houses, garages and then getting further afield.
Does Stella have a tracker? Yes. We used to have our number on her collar but I used to get call after call from worried members of the public thinking she was lost or hurt – she’s very vocal!
There is a Stella Appreciation Group – when did you realise that Stella was becoming more well known? People posted about her on the Beckenham Appreciation Group including where they’d seen her, funny places she’d visited etc, but some people got fed up as they didn’t like cats. So the Stella Appreciation Group was set up so people could post and share the joy without the moaning ��
Have you noticed if Stella tends to wander the same routes or distance? Or is it random?
Book Bites
Literary delights read & reviewed by Bromley borough residents
FICTION
Title: Tunnel 29
Author: Helena Merriman
Publisher: Hodder and Stoughton
Reviewed by: Ken Tracey
An enthralling story of people confined by The Berlin Wall living in the German Democratic Republic. Joachim Rudolph was twenty-one when Berlin was divided in 1961. East Germans attempting to escape over the wall were shot dead by the guards and family left behind received callous treatment from the State Security Service (Stasi). So, Joachim, an engineering student, devised a plan to rescue people. He used his engineering skills to dig a tunnel from west to east. This is a tense story of the young people who gave a chunk of their lives to gruelling work under the risk of torture and death to help strangers to escape to freedom. The last chapter, is particularly moving. Merriman reveals the young heroes’ long lives after these events. Joachim married a teammate and they were still living in Berlin at the time the book was written.
I would give it a 5-star rating.
She goes through phases and routes. She’ll head to the same spot first for a week or so then move to a new one. At the moment she likes Hayne Road, the ambulance station and mind.
Have you noticed if Stella tends to wander the same routes or distance? Or is it random? She goes through phases and routes. She’ll head to the same spot first a week or so then move to a new one. At the moment she likes Hayne Road, the ambulance station and mind.
Does she ever wander too far for your liking? If we leave her out later than normal, she can get trapped in flats, most recently she ended up in Harris Green School overnight. She will follow people too and can end up a long way away.
Does Stella have her own social media channels? She has her own Instagram Stella_cat_of_beckenham
Please tell us anything else that you think we should know… what else does Stella enjoy? Stella went missing for several months. The public support in finding her was amazing and it never went away. People were so determined to find her. We actually accepted another rescue cat and the day we bought Bernie (the new cat home) was when Stella reappeared!
lifestyle
NON-FICTION
Title: London Like a Local Author: Florence Derrick, Marlene Landu and Olivia Pass (the locals)
Publisher: DK Eyewitness
Reviewed by: Lauretta Wright
Despite what you think you know about London there's always something new to learn and London Like a local is one of those books that has a lot to teach from the locals who live and work there.
Split into topics that include Eat, Drink, Shop, Arts & Culture, Nightlife and Outdoors, the easily digestible tips and suggestions will get you away from the tourist hotspots and immersed into quirky London.
There is a handy maps section (if you're more of a visual person) and my favourite sections included Rooftop Bars, Home Touches and Beloved Markets.
A strong 4 stars (would have got 5 if it included illustrations and/or pictures)
If you’ve read a book you’d like to review, please email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk with the details
Ask The Experts
by TORI HOWE
You asked – and they answered! Send your need-toknow questions to our local experts by emailing hello@ lifeinmagazines.co.uk with the subject line ‘Ask The Experts’
Q: The idea of planning a loved one's funeral at such a difficult time is daunting. How is it best to approach such an emotional task? Are there certain questions you should always ask to ensure you get the best from your Funeral Director?
Gary: Losing a loved one is dreadfully hard so it’s best to do some research. Make contact with a funeral home, call around. At the end of the day you’re entrusting your loved one in their care so it’s important you get a feel for them, and you trust them. You should ideally go and meet them in person and build a rapport. Approach a few for quotations, call nationals and independents — they’re all very different. Ask the directors what they can do for you? For your loved one? How can you best honour them? Ask to see options, every coffin, every hearse type. You don’t have to have a hearse, you don’t even have to have a funeral, you can have a memorial service instead. It’s all about bespoke requirements. Ask how they can best reflect your loved one’s life, their personality — ie can they wear a colour in their memory? A good Funeral Director will guide and support you.
Gary Valentine-Fuller, Valentine and Turner
Q: What are the best things people can do to stop getting burgled?
Tony: There are a number of points that you should look to follow that will significantly lower your chances of being burgled…
1. Upgrade Locks: Install British Standard locks on all doors and windows for increased resistance against force or picking. And don’t leave windows open when out, most burglaries are opportunistic.
2. Timer Switches: Use smart plugs to control lights and radios, simulating presence at home, especially when away.
3. Alarm System: Install a reliable, visible burglar alarm, preferably a monitored system for added security.
4. Motion-Activated Lighting: Set up motion-sensor lights around your property, particularly near entrances and dark areas.
5. Security Cameras: Place cameras in visible locations. Opt for models that can alert you upon detecting intruders.
Q: It’s becoming increasingly important to keep my information safe online from hacking, phishing scams and identity fraud. How do I best go about this? It can seem a bit overwhelming these days with so many pieces of tech, passwords and accounts to keep track of.
James: Keeping your online identity as tidy as possible will help limit fraud and exposure. Unsubscribing from any marketing emails, closing down any unwanted accounts and blocking suspicious emails will help you stay on track. Remove any personal data from data brokers and use a different password for each account will help you be as secure as possible. If you can enable 2 step authentications for any account then do so and use password managers to help you remember and suggest. Keeping your recovery details such as mobile number and spare email address up to date within your email account is also vital to make sure you never get locked out and have a way of proving you own it. To understand more on how to stay safe online and how to reduce your digital footprint you can contact a trusted business such as Our Tech to assist you further.
James Broomfield, Our Technician
6. Conceal Valuables: Store expensive items in a secure safe and keep them out of sight.
7. Car Keys: Never leave keys in sight through windows or reachable via a letterbox.
8. Neighbourhood Watch: Join community watch programs to enhance area security.
11. Social Media Caution: Don’t broadcast your absence on social platforms.
12. Store Tools Securely: Lock away ladders and tools that could aid in burglary.
13. Maintain Your Garden: Trim bushes and improve property visibility from the street.
Tony Aydiner, ADT Security Solutions
Food & Drink
MAKE THIS DELICIOUS BANOFFEE FRIDGE CAKE!
Too hot to bake? Make a fridge cake! Everyone knows banoffee pie tastes even better the day after making, when all the flavours have had a chance to meld. Here’s how to do it...
Ingredients:
• 200g digestive biscuits
• 100g unsalted butter, melted
• 1 tin (397g) dulce de leche or caramel
• 4 ripe bananas
• 300ml double cream
• 2 tablespoons icing sugar
• 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
• 100g dark chocolate, finely grated or shaved
• Optional: chocolate curls or additional grated chocolate for garnish
• Caramel condensed milk
Instructions:
1. Prepare the Base: Crush the digestive biscuits into fine crumbs. You can do this by placing them in a ziplock bag and bashing them with a rolling pin, or by using a food processor. Mix the crumbs with the melted butter until well combined.
2. Form the Crust: Press the biscuit mixture evenly into the base of a 20cm (8-inch) springform or loosebottomed cake tin. Use the back of a spoon to smooth it down and compact it. Chill in the fridge for about 30 minutes to set.
3. Add the Caramel Layer: Once the base is set, spread the dulce de leche or caramel evenly over the biscuit crust. Make sure it’s spread right to the edges. Chill in the fridge while you prepare the bananas.
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4. Prepare the Bananas: Slice the bananas and arrange them in a single layer over the caramel.
5. Whip the Cream: In a mixing bowl, whip the double cream with the icing sugar and vanilla extract until it forms soft peaks. Be careful not to over-whip.
6. Assemble the Cake: Spread the whipped cream over the bananas in an even layer. Sprinkle the grated or shaved dark chocolate over the top.
7. Chill: Place the cake back in the fridge and let it chill for at least 2-3 hours, or preferably overnight, to allow the layers to set and the flavours to meld.
8. Serve: When ready to serve, carefully remove the cake from the tin. Garnish with chocolate curls or extra grated chocolate if desired. Slice and enjoy your delicious Banoffee Fridge Cake!
Tip: Keep the cake in the fridge until ready to serve. It should stay fresh for up to 2 days.
International Beer Day
Fancy a high protein snack? Bodega has launched new snack boxes. Whether for a picnic or the daily commute, the snack packs – choose from Chorizo or Smoky Salami –are high in protein, a good source of calcium and under 250 calories per pack. See www.mybodega.co.uk
Did you know that August 2nd is International Beer Day? It was started in 2007 in Santa Cruz, California by Jesse Avshalomov and has grown into a worldwide event over the years, with beer enthusiasts and breweries around the world participating in the celebration. The event is not only about enjoying beer, but also about appreciating the craft and artistry behind brewing. In addition to tasting different types of beer, many people also take part in beer-themed events and activities on this day.
Thank you to local illustrator, Sam Richards, for this month’s illustration. You can follow Sam on social media @samricharts2.
Specifically, International Beer Day has three declared purposes:
• To gather with friends and enjoy the taste of beer
• To celebrate those responsible for brewing and serving beer
• To unite the world under the banner of beer, by celebrating the beers of all nations together on a single day
1. Digital Detox - Reduce screen time and take breaks from devices to focus on real-world interactions and boost mental health.
2. Meal Prep - Plan and prepare meals in advance to save time and reduce daily cooking stress.
3. Create Routines - Establish daily routines to streamline tasks and reduce decision fatigue.
4. Automate Bills - Set up automatic bill payments to avoid late fees and save time.
5. Use a Calendar - Keep a detailed calendar for important dates and deadlines to stay organised.
6. Prioritise Tasks - Focus on high-priority tasks first to boost productivity and ensure important work gets done.
7. Simplify Wardrobes - Opt for a capsule wardrobe with versatile pieces to reduce clothing decisions.
8. Limit Social Media - Reduce social media time to lessen distractions and improve wellbeing.
9. Delegate Tasks - Delegate tasks at work and home to lighten your load and focus on what you can do best.
10. Use To-Do Lists - Maintain a daily to-do list to stay organised and on track.
11. Simplify Cleaning - Create a manageable cleaning schedule to keep your home tidy without overwhelming yourself.
12. Unsubscribe from Unwanted EmailsReduce inbox clutter by unsubscribing from unnecessary newsletters and promotional emails.
13. Simplify Tech Gadgets - Use multifunctional devices to reduce the number of gadgets you manage.
14. Practice Gratitude - Focus on appreciating what you have, to foster contentment and happiness.
15. Minimalist Décor - Opt for minimalist décor to create a calming, clutter-free environment.
16. Simplify Shopping - Make a shopping list to avoid impulse purchases and buy only what you need.
17. Eat Simply - Choose nutritious, easy-to-prepare meals to save time in the kitchen.
18. Limit Notifications - Turn off non-essential notifications to reduce distractions.
19. Practice Self-Care - Prioritise regular self-care to maintain physical and mental well-being.
20. Seek Help When Needed - Don’t hesitate to ask for help from friends, family, or professionals when feeling overwhelmed.
If you're struggling to get motivated, break down your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. This will make them seem less daunting and help you to get started.
Parents spend a month doing laundry!
A study by Cleanipedia reveals parents and carers spend an average of six hours a week doing and sorting the laundry (roughly six loads a week).
An expert from Cleanipedia said: “Although the number of wash loads we do may be impossible to avoid with muddy sports kits and messy school uniform, there are ways in which all of us can wash smarter and cut down the time spent doing laundry, whilst saving cash too.”
Smarter laundry top tips
• Regularly clean your machine – this will prevent clothes from coming out dirty and needing to be re-washed.
• Lowering the temperature on the wash or even washing on cold will save money.
• Running a shorter cycle where possible will also help.
• Separate your colours from your whites to increase the longevity of your clothing, saving you cash in the long run.
• Wait for a full load but make sure you don’t overload the machine – it can be tempting to do this to reduce the number of loads you need to do, but the washing won’t be cleaned properly and may need re-washing. There should be enough room after you’ve put your load in for you to be able to make a fist with your hand at the top of the drum.
• Using versatile products that are going to be affective on a variety of fabrics at a range of temperatures will make your wash more effective.
• Speed up drying time by adding a dry towel to your tumble dryer to absorb extra moisture – this will mean the tumble-drying run is shorter.
Short Story
LIVIN’ ON A PRAYER
by JAMES STEVEN CLARK
It was my second consecutive new year spent in Brighton with good friends. The kind of place that designs your evening in unexpected ways, and we all couldn’t wait to return.
And, once again, it was a night that didn’t disappoint: replete with frequent bouts of unbridled hilarity, ably assisted by a shot or two of Tuaca (of course), pinched between increasingly unsteady, sticky fingers. Bring in 2024 with a bang. Why not?
This year, at a point shortly before the midnight call, I listened to my best pal describe the dark place he was in.
Propped by the bar, dressed to the nines in a smart, velvet jacket, and a cut-away collared shirt, he only has to open his mouth and charisma flows: people gather; people laugh. But despite the excitement of securing a new job –and a whole gamut of additional benefits – life’s constant erosions had ground him down. He’d celebrated his 50th this year, and taken stock of his life-course since moving to this country in 2004. It was a hard, but necessary listen. Occasions like these frequently pull us back to reflection, and I could see how deep his tired roots had set. Clogged, wilting. A shimmering façade, but a degree of bleakness within.
Friends advise when they can, but - surrounded by the lights, music and razzamatazz - his was a poignant and contrasting moment where words quite simply won’t cut it, because he’s heard them all before, and he’s smart. So, I listened, instead. That’s all I could do.
Then, right at the exact point he’d finished speaking, something surprisingly precise occurred. It was inexplicable, certainly unexpected. The DJ, adept at supplementing the party atmosphere, suddenly stopped belting out banging dance tunes, and launched into Bon Jovi…
Livin’ on a Prayer.
A complete opposite to anything he’d played prior that evening by a country-mile. And the entire pub erupted. Some 37 years since its release, revelers half (and definitely twice) the song’s age, were sharing connecting sentiments - bellowing out words to the anthem of the weary and down-trodden, and all with heartfelt conviction. Lyrics like these are timeless, priceless; painting a reality more real than a solitary, new year’s celebration.
For the first few bars of the famous opening riff, my friend and I… just knowingly nodded at each other. He’d outlined the bare bones of his world, and now they were being sung back to him. Judging from the raucous choir around us - not only him. We share a deep appreciation of live music, and immediately piled-in, singing a chorus well above our vocal range – as did everyone else - but it didn’t matter, not to anyone standing there in the Saint James Tavern, in fact.
Because sometimes the new year is just like the old. You’re down on luck, the union’s on strike, and you’re working every hour, living on a prayer; living for the fight. It’s all that you’ve got. But, you’re halfway there…
Whether or not Livin’ on a Prayer is taken literally or metaphorically, in that distinctly timely moment (hanging within a two-second pause between tunes), an alternate perspective presented - a reminder - hitting a whole lot harder than any advice I could ever give. All I had to do was point at the decks, and we both knew.
Even when you care deeply, but are short on words, sometimes, the simple act of being there with your friends - is the prerequisite for interesting, unexpected doors to open, that you both can share.
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A Final Thought… lifestyle
Let’s get our children outdoors!
by JULIA PACKWOOD
Children today are spending much less time outdoors – and this needs to change. Childhood is now very different to previous generations, with fast paced technology advancements and ‘screentime’ becoming the norm.
Think back to your own childhood memories. As a child of the 80s I spent many happy afternoons with friends in my local woods, provided I returned in time for tea! As a parent today, I appreciate times are now different but it’s important that we try to reclaim a sense of freedom outdoors for our children.
Children learn through outdoor play
Beckenham Place Park has ancient woods and lots of space to explore. Kelsey Park offers opportunities to spot local wildlife, especially birds. Many other local outdoor areas offer a variety of playgrounds and natural green spaces to play and explore.
3 tips to start spending more time as a family outdoors
Your child can gain many skills by playing outdoors. Natural spaces offer fantastic open-ended learning opportunities such as observing minibeasts, building vocabulary, imaginative play, problem solving skills and lots more.
Time outdoors also improves children’s physical development and resilience. Physical activity (gross motor – large scale whole body movements) is really important as this supports core strength and promotes a healthy lifestyle. The outdoors provides opportunities for climbing, running across open grassy fields and being very active. Taking on a challenge such as balancing on logs gives children valuable opportunities to develop perseverance by getting up and trying again if they don’t succeed.
Spending time outdoors in nature is a mindfulness activity. Going on a simple walk in a green space can boost wellbeing. Be present by noticing nature around you such as the buds on plants or tuning into the sound of birdsong.
Simply be still and focus on the breath. Take a deep breath in, pause and then exhale (aim for this to be longer than the inhale). This helps to regulate the nervous system and is a useful tool to teach our children too.
Many of us spend our working life each day on devices and many children are spending an increasing amount of their downtime on screens too. Being outdoors offers a break from this and it’s a wonderful way to connect as a family. We are very fortunate to have wonderful green spaces available in our local parks.
1. Be prepared for the weather: There is a famous saying by Alfred Wainwright “There’s no such thing as bad weather, only unsuitable clothing.” Plan ahead by checking the local weather and dress accordingly. British summers (as we all know), are often changeable so remember to pack a lightweight coat or umbrella just in case!
2. On a sunny day: Apply a high SPF factor sunscreen, wear lightweight clothing e.g. cotton to help keep cool and a sunhat. Keep hydrated, seek out shade e.g. under a tree and avoid the hottest times of the day, such as early afternoon when temperatures are high (seek further advice on this from the NHS website).
3. On a rainy day: Wear waterproof/water resistant coats and wellington boots. Keep warm by being active outdoors with a fast-paced walk and puddle jumping! Rainy days are often great for finding minibeasts under damp logs.
Make going out in nature part of your daily routine. Even if it’s just for ten minutes to do a brisk walk around the local area, making it part of your daily routine will begin to establish this as a healthy habit. If possible, walk to school with your child and take the longer route back home via your local greenspace. You don’t need to become the next Steve Backshall to get outd/oors with your children! Simply follow your child’s lead and be playful. Look up at the leaves in the trees, play games and talk about what you can see in nature.
Julia Packwood is a highly experienced teacher, Forest School Leader and local business founder. You can join her book club starting in September in collaboration with Beckenham Bookshop.
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