Life In Orpington June 2023

Withthe launch of The ABBBAs, now’s the time to highlight and celebrate local businesses. You can nominate someone for Community Hero, Business Individual or Personality of The Year in the Above & Beyond Bromley Business Awards (The ABBBAs) – see page 47 for all the details!

A few new announcements this month - on page 23 (or scan the QR code) we’ve launched a new reader survey where we pick your brains as to what you like (or don’t) about this magazine, with the chance to win a £50 gift card for doing so!

Also, in Chapter & Verse (p11), local resident and new columnist, Zoe Hill, gives us the lowdown on what she’s reading – and more importantly, if it’s worth picking up!

Finally, in a brand-new column from the head of Bromley Borough Neighbourhood Policing, Superintendent Luke Baldock offers an insight into his background, what his job entails and what the Met’s priorities are in keeping our borough safe – have a read on page 19. Enjoy the issue!

Lauretta Wright, Editor

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Saints Sled Dog Rescue

I'd love to enter our two into the pet pics. On the left is Star, she's our latest foster for Saints Sled dog rescue. She's a lovely 3yr old Pomski, who's just learning that the world isn't that scary after all. On the right is our 4 yr old Labsky boy, who is calmly teaching her the ropes.

Sam Wade

Thanks for sending in your lovely picture Sam - and we’re delighted to see Star is doing so well. You’ve won a £15 One4All Gift Card to buy your special pups a treat!

Poetry corner

Fresh and free

Though curtains close on time- a nd age-washed love,  And dream-clad visions past have ceased to be;

Still will my soul sing out its fragrant joy At memories not lost - but fresh and free.

David Alston

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THIS MONTH WE…

Enjoyed a visit from Lee

Life In…Magazines’

Popped in to see Heather (left) and Sue at Orpington’s Time For Flowers, sponsors of the Local Hero articles.

Thomas in the office. Pictured with Lee is

graphic designer, Nicky Grant.

Visited the amazing Landing Hotel at Biggin Hill Airport, courtesy of Melissa (left) and Georgina. The rooms are stunning and lunch (or Afternoon Tea) in the hotel’s restaurant is a must!

The strike at Biggin Hill

by PAM PREEDY, historian & author

The RAF opened their station at Biggin Hill in 1917. It remained open after the war. In 1919 there were 500 men of the Wireless Experimental station stationed at South Camp. The living conditions at that time were appalling; most sleeping in tents in a sea of mud. The dining hall, too, was a leaky canvas hangar equally muddy and the food, prepared in an open, rusty shed, was almost inedible.

In spite of many complaints to the authorities nothing changed. After a particularly unpalatable meal in January 1919 a meeting was held and the men voted overwhelmingly in favour of strike action. The ‘Red Flag’ was sung, but calls for more radical actions such as a march down Piccadilly smashing windows en route were refused.

The next morning no one turned out for duty. An orderly, wanting to know what was happening, was refused entry to the dining hall by a sergeant and two men refusing to recognise his authority. The men removed magnetos from all vehicles in the camp, including those belonging to civilian contractors and when men from the 141 Squadron in North Camp refused to intervene, the strike committee had achieved complete control. A deputation was sent to the Commanding Officer, Colonel Blanchy (the new RAF ranks had not been fully introduced) and presented the following demands:

1. No man to be victimised.

2. Unless we receive a satisfactory answer from the Commandant we will put our case before Lord Weir, i.e. our deputation will proceed to his quarters.

(a) The men state that when they go "sick" the Medical Officer says that their complaints are due to the disgraceful conditions of the camp food and sanitary arrangements.

(b) Names of the men who can bear witness to the above statement can be supplied if necessary.

(c) We demand that Major __ shall be dismissed from this unit.

(d) Leave to be carried on in the normal way.

(e) The men demand that they leave the camp until it is put into a habitable condition by the civilian employees.

(f) Temporary release of those men who have

jobs waiting and those who want to get jobs pending discharge. While the men are at home demobilisations must continue, and the men be advised by letter or telegram.

(g) Abolition of work on Saturday afternoons and Sundays.

(h) Restrictions placed on Y.M.C.A. to be removed and prices in canteen to be lowered.

(i) Efficient transport to be provided for officers, NCOs and men.

3. Grievances.

Sanitary:

(a) Wash-house - only 5 basins for 500 men.

(b) Wet feet - no gum boots issued.

(c) Dirty and leaking huts.

(d) NO BATHS.

(e) Inefficient latrines.

Food:

(a) Shortages.

(b) Badly cooked.

(c) Dirty cook-house staff.

(d) Dining Hall in a disgraceful condition.

(e) Fully trained cooks should be substituted for present inefficient youths.

THESE DEMANDS TO BE CONCEDED BY NOON TODAY.

Clearly Blanchy thought they had a case and agreed to take the delegation to the Area HQ at Covent Garden! The men agreed, and the magnetos were replaced in a sufficient number of vehicles to transport the delegation. Meanwhile the rest of the camp remained on strike. The delegation resulted in an inspection of the camp by the area second in command. The outcome: the whole camp was immediately sent on leave for ten days, during which time conditions were drastically improved and the other demands largely conceded. When the strike ended there was no victimisation. This limited but solid struggle had met with success.1

1Source: RAF Biggin Hill by Graham Wallace, Putman, 1957. Edited from Mutinies, by Dave Lamb, which is extensively footnoted.

Pam Preedy

Hurricanes over Biggin Hill

Image Mike Rivett. Thanks to London Biggin Hill Airport

Crowning Christine

ChildAid Charity Golf Day

This year’s ChildAid Charity Golf Day takes place at Chelsfield Lakes Golf Club on Friday 22nd September from 9am-6pm. Arrival at 9am for a bacon roll, tea and coffee followed by 18 holes of golf. There will be a Putting competition with a £50 cash prize, as well as prizes for nearest the pin and nearest the line, best team score, and individual score for Ladies and Men. The day ends with a two-course meal followed by an auction and prize giving. Not a golfer? Join us for the afternoon meal and prize giving and enjoy a two-course meal, coffee and mints for just £20. Book your teams in quickly to avoid disappointment. For details email charitymanager@childaidee.org.uk or see www.childaidee.org.uk/event/golf-2023

Gracious Care is proud to announce that its Director, Christine McNamara, has been awarded the ‘Most Compassionate Elderly and Dementia Home Care Company Owner’ by Acquisitions International. Christine said: “Winning this award is very important as we strive every day to be compassionate in everything we do. It’s a team effort, so it’s a team award!”  Meanwhile, the company is seeking evening and weekend staff to work a couple of evenings a week (from 6pm9.30pm) or at weekends (8am-10am then 6pm-9.30pm).

Visit www.graciouscare.co.uk/recruitment for more information and to complete an application form.

Ride on time

Car fanatic JJ, who is supported by the charity Diagrama Foundation, was invited to fulfil a lifetime ambition to experience the speed of racing around Brands Hatch. The charity approached championship racing driver and coach, Alex Nevill, to ask if he might make JJ’s dream come true by taking him around the Brands Hatch circuit in his race car and without hesitation Alex agreed.

JJ said: “I loved it! We took the corners really fast and the tyres were losing grip and skidding. We went speeds up to 100mph. Brilliant."

To find out more about the Diagrama visit www.diagramafoundation.org.uk

Ward Panel secretary – can you help?

Pictured, from the left, are: Chair of the Safer Neighbourhood Ward Panel, Martin Douthwaite; Cllr Robert Evans; PCSO Julia Smith; and Cllr Charles Joel.

The Safer Neighbourhood Ward Panel for Farnborough and Crofton needs a panel secretary to take minutes at its quarterly meetings, and to send these, and email reminders of forthcoming meetings, to the panel members. Meetings are currently held at Keniston Housing offices in Artington Close, Farnborough, on a weekday evening starting at around 6.30pm, and usually lasting an hour or hour and a half. The ward panel is apprised of local issues by the policing team, and a discussion is held to decide what the priorities for the team should be for the following three months. The meeting is friendly and fairly informal, the panel being made up of local residents, business representatives and ward councillors. If you can offer your help please contact the team by email at  FarnboroughCroftonSNT@met.police.uk

Orpington Gospel Choir

Do you love singing? Come and join us at Orpington Gospel Choir!

No audition and no prior experience is necessary - just a love of singing gospel songs. Harmonies are simple.

Mondays 7:45pm-9.30pm at Christ Church, 165 Charterhouse Road, Orpington BR6 9EP.

Email us at orpingtongospelchoir@ gmail.com or just turn up! Everyone is welcome.

Let’s Talk Better is a new campaign in the Bromley borough that aims to inspire better conversations. It was founded by two residents, Mindset and Wellbeing Coach, Zeenat Noorani, and Darren Weale, a PR Consultant, who also jointly presents the Bromley Buzz podcast. The debut event was recently held in Bromley and welcomed stories from a range of guest speakers including Mark Browne of SMB Record Management; Oliver Anderson, a local singer and songwriter; and the Mayor of Bromley, Cllr Hannah Gray, followed by an interactive session with attendees. The new campaign has pledged to support Bromley-based charity CASPA, which provides support and enriching experiences to autistic/neurodivergent children, young people and their families.

The Let’s Talk Better campaign will hold its third event in September. Themed ‘The Last Taboo’, it will focus on the benefits of normalising conversations around currently taboo topics. See www.letstalkbetter.org

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A buzz about town COURAGEOUS CRAIG

My name is Craig and in March last year I quit my job in Bromley and flew out to help Ukraine following the invasion by Russia. I spent three months working in a refugee centre and at a humanitarian aid hub on the border, before travelling to Ukraine to help women and children find sponsors and come to safety in the UK. I am now planning to return to Ukraine, so if you would like to support my next mission please visit my GoFundMe page -

https://gofund.me/25c0dd89

Go Radfield!

Radfield Home Care Bromley, Orpington & Beckenham were out in force recently to welcome the Orpington community to its launch event. Pictured from Radfield Home Care are, from the left: Chanice Baugh-Fredericks, Helen Jones, Simi Ghuman and Sam Sanderson.

The Bromley Buzz podcast (and social media and website www. bromleybuzz.uk) has welcomed a new sponsor, Orpington-based Ian Wood of Ian Wood Property, working with Nested.com/Orpington. Founder and co-presenter of the podcast, Darren Weale, said: “Ian is a communityminded person and is also proud to be sponsoring newlypromoted local rugby team, Westcombe Park RFC. Ian’s sponsorship will mean that the Bromley Buzz can grow even bigger and better!”

St Christophers is launching ‘What Matters Most’ –a 36-hour fundraising campaign from 8am on Sunday 25th  June  to 8pm on Monday 26th June. The campaign will see team champions  galvanise  their networks  to donate to the hospice  with every donation  being  doubled, thanks to match funding secured. With times particularly tough at the moment, the hospice needs support now more than ever to ensure their vital work can continue. The charity is seeking 200 people to become St Christopher’s Team Champions and commit to networking with their friends, family and colleagues from 25-26 June.

For more information visit  www.stchristophers.org.

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TOP OF THE GREEN LEAGUE

It’s official: Bromley is now London’s top recycling borough, with almost half of household waste being recycled. The government statistics, released by Defra, reveal that our borough recycled 48.7% of all household waste in the financial year 2021/22, with residents being thanked for their continued recycling and waste minimisation efforts. The statistics show that in total, Bromley recycled or composted 62,590 tonnes.

BizComm: Network to fundraise!

If you’re a local business owner or community group looking for new ways to broaden your audience and your customer base, consider taking part in BizComm on Thursday 6th July from 7pm- 9.15pm at the Bromley Court Hotel. Organised by The Chartwell Charities, the event will feature guest speakers, rotational networking and is being held to raise money for Mary How Trust, Freddie Farmer Foundation and the Chartwell Cancer Trust.

Tickets cost £20 from bit.ly/bizcomm23. Call Jo on 01959 570322 or email jo@chartwellcancertrust.co.uk for more information.

SUPPORTING LOCAL AUTHORS…

For 15 years Jo Clegg has worked in TV and radio on comedy shows for the BBC and Channel 4. Now she writes books, and scripts for kids' animation including BAFTA and Emmy-award winning Hey Duggee. Her first novel, The Summer Holiday (published by Orion) was joined by a second last summer: Here Comes The Sun - a warm, nurturing, optimistic novel set in Orpington about community, family and finding your way back after a loss.

Why did you decide to write a book and how was the experience?

I'd been writing scripts for years but wanted to see if it would be a deeper emotional experience, which it was.

Who is your latest book aimed at?

Daughters, mothers... and anyone who knows one!

Are there any more books in the pipeline?

Definitely. I have an idea about a family set in the 1970s but it will be a while before it sees the light of day.

How much is your book and where is it available for people to buy? It's currently £7 on Amazon or can be ordered through any book shop.

Linda Regan is both an actress and crime novelist, with nine novels published to date. They are all police procedural, and feature Detective Inspector Paul Banham and his Sergeant Alison Grainger, who have an on-off romance and relationship. Linda lives in Bromley and is also a regular columnist of Life In…Magazines.

What’s your latest novel, The Burning Question, about?

I have nine crime novels published to date. They are all police procedural, and feature Detective Inspector Paul Banham and his Sergeant Alison Grainger. These two also have an on-off romance and relationship.

Who is your latest book aimed at?

My latest book, The Burning Question, is aimed at all crime readers as well as anyone who wants a good read.

Are there any more books in the pipeline?

Yes, there is another book coming out later this year or early next year.

How much is your book and where is it available for people to buy?

My books are available on Amazon and can be ordered from all good bookshops.

If you’re a local author or know of one, email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk for the chance to be featured.

World record attempt

BROMLEY INDOOR BOWLS CENTRE IN ORPINGTON

Welcomes New Members

Bowls is a gentle healthy exercise sport for all ages. Come and look around our eight rink bowls club with it’s Bar and Restaurant then enjoy a FREE TRIAL SESSION with one of our qualified bowls coaches We’ll provide the bowls, all you need is a clean pair of flat soled shoes.

The Big Lunch coronation tea party at Broomhill

Common in Orpington saw nearly 540 people join forces in an attempt to break a world record for the "largest human image of a crown". Organised by local resident, Steve Sangster, chair of The Knoll Residents Association and local drone operator, the event saw attendees wear coloured ponchos and organised into a crown shape so that Stephen’s drone could capture the image. The group has now submitted the evidence to Guinness World Records.

Give our reception team a call on: 01689 834341 after 10am Monday to Saturday or just pop in and book your trial session on a day and time that suits you.

Bromley Indoor Bowls Centre in ORPINGTON

Bodmin Close off Gilmans Road, Orpington BR5 X4L

Chapter & Verse

In our new regular book review column, local resident Zoe Hill (see @zoelovesbooks_ on Instagram), gives us the lowdown on what she’s reading – and more importantly, if it’s worth picking up!

I’ve loved books and reading as far back as I can remember. My Dad was a very keen reader and I always remember him with a book in hand. He definitely influenced my love of reading and one of my happiest childhood memories was going to our local library. Instagram has a dedicated hashtag to all things books which is #bookstagram - the friendliest little corner of the internet and something I get huge pleasure out of. It’s a great community of people who read and share reviews and I can be found on there at @zoelovesbooks_ I hope to encourage as many people as possible to find the pleasure in reading and so I am extremely excited to be bringing my book reviews to Life In...Magazines

Title: Go As A River

Author: Shelley Read

Published: 13/04/2023

Publisher: Doubleday

No of pages: 320

RRP: £16.99

On a cool autumn day in 1948, Victoria Nash delivers late-season peaches from her family's farm set amid the wild beauty of Colorado. As she heads into her village, a dishevelled stranger stops to ask her the way. How she chooses to answer will unknowingly alter the course of both their young lives forever.

Go As A River is Read’s debut novel, and it is truly stunning. If you’ve read and loved Where the Crawdads Sing, this book will transport you in just the same way; the writing is so descriptive that you can almost taste the juicy peaches. Victoria is such a memorable and well written character, you will be immersed in her story and unable to put the book down. Utterly heartbreaking at times, this is a coming of age story, which covers themes of grief, loneliness, love, loss, hope and survival. This is a book which will stay with you long after you’ve finished the last page.

Go As A River is historical fiction as its finest, a truly unforgettable book. An easy 5 stars.

It would have been hard to finish my term of office as your Mayor of Bromley with an event more momentous, important and spectacular than the Coronation of King Charles III and Queen Camilla.

It has been quite the year, but it feels perfectly fitting to me that my tenure as Mayor came to an end by spending the bank holiday weekend joining as many residents as possible at street parties across the borough. What an honour both to be able to read the King’s message to our brilliant residents and to be so warmly welcomed at so many of your fantastic street parties. Thank you, you did Bromley proud again. I managed to fit in one final trip to Bromley FC, who have become great friends over the last year, to support their dementia-friendly afternoon, which is a fantastic initiative. I also visited the Orpington Dementia Club for an early coronation celebration.

There was also time for one last charity event, the 4-mile Whittington Walk. Held on London Marathon weekend, but a little less taxing, this involved a number of London Mayors walking from the Whittington Hospital to Islington Town Hall. Money raised from that event went towards the more than £41,000 raised for Everybreath and the Bromley Care Leavers Come Dine With Us project over the course of the year. I would like to take this opportunity to say thank you again to everyone who

supported my charities, and for the warmth and welcome you have shown me during my year as Mayor. It has been the honour of my lifetime, which I will never forget. I am eager to see what the new Mayor, Cllr Mike Botting, does with his year.

Cllr Hannah Gray Mayor of Bromley (2022-23)

Welcome from the new Mayor of Bromley

It is the greatest honour to be named Mayor of Bromley, one that I embrace with dignity, integrity and enthusiasm. I have lived in Bromley for 44 years and brought up four wonderful children here. My year as Mayor offers me another way to give something back to the community that has given me so much. I really want to be a Mayor for the entire Borough, so I will spend the next year visiting residents in every corner of Bromley. I want to support absolutely everyone from every walk of life throughout our fantastic community, from the borough’s youngest to its eldest, from volunteers to businesses. If you would like me to attend an event of any sort, please do get in touch through the Mayor’s Office. I look forward to meeting you over the course of the year.

Cllr Mike Botting Mayor of Bromley (2023-24)

Cllr Mike Botting

what's on

community & CHARITY

Bromley Pageant of Motoring

Sunday 11th June, 9.30am-5pm

Norman Park, Bromley, Kent, BR2 9EF

Cost: Advance tickets (booking fees apply) – public entry - Adult £12, Family (2 adults & 2 children)

£28, Child (5-15) £5, under 5s free. On the gate prices: Adult - £17, Child £5, Family £39, Under 5s free.

Contact: Email bromleypageant@a-me.co.uk or call 07375-554420

Featuring car clubs, our famous One Make Parking, a packed trade area, autojumble, live action arena, a fun fair and much more, Bromley Pageant of Motoring is a great family day out! For more information see www.bromleypageant.co.uk

Macular Society Bromley Support Group

1st Tuesday of every month (except Jan & Aug)

Bromley Town Church, 2 Ethelbert Road, Bromley, BR1 1JA

10am for tea/coffee & biscuits.

Meeting starts at 10:30am, finishing at 12pm

Cost: Free

Contact: No need to contact - just turn up and introduce yourself.

We are a local support group for people suffering with Age related Macular Degeneration (AMD). Being diagnosed with AMD can be devastating, so we look to provide social interaction and mutual support to those affected. We have a variety of speakers and a mixed and diverse programme. No need to book - just come along and introduce yourself!

u3a Orpington

Third Monday of the month at 2pm Crofton Main Hall, Orpington, BR6 8PR

Cost: £12 a year

Contact: Membersadmin@u3aorpington.org.uk or call 07732 005819

If you are retired or working part-time, why not join nearly 1,000 other members for access to over 95 different activities. Refreshments are provided.

Health & fitness

8bar

Dance Classes

Every Sunday at 6pm (Salsa + Kizomba Intermediate)

Every Sunday at 7pm (RnB and Bachata for Beginners)

BUSC, Club 33, London Road, Bromley, BR1 1DG

Cost: £10 until 25th June

Contact: Email ned.itm@me.com or visit 8bar.co.uk Get fit dancing! ‘8bar’ is a new dance system for mind and body. These are not the usual Salsa, Bachata and Kizomba classes as the counting system is very different, come and try it!

Your

Flin's Online & Live Fitness Classes

See website for class dates & times

Cost: PAYG £5 - £8

Contact Fran: 07976 412027 www.flinsfitness.co.uk

Online streaming plus live offerings - 40+ classes a week, early mornings, mid mornings and evenings, including weekend classes. Box Fit, Total Body

Conditioning, Yoga Mobility & Yoga Flow, Pilates, Zumba, Cross Training, Back2Fit, Pump and more: fitness for all! Mornings at Westcombe Park RFC, evenings at Tubbenden School.

Mel Crisp Yoga

Tuesday evening 7pm at Christ Church URC, Petts Wood - Vinyasa Flow Class (1hr)

Cost: PAYG £12 or 4 classes for £40.

Tuesday at 8.15pm at Christ Church URC, Petts Wood – Hatha Flow (45mins)

Cost: PAYG £9 or £30 for a block of 4 classes

Wednesday at 9.45am at Orpington Village HallHatha Yoga classes (1hr)

Mixed ability and beginners welcome at both classes.

Cost: PAYG £12, Block Payment Classes £40 for 4 consecutive classes. First PAYG class is free. Contact: Mel on 07504 855 424. Email melcrisp41@ icloud.com www.melcrispyoga.com

First class is free when mentioning Life In Orpington magazine libraries

Did you know that the borough’s libraries run a variety of events throughout the month?

Check their websites via www.better.org.uk/library/ london/bromley or call them for more information.

Orpington

Contact: 01689 831551

Email: Orpington.library@gll.org

Petts Wood

Contact: 01689 821607

Email: Pettswood.library@gll.org

Southborough

Contact: 020 8467 0355

Email: southborough.library@gll.org

St Paul’s Cray

Contact: 0208 300 5454

Email: stpaulscray.library@gll.org

essential what's on guide for events, activities, clubs and much more in and around Orpington. There's something for everyone! We’re looking

MUSIC, entertainment & FOOD

Into the Daylight – Jazz and Blues evening

Thursday 1st June, 8pm - 11pm

Daylight Inn, Station Square, Petts Wood, BR5 1LZ

Cost: £5 admission (supporting Bromley Food Bank and Ukraine Appeal)

Contact: 01689 877402. Book a table or walk in:  www.thedaylightinn.co.uk

Jazz and Blues with the Green Chain Quartet and special guest Francesca Payne, a compelling jazz and blues vocalist. For details see www.greenchainquartet.com

Orpington Keyboard Concert

Tuesday 27th June

2pm for a 2.30pm start, finishing at 5pm

Cost: £10 on the door

Contact: www.OrganFax.co.uk/clubs/orpington, or phone 07973 622905 or 01689 837044.

Come and join us for an amazing afternoon of live music played by the amazing Tony Stace. It is being held at our usual venue in the Crofton Halls, Crofton Lane, Orpington, BR6 8PR (next to the train station). Refreshments and a raffle are available during the interval and disabled facilities and free parking are provided. Pete plays music of all different genres to please everyone and occasionally sings!

Orpington Stamp & Postcard Fair, plus Auction

Saturday 17th June, 10am to 4pm

At Christ Lutheran Church Hall, 227 Poverest Road, Orpington, BR5 1RD

Free entry

Contact: Karen on 07864 264000

Are you interested in stamps and postcards? Do you have a childhood collection and want to resume this fun and interesting hobby or are you after that elusive missing stamp in your collection? Come along and have a look! PLUS: Our stamp auction viewing with many interesting lots!

Bromley Philharmonic ChoirA Celebration of the Music of Sondheim and Bernstein

Saturday 17th June, 7.30pm

Christ Church United Reform Church, Tudor Way, Petts Wood, BR5 1LH

Cost: £12 on the door from 7pm (£1 for under 25s) – to include refreshments after the concert.

Contact: www.bromleyphil.org.uk

Songs and medleys from a variety of shows including West Side Story, Candide, Company, Wonderful Town, Sweeney Todd, Into the Woods, A Little Night Music, Sunday in the Park with George, Follies and A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum. Conductor: Robyn Sevastos, Accompanist: Tracey Renwick.

Bromley Philharmonic Choir performs four concerts each year. We are always happy to welcome new members and currently rehearse on Thursday evenings in West Wickham.

theatre/ Performances

Churchill Theatre, Bromley

Contact: tickets@churchilltheatre.co.uk

The Verdict

Tuesday 13th – Saturday 17th June

Various times

Cost: Tickets from £18

Starring Paul Newman, Frank Galvin is a washed up veteran lawyer and an alcoholic. He is presented with one last chance to redeem himself when he is given an open-and-shut medical malpractice case that no one thinks he can win. Up against the unforgiving medical establishment, he courageously refuses an out of court settlement, believing it is negligence that has condemned a young mother. Smelling a cover up, he instead takes the case and the entire legal system to court.

what's on

theatre/ Performances

Churchill Theatre, Bromley

Contact: tickets@churchilltheatre.co.uk

Walk Right Back

Tuesday 20th June

7.30pm

Cost: Tickets £30

From the Producers of That’ll Be The Day, the show tells the story of the most successful duo of all time - The Everly Brothers. Featuring hits such as Bye Bye Love, All I Have To Do Is Dream and Cathy’s Clown, this unique concert-based musical entwines the wonderful, sad yet glorious story of The Everly Brothers around those trademark “harmonies from heaven”.

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Roy Orbison & The Traveling Wilburys Experience

Thursday 29th June

7:30pm

Cost: Tickets £26.50

Come and enjoy a fantastic evening of entertainment jam-packed with non-stop hits, big screen action, expert narrative and lots of fun. You will be taken on a journey through several decades of pop as we celebrate the music of Jeff Lynne’s ELO, Roy Orbison, Bob Dylan, Tom Petty & The Heartbreakers and The Beatles’ George Harrison. Also the collective genius that was The Traveling Wilburys.

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Behind the Badge

INSIGHTS FROM THE SUPER

I am very pleased to have been appointed as the Neighbourhood Policing Superintendent for Bromley Borough. I look forward to working together to serve the communities of Bromley. I have served as a police officer for 17 years now in a variety of roles. I previously worked in Lambeth and Croydon Boroughs in a wide variety of local policing and neighbourhood roles before moving to the Met’s Territorial Support Group. I then left the Met for five years to work in the City of London Police, before returning as a Superintendent in the Met on the Specialist Firearms Command. However, after just over a year in that role I missed being involved in local neighbourhood policing and was thrilled to secure a transfer to my new role in Bromley.

I was born at PRUH (Farnborough Hospital back then) and lived my early years here, so I feel a connection to Bromley and am motivated to do whatever I can to deal with crime and anti-social behaviour that negatively affect the area. I am aware that following the Baroness Casey Report, we have a lot of work to do to regain and rebuild the trust of all our communities, and this will form a central focus.

Lines from Linda

I have no idea if the sun will be shining when you read this, I know it should be, but as I write a month ahead, one never knows, and you certainly can’t rely on weather people to tell you.

I mean I’m sure you all remember Michael Fish and his major faux pas. Well, I am about to tell you about my month’s major faux pas. It started when I was on my way home from a book signing event. The management very kindly sent me home in one of their cars. The car journey was fine until we got near my road. As we turned into the main road, where I live, we pulled up sharply in a tailback of stationary traffic. I leaned out my window to see what was happening, and realizing, in horror, there was a large goose trotting down the middle of the road in the middle of traffic chaos. I, immediately jumped out of the car to rush to its aid. I live next to a farm, and I knew this goose and all his family. How he had got loose I had no idea. I only knew I had to save his life. I grabbed my dog’s towel, as I intended throwing it over the goose’s head and carrying this fellow back to his home. Geese bites are pretty painful, so I was wanting to avoid one. I knew it would be best to throw a towel over the goose rather than ask it not to bite me. It was, understandably, in a state of great panic. Hooting cars don’t help. I shouted at the cars to pipe down, then one of them shouted ‘Sunday Lunch,’ and I shouted something, reasonably rude, back, (I am a vegetarian),and carried on running after the goose.

I aim to do this through effectively targeting the problems that most affect our communities, aiming to sustainably solve those problems whilst maintaining the very highest of standards to meet the Commissioner’s objectives of More Trust, Less Crime and High Standards.

I have been invited by Life In…Magazines to submit a regular article for Life In Orpington and I hope to be able to update you on the progress of these objectives and be able to demonstrate some positive examples of this approach in the coming months. I look forward to working with you all.

Superintendent  Luke Baldock Bromley Borough Neighbourhood Policing

The goose ran in the opposite direction. The car jam was getting heavier and I was running in between the cars, in seven inch stiletto heeled shoes, diving and ducking, (please pardon the pun), desperate to save the panic stricken feathered fellow. Then something awful happened.

The elastic in my bright turquoise knickers snapped, stopping me in my tracks as my knickers speedily slid to my ankles. The goose ran down a side road, away from the hooting traffic, and I was left standing in the middle of the road hearing the laughter and horn hooting which was now aimed at me. My embarrassment of losing my knickers in a main road, (On a windy night too), in front of 30-odd cars was overridden by my sadness at what had happened to the goose, as I now had lost sight of him.

However, this story has a happy ending. The next morning, I looked out my window (which looks over the farm) and saw he was back with his family, all huddled together, and happy. Job done, I thought as I headed for the bus stop into town and to the haberdashery market stall, to purchase a reel of thick knicker elastic.

For more about me and my crime novels see www.lindareganonline.co.uk

Geese bites are pretty painful

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5 Minutes With...

Gareth Bacon has served as the Member of Parliament for Orpington since 2019. He’s a member of the Conservative Party and was a member of the London Assembly from 2008 until he stood down after his election as an MP. Gareth lives in Sidcup with his wife, daughter and numerous pets including two dogs, tropical fish and a tortoise called Charles Darwin. We sat down with Gareth to get the lowdown on what his day looks like and the challenges he faces…

Gareth, what inspired you to pursue a career in politics, and how did you become an MP for our community?

When I was a teenager, there was a dramatisation of a Jeffery Archer book called First Among Equals, which traces the career of four politicians until one of them becomes Prime Minister. I thought it was fascinating, so wrote to my local MP (Sir Edward Heath, the former Prime Minister) and he invited me to his surgery. I precociously asked him how one goes about becoming a Conservative MP, and he gave me lots of good advice which planted the seed.

What would you say are some of the key issues facing our community and how are you addressing them?

The ultra-low emissions zone is an appalling policy. We don’t have bad air here. The Mayor even commissioned a report from a company called Jacobs during the consultation which said ULEZ would only have a minor impact on air quality. I also think the local government isn’t properly funded. Bromley Council is superbly run because they have no debt, but the pot is shrinking - changing local government funding is something the government needs to take seriously.

Can you share some of the achievements or initiatives that you are most proud of during your time in office?

As a backbench MP, you try to make changes but you can’t wave a magic wand, so we do things on a small scale with individual constituents. A woman came to my surgery before Christmas being threatened with losing her housing benefits. She was renting her mother’s house with her children as she had been made homeless, and her mum had been taken into care. Housing benefit was to cover her rent, but she answered a question incorrectly on the contract and it was taken away. I was able to intervene and speak to the minister concerned, and the situation was resolved. Most MPs will tell you it’s these sorts of achievements which give the greatest satisfaction.

Who is your inspiration and why?

I have a few! My all-time hero is the Duke of Wellington. He was the second son of a minor noble and wasn't expected to achieve anything. Yet he had complete belief in himself and was an organisational genius. He defeated Napoleon at the Battle of Waterloo and went into politics, becoming PM twice. Churchill is the crowning spirit of what this country is about, and his defiance and refusal to be browbeaten. More recently, it has to be Margaret Thatcher; what she did in office when she was there, surrounded by people that patronised her and said she would fail.

What does a typical day look like for you?

Monday to Thursday I’m in the office from around 7.30am. The day varies depending on when Parliament sits. I use Monday morning to clear lots of stuff, have team meetings, and if I am on the order paper I go in to ask my question. I’m also a Parliamentary private secretary at the Ministry of Justice so I may have things to do over there.

What do you love about Bromley Borough?

There is so much brilliant stuff going on and I love that it’s so green. If I could have written down my perfect constituency this would be it.

Quick fire round

Favourite destination: Portugal

Preferred way of relaxing: Sleeping

Last picture taken on your phone: A selfie with my wife, a councillor and their partner and a former colleague, who was celebrating her 80th birthday. We took her to the House of Commons for lunch.

Favourite TV programme: House of Cards

Party trick/hidden talent: Solving the Rubik's cube

Favourite local haunt: GPO in Orpington

Favourite song: The Flood by Take That

Guaranteed to make you smile: My daughter

Gareth holds regular surgeries to meet constituents, hear their concerns and offer support. If you would like to attend a session, call Judi Ellis at 01689 603652 to book an appointment. Otherwise you can email Gareth at gareth.bacon.mp@parliament.uk or write to him at Gareth Bacon MP, House of Commons, London, SW1A 0AA

Gareth Bacon MP

Local Heroes...

(Because not all heroes wear capes)

Chris Tuck

Angela Hulm describes Chris Tuck as ‘a strong, inspiring fitness instructor and survivor of abuse campaigner’ and has nominated her as a local hero. Angela says “Chris came to talk to students at Langley Park School for Girls about her role with survivors of abuse. Chris's example of not being defined by her past and using education to be independent saw her qualify in accounts, earn enough to buy her own home and manage health challenges. Her powerful message to the girls is that they are worthy.”

Chris, you’ve faced some struggles from your past but have turned this into a positive in helping others. Can you tell us more about this?

I grew up in the borough and now live in West Wickham. Due to my chaotic, dysfunctional and abusive childhood I didn’t do very well at school. I later attended a catering college in London and that’s when I fell in love with accountancy. I spent the next ten years training and I qualified as a Chartered Management Accountant in 1997. I had my first child in 1998 and this resulted in me experiencing a period of poor mental health due to the trauma from the adverse childhood experiences I had encountered coming to the fore. In 2003 I had my second child and I realised that I needed to change my life in order to be both mentally and physically strong and well. For the last 20 years I have retrained as a trauma informed health, wellness and fitness coach and have used my experiences to set up the charity Survivors Of Abuse. I have created my own psychoeducational eight-week programme that empowers adult victims and survivors to recover from the trauma of their abuse holistically.

How did you become a survivor of abuse campaigner?

Unfortunately society does not understand or recognise how prevalent childhood abuse is and how impactful it can be in all areas of a victim’s/survivor’s life. I combine my lived-experiences and my knowledge to raise awareness and create positive change at a government, organisational, individual and societal level. I have written three books, co-host a weekly podcast and speak publicly on the subject matter via TV, radio and in print.

What’s the most rewarding aspect about what you do?

I have given myself a voice and now I endeavour to empower others to use theirs for the greater good.

What does a typical working day look like?

There is no typical working day to be honest. Throughout my week I teach 12 fitness classes for pre- and postmenopausal women, both active classes and Pilates. I am currently working with professional bodies, a university and the government to make the positive changes needed to make the world a safer place for children NOT to be abused and to hold those who abuse accountable.

What does community mean to you?

It means a sense of belonging, feeling safe and trusting. Often this is destroyed for individuals who have suffered any form of childhood abuse. So through my charity and my work I endeavour to raise awareness and empower people to live a life that they deserve. After an individual has been through my programme they are offered continued support.

What do you most enjoy about living in the Bromley borough?

Within an hour I can be in London for work; within 90 minutes I can be by the sea or within 10 minutes I can be in the countryside to walk my dog. As part of the IICSA Bench Legacy Project I have been successful in getting a bench placed in Churchfield’s Recreation Ground in Beckenham. This will be installed soon and means a lot to me personally. The Bench legacy was about leaving a tangible physical legacy where society can find out more about the Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse by clicking on the QR code.

What message would you like to give people reading this?

If you have suffered abuse of any kind and you are impacted by it, please do not suffer in silence. There are many organisations that can help you with you with what you have been through, going through and your recovery.

Useful contact details

www.survivorsofabuse.org.uk Email: sobbtc@outlook.com Tel: 07932-594712 to book Chris for events and public speaking only.

A special ‘Thank You’ to Time For Flowers for sponsoring the bouquets and plants for our Local Heroes.

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Puzzles

This month’s competition takes you down the garden path! The names of 12 flowers are listed below, but only 11 can be found in the grid of letters. Words can run horizontally, vertically or diagonally (and backwards and forwards). Remember, one of the flowers doesn’t appear in the grid – this is the winning word. Send the answer to hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk or text 07403 550068 with your name, number and address.

The Prize

Bromley Picturehouse is giving away a Regional Membership card for the winner. Benefits are numerous and include…

5 free tickets

£3 off film tickets

No booking fees  10% off all food and drink

Priority booking on many popular films and events

Great discounts at a range of National partners

May's answer: CHARLES

April winner: Richard Makin

This month’s competition takes you down the garden path! The names of 12 flowers are listed below, but only 11 can be found in the grid of letters. Words can run horizontally, vertically or diagonally (and backwards and forwards). Remember, one of the flowers doesn’t appear in the grid – this is the winning word. Send the answer to hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk or text 07403 550068 with your name, number and address.

Strictly one entry per person. All competition winners are listed on our website. Competitions are open to Bromley Borough residents only. For competition terms and conditions see https://bit.ly/lifeincomps

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Life Hacks

HOW TO GET READY FOR SUMMER!

1. Plan some activities: Think about what activities you’d like to do and schedule them in your diary. This could include outdoor sports, barbecues, camping trips, picnics…

2. Update your wardrobe: Have a rummage through your wardrobe and decide what you need to update for the warmer weather – think shorts, sundresses and swimwear, as well as other summer essentials like sunscreen, sunglasses and hats.

3. Get in shape: Consider starting a regular exercise routine to help you feel confident and comfortable in your summer clothes. This could include activities like walking, running, swimming or taking a fitness class. Support local businesses such as Flin’s Fitness and Sam Dance Fit!

4. Take care of your skin: Protect your skin from the sun by wearing sunscreen, staying in the shade during the hottest part of the day and wearing protective clothing. Moisturising regularly will also help prevent dry skin.

5. Eat healthily: Incorporate more fruits and vegetables into your diet and stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water. This can help you feel more energised during the summer months.

6. Get your home ready: Clean and organise your home - this could include decluttering, deep-cleaning and changing up your décor.

5 feel-good summer songs to put you in a great mood

1. "Happy" by Pharrell Williams

2. "Walking on Sunshine" by Katrina and the Waves

3. "Can't Stop the Feeling!" by Justin Timberlake

4. "Good Vibrations" by The Beach Boys

5. "Uptown Funk" by Mark Ronson feat. Bruno Mars

Understanding different home care services

by SIMI GHUMAN, Radfield Home Care Bromley, Orpington & Beckenham

Whether you’re a family member looking to provide support to a loved one, or an individual looking for in-home assistance, it’s important to understand the different types of home care services that are available. Here is an overview of the various types of home care services and the support they can provide to help you make an informed decision...

Companionship Care - provides companionship and emotional support for a person in their own home. A care professional will provide companionship and emotional support to an individual by engaging in activities together, such as playing cards, board games, or just talking. This type of home care service helps to reduce feelings of isolation, supporting people to retain their sense of self and identity.

Nutrition and hydration care - a type of home care service that focuses on providing assistance with meal preparation, food storage and general nutrition advice. A care professional can provide support with food shopping, meal preparation and food storage. They can also provide nutritional advice in line with the individual’s care plan, helping to ensure that they are getting the nutrition they need.

Medication assistance - focuses on helping an individual manage their medications. A regulated home care provider will liaise with health professionals involved with a person’s care to ensure that the correct medications are being taken as prescribed.

Respite care - caring for a family member or loved one can put a strain on personal relationships. Respite care provides assistance with daily tasks while family members are away, allowing everyone to recharge their batteries.

Home care services can provide physical, emotional and practical support to those in need and can help to improve quality of life.

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Business

Make money while you sleep!

Making money while you sleep may sound like a dream, but it's actually possible with the right approach. Here are just ten strategies you can use to generate passive income:

1. Rent your drive: Companies like JustPark allow you to rent your driveway when you’re not using it. It’s handy for those living close to rail stations, event venues, hospitals etc.

2. Dividend stocks: Investing in dividend stocks can provide you with regular income without having to sell your shares. Many established companies pay dividends to their shareholders.

3. Peer-to-peer lending: Peer-to-peer lending platforms allow you to lend money to individuals or small businesses in exchange for interest payments.

4. Create and sell an online course: If you have expertise in a particular field, you can create an online course and sell it on platforms like Udemy or Teachable.

5. Write and sell e-books: If you’re a dab hand at writing, think about compiling an e-book on a topic you're knowledgeable about and sell it on platforms like Amazon Kindle Direct Publishing.

6. Create and sell stock photos: If you've got a knack for taking photos you can create a portfolio of stock photos and sell them on platforms like Shutterstock or Getty Images.

7. Rent out your belongings: If you have items that aren't being used, you can rent them out to others and earn a passive income. This could include things like storage units or equipment like cameras or drones.

8. Create and sell an online product: If you have a creative streak, you can create and sell digital products such as templates, printables or software tools. Once you've created the product, you can sell it online through platforms like Etsy.

9. Create and sell a mobile app: If you have coding skills, you can create a mobile app and sell it on app stores like Apple's App Store or Google Play Store. Once the app is live, users can download and purchase it, generating passive income through app sales and in-app purchases.

10. Dropshipping: This is an e-commerce business model where you set up an online store and sell products without physically owning or storing inventory. When a customer makes a purchase, you forward the order to a supplier who ships the product directly to the customer. You earn money through the difference between the retail price and the wholesale price.

Great ideas to include on your CV

With Year 13 students close to finishing their compulsory full-time education, their thoughts might turn to producing or updating their CV (curriculum vitae). So here are some ideas as to what include on your CV:

awards that demonstrate your expertise and abilities.

• Volunteer experience: If you have volunteered or taken part in any extracurricular activities, include them on your CV. This can demonstrate your commitment and dedication to causes outside of work.

• Relevant coursework or projects: If you have completed any coursework or projects that are relevant to the job you are applying for, be sure to include them.

• Languages: If you are fluent in any other languages, include them on your CV. This can be especially relevant for jobs that require communication with international clients or customers.

• Personal statement: A brief statement that highlights your strengths, skills and goals.

• Education and qualifications: List your educational background and any relevant certifications or qualifications.

• Work experience: Highlight your previous job roles, responsibilities and accomplishments. Be sure to quantify your achievements and use action verbs to describe your responsibilities.

• Key skills: List the skills that you possess that are relevant to the job you are applying for. These could be technical or soft skills.

• Accomplishments: Include any accomplishments or

• Professional development: List any courses or training programmes you have completed that are relevant to the job you are applying for.

• References: Include the names and contact information of professional references who can vouch for your skills and work ethic. Make sure you get permission from the referees before you include their names and contact information.

• Remember to tailor your CV to the specific job you are applying for, and use keywords and phrases that are relevant to the job description. Make sure your CV is well-organised and easy to read, and use bullet points to highlight your achievements and responsibilities.

Giving

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Pets

New law for cat owners

Thousands of cat owners in the UK have just over a year to microchip their pet else risk receiving a £500 fine due to new legislation.

Hefty fines could also be dished out to the thousands of dog owners who have not microchipped their pets despite it already being a legal requirement to do so.

The experts at Quotezone.co.uk have urged pet owners to microchip their dogs and register them on a national database in order to make it easier to track down lost or stolen pups.

The microchipping law was put in place on 6th April 2016 for dogs and will be mandatory for cats by June 2024.   The number of stray cats is a rising issue, as recent research reveals that 80% of cats coming into Cats Protection’s centres are not microchipped, making it very difficult to reunite them with their owners. Under the new law, the fines for cat owners who are caught not having microchipped their kittens will be the same as for dogs, however cats need to be chipped by the time they’re 20 weeks old.

Your pet pics

Meanwhile, drivers could be fined £1,000 if they accidentally hit a cat and fail to inform the police, under a proposed new law. Experts from LeaseCar.uk are supporting a campaign for the law to be changed to give cats the same rights as many other animals when it comes to road traffic accidents. Currently, drivers must stop and inform police if they hit dogs, horses, cattle, pigs, goats and sheep - but not cats. Many cat owners are left wondering what’s happened to their beloved pets if they’ve been run over by a driver, as it’s not a legal requirement to go to the police or track down the owner.

Here’s my nineyear-old son George competing at Halloween games on his pony Mr

Mr George loves his carrot treats and having a good gallop around the countryside.

Rachel

This is Dave after he was groomed. He’s a great member of our family who has bags of energy. Dave is lots of fun, a sweety by nature and we all love him big time.

Jill Turner

Sarah

My gorgeous girl Bella (on the left) is 20 months and a Shih Tzu/Cavachon cross. She’s got the sweetest nature and is such a great character. Her sister Mickey has recently come to live with us too. Here they are off on their care home visit. It’s a local charity we visit and spend time with an elderly person.

Ghirardo

Ted, my 14-year-old puppy is still mad on fetch.

Deb Mead

George.

Cole Hudson

HUMANS HAVE MORE EMPATHY FOR DOGS THAN THEY DO FOR OTHER HUMANS.

lifestyle Technology

Game changer for Alzheimer’s?

Research has found that Alzheimer’s is preventable, and now an online questionnaire, supported by new app, COGNITION, can determine your risk of Alzheimer’s and create a plan to dementia proof your lifestyle reducing that risk.

Charity FoodForTheBrain.org carried out research on 380,000 people over a decade covering eight known areas of risk including:

Lack of B vitamins. Oxford University research showed 73% less brain shrinkage and virtually no further memory loss when giving those with pre-dementia B vitamin supplements versus placebos.

Lack of seafood and omega-3 fish oils. A serving of fish a week halved Alzheimer’s risk compared to those who ate none. Studies giving both B vitamins and fish oils show the best evidence for dementia prevention.

£129m to deliver cutting-edge mini drones for UK forces

More than 250 ‘portable and packable’ mini drones will be delivered to the Armed Forces after the award of a contract worth £129 million to Lockheed Martin UK. The drones are due to be operational by 2024 and weigh just over 20 kilograms, with a 4.88 metre wingspan. The portable Stalker is a verticallaunched, near-silent drone providing more than eight hours of imaging capability and able to cover around 60 miles. The packable Indago 4, weighing just 2.27 kilograms, can be folded and carried in a soldier’s backpack and deployed in just two minutes with a range of eight miles. Its high-res camera systems providing zoom capability to accurately identify people, objects, vehicles and weapons, day or night.

Minister for Defence Procurement, Alex Chalk KC said: “It’s crucial we remain at the forefront of innovation, delivering cutting edge capabilities to our deployed forces, ensuring operational advantage is maintained by UK Armed Forces by upgrading the drones, keeping pace with technological changes and emerging threats when required.”

Too much sugar and carbs.  Sugar levels at age 35 predict Alzheimer’s risk later in life. A high level of sugar and insulin in the blood – linked with a high carbohydrate diet – is another driver for Alzheimer’s.

Too little exercise, social and cognitive stimulation. Exercise encourages brain growth and repair. Without stimulation, the health of brain tissues deteriorates affecting memory and thinking. Mental and physical exercise such as puzzles, problem solving and learning a new language all are all beneficial, especially as we head into retirement.

Other areas include consuming plenty of antioxidants from diet, a healthy gut, sleeping well and controlling stress. Targeting all eight earlier in life may reduce dementia risk by as much as two thirds. To find out more visit  www.foodforthebrain.org

3 tips for a great password

World Password Day is on 4th May and provides a reminder for us all to evaluate our passwords. So here are three tips to ensure a strong password…

1. A great password should be unique, complex, and difficult to guess. Avoid using personal information: Don't use your name, date of birth or other personal information as part of your password. This information is often easy to find online and can make your password vulnerable to hacking attempts.

2. Use a passphrase: Instead of a single word, consider using a passphrase made up of multiple words. This can make your password more complex and difficult to guess. For example, "thelazybrownfox" is a passphrase that's easier to remember than a random string of characters, but still difficult to crack. Even better if you add numbers and upper and lowercase letters.

3. Use a password manager: If you struggle to remember multiple strong passwords, consider using a password manager. These tools can generate and store unique passwords for each of your accounts, so you don't have to remember them all yourself. Just make sure to use a strong master password to protect your password manager!

Travel

How to really enjoy your holiday

Taking time out is a great way to relax, explore new places and create memories. Trouble is, most of us don’t get to do it very often, so when we do, it’s important to make the most of it. Here’s how!

• Plan ahead: Research the destination you are travelling to, plan your itinerary and make sure to book any activities or attractions in advance. This will help you make the most of your time and avoid missing out on anything.

• Be flexible: While it's important to plan ahead, it's also important to be flexible and open to changes. Sometimes the best experiences can come from unexpected adventures.

• Unplug: Consider taking a break from technology during your holiday to fully disconnect and immerse yourself in the experience. This will help you stay present and enjoy the moment.

• Try local cuisine: A big part of any holiday experience

Is it the end for tiny toiletries?

Plans to introduce new CT X-Ray technology at UK airports means passengers will no longer be limited to carrying 100mls of liquids in their hand luggage, with a deadline of June 2024 set by the UK government for older generation scanners to be replaced with newer versions.

However, some UK airports, such as Teeside International Airport and London City Airport, have already installed the state-of-the-art bag and body scanners, allowing travellers to take up to two litres of liquids in their hand luggage and keep electronics in their bags.

To help savvy travellers avoid confusion, Airport Parking and Hotels (APH.com) has released a comprehensive table comparing hand luggage rules currently in place across 15 major UK airports. For details see www.aph.com/liquidlimits

is trying the local food. Be adventurous and try new dishes and cuisines to get a taste of the local culture.

• Take time to relax: Don't feel like you have to fill every moment of your holiday with activities. Take some time to relax and enjoy your surroundings, whether that's by the pool, at the beach or in a park.

• Get off the beaten path: Explore beyond the typical tourist areas and discover hidden gems in your destination. This can be a great way to experience the local culture and create unique memories.

• Connect with locals: Strike up a conversation at a cafe or take a local tour. This can help you learn more about the destination and create a more meaningful experience.

• Create memories: Take photos, keep a travel journal or buy souvenirs to help capture and remember your holiday experience. This can be a great way to look back and reminisce on your trip.

Poland takes the crown

New research has discovered the top ten cheapest European capitals for a city break, with Warsaw in Poland taking the top spot.

Data Analysts at Gambling ‘N Go analysed the average cost of several factors in each capital city in Europe, including flights from any London airport, a night’s stay in a hotel, and a three-course meal for two in a mid-range restaurant. The cost of each factor was added up to determine the ranking.

Taking the crown (at the time of writing) for the cheapest European capital for a city break is Warsaw, Poland, with a total price of £161.67. This includes a three-course meal for two at an average of £37.52, while a return ticket will set you back £88.89.

In second place is Spain’s capital, Madrid, on a total of £184.80, where a night’s stay in a hotel costs an average of £35.91. In third place was Sofia, Bulgaria, which has a total of £200.58 – and where a beer will cost an average of just £1.81.

Cities making up the rest of the top ten for cheapest cities included Riga, Prague, Budapest, Vienna, Berlin, Bucharest and Rome. On the opposite end of the scale, Vaduz, Liechtenstein, was found to be the most expensive capital for a city break with a total of £1,021.65.

Home & Garden

EASY WAYS TO BRING SPRING INTO YOUR HOME

by JULIA KENDELL, interior design expert for the Southern Homebuilding & Renovating Show

* Add a burst of fresh colour with a selection of new accessories. Pops of colour can bring a whole new energy to a space, whether it’s a set of colourful kitchen accessories or new cushions in the sitting room.

* Brighter days draw attention to tired paintwork. Refresh your woodwork in your home to make the room feel instantly updated and ‘clean.’ It might seem an unnecessary job, but even refreshing the ceiling can dramatically enhance the light levels in a space.

* Bring spring colouring new life into your home with cut flowers. For an eclectic, country feel, pick

A 9-step plan to the perfect garden

up bud and single-stem vases and bottles from charity shops.

* Tackle that one big ‘problem area’ with a declutter for a great way to feel like you’re winning at life! Invest in storage baskets or shelving that will enable you to organise an area that bugs you to instantly feel a weight off your shoulders.

* Swapping out your bedding for a new set is one of the very best ways to embrace spring in the bedroom. There’s nothing better than beautiful soft new sheets to aid a better night’s sleep. Try a light linen set for a relaxed, bohemian vibe, with no ironing required!

Julia will be giving design advice at the Southern Homebuilding & Renovating Show, on from 1-2 July at Sandown Park, Surrey. You can claim free tickets via  www.homebuildingshow.co.uk/pr-general-outlets

Britain's favourite flowers

1. Start by determining the style you want for your garden, such as a cottage garden, a formal garden or a modern garden. This will help guide your plant and design choices.

2. Analyse the site where you want to create your garden. Look at the soil type, drainage and light levels to determine which plants will thrive in your space.

3. Use your garden style and site analysis to create a garden plan. This should include the layout of your garden, the types of plants you want to use and any hardscaping features, such as paths or garden beds.

4. Prepare the soil for planting by removing any debris and adding organic matter, such as compost or manure, to improve soil quality and drainage.

5. Choose plants that are well-suited to your garden's conditions, such as sunloving plants for sunny areas and shade-loving plants for shady areas. Consider using a mix of perennials, annuals and shrubs for a variety of colours and textures.

6. Space plants appropriately to allow for growth and add support structures, such as trellises or stakes, for taller plants.

7. Regularly maintain your garden by watering, fertilising and pruning as needed. This will help keep your plants healthy and promote growth.

8. Add hardscaping features such as paths or garden beds, to add visual interest and structure to your garden.

9. Sit back and enjoy your garden! Use it as a place to relax and unwind, entertain guests, or simply enjoy the beauty of nature.

Ashridge Trees generated a comprehensive list of 100 flowers, analysing 12 months of search volume statistics to discover the "most searched for" flowers. The shortlist was then presented to a nationallyrepresentative survey group of 1,000 participants. Results were generated by crossing search volume results against public opinion poll to find Britain’s favourite flowers, which are:

1. Sunflower

2. Lily

3. Rose

4. Dahlia

5. Iris

6. Lotus

7. Peony

8. Daisy

9. Orchid

10. Jasmine

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GREAT IDEAS TO SPOIL DAD THIS FATHER’S DAY

With Father’s Day almost upon us (Sunday 18th June), here are some novel ideas on gifts and experiences to make dad’s day as special as it can be…

1. Treat dad to a delicious meal at his favourite restaurant or somewhere new. Have you tried our local advertisers Shampan for Indian cuisine, The Landing Biggin Hill for Afternoon Tea, The Bank for Mediterranean delights or Xenia for Japanese gastronomy?

2. If dad is an avid golfer, take him out for a round of golf at a beautiful course. You could also rent a golf cart and make a day of it.

3. Help him unwind and de-stress with a relaxing spa day. You could book a massage, a facial or a mani-pedi for him to enjoy.

4. Head to Churchill Theatre Bromley to take in a great show – from comedy and thrillers, to musicals and magic, there is something for all tastes. See churchilltheatre.co.uk

5. Put together a gift basket filled with all of his favourite treats and goodies including snacks, drinks or maybe a personalised gift or two. Or maybe try your luck at winning the hamper from Bumbles & Boo (see below).

Pamper with a hamper!

Bumbles & Boo offers beautiful gift hampers starting from £22.95 and packed full of gift ideas - from fabulous luxuries to everyday essentials. All hampers are hand-picked and packed in the UK, beautifully presented and filled with items to suit all tastes. Life In…Magazines has teamed up with Bumbles & Boo, a UK independent company founded by two mum friends, to offer one lucky reader the chance to win a Father’s Day hamper. For the chance to win, answer this question: What hampers do Bumbles & Boo offer? (A) Baby Shower (B) New Parents (C) Both A and B. Email your answer, name, address and telephone number to hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk. For more information visit www.bumblesandboo.com

6. Plan a day out for dad where he hasn’t been before. It will give him the chance to relax and spend quality time with you! We can recommend RAF Biggin Hill Museum and Chapel!

7. Create a personalised photo album filled with memories! This is a thoughtful and sentimental gift that he'll cherish for years to come.

8. If dad is into gadgets and technology, surprise him with a new device or accessory that he's had his eye on. Whether it's a new phone, tablet or smartwatch, he'll love the upgrade. And if his gadget needs an MOT or repair, give James at Our Technician a bell. Call 020 8616 0244 or email info@ourtech.co.uk

9. Commission a piece of jewellery for something you’ll know he’ll love – a bracelet, ring or neck chain perhaps? Shop local with Nicholas Foreman Jewellerynickforemanjewellery.co.uk or call 07753-611769.

10. Have a relaxing movie day and head to your nearest cinema to treat dad to a film – or opt for movie night at home – don’t forget the popcorn!

11. If dad works from home, book him some office space for a change of scenery! Try Devonshire House or Newman Flexible Workspace – they have both co-working and private offices to rent. See newmanbusinesscentre.co.uk and devonshirehse.co.uk

Mini First Aid

Mini First Aid has announced that its bestselling first aid kits are now available in more places than ever. Designed by the experts at Mini First Aid, both the Mini and Large First Aid Kits include everything a family needs for common accidents and ailments - all packed up in a handy case. The Mini First Aid kit is ideal when out and about, or whilst travelling. The large kit is ideal to keep at home or in the car – great for camping trips or driving holidays. Both come in a wipe-clean, green pouch with distinctive first aid cross design. The Mini Kit is £13.99 and the large kit is £26.99, available from Boots, John Lewis, Toys R Us/Babies R Us.

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Tried & tested: Vida de la Mariposa Coaching

Zeenat Noorani, founder and owner of Vida de la Mariposa Coaching, knows how to juggle life – and seems to do it effortlessly. Not only does she run her own company, she’s also a radio presenter, one half of the Bromley Buzz team, co-founder of Let's Talk Better and co-founder of The People Skills Course - and that’s just to name a few! We decided to experience a coaching session to see how we can better juggle our work/life balance (and get an insight into how Zeenat does it herself!)

What? Zeenat offers bespoke coaching programmes across a range of areas – from mindset and growth coaching to mental health and wellbeing. We wanted to find out how to reaffirm what our aims and goals are in life – and to stop the overwhelm when it happens.

How? Zeenat educated us about the power of affirmations. We discovered that first thing in the morning and last thing

How to deal with daily stressors

by JOANNA PROSSER, listentoyourhealth.co.uk

Joanna Prosser

Wouldn’t it be great to have simple daily activities we could do to make ourselves feel good? Things we could do before an intense business meeting or at the end of a stressful day. The more regularly we practise calming activities like the ones below, the more of a lasting positive impact they have on our mental health.

at night are the best times (when we’re naturally more relaxed), and to use affirmations in the present tense. It’s also a good idea to have them written down. We also learnt about how tapping and mindful breathing can help with feelings of overwhelm and were tasked with doing this following the session – and held accountable.

The results? We started changing our language behaviour, using more powerful statements such as ‘I should…’ or ‘I know…’, rather than ‘I think..’ which helped reinforce our goals. Reflecting on the affirmations we had written on waking helped focus the mind, while tapping helped with the overwhelm. Zeenat says: “We often remind ourselves of what we haven’t got accomplished in a day, so switch it round and remind yourself of everything you’ve achieved – and how you’re proud of yourself. It will change your thinking and ultimately your mindset.”

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How to…get rid of hay fever symptoms

1. Breathing exercises: Breathe in for a count of four, then breathe out for a count of six, repeat. Whether you practise this for a few minutes or even a few seconds, it can make a huge difference to your state of mind and overall health.

2. Positive affirmations: Giving ourselves positive messages is a powerful way to improve mood and self-esteem for the day ahead. It’s up to you what they sound like but here are a couple of my favourites:

• ‘I am calm, relaxed and confident.’

• ‘I am safe and secure.’

3. Gratitude journal: Write down up to three things that you feel grateful for. For example, “I feel grateful for my family for being there for me” or “I feel grateful for the beauty of nature.” Repeating this activity on a daily basis can help us to see the good in our lives more easily.

The best remedy to stressors in our life is to actively bring more positivity into our everyday routine. Even if these habits feel quite alien to us at first, over time they become more natural and could encourage a calmer and more resilient state of mind.

1. Knowing what triggers your hay fever symptoms can help you avoid exposure to allergens. Keep track of when your symptoms occur and what may have caused them, such as certain plants, pets or environmental factors.

2. Limit your exposure to allergens by staying indoors during peak pollen times and keeping windows closed. Wash your bedding in hot water and dust and vacuum regularly.

3. Over-the-counter antihistamines, nasal sprays, and eye drops can help relieve hay fever symptoms such as itching, sneezing and congestion. In severe cases, your doctor may prescribe prescription medication.

4. Some people find relief from hay fever symptoms with natural remedies such as nasal irrigation, herbal supplements or essential oils. However, talk to your doctor before using any natural remedies to ensure they're safe for you.

5. Eating a balanced diet, exercising regularly and managing stress can help boost your immune system and reduce the severity of symptoms.

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Short Story

A MAGIC MOMENT

by JULIAN BURROWS

In August 1962 I was on holiday with my parents in Eastbourne, Sussex, my Dad’s favourite resort. We were in a hotel, a considerably up-market accommodation compared to his more usual choice of a caravan or chalet.

I had recently turned 14 and was aware of the buzz going on about the 60s and the revolutionary freedom it offered. But when it came to relationships, I had yet to benefit from such liberation. I was shy, and if anyone could have explained such an affliction and more importantly how to overcome it, I would have been undyingly grateful. It cursed me with an inability to converse with the opposite sex that I found attractive. An overpowering pounding in my head, plus a disconnection from my brain to my mouth, prevented me from expressing my thoughts. This was accompanied by a bright red colouration to my cheeks, a burning sensation inside, eliciting the amusement and unwelcome attention of pretty much everyone in my vicinity. “Oh, look,” they’d say, “he’s shy!”

So, that said, what happened when Susan Peterson sat at a table with her parents adjacent to the one I was sharing with my parents at breakfast, was inexplicable. She was very pretty and by noticing this I had caught her attention. Unusually for me, I didn’t look away or blush, and drums weren’t playing in my head. I just smiled, she smiled back, and, what seemed like the next instant, I was standing next to her asking her if she’d like to go for a walk along the beach with me after breakfast (or at least it was words to that affect).

Both she and her parents must have acquiesced because we were indeed that morning walking along the beach together, holding hands. Some nervousness had returned leaving me vocally paralised, and she may well have been in a similar state as she was silent also. Eventually I said, “The sea looks nice,” or something equally lame, but she graciously smiled and agreed. I suggested a swim but she pointed out we had no costumes. I wanted to say “So what?” but chose not to. But I had at least found my voice and we had a conversation.

Being with her felt good, really good, and I didn’t want to say or do anything to risk spoiling the magic of the moment. I’d found out her name, that she was also 14, that she had no boyfriend, but that she lived in Leeds, a distance from where I lived in Kent. That may as well have been Australia from an access point of view. Also, that she was going home that afternoon.

As we were about to go back to the hotel I asked “Can I kiss you?” Her answer, “I don’t know,” bemused me. Did she mean she didn’t know if I was capable or if she’d let me? Or if she wanted me to? We walked in silence. Approaching a beach side café, not much bigger than a beach hut, I offered to buy her an ice-cream. She smiled again, oh such a smile, as she said “Thanks.” We both had a cornet, which we enjoyably consumed sitting on a nearby bench. All too soon we were back in the hotel lobby. As we began to part she turned and kissed me, a long kiss on the lips, then she smiled once more went upstairs, and out of my life forever.

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A Final Thought…

Funerals.... who are they for?

by MICHELLE HARVEY, The Bereavement Café

Working as a Professional Funeral Celebrant, the subject often comes up about funerals and why we have them, especially when I visit families to discuss the funeral service that we are putting together for their loved one.

Quite often, families will say that their loved one’s request was "oh just put me in a wheelie bin and be done with it".... no fuss or expense wanted when their end of life finally arrives, and definitely not wanting that pressure and expense put on their loved ones, who may have to pay out for it.

But isn’t a funeral for the benefit of those who are left behind? Surely it is their grief we are tending to, saying a fitting farewell to allow their pain to surface, and to say goodbye in a way that also reminds them of their loved one, with chosen songs that remind us of them, and also the sharing of humorous stories, as well as talking about their character and the deeds that they have done.

That bond that you have shared in life with the person who has died, that bond is worth celebrating when they are no more.

I've always said that funerals are for the living, not the dead. It’s our way of grieving and adapting to the loss, celebrating all those things that we loved about them, and of course, how we will continue to love and remember them too.

Just recently, we have seen a rise in direct cremation, I'm not a huge supporter of this simply because I've seen a rise in how it impacts our grief after, and I understand grief well enough to know that all phases of life need to be celebrated.

love confirmed and the possibility of, again, more lives that come from that union. And sadly, when someone’s life ends, we join together to support each other and mourn their passing, but still celebrating the life that's been lived.

As humans it is that thing that we are. That means life and celebrating it; it is the way that we move through each phase and form of our existence.

But don't get me wrong; it's not about costs and spending money that isn’t there. A celebration of life at the end doesn't have to cost the earth; there are many ways of remembering and paying tribute to a life that meant something to you. We shouldn’t just ignore it or dictate to our loved ones that you don’t want to be celebrated when you are gone. You won’t be there, but they will.

If you have those conversations (which you should) with your loved ones, and if your relatives request the wheelie bin (or something similar), explain that it’s important to you to celebrate them and remember them for the impact that they had on your life - and that funerals are for those who remain.

If you have been affected by grief, The Bereavement Café is held on the last Thursday of every month at Orpington Village Hall at 11.30am - all are welcome. See www.facebook.com/bereavementcafe for details.

If you are a grief counsellor and would like to volunteer you can contact us on the details above.

When there is news of a pregnancy, and then the birth, we celebrate with coming together and well wishes for that new life and the opportunities we hope for it. When that child grows and reaches birthdays and milestones, again we celebrate. When two lives join together as partners, we are joyous in those unions, with

Would you like to put your thoughts on paper and contribute to ‘A Final Thought’? Perhaps you’re passionate about a local cause or want to raise awareness of an important issue. Or maybe you’d like to educate others about your unusual hobby.

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