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I just wanted to say a big thank you to the lovely lady and her two children who were crossing Southlands Rd when I thought my dog had got out. I asked if the lady could keep an eye out for my dog and they helped me look. My dog was in the garden behind some wood so he was OK, but I'd just like to say what lovely people there are out there thank you so much again!
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Horses and mules were essential to the Army during World War One. They shared the trials and tribulations with their humans. They gave their lives, but could have no understanding of the reason why they were called upon to work in such appalling conditions.
In the first few weeks of the war in Bromley, members of the Remount Service of the British Army commandeered and purchased horses from the local area. Sometimes this was of great inconvenience to the owners as the horses were in use at the time and would have a deleterious impact on their businesses, particularly those serving the people in the town.
We sometimes forget that horses were essential to the Army during World War One. Much attention has been focused on the dreadful conditions and sufferings of the men in the trenches, yet the suffering was shared by the horses as seen in the book, play and film War Horse by Michael Morpurgo. All the armies used horses and mules.
In Bromley Mr L Y Squire came to talk about the work of the Veterinary Department in France:
Whereas, it seems to have been less of a problem for the rural districts in Bromley, it is understood that farmers throughout the district are quite satisfied with the way that they have been treated with regard to the taking of horses for military use.”
Conditions were severe for horses and mules at the front. Many suffered wounds in battle, mange, were injured by poison gas, endured exhaustion and some suffered mental problems. Mobile veterinary sections were established to take the sick and wounded to veterinary hospitals where they could be treated. A typical veterinary hospital could take 2,000 patients. It was up to the Remount Service to care for the horses and mules once they had been treated by the vets. The success rate was high; 2.5 million animals were hospitalised in France and two million were returned for duty at the front. In Egypt there were also separate camel hospitals under the command of Army Veterinary Corps officers with specialised knowledge of camels
“Mr Rogers, cab proprietor, Bromley South, had six horses taken on Wednesday morning. Mr Rogers’ cabs were busily engaged on Wednesday conveying to their homes persons returning, in many cases hurriedly, from their holidays, and persons going to military centres. Owing to the demand for horses by the Government, some of the tradesmen in town find it difficult to make their deliveries, and they are appealing to their customers to assist them as much as possible by fetching goods.
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At the outbreak of war, there were 25,000 horses at the disposal of the British Army. Under the Horse Mobilisation Scheme of August 1914 the number of horses purchased increased to 115,000. They had work to do including pulling the artillery and equipment carts and riding into battle with the men. For every two men who were lost, one horse was killed. In September 1916, during the Battle of Verdun, 97 horses were killed by a single shot from a French naval gun.
“A horse belonging to the Co-operative Society was taken from the shafts and commandeered.
“In France a hospital had been built to accommodate a thousand horses. One thing that they were very much in need of – rugs.”
“The society (RSPCA) had supplied thousands of wither pads and sheep skins for the horses. They had also undertaken to give lectures to the recruits in training camps, and had distributed 48,000 leaflets on the question of first aid to horses. The society had supplied and were maintaining six ambulances, with ointments and dressings for use in the field.”
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Mechanised means of transport were only just coming onto our streets and onto the battlefields – initially in the form of motor bikes and buses for the troops, and then the introduction of tanks into the fight in September 1916.
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Strictly Come Dancing’s original Italian stallion, Vincent Simone, is set to head out on his first solo tour in the autumn of 2022, coming to the Churchill Theatre, Bromley on Sunday 23rd October. TANGO PASSIONS will showcase the beauty and passion of the art form that is the Argentine Tango. Although his dance partner of over 25 years, Flavia Cacace, has retired from performing, Vincent wants to continue to bring his passion and love for the Tango to the stage and will be joined by Argentine Tango specialist Paula Duarte, who will be his leading lady.
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Because of these wonderful, courageous people, I decided to write a novel about Parkinson’s. I did it to raise awareness and money, and had no concept of what would happen next, but the Parkinson’scommunity embraced me and my novel, which has sold all over the world. I was overjoyed and amazed when the Michael J.Fox Foundation put it on their website. Parkinson’s is unfortunately on the increase, but don’t imagine my novel is depressing.One reader told me she was having to sleep in the spare room because she was reading it in bed and laughing out loud!
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My second novel, You’re Not Alone Anymore, explores the themes of love and loss, whilst my latest novel, A Secret Sky, followsa young Irishman’s tough journey as he struggles with his mental health and place in the world.
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In 2019 I was asked to adapt it into a play for a festival in Rochester, and the Hempstead Players did a wonderful, movingperformance. It is being staged again this year at three more venues including the Glass Box Theatre in Medway.
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Jane Cullen, a local exercise teacher, has turned author with three books under her belt. Specialising in teaching people with long termneurological conditions, Jane’s first book Say That Again was inspiredby her students…
2022…the glorious year of our late Queen's 70th Jubilee, the BBC celebrating its Centenary, 100 years of tennis at Wimbledon and our very own u3a celebrates its 40th birthday! Founded in Cambridge by three friends and now a worldwide organisation with over 1,000 u3a groups in the UK and 500,000 members, it’s a very special year for us. We have 1,000 members in Orpington participating in everything from Backgammon and Bridge to philosophy and play reading. Why not join us at our next monthly meeting at Crofton Main Hall on the third Monday of the month at 2pm? You will be assured of a warm welcome, tea and biscuits and a talk by one of our specially chosen topical speakers, plus the chance to meet new friends and see first-hand the many activities we enjoy. And all this for a one-off £12 a year. We look forward to meeting up or answering any questions you may have.
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It’s great for them and it’s great for the game. It’s like another arm of football that will keep getting bigger and bigger – I think it’s a really positive thing for the game.
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The event will include a live and uncut interview where you’ll hear never heard before insights from the former Tottenham and England star on what it’s like to play for and manage both club and country. Audience members will also get the chance to put your questions across to Glenn in an audience-led Q&A.
One of football's greatest talents and former England manager, Glenn Hoddle, is coming to Bromley this month in An Evening with Glenn Hoddle at the Churchill Theatre, hosted by his former Tottenham teammate Graham Roberts.
A rare orchid, closely related to those that informed Charles Darwin’s theory of evolution, has been restored to the scientist’s former garden at Down House in Kent by English Heritage. Following two years of careful conservation and management by the charity’s gardeners and volunteers, Down House’s violet helleborine orchid population has doubled in number and is currently enjoying its best flowering season in living memory. Darwin spent many hours in the gardens at Down House making observations and conducting experiments that helped develop his ground-breaking theories - with the helleborine orchid and its relationship with insects playing a key role. The violet helleborine orchid is particularly interesting as it is pollinated entirely by wasps. The plant’s nectar is intoxicating to wasps, making them fall about as though drunk and unable to clean themselves of pollen. The wasps then travel from flower to flower, carrying the pollen and pollinating as they go. Without wasps, there would be no violet helleborine.
Bromley’s nearest Premier League team is Crystal Palace – what sort of memories do you have of playing at Selhurst Park?
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The Lionesses’ success brought the country together (well, certainly England anyway!) –what role do you think football can play in our local communities?
You’ve enjoyed success as a player, manager and commentator – what advice would you give our readers who are hoping to make the most of their talents and achieve their goals?
You’ve got to work on what makes sense to you. You have to listen to the more experienced people, and then decide what suits you. And just because someone tells you something, it doesn’t mean that’s a given. You have to make your own choices and form your own opinions about everything.
Ahead of the show, which takes place on Monday, 10th October, Life In…Magazines were lucky enough to speak with Glenn to ask him about all things about his upcoming appearance…
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It’s a lot of fun, meeting the guys and sharing all the stories of my life, from when I was a kid and right the way through. And it’s a nice intimate setting, a nice number in the audience.
You’re appearing with Graham Roberts, another Tottenham legend. How often does he remind you that it was his solo run that led to the penalty you scored in the 1982 Cup Final against QPR?! Yeah, but it was my tackle that won the ball in the first place, and I always tell him that! But Graham was a great player in his own right, a great defender that used to kick lumps out of people.
Well, it’s been a long time since I played there, but there were good days and there were bad days. I got sent off there too, which was a shock, and it should never really have been a sending-off offence. But I scored some great goals there too and it was always a tough game –always.
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..my dog had just had a very long pee over the beautiful sunfilled patch behind the greenhouse where he grew this prizewinning lettuce
growing tomatoes all looking very tempting.
I found the greenhouse, it was impressive and full of
I duly arrived at the right time and was welcomed with a glass of Pimms. The house was on a street, so I asked if there was greenery or a park nearby so I could take her for a little pee before lunch. I was told the producer’s dog had use of the large garden and we were welcome to do the same. There were poop bags by the greenhouse, if I needed them, he added.
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There’s been so much talk lately about the rising cost in food it is no wonder that so many people have started to bake their own bread and grow their own vegetables. Personally, I am quite useless - I have tried, many times, to grow a little herb garden. I follow the instructions to the letter, but fail miserably. All my seeds ever raise is laughter as they show no sign of appearing from under the earth. I wonder if the God of vegetablegrowing is paying me back for a faux-pas
It was when I was in line for a film part. I, and other prospective actors, were invited to the film producer’s house for a lunch and get-together. It was a large house in a prestigious street in London. I had enquired before I came about my well-behaved dog and was told this producer had one the same breed and I was invited to bring mine with me.
My dog is quite shy, so we wandered around the back and after our long drive, she had a very long pee in a patch of greenery and then in we came for our delicious
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My forkful of lettuce froze in front of my mouth as I realised that my dog had just had a very long pee over the beautiful sun-filled patch behind the greenhouse where he grew this prizewinning lettuce. I didn’t ask how thoroughly the lettuce had been washed, and I didn’t have the courage to own up to my sin. I’m afraid I watched as others munched happily on the green salad. The God of vegetable patches paid me back though. I didn’t get the job.
all munched and chatted on the variety of salads on offer, Zavier, the butler, came in with a bowl of freshly cut lettuce and tomatoes to top up the near empty bowl. We all dug in, but just as my fork reached my mouth, the producer spoke. ‘I hope you all enjoy the salad,’ he said. ‘I grew it myself. The tomatoes I grow in my greenhouse and the lettuce gets a lot of sunlight, it has its own patch behind the greenhouse. Zavier has just picked it, so it’s fresher than fresh. Enjoy.’
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The last couple of months had also been filled with a fabulous array of musical talent. At Petts Wood Calling, I had the privilege of introducing the first act. At Priory Live in Orpington, which helped support my charity for this year, Everybreath, I heard more brilliant bands.
But in my role as Mayor of Bromley, it has been my honour to lead the borough in its commemoration of the life of our wonderful sovereign. It was my duty to lead both the silence held at the Civic Centre on the day after Buckingham Palace released the sad news, and also to read the proclamation of His Majesty King Charles III to the borough two days later.
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I hope those of you who were moved to do so could sign the Books of Condolence that we opened around the borough, and lay floral tributes where I and the Deputy Mayor lay ours in Queens Garden.
Remaining on a sporting theme, it was a great privilege to welcome the Duke of Gloucester to the Borough this summer to see what Bromley Council achieved with our Access to Sport Week.
Having helped Bromley’s men's and ladies' football teams celebrate their own successful 2021/22 seasons, I was delighted to bring the ball onto the pitch for Bromley FC’s first game of the 2022/23 season against Altrincham. A big thanks to Mark Hammond for making us feel so welcome and fingers crossed 22/23 will be another winning year.
I, like everyone across Bromley, and the nation, have found recent weeks very difficult, following the sad passing of Her Majesty The Queen. She meant so much to me and to all of us, and the majority of us would not have known a time when she was not our monarch.
Prior to the Queen’s passing, life had been similarly busy. I worked with the Rotary Clubs of Bromley to stage a wonderful Ukraine Independence Day event at The Warren. There was fun for all the family, and I hope the event went some way to making our Ukrainian guests feel welcomed while also raising much needed funds to aid those struggling in their homeland.
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Don’t consider people in the parking sector as strangers or people that you can’t talk to. We are all the same and are all members of the public. We all have cars and families and experience the same joys and frustrations. It’s always good to write or pick up the phone and talk to us.
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So, what does a typical day look like?
If people do have a query, where can they go? Best is to visit Bromley and Bexley’s websites where you will find ways to make contact, either by phone, email or an address to write to. People can also get in touch via social media such as Twitter.
Do you think that things like fingerprint or iris technology will become a means of payment in the future?
What are some of the challenges you face in your job?
I’ve learnt that if something needs to be addressed then don’t leave it but deal with it straightway. For example, if we get anti-social behaviour in our car parks then it’s important that this is dealt with immediately so I would tend to work with my colleagues in public protection and the police to resolve
I manage a total of 53 public car parks across Bromley and Bexley, working with our parking contractor, Apcoa. Monitoring the car parks is important to make sure that cleaning, maintenance, and any Health and Safety issues are dealt with quickly. New technology also plays an important part, so for instance I also get involved in new car parking schemes to make sure they’re implemented correctly.
Gerry Broomfield
Not many, some customers can get angry if they feel they have been hard done by, but again, I find its best to take your time to listen to their complaint, speak to them if possible and get their viewpoint. Quite often something good and productive may come out of the conversation.
If you could pass on one message to the public about your job, what would it be?
And finally, what do you enjoy doing outside of work?
I write stories and record pop songs which I’ve done since the 90s. My short stories are on Amazon at the moment under Gerald Broomfield. I’m also starting to put my songs on streaming outlets like Amazon Music and Spotify, etc (search for Gerry Broomfield)
5 Minutes With…
Gerry is Bromley’s Car Park Facilities and Assets Manager for Bromley, having worked his way up from parking attendant over 45 years ago. He’s now responsible for 34 car parks in Bromley and 19 in Bexley. We sat down with Gerry to find out what his job entails and where he thinks technology might play a bigger role in the industry’s future…
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I think the variety of the job, every day is not the same, is something I enjoy. I can never say what I’m doing this week will be the same as next week.
I may have certain schemes on the go, such as tariff reviews, new car parking projects, together with the checking and inspecting of car parks. For instance, both Councils have several Park Mark Awards. This means that they have reached excellent standards in car park management, such as in areas of security, lighting and none or low crime levels. I tend to be proactive and am always looking at ways to make improvements, for instance the Civic Centre car park floor levels were colour coded to help motorists to find their car on their return.
What are the perks of what you do – what do you enjoy?
You never know what’s going to happen in the next 10 years. New technology is always there, such as automatic number plate recognition, and different ways to pay, like cashless parking payments, credit cards and Apple Pay rather than the traditional cash payments.
Hi Gerry! So, what exactly does your job entail?
Meets the first Thursday of every month, 7.45pm - 9.45pm
Country dancing for all. Come with a partner or on your own, you’ll be made very welcome. At each session we dance a selection of lively dances from 17th century onwards.
Monday at 9.30am and Wednesday at 9.45am (for 1 Orpingtonhour)Village Hall
Community on the Crescent by the 9th Orpington Air Scouts Saturday 24th September, 12.30pm - 4.30pm Crescent Way, BR6 9LS
Mel Crisp Yoga
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Now in its second year, Community on the Crescent is a free music event for the community by the community, with live music from local groups and schools, fun stalls and games. This year we welcome the Bromley Concert Band as well as OUCH! ukulele sing-along. Bring a picnic rug and join us for a fun afternoon and help raise funds for Living On, a local charity supporting children bereaved of a parent, and 9th Orpington Air Scouts.
Forget-Me-Not offers support for all those affected by suicide loss. The group is self-led and informal, where you can connect with other survivors.
Productivity Pod Monday 3rd October, 11am-1pm
Online streaming plus live offerings - 40+ classes a week, early mornings, mid mornings and evenings, including weekend classes. Outdoor Boot Camp, Circuits, Strength, Cardio, Pilates, Zumba, Yoga, Total Body Lite, Box Fit and more: fitness for all! Mornings at Westcombe Park RFC, evenings at Tubbenden School.
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Pratts Bottom Village Email prattsbottom@wkfwi.org.uk orHall just come along
Message the Facebook page for a call back Meets the last Thursday of every month Orpington Village Hall, 311 High St, Orpington BR6
Cost: £12 a year
If retired/working part-time, why not join nearly 1,000 other members for access to over 95 different activities. Refreshments also provided.
Contact:Cost:0NNFreewww.facebook.com/bereavementcafe
Bereavement Café
Christ Church URC, Petts Wood. Vinyasa Flow Class mixed ability and beginners welcome. Cost: PAYG £12, Block Payment Classes £60 for 6 consecutive classes. First PAYG class is half price. Contact: Mel on 07504 855 424. Email melcrisp41@icloud.com www.melcrispyoga.com
See website for class dates & times
Hatha Yoga classes mixed ability and beginners welcome. Tuesday evening 6.50pm
The WI provides women with fun and friendship plus the chance to learn new skills, get involved in the community and take part in a wide range of activities. Our monthly meetings often have a speaker and within our group we have a Quilting Club, Art Club, Book Club and a Lunch Club. You can be assured of a warm welcome.
If you're struggling with the loss of a loved one, contact The Bereavement Cafe to talk with qualified bereavement counsellors. All are welcome.
u3a
1st and 3rd Thursdays of the month, 2-4pm Orpington Liberal Club, 7 Station Rd, Orpington, BR6 Cost:0RZ £6 visitors, £5 members
Crofton Main Hall
Cost: Contact:FreeSandra - 07519 105354
Forget-Me-Not Survivors Of Suicide Loss
Cost: Contact:Free9thorpington.org.uk
Cost: Contact:Freehelenjmanchip@gmail.com
HEALTH, FITNESS & MINDSET
what's on
Cost: PAYG £5 - £8 Contact Fran: 07976 www.flinsfitness.co.uk412027
Juice of Barley Country Dance Club
Contact: Email janetmaile@rocketmail.com or call 01689 836407 See juiceofbarley.weebly.com for more information.
Flin's Online & Live Fitness Classes
Your essential what's on guide for events, activities, clubs and much more in and around Orpington. There's something for everyone! We’re looking to hear about your news, notices and local events! Email us hello@lifeinmagazines.co.ukat
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Pratts Bottom Women’s Institute Meets the first Thursday of every month 2pm - 4pm
Email: www.survivorsofsuicideloss.org.uksosl.orpington@gmail.com
Contact: chair@u3aorpington.org.uk or 01689 859045
A free online Zoom session where participants work together to be accountable for their productivity. Cameras are left on but mics are muted so that everyone works on what they need to. When the session ends, attendees tell each other what they managed to get achieved.
ThirdOrpingtonMondayof the month at 2pm
Ilyrica String Quartet Concert
Cost: First session is free, then £6 per session with membership available
8pm-10pm
MUSIC & entertainment
Contact:Orpington01689 831551
EveryClassesMonday
Openlibrarybetter.org.uk/library/london/bromley/st-pauls-cray-Email:Contact:StMonday,2pmOpenlibrarybetter.org.uk/library/london/bromley/southborough-0355Tuesday,Wednesday&Friday9.30am-1pm&-5.30pm,Saturday9.30am-1pm&2pm-5pm,Thursday&Sundayclosed.Paul’sCray02083005454stpaulscray.library@gll.orgMonday,TuesdayandThursday9:30am–1pm & 2pm –Saturday5:30pm9:30am – 1pm & 2pm – 5pm Wednesday, Friday and Sunday closed
what's on
Into the Daylight – Jazz and Blues evening Thursday 6th October, 8pm - 11pm
Scottish Country Dancing Beginners’
The Meeting Room, Crofton Halls, York Rise, BR6 8PR Cost: 1st taster lesson free, then £6 a lesson
Contact: 01689 877402. Book a table or walk in: Forwww.thedaylightinn.co.ukdetailsseewww.greenchainquartet.com
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Ilyrica is a string quartet who play classical and popular music. This concert will be mainly Beethoven and Mozart quartets. The Croft Poetry Group will also recite some of their poetry.
Contact: Email info@iyengaryogahouse.com or ring 01689 451679. See iyengaryogahouse.com
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We have classes throughout the week whether you are a beginner or have experience in Iyengar yoga! Get in touch for more info and to book your first class!
Saint Mary’s Church, Saint Mary Cray, BR5 3NL Cost: £7 per person, free for under 18s/students
Now in its second year, Community on the Crescent is a free music event for the community by the community, with live music from local groups and schools, fun stalls and games. This year we welcome the Bromley Concert Band as well as OUCH! ukulele sing-along. Bring a picnic rug and join us for a fun afternoon and help raise funds for Living On, a local charity supporting children bereaved of a parent, and 9th Orpington Air Scouts.
Classes cover the key steps and formations that will give you the skills to dance numerous Scottish dances. More experienced dancers are always willing to help guide you through a dance. No partner needed! Scottish dancing for fun, fitness & friendship!
Please check websites for the latest library updates and opening times.
Contact: Email info@pbdodgeball.co.uk or call 07742136221. Also see www.pbdodgeball.co.uk, Facebook: @ PBDodgeball Instagram: @pbdodgeball
libraries
Contact: Call 07751-303610 or orpingtonscottishdancing.comsee
Email: librarybetter.org.uk/library/london/bromley/petts-wood-Email:Contact:Petts9.30amWednesdayOpenbetter.org.uk/library/london/bromley/orpington-libraryOrpington.library@gll.orgMonday&Thursday9.30am-7pm,Tuesday,&Friday9.30am-5.30pm,Saturday-5pm,SundayclosedWood01689821607Pettswood.library@gll.org
Open Monday, Tuesday & Friday 9.30am - 5.30pm, Thursday 9.30am - 7pm, Saturday 9.30am - 5pm, Wednesday & Sunday closed
Cost: Contact:Free 9thorpington.org.uk
Sunday 9th October, 3pm-5pm
Interested in trying a new sport? Want to meet new people while getting active? Join us for a friendly game of Social Dodgeball in Bromley and Bexley. Come along for a free first session to give it a go and see what the sport is about!
Daylight Inn, Station Square, Petts Wood, BR5 1LZ Cost: £5 admission (supporting Bromley Food Bank and Ukraine Appeal
Contact: Jackie Cook on 01689 810451 or Seeemail Jackiecook.email@gmail.com.CrayValleyParish.org.uk
Cost: Induction course £45 (£9 per class), 1-hr classes £10, 1.5hrs £12 & 2hrs £15
Jazz and Blues with the Green Chain Quartet and special guests including Amanda Forbes, a compelling jazz and blues vocalist.
Yoga Classes For All @Iyengar Yoga House 70 High Street, St Mary Cray, BR5 3NH Monday & Thursday – Induction courses for beginners. Friday – active & fun sessions for children aged 7+. Friday morning - Gentle classes for 55+. Weekly classes for experienced yoga students & private sessions also available.
Contact:Southborough0208467
Community On The Crescent by the 9th Orpington Air Scouts Saturday 24th September, 12.30pm - 4.30pm Crescent Way, BR6 9LS
sessions, every Tuesday in Bromley and Thursday in Bexley Tuesdays: 8.30pm - 10pm at Bromley College, Rookery Lane, Bromley, BR2 8HE Thursdays 6.30pm - 8pm at King Henry School Community Sports Centre, Ramsden Rd, Erith DA8 3BU
Bookings: www.bromleylittletheatre.org
Life In...Orpington cannot be held responsible for any changes or cancellations of an event. We recommend you double check times, places & dates if attending an event listed.
Contact:FreeKevin on 07779-755510 or email Website:kevkentones@outlook.comThekentones.co.uk
La Scala, 12.30pm-2pmOrpingtonfollowed by open networking
jgroundsell@1230.co.uk or call 07930756012 / 020 8650 8015 https://1230.co.uk/calendar/
Tueday 18th – Saturday 22nd October
Tickets: £29.50
Contact: Chairman John Parker, 07973 622905 or Secretary, 01689 837044 and Facebook page ‘Orpington Keyboard Club’, email johnparker2a@ gmail.com or see www.OrganFax.co.uk/clubs/ orpington
Multi award-winning comedian and actor Omid Djalili is back doing stand-up. Intelligent, always provocative and entertaining, Omid’s legendary stand-up performances are a captivating comedy masterclass.
Argentine Tango King and Strictly Come Dancing legend Vincent Simone returns to the stage. Accompanied by world-class Argentine Tango specialists, enjoy his dancing, tales and poetry about the history of the Argentine Tango, in this show taking you on a journey to Buenos Aires.
14th – 22nd October, 7.45pm
MUSIC & entertainment
A listing costs £15 or £60 for 6 months (£10 a month). Charities and non-profits are eligible for a 15% discount.
7TH OCTOBER
Various times
Tickets from £25
Crofton Halls, York Rise, Orpington, BR6 8PR
1st Thursday of each month
Cost: Entrance fees £10 for visitors, Members £8
what's on
NEXT BOOKING DEADLINE:
Join The Kentones, a male acapella chorus, to learn a new song in four-part harmony. At the end of the free six-week course, invite friends and family to watch a live performance of the song, along with a few other songs from The Kentones.
To advertise call 020 3488 9959 email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk
Spaces are allocated on a first come, first served basis.
Cost:8JE
Orpington Keyboard Concert
Time To Sing
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As they await the arrival of Andy, brain-damaged and physically incapacitated from birth, from his care home for his 21st birthday party, The Herd reveals, with clarity, and compassion, the profound emotional impact that the constant fight to look after him has taken on his nearest and dearest over the years.
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Churchill Theatre, Bromley
Contact: tickets@churchilltheatre.co.uk
Our next concert on 30th August features DAVID INGLEY, playing the magnificent ‘Technics GA3 Electronic Orchestra; Fantastic Sounds! Fantastic Instrument!’ The hall is air-conditioned, with free face masks and adequate seat spacing and hand sanitizers. There will be an interval at half-time and refreshments are available. Free parking available, plus wheelchair & disabled facilities.
The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel takes us on a journey to India with an eclectic group of British retirees as they embark on a new life. Starring the icon of Hollywood’s Golden Age, Academy, BAFTA and Golden Globe-Award winner Hayley Mills, screen and stage star Paul Nicholas and Rula Lenska.
Omid SaturdayDjalili15th October, 8pm
Vincent Simone - Tango Passions
Non-members £28 and members £18. This includes a complimentary delicious lunch, plus any workshops and Contact:speakers.Email
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The Herd
30th August 2.30pm-5pm (doors open 2pm)
Tickets from £36
Sun 23 October, 3pm
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St Paul’s Church Hall, Crofton Road, Orpington, BR6
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from meeting locally to share experiences, to working together to grow business through regular vibrant, buzzy networking meetings.
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What does community mean to you?
Parisa Wright Local Heroes...
Before I set up Greener & Cleaner in early 2019, I felt overwhelmed by the enormity of the changes needed in our borough and unsure whether anyone would join me. Now I'm part of 7,000 households engaging with sustainable living through the support of Greener & Cleaner in the borough. We helped ensure the highest response rate of any London borough to the council's draft Air Quality Action Plan, highlighting just how important it is to have a group like ours increasing awareness.
The problem is real, but we can do something about it, using our skills and hearts, together. We can all take impactful small steps and we can certainly acknowledge that systems won't change unless we use our voices as well as our choices. Every voice matters and, as you can imagine, the more new voices the better.
A special ‘Thank You’ to Time For Flowers for sponsoring the bouquets and plants for our Local Heroes.
I felt both logically and morally obligated to set it up. I'm extremely passionate about our efforts to support local changes - from impactful local engagement with sustainable living (cutting our carbon footprints) to boosting the borough's flora and fauna (improving local biodiversity). I've tried to use my work and social skills to turn my concerns and passion into a successful local charity to help empower us all to address the climate crisis in simple but impactful ways.
Congratulations on the nomination Parisa! How does it feel?
Nominate a local hero – it could be a friend, neighbour, local business or a member of your family! Email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk
Caring about and looking out for other people and spaces in your area. Growing relationships of trust, respect and compassion to enable people to happily collaborate and care for the community and its shared spaces, resources and opportunities, to create a safe, healthy, fair and thriving local community both now and for the future.
For more information see greenerandcleaner. co.uk or email Parisa directly at parisa@ greenerandcleaner.co.uk If you are interested in becoming a Greener and Cleaner volunteer email gcbbhub@gamil.com
Angela Hulm nominated Greener & Cleaner Bromley & Beyond's Parisa Wright, the founder and CEO of local charity Greener & Cleaner. Parisa lives in Shortlands with her family and says that one of her proudest moments was speaking about her charity's community sustainability support Hub project at COP26 in Glasgow last year. Angela says: “Parisa has helped to tap into Bromley's hidden talent – women. And she's certainly helped me to speak up and challenge myself to change the wrongs in my home and beyond.”
What does a typical working day for you look like?
Nominate a local hero – it could be a friend, neighbour, local business or a member of your family! Email hello@lifeinmagazines.co.uk
The newly opened Hub will allow even more people to ask questions, learn skills and collaborate with their local peers to make this community greener and cleaner. It will also enable us to conduct useful research to make sure we offer the best Hub possible to the borough's residents.
on numerous free Schools' Eco Ideas Swap events for the borough, with 35-45 primary schools involved each time.
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What message would you like to give people reading this?
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Conversations, collaboration and strategy. Emails and calls to help run and grow the charity, plus helping out at the Hub, chatting with residents and lots of guest speaking at events!
Over the pandemic, and thanks to the organisation and people skills of our COO, Emilie MacMullen, Greener & Cleaner volunteers helped sew over 3,000 face masks from upcycled fabrics for the Downham, Bromley and Orpington food banks. Thanks to the negotiation skills of our CSO, Clare Searle, we helped work with the council and Library of Things to ensure the space and funding for the fantastic lending resource ‘The Hub’ in The Glades for the borough's residents. Over the past three years I've also helped put
What do you particularly love about what you do?
Have you been involved in anything else community-related locally?
It feels wonderful. I'm so grateful to local community leaders like Angela who have worked with me and the Greener & Cleaner senior leadership team over the past three years to support residents in the borough cutting their environmental impact through simple but effective changes at home, school and work.
What’s new on the horizon?
Can you provide a bit of background about how you founded the charity?
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yourself to become vulnerable will help you grow. Consciously, you become aware of your patterns and the wounds you’re tending to - what your ‘inner child’ needs. It’s a space where you accept your flaws and embody your wounds of the past. You are no longer looking for anyone to fix or save you, you are ready for connection and support and you want nothing more than to reciprocate.
As many of us continue into adult life, we subconsciously draw in partners who we hope will heal our wounds.
by EMILY WYSOCK-WRIGHT, Adira Lifestyle
It’s commonly thought that when you find ‘the one’, there will be a spark that continues burning throughout the relationship. In the beginning it is exciting, your partner is flawless and you can’t get enough of them. However, as time goes on, we settle in, flaws emerge and the degree of intimacy changes. I have a strong belief that the ‘spark’ is within you, and it is your responsibility to keep it alive.
In light of this month’s pull-out-and-keep wedding supplement, our relationship feature focuses on married life…
However, often they are usually someone similar to the person who originally wounded us when we were younger.
How to find (and keep) the spark alive Relationships
It is here that the relationship evolves towards something much greater than individual satisfaction. The partnership becomes a journey into a loving evolution that allows both partners to expand and grow more than they could alone.
In this fast-paced world, these relationships can come about to serve and satisfy our own needs. Relationships can easily become extremely selfish and, in-turn,
(if you’re just starting out in married life)
The results showed that Prague tops the list as the best place to ‘Czech’ out for newlywed couples. The city scored highly on the number of green spaces, the cost of transport and the number of cultural activities on offer. Interestingly, the top four best cities for newlyweds are situated in Europe; with Athens, Venice and Rome coming second, third and fourth, respectively.
Relationships are there to hold the mirror up to us, to show us the wounds we hold and the trauma we need to release. If you expect your partner to ‘meet your every need’ so you can feel loveable, whole and complete, you end up draining Allowingthem.
From the moment we are born, we all expect to be loved and kept safe. Many of us received limiting messages when we were growing up that we weren’t good enough or that we didn’t measure up to our parents’ expectations. We felt and internalised the pain of being criticised. It was impossible to know how this inflicted pain on the little being we were back then… we experience so much pain we lock that little person away and get on with life squeezing into the mould set by everyone around us. We begin to adopt coping mechanisms which then become ingrained in us such as dis-association, people-pleasing and narcissistic behaviour. Some will be more severe than others, but mostly we are clever enough to conform to a normal life. However, we live, breathe and play out our traumas and pain throughout the relationships we hold closest to us, until we finally see the light and how we can heal ourselves.
However,dysfunctional. when
you really love someone, it’s not only something you feel when times are good - it’s not a matter of convenience. It is the very foundation for staying together when times are bad, when life gets tough. This is the time to pull those you love close, not push them away. You are committing to their whole self and you are understanding that the world is going to change, and you will adapt with it.
3. Reduce staining: Smoking, as well as consuming foods and drinks such as tea, coffee, curries, red and white wine, etc can stain the teeth. Drinking through a straw can help keep your teeth whiter for longer. Alternatively, try drinking sips of water in between.
2. Replace your brush: Change your brush every three to four months as over time the bristles lose their stiffness and effectiveness at cleaning.
• 44% of all Brits have been in love without acting on it
Dr Chaw-Su Kyi, westlondonorthodontist.co.uk WEDDING SPECIAL - PULL-OUT-AND-KEEP
Other interesting statistics from the study revealed
4. Ditch lemon in your water: If you’re on a prewedding diet which involves you drinking hot water and lemon, or cider vinegar, be mindful that they are very acidic, and can cause dental erosion. Your teeth may become yellower as a result and your teeth may become weaker.
• 36% of Brits are currently in love
lifeinmagazines.co.uk October 2022 Life in... Orpington 23 YourWEDDINGSPECIAL:pull-out-and-keepguidetoyourperfectday 10 alternative wedding gifts for your gift list (when you’ve already got everything!) 1. A wedding guest book for your guests to sign –and add their special messages to you on the day! 2. An experience to do together such as an abseil, hot air ballooning or a spa day! 3. Sponsor your favourite type of endangered animal 4. Name a star or planet after the happy couple 5. Buy them a title – Lord Of Bromley anyone? 6. Have the bride’s bouquet encased and preserved so it lasts forever! 7. A photography session on return from the honeymoon 8. A personalised keepsake box 9. A map print of where the couple first met 10. A night away at a hotel to keep up the romance! Over half of Brits believe in ‘the one’ National biographer, StoryTerrace, has gained insight into some of the most romantic love stories, by helping couples from 30 to 80-years-old find the words to convey their experiences. In their nationally representative research, the company found that over half of Brits claim to believe in 'the one' and that 25% of those surveyed also feel that their love story could be translated into a book or a film.
•that:47% of Brits agree that their parents’ generation has far more romantic love stories than their generation
• 26% of Brits feel that they let their one true love go
• 17% of people are jealous of their parents’ generation and their relationships
Brides and grooms across the country spend months planning their wedding. After all, it’s one of the most important (and treasured) days of your life, so you’ll want it to go without a hitch!
Over the next few pages you’ll discover tips and tricks to ensure your wedding runs smoothly, as well as pick up ideas on how to make it extra special – and it all starts here!
5 ‘at home’ tips for a winning smile
The pictures for your special day will last a lifetime, so it’s important to make sure your pearly whites are looking on point. We spoke to leading orthodondist Dr Chaw-Su Kyi to discover some great tips you can do at home in the lead-up to the big day…
5. Opt for teeth whitening: Forget the DIY treatment for tooth straightening kits or whitening treatments and let a professional get you that winning smile. DIY kits run the risk of irreparable damage to your teeth and gums - which is the last thing you want to gamble with just before your big day.
1. Don’t brush too hard: This can wear down enamel meaning that over time it can make your teeth look yellow as the dentine beneath is exposed.
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Buy accessories (shoes, jewellery, veil, etc) and wear in wedding shoes
Decide on a style and theme for the wedding Book hair and makeup artist
Meet with marriage celebrant/officiant Wedding cake tastings and order
Finalise plans for hen/stag party Book wedding car/limousine
Start shopping for wedding dresses/ groom’s suit
Source wedding invites
Secure bridesmaids / best man and book hen/stag party Book honeymoon hotel and flights
Order wedding favours and venue decorations
Purchase a wedding guestbook
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Book the wedding venue and reception
Purchase wedding dress, groom’s suit and bridesmaid dresses
fittings Confirm with suppliers – florist, wedding/ reception venue, caterer, cake maker, wedding car, BuyConfirmDJ/musicians,photographer/videographer,honeymoon.numberofguestsandrelaytocatererArrangeseatingplan‘thankyou’giftsforthebridesmaids,mothers-in-law,bestman,etc Enjoy your hen/stag party (ideally not the day before the wedding!) Book a manicure, pedicure, tan, hair colour and a massage to relax Practise your first dance and vows Drink lots of water, eat healthily and get some early nights The final week… 153 1. Old-fashioned pic n’ mix sweets 2. A disposable camera to take alternative wedding shots! 3. Mini succulents 4. Fortune cookies 5. Mini spirit bottles 6. Personalised biscuits 7. ‘Let love grow’ wedding seeds 8. Lottery scratch cards 9. Charity donation cards 10. A hangover survival kit 11. Mini board games 12. A CD mix of your favourite songs 13. A scented candle 14. Your favourite book 15. Personalised coasters Did you know…? Saturday is the most expensive day to get married, so why not consider a Friday? If it needs to be Saturday morning, weddings may be cheaper and then have an earlier reception. *Research from ExpressAmerican
Schedule a tasting menu with caterers for the wedding reception
Decide on a budget
Shop for wedding rings
Send request lists to photographer/videographer
Source and book florist (for table decoration and bouquets), caterers for wedding reception, DJ/musicians and photographer/ videographer
Pick up the marriage licence/apply for weddding bannsdress/suit/bridesmaid
Create song list for DJ/musicians and choose first dance song
Write the guest list and send out ’save the date’ invites
Write wedding vows and select readings Have a hair/makeup trial
Mail out the official wedding invites and gift list
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Beautiful bride makeup tips
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Plan ahead with skincare
Avoid doing anything experimental close to the day of your wedding – so no trendy facials or chemical peels. Exfoliate weekly, hydrate and moisturise daily, and always protect with Sun Protection Factor.
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Above all, keep your makeup simple and your photographs will exude confidence and beauty. -
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If you are wearing makeup on your big day, plan ahead! If you intend to apply it yourself, have some dry runs and if you’re booking a makeup artist, make sure you do so in plenty of time to make sure they are available.
For a bride to look and feel glamorous on her special day is down to some serious forward planning. With 20 years’ experience, I try to ensure that my brides glow, and feel at their very best with a makeup style that is true to them. Here are my top tips:
Decide on the kind of look you want
When choosing a makeup artist, always book a trial or consultation. Have a practice run, give your artist as much information as possible with photos (Pinterest is a great
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Couple’s cashback: Put your wedding costs on a card that earns you rewards and cashback for spending. This way you will be able to save up for a special treat when you celebrate your first year of wedded bliss. Bring your own band: Although music is essential to any wedding reception, create your own playlist instead of hiring an expensive band. You can even ask your guests for their music contributions to keep the party going all evening long. Keep guest numbers low: Guest numbers soon add up and it can be hard to keep everyone happy. Keeping numbers low may involve some awkward conversations with distant relatives; however most will understand the costs involved in weddings. American Express
Ensure that you eat a balanced diet, stay hydrated, rest when possible, eat sensibly and protect your hands and lips with nourishing balms.
source of ideas for makeup and hair), and together you can create your perfect look. A good tip is to think about whether you’ll be wearing your hair up or down, if you’ll be wearing glasses/contact lenses and let the makeup artist know in advance so they can match the look accordingly. Makeup 'must haves' for beautiful photographs Invest in a natural foundation and powder that matches your skin tone. This will leave a soft and smooth look and you can re-touch if necessary. Primers are an important product, and help makeup adhere to the skin to ensure it lasts longer. Bronzer can double as a blush to highlight the cheeks, or use a rose toned/peachy blush to create a stunning complexion. Lightly dust onto temples and blend. Your eyes are an important feature so use neutral colours like opals, bronzes or coppers on your eyelids. Apply waterproof mascara in layers on the top and bottom lashes for fullness and volume. If you're wearing lash extensions try them out first; they may need trimming.
For your lips choose a nude or natural high shine colour or even a red for that ultra glam vibe! If you want to play safe, just wear your favourite colour. To complete the look, use a finishing powder and makeup spritz for makeup longevity, to ensure you feel radiant for the entirety of the day.
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• Position carefully It’s important to consider the type of plant and its requirements. A basket full of shade-dwelling fuchsias or begonias placed in direct sunlight will quickly wilt, and equally, placing sun-loving plants like petunias in the shade will mean they soon fade, too. The elements also play a significant factor in the success of your hanging baskets, so ensure you choose an area that is sheltered from the wind. Rotate your hanging basket every so often to avoid plants growing unevenly and deadhead regularly to
3. Higher quality = longer life: Always buy from reliable brands that have performed well in tests/surveys and you’ll be saving money in the long term with durable products. Do your research and read reviews to find reputable brands.
7. Identify deals: Fitted furniture frequently goes on sale, so it’s worthwhile shopping around and investigating prices. Consider the timescales of deals and get multiple quotes, and always check details as retailers can run multiple promotions simultaneously.
Keep hanging baskets looking their best A hanging basket full of beautiful blooms and cascading colour is one of the easiest and most effective ways of making your home look glorious. Here are some simple tips from the experts at plant fertiliser brand Phostrogen® to keep your baskets blossoming for months… lifestyle
6. Practise good maintenance: Keeping rooms and appliances well-maintained can help avoid expensive repairs long-term (e.g keeping sinks clean will avoid limescale build-up). Small measures could extend your products’ lifecycles whilst supporting the environment by reducing landfill.
The cost-of-living crisis is adding pressure to household budgets, but don’t let this stop you from refreshing your home. The pandemic increased the demand for home improvements, and the increased costs coupled with reduced material availability has forced tradespeople to up their prices. However, if your revamp is essential, or you can’t face the same four walls, Which? has eight ways to save...
2. Lighter refurbs: Less is more, so opt for smaller updates for reduced costs. For example, rather than investing in a brand new kitchen, replace the unit doors and worktops for a refreshed look (and higher bank balance).
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4. Second-hand saving: Why not choose second-hand items for a cheaper and more sustainable approach? Take caution though – it’s best to view items in person before purchase, as private sellers aren’t obligated to clarify defects.
5. Plan ahead: Planning projects in advance can save money as it gives you time to explore different methods of money management, such as repainting, sourcing cheaper materials, negotiating, investigating fitters or fitting products yourself. For larger projects (extensions/ loft conversions), agree on a quote and timeframe in advance. Include clearly defined conditions for potential dilemmas, e.g if the price of materials increases during the project, then you could look at getting three comparison quotes. Also, request an overall price for the job, rather than a daily rate as fixed costs reduce the likelihood of mishaps.
1. DIY it! If you have the skills (and courage) do it yourself! Unfortunately, not all of us are DIY-savvy so if you aren’t 100% sure, always hire a professional (especially with gas/electrical projects!).
Water is not the only essential element that plants need, so it’s important to invest in a quality fertiliser. Potting soil contains nutrients to help plants grow, but the compost soon becomes exhausted as the plants absorb the goodness that they need, so these need to be replaced regularly to help your plants thrive.
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encourage repeat blooms. Water baskets generously until it streams through the drainage holes of the container.
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8. Buy or rent discounted tools: Tools/ DIY products often go on sale. If the task isn’t urgent, try waiting for a promotion or check to see if hiring products is an option. Try The Hub in The Glades for hiring tools (The Library of Things).
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You’re not including carbs Carbs aren’t the enemy! When you don’t eat enough carbohydrates, especially from vegetables, you risk also eliminating fibre, which is essential for digestion, a healthy gut, and metabolic balance. Extreme diets at either end of the fat – carb spectrum can negatively impact your metabolism. So, which is better – low fat or low carb diets? There’s no correct answer! Everybody is different and some do better with more carbs, others with more fat.
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4. Break it down - when we have lots to do, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed. When this happens, it can be useful to break down your tasks and plan how you will tackle a situation.
You’re counting calories, not colours Many people use diets with calorie or macro-based plans, which leaves them fixated on numbers, measurements and scales, without acknowledging their body’s need for nutrients, and their metabolism’s response. For example, your body will have a better metabolic result with a small cup of berries than with a cup of gummy bears. Diet staples like chicken and rice give your body some protein and carbs, however, generally, the less colour, the less nutrients. Some good nutrient-filled foods to include are dark leafy greens, colourful veggies, citrus, berries, avocado and raw nuts.
The concept of having a better diet is often at the forefront of people’s minds. However, with so many different types of diets, achieving your nutrition goals can be overwhelming. Nutrition expert Lauryn Lax from breakingmuscle.com outlines the main reasons why your diet isn’t working – and the solutions…
Your gut isn’t healed Underlying gut issues like bacterial overgrowth; imbalanced gut bacteria; chronic bloating/constipation; or low stomach acid can lead to nutrient deficiency and malabsorption issues. This means your body will fight against you, no matter how clean you eat or how much you work out. Many studies have proven that your gut is just as important as a healthy diet – one study suggested that those who focused on healing their gut lost an average of 11 pounds of body fat, whereas those who only focused on their diet lost three pounds.
5. Seek support - it’s okay to ask for help. It can help to share stressors with a friend or contact a mental health professional via your GP or another service such as Samaritans. tips on how to stay healthy visit
heartresearch.org.uk/healthy-tips THE 6 BIGGEST DIET MISTAKES YOU’RE MAKING 5 ideas on how 1.stressmanagetoKeepmoving - regular exercise has been shown to positively influence our ability to manage stress and reduce symptoms of some mental health conditions. 2. Take time to recharge - this could be taking regular breaks from work, relaxing through meditation, or even a short powernap! 3. Challenge your thoughts - the way we think
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about our demands will influence how stressed we feel. You can ask yourself questions such as “how would I advise a friend in my situation?” to help re-frame what is going on in your life.
You’re not eating enough fat Diets that severely limit fat can replace those calories with carbohydrates, which means your blood sugar levels are irregular – your body will constantly try to balance your insulin and blood sugar levels, which can impact your cortisol (stress hormone) production. Cortisol notifies your body to store body fat, rather than burn it, and can lead to an increased intake of high-carbohydrate foods. Dietary fat can help keep energy and hunger levels more even. Aim to have healthy fats with each meal and reach for snacks with healthy fat or ones that are protein based. These include ingredients like olives, avocado, eggs and raw nuts.
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You’re too stressed about your diet Stress is a factor resulting in stubborn body fat. Even if you don’t feel stressed, minor daily stressors can threaten metabolic balance. Your cortisol level needs to be balanced in order to shed body fat. Cortisol levels can become chronically high if you’re stressed long-term, and you can’t improve your body if your mind is stressed. (See below for ideas on managing stress)
You’re not paying attention to your meals Research shows that practising mindfulness during meals can help reduce cortisol and abdominal fat. Remember to: chew your food fully, remove screens from your eating routine and remember that you don’t always have to finish your plate.
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If you’re planning to hold a poker game in your local library or build a pigsty outside your front door, please think again. EM Law have been looking at some of the most unusual laws that are still on the UK statute books, and it turns out that both activities are illegal. Here’s a quick look at 22 of the more bizarre laws that are out there, many of which you probably didn’t know existed and most of which will make you scratch your head!
19. It is illegal to kill or injure a swan as they belong to the monarch
12. Knock down ginger (or knock-a-door-run) is prohibited
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by September 2025. Those taking this qualification will get a deeper understanding of the natural world and study key topics such as environmental and sustainability.
17. You cannot slide on icy streets
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16. A pet cannot mate with another from the royal household
8. It’s prohibited to be drunk while managing cattle
3. You cannot gamble in a library
21 It is a criminal offence to watch TV without a licence and you could be fined up to £1,000 if caught
Good news! The government is on track to deliver 26,000 more primary care staff to help improve patient access to appointments and reduce the COVID-19 backlog.
11. Whales or sturgeons need to be offered to the reigning monarch when they become beached
Over one million more disabled people are in employment compared to five years ago according to ONS (Office for National Statistics) data released earlier this year. It has been reported that the government is planning to invest £1.3 billion during the next three years to enhance employment support for disabled people and people with health conditions. The plan is for the cash to be used in building up current provision, to boost economic growth and help people with the cost of living.
9. Members of Parliament cannot wear any armour inside parliament quarters
2. Flying a kite in a public place is technically illegal
15. It’s against the law to have a pigsty in front of your house
18. Hanging your clothes across the street is prohibited as stated in the Town Police Clauses Act 1847
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7. You cannot walk cows down the street in daylight in England
22. Due to copyright, you cannot sing “Happy Birthday” as part of a public performance
5. Under the Treason Felony Act of 1848, it is an offence to “place any mark upon His Majesty’s coin or currency with intent to deface the same”.
6. It is illegal to be found drunk in a pub or on licensed premises in England and Wales
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20. Bad references from employers could be libellous if they are unfair and/or inaccurate
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14. You cannot dress up as a police officer or as a member of the armed forces
4. Taxis can’t transport rabid dogs and drivers have an obligation to ask passengers if they have smallpox or the plagues.
13. You cannot queue jump at tube station ticket halls
1. It’s illegal to carry planks of wood along a pavement unless there is the intention of it being unloaded from a vehicle
10. It’s illegal to shake your rug in the street before 8am
• 60g pumpkin puree
• 200g chocolate, melted
1. Add the oats to a blender and blitz to a flour. Soak the dates in boiling water to soften them and drain.
• 50g cashew butter
According to the British Dietetic Association’s One Blue Dot report, which looks at eating patterns for health and environmental sustainability, consuming fruit and vegetables out of season has a higher impact on greenhouse gas emissions. As well as reducing our carbon footprint, eating produce grown closer to home means consumers can support local businesses and suppliers in the process.
PUMPKIN AND RED BERRY SPIDER TRUFFLES
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New research reveals that less than half (44%) of Brits know when some of the UK's most well-known fruit and vegetables are in season.
Good4U has partnered with leading nutritionist Fiona Hunter and Registered Dietitian Juliette Kellow to remind Brits that shopping seasonally helps to protect the planet, saves money and means enjoying food when it’s at its peak of freshness.
Time: 20 minutes, plus 40 minutes chilling
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• ½ tsp mixed spice
In the UK, food miles account for about a tenth of the total greenhouse gas emissions within the food system (other emissions come from producing and processing food). For example, research has revealed that produce such as out-of-season berries, account for around 11% of the UK’s food-transport emissions. But eating seasonally isn’t only a more environmentally friendly option. Seasonal produce is often at its nutritional best – the nutritional value of fruit and veg is at its highest just after they’ve been harvested. Plus, seasonal produce is brimming with flavour and is evidently fresher and of higher quality
3. Divide the mix into 16 pieces and roll into balls. Place on a lined tray and into the fridge for 30 minutes to firm up.
• 20g coconut flour
For the coating:
What are your guilty snack secrets?
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KNOW YOUR FOOD SEASONS!
New research reveals that one in six of us confess to regularly munching an entire pack of Pringles, while the same number say they regularly scoff an entire packet of biscuits with a cuppa. When it comes to takeaways, one in four order regularly because we are “too lazy to cook,” while one in six hide chocolate around the house from their partner—with women twice as likely to keep a secret stash.
For the truffles:
Based on research by FortuneGames. com who interviewed 2,000 adults aged between 18-65 about their guilty snacking secrets.
• A pinch of salt
4. Melt the chocolate and prepare the icing sugar glaze by stirring together the icing sugar with 1 tsp of water until thick.
• 100g The Great British Porridge Co Red Berry & Pumpkin Seed Porridge Oats
2. Place the dates in a food processor with the pumpkin puree, cashew butter and vanilla essence and blend until really jammy. Now add in the blitzed oats, cinnamon, mixed spice, coconut flour and salt and blend to a smooth and sticky dough.
In celebration of this month’s Halloween, these spider truffles are sure to tickle your tastebuds…
• 30g icing sugar
5. Dip each truffle into the chocolate and place back on the tray. Spoon over some of the icing sugar on top and drag through with a toothpick to create a spider’s web. Add on the googly eyes and allow to set in the fridge for 10 minutes or until the chocolate has set.
Makes: 16
• ½ tsp cinnamon
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Recipe Created for The Great British Porridge Co. by Amy Lanza @nourishing.amy
• 1 tsp vanilla essence
• 150g pitted dates
• Googly eyes (usually available in the cake ingredients aisle)
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Changes we made: Chandra gave us a comprehensive report (which incidentally is a legal requirement that should be on personnel files), recommending that our laptop riser should be set at 5” from the desktop to help with posture and that we needed a separate wireless keyboard and mouse to help prevent RSI (Repetitive Strain Injury). Other factors such as the keyboard distance, wearing blue light glasses, using eye drops and taking short breaks every couple of hours were also recommended. Chandra advised us to get a new chair to provide better lumbar support – he even assembled and adjusted it for us!
The DSE: Our trained assessor, Chandra Sharma, explained that he would determine what we were doing right and areas for improvement when it came to our working environment. We initially went through a questionnaire to determine any problem areas with how we work and our surroundings. We flagged up that we had a back problem and that we strained our neck whilst working as we were mostly using a laptop. Chandra then observed us as we worked, looking at things like seat position, posture, desk height, lighting, ventilation etc…
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1 month later: It was tricky adjusting to using a separate keyboard at first, but we persevered and found that we were naturally becoming more mindful of our posture as we worked. A month down the line and the back pain has significantly improved and we’re taking regular breaks too, which also means we’re actually more productive – a win-win.
A DSE report costs £65 plus VAT, but costs are deducted if any new furniture is ordered via Elmcroft Business Services. For more information call 0345-2222 444, email sales@elmcroftbusiness. co.uk or see elmcroftbusiness.co.uk
If your day job means spending hours in front of a screen, you might want to consider having a DSE (Display Screen Equipment) Assessment. We decided to try it out ourselves (our average screen time being 10+ hours a day) and chose local business, Elmcroft Business Services, to conduct the assessment….
I own a bookkeeping business, Four Corners Bookkeeping, so I am usually keeping my clients happy by keeping their business’s bookkeeping up to date. I live and work in the heart of Bromley, have a husband and two teenage daughters (oh and a cat). In my spare time, I like gardening, running and I play netball.
I am the bookkeeper and one of the directors so I make sure the accounts are up straight and invoices are paid. Being a not-for-profit organisation any surplus of monies are put back into the group, with contributions to group social events, donations to our chosen charities and purchasing equipment we need to provide a hybrid meeting for those that wish to attend by Zoom.
It was the friendly people and the comfortable relaxed environment. The group needed someone to handle finances and I felt I wanted to be involved.
The verdict: The good news was that we were given the thumbs up when it came to desk stability, lighting and ventilation, with everything within easy reach. However, there was cause for concern when it came to laptop height, keyboard distance and the chair we were using.
Q4: When you’re not busy working or helping organise BBN, what do you get up to in your spare time?
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Q1: What first attracted you into becoming a founding member of BBN?
Q3: What makes a great networking event?
Q2: What’s your role - and some of your regular duties?
A diverse group of businesses and people, a relaxed friendly atmosphere and plenty of banter.
Q2: Did you envisage BBN becoming as successful as it is today? And why do you think this is?
When I met the group I had absolutely no doubt it would succeed – the team all bring something extra to the group. We have a fantastic group of members and we utilise those members’ skills as much as possible to ensure everybody can contribute to the smooth running of the meetings.
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The Bromley Business Network was set up in 2019 with four founding members. This month we chat with Helen Paul from Bromley based Four Corners Bookkeeping...
Beckenham Business Association’s sixth Beckenham Business Day takes place on Wednesday 2nd November from 10am-5pm and businesses throughout the Bromley borough are invited to join what will be a valuable and insightful day. Organised by Beckenham Business Association, this year’s event carries the theme ‘Switch On, Switch Up’, which is aimed at helping businesses connect, grow and develop.
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Hamsters: 12-14 hours
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Dogs typically spend a short amount of time being up and active and before you know it they’re off snoozing somewhere around the house. Older dogs and new puppies can sleep even longer than the recommended 12-14 hours.
This is Acer but we call him Booboos or Baby Boy. We got him and his brother Alfie when they were just five weeks old. They were so tiny and unfortunately we lost Alfie. This cat is the most loving boy - he follows me to school and to the shops. He would be on my shoulder all day if he could. The love I have for this one is unbelievable!
This is Meg and Difor. They love all the streams in the borough and have thrown themselves in most of them!
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Tortoises are active during the day and sleep at night and they can sleep up to around 12 hours. Of course baby tortoises can sleep much longer, between 19 and 22 hours!
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Cats: 16 - 20 hours
Parrots: 10-12 hours
Snakes: Around 16 hours
Tortoises: Around 12 hours
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Snakes don’t have eyelids, instead they have a brille on each eye which is a transparent layer that protects their eye. Because snakes sleep with their eyes ‘open’, you may not actually realise that your pet snake sleeps for around 16 hours a day.
Lola. She’s nearly two years old and is such a loving cat who loves nothing more than belly tickles and cuddles. She is also crazy and loves to sit on top of doors and climb into the smallest of spaces.
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Rabbits tend to be light sleepers as they are prey animals, but it is believed that rabbits who are extremely comfortable in their environment will sleep longer. They also tend to sleep with their eyes open so it can be hard to determine whether they are awake or
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How much sleep do your pets need?
Although hamsters need around 12 to 14 hours of sleep, these are usually broken up over short periods of time and they typically sleep during the day.
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Dogs: 12-14 hours
Rabbits: Around 8.5 hours
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Most pet parrots are used to living near the equator where there is around 12 hours of darkness each night - that’s why they’re used to this much sleep.
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Cats need around 16-20 hours to avoid feeling tired and grumpy and just like dogs, younger and older cats need more sleep. Cats are pretty flexible sleepers and you may find they’re more active at early and late hours as these are the best time to hunt.
Olly our giant Jacko, loves his ball, food and sleeping in the sunshine!
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Here is our elderly ladychocolate lab, Tessie, who is almost 13. She loves everybody, cuddles, and FOOD (perhaps food before cuddles) and she is a big baby at heart.
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This is Poppy. She is a rescue dog and we’ve had her for just over a year. She has come a long way considering she was going to be put down because she bit the dog catcher. Because she was puppy-farmed she loves puppies or young dogs but is nervous of older dogs and has been attacked twice. Regardless, she is such a funny, intelligent character who is full of love and will do anything for a treat. Many dog walkers have noticed how well behaved she has become and how much progress she has made, which makes us very proud fur baby parents.
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La Vallée in Houlgate, Normandy seemed like a good compromise in terms of distance from home and its location in the Baie de la Seine, which is both picturesque and near loads of points of interest (more of that later). The camp itself is about a two-minute drive and 15 minute walk from Houlgate, a lovely little gem of a seaside town with scenic little streets and a bustling centre. La Vallée, set on rolling hills, afforded wonderful views of the sea and offered a fresh breeze in the baking sun.
With both an A-level and a GCSE historian in the car, Normandy’s long relationship with the Auld Enemy across the Channel (ie. Us) provided some fantastic field trips; a little under an hour’s drive is Bayeux, site of the famous tapestry (whisper - it’s an embroidery not a tapestry); a little over an hour’s drive gets you to Omaha Beach and, right next door, the very moving American War Cemetery. Notable mentions go also to the gun batteries at Longues sur Mer and the artificial harbour at Arromanches-LesBains. You will need three to four hours to adequately visit the excellent Memorial de Caen which is around half an hour from Houlgate. And if you want to see how the jetset once holidayed then there is the fancy, upscale seaside resort of Deauville with its beaches so huge that they almost need public transport to get to the water.
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The teens were impressed. Eurocamp made it easy for the kids to make friends with ice-breaking club activities and the park had a wide range of activities. The site wasn’t quite the rural idyll of Domaine des Ormes (a much bigger site in the Breton countryside) but that was OK. Socialising as a teen does seem to involve a lot more sitting down than climbing up.
The accommodation
Back in 2014, we had a family break at a Eurocamp in Brittany (Domaine des Ormes) that still sticks in our minds; the kind of holiday you remember as kids of climbing trees, scraped knees and staying out till it was dark. It seemed such an antidote to the screen-staring that would become the default position for our teenagers in 2022. Then they were six and nine but now 14 and 17…would the camp still hold the same
the shower was nice and powerful. As you would expect from Eurocamp, everything was pristine when we arrived. There was also a large outdoor decked area and a gas BBQ. Our overall impression (and this might be rose-tinted spectacles time) is that although there was more to this new cabin, it seemed to have less space than the one that we had at Domaine des Ormes.
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The nearest port is Caen, which is around a half an hour’s drive, but we opted for the Dover-Calais crossing which meant less driving in England and a shorter crossing but around three hours driving when we arrived. As we elected to take the toll roads (allow around 30 Euros in tolls if you follow the same route), the motorways were near empty and smooth as glass. We also decided to break up the trip by stopping off at Honfleur with its stunning old port (definitely worth a visit).
Where to visit?
All Eurocamps have a dedicated animation (entertainment) team for children at different ages. Even our two jaded teens were catered for and the introductory session on the Sunday ensured that ice was broken and there was little resistance to joining in. The list of amenities is long with obligatory pools (both inside and out), waterslides (watch your head on the second turn on the red slide) and a whole slew of others. Some of the listed activities were not available when we were there (Scuba diving lessons) and the WiFi wasn’t free either – something that Eurocamp had changed since our 2014 visit.
How to get there
Whereappeal?we stayed
We stayed in an Azure Plus with three bedrooms (one double, one twin and one bunk). The kitchen had all mod cons including a dishwasher and coffee machine and
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Soothing, ambient sounds known as white noise can be helpful to dilute and mask louder, harsher sounds with a more tolerable noise. These sounds are made to help you relax, which in turn helps you to fall asleep quickly. Check out your app store for apps that play soothing sounds to help drown out background sounds or sudden noises that could interrupt your sleep.
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If you're suffering from living with an ongoing noise and are struggling to fall asleep, earplugs are probably the most effective solution for you. You can purchase a good set of earplugs pretty much anywhere and they’ll certainly be worth the investment. After all, we think a good night's sleep is priceless.
If you're living in a shared house, or your bed is on a connecting wall to your neighbours, the secret to a quiet night's sleep could be simple - try distancing yourself from the source. Try rearranging your furniture, moving your bed to the opposite side of the room, or as far away from the noise as possible. Also positioning large pieces of furniture such as wardrobes against a noisy wall can help to muffle sound coming through.
The problem: When your skin is exposed to the sun and isn’t protected with sunscreen, melanocytes – the skin cells responsible for producing melanin, or pigment – go into overdrive as a protective response. Your skin produces the extra melanin to shield the internal structure of the skin cells and their DNA. This extra pigment then shows up as brown spots. As a preventative step, daily sunscreen is a must. But alongside that, vitamin C is one of the best ingredients to look for. It’s an antioxidant that neutralises damaging free radicals caused by sun exposure and brightens the skin by inhibiting the action of tyrosinase, an enzyme necessary for pigment production. It can also help fade existing dark spots.
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There’s nothing worse than being kept awake at night by unwanted noise. Silentnight’s sleep expert, Hannah Shore reveals her top tips on how to combat those distracting decibels and have a better night’s sleep…
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awake at night, there’s almost always a resolution. We've got plenty of good snoring solutions they can try. Check Silentnight’s Luxury Anti-Snore Pillow, and our tips on how to stop snoring. Or are you living with someone who grinds their teeth at night or sleep talks? Again, there are options to help prevent these night time habits and the best thing you can do is to communicate with the person dealing with these problems and address them together. It may even turn out they're not getting a great night’s sleep either.
If the noise that's keeping you up is coming from the street or noisy neighbours, soundproofing your windows is always an option. For a cheaper solution try hanging a thick set of curtains from your bedroom windows to help block out external noise.
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The eerie feeling began soon after his passing. Just as the last autumn leaf danced its way to the winter floor. Every evening at the same hour - at the exact hour that John had gone to sleep - the armchair in the back bedroom would begin to move back and forth. The rocking motion was gentle at first. However, as time passed the rocking soon became more and more aggressive. Maggie believed that this was a way for John to say that the visitor is arriving
Maggie could not sleep. Maggie closed her eyelids tightly. Maggie craved for nothing more than slumber. Maggie’s breathing was laboured. The sound of Maggie’s own breathing resounded throughout the house in a dim echo.
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Maggie’s children were fully grown. And her husband, John, was now deceased. John, God bless his soul, had passed away in their home. Although it was just her now, Maggie could always feel eyes on her. Maggie had always prayed that the eyes that lurked in the shadows were not menacing.
John had been a kind, supportive and a friendly gentleman. John had always provided everything they had needed in a gentle manner. John had been feeling frail and poorly leading up to his passing. But John never complained. Any time his illness did become too much he would just dismiss himself and go to sleep, praying that when he awoke, he would feel better.
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Maggie felt hot, sweaty, and irritated. Maggie could hear the beat of own heart in her ear drums. Maggie’s forehead was on fire. Maggie could feel something. Maggie could feel she had a visitor. Yet it was so cold. With every exhale Maggie could see her own breath with her naked eye. The hairs on the back of her neck stood up. Maggie was not alone.
Maggie was exhausted. Maggie was so exhausted that she did not move. Maggie must have closed her eyes. For there lying in front of her was the visitor. Staring at her with the same grin on its face as always. One of its long fingers played with the mat that was her hair. Twisting it around and around its long fingers. Just twisting and twisting. The visitor pointed its other finger at Maggie’s side table. Resting on her side table was her medication. The same medication that she had used on John. To help send John into a neverending sleep. Maggie had been waiting for this. Maggie’s ending was going to be the same as John’s. Maggie had done it out of the kindness of her heart. To ease John’s suffering. Why should she be punished for her kindness? Maggie had only added a few to his meal, a few to his favourite warm beverage in the evening. John would never have known.
by OLIVIA VIOLET PAVITT
bedroom. Which sat in front of the window. After his passing there was always a shadow there. At the same time at the same place. The shadow was always there.
last few nights, the visitor had been standing and watching her sleep. Just standing in the threshold of the door frame. Grinning like the cat who got the cream. Just standing there. Maggie could not remember the last time she slept. Maggie was too scared to close her eyes. She feared she may not open them again.
At this stage Maggie was too exhausted to fight. From the lack of sleep and fear. Maggie did as she was told. Maggie sat up, reached her medication, and took hold of her drink. Maggie opened her mouth wide and tipped a few of the pills into her mouth and swallowed her drink. Maggie lay back down just staring at the visitor’s wicked grin on its face. Slumber took hold of her. Never able to open them again.
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On the eve of John’s death, he dismissed himself to go to sleep in his armchair claiming he would feel better in the morning. John closed his eyes never to open them again. John passed away in his favourite armchair in the second
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In my 20’s I was always buying things in the naïve belief that this would bring me happiness. For a short time it did, but eventually the same thing always happened; I wanted a more expensive car, a bigger house and so on.
by TONY AYDINER
With all the evidence staring me in the face, I too have begun my own decluttering journey. I think it subconsciously started a while back. I used to queue up for the latest iPhone every year. My phone is now 3 years old, it works just fine. I would buy a new car every 2 years. My current car is 6 years old.
It's taken me almost half a century to understand what Bob Marley worked out much earlier in life.
Their idea was to search for happiness not through things, but through life itself; taking pleasure in friendship, love, experiences, travel, working for passion, and making others happy. They realised that the best things in life really are free.
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One of the makers of this documentary, Joshua Millburn, then an Operations Director of a telecommunications company said, "I was spending so much time working to buy stuff I didn't need….But it took getting everything I ever wanted to realise I wasn't happy."
The belief that money equals happiness is reinforced by advertising, along with all forms of media. We are constantly bombarded with the message that if we have a bigger house, a better car, and simply more ‘stuff’, we will be Forhappier.mostof
But now I’m on a mission. Recently I’ve given away all my CDs, DVDs and clothes I haven’t worn for years. And do you know what, as my flat became emptier, my mind became more peaceful.
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They decided to pursue their passions rather than stay in a job, which they only did for money, and they only kept possessions which brough them true joy.
We only live once. When you die, you will leave the world with nothing. Why are we all so obsessed with accumulating wealth? For what purpose? I’m not at my happiest making money to buy another car I definitely don’t need. I’m at my happiest when I’m laughing with family or friends, doing something creative, sharing quality time with a loved one, laying in the sunshine, riding my bike, reading a book. None of these things need an accumulation of wealth.
I haven’t done it yet, but my next step is to leave my job, to pursue my own passions instead of working for money. And I will do it.
This quote and a documentary called The Minimalists struck a chord with me.
Bob Marley has another famous quote - Money is numbers and numbers never end. If it takes money to be happy, your search for happiness will never end.
It's taken me almost half a century to understand what Bob Marley worked out much earlier in life. True happiness comes from friendship and love, experiences and passions. Stuff the stuff.
Like everybody else, I have been conditioned in life to pursue money. We are taught that if we study hard we will have illustrious careers, so that we can earn well and be happy.
my 49 years, I’ve been on that treadmill; working hard, seeking promotion to earn more money to buy nicer things. And guess what, I’ve done it. I’ve bought the Porsches, the bachelor pad, the 75” TV’s, the fancy bikes, and all the latest gadgets I can get my hands on.
Am I happier than when I was in my 20’s, delivering pizzas for a living? No way, I’m more miserable. How can that be when I’m surrounded by all this amazing stuff? My social life is still good, if not better. So why am I more downbeat?
A big clue came when I saw Bob Marley being interviewed on TV, and the reporter asked him, “Are you a rich man?”
“When you say rich, what do you mean?” replied Marley. “Do you have a lot of possessions? Money in the bank?” asked the “Possessionsreporter.make you rich?” said Marley. “I don’t have that type of richness. My richness is life, forever.”
Being a minimalist isn’t just about throwing out your physical possessions – it’s about minimising your todo list, becoming clear about your priorities and really understanding who you are and what you want out of life. It’s the process of decluttering your mind.
He and his friend, Ryan Nicodemus decided to pursue a minimalist lifestyle. They left their jobs, gave away nearly everything they owned, and moved into smaller homes.
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