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As we step into another exciting edition of Rochester Woman Online, I couldn’t be more thrilled to introduce our incredible cover woman, Sandy Waters—a powerhouse in radio, a voice that has graced the airwaves for years, and an inspiration to so many. In this issue, we dive into Sandy’s journey, her passion for connecting with her audience, and how she continues to uplift and empower through her work.
But that’s not all—this edition is extra special because we’re bringing you our exclusive “Everything Bridal” section! Whether you’re planning your dream wedding or helping someone who is, we’ve got everything you need in one place—from expert wedding planners, top-tier DJs, and breathtaking venues to the best hair and makeup artists, photographers, and more. This guide is your go-to resource for making your big day truly unforgettable.
We’re also spotlighting some incredible organizations and inspiring individuals making a difference in our community. Learn about Christopher’s Challenge, a foundation dedicated to helping those in need of bone marrow transplants, and Thrive to Survive, an organization providing support for adults battling cancer. Plus, don’t miss our She Means Business feature on Christy Salafia, a woman who is making waves in the business world and beyond.
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YOU ARE ENOUGH.
BY NICOLE HEROUX WILLIAMS I PHOTOS BY NSP STUDIO
Introducing Our Latest Cover Woman: Sandy Waters
Rochester Woman Online is thrilled to feature radio personality Sandy Waters as our latest cover woman. A beloved voice in the community, Sandy has been a staple of morning radio for over 25 years as one half of the dynamic duo on Spezzano and Sandy on 98.9 The Buzz. Her journey from a reserved college student to a confident and engaging morning show host is a testament to passion, perseverance, and embracing the unexpected.
Beyond her impressive career, Sandy is a devoted wife and mother. Married to fellow radio personality Mike Danger, co-host of The Sports Bar on 95.7 The Fan Rochester, she balances a thriving career with family life, raising two daughters, Leah and Alexa, along with their adorable mini schnauzer, Walter. Throughout her years in the industry, she has not only adapted to the ever-changing landscape of radio but has also cultivated deep connections with her listeners, making Spezzano and Sandy one of the longest-running morning shows in Rochester and beyond.
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moments, career highlights, and the challenges of balancing work and family life. Get ready to be inspired by her authenticity, humor, and heartfelt stories!
Interview with Sandy Waters
Tell us a little bit about yourself and your background.
I’m the Sandy part of Spezzano and Sandy on 98.9 The Buzz. Scottie and I have been together for nearly 26 years
Honestly, I never imagined I’d have a career in morning radio. I wasn’t the “funny” kid in class or someone who craved attention. If anything, I was more of an observer, so it’s crazy to think that radio has become my lifelong career.
It all started during my freshman year at SUNY Brockport. I originally planned to major in broadcasting with dreams of becoming a TV reporter. But after touring the college radio station, WBSU (now The Point), I completely fell in love with it. I owe my career to that station and to the faculty advisor, Koz—who has helped launch many successful radio careers.
In this exclusive interview, Sandy opens up about her unexpected path into radio, the evolution of the industry, and the incredible bond she shares with both her co-host and her audience. She also reflects on memorable
I’m married to Mike Danger, who also works in radio as the co-host of The Sports Bar on 95.7 The Fan Rochester. We have two beautiful daughters—Leah, who is 20, and Alexa, who is 15. And of course, I can’t forget our mini schnauzer, Walter!
What inspired you to pursue a career in radio?
Initially, I thought I’d go into sales, since everyone said that’s where the money was. But after landing an internship at 98PXY during my freshman year, my love for radio only grew. Scottie was actually the one who encouraged me to be on-air, telling me, “You can always go from on-air to sales, but it’s much harder to go from sales to on-air.” That turned out to be great advice.
What was it like when you first started in the industry?
When I first started, the radio industry felt larger than life—full of energy, big personalities, and a “let’s just have
“I can easily fall into workaholic mode, where I don’t know when to stop. I’m always striving to improve, and with that mindset, I’ve sometimes taken on more than I needed to.”
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fun” attitude. Morning shows were mostly male-dominated, with women playing more of a secondary role.
Personally, there were some growing pains. I had to get comfortable sharing every detail of my life on-air—nothing was off-limits! But that openness is what helped Scott and me build such a close bond with our listeners over the years.
You celebrated your 25th anniversary last year—what has it been like working with Scott Spezzano for so long?
Scottie and I are complete opposites, which is probably why we work so well together! After all these years, he truly feels like a brother.
One thing I really appreciate is how he has supported my growth on the show. When I first joined, it was Spezzano in the Morning, and Scottie was unquestionably the lead. Over time, he encouraged me to evolve into an equal voice on the show, which is rare in this industry, and I’m incredibly grateful for it.
There’s been a shift in content, too. The boundary-pushing style of early radio has softened due to cultural shifts, and budget constraints mean we have to be more creative. But one thing remains the same—listeners still turn to us for an escape. Our job is to keep the show fun, lighthearted, and real.
What do you think makes Spezzano and Sandy so successful?
Some of the most personal moments— like when I shared my miscarriage story— stand out because of the overwhelming support from listeners. And, of course, there are the ridiculous stunts, like when Scott got a bikini wax live on the air because I refused to do it myself! (Yes, we still have the wax strip as a keepsake.)
What’s the most unexpected or funny thing that has happened while on-air?
How has radio changed over the years since you first started?
Radio has changed in so many ways! Today, we’re competing with more platforms than ever, and attention spans are much shorter. That means we have to make every second count. Social media has also transformed how we connect with our audience, allowing us to deepen those relationships beyond just the morning show.
The listeners—our Buzz Fam! Many of them have been with us since day one, and over the years, we’ve built real relationships. We’re not just voices on the radio; we’re part of their daily lives. That connection is what makes the show special.
Do you have a favorite on-air moment or memory?
There are so many! I’ll never forget my first day on-air or when they officially changed the show name to Spezzano and Sandy. That moment meant so much to me.
Every day brings unexpected laughs, but one of our alltime favorites was when someone on the show (who shall remain nameless) accidentally swore live on-air. The silence that followed was hilarious, as we all scrambled in panic. In 25 years, having only one or two slip-ups like that is pretty impressive!
You were voted “Best Radio Personality (Female)” in 2010—what did that recognition mean to you?
I was incredibly honored, but I don’t get too caught up in accolades. What means the most to me is when listeners tell me how our show has helped them through tough times or simply made their day better. That’s the best reward.
Beyond co-hosting, you’ve worked as a voice talent. Do you have a favorite project?
One that stands out was a commercial where I had to use a sexy, seductive voice—which is so not me! It was way out of my comfort zone, and let’s just say it wasn’t a commercial I bragged
“ When I first started, the RADIO INDUSTRY felt larger than life— full of energy, big personalities, and a
“LET’S JUST HAVE FUN” attitude. Morning shows were mostly male-dominated, with WOMEN playing more of a secondary role.
“I wasn’t the “funny” kid in class or someone who craved attention. If anything, I was more of an observer, so it’s crazy to think that radio has become my lifelong career.”
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about to my old-school Italian parents!
How did you meet your husband?
I love telling this story, but my husband might not love the way I tell it! I was 19, sitting in my boss’s office when the phone rang... and the rest is history!
What has it been like raising a family while balancing a demanding morning radio schedule?
This question brings up a lot of emotion for me because, if I’m being honest, I carry some regret about immersing myself a little too much in my work at times. If you asked my older daughter, she’d probably say she never noticed, but that “mom guilt” is real.
I can easily fall into workaholic mode, where I don’t know when to stop. I’m always striving to improve, and with that mindset, I’ve sometimes taken on more than I needed to. Morning radio doesn’t have a punch-out time—it’s constant. Even after the show ends, I’m prepping for the next day, brainstorming ideas, or chasing down content.
Any parent can relate—sleep is usually the first thing to go, even though it’s what we all desperately need. For the first ten years of raising kids, I was running on just a few hours of sleep, which made it challenging to always be the fun, upbeat mom I wanted to be.
As I got older and more secure in my role on the show, I started setting boundaries. It’s still a work in progress, but at least now I’m aware of the balance I need. I’ve learned that being present with my family matters more than chasing perfection in my career, and that realization has
made all the difference.
Morning radio requires super early wake-up calls—how do you manage your schedule and still make time for yourself?
Now that my kids are older, I’ve gotten much better at being disciplined with my bedtime. I’m basically in bed by 8:30 p.m., right alongside a lot of kindergarteners! It may sound early, but it gives me the energy I need to power through my day. Honestly, I’m living my perfect work/ life balance now. I’m fortunate that I can work from home a couple of days a week, and I’m incredibly grateful for that flexibility. My company has been amazing to me.
After the show, I make time to unwind a bit—usually by going for a walk, squeezing in a quick workout or stretch at home to come down from that highenergy morning, and then grabbing a cup of coffee, snuggling up with my mini schnauzer, and diving into round two of my day. That time is spent planning the next show, checking emails, editing videos, and connecting with clients, among other things.
Honestly, I’m always working and prepping in some capacity. Whether it’s during the day or after dinner, I’m on and off the clock until I go to bed. Not every day is like that, though. Some days, I’m off to client meetings or shooting videos for social media. But on the days I can fit in a workout and enjoy a quiet moment prepping for the show—that’s my version of ‘me time.’
What are some of your favorite things to do when you’re not working?
It’s a running joke on the show that I don’t have a hobby—I tell Scott my kids are my hobby!
I’m constantly working, and it’s tough for me to shut my mind off from the show and everything that comes with it. But when I do manage to step away from work, I love spending time with my family. There’s always something happening, so it keeps me busy and fulfilled.
Tell us something most people don’t know about you!
That’s a tough one—I don’t think there’s anything! My life is an open book on the show.
What’s one piece of advice you’d give to women trying to balance career and family?
This is such a tough question, and honestly, I don’t think there’s a perfect formula or a one-size-fits-all solution. Balancing career and family is always going to be a challenge, and I think every woman’s journey is different.
Now that I’m the “seasoned” one in the room, I always tell younger moms that they can’t do it all perfectly all the time. If I could go back, one of my biggest regrets would be allowing work to take over and interfere with precious family time.
I’ve seen so many moms working so hard, putting in so many hours, and I just want to remind them to pause and take a step back. Work can always wait. The truth is, your career might not be as loyal to you as your kids are.
“Scottie and I have been together for nearly 26 years now, making us one of the longestrunning morning show teams in the country, and definitely here in Rochester.”
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You have to make time for your family and cherish those moments because you’ll never get them back. Yes, sometimes you might miss that promotion, or your career might not progress as quickly as you’d like, but I believe—even though it might sound old-fashioned—that family should always come first.
Work will always be there. There’s always time to advance your career or pivot entirely. So my advice? Be mindful of your priorities, but don’t beat yourself up. Every woman’s situation is different, so trust your gut, listen to your heart, and take care of yourself too.
If you weren’t in radio, what do you think you’d be doing? I adore kids and always wanted to be a teacher.
Podcasting & Media Expansion
Tell us about your StartUp Podcast— what inspired you to launch it, and what is its main focus? Sadly, we’ve had to step away from the Spezzano and Sandy’s STARTUP podcast. It was such a fun and rewarding on-air segment that we carried over into a podcast, where we invited budding entrepreneurs, creators, and inventors to pitch their ideas to our seasoned investor and business advisor. Our investor would guide them through the next steps to scale their ideas, and then we’d follow their journey on the podcast.
The concept for the segment actually came about during COVID when so many people were reevaluating their priorities and exploring new career opportunities. It felt like the perfect time
to spotlight those who were thinking outside the box and taking big leaps.
How is podcasting different from traditional radio for you?
The biggest difference? Podcasters don’t have to adhere to FCC guidelines. It’s a more relaxed atmosphere where you’re not constantly up against the clock.
We know that many of our listeners turn to podcasts to gain knowledge, so we love satisfying that curiosity by bringing on well-known experts. For example, we have Win the Day host James Whittaker for our weekly dose of how to better ourselves mentally, physically, and professionally. We also bring in CBS Mornings’ Jill Schlesinger to share valuable insights on money.
Do you have a favorite guest you’ve interviewed on your podcast so far?
If we’re talking about the STARTUP podcast, my favorite guest has to be 14-year-old Austin, who had already launched his Charmed Candle Company and came on the show looking for advice on how to grow it. The look on his face when he got to fire off the Buzz Golden Cash Cannon after hitting a milestone in his business was absolutely priceless. Community Involvement & Giving Back 22. You’re very passionate about nonprofit work and have been involved with organizations like Autism Up, RESOLVE, Willow, Zonta Club, and Arc of Monroe.
What drives your dedication to these causes?
Over my 25 years, I’ve had the privilege of being involved in a lot of incredible charity work in Rochester. This city has such a special vibe, with people
genuinely dedicated to helping out and supporting the great causes around here. I truly believe that giving back to the community is an essential part of what we do, especially since this community has done so much to support us.
Is there a particular moment from your volunteer work that has been especially meaningful to you?
You always remember your first, and for me, that was working with Willow (at the time, called Alternatives for Battered Women). We launched a campaign where we purchased a billboard and wrote a powerful message on it. Each week, live on location, we revealed a piece of the message until the full phrase was shown. It was such an intriguing and impactful awareness campaign.
Another one of my favorite moments was launching the Walk A Mile in Her Shoes event, which I believe is still held annually during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
What advice would you give to others looking to get more involved in giving back to the community?
Reflect on what truly inspires you, then get involved. Every effort counts, and the impact you can make is truly rewarding.
What’s next for you?
We’d love to host another Spezzano and Sandy live event!
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The Story Behind Christopher’s Challenge
Can you take us back to when Chris was first diagnosed—what was that experience like for your family?
Until January 30, 1997, our family of four was living a busy life just as most families. Chris at age 8 was a very active child and enthused about his sports. He played on basketball, soccer and flag football teams. He began getting bruises on his legs that would not go away. On January 30, 1997, we brought Chris to his pediatrician due to the bruises and he was feeling tired. Initially the doctor thought he had a platelet disorder but at 5:00pm that evening, his pediatrician was at our door. Chris and his brother Kevin were excited to see him but I knew that something was terribly wrong.
He sat with me and told me that Chris had leukemia and we needed to get him to the hospital because his bloodstream was filled with leukemic cells. He sat with me until Chris’ dad arrived home, spoke with the hospital and decided we would go in the next morning. We all sat at our kitchen table to try to explain to Chris in simple terms what was happening. He was scared, we were scared and were trying to get through the moment. Chris’ pediatrician’s words to us before he left were “Be strong. This is going to be a very long road.” The next morning we headed to the hospital to begin the tests, transfusions and more detailed diagnosis. We found out Chris did not have childhood leukemia but he was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia,
a more aggressive form. I remember when the doctor was presenting that news to us, she dropped her paperwork and clearly it was not the news she wanted to deliver.
What was it like receiving the news that a donor match had been found for Chris?
When Chris was first diagnosed, we weren’t thinking of a bone marrow
transplant. We went through six months of chemotherapy with long hospital stays and frequent readmissions before he went into remission. Then it was even more devastating to find out on January 30, 1998, Chris relapsed. At that point, knowing it took Chris so long to go into remission the first time, we searched the internet for options to find a study happening at Memorial Sloan Kettering. Upon his doctor’s
recommendation, we traveled and lived in New York City at the Ronald McDonald House for 3 months while Chris received treatment. Each day we would get up, walk to the hospital and receive a treatment called arsenic trioxide. He went into remission during the first 6 week round of this drug and then we continued with treatment for another 5 weeks. The recommendation from the doctors at Memorial Sloan Kettering was to return home to Strong for a bone marrow transplant so Chris could have the chance to be cured. Upon our return to Strong, Chris’ doctor shared with us that there was not a “perfect” match but a potential donor that was his best chance. After intense chemotherapy and total body irradiation so that Chris’ would have no counts with the hopes that his marrow would be replenished with his donor’s marrow, he received his bone marrow transplant on June 2, 1998 at age 10. This date for a patient is referred to as their 2nd birthday. After a few weeks in isolation, we saw that Chris’ counts were slowly coming back with the best news that it was his donor’s marrow and not his. We were hopeful Chris found his perfect match.
How did the idea for Christopher’s Challenge come about, and what was your main goal in starting the foundation? The best chance for a bone marrow match is a sibling. Chris has one brother Kevin who was not a match. Then the search began in the National Marrow Donor Registry. While Chris was searching for a match, the Rochester community came together and held
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“Since inception, we have typed and paid for over 7,000 people and with those potential donors added to the National Marrow Donor Registry, so many lives have been saved.”
two bone marrow drives typing over 1,100 people in one day. Those people were entered into the National Marrow Donor Registry not only to help Chris but anyone that was in need. When Chris was beginning to recover, there was money raised from fundraisers and we started Christopher’s Challenge with the intent that it was raised – to draw awareness, educate and type people to become potential marrow donors to give patients a 2nd Chance At Life! Christopher’s Challenge also purchased many items for the Bone Marrow Unit at Strong in order to help patients’ stay more comfortable as well as financially assist patients with their expenses. Patient and their families often incur enormous expenses while staying with their family member. Christopher’s Challenge can assist with paying some of their bills, such as gas and electric, rent, etc.
Can you tell us about the special bond between Chris and his donor, Ed? What was it like having him officiate Chris’ wedding? Chris and Ed have had a special bond from the moment they met. You are unable to meet your donor for a year. During that period, Chris would send Ed anonymous notes about how eager he was to meet him. Ed sent Chris letters and the book “Oh, the Places You’ll Go” by Dr. Seuss with the inscription “To the best friend I have – and haven’t met. Here’s to all the places you’ll go – enjoy them because you earned it. Live well my friend. With all my hopes and prayers. A Friend”. When the year was up and it was time to connect with Ed, Chris’ nurse practitioner set up a scavenger hunt in our front yard. When Chris woke up he followed the clues and then
came to a black box with Ed’s contact information. It was not yet 6am, but this then 11 year old picked up the phone and dialed Ed’s phone number, woke him up and said “This is Chris. You donated your marrow to me.” It was an incredible, tearful conversation with the family passing the phone. Ed and his family made the trip from Portland, Maine to Webster, NY to meet us and have a party with the incredible community that supported our family. Then when Chris became engaged, he thought how to involve Ed in this very significant event. Ed came to visit and Chris asked him to be co-best man with Chris’ brother Kevin. Then Chelsie, Chris’ then fiancé, asked Ed to officiate the wedding. It is hard to express the feelings and the love as I saw Chris and Ed walk down the aisle and then Ed trying to get through speaking the words while officiating. Chris married the love of his life and was able to do that because Ed saved his life!
How
has Christopher’s Challenge grown over the past 25+ years?
Christopher’s Challenge is not-for-profit with a volunteer board of directors that makes a huge impact. We have the opportunity to type potential bone marrow donors and give patients a Second Chance At Life. Since inception, we have typed and paid for over 7,000 people and with those potential donors added to the National Marrow Donor Registry, so many lives have been saved. We have raised over $100,000 to support patients and their families. We have redone the family room at the Bone Marrow Unit, purchased video games, beds, cots, comfortable chairs, televisions, helped pay bills such as heating, electric
and rent that families fell behind. When Covid began, we were contacted by Wilmot Cancer Center requesting that we purchase ipads for patients since they were in isolation and this could be a means to keep in touch with family and friends. The Bone Marrow Unit is an Intensive Care Unit and we also wanted to appreciate the staff during Covid who worked long hours and were there for patients by sending meals monthly to staff and patients.
Impact
& Mission of Christopher’s Challenge
What are some of the biggest milestones or successes Christopher’s Challenge has achieved so far?
With Christopher’s Challenge adding over 7,000 people to the National Marrow Donor Registry we have given patients the hope for a 2nd Chance At Life. We are hopeful that every patient has a match in this world and by Christopher’s Challenge providing the education, awareness and venue to be typed, there are more chances for patients to be cured. While working closely with the social worker at Wilmot Cancer Center, we are aware of the needs of patients and families and are able to support those needs with the generosity of donations from our community.
What is the process of adding donors to the registry through Christopher’s Challenge?
Initially to be typed to become a potential marrow donor, the person completes a short registration form and a cheek swab. Christopher’s Challenge then sends that in to be added to the DKMS Donor Registry and if they find that a person
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“While Chris was searching for a match, the Rochester community came together and held two bone marrow drives typing over 1,100 people in one day.”
could be a suitable match, they will contact them and refer them to a center to have a blood draw. Then, if they end up being a match for a person, there are two ways to donate – peripheral stem cell donation and bone marrow donation. Both of these methods are outlined on our website. The patient’s doctor makes the decision for the form of donation but most requests are peripherally. Chris’ donor donated through the hip and he said it felt like someone kicked him the back for a day or two and he was able to save a life.
What are some of the most common misconceptions people have about bone marrow donation?
People often have misconceptions about becoming a bone marrow donor. They think it is very painful and they are having bones broken. It is not the case and we have testaments from several donors that can attest to the process.
How does Christopher’s Challenge support patients and families at Wilmot Cancer Center?
Christopher’s Challenge consistently supports patients and their families at Wilmot Cancer Center by working with the social workers to assess what are families’ needs. We donate gift cards to each family that has a patient staying in the Bone Marrow Unit to assist with food or other supplies while supporting their patients during their long stays at the hospital and often times in the Rochester area. We also donate gift cards to donors after their donation to show our appreciation for their efforts. We have meals delivered to patients and staff frequently. Having the personal history of months of staying
in the hospital, Christopher’s Challenge is able to donate items to the Unit that we know will help make families’ stays more bearable.
Can you share a success story of a patient whose life was changed thanks to Christopher’s Challenge?
Due to the privacy issues, we are unable to be notified if a donor from one of our bone marrow drives has actually donated to a patient but I know several people from our community who have contacted me personally to tell me that they were typed at one of our drives and they donated to save a patient’s life. With Chris’ success with his bone marrow transplant, it inspires patients and families to see him striving and gives them hope.
Awareness & Community Involvement
What are some ways the Rochester community can get involved with Christopher’s Challenge?
Christopher’s Challenge would like to have the opportunity to educate the community so that they can be typed and added to the Registry. The misconceptions are deterring people from moving forward. We would like to work with companies to present to their staff about the need. We are currently approaching companies to see if we can have a lunch and learn to share information and provide typing. We are collaborating with local colleges to educate their students about the process and the need. The college students are another important piece with holding marrow drives and typing their peers. Also we are hoping more of the Rochester community can join in our events to
learn more about our mission as well as support the costs.
You’ve helped add over 7,000 donors to Be The Match—how does it feel knowing your work has increased the chances of saving lives?
There is no better feeling than being able to be part of giving someone a 2nd Chance At Life. We are committed to working with communities in alerting the need for more potential donors added to the Registry. Can you imagine actually saving someone’s life by a selfless act of being typed and donating and taking one day out of your life to save a life.
What are some upcoming events or initiatives that Christopher’s Challenge is working on?
Our major fundraiser is our golf tournament and auction which will be held on Friday, May 23, 2025 at Mill Creek Golf Club. We are looking for sponsors at different levels as well as golfers and donations of auctions items. Individual golfer is $150.00 which includes golf, cart, breakfast and dinner. We welcome golfers at all levels. All details can be found on our website and facebook page – www. christopherschallenge.org.
How important is education and awareness when it comes to increasing the number of registered bone marrow donors?
Education and awareness are key to understanding the commitment in becoming a bone marrow donor. At each drive, we discuss what the initial testing involves, follow up testing and actual donation as well as the commitment to donate to anyone in need. On our
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website, we provide information on each step.
Personal Reflection & Future Goals
What has been the most rewarding part of running Christopher’s Challenge?
giving someone a 2nd Chance At Life!
If someone is considering joining the bone marrow registry but is hesitant, what would you say to encourage them? Reach out to Christopher’s Challenge and we can discuss the process. Check out our website and review the steps. We can also put you in touch with a donor and they can share their experience. Keep an open mind and find out the facts and realize you can save a life!
Looking ahead, what are your hopes and goals for Christopher’s Challenge in the next few years?
and type their employees as well as to work with more colleges to hold bone marrow drives and engage students to become potential donors.
It truly touches my heart each time a person gets typed to become a potential bone marrow donor. I see the caring and hope in their eyes and as they finish the typing process. I hope that they can be picked to save someone’s life. Also, the notes we receive from families when we donate a meal or an item of their gratefulness and how our little act of kindness made a positive difference in their life. Having a bone marrow transplant is a lifelong process which wears on patients and families and whatever we can do to brighten a day or relieve some of that is rewarding for us. We actually can have a part in
We would like to add 400 additional donors to the Registry each year. We will continue to support patients and their families through meals, finances, items donated to the Bone Marrow Unit and individual requests. Our hope is to work with companies in order to present
What is one thing you wish more people knew about bone marrow donation and its impact?
I wish more people become aware of the process of donation and the impact. If there is a patient out there in need of a bone marrow transplant but cannot find a match, they could be that person which means they could save a life. If that person does not find a suitable match, they will not survive. Our personal story with Chris and Ed would be very different if Ed was not entered into the Registry and willing to step up and donate to Chris. He saved Chris’ life and there are no words to share how grateful we are.
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YOU ARE ENOUGH.
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About Thrive to Survive & The Middle Finger 5K
What inspired you to create Thrive to Survive, and how did it all begin?
In 2010, my 10-year-old son, Maxwell, was diagnosed with a rare brain cancer. At the same time, my sister-in-law’s brother, Matt Foe, was facing a devastating relapse of brain cancer as an adult. Both Max and Matt endured grueling treatments, relentless complications, and the complete upheaval of their daily lives. Yet, while our family was surrounded by an outpouring of support for Max as a child battling cancer, Matt—an adult facing the same brutal fight—was not afforded the same care and compassion.
This stark contrast opened our eyes to a heartbreaking reality: adults with cancer, particularly in our rural community of Geneva, often battle in isolation, without the crucial support systems that children receive. It was in that painful realization that Thrive To Survive was born.
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why we founded Thrive To Survive—to provide critical financial, emotional, and practical support to adults facing cancer, ensuring that no one fights alone.
How did the Middle Finger 5K come to life, and what does the event symbolize?
In 2017, we recognized that our outreach was growing rapidly, and to sustain the increasing requests for support, we needed a fundraiser. On a whim, I
Finger 5K was born. I hoped for around 150 participants that first year, but we quickly surpassed expectations, selling out at 500 runners more than a month before race day.
Today, the Middle Finger 5K is Thrive To Survive’s largest fundraising event, uniting 2,000 participants at the north end of Seneca Lake in Geneva, NY, to give cancer the one-finger salute it deserves. While the name nods to Seneca Lake as one of the “middle” Finger Lakes, it carries a deeper meaning—a bold, defiant stand against a disease that takes too much from too many.
Beyond the emotional and physical toll, we also witnessed firsthand the crushing financial burden cancer places on families. Matt, who lived by the mantra Thrive, had those very words tattooed on his head—a space once covered by thick, beautiful hair, now lost to chemotherapy. His motto became his legacy. When cancer took Matt’s life in 2012, my sister-in-law, Pam Venuti, our dear friend Roseann Moffe, and I knew we had to take action.
Cancer does not affect just one person—it shakes entire families to their core. That’s
considered organizing a 5K. I had never planned a race before—though I had participated in everything from 5Ks to marathons and triathlons—but they say ignorance is bliss, and I have never shied away from a challenge. Because my own running schedule had me out in the early mornings, I envisioned something different—a sunrise run. To me, sunrise has always been a symbol of hope and renewal, and in our work, we knew all too well that cancer knows no clock. With the support of a few good friends—and a few skeptics—the idea for the Middle
But this event is about more than just a run. It’s a movement. Families and friends gather, walking side by side in honor of loved ones fighting cancer, standing in solidarity with those they cherish. Some teams number over 100 people, all rallying around a single individual—a breathtaking display of love, strength, and unwavering support.
After crossing the finish line, participants come together over breakfast, extending their time as a community, holding space for shared stories, laughter, and remembrance. The Middle Finger 5K is not just an event—it’s a testament to resilience, to hope, and to the undeniable power of human connection. No one fights alone.
What is the mission of Thrive to Survive, and how does it impact those battling cancer?
At Thrive To Survive, our mission has remained steadfast since day one:
“This stark contrast opened our eyes to a heartbreaking reality: adults with cancer, particularly in our rural community of Geneva, often battle in isolation, without the crucial support systems that children receive. It was in that painful realization that Thrive To Survive was born.”
to provide unwavering emotional, physical, and financial support to adults in Ontario, Seneca, Wayne, Schuyler, and Yates Counties battling and in treatment for cancer. A diagnosis is lifechanging—not just for the individual but for their entire support system. We exist to ease that burden, offering relief from unnecessary stress so that those in treatment can focus on what truly matters: healing, their loved ones, and their ability to THRIVE.
Our impact is deeply personal. At the heart of our mission is community, a lifeline for those navigating the emotional and physical toll of cancer. Our bimonthly support groups create a space where individuals can connect with others who truly understand—sharing experiences, coping strategies, and encouragement. For many, this is the missing piece between medical treatment and emotional well-being. While doctors focus on treatment plans, we focus on the human experience, ensuring no one fights alone.
But emotional support is just one part of the equation. Cancer comes with hidden costs—travel to treatments, medication co-pays, second opinions—expenses that quickly add up, even for those with excellent insurance. No one should have to choose between financial stability and their health. That’s why Thrive To Survive provides financial assistance, ensuring that individuals can prioritize their recovery without the added stress of mounting bills.
Beyond financial and emotional support, we support holistic healing. Our Cancer
Recovery Program, in partnership with the Geneva Family YMCA, helps individuals regain physical strength and stamina. Our respite services, including massage and acupuncture, offer much-needed relief from treatment side effects. And because small gestures can make a big difference, our year-round pick-me-up program reminds those in treatment that they are seen, supported, and never alone. From the moment someone is diagnosed, Thrive To Survive is there. Each person receives a Thrive To Survive tote bag, filled with resources, encouragement, and information on how to connect with our programs. It is a reminder that they have a community standing beside them every step of the way.
Because at Thrive To Survive, we don’t just want people to fight cancer—we want them to THRIVE through it.
Can you share a memorable story of how Thrive to Survive has helped someone in need?
Absolutely. One story that truly captures the heart of Thrive To Survive is that of Sarah*, a young mother who was diagnosed with breast cancer. The news was devastating—not just because of the physical toll of treatment, but because she was the primary provider for her children.
Between chemotherapy, radiation, and countless doctor visits, Sarah was unable to work consistently. The financial strain became overwhelming. Bills piled up, transportation to treatments became a challenge, and she worried about how she would provide for her children while also focusing on her recovery.
That’s when Thrive To Survive stepped in. Through our financial support program, we helped cover the cost of her transportation to and from treatment, alleviating one of her biggest worries. She also attended our support groups, where she connected with others who understood exactly what she was going through. For Sarah, these gatherings became a safe space—where she could share her fears, receive encouragement, and find strength in the stories of others who had walked a similar path.
Beyond the financial and emotional support, Sarah also benefited from our Cancer Recovery Program, where she gradually rebuilt her strength through guided physical activity. And on days when treatment was especially difficult, the small gestures—a pick-me-up package, a call from a support group member, or an unexpected card of encouragement from a support group member—reminded her that she was not alone.
Today, Sarah is in remission. She often shares that Thrive To Survive didn’t just help her survive cancer—it helped her find hope, resilience, and a community she never knew she needed. Now, she gives back by mentoring others who are newly diagnosed, ensuring that no one in our community faces cancer alone, and volunteering for Thrive To Survive when she can.
This is just one of many stories. Every day, we see the profound impact that compassion, support, and generosity can have on someone’s journey.
“Today, the Middle Finger 5K is Thrive To Survive’s largest fundraising event, uniting 2,000 participants at the north end of Seneca Lake in Geneva, NY, to give cancer the one-finger salute it deserves.”
What makes the Middle Finger 5K unique compared to other fundraising races?
The Middle Finger 5K isn’t just another fundraising race—it’s a bold, empowering, and deeply meaningful event that stands out in several ways. The name itself, Middle Finger 5K, is a statement. It represents the defiance, strength, and fight of those facing cancer. It’s a rallying cry that says: You don’t get to define us, cancer. We’re standing up, fighting back, and doing it together.
Unlike traditional road races, the MF5K takes participants through the beautiful Lakefront and Seneca Lake State Parks in Geneva, NY, offering beautiful lakefront views. Whether people walk, run, or cheer from the sidelines, every step is filled with purpose, surrounded by a community that genuinely cares.
What sets the MF5K apart is that 96% of the funds raised go directly back into supporting local adults battling cancer in the counties that Thrive To Survive supports. This means every registration, every donation, and every step taken makes an immediate and tangible difference for someone in need. It is a fun, high-energy, and supportive atmosphere! This isn’t a typical 5K—it’s an experience. Participants of all ages and abilities are encouraged to join, and creativity is welcomed! Many runners and walkers sport fun costumes, customized shirts, or team themes to honor loved ones impacted by cancer. The race is filled with high energy, laughter, and moments of reflection that remind us why we run. The night before the event, we have a Check-In Party at the
Finger Lakes Welcome Center with local breweries and wineries offering tastings and several local vendors selling their products. The whole community is invited to participate and share in the excitement. Kelly’s Irish Pub opens at 8:00 am the morning of the race, so participants can celebrate with a beverage! Whether people run, walk, donate, or volunteer, being part of the Middle Finger 5K means joining a movement that celebrates fighters, honors survivors and supports those in the battle. It’s a chance to show up, take a stand, and say, We see you. We support you. And we will never stop fighting for you.
Here are some quotes from folks who participated and responded to “What was your favorite moment or experience at the MF5K?”
● Giving cancer the middle finger at the start! I love the location, energy, and cause!
● I loved the whole community aspect with different groups represented and helping each other.
● Knowing that I’m giving back to the community with my entry. Also the breakfast was amazing
● Seeing how many people came to Geneva to give the middle finger to cancer.
● This is my favorite race. I’ll wake up early every year without question to attend. I’m a survivor, and I think it’s important to support this cause. This is such a fun race and I had a team this year who all said this race was fun and worth the early morning!
● Keep it up! As a child of two cancer survivors, the work you do means the world to me.
What does it mean when you say, “Do you want to give cancer the finger?”
When Thrive To Survive says, “Do you want to give cancer the finger?” we are inviting people to take a bold stand against a disease that has impacted so many lives. It’s more than just a slogan—it’s a symbol of defiance, strength, and unity. Giving cancer the finger means: fighting back, raising awareness and support, and building a community. Whether you’re battling cancer, supporting a loved one, or honoring someone’s memory, this is a way to channel frustration into action. Every step in the Middle Finger 5K helps raise critical funds for local adults in treatment, ensuring they receive the financial, emotional, and physical support they need to THRIVE. No one should have to face cancer alone. This event is about showing up, standing together, and proving that cancer doesn’t get the last word. It’s about turning anger into empowerment, grief into action, and hope into something tangible.
Recognition & Awards
You recently received the Empire State Award—what does this recognition mean to you?
The Empire State Award is a profound honor for Thrive To Survive, recognizing the unwavering dedication, impact, and community-driven mission we have upheld since our inception. This award isn’t just a celebration of our organization—it’s a tribute to the resilience of every individual we serve, the generosity of our supporters, and the power of a community that refuses to let anyone fight cancer alone. To everyone who has been part of Thrive
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“Our impact is deeply personal. At the heart of our mission is community, a lifeline for those navigating the emotional and physical toll of cancer.”
To Survive—our volunteers, donors, board members, and supporters—this award belongs to them, too,
Our work for Thrive To Survive happens in our free time, outside of our full-time career jobs, so the recognition affirms that our work is making a real, measurable difference. It shines a spotlight on the compassion, advocacy, and tireless commitment that fuels every program, support group, and resource we offer. Most importantly, we hope the Empire State Award elevates our mission, helping us reach even more individuals in need. It inspires us to expand our impact, strengthen our resources, and continue ensuring that no one in our community faces cancer alone.
How has the community’s support contributed to the success of Thrive to Survive?
Thrive To Survive would not be where it is today without the ongoing support of our community. In the beginning, all we had to give was our time—time to bring people together in support groups, time to drive individuals to treatment, time to pick up prescriptions, and time to shop for and deliver groceries. Every dollar we used came from our own pockets, and we knew that if we wanted to sustain and grow our impact, we couldn’t do it alone.
Then, a pivotal moment changed everything. Pam forged an incredible connection with Friendly Ford of Geneva, a partnership that became a cornerstone of our success. They stepped up in ways we never imagined—hosting monthlong promotional events, organizing
Drive For Your Community fundraisers, and even donating a car for us to raffle. Their generosity set the stage for others to follow.
Today, we are lifted by a vast network of businesses, individuals, and organizations who champion our mission. The Middle Finger 5K is powered by an incredible range of sponsors, each playing a vital role in helping us meet the needs of those we serve. Grants have also allowed us to expand our programs, ensuring we can reach even more people facing the unimaginable challenges of a cancer diagnosis.
Every year, we grow—the number of people we support increases, the financial assistance we provide expands, and more individuals find strength through our programs. None of this would be possible without the generosity, kindness, and commitment of our community. Our community support is a lifeline, and Thrive To Surive is a lifeline… it is a win-win for all.
What has been the biggest milestone for Thrive to Survive since its launch?
One of the biggest milestones for Thrive To Survive has been the exponential growth in the support and financial assistance we provide to adults undergoing cancer treatment. What started as a small grassroots effort has evolved into a thriving nonprofit that allocates 96% of its funds directly to individuals in need. Most importantly, Thrive To Survive has never turned away an eligible request for financial assistance—a testament to the unwavering support from our community and our commitment to
ensuring that no one fights alone.
A particularly transformative moment was reaching $1,000,000 raised in 2024, knowing that it had a direct and immediate impact on our community members.
Are there any upcoming initiatives or new programs you are excited about? We have a few new things we are excited about. One of the newest initiatives under Thrive To Survive’s umbrella is the WINGS program, which stands for Women In Group Support. Kim Ludden, a TTS board member, leads this program.
The WINGS program is specifically tailored to provide support and empowerment to women who are widowed. Kim started this on her own with her friend, Julie Beckens, two years ago, after losing her spouse of 27 years in 2018 after a battle with colon cancer. WINGS started with eight members, and the program now has 32. Members can spread their wings and fly again through these connections and support.
This program recognizes women’s unique challenges when dealing with such circumstances. WINGS brings together women who have been through similar experiences, offering a safe and empathetic space for sharing stories, emotions, and providing support. This program empowers women to find their inner strength and embrace the journey ahead.
Kim learned of Thrive To Survive through her daughters when they signed up to
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“The name itself, Middle Finger 5K, is a statement. It represents the defiance, strength, and fight of those facing cancer.”
participate in the 2018 Middle Finger 5K. Despite losing their spouse and father a week before the event, their team, “desTROY Cancer,” was the largest to participate, with about 75 of their friends and family. From there, friendships with Thrive To Survive board members developed, and their team, “desTROY Cancer,” grew each year in participation.
WINGS creates a nurturing and inclusive environment where women can connect, share their experiences, and find strength in each other. When members join, they receive a weighted heart pillow a mug with the inscription “With brave wings she flies,” and are invited to monthly meetings. The program provides emotional and practical support, ensuring that women who are widowed don’t have to walk their paths alone.
We are also in the process of starting an additional general cancer support group in Canandaigua, NY. The plan is to kick this off in April 2025, and meetings will be held at Wood Library in Canandaigua, NY and will be led by an oncology social worker. We are very excited about this opportunity, as we often get requests for additional support group locations.
Personal Impact & Team Support
Have you or someone close to you been personally impacted by cancer? If so, how has that shaped your mission? Cancer is not just a cause I advocate for—it is a deeply personal part of my story. Like the other founding members of Thrive To Survive, my life has been
profoundly shaped by its impact.
My first experience with cancer came in 2001, when my beloved grandmother, Mary Acquilano, was diagnosed with lung cancer. In just four short weeks, she was gone. The rapid and relentless nature of her illness left our family reeling, struggling to process the loss.
Then, in November of 2009, cancer struck again—this time even closer to home. My mother, Marlene Venuti, was diagnosed with lung cancer, and as we were just beginning to navigate the fear and uncertainty of her diagnosis, our world was shattered once more. My son, Max, was diagnosed with brain cancer in April of 2010. To say we were devastated would be an understatement. The weight of watching two of the most important people in my life battle this disease at the same time was unbearable. It didn’t stop there, my incredible father-in-law, Russ Harris, lost his fight to liver cancer in 2014.
For Pam, another founding member of Thrive To Survive, cancer has been a source of profound personal loss. In 2012, she lost her brother, Matt Foe, to brain cancer, and in 2018, her mother, Sandy Minister, passed away after battling both esophageal and lung cancer. These heartbreaking experiences, much like my own, strengthened her commitment to creating a supportive community that would provide the care and resources her family needed during those difficult times.
Additionally, Roseann Moffe, another key member of our team, has witnessed
the toll cancer takes on families. She, too, faced the impact of cancer in her own life—first through the loss of her father to colon cancer and later through her own battle with melanoma. Her personal journey has strengthened her empathy and her commitment to ensuring that no one has to face cancer alone.
These experiences have forever changed us all. They instilled a deep understanding of what it means to feel helpless, to be overwhelmed by the emotional, physical, and financial burdens that come with a cancer diagnosis. They also fueled our determination to ensure that no one else in our community faces this journey alone.
This is the heart of Thrive To Survive. It is more than an organization—it is a promise. A promise that no adult fighting cancer in our community will have to struggle without support. A promise that we will step in to provide financial assistance, practical help, and most importantly, a sense of belonging and strength when it is needed most. Cancer has shaped our lives, but it has also shaped our purpose. And through Thrive To Survive, we turn loss into action, pain into compassion, and fear into hope.
Who has inspired you the most on this journey, and why?
The individuals who have inspired us the most to continue this work are the very people we serve—the adults who are courageously fighting cancer, their families, and the friends who stand by their side. Their resilience, strength, and determination in the face
“Our work for Thrive To Survive happens in our free time, outside of our full-time career jobs, so the recognition affirms that our work is making a real, measurable difference.”
of unimaginable challenges remind us daily of why Thrive To Survive exists. Their stories of perseverance motivate us to do everything in our power to alleviate their burdens and ensure they never have to face this journey alone. In addition, the generosity and support of our community partners have been a constant source of inspiration. From the businesses and organizations that sponsor our events to the volunteers who dedicate their time, these acts of kindness fuel our mission.
On a deeply personal level, the memory of our loved ones—our family members who have battled cancer and, in many cases, lost their fight—continues to inspire us. The losses we have experienced drive us to ensure that others never have to face this journey alone. They are our constant motivation to continue growing Thrive To Survive, offering hope, compassion, and practical help to those in need.
How do you balance running a nonprofit with personal and professional life?
Balancing the demands of running a nonprofit with personal and professional life is undoubtedly challenging, but it is also deeply rewarding. For me, it requires setting clear priorities and boundaries, staying organized, and knowing when to lean on my team for support.
First and foremost, my passion for Thrive To Survive keeps me grounded and motivated. Knowing that the work we do impacts so many lives makes it easier to find time, even when my schedule is full. However, I am mindful of the need to maintain balance. I make time for
self-care and family, recognizing that I can only give my best to the organization when I am also taking care of myself and nurturing relationships outside of work. I also rely heavily on the incredible team at Thrive To Survive. We all share a deep commitment to the cause, and this collective effort makes the workload more manageable. We collaborate and support each other, ensuring that the responsibilities are shared and that no one person is overwhelmed.
I could not do this without the patience and relentless support of my husband, Ken Harris, and our sons, Max and Jack Harris. They consistently step up to help with whatever is needed, from assisting with events to helping with connections and ensuring that our commitments are fulfilled. Their willingness to pitch in allows me to dedicate the time and energy required to keep the nonprofit running smoothly.
On a lighter note, my family knows that our dining room table is often overrun with all things Thrive To Survive— whether it’s organizing event details, packing supplies, or sorting through donations. And come spring, our living room is transformed into a chaotic hub of Middle Finger 5K supplies. The hustle and bustle of it all can sometimes feel like a full-time job in itself, but we all pitch in, and it’s just part of the fun of being so deeply involved in this work.
In addition, I am fortunate to have an incredible group of friends who show up, advocate, and support in any way they can. Their belief in the mission and their willingness to lend a hand
whenever needed make all the difference, providing much-needed encouragement and helping us extend our reach.
Ultimately, it’s about making intentional choices, remaining flexible when things get busy, and staying focused on the bigger picture—the mission that drives me and the people I serve.
What do you hope participants take away from the Middle Finger 5K?
I hope participants of the Middle Finger 5K walk away with more than just the sense of accomplishment from completing a race. This event is about building community, raising awareness, and showing solidarity for those affected by cancer. It’s an opportunity to come together, share in the joy of supporting a meaningful cause, and realize that even small actions can have a big impact.
I want participants to leave with a sense of pride knowing that their involvement directly supports Thrive To Survive and the critical services we provide to adults battling cancer. I also hope they feel inspired by the strength and resilience of the cancer fighters in our community. For many, this 5K symbolizes more than just a physical challenge—it’s a celebration of life, of love, and of the ongoing fight against cancer.
At the end of the day, it’s about creating lasting connections, spreading hope, and reminding everyone that, together, we can make a real difference in the lives of those who need it most! I also hope they can share a little fun in giving a one-finger salute to cancer!
“Cancer does not affect just one person—it shakes entire families to their core. That’s why we founded Thrive To Survive—to provide critical financial, emotional, and practical support to adults facing cancer, ensuring that no one fights alone.”
Community & Future Goals
How can people get involved with Thrive to Survive beyond the Middle Finger 5K?
There are many ways people can get involved with Thrive to Survive beyond the Middle Finger 5K. Volunteering your time is one of the most meaningful ways to make an impact. Perhaps you have a talent you could share at one of our support group meetings? We like to provide healthy distraction acitivites, yoga, mindfulness, art therapy, sound baths, etc. Additionally, individuals and businesses can contribute through sponsorships, donations, and fundraising efforts. We also encourage people to spread the word about Thrive to Survive and advocate for those battling cancer. Together, we can create a stronger, more supportive community. More information can be found at www.thrivetosurvive.org or by emailing help@thrivetosurvive.org
What are some of the biggest challenges cancer patients face that Thrive to Survive is working to solve?
Cancer patients face a multitude of challenges, both physical and emotional. One of the biggest struggles is the financial burden that often accompanies cancer treatment, especially when it comes to costs for transportation to and from appointments, medications, and basic living expenses. Many also face isolation and lack of emotional support during their journey. Thrive to Survive is working to address these challenges by connecting individuals with support networks to help them navigate their journey and helping with financial resources. Our mission is to ensure that no one faces
cancer alone, and that people can focus on healing, not on how to make ends meet. With the addition of our newest support groups we will begin to tackle these challenges.
What are your long-term dreams for Thrive to Survive?
Our long-term dream for Thrive to Survive is to expand our reach and ensure that every individual facing cancer has access to the support they need, no matter where they are across New York State. We hope to increase our programming, provide more comprehensive services, and build stronger partnerships with healthcare providers and community organizations. Ultimately, we would love Thrive to Survive to be a national model of care and support for cancer patients, offering both practical help and a community of compassion. We aim to create a world where cancer fighters can focus solely on their health and well-being, knowing that the logistics and support are taken care of.
If you could send one message of hope and empowerment to those currently fighting cancer, what would it be?
To those currently fighting cancer, I want to say: You are not alone. The journey you are on may be filled with uncertainty, but know that you have a whole community behind you, ready to support you every step of the way. Your strength is inspiring, and your courage is a light to others. There is hope, and while the road may be tough, you are tougher. Keep fighting, and remember that we are with you, now and always.
What’s next for Thrive to Survive and
the Middle Finger 5K? Any exciting plans for the future?
What’s next for Thrive to Survive is an exciting phase of growth. We’re working to increase our programs and partnerships to expand the services we offer in Ontario and Wayne Counties. One of our goals is to introduce additional events and fundraising opportunities to further engage the community and raise awareness. As for the Middle Finger 5K, we are always thinking of ways to make it more impactful. This year’s event will be held on May 10, 2025, and registration is open. For more information about the event, to sign up or donate, https://runsignup.com/ Race/NY/Geneva/MiddleFinger5K
We’re exploring ways to make the 5K a larger community celebration, where participants and supporters alike can come together, honor those affected by cancer, and help us raise funds to continue our mission. With each year, our goal is to make an even greater difference for the individuals and families we serve. If you want to help us tell cancer where it can go, please reach out to me directly at jen@thrivetosurvive.org
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She Means Business: Christy Salafia’s Journey to il-LUMA-nate
For Christy Salafia, nursing was never just a career—it was a calling. With a deep-rooted belief in the power of compassion and human connection, she pursued a path in healthcare that led her to the fast-paced and high-pressure environment of the Cardiac Surgery ICU at Strong Memorial Hospital. As a new graduate RN, Christy faced immense challenges but embraced the opportunity to learn from top medical professionals, pushing herself to grow in a demanding field. Yet, despite the fulfillment she found in patient care, a deeper calling was waiting to be discovered.
The shift from traditional medicine to aesthetics wasn’t an easy one. Initially, Christy grappled with feelings of guilt, questioning whether she was leaving behind meaningful work for something less impactful. However, she soon realized that confidence and self-perception are integral to overall well-being. Inspired by her own experience and those around her, she saw firsthand how aesthetic treatments could empower individuals, helping them feel their best inside and out. This revelation led to the birth of ilLUMA-nate—a space where beauty meets purpose, and where Christy could blend her passion for patient care with a more balanced personal life.
helping clients become the brightest versions of themselves. Together with her trusted right-hand, Alexx, she has built a welcoming environment where education, empowerment, and authenticity are key. Offering a range of treatments from injectables to skincare, il-LUMAnate prioritizes a natural, personalized approach that resonates with clients seeking both aesthetic enhancements and a supportive experience.
Beyond business, Christy is a
il-LUMA-nate, she continues to illuminate the path for others, proving that when passion and purpose align, success is inevitable.
Background & Journey into Aesthetics
Can you share a bit about your background and what led you to a career in nursing?
I became a registered nurse because I believe in the power of compassion, healing, and human connection. Nursing isn’t just a job—it’s a calling, a privilege to stand beside people in their most vulnerable moments and make a difference. Every day, I have the chance to ease pain, offer hope, and advocate for those who need it most. The challenges are real, but so is the impact. Whether it’s holding a patient’s hand, celebrating a small victory, or fighting for better care, I know that what I do matters. Nursing is more than a profession to me—it’s my purpose.
At the heart of il-LUMA-nate is Christy’s unwavering commitment to ethical, patient-centered care. Named after her daughters, Lucy and Mara, the practice embodies her philosophy of
devoted mother and wife, balancing entrepreneurship with her most cherished role—raising strong, confident daughters. She attributes much of her success to the unwavering support of her husband, family, and community, emphasizing that building a business is never a solo journey. Her advice to aspiring women entrepreneurs? Never lose sight of your initial goal. Whether in medicine, aesthetics, or any field, integrity and passion should always guide the way.
What was it like working in the Cardiac Surgery ICU at Strong Memorial Hospital?
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Christy’s journey is a testament to the power of transformation—not just in beauty, but in life itself. Through
Working in the cardiac ICU at Strong as a new graduate RN began as a challenge if I’m being honest. This was the first year that Strong was accepting new graduate RNs into the cardiac ICU and I was going to face it head on. At the time I “didn’t know what I didn’t know” and was so eager to learn from the amazingly talented doctors and nurses that were willing to teach me. This environment pushed me to my limits but I can only hope that the impact I made makes every challenge worth it.
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“Education is invaluable, and I am committed to using mine to empower and elevate my clients.”
What inspired your transition from surgical nursing to the field of aesthetics?
In short, my ultimate purpose in life is being a mother. I have always had a genuine desire to care for others, but no desire has been greater than having a family of my own, with children who are the center of my world. Aesthetics has allowed me to align my passion for caring for people with my personal life and family goals. Through my transition from the hospital and acute care environment to the outpatient and aesthetic world, I have been able to balance being both a mom and a caregiver to my children, as well as to my amazing patients.
Was there a specific moment when you knew aesthetics was your true calling?
If Im being honest, it was my sister who is 2.5 years younger than me who first mentioned that she had gotten Botox. It was in that moment I realized I needed to follow her younger, wiser footsteps and try it myself. Fortunately, I was in the right place at the right time, surrounded by two incredibly talented injectors who were not only willing to give me a shot but also taught me how to translate my hospital knowledge into aesthetic practice.
What was the biggest challenge in making the shift from traditional medicine to aesthetic medicine?
When I first made the shift from traditional medicine to aesthetics, I struggled with feelings of failure. There was a time when I believed that only hospital-based nursing was truly impactful. I worried that by focusing on outward healing rather than healing
from within, I was selling myself short. I even feared that my years of education and experience in acute care would be wasted by focusing on a persons external appearance.
I quickly came to realize that how a person perceives their appearance can have a profound impact on their internal healing and well-being.
How has your experience in surgery and patient care influenced your approach to aesthetics?
During my time in the operating room, I quickly learned the critical importance of sterile technique and how unforgiving mistakes can be. Life is precious and fragile, and this experience taught me to appreciate how every detail no matter how big or small truly matters.
Building ilLUMAnate
The name ilLUMAnate is beautiful and meaningful—can you share the story behind it?
Il-LUMA-Nate was a beautiful realization that I could do things “better,” better in the sense that I could be more personally fulfilled while practicing in the most ethical way I know. My daughters, Lucy and Mara, are the inspiration behind the name of this business, as they are the driving force in my life and the constant motivation behind everything I do.
What is your philosophy when it comes to beauty and aesthetics?
My philosophy with aesthetics is “be the brightest version of you.” My goal is to help you achieve yours.
What sets ilLUMAnate apart from other aesthetic practices in Rochester?
At Il-LUMA-Nate, what truly sets us apart is that we are everyday women who are committed to becoming the best versions of ourselves, and we are passionate about helping you do the same. Alexx has been an incredible driving force behind our business and my trusted right-hand. I would never have had the confidence to launch this venture without her unwavering support. I am deeply grateful for her exceptional attitude, dedication, and work ethic. Surrounding myself with such strong, competent individuals has inspired me to grow both personally and professionally, and has empowered me to be a better leader and provider.
One unique aspect of Il-LUMA-nate is that we begin seeing patients at 7 a.m. While this schedule aligns with my personal routine and home life, I’ve found that many clients truly appreciate the opportunity to get an early appointment and cross it off their to-do list for the day.
What are some of the most popular treatments at your practice, and why do you think they resonate with clients? I always feel its important to caution clients that aesthetics can be a delicate journey, and we can often be our own harshest critics. It is easy to focus on one concern only to immediately shift our attention to another. My ultimate goal is to ensure that every woman and man who walks through our doors feels seen, validated, and heard. I promise to always offer my best advice, treating you with the same care and respect I would want for
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my own family. Sometimes, that means not recommending a treatment at all, but simply listening and understanding your needs. I never want anyone to feel pressured. Building a trusting, supportive relationship with each of my clients is something I value deeply.
Often, I recommend taking small, thoughtful steps toward your goals. In many cases, less truly is more and sometimes a subtle change is all it takes to give you the confidence boost you are looking for.
At il-LUMA-nate, some of the most common treatments we offer include injectables like Botox/Dysport and fillers. We believe in treating the skin both beneath and on the surface, which is why we also provide facials, chemical peels, laser treatments, and microneedling. Medical-grade skincare is a game changer and the best way to enhance the results of in-office treatments. Our consultations are always free, and we are committed to helping you develop and customize a treatment plan tailored to your individual needs.
Many people are hesitant about aesthetic procedures—how do you help clients feel comfortable and confident in their decisions?
Education is invaluable, and I am committed to using mine to empower and elevate my clients. It is essential to establish clear goals and expectations, and then work together to determine the most effective course of action that aligns with those aspirations.
What do you love most about helping
clients on their aesthetic journeys?
A smile is all I need to know that my job is complete. My goal is for every person who walks through our doors to leave feeling better than when they arrived. Whether that means a consultation, treatment, or touch-up, we aim to have a positive impact on your day and your perception of yourself.
Work-Life Balance & Personal Life
As a busy entrepreneur and mother, how do you balance running ilLUMAnate with family life?
il-LUMA-nate has given me the opportunity to prioritize my most important role of being a mom. My passion for helping others feel good has been made possible through the unwavering support of my family, my husband, and my loyal clients. The love and support I receive in my life are truly priceless, and I could never fully repay the gratitude I feel for all of it.
How has being a mother influenced your approach to business and patient care?
Being a mother of daughters has led me to reflect deeply on how I want to raise them to be strong, confident, and independent women. While I hope they will always embrace their natural beauty and never focus on perceived flaws, I also want them to have the confidence to pursue what truly makes them happy and the success to support any changes they choose to make along the way
Your husband has been a big support in your journey—how has that partnership helped shape your business?
My husband is my rock, my constant source of encouragement, and my partner in helping me wear all the hats that are so important to me.
When I embarked on the journey of starting a new business, I found myself in uncharted territory. Naturally, I am a nurse, a healer, and a caregiver, but I had to learn how to be a business owner and office manager, all while continuing to be a mother, wife, and injector.
I quickly understood the true meaning of it takes a village, and I am forever grateful for the unwavering support and positivity from my husband, parents, sister, in-laws, clients, friends, and family. The past two years would not have been possible without your love, encouragement, and belief in me.
What is one piece of advice you’d give to other women looking to follow their passions and start their own businesses? To all the women and men looking to follow their passion and start their own business, I encourage you to never lose sight of your initial goal. For me, that goal was simple: to leave everyone I encounter better than I found them. Nursing is a healing art, and healing can take many forms whether physical, emotional, or mental. Every person you serve is significant, and their well-being must always come first.
As a medical provider, it is crucial to remember that your first obligation is to do no harm. If the motivation to pursue aesthetics is driven solely by financial gain rather than a commitment to ethical patient care, it may be time
committed to becoming the best versions of ourselves, and we are passionate about helping
to reconsider your career path. Always prioritize the health, safety, and dignity of your patients above all else.
Future of Aesthetics & Final Thoughts
What trends do you see emerging in the world of aesthetics that excite you?
I am truly excited about the potential of regenerative medicine and its ability
to transform the field of aesthetics. It is an incredible opportunity to be part of a movement that aims to achieve the best possible results with minimal downtime. My goal is to help my patients feel like the brightest, most confident versions of themselves, and I look forward to being a part of that journey.
What’s next for ilLUMAnate? Any exciting plans for the future?
I am excited to continue growing Il-LUMA-Nate, touching lives, and restoring confidence along the way. My vision is for our space to always be a place where the community can turn for honest, reliable, and ethical aesthetic treatments rooted in medical knowledge and experience without ever compromising on quality.
D&G WELLNESS
My journey into health and wellness began in the 1990s during my undergraduate years at Hobart and William Smith Colleges in Geneva, NY. At that time, wellness was not yet a mainstream focus. However, I was captivated by the concept of the mind-body connection and the idea of preventive care, emphasizing the importance of addressing health before illness strikes. Since a formal degree in this field was unavailable, I designed my own major, which I called Psychological and Physical Health and Wellbeing. Recognizing that my passion for wellness did not come with a clear career path, I decided to move to Colorado where I worked as a domestic violence and rape counselor while also teaching snowboarding in the Rocky Mountains to carve a niche in the wellness field. Upon returning to the Buffalo area, I earned a master’s degree in Physical Education and Health Education from Canisius University and began coaching high school sports, including soccer, ice hockey, and lacrosse.
Eventually, I was hired by my alma mater, Nichols School in Buffalo, NY as the Director of Wellness, where I developed wellness curricula and programming for students in grades 5-12, alongside my coaching duties. It was during this time that many of my athletes confided in me about their mental health struggles, prompting me to pursue a master’s degree in mental health counseling at the University at Buffalo and eventually open my private practice. For the past 13 years, I have worked in private practice, assisting not only athletes but also teens and young
adults facing various mental health challenges.
In my roles as a mental health counselor and school wellness director, I frequently presented on various wellness topics within the community. This passion for sharing knowledge, coupled with the growing demand for training, was the catalyst for founding D&G Wellness Consulting. Drawing from my
experiences as a former college athlete, coach, and therapist specializing in working with athletes in private practice, I developed an early intervention and prevention program aimed at high school and college athletes, coaches, and families focused on mental health in sports. Many schools and corporations expressed interest in prioritizing wellness, and through D&G Wellness, I was able to provide presentations, professional development opportunities, and coaching for these groups. My diverse experiences in the wellness field converge around
a central mission: to help educate and inspire individuals to lead lives filled with meaning, purpose, and joy. While we all recognize the importance of wellness, we often struggle to embody it in our daily lives. D&G Wellness is dedicated to transforming wellness from mere awareness into actionable steps. Through our initiatives, we empower individuals to adopt skills and tools that foster lasting change across all facets of their lives.
Feeling stuck is a common reason people seek therapy. As a therapist, I often discover there are various factors behind this feeling. Is it the fear of failure? The fear of success? Or perhaps simply not knowing how to move forward? My role is to help uncover these reasons and guide individuals toward progress. Although I consider myself an eclectic therapist, trained in several therapeutic approaches like CBT, DBT, EMDR, EFT, and Reiki, one of my favorite tools for helping people feel unstuck is Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT). ACT focuses on exploring personal values, beliefs, and thought patterns that contribute to feeling stuck, along with a strong emphasis on mindfulness. When people live a life that aligns with their values—what I call a valuedriven life—they often experience more satisfaction in relationships, higher levels of happiness, and a deeper sense of meaning and purpose.
As a therapist, I believe there is no one-size-fits-all approach to therapy, and it’s essential to treat each person as an individual. In every session, I focus on meeting my clients where they
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day. My goal is to help them understand that they are not broken and that they deserve support to feel their best. It’s important for people to realize that their life experiences shape the way they think, act, and feel, and I strive to turn each challenge or struggle into an opportunity for growth and learning. While therapy can be difficult and challenging, the rewards of working with the right therapist are immense. I truly enjoy seeing clients uncover new insights about themselves and witnessing how the tools and techniques I share with them help them move forward and live a more meaningful life.
After 16 years of experience and education, working with teens and young adults felt like a natural fit for me. Many people thought I was crazy for working with high school students during the day and seeing them as a therapist in the evenings, but I find teenagers to be incredibly inspiring. They are in the process of discovering who they are and who they want to become. Many teens struggle with their identity, and as a therapist, it’s rewarding to help them uncover what excites them and find a path forward. I always tell teens that therapy is something their future self will thank them for. With one in five teens facing a mental health disorder, it’s crucial for them to seek support early so they can learn the tools and gain self-awareness that will help prevent long-term suffering. I work with many teens dealing with eating disorders, anxiety, and depression—issues that are increasingly common in this age group. I also work with a lot of young adults in their 20s, particularly post-college, when
they are grappling with their identity and figuring out their future. Not having a clear path or a strong sense of self can lead to anxiety and depression. Beyond treating these issues, I love helping young people discover more about themselves and find their direction in life.
In addition to working with teens and young adults, I also support adults in my private practice. Lately, I’ve been seeing more women and men in their 30s and 40s who are seeking a safe space to process what’s happening in their lives. Many adults are navigating challenges related to stress management and emotional regulation, often due to the lack of mental health support and education during the 90s and early 2000s, when mental health stigma was more prevalent.
When working with adults in corporate settings or with faculty and staff at schools, I focus on helping them understand that emotions serve as messengers, guiding us to meet our needs. I also emphasize strategies for preventing burnout, practicing self-care, and managing stress, anxiety, and depression. While self-care can include things like bubble baths and massages, I take a deeper approach by exploring values, boundaries, and finding joy.
I love the opportunity to work across three different sectors: corporations, schools, and athletic teams. While these groups are made up of different individuals, I’ve found that many of them struggle with similar challenges, such as emotional regulation, stress and anxiety, mood and motivation issues,
and a lack of self-care and boundaries. After spending 16 years working in schools, supporting educators and students feels like a natural fit. I understand what it’s like to be in the trenches of education. I now present to schools across the country on mental health and wellness, help develop wellness programs and curriculum, and provide professional development and leadership coaching for school staff.
In addition to working with educators, students, and families, I’m also incredibly proud of the athlete mental health program we’ve created. When working with high school and college athletic teams and coaches, I partner with a team of former college athletes (who are much younger and cooler than me) to share their personal stories about mental health in athletics. Combining these powerful stories with the curriculum I’ve developed allows us to take wellness from awareness to action through practical skills and tools.
Prioritizing wellness in the corporate world has significant benefits—not only for individual employees but for the organization as a whole. Research shows that young professionals are actively seeking employers who prioritize mental health and well-being. In fact, many are even willing to take a pay cut to work for a company that values and supports their mental health. Our corporate programming and coaching are designed to support both leadership and employees in creating a culture of wellness. We don’t expect managers to act as therapists, but rather to lead with a wellness-first approach. When employees feel seen,
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heard, and supported, productivity, creativity, and team camaraderie naturally increase. Investing in mental health not only improves employee satisfaction and retention but also leads to reduced sick days and mental health leave, ultimately lowering insurance premiums and benefiting the company’s bottom line. After all, mental health is directly connected to physical health — when we care for one, we support the other. As a certified trauma-informed yoga and mindfulness instructor, I integrate mindfulness and yoga principles into all aspects of my work. I’ve presented extensively on how to incorporate yoga and mindfulness into school settings, whether that’s bringing mindfulness practices into the classroom or offering yoga and breathwork for educators to help prevent burnout. In the corporate world, I’ve led chair yoga and mindfulness sessions to support employee wellness. When working with athletes, I teach how mindfulness can enhance focus and performance. I always say, “Your breath is your most powerful tool — and it’s one that’s always with you.” When individuals learn how to use their breath intentionally, they can better manage their emotions, reduce stress and anxiety, and increase overall happiness.
When I first launched D&G Wellness, I started making mental health awareness sweatshirts at home to wear during presentations. It didn’t take long before people began asking if my sweatshirts were for sale, so I decided to open an Etsy shop under the name D&G Wellness. However, not long after, I received a cease and desist letter from the well-known fashion brand Dolce &
Gabbana due to our matching initials, and my store was shut down. At that point, I had a choice — I could either fight a multi-million dollar corporation or pivot and focus on what truly matters to me: promoting mental health and wellness in my community. Being from Buffalo, I chose to lean into the strength and spirit of this city and created Buffalo Believes, a wellness-based clothing brand designed to promote mental health awareness and spread positivity. With each purchase, we donate a portion of the proceeds to a local mental health organization. Every piece of clothing is designed to spark conversation, break down stigma, and build a more supportive and compassionate community.
Buffalo Believes has so many powerful messages that it’s hard to choose just a few. Two of our most popular designs right now are “Be Cool. Be Kind.” and “716 Strong.” I also created a mental health line specifically for athletes, featuring messages like “Check On Your Teammates” and “More Than An Athlete.” These designs are not only meant to spread positivity but also help break the stigma around mental health in athletics.
Getting enough sleep is one of the most important pillars of mental health, especially for women. I know we all have a million things on our to-do list, but it’s essential for women to prioritize themselves — and that starts with prioritizing quality sleep. Some of my favorite tools for better sleep include legs up the wall, a restorative yoga pose that calms the nervous system, doing a brain dump to release racing thoughts, and
practicing the 4-7-8 breath to help the body relax and fall asleep. In addition to quality sleep, the first 10 minutes of your day are key, as they set the tone and energy for the rest of your day. Use this time to practice gratitude, move your body, take a few deep breaths, and set a positive intention for the day ahead. Over the past two decades working with teens and teams, I’ve learned so much about the unique challenges young people face today. Teens are growing up in a world where phones and social media play a major role in their mental health — especially when it comes to anxiety, depression, and eating disorders. While part of me wishes we could eliminate social media altogether, I believe it’s more realistic and impactful to teach teens how to have a healthy relationship with it. Social media can be a tool for connection, but it can’t be their only form of connection. Teens also need to learn how to be bored, play, and simply exist without constant stimulation — all of which are essential for mental health and emotional well-being.
It’s also important for parents and educators to understand that the teenage brain isn’t fully developed until around age 25. The frontal lobe, which is responsible for emotional regulation, impulse control, and decision-making, is the last part of the brain to develop. This is why adults often look at teens and ask, “What were you thinking?” The truth is, sometimes they genuinely don’t know — because their brain is still developing. Now, this doesn’t mean we let teens off the hook for poor decisions. But it does mean that the adults in their lives need to step in and act as their frontal lobe, helping them
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regulate emotions, manage impulses, and make healthier choices.
In my experience, teens want to talk to the adults in their lives, they often just don’t know how. Teens tell me all the time that they wish adults knew how hard they are trying and that they truly are doing the best they can. If we, as adults, approach teens with compassion and the belief that they are trying their best, we can help them feel supported — rather than constantly feeling like a disappointment. At the end of the day, social media keeps teens in a constant state of comparison — and as we know, comparison is the thief of joy.
I believe that trauma gets stored in the body, and our bodies often hold onto emotions that can manifest as physical symptoms like teeth grinding, back pain, stomach aches, and headaches. Too often, we try to cover up these symptoms with a quick fix when what we really need is to address the deeper, unresolved trauma that is causing them. When I talk about trauma, I think it’s important to distinguish between what we call Big T and Little T traumas. Big T trauma might include things like abuse, accidents, or major loss, while Little T trauma can be experiences like rejection, criticism, or feeling unseen. Trauma is anything that shifts the way you view the world, and the reality is that every person has experienced some form of trauma. However, how we process and heal from it looks different for each individual.
One of the most effective ways to release trauma from the body is through
movement and mindfulness. I often incorporate somatic practices, movement, and EMDR therapy to help clients move through their trauma and begin to heal. While traditional talk therapy can be helpful, I truly believe that movement is the missing piece when it comes to releasing trauma and moving forward. Yoga and mindfulness are also powerful tools for healing. Mindfulness allows us to stay present in the moment, rather than getting stuck in the past or overwhelmed by future worries. When we can connect with our breath and body, we begin to heal from the inside out.
Mental health is something we all have, just like physical health. I define mental health as the ability to manage stress, recognize your abilities, and function well in daily life. It’s not about feeling good all the time; rather, it’s about whether your emotions align with the situation you’re facing. I view mental health as a spectrum. Ideally, we would all be thriving every day, but that’s not always the reality.
At the far end of the spectrum, I’d place what I call distress. Many people seek therapy only when they reach a point of distress, when their mental health is negatively affecting their daily life. For some, this might mean skipping work or school, struggling in relationships, or simply not functioning well overall. As a therapist, I work with individuals in distress regularly, but I’d love to shift the conversation so that people begin seeking support before they reach that point of crisis. This is a wellness approach—early intervention is key.
Think about the last time you got sick. Did you wait until you had bronchitis to start addressing your health? If I wake up with a sore throat and a runny nose, I’d likely increase my vitamin C intake and get more sleep. If my symptoms worsen, I’d take over-the-counter medicine and call a doctor if it doesn’t improve. I wish we could all take the same approach with mental health—recognizing when things might be slipping and reaching out for support before it gets worse. In my ideal world, we’d all have an annual mental health check-up, just like we do for physical health. We need to continue breaking down the stigma that seeking therapy or struggling with mental health makes someone weak or incapable. People with mental health struggles look just like you and me.
It’s difficult to pinpoint the most rewarding aspects of my career as a private mental health counselor and wellness consultant, but recently, I had the honor of publishing my first book, An Athlete’s Guide to Mental Health. I’m incredibly proud of this project, which includes personal stories from former athletes, along with educational content and activities to help athletes prioritize their mental health just as much as their physical health. Currently, I’m working on a second book aimed at helping coaches support their athletes’ mental health. When it comes to working with athletes, it’s essential that we not only support the athletes themselves but also involve coaches and parents in the process.
I’m also excited about the work I have been doing to launch a new athletic
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wellness coaching program this April through D&G Wellness. Athletes often need support with their mental health and mental performance, which is why I’ve certified six former athletes as athletic wellness coaches. They are equipped to provide both mental health support and mental performance coaching. This new program will consist of six modules, where athletes meet one-on-one with an athletic wellness coach to work on building confidence and resilience, developing an identity outside of their sport, enhancing emotional agility, improving communication, and learning advocacy skills. The program can be completed in person here in Buffalo or virtually. While I love working with
athletes in my private practice, this program serves as an early intervention and prevention tool to support athletes’ mental health and improve their mental game. I truly believe this program will not only help athletes succeed in their sports, but also in the classroom and in their personal lives.
In addition to our online store www. buffalobelieves.com Buffalo Believes is now being sold in a few local stores here in Buffalo, including Jules and Jane in the Village of Lancaster and the Snyder General Store in Amherst, New York. We continue to design new gear to start the conversation of mental health and wellness. We will also be
selling our merchandise at various events throughout the Rochester in Buffalo community in 2025.
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Celebrating 35 Years of Milestones: A Legacy of Love, Care, and Community Milestones are more than just markers of time—they are significant milestones in the journey of growth, progress, and change. They reflect the hard work, passion, and commitment that shape a lasting legacy. As Ronald McDonald House Charities of Rochester (RMHCR) celebrates 35 years of service, we look back at the moments, minutes, and milestones that have defined our mission and allowed us to support families in need. Since opening our doors in 1990, RMHCR has been a sanctuary for families with critically ill or injured children, offering them a “home away from home.” Today, we are proud to reflect on how far we’ve come, and the impact we’ve had on our community.
A Foundation of Love: The First 35 Years
In 1990, RMHCR opened its first house on Westmoreland Drive in Rochester, offering comfort and support to families during some of their most challenging times. Over the years, we have welcomed 15,809 families and provided 221,733 nights of care. These numbers represent more than just statistics—they symbolize the real people we’ve served. Through every night, every meal, and every act of kindness, we’ve helped families stay close when they needed it most. In addition to our 35th anniversary, we are celebrating several other significant milestones. This includes the 20th anniversary of our House Within
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a Hospital, one of only 19 such houses worldwide, and the 4th to open. We are also celebrating the 10th anniversary of our Golisano Children’s Hospital Family Room, providing families with a respite just steps away from their child’s bedside. Lastly, we mark the 40th anniversary of the Ronald McDonald House AllStar Basketball Tournament, which has raised over $460,000 to support families in need.
A Legacy of Community and Impact:
The All-Star Basketball Tournament
The All-Star Basketball Tournament has been a pivotal event in our community for the past 40 years. What began as a local basketball tournament launched by Rich Dibble and a group of dedicated individuals has grown into a major fundraiser, raising over $460,000 to support RMHCR. The event has engaged over 2,400 high school athletes, 700 cheerleaders, and countless volunteers, demonstrating that this wasn’t just about basketball – it was about the power of community. Over the years, this tournament has woven itself into the fabric of Ronald McDonald House Charities.
Funds raised by this tournament have helped to support our mission, contributing to the construction and maintenance of the Westmoreland House, the launch of the House Within a Hospital, and the creation of our family rooms at Golisano Children’s Hospital. Through this event, we’ve not only raised money but
also increased awareness of our mission to keep families close in their time of need. Each participant, whether athlete, volunteer, or supporter, becomes a part of the legacy of helping families when they need it most.
Honoring Our Founders: A Vision Realized
The success of RMHCR would not be possible without the passion and vision of three incredible individuals: Nancy Robbins, Rich Guon, and Dr. Robert Hoekelman. Together, these three founders laid the groundwork for RMHCR in Rochester and made the dream of a “home away from home” for families a reality.
Nancy Robbins, as a mother who had experienced the difficulties of caring for a critically ill child, knew firsthand how important it was to have a support system in place. Her personal experience drove her to rally the community and raise funds to bring a Ronald McDonald House to Rochester. She was often seen on the construction site wearing her signature yellow boots, overseeing the creation of the first RMHCR house. Nancy’s determination and unrelenting focus ensured that the House became a reality, and her efforts continue to inspire our work today.
Rich Guon, a McDonald’s owneroperator, was the driving force behind the fundraising and community engagement needed to build RMHCR. Rich was known for his “let’s get it done” attitude. His unwavering
These three individuals—Nancy, Rich, and Dr. Robert Hoekelman—were determined to bring the Ronald McDonald House model to Rochester, and their collective efforts have had a lasting impact on thousands of families. Their vision continues to guide us as we look toward the future. A Future Built on Compassion and Care
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While we celebrate the successes of the past, we recognize that our work is far from over. The minutes, hours, and days that we spend supporting families are what matter most. Every donation, every volunteer hour, and every act of kindness contributes to making a difference in the lives of those who need it most. Together,
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InnovateHER: Reinventing the Future of Female Leadership
We are standing at a pivotal moment in history. A time of profound challenge, but also of limitless opportunity. Across industries, communities, and cultures, women are being called to step forward, to reinvent themselves, and to lead with authenticity. The world is shifting, and while at times it may feel as though we are taking steps backward, we are, in truth, spiraling forward—returning to long-buried truths that demand to be acknowledged, healed, and transformed.
Leadership is evolving. The old paradigms, built on rigidity and hierarchy, are making way for something more dynamic, more inclusive, and more deeply connected. This is where InnovateHER comes in—a movement, a revolution, and a reinvention of what it means to lead as a woman in today’s world.
InnovateHER is not just about breaking glass ceilings—it’s about redesigning the entire structure. Women are no longer waiting for permission to lead. They are walking away from outdated, limiting systems and choosing instead to carve their own paths. They are building businesses, leading organizations, and creating change on their own terms. And
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True leadership is not a solo endeavor. It thrives in connection, collaboration, and community. InnovateHER is a collective—a network of women supporting women, empowering one another to rise. We create spaces where vulnerability is met with strength, where ambition is fueled by purpose, and where every woman has the opportunity to be seen, heard, and valued.
When we founded the HER mission, our purpose was clear: to bring HER energy—the intuitive, powerful, emotionally intelligent force of the feminine—to the forefront of leadership. From that vision, InnovateHER was born.
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We have seen it firsthand: Women are ready. They are stepping into their strength, embracing their voices, and redefining success—not as a race to the top but as a journey of impact and authenticity. They are no longer conforming; they are creating.
Through curated events, transformative conversations, and dynamic leadership experiences, InnovateHER is fostering a new kind of leadership—one that honors both the mind and the heart, the individual and the collective. We guide women through powerful exercises that encourage selfdiscovery, growth, and healing. Because leadership isn’t just about external influence—it starts from within.
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In a world filled with uncertainty, one thing remains constant: the power of women coming together. We may not be able to change the
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world’s chaos overnight, but we can change how we show up. We can shift our mindsets, our narratives, and our leadership styles. And when we do it together, the ripple effect is unstoppable.
One woman at a recent InnovateHER event put it best: “There is an abundance of masculine leadership. It’s time to balance that out with an abundance of female-empowered leadership— on HER terms.”
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BY VERONICA RYAN I PHOTOS BY PETER LEVINS
I am writing today to release myself from purgatory. Confused? Allow me to explain… A few weeks ago, I met my lovely Aunt at her home. “Liberty Hall,” we dubbed it when I was a child, a place where anything goes, a place where Mom and Dad don’t have to know. Back then, I would drag my tattered red, white, and blue knit baby blanket across the broad wooden floors, feeling like Jackie O in the White House or Princess Di in the palace. On the day of our recent meeting, I left my “B,” at home. In fact, I don’t even recall where my trusty old baby blanket is after all these years. Unfortunately, at age twenty-three, I have traded it for something far less comforting: a cloak of sadness and grief, an ever-growing ball and chain of love lost, love unspoken, and love unfulfilled—not in this life, anyways.
So, when I arrived at Liberty Hall to visit with my dear Aunt, I came dragging my shackles behind me, like Jacob Marley’s long-lost sister. I couldn’t help but think those ugly chains would not compliment Jackie’s timeless Chanel suit and black sunglasses, nor would it match one of Diana’s bejeweled ball gowns. My accessory was more like an ankle monitor than a glass slipper, an unsightly embarrassment. But as I entered my Aunt’s warm abode, I knew there was no need for embarrassment. In fact, embarrassment is the only thing not welcome in her home. So, I left my shame at the door and straightened my pretend tiara - while also reminding myself of Lindsey Lohan’s custom Chanel ankle monitor, circa 2007. It comforted me to know that I am not the only queen to have fallen from grace, nor am I the only queen to survive the fall and thrive in its wake. I gave my aunt a “hello” hug (those are always way better than the “goodbye” kind) and breathed a sigh of relief as I collapsed into her sofa, settling in for a long winter’s chat. Sitting there, basking in the sun streaming in from the big picture widow and sipping
on peppermint tea, I felt like a lucky black cat. A small but mighty fire roared from across from me, and the rich jewel tones of the room’s oriental rug made it even cozier. “Tip, tap, tip, tap…” small paws approached joyfully, and I was greeted by Daisy, my aunt’s ancient beagle-and-Godonly-knows-what-else mix, with a face only a mother could love. Only a mother—Only a mother, and me. There I rested, soaking in my Aunt’s words of wisdom about being a woman, being a writer, and being a woman writer… Then I suddenly realized she was talking about a man named Bartleby.
I must admit, my mind wandered as my Aunt went on about Herman Melville and his poor, dear Bartleby. I thought, “Ah, another book I will never read. Great.” I’ve found that Melville’s tedious (to me, at least) tales, whether about men or whales, are better left to wiser souls, like my beloved Uncle and Father. However, despite my initial reluctance, I found myself pulled into the story of Mr. Bartleby. I even found myself falling for the dreary man, not in a passionate, sexual sense, but rather in the way one comes to care for a helpless baby bird. What’s Bartleby’s deal, you ask? Well, he works as a clerk on Wall Street, in a tiny, drab office about the size of a postage stamp. One of Bartleby’s jobs is sorting dead letters, those letters sent with a hopeful stamp and a longing kiss but never arriving at their destinations. “Imagine what those letters said,” my Aunt mused aloud mid-story. It could have been “Please send money” or “Will you marry me?” or “I’m sorry.” Imagine, I thought, what reading such letters day in and day out would do to someone. You’ve heard of skeletons in the closet, but these skeletons lived and worked alongside Bartleby. Eventually, Bartleby trades his title of “clerk” for that of “starving (and self-proclaimed) artist.”
His story ends—as all do, I suppose—with his death, but poor Bartleby dies alone, a fate I would wish on no one. Many literary
scholars theorize that being the head of the dead letter department caused, or at least accelerated, Bartleby’s demise. The burden of carrying all of humanity’s lost and unexpressed love was too much for anyone to survive alone.
I bet you’re thinking the same thing I was when my Aunt first shared Bartleby’s story with me: “Why are you telling me this? What does this have to do with me?” Well, here’s what I gleaned from the story. Bartleby is fragile and alone, and he doesn’t ask for help. The Bartleby character represents what my illness (borderline personality disorder, or BPD) wants to do to me. It wants to starve me, to alienate me from others, and to cause me to give up. As someone living with BPD, I struggle with loss—any loss, really—but especially the loss of love. BPD takes each loss I suffer, and materializes it, adding another cold, heavy link to my ever-growing chain of sadness. Sadness in its proper place is valuable and necessary, but when the healthy grieving process becomes a life trapped in mourning, it’s time to let go. That’s the final step, you see—acceptance, letting go. Letting go will finally set me free, but I won’t do it alone. Unlike Bartleby, I am not fragile, so I am asking you for your help. I am asking you to help me break my chains by being my own personal Bartleby—the head of my dead letter department. Help me free myself from purgatory, help me free myself from a life trapped in grief. Bear witness to my love—love lost, love unspoken, and love unfulfilled—and get these dead letters to their proper destinations. Yes, dear reader, I’ve learned it’s best not to leave anything unsaid, so please join me in reading the love letters I never sent.
Signed with my love, Veronica
Dear Ghost Love,
I mourn for you still, The you I would have been,
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“I am writing today to release myself from purgatory. Confused? Allow me to explain…”
And the you I would have become. I cry for you, child. Veronica wept.
I’m sorry for your pain, For the cards you were dealt, For the losses suffered, I’m sorry for myself.
I wipe your face, And see my own reflection. My uncanny valley, My fallen ally.
Destroyed holy prism, My rebirth; your exorcism. Rest in peace, poor child. Rest in me, poor child.
You died on the cross, But I survived.
Yes, I am the truth, The resurrection, And the life.
Dear Pure Love, Too-ra-loo-ra-loo-ral, Too-ra-loo-ra-li… Yes, I still remember that old Irish lullaby.
In an old wooden pew, Safe and warm, Cradled in your arms, The calm before the storm.
Stained glass windows show me Jesus’ face, Father preaches, saying He can wash my sins away.
But I have no sins yet, I am still pure. I have no sins yet, I am still yours.
Oh, how I miss those innocent days. Oh, how I wish those days could have stayed…
You watched me grow up, You let me explore. You watched me lose my mind,
You braved my war.
You held me down when I was raging, then wiped my tears away. I wonder now, did Mary and Joseph ever do the same?
Probably not –No, the Son of God would not lose his mind. But He got me through it, Him and you, You and time.
Your infinite love set me free, Like Rembrandt’s Jesus on the Sea of Galilee. You are the reason I am alive. You are the reason I survived.
You sacrifice your own needs, so I can touch the sky –Look at me now; watch me soar, watch me fly.
And I don’t say it enough, so let me say it now, I love you more than anything. That is my prayer, my peaceful vow.
I’m so happy you’re my mother, I’m so happy you’re my father. I love you for making me, I love that I’m your daughter.
Dear Innocent Love, You and I met in Neverland, You can be Wendy, I’ll be Peter Pan.
Winters warmed by fairy lights, Endless summers catching fireflies.
Somewhere along the line, We crossed a bridge, Lost in a wrinkle in time.
Wendy goes to college and Peter stays home. Lost in Neverland, lost and alone.
Poor little fairy, Please set me free!
Save me, save me, clap if you believe! And bless you, you did, with all your might –Ironing out that old wrinkle in time.
Now, you keep careful watch over me, From an elegant library by the sea. And even though you have chosen to roam, You are always welcome here, You can always come home.
I’m proud of you, Of who you’ve become. I celebrate you, I love who you love.
Shoot for the moon, And I’ll catch you among the stars. No matter where you are, A part of my heart.
Dear True Love, Emerald and peridot, aquamarine. Rough diamonds in torn, faded jeans.
“Rapunzel, Rapunzel, let down your golden hair.”
My lovely ballerina, a vixen twirling through air.
Heaven rejoices in the voice of an angel. My pretty baby, ever sweet and ever faithful.
Hands that heal and a golden heart. My gentle swan, as kind as she is smart.
Model brown eyes and Poe’s twisted mind. I’m their dark poet; I love through rhyme.
Lilies and poppies and daffodils. Raised in a small town, no Beverly Hills.
I’ll love you to the end, A, J, and C, Yeah, forever and always, I love you - Love V.
Dear First Love, Tell me, Do you remember whenWhen I was owned by your ring, And wore your shirt to bed?
Those were the days of rose colored glasses, And stolen kisses in between classes. I wore raspberry lip balm,
{ BEAUTIFUL, POWERFUL, DESERVING }
“It comforted me to know that I am not the only queen to have fallen from grace, nor am I the only queen to survive the fall and thrive in its wake.”
And chewed gas station gum.
In those days love was wild and young, In those days love was perfect and dumb.
Back then the number 52 made me smile, And the backseat of your Chevy racked up some miles.
I drew hearts around your name, I swore one day mine would be the same.
Loving you was golden, You were my sun.
But I flew too close, I made you run.
Your love was patient, your love was kind. My love was lethal, my love was blind.
I pushed you off the boat, we were lost overseas.
You had to save yourself; you had to save me. So, when I cried out, begging for repair, You kissed me goodbye through the phone, saying, “Baby, you know I love you; I just can’t be your air.”
For years I prayed you’d come back and love me again.
The way you did once, the way you did then. These days I accept our story came to an end. These days I’m grateful to have known you, These days I simply call you, “friend.”
Now my therapist says I’m prone to fantasies, And I don’t know if you believe in alternate realities,
But the universe is amazing and vast, And I like to believe there’s a world where our love lasts, Where I am still yours and you are still mine, Yes, a world out there for Him and I.
In this world, though, I wish you the very best.
Please dear one, there is no need for regret. I pray your life is good and long. I wish you a love that is healthy and strong.
And finally, I say this with no malice or pain,
Babe, you know I’ll always love you, but I’m glad you didn’t stay.
Dear Healthy Love, Where is love born?
Some say when a baby laughs, Others say at the end of a rainbow, after a storm.
I say love is born right here, Behind your closed office door, In an ugly brick building, On the third story floor. I park across the street, And walk over to meet you. Dodging cigarette butts, And minty green gum, In white Hoka sneakers.
I love the way you call my name, I can hear your smile. I cherish our meetings like I would my own child.
One hour a week, time stops - just for a little while.
Almond French nails go, “Tap, tap.”
What do you think of mine?... I tell you my secrets, we lose track of time.
Auburn curls, Fragrant clementine.
Oh, my darling, You save lives. Oh, my darling, You saved mine.
If I could save you in a bottle, I would, Just to set you free.
Like a dove released from its cage, I trust you will come back to me.
Dear Fantasy, You probably don’t think of me, You probably don’t remember. It was a cold Friday night, the 13th of December.
I had seen you once before, I was searching for him,
Stomach full of holy eucharist, head full of hymns.
He was nowhere to be found, But then I saw your faceOne look from you, and he was replaced.
In love with a fantasy after only one sight, You were a rush, You fed me a high.
Yeah, that love at first glance kind of attraction,
Lights in the mirror, hot red and flashingLast time almost fatal, This time I pray lasting.
Now I’m running outta oxygen, Yeah, for years I’ve been deprived. My lungs are aching for you baby, Yeah, I need you to survive.
So, I gather up my courage, and I gather up my note.
Bathed in perfume, no time to change my clothes.
Forget Him and him, it’s you I’m hunting for…
What’s that they say baby? – All’s fair in love and war.
Now I’m sweating in my scrubs, takes me back to sweet sixteen.
Shot of water at the bar- I match your fade; I keep it clean.
Yeah, let’s play a game, I’ll be your pride, I’ll be your joy.
Yeah, let’s play a game, you’ll be my little lover boy.
I see you now, we lock eyes. My lips tremble, I’m weak in the thighs. Yeah, let’s play a game, I’ll be sober, you’ll be the drug.
Yeah, let’s play a game, you’ll be the cop, I’ll be the thug.
My God baby, now it’s all happening so fast, I’m sayin’, “I don’t know if I’m ready,” –Lord, I want this one to last!
{ BEAUTIFUL, POWERFUL, DESERVING }
“I bet you’re thinking the same thing I was when my Aunt first shared Bartleby’s story with me: “Why are you telling me this? What does this have to do with me?””
And we’re not at the altar, but I got cold feet, So, she slips you my note, “You’re cute! Call me.”
Signed with my name, marked with my heart.
Yeah, I shot my shot, a shot in the dark.
Now I’m waiting on the news, Waiting for your reaction. Yeah, in love with a fantasy, after just one interaction.
Back like a boomerang, Shot through the heart, Now it’s aching for you baby, Right where He left his mark.
Tell me, who is she?
And does she love you right? Friends you say?
Lemme tell you something baby –Friends don’t meet up at night.
Now don’t get me wrong, I respect your love, and I envy your devotion, But now I’m left drowning, Lost at sea, a sea of sordid emotions.
There is nothing left to do now but accept defeat.
I am no mistress; you are no cheat. She is your heart’s one and only home, My heart is empty, I drive home alone.
Now I’m stripping off my clothes, perfume embedded in my skin, Lingering now where I wished your hands had been.
Depression takes me back to my loving bed, Loving Him was golden, wanting you was red.
Weeks go by, and I’m still black and blue. Weeks go by, and I’m still wanting you. But your heart is hers, so I’ll let you be. All I ask in return, baby, is don’t forget me.
Dear Lasting Love, Like rose petals in snow, My crimson red toes, Are warmed by ivory sand.
You part my sea, I show you the promised land.
White ruffle bikini bottom, no bikini top. I catch dying golden rays, A mermaid on the rocks.
But oh, strong sailor, you are immune, My siren songs cannot capture you. You navigate rough waters and guide me back to shore.
Your love is steadfast; you survive my war.
And you don’t worry my pretty little head, You lay only with me, You love only in my bed.
I am your woman, I choose you as my man. I carry our miracle, While you hold my hand.
Sea-kissed bangs and pigtail braids. A flame that may flicker but never fades. I wear your smile; you drink my laugh. Let’s savor each moment, because life goes so fast.
You are yours, And I am mine. Stronger together, We withstand the test of time.
So, whoever you are, Wherever you may be, I pray you come soon, I pray you find me.
All I ask is you love me wholeFace and body, mind and soul. Love me rare, love me true, Yes, my darling, this is all I ask, All I ask of you.
Dear Miraculous Love,
Borderline moms bear borderline babies. Babies grow up, babies go crazy. But the Good Doctor who saved me saved my babies too.
Because of him there is me, because of him there is you.
I pray the world spares you my pain, I pray you are Good, that you live up to
your name.
I pray your life is full of more laughter than tears.
I pray your dreams conquer your fears.
I’ll be your lungs until you breathe on your own, I’ll be your anchor, my body ¬— your home. I’ll be your purest love, not your only, not your last.
You are the future; I am the past.
Fruit of my womb, apple of my eye. Baby’s breath, flowers bloom when you sigh. As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be…
Because the Good Doctor saved you, By saving me.
Dear Unconditional Love, Oh Veronica, Veronica, Wherefore art thou?
Kept like a promise, Loved like a vow.
Snow White skin, Ebony locks, Red rose lips, True love’s kiss.
Come on pretty girl, Dance with me.
Come on pretty girl, Take a chance with me.
Deep dark eyes, Sky high brows, Cutting cheeks, Curvy thighs.
Come on wild girl, Touch on me, Come on wild girl, Love on me.
Tell me your secrets, Tell me your lies. Let your hair down, Let me see inside.
Love me, Free me.
TRU FUNCTIONAL HEALTH
Discovering True Healing at Tru Functional Health: A Journey of Passion and Purpose
In a world where stress, toxicity, and chronic illness seem to be at an all-time high, finding a path to true wellness can feel overwhelming. For many, healing is about more than just treating symptoms—it’s about uncovering the root causes and embracing a holistic approach that nurtures the mind, body, and soul. This is the philosophy at the heart of Tru Functional Health, founded by Craig Danehy, a lifelong entrepreneur and passionate advocate for transformative healing.
Craig’s journey into the wellness industry spans over three decades, fueled by his unwavering commitment to helping others heal. Through personal experiences with anxiety, trauma, and an ever-deepening understanding of holistic health, he has created a space where individuals can reclaim their vitality, discover new levels of well-being, and truly thrive. At Tru Functional Health, every client’s healing journey is treated as a deeply personal experience—one that deserves care, compassion, and innovative solutions.
suffering, healing, and miracles, and that is what drives me,” Craig shares.
From a young age, Craig knew he was destined to be an entrepreneur. He often tells his twin boys that it takes over 30 years to become an overnight success, and his journey is a testament to that wisdom. His career began with Integrated Wellness Systems, an orthopedic massage therapy business that would ultimately transform thousands of lives. Over the years, he treated more than
At Tru Functional Health, the mission is simple:
Heal better. Feel better. Live better.
This philosophy is woven into every aspect of the center’s approach. Unlike conventional healthcare, which often focuses on symptom management, Tru Functional Health seeks to uncover and address the root causes of illness. Craig and his team understand that healing is a deeply personal process, and they meet each individual where they are, ensuring they feel heard, valued, and supported.
60,000 clients and built a practice with 15 massage therapists, all while developing a deep appreciation for the diversity of healing methods available.
“We see miracles every day at Tru,” Craig explains. “People come in suffering, searching for answers, and leave with hope. We pray, we cry, and we laugh with them. Their healing journeys become part of our own.”
A Lifetime in the Making
“My name is Craig Danehy, and I own Tru Functional Health. Every single day, I am inspired by people’s life experiences. I hear stories of
Through these experiences, Craig realized that healing isn’t one-sizefits-all. Each individual has a unique “recipe for healing,” combining ancient wisdom with modern technology. Driven by this understanding, he envisioned a wellness center that would bring together multiple modalities under one roof—giving clients the tools and support they need to heal on their terms.
The Philosophy Behind Tru Functional Health
Tru Functional Health integrates physical and mental healing modalities, recognizing that true wellness comes from a balance of both. The center has partnered with Heather Newton from Loop Brain-Body Health to provide a comprehensive approach that empowers clients to take charge of their healing.
Innovative Healing Services
Tru Functional Health is unique in upstate New York, offering a comprehensive suite of holistic services designed to enhance wellness,
“Every
morning, I wake up beside my soul partner and wife, Karen, and we strive to spread happiness and joy wherever we go. That’s what life is about—creating moments of joy, healing, and transformation.”
comes from a balance of both. The center has partnered with Heather Newton from Loop Brain-Body Health to provide a comprehensive approach that empowers clients to take charge of their healing.
Innovative Healing Services
Tru Functional Health is unique in upstate New York, offering a comprehensive suite of holistic services designed to enhance wellness, alleviate pain, and promote long-term health. Clients can experience cutting-edge treatments such as:
Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy
– Enhances the body’s natural healing process by increasing oxygen levels in the bloodstream.
Ozone Therapies – Stimulates the immune system and promotes detoxification.
IV Therapy – Delivers essential nutrients and hydration directly to the bloodstream for optimal absorption.
stress and improving cognitive function.
Injury Prevention & Orthopedic Recovery
– Customized treatments to support recovery and prevent future injuries.
Tru Functional Health caters to individuals struggling with joint pain, fatigue, brain fog, digestive issues, sleep disturbances, autoimmune disorders, chronic pain, and more. Whether someone is battling illness or simply
a higher quality of life. His passion for guiding others toward better health is evident in everything he does—from one-on-one client interactions to public speaking and community outreach.
“We’re just getting started,” Craig says with excitement. “People are actively seeking alternative choices for healing and rejuvenation. The future of wellness is here, and it’s all about functional health.”
Red Light Therapy – Accelerates healing and improves skin health.
PEMF Therapy – Uses electromagnetic fields to promote cellular repair and pain relief.
Neurofeedback – Helps train the brain to function more efficiently, reducing
looking to optimize their health, the goal remains the same: to help people not just feel better, but thrive.
A Passion for Education and Empowerment
Beyond offering treatments, Craig is deeply committed to educating people about their health. He believes that knowledge is power, and by understanding the lifestyle choices that contribute to toxicity and disease, individuals can make informed decisions that lead to
A Legacy of Healing and Hope
As Craig looks to the future, his vision for Tru Functional Health continues to expand. His dream is to make holistic healing accessible to even more people, providing a sanctuary where individuals can embark on their personal journeys toward wellness.
“I am blessed to live a life filled with vitality, love, and passion,” Craig reflects. “Every morning, I wake up beside my soul partner and wife, Karen, and we strive to spread happiness and joy wherever we go. That’s what life is about—creating moments of joy, healing, and transformation.”
At Tru Functional Health, healing isn’t just a service—it’s a movement. One that encourages individuals to take control of their health, embrace their healing journey, and live their best lives.
Life was meant to be filled with joy and energy. Let Tru Functional Health help you get there.
LOOP BRAIN & BODY HEALTH
What inspired you to create Loop Brain & Body Health, and how did your journey in brain and metabolic health begin?
I created Loop Brain & Body Health because I wanted to be on the cutting edge of helping people who live with brain fog, sleep issues, chronic stress, ADHD, anxiety, PTSD, and other challenges. I am passionate about my work because I have witnessed my clients drastically improve their quality of life and overall wellbeing through neurofeedback and other brain health modalities.
You have a personal connection to brain health and addiction recovery. How has your lived experience influenced your approach to helping others?
I grew up in a household where alcoholism was present. My husband and I have three children, the oldest of whom lives with a severe brain illness and challenges with addiction. Addiction and brain illnesses are family diseases. It is very hard to fully grasp the profound impact this can have on all members of a family unless you have lived it. My lived experience informs my work daily because it allows me to connect with my clients and relate to their circumstances with empathy and compassion.
What were some of the key lessons you learned while earning certifications in neurofeedback, metabolic health, and trauma-sensitive heart rate variability (HRV) therapy?
My training in these areas reiterated for me interconnectedness of our bodily systems. For example, there are more pathways that go directly from our heart to our brain than from our brain to our heart. If we can improve our heart rate variability, it has a positive impact on our brain’s ability to access calm and reduce anxiety. From a metabolic standpoint, we can learn an enormous amount about our
health through breath analysis which can also aid in understanding how to improve our heart and brain health.
Understanding Brain & Metabolic
Health Brain health is often overlooked in mainstream wellness conversations. Why do you believe it should be a top priority for everyone?
Our brains are arguably the most important organ in the human body. If we are not taking care of our brains, we are not living our best lives. Period. We have certainly made societal gains to reduce stigma, especially in recent years, but the stigma around mental illness has played a role in the limited attention and funding given to brain health.
Many people struggle with brain fog, anxiety, and sleep issues. What role does brain mapping and neurofeedback play in addressing these concerns?
qEEG Brain Mapping is a recording of brainwave activity on the surface of the brain. I analyze this recording to determine if a person has too much fast or slow brainwave activity in a particular area of the brain. There are patterns that develop over time that directly correlate which particular symptoms. For example, if a person has an excess of slow brainwave activity in the prefrontal cortex (executive function), they are likely going to experience brain fog or sluggishness throughout the day because they do not have enough faster (more focused) activity in this area to function optimally. Neurofeedback is a customized training protocol that I create based on the patterns in the brain map to help train the brain back to more optimal patterns and therefore reduce the symptoms.
How does neurofeedback work, and what are the most common conditions among your clients?
Using the brain map as a guide, I set up customized training sessions that help the brain move away from current (nonoptimal) patterns towards new (more optimal) patterns through a reward system. During neurofeedback training sessions, clients wear a piece of equipment on their head which is recording brainwave activity and watch a screen which provides real-time feedback. As soon as the brain moves into more optimal patterns, the screen gets brighter and the sound gets louder. When the brain is exhibiting non-optimal patterns, the screen gets darker and the volume is reduced. Over repeated daily sessions (I typically work with my clients for 2 – 3 months) the brain adopts these new patterns and no longer needs the reward system. That is neuroplasticity – the brains ability to learn something new.
I work with clients of all ages form 7 -70+ years old. I help many people with ADHD, some of whom are seeking to avoid, reduce or eliminate the need for medication. Sleep is also a large part of my practice. Whether or not my clients initially come to me regarding sleep issues, I very often build this in to my work with them because sleep is such a critical component to overall brain health. Anxiety and the effects of PTSD are other symptoms that are common among my clients.
Metabolic dysfunction is linked to numerous health conditions. Can you explain how metabolic testing and analysis help identify and correct underlying health issues?
I offer metabolic testing in partnership with Tru Functional Health. The testing is done through breath analysis and we are proud to be the only providers offering this type metabolic testing in New York State outside of New York City. Our overall mental and physical health is
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“Using the brain map as a guide, I set up customized training sessions that help the brain move away from current (non-optimal) patterns towards new (more optimal) patterns through a reward system.”
greatly impacted by how well our heart, lungs and cells to absorb, transport and utilize oxygen. The breath analysis test measures 23 biomarkers critical to our health. This information is gathered by analyzing exhaled gases as well as breathing frequency, heart rate and other metrics to create a comprehensive overview of metabolic health. Once we have a picture of areas in which your metabolic health can use improvement, we put together a customized plan to help move you forward in your wellness journey.
Services & Treatments at Loop Brain & Body Health
What can a new client expect during their first consultation and brain mapping session?
The initial brain map appointment is an in-office session that typically lasts about 2 hours. I place a small piece of equipment with multiple sensors on the client’s head to record brainwave activity. The client is asked to sit still and relax with their eyes open and then with their eyes closed while the assessment is happening. It is completely non-invasive and pain free. The way I describe brain mapping to my younger clients is that is it just like when a doctor listens to your heart with a stethoscope -- I am listening to and recording brainwave activity so we can learn where the brain might not be functioning optimally. The map itself takes less than 30 minutes. I spend the rest of the appointment interpreting the results and, if appropriate, getting the client set up with a neurofeedback training program.
Remote neurofeedback sounds like a convenient option. How does it work, and who might benefit most from this approach?
At the end of the brain map appointment,
I set up neurofeedback protocols and send my clients home with everything they need to do the daily training sessions at home. Clients take home a piece of equipment that reads brainwave activity and load an app on their phone of tablet to access the neurofeedback software. The training sessions are done daily and last approximately 20 minutes. Many of my clients train once during the day and then once prior to bed to help encourage healthy sleep patterns. All of the training session are digitally transferred to me and I can view them in real time. I monitor each client and make adjustments virtually whenever appropriate. I meet with my clients regularly (typically on zoom, but I always welcome in office visits) to review their data and check in to see how they are feeling. Given most peoples’ busy schedules, remote training is the best way for me to help my clients train daily without the need to come into my office multiple times each week. It also allows me to offer training sessions just before bed to help with sleep.
Sleep plays a crucial role in brain and metabolic health. What are some of the most common sleep disturbances you see, and how do your therapies help improve sleep quality?
Many of my clients have a hard time getting to sleep because their brain turns ‘on’ when they get into bed and/or they have a difficult time getting back to sleep once they wake up in the wee hours of the morning. Neurofeedback trains the brain to move into slow, sleepy patterns as the person is falling asleep at night and can also be used in the middle of the night to interrupt these patterns and help the brain move into healthier overall sleep patterns over time.
Your work also focuses on weight loss and longevity. How does metabolic testing
help clients optimize their health and even slow down biological aging?
When a person completes metabolic testing we provide a comprehensive report with key metrics such as metabolic rate, fat burning efficiency and VO2 Max. Based on this information, we help our clients adjust their exercise and nutrition programs, reduce stressors, get better sleep and use some of our in-office modalities such as oxygen therapies and/or redlight therapy to improve these indices. We then re-test after 3 – 6 months to see how things have improved.
Many of your treatments focus on reducing stress and anxiety. How does HeartMath HRV therapy help regulate emotions and support mental wellness?
Heart rate variability (HRV) measures the variation in time between each consecutive heartbeat. It reflects the balance between our sympathetic (fight/flight/freeze) and parasympathetic (rest/digest) nervous systems. We don’t want or heart to beat in a constant rhythm like a clock, rather a healthy heart is flexible and fluid – the heartrate naturally speeds up and slows down in response to the environment. HeartMath is a series of breathing techniques that help to train the heart to increase heartrate variability, reduce stress and improve overall wellbeing. I offer Breathwork workshops to individuals and couples to teach these techniques. I also incorporate this training while working with my neurofeedback clients.
Brain & Body Health in Everyday Life
What are some simple daily habits people can adopt to improve their brain health and cognitive function?
Sleep is hugely important, as is breathing. I suggest adopting a bedtime and sticking with it, keeping your bedroom cool and free of screens. Getting outside in nature, even if it just for a few moments in your
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“Our brains are arguably the most important organ in the human body. If we are not taking care of our brains, we are not living our best lives. Period.”
backyard each day is key. Connection with other people is another big factor. Whether it is renewing your effort to see friends or family more frequently, volunteering for a cause you care about or joining a group to learn a new hobby, we are heathier when we are connected.
Nutrition is a major component of both brain and metabolic health. What are some of the key dietary changes you recommend for better energy, focus, and longevity?
Keep things simple is the best nutritional advice I can offer. Eat whole foods and lots of vegetables. Reduce/eliminate highly processed foods. Avoid eating on the fly – enjoy our meals with others and savor this time as much as possible.
What misconceptions do people have about neurofeedback, brain mapping, or metabolic health, and how do you address them?
The biggest misconception I encounter is that you can correct long standing issues by doing a few neurofeedback sessions or getting a good sleep for a couple of nights in a row. Neurofeedback requires consistent engagement over a couple of months to truly reap the benefits. It also requires that my clients continue to take care of their overall brain and metabolic health after they complete their work with me. I am an Amen Clinic Certified Brain Health Coach which means I offer practical guidance and support to my clients while they are engaged with my services. I also provide a continuing plan that they can follow after they have completed their work with me to help them gain the most benefit and maintain their improved health over time.
Heather’s Expertise & Future Vision
What are some of the most powerful success stories you’ve witnessed through Loop Brain & Body Health?
I recently met with a client and his parents who were blow away by his progress. This client is 10 years old and lives with diagnosed ADHD. He struggled to engage academically, made frequent trips to the principal’s office and was
unable to focus on the sport he loved which is wrestling. During the time we worked together, he earned his way onto the school high-achiever list, drastically reduces the number of times his teacher needed to address his impulsivity in class and participated in multiple wrestling tournaments with increased focus. He also moved from needing his parents in his room at bedtime each night and waking several times to falling asleep on his own and waking up rarely if at all.
Another client that comes to mind is a 45 year old who lived with significant
lifelong anxiety and ruminative thoughts. She had tried many different types of medications and found limited relief. By the end of our work together, she was able to meet her friends for social gatherings without breaking out in hives and feeling sick to her stomach. She was also able to let her intrusive thoughts and worry go which allowed her to better focus on her job and be much more present with her souse and children. Her anxiety was still present at time but it no longer felt debilitating.
Looking ahead, how do you see the future of brain health and metabolic therapy evolving, and what are your goals for Loop Brain & Body Health?
The thing I am most excited about right now is a new therapy I am introducing to my practice which is PBM (photobiomodulation) for brain health. This is targeted, deep-penetrating near infrared light that heals damaged brain cell, increases blood flow and cellular regeneration in the brain and reduces cellular inflammation. This helps those who live with cognitive decline, traumatic brain injury/concussion, Autism and Parkinson’s disease.
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BY: CLIANDA FLORENCE & DR. CAROL ST. GORGE PROFESSOR AT UNIVERSITY OF ROCHESTER
A strong foundation in reading & writing: Why is it essential for success?
Walter Dean Meyers, the multiaward-winning author of hundreds of children and young adult books, was a trailblazer for promoting the importance of reading and writing. Believing that profi ciency in literacy and developing a passion for reading were essential, he declared that, “Reading is NOT optional.”
Indeed, a strong foundation in reading and writing is essential for success in school and in life. Literacy is infused into every aspect of our lives. Reading has the power to expand our understanding of ourselves and how we relate to the world around us. It contributes to both physical and mental health. In fact, the American Medical Association has declared that literacy is a major contributor to health.
So, what is reading? Rather than distinct components of testable sub skills, literacy is a social practice that is dependent on a specifi c context and social interaction- for example, reading a menu, a novel, a text, a bus schedule. It requires using interrelated strategies such as predicting, questioning, summarizing, determining meanings of vocabulary words that often have multiple meanings. Prior knowledge, and understanding about words and language help in understanding what you read, and the affective factors such as motivation, self-confi dence, purpose and contribute to your comprehension.
The importance of fostering a child’s ownership
With so much at stake in having a strong literacy foundation, how can families best support their children’s reading readiness and foster children’s ownership of their literacy learning? Before children can construct meaning from letters, symbols, and text, often referred to as decoding, they need experience with words and language. Providing a rich language environment for young children allows them to build an understanding of the necessary components that lead to becoming a beginning reader.
Here are some suggestions: Talk, sing, play with sounds, rhymes, and words. Activities that build phonemic awareness, the ability to recognize individual sounds, and phonologic awareness, the ability to hear, identify, and manipulate the individual sounds that form words, can help build very strong reading readiness and decoding skills. Rhyming games are fun. Play “I Spy” with rhyming words, for example, I spy something that rhymes with ‘cat. Sing nursery rhymes and read predictable rhyming picture books and have your child identify the rhyming words.
Play with word sounds, ask your child to change the fi rst sound and substitute another, for example- take the “b” sound off the word bat and make it an “m” sound, ask what’s the new word? Sound out or count the sounds and syllables in words. Make the connection between letters and
sounds more transparent by using letter tiles or magnetic letters to practice making words. These work well on cookie sheets or the side of the stove or refrigerator.
Make time to read together from the earliest age. Even very young babies benefi t from these activities. For young children, talk with your child about the stories. Ask questions, make predictions, discuss how the characters are like them or different from them. These activities build richer vocabularies and help children develop a more advanced understanding of language. Parents who read to their children and engage them in conversations expose them to a richer vocabulary and more complex language structures. This early exposure lays a strong foundation for literacy skills. The importance of modeling good reading behavior for your children Surround your child with reading materials such as books and magazines.
Be a model for reading behavior and let your child see you reading. Talk about what you’re reading and why you enjoy it. Have your child help you with activities that require reading and writing, such as making grocery lists, reading recipes, and writing letters or emails to family and friends. Engaging in authentic literacy practices can boost confi dence and demonstrate how valuable reading and writing are to our lives. Seeing parents read for pleasure or write for various purposes can inspire children to do the same, and they are more likely to try and imitate you.
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“Literacy is infused into every aspect of our lives. Reading has the power to expand our understanding of ourselves and how we relate to the world around us. It contributes to both physical and mental health.”
Allowing your child to choose what they want to read can help foster a love for reading and make them feel more invested in the activity. Research shows that choice is a major contributor to motivation.
Establishing a daily routine for reading even if it is just 20 minutes a day can make a big difference. When you set aside time for reading, you are sending an important message that it matters to you and should matter to them.
Share cultural and educational experiences with your children that enrich their literacy learning. This can include trips to libraries, museums,
and cultural events. Even trips to the doctor’s office, the laundromat or grocery store are opportunities for engaging with literacy through signs, labels, and directions.
Families can be major contributors to their children’s reading readiness and play an important role in developing their children’s ownership and love for reading and writing.
Conclusion
Reading is the foundation that everything and subject is built upon, as Walter Dean Myers has stated “Reading is not an option!” We must equip ourselves and our children with the necessary tools, skills, love, desire,
and passion for reading, writing and speaking in order to change outcomes, like 11% of 3rd grade students within the Rochester City School District reading on level in 2023 according to the New York State Department of Education (NYSED). If we believe it takes a village to raise a child, the village must model reading readiness. How many more generations are we willing to sacrifi ce to the cycles of illiteracy, mental and physical drop out, incarceration, poverty, despair and death due to the lack of hope and necessary comprehension skills to be critical and analytical readers, thinkers, writers, and speakers? Literacy is life-changing, lifesaving, and transformative! Let’s Get L.I.T.!
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WHITEHALL MANSION
Whitehall Mansion Event Venue: A Timeless Setting for Unforgettable Moments
Steeped in history and elegance, Whitehall Mansion Event Venue is more than just a location—it’s an experience, a story, and a dream brought to life. Built in 1905 by the renowned architect J. Foster Warner, who also designed the prestigious George Eastman House, this breathtaking estate is nestled within 11 acres of lush gardens, towering trees, and scenic beauty. Every corner of the mansion exudes timeless charm, making it the perfect setting for weddings, corporate events, private parties, and milestone celebrations.
A Family Dream Turned Reality
mansion, the breathtaking landscape, and the undeniable sense of romance and elegance made it the perfect place to turn our dream into reality. Today, all generations of our family play a role in building and maintaining Whitehall Mansion, ensuring that every event held here is nothing short of magical.
A Space Designed for Every Occasion
At Whitehall Mansion, we understand that no two events are the same. Whether you’re planning an
atmosphere with outdoor lounge furniture and a fire pit, perfect for casual mingling under the stars. When weather permits, the patio can also be arranged to seat up to 80 guests for an elegant outdoor dining experience.
NEW 5,000-Square-Foot Event Space (Opening May 2025!): Currently under construction, this state-of-the-art event space will blend modern luxury with historical charm. Whether you’re envisioning a grand ballroom affair or a casual, stylish gathering, this versatile space will provide endless possibilities.
The journey to creating Whitehall Mansion as a premier event venue began with a simple but powerful vision—to find the perfect place to host fairytale weddings and memorable gatherings. As a familyowned business deeply rooted in the Rochester area for generations, we wanted to create a venue that blends history, beauty, and flexibility to allow each event to feel uniquely personal.
From the moment we stepped onto the property, we knew we had found something special. The grandeur of the
intimate wedding, a lavish corporate gala, a milestone birthday, or a sophisticated networking event, our versatile spaces offer a customizable canvas to bring your vision to life.
Indoor Elegance: The mansion’s interior is a masterpiece of historic charm, featuring mahogany inlaid floors, marble fireplaces, intricate architectural details, and dazzling crystal chandeliers. The warmth and sophistication of these rooms set the stage for an unforgettable experience.
Outdoor Beauty: The expansive front patio offers a chic and inviting
Historic Carriage House: Included with full-day rentals, the 1800s-era carriage house with its signature steeple clock offers a charming retreat for outdoor relaxation, cocktail hours, or intimate celebrations.
Exclusive Venue Features & Amenities
We offer a range of services and amenities to ensure a seamless and stress-free experience:
Flexible Vendor Policy – Rent the venue and choose your own vendors, including caterers, florists, DJs, and photographers, or let us provide trusted recommendations.
Fully Equipped Spaces – We provide AV equipment and a
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high-quality sound system for presentations, videos, and music.
Caterer-Friendly Kitchen – A full warming kitchen ensures smooth meal service for your guests.
Luxury Event Setup – Our rental packages include banquet or farm tables, elegant champagne Chiavari chairs, and ivory tablecloths for a polished and sophisticated look.
Weddings at Whitehall Mansion
Your love story deserves a setting as timeless as your commitment. At Whitehall Mansion, we specialize in creating romantic, personalized, and unforgettable wedding experiences.
Bridal& Groom’s Suites: Our luxurious bridal suite provides ample space for the bridal party to get ready in a beautifully decorated setting, perfect for stunning pre-wedding photos. Meanwhile, the groom’s suite offers a comfortable space to relax, complete with plush furniture and a TV.
Multiple Ceremony Locations:
Every couple has a different vision for their ceremony, and we provide breathtaking options:
In front of the stone fireplace with a handcarved wood mantle inside our event space.
The grand entrance of the mansion, featuring its stately white columns for a picture-perfect backdrop.
One of many picturesque spots
Pro Tip: Carve out quiet moments for just the two of you—whether it’s a private toast after the ceremony or a brief sunset walk around the grounds. Those little moments will be the ones you cherish forever.
The Best Part About Hosting Weddings
For us, the most rewarding part of hosting weddings at Whitehall Mansion is witnessing pure joy. Seeing a bride and groom beaming at the end of the night, filled with happiness and gratitude, is why we do what we do.
throughout the estate’s 11-acre property.
Advice for Couples Planning a Wedding
Day-of Coordination Included: To ensure every detail is perfect, we provide a day-of event coordinator with your rental.
Overnight Accommodations: Enjoy the convenience of five elegantly appointed guest suites for you and your loved ones.
Your wedding day is one of the most significant moments of your life, and while the excitement can be overwhelming, it’s important to pause and take it all in. Between the detailed planning, the rush of emotions, and the endless moments of joy, don’t forget the true meaning of the day—celebrating your love and starting your journey together.
From the first tour when a couple falls in love with the venue, to the emotional walk down the aisle, to the non-stop laughter and dancing—every moment holds a special place in our hearts. Watching families come together, friendships strengthen, and love take center stage is truly an honor.
We take immense pride in being a part of these once-in-a-lifetime celebrations, and we look forward to making your dream event a reality at Whitehall Mansion.
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“Your wedding day is one of the most significant moments of your life, and while the excitement can be overwhelming, it’s important to pause and take it all in.”
THE PENTHOUSE ROCHESTER
The Penthouse is a full-service wedding venue known for its exceptional panoramic views of Rochester. Standing eleven stories tall, it offers a breathtaking 270-degree balcony over looking the city’s skyline. From the moment you embark on your wedding journey, you will be enveloped in a sense of unparalleled elevation, permeating every aspect of the experience, from the initial visit to the grand procession down the aisle.
What is the overall ambiance and aesthetic of The Penthouse, and how does it complement a couple’s special day?
The Penthouse is a sleek, modern, city feel to it. It is completely customizable and can change to meet almost any couples needs for their special day.
What is the maximum capacity for weddings, and how flexible is the space for different wedding styles and sizes?
Our max capacity is 125 for a wedding with a dance floor. We can done weddings ranging from cocktail style, to brunch, and to more traditional weddings.
Do you offer customizable wedding packages, and what are some of the most popular options couples choose?
Wedding Ceremonies & Receptions:
What amenities and services do you offer for couples looking to host their wedding ceremony and reception at The Penthouse?
We provide comprehensive event planning, catering, and beverage services all under one roof. The Penthouse can serve as your comprehensive destination for all your wedding requirements. We offer a wide range of tableware, including chairs, plates, silverware, and linens. The only items you would need to bring in are the DJ or band, florist, and your photographer.
We do offer customized packages, because each couple is unique there is no most popular choice. But couples do enjoy having one stop for all their wedding needs and not having to worry about renting tables and finding bar services!
Catering & Menu Options:
The Penthouse has a full catering menu—can you tell us about the culinary experience couples can expect?
From the initial planning of your menu outline to the tasting and the reception where you receive
compliments from your guests, The Penthouse will guide you through every step of the process. We will schedule a planning meeting to discuss your culinary preferences and collaborate with you to refine every aspect to meet your specific requirements. Subsequently, we will invite you for a tasting session to verify that the selections align perfectly with your vision. Finally, our culinary team will be present at your wedding to ensure that every detail is executed flawlessly, adhering to your expectations from the tasting.
Do you offer menu tastings for couples? Are there options for dietary restrictions and customized menu selections?
We do offer complimentary tastings for all couples. We can work with any dietary restrictions that any couples would need.
What are some of the most requested food and beverage options for wedding receptions at The Penthouse?
Our carving station is by far the most popular menu item we sell, for drinks every couple loves making their own signature cocktail to match their wedding!
Special Features & Benefits:
The Penthouse offers a stunning rooftop view of the city—how does this add to the experience of a wedding celebration?
There is nothing like The Penthouse
“We do offer customized packages, because each couple is unique there is no most popular choice.”
in the city. Any guests and couples attending a wedding at The Penthouse will be wowed with the panoramic views and that a lone makes it a unique venue!
What kind of additional services or partnerships do you offer, such as décor, florists, or entertainment options?
We have a wonderful preferred vendor list that we are happy to share and introduce to couples looking to host their wedding at The Penthouse.
Do you provide a bridal suite or private space for couples to get ready before the ceremony or reception?
We unfortunately do not have a bridal suite but do work with surrounding hotels that offer that service.
Booking & Planning:
How far in advance should couples book their wedding date at The Penthouse, and what is the process for securing a date?
The Penthouse does fill up, but we
can take any couples that wanted to book in advance several years or if they had a change in the previous plans we can accommodate weddings within three months
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FIG HOLLOW BARN
Fig Hollow Barn has a rich history as a former horse-riding arena—how does that past add to the charm and character of weddings held here? Yes! It is crazy to realize how many people boarded their horse or took lessons on the property. I’ll be out in public and somebody in their 60’s or 70’s may come up to me or a guest attending a wedding to share that when they were a child or a teenager, their horse was in stall number seven. It’s very nostalgic for them to be there. The barn was built in 1960 and it sits on 40 acres. There’s a drumlin on the back property. And I’m not sure why, but someone a very long time ago planted two rows of blue spruce trees about 40 feet across from one another to make this incredible space. In fact, most of our bridal couples get married in that area. We call it, “the Hollow”. I feel like it’s nature’s way of making the most beautiful organic cathedral. It’s intimate while being outside.
Hollow Barn boasts a 60-foot-wide glass back wall—how does this feature enhance the wedding experience?
Fig Hollow barn has 60 feet of glass on the backside that opens up entirely to the ceiling. The doors open with the profile of the barn and so they seem to disappear when they’re open. We only host events from spring till fall and it’s incredible the amount of natural light that comes into the space. I’ve had many photographers tell me that this is one of
where chickens or goats were held create great images in the background and like I said, there’s the rock foundation of an old barn. There are 27 horse stalls on the property and the middle hallway is only used by the photographer and the bridal couple. With the runway lights along each side, it reminds me of the front of the Eastman theater. Again, those linear lines make for incredible photos. And it’s always amazing to me to see how photographers interpret a space differently.
That’s a very difficult aesthetic to achieve in the vast openness with the sky above. And there are many remnants from the days when there were probably over 40 horses on the property. There are interesting old out buildings that make perfect backdrops for photographers. There’s a foundation of an old barn that seems to be very popular for photos. The outdoor riding paddock and the wood fencing make a really cool linear angle in photos also. And the side field during golden hour is absolutely majestic.
Many barns are dimly lit, but Fig
their favorite places to shoot an event because of all the photo opportunities, and also the way the natural light banks off the inside space.
The venue sits on 40 acres of scenic farmland—what are some of the most breathtaking views couples and guests can enjoy?
There are so many different areas at Fig Hollow barn that are beautiful. It is a working barn, so the fields are off and planted with hay. When there’s a breeze, the grasses sway and it makes beautiful video footage. The older outbuildings
Sustainability is an important factor for many couples. Can you tell us more about how Fig Hollow Barn is 100% carbon neutral and powered by solar energy?
It was very important to us when we were approaching this concept of Fig Hollow Barn, and truly our other businesses - of what our impact is on our community in our world. We chose to have solar panels provided on top of the barn, which provide electricity to our wedding barn, our house, and our shop. We only host events late spring through the fall, so the barn produces more energy that it uses. We want to be good stewards for our property and our community!
What makes Fig Hollow Barn a stand out venue for a couples looking for a rustic yet elegant wedding experience. I think one of the coolest things about our barn is the ability to have a bridal couples party altogether. Often times you’ll see venues where the bar is separated
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from the dance floor. We focus more on smaller gatherings, and we have the ability to curate three different lounge vignettes. What’s great about that is sometimes when you have people who don’t particularly like to dance, even though the Chivari chairs around the tables are very comfortable, if you sit in them for five or six hours, they may not be. For those people attending your wedding who may not be the partier or the dancers, they have options that are very comfortable. There’s four different areas, with two different loveseats, and multiple wingback chairs that are comfortable, cushioned areas for them to be able to sit down and have conversation with other family while still being able to see the dance floor and be part of the wedding. I will share with our bridal couples that this is the most expensive party they’ll probably ever put on and you want your guests to stay as long as possible. We provide that service. All of the beautiful furniture, tables, and Chiavari chairs are included in the price of hosting an event at our wedding barn. What’s nice is that people do not have to add to their budget to create the ambiance they see when they enter our space visiting.
your wedding day is safe and accessible for everyone. We have ADA bathrooms, the floor plan is all one level. In barns, you want to make sure they have the required battery powered lights, the correct emergency exit lights, and very large doors with the correct hardware for exiting the building.
How does your team help couples customize their wedding to reflect their unique style and personality?
personality to the ceremony and it was so beautiful. We had another couple who own a dairy farm. I suggested that they bring one of their cows and they did. In fact, she was part of the wedding ceremony. A third example, we had a couple whose family host an annual Halloween haunted hayride. It’s something the family has done for years and years. They ended up bringing two 15 foot tall skeletons dressed as a groom and a bride, and it anchored the entranceway for the party. It certainly set the stage for the celebration.
We also have some nice artistic touches… such as an old grain bin that has been converted into the bar, and an old 1940 Hudson that is often parked by the flagpole. These are great photo ops and gives the whole place an interesting vibe. This may be a boring part of planning a barn wedding, but you want to make sure
This is a fun one. We meet with our bridal couples two months prior to their wedding and go through a list of questions that are beyond just, what colors are you choosing, how long will your wedding ceremony be? I ask questions such as what are their hobbies, what do they like to do with each other? What are the unique things that make them who they are? I will make suggestions on ways to incorporate that into the day. For example, we had one couple and they both loved motorcycles. I came up with the idea of anchoring the wedding arbor on both sides with their motorcycles. It truly brought their
The barn is open from mid May through fall – what makes each season special for weddings at Fig Hollow? Since we have 40 acres and the backdrop is always changing, there’s always something beautiful to see. In the spring, it almost feels like a Disney movie because there’s many bunnies in the field. There’s also a tremendous amount of blue birds, cardinals and blue jays, not to mention the deer that are often grazing on the drumlin hillside. If a couple is looking to bring more of an organic feel to their space versus traditional party reception architecture, this is the place. The fall, with the changing of the leaves, provides an incredible, colorful, backdrop of red, orange and yellow. It’s Mother Nature at her finest.
Since fig hollow barn is not climate controlled. How do you help couples and guests stay comfortable during warmer or cooler months?
Since the barn is not open during the
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those people attending your wedding who may not be the partier or the dancers, they have options that are very comfortable.”
colder months, it has never been a problem. In the warmer months, the vast width of 60 feet of glass doors is perfect for helping keep the barn comfortable and cool. We also have your typical large barn fans to keep the air moving. When autumn nights turn a little chilly, we have standup propane heaters that provide extra warmth.
Your back wall of glass can fully open to let the outside in – how does this feature transform, weddings and receptions?
It is amazing to be sitting at a dining table with fancy table settings and centerpieces, and then glance over and see meadows and hillsides full of nature, even when the glass doors are closed. This is a one-of-a-kind feature that you won’t find anywhere else!
With a flower farm in development and Airbnb’s, how do you see it enhancing future weddings at Fig Hollow?
Our Airbnb‘s are going to make the experience of having a wedding at Fig Hollow Barn so much more. One is located on the barn’s property and the other is 1 mile down the road and it sits on 9 acres. The home a mile away, is 4200 ft.² with 7 bedrooms. The 9 acres that Airbnb sits on were previously farm land and this is where we’re going to be designing and creating a colorful flower garden which will be perfect for wedding photos too. There is already the foundation of a Victorian flower garden that we are resurrecting. The flower gardens will only enhance photo opportunities. Many times couples need to go to multiple sites in order to achieve their photo dreams. However, at Fig Hollow Barn we have many
different, really cool photo shot areas opportunities and that saves the bridal couple valuable time. On the day of your wedding, the clock is ticking. I often tell people it’s probably the most expensive party you will ever host and that you will not be at for portions of time. Fig Hollow Barn and our other amenities allow you to achieve all of your dreams when it comes to photos, but also expedites getting you back to the most important part…..enjoying your wedding day and being part of the party.
Do you offer outdoor ceremony options on your expansive 40 acre property? If so, what are some of your favorite spots couples have chosen? We do offer a few areas for couples to choose from but I would say 99% of our bridal couples have their ceremony under the branches of the 50-year-old spruce trees. Their branches make this incredible canopy that I like to describe as an outdoor, intimate cathedral that mother nature created. Otherwise, couples may choose to have their ceremony on the back lawn behind the glass doors looking out over the farm field into trees. It’s open and expansive. We always supply the white ceremony chairs and set them up and remove them after the ceremony. This is not an added cost and nor do the chairs need to be rented.
Everything is inclusive and I believe this is very helpful for our couples. Especially when planning their budget. It’s not like they need to take into account the cost of the venue and then renting lounge furniture, or ceremony chairs or whiskey, barrels or the arbor. We provide everything – including card
boxes, signage, wooden lanterns for tabletops, and more.
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Can couples bring in their own vendors or do you offer preferred partnerships with caterers, florist and planners?
Because Fig Hollow Barn has an expectation of a certain level of quality for the experience of the day, we have partnered with three different caterers who specialize in different areas and level of cost. We have found that building that relationship allows for the most seamless, high-quality service delivered to our couples. Our preferred caterers understand what our expectations are and because they want to maintain our business relationship, they will outperform.
Florist, photographers, wedding planners, and bakeries are open to the choice of the bridal couple, however. I believe flowers and especially dessert vary significantly regarding taste and budget. Also, I wanted to keep these options open for the couple since not all bridal couples choose to have a planner. And when it comes to dessert, things are very untraditional now. Sometimes it might be just a doughnut buffet with fruit, otherwise some couples choose they have all mini pies, or some may have a huge spread of cookie cakes and the big traditional wedding cake. It’s always fun to see the personality of a couple come out in these ways.
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“And I’m not sure why, but someone a very long time ago planted two rows of blue spruce trees about 40 feet across from one another to make this incredible space. In fact, most of our bridal couples get married in that area. We call it, “the Hollow”.”
What advice do you have for couples planning a barn wedding who may be new to the idea of a more rustic setting?
I would definitely suggest for couples to go and visit different venues. Looking at photos on Instagram or Facebook is great, especially if starting to plan during the winter months when most barns are closed. I strongly suggest making a list and compare the amenities that each barn venue offers and what’s included in the base cost. Take into account the amount of natural light, photo opportunities and ease of accessibility for your guest. For example, we have built in bathrooms. I know that seems sort of strange to say, but it’s very important if you happen to
get a day that mother nature is not very kind and it rains. You may not want your guests having to use umbrellas to go outside.
Having good airflow in a barn for a warm day is critical. Sometimes old barns are beautiful, but stuffy.
Can you share a favorite wedding story from Fig Hollow Barn that truly captures the magic of the venue?
Oh my goodness, this is a tough question because there have been so many! We had a couple bring a calf named Denali, motorcycles, and llamas that were dressed as a bride and groom…but I think our
favorite memory was a brightly colored hot air balloon that was tethered on the back lawn right outside the glass doors. Lit up against the evening sky and hearing the sound of the flame to keep the balloon filled was breath taking. It absolutely made for magical photos.
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THE GLENDOVEER EXPERIENCE
Glendoveers has been a premier banquet facility for over 40 years. What do you think has contributed to its long-standing reputation and success?
Glendoveers’ long-standing reputation as a premier banquet facility for over 40 years is built on a foundation of exceptional service, breathtaking scenery, and exquisite catering. Our picturesque wooded setting provides a stunning backdrop for weddings, corporate events, and special occasions, while Creative Caterers’ farm-totable approach ensures fresh, high-quality cuisine tailored to every guest’s needs. The commitment to personalized event planning, an allergenfree kitchen, and attention to detail has made Glendoveers a trusted choice for generations. This dedication to excellence, along with a passion for hospitality, continues to make Glendoveers a top choice for unforgettable celebrations.
Personalized service, breathtaking scenery, and exquisite cuisine come together to make Glendoveers a one-of-a-kind venue where your dream wedding becomes reality.
Your venue has a historic charm with modern renovations—can you share some of the details about its transformation over the past 60 years? Nestled among whispering trees and tranquil scenery, Glendoveers has evolved gracefully, embracing contemporary
What makes Glendoveers an ideal setting for a dream wedding?
Glendoveers offers a picturesque, rustic setting with modern amenities, including a spacious indoor banquet room accommodating up to 200 guests, a full bar, a large outdoor deck, and a gazebo for ceremonies.
Can you describe the different wedding packages available and how couples can customize their special day?
What makes Glendoveers unique compared to other wedding venues in the Rochester area?
Glendoveers offers a romantic and intimate escape, perfect for celebrating your love story. Unlike larger, more commercial venues, Glendoveers provides a warm and inviting atmosphere, where every detail is designed to create an unforgettable wedding experience for you and your guests. With catering by Creative Caterers, you’ll enjoy a farm-to-table menu crafted with the freshest ingredients in an allergen-free kitchen, ensuring every dish is made with care—free from gluten and peanuts.
updates while preserving its timeless beauty and rustic charm. Thoughtfully designed renovations have enhanced the space, offering couples modern amenities without compromising the warm, intimate atmosphere that makes Glendoveers so special. The venue features a spacious indoor banquet room with seating for up to 200 guests, a full bar, and a large outdoor deck perfect for cocktail hours or sunset celebrations. For ceremonies, the picturesque gazebo provides a romantic backdrop.
Weddings at Glendoveers
At Glendoveers, we believe every wedding should be a reflection of the couple’s unique love story, which is why we work closely with each couple to bring their dream wedding to life. From the décor to the menu, signature cocktails to the perfect ambiance, we tailor every detail to match your vision. Our thoughtfully designed approach offers elegance, romance, and complete flexibility, ensuring every detail is customized for a seamless and personalized wedding experience. Whether you desire an intimate gathering or a grand celebration in our spacious indoor banquet room, we provide customizable menus, a full bar, and a stunning outdoor deck for cocktail hours beneath the trees. Exchange vows in our picturesque gazebo, surrounded by nature’s beauty, while our dedicated team ensures every floral arrangement, table setting, and gourmet dish is a perfect reflection of your vision.
With the rising trend of outdoor and nature-inspired weddings, how does Glendoveers’ scenic woodland setting enhance the overall experience?
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At Glendoveers, nature becomes a breathtaking backdrop. Our scenic woodland setting, surrounded by whispering trees and lush greenery, creates a romantic, intimate atmosphere perfect for an enchanting outdoor wedding. Imagine exchanging vows beneath the canopy of nature, with sunlight filtering through the leaves. Our charming gazebo and expansive outdoor deck provide the perfect blend of rustic charm and elegance, allowing couples to celebrate under the open sky. With nature’s beauty all around, every moment feels magical, timeless, and effortlessly romantic.
How does your team help couples bring their wedding vision to life, from décor to menu selections?
At Glendoveers, we believe that every wedding should be a reflection of the couple’s unique love story. Our dedicated team works closely with each couple, listening to their dreams and bringing their vision to life with thoughtful attention to detail. From elegant tablescapes and floral arrangements to a custom-crafted menu featuring farm-to-table cuisine, every element is carefully designed to create an atmosphere of romance and celebration. Whether it’s an intimate candlelit reception or a grand outdoor affair beneath the trees, we ensure every touch—from décor to signature cocktails—is infused with warmth, elegance, and personal charm, making their day truly unforgettable.
Wedding planning can be overwhelming—how do you support couples throughout the planning process to make it as stress-free as possible?
At Glendoveers, we know that wedding
planning can feel overwhelming, but we’re here to make the process seamless and stress-free for every couple. From the very first consultation to the final toast, our experienced team is with you every step of the way, helping to bring your vision to life with ease. We guide you through menu selections, décor details, and event logistics, ensuring that no detail is overlooked. Our goal is to make planning exciting and enjoyable, so you can focus on celebrating your love while we handle the rest. Relax, enjoy, and let us take care of the magic!
Culinary Excellence & Catering
Glendoveers is known for its diverse menu featuring locally sourced ingredients, gluten-free options, and vegan selections. What inspires your approach to catering?
At Glendoveers, we believe that great food brings people together, which is why our approach to catering is all about fresh, locally sourced ingredients and thoughtfully crafted dishes. We want every guest to feel welcome at the table, so we offer gluten-free, vegan, and allergy-friendly options—all prepared with the same level of care and creativity. Our team loves working with couples to design a menu that reflects their tastes and makes their big day even more special. From farm-to-table flavors to beautifully plated dishes, our goal is to create a delicious, memorable dining experience for everyone to enjoy!
How do you accommodate couples looking for a personalized menu or specialty cuisine for their wedding?
At Glendoveers, we love working with couples to create a menu that’s just as
unique as their love story! Whether you have a specific theme, cultural cuisine, or favorite dish in mind, our talented culinary team will craft a menu that perfectly fits your vision. We specialize in customizing dishes to accommodate dietary preferences, including glutenfree, vegan, and allergy-friendly options, all made with fresh, locally sourced ingredients. From signature appetizers to decadent desserts, we’re here to make every bite memorable. Your wedding menu should be a reflection of you, and we’re excited to bring your favorite flavors to life!
What are some of the most popular or signature dishes that wedding guests love?
At Glendoveers, our wedding menus are crafted to impress, and we have a few fan-favorite dishes that guests rave about! Our farm-to-table entrées, like tender herb-crusted chicken or perfectly cooked filet mignon, are always a hit. Couples also love our fresh seafood selections, including buttery salmon fillets and shrimp scampi. For appetizers, our stuffed mushrooms and artisanal cheese boards are guest favorites. And of course, no celebration is complete without our decadent desserts, like homemade cheesecakes and chocolate-drizzled pastries. We love creating delicious, memorable meals that bring people together and make every wedding truly special!
Event Services & Accommodations
Your venue can accommodate up to 200 guests. What are some of the key features that make Glendoveers a comfortable and elegant choice for larger wedding celebrations?
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“Glendoveers’ long-standing reputation as a premier banquet facility for over 40 years is built on a foundation of exceptional service, breathtaking scenery, and exquisite catering.”
At Glendoveers, we offer the perfect blend of comfort and elegance for larger wedding celebrations of up to 200 guests. Our spacious indoor banquet room provides a warm and inviting atmosphere, with plenty of room for dining and dancing. For those who love the outdoors, our large deck and scenic gazebo offer a beautiful setting for cocktail hours or ceremonies surrounded by nature. With a full bar, customizable décor, and farm-to-table catering, we ensure every detail is taken care of, so couples and their guests can relax and enjoy a truly magical celebration in a stunning, yet intimate setting.
Aside from weddings, what other special events do you host, and how do they differ from wedding celebrations?
At Glendoveers, we love hosting a variety of special events beyond weddings, each tailored to create an unforgettable experience! From corporate gatherings and holiday parties to bridal showers, anniversary celebrations, and family reunions, our venue is the perfect setting for any occasion. While weddings are all about romance and personal touches, other events often focus on customized themes, networking, or casual gatherings with a unique flair. Whether it’s a formal banquet or a relaxed outdoor celebration, our team provides delicious farm-to-table catering, a full bar, and personalized service to make every event feel special, stress-free, and truly memorable.
What advice would you give to couples searching for the perfect wedding
venue, and why should they consider Glendoveers?
Choosing the perfect wedding venue is all about finding a place that feels like you—a space that reflects your style, accommodates your guests comfortably, and creates the perfect backdrop for your love story. At Glendoveers, we offer a beautiful blend of rustic charm and modern elegance, with a woodland setting, spacious indoor banquet room, and a stunning outdoor deck and gazebo. Our team is here to make the planning process seamless and stress-free, offering customizable menus, personalized service, and a warm, welcoming atmosphere. If you’re looking for a venue that feels intimate, romantic, and effortlessly beautiful, Glendoveers is the perfect choice!
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Glendoveers is located in Penfield on the Irondequoit Creek and provides a gorgeous setting for your wedding. Our banquet facility serves up to 200 guests, and both the interior and exterior can be decorated however you’d like With extravagant gardens, a cozy veranda, and a large wood-burning fireplace, Glendoveers has the modern amenities and historic charm you want on your big day! From the initial consultation through the final served meal, everything we do is done carefully, respectfully, and creatively.
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Creative Caterers has been serving the Rochester area since 1980. What has been the key to your success in the catering industry for over four decades?
Our success over the past four decades comes down to one simple philosophy— exceptional food and outstanding service. Since 1980, we’ve been dedicated to creating fresh, high-quality, and innovative menus tailored to each client’s unique needs. Our commitment to using locally sourced ingredients, offering customizable menus, and providing top-notch customer service has made us a trusted name in the Rochester catering industry. Whether it’s a wedding, corporate event, or intimate gathering, we bring passion and creativity to every dish, ensuring a memorable dining experience that keeps clients coming back year after year!
What makes Creative Caterers different from other wedding catering companies in the area?
At Creative Caterers, we believe every wedding menu should be as unique as the couple it celebrates. What sets us apart is our commitment to fresh, locally sourced ingredients, fully customizable menus, and exceptional service—all prepared in our completely allergen-free kitchen with no gluten or peanuts. We don’t just offer set packages—we work closely with each couple to bring their vision to life, whether that means crafting a gluten-free, vegan, or specialty cuisine menu. Our experienced team ensures every detail is perfect, from the first tasting to the last bite. With a passion for creativity and quality, we make every
wedding meal a truly memorable and worry-free experience!
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How does Creative Caterers help couples bring their wedding menu vision to life?
We love bringing a couple’s wedding menu vision to life by offering completely customized, farm-to-table menus that match their tastes, preferences, and dietary
weddings lately?
We have seen a growing love for interactive dining experiences, with grazing tables and build-your-own stations becoming wedding favorites! Grazing tables offer a stunning display of artisan cheeses, fresh fruits, charcuterie, and gourmet accompaniments, allowing guests to mingle and enjoy a variety of flavors. Build-your-own stations add a fun, customizable touch—whether it’s a taco bar, pasta station, or gourmet slider setup, guests love creating their perfect bite. These options bring a casual yet elegant feel to weddings, ensuring everyone finds something they love while enjoying a more engaging and social dining experience.
needs. Whether they’re dreaming of a gourmet plated dinner, a fun interactive station, or a unique cultural cuisine, our team works closely with them to craft the perfect menu. Plus, with our allergen-free kitchen, couples can rest easy knowing their guests will enjoy delicious food that’s completely glutenand peanut-free. From the first tasting to the final bite, we ensure every dish is beautifully presented, flavorful, and tailored to their special day.
What are the most popular dishes or catering trends you’ve seen for
You offer customized menus, including glutenfree and vegan options— how do you accommodate couples with specific dietary needs?
At Creative Caterers, we believe that every guest should enjoy a delicious meal, no matter their dietary needs. That’s why we offer fully customized menus, including gluten-free, vegan, and allergy-friendly options, all prepared in our allergen-free kitchen with no gluten or peanuts. We work closely with couples to design a menu that not only fits their vision but also ensures every guest has something wonderful to enjoy. Whether it’s crafting a plant-based entrée, a dairy-free dessert, or a completely gluten-free menu, we take extra care to create flavorful, beautifully presented dishes that make everyone feel included and satisfied!
“At Creative Caterers, we believe every wedding menu should be as unique as the couple it celebrates.”
Wedding catering can be one of the biggest expenses for couples. How do you work with different budgets while still delivering an unforgettable experience?
We work closely with each couple to create a customized menu that fits their vision while staying within their price range. Whether it’s a plated dinner, buffet, or interactive stations, we offer flexible options to maximize value without sacrificing quality. Our team focuses on fresh, locally sourced ingredients and creative presentations to make every dish feel special. No matter the budget, we’re dedicated to delivering a delicious, beautifully crafted dining experience that makes your big day unforgettable!
\Can you describe the process of working with a couple from consultation to the wedding day?
We make wedding catering stress-free and personalized at Creative Caterers! It begins with a consultation to discuss the couple’s vision, favorite flavors, and dietary needs. From there, we design a custom menu—whether it’s a plated dinner, buffet, or interactive stations—and offer a tasting to fine-tune the details. As the big day arrives, our team handles setup and seamless service, allowing couples to relax and enjoy a memorable, delicious celebration with their loved ones!
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In addition to catering, you provide one of the most beautiful outdoor wedding venues in Western NY. What makes Glendoveers a unique and sought-after location for weddings? Glendoveers is truly a hidden gem
for weddings in Western NY, offering a picturesque woodland setting that feels both intimate and enchanting. With its rustic charm, elegant indoor banquet space, and stunning outdoor deck, we provide the perfect backdrop for a romantic celebration. Couples love saying “I do” in the scenic gazebo, surrounded by lush trees and natural beauty. Plus, with Creative Caterers’ farm-to-table cuisine and an allergenfree kitchen, every detail is thoughtfully crafted for an unforgettable experience. Whether you’re planning an intimate gathering or a grand affair, Glendoveers offers a one-of-a-kind setting for your perfect day!
Do you offer mobile catering services for couples who want to host their wedding at a different venue? If so, what should they know about this option?
Yes! Creative Caterers offers mobile catering services, bringing our delicious, customized menus to your wedding venue of choice. Whether you’re celebrating in a barn, backyard, vineyard, or event hall, we provide the same high-quality, farm-to-table cuisine and exceptional service that we’re known for. Our team handles setup, service, and cleanup, so you can focus on enjoying your big day. Plus, with our allergen-free kitchen, you can feel confident that your menu will be safe for all guests. No matter where you say “I do,” we’re here to create an unforgettable dining experience that fits your vision perfectly!
Enhancing the Wedding Experience
How do you help couples pair the perfect food and beverage selections
to complement their wedding style and theme?
At Creative Caterers, we love helping couples choose the perfect food and beverage pairings to match their wedding style and theme! Whether you’re planning a plated dinner or buffet-style meal, we tailor the menu to reflect your vision. We also offer signature cocktails, curated wine pairings, and custom drink menus to enhance the dining experience. From classic elegance to laid-back charm, our team ensures every bite and sip complements the atmosphere beautifully.
Your team provides professional staffing for events. How does this contribute to a seamless and elegant wedding experience?
Our professional staffing ensures that every wedding runs smoothly and elegantly from start to finish. Our experienced servers, bartenders, and event staff are dedicated to providing attentive, top-tier service, so couples and their guests can relax and enjoy the celebration. From seamless meal service and perfectly timed courses to expert bar service and quick, discreet cleanup, our team takes care of every detail. We pride ourselves on creating a stress-free, polished experience, ensuring that everything flows effortlessly—so all you have to do is soak in the magic of your big day!
Do you offer tasting sessions for couples before they finalize their menu? What can they expect from that experience? Absolutely! At Creative Caterers, we offer tasting events throughout the year exclusively for our booked wedding couples, giving them the perfect opportunity to sample our delicious
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cuisine before finalizing their menu. This experience allows couples to taste a variety of dishes, explore different flavors, and work with our team to customize their selections. It’s also a great chance to meet other couples, ask questions, and get inspired for their big day! We’re here to ensure every detail—from appetizers to desserts—is exactly what they envision, making their wedding meal as memorable and special as the celebration itself.
Final Thoughts
What advice would you give to couples who are in the process of choosing their wedding caterer? Why should they consider Creative Caterers?
When choosing a wedding caterer, couples should look for a team that not only serves amazing food but also provides personalized service and a stress-free experience. At Creative Caterers, we believe your menu should be just as special as your big day! We offer customizable, farm-to-table menus prepared in our allergen-free
kitchen, ensuring fresh, delicious options for every guest. Plus, our professional staff and yearly tasting event help couples feel confident in their choices. With over 40 years of experience, we’re here to make your wedding meal seamless, memorable, and uniquely yours.
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Toganenwood Estates has a rich and fascinating history dating back to the late 18th century. How does this historic charm enhance the wedding experience for couples?
At Toganenwood Estate Barn, history and romance come together to create a truly one-of-a-kind wedding experience. Dating back to the late 18th century, the estate’s rich heritage adds a sense of timeless charm and rustic elegance to every celebration. Couples love the beautifully preserved barn with its exposed beams and warm, inviting atmosphere, creating the perfect backdrop for heartfelt vows and unforgettable receptions. The surrounding rolling fields and lush landscapes make for breathtaking photos, while the estate’s storied past adds an extra layer of significance to the big day. Here, every wedding feels like a beautiful chapter in history!
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a fairytale come to life. Plus, the venue’s dedicated team ensures that every detail is thoughtfully planned, allowing couples to relax and enjoy their special day in a place that’s as unique and unforgettable as their love story.
Describe the different ceremony and reception spaces available on the estate. How can couples customize the space for their special day?
Couples have the freedom to create a wedding that reflects their unique style
The estate includes a 9,000-square-foot historic barn—what makes this space so magical for wedding receptions?
With its soaring wooden beams, rustic charm, and warm, inviting atmosphere, Toganenwood Barn creates a pictureperfect setting for couples to celebrate their special day. The barn’s open and spacious layout allows for a seamless flow between dining, dancing, and mingling, while its original architecture and antique details add a touch of timeless romance. Whether illuminated by twinkling string lights or candlelit tables, the space transforms into a breathtaking backdrop that feels both cozy and grand, making every moment of the celebration truly unforgettable.
What makes Toganenwood Estates a standout choice for couples looking for a wedding venue in the Finger Lakes region?
Toganenwood Estate Barn is a true hidden gem in the Finger Lakes region, offering couples a perfect blend of rustic charm and timeless elegance. Nestled among rolling fields and picturesque countryside, this beautifully restored barn provides a warm, romantic setting that feels both intimate and breathtaking. With its historic exposed beams, antique barn doors, and stunning natural scenery, every wedding here feels like
with beautiful indoor and outdoor ceremony and reception spaces. Exchange vows in the open countryside, surrounded by rolling fields and breathtaking scenery, or say “I do” inside the charming historic barn with its warm wood beams and rustic elegance. Toganenwood Barn provides a cozy yet spacious setting for receptions, with plenty of room for dining and dancing. Couples can customize the space with twinkling lights, floral arrangements, and personal décor, making every wedding truly one-of-a-kind and filled with unforgettable charm.
Can you tell us more about the bed and breakfast accommodations? How do they add to the wedding weekend experience? The bed and breakfast accommodations at Toganenwood Estate Barn add an extra layer of comfort and charm to the wedding weekend, making it a truly relaxing and memorable experience. Couples and their guests can enjoy a peaceful stay in beautifully appointed rooms, surrounded by the estate’s stunning countryside views. Having on-site accommodations means less stress and more time to celebrate with loved ones, whether it’s a cozy pre-wedding gathering or a laid-back morning after. It’s the perfect way to extend the magic of the wedding day, allowing couples to soak in every moment in a warm, welcoming setting.
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thing that truly sets Toganenwood Estate Barn apart is the unmatched combination of history, natural beauty, and personalized service that creates a one-of-a-kind wedding experience.”
The estate offers a scenic waterfront setting—what role does the natural beauty of the Finger Lakes play in wedding celebrations here?
Whether exchanging vows with the water glistening behind you, capturing dreamy sunset photos, or enjoying a cocktail hour outdoors, the landscape adds a touch of effortless elegance. The beauty of nature blends seamlessly with the charm of the barn, making each wedding feel timeless, intimate, and uniquely special in every season.
Services & Customization
How does your team help couples personalize their wedding experience at Toganenwood Estates?
We believe every wedding should be as unique as the couple celebrating it! Our team works closely with each couple to bring their vision to life, from decor and layout to ceremony and reception details. Whether they dream of a romantic, candlelit barn setting or a natureinspired outdoor celebration, we help customize every element to reflect their style. With our flexible spaces, scenic waterfront views, and rustic charm, couples can create a truly personal and unforgettable experience. We’re here to make the planning process easy and fun, ensuring their special day is exactly how they imagined!
Toganenwood Estate Barn, they get more than just a stunning venue— they get a stress-free, all-inclusive experience! Our package includes access to the 9,000-square-foot historic barn, a picturesque waterfront setting, and beautifully maintained outdoor ceremony spaces. Couples also enjoy the convenience of on-site bed and breakfast accommodations, perfect for a relaxing wedding weekend. From tables and chairs to customizable décor options, we provide everything needed
make planning easy by providing access to top-tier vendors, while still allowing couples to personalize their day. If you have a favorite caterer, florist, or photographer, we welcome outside vendors to bring your vision to life. Whether you prefer a stress-free, all-in-one package or a customized experience with handpicked vendors, such as Creative Caterers, we’re here to make your wedding seamless, special, and uniquely yours!
to create a magical celebration. Our team is here to help with planning and coordination, ensuring that every detail comes together seamlessly for an unforgettable wedding day!
Do you offer all-inclusive packages, or do couples have the flexibility to bring in their own vendors?
What types of amenities and services are included when couples book their wedding at your venue?
When couples book their wedding at
At Toganenwood Estate Barn, we want every couple to have the wedding of their dreams, which is why we offer both all-inclusive options and the flexibility to bring in their own vendors! Our all-inclusive packages
How do you help couples who want to incorporate historic elements into their wedding theme?
We love helping couples embrace the historic charm of our venue to create a truly timeless wedding experience! With its beautiful exposed beams, antique barn doors, and rustic architecture, our space naturally sets the stage for a romantic, vintageinspired celebration. Couples can enhance their theme with classic décor, candlelit tables, or heirloom-inspired details to complement the barn’s rich history. Our team is happy to provide ideas and guidance on how to weave historic elements into their wedding design, ensuring their special day feels both elegant and deeply personal in this one-of-a-kind setting.
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What advice would you give couples who are looking for a venue that blends history, elegance, and rustic charm?
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“Couples love the beautifully preserved barn with its exposed beams and warm, inviting atmosphere, creating the perfect backdrop for heartfelt vows and unforgettable receptions.”
We recommend looking for a space that feels both warm and timeless—a place where history is not just preserved but celebrated. At Toganenwood Estate Barn, our 9,000-square-foot historic barn, waterfront setting, and countryside views create the perfect balance of romance and rustic beauty. We encourage couples to think about how the venue’s natural charm can complement their wedding style, whether it’s with vintage-inspired décor, soft lighting, or nature-infused details. Most importantly, choose
a venue that feels like the perfect backdrop for your love story!
For couples considering Toganenwood Estates for their wedding, what’s the one thing they should know that sets you apart from other venues? One thing that truly sets Toganenwood Estate Barn apart is the unmatched combination of history, natural beauty, and personalized service that creates a one-of-a-kind wedding experience. Unlike many venues, we offer flexibility—allowing couples to
customize every detail to create their perfect vision. Plus, with our on-site bed and breakfast accommodations, couples and their guests can relax and enjoy a full wedding weekend experience. At Toganenwood, your wedding isn’t just an event—it’s a beautiful, unforgettable story in the making!
We pride ourselves on creating events that are as unique as you and your partner From intimate elopements to lavish celebrations at your dream venue, we’ll craft a wedding that reflects your personalities, your love, and your future together no matter how unconventional or outside-thebox it may seem
We believe every wedding whether it’s a cozy elopement, a micro wedding, or a dazzling large-scale celebration deserves to feel meaningful, personal, and unforgettable With two expert event planners by your side, we bring twice the creativity, care, and expertise to ensure your day is a true reflection of your love story
BEATA GOLEC
Background & Career
Can you share a bit about your journey as a musician and how you developed your passion for piano, composition, and music theory?
I received my Master’s and Doctoral Degrees in piano performance and literature from the Eastman School of Music. I studied music performance, music theory and analysis from the youngest age. As a composition and music theory student at Karol Szymanowski University of Music in Katowice and University at Buffalo (PhD program) I studied European and American compositional techniques of the 20th and 21st centuries.
As a participant of summer programs in Poland, Czech Republic, Austria and the United States I was introduced to improvisation, string piano, prepared piano, post-minimalism and modern ballet music. I had the opportunity to play piano in the orchestras at the Chopin University of Music in Warsaw, the Chautauqua Institution and the Eastman School of Music. All these experiences and in-depth exposure to classical piano repertoire provided a complex mesh of diverse influences on who I am today and how I deliver my musical messages. My amazing Mom Alicja Golec, who also is an accomplished and highly regarded music educator, was the initial inspiration and catalyst of my journey. She noticed I had a good ear at an early age. We later discovered that I had perfect pitch which was very
helpful in my music classes and for transcribing music. My appreciation for the amazing field of music came at age 10. At that point I knew I would pursue advanced degrees in music. I had interest in piano, theory, composition, improvisation, and conducting.
You’ve had an incredible career, from winning international piano competitions to performing at Carnegie Hall. What have been some of your most memorable performances?
My recent faculty recital which I presented at SUNY Geneseo was one of the most inspiring, uplifting and fun performances I designed and participated in. It was an exciting and fulfilling collaboration with local photographers and my university students.
We had a plan for a piano concert with the photographers before the pandemic. So, the idea was not brand new. I revisited this concept at the beginning of 2024 and shared it with my longtime friend Gil Maker who was one of the photographers involved in this project.
The installations provided a visual interpretation of my compositions. The audience members listened to the music and watched the projected series of images simultaneously. The listeners received the background on my inspiration and story behind each piece and then heard the description and reasoning for each image interpretation. I discussed my musical landscape, compositional techniques, and emotional content of each piece (before performing). I provided the explanation of each photographer’s image interpretations (after performing). The photographers were not provided with the composer’s program notes and their interpretations were based solely on the soundscape of each musical piece. As a prelude to the concert, we had a recording of my Balbutiendo Piano looping through the sound system as the audience members were arriving. Balbutiendo Piano (which means Stuttering Piano) was a collaborative project I completed with Ed Hallborg a few years back. It is a semi-minimal looping improvisation triptych recorded in Doty Hall. The Steinway piano was processed and manipulated through electronic filtering equipment in “real-time” and fed back to me via headphones. I then responded to it while the equipment was playing the next sequence. I created all musical material on- the-spot since it was an improvisation.
Two of my students assisted with the prepared piano improvisation and
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the three of us created an uncommon and outside-of-the-box sonority of the piano with the use of paper, rubber, pencils, silicone and other sound-altering objects which were inserted inside of the instrument. The recording of this and other recital pieces can be found on my Facebook. Search for “Beata Golec” to listen to the samples of my music.
As the founder of Golec Music Studio, you offer a wide range of music services. What inspired you to create your own studio, and what sets it apart from others?
I truly enjoy being a business owner, creating my own schedule and my professional path. This kind of independence is very freeing and inspiring, yet it comes with a great deal of responsibility, planning, networking, strategizing and thinking ahead.
My studio is unique as it addresses diverse needs of our community – from piano, voice, theory, analysis and composition lessons, masterclasses, hands-on skills for new music educators, through preparation for Advanced Placement and International Baccalaureate exams, graduate school auditions, competitions, productions, job interviews, to weddings, religious celebrations, corporate events, fundraising concerts, as well as holiday and private parties. My skills and workrelated experience provide a versatile and well-rounded experience for all my students and clients. I accept students who are 3+ years old, while most instructors do not. I have the in-depth understanding
of the challenges of the adult students’ learning process. I am comfortable with diverse repertoire – from classical, sacred, to modern, experimental, jazz, popular and music theater selections. Golec Music Studio provides flexible scheduling options to students who are engaged in highly demanding professional careers and cannot commit to the same weekly lesson times. I welcome networking and collaboration opportunities and am always eager to support new initiatives to support the well-being of our fellow
Please do not hesitate to contact me at beatagolec@beatagolec.com with any initiatives and inquiries.
Music & Weddings
How did you become involved in performing for weddings, and what do you love most about being part of a couple’s special day?
community members, and to promote awareness in the areas of mental health, poverty, hunger, human rights and more. Golec Music Studio is open year-round, and all my services are offered during the school breaks. This, I believe sets me apart from other schools. Winter break and the summer season are great opportunities to advance one’s skills and to stay in shape. The continuity of music education is a critical factor in retaining one’s abilities, in targeting specific knowledge and skills, and in getting a head start before the new school year begins.
I started performing weddings about twenty years ago when I was a student. Over the years, I played ceremonies and cocktail hours at several local churches, hotels, wedding venues and county clubs. I love working with the wedding planners, coordinators and officiants. I truly enjoy learning about the couple and their feelings for one another. I love the intimacy of the wedding ceremony and seeing the happy tears (brides, grooms, parents and other guests). Most of the time I am seated by the altar where I can see the buildup of the emotions as the ceremony progresses. It is incredible and very moving!
What role do you believe live music plays in creating a magical and unforgettable wedding atmosphere? I truly believe that music sets the tone of the event. Thoughtfully and skillfully selected compositions support the emotional expression of the wedding. Live music provides a multisensory experience to the participants including the visual, aural and interactional aspects of the performance which cannot be replaced by prerecorded music.
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truly believe that music sets the tone of the event. Thoughtfully and skillfully selected compositions support the emotional expression of the wedding.”
What are some of the most requested songs or compositions that couples ask you to play during their ceremonies or receptions?
Prelude in C Major by Johann Sebastian Bach, Ave Maria by Franz Schubert and Ode to Joy by Ludwig van Beethoven have been very popular choices in the past seasons. I really enjoy moving away from heavy, march-like music towards lighter and more dream-like choices. This has been the trend of the past few seasons, and I fully embrace it. I love gentle and ethereal music.
Do you offer customized music arrangements for couples who want a unique, personal touch for their wedding day?
Absolutely! I am happy to perform any traditional, modern or unique selections that are suitable for a wedding celebration. I am available to compose music for the engaged couples. My recommendation is to schedule a wedding consultation at least three months before the wedding day to secure my services and to plan a detailed music program for the special day.
Trends & Advice
not let others overshadow you or your wishes. Trying to please other family members just because it is “their favorite song” might not work for you. Some brides shared with me that they felt as if they were walking in someone else’s wedding due to the fact a third party made decisions about their attire, hair, make-up, music selections or the venue. Your wedding day is an expression of who you are, how you love, and of how you provide generous hospitality to your guests. You are the host, and all
Bach. If you would like to hear Chopin, ask me about appropriate pieces by him. If you want something unique, please discuss it with me. I am open to an honest conversation about your needs, wants and dislikes. I want to get to know you and your love story. This way I will be able to assist you best to my ability.
Personal & Future Endeavors
You’ve accomplished so much as a musician, educator, and composer. What’s next for you? Are there any upcoming projects or performances you’re especially excited about? Absolutely! I have quite a few events coming up and many more being scheduled now:
the wedding details should genuinely represent you.
What advice would you give to couples trying to choose the perfect wedding music? Are there any key factors they should consider?
Please take your time to research and to select the music selections that represent YOU and not anyone else. It is your celebration and your choices. Please do
There are lot of opinions out there – from the engagement rings, wedding dresses, how many people to invite, to food, alcohol and more. You will certainly hear an overwhelming amount of advice and different points of view coming from all possible directions and even from individuals who are not very close to you. Hearing all this feedback might be exhausting and even intimidating. Stay true to yourself and take your time. If you love Bach, request compositions by
April 6:
Young Musicians’ Concert 1pm, Our Mother of Sorrows Church, Rochester, New York
April 7: Recital
Saint John Home, Rochester, New York
April 8: Recital Saint John Home, Rochester, New York
April 10: Corporate Happy Hour and Launch Party
5pm, Strathallan Hotel, Rochester, New York
May 6: Recital 3:45pm, Maplewood, Webster, New York
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“I started performing weddings about twenty years ago when I was a student. Over the years, I played ceremonies and cocktail hours at several local churches, hotels, wedding venues and county clubs.”
April 8: Recital
Saint John Home, Rochester, New York
April 10:
Corporate Happy Hour and Launch Party
5pm, Strathallan Hotel, Rochester, New York
May 6: Recital 3:45pm, Maplewood, Webster, New York
June 8:
Innovate HER Expo for Women in Business
11am, Penthouse at ONE East Avenue, Rochester, New York
July 17: Recital 3:45pm, Maplewood, Webster, New York
August 30:
Masquerade Ball for Suicide and Mental Health Awareness
5pm, Whitehall Mansion, Brockport, New York
October 4:
Runway in the Orchard: Fashion for a Cause
5pm, Balcony at Springdale Farms
November (date TBD): Young Musicians’ Concert
December 11:
Recital
7pm, The Highlands at Pittsford, Pittsford, New York
I am excited about all these events as they support our community in one way or another. My personal goal is to provide the highest quality of music services, to bring our community members together, to create a stress-free performing environment to the young artists (Young Musicians’ Concerts), and to support significant initiatives that bring awareness and educational opportunities to all.
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Getting to Know Stunning & Brilliant Events
What inspired you to become a wedding planner, and what do you love most about working with couples on their big day?
Growing up I have always had a passion for planning and bringing people together. In my opinion, anything large or small should be celebrated! Ask my daughters, Khloe and Farabe, I have made it a point to make each of their birthdays fun and unique, some would say a bit over the top! Lol I can’t help it, I’m a mom and a planner!
Having a diverse background in planning, weddings actually came later on. I was focused on community events, corporate gatherings, baby/ bridal showers, and such early on. However, when weddings became more of a focus. I absolutely love love so it was a no brainer! I didn’t have a planner for my wedding an regretted it for years following! I would say my favorite part of working with couples on their special day is close tie between their story and the looks on their faces when it all comes together.
making every event smooth, fun, and super memorable. To do this, we ask a lot of questions, request a ton of inspo photos, and have a number of Zoom meetings to ensure we are on the same page with design and details.
What sets Stunning & Brilliant Events apart from other wedding planning services in the Finger Lakes region? What sets S & B apart from others in the area is experience, training, and 14 other women owned locations to lean
The most important step of wedding planning or planning in general, should be setting your financial comfort zone and hiring a planner of course!
How do you help couples stay organized and stress-free throughout the wedding planning process?
We guide all of our couples with a high level of communication and streamline it to email. We use a planning platform to interact with our clients near and far which puts everything in one place for at a glance convenience. This was an amazing tool when we helped a previous bride plan her big day at Cornell all the way from London! In addition to our planning check ins, and the use of this platform, we are available for communication when the couples need us most. We have grown our network by building meaningful relationships, if we don’t have the answer to a questions we have others to lean on not only within S & B but with our local vendors we work with often and love!
How would you describe the signature style and approach of Stunning & Brilliant Events when it comes to wedding planning?
Our signature style is definitely the experience itself. We focus on communication and making sure we bring to life the exact vision our couples are dreaming of. We pride ourselves on
on. We span from coast to coast and have a plethora of resources and contacts to help support our clients near and far. Whether they want to get married or party in the states, or at their favorite destination, we’ve got them covered. Our meticulous attention to detail and passion for style is a focus for every event we get to be a part of!
Wedding Planning & Coordination
What is the most important first step couples should take when beginning their wedding planning journey?
Can you walk us through the different planning packages you offer?
We offer Full Planning, Partial Planning, Month of, Design, and Bridal Dress services. Do you provide full-service planning, partial planning, or day-of coordination? Yes, our rehearsal and day of coordination is included in all of our Full, Partial, and Month of planning services.
What are some of the biggest challenges couples face during wedding planning, and how do you help navigate them? Some of the biggest challenges couples
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“My advice is as soon as you’re engaged decide on your investment, hire a planner, and decide on your must have vendors! You won’t regret it!”
face during wedding planning are deciding what the must haves are versus the wants. So many couples build their dream day with photos of inspiration from various websites and without knowing the investment required for those specific things can be discouraging when the planning process begins. With a planner, we can guide and direct accordingly. We recommend vendors within their price point to keep them grounded. We also have a tool that gives suggestions as to if they spend x amount on one vendor, what it suggests for others. Being able to play with the numbers on the front end helps avoid going over what our couples have to invest. Sometimes hard conversations have to be had and they appreciate that in the end. At the end of the day we want their day to be just that, their day, so we share our expertise and resources to get them to or as close to that as possible.
Personalization & Design
How do you ensure that a wedding truly reflects the couple’s unique personalities and love story?
This is my favorite part of all weddings and events! From our very first consult call to the last interaction, we are noting the details. We ask a ton of questions and get to know our clients throughout the planning process. Along the way we take little nuggets that we can incorporate into the day to make it that much more special. We truly love connecting with our couples and want to help them as much as they will allow us to! Whether that means personal surprise touches, scooping rogue ring bearers from ceremony and making flower girls our assistants during line up, to sending candids of special moments to them the
night of the wedding while they’re at the afterparty. We want to share with them how their love story looked from our perspective…pure magic. And yes, my team cries…a lot! We come equipped with our own custom tissues! Lol
What are some of the most creative or unique wedding themes you’ve helped bring to life?
We love the different cultural events we get to be a part of! The colors are so vibrant and the traditions are so beautiful! We have had so many memorable events it’s really hard to choose but I will say that being selected for Wish Upon a Wedding was an amazing experience and our couple, Rochester locals, were so sweet! There wasn’t a dry eye!
Another that comes to mind was a 70th birthday celebration for an amazing woman who has given so much to so many and was awarded a day named after her at the event! Again, tears were shed! It’s moments like that we are so grateful we get to meet and be a part of the lives of so many, even if only for a brief period of time.
Are there any exciting wedding trends you’re seeing for 2024-2025 that couples should consider incorporating into their big day?
We have noticed some trends that are becoming more popular are hometown “destination” wedding weekendsespecially in the Finger Lakes, that include group activities, Late Night Bites and take out boxes are still going strong, drapery is on quite a few of our lists this season, so romantic - love this, wedding painters/guest experiences, Traditional Cakes are making a comeback in a BIG way, film photography requests have
also increased. It honestly feels like so much is evolving in the wedding scene, this season we have quite a few without a wedding party and we haven’t seen a bouquet toss or a garter toss in a hot minute - thank goodness! However, we strongly believe that any couples’ big day should reflect them and look exactly as they want it to.
Advice & Final Touches
What advice do you have for brides who are feeling overwhelmed with all the details and decisions?
My advice to all couples is to take a deep breath, communicate with your significant other and your families to determine your investment then start interviewing planners. Our sole purpose is to help you avoid feeling overwhelmed. We come equipped with experience, contacts, checklists, creative partners, ways to save you money, and so much more!
We want you to look back and say I’m so happy we did that, they allowed us to be present, have fun, and make some amazing memories!
What is one thing couples often overlook when planning their wedding that can make a big difference in the overall experience?
Often overlooked is timeframe. Amazing vendors book out, some years, so waiting until the last minute may result in losing someone you’ve had your eye on to do your wedding. My advice is as soon as you’re engaged decide on your investment, hire a planner, and decide on your must have vendors! You won’t regret it!
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WE ASK a ton of questions and get to know our clients throughout the PLANNING PROCESS . ”
About Us
Stunning & Brilliant Events brings luxury wedding and event planning to the breathtaking Finger Lakes region Led by Bianca, our team specializes in creating seamless, stylish, and personalized celebrations that capture the beauty and charm of upstate New York Whether you ' re envisioning a lakeside wedding, an elegant vineyard reception, or a cozy estate gathering, we handle every detail with expertise and creativity With over a decade of experience and a passion for making dream events a reality, we ensure a stress-free planning process so you can relax and soak in every unforgettable moment.
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When it comes to orchestrating an unforgettable wedding celebration in Rochester, New York, The Party Connection stands out as a premier choice for couples seeking exceptional DJ services and comprehensive event planning. Established in 1977, this family-owned and operated business has built a sterling reputation for delivering personalized, high-quality entertainment tailored to each couple’s unique vision.
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Comprehensive Wedding Services
The Party Connection offers a suite of services designed to make wedding planning seamless and stress-free. Their offerings include:
Professional DJ and MC Services: Experienced DJs curate the perfect soundtrack for ceremonies, cocktail hours, and receptions, ensuring a lively and engaging atmosphere.
photographers and videographers capture every precious moment, preserving memories that last a lifetime.
Chocolate Fountains and More: Additional services like chocolate fountains add a unique flair to the celebration.
By offering these diverse services under one roof, The Party
collaborate closely with couples to tailor every aspect of the entertainment and event planning to reflect individual preferences and styles. This commitment to customization ensures that each wedding is a unique and memorable experience.
Client Acclaim
The excellence of The Party Connection is echoed in numerous glowing reviews from satisfied clients:
Photo Booth Rentals: State-of-the-art photo booths equipped with fun props provide guests with memorable keepsakes.
Event Lighting: Customized lighting solutions enhance the ambiance, adding a touch of elegance to any venue.
Photography and Videography: Skilled
Connection simplifies the planning process, allowing couples to focus on enjoying their special day.
Personalized Approach
Understanding that no two weddings are alike, The Party Connection prides itself on a personalized approach. They
“David was the DJ and Tricia did the photo booth, with Joe doing the photography. They all kept everyone laughing and moving all night long!!” The Knot
“David does an outstanding job... I highly recommend his services.”
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“Dave did a fabulous job and I would highly recommend him; he was worth a million dollars to us!!!”
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These testimonials highlight the team’s professionalism, attentiveness, and ability to create an enjoyable atmosphere for all guests.
Recognition and Rating
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“I started performing weddings about twenty years ago when I was a student. Over the years, I played ceremonies and cocktail hours at several local churches, hotels, wedding venues and county clubs.”
The Party Connection’s dedication to excellence is reflected in their impressive ratings across various platforms:
WeddingWire: 4.9 out of 5 based on 65 reviews.
The Knot: 4.9 out of 5 with multiple “Best of Weddings” awards.
Birdeye: 4.6 out of 5 based on 104 reviews. Birdeye Experience Marketing platform
These accolades underscore their consistent ability to exceed client expectations. The Party Connection
Contact Information
Couples interested in elevating their wedding experience with The Party Connection can reach out via: Website: thepartyconnectionny.com
Email: thepartyconnectionny@gmail. com
Phone: 585-865-1420
Serving Rochester, Buffalo, Syracuse, and surrounding areas, The Party Connection is dedicated to making wedding celebrations truly unforgettable.
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Expert Wedding Planning & Coordination
What inspired you both to start Full Circle Events, and what do you love most about working with couples on their big day?
We have always had a love for events and hosting. We are always the ones to plan everything anyways, so we thought why not turn this into a career! Spending time getting to know a couple makes helping them with their big day even more rewarding.
For brides who are overwhelmed with planning, what are the biggest advantages of hiring a wedding planner? Hiring a wedding planner takes a lot off of a brides plate. A bride is able to enjoy the process of planning a wedding without having to handle logistics. We get to make pinterest dreams come true.
Partial Planning
The Partial Planning Package is perfect for those who want to have a large part in the planning process, but needs some guidance. We will make sure you are on the right track every step of the way.
Day of services
1-2 coordinators on site the day of the event to coordinate all vendors, direct guests, and keep your schedule running
showcases our couples personalities.
What are some of the most popular wedding décor trends right now, and how can brides incorporate them into their wedding?
Popular wedding decor trends right now are moody colors, mismatched glassware, lounge areas, and photo ops. Mismatched glassware is able to be used for tablescapes but also for a bar or even a favor. Lounge areas and photo ops are a good way to break up the party and offer different break out areas for guests.
You offer multiple planning packages. Can you explain the differences and how brides can choose the best option for their needs?
Complete Planning
This package allows you to hand over the reigns and relax. We will handle all aspects of planning your event. We will meet multiple times leading up to your event day to be sure everything is exactly to your liking and your day is perfect.
smoothly. Coordinators are available to help with decor setup, tear down, and more.
Customization & Décor
How do you help couples bring their unique vision to life through custom, handmade décor?
We start with an initial consultation where we get to talk and assess the needs of the couple, while also getting a better feel of their style. We love being able to add custom decor that really
You offer rentals such as linens, arbors, and furniture—how can these elevate a wedding’s atmosphere without breaking the budget?
Linens are a good way to add to the atmosphere without adding too much clutter, and an easy way to pull a color scheme together such as a table runner matching a bridesmaid dress. An arbor allows for an elevated ceremony with the ease of being mobile. This also adds a great focal point behind the couple.
Logistics & Execution
For brides who have planned their wedding but need help executing it, how does your day-of coordination service ensure everything runs smoothly?
For brides who have a handle on the
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planning aspect but need help with the execution we offer day of coordination. This allows brides the day to relax and enjoy the day without themselves or a family member handling logistics. We handle the set up, coordination of vendors, timeline etc.
What’s the most common challenge couples face when planning a wedding, and how do you help them overcome it?
The most common challenge we see couples run into are the logistics of a day of timeline. They have a vision for the day, but need help putting it all together.
What’s one piece of advice you give to every couple when it comes to stress-free wedding planning?
Hire a wedding coordinator! To be able to just hand over the reins for your day may seem stressful at first, however working with an experienced coordinator allows you to plan the fun details without the stress.
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what each couple is in need of for that day. Offering multiple packages and options allows us to meet every clients needs. We also go very in depth with each client to really get
made it so special?
We planned a wedding that took place in October of 2024 in the Adirondacks. The couple reached out after being ghosted by a planner/coordinator in August, just two months before their wedding. We planned, sourced decor, found vendors, and handled all logistics. Within two months, we were traveling five hours away. We spent three days with their family while we delivered all the decor, set up, coordinated vendors and guests, and then tore down the event. It was a very intense three days but was so worth it.
What sets Full Circle Events apart from other wedding planning services in the Rochester area?
Full circle events isnt a one size fits all event service. We really cater to
down to what services you may or may not need.
What’s one of the most memorable weddings you’ve planned, and what
For couples on a tight budget, what are some creative ways they can still have a stunning and unforgettable wedding?
Don’t be afraid to shop around for decor and DIY. You would be amazed at the things you can find on a budget for similar quality. Getting quotes from multiple of the same type of vendor can also help you find the most economical choice.
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Can you tell us about the history of Chef’s Event Center & Party House and what inspired its creation? It was our ultimate goal to have our catering, food trucks and a beautiful venue all in one. We started with catering small events and then added food trucks and final moved to our forever home in Spencerport at Chef’s Event Center
What makes Chef’s Party House a unique wedding venue compared to others in the region?
We give each wedding party exclusive use of our building, grounds, bar, etc. We have 2 dedicated coordinators from the beginning planning stages up until the finishing of the wedding day. We also have 10 acres of beautiful grounds with 2 ponds, a large fountain, gazebo, and more. we have the capability of having your ceremony right on site so your guests don’t have to drive to a different location. We are located close to many attractions but also secluded enough for a quiet non disruptive evening.
a few months ago. It was amazing and the colors just popped! we also hosted a wedding with neutral colors, which also meshed very well with the venue look.
How do you work with couples to customize their wedding experience and bring their vision to life?
We have lots of experience in the industry so guiding our couples and clients is what makes us very helpful
many exceptional areas for brides to take incredible photos, and have unique place to capture their dream wedding.
Your team includes expert event planners and culinary professionals. How does this all-inclusive approach benefit couples planning their big day?
It helps the clients alot when it comes to this. Most people don’t love the idea of DIY, which is totally fine! People like coming to Chef’s so that every detail is taken care of for them.
to them. From timelines, to decor, to dessert options and menu items, we love to plan with our couples and clients to ensure an amazing experience for their special day.
Your venue is described as a “blank canvas” for weddings. Can you share some of the most creative or memorable weddings hosted at your location? Our blank canvas refers to being all white and ready for any color that any client has. We hosted a beautiful orange themed baby shower
What are some of the key features that set your venue apart, such as the landscaped gardens, gazebo, or pond?
With over 10 acres of property to take photos around, 2 ponds, large fountain and gazebo, there are so
Many couples are mindful of budgeting. How do you help them stay within their financial plan while still achieving their dream wedding?
We have done this for many years so I think it gives us an advantage when it comes to moulding a menu and budget fit for them. We like to start out by talking budget and then going from there with what they are interested in and what their vision is. Usually, we recommend spending most of your budget on your dinner portion and cutting back on appetizers.
Do you offer in-house catering, and what are some of the most popular menu selections for weddings? Yes, our venue does not allow outside food or catering to be brought in. We offer almost everything you would ask for as far as cuisine, from a plated salmon meal all the way down to pizza and trash plates.
“We give each wedding party exclusive use of our building, grounds, bar, etc.”
What advice would you give to couples who are just starting their wedding planning journey?
I would say just start budgeting what works for you. Get started with reaching out to venues/vendors in the industry to gather information and then work from there. You never know what the amount will be until you ask and get the numbers. Don’t rely on others to tell you how much or how little things cost for weddings because every single one is different and can be worked with!
How do you handle unexpected challenges on the wedding day to
ensure a seamless experience for the couple and their guests?
We do not let the guest or client know about a challenge on the day of the event unless it is absolutely necessary. We are professionals and that is why they hired us for their wedding and/or event. We are there to fix any problems that arise and to take the stress away from the client.
Are there specific wedding trends you’ve seen growing in popularity, and how does your venue accommodate them? We can really accomodate any trend at our venue. Our team is very versatile, but
really there are no trends more popular than others right now, everything is pretty much even at this point.
What is your favorite part of hosting weddings at Chef’s Party House, and what keeps you passionate about creating these special events?
Working with different clients and different styles is always fun! Seeing their visions come to life and everyones different way of expressing themselvse and decorating is something we love. seeing the looks on their faces when their vision comes to life is also one of the best parts.?
What We Offer
Packages
Full Service Wedding Planning
Partial Wedding Planning
Destination Wedding Planning
Month of Coordination
Day of Coordination
A La Carte
Rentals
Hourly Planning Strategy Sessions
Stationary & Signage Design
Welcome Bag Creation & Drop Off
Bachelorette Party Planning
Honeymoon Planning
Pre/Post Wedding Event Planning
Wedding Weekend Planning
Who We Are
We’re Paige and Dakota Wong, a husband and wife team of wedding planners & coordinators serving all of Upstate NY. Inspired by the process of planning our own wedding, we decided to take what was a passion project and use our talents to help other couples planning their big day Ever since, we’ve been hard at work bringing our couples visions to life!
Our name is inspired by our two yellow labs, Odin & Gus, AKA our office assistants & quality control officers We’ll be forever be covered in yellow fur, but we wouldn’t have it any other way!
What sets us apart? We include full access to our rental inventory in every package, at NO ADDED COST to our couples! We’re experienced and dedicated to our craft, we treat every event like it’s our own!
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ONE TOUGH MOTHER GOES TO WASHINGTON
I traveled to Washington, DC, to lobby Congress earlier this month. I try to attend PPMD’s annual advocacy conference every year. The past few years have been difficult for me to attend. I have always engaged virtually, but this year, attending felt imperative. The proposed cuts to Medicaid and NIH research programs confuse Jonathan and me. He followed what was happening and said, “Mom, I don’t understand. Why don’t they recognize how this impacts the rare disease community? Are they trying to kill us?” These cuts could mean a significant setback in our fight against rare diseases, potentially delaying or even halting promising research and treatment development.
This year, 158 of us from 32 states united and attended meetings in over 175 different offices, demonstrating the strength of our collective voice! Our efforts have not gone unnoticed, and we have made significant strides in raising awareness about the impact of these proposed cuts.
The legislative process has been completed. I’m not a policy expert, but the Everylife Foundation provided the following synopsis of what is happening in Congress.
“Congress is juggling three separate but interconnected legislative processes related to funding government operations, each with direct implications for the rare disease community: the Continuing Resolution, the Fiscal Year (FY) 2026 Appropriations Cycle, and Budget Reconciliation. The following brief overview is intended to help break down what is happening, what is at stake, and what can be done to support the resources and services that drive our rare disease research, therapy development, and access to care.
Continuing Resolution (CR) – Funding the government through the end of this fiscal year
BY CHRISTINE PIACENTINO
The government’s fiscal year runs from October 1 through September 30. Congress could not agree on full-year appropriations bills before September 30, 2024, so they have passed two short-term continuing resolutions. The second continuing resolution expired on March 14th.
On March 11, while I was in DC, the House of Representatives passed a continuing resolution to fund the federal government through September 30. While funding mainly remained in line with FY2024 spending (a “clean” CR), the bill included significant changes to programs that matter to the rare disease community, including:
• A 57 percent cut to the Department of Defense’s Congressionally Directed Medical Research Program (CDMRP), including research on rare cancers, Duchenne muscular dystrophy, ALS, Friedreich’s Ataxia, and Angelman Syndrome.
• Decreased funding for several other health agencies, including NIH, HRSA, and the Agency for Community Living.
A continuing resolution also means any funding increases or provisions included in the individual appropriations bills and ‘report language’ will not be enacted. The House-passed Continuing Resolution did not include reauthorizing the Rare Pediatric Disease Voucher Program (PRV).”
What is the Rare Pediatric Disease Voucher Program?
The PRV Program incentivizes pharmaceutical companies to develop treatments for rare pediatric diseases without costing taxpayers. Before a treatment can be approved, a company may obtain the Rare Pediatric Designation from the FDA. To be eligible, the drug must qualify for priority review and be the first approval of the drug’s active ingredient.
Once the FDA approves an eligible treatment, the company receives a Priority Review Voucher (PRV) that can be used to obtain priority review for another treatment that wouldn’t usually qualify. Priority review means that the FDA typically reviews a treatment within six months instead of the standard ten-month period.
Additionally, the PRV can be sold to another company, generating revenue for the seller. This revenue is part of the incentive for companies to invest in developing treatments for rare pediatric conditions. Companies purchase PRVs to expedite bringing their treatments to market faster than the usual tenmonth review period. However, it should be noted that the recent legislation included an extension of Medicare telehealth flexibilities, ensuring the continued availability of most telehealth services through September 30.
On March 14, the Senate passed the House’s Continuing Resolution (CR), which includes a 57% cut to the Department of Defense’s Congressionally Directed Medical Research Program (CDMRP). While the CR may keep the government running in the short term, it poses concerning implications for rare disease research. One program that significantly impacts the Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy community is the Peer Reviewed Medical Research Program (PRMRP). This program has been a vital funding source for Duchenne and Becker Muscular Dystrophy research, supporting groundbreaking studies and accelerating therapeutic research. The medical research funding listed below is included in the proposed 57% cut for research managed by the CDMRP:
1. Alcohol and Substance Use Disorders Research Program - $4.0 million
2. Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis Research Program - $40.0 million
3. Autism Research Program - $15.0 million
4. Bone Marrow Failure Disease Research
“Mom, I don’t understand. Why don’t they recognize how this impacts the rare disease community? Are they trying to kill us?”
Program - $7.5 million
5. Breast Cancer Research Program - $150.0 million
6. Chronic Pain Management Research Program - $15.0 million
7. Combat Readiness Medical Research Program - $5.0 million
8. Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy Research Program - $10.0 million
9. Epilepsy Research Program - $12.0 million
10. Hearing Restoration Research Program - $5.0 million
11. Joint Warfighter Medical Research Program - $25.0 million
12. Kidney Cancer Research Program$50.0 million
13. Lung Cancer Research Program - $25.0 million
14. Lupus Research Program - $10.0 million
15. Melanoma Research Program - $40.0 million
16. Military Burn Research Program$10.0 million
17. Multiple Sclerosis Research Program - $20.0 million
18. Neurofibromatosis Research Program - $25.0 million
19. Orthotics and Prosthetics Outcomes Research Program - $15.0 million
20. Ovarian Cancer Research Program$45.0 million
21. Pancreatic Cancer Research Program - $15.0 million
22. Parkinson’s Research Program - $16.0 million
23. Alzheimer’s Research Program - $15.0 million
24. Peer Reviewed Cancer Research Program (20 topics) - $130.0 million
25. Peer Reviewed Medical Research Program (50 topics) - $370.0 million
26. Peer Reviewed Orthopaedic Research Program - $30.0 million
27. Prostate Cancer Research Program$110 million
28. Rare Cancers Research Program - $17.5 million
29. Reconstructive Transplant Research Program - $12.0 million
30. Spinal Cord Injury Research Program - $40.0 million
31. Tick-Borne Disease Research Program - $7.0 million
32. Toxic Exposures Research Program$30.0 million
33. Traumatic Brain Injury and Psychological Health Research Program - $175.0 million
34. Tuberous Sclerosis Complex Research Program - $8.0 million
35. Vision Research Program - $20.0 million
I don’t know about you, but I can’t fathom the impact of these programs being cut by 57%. It’s a staggering blow to our community and our progress. We need to act now.
This is a disheartening turn of events, but it is essential that we, as the rare disease community, continue to make ourselves heard. Your voice is crucial in this fight.
What’s Next – Planning for FY26
The Duchenne and rare disease communities have begun planning for the Fiscal Year 2026 (FY26). Now that the funding levels are established through the continuing resolution, Congress will quickly turn to the appropriations cycle for FY26. This year, the process is expected to move swiftly. Members of Congress will seek input from advocates regarding community priorities.
The Appropriations Committees will work on developing twelve pieces of legislation that will set funding levels and outline priorities for federal agencies for the upcoming year. This process begins on October 1, 2025 The Wildcard – Budget Reconciliation.
In addition to the traditional appropriations process, Congress is expected to participate in budget reconciliation this year. This process involves creating a budget resolution that specifies federal spending amounts and offers a faster way to pass related legislation. Any policy that affects federal spending must be included in the budget reconciliation process. As a result, the legislation can be approved in the Senate with a simple
majority of 51 votes rather than the usual requirement of 60 votes.
On February 25, the House passed its budget resolution, which included reconciliation instructions requiring $1.5 billion in spending cuts and an $880 billion reduction from the committee that oversees Medicare, Medicaid, and other health programs. The Senate must adopt the same framework or pass its version and negotiate a compromise with the House. If they choose the latter approach, Congress will decide which spending cuts and other eligible policies will be included.
Action Opportunity
The House budget resolution has raised significant concerns about the future of Medicaid funding. It is important to remember that Congress has much work ahead of time before any decisions are finalized. However, if the proposed cuts in the House version are implemented, achieving the necessary spending reductions could be difficult without substantial changes to Medicaid funding. Medicaid is a critical safeguard for our rare disease community through its traditional eligibility routes and waiver programs that support coverage for children with complex health needs.
Now more than ever, we must stay vigilant and engaged.
If you would like to receive action alerts to join this fight, you may sign up to receive them here: https://everylifefoundation.org/rareadvocates/take-action/ https://www.parentprojectmd.org/advocacy/ take-action/
Congressional Directed Medical Research Programs: https://cdmrp.health.mil/
YOU ARE ENOUGH.
RISING TARIFFS DRIVE CAR PRICES HIGHER:
BY NICOLE HEROUX WILLIAMS I PHOTOS BY NSP STUDIO
BY IAN LOVE
Why Now Might Be a Good Time to Buy
As the global economy faces rising trade tensions, new tariffs on imported vehicles and automotive parts have begun to impact car prices, driving them upward. Consumers are feeling the pinch as prices for both new and used vehicles surge. However, experts suggest that now might be a strategic time to make a car purchase, before prices climb in the coming months.
The Impact of Tariffs on Car Prices
In recent months, several countries have imposed tariffs on imported vehicles, citing national security concerns and trade imbalances. These tariffs, primarily targeting cars coming from overseas manufacturers, have added significant costs to the price of new vehicles. Manufacturers are forced to pass these increased expenses onto consumers, making cars more expensive across the board. Mazda has yet to raise any pricing but is going to by at least 3% across the entire line up if tariffs are imposed.
1. Dealer Incentives and Discounts:
While tariffs have made cars more expensive, We are offering promotions and incentives to remain competitive in a slowing market. We have discounts on last year’s models and trade-in bonuses.
2. Availability of Inventory: With global supply chain disruptions affecting vehicle production, car inventory is still limited. However,
vehicles, there are still significant tax incentives available in many regions, which can help reduce the overall cost of an EV purchase. These rebates and incentives are expected to continue for the foreseeable future, making now an opportune time to invest in a greener, more cost-effective vehicle.
The Future of Car Prices
we have roughly 300 new Mazda’s on the ground and 1500 used group wide.
Why Now Could Be the Right Time to Buy
Despite the increasing costs, there are several reasons why now may still be a good time to buy a car.
3. Interest Rates Remain Relatively Low: While car prices may rise, interest rates for car loans remain relatively low, which could make financing a new vehicle more affordable. Auto loans with lower interest rates can help balance out the higher upfront costs associated with purchasing a car.
4. Tax Credits for Electric Vehicles (EVs): For those interested in electric
Industry experts predict that car prices will continue to rise as long as tariffs remain in place and global supply chain disruptions persist. As automakers adjust to the new economic landscape, consumers can expect even higher prices for both new and used cars in the near future. The best time to buy is likely sooner rather than later, with tariffs showing no signs of being lifted, waiting could mean paying significantly more down the road.
Conclusion
While the impact of tariffs on car prices is undeniable, savvy consumers can still find ways to navigate the current market. By taking advantage of dealer incentives, lower interest rates, and available tax credits, buyers may be able to secure a better deal now before prices climb. As tariffs remain a factor in the global economy, the window for affordable vehicle purchases may be closing sooner than expected.
SPACES WITH FEELING
Moody isn’t so bad when it’s a decor style.
Our emotional and mental state is directly connected to our environment. Styles of decorating, really, are just definitions of feelings you want to evoke. Focus on the feeling you get at a concert or sporting event... your body and mind soak up the energy from the lights, crowd, and music fueling excitement. In fact, everything in the arena is planned out to make you feel a certain way.
Just by placing you in a certain environment, your feelings can change. It’s intentional. Every single place you walk into knows that and strategically designs the environment to pull certain feelings and emotions out of you. The thing is, this information isn’t new. Still, our homes are the last thing we think about when we consider how our environment can dictate our emotions.
This means the choices you make for your home matter. The money you spend to create your home matters. Every curtain, rug, artwork, & candle work together in your home to tell your brain how to feel. You have the power to set the mood & create an unforgettable ambiance in your home.
Main Styles of Ambiance
Have you ever thought about what feeling you want to evoke with your home? Aligning the ideal vision with a specific concept helps bring it to life.
Calming - A calm environment is free of clutter, minimal, & incredibly airy. Create this by using sheer linens
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& natural textures like jute, rattan, & bamboo. A color palette should use light neutrals. Surfaces should be clear with a plant, candle, or other minimal decor item. Choose furniture that is not too clunky or dark.
Cozy - Cozy spaces feel intimate & soothing. The kind of space perfect for a movie night,to read a good book, or sip hot coffee on a cool morning. Create this by choosing soft textures & adding in fluffy pillows & throws. Choose a big, soft rug & furniture that is low to the ground.
Inviting - If the goal is to create a home that feels like the hangout house, you’ll want an inviting feel. Set up a bar area in your living spaces, a firepit with seating out back, and a variety of open seating options.
Inspiring - A space that works for an active life is organized with pops of color. Choose living room furniture with lots of separate seating & a high kitchen table with bar stools. Decorate with photos of adventures & collected items. A main focus space might be a garage that neatly houses equipment & an outdoor space with a grill or ping pong table for nights at home.
How to Style Spaces With Feeling
Create feeling with texture - Linens tell the secrets of your home.
A room with staple pieces and nothing else will feel open and airy, but a bit sterile and cold. You know how it feels when a room has a slight echo? This is where your textiles and linen options come in.
The rug, curtains, and linens counteract that feeling. Your textures add warmth and coziness, but careful, because this next part is key to developing the vibe you want for your home.
It’s easy to go overboard with texture while still wanting an uncluttered, clean, open feel without realizing texture choices can really stand in the way of that. If you are going for a home that feels cozy and warm you will want thick, heavy, dark, plush textures. If you are opting for a home with a light and airy feel you’ll want to choose thinner, lighter, more sheer textures so nothing blocks the flow of light.
Tips on styling with texture:
● The more texture you add, the more warmth you add.
● For an airy & minimal feel, choose texture options like sheer curtains, a thin rug, and simple pillows (or opt for less texture overall).
● If you are going for a comfy, cozy vibe you can incorporate heavier drapes, fluffy, soft rugs, pillows with lots of fringe, and plenty of throw blankets.
● The textures you choose can change with the seasons. During the spring and summer choose a sheer curtain, but during the winter opt for soft rugs, thick drapes, layered blankets, pillows, and other cozy textures.
Create intentional focus spaces
A focus space (not to be confused with a focal point) is an area of your home that is the most lived in. It’s the place you, friends & family tend to hang out. It’s also the space that probably requires
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“Our emotional and mental state is directly connected to our environment. Styles of decorating, really, are just definitions of feelings you want to evoke.”
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the most cleaning. Focus spaces have become incredibly important because the days of investing in a formal dining room we never enter are coming to an end. Our current generation strives to use the spaces we have to the fullest.
Using each space to its maximum potential means creating a space that allows you to explore hobbies, cultivate relationships, experience growth, practice self care, & manage mental health.
When you figure out where you spend your time, you can choose where to invest your effort & money. If you love to cook, one of your focus spaces will be your kitchen. If you love entertaining, you’ll want a rock solid outdoor space or bar area.
If family movie nights are more your thing, spend that time creating a living room you are in love with. If you enjoy solace & self care, then your bedroom & master bath might be your focus space.
want for your space.
Style your home so it reflects you
Home should remind you who you are. Choose statement pieces for your home that make your space you. Statement pieces are the family heirlooms, thrift store
By identifying which activities & experiences most enrich your life, you’ve defined your values. Now, you can choose to invest in spaces that matter and breathe a sigh of relief if other spaces don’t get as much attention. When you identify your focus spaces, you are one step closer to identifying the feel you
finds, and interesting furniture pieces in your home. Selecting & displaying these statement pieces are key to taking your space from a house to a home. Utilizing statement pieces help you find identity & comfort in your space, while ensuring you won’t get tired of it.
These pieces are about showing off your personality with unique finds. This is where we choose a big, emerald green china cabinet or a bright yellow hutch. Maybe finding a chunky, old piece of furniture to paint the perfect color. Typically statement pieces have an element of functionality, as well. A repainted dresser can act as toy storage in a common area or an inherited hutch can house blankets.
Create a home that feels like you.
Livability, feel, & function are parts of the home decor world that whisper. The way a space is set up to take care of the people who live there shows off the unique needs of a home, so decorate according to lifestyle. Homes that feel the best are the ones that show off how well they nurture the people inside.
Tell us a little about yourself and what inspired you to pursue a career in psychotherapy and healing. Hi! I’m Meg Tobin, LMHC—a bodycentered psychotherapist, retreat leader, and End of Life Doula. My work is all about helping people transform their pain into healing, growth, and meaning. My journey into the field of psychotherapy is deeply personal. Like many of the clients I work with, I’ve faced moments of profound loss and uncertainty. These experiences shaped my understanding of resilience and what it truly means to heal.
Through my own process, I discovered that healing isn’t about fixing what’s broken—it’s about reconnecting with the part of ourselves that was never lost. That realization fueled my passion for creating spaces where others could explore their pain, process their stories, and rediscover their own inner strength. Over time, my work has expanded beyond the therapy room to include retreats, workshops, supervising other therapists, and engaging in community healing experiences. These spaces allow me to merge traditional psychotherapy with somatic (body-cengtered) and creative practices, offering people diverse ways to reconnect with themselves. It’s incredibly rewarding to witness clients transform and reclaim their lives. My work is rooted in the belief that every person has what they need inside to heal. My job is to shine the light and walk alongside. .
What is the story behind the creation of Breathing Space Psychotherapy, and how did it evolve into the practice it is today?
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Breathing Space Psychotherapy was born from a vision of creating more than just a therapy practice—I wanted to build a sanctuary for deep, transformative healing. From the start, my focus was on making sure clients felt truly seen, heard, and supported, no matter where they were in their journey.
As my expertise in somatic therapy and trauma work deepened, Breathing Space naturally evolved. What began as a small practice has grown into a space that offers diverse healing modalities, including traditional psychotherapy, Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP), therapy intensives, and retreats. Bringing on other therapists with different specialties (including Couples Therapy, Art Therapy, and support for Neurodivergent individuals) has allowed us to offer a truly integrative approach. The name Breathing Space reflects what I wanted this practice to be—a place to pause, exhale, and make room for healing. With the addition of our sister business, Anam Wellness, we’ve expanded even further, offering immersive healing experiences with practitioners in our community.. At its core, our mission is the same: to meet people where they are, honor their unique path, and help them move forward into endless possibility.
You mention walking your own road to find hope, joy, and meaning. How has your personal journey influenced the way you work with clients? My own experiences have taught me that healing isn’t a straight path—it’s a process of deepening self-awareness, finding what works, and learning to navigate life’s inevitable challenges with more presence and self-compassion.
Because of that, I show up for my clients not as someone who has all the answers, but as someone who understands how vulnerable and courageous this work can be.
I don’t believe healing is about reaching some perfect, final destination. It’s about learning to live with more ease, more awareness, and more choice. I help my clients see that their growth isn’t measured by how much they “fix,” but by how much they allow themselves to be present, to feel, and to live in ways that align with who they truly are.
Trauma and grief are central to your areas of focus. How do you help clients work through these deeply personal challenges?
Healing trauma and grief starts with safety. My priority is creating a space where clients feel secure enough to explore their pain at their own pace, without pressure or judgment.
I help clients understand that trauma doesn’t just live in their thoughts or emotions—it’s also stored in their bodies. Through somatic practices, I work with clients to release tension, regulate their nervous systems, and begin to feel grounded and safe in their own bodies. I also guide them in exploring how past experiences have shaped their patterns of thought and behavior, helping them gain insight and create space for change. Grief is about learning to live alongside loss while still finding hope and meaning. I help clients honor their pain and emotions, providing tools to navigate the complexities of grief while making room for healing. A key part of this process is gently challenging the stories
“Healing isn’t about doing it perfectly; it’s about showing up for yourself in whatever way feels right. You’re not alone in this, and you don’t have to figure it all out at once.”
clients may have internalized about their grief, allowing them to rewrite these narratives in ways that reflect their strength, resilience, and capacity to move forward.
Your approach incorporates bodycentered modalities like EFT Tapping, Brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP). How do these techniques help in the healing process? Each of these modalities works in a different way, but they all help clients process emotions and trauma on a deeper level—beyond just talking about them.
● EFT Tapping soothes the nervous system by using acupressure points to release emotional distress.
● Brainspotting helps access and process unresolved trauma by using eye positions to activate deeper parts of the brain.
● Internal Family Systems (IFS) allows clients to build a compassionate relationship with the different parts of themselves—especially the ones carrying pain or protective patterns.
● Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) creates a state of expanded awareness, where clients can access insights and emotions in a way that often isn’t possible in regular therapy.
These approaches help shift old patterns, release emotional pain, and create lasting change by working with the nervous system, the subconscious, and the body.
You emphasize creating a safe emotional space for your clients. What strategies do you use to ensure they feel secure and supported?
Creating a safe emotional space is the
foundation of all the work I do with clients. True healing can only happen when someone feels secure enough to explore their pain and vulnerable enough to show up authentically.
To create this environment, I focus on building a relationship of trust and mutual respect from the very beginning. I explain the process and techniques, and invite clients to engage, always giving choice. I listen - truly listen with curiosity and without judgment. I approach each client as the expert in their own life, honoring their experiences and needs. I also integrate grounding exercises and somatic tools to help regulate emotions, so sessions don’t feel overwhelming.My goal is to create a space where people feel not just supported, but truly empowered.
Your philosophy is centered around honoring a person’s pure, divine core. How do you guide clients toward rediscovering their inner wisdom?
I truly believe every person carries an unshakable core of wisdom, resilience, and love. My work is about helping clients reconnect with that part of themselves, even when life has made it feel distant. To do this, I guide clients in quieting the noise of self-doubt and external pressures, using mindfulness and body-based practices to help them feel grounded and safe. Self-compassion is key—learning to replace harsh inner criticism with kindness and curiosity allows them to see themselves as whole and worthy.
Rediscovering inner wisdom isn’t about searching for something outside themselves—it’s about peeling back layers of fear and doubt to trust what’s always been there. As they do, they begin
making choices that align with their values, set boundaries that honor their needs, and step into a life that feels truly authentic. Watching that shift happen is one of the greatest joys of this work.
What does a typical session with you look like, and how do you tailor your approach to meet each client’s unique needs?
Each session is shaped by the client’s needs that day. I create a space that feels safe, supportive, and collaborative, where they can explore emotions and experiences without judgment.
Some sessions focus on talk therapy for clarity and insight, while others incorporate body-based practices like movement, breathwork, or art to process emotions beyond words. If a client feels overwhelmed, we might use grounding techniques to help them feel more present. I also integrate earth-based practices and the power of ritual, recognizing how deeply we are shaped by both our personal experiences and the wisdom of those who came before us.
Rather than directing, I offer options and let clients choose what resonates, ensuring they feel in control of their healing. I also pay close attention to subtle cues—body language, tone, and energy—to guide the session in a way that truly supports their growth. Every step is about meeting them where they are and helping them move forward in a way that feels right for them.
What advice would you give someone who is hesitant to take the first step toward healing?
Start small. You don’t have to know
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exactly where you’re going—just taking the first step is enough. Maybe that means reaching out for support, exploring a resource, or simply acknowledging that you want something to change.
Healing isn’t about doing it perfectly; it’s about showing up for yourself in whatever way feels right. You’re not alone in this, and you don’t have to figure it all out at once. Just know that you are worthy of healing, and the first step—however small—is the most important one. As a mom of four teenagers, how do you balance your personal life and your career while maintaining your own sense of peace and joy?
As a mom of four teenagers, balance is something I strive for, but it doesn’t always come easily. Life can be chaotic and unpredictable, and I’ve learned to embrace the imperfections along the way. What keeps me grounded is focusing on the things that truly sustain me, like caring for my nervous system, showing up for the people who matter most, remaining connected with strong circles of women in my life, and continuing to do the important work of healing myself.
I take my nervous system health seriously, weaving in small, grounding practices like breathwork and mindfulness to help me stay centered amidst the chaos. These simple tools help me reset and find calm, even when everything around me feels anything but calm.
Being present for my kids and my husband is top on my list, but it’s not always easy. There are days when we’re all running in different directions, and
moments where the overwhelm creeps in. Yet, even in those messy times, I try to carve out moments to connect—whether it’s a shared laugh, a quick check-in, or just being there to listen.
It’s not about having it all together; it’s about showing up as I am and giving myself grace when things feel hard. By prioritizing my well-being, I’m able to bring more patience and presence into my relationships, even when life doesn’t go as planned. And honestly, sometimes we just have to laugh at the chaos and trust that tomorrow will be a little smoother!
Looking ahead, what are your goals for Breathing Space Psychotherapy?
As we move forward, our focus remains on expanding in ways that foster deep, lasting healing. This means offering more retreats, workshops, groups, and online programs, providing a range of opportunities for people to connect—whether through individual therapy, shared experiences, or immersive retreats. We’re also excited to collaborate with other practitioners to bring fresh perspectives and new healing modalities into our space.
Our quarterly Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) retreats in Erieville continue to be a cornerstone of our work, and we’re expanding our retreat offerings to include destination experiences. In January, we hosted an 8-day KAP Retreat in Puerto Rico, and in March, we’ll embark on A Woman’s Soul Retreat to Mystical Ireland! These retreats, along with upcoming workshops like Family Constellations Ancestral Healing in May, weave together sacred, earth-based practices that honor the wisdom of the
land, ancestral traditions, and the deep connection between nature and healing. Through ceremony, ritual, and grounding practices, we help participants reconnect with the rhythms of the earth and their own inner knowing.We welcome you to join us when the time feels right.
I’m also thrilled to be writing a monthly column for CNY Woman Online called Breathing Space, where we’ll explore topics like resilience, nervous system regulation, managing difficult times, and practical tools for healing. This space will offer thoughtful reflections, shared experiences, and real, accessible ways to bring more ease into daily life. Whether you’re just beginning your healing journey or have been on this path for years, I hope it becomes a valuable resource. If there’s a topic you’d love to see covered, reach out to meg@therapycny.com—I’d love to hear your ideas!
Through therapy, group work, community connection, and retreats, our vision for Breathing Space remains the same: to create a place where people can pause, breathe, and feel at home— where they are truly supported, seen, and belong.
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A place to pause, reset, and reconnect.
Hi! I’m Meg Tobin, LMHC—a bodycentered psychotherapist, retreat leader, and End of Life Doula. My work is all about helping people transform their pain into healing, growth, and meaning. My journey into the field of psychotherapy is deeply personal. Like many of the clients I work with, I’ve faced moments of profound loss and uncertainty. These experiences shaped my understanding of resilience and what it truly means to heal. With this Breathing Space column, we’ll explore nervous system regulation, self-care, and tools for resilience. In a busy, overwhelming world, I invite you to utilize this space to breathe.
What is Nervous System Regulation & Why It Matters
The nervous system is the body’s command center, shaping how we respond to stress, connect with others, and experience the world. It sends messages between your brain and other parts of your body, telling you to breathe, move, speak, see, digest, sleep, focus, and experience. It decides how to respond to the world and any situation you’re experiencing, including the reactions your body does without thinking, such as sweating or blushing.
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may include:
• Chronic stress
• Chronic pain without any apparent cause
• Anxiety
• Exhaustion
• Difficulty focusing
• Emotional overwhelm
What to Expect at Breathing Space
This space will offer thoughtful reflections, shared experiences, and real, accessible ways to bring more ease into daily life. Whether you’re just beginning your healing journey or have been on this path for years, I hope it becomes a valuable resource.
• Sleep problems
Your nervous system can become dysregulated, meaning the nervous system cannot perform its roles adequately or efficiently. A dysregulated nervous system impacts our bodies’ functioning and our overall health and wellness. Signs of a dysregulated nervous system
It is possible to regulate and heal a dysregulated nervous system. A regulated nervous system is vital for optimal health, ensuring our bodies respond appropriately to stimuli. Learning to regulate the nervous system can help reduce anxiety, improve relationships, create a sense of inner peace, improve sleep, and much more.
We’ll provide practical tools and exercises that you can implement into everyday life, such as breathwork, grounding techniques, vagus nerve stimulation, EFT tapping, and more. Here are 2 exercises you can do right now.
4-7-8 Breathing
This is a breathing exercise that promotes relaxation. Begin by positioning your tongue against the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth and exhale completely from your mouth.
Then, inhale through your nose for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds, and exhale from your mouth with an audible whoosh for 8 seconds. As you inhale, breathe into your belly so your belly expands.
Repeat this 4-7-8 pattern for 4 cycles, then return to normal breathing.
If you at any point feel faint or lightheaded, stop the breathing exercise and return to normal breathing.
What does it do to your brain-body? When you are in fight-or-flight mode,
Then, cross your arms over your chest as though your are giving yourself a
a relaxation response that helps release tension. It helps bring you back to the
present moment as you practice breathing and observing what is happening in your mind and body. It gently shifts your body from fight-or-flight to relaxation.
As you are reading this sentence, take a moment to pause…and take a deep breath. Try one of these exercises now. Next time you notice yourself feeling agitated, overwhelmed, or anxious, try these exercises and begin to notice the
What’s one way you already calm yourself when feeling overwhelmed? Reach out to meg@therapycny.com—I’d love to hear from you!
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NORTH PAW RESCUE
In The Beginning
North Paw Rescue, which has its name based on following the North Star to find your freedom, is committed to helping all types of dogs find their way into a loving home. The concept for this rescue comes from Mary Beth McCarthy, former board member, and current board president and veteran, Stacy Edgecombe.
According to Jenna Stein, vice president and social media/ fundraising coordinator-—and one of the founders of North Paw Rescue, “The North Star has always been special to Stacy and is a really important symbol. It leads into our model of helping dogs find a better life. Following the North Star as your compass, you will always find your way home.”
North Paw Rescue was basically started by five women more than three years ago that were involved with different rescues over the years. Stein says, “So we wanted to put all that experience together. Our goal was to become a small, close-knit group of people doing what we can with what we have.
Fostering
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events with local businesses, we like to help promote them and work together. We also have many fosters who saw their friends fostering for us and wanted to get involved.” And now, thanks to these incredible efforts, they have more than a hundred people fostering.
Currently, North Paw fosters are primarily found in the Monroe and Genesee county areas, but other fosters can be found in
“We put in all this effort to make fostering approachable for everyone” Stein said. “We don’t want people to think they need an $300 extra a month to be involved with fostering for us.”
Those interested in fostering can find applications on North Paws website at northpawrescue.com. Each foster gets vet checks and home visits. North Paw also ensures any animals currently living in the home are up to date on vaccines and spayed and neutered unless there is a pre-existing medical condition. Once on-boarded as a foster with North Paw, there are continuous follow ups and support throughout the whole experience. “We also have a private Facebook page for our fosters, where we share information, tips, answer questions and do a Sunday update every week,” Stein said. “These resources are very helpful, as well as keeping the leadership team and the board, all connected.”
Since North Paw Rescue has no physical space, they rely solely on volunteers to foster the animals in need. Finding fosters can be a challenge, but with social media, word of mouth and forming numerous local events has all helped to boost their foster numbers. Stein adds, “We are always out and about hosting many
Buffalo, Canandaigua, Penn Yann and parts of the Finger Lakes region. When a volunteer decides to foster, they are provided with everything: from crates to beds, leashes, collars, harnesses and toys, even food and treats. All medical care is paid for by North Paw. Stein finds that a big draw for fosters at North Paw is they can start by helping just one dog. There is no pressure to foster more than what you’re comfortable with.
Facing The Challenge of Puppy Mills
According to the Veterinary Medical Association of the Humane Society of the United States, puppy mills are basically commercial dog breeding facilities. They are characterized by quick breeding and very poor, unhealthy conditions. Unfortunately, the emphasis is on quantity over quality and indiscriminate breeding. Continuous confinement, lack of human contact, poor husbandry and minimal to no veterinary care, also add to the deplorable conditions for these poor little creatures.
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in all this effort to make fostering approachable for everyone, Stein said.
We don’t want people to think they need an $300 extra a month to be involved
with
North Paw Rescue has always been open to saving all dogs in need. In fact, the first dog taken into the rescue was from a puppy mill. “We had connections of our own with local breeders and puppy mills. The “millers” (referring to those that run a puppy mill) were already calling us, so it was an easy starting point.” Stein said. Though they started with rescuing dogs from puppy mills, North Paw also takes dogs from other situations as well, like dogs from the city shelter. Stein adds, “Since our inception we have rescued almost 1,000 dogs.”
While the sale of puppy mill dogs in pet stores has been banned in New York State, a puppy mill pipeline unfortunately remains active. Online purchasing of dogs, as well as traveling to breeders in and out of state, sadly continues.
fostering for us.”
Bigger puppy mill operations are mostly rural, according to Stein. One miller they rescue dogs from has acres of beautiful property and a gorgeous house, and yet has a puppy mill in her barn. No one is allowed entrance to her barn, and the dogs North Paw Rescue picks up from her are usually dragged out from that space.
North Paw also takes in dogs from
or any real interaction with a person. “When Gordon arrived last week we found out he had epilepsy,” Gordon’s foster Amanda Letter-Kuttner said. “ He actually came with medication which is highly unusual.” He is gradually learning to trust humans and is actually starting to follow me around.”
Teamwork and Adopting
There is also a wide spectrum of puppy mills, and not all dogs are shoved in small cages. “But, Stein says, they are still bred in horrible conditions.” A dog with any type of health problem, wrong color eyes, or coats not curly enough, can place the dog at risk of losing its life. Millers then decide the dogs cannot be sold. And when they are done with the moms and dads they are basically thrown away like garbage. Many of these dogs are less than five years old. They are dumped at shelters, or killed. This is why North Paw comes in to rescue the dogs.
out of state and has partnerships with another rescue based in Texas. “I know people question why we take in dogs from out of state. The euthanasia rate in Texas is outrageous,” Stein said. “We do try to help the most vulnerable and that includes dogs from out of state.”
Gordon, a three year old male Boston Terrier, and one the newer arrivals from a puppy mill, is still working on not being terrified. He loves other dogs but is still leery of humans. Many puppy mill dogs have never had human touch
North Paw Rescue also has working relationships with other local rescues to help find fosters and adopters. Recently North Paw split a litter of puppies from the city shelter with Operation Freedom Ride, another Rochester rescue.“Unfortunately the puppies came down with parvo right after they left the shelter,” Stein said. “That was a huge unexpected expense but with support from the community we made it through.”
When rescuing any dog, decompression is crucial. Patience is needed. Taking the newly rescued dog out to the pet store, or having all your relatives over the first day— or even the first few weeks— is not recommended. Your new friend can be easily overwhelmed in the first three weeks, which could lead to detrimental effects on the success of acclimating your dog to a new home.
start your process. While vet and home checks are important and included with adoption, the emphasis remains on finding the right home—and heart—for both adopter and dog. You don’t even need a fenced in yard. And as long as you have permission from whomever
veterans interested in adopting from the rescue. The only limitation is that you are twenty-one years of age.
And if you too, choose to follow the North Star, North Paw Rescue will make sure that it’s the right fit for both
I will never forget the first time I had to make a difficult decision for the sake of my own well-being. It was April 2012, just five months into my sobriety, and I was about to board a plane to Australia. At the time, I believed this trip would bring me happiness as I was preparing to see someone who was once special to me. However, deep down, I knew it would only set me back on my journey to healing.
The decision to cancel my flight was not easy. I had spent months convincing myself that this trip was what I needed, but as the date approached, clarity set in. I realized that I was not strong enough in my sobriety to handle the emotional toll this trip would bring. Making the hard choice meant prioritizing my well-being over fleeting emotions. And though it was painful, it was the right decision.
Looking back, I have no regrets. That choice set me on the path to healing, growth, and self-discovery. Sometimes, the hardest choices are the ones that serve our highest good.
If you are struggling with a decision that feels painful but necessary, here are three steps to help guide you through:
1. Gain Clarity Through Self-Reflection
Before making any major decision, take a step back and examine your motives. Are you choosing out of fear, longing, or obligation? Or are you making a decision that aligns with your well-being and future self?
Journaling, meditation, or simply sitting in silence can help you tune in to what your heart and intuition are telling you. When I reflected on my situation, I realized that my decision to take the trip was driven by
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emotional attachment rather than what was best for my sobriety. That clarity allowed me to make the right choice.
2. Weigh the Long-Term Impact
A difficult decision often comes with short-term pain but long-term rewards. Ask yourself: “Will this choice bring me closer to the life I want to create?” “Will this decision support my growth and healing?” If a choice feels comforting in the moment but detrimental in the long run, it may not be the right one. I knew that going on the trip would bring temporary happiness but would ultimately set me back emotionally and potentially threaten my sobriety. That realization gave me the strength to walk away.
3. Choose Yourself Without Guilt
Letting go is one of the hardest things we can do, but it is often necessary for our own peace and progress. When making a tough decision, remind yourself that prioritizing your well-being is not selfish—it is self-preservation.
You may face guilt, fear, or doubt, but do not let these emotions hold you back from making the choice that is best for you. For me, canceling that flight meant choosing my healing over an uncertain situation. It meant valuing my future over the comfort of familiarity. And in doing so, I reclaimed my power.
Making a difficult decision for the sake of your well-being is never easy. It often requires walking away from people, places, and situations that no longer serve your highest good. It demands courage, selfawareness, and the willingness to embrace discomfort for the sake of growth.
But here’s what I know for sure: the choices you make today shape the person you become tomorrow. Every time you choose
yourself, you reinforce your worth. Every time you say no to what diminishes you, you say yes to what elevates you.
If you are standing at a crossroads, afraid to make a choice that feels painful but necessary, trust that your future self will thank you. Have faith that walking away from what no longer serves you is making space for what is meant for you.
You are stronger than your fears, wiser than your doubts, and more capable than you realize. Choose yourself. Always.
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My small business began after leaving a career in television news, an industry that was already going through some major shifts. I knew deep down it was time for a change but had no idea what I was going to do.
Back then, the job market was pretty rough. The recession and the rise of the iPhone meant businesses could do more with fewer people, which gave employers all the power. Those desirable high-level corporate communications roles quickly transformed into mid-level marketing positions, leading to lower salaries and fewer job prospects.
Faced with a frustrating online application process and hardly any in-person interviews, I thought, why not create my own opportunity? So, there I was, sitting at my dining room table, thinking about my unique skills and how I could help potential clients. Video messaging was just starting to be a marketing tool. Many small to mid-sized businesses hadn’t yet realized how powerful video storytelling could be in connecting with employees, stakeholders, and customers.
share their stories in compelling ways. I was excited about the possibilities and hoped clients would be just as enthusiastic. But, as it turned out, it was tougher than I expected. During one memorable meeting, a local advertising owner listened
But the qualities that make you successful in life will also help you thrive in business.
Keep Your Moral Compass
In the early days, I wasn’t making videos and consulting; I was doing whatever I could to earn a paycheck—on-camera work, writing copy, media pitching— anything to keep the lights on. Some of those clients weren’t exactly the best to work with. When you’re in need, you have to say yes to work. A wise colleague once told me that there would come a time when I could confidently say “no” to those who don’t align with my values. Keeping your integrity is key.
The Right People Make All the Difference
I specialized in weaving together visuals and sound, helping people
patiently as I pitched my idea over coffee. He said, “That’s at least ten years away. No one has a budget for video.”
When my peers ask how I got started, I always say it wasn’t easy.
Survival is a motivator.
I built my business on strong relationships. My first client didn’t know me at all; I got referred to him by a complete stranger I met at a women’s seminar. She thought I’d be a good fit for his business that was looking to invest in video. He took a chance on me based purely on my reputation, with no portfolio to back me up. My second client, reminded me of my dad, and has been just as genuine and supportive since that first nerve-wracking visit to his office. Over the years, I’ve developed close friendships with industry professionals who have provided invaluable support during tough times. I love connecting with fellow solopreneurs—sharing experiences, and venting frustrations.
“I recently read that 23% of new small businesses fail within the first year, 48% by year five, and 65% by year ten. If you’re just starting out, hitting that ten-year mark might feel overwhelming.”
Stay in Your Lane
In this business world, there will always be someone with a fancier resume or a more impressive client list. But remember, bigger doesn’t always mean better. It can be tough not to feel inadequate when you’re not on the “top 10” list or when your social media isn’t blowing up. I’ve made a conscious effort not to ignore the noise. Eventually, I landed bigger clients who weren’t concerned about my website or social media status. The key is to trust in yourself; know your value.
Big Picture, Small Details
It’s so easy to get caught up in the daily grind of running a business.
Between managing schedules, handling invoicing, making follow-up calls, and attending meetings, the long-term goals can get pushed to the back burner. When you’re busy keeping up with your clients’ needs, it’s easy to forget to nurture your own business. But here’s the thing: it’s those small, daily actions that really add up to create the bigger picture of success. Engaging with clients, brainstorming, and pitching fresh ideas are those golden moments that can drive your business growth. It’s tough to stay inspired and creative when everything feels chaotic, but it’s often in those messy moments where the best breakthroughs happen.
Keep Learning
I’m all about learning. Whether I’m diving into a new client’s industry, picking up new tech skills, or tackling issues with my business taxes, I’m constantly flexing my mental muscles. It keeps me engaged and pushes me to improve.
I recently read that 23% of new small businesses fail within the first year, 48% by year five, and 65% by year ten. If you’re just starting out, hitting that ten-year mark might feel overwhelming. Honestly, I never thought I’d make it this far. I’m grateful to everyone who supported me personally and professionally. Never be afraid to bet on yourself.
HER: PART II
HEAL
BY KATIE FLAHERTY I PHOTO BY LAURA MARINO
Healing is not a destination; it is a continuous journey. For years, I have been navigating through the pain of my past, learning to piece together the parts of myself that were shattered along the way.
At just five years old, I faced one of my first heartbreaks—my father chose to walk away from my life. The absence of his presence left a void that I struggled to fill, a wound that shaped my understanding of trust. Over the years, he went on to have six more children while I grew up without him. Though we have since reunited, the scars of abandonment ran deep, leaving me questioning my worth and struggling to believe in the permanence of relationships.
School was no safe haven either. Elementary and middle school became battlegrounds where I faced relentless bullying. Each morning, I was met with words that cut deeper than any wound—words that told me I didn’t belong, that I should end my life. In fifth grade, overwhelmed and desperate for escape, I jumped from my apartment balcony. But fate had other plans—the ground was too soft, and I walked away with only minor injuries. That moment was a turning point. I decided not to try again, but that didn’t mean the torment ended. Instead, I endured, burying my pain deep within until I eventually moved to another state, hoping for a fresh start.
Throughout high school, I found solace in work. Juggling multiple shifts while finishing my education became my way of coping, keeping me busy enough to avoid drowning in the depths of depression. I wasn’t the popular girl, nor did I have a large circle of friends. But I had resilience.
Then came another life-altering moment—a snowmobile accident that sent me crashing into a tree, head-on. My helmet protected me, but my body suffered the consequences.
The impact led to cervical spinal surgery, forcing me into a painful and grueling recovery process. Yet, through it all, I remained grateful. I had survived once again.
Now, nine years into my healing journey, I have faced not only physical pain but also the emotional wounds left by past traumas and failed relationships. But this time, I am not healing alone. I have finally welcomed God into my process, allowing faith to guide my steps. For the first time in my life, I feel at peace. And with that peace, I have found my purpose—helping others on their own journey toward healing.
EMPOWER
Through my own healing, I have discovered that true strength lies in embracing our pain, not hiding from it. I have learned that it is okay not to be okay, and that acknowledgment has given me the power to help others.
Today, I am a passionate advocate for mental health awareness, sexual abuse survivors, and sepsis education. I use my voice to share my story, breaking the silence that so many suffer in. My journey in prayer ministry has allowed me to connect with countless women, each with their own battles, reminding me that we are never truly alone in our struggles.
Pageantry, an unexpected but beautiful part of my journey, has opened doors to sisterhood. Competing has introduced me to remarkable women, each with their own battles and triumphs. Together, we have discovered that healing is not a solitary path—we need each other. Through shared experiences and support, we empower one another to rise above the pain and reclaim our strength.
RECLAIM
Empowerment is only the beginning—I am reclaiming my life by giving back.
As a Population Health Manager, I work
closely with physicians and nurses to enhance the quality of care for patients. Through our Chronic Care Management program, we provide essential support, ensuring patients have 24/7 access to healthcare professionals, education on their conditions, and personalized care plans that prioritize their goals and needs.
Beyond my professional role, my passion for advocacy continues to drive me. As Founder of Shine with Courage, I am committed to supporting survivors of sexual assault. Partnering with healthcare professionals, I provide resources and connect victims with experts who specialize in the long-term medical effects of abuse. I believe that no survivor should have to walk their journey alone.
Additionally, as a partner with End Sepsis, I work tirelessly to bring awareness to the silent but deadly condition that claims the lives of so many—especially children. Through my efforts, I send letters to school principals, urging them to adopt the Sepsis for Schools Toolkit to educate students and staff on the warning signs of sepsis. With sepsis being the #1 cause of death for children, this initiative is not just important—it is lifesaving.
HER
I am HER—the woman who has healed, empowered herself, and reclaimed her life. My journey has not been easy, but it has given me purpose. I stand today, not as a victim of my past, but as a testament to resilience, faith, and the unwavering power of transformation.
To every woman reading this—your pain does not define you. Your past does not dictate your future. You are strong, you are worthy, and you too, can rise.
They say home is where the heart is. I have lived in a few different places and traveled extensively. But my heart and soul remains with my first homeWellsville, New York. Why you might ask? Well I’ll explain.
Wellsville is in the Southern Tier of New York State, nestled in a valley surrounded by pretty, rolling hills. Amazing fall foliage, the town is idyllic. A lively Main Street once had every kind of store. A train track with a once beautiful depot still sits inside the village. Trains blowing their whistle through town or the slow chug of an engine. It was just a wonderful place to grow up.
I spent the first eleven years on a beautiful street in the village of WellsvillePearl Street with my Mom, Dad and younger brother. At age 5, I walked to kindergarten to the Martin Street School probably ten minutes away. There wasn’t much worry if I’d be safe. A sweet little school with a wrap around play ground, an old fashioned carousel, teeter totters, metal slide and wooden swings. Simpler times. Walking home, usually with a friend, I would stop at the Elmhurst Dairy to get an ice cream for 16 cents or a milk shake for 32 cents. Mrs Henry would wait on me, always a smile and ask about my Mom and Dad. Or when could our cocker spaniel Tonya come down for an ice cream cone! Small town. People knew
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and cared about one another.
Sunday was for visiting, taking a car ride and often Sunday afternoon dinner with our relatives. I loved it. Lots of good home cooking and laughter. There was and still is the most beautiful library on Main Street. Architecturally amazing and where I learned to love books. The children’s room had every hard cover imaginable, chairs the right size for someone little and fireplaces in every room. My mom would let me take home as many books as I could
the list goes on. In my memory, owned by our neighbors The Reunings and then to The Burr family. The famous salt rising bread came from that bakery and we all grew up making salt rising toast for breakfast. I still drive down to buy a few loaves.
The friendships you make as a child can be magical. I have been so lucky to keep all these special women in my life. But as girls, what linked us was humor. The ring leader was the mayor’s daughter Mary whose impersonations crack us all up to this day. And the jokes you told then, the memories that formed then are told over and over as if it were the first time you had told it.
carry. I loved to open a book, hear the creak from its spine and bury my nose into its musty pages.
Hungry? We’d all go to The Texas Hot for the best hot dog with meat sauce and fresh onions, french fries with gravy, and a delicious chocolate milk shake (in a metal container ). Anyone I know from Wellsville still craves the food!
The bakery. I seriously blame that Main Street beloved establishment for my endless lust for donuts, particularly long johns, lemon frosted cookies and
My childhood town feeds my soul. The memories, smells, food, and of course all the people. Sometimes I drive down to spend the day and let it all wash over me. My parents and other relatives are buried there. Of course I can always call up the memories in my head to take me back.
To simpler times, to a beautiful little town.
Feeding your soul is about what brings you joy. My hometown of Wellsville does just that.
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SHUT YOUR PIEHOLE
YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Skinny. Fat. Skinny. Fat.
Story of my life.
I’m writing this brutally honest and slightly embarrassing article in the hopes that it helps someone out there struggling with the same cycle. And if any of my ex-boyfriends happen to read this? Well, I’ll be mortified.
Recently, a friend posted on social media something along the lines of, “Just shut your pie hole! Why be on Wegovy when you could just stop eating?!” Maybe those weren’t the exact words, but that’s how I interpreted them. Shut my pie hole.
If only it were that simple.
The Endless Struggle
There are so many reasons why people turn to medication for weight loss, and trust me, laziness isn’t one of them. For me, vanity played a part—I wouldn’t set foot in a gym as a “fat person.” I avoided posting pictures, shied away from social gatherings, and limited my social life because of how uncomfortable I felt in my own skin. But beyond vanity, there was something more important at play: my health. As my mom always says, “If you don’t have your health, you have nothing at all.”
I have tried everything. Every diet. Every exercise craze. I have lost 70 pounds multiple times. I am the definition of an “all or nothing” personality with an addictive streak that has ruled many aspects of my life. So when I decided to try Wegovy, it wasn’t an
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impulsive move—it was a carefully considered, last-resort decision that my doctor and I debated for months before I could even get the prescription.
And then came the moment of truth: the injection. I was terrified. A needle? Me? But honestly—it was easy. And then something unexpected happened.
The Noise Stopped
If you’ve never struggled with food addiction, you may not understand what I mean by “food noise.” But if you have, you know. The constant, nagging thoughts about what you’re eating, when you’re eating, what you shouldn’t be eating—it’s an exhausting mental loop that never stops.
Until it does.
Within weeks of starting Wegovy, the noise went silent. I felt calm—for the first time in my life, food wasn’t controlling me. And it wasn’t just food. The desire for alcohol? Gone. The obsessive cravings? Muted. I realized that this medication could be just as lifechanging for alcoholics or anyone else struggling with compulsive behaviors.
The Trade-Offs
I was on Wegovy for a year—the maximum my insurance would cover. But toward the end, things got rough. I was lightheaded all the time. I fainted frequently. Why? Because when you don’t eat, your body fights back. I was constantly cold, completely drained, and forget about working out—I
barely had the energy to function.
Then the inevitable happened. I went off the medication.
The weight started creeping back almost immediately, which threw me into a panic. Was I about to undo everything I had worked so hard for? But instead of spiraling, I used the fear as motivation.
I joined a gym.
One Year Later
This month, I celebrate my one-year anniversary of consistently working out. That’s something I never thought I’d be able to say. The confidence I gained from losing weight gave me the courage to walk into a gym and start taking control in a way I couldn’t before.
So, to those who think weight loss is as simple as “just shutting your pie hole”—I wish I had your selfdiscipline, your perfect metabolism, or your ability to “just say no.” But for some of us, it’s a lifelong battle. And sometimes, we need a little help.
If you’re struggling, know this: You are not alone. Talk to your doctor. Weigh your options. Do what’s best for you. It’s not about vanity—it’s about taking control of your health in whatever way works for you.
And for the critics? I hope you’re sleeping well while I’m up at 5:05 AM, four days a week, proving to myself that I am stronger than the cycle.
CREATIVITY’S GIFT OF LIGHT
BY LISA WAGNER
How Your Actions Create Loving Spaces
Times feel so incredibly dark right now. It is as if there is a weight that we are carrying around on our hearts that doesn’t want to be lifted. Breathing, thinking, moving normally throughout your day may feel overwhelming currently and rightfully so. The powers that be are working to confuse you and throw you off center. We cannot allow this for our own sanity or as we help one another move forward in a more loving and kind way. Your first line of defense? Next right actions that create loving spaces for your heart and for the world. This begins with your gifts being utilized each day.
I have been fortunate to have the job of being an artist. I didn’t choose it to become rich, famous or deemed successful by the outside world. It chose me. I ignored its calls for decades and became sadder and more lost. It wasn’t until my husband really pushed me to use my gifts several years ago that I was set free. We each have that calling. One for a greater good that is intrinsically part of our DNA. It is as essential as our breath. When we shove it down, ignore it or play it off, we deprive our own selves of light and joy. Creating is your contribution to the starlight that in the darkest of times. It is what will carry us through these times and end the fearmongering we do not have to subscribe to; nor should you.
I’ve talk about this countless times in my prior articles, so I apologize
if I sound redundant, but it bears restating. I truly believe that it is a call that needs loud, urgent repeating. As Michelle Obama reminds us, it is time to “do something!” She asks that we never go small or “indulge our anxieties” or “wring our hands.” There is no time left for that anymore. You are being called to shine your light into the darkest of places. You can no longer allow the darkness and doubt to take hold. This is what is being urgently asked of us. We must heed the call to come out into our full being and express our inner truths without shame or worry about being judged. We can’t afford to do that any longer. The world has long awaited the expression of your gifts and has been patiently waiting for you to show up for yourself and others.
Zooming into the things that feed our soul and give us the gift of grace and gratitude is a beautiful place to begin. Think of that which gives your soul life and puts a smile on your face. Your body and mind let you immediately know when you’ve hit on what it is that drives your desire to be your highest self. Thinking about those I love, teaching my wonderful students or the act of creating a meaningful piece of art push me gently forward to continue the work. What drives your heart forward and makes you wish for more of that feeling of contentment and the joy it brings to those around you? That is where you can begin.
Take out a piece of blank paper and, in the center, write down a creative
action that has brought you happiness and helped you momentarily get out of your head. Now begin to treat that creative expression as the center of your innovative universe; that is your sun. Building off that source of energy, write down the satellites that represent the emotions and/or new ideas this first step (your sun), gives rise to. Those are your stars that attract other wayward yet, seeking stars into your orbit. You become a beacon for those who are stuck in fear or are just beginning their journey. You are the impetus for their renewed sense of purpose and drive. No one can take that away from you or them.
Self-expression is our most powerful gift that is permanently woven into our very essence. No oppressor, bully, politician, shaming or social norm has the power to alter or strip you of that. Ever. It is what gives us each hope and faith in ourselves and one another. I was recently invited onto the Creative Genius Podcast with the amazing Kate Shepard. (Episode 81; Lisa Wagner – Permission to Create: Why Your Creativity Matters in Tough Times) We had the original interview scheduled in June. My sister passed away unexpectedly a few days prior. We rescheduled it two days post-election. The timing was not lost on either of us. In our darkest of times, it always seems to be the times we are called on to do the hardest, most meaningful work. Now feels just as hard and as essential to move our hands and use our gifts.
Kate and I agreed that during these
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“Fighting for what is right and just is our Divine calling. Darkness will always be a part of this earthly plane but that does not mean you are destined to be swallowed whole by it.”
trying times, we tend to move away from creativity. But isn’t that when it is needed most? Whatever your gift is, the world will gratefully embrace it. It has no need to be perfect. Messy is precisely what is called for. It is a representation of everything around you that you are experiencing alongside all living beings. When you tap into our commonality of shared experiences, there is a deep and meaningful connection to one another and the Divine. There is nothing more powerful. Those who wish to control us and our voice first look to extinguish this power. To leave us confused, helpless and in a state of inaction. Never allow this for yourself or others. Today is the day to begin your journey back to your light.
Finding a tribe of creative buddies can help increase your light. Try doing the exercise of sun and it’s satellite stars with that tribe and share your stories. There is a connection and bond that will occur that couldn’t have happened any other way. Then take the next step. Decide what you will create, and the steps needed to get there. Encourage each other along the way and be accountable to one another. When we band together
to call out the darkness with our expressions of loving kindness in this way, that beam is exponentially larger and more formidable. There is no extinguishing or denying it by anyone. We leave the dark nowhere to
escape. It can only recede. This is how capable we are to turn the tide back to a more loving and inclusive energy we are all granted a birthright to.
Fighting for what is right and just is our Divine calling. Darkness will always be a part of this earthly plane but that does not mean you are destined to be swallowed whole by it. It can be a challenge to express your creativity; to shine in the darkness so that others can become as brave as you are. Once you put away egoic shame and fear and choose to be your highest expression of all that calls to your heart, you will willingly embrace your power. Know that you are fully capable of doing just that. Envision the collection of souls that will walk alongside you. That will give you the heroism you need lead with. You are a born trailblazer. Our hearts know the truth. They kindly ask us to use it to brighten the blackest of spaces. It’s a reminder that in times of struggle, our creativity can serve as a source of strength, unity, and healing for ourselves and those around us.
MAXIMILLION
Maximillian is a special friend of ours, and while his story has a heartwarming ending, it’s not without its share of challenges. His journey is one of patience, resilience, and the power of love.
Maximillian first arrived at Animal Care Sanctuary as a stray in April 2023. For nearly two years, he waited at our shelter, watching other cats come and go, hoping for his own chance at a forever home. Two years may seem like a long time to wait, but some stories take a little longer to find their perfect ending.
Like every animal that comes into our care, Maximillian received a thorough intake exam. For cats, this means a full-body check—from head to tail, every paw, every whisker, and even under their belly. They receive flea and tick treatment, dewormer, and a FeLV (Feline Leukemia Virus) test.
Most cats test negative for FeLV, but in Maximillian’s case, his test came back positive. This diagnosis might have made his journey to adoption a bit more complicated, but it didn’t make him any less deserving of love.
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healthy lives, often reaching the same life expectancy as cats without the virus. They can also live happily with other cats—even those who are FeLV-negative—as long as everyone stays up to date on their vaccinations.
A Happy Ending for Maximillian We are thrilled to share that Maximillian has found his forever home—a home that’s extra special.
During his time at ACS, Maximillian formed a deep and undeniable bond with two fellow shelter cats, Buddy Boy and Miny. They were more than just companions; they were his family. So when a loving family came forward to adopt Maximillian, something incredible happened— they also adopted Buddy Boy and Miny!
Now, all three best friends are living together in a warm, caring home where they will be cherished for the rest of their lives. Their journey is a testament to the power of patience, compassion, and the belief that every cat, no matter their circumstances, deserves a chance at happiness.
Understanding FeLV Feline Leukemia Virus (FeLV) often carries misconceptions. While it does affect a cat’s immune system, FeLV-positive cats can still lead long,
FeLV is only contagious to other cats; it cannot be transmitted to dogs, other animals, or humans. FeLV-positive cats may be more prone to illnesses like upper respiratory infections, so it’s important to act quickly if they show symptoms. With prompt medical care and a loving home, these cats can thrive just like any other feline.
If you ever have the opportunity to adopt a FeLV-positive cat, we encourage you to consider it. These cats are just as loving, playful, and deserving of a forever home as any other. And as Maximillian’s story proves—sometimes, the happiest endings are worth the wait.
ACCEPTING OTHERS AND OURSELVES:
BY JAYNE MILLER
Accepting Others and Ourselves: The Physical Body
There has been a lot said in recent years about being kind. Little sayings on cards and plaques state the importance of being kind. Most people interpret that as being kind to others, which is, of course, great!
One main way of being kind to others embraces also being kind to ourselves! As women, we desperately need to stop putting ourselves down, and continually finding and identifying physical things that we perceive as “wrong” or lacking and inferior about ourselves.
We cannot and should not hold ourselves and others to society’s unrealistic standards. Probably at least 95 percent of us are not celebrities, professional women sports athletes, Olympic stars, gymnasts, or ballerinas and dancers.
We also might not fall into society’s stated and unstated physical standards, such as the old, coveted measurements of 36” 24” 36.” We might not be smallboned, tiny-framed and petite, with long, beautiful blond hair and blue eyes.
Of course, blond hair and long hair can be purchased and worn if we desire, as well as blue contact lenses.
A main problem that I notice among women is constantly finding fault with other women’s personal physique and style. We criticize them, and we criticize ourselves, often to the degree of being very unkind.
Being unkind and overly critical does
not help other people, and it certainly does not help ourselves. Yes, of course, there is a lot to be said that is true about taking care of our physical body for health, quality of life and mobility, and longevity reasons.
All we can do is our best. We can, of course, try to eat as healthily as possible, and exercise to our own individual capabilities. There is nothing new for me to report about that! Doctors, health and aging experts, medical personnel, are all teeming and abounding with thousands of ideas with an incredible, unmeasurable amount of information.
What I am referring to here is accepting and being kind to ourselves and other women. In the name of sisterhood, can we all please be kinder? It is not usually necessary to comment negatively about every woman we see: “oh my! Look at her in those white pants! How could she leave the house like that? Look at her hair color? Look at her obesity!”
I cannot state strongly enough that we do not know what other people are going through, what they are thinking and feeling, and what trauma they may have suffered, endured, experienced, and survived.
A woman I know told me that she would not wear rings because her fingers were “fat” and somewhat misshapen due to arthritis. I replied, “just decorate what you have! Enjoy wearing pretty rings.” So okay, she may not qualify to be a petite hand model, but so what?! Another woman I know is actually very petite. She is an older, mature woman, 76 years old. She told me that she would only wear tops with turtlenecks, because she
did not like her “turkey neck.” My reply was that at the end of our life, are we really going to regret that other people noticed our extra skin? Certainly, we do not have to love and appreciate our loose or hanging upper arm skin, aka “batwings.” Indeed, we all have parts of our body that we do not necessarily like.
I know what I am talking about. I was a thin child and a “normal” slim size until my early 20.’s. I went through a lot of trauma, tragedy, and death of many family members; I used food to comfort me. I gained over 200 pounds over the years.
Some people cope with their pain, sadness, and depression by abusing alcohol, drugs, smoking, etc. Other people deal with the unfairness and trials and tribulations of life by cheating, lying, gambling, etc.
It is just that being overweight is very noticeable. I have since lost 170 pounds and have kept it off for about 15 years. So yes indeed, I might win a contest for my large “batwings,” but alas, no one is offering a big pay-out for modeling them! In another instance, a woman told me that I should be wearing only ¾ length or long sleeves. I am not willing to be uncomfortable in warm weather; I enjoy wearing short-sleeved shirts or tank tops. Gasp! Clutch those pearls!
A good friend of mine told me that I should not have any purple dye in my hair, as I was 60 years old. I am now aged 66, and I still have purple in my hair. We can express ourselves however we want. Sure, there are some professions that require a certain clothing style or
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“Lack
of any self-confidence is not an attractive trait. Practice looking at and accepting yourself; try saying three good things about your appearance. Celebrate you! “
physical demeanor, but that is different.
Actual ways of being kind consist of accepting ourselves. The more that we understand and accept ourselves, with all our physical “imperfections,” the easier it is to be kinder to other women.
When I am out, I enjoy being kind. I compliment other women, if I notice something pretty; of course, I will mention it. I believe in being authentic and sincere. I have told other women that I love their hair color or hair style, or that I like their earrings, etc. We need to encourage and support each other!
And sometimes, we just cannot take ourselves so seriously. Whatever one
believes in a religious or spiritual sense, our body is only an outside “shell.” We are more than our physical appearance; we are our essence. And, that can be our real beauty!
Furthermore, for some of us, kindness and acceptance are easier than it is for others. Many of us have an entire lifetime of experiences, mostly negative, of being shamed, feeling humiliated and embarrassed, by being meanly criticized by others, family, and even friends.
Time, life, maturity, and experience can cause us to learn what is really important in life. Again, of course, I am not saying to not take care of yourself! Just try to do your best to take care of your health.
And you do not have to concede or “give in” to society’s ridiculous standards.
Furthermore, just a parting thought here: can you imagine meeting a potential date or life partner, and when you ask them to tell you about themselves, all they did was put themselves down? Lack of any self-confidence is not an attractive trait. Practice looking at and accepting yourself; try saying three good things about your appearance. Celebrate you! And celebrate others!
I look forward to your feedback and any questions! Thank you.
AN EASEFUL APPROACH TO PRENATAL DISCOMFORTS
BY KAITLYN VITTOZZI
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Whether it was a surprise or something you worked arduously for, you are here. As a Certified Yoga Therapist, I have seen a few women who feel fantastic during their pregnancy, and also – as in any transition period –there can be some surprises. What follows is a list of common discomforts during pregnancy and some yoga interventions. However, if something feels off, do check with your doctor or midwife first. I look at yoga therapy as the space to fill the cracks when Western medicine might not have an immediate answer.
As far as yoga postures are concerned, move slowly into postures so you aren’t overdoing it or feeling pain. Even if you are an experienced yoga practitioner, you have relaxin running through your body which makes it easy to overstretch. Also for anything that says reclined, if you are in any discomfort at all lying on your back, elevate your spine at an angle with a yoga bolster or sturdy couch cushion. A great acupuncturist, pelvic floor physical therapist or prenatal chiropractor can also be a great help during your pregnancy. This is also by no means an extensive list, if you are experiencing something uncomfortable physically, mentally or emotionally that is totally normal during this period. Do not hesitate to seek out the help you need to nurture yourself and your baby right now.
1.Low Back – Practice neutral spine with neutral Si (sacroiliac) joints that aren’t tilted or off-center. This also means that you aren’t rounded
forward or back bending. For example, stand at a wall, heels a few inches away from the wall with the back of your head, your upper back and your glutes against the wall. Try to maintain this neutral curve in your spine as you move through your days when possible. You can also move away from the wall and reach your hands back behind you to open up the chest while still maintaining that neutral curve. (ex. If you do yoga- think standing locust). You can practice chair pose at wall with a yoga block or Pilates ball between your thighs, move between a very gentle back bend and neutral spine; squeeze the block while mobilizing your outer thighs, not just groins. Additionally, do stretch the deep back line of fascia (connective tissue), particularly your calves and hamstrings.
2. Leg cramps – Practice stretching as well as inverting the legs (like putting your legs up the wall or on the arms of your couch so you aren’t weight bearing on them). Some gentle movement like walking also helps.
3. Nausea/Dizziness – Unlike above, avoid inversions. Practice reclined hero pose (propping your hips up on yoga blocks or blankets if needed), or reclined bound angle with blocks under your thighs.
4. Tight Skin – Practice lightly oiling the skin and making gentle strokes on your skin toward your heart. can also find a quiet place to practice some sounding exercises hum the sound of a lower case “e” to yourself and enjoy the vibration.
5. Swelling – Again trying practicing inversions of the legs, you can also use ice packs on your ankles. Ask a seasoned practitioner Ayurvedic practitioner who has can read your organs first about burdock root and if it might be of help to you.
6. Constipation – While we often think of constipation as dietary related, it can also be due to stress – so try to keep yourself as calm and regulated as possible. You can try some restorative yoga, squatting (which also helps prep for labor) and very gentle open twists. For example, sit cross legged on the floor and place your hand on an exercise ball. Gently roll the ball left and right to feel some gentle twisting in your trunk.
7. Fatigue – Be sure you are eating plenty of nutrients, and taking time to slow down and enjoy your food. Try gentle walking and restorative or therapeutic yoga.
8. Sacrotuberous ligament – There is a lot of talk around squatting and opening the hips while pregnant to ease birth, but if you are feeling pelvic pain you might need to do the opposite by keeping your legs in neutral rather than keeping them extra wide. Try hero pose with your legs in neutral (not internally or externally rotated), under your legs and between your knees and thighs as much as you need so there’s no pain the pose. As I mentioned above, I also like to sit up on a yoga block in hero pose.
9. Fear/Anxiety – Of course talk to a
“As a Certified Yoga Therapist, I have seen a few women who feel fantastic during their pregnancy, and also – as in any transition period – there can be some surprises.”
perinatal provider (checkout Kindred Connection or Postpartum Support International if you can’t find one). You can also practice grounding postures and breath techniques. Try this on: take a big inhale and picture it going down through the crown of your head, and exhaling it out the soles of your feet. Repeat for a minute or more. Also try sitting on the floor, and some self-foot massage – you can of course make your partner rub your feet too. Light body oiling might also
be the self-love touch that you need.
10. SI Joint – SI joints are those little dimples in your low back. Often we start hiking one hip or the other up while we are sitting or standing. Practice leveling the pelvis and leveling the hips so right isn’t higher or lower than left. If you want to add more on, try standing up (mountain pose) with levels hips and squeezing a yoga block or Pilates ball between your thighs. You can also try some
goddess squats in this position or belting your hips with a maternity band or yoga belt.
Need a little more one-on-one attention or someone to really get into the ins and out of these poses with you? Visit PenfieldYogaTherapy.com to schedule a free phone consultation.
A TRANSFORMATION JOURNEY
BY CHRISTINE PIACENTINO
WITH SHAPE RECLAIMED
A few months ago, I found myself facing a challenging period after a fall that left me with sprained ligaments in both my right knee and wrist. Thankfully, there were no fractures, but the impact on my mobility was significant. Climbing stairs became a painful ordeal, and as I navigated this struggle, I noticed some unwanted weight gain. Stepping on the scale during a doctor’s visit was a wake-up call I didn’t want but desperately needed. On top of it all, my sleep quality took a nosedive, and I felt perpetually lethargic. In my quest for better rest, I turned to wine more often than I should have, thinking it might help; however, it only led to a cycle of self-medication that was unfulfilling at best. Determined to turn things around naturally, I dove into research, seeking a homeopathic solution that would work for me. When I discovered Shape Reclaimed (https://shapereclaimed.com), a weight management program developed by Dr. Todd and Linda Frisch, it felt like a ray of hope in my journey. This program, focusing on sustainable weight loss through dietary changes, lifestyle adjustments, and specific supplements, all while considering the unique metabolic needs of participants, seemed like the answer I had been searching for. Under the guidance of Dr. Kelly Lisciandro ( https://www.drkellyalisciandrodo.com), I embraced the Shape Reclaimed journey. Here are some key objectives that excited me about this program:
1. **Weight Loss and Body Composition Improvement**: This program is tailored for anyone looking to lose weight and boost their body composition by cleansing
and balancing hormones.
2. **Detoxification and Cellular Healing**: It promotes detoxifying the liver and digestive systems, eliminating toxins, and encouraging cellular regeneration.
3. **Sustainable Lifestyle Changes**: The focus is on long-lasting changes, teaching balanced meals and mindful habits that extend well beyond the program.
4. **Increased Energy Levels**: Many participants report a surge in energy levels as their bodies detox and nourish themselves, leading to better sleep and digestion.
5. **Hormonal Balance**: The program aims to reset hormones, such as insulin and cortisol, which help reduce cravings and effectively manage stress.
6. **Improved Mental Clarity and Focus**: Participants often enjoy sharper focus and enhanced cognitive function with better nutrition and lifestyle.
7. **Support for Emotional and Psychological Health**: The program emphasizes the importance of mental well-being, providing coaching and community support for holistic healing.
8. **Better Sleep Quality**: Many of us could use a little help in this area, and participants report better quality sleep thanks to diet and lifestyle changes.
9. **Reduction of Inflammation**: By introducing anti-inflammatory foods and stress management techniques,
inflammation linked to various health concerns is significantly reduced.
10. **Personalized Coaching and Accountability**: Dr. Todd, Linda Frisch, and their team offer tailored support to keep everyone motivated and accountable.
11. **Improved Digestive Health**: The program’s nutritional strategies are designed to optimize gut function, enhancing nutrient absorption and reducing discomfort.
14. **Reduced Risk of Chronic Diseases**: By encouraging healthy habits and addressing lifestyle factors, the program helps lower the risk of chronic illnesses like heart disease and type 2 diabetes.
One of the most comforting aspects of the program is the sense of community it fosters. Sharing experiences and supporting each other have been significant parts of my journey, and I believe they can be sources of strength for anyone embarking on a similar path.
One of the unexpected Joys of this journey has been the opportunity to learn more about nutrition and selfcare. This newfound knowledge has empowered me to make informed health decisions, and I believe it can do the same for others.
However, this journey was not without its challenges. There were times when I struggled with cravings and the discipline required to stick to the program. However, with the support of the community and the guidance of the program, I was able
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few months ago, I found myself facing a challenging period after a fall that left me with sprained ligaments in
both my right knee and wrist.”
e required to stick to the program. However, with the support of the community and the guidance of the program, I was able to overcome these hurdles and stay on track. This is a complete lifestyle change for me. My husband cooked; I don’t consider myself a foodie. Food for me was a necessity. For most of my career, I worked at companies with cafeterias, and I could never decide what I wanted to eat, so I usually ordered the same thing as the person in front of me. Unless, of course, their order didn’t quite tantalize my taste buds.
This program forces me to try new things and look at food differently. My husband can whip things together and make a meal; I must follow a recipe. Sometimes, my family will eat what I make; other times, they won’t. One recipe that surprised my whole family the most is Chicken Crust Pizza. I love pizza on Fridays and hard cheeses. On this program, I can’t eat regular cheese. Everything is made with either goat cheese, cottage, or Greek yogurt. However, goat cheese can be made into cheddar, mozzarella, and Feta. I’ve included the recipe for Chicken Crust Pizza below. It’s delicious!
I embarked on this transformative journey on January 31, 2025, and as of March 5, 2025, I’m thrilled to share that I’ve lost 8 pounds in just 33 days! I feel lighter, more energetic, and ready to embrace the changes. Stay tuned for next month. Of course, I’ll share how I’m progressing, but I’ll also share some recipes.
I used some shortcuts for this recipe. My husband makes his sauce, so I used his tomato sauce because he doesn’t add sugar to his recipe. I used toppings my family likes, such as Baby Bella mushrooms, red peppers, and spinach. I used mozzarella goat cheese for the cheese. It takes a little longer to melt, but we couldn’t taste the difference.
Chicken Crust Pizza
Ingredients
Crust
• 1 lb-16oz Ground Chicken
• 1 tsp salt
• 1 tsp of pepper
• 1 tsp garlic
• 1 tsp parsley
• 1 tsp onion powder
Pizza Sauce
• 1 large yellow onion thinly sliced
• ½ red bell pepper, thinly sliced
• 2 Tbsp. olive oil or avocado oil for pan
• 4 cloves garlic, minced
• ¼ tsp. salt
• 12 oz Tomato sauce
• ¼ cup balsamic vinegar
• Sauté onion, pepper & garlic, then add in tomato sauce and vinegar salt to taste
• Either transfer to a blender or use an immersion blender in a pot.
Toppings of Choice
• Goat Cheese Mozzarella
• Mushrooms
• Green peppers
• Onion
• Pepperoncini peppers
• Basil
Instructions
1. Instructions
2. Mix ground chicken, salt, pepper, garlic, parsley, and onion powder in a large bowl.
3. Press the chicken mix into an 8-inch pizza pan. Cover with plastic wrap and press again or use a rolling pin to make the chicken as flat and even as possible. Remove the plastic wrap.
4. Bake the chicken crust in a 400-degree F oven for 20 minutes; the chicken crust will begin to brown.
5. Remove from the oven and spread pizza sauce over the chicken crust, leaving a 1/4 inch gap around the edges.
6. Distribute toppings on top of the sauce.
7. Return the pizza to the oven for another 5 minutes. Remove and sprinkle with nutritional yeast; serve while hot!
Notes
The recipe was shared by Chale’ Masters and downloaded from the Shape Reclaim Website.
SPRING INTO A FRESH START
BY LORI BRUTON
I have a confession to make. I didn’t feel like writing this article.
Not because I don’t love writing—I do. Not because I don’t have something to say—I always do. But because, in this moment, I feel stuck and in a slump. Questioning whether my words even matter. Have you ever felt that way?
The
Lies We Tell Ourselves
Here’s the thing about feeling stuck—it doesn’t just stop our actions; it warps our thoughts. We start believing lies like:
• It’s all been said before, so why bother?
• Nothing I do will make a difference.
• I don’t have what it takes.
• It’s too late.
Lies. Every single one.
I know this because I’ve been here before. And I know that getting unstuck isn’t about waiting for inspiration to strike. It’s about taking action anyway. It’s about standing up, even when we don’t feel like it, and moving one step forward—then another, and another—until we look back and realize we’re not stuck at all.
1. Speak the Truth Out Loud
If you’ve read The LORI Factor, you know that words have power. When my mind is a battlefield of doubt, I speak truth out loud:
“My voice matters.”
“Someone needs to hear what I have to say.”
“I am not stuck; I am in motion.”
Spring
Is Your Reminder to Begin Again
Spring isn’t just a change in season; it’s a shift in perspective.
The cold, dark days of winter can feel endless, just like seasons of stress, loss, or doubt. When you’re in the middle of a struggle, it can feel like it will last forever. But the beauty of spring is that it always comes back to life. Spring is nature’s way of reminding us that we, too, can start fresh. If you’ve felt stuck, uninspired, or weighed down by the heaviness of life, consider this your invitation to shift, to shake off the old, to step into something new.
Try it. Say it out loud right now. It’s amazing how speaking truth can shift the energy inside of us.
Maybe you don’t feel ready. Maybe you don’t feel like you have the energy, the confidence, or the perfect plan. But growth doesn’t require perfection—just a willingness to take the next step.
How to Put a Spring in Your Step
So, what do we do when life feels redundant, uninspiring, or just plain hard? Here’s what I’m reminding myself of today—and maybe it’ll help you, too.
Maybe you’ve hit a wall in your career, your health, or your relationships. Maybe you’re staring at a long to-do list with zero motivation. Maybe, like me, you’re wondering if the world really needs another voice talking about mindset, transformation, and breakthroughs. And then, I remembered something… each voice is unique and each voice matters— mine and yours.
I know what it’s like to feel stuck in a season that never seems to end. I’ve faced moments of deep discouragement, where I doubted if I could ever move forward. Times when I felt buried in self-sabotage and fear. I realized I wasn’t buried—I was being planted.
Just like a seed pushes through the soil toward the light, you can too. If nature doesn’t question whether it’s time to grow, why do we?
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“Spring cleaning isn’t just for your home—it’s for your mind, too. Let go of the thoughts that keep you stuck.”
Here are some simple, powerful ways to shake off the old and step into the new:
1. Clear Out the Mental Clutter
Spring cleaning isn’t just for your home— it’s for your mind, too. Let go of the thoughts that keep you stuck. Have you ever noticed how easy it is to talk yourself out of things?
“I’ll do it later.”
“I don’t know enough yet.”
“What if I fail?”
Those thoughts do not empower you. They are mental clutter. Sweep away those old beliefs. Replace them with truths that empower you:
“I am capable.”
“I am unique and my voice is heard.”
“I am worthy of success and happiness.”
2. Get Outside
Winter makes some of us want to hide away. Spring calls us outside into the fresh air. Open the windows, take a walk, dance in your kitchen. Movement creates momentum.
I recently discovered how much my mood shifts just by stepping outside. Feeling the warmth of the sun, hearing birds sing, and breathing fresh air reminds me that life is happening all around me.
3. Plant Something New
Spring is about new beginnings. Maybe it’s time to start that project, write that book, launch that dream. What’s one small action you can take today?
Have you ever hesitated to start something
new because you felt like you weren’t “ready”? I get it. I’ve been there. But waiting for the perfect moment only delays growth. Think of a garden. When you plant a seed, you don’t expect it to bloom overnight. You trust the process. You water it, nurture it, and give it sunlight. Your dreams work the same way.
You’re Allowed to Begin Again
Maybe you’re dealing with self-doubt, procrastination, or fear. Let me remind you: You don’t have to wait for readiness— you just have to start. I’ve had to remind myself of this, too. There have been seasons where I felt stuck in self-doubt, fear, and exhaustion. But we don’t have to stay where we are.
