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Proverbs 31:25-31 (NLT)

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She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.

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When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.

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She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.

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Her children stand and bless her.

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“There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!”

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Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.

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Reward her for all she has done.

Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

Happy Mother's Day!!

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on the cover: Elder Deborah Dennis Ericka Johnson Kellie Finch Tiffany Bethea

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pgs 8-15 This month we are spotlighting and celebrating Mothers who are raising black sons. Parenting for African American mothers is unique and shaped by the social and racial contexts in which they live.

African American mothers experience and are affected by the public and violent losses of black boys and men that resonate within the Black community. We asked four Mothers to share with us their thoughts and experiences raising their black sons in America.

Healthy Soul 26 JOY BRINGER

30 MONTHLY MANNA

Season Bowers

Min. Carenda Deonne

Enjoy The Promise

The Power of Detoxing Emotionally

28 A WOMAN’S PERSPECTIVE Pastor Rhoda Turner

A Mother’s Love

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34 TRINKETS TO TRIUMPH Elder Tracey George

A Moment With Mom

Healthy Mind

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22 TO YOUR GOOD HEALTH

40 GOSPEL & ENTERTAINMENT NEWS Ericka J.

Dr. Carla J. Debnam

Mental Health is Wealth

Healthy Life

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DR. CARLA DEBNAM Dr. Carla J. Debnam is the wife of Bishop Dwayne C. Debnam and an associate minister of Morning Star Baptist Church, Woodlawn, MD. She is a National Certified Counselor (NCC) and Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) in Maryland.

She is a member of the American Counseling Association, the American Association of Christian Counselors and Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Dr. Debnam has contributed to two books, Those Sisters Can Preach: 22 Pearls of Wisdom, Virtue & Hope, and 7 Ingredients To An Effective Prayer Life Series, Vol.3-5.

ELDER TRACEY GEORGE Tracey Nicole George is an ordained elder. She is a native New Yorker residing in Maryland and married to Danny George. Tracey works with her husband managing their inventory and asset control company, George Imaging. She is the creator of Trinkets to Triumph, a Biblically-based blog and ministry, designed to edify and encourage individuals with a “trinket” of encouragement. She is a member of New Destiny Evangelistic Church.

MIN. CARENDA DEONNE Min. Carenda was born and raised in Baltimore, MD. She received her BA degree from the Fashion Institute of Technology and is currently pursuing a Master's in Law degree from Regent University. Min. Carenda was licensed to preach in 2007 and has been teaching, preaching, and declaring God's word through the power of love ever since. Min. Carenda is also an author of three books. Her latest book, Perfect Patty Messed Up, is a 40 day devotional that confronts the disorder of perfectionism and opens the door to self forgiveness and restoration.

DR. DENYCE WATTIES-DANIELS Dr. Denyce Watties-Daniels has over 25 years of experience as a clinician and nurse educator. Her areas of expertise include critical care nursing, pathophysiology, pharmacology and the use of technology in the classroom. She currently serves as faculty and the Director of the Simulation and Learning Resource Centers of the College of Health Professions at Coppin State University.

PASTOR RHODA TURNER Rhoda possesses a spirit of humility. Her ministry style is graceful, her message is powerful and her presence is comforting. Being the 9th of 10 children, Rhoda has a deep passion for family and the wholistic development of children. She is considered by many as a mentor and mother figure.

Rhoda and her husband Pastor Jason Turner, serve as senior pastors of Christian Faith Fellowship Church in Chandler, AZ. SEASON BOWERS Season Bowers- is a Pastor, radio host, and Joy bringer! After spending over 20 years as a professional actor on stage, the Lord called her into full-time ministry. Season is passionate about releasing freedom and joy to the Glory of God in every way she can everywhere she goes.

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The G.O.A.T. "Mothers"

“Mothers love with all their strength, all their being, and all their hearts, and with that love they perform magic when called upon, move mountains when necessary, and give the moon and stars whenever possible.”

Mother’s Day is one of the most celebrated holidays in the world. Who is this woman that we go out of our way to celebrate with such grandeur? All over the world, people will be busy shopping for this woman trying to find that one special thing that will express their love for her. Who is this woman that Hallmark goes above and beyond to describe?

Who is this woman that songs and books are written about her? Poems will be read in church about her. Little children will proudly show off their ‘Crayola’ creations for this woman. Who is she? We call her Mother!

There are countless ways to describe this woman. Her ability to love unconditionally. Her protective nature to keep her children from all hurt, harm and danger. She is a nurturer; she makes sure her children’s physical and spiritual needs are met. She is also her children’s first teacher, developing their minds to survive in the world.

There are many attributes of this woman we call Mother.

She is our refuge, our ‘way-maker’, our best friend. She keeps all of our heart’s desires and dreams close to her heart.

Perhaps the most important attribute of this woman is her praying spirit.

Her prayers cover her children when they are

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near and far. A mother’s love is the most powerful love we experience in life.

When God created this woman, He knew that she would be an extension of Himself. The attributes of our mothers are strikingly similar to the attributes of our Heavenly Father.

As we celebrate, honor and remember our mothers, let us Praise God for His wonderful creation!

As you enjoy spending time with your mother this Mother’s Day, remember to lift in prayer those whose heads are bowed down because their mothers have now gone to be with the Lord, and we pray for those mothers who may be mourning the loss of a child.

“Earth has no sorrow that heaven cannot heal.”

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Raising Black Sons in America My Three Sons- Elder Deborah Dennis First, I would like to say, “thank you” for this opportunity to publicly share a little bit about me and “My Three Sons” – black, living in a white world.

(1968-1970’s) My family started with one baby. We lived in the ghetto, because that’s all we could afford at the time. When my sons were little boys, I would give them cards and gifts and would always refer to them as sons who are blessed just like the 3 Caucasian brothers on the show: “My Three Sons”. I would even copy their logo and include it with the gifts.

Race relations were not an issue at the time, because we lived in an “all black”, low-income neighborhood. However, as I reflect on it, I think I was proud to have personally experienced the freedom of happiness as a child living in an all-black neighborhood in Baltimore City and assumed it would be the same for my family.

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My first born: Reg is resourceful, creative, very affectionate, and a bold and inference fighter for what he believes is right and/or justifiable.

He’s very creative, very smart, and is willing to take the dangerous and/ or hard route if the end-product of that process means great success!

My middle son: Greg is a visionary for his family, home and ministry. He’s always thinking and praying about ways to improve himself, his family and his ministry. Greg sees the end-product, and forcibly works towards it even when those closest to him does not clearly understand. He sets goals for himself and his family and develops strategic plans to achieve the same.

My youngest son: Darien, who many refer to as “baby boy”, is full of warmth, love, and very considerate of others. He cheers for and encourages the “underdog”, and loves order in his home-life, health, and church-life. He did not experience life in the black ghetto.

Q&A The strange thing about “black, living in a white world” is: not every black boy had (or is) experiencing the brutal reality of race relations.

My boys did not experience such until they became older. I think this is because everything we did – (school, work, home, and worship) was inter-racial to a certain degree. My sons had friends of other ethnicities.

It was in the early 1970’s when we moved from our 1st floor apartment with two little boys on West Garrison Avenue in the Park Heights area of Baltimore to the somewhat better areas of Baltimore. There was definitely black-on-black crime going on in the area at that time, and I (and my whole family – aunts, uncles, fathers and mothers) had to warn them about what to do and what not to do. However, it wasn’t as bad as it is now. They were not killing each other! They were robbing each other.

It was while living in Virginia, that I had to school my boys about race relations. They weren’t even teenagers yet and they were teased about the texture of their hair. (I believe many of us at one time, wanted our hair to be straight instead of curly or kinky). This was because of the pressure of society – that you weren’t as good as or as good-looking as, if your hair wasn’t like theirs.

At the time when we moved from Virginia to Anne Arundel County, Maryland we started to experience the fault in our society in race relations. It wasn’t blatant, but belittling. It was obvious to the victim, and subverting.

And it appeared to us that the offender had the need to victimize others in order to meet the requirement (or the emotional need) of who she/he supposedly was – one of superiority.

I would always defend my boys when they were accused of doing something wrong, when actually the wrong was done by someone of another race.

Note: I was laughing along with my white co-workers, who laughed as loud as, or louder than me. His statement was, “You will not work in this office and act like a monkey.” I will never forget that! I was smart enough to file a grievance and eventually, he was removed from that position.

Each of my sons are grown men with their own families. However, I pray for their safety on a daily basis – several times a day. I am a mother who is very concerned for my sons and grandsons. In today’s society, our black men who perform very well on their jobs are often overlooked for promotions. Or they are promoted in order for the company to meet the Equal Employment Opportunity Regulations.

Many are not recognized nor celebrated for their worth and are detained in positions lower than their worth.

Currently, I fear for our black men and pray for them. I pray for their parents that they will provide the correct guidance to their sons so that they will not be another statistic – a young black man killed unnecessarily.

We must love our black men and give back to them the love and parental attention they didn’t get. We must let them know their worth. We must always love on them and encourage them and help them in any way we can.

Personally (and no one else must do this), I am always prepared to give to my squeegee sons. They call me momma.

I know many in my family and others prefer that I not do that, but if we don’t help them, who will? I help from the capacity that I am able to, and I do it safely! Obviously, the current system in our society has developed inadequate procedures and resources to help. And their parents are unable to help and guide them in the right path. So, someone has to help them! Not out of fear, but out of love and compassion.

Elder Deborah Dennis Yes, I have three adult sons and 10 Example: I had to literally teach my grandchildren (5 boys and 5 girls). I want sons how to avoid getting in trouble. My each of them to live a full, healthy, wealthy, and safe life. I desire that husband and I were doing very well financially, and we had nice cars.

My eldest son, (a teenager at the time) who had a legal driver’s license, they love and respect God first, and also their families, themselves, and along with his brother, cousin, and a friend were pulled over by a white others. cop for absolutely no reason. They responded respectfully. The cop The only way that this desire can become a reality is if we, as parents had a problem with the type of luxury car they were driving and asked train our children, respect them, identify their purpose and destiny and what kind of job their father had. (Which had absolutely nothing to do help them to achieve it. Let’s pour greatness into our children. Let’s with the event). Even though he let them go, it was evident to me that encourage them and stop belittling them. Let’s warn them of the traps I had to have “the talk” with my sons. of the enemy of their purpose. Let’s share our stories of mistakes and sins and failures, so that they won’t repeat them.

My husband and I had already experienced from our co-workers, the ignorance of bigotry while living in Virginia and in Maryland.

Finally, let’s pray hard for them, support them, and even let them know when they’re wrong or headed in the wrong direction.

My personal experience: I had a job with the federal government and my caucasian branch chief called me into his office to rebuke me about THIS IS FAMILY LOVE!! laughing too loudly.

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Ericka Johnson is a TV host, Radio host, Journalist, Concert Organizer/Promoter, Branding & Marketing advisor, Interior designer, daughter of two Pastors (deceased), and a Proud Boy Mom! She is grateful and blessed for multiple gifts and talents that she has been able to use to build the kingdom of God in addition to the corporate and secular world. Marketplace ministry is her joy, passion, and calling. ♦♦♦ G&G: Welcome to Grace & Glory, we are delighted to have you join in this conversation. Let’s start with you introducing us to your son and telling us a little bit about him? How would you describe him in three words?

Ericka: This is my son Taj affectionately known as “The Prince” since he entered the world, my mom the late Pastor Sandy Johnson called him that and it has stuck for 24 years, especially because she opened all her sermons with him, her one and only! He is a football lover, a gamer, he loves to work with his hands and currently works as a mechanic and works in auto parts. Describing him in 3 words: Loving, Affectionate, Gentle Giant.

a bad feeling about someone or something trust that and make that detour; we keep each other’s locations on our phones at all times (in case Momma gotta pull up)! He tells me all the time “Mommy, you worry too much!” I don’t care!

I still support and push him to pursue his dreams and goals in spite of the current state of society, let’s beat the odds and statistics of the world, there is a calling and destiny on your life and I pray daily for the covering power over his life!

G&G: Have you had that infamous talk with your son about the dos and don’ts for Black boys/men? Is it a difficult conversation to have; how did your son respond?

Ericka: As aforementioned in my previous response, he definitely knows the protocol, it’s quite sad that we even have to do this, but it’s absolutely necessary, he’s in compliance.

G&G: Parenting and raising children should be a wonderful, joyful experience; but it is not always that way for African American mothers, particularly mothers of black sons. Do you have fears for your son growing up as a Black man today? How do you feel about the incidents and the injustices reported by the media involving young African American men?

Ericka: It is extremely hard, and not because our kids do anything wrong, or are a threat to anyone, but culturally the climate that we live in, and the injustices have put us as mothers on edge, because our black men are a target. No matter how well mannered, wholesome and well raised they are, they still run the risk of falling victim to racial intimidation, police brutality, as well as victims of genocide via our own kind.

I have in addition taken on the shared responsibility of raising a newborn who is now one year old and I’m more fearful for him due to this growing unsavory handling of our black men and boys but again, we pray, cover, and keep them before God.

G&G: It would be understandable to be overprotective and find it difficult to watch your son walk out the door; how do you cope when your son is away from you? Are you concerned that being overprotective might affect your son’s well-being and social life, even when his safety might outweigh that concern?

Ericka: Honestly, all we can do as mothers is stay in the face of God as we raise these KINGS! I can’t deny even with prayer and covering it’s still hard. That’s why I find myself just texting, calling, or Face Timing him during the course of the day, just because!

Nope, I do understand those boundaries have to be taken into consideration as well, but I also look at the fact that, for me, I’m going to do what it takes to protect mine.

G&G: I think it is safe to say we want our children to grow up whole, happy and safe. How do you explain to your son the possible dangers he may face as a Black boy/man in life and still encourage him to have dreams and aspirations without causing him to be fearful in society?

Ericka: We have conversations all the time, with not just him but his friends he hangs around as well, while he is very streamline in his activities, he is only going to be one of a few places for the most part. I make it a point to tell him trust his discernment, if you have

G&G: Lastly, based on your experiences as an African American mother raising a Black son, is there anything you would like to say to other mothers of young Black men?

Ericka: Pray daily not just for our sons, but African American sons as a whole, have any safety and culture conversations that are necessary, and definitely listen to what they have to say or think when we hear and see certain circumstances take place; that will allow you to understand where they are, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually so you can guide and direct them and teach them how to deal with those things as life continues to happen.

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Kellie Finch is a wedding and lifestyle Photographer and videographer based in Baltimore Maryland. She has been in business for over 15 years and is a proud entrepreneur and business owner. Kellie has been afforded to travel and share her gift with the world serving many, from fellow entrepreneurs to celebrities. Serving is her passion and helping people look and feel their best is her ministry. Grace & Glory Magazine had the opportunity to talk with Kellie Finch a mother raising her Black son in America. www.kfinchphotography.com

♦♦♦ G&G: Welcome to Grace & Glory, we are delighted to have you join in this conversation. Let’s start with you introducing us to your son and telling us a little bit about him? How would you describe him in three words?

Kellie: I Thank you for having me! My son is Kayden, he’s 13.

He is my joy! Three words that describe Kayden would be, Loving, Creative and Strong-minded!

G&G: Parenting and raising children should be a wonderful, joyful experience; but it is not always that way for African American mothers, particularly mothers of black sons. Do you have fears for your son growing up as a Black man today?

How do you feel about the incidents and the injustices reported by the media involving young African American men?

Kellie: I say this all the time, having a child is not the hardest part of parenting, it’s raising them. This world can be so cruel to people who look like my son. If it weren’t for my faith, I’m almost certain that I would be anxiety ridden every time my son walks out of the door. I believe that our children belong to the Lord, and He just lets us borrow them. So that being said, I lean into that. I remind myself that God sees everything, and He will protect Kayden when and where I physically cannot.

Now that my son is a teen, I am constantly reminding him of the injustices happening and how the world may view him. Also, how important it is for him to show up in the world in a way that doesn’t misconstrue who he desires to be.

Integrity, honor and character. These are our current focal points.

I feel like most days I’m preaching to him and I’m not sure that he’s getting it until I hear his teachers or other outsiders tell me how much of a joy he is (insert big sigh of relief).

G&G: I think it is safe to say we want our children to grow up whole, happy and safe. How do you explain to your son the possible dangers he may face as a Black boy/man in life and still encourage him to have dreams and aspirations without causing him to be fearful in society?

Kellie: Honesty is the best option here. I am always honest with my son about what’s going on in the world and it’s good to know that he’s open to this type of dialogue.

G&G: Have you had that infamous talk with your son about the dos and don’ts for Black boys/men? Is it a difficult conversation to have; how did your son respond?

Kellie: While it is not easy to digest sometimes, he understands my antics with this kind of conversation, “never walk into a store with your hood on”, “keep your hands in plain sight”, “remember to say ‘yes ma’am or no sir’ to adults”. It can be uncomfortable having these mini pep talks but it’s necessary given the climate we live in.

G&G: It would be understandable to be overprotective and find it difficult to watch your son walk out the door; how do you cope when your son is away from you? Are you concerned that being overprotective might affect your son’s well-being and social life, even when his safety might outweigh that concern?

Kellie: Honestly, I am very overprotective of my son. That’s something I’m currently working on.

Living in fear can be crippling. I’m learning to loosen up a bit and I’m sure Kayden appreciates that. We do have measures in place that allows me to supervise virtually at all times but still gives him a bit more freedom.

G&G: Lastly, based on your experiences as an African American mother raising a Black son, is there anything you would like to say to other mothers of young Black men?

Kellie: Pray and lean on your village. That is my advice. Prayer has eased my anxiety and calmed my fears. It’s the only thing I lean on in the moments when I feel fearful. My village of family and close friends help me look after and guide my son when I need the extra push. ♦♦♦ Credits: Photography: RJ Paulk Peculiar Images www.peculiarimages.com Styling: Sam Smith New Vintage by Sam Makeup: Ciara Hall Hair: Arielle Johnson Grace&Glory 13

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Raising Black Sons in America - Tiffany Bethea

Tiffany Bethea is an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, worship leader, singer, and songwriter. Tiffany has shared the stage with incredible artists such as Marvin Sapp, Tye Tribbett, Yolanda Adams, Crystal Aikin, and William Murphy to name a few. With the release of her debut album "Higher", Tiffany is bringing a fresh new raw sound to gospel music. Through her music ministry and her speaking, she is on a mission to help this generation of believers strengthen their identity in Christ. Grace & Glory Magazine had the opportunity to talk with Tiffany Bethea, a mother raising a Black son in America.

G&G: Welcome to Grace & Glory, we are delighted to have you join in this conversation. Let’s start with you introducing us to your son and telling us a little bit about him? How would you describe him in three words?

Tiffany: My son Jordan is 12 and he’s in the 6th grade. He’s into gaming (especially Fortnite), animation and creating videos and solving Rubik’s cubes. He is thoughtful, funny and very ambitious.

G&G: Parenting and raising children should be a wonderful, joyful experience; but it is not always that way for African American mothers, particularly mothers of black sons. Do you have fears for your son growing up as a black man today? How do you feel about the incidents and the injustices reported by the media involving young African American men?

Tiffany: Raising a son is definitely one of my greatest joys. I love watching Jordan grow and evolve, it’s amazing to watch.

It is difficult though considering the world he is growing up in. I definitely have fears for how he will be viewed and perceived as a black. He is at an age where we are having to have very honest and challenging conversations about race in America. Now as incidents and injustices are reported, I take time to speak with him to see how he’s processing and maybe internalizing it. It’s super important for me to create space for him to gain understanding and express how he feels. I also balance the narrative by showing him positive accomplishments of black men that the media may not show.

It’s important for him to not to limit himself based off of what the media portrays.

G&G: I think it is safe to say we want our children to grow up whole, happy and safe. How do you explain to your son the possible dangers he may face as a Black boy/man in life and still encourage him to have dreams and aspirations without causing him to be fearful in society?

Tiffany: Jordan got really into Martin Luther King at age 6, so it opened up a conversation about racial injustice pretty early. He was aware that MLK had been assassinated so he was pretty aware, honestly before I was even ready. But since then, we’ve always been really honest with each other whenever we watch tv or see things happen. He hasn’t really

developed much fear because of what he sees so it has made it easier to encourage him. I remember after George Floyd trying to prepare myself for how to address it with him. I do think his dad, my father and brother are huge influences that help shape this for him as well.

G&G: Have you had that infamous talk with your son about the dos and don’ts for Black boys/men? Is it a difficult conversation to have; how did your son respond?

Tiffany: We are really beginning to have those conversations on another level now. Even though his dad and I are not still married, we definitely partner here quite a bit. Especially since his dad is his first example of manhood. There are some conversations I let him take the lead on and this is one of them.

G&G: It would be understandable to be overprotective and find it difficult to watch your son walk out the door; how do you cope when your son is away from you? Are you concerned that being overprotective might affect your son’s well-being and social life, even when his safety might outweigh that concern?

Tiffany: Luckily my son isn’t at the age yet where he spends much time away from me or some authority figure. So right now, I know he’s always being watched and covered.

But I know it won’t always be that way. To be honest I am nervous and I’m not sure how I’m going to handle it. I would imagine I probably will be a little overprotective initially. But ultimately, I’m going to have to relax and trust.

G&G: Lastly, based on your experiences as an African American mother raising a Black son, is there anything you would like to say to other mothers of young Black men?

Tiffany: One thing I would say is that as mothers of young black men we must create a safe space to express themselves.

Society will make them thing it’s not ok but we must teach them how to navigate their emotional landscape so they will not default to anger. They are not any less emotional than our daughters and they need and deserve an opportunity to share what they are thinking and feeling without judgement.

Especially as they are figuring out becoming a man and a black man with all of its complexities.

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Founder, Renaissance Christian Counseling Center

to your good health

Mental Health is Wealth Mental health month is a time we focus on what it means to have good mental health and opening a dialogue for those struggling with a mental illness. Mental health has also gotten a lot more attention these past few years due to the rise in youth suicides, the covid-19 pandemic and as celebrities and athletes opened up about their struggles. This is good news since one in five people will be diagnosed with a mental illness over the course of their lives. The severity of the disorder may range from severe to mild, from no impairment to severely impaired. Most disorders are on a continuum and treatment varies as a result of the differences. Treatment has evolved over the years and includes holistic practices such as yoga, exercise, music, drama, dance and art therapy. The variety of potential treatment methods helps reach more persons especially those that respond well to conventional talk therapy and medications.

We have seen the Christian community embrace therapy, treatment and support groups as a mean of healing the broken and wounded within our churches. There have been a few cases where pastors have been suicidal due to burnout and the non-stop schedules they were expected to keep. Pastor’s families often suffered too, resulting in dysfunctions and divorce when the issues became overwhelming. Taking time to be refreshed is often overlooked by the church but we are slowly getting back into the rhythm of rest God put in place by observing the sabbath.

Rest, healthy eating, exercise, sleep, connecting with nature, pets and people are all good for our mental well-being. Attending worship services, serving in the community and supporting your

favorite team, charity or restaurant is good for you as well. Over these past few years, stress, anxiety and depression have increased not only due to the pandemic but the racial trauma, inequities, community violence, family drama, economic woes, caregiving and other challenging life experiences. Grief, unemployment, health disparities and heightened health awareness have taken their toll. Therefore, the mental health conversation is almost a daily one and is being discussed in boardrooms, financial institutions, schools, workplaces and yes, even the church. We all see how good mental health is a major part of what it means to be healthy.

As Christians we too have guidance for staying mentally healthy. We are encouraged to be transformed by the renewing of our minds in Romans 12:2. The spiritual disciplines of prayer, meditation, and silence can help us refocus.

Fellowship with others gives us the human connection we all need. One of the greatest challenges the last few years was the lack of social connections which lead to loneliness and depression. Being together has helped us heal and encouraged us in many ways we did not realize we needed until having to be isolated due to the pandemic. God has promised to keep us in perfect peace as we focus on him. Mental health is wealth. We can start strengthening ours by being honest about our hurts, addressing anything that keeps us in a cycle of negativity and evaluate our circle of friends. These will all help towards the goal of being mentally fit and building a healthy and whole mindset.

Dr. Carla Debnam, Founder, Renaissance Christian Counseling Center

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ENJOY THE PROMISE I became an insta-mom to three daughters (6, 8, and 10) when I married my husband. Talk about a crash course in parenting! I learned very quickly that kids listen to what you say, and they hold you to it!

They certainly don’t let you get away with saying, “Sure, we’ll go get frozen yogurt after school” and not follow through. If we didn’t make that much anticipated stop to get their favorite treat, “You promised!” would ring out in unison from the back seat. As a parent, I want my children to trust me. I want to be true to my word, even if it means that delivering on the promise requires a waiting period.

We sing about it, read it in scripture, and hear preachers declare it - God is faithful. He is a Promise Keeper.

But there is a catch, one that isn’t talked about much. It has nothing to do with the Lord and everything to do with us. God is indeed faithful, He keeps His promises, but we must take Him at His word, and grab hold of His blessing. One of my favorite promises in scripture is Proverbs 16:23, “Those who trust the Lord will be joyful.”

The Good News was trumpeted at the birth of Jesus. He brings great joy to all people. Not just some.

Not only for those who have certain dispositions or those without a care in the world. Jesus brings joy to all. It’s up to us to receive it. Joy is a promise from the Lord and a direct result in placing our trust in Jesus. Joy has been pushed aside,

marginalized, and even dishonored.

There are some who believe joy is silly, unnecessary and even unwelcome in the life of a Christ follower. But like C.S. Lewis said, “Joy is the serious business of heaven.” It’s not a throw away fruit.

It’s listed second, right between love and peace in the well-known list of spiritual fruit in Galatians 5.

It is imperative to a life with Christ and a marker of the indwelling of the Holy Spirit.

The reason joy hasn’t been received or embraced by so many is because it is widely misunderstood. Joy is not just a feeling, although it is often deeply felt. Joy is not just bright and energetic, it can be deep, peaceful, and secure. Joy is buoyant and steady; it withstands life’s circumstances. Joy is not happiness, but they are cousins and often show up together. Joy can be present in the most painful and difficult of times. Often it is assumed that the opposite of joy is sadness or depression, but that’s not the case. The opposite of joy is fear. The Lord has given us such a powerful gift in joy, but if we don’t understand what it is we can’t fully appreciate it. I want all the Lord has for me so in order to receive this gift I found the need to attempt to define it. After a disappointing search for a definition that rang true to my experience, I offer my own, a buoyant sense of wellbeing because of the person and work of Jesus Christ, cultivated

by the power and presence of the Holy Spirit, and because of the love of the Father. And to break it down even more, joy is Jesus.

He is our joy. I often say my joy never changes because my Jesus never changes. He is present in every circumstance, and He brings freedom and victory. When you see the words, “choose joy” on a sign, mug, shirt, or bookmark, what it’s really saying is lock eyes with Jesus. Choose to place your trust in Him, and He will bring you joy.

If I take my daughters to get frozen yogurt and they load up their cups to the brim but never eat it, they aren’t getting the fullness of the promise, the one I made good on.

They can look at it, even touch it, but if they don’t eat it, they are missing out. The Lord has given us something so wonderful and powerful. The joy of the Lord is an incredible gift, and for far too long his children have not indulged.

They have treated it as the optional cherry on the top of the sundae of the gospel, when in fact it’s the banana in the banana split! There isn’t anything optional about joy. If there is no joy in the good news, it’s not the gospel! The Lord has made good on His promise, so eat up and be filled with joy!

Joyfully, Season Bowers Pastor, Author, Radio Host, Joy bringer 619-807-8509 Follow the joy at seasonbowers.com Instragram, Facebook Grace&Glory 27

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A Mother's Love

uncomfortableness were a part of the growing process.

Rhoda TURNER

When I was pregnant with my first child, I wanted to protect her from everything. I decided to childproof my house; like every other expecting mother would do. I started researching items and things that I should purchase to make my home safe. We lived in a two-story condominium, so the first thing I bought was a gate. I purchased and installed cabinet locks for the bottom cabinets in the kitchen and the bathroom cabinets.

Also, on the list were the covers that went over the doorknobs to stop her from opening doors when she started walking. I had my husband install a toilet clip that prevented her from lifting the toilet seat. I bought a cover to go over the bathtub faucet so that if she happened to lean her head back, she would not hit a hard surface but a soft one, and then outfitted the inside of the tub with mats to stop her from slipping when she stood up. I made sure we had everything that we needed, and probably stuff that we didn't need.

I was super excited about being a Mom. I started reading all the parenting books. My go to book was “What to Expect When Expecting.” It was my pregnancy guide. When I felt like something was wrong, the book reassured me that everything was going to be okay and that those aches, pains and bouts of 28 May 2022

When I was praying one day, I heard the Father ask me if I knew what it meant to be a mother? I was a little perplexed by the question. I went to the book that I had been reading and it couldn’t answer that question for me. The only answer that I could come up with was, "I’m not sure". That was the one question I couldn’t answer without going to Him. The book couldn't provide answers. My friends didn't know the answer. They could all speculate and pay me compliments like "You're going to be a great mother". Other mothers', in their experiential wisdom, could only offer me what they knew of their personal journeys. I had to ask the only One who knew the answer because He knew me.

So, in prayer I asked God what my role is as a mother, and He shared three words: love, train, and discipline. I went to the Scriptures to find confirmation and applicable verses that I could apply to my life in my new role.

Love- an intense feeling of deep affection “And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’”

Matthew 22:39 NKJV Train- to teach a person a different skill or behavior.

“Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Proverbs 22:6 NKJV Discipline- to train someone to obey rules “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him.”

Proverbs22:15 NKJV I realized that each of those words are verbs. It was something that I had to do. It wasn't just about a title or role; it was about how I actively engaged in the role. It was my participation in the assignment. I learned that for every action there is a reaction. If you do your part as a parent, they will do their part as the child.

I encourage you to partner your role with corresponding actions that will produce desirable fruit in your children.

Pastor Rhoda Turner Christian Faith Fellowship Church Chandler, AZ www.cffaz.org

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The Power of Detoxing Emotionally I recently have been traveling to several women’s events talking about the power of detoxing emotionally. One thing that I have been announcing to ladies globally is, “It’s time for us to upgrade!” It’s time to get unstuck and become unstoppable. It’s time to walk in wisdom, clarity and the fruits of the spirit. It’s also time for the principle of seed time and harvest to be consistent in our lives. However, for these blessings and more to overflow in our lives, we must detox emotionally.

Many of us have experienced several life traumas that has left us feeling hopeless, depressed, angry, lazy, complacent, and grieving. It is so important that we identify the emotions that have stemmed from such experiences in order to heal and move forward gracefully. If you have ever participated in a natural detox, it probably made you felt lighter, increased your energy, gave clarity, and eliminated any toxins that hindered your body from maximizing its created purpose. However, on the flip side, what women tell me most regarding what they didn’t like about detoxing was the PROCESS! Before you could partake in the benefits of the detox, you had to make a choice to say yes to the process.

Let me share with you my definition of detox. To detox means I am making a choice to invest in myself and stay committed to a process that yields long term benefits, even when I may feel uncomfortable temporarily. Whatever type detox you participate in always remember, it’s a choice. No detox feels good in the process, but if you hold on and hold out, you will feel, think and act in a better state of being.

The question is are you willing to be vulnerable? Are you willing to be uncomfortable for a short period of time to yield lasting benefits? Detox is not about instant gratification. Bishop T.D. Jakes says, “Process is respect.” Just like the benefits we gain from participating in a natural detox, so is it for participating

in an emotional detox! We can not upgrade if we are not willing to heal, take accountability and work on ourselves first!

Did you know that the heart is the hardest working organ in the body? Just think, if we hold onto bitterness, unforgiveness, secret envy, and hate, how much harder will our hearts have to work in order to keep us alive? Why put more pressure on your heart when its already the hardest working organ in your body? This is not the time for you to die prematurely, but it’s time for you to let go of some matters of your heart, in order to have longevity!

When I present this workshop to women, not only do they complete a personal affirmation statement, create a 30-Day Emotional Detox Regimen, and set sustainable boundaries, but I share with them how I had to detox emotionally from going through two failed marriages, failed business relationships, and the tragic loss of my baby brother, Evan Pittman. However, when I decided to TAKE AIM and throw those lemons back at life, I truly upgraded. Not only am I in a healthy and Godordained marriage, but my business is also thriving, and I am feeling the best I have ever felt in years.

As we embrace the second quarter of 2022, its time to upgrade. Its time to detox emotionally and thrive. The bible tells us in 3 John 2, “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.” The time is now to rid yourself of any emotional toxins that is holding you back! Say YES to you! Trust the process, respect the process, and detox emotionally!

Waking in the Ezra Anointing, Min. Carenda Deonne Beamon

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A Moment with Mom May is for mothers so have a moment with your mom!

Mothers and mother figures include women who birthed, been there for, or blessed someone in a motherly fashion.

Mothers are marvelous, magnificent, and mean the most to those that love them. As you celebrate Mother’s Day this month, muster up much, much love and adoration for your mom and the mother figures in your life. Mothers make a major impact on the lives of their loved ones by mentoring, molding, and making up the difference when there is a need. A mom would move a mountain to make their loved ones feel safe and secure.

Take a moment and thank your Master, Jesus Christ, for your mom.

Mothers are the first ministers you meet. Mothers not only use their time and talents to serve and minister to and for the Lord, but they also minister to their family by leading in prayer, scripture reading, and being the example of someone who serves the Lord. Mothers, along with fathers, train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6). Hannah, as she promised the Lord, even went as far as taking her son, Samuel, to

the temple to live and be raised by the priest, Eli, to ensure that he would grow up and be a man of God in service to the Lord (I Samuel 1:21-28). Most mothers are on a mission to make sure their child’s life mirrors that of the Master.

Many people can look in the mirror and see their mother staring back at them. Whether or not you look like the splitting image of your mother, you can see her morals, values, and standards she’s instilled in you through your actions and demeanor. Mothers are the masters at molding, mentoring, and making sure that you are the best version of yourself. Even though Naomi was just Ruth’s mother-in-law, think of how much of Naomi’s guidance and advice to Ruth led her to marry the family’s redeemer, Boaz, and as a result, play a key role in the lineage of Jesus Christ (Ruth 3:1-6 & Matthew 1:5). After Ruth lost her husband, she could have left Naomi and went about her business, but Ruth knew that Naomi was an amazing motherin-law and mother figure to her.

When Naomi tried to get Ruth to go about her business, Ruth didn’t want to miss a moment with her. So, she told her, “Don’t urge me to leave you or

to turn back from you. Where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.” (Ruth 1:16) Have a moment with your mom.

If your mom is no longer with you, meditate on a moment or memory that made you proud to have had precious moments with your mom. Meditate on what your mom means to you. If you are not in a good place with your mom, consider ways to mend the relationship. Even in the midst of mistakes, you can rest assured that your mom is always there for you and ready to extend mercy to you.

Mothers mean a lot to the Master too. Think of how Jesus, even in His time of agony, took the time to make sure His mother was taken care of when He was dying on the cross (John 19:2627). Have a moment with your mom. It would make her day for you to demonstrate in love how much she means to you.

Many may mislead you, but you and your mother are a match made in Heaven until eternity that together can conquer any situation or circumstance in Jesus’s name and power. This month, make a million moments with your mom!

Elder Tracey Nicole George www.traceystrinketstotriumph.com

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It's Mother's Day:

The Importance of Prenatal Care It's Mother's Day! Whether you are an expectant Mom, grandmother, dear auntie, or best friend, the anticipation of a baby can be exciting. God ordained that life must spring from the female species. New life is nurtured and grown deep within the female body. The human female provides nourishment, blood flow, and protection that provides internal support for the growth and development of the unborn baby. However, this internal support is not enough to ensure the optimum development of the baby. Getting early and regular prenatal care improves the chances of having a healthy pregnancy and promotes safe births.

Prenatal care reduces complications during pregnancy and prevents problems during delivery. Prenatal care is especially crucial for women with high-risk pregnancies. Being over 35 years old, being overweight or underweight, having preexisting health problems such as diabetes or other endocrine disorders, hypertension, HIV, autoimmune disorders, cancer, addictions to drugs or alcohol, pregnancies with twins, triplets, and other multiple births, or a history of miscarriages, may increase the risk of problems during pregnancy. Consistent prenatal care is most effective in reducing the chance of low birth weight among high-risk women and women of color. As grandmothers, aunties, and best friends, we must support and encourage women to get proper prenatal care.

Prenatal care includes regular office visits, screening, and diagnostic tests. The healthcare provider may schedule the pregnant mother for ultrasounds, lab tests, and fetal monitoring. Visits to the provider's office can include counselling, education, nutritional, emotional, and social support.

Traditional prenatal care begins with the initial visit with an obstetrician or midwife. A detailed patient history is taken, including a family history of genetic disorders. The provider will conduct a pelvic exam and will order and evaluate blood work, blood pressure, weight, and urine screening for proteins and sugar.

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weeks before the delivery. As the expectant mother approaches her delivery date, the office visits become more frequent. The mother and the provider will discuss the delivery experience. Together they will decide if a home birth or delivery in a birthing center is appropriate for the impending delivery. The provider will discuss medications used in delivery. Now the appointments occur more frequently.

The CDC recommends pre-pregnancy care. The agency encourages women to seek medical care and advice before becoming pregnant. A pre-pregnancy care visit can help women take steps toward a healthy pregnancy before they even get pregnant. Women are encouraged to discuss pregnancy time frames. These potential personal and family health issues may impact pregnancy. Women need to stay as healthy as they can immediately before, during, and after pregnancy. They must stay up to date on all healthcare appointments and follow all instructions by the doctor. Eating right, exercising, and taking proper medication are also crucial.

How can you help an expectant mom stay on tract with her prenatal health care? Volunteer to accompany her on her office visits. Encourage mom to eat a balanced diet, watch her weight and balance exercise, work and rest. Give mom a break by caring for her other children when she seems overwhelmed or tired. Listen, watch and pray for mom. Pregnancy can be stressful. Moms need an effective social and emotional support system.

Pregnancy is crucial, but it can be safe if expectant mothers engage in prenatal care. Women need to stay as healthy as they can immediately before, during, and after pregnancy. Regular visits to the obstetrician or midwife Dr. Denyce Watties-Daniels can support a healthy and safe Assistant Professor at Coppin State University delivery.

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Gospel & Entertainment Kingdom Business The Series BET + has released a new series with singer, Yolanda Adams and Serayah leading the cast, Kirk Franklin is one of the executive producers and also plays the role of “Deacon Dwayne”, other featured talents include Tamar Braxton, Michael Jai White, and Devon Franklin. The series premieres on Thursday, May 19, it’s an insider to the world of gospel music behind the scenes; the challenges of money, fame, secrets, and success. The trailer is available, which I have had the chance to check out, and I’m excited it has 8 episodes!

Who’s having a watch party?!

JJ Hairston JJ Hairston & Youthful Praise will be doing their Live Recording on Thursday, May 5, 2022, at All Nations DC, where he and his wife Trina Hairston serve as pastors, if you know anything about THIS MUSICAL AGGREGATION, you know they have always delivered timeless good gospel music, and I’m so looking forward to hearing the sound they’re releasing in this season. The live recording will feature guest artists, Travis Greene, David Wilford, Benita Jones, and Adriann Lewis Freeman, the recording is free but you must register. https:// allnationsdc.churchcenter.com/registrations/ events/1266368 Chrystal Rucker Chrystal has officially signed to Bishop Norman Hutchins label, IR Music Group and has new music coming out titled “Your Grace”, this songstress is undoubtedly one of the most noted voices in gospel music and I can’t wait to hear it!

Patrick Riddick & Dvyne Worship The choir master Patrick Riddick and his choir Dvyne Worship have a new single titled “Jesus Is With Me”, and he’s newly signed to Bishop Hezekiah Walker’s label Hez House Entertainment, which has become the home to this wave of choirs,

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keeping gospel music alive. The single is available right now at all digital media outlets.

Ron Summers Originally from Detroit, Michigan, this vocal Powerhouse relocated to Baltimore from Houston, Texas and has certainly made his presence known, and we absolutely claim him as “Baltimore’s Own”, he is undoubtedly the total package. Ron is noted for his work with choirs and even praise teams creating a sound to be reckoned with, while he is very major in the COGIC arena, his resume has broadened beyond any denominational barriers. He started a solo career in 2006 and was signed to Matthew Knowles’ label Music World Entertainment, needless to say with all the groundwork he’s laid over the years it’s time for him to launch back out into the deep! His lead single “It Is So” featuring Sunday’s Best Winner Tasha Page Lockhart is absolutely a great song! You will Thank me after you download it, I promise you will want more and the EP! The single is Available NOW at all digital media outlets.

Therron Fowler Therron Fowler has released a new single just in time for Mother’s Day! He dedicated it to his mother but certainly we all can relate!

It especially speaks to the strong single mothers and the sacrifices they’ve had to make for their children, without much help. I absolutely love this song and its one I believe will take wings specifically for Mother’s Day, much like “Grandma’s Hands”, “Sweet Sadie”, “Better Days”, etc. Therron’s voice is so soulful much like his dad, the late great Ricky Fowler, it’s definitely no surprise Therron is following in his father’s footsteps giving us good music.

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Patrick Riddick & Dvyne Worship

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