O COME, LET US SING UNTO THE LORD: LET US MAKE A JOYFUL NOISE TO THE ROCK OF OUR SALVATION. LET US COME BEFORE HIS PRESENCE WITH THANKSGIVING, AND MAKE A JOYFUL NOISE UNTO HIM WITH PSALMS. FOR THE LORD IS A GREAT GOD, AND A GREAT KING ABOVE ALL GODS. IN HIS HAND ARE THE DEEP PLACES OF THE EARTH: THE STRENGTH OF THE HILLS IS HIS ALSO. THE SEA IS HIS, AND HE MADE IT: AND HIS HANDS FORMED THE DRY LAND. O COME, LET US WORSHIP AND BOW DOWN:
Psalm 100 (KJV)
“MAKE A JOYFUL NOISE UNTO THE LORD, ALL YE LANDS. SERVE THE LORD WITH GLADNESS: COME BEFORE HIS PRESENCE WITH SINGING. KNOW YE THAT THE LORD HE IS GOD: IT IS HE THAT HATH MADE US, AND NOT WE OURSELVES; WE ARE HIS PEOPLE, AND THE SHEEP OF HIS PASTURE. ENTER INTO HIS GATES WITH THANKSGIVING, AND INTO HIS COURTS WITH PRAISE: BE THANKFUL UNTO HIM, AND BLESS HIS NAME. FOR THE LORD IS GOOD; HIS MERCY IS EVERLASTING; AND HIS TRUTH ENDURETH TO ALL GENERATIONS.”
Psalm 107:1 (NIV)
“GIVE THANKS TO THE LORD, FOR HE IS GOOD; HIS LOVE ENDURES FOREVER.
I Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NIV)
“BE JOYFUL ALWAYS; PRAY CONTINUALLY; GIVE THANKS IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES, FOR THIS IS GOD’S WILL FOR YOU IN CHRIST JESUS.”
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Hari P. Close Funeral Service, P.A. 5126 Belair Road Baltimore, MD 21206 410-327-3100
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This month’s feature invites us into the remarkable journey of Rev. Hari P. Close, Pastor of The Union Baptist Church, Inc. in Baltimore and owner of Hari P. Close Funeral Services, P.A. With a heart devoted to both ministry and compassion in times of loss, Rev. Close shares how he answers a dual calling—serving God’s people in both life and death, and how faith guides him through both Grace and Grief.
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For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.
Psalm 84:11
Contributors
DR. CARLA DEBNAM
Dr. Carla J. Debnam is the wife of Bishop Dwayne C. Debnam and an associate minister of Morning Star Baptist Church, Woodlawn, MD. She is a National Certified Counselor (NCC) and Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) in Maryland. She is a member of the American Counseling Association, the American Association of Christian Counselors and Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Dr. Debnam has contributed to two books, Those Sisters Can Preach: 22 Pearls of Wisdom, Virtue & Hope, and 7 Ingredients To An Effective Prayer Life Series, Vol.3-5.
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Brandie Manigault is the Co-founder of Healing Voice Ministries, Co-pastor of Ecos Church, and the author of New Day Fresh Start. Of all of the titles she has and hats she wears; her favorite is wife and mother. She is a firm believer that love wins and is passionate about the health of the soul.
MIN. CARENDA DEONNE
Min. Carenda is an Author, Speaker, Workshop Facilitator, Certified Life Coach, and TV Personality. Born and raised in Baltimore, MD, she received her BA degree from the Fashion Institute of Technology and her M.A. in Law Degree (Mediation and Dispute Resolution) from Regent University. Min. Carenda helps individuals and professionals rise above their circumstances by detoxing emotionally. Carenda believes Emotional Management Equals Life Management. Her new book, 12 Rounds...How to Detox Emotionally and Win, is scheduled to launch 2024.
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Thank You Lord!
It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.
– Lamentations 3:22-23
Thank you. Two small words, yet with great meaning behind them. Thank You displays an attitude of gratitude. It is the most used expression of communication. This lesson is learned early on in childhood, we were taught to say “Thank You” as little toddlers, and often scolded if we did not express thanks upon receiving something. This is the time of year when everyone will reflect. All of us will compile lists of things and reasons to be thankful. We will have conversations about it, hear sermons about it, and sing songs about how thankful we are. Many of us across the nation will pause this month and celebrate Thanksgiving Day and say, “Thank You Lord.”
I believe thanksgiving and gratitude go hand in hand; they are interchangeable. One definition of thanksgiving is “the expression of gratitude, especially to God”. A definition of gratitude is “the quality of being thankful”. I am most thankful to be alive, and if you are reading this, you are alive too. Being alive means there is still purpose for your life, purpose brings meaning to your life. Being alive means there is still hope, and part of being hopeful is having a thankful attitude.
Life is full of trials and tribulations and there have been many things that happened and did not happen this year that could have wiped us out. But, we are still here. We are still here because God is in control. God is in control of everything that concerns us, and God cares about everything that concerns us; and for that alone, we say, “Thank You Lord.”
God has kept us through heartaches, disappointments, illnesses and lack. God has kept us through the good and the bad. God is our keeper. God has blessed us beyond measure and continues to bless us in spite of ourselves. He has supplied all of our needs. God looks beyond our faults, sees our every need and gives us endless mercy and grace. All pretty good reasons we should be thankful.
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Our God is strong and mighty, He fights all of our battles, there is nobody greater. Remember in spite of everything we face in this life keeping an attitude of gratitude surpasses all we will ever go through in life. If by chance you need another reason to be thankful, the Good News is God has also given us the opportunity to have eternal life through His son Jesus Christ. Eternal Life is the best reason of all; we should keep an attitude of gratitude. And we say, “Thank You Lord.”
Q&A Interview - Pastor Hari P. Close II The New Union Baptist Church, Inc.
G&G: Pastor Hari Close, welcome to the Grace & Glory Family! We are delighted for the opportunity to talk with you. Let’s start with a few introductory questions. First, can you share how you were called into ministry? Did you always know that God was calling you into ministry, or was it a journey of discovery?
Pastor Close: Being a Catholic, I would always play being a priest as I was an Alter Boy (assisting the Priest during Mass). However, something happened during an Easter Sunday celebration, I experienced an overwhelming feeling during worship I could not understand. Talking to the Monsignor (Pastor), he said, “It was the dwelling of the Holy Spirit.” I still did not understand, so this started my journey visiting many churches of different faiths to find out about this Holy Spirit. This curiosity led me to St. Paul AME Church in Cambridge, Massachusetts under Rev. John R. Bryant. Although, I have generations of Ministers in my family, I knew there was something different about me, but I refused to hear or accept what made me different or stand out.
Roxbury, Massachusetts. So many Catholic orders of Priests, Nuns and Brothers were my classroom teachers. The most impacting were the Christian Brothers and the Sisters of the Holy Family of New Orleans. They exemplified Jesus the Christ to me. However, as I pursued a personal relationship with God, it was Rev. John R. Bryant of St. Paul AME Church in Cambridge, Massachusetts. He was my pastor in my early teens. He made the Word of God real and personal. Pastor Bryant was approachable and loving to the people of God.
I had this continual experience of heaviness and disasters in my life. However, in 1992, while visiting my grandmother (Elsie Maddox), I was in front of the Antioch Missionary Baptist Church in Loughman, Florida, it was thundering and lightning with flames of fire out of every strike. But not a drop of rain. The dwelling of the Holy Spirit overtook me to a place of peace and weeping of joy. I knew God was talking and calling me. TELLING ME TO STOP RUNNING AND DO HIS WILL!
G&G: Who were the people who most influenced or mentored you in your early walk of faith and ministry?
Pastor Close: There are so many individuals who impact my Christian Walk. I grew up as a Catholic in
I reconnected with Pastor Bryant years later, when arriving in Baltimore to start my first managerial career (Director of Sales & Marketing) with the Sheraton Inner Hotel in 1983. It was at Bethel AME, the Word of God was moving in my life through the preached Word, Bible Study, Sunday School and the Men’s Ministry. When Rev. Bryant was elevated to the Office of the Bishop, the Lord led me to Canaan Baptist Church of Baltimore City, under the pastorship of Rev. Dr. Russell E. Groves. It was here that God truly convicted and challenged me for a deeper relationship with Him. I committed my total being to the work for God.
There are so many who shaped and encouraged me, but l would be remised not to mention Dr. AC Vaughn, Bishop Wilbur Watson, Dr. Clarence Yerby, and Dr. Charles E. Savage.
G&G: Pastor Close, I understand you are not only a pastor, but you are also a mortician. Please tell us how that came about. Do you see your role as a mortician as an extension of your pastoral calling? Do these two roles complement each other?
Pastor Close: My parents said, “We knew this was your true passion. You would see a dead animal, bury
Travis, Dr. Close, Shawnnisha, Autumn (front), A’lan, Mrs. Close & Amirah
it and pray over it.” In my sophomore year in high school, I was failing in biology. My parents sent me to my uncle’s business to assist me. Uncle Lee was the owner of Lee Barrett Funeral Home and manager and chief embalmer for Chisholm Funeral Chapels, which was owned by Napoleon and Susan Chisholm (oldest black business in Boston, Massachusetts). Uncle Lee reinforced my biology and chemistry lessons while in the funeral home. Eventually, I was there every day after school and on weekends. There were no pagers nor cell phones then; I was the weekend person (the unpaid answering service).
I see the mortician and pastoral callings as one. We are both serving the same communities with the same spirit of service. We see their struggles and try to relieve their plight. Both professions are the eyes, ears and mouths of our fellow citizens of God. No matter what their beliefs, lack of, or station in life, we are there to serve, to listen and act on their behalf. During a crisis or not, both are the community’s representatives who they can trust; especially in times like these.
G&G: Let’s talk a little more about your ministry, you pastor The New Union Baptist Church in West Baltimore. How would you describe this ministry and the core mission of your church?
Pastor Close: I have the privilege and honor to serve as the 6th Pastor of The New Union Baptist Church, Incorporated of Baltimore, Maryland at 500-510 N. Monroe Street in West Baltimore. Organized on February 7, 1906, our church motto is, “The Church Where Everyone Is Somebody and Christ Is All”. Our core mission is making and maturing disciples of Jesus Christ by Preaching the Gospel, leading people to a relationship with God, and helping them grow in faith and love. To make it plain, helping people take next steps to love God, love people, and change the world.
G&G: Pastor Close, you mentioned that you want to reintroduce your ministry to the community. How well do you feel your church is connected to the surrounding community now? What are the most pressing needs in this community, and how do you plan to address them?
Pastor Close: We are more present in the community than we have been in the past. The community has changed on some point, as families have moved out. But the community is surviving despite citizens losing their homes based on Baltimore City’s tax system. We proudly do weekly street cleaning (3 to 4 days), going four to five blocks (in each direction) from the church. This gives us an opportunity to reach out and talk to our neighbors. Something simple, but powerful. We are part of the community, not just visiting one day a week; the church must come out of their walls. Also, we have been able to assist some with basic human needs. This portion of outreach is in the infancy stage.
Challenges- There are major construction projects in this community, Frederick Douglass Tunnel (Amtrak), Highway To No Where Project, MARC Train West Baltimore Project, Housing displacement and damages (Amtrak), and Traffic Rerouting Patterns - Public Transportation (Buses and Heavy-Duty Vehicles causing property damages). These challenges are being addressed by Edmondson Community Organization (ECO) and Midtown Edmondson Improvement Association. Both associations have our ministerial staff on their Boards. We have opened our doors to all community organizations which represent the Edmondson community. The grants which are designated for these projects are in the frozen stage, because of Washington DC. Only God can fix it!
G&G: Do you think the church has lost influence; how can the church remain
relevant in a rapidly changing culture? How do you plan to make the ministry more inviting to unchurched people and those who may have walked away from church?
Pastor Close: Yes, we the Church were more involved with the community and being their voice. We were intimately part of the activities for the community’s survival. We must come out of the sanctuaries and let our neighbors see the people of God are approachable; Jesus walked among us. I know some are concerned about the climate of today, but we can’t forget where we began in our Christian journey.
Our plan for the unchurched is to come as you are; I am not concerned with your dress. God is not looking at your exterior. There are numerous Sundays, that I am not teaching and preaching in a traditional clergy robe. We must reach this generation; remember they are not our parents nor grandparents and we have to address Church hurt! The focus has come so much on the proclaimer, than GOD HIMSELF. The COVID-19 tragedy showed us WE HAVE TO COME UP WITH POSITIVE AND CREATIVE WAYS TO REACH THE EVERYDAY PERSON! This is an ongoing dilemma for all ministries. One of our solutions, we have a one hour and fifteen-minute (or less) worship service. Some would say, “You are quenching the Spirit.” The Holy Spirit is an intelligent being!
G&G: Pastor Close, are there demographic or cultural shifts in your area that your ministry should respond to? Perhaps by developing, equipping and encouraging new young leaders to help?
Pastor Close: There are some shifts in our community. We are reaching out to those families and individuals
moving into the community. We have visitors of diverse cultures. I still keep teaching and preaching the WORD. On new young leaders, I am open and encouraging to them to visit. If they can’t do it weekly, give me one Sunday a month.
I am in the process of developing my business plan to reach out to some local colleges. This plan should address our vision of developing, equipping, and encouraging the youth and young people, they are the future of ALL MINISTRIES. I know, many say this, but do we create an environment that they feel welcome and included. I believe everything old is not bad and everything new is not bad. But when you put them together, it’s an endless Glory for God.
G&G: Pastor Close, what is your long-term vision for The New Union Baptist Church and this community? Pastor Close: Long-term, we are in a Capital Campaign to repairing the building of God. Our Church edifice is 131 years old. We are pouring into this Holy place for the next generation. They are present in our ministry. We need to maintain this edifice for them. So, when the baton is passed, they can go beyond our imagination as they stand on our shoulders and do enhanced ministry.
For the community, we are seeing us being a beam of light of “Come Unto Me”. There are some programs in the planning stage to assist the community with skills to enhance their family and the world. But partnering with other area ministries is essential. We do not need to be competing with like outreaches with ministries who have successfully developed and implemented them.
Life and Death Connection
G&G: Pastor Close, let’s talk about how ministry and the funeral service business connect. First would you tell us about the positions you hold as a mortician in the funeral service business?
Pastor Close: There is a saying, “Preachers want to be Funeral Directors and Funeral Directors want to be Preachers.” There are times, you have to remind the funeral professional the preacher has already preached, and also remind the preacher, the family member who
made the arrangements (the closest relative) should close their own loved one’s casket. (LOL).
I have the honor to serve the citizens of Maryland, North America, and over 40 Countries. I serve as President of State Board of Funeral Directors and Morticians of Maryland (Regulator/5 years, longest served); President of International Conference of Funeral Service Examining Boards (Overseer of all Regulatory Boards/2 years-United States and Canada); National
President of the National Funeral Directors and Morticians Association, Incorporated; an International Association (3 years, longest served/40 countries of African American & African descent); and Chairman of the Board of National Funeral Directors and Morticians Association, Incorporated, an International Association (2 years).
G&G: Do you see your mortuary work as a unique form of outreach or evangelism? Are there moments when you feel more like a pastor in the mortuary than in the pulpit?
Pastor Close: The mortuary work (death care) is a combination of both. Outreach and evangelism are spiritual ears without doctrine. At death and while in the pulpit, you listen with direction with compassion. Also, we both deliver based on the many factors of the receiver and the environment. The most effective presentation is to connect, in order for someone to accept your directions. Basically, they are one and the same.
G&G: How do you support grieving families as a mortician and as a spiritual leader? Do you use this as an opportunity to share the gospel with families who may not be believers but come to you for funeral services?
Pastor Close: Being kind, gentle, tentative, and listening to what they did not say. The words are love, agape and charity, they are key. You have to be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove/lamb. Being and showing the Gospel, speaks louder than words.
G&G: As a mortician what have you learned about the human experience of death that most pastors might not see?
Pastor Close: This is true. But just be there and listen. These phrases drive me crazy, “Be strong!” “Don’t cry!” Remember Jesus wept. In my life experiences, most Pastors know their members, and they comfort them well.
G&G: Pastor Close, what has been the most meaningful or transformative moment both as a pastor and a mortician?
Pastor Close: As a mortician, COVID-19. I lost numerous members and staff members of the Association (I was National President during the
pandemic). As a pastor, I fell last year reaching for my Bible to preach a funeral. I dislocated my left foot from my leg and had 3 surgeries in three weeks. I was on my back from August 2024 to February 2025. I went from a wheelchair to a walker and then a cane until June 2025. Hallelujah, I graduated from physical therapy. Once again, God and I became one, especially preaching from a wheelchair. He got my attention, and I know His voice.
G&G: Pastor Close, do you integrate your two roles in the church, through grief ministry, workshops, support groups, etc.?
Pastor Close: I automatically do the grief, unconsciously. It is second nature. Any other event, I would call someone in to provide. I cannot do everything, nor do I want to.
G&G: Pastor Close, how do you personally stay grounded amid the emotional weight of both roles?
Pastor Close: Normally, I am sitting in my backyard. I am listening to the birds, watching the squirrels, and deer. Not a bad environment living in Baltimore City, my own Garden of Eden.
G&G: What would you say to anyone who may feel they have been called to both ministry and funeral service?
Pastor Close: It is a balancing act! If you own or manage a funeral home is like a kingdom for making decisions; but the church is a democracy. You are dealing with people in both environments. The funeral staff works for financial support, and your selected families choose to give you monetary support. But the church, the people are volunteers, and they choose to give support (physically and financially). Don’t get confused where you are located when dealing with the people. In other words, know what black book you are operating from. The business’s financial book or the Holy Bible.
G&G: Pastor Close, lastly if you could leave people with one message about life, death, and faith based on your experience, what would it be?
Pastor Close: Remember, to treat ALL with respect, dignity and integrity. These ethical principles and values do not change, no matter what generation presides.
DEBNAM Dr. Carla
Getting Through the Holidays
The holiday season is the best of times and sometimes the worst of times. It is great because we focus on family, friends, fellowship, and of course good food. It is a time of enjoyment, connecting with those we care about, and making time for the people and activities that bring us happiness. The next few weeks can be exhilarating and tiring all at the same time. It is often a time filled with hope, great expectations, excitement and many opportunities for merriment. With all of these events happening that normally bring us joy, for some people this time of year is dreaded and stressful.
For those who are not looking forward to this joyous season, life can be filled with anxiety, depression, jealousy and loneliness. Even Christians fall prey to these emotions and instead of feeling thankful during Thanksgiving and being filled with anticipation as the Advent season approaches, some may succumb to despair and dread the celebrations of the season. This is often complicated by Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which occurs with the change in daylight hours during
the fall and winter seasons. It is a type of depression and has some of the same symptoms such as losing interest in activities you once enjoyed, feeling hopeless or worthless, and having problems with sleeping. Other symptoms include irritability, tiredness or low energy, problems getting along with other people and appetite changes. You may feel like this at times but do not self-diagnose. See a doctor if you have any symptoms of depression.
A few ways we can beat the holiday blues is to be intentional in planning our schedules. Many times, people over commit to social events that they feel obligated to attend or activities that they have been invited to participate in. It may be the office Christmas cookie exchange, the ministry fellowship or a family gathering that has caused you stress. Sometimes money problems arise, and we can feel obligated to join in the gift exchange, buy everything on the wish list or supply most of the food for the family dinner. The loss of a loved one can also make the holidays less welcome because loneliness and grief overshadow the joy of the season.
Whatever may be hindering us from celebrating the season can be overcome and managed when we keep things in perspective and set limits for how much we can handle. We can control our budgets, our participation in activities and our moods. People may not understand your choices, but you have to do what is good for you and if you want to explain your decision you can do so without apology. This takes courage but if you want to enjoy the holidays you have to take charge of what matters to you and remember the season is about being thankful to God for our blessings and the gift of Jesus.
Getting back to the foundation of your faith can help take the focus off people, parties and your pain. Psalm 42:5 gives us a response to life’s challenges, “Why are you down in the dumps, dear soul? Why are you crying the blues? Fix my eyes on God - soon I’ll be praising again. He puts a smile on my face. He’s my God.” Reframing our thinking by focusing on the goodness of God is the key to getting through the holidays. The holidays can be joyful when we rejoice in the one who can lift our spirits.
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Novembering TURNER
I was visiting a church last month and at that church they were announcing a service they were hosting for the month of November. The service is entitled the Novembering Service. I thought to myself, what a great idea that was. Along with the service where they are honoring the loss loved ones, they also have a grief support group and class. In that class they give tools on how to cope with the loss of the loved one during the Holidays.
Holidays are very difficult for people who have lost loved ones. In the Novembering Service, they found a way to honor the loss and support each other while honoring their loved ones. Sometimes we focus so much on who’s not there, we forget about who is.
When I found myself in this situation where I had lost close members of my family, I was
determined to not let grief overtake me. I picked up some tips that have been helpful to me and I hope that they are helpful to you.
• Be honest with your emotions, honest with yourself and with your family. If everyone knows how you feel they can help support you better.
• Surround yourself with people, be present it may be painful, but it helps to not be alone, even though you may be alone.
• Maybe you don’t have family in the area that you live in, which leads me to ‘create a community’ at church, at work or with friends.
• Give back to others; find someone who is less fortunate and serve them. When you focus on what someone else may have lost it helps you see that you aren’t alone.
• A moment of reflection: reflect on how impactful that loved one was in your life, such as a lesson that you learned. I make one of the favorite dishes that my family loved that was my mother’s, which helps us all feel close to her.
• Create new traditions while preserving the old.
• Talk to someone about where you are. Attend a support group or create your own.
• Give yourself time to feel.
You may not understand why the life of the loved ones isn’t there anymore. I feel if you take the time to dwell upon who’s not there, you isolate yourself from being in the presence of the ones who are.
The most important thing is to keep Christ first. In the Spirit of Thanksgiving be thankful for what you have and for what you lost.
I hope that these tips help you as they have helped me.
Pastor Rhoda Turner
Christian Faith Fellowship Church Chandler, AZ www.cffaz.org
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Why is there an Elephant in the Room?
How did you handle your last confrontation?
Some of you may be wondering why we are talking about confrontation when this is the month of Thanksgiving. Oh, but this is the perfect time to have such a delicious talk as we prepare to host and entertain family and friends. Have you ever had those awkward moments either leading up to or the day of an event or holiday? Was it because you didn’t know how to confront something or someone in a healthy way? Or maybe the confrontation started off healthy but ended up in a full blown fiasco?
Rather if it’s Thanksgiving Day, or in our day to day lives, we have to learn how to deal with both external and internal confrontation. So, if you don’t mind me asking, the last time you had a confrontation with someone, what happened? What solutions were concluded? What lessons did you learn?
Do you know people, like myself, who try to avoid confrontation? I can tell you from experience, doing this is not healthy. When I decide to avoid confrontation, it weighs heavy on my heart. Truth be told, at times, I can’t even think straight. I am not so much thinking about how I will handle myself, I am thinking about not wanting to disappoint or hurt others. But here is a great revelation, who said hurting others is an end result of having healthy confrontation? I believe when we have confrontation with someone or even ourselves, if done properly, could be more healing than hurtful. Yes, there are times our emotions and feelings can feel deflated about the topic at hand, but you can always appreciate the honesty. As we mature in our relationships, businesses and careers stop running from confrontation. I am hoping at the end of this article you will confidently say, “I got this!”
If confrontation is something you are not comfortable with, it’s okay! You have to be comfortable to say to yourself, “This is an area I am most uncomfortable.” Your admittance to that does not make you a coward, or less adequate, it just means you need some guidance along the way. I would rather be open to guidance and instruction instead of dismissal and avoidance. Personally, as my business continues to grow, I can’t just go along to get along. When something isn’t right, I have to speak up. When I do not want to move forward in a particular
business deal or speaking engagement, I have to be able to politely decline and feel at peace with my decision. I am learning that confrontation, when handled properly, can get rid of “the elephant in the room.”
Last but not least I want to reiterate that not all confrontation is external. Oh no no no! We deal with internal confrontation often as well. Sometimes we are focused on what someone said to us, or about us, but do you ever stop and think about the things you have said about yourself? We are taught that life and death is in the power of the tongue. Oh me oh my, what has your tongue been saying about you lately?!? What internal confrontations have you had that’s hindering you from taking aim at negativity, low self-esteem, an unhealthy ego and neglect!
In order to live life on the promise of IMPACT, you have to deal with both external and internal confrontation. If not careful you will self-sabotage the very things and people intended to help you! I also believe when you delay in dealing with internal confrontation, it is reflected in your attitude, behavior and how you treat your mind, body and soul! When I battle with internal confrontation I get moody and gravitate to junk food. Hmmmm, I wonder why?!? I say to myself, “What can I do to take my mind of off it, or delay dealing with me?!?” Sure, Netflix and Chex-Mix sounds like a great plan! Next thing I know, I am taking my frustration out on the treadmill, mad as all get out that my hips look wider! However, you soon realize all of those fixes are temporal compared to what you need to face! So as you prepare to travel, and fellowship with those you love, remember that healthy confrontation is possible. Don’t let there be an empty chair at the Thanksgiving table. If there is an elephant in the room, deal with it! You got this!
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday!
Live life on the promise of IMPACT!
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Praying In Uncertain Times
In a Pew Research Study dated February 2025 I was alarmed to read, “Fewer than half of Americans (44%) say they pray each day.” This is a substantial decline from the first Religious Landscape Study (RLS) conducted in 2007, when 58% said they prayed at least once a day. The first question that came to my mind when reading this study is, why? Why does the significance of prayer in our daily lives continue to decline? Is it that we are no longer in need of Jesus Christ’s help? Is it that we are no longer in need of Jesus Christ’s guidance. Of course, the answer to these questions is absolutely not. We need the Savior’s help and guidance more than ever before. We are living in and are facing uncertain times. Thousands are facing job insecurity, and our country is experiencing economic volatility. Our response should be to pray. We need God to now help us navigate through these uncertain times.
Throughout the bible we see how God steps in to rescue His people in times of trouble. God delights in being our deliverer and savior. One of my favorite scriptures is Psalm 18. In this scripture David is praying to the father. He starts off by declaring that God is his strength. When facing uncertain times we must pray to God for strength. The Lord’s strength will help you endure and overcome during tumultuous life challenges.
In Psalm 18 David also declares that God is not only his strength but his fortress, his rock his deliverer, his refuge, his shield and his salvation. When facing uncertain times prayer is necessary because it helps you to remember who God is in your life. He is our great defender. There is no weapon Satan throws at us that God cannot protect us from. Through prayer we recall what He already has done in our lives. My father used to say, “If God did it before he will do it again.” He promised us that He would never leave us or forsake us.
Finally, prayer is necessary in uncertain times because God has all power and authority in heaven and in the earth. There is not one problem too big for God. Nothing is impossible for Him. Through prayer you open the door for God to exercise His unlimited power in your life. We must pray! Prayer brings peace and joy.
During uncertain times you must intensify your prayer life. The bible in 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says to “pray without ceasing”, meaning prayer should be a constant staple in your life. I admonish you to pray every day. Pray when you wake up in the morning, pray in the afternoon, pray as you go throughout the day and pray when you go to bed at night. I charge you to not decrease but increase prayer in your life.
Pastor Clarinda Burston-White Miracle Church
Brandie
Manigault
DAILY DEVOTIONS
from NEW DAY FRESH START-
DAY 1
Would you do what you do if no one ever knew your name? Would you do what you love to do if you never had a promise of reward? The woman with the alabaster box sacrificed, poured out her love for Jesus from her heart; not looking for anything in return. She wanted to show Jesus what He meant to her, and although He promised, “What this woman has done will also be told as a memorial to her”, her name, Mary, is only mentioned once in the Gospels, and twice she is called ‘a woman’. Will you be ok if future generations see your wonderful acts and only a few attributed it to you and others call you this man or this woman?
Challenge: Today challenge yourself to think about the motivation behind what you do. Are you doing it for notoriety or because you love it?
Matthew 26:6-7, 12-13, “And when Jesus was in Bethany at the house of Simon the leper, a woman came to Him having an alabaster flask of very costly fragrant oil, and she poured it on His head as He sat at the table... For in pouring this fragrant oil on My body, she did it for My burial. Assuredly, I say to you, wherever this gospel is preached in the whole world, what this woman has done will also be told as a memorial to her.”
* ...a woman came having an alabaster flask... (Mark 14:3)
*Then Mary took a pound of very costly oil of spikenard... (John 12:3)
DAY 2
You are worth it. Sometimes people will place value on you or believe in you to a level that you don’t feel you deserve. They honor your word as truth, they believe in your dreams, and push you to do it. They may give you gifts that, to you and possibly to others around you, seem too much to accept, but you are worth it. They see in you what God sees in you and they have chosen to partner with Him in His vision for your life. Challenge: Today challenge yourself to believe that you are worth the investment of someone else’s time, faith, and resources. Matthew 26:7-10 NIV, “... a woman came to him with an alabaster jar of very expensive perfume, which she poured on his head as he was reclining at the table. When the disciples saw this, they were indignant. “Why this waste?” they asked. “This perfume could have been sold at a high price and the money given to the poor.” Aware of this, Jesus said to them, “Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me.”
DAY 3
You don’t know what you are capable of until you do it. It is so important to live a balanced life. We can never lean so far in one direction that, in our own eyes, we think that we are too “good” to do something “bad” or too “bad” to do something “good”. What have you told yourself that you would never do
and what have you said that you’d never be good enough to do? Dependence on the Lord for wisdom, discernment and grace is vitally important as we encounter each situation. We all have the potential to do great things, make an impact on our society, and influence lives; but because we are humans we are not above giving in to temptation. This is why we must surround ourselves with people who will help us keep a balanced perspective and who will always speak truth to us.
Challenge: Today challenge yourself to be balanced in your view of yourself.
Matthew 26:33-34, “Peter answered and said to Him, “Even if all are made to stumble because of You, I will never be made to stumble.” Jesus said to him, “Assuredly, I say to you that this night, before the rooster crows, you will deny Me three times.”
DAY 4
Do you know who you are? Do you know that other people will question your identity just to see if you will confirm or deny their suspicions of you? Everyone sees that within you lies the strength to fight, the faith to believe for the “impossible”, and the wisdom to navigate through tough situations. They already know that you possess authority, influence, and the ability to shift an atmosphere with your presence. You are who you are, and you cannot deny it. You are a world changer and a history maker. You leave your mark everywhere you go. People will question you to see if you know what they know about you. Don’t disappoint them with your answer. Challenge: Today challenge yourself to respond with confidence about your identity the next time someone asks you who you are. Matthew 27:11a, “Now Jesus stood before the governor. And the governor asked Him, saying, “Are You the King of the Jews?” Jesus said to him, “It is as you say.”
DAY 5
Do not defend yourself. Your accusers know who you really are and will try desperately to discredit you, make you believe something about you that is not true, or put you in a position where your words will do more harm than good. They are aware of your track record of honesty and integrity. They know that things change for the better when you are around. Your influence is undeniable. Some of their accusations may be true and some may be baseless, have no power, and hold no truth. No matter what, you stand your ground in silence. In time you will be vindicated, and all will know the truth.
Challenge: Today challenge yourself to let your defense strategy be silence.
Matthew 27:12, “And while He was being accused by the chief priests and elders, He answered nothing.”
iambandaid Brandie Manigault
(Excerpts
by Brandie Manigault)
Flu Vaccines
Fall marks the beginning of flu season. Medical providers and pharmacies urge individuals to get an annual flu vaccine. What is the flu vaccine, and why is it important to get vaccinated?
Influenza, or the “flu,” is a seasonal, upper respiratory infection caused by the influenza virus. Flu season typically starts in October. It peaks in mid-to-late winter, between December and February, and continues through early spring. The influenza virus is easily passed from one person to another through direct contact with secretions. Frequent hand washing, covering coughs and sneezes with tissue, and social distancing help to reduce the transmission of flu germs.
Vaccines against influenza, often called “flu shots,” protect against four types of influenza viruses that researchers predict will be most common during a yearly flu season. The viruses that cause the flu constantly change. Researchers and manufacturers work together to update the vaccine every year. The vaccines contain inactive particles of the flu virus. Your body will produce antibodies that will fight against flu infections. The specific types of viruses contained in an annual shot depend on which viruses are likely to circulate during that year’s flu season. It takes up to two weeks to build immunity after a flu shot.
Flu viruses mutate and evolve quickly. Last year’s vaccine may not protect you from this year’s viruses. New flu vaccines are released yearly to keep up with rapidly adapting flu viruses. Protection from the flu may last six months after receiving the vaccine.
The CDC recommends annual influenza vaccinations for everyone aged six months or older. Vaccination is especially important for people at high risk of influenza complications, including pregnant women, older adults, young children, people with weakened
immune systems, and those with chronic illnesses such as diabetes, COPD, and heart disease. The flu vaccine is recommended for individuals living in nursing homes and other long-term care facilities. Healthcare workers, law enforcement, and others that work closely with the public are also advised to get annual vaccinations.
Vaccinations are usually given by injections. Nasal vaccines, administered by inhaling a spray like nose drops, are available for children and people less than 49 years old. Side effects from the vaccine include pain at the injection site, headache, chills, and feeling fatigued. The flu vaccine does not give you the flu. It does not increase your risk of getting Covid.
Unfortunately, you can get the flu even if you are vaccinated. You may be exposed to a flu virus shortly before getting vaccinated or during the period that it takes the body to gain protection after getting vaccinated. This exposure may result in you becoming ill with flu before your body develops antibodies to protect you. Many different flu viruses circulate every year. You may be exposed to a flu virus that is not included in the seasonal flu vaccine.
Getting the flu vaccine reduces the spread of influenza in the population. The ongoing impact of the Covid virus makes it essential for you and your family to get vaccinated for the flu if you have a chronic illness. You can get a flu vaccine at multiple locations including your doctor’s office, health departments, and pharmacies. Talk with your healthcare provider about receiving a flu vaccination.
Ericka J.
Gospel & Entertainment
Kirk Franklin
Kirk Franklin just has the Midas touch, his new single “Able” is a whole vibe and a bop, feel good music, totally digging it. It’s available right now, go grab it!
Tye Tribett
Tye has dropped a new single “Holy You” it’s definitely giving Caribbean Worship vibes. I like it, leave it to Tye to give his take or a new spin on an album. He has been known to bring high energy and innovation to Gospel music since he entered the industry. Available now at all digital outlets.
Jekalyn Carr
Jekalyn is celebrating her 10th Number #1 single titled “Don’t Faint”. Over 3 million streams! Did you grab it yet? You wanna add this one to your library & your playlist‼️
Marvin Sapp
Marvin Sapp is doing his live recording on November 13th, at his church The Chosen Vessel Church. And guess what y’all, he’s decided because of the loss of employment and resources allowing people to take care of their families, he’s not charging tickets for the recording. Instead, he’s asking people to bring 2 toys or donate to his toy drive, to bless at least 1000 families that are less fortunate. This is awesome!
Lisa Knowles Smith
Heartfelt condolences to Lisa Knowles in the passing of her mom “Mama Knowles” our prayers and strength to Lisa, her family, and all who loved “Mana Knowles”. The tragedy of her sudden passing, as heavy as it may have been, Mama is smiling down on these anointed musical gifts and their projects. Revival: Live in Dallas hit #1 on iTunes and continues to climb amongst charts, the album is a “no skip” and a “must have”. THANK ME LATER!
News
Martha Munizzi
New Music from Martha Munizzi is out RIGHT NOW! “Church Is Revival”, is high energy worship music in a true renewed fashion! Go grab it!
The Voices Of Carter
YALL! The Voices Of Carter have released their debut EP and MY, MY, MY, this choir is doing exactly what they be doin’ down in South Baltimore on Poppleton Street every Sunday, SANGIN, SANGIN! It’s good Church Choir Music to say the least, it’s just good music, insane vocals, and the band is amazing! You feel the anointing and conviction in what they’re singing. Ron Summers is hands down one of my favorite male vocalists who happens to be the leader of this awesome musical aggregation. The Good Bishop and Shepherd of the House, Bishop Carl Pierce is even leading a song on the album! Run, don’t walk to your favorite digital music outlet and grab it!
Jamel Strong
I’ve been waiting for this one yall! I have loved this single from the moment I heard it a while back “Bigger, Better, Greater”. Jamel Strong. If you don’t know him or his music yet, do yourself a favor and GET FAMILIAR! His music and delivery are anointed and amazing! Grab his project and THANK ME LATER!
“Til next month, Be blessed, love real big, in real life!” Follow me: Facebook, Instagram & Twitter @misserickaj Email iammisserickaj@gmail.com
Marvin Sapp
The Voices Of Carter Martha Munizzi
Lisa Knowles Smith
Jekalyn Carr
Tye Tribett
Kirk Franklin Jamel Strong
Saulsbury Siobhan
Tip 1
There are studies showing how gratitude can improve overall health, mood, and perspective. When we shift our focus from negative things, like what we feel like we need but don’t have, it can be turned toward positive things and gratefulness for what we do have. When we express how grateful we are, we open ourselves up to receive. Gratitude makes room for more! Not just during this time of year but make it a regular habit to look around and note all the things you have to be thankful for and watch your capacity to receive increase.
Tip 2
Some people will advise you to forgo basically anything you enjoy that isn’t free until you have no debt. However, that can make it difficult to stay committed to the plan. Treating yourself once in a while or even going on vacation isn’t a bad thing. We just have to plan ahead for it and put it in the budget. We shouldn’t have to take from the grocery money to get concert tickets or miss a credit card payment to get a pair of shoes. Plan for those things so when you indulge, it comes with no guilt! I personally love a good massage, so guess what... it’s going in the budget! What is something you love or really enjoy doing that will always be included in your budget?
Tip 3
Regarding personal expectations and teaching kids about money (or anything), I’ve found this to be trueif you don’t do it, someone else will. How many of us ended up learning about certain things (some of them very important) from our equally clueless peers, from trial & error, or from tv & movies because our parents didn’t teach us? We have to be willing to have honest, informative, and possibly uncomfortable conversations with our young people about real-life stuff, including MONEY, or the world is gonna give them an education we may not agree with. Think about something you had to learn about from outside sources. What’s a lesson you want to make sure your kids get from you FIRST?
