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Is there life after a Divorce?This is the will of God for humanity (man). It is God’s will that every man cleaves to his wife through marriage. So what is divorce? It is the dissolving of this marriage covenant between a husband and wife. It is the broken dream, broken vision, and it is against the purpose of God for marriage. It is the death of a relationship; It is often the most traumatic experience in the life of a woman; whether you separate amicably or with hatred in both hearts. Divorce is associated with disappointment, a deep sense of rejection, rage, anger, bitterness, depression, regret, discouragement, emotional chaos, anxiety, unforgiveness and fear of the future. It is hope dashed and dreams shattered. Divorce is a battle zone especially when children are involved, it brings you to a place of emotional overhead,
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by Modupe Kazeem
“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother take his wife and the two of them become one.” Ephesians 5:31.
to a place where your heart is broken and your spirit is crushed.
GOD HATES DIVORCE, because it hurts Him, he does not encourage nor make provision for separation of anything bonded together by Him, He does not like broken fellowships and separation is detrimental to the flow of fellowship, which invariably affects your fellowship with God.
So where there is a dispute in marriage, spouses are expected to repent and forgive each other, and reconcile rather than divorce each other.
However, in some cases divorce is inevitable because reconciliation is not always possible as it requires the response of two people and one cannot force the other to return.
Many women caught in the web of divorce feel there is no hope and no future for them thereafter, and that life is no longer worth living but this is the lie of the devil.
Even major business magazines/ articles, both religious and secular talk about the perfect settings in life: how to have the perfect wedding, marriage, etc, but conveniently leave out the less than perfect situations, which equally involve a large number of people in the community.
I write as a woman who knows the pain of a divorce, a woman who knows the injury divorce can inflict in a heart. I am pleased to tell you today that there is hope; there is life after a divorce and you don’t have to live in condemnation, rejection and fear of the future.
Contrary to your present feelings your future can be bright. He says: “I will do a new thing, shall ye not know it, I will make a way in the wilderness.
“This means the lord can do a new thing, you shall no longer be termed forsaken, you shall no longer be called wounded, outcast, lonely, afraid, but renewed, healed child of God, loved and confident.
Your steps towards a brighter future, is to first forgive your spouse in order to allow the blessings of God to flow into your life, then you have to free yourself from bitterness and anger.
You have to let go and let God, to let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. You can never plan the future by the past but you can plan your tomorrow today. You have to learn to take each day as it comes; each morning is a fresh beginning, a step towards your brighter and better future. Always remember these; ➢ The past is dead and gone, live for the future, it’s alive and full of potential. Past failures need not destroy your future. ➢ You can give up when something goes wrong or you can let misfortune transform you into something better. ➢ Put on the glasses of optimism and you’ll see a world of potential in yourself. Be thankful for what you have, not sad about what you don’t have. ➢ Hope anticipates, faith believes and patience quietly waits. Always put worry in its proper place, out of your life. ➢ You have to learn to love yourself again, you have to learn to look forward and not backwards.
God says; I hate divorce…He didn’t say I hate divorced people. You have to learn to be in constant fellowship with God, constantly in his presence. The devil is ready to take advantage of your vulnerability, your weak emotional state, temptations that come your way would easily over come you, except you have grounded yourself in the word, men (especially married men) would take advantage of your situation with inviting but empty promises for your future, but remember the key to your future lies not in the hands of any man but in the hands of your God.
Your mistakes or the mistakes of others don’t have to keep you from fulfilling God’s divine plan for your life. God created you for a purpose and that purpose does not depend on the husband that you have divorced neither is it determined by your circumstances past or present. All you need remind yourself is who you are in Christ Jesus. Remind yourself that “there is there-
fore now no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).
Remind yourself that “His thoughts for you are not of evil but of peace and joy to bring you to an expected end”, and that expected end is peace, joy. Tell Him your needs and ask Him to supply them in any manner He chooses.
Hand over your future and that of your children if any, to Him, ask for his peace to reign in your heart and situation, because, divorce can rob you of your peace, (but the bible says “my peace I give to you”), the difference between God’s peace and our peace is that ours is conditional while His is supernatural.
I want to challenge you to open the door of your life to Christ and surrender your present and future to Him, believe me it is the best place to be. He is the way maker.
However, if you don’t have him as your personal Lord and saviour, it is time for you to accept him and surrender all to him.
Please pray Lord Jesus, I am a sinner. Please come into my life and forgive me all my sins. I believe you died for my sins and rose from dead. Now fill me with your Holy Spirit and guide me from this day forward.
Thank you Lord for loving me, Amen. Congratulations! Please share your testimonies with us. For further information please send an email to singleladytd@gmail.com.
