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A MOM IN AGRICULTURE
Join us as we explore a woman’s inspiring journey from Malawi to building a legacy in heirloom seeds in South Africa, advocating for sustainable living and staying true to her roots.
24 LESSONS FROM DADS
With Father’s Day coming up, we asked three local dads to share what their parenting journey has taught them, hoping their insights inspire you.
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THE NKOSI NURSERY
Meet Alex March, the selfproclaimed “Indigenous Nut” and owner of Nkosi Nursery in Howick, who has dedicated himself to preserving and nurturing indigenous flora.
22 THE ROAST MASTERS
Discover three award-winning local cafés that took top spots in the Battle of the Beans competition. Treat yourself to an expertly crafted cuppa at these regional winners!
28 SCULPTED MIDLANDS STORIES
Experience art through captivating pieces that showcase the country’s history, culture, and artistic talent.
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MAKING A SPLASH
Are you searching for a new and fun sport for your children? Try paddling! Meet the owners and coaches that guide kids and teens to success—from recreational fun to World Championships and hopefully Olympic competitions.
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WHERE IMAGINATION RUNS WILD
Explore a space for you and your kids at Imagine That! Kids Play Village, where you can feel at ease knowing your kids have a safe space to socialise and let loose.
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A MOUNTAINEERING GETAWAY
Looking for a mountain escape? Local guide Gavin Raubenheimer gives us recommendations on accommodations and safety tips for trekking and traversing the mountains.
42 BRUNCH O’CLOCK
Wondering where to have a great brunch in the countryside? From tasty treats to delicious dinner delicacies, here are some top spots in and around Howick that will keep you coming back for more. Enjoy!
Carol Sacke’s journey from heartbreak to horticultural artistry inspires resilience and beauty. Read more on page 16
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s Matthew McConaughey once said, happiness is tied to outcomes—but joy, real joy, comes from doing what we’re meant to do, regardless of the result. He reminds us that joy often comes through work—sometimes tough, often messy, always meaningful.
That thought came to mind while reading this edition and seeing story after story of people whose efforts are deeply rooted in the land, the craft, and the community. Here, we celebrate those whose work is as honest and grounded as the Midlands itself—farmers, baristas, sculptors, dads, and paddling coaches—people who, through dedication and care, build something lasting.
I also found myself drawn to the rhythm threaded through these stories—the planting, paddling, sculpting, serving—all acts that require patience and pride. There’s Chisomo Bean, keeping heirloom seeds alive across generations, and the artists whose sculptures capture identity in clay and bronze. We meet dads who speak candidly about the chaos and clarity of fatherhood, and coaches turning calm waters into places of grit and growth. And yes, as a coffee fan I love that we take a moment to reflect on the perfect cup of coffee—celebrating cafés where skill, story, and community come together in every pour. But beyond the brew, it’s the hard work behind the scenes
that fascinate me most—those roasting, building, shaping, nurturing. It’s that persistent pursuit of the best ‘cuppa’ that impresses me so much.
Running through it all is the thread of storytelling—something that’s at the very core of what we do at FabMags. Maybe it’s even what brings us that deeper kind of joy Matthew spoke about—the kind that doesn’t come from results, but from doing what we’re meant to do. I’ve always believed it’s the stories from our community that anchor us, connect us, and remind us of what we’re sharing. That’s why this magazine exists: to hold up a mirror to the Midlands and say, “Look at this. This matters.”
So grab a strong brew, settle in, and let these stories take you from a paddling session at Midmar to a brunch nook in Curry’s Post, from the rugged peaks of the Berg to the quiet persistence of seed savers. These are the Midlands stories worth telling.
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You’re probably familiar with one of our beloved bakeries, Miche Bakehouse, in Nottingham Road. They have been delighting our countryside with delectable breads and treats since 2021. Starting from humble beginnings, they have risen to humble brags about their new space. They now serve coffee and grab-and-go sandwiches in a European-style café where customers can order at the counter, collect, and either sit-in or take-away. Open from Tuesday to Friday 8:00 - 15:00, and Saturday to Sunday 8:00 - 13:00. They also serve coffee at their coffee window from 7:00.
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This local business expresses their love for local bird life and other beautiful South African fauna and flora through a range of thoughtfully-designed cotton socks, memory games, and more. Their focus is on local production with attention to quality, function and, most of all, fun! Products can be purchased in exciting, themed combos like this Birds of SA set. Retail price is R582 www.featsockco.com
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MIDLANDS THROUGH THE EYES OF A LOCAL!
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• Piggly Wiggly is the perfect place to relax and enjoy a cup of coffee.
• Coffeeberry is renowned for its artisanal pizzas baked in a woodfired oven, offering a genuine taste of Italy.
• Weekends at Howick Falls, exploring art galleries and craft shops along the Midlands Meander, with lunch at Blueberry Café, wine tasting at Highgate Estate, and dinner at Brahman Hills.
• Exploring the trails of Karkloof and going ziplining.
• Valley Bakery in the Champagne Valley has delectable pastries and breads, making it a must-visit for any baked goods enthusiast.
• Fire & Vine Restaurant! Their menu is a feast for the senses!
Hi, I’m Nandile Khumalo, a drama teacher at Pietermaritzburg Girls’ High School, content creator, make-up artist, and lover of all things fashion, beauty, and living a luxurious lifestyle. Here are a few activities I enjoy and places I frequent around in the Midlands.
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The Science of Inner Harmony
WORDS DAEL LITHGOW
In an age of relentless stimulation, meditation and mindfulness have transitioned from ancient practises to science-backed tools for holistic health. Beyond calming the mind, they reshape biology, influence genetic expression, and challenge perceptions of reality through insights from neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics. Central to this is the vagus nerve, a biological bridge linking the brain and gut. Mindfulness enhances vagal tone, improving gut health, and emotional resilience. “The gut digests emotions,” notes Dr Emeran Mayer, author of The Mind-Gut Connection. “Meditation resets this system.”
Epigenetics reveals how mindfulness alters gene expression. Dr Joe Dispenza, an expert in the field, emphasises that meditation can suppress stress-related genes while activating those tied to longevity. This “genetic editing” occurs without altering DNA—proof that our mental habits can rewrite our biological script. Our genetic destinies are not inherited from our parents, but created by the quality of our thoughts!
Quantum physics adds intrigue: the observer effect—where observation alters particle behaviour—mirrors how focused awareness in meditation shapes reality. Visualisation practises, envisioning healing or success, paired with the associated emotion, have been shown to turn quantum possibilities into tangible outcomes. Our dominant thoughts and emotions literally create our future!
Neuroscience shows meditation rewires the brain via neuroplasticity. It thickens the prefrontal cortex (decision-making) and shrinks the amygdala (fear centre), fostering emotional balance and enabling us to be calm and present even in stressful situations.
Practical steps to begin (start with one to two minutes daily to build a habit):
Breath Awareness: Focus on natural breath sensations.
Body Scan: Notice physical sensations in each body part.
Mindful Observation: Study an object’s details without judgment.
Walking Meditation: Sync with the rhythm of each step.
Gratitude Pause: Reflect on three things you’re grateful for and sit with the emotion.
Mindful Listening: Identify three to five sounds around you, without labelling or analysing.
If you are suffering in any way; emotionally, physically or mentally, a mindfulness practise can help you. Practising meditation has changed who I am, and subsequently, my entire life. Every aspect of my experience has been upgraded and enriched. I truly cannot recommend it more highly! In a world fixated on external solutions, mindfulness invites exploration of the inner universe. It’s not an escape from reality but the gateway to a deeper understanding of it. The ultimate journey awaits—are you ready?
Our genetic destinies are not inherited from our parents, but created by the quality of our thoughts!
DAEL is a passionate Self Mastery Coach, Sustainable Living Consultant, and founder of Zuvuya Mountain Sanctuary, a Retreat Centre in the Dargle Valley. He has been practising meditation since 2012 and co-hosts transformative retreats. zuluboots@gmail.com
in Resilience Rooted
WORDS
KAI COATES
Shaped by faith, tested by loss, and inspired by love—Carol Sacke Landscaping’s story is one of strength and growth.
In places where mist rolls over hills and the soil breathes with life, there is a team of gardeners who don’t just landscape—they craft living works of art, rooted in purpose, faith and perseverance. At the helm is Carol Sacke, a woman whose journey is a testament to resilience and the beauty that grows from hardship. “We exude peace, love and harmony—and this is the heart of our work,” Carol shared. “Actually, it’s God’s gardens we’re perfecting into an art form.”
Carol’s journey with nature began in Johannesburg, where she entered the Johannesburg Horticultural Garden Competition at 22-years-old. “That year we came third. I won first prize the following year—I felt like I had won the Lotto! I was so happy.” That win launched her first business, Sunsational Garden, in Johannesburg, which she ran for two decades.
In 2007, Carol, her husband Kevin, their son and daughter moved to Rosetta to run a five-star guest house—a new adventure. But in 2010, life dealt a devastating blow; their daughter Kelli tragically passed away from an inoperable brain tumour. “Our whole world collapsed around us emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially,” she recalled.
With heavy hearts, the family sold the guest house and moved once again—this time to Howick in 2014. It was there that a seed of hope was planted by an unexpected source: their neighbour, Carien. “I was broken, discouraged, with no confidence and nobody to lift me out of the mire,” Carol says. “Carien said, ‘Come and do my garden tomorrow.’ I ignored her. But the very next day I saw her again and she said with a stern voice, ‘I SAID COME AND DO MY GARDEN.’”
That single moment of encouragement was the beginning of something extraordinary. Carol had been working on a memorial garden for Kelli with no budget and limited resources. She began Carien’s garden with Edwin Khumalo, an older gardener from Mooi River, and Sipho, Carien’s gardener.
As the garden took shape, Carol’s creativity and community spirit bloomed. “I left a message on our Broadacres chat group: ‘Please send your gardener for free Coke and cake. I need to move some rocks.’ Strong, Zulu men appeared from nowhere! We actually needed a Tractor Loader Backhoe (TLB), but there’s nothing like ZULU POWER!”
As word spread, a neighbouring complex hired her, and soon she was employing young men looking for a chance. “Enter, Teddy Rain,” she says fondly. “He toiled away, even though it was hard on his own.” As the work picked up, her husband Kevin bought her a bakkie, and her small team began to grow—Mr September (Syathemba), Mr Lindt (Lindewe), and Gift (a true gift indeed).
Then came a pivotal moment. While trying on workwear at Jonsson, Carol asked a tall, soft-spoken man which shoe suited her best. “Nine months later, he
offered me the biggest landscaping job in Pietermaritzburg. He heard my story and took a chance on me.” That grand project— filled with boulders the size of bakkies and intricate natural sculptures—neared completion in April, five years later. “We’ve massaged and sculpted the Earth into an outstanding work of art. I think Van Gogh would be proud. We sure are.”
Carol’s advice to others is as down-toearth as her gardens: “Find what you love to do—that’s your gift. Use your gifts from God, because they will feed your family. If you make mistakes, turn the page, start again, and do better the next day. And laugh; laughter is the best medicine.” Through heartbreak and hard work, Carol Sacke Landscaping has become a living legacy of growth and gratitude—and she wouldn't have it any other way.
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A MOM IN
Agriculture
WORDS KAI COATES
Meet the Malawian mom who built a thriving local agriculture business. This is her inspiring story of family, farming, and the power of seeds.
practises. Beans are a particular favourite, as they don’t cross-pollinate easily, ensuring their genetic purity. In an era of mass commercialisation, Chisomo believes that saving heirloom seeds is more important than ever. Without efforts like hers, many valuable plant species could face extinction.
Through her work, Chisomo hopes to pass down invaluable lessons to her children—her knowledge, passion, and the importance of a sustainable lifestyle. “I want them to inherit my love for farming and understand that agriculture is more than just growing food; it’s about creating a better future.”
Of course, farming comes with its fair share of challenges. But Chisomo takes them in her stride. “Every day brings something new, from small hurdles to major obstacles, but I tackle them one-byone—by prioritising, problem-solving, and staying focused,” she explains.
For busy working moms juggling careers and family life, Chisomo has a heartfelt piece of advice: “If you can, involve your family in farming; it’s a beautiful way to spend quality time together. It teaches children a strong work ethic, and at the end of the day, there’s nothing more fulfilling than putting your hands in the soil and watching life grow.”
Chisomo Bean’s journey is a testament to resilience, family, and an unwavering love for the land. Her story proves that farming is about so much more than just crops; it’s about cultivating a legacy, one seed at a time.
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THE ROAST
WORDS ALICIA DU PLESSIS
We are proud to boast our three regional winners for the Battle of the Beans coffee competition. Read more about them here and make sure to go get your daily fix.
One of the best parts about the Midlands, apart from the majestic views and tight-knit community, is the exceptional coffee. We would love to celebrate three specific cafés that were selected as the regional winners of the Battle of the Beans competition recently: Lineage Coffee in Nottingham Road, Home Slice Café at The Old Mushroom Farm in Karkloof, and Next Coffee in Pietermaritzburg. Organised by the Coffee Colab (Coffee Collaboration), a collective of coffee experts and enthusiasts, the competition spanned eight regions in KwaZulu-Natal.
Ingrid Shevlin, Coffee Colab founder, shared that the aim of the competition was to “boost the coffee industry, recognise the positive role played by coffee shops during the pandemic, which managed to survive and thrive despite restaurant closures, and to reward the coffee shops consistently producing excellent coffee with heart.”
A HANDS ON APPROACH
Lineage Coffee was founded in 2012 by Craig Charity, who was later joined by business partner Dom Marot in 2018, where they launched the Nottingham Road café. For over a decade, Lineage has been sourcing and roasting speciality coffee beans from Africa and around the globe. Craig made his mark in the coffee industry early, winning the South African Barista Championship in 2013, placing in the top 15 at the World Barista Championship in
2014, and claiming the title at the All-African Barista Championship in 2017.
A hands-on approach has always been key to their success; roasting all their café beans inhouse gives them full control over quality and consistency. Dom described their barista team as one of the “most important ingredients” in the whole process. “They’re the final step in the coffee’s journey before it reaches your hands, and that moment can make or
break whether you have an incredible coffee experience or not. Their passion and attention to detail are what take a great coffee and turn it into something amazing.” “Winning this award has given us a fresh excitement to keep our standards high. Knowing that judges could be anywhere, at any time, keeps us motivated to serve exceptional coffee every single day. And, of course, we’d love to win it again!” Dom shared.
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FOR THE LOVE OF COMMUNITY
Home Slice Café was founded in 2020, by two friends who shared one vision and wanted to open a dining space with community and inclusivity at heart. It is now solely owned and run by Sandy Chowles after her business partner stepped down to pursue new endeavours. From humble 15-seater beginnings, the café has grown to seat over 50 guests, serving delicious meals, fresh bread, and award-winning coffee from local Bluebird Coffee Roastery.
Their café manager, Zweli Sithole, won second place in the Red Espresso: Vote for Your Favourite Barista competition in KwaZulu-Natal in August 2022, an achievement the team is highly proud of. Additionally, they have also been unofficially dubbed as having the “Best Coffee in Howick” by their consistent and loyal community of cyclists. At Home Slice Café, every sip of coffee feels like being at home, in a relaxing and fun environment that fosters a sense of community.
“We embody consistency, care, and attention to detail. It’s the small, often tedious steps that make all the difference in crafting a consistently great cup of coffee,” shared Sandy.
A TASTE OF DUBAI
Founded in 2024 by Naasir Hoosen and Suhail Bayat, the idea of Next Coffee was born in a Dubai mall when both founders envisioned a café of their own while sipping on a cup of coffee. While still in the learning phase of growing their café, the duo has a lot to offer to the Pietermaritzburg community. They have established a space with returning regulars, creating an atmosphere where
everyone can feel at home and indulge in delicious meals and award-winning coffee.
“We’re so grateful to God for everything we’ve achieved thus far. It’s an incredible honour to be nominated among the region’s best. It feels amazing to see our hard work, passion, and commitment to creating a welcoming space and serving great coffee recognised in this way.
We would like to acknowledge our team, without whom Next Coffee would not be the café it is today, and of course, our customers and community for their support. This nomination motivates us to continue improving and striving to make every visit memorable,” shared Naasir.
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LESSONS From Dads
As we celebrate Father’s Day, we thought we’d share a few learned life lessons from three local dads and how they have navigated their parental roles.
Stevan Wien
The Kids
I’ve got two kids—Juandré and Amory. One was born on 1 November, the other on 1 December. I always mix up the two, but luckily, birthdays are saved on my phone. They’re three years apart, and they both keep me on my toes in their own way.
Navigating Your Role as a Father
Let’s just say I wing it—with love and a bit of panic. I’ve had loads of help from my family and friends, and I now find myself quoting my parents—the very ones I used to roll my eyes at. Turns out they were onto something.
Happiest Moments
Seeing them grow into awesome little
humans (and surviving the teenage phase). Phones and social media are a full-time battle—we didn’t grow up with that stuff, so now I’m part dad, part digital bouncer.
The Meaning of Fatherhood
It means showing up—even when you’re tired, confused, or hiding in the bathroom for five minutes of peace. Mostly, it’s about leading by example and trying not to mess them up too much.
Biggest Lesson Learned
That you never stop learning. Just when you think you’ve cracked it, they grow up and change the game. It’s like trying to update your parenting software constantly.
Advice for Fathers-to-be
Sleep now. And maybe rethink your decision—just kidding (sort of). It’s the wildest, most meaningful ride, but you’ve got to be ready to give it your all.
Stages of Parenthood
Every stage has humbled me. From napkins to drama, I’ve had to evolve constantly. I ask questions, get advice, and accept that I’ll never fully have it together—and that’s okay.
Words To Live By
No one has it all figured out—even the ones who look like they do. Parenting is messy, loud, and full of coffee. Just show up, love hard, and laugh when you can.
David Allen
The Kids
I have two wonderful daughters, aged seven and 11. I thoroughly enjoy being a dad.
Navigating Your Role as a Father
There’s a wonderful quote by Abigail Van Buren: “If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them and half as much money”. I strive for a balanced approach to parenting, focusing on instilling independence in my kids, rather than paving their path. I aim to equip them with the skills to navigate life’s challenges.
Happiest Moments
When I was single, I never thought that I would one day have so much joy from just sitting and watching my kids play together, and until you’re a parent, that statement won’t make sense.
The Meaning of Fatherhood
When you’re a dad, giving up isn’t an option, you have to be there for your kids. As a police reservist, I’ve seen the negative impact of not having a good father or good role models in kids’ lives.
Biggest Lesson Learned
Patience. I can’t fix all my daughters’ problems. That transcends into life too. One thing I’ve learned being a dad is that I’ve got to let certain things go. Another lesson I’ve learned is that my words won’t be as impactful as my actions, so I have to set a good example for them.
Advice for Fathers-to-be
Parenting is about self-sacrifice. Your kids come first. My advice is to show up even if it’s just on video call, but each day, children need one meaningful eye-to-eye conversation with a parent. I travel a lot, often out of the country, but every day I make an effort to video call my kids to find out how their day was. It makes them feel loved.
Stages of Parenthood
From newborn and toddlers to preschoolers, one thing I learned was to sleep whenever I got the chance. I also started appreciating the little things, like sitting and having dinner with my kids, reading a bedtime story with them or watching their first sports match. Unfortunately, you can’t hang on to each phase. You have to embrace the moments as they pass by quickly.
Words To Live By
I always remember Billy Graham’s words, “A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets of our society”. Therefore, I need to be there for my children and add value to my kids’ lives.
PHOTO DEBBIE ALLEN
Kyle Friedenstein
The Kids
In 2019, our eldest son, Jack, was born. Just 15 months later, our youngest son, Max, arrived! Our boys are now four and fiveyears-old.
Navigating Your Role as a Father
There is no one single parenting style which we follow. Our boys are such individuals and seem to respond differently to various parenting techniques. I think consistency is really important and I try to find a balance between setting and maintaining strong boundaries but also approaching my boys with empathy. Knowing I need to lead by example is maybe one of the biggest challenges. I can’t expect my kids to regulate their emotions if I can’t regulate my own when I’m around them. One of the best parts about being a dad is physical play and diffusing tough situations with jokes and
teasing. Some books I’ve read that have been valuable for me in my role as a father: No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina P. Bryson, The Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt, and A Guide To The Good Life by William B. Irvine.
Happiest Moments
Surprisingly, some of my happiest moments are the seemingly mundane. I love picking up my boys from school, they always come bounding up to me beaming. I read to them most nights, which is typically followed by a big Q&A session! I’ve also thoroughly enjoyed adventuring with them and witnessing their growth as they tackle activities we initially thought might be challenging, such as hiking, cave sleeping, and road tripping.
The Meaning of Fatherhood
Your children deserve the happiest and healthiest version of you. This means striving to be your best self whilst leaving enough in the tank to give to them.
Advice for Fathers-to-be
Being a parent is quite challenging. I know I haven’t got everything right, but I really love being a dad, and I believe my boys can sense how much they’re loved and cherished. You will love your children more than anything in this world and you’re also going to make mistakes along the way (that’s normal) but never miss an opportunity to let them know just how happy and grateful you are to have them in your life.
Words To Live By
Pablo Picasso once said: “The meaning of life is to find your gift, the purpose of life is to give it away.” I’d prefer to walk through my life being generous. Generous in time, kindness, knowledge and love.
Sculpted MIDLANDS STORIES
WORDS CRISTINA GOVENDER
Art comes in many forms, and sculpture is a medium where thoughts are given weight and emotion is cast in shadow and light. A sculpture is an idea made solid. We look at a few iconic and thought provoking pieces.
The Unity Arch
The rationale and philosophy of the design is entrenched in the nature, meaning, physicality and aesthetic of the Indentured Labour of South Africa. Every aspect of their journey is entwined and symbolised within the monument. All steel is between 4mm and 8mm thick and with a Galtex sealer, currently being built by Brendon Edwards at Infinity at Enfin Art Estate.
The outer upright steel curves are a layered representation, in a compelling human story, with the names of 684 individuals who made this journey of endurance etched into the structure and the 29 who passed on the internal structure. The two outer steel uprights are representative of the two passenger ships, ‘The Belvedere’ and ‘The Truro’. The main arch of unity is another strong focal point. All life is defined by time and the unity arch marks their time.
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About Infinity at Enfin Estate: This magnificent organic venue overlooks one of the oldest World Heritage Sites, the Drakensberg Mountain Range. Constructed on the mountainside of the 100 acre Enfin Estate you will find the creation of artists Brendon Edwards and Michelle Cleveland - Infinity.
Morning Cf
By Falconer Art Studios, Seth and Claire Falconer, this piece represents the balance, beauty, and tension of collaboration. Just as two partners chat over their morning coffee, these African paradise flycatchers breathe together before the day begins.
This limited-edition bronze is on display at The Platform Gallery in Lion’s River. With the coppery tones and blue shimmer of the flycatchers, this sculpture is worth viewing in person. The birds are life-size and seem to have alighted on the branch just moments ago.
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About Falconer Art Studios: A collaboration between South African artists, Falconer Art Studios create custom sculptures. Artists Claire Falconer and Seth Falconer sculpt the original artworks, then work with their team at The Falconer Foundry to transform these sculptures into timeless bronze.
Paradise
South Africa’s incredible blue cranes are also known as Paradise Cranes. In this piece, three cranes take flight. Are they searching for paradise or leaving it? Or is it in fact at this very moment? This limited-edition artwork was handcast in bronze. It was sculpted by Claire and Seth Falconer in their Midlands studio. The studio is part of a bronze foundry where they cast their own work and those of other Midlands artists. ‘Paradise’ is available for viewing by appointment at the studios, which are outside Mooi River, next door to Hartford House.
The Dlamini Clecti
For the past 20 years, these figurines have been sold at the Zulu Lulu Gallery. They are ceramic, sculpted from clay by Tim Dlamini and Tim Buthelezi. The exterior effect is created by combining fire, glazing and baking in a raku kiln, before being put into sawdust at 1000°C to give it that crackled effect.
You will notice each figurine has an item on their head, this is determined by what is on their minds and in their hearts. It is inspired by the notion that from a young age, local people are adept at carrying things on their heads. They are beautiful collectables to adorn your home with, and now is the best time to snatch one (or a few) before they are out of stock!
About Piggly Wiggly: Situated on the R103 Midlands Meander, and on the beautiful property of Highgate Wine Estate, you get a distinctive outdoor shopping centre with gorgeous views of the vineyards. Offering a variety of lifestyle destination shops, more than five eating establishments, plenty of activities for young and old, Piggly Wiggly is a must-visit destination.
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Nestled in the scenic Midlands, Fordoun offers a world-class spa, gourmet dining at Skye Bistro, and stunning event spaces. Enjoy picnics at the dam and walks on the conservancy. Open to both hotel guests and day visitors. Visit Fordoun today and leave rejuvenated.
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VISION TO EXHIBITION
WORDS KAI COATES
Art in the Country has become KZN’s most anticipated Art Event and we got to speak with the founder Kathy Jacob, as she shares why she created the exhibition and what to expect for the 2025 event.
When artist Kathy Jacob launched Art in the Country in 2021, her vision was clear—to create a “quality over quantity” art exhibition—a curated platform that truly supports and celebrates artists. Hosted at the scenic Harrington House in the Midlands, the event has quickly earned a reputation as KZN’s premier art showcase, described by artists from Johannesburg and Cape Town as “the best of its kind”.
Since last year’s event, Kathy has been working hard to refine the experience. This year, more sculptors, including Emma Halford and Carol Slabolepszy from My Hares & Graces, will be introduced. Renowned burn artist Mandy Johnston will present a captivating live burn demonstration each evening, while Ukrainian-born underwater artist Olga Nikitina adds a unique dimension to the lineup.
The focus remains on showcasing a diverse range of artistic talent and uniting the creative community. Applications for Art in the Country open annually in October via social media, with over 120 artists vying for one of the limited 60 stands each year. “We choose a variety of mediums and reach out to artists we spot in galleries or online,” Kathy shares.
This year’s highlights include botanical watercolours by Jean Elworthy, woodcut prints by Mlungisi Cele, fine art mosaics by Hilton-based Sarah Pryke, and work by Siyabonga Sikosana, whose pieces are collected worldwide.
More than an art exhibition, Art in the Country is a full sensory experience. Attendees can enjoy gourmet food prepared by the Jackie Cameron School of Food & Wine, live music by Dezz and René Tshiakanyi, and the charm of the Midlands countryside. With a growing
presence of new and returning talent, a vibrant atmosphere, and the launch of a school art competition for 2026, this year’s event promises to be unforgettable. Kathy remains committed to evolving the exhibition while honouring the elements that make it a success—exceptional art, community spirit, and a setting that inspires.
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Sports play a big role in our community, and a husbandand-wife duo has pioneered a series of kids’ canoe races to help local kids find adventure.
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COACHES: LORNA OLIVER & BONGANI NTINGA
Meet Rachel and Kyle Friedenstein, a dedicated couple who saw an opportunity to continue growing a sport in the community. When the pandemic struck in 2020 and school sports were cancelled, a few friends asked if Kyle could coach their children in paddling on their farm in Curry’s Post. Word spread, and with borrowed ‘guppy’ boats, a small group of kids began lessons. Recognising the potential, Midlands Paddling School was born and relocated to Midmar Dam, making training more accessible. With the support of the Midmar Canoe Club and dedicated coaches, the school quickly flourished. Midlands Paddling School offers tailored classes. Young Guppies (6-7-years-old) start with the basics, while 8-12-year-olds choose from beginner, intermediate, or performance classes, with the latter for those race training. Teens (13-18-yearsold) have beginner and intermediate options to develop skills without the pressure of competition.
For competitive juniors, the Junior Squad prepares paddlers for K1 racing, national teams, and international events. The programme includes strength and conditioning, in-person and independent training, and high-performance camps covering technique, mental prep, and recovery. The school also offers private lessons and coaching for local high school teams. A popular addition is the ladies’ class on Friday mornings, allowing moms to join the fun.
At the KZN Sprint Champs in March, Kaden Hogarty (Maritzburg College), who started paddling at age nine, won both U14 races, while Craig Cribbins (Michaelhouse) won both U18 K1 races. Both athletes follow the Junior Squad programme, demonstrating dedication and progress. A major milestone was the launch of the KZN Guppy League, a series of eight adventurous canoe races on rivers like the Umzimkulu, Lions, Umngeni, and Tugela. This initiative, possibly the first of its kind in South Africa, allowed kids to experience formal river racing and develop essential paddling skills. How thrilling! Looking ahead, Midlands Paddling School aims to build a clear development pathway
Through imaginative play, children develop vital skills:
• Cognitive: Problem-solving, critical thinking, and memory-building
• Social: Communication, collaboration, and empathy
• Emotional: Confidence, self-expression, and resilience
• Physical: Fine and gross motor skills, coordination, and sensory exploration
It’s no wonder parents call Imagine That! a lifesaver!
Endless Adventures
From a bustling Vet and Dog Parlour to a delicious Bakery and a hands-on Construction Site, every corner of Imagine That! bursts with creativity. The Dress-Up Corner ignites endless stories, and parents love watching their little ones craft entire worlds from their imaginations. “I love witnessing the unchecked imagination of children at play—it’s pure magic!” Stacy beams.
A Haven for Parents Too!
Let’s be honest—the ultimate parenting win is sipping a hot cup of coffee in peace (yes, hot, not lukewarm!). At Imagine That!, moms and dads can enjoy a delicious cuppa with a tasty snack while their little adventurers are happily engaged.
A Passionate Team
The heart of Imagine That! is its enthusiastic and caring team. Every staff
member is passionate about children, trained in childcare and first-aid, and dedicated to creating a warm, welcoming environment. Your little ones are always in safe and loving hands.
Exciting Extras & Unforgettable Events
The fun never stops. Imagine That! Kids Play Village is constantly evolving, offering:
• Holiday Clubs
• Nanny Days
• Birthday Parties
• Mom Support Groups
• Market Day Drop & Shop: On the last Saturday of each month, parents enjoy an hour of free play for their kids between 8:00 a.m. and 12:00 p.m. while they shop at The Quarry Market
• Storytime Sessions with Real-Life Princesses and Beloved Characters
• Exciting Monthly Activations and Events
And that’s not all! Imagine That! now offers an exclusive personalised book—a beautiful keepsake featuring your child’s name and face in a heartwarming adventure at Imagine That! It’s available to order via letsplay@ imaginethatkidsplaycentre.co.za or WhatsApp 074 610 2959. So what are you waiting for? Visit the website at www.imaginethatplaycentre.co.za to find their rates and bookings. Join the adventure—and see what your little ones imagine!
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WORDS KAI COATES
From cosy corners to garden escapes, we’ve rounded up the ultimate brunch destinations where good food meets great atmosphere. Ready to discover your next favourite spot?
Piggly Wiggly Coffee Shop
Located in the heart of the Midlands, is your go-to spot for great coffee, delicious food, and a relaxed countryside atmosphere.
Coffee lovers can relish expertly brewed blends, while those looking for something special can sip on a glass of wine or a refreshing drink.
A must-try is the Croque Madame—a toasted Black Forest ham and cheese sandwich, topped with a rich cheese sauce and a perfectly fried egg, making it an ideal choice for any time of day.
Guests at Piggly Wiggly Coffee Shop can savour fresh salads, enjoy a leisurely brunch and indulge in sweet treats.
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The Hall Café
Situated in the heart of Howick, just a short distance from the iconic Howick Falls is The Hall Café. In 2024, Angels Care transformed the historic Old Agricultural Hall into a vibrant community centre dedicated to the holistic care and development of children from indigent homes in the greater Howick area. As part of this restoration, the attached restaurant space—previously home to various cafés—was preserved and reimagined, giving rise to The Hall Café, who contribute a portion of their profits to Angels Care’s initiatives. For a standout brunch dish, the signature “Eggs Bennie” is a must-try—featuring toasted sourdough topped with dry-cured streaky bacon, two perfectly poached free-range eggs, a creamy parsley hollandaise sauce, and fresh micro greens.
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Situated on Curry’s Post Road, offering a relaxed setting for great food and quality time with loved ones, is Midlands Fable. Enjoy fresh, flavourful dishes from breakfast to dinner, and unwind in their beautiful gardens, featuring a charming maze and rose tunnel.
For a standout brunch, they highly recommend their Peri-Peri Chicken Livers Flambéed in brandy and cooked in a rich, spicy cream sauce, they’re served with fresh sourdough toast to soak up every last bite. Bold, comforting, and full of flavour; it’s a dish you don’t want to miss.
Set within a picturesque garden at Harrington House, Pépère Café provides a tranquil escape. The café’s name is a heartfelt tribute to a beloved grandfather, inspired by the French word for “grandfather”—one who made endless cups of tea, told bedtime stories well into adulthood, and never forgot the lemon creams. Enjoy a meal indoors, wrapped in warmth and charm, or outdoors amongst London Plane trees, water features, and handcrafted iron furniture. Breakfast is served all day, with the signature Potato Breakfast as a standout choice. This hearty dish features sautéed baby potatoes, caramelised onions, roasted Rosa tomatoes, topped with two perfectly poached eggs and a homemade harissa hollandaise. For those looking to indulge, bacon can be added as an extra treat.
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of ours. He is a knowledgeable, creative, kind, and straightforward person who runs his business in a very professional way,” she enthused. Many indigenous nurseries are based on the coast, where plants grow easily, but they are not tough enough for a Drakensberg garden. So, Alex focussed on Midlands plants that thrived in colder conditions. Jean and Ant Carte, who built Montusi Mountain Lodge on a neglected wattle wasteland, concur. “Alex has shared his experience, encouraged us to experiment and helped us propagate plants on-site. Our beautiful indigenous gardens are now a talking point amongst our guests. Other gardens might claim to be the best gardens in KZN but Montusi can certainly claim the title of Best Indigenous Nkosi Garden!” In 2017, Nkosi Nursery was awarded the contract to rescue and rehabilitate the slopes created by the upgrade to Sani Pass. Elsa Pooley had told the contractors, “There is only one person qualified for the job, with experience in dealing with the harsh winters of the inland areas. Alex.” Sani was an interesting challenge for the Nkosi team. “We needed a multi-pronged approach—we gathered seed, collected plants, dug up sods, saved topsoil and took cuttings.
Being a World Heritage Site, the steep banks couldn’t be plastered with easy options like kikuyu or concrete,” explained Alex. In many areas, the results were fantastic. Elsa added, “His skill has been to re-establish the natural mix of species on the roadsides after construction of the road, with plants he rescued and grown on.
Alex is a national treasure.” After 23 years, Nkosi Nursery had outgrown the possibilities of the Karkloof site, and Alex looked around for a new home. “You have to bet on yourself,” he advised. “I took the leap in 2022 and bought the land in Howick where Nkosi is now based.” Alex and his team are now dreaming of producing a wider selection of plants, and developing a dedicated retail area for keen gardeners to find inspiration and shop.
Erythrina lysistemon will soon bloom. Their scarlet winter flowers will remind Alex of where his journey began, the time that he took his destiny into his soilcovered hands (with a few lucky bean seeds in his pocket), and planted roots to thrive in a new place.
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The Power of Sleep Hygiene
WORDS LISA GLAISTER
An interesting title, right? You might be wondering, “What does sleep hygiene even mean?” It’s not about cleaning your bed; it’s the term used to describe habits and an environment that promotes good sleep. Just like we need food to fuel our bodies, we need sleep to stay healthy. Yet, despite its importance, many of us overlook how we sleep. If sleep is essential to our well-being, why do so many of us struggle to get enough of it? Are you taking care of your sleep, or leaving it to chance?
Key Elements of a Restful Night’s Sleep:
• Time: Aim for six to eight hours of sleep, which allows for four to five sleep cycles of about 90 minutes each.
• Darkness: Keep your room dark to help your body release melatonin, the hormone that signals when it’s time to sleep. Light (including screens) interferes with melatonin and makes it harder to fall asleep.
• Cool Temperature: Aim for a room temperature between 15.6 to 20°C. This cool environment helps your body relax and supports deeper sleep.
• Quiet: A peaceful environment is essential. Pets or other distractions can disturb your important sleep cycles, leaving you feeling less rested.
Sleep Benefits for Your Body and Mind:
• Immune Function & Beauty: Sleep strengthens your immune system, supports tissue regeneration, and slows ageing. A good night’s sleep leaves you feeling refreshed, energised, and looking your best. Have you experienced a bad night’s sleep and felt moody, sluggish and less vibrant?
• Mental Health: Morning sunlight and a few minutes walk outdoors can improve your mood, support the natural melatonin release cycle and help you feel more relaxed.
• Hormones: Sleep deprivation increases ghrelin
(the hunger hormone) and lowers leptin (the feeling full hormone), making you feel hungrier.
• Cognitive Health: Good sleep enhances focus, memory, and daily performance.
• Peri-menopause: If you’re experiencing peri-menopause, maintaining healthy sleep habits is crucial.
What to Avoid:
• Alcohol, Caffeine, & Nicotine: These disrupt sleep. Alcohol affects deep sleep, while caffeine and nicotine are stimulants that stay in your system for hours.
• Intense Exercise: Avoid vigorous exercise too close to bedtime, as it releases endorphins and stimulates the nervous system, making it harder to relax and fall asleep.
Practical Tips for Better Sleep:
• Charge your phone in another room to avoid distractions before sleep.
• Stick to a regular sleep routine to keep your internal clock in sync. Aim for the same wake time each day.
• Create a relaxing bedtime routine—read, take a warm bath, or practise relaxation techniques before bed.
So, what do your mornings and nights look like? Small changes to your sleep routine can make a big difference in how you feel.
LISA has a Science Honours Degree from UCT, is a qualified Neuroscience Hardwires Interpretation Coach, and is a Certified Health and Wellness Coach from the UK Health Coaches Academy. Lisa@corehealth.org.za
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The Risk of Community Apathy
WORDS TIM JOHNSON
I’ve always been someone who gets involved in any community I live in. My wife constantly tells me that I need to take on less; easier said than done. For me, however, one of the biggest differentiators in communities that are generally thriving, is a strong sense of civic duty and active participation.
The best communities aren’t where residents sit back and wait for the government to fix everything. They’re where people and officials work together, where residents take ownership of their spaces and help drive solutions. Public apathy, the mindset of waiting for others to step in, is one of the biggest threats to functional communities. It allows poor governance to thrive, service delivery to collapse, and frustration to build. Yet, despite the complaints, many people still don’t step up. The bottom line is that there is no magical “someone else” who will always swoop in to save the day.
I’ve seen it time and again. When people disengage, things can go downhill. Contrary to some beliefs, the colour of the political party logo also does not guarantee transparency and service delivery. Expecting any official to just do their job without being held accountable is sadly wishful thinking. Also, just assuming that a small group of activists or ratepayers’ associations can carry the weight of an entire community isn’t fair. The more people step up, the more power a community has to demand better services, transparency, and create positive change. In essence, the problem isn’t that people don’t notice what’s going wrong, it’s that they do, but think, “That’s the government’s job”, or “I’m too busy, someone else must sort it out”, or even, “What difference can I really make?” So, they wait.
Meanwhile, the few people who do step up, often the same handful in every community, find themselves overwhelmed, exhausted, and, frankly, frustrated that others won’t pull their weight.
Public participation is a constitutional right that should be exercised by all South African citizens. The Municipal Systems Act clearly states that a municipality consists of three parts: political structures, administration and the community. Our right to public participation is enshrined in both the Constitution and the Local Government Municipal Systems Act, which deals with public participation in local government.
So, what can you actually do? I get it, life is busy. Not everyone has the time, or energy, to attend every meeting, draft letters, or rally protests. Getting involved doesn’t however have to take over your life. Small actions, done consistently, make a difference. Show up at meetings, even just once in a while, to stay informed; join or support your local residents’ business or ratepayers group, who generously give freely of their time to represent the community; report service delivery issues; hold elected officials accountable by asking questions and demanding transparency, no matter your political leaning; and help with community projects such as clean-ups, safety initiatives, or fundraisers.
So, if you’re reading this and thinking, “Should I get involved?”, the answer is yes. Do something. Anything. Because if we all wait for someone else, we may be waiting forever.
Public apathy, the mindset of waiting for others to step in, is one of the biggest threats to functional communities
