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MAKINWA: Unveiling Her Unfiltered World -From Stardom To Real Life!

MAKINWA: Unveiling Her Unfiltered World -From Stardom To Real Life!
TOKE MAKINWA: Unveiling her Unfiltered World - From Stardom to Real Life!
Toke Makinwa, a Nigerian radio personality, television host, vlogger, lifestyle entrepreneur, actress, and author who has made a name for herself through sheer grit and hard work, is without a doubt one of Africa's top show hosts...
Olarewaju EDITORBeing The “Beholder” Of Your Own Beauty And Body
We have all heard the saying, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder," haven't we? But when we think about it, we usually imagine someone else looking at us rather than ourselves.
FASHION
Dress to Impress: Outfit for Every Woman's Shape
SCRUMPTIOUS
RESTAURANT REVIEW- Soho Chinese Restaurant
PUBLISHER Rita Dominic
EDITOR
Olamide Olarewaju
WRITER
Danielle Anene
PAGE PLANNER / GRAPHIC DESIGNER King Remus
SOCIAL MEDIA
Faith Okenwa
CONTRIBUTORS
Dr. Ikunna Onwuanibe
Dr. Blossom Maduafokwa
Dr. Uzoamaka Iloabachie
WakaWaka Dr.
"Dtnow first published in 2017 is the lifestyle anchor for the Dailytimes Nigeria, Nigeria's oldest surviving newsmedia platform. Published since 1926, we stepped back ideated and have developed a companion that will serve your lifestyle needs like no other...thats a promise."
IHi there, and welcome! knew I wanted every aspect of Toke Makinwa's personality to shine through when I thought about interviewing her. "The theme will delve into Toke Makinwa's essence as a media darling, entrepreneur, influential celebrity, and all-around grown jet setter who is making the bank and living life unapologetically," I wrote to one of her team members. She is shown in her true form: fashionable, intelligent, playful, and stylish."
I recall sharing the brief with my publisher, who said it was "perfect." She put in a style direction, commissioned the looks, and the result is what you see this week.
Toke Makinwa has done well for herself, despite being in the news frequently for her no holds barred opinions. Nigerians have a love-hate relationship with her, but they are continually curious about what she is up to. We got to speak to her for our cover interview which you can read or watch on our YouTube channel, where you can also see behind-the-scenes action.
Wakawaka Dr is sharing his top Instagramworthy destinations to visit in 2023, and they are worth noting for your next holiday. You should absolutely look at the list to help you plan your next trip.
This issue, Dr. Ikunna discusses erectile dysfunction, which is more frequent than you believe, and how to deal with it. It's a must-read for everyone interested in learning more about this topic.
Beauty is themed largely around self-love this week, Danielle is telling you to be the beholder of your own beauty, with fashion it is dressing for your body type which is a key thing for flattering fits. She discusses being ready for a new relationship, and if you are, there are a few gems in there for you.
Scrumptious explores guilt free snacks for a trimer waist line and there’s a restaurant appetiser and drinks review but you’ll have to find out if you need to add this place to your list.
This edition is curated so there’s something for everyone again in this edition. Per usual, please read, enjoy and share.
See you in the next one!
We have all heard the saying, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder," haven't we? But when we think about it, we usually imagine someone else looking at us rather than ourselves. What if we told you that you are actually the first beholder of your own beauty and body? In this edition, we will be discussing how you can appreciate yourself more. Many people struggle with self-appreciation and are often overly critical of themselves. However, it is important to remember that you hold the key to recognizing your own beauty and appreciating your body before anyone else.
Here are a few things you should keep in mind to fully appreciate yourself:
The first key to appreciating your body and beauty is finding contentment. This means embracing who you are in every season without adding unnecessary pressure. It's natural to want more, maybe you want to get thicker or slimmer; however, stressing out about not being in the shape you want will only lead to body negativity. While a little pressure, like going to the gym or eating right, can be motivating, constantly dwelling on what you can't change right away is not healthy. Instead, take the time to recognize your daily accomplishments. Celebrate even the smallest successes, and give yourself credit for your efforts and progress.
Be mindful of your internal dialogue and consciously choose to replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Instead of saying phrases like "I'm fat" or "I'm too skinny," reframe it as "I am beautiful, regardless of my size." By doing so, you can cultivate positive emotions while releasing negativity. Engaging in a daily practice of selfdeclaration is beneficial for your mental well-being and helps prevent body dysmorphic thoughts. Dedicate 10-20 minutes each day to lovingly affirming yourself and practicing self-acceptance. Additionally, make it a habit to reflect on the things you are grateful for in your life. This shift in focus allows you to appreciate the positive aspects of yourself and your life, shifting away from negative self-perception.
To truly love yourself, it is crucial to refrain from engaging in negative self-talk. One effective way to do this is by avoiding comparisons with others. In our society, we are often encouraged to be competitive, which makes comparing ourselves to others a natural tendency. However, this can be detrimental to our well-being. It is important to remember that your worth does not increase or decrease based on external events or the circumstances of others. To safeguard your mental health, it is important to practice self-compassion exercises when others experience success. There is simply no point in comparing yourself to anyone else because you are unique. Instead, focus on your individual journey and personal growth. Shifting your energy inward will provide a sense of liberation. Moreover, strive to genuinely rejoice in the accomplishments of others, even if you feel you have been treated unfairly. Your time will come, perhaps in a different context. Ultimately, we all achieve what we desire. It is essential to recognize that you deserve respect, and comparison only undermines that. There is no need to blame yourself for setbacks or someone else's victory.
One of the greatest ways to condition our minds (and our lives) towards a positive angle is with our day to day habits. Prioritize self-care and make time for activities that make you feel good. Engage in activities that help you relax, rejuvenate, and boost your self-esteem. This could be anything from practicing mindfulness, exercising, reading, eating well, or spending time with loved ones. Your good habits have so much power behind the entirety of your mindset and your actions. If we have bad habits, these can lessen our selfesteem and then lead to feelings of constant doubt and second-guessing our every action. It’s also in our habits that we can train our minds to have a stronger capacity. For instance, having a morning routine is an example of a good and healthy habit. Not only does this promote dedication and motivation, but doing this makes you productive and ends up making you love yourself afterward.
The truth is, when you appreciate yourself, the way you react to a compliment differs from when you don't appreciate or recognize your own beauty. Keep in mind that self-appreciation is a process that requires time and effort. Be patient with yourself and consistently put these strategies into practice. As you learn to appreciate and value yourself more, you will discover even greater beauty within you.
There is no better way to boost your self-esteem than by wearing outfits that accentuate your unique shape. We believe that every woman is beautiful, and the right clothes can enhance your natural beauty and make you feel like a superstar. In this edition, we will delve into the fabulous world of fashion that flatters your figure, whether you're curvy, petite, hourglass, or somewhere in between.
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If you have an hourglass body shape, which means your bust and hips are about the same width and you have a defined waist, consider yourself blessed with balanced proportions. Embrace your curves by choosing fitted clothing that highlights your natural waistline. For outfit inspiration, opt for a formfitting midi wrap dress in a bold color such as deep red or emerald green. This will accentuate your hourglass figure. Pair the dress with a waist belt to draw attention to your waist, and complete the look with killer heels to elongate your legs.
Ladies with a smaller stature, embrace your petite frame and enjoy the versatility of fashion! The key is to create the illusion of height and elongate your figure. Here's some outfit inspiration: Pair a highwaisted A-line skirt with a tucked-in blouse to make your legs appear longer. If you choose a skirt with vertical stripes, it will add even more height to your look. Lastly, don't forget to complete the ensemble with your favorite pair of nude pumps.
Pear-shaped beauties, celebrate your shapely hips and thighs by focusing on balancing your proportions. The secret is to draw attention upward. Try a fit-and-flare dress that cinches at the waist and flares out from the hips. To further emphasize your upper body, opt for a V-neck or boatneck top. This will make you feel gorgeous and create a sense of balance in your overall look.
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Rectangular figures exude sophistication and grace. The aim is to enhance curves and add definition to your physique. Consider this outfit inspiration: Pair a peplum top with fitted trousers to create the illusion of a curvier silhouette. Complete the look by adding a statement belt to cinch your waist, and you'll be ready to grace the runway.
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Curvy ladies, your figure is a masterpiece. Embrace your curves with confidence and comfort. For inspiration, try a body-hugging wrap dress in a flattering print, which works wonders to accentuate your shape. Smooth out any lines with shapewear, if desired, and complement with a statement necklace.
If you have an athletic build with well-defined shoulders and a toned physique, let's flaunt those strong lines! Tailored blazers paired with wide-leg pants can emphasize your powerful shoulders and create a balanced look. To add a touch of femininity, opt for chunky heels. An outfit inspiration: pair a fitted blouse with wideleg trousers to create an intriguing contrast. Feel free to experiment with accessories such as statement belts or scarves to truly make the outfit your own.
There is beauty to be found in all shapes and sizes. For those who don't neatly fit into a specific category, the key is to mix and match styles in order to accentuate your favourite features and express your personal style.
Remember, fashion is ultimately about self-expression and feeling fabulous in your own skin. These outfit inspirations are simply a starting point. What truly matters is wearing what makes you feel confident and happy. With the right clothing choices, you can highlight your unique shape, exude confidence, and turn heads wherever you go. So, step into your closet and embrace your individual, beautiful figure today!
Discussion on sexual health topics is difficult for both women and men. It is especially tricky for men to open up on sensitive personal issues like erectile problems. Men are often expected to be resilient and dependable, and to “man up”, but unfortunately this has a knockon effect on how they communicate about their mental and physical health. Erectile dysfunction (ED) happens when men have trouble attaining and sustaining an erection sufficient for satisfying sexual intercourse. The penis does not get firm enough or softens too soon for normal men, about 25% of the time. If ED occurs occasionally, there may be no need to seek medical help but if ED is regular, then there might be a medical cause which needs to be assessed.
Erectile dysfunction can have a profound effect on well-being. Half of men with ED say that they feel like a failure; a fifth of men avoid sex altogether. This tends to leave most couples dissatisfied. Numerous studies have shown that an active sex life is strongly associated with living longer. Researchers in California found that men who experience ED are more likely to be less productive at work than those who do not have ED. It is essential that society creates room for men to feel free to communicate and not suffer in silence when it comes to their health.
How Common is ED?
ED is quite common. About half of men aged between 40 and 70 men suffer from ED. About one in four men younger than 40 can experience ED. Surveys show that about one in four men do not seek medical help because they are embarrassed, as a result of the perceived stigma about potential loss of manhood. Persistent ED is typically seen in middle or old age but can affect younger men too. ED can be devastating for men regardless of their age and should be taken seriously. It should not be a cause for concern if it happens occasionally. Persistent cases need to be assessed because it could be a sign of an underlying health problem.
How does Erection work?
Erections rely on a healthy nervous system and healthy blood flow to the penis. Sexual stimulation in men stimulates the nerves to send signals that cause increased blood flow to the penis. The muscles in the penis relax to allow increased blood flow and to trap blood in the penis; this makes the penis firm and causes an erection.
As people age, their arteries (blood vessels that supply blood to various parts of the body) in the penis become harder and narrower; this limits flow to the penis, which in turn results in ED. This hardening of arteries can affect all organs in the body including the heart. The first sign of hardening of arteries is seen in the penis before it happens in the heart. So, ED can be a predictor of future heart disease, so should not be ignored.
Anything that interferes with the nervous system and circulation can lead to ED.
What health problems are associated with ED?
ED can be caused by emotional or physical health problems. Any illness that affects the blood vessels or nerves can cause ED, for example in diabetes and heart disease. It is also associated with being obese, excess alcohol intake and smoking. It could also be from the side effects of drugs. Stress, depression, and anxiety can also cause ED. ED in turn can lead to low self-esteem, reduced libido, stress, and anxiety.
The absence of early morning erections is more likely to be seen in ED caused by health problems, and not as a result of stress or emotional problems.
What is the treatment of ED?
How ED is treated depends on the cause. The first step is to discuss the difficulties of having erections with your partner or spouse. Lack of communication with partners may leave them feeling rejected or suspicious of being cheated on.
The next step will be to see a doctor for assessment. This involves looking at risk factors for heart disease which may include physical examination and blood assessment. Treatment may involve lifestyle modification such as diet improvement, increased physical activity,
smoking cessation, and reduction in alcohol consumption. Doctors may also offer treatment for emotional health and mental health. There are many drugs available for the treatment of ED. Oral medications like Viagra, Cialis and Levitra are widely prescribed for most people with ED. Other treatments could be in the form of testosterone injections, penile injections, and implants. People with ED may be prescribed battery-operated vacuum pumps for the penis. However, couples could also explore other ways of experiencing sexual fulfilment without penetrative intercourse.
Bottom Line
Erectile dysfunction can be a sign of a more serious health problem. Men need to communicate more about their mental and physical health.
It is time to stop the stigma on sexual health.
Dr Ikunna Onwuanibe Family Physician at Dennis Ashley Medical Clinic Landmark Towers, Oniru, VI, Lagos @ikupopsicles
Ikunna has over 25 years’ experience in family medicine and holds a master's degree in public health from the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine. Her main interests are in women’s health and preventing longterm illnesses. Dennis Ashley Medical Clinic offers family physician and endoscopy services.
Toke Makinwa, a Nigerian radio personality, television host, vlogger, lifestyle entrepreneur, actress, and author who has made a name for herself through sheer grit and hard work, is without a doubt one of Africa's top show hosts.
When I first discussed interviewing Toke Makinwa, I knew I wanted every aspect of her personality to shine through. "The theme will delve into Toke Makinwa's essence as a media darling, entrepreneur, influential celebrity, and all-around grown jet setter who is making the bank and living life unapologetically," I wrote to someone on her team. She is shown in her true essence: fashionable, smart, playful, and stylish."
When I sent it to my publisher, she said it was "perfect." She sent styling inspiration hours later, and it was 97% of what I wanted to explore with our stylist for the shoot. It just worked, and everyone was on the same page. Rita Dominic-Anosike, my publisher, artistically directed the styling for this shoot, commissioning Zhena Woman and Elvira Jude for the pieces we photographed her in.
The award winning host who made her major media debut on Rhythm 93.7 FM's The Morning Drive show as a co-host in 2010 has gone on to host top TV shows across Africa, sign endorsement deals for brands, launch a webseries that morphed into a podcast, currently in its second season, and so on. A brand ambassador for brands, a socialite and influencer, as well as an entrepreneur. She is constantly in the news for her no holds barred conversations, and that generates a lot of fan frenzy, but that doesn't change the fact that she works hard and knows exactly what she wants.
DTNow asked her some of the questions you’ve been meaning to ask...
How did the journey to THIS Toke Makinwa (the jetsetter, celebrity, and socialite) begin?
When did you realize, "Yes, this is my life now?"
I can't say that there was an actual moment of self-realization. I think the self-realization had to have started before I even started my journey. I think what I would say is that with every single phase of my life and every single time I put myself forward, either in banking or starting out in the radio, doing my vlogs, or being a TV presenter, I was very deliberate about what I wanted out of it. It wasn't something I stumbled on; it was something that I worked really hard for. The goal wasn't to be a celebrity, a jet-setter or do all of these things. I was just a girl who just wanted to do what I love, which is radio, television, movies, and the entertainment space. And the fame came along, and I'm not complaining.
You made your radio debut at Rhythm 93.7 about 13 years ago and have since gone on to present on major TV shows, host a number of them, launch a business, become a vlogger, an influencer, and more. What led you here? Is this the life you envisioned for yourself?
I think, to start with, radio actually came first. My first radio job was when I was 19. But back then, I didn't really see it as a job. I went to an event at the Muson Centre and there was a guy that sat in front of me, I think his name is Wale Ewedemi. He used to be at Cool FM, and he heard me speak, and he said, You know you have such a great voice for radio. Growing up, I didn't really like the way I sounded because, as I remember, one boy actually broke up with me because he said I sounded like a guy. I had a very raspy, husky voice, and I didn't think that would even be anyone's career. So I always tried to sound very airy, chirpy, and light.
And then he heard my normal voice and said, “You know what? I think your voice is very, very strange”. There was this teenage program that was coming to Cool FM then, and it was to raise awareness for drugs, sex, and rock
and roll. And he just wanted me to try it out. So I didn't tell anybody at home. So I just thought, I'll just take a cab to Cool FM and see if I get the job. Back then, it wasn't even the money I was thinking, it was just the fun of it. He heard me, and I got the job. It was myself, the late Tosin Bucknor, and another guy; I don't remember his name right now. So I started doing that, and one Saturday afternoon, my mum heard me on the radio. Of course she knew it was me, and that was it. I never even quit my job. She's just like, Go to school, get a degree.
Back then, parents didn't necessarily see the entertainment industry as a source of inspiration or a career. You know, your parents said to you that they know the Bisi Olatilo Show, we know Abike Dabiri we know this people; but is that a life you want. Be a banker, be a lawyer, be this. So, of course, I got my degree, and then I got a job in banking. I hated my banking days. Everyone who knew me would tell you that I was the most depressed I've ever been in my life while working in banking. Because I just didn't fit in. You know, I was in commercial banking, and I remember all my EDs there used to be like, You look like you belong on the runway. Because I knew how to dress up for work. I'd wear my TM Lewin shirt in different colours, my blazer, and my shoes too. I loved the dressing up part more than the actual job. So I remember in all of our MPRs, they used to ask, “What are you doing here?” You don't look like one of us. You look like you belong in a magazine. And then, you know, my siblings one day just said to me,
Listen, you've gotten yourself a degree, you've done this. Why don't you do what you want? Then I started going for auditions. I called Olisa back then, and he had me come for a voice job. I went back to Cool FM, I did Ray Power, I went to a lot of radio stations, and Rhythm called me back. So back to your question, I didn't look at it as something that was going to make me famous. But my friends would tell me that back then I used to tell them that I was going to be the biggest TV presenter out of Nigeria. I'm going to be on TV. I'm just going to just be, and they used to look at me and laugh and be like, Really? I used to tell them, I'm going to be the next Oprah Winfrey. I'm going to do this, and I'm going to do that. And it's amazing what manifesting can do, right? Because I said it back then, even before I got into banking. And here I am today.
You're frequently in the news! You trend a lot, from conversations about your ex to your body, style, and daring attitude. How do you feel when you read things about yourself online?
I've had some occasions where I actually asked myself, Is it really you? Like when you're sleeping and you're working overtime, because I've heard some absolutely ridiculous things about me. But then the thing is, I feel like people put so much
pressure on famous people, people who are either presenters or musicians, people who work in the public space. There's this notion that they're supposed to appear in a certain way and be a certain way. And I've never really fit into any box. I've always been the girl who would break out of every box you try to mold me in. I say how I feel. Sometimes, do I put my feet in my mouth? Probably. But I never regret anything because I feel like life is too boring to regret. I don't want to get to heaven, and I'll be looking back on my life and thinking I should have said this then. No. I mean, I don't know what it is about how I would sneeze at the time Nigeria would catch a cold because they even involve me in things that I don't have anything to do with. You know, my body, my choices, and, you know, my relationships are not even that public. It's just one relationship that they refuse to let go of, and I've moved on. There have been several exes, and I feel bad because everyone just refers to that one particular relationship. So it's, I guess, the gift and the curse. And if I can take the good, I'm not going to complain about the bad. I don't have a bad life, you know. Yeah, a couple of things here and there, but it's not a bad career. It's not a bad life. I wake up happy, and I think that's worked out.
You wrote a book where you chronicled some parts of your life—your parents, their love for you and your siblings, and your parents’ untimely passing. Do you think your life would have turned out differently if they had been here? In what ways?
I do have moments where I think that dealing with loss as a child is the most tricky thing that can ever happen to anyone. Because when I find people saying, Oh, I lost my mum, I lost
my dad, And they're like in their late twenties, early thirties. I do feel sorry for them because no one wants anyone to die. But I'm always thinking, At least you've got to know them. At least you've got to spend some time with them. I'll give anything to just hear my mum laugh again. I think that's the coldest part. That's the coldest part about death. Just not recognizing the person's voice. And mine happened really early. I was eight when both my parents passed away They always joked about dying together. I tell everyone that my parents’ story is the greatest love story I've ever heard. My dad would say things like, if I'm not around, what would you do? My mum would be like, where are you going to? If you die, I die. If you're buried, I'm buried. And they got that. And I think that's the most beautiful thing about the life and the love that they shared. It was tricky because I knew life as one way and all of that got disrupted.
But I am very, very thankful because I was adopted and raised in love. My foster parents did the best that they could do. And sometimes that question is a bit tricky because they haven't done badly. And I don't know if my parents were alive, if they would have been able to do as much as they did. So I think the kudos belong to them. Taking four kids in, raising them like their own and just being absolute rock stars. But I guess when I got married, there were moments when I wished my mum was still here. Milestones happen, and you will just wonder if she was alive, would we wear the same shoes? Would she stop by in my house? Would she call me when they talk about me in the press? Would she cook for me? Would we be close? Things like that. But I do have a mum that I get to share those things with. So it's a bittersweet emotion but I'm thankful in all that at least, you know, wherever they are, both of them can look back and see that at least there's a Makinwa that's keeping the name in the limelight.
What is it that people believe about you that is not true?
I think people believe that I just wake up every day and get surgeries. People believe that my life has been handed over to me. People definitely believe that there's some wealthy guy somewhere who's funding my life. And I think—I mean, just in this space today, I've had four jobs in one job. Literally shooting this cover, shooting for another company, the campaigns I shot in this same building, four in one. People don't see that because I make it look fun. And I think that we have a generation that is so obsessed with results and not the process. And that's why you find a lot of young people who are quick to be depressed and anxious because they just want it right now. Half the time, we don't post our failures. Jeez, I had so many doors shut in my face. I became a good presenter because of the nos’ I got. I remember standing in the flipping cold in O2 begging to be interviewed because I wanted to get a job on MTV. And of course, I didn't get the job. It hurts. You know, I remember going for my first audition and someone being pretty mean to me because she just thought she knew me from the University of Lagos and just said really mean things to me. Threw my game off. I didn't get the job. I cried myself to sleep. But people don't see that side. People don't see the L's that I take.
The moment they see success, they're quick to want to relate it to something that has nothing to do with anything. But I don't really complain anymore. I just say If it's easy, do it. I mean, if you find someone who wants to take care of me, shoot, girl. I'll be like, Yo, you know, and then it's not my fault that a certain caliber of people fancy me. You know what I mean? I've worked so hard to get to the point in my life where I can say that you want to be with me. There has to be something to bring to the table. So if you call that me dating someone who just has money, I mean, it's not my fault that wealthy people like me. So maybe in my future, I'm supposed to be wealthy. I mean, I am wealthy. So I guess we're speaking the same language (*chuckles).
Tell us about your podcast. You’ve come a long way from back when you used to do short clips on YouTube.
You know, I used to edit myself. I've hustled, and people disrespect me a lot. I can edit this entire interview because I had to learn how to be an editor because I didn't have any money to hire a production team. I did it myself for five or six years of my life. I was editing myself. I'm putting out all those videos, but people don't know that. Now they see the 2.0 TM. They forgot the days when I was being called “MTN everywhere you go”, when I'll be at every event, hustling to come in. Like I used to see all those things that you guys used to say about me, but guess who's smiling now?
You just launched season 2. You’ve had a lot of guests and delved into sensitive conversations... tell us more about this People don't watch the entire video; they just put clips on the internet, form their own opinions, and start arguing. And then it's just like Toke is the reason why Nigerian girls talk. They literally say that if your girlfriend is inspired by Toke Makinwa, leave her. Because I say what people say in the comfort of their living room, but I'm okay to say it's all love and light. But to be honest, I feel like we're moving on with the times. The whole world is going digital now. And even from radio, most radio stations, and now podcasts, give people the luxury of carrying you with them wherever they are. They can go for a run and listen to your podcast. They can sit back at their desk and watch it. So you have to evolve in life. You know, if you don't evolve, you disappear. So yes, we started with just the laptop. It was just me. And at some points, I played with the idea of having some guests stop by, and we did that for a little bit. Then I went back to being just me. And right now it's actually a whole podcast where people want to come on and we talk about everything from relationships, career choices, family. It's really just a show where I don't like to interview people. I mean, when I sit with people who you call celebrities or famous people, I feel like they've sat through so many interviews where they're asked the same thing. I like to bring out another side of them. So we're just chatting like friends, and it's been beautiful. We've had A-list stars.
We've had not only celebrities, but also people who are also on a journey. I think I also had a trans lady who came on my show. I was blown away by the education because I was living in a bubble. I wasn't as exposed to that world. And I wanted to have that chat because I wanted to.
We live on a globe; the world is a global village, and you don't want to use certain tenses wrong or come across as, -even if you don't, I'm a big believer—you don't have to understand the person's journey. It's your duty to respect it. So in order for me to exist in this world where I don't go around imposing my ignorance on other people, it was necessary for me to give her that safe space. And I learned a lot. And I'm so thankful for the podcast that gives me the opportunity to get to know people on that level.
What’s the best part?
I mean, you probably have to watch the podcast to hear what people spill. But the thing about it is that I learned my interviewing skills from Ryan Seacrest. It's wild. I'll share. This is a juicy topic for anyone who wants to be a TV presenter. I always used to say that radio presenters make better TV presenters, and TV presenters then used to come for me, like, what do you mean? You know, but then it's the truth. If you look at Oprah, she started out on radio. Wendy started out on radio; you know, the greats literally have their careers on radio because radio gives you the comfort of relying on your wits. There are no cameras, one button, and 6.5 million people listening to you. You don't get a do over. You hit it one time, or they wouldn't tune in again. So you become witty. You're fast with your thinking. You're fast at delivering your points. I mean, you can watch a TV show now, and love the braids on the host. If you're always watching a TV show and I see your braids and I'm like, You know, I'm blown away by the braids, I might not actually hear what you're saying, but the way you look will sell the show. But when you do the work of a radio presenter, you learn that you deliver what you have to deliver because the voice of a radio presenter is the voice of God. So listening and watching how Ryan Seacrest would have a bunch of questions to ask people, but he would totally toss them away and let them speak. So you start to ask them where they stopped, and you find out that what you wrote to ask them is totally different from the interview that you get at the end of the day. So that's the style that I like, which also gets people to relax. They forget the cameras, and we just gist. So there's a bit of relatability because I can relate to what you're saying. Because you said to me, I have a
blue car. I'm like the blue car, what kind of blue? I'm not asking what year you bought that car? What kind of blue makes you laugh? And you're like, Oh, it's, you know, a nice sort of blue or Sapphire blue. And then, it just takes a life of its own. So it gives your guests the compatibility to literally be themselves, and they forget the camera. And that's why people always tell me everything. They hate themselves when the camera is turned off, but I'm like, I gotcha. I have all the gist I need.
Toke, if you could go back in time and start over, what would you do differently? Nothing. I think it's taken me many years to get to this point where I can say nothing. And I think it's not because I have everything, or because I haven't made mistakes, but because I have a deeper understanding of what life is. The destination is important, but it's not as important as the journey. And you are exactly where you're meant to be. Everything that's happened to me in my life was meant to happen. If it wasn't meant to happen, it wouldn't happen. So I don't necessarily cry over spilled milk because regret is so exhausting. Okay. I wish this or that. Dude, how long are you going to bite yourself over that? This is what it is. I'm alive. I'm breathing. I'm healthy. What can I do differently? You keep falling forward. You know, since I said falling forward, because as long as you fall forward, at least your head is straight. You're moving somewhere. You're moving somewhere. So I don't think there's anything I would say that I totally regret. I've had moments where I've had my gut wrenched out of me. I've had painful experiences, but to be honest, I think that I learned more from my failures and those experiences than from my successes. Success is great. Everyone loves you. But in those moments where you've had just you and your voice and that of your creator, those moments are priceless because they reveal who you are. So why regret that? You know, if it doesn't happen today, it'll happen tomorrow. If it doesn't happen tomorrow, it'll happen next.
THEY FORGOT THE DAYS WHEN I WAS BEING CALLED “MTN EVERYWHERE YOU GO”, WHEN I'LL BE AT EVERY EVENT, HUSTLING TO COME IN. LIKE I USED TO SEE ALL THOSE THINGS THAT YOU GUYS USED TO SAY ABOUT ME, BUT GUESS WHO'S SMILING NOW?
The publisher had more questions. When you first started out, when you first started radio presentation, did you have a lot of support from women? How was it like in the industry? Were they dominating the industry? To be honest, there were more men, who, in my opinion, have always dominated the industry. And I feel like it's not because there are more men than women, but obviously, you know, women inspired the world, not all of them. But when I was starting out, I wish, you know, I lived in a world where I can tell you that, yeah, women supported women and they cheered you on. And I did have, you know, women who did that for me, which I'm grateful for. But I feel like a lot of ignorant women and a lot of people who are not as exposed or enlightened, you know, will probably first be like, Why her? Why does she want to? The guys probably do the same, but the difference is that they don't think you're trying to take anything from them. So they're not that vested in whether you succeed or you don't? But in terms of collaborations, I found that people were more threatened than eager to collaborate. And I think what I understand is, I remember my first TV show, Three Life Chicks, and Cecil saying he wanted radio presenters. And there was this one particular radio presenter that he had called. And when he got back to me to tell me that he called her and sold the show to her, I said, I want three radio presenters. I think you are perfect. Toke is perfect. And he called another person's name. She listened to him, and she went, Erhm, why can't I do it alone? Why can't I be the host of the show? Why do I have to share the spotlight with them? And because he said that to us, and to
the other two ladies, I ended up doing the show with Oreka and Tosin Bucknor, God rest her soul. I just showed you what time it was then. Not many women were willing to give you that thumbs up.
When I was hosting Trending, I remember one afternoon, getting a call from someone who was supposed to be, someone I looked up to in the industry. I admired, she'd been on TV since, forever. She'd been acting and doing her own thing. And he called and said, we have this show, can you come for the interview? And she said, You know that Toke Makinwa that I see, her brand and my brand don't work, it was something funny like that. That happened to me, yeah. And I see her today, and I give her a hug, and she has no idea. But I think the beauty of it for me was knowing where I was going. So that hurt, but I knew one day she was going to become a believer. So every time I get a DM from her, she's like, You're so fashionable. How do you do this? I just smile like you. But yeah, that happens to me. So I think now it's much better. I think people are now more enlightened. I think people have now learned that the fact that you're lighting another candle doesn't put out your candle, and the sky is big enough. I don't exist in a world where women bicker; there are people who still do that, but I would deliberately remove you from my space because the sky is big enough and, you know, it doesn't matter. That person is not stealing your shine. You shine brighter. And I'm excited that people look at me and tell me, Oh my God, you inspired me to start vlogging. You inspired me to do this. I didn't want to be the only vlogger from Nigeria. When I started, there was no vlogger. And I used to be insulted every week. So recruits come; let them insult all of us together. That was my thought; that's the way I saw things. But I'm happy that the younger generation is now beginning to see that people had to crawl for them to walk. You know, people have paid the dues with their careers for them to live the way they're living right now.
How were you able to get through what happened at that time in your personal life?
I remember, you were still on set; you were working days, weeks, and months in a row, and you were just putting up this very strong exterior. How were you able to do that?
I mean, that takes me down memory lane. I remember the next morning after the news hit the press, I was at work, and even Ben Bruce had to call and say, Everyone's talking about you, I think you need to go home. And I was like, this is what I need. I also remember, shout out to Toolz, Eku, a couple of the industry girls took me out one night. And Toolz, I remember Toolz saying,Youu know you can take a break, you know you can just feel what you're going through. And people didn't understand what I was made up of. And I sit here not necessarily bragging about the fact that my marriage ended, I was strong and I could do all those things. But if you've had your entire world change overnight, I'm talking about a whole paradigm shift, then you know that the worst thing that could have ever happened to you in life has happened to you and you didn't die. So every other thing is a piece of cake. Do you know what I mean? Like, having to watch both my parents coffin and going to the grave at 8 or 9 still hurts me so much. I remember what was written on each coffin, I remember the colour, I remember just standing there and knowing that life was never going to be the same again. So I don't think that anything can really get me to the point where I wouldn't get out of bed.
I FOUND HEALING FROM, JUST SEEING PEOPLE READ. I'M NOT MAD ABOUT WHAT'S HAPPENED TO ME. I'M NOT MAD ABOUT THAT SITUATION. I MEAN, IT TOOK ME YEARS, I HAD THERAPY TO GET TO THE POINT WHERE I COULD BE LIKE, I'M GOOD. YOU KNOW, BUT I THINK I'VE DONE THE WORK.
I noticed that something sparked in you after the whole situation (the end of her marriage). You went straight to work to build your brand. Do you think this helped you somehow? I don't think that's true; I didn't even know that's what I was doing. I think it was either, do you want to be heartbroken and broke? Or do you want to drown or swim? And by swimming, you don't have the luxury of feeling sorry for yourself. I didn't have as much as I do now. And I was living in marriage with nothing. As I came in, I was leaving. I think the only things I took is one AC and one television. Shout out to my ex for being kind enough to let me leave with that. You understand? But, you know, I remember moving into a one bedroom apartment, and the door would hit my bed. I lived there. My dog was depressed because he was used to having a lot of space and is now confined. It only had one exit. There was no back door. If the house went on fire, there was just one door in that flat. And I stayed there for about two, three years. So I think when you wake up in that environment, you either ask yourself, Should I stay in bed today and cry about something
that happened to me? or Should I go out there and work something out? You can dig yourself out of this hole. So I think I was in survival mode. So I wasn't calling things to distract myself. I was trying to survive. In the presence of all that noise, I was trying to survive. I had a headache for six months. I've never said this to anyone. One time I packed on Admiralty Road, and I felt something walking in my head. It was that bad, and I was crying for hours. And I would cry, clean my face, and drive to the agency, to the next campaign, to the next shoot, walk in the door, and just give my best and earn my day's keep so that at least I can put petrol in the generator. I wasn't going to go back home. I was never going to ask anyone for help. I lived in a home where all my siblings who had gotten married before me had never had a divorce and I wasn't going to break that circle and say, my dad said to me, you know, you can move back home. But I wasn't going to do that, because imagine the gatemen opening the gates for me, and by the third time, they will be like, "Aunty, won't you go back to your husband's house? Then they will understand that ah she's back here. I just wasn't going to do that to myself. So I took the long and hard road and I'm grateful for it. Yeah, you know, this is interesting. When I called you to do this, I said to you, People obviously see the fashionable, luxurious lifestyle and everything. They don't actually know the sort of person you are, how, powerful you are in the industry, what you've achieved, or the things that you've gone through. So it's interesting having this conversation. And I know that sometimes, when we go through a hurt, we want to unleash it, either through storytelling or things like that. And I know you did that by writing your book. And by writing that book, did you find some healing? To be honest with you, I feel like it was more spiritual than anything else because that year before all of this happened, At the start of the year, - February, I got an email from someone saying, You take a lot of selfies, why don’t you write a coffee book? I think Rihanna had just released a coffee book at that time. So we met at Silverbird I was actually interested, but I walked away from that place with a feeling like that wasn't what I was meant to do. And I remember brushing my teeth like three weeks later, and I heard the voice say, You are going to write a book. Now I'm the girl you invite to a book launch, and I'm at the back drinking. I don't listen to them. Why are you writing a book about your life? Why do you take yourself that seriously? We all know when to get out of this life. Who writes a book about their life? Such snobby attitude. That was who I was. I've been invited to a couple; Chude wrote one, and I was behind the bar at the Federal Palace drinking.
When I heard that voice, I just thought, Me writing a book? Of course not. And I remember going to Paris with Ebuka and Chude for Martell's 100th celebration. And we were in there, and I had two significant things happen to me. The first night we got there, as you said, people don't know how rooted I am in my relationship with God. All the guys were going to eat with Vogue. Vogue team was taking them out. And I said I had to pray. And I remember Kelechi Amadi Obi looking at me like, Vogue is taking us to dinner. I said no, I want to retire because I need to pray. And I fell asleep. And I think I woke up, and it was as if there was someone in my room. I know I woke up feeling like I'd been talking to someone. And the last thing the person said to me was “you will walk through fire but it wouldn't burn you”. And I was so sure someone in my family was going to die again. I remember saying to myself, God what kind of revelation is this? Take me instead because my people have been through enough. If I'm
meant to come home, let me come home. I'm okay, let me just leave, let it be me. And that went on. I was still married, I would call home, we were good. I think the last day, the last dinner, I also missed because I wanted to pray. I had been fasting that day. And again I had that same encounter. And what the Lord said to me then is,The glory of the latter years will overshadow your former. And I still didn't know what it was. I was now robbed in Paris on that last day. So I thought that's what the first dream meant. That you walked through fire. Okay, the people stole my cash. I walked through this fire. I'm coming back to Nigeria empty handed. Because they'll give you per diem. Per diem was serious on that trip. And they stole from me in Champs Elysees. They removed everything. So I was so heartbroken coming back home. And I thought that was what it was. And then, later on, two months after, this thing happened. And everyone was talking about it. And I still didn't link the two. Till about six months after, it was at the end of the year, that I remember preparing for bed. And I heard the voice again that said, I told you were going to write a book. Now is the time to start documenting how you feel. Because someone is going to read this and receive healing from it. And that's what I did. So regardless of how people felt, it was viewed. I exposed myself. First. And I've had testimonies from people who, I think the biggest thing that happened to me was I was on a flight one day and the guy who was sitting on that flight said to me that I read your book. And he said, I'm going to be honest; I was a horrible person to my wife. Reading your book actually made me want to change. And I thought, you know, in every bad situation, there's always good- a Yoruba saying- people will say God will always leave room for thanksgiving. So, I mean, I found healing from, just seeing people read. I'm not mad about what's happened to me. I'm not mad about that situation. I mean, it took me years, I had therapy to get to the point where I could be like, I'm good. You know, but I think I've done the work.
What does the future look like in terms of love? Are you open to finding love again? Ah, it’s so ghetto, isn't it? Hey, God. Well, let me just say that I've always being a girly girl. I love love. Regardless of what people think about me, I actually love love. I just don't like being taken advantage of. I don't like cheating. I'd rather not be something than be something that isn't going anywhere. I feel like I've had amazing relationships in my life. They didn't lead to marriage or whatever, but I have seen that true love does exist. I've had soulmates, they might not be the opposite sex, but they were people who walked into my life and fed and nurtured me, giving me what I needed at that time. And I hope that someone else can say that about me. And I think that's why we're living. So, if love comes, I'm open. If it doesn't, there's love everywhere. So, I'm good.
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About Wakawaka Dr
The term "wakawaka" is an informal way of describing a global trotter. I am a practicing Medical doctor with interests in Mental and Public Health who travels to Jolly.
Travelling, seeing new places and cultures and meeting new people help me achieve this I have visited 70 countries and 100 cities.
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4. Stress management techniques
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Following a healthy eating routine can be difficult, especially when faced with enticing treats and temptations, but there is no need to compromise flavour or cultural delights in order to maintain a slim waistline. Nigeria has a vibrant culinary tradition, and it offers a variety of delicious and nutritious snacks that can help you reach your fitness goals while satisfying your taste buds. In this edition, we will delve into four guilt-free snacks that are not only popular in Nigeria but also promote a healthier lifestyle.
Imagine savouring the taste of ripe plantains that have been roasted over an open flame until their natural sugars caramelize. This creates a delightful blend of sweet and smoky flavours that is simply irresistible. Boli, as it is commonly known, not only boasts incredible deliciousness but also offers a range of nutritional benefits. Plantains serve as an excellent source of dietary fiber, vitamins A and C, and potassium. The fiber content helps to promote satisfaction, thereby reducing the temptation to indulge in frequent snacking. Additionally, potassium aids in supporting both heart health and proper muscle function. If you are looking to keep your boli experience waistline-friendly, it is advised to select ripe, yet not overly soft, plantains. During grilling, it is recommended to request minimal oil usage. For those seeking an extra kick, a sprinkle of chili powder or groundnut spice can be added without significantly increasing calorie intake.
If you're looking for a protein-packed snack that can aid in maintaining muscle mass while striving for a trimmer waistline, kilishi is an excellent option. Kilishi is a Nigerian version of beef jerky made from lean cuts of beef. It's marinated in a mixture of spices and herbs before being air-dried. This flavorful snack is low in carbohydrates and high in protein, making it ideal for weight management. When selecting kilishi, opt for lean cuts with minimal fat content to ensure its healthiness. Remember to enjoy this spicy and chewy delight in moderation, as it may have a high salt content.
Garden eggs, also known as African eggplants, are a nutritious choice for snacking due to their low-calorie and high-fiber content. For an even more delectable experience, pair them with a flavourful groundnut (peanut) butter dip. This combination not only provides a delightful crunch but also offers a variety of health benefits. Garden eggs are loaded with antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals, while groundnuts offer healthy fats, protein, and fiber. It's a satisfying snack that can help curb cravings between meals.
When it comes to classic street snacks, few can beat the timeless appeal of roasted corn. This simple yet delightful treat offers a satisfying crunch and a naturally sweet taste. Moreover, corn is a great source of dietary fiber and complex carbohydrates, making it ideal for providing long-lasting energy and staving off hunger. To enhance the flavour and healthiness of your roasted corn, it's best to avoid excessive butter or oil toppings and instead opt for a light sprinkle of spices like paprika or chili powder. This minimal seasoning allows the natural flavours of the corn to truly shine through.
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