COMMUNITY NEWS
THE month of May is Domestic and Family Violence (DFV) Prevention Month. This month seeks to promote healthy relationships and the right of everyone to feel safe in their own home. This year the Tully Support Centre (TSC) is encouraging the Cassowary Coast to go Purple for DV month. A large number of businesses from Cardwell to Innisfail will be lighting the exterior of the building, flying purple flags or putting up purple decorations to show their support for community members affected by DFV. In addition, the TSC is also encouraging community members to wearing purple shirts and/or purple ribbons to show their support. Unfortunately Australia experiences high rates of DFV with one in four women experiencing DFV in her lifetime and around 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year. DFV is NOT ONLY CONFINED TO PHYSICAL ACTS OF VIOLENCE. DFV also includes; physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, psychological and financial abuse. It also includes any threatening and/or controlling behaviours, including the use of spiritual or cultural beliefs, to justify violent or abusive behaviour. DFV involves an ongoing pattern of behaviour aimed at controlling the other
person through fear. It can occur within any relationship, towards any person, at any time. Does this sound familiar? • The relationship is great, everything’s going well (Honeymoon phase) • Walking on egg shells, moody, nit picking yelling (Tension building phase) • Smashing belongings, violence, hitting, choking, sexual violence (Acute explosion phase) This is the cycle of violence; let us help you break the cycle. Cassowary Coast Domestic and Family Violence Service The TSC Cassowary Coast Domestic and Family Violence service (CCDFVS) is based in Innisfail and Tully, and provides outreach to Cardwell and Mission Beach. This program provides Court Support, Child and Adult Counselling services and support to undertake security upgrades for community members experiencing DFV. The CCDFVS provides intensive and therapeutic support in a safe environment, delivered by qualified and experienced staff. Counselling DFV rarely stops by itself and it can have damaging effects on your physical, emotional and mental well-being. Counselling is a therapeutic pro-
cess providing a compassionate, non-judgemental environment allowing you to express your feelings, fears and concerns, while respecting your right to make your own decisions. The counsellor will work with you at a pace that you are comfortable with, to understand and manage identified emotions, behaviours, relationships and that the violence is not your fault. Child counselling Children cannot be shielded from the effects of DFV. Children witnessing DFV consistently show higher rates of depression, anxiety, trauma symptoms, behavioural and cognitive problems than children and young people not living with DFV. The CCDFVS ensures that child counselling services are delivered in an age-appropriate manner, tailored to meet the needs of the young person. Court Support The CCDFVS provides weekly court support in Innisfail and Tully. The CCDFVS court support can provide: • assistance preparing applications • information regarding DVO order conditions and court processes • emotional support during court • advocacy with court staff and police By contacting us prior to your court date, we are able to provide you with a better court support service, tailored to meet your needs. However, no appointment is necessary for court support and our worker is available on the day to respond to any questions you may have. We are here to help, but unfortunately we cannot provide legal
Cassowary Coast Domestic and Family Violence Service (CCDFVS)
Supporting women and children affected by domestic and family violence. If you or someone you know is currently experiencing, or has experienced domestic and family violence, support is available. The CCDFVS is able to provide: • Adult and Child counselling • Case Management • Court Support • Crisis Intervention • General Support • Assistance with DFV orders • Safety Planning and Risk Assessments • Assistance with security upgrades • Advocacy • Information and • Referral services Services are provided in Innisfail, Tully, Mission Beach and Cardwell. For more information or to see one of our counsellors please call 40681 004 or email: ccdfvs@tullysupportcentre.com.au. A partnership between the Tully Support Centre Inc and the Queensland
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advice. For legal advice call Legal Aid on 1300 65 11 88 Staying safely in your home The CCDFVS can provide assistance in developing options to remain safely in your home close to social and community supports, including friends and family, school and work. Privacy & Confidentiality We understand confidentiality keeps you and your family safe! We respect your right to privacy and we do not discuss your information with anyone without your consent. Important numbers In an emergency dial: 000 DV Connect: 1800 811 811 (24hrs) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (24hrs) Men’s Line OZ: 1300 364 277 (24hrs) Men’s Line QLD: 1800 600 636 1800 Respect: 1800 737 732
(24hrs) Parent’s Line: 1300 30 1300 Kid’s Helpline: 1800 55 1800 Legal Aid: 1300 65 11 88 Remember, in an emergency always dial: 000. The Cassowary Coast Domestic and Family Violence service is funded by the Queensland Government through the Department of Child Safety, Youth and Women. The Tully Support Centre is located at 54 Bryant Street in Tully, opening hours Monday, Tuesday and Thursday from 9:00am to 1:00pm & 2:00pm to 4:00pm; Wednesday 9:00am to 1:00pm & 2:00pm to 6:00pm. To register your interest or more info about groups and other services please call 40 681 004, check the Tully Support Centre online at www.tullysupportcentre.com.au or follow us on Facebook “Tully Support Centre Inc.”
Domestic Violence in The Cassowary Coast You Are Not Alone SEAN DENT
SHANE Greenwood, Manager of the Tully Support Centre, has a simple message: “Domestic violence in Australia is bad. And it’s not something that happens over there. There is lots of domestic violence right here on the Cassowary Coast. One in four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.” Women are not the only victims either. There are a significant number of male victims due to the fact, Greenwood believes, that a lot of people are still living back in the old days 30 to 40 years ago. “Back then, people thought it was okay for women to hit men.” In terms of male-on-female violence, I personally remember a code back in Ireland as a child, that it couldn’t be illegal if she was your wife. The police would let the husband off with a warning at best. I was lucky in that I never had to experience it first hand, but many of my friends did. Sadly, many of the father’s passed on “the code” to their own sons, keeping the cycle going for another generation. These days, we hope the cycle has been broken, but it hasn’t been for many, and turning a blind eye to it helps no one. Thankfully, laws are in place to protect women these days, but in talking to Greenwood, many are still too ashamed to come forward and seek help. Women especially seem to suffer from high levels of stress, anxiety, and low self-esteem in such relationships, which stops hem from
reporting violence perpetrated upon them by their partner, who they look to for approval. The strange thing is, when they see it in someone else’s relationship, they immediately know that it is wrong. This is where friends and family can help by looking for the warning signs and asking the right questions. Knowing what those questions are and asking them is not an easy skill to pick up on, but the Tully Support Centre can give you some tips, and they are waiting to help. Don’t wait till the warning signs are obvious i.e. obvious signs of physical violence. Often, perpetrators of domestic violence escalate their aggressive behaviours over months or years. If you wait till the signs are obvious, it may be too late – not just from a physical violence perspective, but from the point of view of what a victim will accept as tolerable. One thing Greenwood wants to make clear: any acts of aggression toward a domestic partner are wrong, regardless of the gender of the victim, regardless of the sexuality of the relationship. And the negative effects don’t just impact the adult partner; they can lead to all kinds of physical and psychological damage to children in the family too. Learn the warning signs and learn the next steps. If you need any help, contact the staff at Tully Support Centre today.