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STRICTLY 9 DIY S'mores Cupcakes 10 The Dress Code Debate TWEENS 12 5 Odd Facts 14 Trick-or-Treat 15 The Mandela Effect 17 Share A Laugh 18 What's Hot: Converse 19 Fall Crossword

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Bullying Struggles Dear Future Me Overcomer Story Counselor's Corner Kid Counselors Go Blue! Blue Shirt Day How To: Recognize When You're The Bully 50 Tweens Around the World

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e m o c l We to the Bullying issue of BoldlyU Magazine!

Publisher: Darla Harmon Editor/Designer: Kelci Gould

Photography: Darla Harmon, Triple Wonders Photography/ BoldlyU Print ing: Modern Litho

Cont ributors: Markus Golden Web: Arizona Cardinals www.boldlyu.com Stephanie Parsons, LCSW Matt Heet Contact Us: 573-881-3777 July 2017 Correction: info@boldlyu.com Moving by Jenica, 12 Disclaimer: The views expressed in articles are those of the respective authors and do not necessarily reflect the views of the BoldlyU Team and/or our partners. The acceptance of advertising does not indicate endorsement.

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Letter from the Editor As we were preparing to create this issue involving bullying, we had several concerns. One concern was for kids who had really felt like they needed to have their voices heard. When I was a younger, several kids at school bullied me. I wasn’t pretty enough, skinny enough, and didn’t have very many friends, or at least I thought. When I would seek help from an adult, they would always say, "oh they are just teasing you, they probably really like you." That didn’t help at all because what they were saying really did hurt and they wouldn’t stop. The one thing I had that kids now do not have is that I could go home and escape from it. Today it follows them everywhere they go because they are also cyberbullied with no escape. My heart breaks for these kids. I remember how hard it was for me to go to school, but now it would be just as hard to get up.

I don’t have the answer to stop bullying, but I do know that you need to talk to someone and keep talking until someone listens. Even if you have to call a hotline, do it! You were made for a purpose and don’t let anyone steal that purpose. Be Brave, Be Bold, Be You and don’t let them steal you because there is only one you! And YOU MATTER!

Darla H.

OUR MISSION: BoldlyU Magazine is specifically designed for tweens, to encourage them to be brave, to be bold and to be themselves by providing a place for them to share their stories, struggles and passions. It is a positive resource to empower them to build confidence within themselves while also helping others!

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Ingredient s: For Cupcake:

2 cups graham cracker crumbs 1/2 cup vegetable oil 1 1/4 cups water 1/2 cup butter 2 cups chocolate chips 1 box chocolate cake mix (I 3 Eggs used devils food)

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1/2 cup butter 3 1/2 cups powdered sugar 2 tablespoons milk 1 1/2 teaspoon vanilla 1 jar jet puff Marshmallow cream

1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees 2. In a bag or medium sized bowl, mash up the graham crackers until they become a crumb or sand-like texture (I used a plastic ziplock bag and a roller pin).

3. Place the graham crackers in a medium sized bowl.

4. In a separate bowl, melt the butter until it is complete liquid.

5. Pour the liquid butter over the graham cracker crumbs and mix and fold in until fully incorporated.

6. Place paper linings into the cupcake holders.

7. Place about 1 tablespoon of graham cracker and butter mixture into the bottom of the cupcake liner and press so there are no gaps.

8. Bake just the crust at 350 degrees for 5 minutes.

9. While it is baking, pour the cake mix, eggs, vegetable oil, water and chocolate chips until it is fully combined.

10. When the crusts are done baking, pull them out of the oven and fill the liners with about 1 1/2 - 2 tablespoons of cake batter.

11. Place back in the oven and cook for about 8-10 minutes or until you can put a tooth pick down the center and it comes out clean.

12. Let cupcakes cool for about 30-60 minutes.

13. In a medium sized bowl, melt the 1/2 cup of butter for the frosting.

14. Add powdered sugar, milk, and vanilla to the melted butter and beat until creamy and smooth.

15. Fold in the Marshmallow cream until the frosting is thick and creamy, and can hold its shape.

16. Spread over cooled cupcakes, or place in a plastic bag and cut a whole in the corner to squeeze out frosting as desired to decorate.

17. Crush graham cracker over the top for garnish, or a Hershey's chocolate square.

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The Dress Code Debate: It’s the debate that’s sweeping schools across the planet, sparking responses from students, parents, and staff alike: Should schools have the right to ban certain clothing? These rules have been called cruel and sexist for leaning towards a more male advantage and giving girls far more rules to work with.

Take a quick look at your school’s handbook, and I’m sure you’ll find something close to this:

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While reading through that, you probably don’t see much of a problem. Luckily, my school and schools around our area don’t have very harsh dress codes. There are obviously some things we just shouldn’t wear to school, and I’ve found that my school does a pretty good job with this kind of stuff 80% of the time.

ENTERTAINMENT I’m sure you’ve heard the recent dress code horror stories about thousands of girls across the nation getting put in detention for wearing yoga pants. Or how many schools have adopted two completely different dress codes that separately decide what’s appropriate for boys and girls (girls are usually much more limited) on clothing choices instead of having one overall list. Some schools have even gone as far as getting rid of a boy’s dress code altogether. These are just a few of the many examples of why students have begun to protest these rules.

Why are these things a problem? I polled some anonymous students on their feelings about how dress codes are sexist and their personal experiences of how it’s hurt them.

“The logic behind the dress code is that girls dressing how they want will distract boys. How about you teach boys not to be perverted and let girls dress how they want. It’s not dressing professionally so much as we can’t control the actions of our students so let’s make all the girls wear shapeless turtle necks. And it also sexualized girls to an extent because little girls are sent home for wearing spaghetti straps and stuff like they’re so young.”

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“Dress code checks take up class time which is funny because my school claims

dress code is to help keep people paying attention, so they spend less VALUABLE CLASS TIME getting distracted but yet they take up class time by sending admins in to make sure everyone is in dress code.”

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“One of the advisors at my school poked all at me for seeing a sliver of a spaghet-

ti strap out of a baggy sweat-shirt I was wearing, and she basically made a huge deal of it, because everyone was looking at me at the lunch table.”

These are just a few of the many responses I received. Most discussing girls being sent home for having shoulders showing, which would “distract boys from learning” or having to change into clothes too small for them because their shorts weren’t finger tip length. You can decide for yourself whether or not you think they’re right, but something needs to change. If we don’t modernize our dress codes as styles change, we’ll be stuck in the past.

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You know that phrase, “The best thing since sliced bread?” Well, Betty White is actually older than sliced bread, so shouldn’t it be “The best thing since Betty White?”

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Trick-or-Treat

The Best and Worst Halloween Giveaways

Everyone has their favorite Halloween candy, but your neighbors don’t always have a clue. That is why I am here to help. I am going to be talking about the candy, drinks and toys we want and what we don’t want. Some of you probably think I am crazy when I say drinks and toys. Yes, my small town goes all out, it’s the real deal. So let’s get started.

My first topic is candy. Now everyone loves the chocolate. For example Hershey’s, Twix, Reese’s, etc. I know those are the candies my parents liked to sneak from my brother and I. Then there our sour candies like Warheads, Sour Skittles, etc. and the fruity candy like suckers, Gushers, Twizzlers, etc. The list goes on and on.

These are good!

Now we are going to get to the part where you guys are going to think I’m crazy or maybe some of you will understand when I say my town hands out drinks instead of candy. There are 3-4 houses in my neighborhood that hand out drinks.

There is one house that hands out sodas. There is an older lady who hands out juice boxes to the kids and a young couple who hands out water and apples.

These are good as well!

Our next topic is about the toys some houses give out. A lot of our town hands out candy but a good percentage hands out small toys along with it. They will put plastic spiders, rubber fingers, fun erasers, etc. But there is this one lady who is a teacher at my school, and if you were in her class, she will give you a giant candy bar and slime. Everyone loves going to her house on Halloween.

Now, this topic is the not great part of Halloween. Every town has those houses that hand out the not so fun stuff. For example, there is a lady down the street from me who hands out pencils. Who wants pencils? They weren’t even the fun kind, they were the wooden ones that break easily. Then there is this one lady who will give out vegetables. No one wants that for Halloween.

These were my favorite and not so favorite Halloween handouts. I have told you about the candy, drinks, toys, and what not to hand out. If you hand out candy on Halloween, please be sure to take my tips on what to hand out, and what not to hand out.

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The Mandela Effect: Conspiracy Theory Conspiracy Theories are a surprisingly common topic nowadays. One specific theory has grown quite popular: The Mandela Effect.

The Mandela Effect is the idea of a significant number of people remembering something, like a phrase or title, as one thing, but it shows as something else. This phenomenon is named after Nelson Mandela, the former president of South Africa. Many people believed he passed away in the 1980s when in prison. In fact, it was found at a gaming conference that many people shared the memory of Mandela dying. Mandela, who was actually still alive at that point, was released from prison in 1990 and later died in 2013.

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MIRROR, MIRROR on the WALL!

Since then, people have been theorizing and figuring out why so many people remember Mandela dying when he clearly didn’t. The story goes that our world passed into a parallel world. If you don’t know, a parallel world, also referred to as a parallel universe, is a place where almost everything is exactly the same, but a few thing are slightly different. It’s believed that when people say that the world is going to end, is when we go through to another world.

A few examples of The Mandela Effect are a few famous quotes. The first one, even people who aren’t fans of the Star Wars movies know the famous line Darth Vader says to Luke. “Luke, I am your father.” It’s been printed on shirts; it’s been put on phone cases, anything! Yet, a researcher that has found interest in this theory found that the actual line is, “No, I am your father.”

Another famous line that has changed is from the Disney film, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. The line is at the beginning of the film when the Evil queen asks her Magic Mirror, “Mirror Mirror, on the wall. Who’s the fairest of them all?” Right?

We all remember that line. Except it’s not the actual line. The line apparently says, “Magic Mirror, on the wall. Who’s the fairest of them all?” Crazy, right?

Another line, “Life is like a box of chocolates.” from Forrest Gump. It now says “Life was like a box of chocolates.” Which sounds a lot more depressing…

There are many more Madela Effects to some songs, television show titles, and other titles. These were a few of the most insane and noticeable ones.

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Share A Knoc k-Knoc k Laugh! Jokes!

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Knock, Knock.

Who's there?

Butter.

Butter who?

I Butter not tell you.

Knock, Knock.

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King Tut. King Tut who?

King Tucky fried chicken.

P u ns Q) What do you call an alligator in a vest?

A) An Investigator Q) What do you call a thieving alligator?

A) A Crookodile Q) What do you call a cow that has no legs?

A) Ground Beef Q) What do you call a pig that does karate?

A) Pork Chop

Knock, Knock.

Who's there?

Leaf.

Leaf who?

Leaf me alone.

Knock, Knock.

Who's there?

Nana.

Nana who?

Nana your business.

Fun ny Joke Police: Where do you live?

Me: With my parents.

Police: Where do your parents live?

Me: With me.

Police: Where do you all live?

Me: Together

Police: Where is your house?

Me: Next to my neighbor's house.

Police: Where is your neighbor's house?

Me: You won't believe me if I tell you.

Police: Tell me.

Me: Next to my house.

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ENTERTAINMENT

What's Hot:

Converse Shoes

Converse are popular shoes nowadays. These actually all began in 1917 as basketball shoes. The All Star shoes would become the first mass producing basketball shoe in North America. Nowadays though, they are all over the world and are everyday shoes with crazy colors and patterns on them.

Which, I think is kind of cool because they say something about your personality by what kind of shoes you wear.

Simmone, 14

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Last month, we taste-tested chicken from different places in Columbia. We found that Zaxby’s was our overall favorite, priced at $5.96. We also enjoyed Chick-Fil-A, which ended up being the cheapest, the price was $4.85. We decided that DQ, Lee’s and McDonald’s were alright but not as good as Zaxby’s or ChickFil-A. We’ll be doing more food reviews in the future, stay tuned!

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Mar k u s Gold e n When did you s tar t playing foot ball?

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I started playing football at a very young age. I started playing with my brothers when they played, but after that, I officially started playing football when I was 7 years old. That’s the age they started playing football where I played in St. Louis at Boys & Girls Club.

How did you s tay focused to make it to t he NFL?

First, always just believing in myself no matter what.

No matter what happened. No matter what the situation was. No matter if somebody else felt like they were better than me or doing better than me on the field. I was just always worried about myself and kept believing in myself no matter what. If it was big guys out there or strong guys, I just believed that one day I was going to be the best on the field or one of the best. This is what I always did and pushed to it, with of course motivation from my family too.

When did playing in t he NFL become a reality for you?

When I was at Hutchinson Junior College, and I finally got the call that I was going to be able to come to Missouri. I was up from Hutchinson and went home, and I had to finish one more class and pass it. I ended up passing it! Then, I was in St. Louis with the same guy that recruited my brother and had been recruiting me, and once he told me I was coming, I knew I was going to make it to the NFL. I was still motivated and believing in myself. So, once Mizzou cleared me and said I could come I knew for sure then that I was going to make it the NFL. 22

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How would you describe playing in t he NFL to kids in Middle School?

It is fun! It is a fun game. You can get out there and be yourself and not worry about anything else but playing football, being successful and making plays. It’s living the dream. I remember being a kid and playing football when I was a kid. Football was always about having fun. So today, the NFL is just the same thing, it’s really fun, and you are just out there playing a kid’s game. Just enjoy it no matter what!

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Looking back, what advice would you give yourself in middle school?

My advice I would give myself would basically be the same advice I always gave myself: If you have a dream or something you want to do, always just believe in yourself no matter what. Keep working hard towards your goal and doing the right thing to reach your goal, even if people try to tell you it’s too hard or that there are a lot of obstacles coming your way. There are always going to be obstacles coming your way that you are going to have to be able to get over it. That’s what I would tell myself, no matter what came my way I was going to make it to the NFL or at least put myself in there to have a chance.

What is your #1 goal for t he fut ure?

My #1 goal for the future is to be able to keep working hard every day and to be able to give all my knowledge and everything I’ve learned back to the community, back to the kids. My #1 goal is always to give back and help out the people that gave me the information to help me to get where I’m at so they can be successful too.

To all t he kids: Make sure no matter what, whatever dreams you’ve got or whatever you want to do when you get older just work towards it every day as much as you can and have fun with it. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t do it.

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Perseverance

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Thank you to everyone that made this night possible!

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Meet Jordan

SHOUTOUT

What if you were told you could be a superhero? What if you could become anything that you wanted? Well, I had a chance to answer these questions a year ago.

My name is Jordan, and I was born with an arm that stops just above my elbow.

However, this does not stop me from doing anything.

I was invited to participate in Superhero Cyborgs camp through KIDmob and sponsored by Autodesk at their Pier 9 facility in San Francisco back in 2016. I got to brainstorm with other kids with limb differences on what we wanted to create. I came up with... Wait for it... A 3D-printed prosthetic arm that shoots sparkles.

I know, it’s crazy!

We got to learn some really cool things like scanning our arm, how to create 3D designs, and what I think is the most important thing: You are going to fail when you design stuff. That’s when I came up with one of my mottos: “You are always going to fail when you create. If you don’t, there has to be something wrong.” Some people think that when you make something, it will be perfect on the first try.

That’s what you usually see on TV. That’s not really what happens!

I named my first sparkle-shooting design, Project Unicorn.

My glitter blaster looked like an explosion starburst that fit around my arm. The glitter kind of spilled out instead of a sprayed out. But it was cool.

When Superhero Cyborgs camp ended, each kid was teamed up with a professional 3D designer to keep working on our design. I partnered with a guy named Sam Hobish who worked at Autodesk as an industrial designer. I told him what I thought could do better.

We meet on Google Hangouts after school every Friday. We keep coming up with better and better designs.

We showed off one of the biggest design changes at Maker Faire Bay Area. How my arm works, is I use compressed air that goes through a tube and into a unicorn horn that fits on my arm. I also have a big container of sparkles. When the compressed air meets up with the sparkles, they shoot out the unicorn horn. Most of the project is 3D printed and designed in Tinkercad and Fusion.

Other places where I got to share Project Unicorn, include the National Maker Faire (where I won an Editor’s Choice award) and a Makinging Health event with the Department of Health and Human Services. One of the biggest things I got to do was go on the Rachael Ray Show and present Project Unicorn to six of the members of Shark Tank.

I keep presenting how it’s cool to be different and build fun arms. I have talked to schools and even a Cub Scout pack. My goal is to show how a limb difference isn’t sad, but it can be really awesome. I also like showing how Project Unicorn works.

My mom and I are now working on finding ways to help other kids experience design like I have. We started a non-profit called Born Just Right. We want to help kids who are disabled learn how to take advantage of their differences and build their own solutions and fun. I can’t wait to see another kid come up with the next great idea.

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The Challenges of A Black Ballerina Hi, I’m Nyah, and I am fourteen years old. I have been dancing since I was three years old. I take classes like ballet, jazz and hip-hop. Currently, I am on the High School dance team. Unfortunately, I am the only African-American dancer that tried out for the team. This comes with advantages and disadvantages. Some disadvantages are that sometimes I feel that I am judged because I have a different skin tone or that I’m judged because some people feel that because I am darker than them, I cannot dance as well as them. I’m here to say that, this isn’t true and you can do anything if you put your mind to it. The thing is, because sometimes I am being judged, this means people watch my every move. I use this as motivation.

I dance as hard as I can because that means if a lot of eyes are on me, they watch.

So, I dance my heart out. I am proud to be an African-American. When I dance, I feel unique and strong, like I can do anything. I am not only an African- American ballerina but I do not have a “ballerina shape." I am tall and not as slim as many ballerinas but that’s what makes me beautiful. I choose to be my own dancer. Being a ballerina has taught me so many things especially being a girl in high school. Dance has taught me that it’s ok to be myself. It has taught me that people appreciate when you embrace yourself and love who you are. People change themselves just to fit into a group that doesn’t accept them for who they truly are. In dance you can be who you are and express how you feel through dance moves. When I first told my “friends” about dance they got so judgmental and asked “Why do you dance?” or “Wow you’re stupid for doing that.” and laughed and walked away. I realized soon that they were not my friends and I needed to find new friends quick. Many of my new friends are from dance now. I use the mean and awful things people say to me and change them into something that could motivate myself. If you focus and think about all of the rude or mean things people say to you and feel mad or sad about them, then you’re not going to get anywhere. The first thing that needs to happen is for you to love yourself as much as possible because there truly isn’t anyone out there that is just like you. Every single person in this world is unique, strong and beautiful in their own way. So yes, I sometimes struggle with differences. However, at the end of the day I accept my differences and love them. They are unique and a part of who I am. I love all of me.

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ATHLETE OF THE MONTH

I am Nathan and I am a sophomore at Father Tolton High School. The school's main focus is education. Both my coaches and our athletic director have high expectations. They are building champions on and off the court and fields. This was something I really had to work my way into. My first year of high school was full of new things both on and off the court. I had to accept that I needed great time management skills and would have to sometimes sacrifice the extra things I may want to do instead of studying. My parents have taught me, your character and the things you do in your life becomes your brand.

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Counselor-In-Training Camp Review

The Counselor in Training program is for those entering the 7th through 10th grades. A Counselor in Training, or CIT, is a vital part of the YMCA’s summer camp program. The CIT’s assist the YMCA staff with activities, arts and crafts, games, meals, cleaning and in general, making the camp run! The CIT program is designed to teach valuable leadership skills which will help prepare you for the future.

Tristyn, a 4th-year CIT, states that he enjoys participating in volunteer work. This year the CIT’s partnered with the Missouri Stream Team to clean Wears Creek. They found all sorts of trash, the most interesting being a motorized scooter.

Anna, a first-year CIT, enjoys the fact that the kids look up to the CIT’s. The CIT’s have the opportunity to lead campers in gym games and ice breakers throughout the summer. This, for some, is their first experience leading a group. “Despite the mistakes that I made the campers encouraged me to not give up.”

Elijah, a 2nd-year CIT, says that he learned responsibility this summer because he had to watch the children in his camp. CIT’s are responsible for walking kids to the bathroom, taking kids to swim lessons and much more.

The CIT program is a leadership program geared to helping teens grow in confidence. Each year the CIT program continues to grow. If you enjoy working with kids and have a desire to lead join us next summer!

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My name is Carly. I live in Indianapolis, Indiana. I’m currently 13 years old and in the eighth grade. I have three amazing older sisters and a little brother. My focus and passion outside of school is basketball. I plan to follow my dream and become a pharmacist or do something in the sports medicine field. I plan to do this at Butler University while playing on their ladies basketball team.

I have been playing basketball since I was the age of four and played on in house leagues, IGHL leagues, school teams, and currently an AAU team called the Lady Bobcats or The Breakfast Club. Recently my AAU team went to Orlando for a national tournament. We had made it to the Sweet 16, but our last two games were a little rough, so we placed 12th in the nation out of 32 teams. We got the opportunity to play at ESPN World Wide of Sports, and I believe it was the best experience I have ever had. The way we got there was by working hard, listening to our coaches and practicing.

My greatest inspiration is Tamika Catchings. I have attended two of Tamika’s camps, one of Trey Lyles camps, and many more. I also have done some workouts with Warren Central High School Ladies Basketball along with attending a few of their practices. When it is possible I go to the gym about 30 minutes before practice starts to practice drills, dribbling, and my shooting. When I’m at home, I even manage to practice skills that I can use to evaluate myself and get better at. I know that even when you think you have reached your full potential that you can always do better. For example, Tamika Catchings never stopped improving her game. You must always thrive to become better than you were the day before.

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FEAT URED She always believes in me on and off the court and pushes me to do better. I am so thankful for her because without her I wouldn’t be where I am today in many aspects of life.

She has taught me that the way to get where you want to be is to believe in yourself, to work hard to get where you want to be and to always put academics before athletics. This is also a concept that is enforced at home. I have learned how important it is to be a student and worry about your academics before your sports. Education is one of the best gifts we as people are given because knowledge is power. If you believe that your skills as an athlete can earn you a scholarship that is great, but you also have to make sure you have the knowledge for it. This is due to the fact that receiving a scholarship is also based off of your grades and GPA. Also, when thinking about your future, you have to have a backup plan to making it to the WNBA or some other professional athleticism.

I have realized that school has a lot more to offer than just education. It brings friends, families, opportunities, and many more things. I know that you have to take advantage of what is in front of you because you could lose it at any moment. Another thing I have learned is that with these opportunities come great responsibility. I understand that you must listen to the people that are trying to help and better you. Listen as they encourage you to make the right choices and understand when you make the wrong choices that there may be severe consequences. Unfortunately, I have seen others give up the chance of following their dreams due to one horrible decision. I will always remember these people and the opportunities they had and so tragically lost. I will share their story in hopes of helping my friends and peers in making good life decisions. I also know that I have to be thankful for the opportunities I am given and the game I get to play. I understand that most kids don’t get to do the things I do, so I always remember to work hard and to take pride in it. I am aware that the people and opportunities that I have been given were given to me to make me grow as a person. I believe that these opportunities give me the opportunity to show that I’m a leader, a hard worker, and even a role model to some.

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During Addie’s hard times she had friends and family supporting and being kind to her. Now Addie puts all her problems behind her and thinks of herself as a normal kid. Addie is thankful for what she has and who she is. She learned to accept herself. Addie is known as a leader in her school and a very outgoing girl. Due to Addie’s circumstance when she grows up she said she wants to be a children’s cleft palate doctor to help kids go through what she went through.

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DEAR FUTURE ME Sometimes people start saying really mean and hurtful things to me.

Is there something wrong with me? Is that the reason they say those things to me? My mind starts racing, and I feel hurt and confused.

I don’t know who I can turn to or who to tell. I hear these hurtful things every day, and they are constantly playing in my head. I don’t know how to make it stop or how not to believe these things that they keep saying to me. I need someone and I need to know the truth about me.

-Past You -Past You

DEAR PAST ME Those people are bullying you. Those mean and hurtful things those people say to you, don’t believe them. There isn’t anything wrong with you. You are you. No matter what people tell you, don’t stop being yourself. Turn to someone you care about and love and don’t keep it to yourself any longer because you shouldn’t deal with this on your own. Those people are trying to tear you down because they are insecure and have struggles of their own, so they take it out on you. Talk to someone and stand up to them and show them the truth about you, not the lies that they are saying. Don’t let them tear you down because you are loved, cared for, and awesome. The truth about you is that you are beautiful, loved, cared for, confident, and awesome. Don’t let anyone tell you anything different. Keep going and don’t hold it in. Tell someone and let people speak truth to you.

Even though they are bullying you, don’t bully them because that isn’t you. Be kind to them even when you don’t want to because you will not want to tear them down like they are doing to you. Show them how to love and be kind by you loving them and being kind to them. Don’t change yourself and be you.

-Future You

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OVERCOMIN G BULLYIN G You know that one kid in your class that is always getting picked on in school, well what you don’t know is that the same thing happens outside of school. This kind of stuff happens every day. You just might not know about it. Most people won’t tell anyone about it because they do not want to be a snitch. It’s really not tattling. In my article, I am going to tell you about what most schools do about bullying, stories, and then the counterargument.

First of all, we are going to talk about how most schools handle bullying situations. In order for them to be stopped, you have to tell a trusted adult.

Then, if that adult is not a teacher, they will tell the teacher. The teacher will get them in trouble. The bullies parents will get called. Then it is up to the parents on what to do to them from there. After the bully is taken care of, the teachers or school worker will make sure the person is okay.

Now it is story time. I am going to tell you three stories. One about a girl named Rebecca, and then a boy named Josh, and finally a boy named Ryan.

Let’s start out with Rebecca. Rebecca was a thirteen-year-old girl living in Florida. She was being teased and harassed in school, and on social media.

Rebecca then became depressed and started hurting herself. The school did nothing about it because they thought it was just kids being kids. Rebecca’s mom took down all her social media accounts, and Rebecca’s family had to move to another state.

Now, this story is about a boy named Josh. Josh moved to a new school his first year of middle school. Josh came home one day after school with a broken wrist and a head injury. Josh’s mother called the school, but it took weeks for the school to set up an appointment. Josh started sitting with the eighth graders at lunch, but in order for them to protect Josh, he had to give them his lunch money. Not only did Josh get teased, but he also got in a bunch of fights. Josh moved away to a different school and succeeded very well in life.

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Now, Josh has a group of kids who are getting bullied and teaches them how to cope with this kind of situation.

Finally, I am going to talk about a boy named Ryan. Ryan was born with speech and motor skill disabilities. Ryan began to get bullied at school around fifth grade. Ryan struggled in the learning process of middle school.

He was failing most of his classes and was falling behind in his SPED class.

When Ryan would get bullied, his parents thought it was just “kids being kids,” or “the normal.” This, however, was not the case. Ryan wanted to know how to fight so if someone wanted to fight him he could, “beat the heck out of them” as Ryan said. Ryan became very into social media in the summer of 2003. Ryan’s “friends,” told everyone that he was gay, which that was not true. Ryan tried to find a girlfriend to clear everything out, but all the girls believed the rumors. Finally, Ryan got tired of all the teasing and killed himself in the fall of 2003. All these things happened because first of all, the schools did not know about it, or had to take care of other things.

Which this brings me to the counterargument.

The counterargument is the opposite of my opinion and not how must schools handle bullying. This is when you have a bullying situation, the school will make you guys work the problem out yourself. With this nothing would be solved because both people would stick to their side. Therefore the bullying would not stop, and they could hurt more people. Also, if the teachers and staff members just put it off or left it alone, that would not help either. I am thankful that my school does something about it, and does not make us work it out ourselves or put it off.

In my article, I have told you about what schools usually do, my counterargument, and stories. Are you thinking about what you have done to someone to make them feel hurt, because I know I did. I hope you have learned a thing or two about bullying.

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Counselor’s Corner We hear a lot about bullying these days, but what is bullying? Bullying is a behavior that is purposeful and repeated, aimed to cause you some type of harm. This could be fear, embarrassment, shame, physical pain, or overall sadness.

Some examples of bullying behavior:

. A peer comes to school daily and demands your lunch money and threatens to physically harm you (or does) if you do not give him your lunch money. This goes on for days, weeks, maybe months. You are too scared to tell anyone what is happening because you are so afraid of these threats.

. A peer spreads rumors about you. They might write hurtful messages

on the bathroom wall about you. These rumors may be true, or they may not be, however; these rumors are hurtful or embarrassing for you. Despite asking this person to stop, they persist.

. A group of peers make a social media page designated at making fun

of you. They post photos of you with captions that are embarrassing or shameful. They make posts on this social media page describing why they dislike you and they encourage others to share or follow this social media page describing why they dislike you.

If you have been bullied, you may wonder why … Why is this person bullying me? What did I do to deserve this? How can I get it to stop?

There are a lot of options to handle being bullied: - Ignore the bully - Avoid the bully - Stick with a friend – bullies are less likely to do their bullying with an audience

- Stand up for yourself (but be strong and respectful about it)

- Don’t show your feelings (bullies are looking for someone they can cause harm to, don’t let them see how this affects you)

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Don’t fight back; this is what the bully wants, a reaction.

Try to talk to the bully, maybe he or she is bullying because of their own low self-esteem and could use a friend Tell an adult

While there is no guarantee any of these options will work, one thing you can do to help yourself is to remember some very important things -

It is not your fault that this person is bullying you You do not deserve this You are a unique and loved and the bullies words cannot change this.

This will stop one day

You may not be able to prevent bullying, but you can make sure you do not become a bully yourself. Remember how important your words are to others. Remember, you never know what someone else may be struggling with, and your comment could make their struggle even greater. It is important to always think about how you would want to be treated in any given situation.

Always think of your words and how they could harm others. Embrace yours and other’s unique qualities. Be kind and remember to spread that kindness!

Stephanie Parsons, MSW, LCSW Licensed Clinical Social Worker

"Respect people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them."

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Kid Counselors

Leave an impression on someone’s life...

I have been to my middle school just one year, but that was plenty of time for me to realize just how hard it was. Don’t think that I mean academics, we rarely have homework and our teachers are awesome. There are so many problems with so many people; it’s almost as if people forgot how to smile! After my wonderful experience in elementary school, I couldn’t bare to let my friends be taken by this rush of negativity. I decided to do something about this.

There were fights going on between multiple people at our school, and everyone took sides, but nobody said anything to teachers. It turns out that people didn’t trust teachers with handling the problem, and surprisingly, they weren’t alone! A study by Stop Bullying Now Foundation showed that 16% of school staff members had heard about bullying at THEIR school, but 60% of studied students WERE bullied. A few comrades and I felt that it was our duty as peers to help as best as we could. So, Kid Counselors was born.

Kid Counselors is a student-made organization with the sole purpose of creating a safe environment for every kid at our school. The group is run by a simple philosophy: Problems are like weeds, no matter how many are taken care of, they come back. You can choose to keep pulling them out, but if you let them grow, they will choke out that beautiful flower of life. This means that the longer that you wait to solve a problem, the harder it is to fix.

The Kid Counselor’s job is to help kids deal with any problem they may be facing, then provide them with the tools and confidence to prevent them in the future.

Every single person I’ve talked to agrees that speaking with someone just like you is much easier than talking to a figure of authority, and will allow students the necessary care and support to smile again.

I believe that the most incredible part of this is that the idea was created and then put into action by students! All we, as peer mediators, want to do is help each other out because so many people lack the most crucial ingredient to success: support. Incredible things start to happen when we work with one another, and we hope that this school year proves successful in the fight against negativity.

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ST RICT LY T WEENS Not only will the Kid Counselors be beneficial for solving problems, but the members will also learn how to solve problems, help their peers, and become a positive influence for the rest of the school. It’s a Win-Win situation!

Our school is receiving a new school counselor this year, so I think that this is the perfect time to implement the Kid Counselors. Starting up the program will be my primary focus for most of my 7th-grade year. I am excited to be helping out at my fellow middle schoolers.

I hope that this idea shows all tweens that ordinary people can accomplish great things, and all that they need is a helpful heart and positive attitude. Wish me luck getting this started, and maybe propose the idea to your school!

Tyson, 12

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On the first Monday of October we ask everyone to GO BLUE! Wear a BLUE SHIRT and join us in solidarity to stop bullying and cyberbullying!

Make it the day that day that bullying prevention is heard around the world!

Whether you order a "2017 Limited Edition" Blue Shirt® (available July 2017) or wear your own blue shirt, you’ll be using your voice and sending a message to the world.

Help us Change the Culture!

Find out more at www.stompoutbullying,org The STOMP Out Bullying™ HelpChat Line: Get Help with Bullying The STOMP Out Bullying™ HelpChat Line is a free and confidential online chat that helps youth ages 13-24 ONLY with issues around bullying and cyberbullying; as well as providing support to youths who may be at risk of suicide.

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Recognize When YOU’RE The Bully

Bullying isn’t always the big scary kid pushing other kids around at school, on the bus, or on a playground. Sometimes bullying is more subtle. A bully is anyone who uses words or actions to intimidate or harm someone else.

You can’t tell a bully just by the way they look, but you can always recognize a bully by the way they treat others. Bullies often call their victims’ names publicly and privately. Bullies make threats and manipulate. Bullies sometimes persuade others to think or act in ways to mistreat the victim. Bullies can even hurt their victims by ignoring them and convincing others to do the same.

You may be guilty of unintentional bullying. We’ve all said things that were unkind or treated people in ways that were less than ideal. Follow this simple acrostic to help you keep your behavior in check and avoid accidental bullying.

Before you speak or act, ask yourself these five questions:

T- Is it t rue?

H- Is it helpful?

I- Is it inspiring?

N- Is it necessary?

K- Is it kind?

If you cannot answer each question with an enthusiastic “Yes!” Then you might be about to become the bully. Take a pause and change course. By taking the high road, you’ll earn the respect of everyone…especially yourself.

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1. How old are you?

I am 12 years old.

2. What's your favorite food?

My favorite food is rice.

3. What's your par t of school?

I like to read.

4. What do you do when you aren't at school?

When I don't have school I play with my friends and help clean the house and wash the dishes.

5. What do you want to be when you grow up?

I want to be a doctor when I grow up.

6. What is one t hing you want to learn how to do?

I want to learn English.

7. Where do you want to visit someday?

I want to visit America someday.

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To get a bronzy look, I love to use the Hoola Bronzer By Benefit Cosmetics.

6. Blush Blush is the perfect way to give you extra color for your makeup look. The Anastasia Beverly Hill Trio blush in pool party are the perfect colors to create your own makeup look.

7. Eye Brow To get nice full brows, I like to dip in the Anastasia Beverly Hill Brow Powder Dip Duo. 8. Eye Shadow This is also my favorite part in makeup because you have the freedom to get creative and have fun blending colors to set off your perfect makeup.

9. Mascara To get full long lashes, the roll lash has a serum that instantly curls and lengthens your lashes!

10. Highlighter This is the part where you go get your shine on!

11. Lip Color To set the mood of your makeup look, you get to choose any color! I love to use the Urban Decay Vice Lip Stick in Hitch Hike.

Arika, 16

THE KNOW HOW

Love Makes Us Tough “Toughen up.” As a high school educator, this is a common statement made by students on how to overcome bullying. Unfortunately, for students that experience bullying, this simplistic answer does not solve a much larger problem.

Toughness is not a trait we are born with; toughness must be nurtured into a person to help them. My sister, who is nearly eight years younger than me, is not tough because I bullied her. This, I have to embarrassingly admit, happened during my teenage years. My sister is tough because she had a large number of family and friends who supported her (myself included, I wasn’t always a rude older brother) and allowed her the courage to understand she is valuable as a human and to ignore the people that tried to make her feel bad.

How can we, as students and teachers, develop this toughness into our school? I suggest that we must provide more opportunities for people to feel loved. As more students in our schools feel more loved and accepted, it could help many overcome the challenges associated with being bullied; to go along with making our schools safer environments, we must limit the opportunities for bullying to exist.

With the new school year here, let’s discuss a couple of ways we can make people “tougher” and feel better about themselves in school:

Invite s t udent s to join clubs or act ivit ies: One of the

best parts of school is the opportunity to get involved with groups that allow someone the chance to focus on an activity they enjoy. Whether it is an art club or a sports team many students in our schools could benefit from extra time spent participating in an activity that brings them joy or a chance to make new friends. So, if you see that student who has awesome “doodles” in their notebook or a classmate who always seems to be reading a good book, offer them an invitation to your school’s art club or reading group. Even if the person says “no,” you have at least taken a positive interest in their life and hobbies, and you have shown a person that they are valuable.

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Find t he good: When we talk about “standing up” to bullies, it

doesn’t mean there has to be a physical conflict. If you witness someone getting treated negatively, find time in the near future to bring positivity to that person’s life. Don’t let the negative message win out over a positive one.

Challenge yourself to make your school environment better: Doing this could happen in many forms:

- Give a compliment to three different people each school day.

- Create a display in the school where accomplishments of students can be recognized.

- Organize a new club that could get more students involved in school.

These are just a couple of examples, and there are plenty of good ideas out there make our school environments better than last year.

The one thing these tips have in common is that they are all ways to make people feel loved and appreciated, and that is a key factor to overcome the message from a bully. It’s not easy, but it only takes one to get the ball rolling in your school.

B e t h at o n e.

B e t h e good.

B e b old.

- Matt Heet

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THE KNOW HOW

Do you sneeze when you go outside on a bright day?

Okay, so you either have one of two reactions, “OMG that happens ALL the time!” or “Haha wait, what?”

So, if you had the first reaction, you may be wondering why this happens to you. If you had the second reaction, still read this because it’s interesting.

Me, being a person that this happens to, decided to research why it happens. It is called both “Sun Sneezing” and “Photic Sneeze Reflex,” sounds fancy, right? This happens to about 17-35% of the population, but why? The fifth cranial nerve (somewhere in the head) sometimes gets tripped up because when you are exposed to bright light, your eyes contract. The fifth cranial nerve accidentally sends a signal to your nose when your eyes contract, causing you to sneeze.

Sometimes a similar thing happens, but instead when your eyes contract it excitedly activates the other parts of the system, including the nose. That can also make you sneeze. This can be genetic and is ‘dominant’ because you only need to inherit it from one parent. So, you now know why this happens to you…or why this doesn’t happen to you, and you were just following the instructions above. Either way, thanks for reading!

Josie, 13 September/October 2017

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