ICONIC ESSENCE THE HEALTH EDITION Inviting in extravagant self-care
GUEST FEATURE Paden Hughes Published Author of Take Two: How a Simple Daily Habit Increased My Health, Wealth and Happiness
INVITING IN FALL Finding your sweater soulmate & my personal must haves for Autumn
"LIFE GETS TO SURPRISE AND DELIGHT YOU CONSTANTLY."
EDITOR'S NOTE Your response to this magazine has been one of my greatest joys. This was the birth of something that I have envisioned for a very long time. Truthfully, this launch was very much about myself and fulfilling a part of what I believe I was called to create. The beauty in it, is that it serves you too. The energy that this magazine has brought forward for us has been awe inspiring. It is a great example of how wonderful life can be when we venture into the deep end. Every day, every experience, every business decision, every relationship gets to constantly surprise and delight us. It doesn’t always come to fruition the way we planned and other times it is exactly what we anticipated and more. Go all in. Move forward on what you are dreaming about. It is always worth it because of who you become. See you in the arena.
TABLE OF October 2022
06 MONTHLY INVOCATION a place to pause and reflect with intention
JOURNAL PROMPTS invite more surprise and delight into your life and business
ICONIC CLIENT SPOTLIGHT featuring Executive Coach and Professional Fundraiser, Jenny Mitchell
THE ICONIC THOUGHT What This Season CAN Teach Us
ESSENCE - THE HEALTH EDITION Inviting in Extravagant Self Care
YOUR OPPORTUNITY Various ways to immerse yourself in Becoming Iconic’s world
FEATURED GUEST Paden Hughes, Author of TAKE TWO
JENUINE CONNECTION THE LIFE OF A MOMPRENEUR OF FOUR
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MANTRA No religious affiliation
PRAYER PRAYER MANTRA
only the belief that you can call in what you need
INVOCATION As I walk through this day, let everything I experience delight me. Help me to be like a child seeing something for the first time. Give me the eyes and spirit to be in awe of all that surrounds me. Help me to see the detail of texture and the vibrancy of color in a fresh way.
Remind me to pause so that I savour what I am tasting and to breathe in the beautiful smells around me. In a world of distractions and fast-paced living, I desire to be someone who notices and pays attention so I don’t miss a thing. Encourage me to live fully with intention today and every day going forward.
And so it is.
Most wait for an accomplishment or the next “thing” to feel 'joy' They miss the beauty of the journey. They neglect to see the most exquisite views along the path because they are so fixated on the destination. With these journal prompts, let us be more unique with how we approach and live our days. By paying closer attention, we become beams of light and joy for ourselves and those we encounter. What surprised and delighted me recently that I can celebrate further today? What makes me feel giddy and full of life? How can I invite more of that in? List all the experiences, people and rewards you have collected so far as a result of starting your journey.
By spending time with these questions and journaling, you are changing the trajectory of your day, week, month and life. What if you spent more time considering all the blessings you have created daily? I am certain you would feel more grateful and joyful.
DE HERE ARE SOME THOUGHTS I HAD FROM JOURNALING THE PROMPTS: I have created beauty all around me and live intentionally to invite more in daily. There will always be more to accomplish but I don’t require more than what I have in this moment to be fulfilled. I am obsessed with soaking in all that each day offers. The smell of my kids when I tuck them in, to the feeling of the sun kissing my skin, to creating delicious meals as a family. Who I am becoming has been the greatest gift of all. There will always be more wealth to acquire, more clients to serve and more experiences to seize. However, whom I am developing into and the self-actualization I am witnessing is truly the best part of it all.
JENNY MITCHELL- EXECUTIVE COACH, PROFESSIONAL FUNDRAISER, AND PODCAST HOST. chavender.com
THE ICONIC Client
JENNY IS THE CHIEF VISIONARY OFFICER OF CHAVENDER. Chavender’s vision is to help more people do more good. Founder and president of Chavender, Jenny Mitchell (CFRE, DMA), works closely with leaders to change the world - one mission at a time. Chavender assists clients, across Canada and the U.S., to inspire their donors and customers to achieve their goals through personalized coaching and training. Before completing her CFRE, Jenny trained as a classical musician and earned her Doctorate of Musical Arts. She brings her creative approach, her drive for excellence, and her passion for people to the world of not-for-profits and corporate America.
To expand her suite of services to offer clients To create residual income To build a personal brand To seek more playfulness, joy and ease into her business To stand further into confidence and personal power
"Learning is a part of who I am and I have the privilege of being an entrepreneur, which allows me to invest my own time and money into personal development. I have never regretted a single dollar I have invested over the years in training or coaching. As an executive coach myself, I also believe that all coaches should hire coaches: to stretch us to challenge us to champion us"
Welcomed the biggest year of revenue Raised prices and client experiences for all offers Created multiple Evergreen offers Celebrated passive income and the fun that brings Built and enjoyed creating a personal brand Hired a team Introduced and invited more intentional pleasure and play
I remember how I was stretched by Jenny’s professionalism and expertise when we first met. She brought out the best in me because I realized that we would be able to elevate each other through our partnership. So often, we put all of that upon the mentor. As though they are solely responsible for the frequency of the relationship. I believe that it gets to be mutually beneficial and I love to welcome in clients who make me slightly uncomfortable. It only takes a minute to fall in love with who Jenny is. Thoughtful conversation, care and compassion are some of her strongest attributes. She is able to tie that together with big vision and this is why she is so exceptional at the work she does. Jenny and I have been partnered for nearly a year and a half. Throughout this time together, she has really been able to welcome in ease, pleasure and play along side of her big business growth. This new way of building a business and life was sparked when I challenged her to create a rebellion list. The things that she has always desired, maybe even some things that are a little naughty and allow that to be something she experiences. It taught her that growing a business can feel good and be harmonious with her life. One of her biggest business wins was when she shared that she wanted to know what passive income would feel like. We were giddy and celebrated the first time she received an email saying “you’ve been paid” without her involvement. It was a pivotal moment for Jenny to recognize that there are countless ways to expand.
This relationship is one I treasure. I would love to encourage you to become a part of Jenny’s world. Her podcasts Underdog Leadership and Your Next Fifty are incredible and I urge you to add them to your roster. Money Mindset and her other coaching opportunities are not to be missed if you are aching to go from number two in leadership to number one.
Podcast Links Underdog Leadership Podcast Your Next Fifty Podcast
"But not all coaches are created equal. Jen Szpigiel is in a different class, a different world of support and expertise than anyone I have ever worked with before. Her ability to see me as a whole of all my parts is powerful. She starts conversations that spark action. Her knowledge is deep in the areas of business, leadership, marketing and sales. But it is her spirit, her optimism and her humanness that I cherish most about her as my coach."
Chief Visionary Officer, Chavender chavender.com | @jennychavender
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ature really is the example of perfection. I am in tune with nature more than ever this time of year because Autumn is my treasured season of choice. I find it a season full of lessons. I feel like it teaches me every year. I remember how much I enjoy routine and a rhythm in my life after a summer of freedoms and play.
I love the spark of motivation to cook more comfort food like soups and roasts that leave the house smelling like childhood. The fashion is my absolute favorite because there is so much variety offered in layering clothes and the weather permits you to play more with style.
The problem lies in our sense of urgency most of the time. The farmer cannot rush the crop. They cannot ask the plants to hurry up and prove their abundance. Two
The most predominant teachers for me though are the farmer’s harvests and the leaves falling to the ground. These acts of nature are pivotal lessons for us and I would love to offer them so you can reflect and rejoice.
I live in the country surrounded by farms. This time of year, our road traffic often consists of tractors with farmers working tirelessly on their craft. Often times I hear them all through the night as they continue to reap their long
awaited crops. Every time I hear them drive by,
The other significant teacher of Autumn are
I am reminded of how life is just like the
the trees. What a valuable lesson it is to watch
harvest these farmers are tending to. So much
the trees trust in the process. They generously
of what we do in business is comparable by
release the leaves that they have grown for a
planting seeds and then caring for them
season, knowing that they will return again
awaiting the eventual harvest of our efforts.
soon. The tree doesn’t quit being a tree because of what they have to endure or
The problem lies in our sense of urgency most
release. They simply allow the old to drop away
of the time. The farmer cannot rush the crop.
with assurance that new will take its place. The
They cannot ask the plants to hurry up and
interesting part for me, is that the leaves fall
prove their abundance. They also cannot plant
when they are the most vibrant and beautiful.
the seeds and sit back crossing their fingers
Isn’t that interesting? The colors are
hoping that something turns up. They work
breathtaking and yet, the tree releases them.
diligently and they trust. They problem solve
The tree doesn’t grip onto the leaves because
with the obstacles that come their way and
they are worried that this is it for them. They
they do what it takes to create a healthy and
instead allow the natural process to happen
and the next year they grow more lush and steady to generate more leaves than they ever
How can we be more like that with our goals?
have. That is growth!!
How can we be more conscientious to the time and consideration it takes to reap the
What do we need to release in order to make
rewards of our own personal harvest? What if
room for something new to come in? What is it
we trusted more in the nature of things and
in our lives that we are holding onto because
anchored into the truth that as long as we
we are afraid it will never happen again? How
continue to plant new seeds, nurture and
can we trust that abundance gets to expand
tend to them, we will one day see the
always and there is more to look forward to
reward? How can we be more like a farmer
when we let ourselves grow out of what no
when it comes to growing our lives and
businesses moving forward?
I have found myself ready to shed some of the beautiful things that have had its season within my life and business. Sometimes that is a team member that is a part of the last chapter. Or a business that no longer aligns. Other times it's a simple strategy that needs to be tweaked or reinvented. It doesn’t mean that any of these things were “bad” or “wrong”.
It just means by releasing them, I get to stretch myself into the new. I also notice where I am planting seeds, like this magazine for example. It is fresh and new and although there were hundreds of you who enjoyed the first issue, I believe there will be hundreds of thousands one day with it on their coffee tables. It is a matter of continuing to nurture it, knowing that result will happen as a reflection of my commitment, care and trust. There are other areas where I am like the farmer gathering the harvest and the rewards of all the work and time I have given to my business and life. The reality really is that there will always be areas where you only see a big empty space and you wonder if your dream will ever come to fruition and then there will be places where you can’t stop the momentum. Often times we miss the full enjoyment of the harvest because we are so fixated on the space where the seeds haven’t popped yet.
Let’s be better. Let’s commit to each other that we will act more like farmers who are dedicated to planting new seeds, nurturing them and trusting the harvest will come. We also get to be more like the trees where we release the things that no longer serve us knowing that new life, growth and expansion is on the other side of that. That feels really enlightening to me. That feels really biological to me. It’s natural for us to trust and grow. We get to lean on that going forward. Shall we?
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esSence HEALTH EDITION
INVITING IN EXTRAVAGANT Self -Care
I LOVE THE PRACTICE OF SITTING STILL, TUNING INTO MY BODY AND KNOWING THAT I AM SERVING MYSELF.
Isn’t Autumn like a mini new year?! It’s a time where we often reconsider our habits, goals and through that process, feel a surge of energy. I mean the kids are back at school and that in itself creates a routine and more space to dive deep. Am I right?! When I opened up 2022, one of my intentions and goals was to experience extravagant self care. This didn’t necessarily mean expensive. This to me meant big and beautiful experiences curated to leave me feeling elevated and deeply cared for.
Sunlighten had reach out from one of the podcasts that I had released around self acceptance and offered to be a sponsor. Once I did my research and realized the calibre of quality, care and service Sunlighten provides, it was an obvious yes to align together. So here we are.
I truly believe in writing goals down, visualizing yourself within that reality and believing it to be true. This practice has never failed me and led me to Sunlighten Saunas.
I had always thought about how luxurious and supportive a sauna in my home would be. I paid for minutes to go to a spa to soak in infrared light and release that sweat that comes from deep within. I loved the practice of sitting still, tuning into my body and knowing that I am serving my body, mind and spirit all at the same time.
Sunlighten offers a variety of saunas that incorporate incredible health benefits and that are proven to give results. Here are a few that I am really looking forward to experiencing:
DETOXIFICATION Sweating is one of the safest and natural ways to heal and maintain good health by helping to eliminate toxic heavy metals, drug residues, and hormonal disruptors.
WEIGHT LOSS Increasing core body heat increases calorie burn, similar to exercise.
HEART-HEALTH Infrared therapy can help your heart work better by exercising the heart, temporarily reducing blood pressure, and improving circulation.
ANTI-AGING Infrared waves increase circulation and detoxify the skin, helping regenerate and cleanse cells.
IMMUNITY Heating the body from the inside can improve the function of the immune system just like a fever can.
MUSCLE RECOVERY The infrared helps deliver more oxygen to cells for faster repair and pain relief.
I have started to incorporate my sauna into my workout routine. After my workout, I immediately go into my sauna where I listen to relaxing music, a podcast or journal. It is recommended that you do 30-45 minutes 3-4 times a week. I love it so much that I have no problem creating the time and space for this within my day. I want to encourage you to say YES to your health and do more than you have done in the past to create different results. This one-time investment in you and your home, can open up more time and opportunity within this lifetime. Use my name Jen Szpigiel when talking to customer service to receive the deep discount of $600 off your sauna when purchasing. You’re welcome. xo
"I want to encourage you to say YES to your health and do more than you have done in the past to create different results". 03.
The new pumpkin cream cold brew at Starbucks is life. Don’t judge that I add on a pumpkin spice scone with it. This only comes once a year let’s remember.
CAN YOU OVERDO PUMPKIN SPICE? I THINK NOT.
IS UPON US
A PERFECT LOUNGE SET I recently bought butter yellow joggers with a matching sheer top from Zara. The color is absolutely stunning. I highly recommend.
THROWS & MORE THROWS Every bed, couch and chair in my home has a blanket that you can drape over yourself while reading your favorite book or binge watching the next series on TV. You may consider investing in designer throws to add luxury + comfort. You just feel differently with a Hermes or Louis Vuitton blanket over you.
SWEATER SOUL Sharing my top “must have" sweaters for Fall 2022 that wrap your heart & soul in pure comfort.
THE LONG LI NE
The open front sweater acts as an easy item to throw on, adding length and dimension to any fall outfit.
THE OVERSI ZED
Perfect for layering over a t-shirt or a tailored dress shirt. I love that you can put this over leggings for a casual outfit or pair with a faux leather pant for an elevated look. Banana Republic has you covered for this one.
THE CLASSI C BLACK
A black cozy turtle neck please! Paired with jeans and a chunky boot or tucked into a pencil skirt with a high heel, there is nothing more versatile than a classic black turtle neck. Everyone looks good in one.
THE TREND WE LOVE
Neon is life! I love that Zara has given us the most vibrant neon colors to add to our wardrobe. I feel alive in my brights and with a pair of jeans, it is just perfection!
"INSTEAD OF WISHING FOR THINGS TO BE EASIER, WE NEED TO MAKE A COMMITMENT, AND A DECLARATION, TO KEEP MOVING FORWARD EVERYDAYNO MATTER THE CHALLENGES WE FACE." JEN SZPIGIEL
Autumn leaves shower like gold rainbows as the Dan Millman winds of change begin to blow.
APPLE PICKING AND MAKING HOMEMADE APPLE CRISP ON A SUNDAY AFTERNOON.
CANDLES, A COZY BLANKET AND A GREAT BOOK.
FAVORI TE THI NGS
SLEEPING WITH THE WINDOW CRACKED OPEN AND CUDDLING UP UNDER THE SHEETS FOR A GREAT NIGHT’S SLEEP.
GOING FOR A HIKE IN THE WOODS AND SMELLING THE DAMP LEAVES AND HEARING THEM CRUNCH UNDER YOUR FEET.
PUMPKIN PIE SMOOTHIE Fast and simple. Balance your energy while feeling like you are eating pumpkin pie.
Directions Place ingredients in high-speed
Base 1 - 1.5 cups unsweetened almond milk 1 serving vanilla protein powder 1 tbsp almond butter 1 tbsp flax meal 1/2 cup pumpkin purée 1/2 cup frozen cauliflower (or ice) 1 tbsp sugar free pumpkin spice seasoning
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blender and blend until smooth.
OVERNIGHT OATS Ingredients Base 1 cup rolled oats 1/2 cup vegan vanilla protein powder 1 tsp pumpkin pie spice 2/3 cup pumpkin puree 1 cup almond milk 2 Tbsp maple syrup
Directions 1. Combine the dry ingredients in two mason jars. 2. Add in the pumpkin puree, milk, and maple syrup. 3. Stir, then cover with a lid and leave in the refrigerator overnight. 4. In the morning, open the container and enjoy!
RECIPIE CREDIT Created by Jar of Lemons, Christine.
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APPLE & PEAR CRISP Fill your home with the smell of fall & enjoy this delish dish
Base 2 pounds ripe Bosc pears (4 pears) 2 pounds firm Macoun apples (6 apples) 1 teaspoon grated orange zest 1 teaspoon grated lemon zest 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed orange juice 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon juice 1/2 cup granulated sugar 1/4 cup all-purpose flour 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F. 2. Peel, core, and cut the pears and apples into large chunks. Place the fruit in a large bowl and add the zests, juices, sugar, flour, cinnamon, and nutmeg. Pour into a 9 by 12 by 2-inch oval baking dish. 3. For the topping: Combine the flour, sugars, salt, oatmeal, and butter in the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle attachment. Mix on low speed for 1 minute, until the mixture is in large
Topping 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 3/4 cup granulated sugar 3/4 cup light brown sugar, lightly packed 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt 1 cup old-fashioned oatmeal 1/2 pound (2 sticks) cold unsalted butter, diced
crumbles. Sprinkle evenly over the fruit, covering the fruit completely. 4. Place the baking dish on a sheet pan and bake for 50 minutes to 1 hour, until the top is brown and the fruit is bubbly. Serve warm.
RECIPIE CREDIT Courtesy of Ina Garten, Food Network
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MEET PADEN HUGHES
Your soul-care EXPERT YOU WERE A HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL ENTREPRENEUR WHO FOUND HERSELF LYING ON THE FLOOR UNABLE TO MOVE. WHAT WAS THE FIRST THING THAT CROSSED YOUR MIND? What’s wild to me looking back on this moment was how disoriented I was. Truthfully, I don’t remember the face plant. I just remember waking up and not knowing where I was. It was actually my three year old daughter’s sweet little voice asking me, “Mama, what’s wrong with you?” that finally allowed me to realize I must be on my kitchen floor. And my toddler, who was non verbal, just bellyflopped on top of me and snuggled his head into me. That’s when I realized I couldn’t move my arms. I couldn’t hug him back. Then my thoughts flooded in… What time is it? When does Michael get home? What is wrong with me? Why can’t I move? And my inner mean girl showed right up delivering a giant serving of mom guilt. In that moment of complete depletion, I started to worry about whether this memory would send my kids into therapy and how much of a bad mom that would make me.
A QUICK BIO FOR PADEN
PADEN HUGHES IS A FOUNDER, SPEAKER, PODCASTER AND AUTHOR WHO IS A LEADER IN THE AREAS OF PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT, ENTREPRENEURSHIP AND HEALTH AND WELLNESS. SHE IS A BORN AND RAISED CALIFORNIA WIFE, MOM AND IS OBSESSED WITH DEFINING SUCCESS ON HER TERMS AND COACHING OTHERS HOW TO BUY BACK THEIR TIME AND EXPERIENCE TRUE FREEDOM. www.padenhughes.com @padenhughes Book Can Be Found Here
"I’ve found is that when it comes to being depleted and depressed, time isn’t your biggest issue, its your energy. Instead of thinking in terms of time, think about how your energy is.
HOW DID YOU RECOVER FROM THAT MOMENT? WHAT DID YOU DO? Looking back on all of this is so powerful to see how aligned the Universe was with me and how much support I had that I wasn’t aware of. A week before I face planted, I had been prompted by my mentor Allyson Byrd to go on a week long solo trip to Sedona Arizona for a “soul adventure.” Think of 4-5 hours of immersive therapy per day for a week. No kids. No husband. No one to focus on but myself. So I went and it was the most eye opening experience for me. I realized quickly into the trip that I wasn’t meeting with therapists, I was meeting with spiritual healers. And as woo woo as the sessions were, I was getting so many golden nuggets of truth and learning so many things about myself I’d shoved down. Things like how highly sensitive I have always been but how I masked it in the business world because I didn’t see empathy rewarded. I was a high performer running myself ragged because of an old wound of not being “good enough.” It was truly a life altering trip.
WHAT’S BEEN THE BIGGEST SHIFT FROM PRACTICING THIS? I’ll say this, I went through this during the pandemic and now that the world is re-engaging more and more, I’m running into old friends and acquaintances and everyone makes the same comment, “It’s like meeting a different person.”
Even today at my kid’s annual doctor visit my doctor wanted to know about my book and as we talked he said, “When I first met you, you were so intense. Now you’re so peaceful.” So the main difference is my energy. I’m not pushing and driving and performing. I’m more at ease and more peaceful. I’m so much happier in my skin, so much more in rhythm in my life and so much more feminine.
WHEN YOU WERE TOLD THAT YOU NEEDED TO TAKE TWO HOURS A DAY TO YOURSELF, WHAT WENT THROUGH YOUR MIND? I had a very complex response. On one hand I instantly got triggered and defensive, thinking “Are you insane? I have two kids and am fighting to keep two businesses afloat in a pandemic! I don’t have two hours!” But on the other side, the quiet inner part of me, I felt hopeful and relieved that this was the permission slip I’d always wanted to write myself but never had the courage.
HAVE YOU FELT GUILTY FOR TAKING THIS TIME FOR YOURSELF EVERY DAY? HAS ANYONE ELSE MADE YOU FEEL GUILTY FOR IT? Yes. I was raised in a world that praises women every time we martyr ourselves, every time we disappoint ourselves to meet someone else’s approval and where motherhood is a sisterhood of depletion and self sacrifice. Every thing about taking two hours a day for self care flew in the face of what I thought I was supposed to do and be to be “good enough” as a Mom. Resistance came in spirts and from so many places. I felt the most resistance internally because I had to face my inner mean girl, who I refer to a “Bitchy Brittany” and stand up for myself. I wasn’t selfish, I was protecting my family from walking on egg shells around a stressed out, overstimulated, control freak Mom. But I definitely experienced moments of resistance from my kids, my family and friends, my employees, clients and the larger community. What I’ve come to make peace with, is that when you step into any self-improvement habits of any kind and gain traction, it’ll challenge those around you. If you change enough, it’ll threaten everyone who benefited from the person you were before. Ultimately I made peace that I’d rather disappoint others than disappoint myself.
I LOVE THE STORY OF HOW YOU NAMED YOUR BOOK. I BELIEVE IT IS ANOTHER WAY OF TEACHING INTUITION. WOULD YOU SHARE IT? The hardest thing for me to name was my book (and I have two kids and two businesses).
My publisher and book coach were both pushing me to name my book and I honestly was stuck. One night I dreamt about a college professor from my alma mater who was trying to speak to me but no sound was coming out of her mouth. I brushed it off as random. Later that day, I go to an economic forum and the keynote speaker is telling a riveting story about his wife and how resilient she was in the face of an MS diagnosis. It turns out he was talking about the same professor in my dream. Over the course of the next 24 hours, three different people randomly asked me about her or mentioned her name. At this point I am paying attention. Then this intuition drops in “you need to reach out to her, because she knows something about your book that’s blocking you.” So I write the weirdest email I’ve written to date: “Hi, you’re supposed to tell me something about my book that is blocking me. Can we get coffee soon?" She says yes and a week later we’re having coffee and the first question she asks me is “What is the name of your book?” I tell her I’m totally blocked about the title. She simply says, “Tell me what the books’ about.”
So I say it’s about a type A, over achieving Mom who face plants from chronic stress in front of her kids. Then she goes to Sedona, meets with healers who tell her she needs to take two hours a day for self care, she does and completely rehabs her life. “Take two,” she says. And I instantly knew that was the perfect title.
WHAT WOULD BE YOUR BEST ADVICE TO SOMEONE WHO HEARS YOUR STORY AND FEELS INSPIRED BUT THINKS THEY DON’T HAVE THE TIME TO DO THIS FOR THEMSELVES? Time is one of the most common places where scarcity mindset shows up. Even more than money, in my opinion. We’re so quick to say “I have no time” and what I’ve found is that when it comes to being depleted and depressed, time isn’t your biggest issue, its your energy. Instead of thinking in terms of time, think about how your energy is. When you’re drained, you need to refuel. Taking two hours a day is refueling because it gives you time. With this you can run circles around your schedule and feel an abundance of time. Without it, you’ll always feel like it’s never enough.
I even took my daughter once to Barnes and Nobel to look at what spoke to us. All we figured out was that I liked artistic and emotional imagery. But try as the designer did to mimic the style I liked, it wasn’t right. I ended up getting a very clear visual in my mind during a meditation of what I wanted to communicate: a woman putting herself back together with images pulled from her two hours of self care. I knew I wanted to show a collage of images that together made a face. I found over one hundred photos I’d taken on my two hours and threw in a couple of the people who supported me through the journey. Those would be the collage images. But I still needed a main image. I didn’t want it to look too close to me, because I wanted women to see themselves in the image. So I found a random selfie picture I’d taken in my car with sunglasses on and the energy of it felt right. My designer mocked it up and in one shot nailed it. Then the finishing touches were put on it. I love it and get so many compliments on it.
THANK YOU PADEN, FOR SHARING YOUR STORY WITH US. WHERE CAN WE FIND YOUR BOOK? Take Two is available on Amazon and at Barnes and Noble. I can't wait to hear how it inspires you.
If you’re still on the fence, give this a trial like I did. Initially I tried it from Thanksgiving to Christmas and it was so profound I never stopped.
THE COVER OF YOUR BOOK IS SO SPECIAL. HOW DID YOU COME UP WITH THAT? So I worked with the designer my publisher uses and they asked me to send them my ten favorite book covers. That was hard.
www.padenhughes.com | @padenhughes | Book Can Be Found Here
I am a Mom of four kids and I run a top global brand for lifestyle and business. I am really proud of this because I recently realized that not one of my mentors are married or have any children. I had never considered this before. I hired them based on their energy, expertise and our connection. Their personal lives were not a part of the equation.
By Jen Szpigiel
I do however need to admit that realizing that they did not have the same lifestyle as I do, was a relief. I had been looking at the way they moved through their day and how much time they seemed to have to create, rest and go with the flow while I was salivating. I was unconsciously comparing and trying to emulate their example within my own life and frustrated with why I couldn’t get it. I was deeply attracted to their spontaneity to be able to go for a boat ride while sipping champagne in the middle of the day or to pack a bag and spend a couple of days at a hotel to rest by the pool. All of these experiences in my life take planning, child care and also hold a variety of emotions like guilt that often prevent me from doing them. Running and scaling a business as a Mom is inarguably more complex. It is not a better than. It is a different than. When I stop to consider the many hats I wear and the juggling that is a natural part of my day, I suddenly witness my capacity and resilience at an entirely new level.
I have been raising babies and businesses for eighteen years. I don’t know what it is like to build a business without children. I feel like this has benefited me in many ways because I have never had the experience of extra time. I have been forced into routine, scheduling, rescheduling and being flexible. As I write this now, I have had two kids sick this week from school. One who needed me to drive three hours to drop things off to her and another that called thirty minutes before a last minute appointment asking me to drive him. It is no joke being a Mompreneur and it is not for the faint of heart. Every day holds a reason why I shouldn’t pour myself into my business. Every day creates an excuse of why I shouldn’t keep stretching into more. I just choose to take it one day at a time, one decision at a time and keep full of grace for myself.
I have felt like I have missed out on things
things in life that they never would have if it
with my kids to grow my business. I also feel
weren’t for their Mom living up to her
like I have missed momentum and growth
potential. They have travelled the world, had
within my business for my kids. I made a
their parents home and present, witnessed
decision long ago that I wouldn’t judge
tenacity and also listen in on conversations
myself for it and remember every night when
of overcoming, vision and genuine support of
I lay my head on the pillow, all I can ask of
others. That is unique and special. I am
myself is that I do my very best with what I
grateful to provide that to my home and
know in the moment.
Would I love more hours in the day?
If you are a Mother building a business from
Absolutely! Do I often wish I could press the
home or after your workday, I hope you are
pause button on everything to catch my
giving yourself lots of kudos, celebration and
breath? You bet I do! Yet, this is exactly what
applause. It isn’t easy to do what we do. But
I signed up for and my kids have experienced
what I can promise is that it is most definitely worth it!
THE Podcast LISTEN TO ALL EPISODES NOW Welcome to Becoming Iconic, led by the incredible Jen Szpigiel. This is a space for women creating legacy out of integrity. This is for the visionaries, the elevated leaders, the women who want to break the mold and shift the narrative in their businesses, relationships and homes.
01. SOUL SPARK- THERE ARE NO DRESS REHEARSALS For those of you who quit on yourselves and your dreams, who feel like you have all the time in the world–or none at all–and for those of you who keep getting in your own way… People, there are no dress rehearsals! There is no perfect time to get started. That’s not how life works. So, quit waiting and start being different. You don’t have to be another person with a long list of regrets on your deathbed. You can start living fully today.
02. THE TIPPING POINT OF COURAGE WITH KELLY BROCK Jen and Kelly talk about how their unbalanced relationships with work led them to lose touch with themselves. For both of them, it took physical manifestations of their stress for reality to finally sink in. But, ultimately, they found the courage to make tremendous changes.
03. HOW I MADE ONE MILLION DOLLARS IN SIX MONTHS People are not necessarily supposed to understand your journey, and they are not going to see your dream the way you do, because it’s yours. Jen just made one million dollars in six months! And that means that you can, too.
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Entrepreneurial ETIQUETTE WELCOME TO THE PLACE THAT WILL HEIGHTEN YOUR ABILITY TO SHOW UP CONFIDENTLY AS AN ENTREPRENEUR AND LEADER. In a world where we are becoming less and less formal, I believe first impressions have never been more important for us. Simple manners create a synergy and charm that is undeniable. It builds a person’s confidence and improves how others receive them. There is more to this entrepreneurial life than just setting the next goal, SEO strategy, sales funnel or marketing plan. The most essential component for success is YOU. There is no denying that. Your business will never outgrow who you are in this moment. How you show up daily in the seemingly small details and tasks will start to move you away or towards your desires. Personal leadership continues to be the basis of all that I teach and cultivate with the entrepreneurs I work with. It is true what they say, how you do one thing, is how you do everything. Simple manners builds a foundation of trust. That may sound dramatic but if you think about someone who you have met that lacks the ability to hold a proper handshake or to make eye contact, I am sure it wasn’t an impression that left you in awe. Monthly, we will have a conversation here on the etiquette that I believe doesn’t expire. The simple ways that we can show up in a world differently because we are aware and care about how we interact with those around us.
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RESPECT YOURSELF You don’t need to earn respect. That is your right! You are worthy of courtesy, respect and grace. The catch is that you have to give it to yourself before you can accept it from anyone else. Every single one of us craves authenticity from others and the permission to be ourselves. Alignment isn’t possible when we have an internal conflict from not being true to the essence of who we are. We can see and sense when someone is putting on a persona or “faking it until they make it”. It is unattractive and it repels the success that someone desires. Be YOU! All of you. Once you step into your personal power and realize that your fingerprint was uniquely made for your imprint alone, you alleviate the need to compare or prove yourself. It also rejects any need for outside validation. You begin to validate yourself. Comments or judgements become like a passing wind versus a truth you embody. When you decide to give all of yourself to this life and take the time to work on the deep parts of you that scream to be understood, you become unstoppable. You stop pretending and start showing up.You create an energy that others will be drawn to because they see that you are confident in who you are and what gifts you have to share.
You allow yourself to be more vulnerable and raw due to the self acceptance and appreciation you have worked for and this will inspire others to do the same. That assurance of self is the ultimate force field to life and business. You stand up straight and you dust yourself off quickly. Your past, your failures, your scrapped knees and bruised ego are all the things that make you relatable and a more compassionate leader for others. There is NO shame in the past when you can take the lessons and pay them forward. We must lose the desire to be perceived as having it all together and start showing up in the now without a false façade. When you do this, not only will you build trust with others because you are exuding authenticity but you will start to develop a deep trust in yourself. Remember friends, it is not what has happened to us that defines us. It is what we have done about it that does. Once you step into your individuality, that is when the miracles and magic can enter fully. That is when others stop to notice your flare and confidence. You will attract the right people and they will stay because you are standing in your personal power. Can we all agree that the attractiveness of a confident woman is magnetic?! Confidence comes from owning all the parts of yourself that make you-you. Respect yourself. Be you!
PLAYLIST A CURATED WAY TO JAM OUT Here is one of my favorite playlists to go along with all the Fall recipes I gave you this month. I have always had a vivid desire to dance in the kitchen while creating a beautiful meal. I do it as often as I can. This always sparks a good dance sesh. Enjoy you 80’s music fans.
xo Jen Szpigiel
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"THERE ARE NO DRESS REHEARSALS! THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME TO GET STARTED. THAT’S NOT HOW LIFE WORKS. PLEASE STOP WAITING AND START MOVING INTO WHAT YOU DESIRE." JEN SZPIGIEL