I C O N I CecomingB J E N S Z P I G I E L October 2022 PublishedAuthorofTakeTwo: HowaSimpleDailyHabitIncreasedMyHealth, WealthandHappiness Findingyoursweatersoulmate& mypersonalmusthavesforAutumn INVITING IN Invitinginextravagantself-care ESSENCE GUEST FEATURE Paden Hughes THE HEALTH EDITION FALL
Goallin.Moveforwardonwhatyouaredreaming about Itisalwaysworthitbecauseofwhoyou become.Seeyouinthearena.
Theenergythatthismagazinehasbroughtforwardfor ushasbeenaweinspiring.Itisagreatexampleof howwonderfullifecanbewhenweventureintothe deepend.Everyday,everyexperience,every businessdecision,everyrelationshipgetsto constantlysurpriseanddelightus.Itdoesn’talways cometofruitionthewayweplannedandothertimesit isexactlywhatweanticipatedandmore.
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Yourresponsetothismagazinehasbeenoneofmy greatestjoys.ThiswasthebirthofsomethingthatI haveenvisionedforaverylongtime Truthfully,this launchwasverymuchaboutmyselfandfulfillinga partofwhatIbelieveIwascalledtocreate The beautyinit,isthatitservesyoutoo.
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Remind me to pause so that I savour what I am tastingandtobreatheinthebeautifulsmellsaround me. In a world of distractions and fast paced living, I desire to be someone who notices and pays attention so I don’t miss a thing. Encourage me to live fully with intention today and every day going forward Andsoitis.
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HEREARESOMETHOUGHTSIHADFROMJOURNALINGTHEPROMPTS: Ihavecreatedbeautyallaroundmeandliveintentionallytoinvitemoreindaily. TherewillalwaysbemoretoaccomplishbutIdon’trequiremorethanwhatIhave inthismomenttobefulfilled. Iamobsessedwithsoakinginallthateachdayoffers.Thesmellofmykidswhen Ituckthemin,tothefeelingofthesunkissingmyskin,tocreatingdelicious mealsasafamily. WhoIambecominghasbeenthegreatestgiftofall.Therewillalwaysbemore wealthtoacquire,moreclientstoserveandmoreexperiencestoseize.However, whomIamdevelopingintoandtheself actualizationIamwitnessingistrulythe bestpartofitall. DE
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Chavender’svisionistohelpmorepeopledomoregood Founder andpresidentofChavender,JennyMitchell(CFRE,DMA),works closelywithleaderstochangetheworld onemissionatatime. Chavenderassistsclients,acrossCanadaandtheU.S.,toinspire theirdonorsandcustomerstoachievetheirgoalsthrough personalizedcoachingandtraining BeforecompletingherCFRE,Jennytrainedasaclassicalmusician andearnedherDoctorateofMusicalArts Shebringshercreative approach,herdriveforexcellence,andherpassionforpeopleto theworldofnot for profitsandcorporateAmerica.
Desires Toexpandhersuiteofservicestoofferclients Tocreateresidualincome Tobuildapersonalbrand Toseekmoreplayfulness,joyandeaseintoherbusiness Tostandfurtherintoconfidenceandpersonalpower RESULTS Welcomedthebiggestyearofrevenue Raisedpricesandclientexperiencesforalloffers CreatedmultipleEvergreenoffers Celebratedpassiveincomeandthefunthatbrings Builtandenjoyedcreatingapersonalbrand Hiredateam Introducedandinvitedmoreintentionalpleasureandplay "Learning is a part of who I am and I have the privilege of being an entrepreneur, which allows me to invest my own time and money into personal development I have never regretted a single dollar I have invested over the years in training or coaching As an executive coach myself, I also believe that all coaches should hire coaches: to stretch us to challenge us to champion us"
"But not all coaches are created equal Jen Szpigiel is in a different class, a different world of support and expertise than anyone I have ever worked with before.
IrememberhowIwasstretchedbyJenny’s professionalismandexpertisewhenwefirstmet. ShebroughtoutthebestinmebecauseIrealized thatwewouldbeabletoelevateeachother throughourpartnership.
Her ability to see me as a whole of all my parts is powerful. She starts conversations that spark action.
Sooften,weputallofthatuponthementor.As thoughtheyaresolelyresponsibleforthe frequencyoftherelationship.Ibelievethatitgets tobemutuallybeneficialandIlovetowelcomein clientswhomakemeslightlyuncomfortable ItonlytakesaminutetofallinlovewithwhoJenny is.Thoughtfulconversation,careandcompassion aresomeofherstrongestattributes Sheisableto tiethattogetherwithbigvisionandthisiswhyshe issoexceptionalattheworkshedoes.
HerpodcastsUnderdogLeadershipandYourNext FiftyareincredibleandIurgeyoutoaddthemto yourroster.MoneyMindsetandherother coachingopportunitiesarenottobemissedifyou areachingtogofromnumbertwoinleadershipto numberone PodcastLinks
Her knowledge is deep in the areas of business, leadership, marketing and sales. But it is her spirit, her optimism and her humanness that I cherish most about her as my coach " Jenny Mitchell
Oneofherbiggestbusinesswinswaswhenshe sharedthatshewantedtoknowwhatpassive incomewouldfeellike.Weweregiddyand celebratedthefirsttimeshereceivedanemail saying“you’vebeenpaid”withouther involvement.ItwasapivotalmomentforJennyto recognizethattherearecountlesswaysto expand.
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JennyandIhavebeenpartneredfornearlyayear andahalf.Throughoutthistimetogether,shehas reallybeenabletowelcomeinease,pleasureand playalongsideofherbigbusinessgrowth.This newwayofbuildingabusinessandlifewas sparkedwhenIchallengedhertocreatea rebellionlist.Thethingsthatshehasalways desired,maybeevensomethingsthatarealittle naughtyandallowthattobesomethingshe experiences.Ittaughtherthatgrowingabusiness canfeelgoodandbeharmoniouswithherlife
ThisrelationshipisoneItreasure.Iwouldloveto encourageyoutobecomeapartofJenny’sworld.
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The problem lies in our sense of urgency most of the time. The farmer cannot rush the crop. They cannot ask the plants to hurry up and prove their abundance.
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Themostpredominantteachersformethougharethefarmer’sharvestsandthe leavesfallingtotheground.TheseactsofnaturearepivotallessonsforusandIwould lovetoofferthemsoyoucanreflectandrejoice.
Theproblemliesinoursenseofurgencymost ofthetime Thefarmercannotrushthecrop Theycannotasktheplantstohurryupand provetheirabundance.Theyalsocannotplant theseedsandsitbackcrossingtheirfingers hopingthatsomethingturnsup Theywork diligentlyandtheytrust Theyproblemsolve withtheobstaclesthatcometheirwayand theydowhatittakestocreateahealthyand substantialresult
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Howcanwebemorelikethatwithourgoals? Howcanwebemoreconscientioustothe timeandconsiderationittakestoreapthe rewardsofourownpersonalharvest?Whatif wetrustedmoreinthenatureofthingsand anchoredintothetruththataslongaswe continuetoplantnewseeds,nurtureand tendtothem,wewillonedayseethe reward?Howcanwebemorelikeafarmer whenitcomestogrowingourlivesand businessesmovingforward?
TheothersignificantteacherofAutumnare thetrees.Whatavaluablelessonitistowatch thetreestrustintheprocess Theygenerously releasetheleavesthattheyhavegrownfora season,knowingthattheywillreturnagain soon.Thetreedoesn’tquitbeingatree becauseofwhattheyhavetoendureor release Theysimplyallowtheoldtodropaway withassurancethatnewwilltakeitsplace.The interestingpartforme,isthattheleavesfall whentheyarethemostvibrantandbeautiful Isn’tthatinteresting?Thecolorsare breathtakingandyet,thetreereleasesthem. Thetreedoesn’tgripontotheleavesbecause theyareworriedthatthisisitforthem They insteadallowthenaturalprocesstohappen andthenextyeartheygrowmorelushand steadytogeneratemoreleavesthantheyever have Thatisgrowth!!
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Whatdoweneedtoreleaseinordertomake roomforsomethingnewtocomein?Whatisit inourlivesthatweareholdingontobecause weareafraiditwillneverhappenagain?How canwetrustthatabundancegetstoexpand alwaysandthereismoretolookforwardto whenweletourselvesgrowoutofwhatno longerfits?
Iliveinthecountrysurroundedbyfarms.This timeofyear,ourroadtrafficoftenconsistsof tractorswithfarmersworkingtirelesslyon theircraft.OftentimesIhearthemallthrough thenightastheycontinuetoreaptheirlong awaitedcrops EverytimeIhearthemdriveby, Iamremindedofhowlifeisjustlikethe harvestthesefarmersaretendingto.Somuch ofwhatwedoinbusinessiscomparableby plantingseedsandthencaringforthem awaitingtheeventualharvestofourefforts
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It just means by releasing them, I get to stretch myself into the new.
It’s natural for us to trust and grow. We gettoleanonthatgoingforward. Shallwe?
Let’s be better. Let’s commit to each other that we will act more like farmers whoarededicatedtoplantingnewseeds, nurturing them and trusting the harvest willcome.
IalsonoticewhereIamplantingseeds,like thismagazineforexample.Itisfreshandnew andalthoughtherewerehundredsofyouwho enjoyedthefirstissue,Ibelievetherewillbe hundredsofthousandsonedaywithitontheir coffeetables.Itisamatterofcontinuingto nurtureit,knowingthatresultwillhappenasa reflectionofmycommitment,careandtrust.
ThereareotherareaswhereIamlikethe farmergatheringtheharvestandtherewards ofalltheworkandtimeIhavegiventomy businessandlife Therealityreallyisthat therewillalwaysbeareaswhereyouonlysee abigemptyspaceandyouwonderifyour dreamwillevercometofruitionandthenthere willbeplaceswhereyoucan’tstopthe momentum.Oftentimeswemissthefull enjoymentoftheharvestbecauseweareso fixatedonthespacewheretheseedshaven’t poppedyet.
Ihavefoundmyselfreadytoshedsomeof thebeautifulthingsthathavehaditsseason withinmylifeandbusiness Sometimesthat isateammemberthatisapartofthelast chapter Orabusinessthatnolongeraligns Othertimesit'sasimplestrategythatneeds tobetweakedorreinvented.Itdoesn’tmean thatanyofthesethingswere“bad”or “wrong”
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It’satimewhereweoftenreconsiderour habits,goalsandthroughthatprocess,feel asurgeofenergy.Imeanthekidsareback atschoolandthatinitselfcreatesaroutine andmorespacetodivedeep AmIright?!
WhenIopenedup2022,oneofmy intentionsandgoalswastoexperience extravagantselfcare Thisdidn’t necessarilymeanexpensive.Thistome meantbigandbeautifulexperiences curatedtoleavemefeelingelevatedand deeplycaredfor.
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I LOVE THE PRACTICE OF SITTING STILL, TUNING INTO MY BODY AND KNOWING THAT I AM SERVING MYSELF.
Ihadalwaysthoughtabouthowluxurious andsupportiveasaunainmyhomewould be Ipaidforminutestogotoaspatosoak ininfraredlightandreleasethatsweatthat comesfromdeepwithin.Ilovedthe practiceofsittingstill,tuningintomybody andknowingthatIamservingmybody, mindandspiritallatthesametime.
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Ihavestartedtoincorporatemysaunaintomyworkoutroutine.Aftermyworkout,I immediatelygointomysaunawhereIlistentorelaxingmusic,apodcastor journal
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"INSTEAD OF WISHING FOR THINGS TO BE EASIER, WE NEED TO MAKE A COMMITMENT, AND A DECLARATION, TO KEEP MOVING FORWARD EVERYDAYNO MATTER THE CHALLENGES WE FACE." JEN SZPIGIEL
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Andmyinnermeangirlshowedrightupdeliveringagiantservingofmomguilt.Inthatmoment ofcompletedepletion,Istartedtoworryaboutwhetherthismemorywouldsendmykidsinto therapyandhowmuchofabadmomthatwouldmakeme WERE A HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL ENTREPRENEUR WHO FOUND HERSELF LYING ON THE FLOOR UNABLE MOVE. WHAT WAS THE FIRST THING THAT CROSSED YOUR MIND?
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What’swildtomelookingbackonthismomentwashowdisorientedIwas.Truthfully,Idon’t rememberthefaceplant.IjustrememberwakingupandnotknowingwhereIwas.Itwas actuallymythreeyearolddaughter’ssweetlittlevoiceaskingme,“Mama,what’swrongwith you?”thatfinallyallowedmetorealizeImustbeonmykitchenfloor.Andmytoddler,whowas nonverbal,justbellyfloppedontopofmeandsnuggledhisheadintome That’swhenI realizedIcouldn’tmovemyarms.Icouldn’thughimback.
Thenmythoughtsfloodedin…Whattimeisit?WhendoesMichaelgethome?Whatiswrong withme?Whycan’tImove?
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"I’ve found is that when it comes to being depleted and depressed, time isn’t your biggest issue, its your energy. Instead of thinking in terms of time, think about how your energy is.
SoIwentanditwasthemosteyeopening experienceforme Irealizedquicklyintothetrip thatIwasn’tmeetingwiththerapists,Iwasmeeting withspiritualhealers Andaswoowooasthe sessionswere,Iwasgettingsomanygolden nuggetsoftruthandlearningsomanythingsabout myselfI’dshoveddown Thingslikehowhighly sensitiveIhavealwaysbeenbuthowImaskeditin thebusinessworldbecauseIdidn’tseeempathy rewarded.Iwasahighperformerrunningmyself raggedbecauseofanoldwoundofnotbeing“good enough ”Itwastrulyalifealteringtrip
Lookingbackonallofthisissopowerfultoseehow alignedtheUniversewaswithmeandhowmuch supportIhadthatIwasn’tawareof AweekbeforeI faceplanted,Ihadbeenpromptedbymymentor AllysonByrdtogoonaweeklongsolotripto SedonaArizonafora“souladventure.”Thinkof4 5 hoursofimmersivetherapyperdayforaweek.No kids Nohusband Noonetofocusonbutmyself
WHEN YOU WERE TOLD THAT YOU NEEDED TO TAKE TWO HOURS A DAY TO YOURSELF, WHAT WENT THROUGH YOUR MIND?
Eventodayatmykid’sannualdoctorvisitmydoctor wantedtoknowaboutmybookandaswetalkedhe said,“WhenIfirstmetyou,youweresointense Nowyou’resopeaceful.”Sothemaindifferenceis myenergy I’mnotpushinganddrivingand performing.I’mmoreateaseandmorepeaceful. I’msomuchhappierinmyskin,somuchmorein rhythminmylifeandsomuchmorefeminine
HOW DID YOU RECOVER FROM THAT MOMENT? WHAT DID YOU DO?
Ihadaverycomplexresponse OnonehandI instantlygottriggeredanddefensive,thinking“Are youinsane?Ihavetwokidsandamfightingtokeep twobusinessesafloatinapandemic!Idon’thave twohours!”Butontheotherside,thequietinner partofme,Ifelthopefulandrelievedthatthiswas thepermissionslipI’dalwayswantedtowrite myselfbutneverhadthecourage
WHAT’S BEEN THE BIGGEST SHIFT FROM PRACTICING THIS?
I’llsaythis,Iwentthroughthisduringthepandemic andnowthattheworldisre-engagingmoreand more,I’mrunningintooldfriendsand acquaintancesandeveryonemakesthesame comment,“It’slikemeetingadifferentperson.”
ButIdefinitelyexperiencedmomentsofresistance frommykids,myfamilyandfriends,myemployees, clientsandthelargercommunity WhatI’vecometo makepeacewith,isthatwhenyoustepintoany self improvementhabitsofanykindandgain traction,it’llchallengethosearoundyou.Ifyou changeenough,it’llthreateneveryonewho benefitedfromthepersonyouwerebefore UltimatelyImadepeacethatI’dratherdisappoint othersthandisappointmyself
Laterthatday,Igotoaneconomicforumandthe keynotespeakeristellingarivetingstoryabouthis wifeandhowresilientshewasinthefaceofanMS diagnosis.Itturnsouthewastalkingaboutthe sameprofessorinmydream Overthecourseofthe next24hours,threedifferentpeoplerandomly askedmeaboutherormentionedhername Atthis pointIampayingattention.Thenthisintuition dropsin“youneedtoreachouttoher,becauseshe knowssomethingaboutyourbookthat’sblocking you.”SoIwritetheweirdestemailI’vewrittento date:“Hi,you’resupposedtotellmesomething aboutmybookthatisblockingme.Canweget coffeesoon?"Shesaysyesandaweeklaterwe’re havingcoffeeandthefirstquestionsheasksmeis “Whatisthenameofyourbook?”ItellherI’m totallyblockedaboutthetitle Shesimplysays, “Tellmewhatthebooks’about.”
Thehardestthingformetonamewasmybook(and Ihavetwokidsandtwobusinesses).
Yes.Iwasraisedinaworldthatpraiseswomen everytimewemartyrourselves,everytimewe disappointourselvestomeetsomeoneelse’s approvalandwheremotherhoodisasisterhoodof depletionandselfsacrifice.Everythingabout takingtwohoursadayforselfcareflewintheface ofwhatIthoughtIwassupposedtodoandbetobe “goodenough”asaMom.
Resistancecameinspirtsandfromsomanyplaces. IfeltthemostresistanceinternallybecauseIhadto facemyinnermeangirl,whoIrefertoa“Bitchy Brittany”andstandupformyself.Iwasn’tselfish,I wasprotectingmyfamilyfromwalkingoneggshells aroundastressedout,overstimulated,controlfreak Mom.
HAVE YOU FELT GUILTY FOR TAKING THIS TIME FOR YOURSELF EVERY DAY? HAS ANYONE ELSE MADE YOU FEEL GUILTY FOR IT?
I LOVE THE STORY OF HOW YOU NAMED YOUR BOOK. I BELIEVE IT IS ANOTHER WAY OF TEACHING INTUITION. WOULD YOU SHARE IT?
Mypublisherandbookcoachwerebothpushingme tonamemybookandIhonestlywasstuck.One nightIdreamtaboutacollegeprofessorfrommy almamaterwhowastryingtospeaktomebutno soundwascomingoutofhermouth.Ibrusheditoff asrandom
SoIsayit’saboutatypeA,overachievingMom whofaceplantsfromchronicstressinfrontofher kids ThenshegoestoSedona,meetswithhealers whotellhersheneedstotaketwohoursadayfor selfcare,shedoesandcompletelyrehabsherlife “Taketwo,”shesays.AndIinstantlyknewthatwas theperfecttitle.
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THE COVER OF YOUR BOOK IS SO SPECIAL. HOW DID YOU COME UP WITH THAT?
Timeisoneofthemostcommonplaceswhere scarcitymindsetshowsup Evenmorethanmoney, inmyopinion.We’resoquicktosay“Ihaveno time”andwhatI’vefoundisthatwhenitcomesto beingdepletedanddepressed,timeisn’tyour biggestissue,itsyourenergy.Insteadofthinkingin termsoftime,thinkabouthowyourenergyis Whenyou’redrained,youneedtorefuel.Takingtwo hoursadayisrefuelingbecauseitgivesyoutime Withthisyoucanruncirclesaroundyourschedule andfeelanabundanceoftime.Withoutit,you’ll alwaysfeellikeit’sneverenough
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SHARING YOUR STORY WITH US.
Ifyou’restillonthefence,givethisatriallikeIdid InitiallyItrieditfromThanksgivingtoChristmasand itwassoprofoundIneverstopped.
RunningandscalingabusinessasaMomis inarguablymorecomplex Itisnotabetterthan Itis adifferentthan.WhenIstoptoconsiderthemany hatsIwearandthejugglingthatisanaturalpartof myday,Isuddenlywitnessmycapacityand resilienceatanentirelynewlevel.
Idohoweverneedtoadmitthatrealizingthatthey didnothavethesamelifestyleasIdo,wasarelief. Ihadbeenlookingatthewaytheymovedthrough theirdayandhowmuchtimetheyseemedtohaveto create,restandgowiththeflowwhileIwas salivating.Iwasunconsciouslycomparingandtrying toemulatetheirexamplewithinmyownlifeand frustratedwithwhyIcouldn’tgetit.
JENUINE Connection
By Jen Szpigiel Jenuine
Ihavebeenraisingbabiesandbusinessesfor eighteenyears.Idon’tknowwhatitisliketobuilda businesswithoutchildren.Ifeellikethishas benefitedmeinmanywaysbecauseIhaveneverhad theexperienceofextratime.Ihavebeenforcedinto routine,scheduling,reschedulingandbeingflexible.
AsIwritethisnow,Ihavehadtwokidssickthisweek fromschool Onewhoneededmetodrivethreehours todropthingsofftoherandanotherthatcalledthirty minutesbeforealastminuteappointmentaskingme todrivehim ItisnojokebeingaMompreneurandit isnotforthefaintofheart.
Iwasdeeplyattractedtotheirspontaneitytobeable togoforaboatridewhilesippingchampagneinthe middleofthedayortopackabagandspenda coupleofdaysatahoteltorestbythepool.Allof theseexperiencesinmylifetakeplanning,childcare andalsoholdavarietyofemotionslikeguiltthat oftenpreventmefromdoingthem.
EverydayholdsareasonwhyIshouldn’tpourmyself intomybusiness.Everydaycreatesanexcuseofwhy Ishouldn’tkeepstretchingintomore Ijustchooseto takeitonedayatatime,onedecisionatatimeand keepfullofgraceformyself
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IamaMomoffourkidsandIrunatopglobalbrandforlifestyleandbusiness Iamreallyproudofthis becauseIrecentlyrealizedthatnotoneofmymentorsaremarriedorhaveanychildren.Ihadnever consideredthisbefore.Ihiredthembasedontheirenergy,expertiseandourconnection.Theirpersonallives werenotapartoftheequation
IfyouareaMotherbuildingabusinessfrom homeorafteryourworkday,Ihopeyouare givingyourselflotsofkudos,celebrationand applause.Itisn’teasytodowhatwedo.But whatIcanpromiseisthatitismostdefinitely worthit!
thingsinlifethattheyneverwouldhaveifit weren’tfortheirMomlivinguptoher potential.Theyhavetravelledtheworld,had theirparentshomeandpresent,witnessed tenacityandalsolisteninonconversations ofovercoming,visionandgenuinesupportof others.Thatisuniqueandspecial.Iam gratefultoprovidethattomyhomeand family.
IhavefeltlikeIhavemissedoutonthings withmykidstogrowmybusiness.Ialsofeel likeIhavemissedmomentumandgrowth withinmybusinessformykids Imadea decisionlongagothatIwouldn’tjudge myselfforitandremembereverynightwhen Ilaymyheadonthepillow,allIcanaskof myselfisthatIdomyverybestwithwhatI knowinthemoment.
WouldIlovemorehoursintheday? Absolutely!DoIoftenwishIcouldpressthe pausebuttononeverythingtocatchmy breath?YoubetIdo!Yet,thisisexactlywhat Isignedupforandmykidshaveexperienced
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Forthoseofyouwhoquitonyourselvesand yourdreams,whofeellikeyouhaveallthe timeintheworld ornoneatall andfor thoseofyouwhokeepgettinginyourown way People,therearenodress rehearsals!Thereisnoperfecttimetoget started That’snothowlifeworks So,quit waitingandstartbeingdifferent Youdon’t havetobeanotherpersonwithalonglistof regretsonyourdeathbed Youcanstart livingfullytoday
JenandKellytalkabouthowtheir unbalancedrelationshipswithworkled themtolosetouchwiththemselves For bothofthem,ittookphysical manifestationsoftheirstressforrealityto finallysinkin But,ultimately,theyfound thecouragetomaketremendouschanges.
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HOW I MADE ONE MILLION DOLLARS IN SIX MONTHS
Peoplearenotnecessarilysupposedto understandyourjourney,andtheyarenot goingtoseeyourdreamthewayyoudo, becauseit’syours Jenjustmadeone milliondollarsinsixmonths!Andthat meansthatyoucan,too. odcast
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Thereisnodenyingthat.Yourbusinesswillneveroutgrowwhoyouarein thismoment.Howyoushowupdailyintheseeminglysmalldetailsand taskswillstarttomoveyouawayortowardsyourdesires Personal leadershipcontinuestobethebasisofallthatIteachandcultivatewiththe entrepreneursIworkwith.Itistruewhattheysay,howyoudoonething,is howyoudoeverything Simplemannersbuildsafoundationoftrust That maysounddramaticbutifyouthinkaboutsomeonewhoyouhavemetthat lackstheabilitytoholdaproperhandshakeortomakeeyecontact,Iam sureitwasn’tanimpressionthatleftyouinawe.
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Inaworldwherewearebecominglessandlessformal,Ibelievefirst impressionshaveneverbeenmoreimportantforus Simplemannerscreate asynergyandcharmthatisundeniable.Itbuildsaperson’sconfidenceand improveshowothersreceivethem.Thereismoretothisentrepreneuriallife thanjustsettingthenextgoal,SEOstrategy,salesfunnelormarketing plan.ThemostessentialcomponentforsuccessisYOU.
Monthly,wewillhaveaconversationhereontheetiquettethatIbelieve doesn’texpire.Thesimplewaysthatwecanshowupinaworlddifferently becauseweareawareandcareabouthowweinteractwiththosearoundus
Youdon’tneedtoearnrespect Thatisyourright!You areworthyofcourtesy,respectandgrace.Thecatchis thatyouhavetogiveittoyourselfbeforeyoucanaccept itfromanyoneelse.
Youallowyourselftobemorevulnerableandrawdueto theselfacceptanceandappreciationyouhaveworkedfor andthiswillinspireotherstodothesame Thatassurance ofselfistheultimateforcefieldtolifeandbusiness.You standupstraightandyoudustyourselfoffquickly. Yourpast,yourfailures,yourscrappedkneesandbruised egoareallthethingsthatmakeyourelatableandamore compassionateleaderforothers ThereisNOshameinthe pastwhenyoucantakethelessonsandpaythemforward. Wemustlosethedesiretobeperceivedashavingitall togetherandstartshowingupinthenowwithoutafalse façade.Whenyoudothis,notonlywillyoubuildtrustwith othersbecauseyouareexudingauthenticitybutyouwill starttodevelopadeeptrustinyourself.Remember friends,itisnotwhathashappenedtousthatdefinesus. Itiswhatwehavedoneaboutitthatdoes Onceyoustepintoyourindividuality,thatiswhenthe miraclesandmagiccanenterfully Thatiswhenothers stoptonoticeyourflareandconfidence.Youwillattract therightpeopleandtheywillstaybecauseyouare standinginyourpersonalpower Canweallagreethatthe attractivenessofaconfidentwomanismagnetic?! Confidencecomesfromowningallthepartsofyourself thatmakeyou you Respectyourself Beyou!
Everysingleoneofuscravesauthenticityfromothers andthepermissiontobeourselves Alignmentisn’t possiblewhenwehaveaninternalconflictfromnotbeing truetotheessenceofwhoweare Wecanseeandsense whensomeoneisputtingonapersonaor“fakingituntil theymakeit”.Itisunattractiveanditrepelsthesuccess thatsomeonedesires BeYOU!Allofyou Onceyoustep intoyourpersonalpowerandrealizethatyourfingerprint wasuniquelymadeforyourimprintalone,youalleviate theneedtocompareorproveyourself.Italsorejectsany needforoutsidevalidation.Youbegintovalidate yourself Commentsorjudgementsbecomelikea passingwindversusatruthyouembody. Whenyoudecidetogiveallofyourselftothislifeand takethetimetoworkonthedeeppartsofyouthat screamtobeunderstood,youbecomeunstoppable.You stoppretendingandstartshowingup Youcreatean energythatotherswillbedrawntobecausetheyseethat youareconfidentinwhoyouareandwhatgiftsyouhave toshare
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