RE-ESTABLISH HER MAG JUNE/JULY 2024: THE STRENGTH TO P.I.V.O.T

HEALING + EMPOWERMENT + RECOVER

Magazine June/July 2024

STRENGTH TO PIVOT OVERCOMING LIFE STORMS DO NOT LOOK BACK!

DISCERN & NAVIGATE WHICH SEASON YOU ARE IN

AB US E BE T RE RA YA JE L CT IO N

Dr. Mechelle Moore Celebrating Years

RE-ESTABLISH H.E.R. The Strength to P.I.V.O.T: (Transitioning through Life Storms (Using PIVOT in an Acronym) This last year and a half is unexplainable, and I cannot comprehend the depths of the storms hitting my life, tossing me to and fro so that I felt like a surfer caught in a tidal wave. There were times I thought I would go underwater. I was losing oxygen until I heard Jesus summon me to come to him. As I began to take a step, he began to carry me through the thunderstorms pouring down upon me. I learned lessons on a different level as I regained my strength to pivot amid the storms.

You can just navigate with me as I provide some points to ponder using Pivot.

June/July 2024 Celebrating 21 51 Years of Life Features RE-ESTABLISH H.E.R. (The Strength to P.I.V.O.T)

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The Cost (Melinda Walker)

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From Brokenness to Wholeness (Michelle McCormick)

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P: Prepare for a turning point in your life as the storm settles. Look for clearance and clarity as the scripture of reflection states, “The Lord says, “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you.” (Psalms 32:8, NLT)

Transitions: Discerning & Navigating p. 14 (Prophet/Pastor Cherise Lenore Riley) Standing on the Promises of God (Prophetess Vera Nelson)

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I: Inquire of the Lord. It's crucial to pause (interrupt the action, silence your speech briefly) before oversharing your pain, position, and pitfall with those who may be assigned to inflict more storms by providing your assassin updates. The reflection scripture states, “I sought (inquired of) the Lord and required Him [of necessity and on the authority of His Word], and He heard me and delivered me from all my fears.” Psalms 34:4, AMPC.

Mental Health with Women (Nyree Williams)

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Points to Ponder (Shundra Yuille)

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Call to Action (Arletha Orr)

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Mirror Check (Dr. Mechelle Moore)

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V: Vindication belongs to Jehovah Gibbor ( The God of War). He will vindicate you as you keep your heart and mind pure meditate on Ephesians 4:31-32, “Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind). 32 And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.” (AMPC) Don’t allow your flesh to draw you into stinking thinking and word vomit (negative speech).

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Surrendered: The Posture of True Conversion (Is 55:8-9) (Denise Jackson)

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The Storm Dweller (Clarissa Rhinehart)

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Looking in the Mirror p. 41 (Latarsha Banks ACD, BSW, MAMS)

O: Obstacles are opportunities disguised to propel you to seize the transition before you go from victim to victorious. The victim within was shredded as you continued to walk, run, and swim toward your new assignment, releasing the old in preparation for the new victory on the horizon T: Transitions teach us, stretch us, and grow us, which is a part of true transformation. While being strengthened in the storm, allow the water to purify you, completely cleansing you.

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I decree and declare that throughout every transition that God will be the plower and tiller of my new day sanctifying the soil that my feet shall tread upon by faith in Jesus Name.

I decree and declare that according to Isaiah 54:17 that weapons may form against my transition, but they will not prosper. Every enemy that has been assigned to frustrate my transition will fall into the pit they set for me as I develop hinds’ feet as a deer to leap over every pitfall in Jesus Name.

BE Strengthen in the storms of life and take note when to pull out the umbrella and when to allow the rain to wash over you!

Don’t be fearful of a low posture move its part of the pivot this is when the Lord is carrying you rest in his arms!

Signed,

A Storm Dweller Transitioning!

(Let's walk)

Dr. Mechelle Moore.

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The Cost by Melinda Walker

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According to Google, cost has many different angles that give meaning. The angle that I will describe cost will be my own testimony.

Cost means to be obtained or obtainable for a certain price for producing or maintaining something that is measured in money, time, energy, and sacrifices. To do something at all costs or at any cost is to do it even if you have to suffer, work very hard or even lose everything you have.

Jesus spoke of this crucial principle in Luke 14:28-29 saying, “For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?

Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him.”

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Let’s Roll The Tape Back As I look back in my rear-view mirror and reflect on when it all began, I have to roll the tape back to when it began with me. I have to help you, as the reader, understand my why. I did not intend to pay such a high price in my life. I did not intend to lose myself so others could live. I did not intend to give so much energy to others that left me desolate. I did not plan to suffer as I did. My plan was not to deny myself and sacrifice my entire life for others.

When I rolled the tape back, I did it because of love. Love caused me to put others before myself. I took a deep dive into 2 Corinthians 13. I read this scripture in the Message Bible, which almost took my breath. I realized the cross I bear was unique, and many can’t bear this cross and walk in Godordained love. These words forever remind me why I chose to pay this high price.

2 Corinthians 13:4-7 Message Bible Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.

The part of that scripture that took my breath is when it said, “puts up with anything.” My mind was babbled as to why I would have just taken it. Why do I have to sacrifice my whole life and pay such a high cost? I went back and forth with God at my Red Sea. I side-eyed God in my Jordan River, standing knee-deep in mud while others passed over. I was left with the dirt, the ugliness, the stink of it all. I had to deal with the pestilence, the cuts, the bruises, and then the scars. It felt as if I was left holding the bag while helping others over, and, in the aftermath, I had no one. I was labeled “The Strong One.” The one that can take it. The one people saw as a giver, a helper of others, and overcoming all my challenges. What people fail to understand is that the encourager needs encouragement. The one that pours out also needs pouring into, which was a part of my life I never received. I was tough, as they said, and that is the treatment I received. I got tough love when, in reality, I just needed a hug. I needed a soft place; I needed a place to vent my frustrations without judgment.

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I knew I had a weakness, but everyone around me treated me as if I were Iron Man, protected from any bullet shot, or the Tin Man from Oz, who had no heart and could not feel the pain of circumstances. To this day, being called STRONG is not a flex or a badge of honor. If I had to do it my way, I would not have been “The One!” I would not have been the sacrificial lamb. I would not have been Joseph, David, or Job. The rejected one, the one that rose and went to bed with forgiveness.

I would not be the one that, before I could get through one thing, another thing happened. I would not be the one who has to take the boomerang and the never-ending cycles of pain and tuck it quietly within to ensure my children would have a soft place to land and a protected childhood. I did all of that because the heart my God gave me was so full of love and compassion. I humbled myself when I peeped back to my childhood. I gave my children things I did not receive. I purposed within my heart that after the pitter-patter of little feet started to hit the floor, I would pay the cost and do whatever I had to do to ensure my children have a healthy life. My heart changed, and I decided to be “The One!” Let’s Run It Backkkkkkkkkkkk!

While researching, I discovered that the brain finishes developing and maturing in the late 20s.

The prefrontal cortex is the part of the brain behind the forehead, one of the last to mature. This area is responsible for planning, prioritizing, and making good decisions. The journey I am about to take you on will explain my decisions.

I was married at 19. I married based on pure emotions and did not adequately plan out my life. Looking back, I know I did not make a good decision. I did not give myself time to mature and know what I wanted and needed in a husband or a man. My father was murdered when I was only 7. I did not have that father in my life to protect me, so of course, I had a father fracture. I was attracted to older men. I know now I was looking for my father in them. A single parent raised me, and my mother worked two and three jobs all my childhood to make ends meet and to take care of me and my sister. I do not fault her because she did what she could, but it left a big void in my life. I lacked so much, and I had to learn life the hard way.

I decided to marry, and I had to learn to sit in my decision. When my first child came, my life was forever changed. I knew my life was about to take a turn. It was no longer about me.

That is when I decided to make it about my family.

I put myself in a position to learn what I did not know. My first step was to put the Lord in front and the center of my life. God poured out His BIG Grace on my life. I learned how to be a mother and a wife. He graced me to endure infidelity, a child outside of wedlock, countless heartbreaks, and betrayal, amongst so much more. He taught me how to forgive. He gave me a toughness that protected me from losing my mind. When I used to hear the seasoned saints say,” he woke me up this morning and clothed me in my right mind,” NOW I KNOW what that statement means. God has been my heart fixer and my mind regulator. God has been El Roi, the God that sees me. He has been my strength when I had bouts of weaknesses. He graced me when I would be in and out of seasons of forgiving and trying to wipe the slate clean when I was hit back-to-back with traumatizing trials.

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When I run it back, I do not regret taking the licks for my children. The analogy of the man building a house. That man had first to count up the cost before he started building to have sufficient time to complete the job. I came to many crossroads within this marriage. I would ask myself, “Is it worth it? Will I be able to stand all this? Do I have what it takes to continue? As I look back, It has been thirty-one years of marriage, and God has reminded me of His love for me.

It is not based on the poor decisions I made in life but on his love for me.

Within these thirty-one years, God has given me victory in many areas.

He has taught me how to hold them and how to fold them. He has given me a heart of forgiveness. If asked, “Yes,” I would do it again. My sacrifices paid off. The love of God was walked out before them. They know I love them. They saw the high price I paid because I did love them. I decided to stay through it all because I had a reason. I gave my children normalcy. I gave them stability. I gave them consistency. I showed them what a virtuous woman looked like. I was imperfect, but my God was perfect in all His ways.

When I say virtuous, I do not mean holier than Thou, but what I mean is when I had an opportunity to get my lick back, I decided to un-ball my fist and let the Lord fight for me. I let the Lord be my paraclete and fight this battle for me. I had plenty of opportunities to regain my lick but chose not to. I am not saying I was not challenged because I was challenged. I wanted to feel love, affection, and the butterflies you feel in a new relationship. I often would think, what if I had chosen differently or waited on God? What would my life look like now? I had to learn to let that mindset go and know that my life is in His hands, and nothing catches him off guard. I had to remind myself that God would cause it all to work together for my good because I love him and am called according to His purpose. If he can beat a crooked stick straight, he can cause my marriage to line up. It may not have been His perfect will, but it is His permissive will. When I said I do, God said I will and can. God has taken us from the bottom and put us in a place we could have never imagined.

He has given my husband abilities far beyond the normal. God took his life, cleaned him up, and gave him a new perspective. My husband has always been a provider and disciplinarian for our children. I can say that I protected him when my children were young, and I kept a lot from them so they could keep that respect for him. They have always respected him, even to this day. They love their father even after they found out things we could no longer keep from them.

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We must give one another grace because we were both young and had to go through trial and error until we finally found ourselves. It is and has been a process for two to become one. Every day is a new challenge, and we must decide to be up for the challenges and fight for one another. When I roll the tape back, it is as if I am standing on a hill and looking back at my life.

As I take a deep breath and let it go, I am reminded of God’s Word, Romans 8:35-39 KJV 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?

36 As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.

37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.

38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

I often hear, “Love is not supposed to hurt.” I beg the difference.

John 3:16 states, “For God so loved the world he gave His only begotten son that whosesoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life.”

When I think of the journey of Jesus, the suffering he incurred in the name of love, and the cost he paid for you and me, it gives me a new perspective on what love really means. If you really love something, the cost will not be the issue. We will find a way to get it. In the same way, in the spirit, if we love someone, we will pay the cost, even if it comes with some suffering. We love our children, and if it means we, as mothers or fathers, have to do without or be desolate because of it, we will do it all in the name of love. Love causes one to do things we said we would never do. Being married to a man who fathered a child outside of our covenant was a deal breaker for me, but guess what?

Thirty-one years later, I am still here. I saw a bigger picture. I had to sit down and re-evaluate my entire life. I had to make some very hard decisions that made my life uncomfortable. That is the price I chose to pay. My journey is not for everyone. I am traveling the road less traveled. I could have left with no blood on my hands, but the welfare of my children came first. We were better together raising three children rather than me being a single parent trying to raise two girls and a son. I made the decision that was best for my children. As I said before, I would do it again, if that's okay with you. My children will have a memory of love, not rejection.

As I said in this article, it is time for you to sit down, evaluate your life and count up the cost.

If you are in your building season, you have to make sure you have what you need that is sufficient to complete the job. Make sure when you are building, you have grace, compassion, forgiveness, tenacity, perseverance and above all LOVE! I Corinthians 13:3b MSG So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

Melinda Walker Bio Melinda Walker was born and raised in Bogalusa, Louisiana. Melinda is a wife, mother, and grandmother. Melinda resides in Dallas, Texas. Melinda is a Certified Purpose/ Life Coach, and a Health and Wellness coach.

Melinda is a Published Author. In the year 2020 Melinda founded Finally There, LLC, and in 2022 extended her brand as a Publisher and does business as Stand In Truth Publications (S.I.T). S.I.T services include but are not limited to Writing Coaching and Ghost-Writing services. Melinda will guide you through your book writing experience as a Vision Coach.

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June Birthday Spotlight

From Brokenness to Wholeness: A Journey of Transformation

by Dr. Michelle McCormick

Where Do I Begin?

Reflecting on my past, I often question the reality of my transformation. When you spend more than half of your life in brokenness, bitterness, anger, and confusion, it’s hard to envision anything different. At the age of 53, I sat in amazement at how God could take a little African American girl who lost her identity early in life due to molestation and make her whole. I never believed wholeness was possible, nor did I believe I could live without the pain.

A Testament to Love, Mercy, Grace, and Compassion Today, I am a living testimony to the love, mercy, grace, and compassion of God that shines through when you totally surrender your life to Him. Surrendering means being willing to submit to the process He has for you to heal and become whole. Laying my past to rest was one of the greatest things I ever did for myself. Then, I could see the treasure instead of the trash, walk in purpose rather than pain, and be truly free.

Embracing the Journey My life has taken many twists and turns, but I embrace the fact that if God is traveling with me, I can endure anything.

In 2019, God asked me to return to school to study Behavioral Health Science with a major in trauma counseling. He led me to the perfect school for this journey, which began in March 2020. At the same time, He commissioned me to get my Christian Coaching Certification through Breakpoint Coaching Collective under Dr. Patrice Carter. Though I didn’t understand why He wanted me to do both, I trusted His voice and responded with obedience.

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Have Overcoming Challenges with Faith The journey was not without challenges. Three weeks into starting my courses, my mother decided to come off dialysis. I wanted to quit, but God whispered, " My grace is sufficient." I faced countless trials, including my oldest grandson's struggle with sickle cell, where doctors often had little hope, and marital challenges that almost led to separation. Yet, each time, I heard His comforting words, “My grace is sufficient.”

A Time for Healing and Growth In February 2022, after pastoring Divine Restoration Ministries for eight years, God asked me to step down. This was a dark period for me as I struggled to understand why He would take away something I was passionate about. However, I soon realized it was not a punishment but an opportunity for cleansing, healing, restoration, and growth. My marriage and even my relationship with God had come second to the ministry, and this change allowed me to realign my priorities.

A New Beginning As I write this on June 28, 2024, at 8:18 am, I am grateful that God loved me enough to take something from me to help me grow. Over these four years of twists and turns, I have achieved incredible things and have much more to accomplish. I proudly graduated from Grand Canyon University with a BA in Behavioral Health Science and a major in trauma counseling. I am also the successful founder and owner of SHIFT Transformation Academy, where we empower women to transform their mindset, discover their purpose, and unlock their full potential. We offer one-to-one coaching, Christian Certified Coaching, mentorship, and more.

My Greatest Achievement While these accomplishments are significant, my greatest achievement is my love relationship with God. I am like Mary with the alabaster box, breaking it open daily for Him. This love allows me to be the wife to Robert McCormick, the way I should be, and the mother to our children and grandchildren. I am especially grateful for witnessing my grandson, once given little hope by doctors, walk the stage as a high school graduate on June 8th, 2024. He reminds me daily that “eyes have not seen, ears have not heard, and it has not entered the heart of man what God is doing in and through Michelle.”

By sharing my journey, I hope to inspire others to embrace their transformation, knowing that with faith, surrender, and perseverance, they, too, can find wholeness and purpose.

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Dr. Michelle McCormick is a passionate advocate for transformation and empowerment.

As the founder and owner of SHIFT Transformation Academy, she dedicates her life to helping women overcome adversity and discover their true potential. At 53, after a life marked by early trauma and identity loss, Michelle embarked on a profound journey of healing and growth, earning a BA in Behavioral Health Science with a focus on trauma counseling from Grand Canyon University.

Her commitment to personal development led her to obtain a Christian Coaching Certification from Breakpoint Coaching Collective under Dr. Patrice Carter. At SHIFT Transformation Academy, Michelle offers one-toone coaching, Christian Certified Coaching, and a signature VIP Mentorship program.

Michelle's own life is a testament to the power of faith, resilience, and the transformative grace of God. Her greatest achievement is her deep, loving relationship with God, which fuels her dedication to her family and her mission. Michelle's story is a powerful reminder that with faith and perseverance, anyone can shift their mindset, uncover their purpose, and live a life of fulfillment and impact.

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Upcoming Events: SHIFTHer 2024 Empowerment Conference Theme: Be it unto me according to thy Word Luke 1:38 December 7, 2024 Clemmons, NC

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Transitions: Discerning and Navigating Which Season You Are In by Prophet/Pastor Cherise Lenore Riley

Ah, the infamous phrase "you are moving into a new season." I bet you've heard it countless times throughout your life and spiritual journey. Maybe you've even caught yourself uttering those words to describe your newfound perspective on life. We throw around this term "new season" whenever there's a shift or change in any area of our existence.

But here's the million-dollar question: Do you truly grasp the depth and essence of these ever-changing seasons you find yourself in? And more importantly, are these transitions ordained by God or merely an emotional rollercoaster ride? Each word, “Transition,” “Discernment,” “Navigating” Season” has a strong, actionable meaning to them, and when used together or individually, the correct way, they can shift our entire existence and be directly into our Divine God Ordained Seasons that flows in and out effortlessly.

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How long it takes to arrive at this place will always be determined by how long it takes to truly get out of our way and out of our emotions, embracing the fullness and power of each word so our internal navigation system can reach its true final destination. At the same time, we enjoy the journey along the way. Remember, every transition and season builds upon the last place you left, so as you build, make sure your Foundation is FIRM and SOLID! Now, let's break this down...

In the realm of transitions, the word itself evokes images of moving from one place to another.

According to Webster's Dictionary, transitions are shifts or changes from one state, subject, or place to another. In contrast, another definition defines transitions as a passage linking two sections of a piece of music, basically making a bridge. But transitions go beyond mere physical movements or musical interludes, clearly this isn’t musical chairs; Transitions hold profound significance in our lives. Spiritually, seasons represent periods of growth, transformation, and renewal. As we venture into each new season of life, whether in our spirituality, mental well-being, emotional state, finances, relationships, or even physical relocations, there will always be a connection, a link from the season we have exited.

Comprehending our heart posture in the past seasons is vital because it shapes our navigation into the new season (emotional navigation or Holy Spirit Navigation). How we choose to embrace previous seasons will ultimately determine the impact of what each new season brings into our lives – Ecclesiastes 3:1 “To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

Isaiah 43:19: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wastelands.”

Transitions are inevitable; they are a part of our life and human journey, and it is important to navigate them well, which requires spiritual DISCERNMENT! The Power of Spiritual Discernment Scriptural Reference: Hebrews 5:14 “But solid food is for the (spiritually) mature, whose senses are trained by practice to distinguish between what is morally good and what is evil.”

Biblical Definition: Spiritual discernment is the ability given by God to distinguish between what is of Him and what is not. It is a gift of the Holy Spirit that enables believers to perceive the truth, make wise decisions, and recognize the leading of God in their lives.

Standard Definition: Spiritual discernment is recognizing and understanding the spiritual implications and significance of various situations, actions, and influences. It involves perceiving and evaluating the underlying motives, intentions, and spiritual forces at work.

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Spiritual discernment is not merely a skill or intellectual ability but a spiritual gift resulting from spiritual maturity. It is cultivated through constant use by actively seeking God’s wisdom and guidance in all areas of life. As we train ourselves to distinguish between good and evil, we become more attuned to the leading of the Holy Spirit and develop a heightened sensitivity to the spiritual dynamics at play. Having spiritual discernment enables us to navigate each season of life confidently and clearly. It allows us to distinguish between the godly, deceptive, true, and counterfeit. It helps us make wise decisions that align with God’s Will and purposes for our lives instead of emotional decisions fed by soul traumas.

The importance of developing true spiritual discernment before and during navigating through seasons cannot be emphasized enough. As I stated above, life is a journey, and this journey is filled with ups and downs, joys, challenges, and lessons, and it is essential to seek God’s wisdom and guidance for successful navigation. Mind renewal through God’s Word is crucial to developing spiritual discernment. This enables us to hear the Holy Spirit clearly and understand His true leading and guiding in our lives. The Holy Spirit acts as our internal GPS guides us completely, whether in daily or life-altering transitions.

Sadly, we live in a world filled with conflicting messages and deceptive influences, which causes spiritual discernment to become a crucial and necessary garment we should dress in daily. It will protect us from being led astray while empowering us to walk in alignment with God’s word, truth, and righteousness. By relying solely on the Holy Spirit’s guidance, we can confidently transition through each and every season with precision, wisdom, and understanding. Effectively utilizing this garment requires us to renew our minds daily through God’s word, which brings confidence in knowing God’s Voice.

Renewing Our Minds and Hearing the Holy Spirit Scriptural Reference: Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

In order to effectively discern God’s will in each season, we must renew our minds, through the study and application of God’s Word. The world around us bombards us with conflicting messages and distractions, making it challenging to discern God’s voice amidst the noise.

However, as we immerse ourselves in His Word, our minds are transformed, aligning with His truth and enabling us to differentiate between what is of God and what is not. What is God’s voice and what is our emotions. Renewing our minds through God’s Word allows us to develop a heightened sensitivity to the leading and guiding of the Holy Spirit.

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Just as a GPS System requires a clear signal to function accurately, our minds must be renewed to receive and interpret the Holy Spirit's Instructions. The Scriptures give us insight into God’s character, promises, and ways, equipping us to recognize His voice and discern His leading in every season.

As we embark on this journey of discernment, we must cultivate a deep and intimate relationship with God. Through prayer, meditation on His Word, and fellowship with other believers, we position ourselves to hear His voice. Just as a ship needs a compass to navigate stormy waters, we need the wisdom of the Holy Spirit to navigate the seasons of life.

Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding, in all your ways submit to Him, and he will make your paths straight.”

The Holy Spirit, Our Wisdom and Guide Scriptural Reference: John 16:13 “But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.”

The Holy Spirit, as the Spirit of Truth, is our ultimate source of wisdom and guidance. He leads us into all truth, revealing the mysteries of God’s will and plans for our lives. The Holy Spirit does not speak on His own but rather speaks what He hears from the Father, making Him the perfect guide to navigate the ever-changing seasons of life. When we surrender ourselves to the leading of the Holy Spirit, we tap into a wellspring of divine wisdom. He illuminates our path, giving us insights and discernment beyond our human capabilities. We can confidently navigate each season by relying on the Holy Spirit’s guidance, knowing we follow God's perfect and sovereign plan.

In Conclusion: Transitioning in and out of Seasons As we transition in and out of seasons, it is vital to take intentional steps to align ourselves with God’s leading. Here are practical steps we can take: 1. Commit to daily renewal of our minds through prayer, meditation, and studying God’s Word. This practice creates a foundation for discerning the Holy Spirit's voice amidst the world's noise.

2. Cultivate a daily habit of a deep and intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit through consistent prayer and fellowship. The more we know and trust Him, the more we can rely on His guidance in every season.

3. Seek wise and godly counsel from mature believers who can offer wisdom, guidance, and accountability during times of transition.

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4. Trust in the Lord’s faithfulness and timing. Even when seasons change. God remains constant, and His plans for us are always good.

5. Be open to change and embrace each season's growth opportunities.

Even in challenging times, God molds and shapes us into His likeness.

By consistently renewing our minds through God’s Word and relying on the leading and guidance of the Holy Spirit, we can confidently navigate each season of life. Remember that true spiritual discernment is a lifelong journey, requiring a humble and teachable heart. As we surrender ourselves to the Holy Spirit, we can trust that He will lead us into the abundant life God has prepared for us.

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What Are the 8 Prayer Watches?

(A Brief Overview) The 8 Prayer Watches are times of days, afternoons, and nights covering 24 hours within three-hour intervals; while every watch has a purpose within the spirit realm, they are the shift changes of the angels ascending and descending from heaven to earth and from earth back to heaven.

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Standing on the Promises of God by Prophetess Vera Nelson

Standing means remaining at the same level, degree, or amount for an indeterminate period. Promises mean to pledge to do, bring about, or provide a declaration that one will do or refrain from doing something specified.

I remember in earlier times, I always believed in the Lord, but as life goes on and our faith is not established in trust, life brings challenges, our faith weakens, and we begin to think like the culture, environment, or people who give us their opinions.

When the Lord created the Earth, he did complete work because His original intent was that we would live long and reign and rule on the earth, and everything that we needed had been provided. When sin entered, that changed the original way the plan was set up, but it never changed the outcome and the intent that God had for us.

Now life will contain what I'd like to call processes. These can be situations, circumstances, bad decisions, left turns when they should have been right, and all the things that encompass the world that we live in, we have to process through to work from the place that we were created from which was the supernatural. Sometimes we will endure not because of anything you have done, but because of what God has called you for.

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We will begin with having faith the size of a mustard seed, but faith has to enlarge continuously. Our faith enlarges as we trust God and commit ourselves to Him. This is not always easy, but when learning to delight yourself in Him, you will meet Him

by His name and character in each name. Remember, He knows the plans He has for your life. These plans are good and not evil. The promises He has given us will come because He can not lie. The challenge is going through the process of preparing us for what He has already assigned to us.

One thing I have learned about trusting and learning to stand and wait on God is that He will do it. Then we remember the promises He has already provided, just as He said, but not in the timing of our will but in His will alone. His love for us is endless now and forever. The more we understand, the easier it is to trust Him and wait.

The desires of your heart (Psalm 37:1-8), posture, and patience are essential to grow as we learn to stand. The wait will never outweigh the promises and plans He has for you. He is El Shaddai, the manybreasted One, and He will do exceedingly and abundantly more than you can ask or think.

The process is essential to the fulfillment of the promises. God will do the inside work within us so that when He releases us, we govern it as He has designed. Let’s look at Joseph.

When we look to the word of God in Genesis chapters 37-44, we see how life's path can change without our permission. It’s not your choice but God’s will in an instant, and we must learn to yield to it when it is God.

No matter the circumstance, God's plan has to come forth. Look at how Joseph was equipped while in the wait, in the pit, being sold, in Potiphar’s house, and then in prison. In addition to all the other circumstances he endured, it was all a part of his process. The dream had to come forth. God doesn’t have to give us the steps; we must trust what He said and know it will come to pass.

Now we look at Transitions.

Transitions are seasons in your life that feel off. Sometimes, they can feel strange. Sometimes, it’s hard to articulate how you feel, and you don’t have the words to explain it.

God hasn’t given you a language, so you can’t even really describe what transitions are like in your life, and each one will feel different.

Sometimes, you feel like you no longer fit into the environment where you were in, and yet, you haven’t reached the environment of where you’re going. You don’t know how you’re going to go or even where you’re going during a transition.

I’ve always personally believed that there’s something about Ecclesiastics chapter 3, verses 1 through 8, where it says there is a season (a time appointed) for everything and a time for every delight and event or purpose under heaven Transitions are God-drawn moments that the Lord is calling you into a place with Him to give instructions, stretching or testing.

Still, it brings you greater surrender, trust, expansion, healing, wisdom, etc. He calls us into the place to believe what we can’t see and expand our love and trust to give Him all of us.

This reminds me of Abraham. He told him to leave his family, but he didn’t tell him where to go or how he would get there, and he didn’t give him a map of instructions. The power of our spirit of obedience to our Father will allow us to go through the different transitions in our lives, whatever, whenever, and however frequent or infrequent they may come.

Transitions will have benefits.

One of the benefits of transitions is a word called Wait. This action brings us greater surrender, obedience, and trust in the Lord. He can’t give you a time limit because He starts it’ll let you know when it stops. Many different emotions come to the surface during this journey.

While we’re learning to wait, we have to learn how to embrace the new and learn to allow what was former to fall off so that when we get to that place in this journey of the transition, the tools will be equipped, sharpened and ready, but the wait is key to the building of those tools.

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Sometimes, while you’re on the way, one of the things I was challenged with was miscommunication. Holy Spirit would tell me not to respond to that now or to reread that before you respond. We are often not sensitive to our emotional state while in transition. You don’t have the amount of human connection we are accustomed to because He’s called us to Himself. He wants our undivided attention and only wants us to hear what he’s saying during this time. So emotions can perform in ways that may be very unfamiliar or familiar due to what is happening inside us.

I remember the very first major transition the Lord called me into before I understood it. I remember I had a mentor; she was one of the most powerful, transparent, apostolic, and prophetic women I had ever met on my new journey as I walked out of my call. I remember calling her one day, and I told her I felt like I was out here without any skin on my body. It is so open to absolutely everything and I can’t explain if I’m afraid if I’m nervous if I’m excited, I don’t even have words for what this means can you help me understand what this means what I am experiencing. She told me I can’t give you reason, but I give you words of comfort that you’re exactly where the Lord wants you to be, so surrender to it. When you talk about having some feelings and feeling some kind of way, I most certainly did have some, but I loved God, and I honored her, and even though I didn’t completely understand what was going on, I yielded to the instruction that she gave me.

That transition lasted much longer than I wouldn’t even expect it but it was a catalyst into who He was sharpening me to be and wisdom on where I was headed.

Everybody’s transitions are different. Everybody’s process is different and what He’s calling us to can look very different so sometimes we may not be able to get the clarity that we want from someone in the natural, but I do know that He wants us to make him the principal you’ll get off one day and everything that you had to endure for this particular season in your life or from that particular assignment or whatever it was that the Lord is showing you that was needed that you had to endure a transition.

We will have in life many transitions that are coming in your life, am convinced and confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will [continue to] perfect and complete it until the day of Christ Jesus [the time of His return].know that it is a part of Him perfecting the good work that He began as He brings into you greater capacity, greater understanding, and greater wisdom.

I stand in all God’s love, and I’ve learned to trust His process way past trying to know before I follow. Hebrew 12:2 Looking away [from all that will distract] to Jesus, Who is the Leader and the Source of our faith [giving the first incentive for our belief] and is also its Finisher [bringing it to maturity and perfection]. He, for the joy [of

obtaining the prize] that was set before Him, endured the cross, despising and ignoring the shame, and is now seated at the right hand of the throne of God His word says, Romans 8:28 And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.

BIO "Vera Nelson is a yielded servant to the Lord who has served in ministry leadership and marketplace for many years in various states.

God has used her to help build the lives of women and their children in and outside of the church, through empowerment, self-sufficiency, life skills, healing, and mentorship.

Her passion is to acquire property to develop transitional housing to help decrease homelessness. She provides life skills through the love of God, the word of God, and His Kingdom.

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KINGDOM BLENDS BY- NYREE WILLIAMS

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been fascinated by the psychology of behavior. What makes people behave and respond the way that they do, and why? Growing up in my family, things happened around me that didn’t make sense, but as a child, I knew not to question them. This made me an introvert, which means observing behavior became a passion.

As a believer, I was raised to tell the truth and treat others well.

It was the way we love ourselves and our neighbors.

Matthew 22:39 Lying was a huge deal and the consequences for lying weren’t even worth the sin! Even after college and building a career in the field of behavioral health, my foundation of faith guided me in almost everything that I did. I valued the principles I learned in my family and

Integrity was at the top of my list. I relied on the word of God and prayer as my connection with empathizing with people who suffer from various forms of mental health disorders. I’d seen things in my own family that were never discussed because topics such as mental health and sex were taboo, so it became my calling to open up honest conversations and develop long-lasting solutions.

Several years ago, I’d have a once in a lifetime encounter where my faith and professional experience benefited me in ways I’d never imagined. Talk about the power of prayer! My daily mantra was “no weapon formed against me shall prosper!” I’d have to employ every coping strategy and faith to trust God would save me from one of the most crucial decisions of my life. This consequence would have been at the same magnitude of “telling a lie”. Fairly quickly, I learned that compulsive lying is attached to the category of personality disorders. And in my specific experience, this person was dealing with an unaddressed narcissistic personality which was confirmed

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by one of my Psychologist colleagues. I was in disbelief to say the least. I’d given grace, forgiven and prayed more than ever before and my spirit was tainted in a way that demanded I address this unequally yoked “soul tie”.

Thank God, the prayers of the righteous availeth much!

James 5:16 Ultimately, trust the God that is within you because He’s not the author of confusion. 1 Corinthians 14:33 Learn the warning signs of maladaptive behavior and patterns of behavior. Pay close attention to how they treat their family. We must acknowledge and accept that people will use God to manipulate you to get what they want. Pray and pray some more!

What is the root of a narcissist family and how can we overcome narcissistic

tendencies in our families?

Ralph Waldo Emerson coined the phrase, "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree." This idiom suggests that their family influences children's character and behavior. To modify a child's behavior, alter the emotional dynamics of the family (thoughts, feelings, and actions).

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According to PsychCentral, a narcissistic family structure is one in which one or both parents exhibit traits of narcissism, often leading to unhealthy relationships and dynamics within the family.

Within this family structure, the children tend to feel responsible for their parent's behaviors, often resulting in unmet and unrealistic expectations.

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Emotional dysregulation presents in forms of anxiety, depression, emotional manipulation, a lack of empathy, and attempts to gain attention from narcissistic parents.

Codependency is also another plausible outcome that bleeds into adulthood for children in this family dysfunction. This negatively affects future relationships and causes a strain on the development of healthy attachment styles. This is how the cycle of dysfunction continues from generation to generation.

The toxic characteristics and behaviors force the children to feel detached or possibly estranged from their family of origin.

Dr. Rodney B. Jackson, owner of The Family Synergy Center, encourages us to explore our family histories by learning how to interpret family diagrams. Dr. Jackson believes understanding the emotional history of your family is essential to creating a healthy emotional future. This method has been proven to provide successful outcome measures in identifying the root causes of developmental and behavioral issues within a family system.

Bowen family systems theory supports Dr. Jackson’s research of family synergy. Bowen family systems theory is a theory of human behavior that views the family as an emotional unit and uses systems thinking to describe the unit's complex interactions. It is the nature of a family that its members are intensely connected emotionally. By incorporating this concept into the nature of personality disorders, it uniquely dissects each member of the

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family, interdependently and individually in relation to each family member. For example, Bowen's family systems theory would assess each parent’s relationship with each child to determine the patterns and cycles within each relationship. Navigating this process is where the real work begins.

During a personal interview with K. Hartman (2023), she offered some tips for coping with a narcissistic family structure: Acknowledge and validate your own feelings: It’s essential to recognize and honor your experiences. This can help you develop a better understanding of yourself and build healthy relationships with those around you.

Practice self-care: Make sure to take breaks from the situation whenever necessary and find activities that give you peace and comfort (e.g., sports, music, or art).

Avoid engaging in unhealthy conversations:Don’t let yourself be drawn into debates or discussions that may lead nowhere positive.

Seek professional help: If you feel overwhelmed or need advice, speaking to a qualified therapist can help you gain perspective and discover and recover your sense of self.

Recognizing the signs of narcissistic tendencies is the first step. The next steps would consist of psychoeducation and seeking a therapist who specializes in family systems to address ways to change the cognitions and behaviors to avoid the pitfalls of long term mental health issues as a result of unaddressed family dysfunction. A qualified therapist can help you change the narrative and develop strong, connected healthy relationships.

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Owner of Peace Reigns, LLC and co-author of What’s In A Name, Nyree Dawn Williams, MA, LPC, CPCS, originally from Queens, New York, has a master's degree in Psychology and Healthcare Administration in addition to life experiences filled with highs & lows shared with others to deposit “hope” and evoke “change.”

She is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Professional Counselor Supervisor with over 25 years of experience in behavioral health, addictions, and intellectual developmental disabilities. Her counseling style includes cognitive behavioral therapy, which is solution-focused with active listening, empathy, and transparency.

Nyree is a Clinical Director at a private practice organization and is employed by the Veterans Administration. She also offers contractual counseling services to children and adults.

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POINTS TO PONDER: RELATIONSHIP -VS- RELIGION

 Relationship: kinship, a romantic or passionate attachment  Religion: a cause, principle, or system of beliefs held to with ardor and faith archaic: scrupulous conformity: conscientiousness As I thought about relationship, I asked myself, what was the first relationship? My mind went to Adam and Eve (Genesis 2:18-25). Adam does not have a companion. God puts Adam to sleep. Adam wakes up to a being who he called woman, his companion, hence relationship. (Paraphrased) Although Adam and Eve were the first couple (man and woman) relationship, God and Adam were the first relationship.

byShundra Yuille  Your main priority should be your relationship with God.  God should be the source of all relationships.

When I say the source, I mean going to God’s word when there is a relationship problem.

Relationship problems can arise between husband and wife, parents and children, siblings, and friends. If a person is talking to another person about a relationship problem, make sure that the person will lead them back to God and His Word.  Religion is not spiritual. The individuals that are a part of these religions are spirit beings.

When I thought of religion, I thought of different sects, such as Baptist, Pentecostal, Church of God in Christ, Lutheran, Ladder Day Saints, and Jehovah’s Witnesses. These are all religions, and the individuals that are a part of these religions have a relationship with God. I forgot nondenominational. To me, this is a religion also.

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Since I have looked at relationship and religion separately, when I think of one versus the other, I can’t help but think of how God thinks of relationship versus religion.  Relationship is important to God. Looking back at Genesis chapter 2 verses 18-25, we can see that God saw the importance of man having a helpmeet, a relationship. No matter what story I read in the Bible I see how relationship is important to God, especially a relationship with Him. (Romans 10:9-10).

God wants everyone to repent, be saved and have a relationship with Him.

 God is not pleased with individuals who are religious.

I know you may say, I thought we were talking about religion. Just follow me a moment.

Sometimes religion can make an individual religious. I’m thinking of the story in the Bible about the Pharisees and the Sadducees.

The Pharisees say they don’t do as the Sadducees do and vice versa. Religion being religious.  Relationship trumps religion.

I see God cheering for relationships more than religion. Think about the relationship between a husband and a wife. Ephesians chapter 5 verses 22-33, tells us how God wants that relationship to be.

Then, in Ephesians chapter 6, verse 1 starts telling us how God wants the relationship between parents and children to be.

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In my conclusion, what points will you be able to ponder? Will it be a relationship or religion? I pray it is more on the side of the relationship, and that relationship is the relationship between you and God. Now, I see more than ever that the most important relationship I can have is between God and me. Just like I study my husband to know what he likes and doesn’t like, I have to be more intentional about studying God’s word to see not only what He likes and doesn’t like, but I need to know His plan for me.

As you read this article, I pray that you ponder the point of the relationship and make the relationship between you and God a priority.

Bio Shundra Yuille is a native of Prentiss, Mississippi. She lives in Little Rock, Arkansas, with her husband of 28 years. They have seven wonderful children and one deceased child.

She is a First Grade teacher and is currently in college majoring in English. She’s also a published author. She enjoys reading, writing, and having a good time with family and friends.

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A CALL TO ACTION: THE POWER OF DECREEING

by- Arletha Orr

THE POWER OF DECREEING! Sometimes, we must learn how to speak over our lives and declare greatness when we go through life.

On May 18, 2016, my third wedding anniversary, my husband and only two children were killed in a train accident.

Whew! Life hits hard!

During that time, I would still praise God, decree, and establish great things for my life, but then that changed.

I came to a place where I felt God had forgotten me. You know, being a church girl, the one that’s close with Jesus... attending every service at the church, Monday through Sunday (laugh out loud), you don’t expect bad things to happen to you. But had it not happened to me, I wouldn’t be able to help others.

My entire family. My only husband (you’ll catch that later) and only two children. I felt isolated. Betrayed. Forgotten about. Lonely.

It was then that I began to pray. You see, that was all part of God’s plan. It was all part of my journey to get me where I am today.

When I began to pray and decree healing over my life, God came through. I remember telling God that I needed the Holy Ghost to be activated in my life so that I wouldn’t have to be depressed or be put in a mental institution.

He kept me away from it all. He is faithful!

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Job 22:28-29 AMP states, “You will also decide and decree a thing, and it will be established for you, And the light [of God’s favor] will shine upon your ways.

When you are cast down and humbled, you will speak with confidence, And the humble person He will lift and save.”

He gave me peace amid sorrow. He gave me joy in the midst of sadness. He gave me hope amid adversity. God gave me life.

For this, I am forever grateful.

This experience taught me my true calling...to be a grief coach. This is where I help others get through their grief journey.

Life can and will be challenging.

Don't give up on God when you go through things in life.

Don’t give up on yourself. God needs of you.

Declare and decree greatness over your life! I know life can be hard and it will seem as if you can’t make it out. Keep going! When we give our sorrows and troubles to God, the Holy Spirit will be a Comforter.

The Holy Spirit will be our guide. Do you trust God to take care of you?

“But the Helper (Comforter, Advocate, Intercessor Counselor, Strengthener, Standby), the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name [in My place, to represent Me and act on My behalf], He will teach you all things. And He will help you remember everything that I have told you.” John 14:26 AMP Stay encouraged. You will overcome every adversity you face! You got this!

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MIRROR CHECK, PAUSE, TRANSITION: NAVIGATING TO CHAPTER 51 by- Dr. Mechelle Moore As the word transition replayed in my mind, I struggled over what this article would entail in this Birthday edition. I had serious writer's block for days as I reflected upon the title downloaded in my spirit. Today, I arise according to this word in my belly that this last chapter is a I am transitioning what has been a mirror-check season as I introspect on the blindsides, sideswiped, and head-on collision that wreaked in my heart, mind, and soul. The heartbreak of learning that those who I thought were with me weren’t at all. I am reminded of the scripture; “It was not an enemy who taunted me—then I could have borne it; I could have hidden and escaped. 13 But it was you, a man like myself, my companion and my friend. 14 What fellowship we had, what wonderful discussions as we walked together to the Temple of the Lord on holy days.” (Psalms 55:12-14)

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The mirror check alerted me to the internal wounds reflecting and manifesting in my outer countenance as the tears rolled down my face. I shouted out unto the Lord, “Why am I seeing this spirit of betrayal again, Lord Why?” The mirror didn’t lie as I surveyed the wounds within my soul surfacing outwardly; I saw the dark circles under my eyes, the weight blanketing my frame, and my skin dull with no shine. My foundation was shattered, and the particles of that cut through my fragmented soul as I realized that this last betrayal broke my heart. Though my heart was broken amid the tears, I saw a vision; I just needed to gain enough strength to get to it. This merry-go-round I was on spun me to the point that I was dizzy. It was as if I couldn’t think clearly. Panic was always chasing me, and when I had a little strength, I found myself depleted. I just wanted to be able to breathe again. I found myself in the PIT (Purpose In Trouble). I couldn’t even describe the matters that were almost flatlining my heart. Jehovah Rapha (The God who heals) reminded me that according to Psalms 147:3, He heals the brokenhearted. This scripture was the anecdote that infused me as I began to feel the jolt in the spirit summons me to be still and know he is God (Psalms 46:10). I am getting happy right now as I write because I am reminded greater is he that is within me than he that is in the world. During this hour, I was summoned to pause and to get low. I didn’t have to fight this assault of betrayal alone; it's something about Abba Father saying, Daughter, I got this be still (pause) it's almost over; there will be a performance as I rescue you from this PIT. The failure to thrive was in pursuit of me as a hunter is in pursuit of a deer. I was functioning in my reserves with daily prayers for Jehovah Tsur- God of Strength, to fuel me. I couldn’t pivot in this unusual pause, as if I felt every uppercut blow to my mind and heart. The assassins assigned in this hour of my life were unleashed with no mercy.

As I lay in bed one morning, it was as if a curtain was pulled back, and I began to identify the snipers one by one. I could look beyond the eyes staring back at me to see the nakedness of their true intent towards me. When I realized that not only was the betrayal diabolical, but the disloyalty was riveting, I was jolted up from that vision to the reality that this was really how chapter 50 was explosively transitioning me to my next chapter. Once I settled within my mind as my heart still needed to catch up, the verdict was in on the matter, and separation was no longer in the back of my mind but in the forefront. This assault was no longer within my scope of reasoning; the covenant I held dear was weighed in the balance of what was found wanted (Daniel5:26-27).

Deuteronomy 7:9-16 provided me with validation that The Lord God is faithful and a covenant keeper, however, amid the introspection somewhere along the way, I focused on a covenant void of THE COVENANT KEEPER(YAH).

In conclusion, I repented as Abba (Father) began to provide me with the strength to face the new posture, I had to release the shame, humiliation, and disappointment that weighed upon me that weight was heavy and the lower I postured myself at the feet of the father the lighter it became.

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I learned that there is a purpose in all things and situations. No matter what, you have to accept what is and dismantle what was. I am embracing this new alignment and assignment in him even when my heart matters get the best of me. I learned long ago that you don’t stop loving someone, especially when your motives are pure. Loving and letting go to allow God to intervene is the prescription I surrendered to as acceptance solidifies itself within my mind, spirit, and heart. I no longer question why me, once I found this scripture, the navigation system with God as my guide is turned on as I come off pause to shift to cruise control I decree there will be nothing missing nor lacking in my life.. Chapter 51 will demonstrate this conclusion scripture.

Romans 9:17: I have raised you for this very purpose that I may display my power in you and that my name might be proclaimed in the earth. (NIV).

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THE POSTURE OF TRUE CONVERSION

by- Denise Jackson For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

Isaiah 55:8-9 NIV When lifting something heavy many will decline offered help by saying “I’ve got this” Or if someone offers to pay their share for a meal the other person will say “That’s ok. I’ve got it “It’s difficult to give up control in many situations. The Bible reminds us in 1Peter 5:7 KJV “casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you”. So, if the Bible reminds us to put our concerns and cares onto him (God) how can we do that if we got it? At some point in our life we too should be like Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane and say to ourselves “ Not my will but thine be done.” I finally found myself at that point. I realized that if I wanted true change, I had to do something different. It was important that I totally and finally surrender my will and ways to the Lord. Once I made that decision, I began to do everything necessary to leave a toxic marriage peacefully with my children. I surrounded myself with friends and family who supported my decision. During my transition, they encouraged me and kept me lifted in prayer.

What was my posture of true conversion?

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39 True submission to God's will for my life occurred once I began to apply the word of God to my daily life. Once I began following his word found in scripture, I noticed a change in my attitude and life. I was peaceful and less worried. My posture changed spiritually and physically.

Physically, during prayer, I found myself laying prostrate before the Lord. It was very humbling for me and showed submission to the sovereignty of my Heavenly Father. I often noticed that as soon as I lay before the Lord, I’d cry. No words were uttered because I knew the Lord knew my heart and already knew what was going through my mind. He knew my fears, thoughts, and concerns regarding my children, living arrangements, and desire to be married to the man he chose for me. I realized that I was getting it wrong. Many decisions and mistakes could have been avoided or rendered better outcomes had I sought the Lord first. The Bible reminds us in Matthew 6:33 KJV “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” The Bible also reminds us in John 14:14 KJV “If ye ask anything in my name, I will do it.” Applying those scriptures to my life and daily activities has made a drastic change and difference for the better. I am less worried and have built trust, knowing Romans 8:28 is true. All things will truly work out for my good. Everything worked out for my good as I met and married my man of God. I see a difference between now and then. Unlike previous relationships, we sought God individually and together. We continue to seek God and keep him first in our daily lives.

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The Storm DWELLER: My Sister Prophetess Mechelle Moore by- Clarissa Rhinehart

by- Clarissa Rhinehart

Prophetess Mechelle

When I think about a STORM DWELLER, I think about my sister, Dr./Prophetess Mechelle Moore; the mother, the grandmother, the daughter, the sister, the friend, the FIGHTER! The WARRIOR on the front line who may get hit but supernaturally gets back up because THE HOLY SPIRIT’S POWER is moving within her.

I am honored to honor this amazing Woman of God and a true friend and sister in my life!

Prophetess Mechelle has been my hope-pusher when my hope was on E; she has been my Intercessor to intercede and to pray when some of the intercessors turned into INSTIGATORS on me! This Woman of God has a HEART for God and His people, and it is rare nowadays to have friends who operate with integrity and authenticity! I pray that chapter 51 will be AN AMAZING CHAPTER of many BLESSINGS from the HAND OF GOD HIMSELF! The number 51 symbolizes growth and development, and I believe that in this new chapter of Prophetess Mechelle’s life, there are MANY THINGS that GOD IS GROWING and DEVELOPING within her life so that He will get the GLORY in the END! Let us cherish the lives of others and remember that life is so precious and fragile that no one should ever take it for granted! So, I am here to celebrate my sister, give her my WORDS OF LOVE, and share with her my PRAYERS that she will allow GOD to get the GLORY for HER STORY! 40 Love your sister- Clarissa Rhinehart

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Looking in the Mirror: Narcissism in Families and Unveiling Generational Curses By Latarsha Banks, ACD, BSW, MHMS

In the intricate tapestry of family dynamics, the presence of narcissism can create a profound ripple effect, impacting not just immediate relationships but also echoing through generations. This article will look into the complex world of narcissistic family structures and the often invisible generational curses that perpetuate patterns of dysfunction.

The Narcissistic Family Narcissism, characterized by grandiosity, a lack of empathy, and an insatiable need for admiration, can profoundly shape family dynamics. In a narcissistic family, the narcissistic individual— often a parent—demands constant attention and validation, overshadowing the needs and emotions of other family members. This environment fosters a culture of control, manipulation, and emotional neglect.

Another viewpoint of the Narcissistic family is that several family members identify with one characteristic of Narcissism. That means the child is absorbing each characteristic differently from a different person. This includes ingesting the personality of several people who are pouring not only narcissism but other personality issues into children as they develop into adults.

Narcissistic parents often prioritize their own needs above those of their children, creating an environment that is volatile, toxic, and devoid of emotional security.

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Emotional Consequences Children in narcissistic families often struggle with self-esteem issues, identity confusion, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships. The constant need to cater to the narcissistic parent’s demands can lead to anxiety, depression, and a deep-seated fear of abandonment. Over time, these children may adopt narcissistic traits themselves or become excessively self-sacrificing in an attempt to gain approval and love.

Generational Curses: The Invisible Chains Generational curses refer to dysfunctional patterns and behaviors that are passed down through the generations, creating a cycle of emotional and psychological issues. In families with narcissistic dynamics, these curses are often deeply rooted, making them challenging to break.

The Legacy of Narcissism The legacy of a narcissistic parent can be seen in how children parent their own offspring. Without intervention, they may replicate the narcissistic behavior they experienced or swing to the opposite extreme, becoming overly permissive or emotionally distant. The emotional wounds inflicted by a narcissistic parent can also manifest in maladaptive coping mechanisms, such as substance abuse, codependency, or chronic stress.

Breaking the Cycle Breaking free from generational curses requires a conscious effort to recognize and address the patterns of dysfunction. This often involves therapy, self-reflection, and a commitment to personal growth. By understanding the root causes of their behavior, individuals can begin to heal and create healthier family dynamics.

Identifying the Signs of Generational Narcissism Recognizing the signs is the first step to breaking the cycle of generational narcissism. Here are some common indicators:

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Recognizing the signs is the first step to breaking the cycle of generational narcissism. Here are some common indicators: 1. Emotional Neglect: Narcissistic parents often dismiss or ignore their children's emotional needs, leading to feelings of neglect, loneliness, and abandonment.

2. Lack of Boundaries: Narcissistic families often lack clear boundaries, resulting in children feeling smothered, powerless, and overwhelmed.

3. Gaslighting: Narcissistic parents frequently manipulate their children into questioning their reality or memories, causing confusion and self-doubt.

4. Identity Loss: Growing up with a narcissistic parent can make it challenging for children to develop a strong sense of self, as their identities are often tied to their parents’ expectations.

Steps to Healing 1. Self-Awareness: Recognizing the presence of narcissistic behavior and its impact is the first step toward healing. This involves acknowledging painful experiences and understanding how they have shaped one’s beliefs and actions.

2. Therapy: Professional counseling can provide valuable insights and coping strategies.

Therapists can help individuals process their emotions, set healthy boundaries, and develop a stronger sense of self.

3. Education: Learning about narcissism and its effects can empower individuals to make informed decisions about their relationships and parenting styles.

4. Support Systems: Building a network of supportive friends and family members can provide the emotional sustenance needed to break free from toxic patterns.

5. Healthy Boundaries: Establishing and maintaining boundaries is crucial in protecting oneself from further harm and in fostering respectful and balanced relationships.

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For those with children, adopting a conscious, empathetic parenting style can help prevent the cycle from continuing.

7. Self-Compassion: Practicing self-compassion is crucial. Healing from generational narcissism is a challenging journey, and self-compassion can provide the necessary resilience to persevere.

Conclusion Narcissism in families can cast a long shadow, perpetuating cycles of emotional pain and dysfunction across generations. However, with awareness, effort, and support, breaking these generational curses and creating a legacy of healing and resilience is possible. By confronting the past and nurturing healthier relationships, individuals can pave the way for a brighter, more balanced future for themselves and their descendants.

Generational narcissism is a pervasive force that can shape the lives of its victims in profound ways. Its effects are far-reaching, but they are not impossible. By understanding its mechanisms, identifying its signs, and taking proactive steps towards healing, we can break the cycle and pave the way for healthier, more empathetic family dynamics.

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