LIFE’S Observations… Weddings and funerals are great equalizers as community gatherings go. For some, attendance is mandatory, but for the most part, the other folks there are guests. Whether by specific invitation or a certain sense of obligation, we are there because some By David Mosdal of the threads of our lives Guest Columnist are woven into the tapestry of the person or persons being honored. Weddings and funerals are two-part affairs. They generally begin with a formalized portion, or service, where we are able to quietly reflect on words being spoken and actions taken that galvanize that time in our minds for future reference. Not always, but often, this is a time when new threads may be added to our giant weaving called life, and other threads may end. Either way, it's a method of marking time. The second act of these gatherings is when we can circulate and visit with others in attendance in a haphazard and serendipitous way. We may share food and drink as we move from one conversation to another. It can be very stimulating, satisfying, enlightening,
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and just plain enjoyable. However, as Shakespeare's Hamlet is often misquoted, “Therein lies the rub”. If it's a wedding, we are mostly happy and a little apprehensive for the “kids”. Regardless of age, we know they are launching headlong into the galaxies with a road map on that small screen, that is always within immediate reach. The reality is that the hand-held extension of your mind limits your useful view to that of a predawn drive in a heavy for on an unfamiliar highway. Good luck. Well, enough about wedded bliss. They'll figure it out or they won't. If it's a funeral, we may be mostly sad but also appreciative of the fond memories. Memories, not only of the person who has died but also the people who surrounded them in life. These memories shore us up through down times and act like a liniment on our aching hearts when we share them with others. It is said that funerals are for burying the dead and resurrecting all the wonderful stories that can be told again.
The theme of this issue is, “You've got a friend in me” so when the opportunity arises at the next gathering you attend, take the time to renew an old friendship and be that friend again. — David Mosdal
The theme of this issue is, “You've got a friend in me,” so when the opportunity arises at the next gathering you attend, take the time to renew an old friendship and be that friend again. Listen and learn and laugh again. There is no down side.
