How Close is Too Close in a Relationship?

Intimacy, trust, and connection are the cornerstones of a strong relationship. However, there's a fine line between being close and becoming so intertwined that you lose your individuality Welcome to the world of codependency But what does it look like, and how can you recognize its subtle signs?

1. Putting Their Needs Before Yours, Always: Every time It's as if your partner's desires, wants, or needs have overshadowed yours. You find yourself constantly sacrificing or sidelining what's essential for you.

2. Feeling Incomplete Without Them: If you constantly feel that you're not 'whole' without your partner by your side, it's a glaring red flag. While companionship is lovely, deriving your entire sense of self-worth from someone else is not.

3. Chronic Fear of Abandonment: The mere thought of your partner leaving, even for legitimate reasons like work or personal space, triggers intense anxiety or fear.

4. Ignoring Personal Boundaries: You might find it hard to say 'no' or establish boundaries. And if your partner is doing the same, this mutual boundary neglect becomes a dance of dysfunction

5 Feeling Responsible for Their Happiness: It's as if you're the sole custodian of your partner's emotions. You believe that it's your responsibility to keep them happy, even at the expense of your wellbeing.

6. Difficulty Making Decisions Without Them: Whether it's choosing a dinner place or making a significant life choice, you're paralyzed without their input or validation.

7 Neglecting Other Relationships: Remember those Friday movie nights with friends or Sunday brunches with family? If they're becoming a distant memory because you're overly engrossed in your relationship, it's time to reflect.

8. Excusing Harmful Behavior: Whether it's emotional manipulation, guilt-tripping, or even more severe forms of abuse, you find yourself rationalizing or excusing their behavior consistently.

9. A Shared Identity: While "we" is a beautiful pronoun in a relationship, if "I" is completely lost and all plans, dreams, or aspirations are framed as "we," you might be losing your individual identity.

10. Overwhelming Need for Reassurance: Seeking constant validation or assurance from your partner about their feelings, intentions, or plans can be a clear sign of codependent behavior.

While a certain level of dependency is natural in relationships, codependency can lead to an unhealthy balance where personal well-being and individual growth are stifled. Recognizing these signs is the first step towards establishing a healthier dynamic in your relationship. It's essential to remember that both partners in a relationship deserve to flourish, both as a unit and as individuals. If you see these signs, consider seeking guidance or counseling to navigate the intricacies of codependency and pave the path to a more balanced and fulfilling relationship.

IF YOU CONSTANTLY FEEL THAT YOU'RE NOT 'WHOLE' WITHOUT YOUR PARTNER BY YOUR SIDE, IT'S A GLARING RED FLAG