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“I never imagined anyone in my family would be murdered,” said Robin Freedman a little more than a year after her brother MARK FREEDMAN was shot dead outside of his Greensboro restaurant.“You walk down the street and you think, did this person have anything to do with my brother’s murder,” she continued in a phone interview two weeks ago. 5 Tchaikovsky’s THE NUTCRACKER is undoubtedly one of the world’s best-loved ballet musicals and has long been a holiday staple the world over — including at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts (UNCSA), where it has been among its most popular annual productions. 6 As the year winds down, I think it’s safe to say that WE ARE ALL GRATEFUL FOR SOMETHING this holiday season. Even if it’s returning to a new normal. 8 Presidents are only human, so they make mistakes. No, I’m not talking about Bill Clinton hooking up with Monica Lewinski, or Joe Biden falling asleep at a global climate conference. I’m talking about JOHN KENNEDY, and how he misread history,
unintentionally insulted the State of Virginia, and was compelled to make amends. 9 Adapted with almost genteel care by producer and first-time screenwriter/ director Rebecca Hall, PASSING (now airing on Netflix) is based on Nella Larson’s 1929 novella, and marks a noteworthy bow for the actress-turned-filmmaker. 14 “Things have changed a lot,” said EARL CLODFELTER in reference to the last time he was interviewed by YES! Weekly in 2018. That includes the circumstance in which Earle and his wife Kriste live, but not their weekly practice of cooking free meals for anyone who lines up in front of his grill in Greensboro’s Center City Park. And not the circumstances of the people, most homeless or on limited incomes, who show up every Sunday morning for Earl’s hot cooking. 18 Happy Thanksgiving TRIAD MUSIC LOVERS! As my thanks to you (and in honor of the Talking Heads’ seminal sophomore album, “More Songs About Buildings and Food”) I offer this playlist of Triad artists and their songs about—you guessed it—buildings and food.
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Freedman murder still unsolved, but GPD clears name of rumored suspect
I never imagined anyone in my family would be murdered,” said Robin Freedman a little more than a year after her brother Mark Freedman was shot dead outside of his Greensboro restaurant. “You walk down the street and you think, did this person have anything to do with my brother’s Ian McDowell murder,” she continued in a phone interview two weeks ago. “I never thought I would be part of a club Contributor like this. I have such empathy for other mothers, sisters, brothers, and fathers who have to live with something like this, day in and day out.” At 3:35 a.m. on Nov. 4, 2020, the 63-year-old owner and executive chef of Mark’s Restaurant was found dead from a gunshot wound in his car at 616 Dolley Madison Road, the most recent fine dining venue to bear his name. Last winter and again this summer, Greensboro Police stated they were not releasing any details about the timeline of the killing. But on Friday, GPD Homicide Victim Advocate Mary Nero told YES! Weekly that detectives believe Freedman was shot between 10 and 11 p.m. on the evening of Nov. 3rd, approximately 4-5 hours before his body was discovered by his girlfriend of 14 years. According to Nero, Crimestoppers’ statement that “the perpetrator is believed to be of medium/stocky build and short to medium height,” is based on “surveillance video from one of the neighboring businesses.” Born and raised in Akron, Ohio, Mark was educated at the Culinary Institute of America and moved to Greensboro after attending college in North Carolina. After founding Mark’s on Westover and then Level 2 on Elm Street, he opened his Dolley Madison location in 2011. “I really know why my brother loved this community so much and spent over 40 years there,” said Freedman. “It’s a really incredible community and I feel a lot of love and support even though I don’t live there.” Freedman also praised Nero’s efforts on her and her late brother’s behalf. “She is my lifeline to the police department, who will take my call morning, noon, and night. When you lose someone this way, your brain is in overdrive and you feel as if you’re on the verge of going crazy. And she’s there as an empathetic person, but at the same time quite knowledgeable, as she used to be a detective. I can’t say enough good things about her, and I consider her a friend.” Nero assured YES! Weekly that the murder is not a cold case. “It’s ongoing. There are still Crimestoppers tips that come in and that have to be looked at, investigated, and corroborated. It’s not cold by any means. It’s an active case.” Nero gave another statement that no representative of the GPD has previously issued: Mark’s longtime YES! WEEKLY
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Mark Freedman friend and employee Aaron Coker, who committed suicide on Nov. 10, 2020, seven days after his former employer’s murder, had “nothing to do” with the crime. With rumors and social media posts linking the two tragedies within a day after Coker’s death, Nero was asked to confirm that the GPD found no basis for these unsourced claims. “Correct,” she immediately replied. “I think it’s just the ill-timing of the two deaths, with Mr. Coker taking his own life about a week after Mr. Freedman was murdered. That lead has been fully vetted and investigated and we can say with certainty that Aaron had nothing to do with it. It’s just the coincidental ill-timing. People tend to say, why did this happen, why did that happen, and to look for connections even when they’re not there. It’s a convenient theory to fall back on, but it’s not accurate.” The statement came as a great relief to Adam Coker, who recently posted about these rumors in a public Facebook thread in which Mayor Nancy Vaughan, among others, offered condolences and the hope that the Coker family finds peace. “It’s the most persistent rumor, but utterly false,” he said. “The person visible on the security video is described as short and stocky. My brother was 5’11 and weighed 165 lbs.” Coker acknowledged that Aaron argued many times with Mark, who repeatedly fired him and then hired him back, not an uncommon pattern in the Triad restaurant community. “My brother built a brand of being wild, and at times hostile and unpredictable. He knew how to make a scene and hold us captive to his power, which could be hard to watch. At other times he was as soft as a butterfly landing on a flower. He kept everyone on their
toes. Yes, they had another of their many arguments the night before Mark was killed, and Mark fired Aaron, just like he fired him many times,” Coker said. “That happened, and people ran with their ideas, but those ideas were wrong, and at this point, I’m questioning the intentions and decency of those spreading that falsehood. It’s as cruel and baseless as the claim, which some have also made, that Aaron killed our father.” Like the Freedman siblings, whose mother was struck and killed by a car while crossing the street in 2014, the Coker brothers also suffered the violent loss of a parent. In 2001, their father Farrell Coker was murdered in his hair salon at 2002 N. Elm Street in Greensboro. Timothy Mosely, who shot Coker fatally in the chest, testified that he and Samuel Miller robbed the store to buy crack. Mosely was sentenced to 40-50 years in prison and Miller, who also pled guilty, to 20-24 years “Our father was a hairstylist, a visual artist, a poet, and a landscape architect,” said Coker. “He did not have an enemy in the world.” Because of these tragedies, Coker says he can no longer bear to live in the state and has no plans for political office. “My father and brother both died from different forms of drug violence in Greensboro. It is too painful for me to be there.” He also said that he wishes to do a longer interview, to discuss what he calls “the psychological contagion” that has spread from his brother’s suicide, alleging it has resulted in several other self-inflicted deaths. But for now, he wants to clear his brother’s name from the baseless rumors that have only intensified in the year since Mark and Aaron died. Freedman wants justice for her brother, and the closure this will bring to both her own family and the Greensboro community that Mark loved. When asked if she had considered asking police to release the surveillance video that purportedly shows a stocky suspect of medium or less than average height. “No,” she said after a moment’s thought. “I really look to the police department, for they know best. I love nudging and nagging them, but at the same time, I also feel like I have to respect the investigation and their decision-making.” With the approach of the Thanksgiving Holiday, which Mark celebrated for 35 years by preparing food for people in need as a volunteer for asimplegesture. org, Freedman is asking the Greensboro community that Mark loved to help her find his killer. “If you know something, say something, and you can do it anonymously through Crimestoppers. There is a really spectacular reward waiting for you. It’s $30,000, and available for somebody who comes forward anonymously and helps us solve this crime. I believe somebody out there knows something.” Anonymous tips can be made by calling Crimestoppers at 336-373-1000 or online at P3tips.com. ! IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.
UNCSA’s annual production of The Nutcracker returns to the Stevens Center
chaikovsky’s The Nutcracker is undoubtedly one of the world’s bestloved ballet musicals and has long been a holiday staple the world over — including at the UniverMark Burger sity of North Carolina School of the Arts (UNCSA), where it Contributor has been among its most popular annual productions. Last year, due to the COVID-19 pandemic, the live production was canceled in lieu of a filmed production, so the yearly tradition continues. This year, UNCSA’s production of The Nutcracker will once again be presented live at the Stevens Center (405 W. Fourth Street, Winston-Salem) Dec. 10 -19, and offered on-demand for those who prefer to enjoy it at home. For purchase options, call 336-721-1945 or visit https:// www.uncsa.edu/performances/nutcracker/index.aspx. Ticket prices for live performances are as low as $25, and $75 for the “Nutcracker On-Demand Experience,” which will be available beginning Dec. 20. The live performances of The Nutcracker will take place at 7:30 p.m. Friday, Dec. 10 and Wednesday through Friday, Dec. 15-17, noon and 5:30 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 11 and 18, 2 p.m. Sundays, Dec. 12 and 19, and a 10 a.m. matinee Wednesday, Dec. 16. Due to local mandates, audience members will be required to wear masks. “So many families come to see The Nutcracker year after year, but an evening event can be difficult for our youngest audience members,” explained Jared Redick, assistant dean of ballet at UNCSA. “Our new schedule allows parents to select ticket options that best fit their needs, so everyone can experience the magic and excitement created by talented students in our schools of Dance, Design & Production and Music.” (Proceeds from ticket sales will help support scholarships for those three schools.) This year’s production of The Nutcracker boasts new choreography by UNCSA School of Dance faculty member Ilya Kozadayev, who also choreographed last year’s filmed version, and music by the UNCSA Symphony Orchestra under the direction of guest conductor Jiannan Cheng. “Nothing beats the thrill of live perforWWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
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mance — for the artists and the audience,” said UNCSA chancellor Brian Cole. “Last year, amid COVID-19 restrictions, UNCSA came together to create an innovative, all-new Nutcracker film, which reached audiences near and far online. This year, we’re excited to offer both live and recorded performances so that everyone can share in the delight of our stunning stage production.” Tchaikovsky’s two-act “fairy ballet” was based on E.T.A. Hoffman’s classic children’s story The Nutcracker and the Mouse King and made its debut in 1892. Remarkably, it was deemed a failure, but in the ensuing years has become an acknowledged classic, both in terms of its holiday theme and its appeal to all ages. For Jett Lecamu, a 10th-grade student in the School of Dance, to be cast in The Nutcracker as both the characters of the Nutcracker Prince and Trepak might seem an honor in itself, but Lecamu, who hails from Winston-Salem, was also selected to compete in the Prix de Lausanne 2022. The international ballet competition, which was created in 1973 for dancers aged 15-18
years old, its goal is to discover, promote, and support the finest young talents from around the globe. Some 376 applicants from 39 different countries submitted videos of their work, and a total of 74 dancers were selected to join seven pre-selected candidates for the competition. In total, 81 dancers from 17 countries were selected to participate in the Prix de Lausanne 2022. “This is a remarkable accomplishment for Jett, and it affirms the quality of our training program for young dancers, both male and female,” said Redick. “As one of Jett’s main teachers, I’m proud of his accomplishment and the excellent work he’s done with his faculty coach, Ilya Kozadayev (the aforementioned choreographer of The Nutcracker).” Lecamu is the fifth UNCSA student in as many years chosen to compete in the Prix de Lausanne and the seventh in nine years. “The Prix de Lausanne is a launching pad for a dancer’s career,” said Redick. “Erik Kim went to the Prix de Lausanne in 2019, his senior year at UNCSA, and from there he joined the Ballet Sodre in Montevideo,
Uruguay. He’s currently a company member with Atlanta Ballet. Another alumnus, Bret Coppa, was awarded a contract with Atlanta Ballet after competing at the Prix de Lausanne in 2017.” In addition, Lecamu was a finalist last spring in the North American competition of the Youth America Grand Prix in Tampa, FL, and will compete in the Winston-Salem regional semi-finals in February 2022. The official UNCSA website is https:// www.uncsa.edu/. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2021, Mark Burger.
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Giving thanks and changing the future BY CHANEL DAVIS | firstname.lastname@example.org As the year winds down, I think it’s safe to say that we are all grateful for something this holiday season. Even if it’s returning to a new normal. As cliché as it sounds, I’m extremely grateful for my family, friends, and continued opportunities to inform, educate and spotlight the readers, leaders, and creators of the Triad. Going deeper than that, I’m grateful to be able to change the normal for future generations, the way only living through a global pandemic could. The year that shall remain nameless (2020) exposed many fallacies in a system that was thought at one-time to separate Americans from some of the world’s poorest and most troubled countries. It exposed economic and social disparities in health, educational, and commerce systems in a country built off of the beloved democratic system, that within itself would rear its flaws. In the land of the free and the home of the brave, the right to “social distance” didn’t apply to those at an economic advantage before the full brute of the pandemic was felt and was lost to the many that found themselves no longer financially stable. A medical pandemic caused the gap between low-income and middle-class, below grade level and at grade level, wholesale and retail value. But let us be honest, the margins were already pretty slim. Unfortunately, those margins had become acceptable to a society that felt undervalued, overworked, underpaid, overtaxed, and rarely heard. It almost seemed asinine for people to take to the street
during a global pandemic to fight for rights and freedoms — social and criminal justice, a livable wage, and human decency — that every American was assumed to partake in as part of their citizenship. To fight against potential death and sickness, to secure inalienable rights? Seems appropriate. And I’m grateful for it all. I’m grateful that so many people were able to stand on their beliefs and fight for what they believed in, whether I agree or not. Because that fight, that voice, played a part in spurring change for the future. The complacent nature that overwhelmed many Americans has rolled back, allowing every American to hopefully be heard by others and listen to the parties doing the talking. Now, as employees return to work, students to classrooms and emergency rooms clear the shift-like waiting times they’ve been known to have for the past 18 months, work can begin to ensure those voices are amplified and the derelict conditions that easily toppled one of the world’s leading nations can be rectified. While many are quick to say, “if it’s not broke, don’t fix it,” I’ve always been a fan of upgrading before it needs a fix. So let’s be grateful for our new norm and the ability to fix the cracks that we’ve always known were there but were too busy passing the buck to care. Personally, I’m grateful for you, the readers, that help us find the buck when it stops. Happy Gobble Day! ! CHANEL DAVIS is the current editor of YES! Weekly and graduated from N.C. A&T S.U. in 2011 with a degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. She’s worked at daily and weekly newspapers in the Triad region.
[RETRACTION] In the Nov. 17-23 edition, the article “Superior Court Judge Rebukes Guilford County DA” wrongly stated that Guilford County D.A. Avery Crump had not responded to YES! Weekly’s request for comment. Crump spoke with the writer Ian McDowell on Tuesday, Nov. 16, telling him the list provided with the order was “grossly incorrect, in that Exhibit A (High Point) and Exhibit B (Greensboro) include a number of cases that are either already disposed (pled guilty or dismissed), already scheduled for trial, are not homicide cases, or are less than two years old.” The pair scheduled a time to meet to go over the list on Wednesday, Nov. 17 but that was rescheduled to Friday, Nov. 19. Brennan Aberle was also stated to be a public defender and this has since
been proven wrong. Aberle has his own practice and before then he worked at the law firm of Garrett, Walker, Aycoth and Olson. It should have also been made clear that Aberle, is the campaign manger of Crump’s current opponent and was involved in campaign of her previous opponent. The following statements “25 assistant district attorneys have resigned or been fired since Crump took office in 2019” and claims of workplace toxicity along with other claims by Aberle, including that Crump “has prosecuted 48 jury trials in 2021 alone, and lost 41 of them,” were not verified independently before publication. Here at YES! Weekly we strive for excellence and will continue, even more so, to bring you fair, accurate and truthful news. !
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BLACK@INTERSECTION, PIEDMONT CRAFTSMEN’S FAIR, & HEATHERS: THE MUSICAL It was yet another exciting and busy weekend in Winston-Salem filled with arts and cultural events. An exhibition opening, crafts fair, a musical, and more all took place our city of arts and innovation.
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SECCA: BLACK@ INTERSECTION
SECCA’s newest Main Gallery exhibit, Black@ Intersection: Contemporary Black Voices in Art, opened on Friday, Nov. 19 with a special exhibition tour with guest curator Duane Cyrus. Cyrus is a Bessie Award nominated performer and a professor at the University of North Carolina Greensboro. Duane Cyrus was selected as guest curator for the exhibition from a pool of more than 30 applicants. Black@Intersection illustrates that Black and African Diasporic people are more than just their ethnicity. Black people are doctors, lawyers, educators, performers, artists and much more. The exhibition features Black and African Diasporic artists from North Carolina and beyond. Ten of the more than twenty artists are from North Carolina, with six being from Greensboro, NC. “I use the term intersection to represent the idea that Blackness is not a monolith,” Duane Cyrus stated. “There’s diversity in Blackness.” The exhibition contains works such as photography, paintings, mixed media, videography, and sculpture. Black@ Intersection is on display in SECCA’s Main Gallery through April 17, 2022.
PIEDMONT CRAFTMEN’S FAIR
The 58 Annual Piedmont Craftsmen’s Fair took place at the Benton Convention Center last weekend. The Fair featured more than 80 artists who have mastered their craft of pottery, jewelry, textiles, and more from across North Carolina and the East Coast. The fair was a display of artists detailed and creative hand-made work ready to sell. There was a variety of goods available for demonstration and purchase including hand-made cutting boards, hand weaved scarves and wraps, coffee mugs, jewelry, statues and more. Founded in 1963, Piedmont Craftsmen represents nearly 400 of the US’s most talented artisans. Their gallery and shop are located at th
601 North Trade Street in Winston-Salem, NC. Piedmont Craftsmen also offers educational workshops and mounts exhibitions for the community as part of their regular programming. The annual Piedmont Craftsmen’s Fair has been a staple to the organization since its founding. The Fair showcases the handwork of more than 100 fine artisans from across the US. The Fair is an opportunity for people to interact with the exhibitors while enjoying craft demonstrations, purchasing art, and supporting artists.
UNCSA’S HEATHERS: THE MUSICAL
Saturday, Nov. 20 was the closing performance of UNCSA’s nine-day run of Heathers: The Musical. The performances took place in the Freedman Theatre of the Alex Ewing Performance Place. Heathers, based off the original 1989 film of the same title (that starred Winona Ryder and Christian Slate), is a musical set in the ‘80s that centers around the cliques of High School. The play is known for its dark-humor and witty storyline. UNCSA graduate and Winston-Salem native Mitch Easter performed a song for the film version. The play’s music direction was led by guest artist and Broadway veteran Jeffrey Saver who performed an impromptu rock concert amidst the show. The audience was filled with students, faculty, community members, and theatre supporters. UNC School of the Arts has several more performances scheduled soon including Trumpet Students in Recital on Nov. 30, Guitar Students in Recital on Dec. 7, “The Nutcracker” Dec. 10-19 and more. You can learn more about UNCSA’s performance schedule and how to purchase tickets at UNCSA.edu. There are over 800,000 art experiences taking place in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County annually. To learn more about upcoming arts and culture events happening in our community please visit www.cityofthearts.com. ! ARTS COUNCIL is the chief advocate of the arts and cultural sector in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County. Our goal is to serve as a leader in lifting up, creating awareness and providing support to grow and sustain artistic, cultural and creative offerings throughout our region. We acknowledge that it takes every voice, every talent, and every story to make our community a great place to live, work, and play. Arts Council is committed to serving as a facilitator, organizer, and promoter of conversations that are authentic, inclusive, and forward-thinking.
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JFK and the first Thanksgiving
residents are only human, so they make mistakes. No, I’m not talking about Bill Clinton hooking up with Monica Lewinski, or Joe Biden falling asleep at a Jim Longworth global climate conference. I’m talking about John Kennedy, Longworth and how he misread at Large history, unintentionally insulted the State of Virginia, and was compelled to make amends. The story begins on Wednesday, Dec. 4, 1619. That’s the day 38 English settlers from the London Company, navigated their ship down the James River and onto Berkeley Hundred (Harrison’s Landing), in what is now Charles City, Virginia, just 20 miles upstream from Jamestown, which had been settled 12 years prior. The landing party was led by Captain John Woodlief, who, as prescribed in the company
charter, ordered a day of Thanksgiving to be observed upon their arrival, and every December 4 thereafter. Over time, Berkeley became known for its historic firsts. The first bourbon whiskey was made there in 1621 (by a preacher, no less). “Taps” was played for the first time while the Union army was encamped at Berkeley in 1862. And, of course, it was the site of America’s first Thanksgiving. More on that in a moment. In 1907, Berkeley was purchased by John Jamieson who had served as a Union drummer boy during the army’s encampment at the plantation. Ownership later fell to his son (and my friend) Malcolm, who passed away in 1997. Mac loved Berkeley and was aggressive in marketing the historic site, including through the use of promotional videos and commercials, which I helped to produce. He invited the public to tour the house and grounds, sold Berkeley boxwoods and bourbon, and held an annual Thanksgiving pageant that attracted tourists from across the country. But the celebration wasn’t always widely recognized. One hundred years after his father beat
the Yankee drums at Berkeley, Mac was upset by something another Yankee did. In the fall of 1962, President Kennedy issued his yearly Thanksgiving Proclamation in which he recognized his home state of Massachusetts as the site of America’s first Thanksgiving. And so, on November 9 of that year, Virginia State Senator John Wicker was prompted by Mac to write to the President, and point out Kennedy’s faux pas. In his telegram, Wicker referenced historical records about Berkeley’s celebration, which took place one full year before the Pilgrims landed at Plymouth in 1620. Later that year, Kennedy’s confidant and noted historian Arthur Schlesinger sent a reply to Wicker with a tonguein-cheek apology from the President. According to Berkeley records, Schlesinger “attributed the error to unconquerable New England bias on the part of the White House staff.” The following year, on Nov. 5, 1963, President Kennedy had to eat crow during his annual Thanksgiving proclamation, saying, “Over three centuries ago, our forefathers in Virginia AND Massachusetts, far from home, in a lonely wilderness, set aside a day of thanksgiving.” Kennedy’s New England bias wouldn’t
allow him to disavow Plymouth entirely, but Mac was happy that Berkeley finally gained official recognition for holding the first Thanksgiving, even if it was a shared honor. Sadly, it was to be Kennedy’s last proclamation. He was assassinated 17 days later in Dallas. The holiday season is now upon us, and because of the lingering Pandemic, many of us will still forego our traditional Thanksgiving gatherings. We’ll celebrate with loved ones via Zoom, Skype, and old-fashioned phone calls, and we’ll remember those who are no longer with us. And, despite the tragedies and restrictions of 2020 and 2021, we will find a way to give thanks for what we have and whom we’re with. Perhaps we would also do well to emulate those weary English settlers and just be thankful for surviving another day of our long journey. So here’s a Berkeley bourbon toast to Captain Woodlief, a little drummer boy, old Mac, and to that Yankee President who finally set the record straight. God bless, and Happy Thanksgiving. ! JIM LONGWORTH is the host of Triad Today, airing on Saturdays at 7:30 a.m. on ABC45 (cable channel 7) and Sundays at 11 a.m. on WMYV (cable channel 15).
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President John F. Kennedy receives a turkey presented to him for Thanksgiving by the National Turkey Federation and the Poultry and Egg National Board.
Thanks to leading ladies, Hall’s directorial debut Passes with distinction
dapted with almost genteel care by producer and first-time screenwriter/director Rebecca Hall, Passing (now airing on Mark Burger Netflix) is based on Nella Larson’s 1929 Contributor novella, and marks a noteworthy bow for the actress-turnedfilmmaker. Like the novella, the story is set in 1929, and details the renewed relationship between Irene (Tessa Thompson) and Claire (Ruth Negga), who haven’t laid eyes on each other since graduating high school. In the interim, Irene has married and has two children. Claire has also married and has a child. But, as Claire confides — with no small measure of pride — she has been successfully passing as white, to the extent that even her husband doesn’t know. Irene is torn between revulsion for Claire denying her own identity, yet equally fascinated by her glamour and confidence. Claire appears to revel in her ruse. She’s addicted to the risk, and that addiction is contagious — as well as potentially catastrophic. There’s also the slight hint that Irene is drawn to Claire in other ways, but like several plot elements of Passing the suggestion is ambiguous. One of the film’s principal attributes is in its recreation of the era in which it takes place. Not just the look and sound, but the prevailing attitudes as well. Attempting to inject a contemporary sensibility would undermine the film’s themes. Hall wisely leaves the impressions and interpretation to the viewer, and some patience may be required. Passing has its melodramatic and self-indulgent moments, yet there’s a careful confidence in the material that is manifestly evident in Hall’s screenplay WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
and direction. She also has the benefit, which cannot be underestimated, of Thompson and Negga’s excellent, awardworthy performances. Often cast in brash, assertive roles, Thompson’s subdued turn here is balanced with the emotions her character is experiencing, which are expressed in physical rather than verbal terms. Negga, often cast in more subtle roles (including her Oscar-nominated turn in 2016’s Loving), here plays a vibrant and sultry role. Cinematographer Edu Grau’s exquisite black-and-white cinematography makes Negga breathtakingly glamorous. When she appears, the screen literally lights up. This is undoubtedly intentional, but effective all the same. Thompson and Negga also served as executive producers, and the overall success of Passing is largely due to their work. The supporting characters aren’t as well defined but still played with conviction: Andre Holland as Irene’s down-to-earth husband, who knows there’s something gnawing away at her but is powerless to help; Bill Camp, personifying the soul of discretion as a bemused but wise social gadfly whom Irene takes into her confidence; and Alexander Skarsgard as Claire’s dashing but unsuspecting spouse. Skarsgard only has a few scenes but makes every one count, and his “affectionate” nickname for Claire is quite an eye-opener, to say the least. There are those who may find Passing quaint or overly theatrical, but to its credit, the film never preaches, never descends into soap opera (although it easily could have gone that route), and never attempts to ascribe a deeper meaning in a pretentious fashion. At the end, which takes place during a snowstorm, the image fades into blinding white — the final note of symbolism in a film of yearning and quiet heartbreak. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2021, Mark Burger.
Celebrate Christmas and the Holidays with HigH Point’s University
Holiday Choral Concert
Saturday, December 4 | 7:30 pm | Hayworth Fine Arts Center For our Holiday Choral Concert this year, we will present the beloved Part I of George Frideric Handel’s MESSIAH, performed by our combined choirs, accompanied by orchestra, and featuring student soloists. Register to attend by visiting engage.highpoint.edu/holiday-events or by calling the Campus Concierge at 336-841-4636.
Instrumental Ensembles Holiday Concert Sunday, December 5 | 3:00 pm | Cottrell Amphitheater
Instrumental Ensembles from the HPU Department of Music present an outdoor holiday concert. The one-hour event will include performances of holiday music by the HPU Community Orchestra, Wind Ensemble, Jazz Ensemble, Percussion Ensemble, and several small instrumental groups. Bring a blanket and chair, enjoy some hot cocoa, and be ready to get into the holiday spirit!
No tickets required
North Carolina Symphony: Holiday Pops Concert Tuesday, December 7 | 7:30 pm | Hayworth Fine Arts Center
This festive concert showcases seasonal favorites and the always popular sing-a-long. Founded in 1932, the North Carolina Symphony is a full-time, professional orchestra under the artistic leadership of Music Director Grant Llewellyn. Register to attend by visiting engage.highpoint.edu/holiday-events or by calling the Campus Concierge at 336-841-4636.
Lessons and Carols
Wednesday, December 8 | 5:30 pm | Charles E. Hayworth Memorial Chapel This special candlelight service is the final Chapel service of the fall semester, bringing the community together to remember and retell the Christmas story. The service will feature members of the university community reading scripture and music led by the Chapel Choir. The service is based on the traditional Festival of Lessons and Carols from King’s College, Cambridge, England.
No tickets required
50th Annual Community Prayer Breakfast
Friday, December 10 | 8:00 am | Nido and Mariana Qubein Arena and Conference Center For 50 consecutive years, High Point University has brought the wider High Point faith community together for the Annual Prayer Breakfast. This event includes an inspiring message, given this year by Bishop Gregory V. Palmer, and special music provided by the Chapel Choir. Register to attend by visiting engage.highpoint.edu/holiday-events or by calling the Campus Concierge at 336-841-4636.
Special thanks to our generous supporters
HAGGAI PRAYER BREAKFAST FUND
Community Christmas Drive
Sunday, December 19 - Saturday, January 1 | 5:00 pm - 8:00 pm You’re encouraged to celebrate Christmas with family and friends by driving through your HPU campus. Experience the lights and sights of Christmas in the comfort of your vehicle at this complimentary event.
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[NEWS OF THE WEIRD] A DOG’S LIFE
Gunther VI, a German shepherd, is selling his Biscayne Bay, Florida, Tuscan-style villa that once belonged to Madonna. Yes, you heard that right. Gunther inherited Chuck Shepherd the mansion from Gunther IV, his handlers told The Associated Press, along with a “vast fortune.” It all began when Gunther III came into a multimillion-dollar trust from his owner, German countess Karlotta Liebenstein. Since then, the Gunthers and their handlers have lived a lavish lifestyle, jetting around the world and eating out at restaurants. With the home listed for nearly $32 million, Gunther VI hopes to take advantage of the hot real estate market. But he’ll surely miss his round red velvet bed overlooking the bay.
WHEN PIGS FLY
Wyverne Flatt of Canajoharie, New York, is willing to go to the mat for his 100-pound emotional support pig, Ellie, News10-TV reported. But the village doesn’t believe Ellie should be allowed to live with Flatt, who has been fighting her exile for two years. “I have gotten shot records from the vet, notes from the doctor, and all the paperwork,” Flatt said. “I’ve done everything they’ve asked me to do, and we just keep going to court.” Flatt said after a divorce and losing family members, he is comforted by the pig: Ellie “jumps right up on the couch to watch TV, and she does all this stuff. Her going away from me would be just as detrimental for her as it would be for me.”
WRONG PLACE, WRONG TIME
Suleman Shaikh, a newly minted physician in England, gifted his parents with a trip to Seville, Spain. Humaira and Farooq Shaikh were scheduled to leave on Oct. 4, and indeed they boarded a Ryanair flight — but when they landed, they were in Greece. It was their taxi driver who informed them of their whereabouts, so they returned to the airport, the Mirror reported. But Ryanair agents laughed at their predicament and offered to cover only one night’s hotel stay, even though the next flight back to London wasn’t for four days. Suleman said he’s out about 1,100 pounds and is “completely outraged and shocked that this has been allowed to happen. It has triggered severe strain and anxiety on
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my parents.” But Ryanair stuck to its position: “It is the responsibility of every passenger to ensure they follow the correct procedures and take note of the information available to them.”
Johnny Masesa, 45, was due in court in Connecticut on Nov. 4 to face a first-degree larceny charge, CTPost. com reported. Masesa was charged with scamming an 82-year-old Milford, Connecticut, woman out of $83,000 by telling her that she was “in the running” for a Publisher’s Clearing House prize and she needed to send money to claim it. But Masesa didn’t turn up for his hearing because, as his lawyer, Douglas Rudolph, explained, he had died in June from complications of malaria in the Democratic Republic of Congo, where he had family. When Rudolph emailed the assistant state’s attorney, Howard Stein, to let him know of the death, the prosecutor asked for a death certificate. The document Stein received, however, was handwritten and showed several changes made with correction fluid. Rudolph said he has tried to reach the doctor who signed the death certificate, to no avail. Stein said he believes Rudolph is clear of any wrongdoing but asked for a rearrest of Masesa in the case. “Obviously, if Mr. Masesa is in fact deceased, it would be difficult for the authorities to execute that warrant,” Stein said.
In Fulford, York, England, pub owners Steve and Rebecca Eccles planned a fun event for families: Santa and two of his reindeer would appear at the pub’s beer garden on the Saturday before Christmas. But Freedom for Animals, an animal rights group, had other ideas. On Nov. 2, the Daily Mail reported, the group rallied its supporters to contact the owners and ask for the event to be “animal-free.” One post that the Eccleses received threatened to burn down the building, with the owners inside, if the event went ahead. When they contacted police, officers advised them to cancel the event, which they did. “After everything we have done to support the local community in the nearly two years we have been here, we now have to seriously consider ... whether or not we feel safe enough to stay here at the pub,” the Eccleses wrote. “I hope you’re happy with what you have done.” !
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YES! Weekly gives thanks
As someone whose immune system has been compromised by both leukemia and its successful treatment, I’m thankful for my health and that of my friends and colleagues, and those I love. I’m also deeply grateful to all of my fellow residents of Greensboro for the wisdom and altruism to realize that masks are less for one’s own protection than that of those around them, and who have shown the resolve and patriotism of the previous generations who came together to conquer plagues and pandemics via common sense and the common decency of vaccination.
Alex Farmer 2021 has been a particularly discomforting year for me — an uneasiness I haven’t felt in the past 10 years. It’s been filled with loss and sadness on top of my personal struggles. But through it, I’m learning to be thankful for the little things in life. Phone conversations with family on my long drive home from work. Spontaneous dinner dates with my mom. Squad family time. A call from a friend asking me to meet them for lunch. Texts from friends just checking in to make sure I’m okay or to send me inspirational words and kindness. Colleagues who turn into friends that call just to vent or need that boost of encouragement. I’m a “suffer in silence” kind of person so these small things in life may not mean much to anyone else, but they keep me pressing forward even when I’m down. God will put certain people in your life, and I’m so thankful he puts these people in my path when I need them the most. YES! WEEKLY
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YES! Weekly staff and contributors were asked to share what they are thankful for this year. The following is their response. At the behest of the editor, I have been delicately coerced (forced) to write one of these things as well. I’m a private person by nature and not usually one to put myself or my thoughts available publicly for people to see, but there has been something vexing me recently; I’ve just turned 30 as of about a month ago and it’s been a strange transitory period for me. There’s been a certain palpable anxiety in waving goodbye to my twenties, and thus my chaotic and exorbitant youth along with it. Not that I’m done being youthful, of course. I’m still young. But it’s now a form of languishing youth, as though there was a crest of vitality that I now feel I’ve overstepped the boundary of. So, that dread now aired out, what am I thankful for? I’m thankful that I’ve had the opportunity to make it this far. I’ve known people, some close and some tertiary acquaintances, who were abruptly denied this possibility, so in sight of their hanging threads, cut as short as they were, it seems almost an act of greed to yearn for more. To experience anything at all, even momentarily on a cosmic scale, should be a thing of exaltation, and that is how I ought to treat it. I have decided to try and conquer dread with appreciation, as such I am thankful to exist and witness with all the time offered.
Habin Hwang At the start of 2021, I was hopeful for the New Year, ready for the coming possibilities. It was a year of opportunity for me — one where things would hopefully start making sense. I realized too soon that my optimistic daydreams wouldn’t become reality too easily. With my mother’s cancer diagnosis in April, the world I knew turned upside down. The real possibilities that opened before me weren’t as great as I envisioned. Though I thought the year was going to be all pain and rough edges, the world was quick to show me otherwise. In 2021, I made friendships that will, no doubt, last for a lifetime. Amidst a pandemic that we were all lucky to safely pass, I was able to make memories to last for a lifetime. As my happiness and mental health began blossoming, my mother’s did as well. She was able to be cancer-free by the fall and is on the road to a full recovery. This year, I’m eternally thankful for the incredible memories, physical and mental healing, and the relationships that were created and broken for the better.
From everyone at YES! Weekly, we are thankful to our readers and for the opportunity to be a news source for the Triad. The past 21 months have been pure hell for just about everyone. Each day we keep hoping to see the light at the end of the COVID tunnel, and each day it seems that the light keeps moving further away. Meanwhile, the endless wait for normalcy only serves to exacerbate our stress. Through all this, though, I count myself lucky because I’m married to the most wonderful person in the world. Pam is my best friend and sounding board. She laughs at me when I say something stupid, and she is my moral compass when I need it most. She always has my back, and she always reminds me that the glass is half full. I miss her when we are apart, and I always feel better when she walks into the room. I am truly thankful to have met her, thankful that she married me, and thankful to have her by my side as we both wait for that light at the end of the tunnel to finally appear.
Karen Grissom What I am grateful for? Where to begin? These past two years have been challenging but I appreciate the resiliency of not only myself but those who came through it with a positive attitude and a deeper appreciation of life, compassion, and love. Life is short, live it to the fullest.
Katei Cranford In the spirit of giving thanks, I’d like to first share overwhelming gratitude for my weird little family: my darlin’ Brad (who bakes the tastiest bread), our monster Ickus, and the adorable home we’ve made. For my mom, Bug, and Jeff — the recipes they’ve inspired — and the zest they bring to meals we share. For the luck of good neighbors and the love of friends. For memories. For years with the Barrons, who bestowed beauty, grace, and a bounty fit for magazine pages. For my grams, to whom I owe all senses of grace, to begin with. Beyond the sweet potatoes and pies a-plenty, I’m most thankful for the music around our town. For rock’n’roll. For good times. For the folks at YES! Weekly giving me an outlet to share them. And most of all for you, dear readers. Thank you. Cheers, y’all. Happy Thanksgiving.
First and foremost, I am thankful for my family. My two kids, Marc & Vera are my entire world. There’s nothing compared to the unconditional love from your child. I’m thankful for my husband, Freddy, who is such a loving and solid man. Why he puts up with me I’ll never know! I’m thankful for every blessing that I receive. I’ve even learned to become grateful for the hard times because that’s what makes us grow. My mother’s passing last year was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through. But I look back now and I am so thankful for the strength that she taught me, and I hope to live out her legacy. So, thank you to my family. My brother John, his wife Suzy (aka Panda), and my two nieces, who light up my world. My dad and my stepmom Donna go above and beyond supporting me, for which I can’t even think about without crying (tears of joy, that is). Lastly, I give much gratitude to my amazing boss Charles Womack. The last year and a half was really rough, and he stood by me through it all. There’s nothing like working with an amazing team and having a boss that encourages you. Thank you to all of you who follow us at YES! Weekly. I take much pride in each picture I take of all of the pretty faces around the Triad. Thank you for supporting me and being a part of this journey for the last six years. God Bless!
Naima Said I am thankful for all the opportunities I’ve been given in life, and my loving relationship with my religion, family, and friends. And late-night horror films with coffee of course.
Mark Burger I’m thankful that my friends and family are safe, that I have a job, and that things seem to be returning to sanity. ! NOVEMBER 24-30, 2021
Clodfelter feeds in Center City Park every Sunday morning
Giving thanks and feeding his community “Things have changed a lot,” said Earl Clodfelter in reference to the last time he was interviewed by YES! Weekly in 2018. That includes the circumstance in which Earle and Ian McDowell his wife Kriste live, but not their weekly Contributor practice of cooking free meals for anyone who lines up in front of his grill in Greensboro’s Center City Park. And not the circumstances of the people, most homeless or on limited incomes, who show up every Sunday morning for Earl’s hot cooking. Earl and Kriste met at the Interactive Resource Center when it was still run by Liz Seymour, who founded it in 2009 and stepped down in 2014. “We were in the art YES! WEEKLY
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program when they still had that there and when the staff treated the homeless like family.” Earl and Kriste lived in tents, and sometimes without them, for about five years, during which time they constantly had to move, as the city pushed homeless camps this way and that, or simply bulldozed them, in order to make way for new developments, or as acts of policing or “urban renewal.” When we talked in 2018, Earl was employed with Atlas Fencing, and he and Kriste had just moved into an apartment. “I’m now fully retired, and we own a Chevy Equinox, my truck, and an RV, and are in the process of buying a house.” More important is what hasn’t changed. “Every Sunday, we still feed folks in the park. Nobody goes away hungry. I’ve done it ever since I was homeless, and I’m not going to stop.” I asked Earl about how homelessness in Greensboro has changed in three years. “It’s exactly gotten worse, but more like
it fluctuates. We have more people homeless in winter than in summer, and the holidays are real rough on them, because who do they turn to, besides each other? The person in the tent sitting under the bridge beside you doesn’t have anything, either.” The saddest part, he said, is when the people who are on the street for years, finally attain some sort of housing, and then lose it again. “I’m one of the lucky ones, in that I broke out of my rut, but I’ve seen situations where someone would have housing for six months or so, then be out on the street again for a couple of years.” In 2018, he was getting occasional cash donations for his cause, but now it’s almost completely funded out of the couples’ pockets. “If people do want to donate, we’d rather it be stuff like blankets and jackets, as we’ve got the food covered. Anyone wanting to help or give us stuff should just show up in the park on Sunday morn-
ings. We start by 7:30 a.m. and usually finish by 9 a.m.” He said that the City doesn’t like it if they stay longer than that. “They don’t like the crowds, especially these crowds. But we also try to get out of here in time to let people go to church. Not everybody we feed is homeless, but some, when they get their SSI and pay their bills, they may have barely 20 dollars for the rest of the month, and a lot of them come down here for something to eat before they go to church.” His attitude towards city leaders has not softened since I last spoke to him. “The City Council, unfortunately, tries to make it like we don’t have a homeless situation, but we certainly do, with approximately 250 people who are either homeless or on the verge of it, and those numbers are increasing with all the evictions happening. But all the city council cares about is who donates to their political careers.” He said that some things have gotten
Earl Clodfelter makes grilled chesse for the homeless community better since the pandemic, when he was not allowed to feed people in the park and had to drive around the city to where they were sheltering, but other aspects have gotten worse. “Medical care for the homeless has almost totally disappeared. Even veterans who are on the street are having a hard time getting any kind of medical assistance, even when they are on Medicaid or whatever, as doctors aren’t taking new patients. The biggest bill any homeless person has is the emergency room.” I asked him what policies he’d like to see the city implement to combat homelessness. He acknowledged that there’s little municipal government can do about medical issues, but said there are things that can be done on a city level to help the people he feeds get back on their feet. “They could do what Corpus Christie, Texas did, and actually hire homeless folks to clean up the streets they live on, which is something that could get them off those streets. In Corpus Christie, the main city workers, other than heavy equipment operators and skilled laborers, are the homeless and formerly homeless. That’s been very successful.” WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
He also said he’d like to see more tiny houses, but not built or managed by the people who did that here in the past. “That ended up benefiting only developers. But if the city did a tiny house program where they incorporate homeless people helping to build the tiny houses, you can rent them the homes they build, and once they’ve got money saved up, move into an apartment, and the tiny house opens up for somebody else.” Earl said that, while he supports the Tanger Center and other such publiclyfunded arts venues, it has its dark side. “It’s not the center itself. I’m all for funding the arts, and it’s a great place and they’re doing a great job. But I think they need to emphasize to the folks coming downtown to attend it that this massive center was built right smack in the middle of where so many homeless folks live and that they have a right to be here, too. Some of their wealthier audience members walk through the park, and their attitude to the folks they see sitting on the benches is downright cruel.” Last Sunday morning, Earl grilled
cheese sandwiches prepped by his friend and fellow volunteer Mike Willer, a Wimbledon-born Youth Rugby Coach who said “cheers, mate” as he handed out cups of soup and biscuits cooked by fellow volunteer and rugby enthusiast Manoli Krinos. When I complimented Krinos on the biscuit that Willer insisted I try, he said, “it’s the lamb fat. I buy a whole carcass and shave it off while it’s frozen.” “Sunday is Pay It Forward day for us,” said Earl. “Both for me and Kriste, who have been there ourselves, and my friends here who have never been in that position, but have the eyes and heart to see
how it feels and feel how it looks.” This coming Sunday, when Willer and Krinos are spending the holiday weekend with their families and friends, Earl will be back, this time with Kriste and some of their kids. And he says they’ll have plenty to be thankful for. “We went from not knowing where we were going to get our next meal, where we could use the bathroom, or where we would sleep at night, to, after five years of being homeless, owning two vehicles and an RV that are totally paid off. We’re not rich by any means, but we have two bank accounts, food in our fridge at all times, and we’re about to buy a house and property. And we’re still at the same time giving back. So, the old saying about giving, if you give, you will receive, it’s true, no matter what your religious beliefs are or anything else.” ! IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of. NOVEMBER 24-30, 2021
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WHAT DO YOU ENJOY ABOUT BARTENDING? Meeting new people and making new friends.
AGE: Experienced WHERE ARE YOU FROM? Born in Germany and raised in the mountains of NC but originally generated by my favorite star... the Sun. HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BARTENDING? 20 years HOW DID YOU BECOME A BARTENDER? I was called to do it...by some guy
WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE DRINK TO MAKE? Not a lemon drop WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE DRINK TO DRINK? All of them. WHAT WOULD YOU RECOMMEND AS AN AFTER-DINNER DRINK? Jameson and Sprite.
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WHAT’S THE CRAZIEST THING YOU’VE SEEN WHILE BARTENDING? I’ve seen almost everything you could imagine happen, but to keep it “PG” it was probably the time two Llamas came into the bar after crawling out of a minivan. WHAT’S THE BEST TIP YOU’VE EVER GOTTEN? $1,000
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Food Songs from the Triad singer as a kind of take-off on Clara Smith’s ‘Ain’t Got Nobody To Grind My Coffee.’”
appy Thanksgiving Triad music lovers! As my thanks to you (and in honor of the Talking Heads’ seminal sophomore album, “More Songs Katei Cranford About Buildings and Food”) I offer this playlist of Triad artContributor ists and their songs about—you guessed it—buildings and food. 1. V.M.D - Jessica, It’s Breakfast Time (Let’s Eat!) (2020) Starting with the most important meal of the day, the track is as genuinely sweet as it is timely: a pandemic love song praising simple joys despite a world that “chooses property over Black lives.” “If we can share a meal with someone we love, we got it good. / With eggs and toast and choice of salted meats, Jessica it’s breakfast time—let’s eat.” Appearing on “I Don’t Wanna Get the Virus,” the late-2020 solo album from Jerrod Smith (Instant Regrets, Dickwölf, the Leeves) the song encapsulates, “a magical time when my wife and I both had Saturdays off,” Smith explained. “We’d make each other breakfast and watch stupid tv shows. It’s an ode to some of my favorite times.” 2. Cucumbers - a spark (2021) Cucumbers continue celebrating the sense of sharing on “a spark” off their latest record, “mel’s hole,” released in September. “A Ham on Rye, It’s from me to you. / A taste of where we’re from” With a name alone befitting place-
Still from Quilla’s music video Beans Beans Beans ment on this list, Cucumbers themselves are from the defunct Hellraiser Haus showspace; and the sandwich reference is an intentionally ambiguous food ploy. “I’m actually talking about the book by Charles Bukowski,” said songwriter Kyle Milton. “But I worded it in a way that I could actually be talking about an actual sandwich, too.” 3. Quilla - Beans Beans Beans (2014) In contrast to Cucumbers’ ambiguity, Quilla serves up a literal “one-word mantra,” as she put it, “about the humble bean.” Praising the ancient carb-protein combo, “they’re cheap, delicious, even magical,” she said, “I’ve long thought that humanity needed more songs about beans.” Appearing on her 2014 debut, “Beautiful Hybrid,” the song has since seen a resurgence via TikTok. “I guess it just struck a chord with Gen Z because it’s absurd yet powerful,” she said. “I finally made a music video for it, just this year. Now people refer to me as the Beans Lady, and I’m totally fine with that.”
4. Carolina Chocolate Drops Cornbread and Butterbeans (2010) Getting traditional, “Cornbread and Butterbeans” was a staple in the Carolina Chocolate Drops repertoire from their early days to the end, with a listing on their 2010 Grammy-winning “Genuine Negro Jig.” It’s simple, strangely sensual, and chock full of the best sides one could spread across a table. 5. Colin Cutler Hot Pepper Jam (2021) From sides to spreads, the title track from Cutler’s latest record drips with double-entendre, describing the process of making the actual jam he sells along with the record. Buttered biscuits, spreads, hot stuff, you get it. 6. Pete Pawsey Lemon Meringue (2018) Getting to the desserts, Pawsey is more straightforward. “It’s definitely just a song about pie,” he said, with a caveat. “The thought originates from a short story collection, wherein it’s sung by a blonde blues
7. Emily Stewart Moth to the Moon (2021) Doubling-down on pie—because that’s the best part of the meal—Stewart’s tune folds a recipe into dispelling long-held illusions around seasonal offerings. “In the midst of some pandemic baking, I made the shocking and crushing discovery, my two favorite pies—presented to me as different pies during childhood—are actually the same pie.” “Lemon chess pie / Buttermilk pie / Come to find out / It’s the same dang pie. / It was all a lie / But it’s a dern fine pie / Like a moth to the moon / To the table I’ll fly.” 8. Doug Baker Sweet Tea & Regrets (2021) Washing things down with folksy dad advice, Baker’s piano-driven tune appears on “Navigating Life,” his debut full-length released in October (after a few decades as a musician and educator around Greensboro). Offering reflection and simple steps to get oneself back on track, Baker turned to food metaphors, “to avoid getting too preachy,” he said—praising the influence of “good southern cuisine my sweetheart has mastered.” 9. The Raving Knaves Pho Hien Vuong (2009) Concepts of place and an idealized America ring in the amped-up jingle that could serve as a radio ad for the titular Vietnamese eatery in Greensboro. “David wrote it about the joys of a diverse society,” explained bassist Danny Bayer, “I always thought it had a real Kinks element to it, like their songs about a changing England.” Knaves guitarist, and songwriter, David McLean, however, sees the tune as a more American standard. PHOTO BY MARTY MARTIN
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The Raving Knaves Pho Hien Voung line up at the old Blind Tiger “I’ve always admired Chuck Berry’s style of lyrics that tell a story with a lot of detail,” McLean said, “so the lyrics became a heartfelt—maybe even sentimental— ode to how Greensboro, the South, and America overall felt to me at the time. The Obama years.” “Welcome to America, we can get along.” The background refrain weaves as McLean contrasts those days of the early ‘00s with his upbringing amongst lingering segregation during the early 1970s in Waxhaw, NC. “The Vietnam war loomed until I was 16,” he explained, “and there were almost no immigrants to speak of in the area. Even in Charlotte, Asian food was scarce.” Flip to 30 years later, he and his wife Paula (who played keys on the track) were dining at PHV and saw a group of formal-clad teens a few tables over. “I was so touched by how diverse the group was,” he said, recalling they left (presumably for a dance) in low-suspension Kias. “That souped up Kia’s cherry bomb / Is headed for the high school prom / And white kids go with Black kids and the Mexican / Is with a Filipino blonde” Times change. And, as McLean noted,
they keep changing. “Rock’n’roll is something I can be patriotic about,” he said. “And the ‘Welcome to America’ line was heartfelt. Now it makes me nostalgic.” “The land where I grew up is gone / I’m not convinced that’s so wrong / It’s still a place where I belong / And I can eat at Pho Hein Voung.” 10. Matty Sheets and the Blockheads - Al’s Diner (2013) Consider this an official nomination for the Triad’s own version of “Alice’s Restaurant.” Equally cinematic, though a bit less winding, “Al’s Diner” examines various hypocrisies through a host of characters: outof-doors landlords, bus-riding mechanics, the eponymous Al, “who rarely eats food.” “I was spending time with people who didn’t practice what they preach,” Sheets said, “but it was fun to write.” Lush production engulfs his trademark raspy croon, enveloped by the backing vocals of Lil P, Erin Hayes, and Emily Stewart—who also offer accordion, flute, and banjo, respectively—the full Blockhead band (bassist Jon Bohlen, drummer Jerrod Smith, and Mike O’Malley on keys) joins as the chorus swells. “Too much too fast too soon. / Do as I say, not as I do.” BONUS TRACKS: Dickwölf “The Black Friday EP,” (2017) As Santa rolls down 34th street to usher the holiday season across television screens, it’s important to remember what matters. And this punk-rock gem might help. Featuring the food-referencing banger, “Taco Party,” (a song, as writer Jerrod Smith noted, “for when life gets you down in every way, but you still got tacos”) the overall EP is “dedicated to all who have met their death as the system that caused it profited,” he added. “It’s about people dying during Black Friday sales at Walmart. Lives aren’t worth getting a cheap TV. But that’s just capitalism, baby!” ! KATEI CRANFORD is a Triad music nerd who enjoys spotlighting artists and events.
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Lately, women’s magazines keep mentioning “sociopaths.” What is a sociopath? From what I’ve read, it seems like both my exes were sociopaths. How do I avoid attracting others? —Wary Woman
When a guy asks you on a date, it would be great if you could check him out on LinkedIn and be all, “Oh, look...endorsements for embezzlement, insurance fraud, and identity theft!” Set aside everything you’ve read about sociopaths, much of which is probably wrong. Sociopathy and its nasty sibling, psychopathy, are manifestations of “antisocial personality disorder”: a relentless pattern of exploitative behavior involving a disregard for the rights of others and a lack of guilt upon violating them. However, sociopathy and psychopathy differ in meaningful ways, though they are often written about as if they are interchangeable — in the media and (ugh!) even by researchers. In short, sociopathy is “fire,” and psychopathy is “ice.” Psychopaths — the icy ones — are coldly calculating manipulators who fake caring about others but are incapable of forming any emotional attachments. (Think lurking plotters lying in wait.) Sociopaths are the fiery ones: impulsive, hot-headed, and boastful; easily enraged — even to the point of violent outbursts — making them more likely to end up in the slammer. Sociopaths sometimes
form one-on-one emotional attachments, but these are typically pretty toxic. Psychopaths are born, not made, meaning psychopathy is genetic and present from birth, reports forensic psychologist Scott A. Johnson. Sociopathy, on the other hand, is environmentally driven: typically resulting from harsh, abusive, indulgent, and/or neglectful parenting. There’s “no known effective treatment” for either psychopathy or sociopathy. However, a psychopath “easily cons treatment staff” to get a positive progress report, while sociopaths tend to act out angrily and get cut from treatment programs. You can’t avoid attracting sociopaths, but because they’re impulsive, explosive, and braggy, they can only hide their true nature for so long. You can be speedier at ejecting them from your life (along with other human nightmares) if you aren’t too quick to be “all in.” When you start dating someone, take a wait-and-see approach — over, say, three or even six months — and pay special attention to his behavior when he seems unaware he’s being observed. See whether a guy actually is your Mr. McDreamy, rather than sliding into the temptation to simply believe that — making yourself prone to ignore behavior that suggests he has a big scoop of hummus where his conscience is supposed to be.
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ing-focused priorities. However, you might decide it’s too painful to remain friends with him. Telling him how you feel might inspire him to change his behavior (or hide it better) — my bet...for a few days or a week. Another option would be to make peace with the sort of friend he’s able to be — which could be a temporary thing while he’s on the hunt — and spend more time with friends who share your priorities. There are friends who — upon getting your faint, staticky phone call for help from the Alaskan tundra — will drop everything, hop five planes, rent a team of sled dogs, and come rescue you...and then there are friends who will get on with dropping their pants on some chick’s floor, telling themselves you’ll probably get through to somebody else before your phone dies and you follow its lead. (“Testes before besties!”) ! GOT A PROBLEM? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@ aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com). Follow her on Twitter @amyalkon. Order her latest “science-help” book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence. ©2021 Amy Alkon. Distributed by Creators.Com.
I’m a 22-year-old woman. I’m bothered my best guy friend’s shift in priorities. We talked about meeting up, and when I asked about his schedule, he said it depends on the schedules of women he’s meeting for dates. I found this really rude, especially because I always have the decency to prioritize my friends over any random romantic prospect. —Angry
Apparently, the lyrics of the Carole King classic, “You’ve Got a Friend,” should’ve included disclaimers throughout; for example: “You just call out my name, And you know, wherever I am, I’ll come running” (“though there may be a several-day wait if there’s a really good opportunity for my penis”). The actual problem here is not the apparent shift in the guy’s priorities but how they now differ sharply from yours — leading to an imbalance in what you put into the friendship versus what you’re getting out of it. “Equity theory,” developed in the 1960s by behavioral psychologist J. Stacy Adams (and originally applied to business relationships), suggests this sort of “inequity” leads to “dissatisfaction and low morale.” Recent research on equity theory confirms that we evaluate our friendships (and other relationships) based on how fair they are. We look for reciprocity: a level of mutualness in how much we and our friend are each investing in the friendship. When we perceive a friend is giving much less than we are, we get miffy and are motivated to put them on notice or give them the boot. The guy isn’t wrong to have more mat-
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