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In terms of celebrating vintage Hollywood, The University Press of Kentucky’s ongoing “Screen Classics” series has itself been cause for celebration, consistently delivering first-class, first-rate, highly informative, and ENTERTAINING SHOW-BIZ BIOGRAPHIES that are frequently the definitive volumes... 5 Celebrate love and your local LGBTQ+ community at the 2021 VIRTUAL PRIDE PARADE. The agency has been running a contest throughout the month of June for anyone looking to participate in the parade competition. 6 In the 2018 mid-term ELECTIONS, Greensboro attorney Kathy Manning, a Democrat, challenged incumbent Republican Ted Budd, who was seeking his second term in Congress. The two candidates first appeared together on “Triad Today” in October of that year... 7 This may be faint praise, but screenwriter/producer/director M.J. Bassett’s ENDANGERED SPECIES isn’t as bad as it


initially seems, and the third act is actually pretty good. 10 The minimum training standards for public access for a SERVICE DOG by the International Association of Assistance Dog Partners (IAADP) entails a minimum of 120 hours of training for six months or more, with at least 30 hours devoted to outings to prepare the dog to work obediently in public spaces. 13 Pets love unconditionally no matter the circumstances, and DOGGOS wanted to celebrate them, and their owners, with its first three-day Pride event. The business, located at 1214 Battleground Ave., has teamed up with local organizations and businesses to show owners and pets how much they are appreciated. 14 If there were a mascot of Greensboro music, it’d have to be BUSTER, a tiny little bob-tail pooch that popped onto the scene as a house-show straggler in 2010. And into the arms of the many show goers he’s encountered since.

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Jane Russell and Jayne Mansfield: Leading ladies of yesteryear


n terms of celebrating vintage Hollywood, The University Press of Kentucky’s ongoing “Screen Classics” series has itself been cause for celebration, consistently delivering first-class, first-rate, highly informative, and entertaining show-biz biographies that are frequently the definitive volumes of those whose Mark Burger lives and careers they chronicle. Now, two of the most prominent sex sirens of American cinema, Jane Contributor Russell and Jayne Mansfield, have each received what some would consider an overdue honor in their respective new biographies: Christina Rice’s Mean … Moody … Magnificent: Jane Russell and the Marketing of a Hollywood Legend (372 pages, $29.95 retail) and Eve Golden’s Jayne Mansfield: The Girl Simply Couldn’t Help It (502 pages, $34.95 retail). Each biography is thoroughly researched, written with insight, candor, and compassion. Fans couldn’t ask for better. There are distinct parallels in the lives of Russell and Mansfield: Both were “manufactured” as stars – Russell as the quintessential ’40s sexpot and Mansfield in the ’50s as the “next Marilyn Monroe.” Both of their careers were launched on the basis of their physical attributes,


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which were considerable. Both endured tumultuous romantic relationships and bouts with alcoholism. Both were devoted to their families. When film work dried up, both enjoyed success performing at nightclubs. Both attracted more than their fair share of headlines, but while Russell parlayed her celebrity status and resultant attention into promoting her tireless efforts on behalf of the IAA (International Adoption Agency), which she founded in the 1950s, Mansfield was simply interested in headlines. Good or bad – and it was often the latter – Mansfield craved the spotlight, even to the detriment of her career and personal life. Jane Russell earned instant fame – and notoriety – with her very first film, The Outlaw, a “scandalous” Western that now seems remarkably tame, albeit strange. This is entirely due to Howard Hughes, who not only produced the film but directed it as well (replacing no less than Howard Hawks). The film was completed in 1941, but Hughes, as was his wont, waited two years to release it, then kept it in release for several years afterward. Russell’s relationship with the mercurial, increasingly eccentric Hughes was periodically punctuated by sparring, but there was mutual respect. As for rumors of romantic involvement, it doesn’t seem likely, and to the end, Russell always spoke highly of the mysterious Mr. Hughes. Russell was also one of the first female stars to launch her own production company, Russ-Field Productions, in collaboration with her first husband, NFL legend Robert Waterfield. Later in life, she had no problem being recognized chiefly as the celebrity spokesperson for Playtex bras. (Indeed, for some people, that may be all they know about Jane Russell!) She could be contradictory. As a fervent and outspoken Christian conservative, she occasionally made statements that could be described as “politically incorrect.” She spoke out against homosexuality, yet she also embraced her gay following. At a retrospective screening of one of her best-known films, Gentlemen Prefer Blondes (1954), at the Castro Theatre in San Francisco, the audience was primarily LGBTQ, and there were concerns she would be offended by female impersonators who mimicked her act. On the contrary, she even insisted they pose for pictures with her. The title Mean … Moody … Magnificent! notwithstanding, there’s no doubt that Jane Russell had a big heart. Yes, she sometimes had a big mouth, but as tough as she could be, she was perhaps toughest on herself. Jayne Mansfield, on the other hand, wasn’t tough enough on herself. She was hell-bent on becoming a star from the get-go, and this obsessive determination remained unabated. By that point, the thrice-married Mansfield was only 34 years old, and her career was in steep decline. The majority of publicity she was receiving at this point were reports of drunkenness, public brawls, and infidelity. She had gone from pin-up to punchline and had become her own worst enemy. But author Golden treats Mansfield with respect and sympathy. It delves deep into her life, past the gossip

and (increasingly desperate) publicity stunts that so dominated her career, to reveal the insecurities that truly dominated, and eventually decimated, her life. Both books encompass the professional careers of Russell and Mansfield in an entertaining fashion, but it’s the personal lives of both ladies that provide the most compelling elements of both biographies. Russell and Mansfield truly come alive in these pages. In addition to these new releases, the University Press of Kentucky has reissued some of its earlier books in paperback: —The Brief, Madcap Life of Kay Kendall (236 pages, $24.95 retail), also written by Eve Golden, with Kim Kendall Campbell (Kay’s sister). —Michael Curtiz: A Life in Film (712 pages, $30 retail) by Alan K. Rode – which was originally reviewed in this very column. —Wild Bill Wellman: Hollywood Rebel (658 pages, $29.95 retail) written by his son William Wellman Jr. —Steven H. Gale’s Sharp Cut: Harold Pinter’s Screenplays and the Artistic Process (538 pages, $34.95 retail), a self-explanatory examination of the screen works of the esteemed writer. —The official University Press of Kentucky website is https://www.kentuckypress.com/. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2021, Mark Burger.


Virtual but still full of pride Celebrate love, health, and your local LGBTQ+ community at the 2021 Virtual Pride Parade, hosted by Triad Health Project. The agency has been running a contest throughout the month of June for anyone looking to participate in the parade competition. The best parade entry would win a pizza party. Since June 1, 2021, submissions Naima Said have been accepted in video format and could’ve been posted on Facebook or Instagram for others to see. Contributor Submission entry ends this Saturday. Staff at THP will then vote on the submissions, and the winner will receive pizza for up to 50 people. During a Wellness Wednesday live cast on Wednesday, June 30, the winner will be announced on the agency’s Facebook page, followed by a congratulations post on Facebook and Instagram. “We haven’t thrived without good teachers. Since 1986, we’ve walked alongside brave men, women... unwilling to simply survive but to flourish against the most extreme odds. They did so with the unflinching devotion of a loving community,” said Mark Cassity, Executive Director of Triad Health Project. “We started the idea as an internal office parade, a way for us here to be together in the office and just have an office parade. I then thought to myself to bring this to the


community in some way, and so we focused on other nonprofits who would be interested in participating and conducting their own office parade, but we decided to open it up to all businesses to see who would submit. We want to compile all the videos together to create one big parade for everyone to be a part of. We decided to keep it virtual to keep in line with Covid safety guidelines,” said Adriana Adams, Associate Director. The purpose of the parade, and the overall message of Triad Health Project, is to encourage others to become a better ally to the LGBTQ+ community, whether that is becoming a better listener, more open-minded, being inclusive, and speaking out against any anti-LGBTQ+ comments and harmful jokes. Triad Health Project does that by being an HIV-focused organization, helping to manage cases of those living with HIV, making sure they have everything they need from a holistic approach, and focusing on preventing STIs and pregnancy. “At our bedrock, we want to make sure we are looking to the Queer community and telling them ‘we see you; we are you.’ We want to make sure pride is a big thing we are working on. Since June rolled around, we have done so much, always trying to serve our community,” said Julie

McKnight, Wellness and Outreach Manager. “I sat and asked myself, ‘What can we do that is fun?’ We always want the environment to be fun and find a way to connect that to the community,” Adams added. “Triad Health Project’s national pride event will take place in September for everyone to come out together, but we still wanted to find a way to celebrate during the month of June. Triad Health Project has been appointment only, masked up, and holding a mental load. So our team wanted to get together and do a little dancing. Our office parade will come out a little before submissions are due to give others an idea or inspiration. I will be part of the decorating team. I already called it and am excited to see what we can do,” said Corey Higgins, Prevention and Outreach Manager. For more information, volunteer opportunities, and donation options, check out their website: https://triadhealthproject.org/, Instagram: https://www.instagram. com/triadhealthproject/, or Facebook: https://www. facebook.com/TriadHealthProject/. ! NAIMA SAID is a 22-year-old UNCG theatre graduate and host of Heeere’sNeeNee Horror Movie Podcast.

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Budd, Manning to Appear on Triad Today


n the 2018 mid-term elections, Greensboro attorney Kathy Manning, a Democrat, challenged incumbent Republican Ted Budd, who was seeking his second Jim Longworth term in Congress. The two candidates first appeared together Longworth on “Triad Today” in at Large October of that year, and their interaction was, at times, contentious. Budd went on to win re-election, and Manning won her own seat two years later, representing the newly formed 6th Congressional district which encompasses all of Guilford and part of Forsyth. This weekend, the pair will once again appear jointly on “Triad Today,” but not as adversaries. This time around, the two Congressional colleagues will report on and discuss public policy initiatives that affect our nation. This special voter education edition of “Triad Today” was taped on June 2 when

Budd and Manning were home on break from Washington. Here are some highlights of our 30-minute conversation. JL: Thanks to the stimulus checks and extended unemployment benefits, millions of people are in no hurry to go back to work, and employers are having trouble finding employees. Did the government offer too much Pandemic relief, just enough? Or not enough? KM: I think it’s important to remember that we were in a situation where we had had almost half a million deaths in this country from COVID. We had just gotten a vaccine developed, but we had no plan by the prior administration to get vaccines and get shots in arms. So I was so proud to be able to work for and vote for the American Rescue Plan, and with that plan, we’ve gotten shots in arms. We’ve gotten money to people who were not able to buy food, so people are not going hungry. It helped a lot of people. TB: During the Trump administration in the last Congress, I think it started out being just enough, but then it became more and more, and later on we saw packages, particularly under the Biden administration, like the American Rescue Plan,

ostensibly to help with COVID, but only 10% of it actually dealt with COVID. Even a smaller fraction even dealt with vaccines. Now we need to get people back into the workforce. JL: Last year, there were 612 mass shootings in the United States. This year so far, there have been over 200 more, yet Congress still hasn’t passed a comprehensive package to curb gun violence. What are you waiting for? KM: I was thrilled to be able to vote for two gun safety bills that have passed the House. The first one would put in place universal background checks, and that is something that is supported by 90 percent of Americans. TB: We want to keep firearms out of the hands of dangerous individuals, including somebody with terrorist intent, criminal intent, and right now, what we’re especially dealing with is mental illness. JL: Let’s talk about the January insurrection. House Democrats and 39 Republicans voted to create a bipartisan commission to study what happened. Ted, you voted against the commission. Why? TB: Because it is already being investigated by the FBI, by DOJ, and by the

Washington DC police, so there’s already investigations going on, so what we want to do is de-politicize it. We don’t need a politicized commission that makes it a public spectacle. KM: I was in the House gallery that day. I was in the last group brought out to safety… We have a right to know what happened, so of course, I voted in favor of it. We want to know the truth. We want to know what happened, how it got to that point, and how we can stop it in the future. JL: What is Congress doing to reform law enforcement? KM: I was pleased to vote for the George Floyd Justice in Policing Act, and that Act would ban some of the atrocities like chokeholds, no-knock warrants, and it would create a national database so that a police officer fired for abusive practices in one jurisdiction, can’t be hired by another jurisdiction. TB: I would want to support things like the Community Policing Act and make sure we invest in our police. We should never defund our police. It’s a horrible solution. This special edition of “Triad Today” will air Saturday at 7:30 a.m. on abc45 and Sunday at 11 a.m. on MY48. !



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his may be faint praise, but screenwriter/producer/director M.J. Bassett’s Endangered Species isn’t as bad as it initially seems, and the third act is actually pretty good. That may not be a rousing endorsement, but – hey – it could have

been worse. The premise is exceedingly simple: A typical, all-American family on vacation in Kenya goes on a sight-seeing trip – without a guide – and things go very wrong from there. Dad (co-producer Philip Winchester) is an Exxon executive who’s recently been put on “administrative leave” following an environmental mishap – which he’s kept from his family. Mom (Rebecca Romijn) is a diabetic just trying to keep the peace.

Daughter Zoe (Isabel Bassett, who penned the screenplay with father M.J.) has dropped out of college, much to Dad’s exasperation, and has also brought laid-back, long-haired boyfriend Billy (Chris Fisher) along for the trip. Son Noah (North Carolina native Michael Johnston) feels slighted by Dad for coming out as gay. Thus far, we have more the makings of a soap opera than an exploitation film. Endangered Species is, alas, one of those films predicated on the short-sightedness and stupidity of its characters, who blithely charge into peril without a single thought as to the consequences, which inevitably result. Their drive into the bush takes them off the main road because, as Jack says, “Your mom wants to see a rhino.” Well, they do see a rhino. Then they see a baby rhino. Then the big rhino rams their car and flips it over, goring Jack’s leg and dislocating Zoe’s shoulder in the bargain. Mom’s insulin is destroyed, and – surprise, surprise – no one can get a cellphone signal. Then the hyenas arrive, and they’re not laughing. As the characters argue, bringing up long-held grudges, it’s obvious to the

audience that their domestic travails pale in comparison with the issue at hand – simple survival. There’s simply too much talk in Endangered Species. These are stock characters with stock problems. Get to the mayhem. Once the film does, it perks up considerably, even if some of the CGI effects are rather on the dodgy side. To be fair, the actors attempt to bring some depth to their cardboard characters, and they do suffer convincingly enough to make their plight reasonably engrossing. Winchester, Bassett, and Fisher fare best, but Romijn has little to do. Jerry O’Connell (Romijn’s real-life husband) has fun chewing the scenery as an expatriate American whose agenda is fairly transparent from the outset. It’s unfortunate, however, that the vast majority of black African actors on hand are relegated to playing servants, soldiers, or poachers. The fade-out is undeniably hokey, and an end legend denounces the ongoing poaching problems in Africa, perhaps to justify the blood and guts that have preceded it. In any event, the African scenery is quite lovely, although Endangered Species may not be the ideal avenue for promoting tourism there.

– Endangered Species is available on-demand and digital, as well as DVD ($19.98 retail) and Blu-ray ($21.99 retail) – each replete with bonus features -- from Lionsgate Home Entertainment. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2021, Mark Burger.


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What to do with all those 17-year cicadas blanketing the eastern half of the country? Sarah Dwyer of Chouquette Chocolates in Bethesda, Maryland, is coating them in chocolate and selling

them as exotic treats, Reuters reported. She calls them delicious. “When you combine the chocolate, the cinnamon and the nuttiness of the bugs, it really gives you that holiday feeling of when you’re walking around a big city and they’re roasting nuts on the sidewalk, that cinnamon smell, it’s really what it tastes like,” Dwyer said. She and her employees gather the bugs from trees behind the business and put them in paper bags, which they place in the freezer. Then the cicadas are boiled

and crisped in an air fryer. “I did go to pastry school in Paris to learn my dipping technique,” Dwyer said. “I’m pretty sure no one thought I’d be using it on cicadas.”


An entrepreneurial real estate buyer got more than he bargained for in Brooksville, Florida, when he bought a municipal building for $55,000 in April. The building sits underneath the town’s water tower, and when Bobby Read went to the county to get an address for his new building, he discovered he had also bought the large structure. The Associated Press reported that the community-minded Read transferred the tower back to Brooksville through a warranty deed in May. City Manager Mark Kutney said a bad legal description of the property was to blame for the snafu: “We’re human. Sometimes we make a mistake.”


Aron Jermaine Major, 47, of Atlanta is accused of 17 counts of burglary after a crime spree that gave him the moniker “the crawling burglar,” The Atlanta Journal-Constitution reported. Starting last September, Major slithered through windows at metro Atlanta restaurants and across the floor, avoiding motion detectors, to rob the businesses of cash and liquor. He was finally apprehended in a traffic stop, where his signature clothing — a “black jacket with a distinct, gray, angular pattern on both shoulders and sleeves,” according to police — and the tag number on his car gave him away. Major has several burglary convictions on his record; he was held in the Cobb County jail without bond.


When an unnamed 18-year-old found herself locked out of her home in Henderson, Nevada, on June 15, she followed the example of a certain right jolly old elf and tried to enter the home through the chimney, United Press International reported. Henderson firefighters posted on Facebook that the woman became stuck “just above the flue,” and they used a rope system to pull her to safety. She was uninjured (except maybe for her pride).


Up for auction in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, is a painting that was purchased in a South River thrift store for $4.09 by an unnamed buyer. After buying the painting, NPR reported, the purchaser noticed the artist’s signature on the back, with a date of 1997. Canadian auction house Cowley Abbott has identified the


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painting as “DHead XLVI” by rock superstar David Bowie, who died in 2016. It’s part of a series of 47 pieces of art Bowie made between 1995 and 1997. As of press time, bids were up to $38,100.


Kristen Bishop, 33, and Sophie Miller, 26, were strangers from Texas until late March, when Miller called Bishop to reveal that both women were dating the same man, “Adam.” At first, Bishop didn’t believe Miller’s tale, but soon the facts came to light, and the two women cooked up a plot for revenge. The Scottish Sun reported that Bishop and Adam had planned a vacation to Turkey for early April, which was just a few days after the revealing phone call. When they landed in Istanbul, Bishop told him that she knew what had been going on; Miller met them at the airport, and the two women abandoned Adam, whom both had met on the dating app Hinge. Bishop had changed all the reservations in his name to Miller’s. “His jaw dropped when he saw (Sophie),” Bishop said. “We became friends quite quickly after we met up,” Bishop said of herself and Miller. “We really bonded over the eight-day trip, and it’s by far the happiest thing out of this unfortunate situation, that I found a great friend.”


The Dutch owners of a 61-year-old Noah’s Ark replica and the British Maritime and Coastguard Agency are locked in an “impossible stalemate” over the huge vessel, which has been docked at Ipswich, England, since November 2019. The MCA declared the 230-foot-long ark not to be seaworthy, so it cannot sail, the Ipswich Star reported, and the owners have been fined 500 pounds each day. For their part, the owners say the boat, home to a biblical museum, was always categorized as a “non-certified floating object.” British Transport Secretary Grant Shapps has been called in to intervene.


A nature camera disguised as a piece of bark in the Nizhne-Svirsky Nature Reserve in Russia fell victim to a persistent woodpecker, United Press International reported. A black woodpecker named Zhelna, looking for insects in the wood, pecked at the camera for several days until it broke, reserve workers posted on Facebook. The device has been removed for repairs. !

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Where’s Walter?: Family Begins Fundraising for Mobility Service Dog to Give to Son

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Sometimes we just need some extra pair of hands or paws or something to help get stuff done,” Allison Layton, a wife and mother of twins, said Jessica Clifford about her family’s everyday life. Layton, a WinstonContributor Salem native, and her family are fundraising for a service dog already given the name Walter. The dog is for her son Ian Layton, 8, who has spastic quadriplegic cerebral palsy, a type of spastic cerebral palsy that causes muscle tightness, impacting his mobility in all four limbs to some degree. For Ian, his legs are more impacted than his arms. According to Layton, the condition is on a spectrum, with Ian’s case in the moderate range. The Center for Disease Control states that cerebral palsy is “caused by abnormal brain development or damage to the developing brain that affects a person’s ability to control his or her muscles.” It is the most common motor disability in childhood. Ian and his twin brother Owen Layton were born prematurely at just 29 weeks along. “When you’re born that early, you know that there can sometimes be things that go wrong, but it wasn’t until he was two that we got his diagnosis,” Layton said. Ian struggles with most physical activities, requiring assistance for various movements like sitting and standing. He uses a motorized wheelchair for mobility. According to Layton, he requires mostly total care, except for feeding himself. While the condition itself should not deteriorate, other side effects can come about from cerebral palsy. While Ian has struggles in his everyday life, he is defined by his passions and love. According to Layton, Ian “loves all things

sports,” which she said “goes above and beyond” other children. “He told a friend of ours…that he likes every sport except rugby, except he kind of likes rugby,” Layton said, laughing. She believes Ian’s love for sports comes from the thought of “living vicariously through these people.” His mom says he is also a fan of politics and public radio. Ian is “presidentobsessed,” knowing when each president was born and died and can tell the numerical order of when each president took office. In addition, Layton said, he is an “adrenaline junkie.” He loves to go higher and faster as well as enjoys the excitement of amusement park rides. As for getting a service dog, Layton said, “it’s something we’ve thought about over the years; we know it can be helpful for people like my son, but there are a couple things that held us back.” According to Layton, beforehand, he was still too young to get a mobility service dog, and the expense of buying and training one range from $17,000$50,000. “After looking at the money it was going to cost, I was like why not just go ahead and put it out there because this is probably going to take us conservatively a year to raise the money if not more,” Layton said. “We started it pretty quickly once we realized that he was serious.” Nearing the end of the school year, Ian’s one-on-one, a person who assists in ways to keep him in the mainstream classroom, gave a note to Ian’s parents that he scribed. The note read: “Dear Mom and Dad, I want a service dog because I can take them into restaurants. My service dog, Walter, would be my friend, and we would talk and play all the time. My service dog, Walter, can be my helper by bringing things to me without asking others.” The letter was the catalyst for the family to seriously research buying a service dog for Ian. A week or two after receiving the letter, they started the fundraiser. “When he sent that letter, I was like ‘oh, you thought this out. You put thought into it; you’ve done some research,” Layton said. She has seen the research for herself.


Ian owns an Alexa and asks her to search videos of service dogs or what their breeds typically are. According to Layton, they already started three applications, with one each in Ohio, Florida, and North Carolina, as the process is lengthy. Service dogs are typically bred as labs, shepherds, or doodles of some kind, Layton said. If Ian could choose his dog, his dream would be a golden retriever. The minimum training standards for public access for a service dog by the International Association of Assistance Dog Partners (IAADP) entails a minimum of 120 hours of training for six months or more, with at least 30 hours devoted to outings to prepare the dog to work obediently in public spaces. IAADP is a non-profit, cross-disability organization whose mission is to seek and promote responsible use of access rights in the disabled community. According to Layton, while service dogs are bonded to the human they are assisting, they are also house pets and enjoy the comfort of an entire family. “You hear so much about how a service


dog is a working dog, and it needs to be so bonded to its primary person,” she said. After doing more research and hearing from others who train service dogs, Layton said, “yes, it’s a working dog, but it’s also a family pet.” When the dog is not on duty, he or she gives love to others. As Ian grows older, Layton believes the service dog will be a “game-changer” for living his everyday life. Ian chose the name Walter because it is a character in the hit Christmas movie “Elf.” Walter is Buddy’s dad, who learns to love Christmas. As coincidence would have it, Ian’s favorite dog when his family goes to Tanglewood Dog Park is named Walter. “I think that’s coincidence, though, because he had already written the letter before we started taking our dog Murphy out there,” Layton said. “We go to Tanglewood, and here’s this dog named Walter that he just gravitated to.” Since the animal is identified in her son’s mind, Layton said, “that was another piece, this thing has a name already – he exists!” According to Layton, Walter would be PHOTO BY ALLISON LAYTON

Ian with his brother Owen.

beneficial to Ian in a few ways. His parents want him to be safe, such as when he rides his scooter on sidewalks. In addition, the dog could assist with picking up items, helping pull on and off clothing, and even pressing an elevator button, which is hard for people who use wheelchairs. Walter could also offer Ian companionship and social connection. “Even if we go somewhere and Ian’s not able to participate, he won’t just be sitting there by himself. He’ll have his buddy,” Layton said. However, she believes the biggest reason Ian wants a service dog is to gain more independence. “He hears the word wait a lot because I work full-time, my husband works, he has a twin, and we have a dog,” she said. “It’s just like you would tell any other kid to wait, but he hears it a lot more because he can’t get up and go get the snacks from the pantry or if he drops the remote.” “We will always help him, but just not always on his timeline,” Layton said. Although the family set up an online fundraiser, they have been and will continue to organize events for Walter as well. Recently, Layton said, the family hosted a “Workout for Walter” event with her husband, a personal trainer. In the future, the family wants to host a “Waffles for Walter” and a “Walk for Walter” like Relay for Life, allowing children and people of various abilities to take part. “What we don’t want to do is expect people to give us money,” Layton said. “We want to be out here working for it and show Ian and his brother that, yes, people are being very generous with their money, but also you’re putting in work to help get to that point.” The family’s goal is to raise $30,000. “I know that that sounds like such a high (amount), and we may never meet it, but if you never put it out there, you’ll never know,” Layton said. “We’re hopeful that one way or another we will get a service dog, whether we have to just find the money ourselves,” she said. According to Layton, some organizations that breed and train service dogs only require a donation of a certain amount.



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If the family needs less money than the amount they raise, they will stop the fundraiser and donate the remainder of the funds to a family in a similar situation. In the past and presently, the community has offered a lot of help for the family. As Layton says, Walter, in their minds, will be a “community service dog.” “If there is one thing that I’ve learned in this special needs journey is that you don’t do it alone, there’s just no way,” Layton said. “We are not accessible enough yet, and we are not inclusive enough yet. You have to have other people to help you.” “Our hope is that we can get Ian his dog and be able to help the next person on their journey,” she said. According to the website, and as of Friday, June 18, 2021, the family has raised $5,500. ! JESSICA CLIFFORD is a graduate student at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She is typically found reading, writing short stories and poetry, or hanging around friends and family with a glass of wine in hand.



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Red Dog farm rescues more than dogs and cats YES! Weekly recently spoke to Lauren Reihl, Executive Director of Red Dog Farm, while Riehl was delivering two new rescues to the 21-acre intake facility her organization recently opened Ian McDowell off Highway 65 in Stokesdale. “We received a Contributor call from Rockingham County Animal shelter that they had a male and female Dwarf Nigerian goat and were wondering if we could come get them,” said Riehl on the phone, adding, “Hey, don’t eat that!” to one of her hircine charges. Red Dog Farm Animal Rescue Network is a North Carolina nonprofit formed in 2006 to rescue and rehabilitate neglected, abused, or otherwise unwanted animals in and around Guilford County. Most of the animals do not live on the actual farm but are in the care of individual foster families. Red Dog pays all of the bills for those animals while finding them their forever homes. When asked how far Red Dog staff and volunteers will travel to pick up an animal, Riehle said it depended on the species. “For dogs, cats, and rabbits, we stay very full with the ones coming from the Triad.” But Riehl said they would travel farther for animals local rescues can’t handle, such as when she went to West Virginia for a herd of 15 alpaca. “In some cases, we have foster homes specifically for particular species. For instance, we have one that will only host tarantulas. So, if we get a call tomorrow from somebody in South Carolina who needs to surrender a tarantula, we’ll call our tarantula fosterer and bring it in. A tarantula is a lot easier to transport than Bella, the Belgian draft horse who was probably the largest animal we ever rescued.” Riehl said that, over the years, Red Dog had rescued almost 50 different species. “We’ve had two emus, both of whom were found as juvenile strays. We think that they had probably wandered off looking for girlfriends after being kicked out of their group. They were both found in Guilford County. One was Curtis, and the other one was Newman. Newman is still hanging out and happy and chilling at his farm. Curtis was the very first one we found 12 years ago when he was a couple YES! WEEKLY

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of years old, and he has since passed.” Red Dog has fostered a variety of reptiles. “We had a call a couple of weeks ago about a crested Chinese water dragon, but the person calling us found a family member who decided to take it. We’ve had iguanas, plenty of geckos, plenty of ball pythons, plenty of bearded dragons. Sadly, most of the bearded dragons that come in have metabolic bone disease because their previous owners never got proper information on their diet.” Red Dog is not licensed for native species. “When we were out at Burr-Mill, we had a couple of folks drop off box turtles. We then worked with a turtle rescue in Raleigh to get the turtles back to near where they were found, as box turtles typically stay within one mile.” North Carolina has no state-wide laws on private ownership of exotic animals. “There are a number of species that folks can technically legally own, but that doesn’t mean they should. There’s just a lot to unpack when it comes to exotics in the state of North Carolina, and really and

truly across the United States.” We then talked about the pet the organization is named after. “The Red Dog is what Garland Graham and her husband Gary called one of their beloved Golden Retrievers. He was the reason the Grahams moved out to Summerfield and bought a farm property that became our original location. They wanted him to have a retirement spot, and they named their farm after their dog.” The Grahams rescued Golden Retrievers. “Once they had a farm, folks started calling them to take goats and other livestock that had been pets. And so, Garland would say, well, bring ‘em in, and we’ll figure it out from there.” But, after taking in donkeys, sheep, and pot-bellied pigs, the Grahams realized it was time to formalize Red Dog. “Their original goal was to have 10 animals in the program at a time. About 18 months later, it had outgrown what they could do in their dining room and their barn, and they needed an administrative office and an executive director.

And so, they moved out to Burr-Mill Park and hired me in 2008. For 11 years, we had administrative offices out at Burr-Mill, and we used foster homes for everything.” Eventually, said Riehl, they came to realize they needed a new system. “We had always been functioning with a couple of foster homes acting as a kind of intake facility for us, but we needed our own farm that could function as an intake facility for our farm animals and exotics. Our dogs and cats have a different intake process and are not housed here on the property. So, the idea was that this property would be our permanent home and would be an intake facility for us to be able to respond quickly to situations that needed action. Where the animals could come in here, get checked out, and their medical work done, get accessed, with their behavior and medical needs figured out, and then we end up sending them out to foster homes until they get adopted. We now have between 80 and 100 animals at any given time, ranging from horses to the 10 guinea pigs that we have in the program right now.” Riehl said the pandemic has been “Ironical beneficial” for Red Dog. “For the dogs and cats, particularly, but really, for all of the animals. They come in, they go, they come in, they go. We just brought a puppy into the program that’s not on our website because the foster parent had it in for 48 hours and then said not to list it, as they wanted to foster to adopt. So, she’s not even going to be up on our website.” Riehl said the puppy would still get a thorough checkup. “We do hold all our animals for a period of time to make sure they get all the medical work and everything they need, even if somebody is interested in fostering them into adoption. We want to make sure all the medical work is done and that it is the right placement.” Before going back to goat-wrangling, Riehl had some parting words for our readers. “I will say that with the world starting to open back up after COVID, we’re starting to increase some of our volunteer activities, and we are always in need of foster homes. We can only help as many animals as we have financial and foster resources for. If anybody has an interest in fostering, volunteering, or donating, they can do that through our website at Reddogfarm. com.” ! IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.


Pet Business teams up with local businesses to celebrate Pride Pets love unconditionally no matter the circumstances, and Doggos wanted to celebrate them, and their owners, with its first three-day Pride event. The business, located at 1214 Battleground Ave., has teamed up with local organizations and businesses to show owners and pets how much they are appreciated. Doggos has partnered with the Naima Said Guilford Green Foundation and LGBTQ center, located at 121 N. Greene St., which focuses on helping Contributor the LGBTQ+ community in any way they may need assistance, whether as an emotional resource or helping receive grants and scholarships. The first day of the Pride weekend began Friday, June 18th, which marked Pride and Pints day. “This event is part of the Green Foundation Give Out Day, a campaign that culminates all different organizations to participate in giving back. You could text to give to the campaign, and it would ask you how much you wanted to pledge and which organization you preferred to donate to. They also had their own booth to speak about their organization and answer any questions,” said Chantell Hailey, guest experience coordinator at Doggos. On Saturday, June 19th, Doggos celebrated Rainbow Day, and All Pets Considered, located on 2614 Battleground Ave., came to the business to provide grooming services at a set price. Those services ranged from pets getting their nails painted rainbow colors to pet airbrushing. In addition, the Rockin Moroccan Food Truck made an WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

appearance in the afternoon to join in on the festivities. “All Pets Considered donated a portion of their funds for every airbrushing service, and Doggos donated ten percent of our bar sales to the Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a national organization that helps LGBTQ+ members with mental health, specifically suicide,” Hailey said. On Sunday, June 20th, the fun continued with Doggos Sunday Funday, where people and their pets could partake in festivities such as Pride-themed music Bingo. “We brought in a DJ, who is part of the local LGBTQ+ community, and she created a playlist of LGBTQ+ friendly music or songs that are specifically aimed at the community from a variety of artists both known nationally and locally,” Hailey said. “We also had a costume contest where people and their pups dressed up as their favorite Gay Icon, or member of the LGBTQ+ community that they admire, which happened to be my favorite part of the event because I was partial to see what everyone and their pups would come dressed up as.” Pinche Tacos also came by and celebrated with the business, “sharing with us their delicious cuisine and sweet service that would make anyone’s day a little brighter,” Hailey added. For the entire weekend, Doggos had a rainbow selfiestation set up, art projects brought in from the LGBTQ+ community, rainbow t-shirts for sale, and specialty drinks. Hailey ended with, “We hope to continue this tradition for years to come and only grow in what we can provide for our members and the community at large.” ! NAIMA SAID is a 22 -year-old UNCG theatre graduate and host of Heeere’sNeeNee Horror Movie Podcast.



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Buster, the show dog


f there were a mascot of Greensboro music, it’d have to be Buster, a tiny little bob-tail pooch that popped onto the scene as a house-show straggler in 2010. And into the Katei Cranford arms of the many show goers he’s encountered since. Contributor “Buster was a lost party-crasher that showed up and never left our hearts,” said Megan Yonts, at whose house Buster first appeared. “When he was still around the next morning, I knew I had to find him a good fit, and that fit was Collum. Buster’s everyone’s favorite party dog and my favorite crowd-surfer.” Taking up residency with his human, Michael “Collum” DeGruy, Buster is a welcomed regular at any dog-friendly show space—making friends, getting pets, and even inspiring poetry.

As one dedication from Ralph Soviero goes, “I have seen him / Emerging from seas of dancing feet. / Buster the dog, what a treat. / Calm and mellow, oh what a fellow. / Cooler than I’ll ever be. / Been at more shows than I’ll ever see. / White and brown, always down, never mind his stature. / He’s part of the group. This motley troop is lucky to have such a mascot.” Buster is indeed a real show dog—just not in the Westminster sense. As a constant companion, Collum is careful to keep him on the patio for louder sets. “I try to take him to dog parks, but I think I like it more than he does,” Collum explained. “He’d rather be at the bar. He just wants to hang out with people.” Buster began his tag-along practice during the Flat Iron days of Matty Sheets’ Open Microphone. “Other people would occasionally bring a dog there,” Collum said, “so I brought Buster.” And while Buster enjoys himself, Collum stays aware of his presence—for Buster’s safety and folks in general. “I always make sure everyone is okay with him, and he’s not bothering anyone,” Collum said. “It hasn’t

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Buster and Mike at Matty Sheets’ open mic night at the Green Bean. really been an issue. The music is playing, the beer is flowing, and everyone is out to have a good time. Friendly little Buster just seems to add to that vibe and experience.” With open mic now at the Green Bean, Buster continues to be a crowd favorite. “Buster, aka ‘Sandwich Face,’ is a huge part of our little scene,” said open mic aficionado Donna Smith. “He quickly became a mascot for open mic night and has honed his skills over the years as an expert greeter and attentive audience member.” A scamp in his younger years, Buster sticks closer to Collum these days. But, as Smith noted, “in the Flat Iron days, the front door would stay open, and he’d occasionally dart right out into Summit Ave. Talk about a showstopper! I’d often post-up at the door on ‘Buster watch,’ but everyone loves him and looks out for him,” she recalled. Dan Bayer from the Grand Ole Uproar remembers a show at CFBG, after which Buster disappeared. “We went all over the place looking for him, Bayer said. “He was found the next day at a nearby apartment complex, hanging out with college students. He’s like a character in a children’s book.” Indeed, Buster’s origin story is that of legend. The year was 2010. The scene was a birthday party for Matty Sheets at an apartment shared by Yonts and Taylor Bays. It was the first show for Matty’s group, the Blockheads, and the debut of puppet-DJ Nincompoop 17,000 (puppeteered by Collum), which accompanied Bays’ hip-hop act, Antigravity Animated. The bill was rounded by Crystal Bright and the Silver Hands and the Leeves. It was wild. As Collum explained, “there was this guy—I think his name was Boda—who was in Sea of Dogs, this band from Florida who played a show with the Green Bean earlier. No one knew him, but he ended up at the party. Morning came, the sun was up, and the only people left standing were me, Taylor, and Boda.”

Boda left for a walk while awaiting his bandmates. “He said he was still coming down off of acid, so he was just gonna go admire the scenery,” Collum noted. “That’s when he found this small dog tied to a fence near a plate of macaroni and cheese—or so the legend goes.” The dog, who was brought back to the house, was Buster. The guy, Boda, left for the rest of his tour. Never to be seen again. Attempts to locate the “owner” were unsuccessful. “So, like everyone else who meets Buster,” Collum said, “I instantly fell in love with him. He came over and just put his front paws up on my leg. I wasn’t looking for a dog, but I ended up with a magical one.” Though, before he was “Buster,” he was “Spunky” (a nod to his resembling the dog on Rocko’s Modern Life.), “I settled on Buster because he’s never hesitant to bust a move,” Collum said. “He’s a little move-buster.” Musician Emily Stewart insists his name should be “Sandwich Face,” which is how Suzanne Stafford first had the pleasure of his acquaintance. “He’s the best bar dog I’ve ever met,” Stafford said. “Friendly and chill as all get out.” “Emily still calls him that,” Collum said, “but most strangers also refer to him as the little potato dog.” As for what breed of potato, it’s anyone’s guess. Same with his age. Buster’s vet presumed he was around a year old when found. Collum thinks he looks like “he’s got a Chihuahua head on a terrier body.” Whatever the breed, Buster is naturally soft, with a sweetness known to brighten the lives of whoever’s lap he hops onto. “He may be a staple of the music scene,” Collum said, “but he’s more into the people.” Cheers to Buster, the sweetest show dog a city could ask for. Be on the lookout for his little bobtail at a dog-friendly show near you! ! KATEI CRANFORD Is a Triad music nerd who hosts the Thursday Tour Report, a radio show that runs like a mixtape of bands touring NC the following week, 5:30-7 p.m. on WUAG 103.1FM.


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Last year, I broke up with the man I was engaged to and loved deeply. I’d found out he was cheating on me constantly with many different women throughout Amy Alkon our relationship. My life has gone on, Advice but I often think of what he did to me Goddess and feel incredible anger. I’d like to forgive him, but I’m not sure how to do that when these feelings pop up throughout my week. —Stuck It’s hard to move on emotionally when you not only have a grudge but take it everywhere with you like a cockroach on a little yarn leash. This isn’t to say you should forgive the guy. There’s this assumption that forgiving someone who’s wronged you is the healthy, constructive thing to do — and, sure, it can be. Evolutionary social psychologist Michael McCullough defines forgiveness as “an internal process of getting over your ill will for an offender.” He explains that forgiveness is “adaptive” — functional, beneficial — when there’s a valuable relationship at stake: when you’d benefit from continuing contact with the perp (and it seems unlikely they’ll be a repeat offender — harm you again in a similar way). But you aren’t looking to re-up with the guy! And you probably have zero

indication he’s changed anything — aside from which woman he’s two-timing (or, uh, 22-timing, as a rough quarterly estimate). What you’re really seeking is peace of mind. Consider that anger, like forgiveness, can be functional. The anger you still have probably remains for a reason: a warning sign that you’re in danger of being cheated on again. But there’s a way to shut off that alert — and protect yourself in the future — and it’s by turning this into a learning experience. Be accountable for the part you played in what happened — not because, “Yay, blame the victim!” — but because it’s the part you can control. Did you, perhaps, want so badly to believe you’d found love that you ignored signs you’d landed a cheating creep posing as an adoring boyfriend? Being honest about what you could — and should — have done differently can become your guide for what you will do differently the next guy around. A man can give you the sense he has a moral compass, but it’s best you give it a hard look to see it isn’t cracked and dusty from constantly being dropped in other women’s bedrooms.


“Frankly, that sounds a little grim.” Men evolved to have the hots for sexual variety — casual sex with a slewapalooza of different partners — to a degree women do not. (An ancestral woman could get pregnant and stuck with a kid to raise after a single hookup with some rando, while the more randos Grok had sex with, the more likely he was to pass on his genes.) Feminist scholars contend that “patriarchal” culture — not evolution — leads to men’s greater preference for the sexual variety pack, but it even shows up in “gender-egalitarian” Norway. Evolutionary scientist Leif Edward Ottesen Kennair and his colleagues asked Norwegian men and women the number of sex partners they’d want over a 30-year period. Women, on average, wanted about five sex partners. Men? About 25! Still, many men eventually tire of the swipe-right hussy of the night lifestyle (which, admittedly, isn’t an option for men low on the mate-value ladder) and start feeling ready for a relationship. However, even if this guy’s open to commitment and maybe already pointed in that direction, consider the lesson from

“psychological reactance,” a term coined by psychologist Jack Brehm. Our getting the sense that somebody’s trying to control us, limit our freedom, motivates us to “react”: rebel against being controlled. Give yourself a (silent) deadline so you won’t be waiting around forever, and then ask him how he sees things going forward: what he’s looking for, what works for him. The conversation itself should give him the sense that you might be headed for the door if he doesn’t boyfriend up. Wanting to be with you might motivate him to make the necessary sexual trade-off — which is ultimately a pretty big deal for a dude. Picture the Souplantation buffet, but all those stainless steel bins are filled with the same one item, and you’ll have to eat it for every meal for the rest of your life: “Welcome to the suburban gulag. Table for two?” ! GOT A PROBLEM? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com). Follow her on Twitter @amyalkon. Order her latest “science-help” book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence. ©2021 Amy Alkon. Distributed by Creators.Com. !

I’ve been dating a guy for three months, and I’d like us to be exclusive, but I don’t know how to go about addressing it. I’m worried that if I say I need him to commit, he’ll feel pressured and bolt. —Quandary For a man, agreeing to go exclusive is a bit like wedding vows lite, as posed to the man’s penis: “Do you swear off sex with all the other ladies forever?” Penis:

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