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One year ago on St. Patrick’s Day, one of the WEIRDEST PLACES in Winston-Salem opened and nothing has been the same ever since. The paint was still drying on the walls; the arcade games weren’t even working. Yet, people still poured in to watch a band from Maryland called Curse and a local dream pop band that was (at the time) called True Believer play at the newest little bar on the corner of West Acadia Avenue and South Broad Street.






Sometimes you can take the chef away from the restaurant kitchen, but you can’t take the kitchen away from the chef. CHEFS FOR HIRE are becoming increasingly popular these days. It’s no longer a perk for celebrities or the wealthy, it is becoming more accessible than ever and for the skilled chef, quite ideal for those who don’t want to be burdened by restaurant hours. 10 Rachel Scott discovered she was pregnant shortly after she, Amanda Lehmert Killian and Meagan Albert founded the Greensboro Arm Wrestling League in late 2015. “My husband Joe said ‘Maybe you should give up this thing now that you’re bringing a child into the world,’ but I thought this world would be a lot cooler with a lady’s badass arm wrestling league in it,” she recently told me. 11 This year marks the 60th anniversary of the film that scored the top spot in Sight & Sound’s 2012 poll of the greatest films ever made: Alfred Hitchcock’s psychological thriller VERTIGO, starring James Stewart and Kim Novak. MARCH 14-20, 2018


The energetic art-rock-leaning West African band TAL NATIONAL started, like many bands do, as a group of friends getting together casually to work on music and improve their playing. But, unlike most bands, the main guitarist in what became Tal National was a federal judge. 18 A literary classic becomes a cinematic clunker with A WRINKLE IN TIME, the ambitious but ultimately disappointing adaptation of Madeleine L’Engle’s lovely 1962 novel. 24 ST. PATRICK’S DAY 2018 is this Saturday and if you don’t have plans yet, you are in luck. YES! Weekly searched far and wide for the best St. Patrick’s Day parties in the Triad. This is what we got. 26 Starting in 2013, the internationallyknown TED organization gave Greensboro permission to produce their own local live speaker event, with a new theme each year. This year’s theme is all things that make us “wonder,” with subjects ranging from technology to art to science to history and even to the paranormal.


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VICTORIA VICTORIA THURSDAY THUR 15 VICTORIA VICTORIA WHAT: Making the short drive from neighboring Winston-Salem, NC, Victoria Victoria will be bringing their infectious melodies to the Centennial Station Arts Center for what is sure to be an unforgettable performance. In 2016, Victoria Victoria released their debut album Coastal Beast through iTunes. Touching on a wide variety of musical styles and emotions, Coastal Beast features everything from acoustic love ballads to synthy pop dance songs. WHEN: 7 p.m. WHERE: Centennial Station Arts Center. 121 S. Centennial Street, High Point. MORE: $5 admission.


FRI 16 FIDDLE & BOW SOCIETY: SCOTT AINSLIE WHAT: Help us welcome back Scott to the Fiddle & Bow Society. Armed with a variety of instruments vintage guitars, a fretless gourd banjo, a one-string, homemade diddley bow (aka cigar box guitar) and carefully chosen historical personal anecdotes of his encounters with senior musicians across the South Ainslie brings the history, roots music, and sounds of America alive. WHEN: 8 p.m. WHERE: Muddy Creek Music Hall 5455 Bethania Road Winston-Salem MORE: $15-17 tickets.

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BISCUIT BREAKFAST BAR WHAT: While supplies last, Chef Chris Scalici of Artistic Cuisine will be serving fresh, made from scratch biscuits. The biscuits offer a true taste of the south featuring North Carolina’s own Lindley Mills flour and finished with variety of market sourced and locally produced toppings. The cost of the Biscuit Breakfast Bar fundraiser starts at $5.00 per plate donation and available first come, first serve. The brunch includes a generous biscuit and choice of toppings. WHEN: 8-11 a.m. WHERE: Greensboro Farmers Market, Inc. 501 Yanceyville Street, Greensboro. MORE: $5 per plate.

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WHAT: elebrate St. Patrick’s Day with us in LeBauer Park! Free and open to the public. Storytime with the Greensboro Public Library at 11:15pm. Live music at 12pm from The Walker Family Band. Bagpiper, Michael Holian from 1-2pm. Greensboro Ballet Performance 2pm-3pm. Grab lunch from Ghassan’s Fresh Mediterranean Eats or Hoppin’ Hound Dogs Plus! WHEN: 11 a.m. WHERE: LeBauer Park. 208 North Davie, Greensboro. MORE: Free event.

WHAT: Join us at Claddagh Restaurant & Pub for The Mighty Fairlanes AND Luxuriant Sedans celebrating Saint Patrick’s Day, or the Feast of Saint Patrick, a cultural and religious celebration held on the traditional death date of Saint Patrick, the foremost patron saint of Ireland. This will be the Piedmont Blues Preservation Society’s first event in the series for 2018. WHEN: 6 p.m. WHERE: Claddagh Restaurant & Pub. 130 E Parris Ave, High Point. MORE: Free entry.

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In sports, statistics matter, and Woody Durham had them in spades: 14 years as sports director for WFMY-TV in Greensboro; 40 years as the radio voice of the Carolina Tar Heels; play-by-play man for 1,800 football and basketball games, including 23 Bowl games; announcer for four National basketball championships, and 13 Final Fours. But no statistic that can describe Woody’s commitment to his craft. “He prepared for each game as if it were the national championship,” UNC head coach Roy Williams said of Woody. He also prepared every T.V. broadcast with that same level of intensity. I know because I witnessed it firsthand. I met Woody in 1974 when Channel 2 hired me to run studio camera and put sports scores on screen for his daily newscasts. Eventually, I wormed my way onto the anchor desk as late night weatherman. It was my first on-air job, and I was thrilled to be sharing the stage with a broadcasting legend, especially one who worked so hard to prepare his material. The preparation paid off because Woody never made mistakes, and that put pressure on the rest of us to do our best. A year or so later, Woody left WFMY to focus more of his energies on Carolina sports, and what energies they were. Listening to Woody Durham call a close game on the radio was like having Rembrandt paint you a masterpiece with words, except if Rembrandt graduated WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

from Carolina and hated Duke. But by 2011, the words no longer came as easily to Woody as they once had. Writing in his autobiography, “Woody Durham: a Tar Heel Voice,” Woody said that he felt he wasn’t as sharp on air as he’d like to be. Ever the perfectionist, he retired from broadcasting rather than make a mistake on air. The fact is he was feeling the early effects of aphasia, a disease that would gradually rob him of his extraordinary ability to communicate. It was a cruel twist of fate for a man who painted pictures with words. On March 7, that booming Tar Heel voice was silenced forever. Woody Durham was 76. My most treasured memory of Woody came in September of 2012 when he stopped by the Triad Today studio to plug his new book, and to promote a fundraising project for Ronald McDonald House. On that day Woody’s mind was as sharp as ever, and his speech was picture perfect. I will always be grateful for that brief reunion, and for the time we worked together at WFMY. Back then, Woody set the bar high for everyone who worked with him, and I’m lucky that some of his professionalism rubbed off on me. They say it’s not bragging if it’s true. I never heard Woody brag about himself, but if he had, it would have been true, because he was the best at what he did. !

The N.C. Department of Transportation will hold a public meeting regarding the proposed grade separation at the Hilltop Road (S.R. 1424) rail crossing (722361Y) of the Norfolk Southern “Main” Line, in Guilford County. The purpose of this project is to improve operations and safety at the crossing. The meeting will be held on Thursday, March 22 at the Korean United Methodist Church located at 2504 E. Woodlyn Way in Greensboro from 4 p.m. to 7 p.m. Interested citizens may attend at any time during the meeting hours. NCDOT representatives will be available to answer questions and receive comments regarding the project. Please note that no formal presentation will be made. All comments received will be taken into consideration as the project progresses. As information becomes available, it may be viewed online at the NCDOT Public Meeting Website: publicmeetings Anyone desiring additional information may contact Gregory Blakeney, NCDOT, Senior Rail Project Development Engineer, at 1553 Mail Service Center, Raleigh, NC 27699, by telephone at (919) 7074717 or by email at Comments should be submitted by April 30, 2018. NCDOT will provide auxiliary aids and services under the Americans with Disabilities Act for disabled persons who wish to participate in this meeting. Anyone requiring special services should contact Tamara Makhlouf via email at or by phone at (919) 7076072 as early as possible, so that these arrangements can be made. Persons who speak Spanish and do not speak English, or have a limited ability to read, speak or understand English, may receive interpretive services upon request prior to the meeting by calling 1-800-481-6494. Aquellas personas que hablan español y no hablan inglés, o tienen limitaciones para leer, hablar o entender inglés, podrían recibir servicios de interpretación si los solicitan antes de la reunión llamando al 1-800-481-6494. MARCH 14-20, 2018



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The world is their restaurant: Chefs for hire


ometimes you can take the chef away from the restaurant kitchen, but you can’t take the kitchen away from the chef. Chefs for hire are Kristi Maier becoming increas@triadfoodies ingly popular these days. It’s no longer a perk for celebriContributor ties or the wealthy, it is becoming more accessible than ever and for the skilled chef, quite ideal for those who don’t want to be burdened by restaurant hours. For the customer who can afford it, it provides a much-needed convenience, without all the prep and clean-up. There’s a difference between a private chef and a personal chef. A private chef works for a singular client, sometimes full-time and sometimes multiple meals a day. Some private chefs are hired for short spurts of time as well. A personal chef may cook for several different clients in their homes, providing fully-cooked meals and meals prepped in advance. All work diligently to provide a service that is as budget-friendly as possible. Darren Atkins of il Centro Kitchen and Catering in Burlington started his private chef/full-service catering in September 2016 and last year opened a storefront in Burlington to provide daily provisions such as antipasti, salumi, fresh pasta and

From left to right: Darren Atkins, Nikki Miller-Ka, Dion Sprenkle and Lynn Warlick-Wells. Italian specialty accouterments with local North Carolina ingredients. “It’s inspired by the alimentari or food stores/farm grocers all throughout Florence and Tuscany,” he said. Atkins provides a full-service private chef experience to your home or location. “We definitely want to cater to the foodie,” he said. “I am very hands-on with customers and committed to providing

them with themes for dynamic experience.” The budget depends on the client needs, and Atkins is available to Burlington, Greensboro, High Point, Chapel Hill, Durham and possibly beyond. Since meal preps and meals-to-go are becoming ever so popular, il Centro provides a Dinner Delivered series where customers can order from a weekly meal plan and have

scratch-made dinners for two delivered to their door for $25. The store in Burlington is open Tuesday through Saturday 11:30 a.m. to 6 p.m. Visit the website for more details Nikki Miller-Ka, of Winston-Salem, has worked in numerous capacities as a chef. She started cooking for a family as a private chef in 2011. “It was literally a dream come true,” she

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said. “It combined all my favorite things, planning, cooking, shopping and meeting people. I couldn’t believe my reputation preceded me and that these people wanted to pay me for to cook for them on a regular basis.” Miller-Ka said now, as a private chef, she enjoys being hired to chef a class or party per week. “Generally, I cater small dinner parties and conduct private cooking classes in people’s homes.” A fee is set based on the number of guests for a cooking class or party. “I send out a menu of options for their event,” she said. “I meet with the client for kitchen consultation so we can plan logistics and finalize the menu. Day of, I show up with complimentary beer and/or wine, an apron, cutting board and knife for each participant during cooking classes.” And best yet, “I clean up. You get leftovers. I go home.” Miller-Ka also provides a grocery shopping service with 10 plus recipes that clients can cook at home. Visit her website for more information www.niksnacksblog. com. The newest chef for hire is popular chef Dion Sprenkle and his new Table ‘0, which offers a personalized in-home dining experience. “The name comes from our most desired VIP table in the Chef Dion Sprenkle restaurant in Lexington that closed in 2016,” Sprenkle said. From that location, the customer could see him cooking in the kitchen and be close to the staff. “The guest felt like an instant family member and part of the action. The Table would be booked weeks in advance.” Sprenkle said since closing the restaurant, many of his fans missed his cuisine and having access to the table. “I decided to become a chef for hire with the help of my boss, my wife Jeanette,” Sprenkle said. “She handles all marketing, decorations, set-up, and serves the meal. Together we create a one-of-a-kind, personalized dining experience in our client’s home. It was primarily to connect with our friends, family and former restaurant customers. And now, we create wonderful intimate menus for families, friends and sometimes for corporate gatherings.” Lynn Warlick-Wells, the owner of Thyme Well Spent Personal Chef Services in Greensboro, is a personal chef. WarlickWells worked for 21 years in the Nutrition Department at Moses Cone Hospital in various culinary management positions. She has multiple clients and travels to their home to prepare their meals. “Everything is prepared from scratch and cooked in the client’s home,” she said. “Meals are packaged per my client’s request and stored either in the refrigerator or freezer, depending on their schedule, preference, and freshness. I include heatWWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

ing instructions with all meals. I do the grocery shopping the morning of a cook day and often times go to more than one location to shop. I want to get the best and freshest ingredients and always buy local whenever possible.” Warlick-Wells said she certainly understands that the expense of hiring a personal chef can be a concern but, “Within two weeks, [my first client] noticed a difference in savings. The most important difference was in flavor and how the food was prepared, fresh and made with love.” She added that the most significant savings clients have noticed is that they no longer have food expiring in the refrigerator. “They would purchase fresh produce, vegetables, and meats from the store or farmers market with the best intentions, then they get home and not want to cook it.” Warlick-Wells’s schedule now includes weekly clients, once-a-month clients, biweekly clients, bimonthly clients, etc. “Everyone is scheduled in advance for the same day during the initial consultation,” she said. “That ensures them consistency, and it helps me plan my schedule.” Visit her website for more information, www. For most chefs for hire, it’s the connection with their clients that drives their passion. “Being in someone’s home is very personal and sacred to me,” Warlick-Wells said. “This profession demands respect, and I consider what I do an honor. It’s very humbling to have a family or individual put their trust in me to prepare fresh meals that will make their lives easier, less stressful and most importantly, provide them more time to spend on more important things other than meal planning, shopping and cooking. There is a connection that happens where I learn about their lives, their habits, and why they’ve sought someone to cook for them.” Warlick-Wells added that she hopes the experience for her clients goes beyond the convenience, and hopefully deliciousness, of it all. “I live, eat, and breathe food,” she said. “Everything I learn, I try to pass on to my clients in some form or fashion. If anything, it recharges my battery to do what I do. I want meal time to be a pleasant experience for my clients, and this career gives me an open canvas for my creativity and enthusiasm with food. This industry is an ever-changing revolving door of opportunities, and I can’t wait to see what’s next!” ! KRISTI MAIER is a food writer, blogger and cheerleader for all things local who even enjoys cooking in her kitchen, though her kidlets seldom appreciate her efforts.


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From LA to NC Comicon GRAWL will brawl


achel Scott discovered she was pregnant shortly after she, Amanda Lehmert Killian and Meagan Albert founded the Greensboro Arm Ian McDowell Wrestling League in late 2015. “My husContributing band Joe said ‘Maybe you should give up columnist this thing now that you’re bringing a child into the world,’ but I thought this world would be a lot cooler with a lady’s badass arm wrestling league in it,” she recently told me. She said the pregnancy motivated her even more. “I want my daughter to be able to say ‘Look at this cool thing that I’m a part of.’ I hope that she will see it as part of her identity.” Scott’s daughter Ripley isn’t old enough to arm wrestle yet, but Scott will be wrestling as April O’Heel in the GRAWL exhibition at NC Comicon in Raleigh next weekend. Her character, based on the intrepid reporter from Teenaged Mutant Ninja Turtles, represents a childhood fantasy come true. But Scott is excited about more than paying tribute to a hero who wore a yellow jumpsuit rather than a half shell. “When we hosted our first event at Geeksboro in April 2016, we were thrilled to have raised just $1,000 for bathroom upgrades at the Interactive Resource Center of Greensboro,” she wrote. “We were fine with raising around $2,000 each event.” That figure more than doubled when GRAWL switched its home to Gibb’s Hundred on 117 W. Lewis St. in January of this year, a venue that afforded more space and much more parking. “Now we are raising over $5,000, and the amount of money we raise and the attendance just keep increasing with every event,” Scott said. Mark Gibb, the owner of GRAWL’s new home, told me that he’s proud to be hosting them. “It’s a great group of folks; they raise a lot of money for [a] good cause, and the events themselves are boisterous with a very positive vibe.” Killian also told me she’s proud of the way the organization has grown since it started two years ago. “We’ve raised more than $23,000 for local nonprofits,” she


Shannon Reeves aka Sleazy Weasley awaits her opponent in LA. said. “I am so proud of what our scrappy little group has done to create good in our community.” “GRAWL has brought so much excitement, creativity, and genuinely incredible people into my life,” Albert said. “It never ceases to amaze me how GRAWL has assembled a community that celebrates quirkiness and manifests it for the benefit of worth-while local organizations.” Albert will be representing GRAWL at NC Comicon for the second year in a row via her character Rosie Rogers, a combination of Captain America’s alter-ego and Rosie the Riveter. Other women representing GRAWL at NC Comicon include Wendy Leventry, reprising her character Rainbow Dasher of Hopes. Leventry, a mother of three, has also customized her motorcycle to represent that character. Mary-Elise Turner McNaught, an eighth-grade language arts teacher who previously wrestled as Captain McNaughty, will be debuting her version of Wonder Woman. Kitty Lawrence will be appearing as Poison Ivy and S. T. Mason as Barbarian Princess. As usual, they will be accompanied by their entourages. Liz Skeen, who wrestled as ChewBecki in the GRAWL event at Gibb’s that raised $5,500 for the Kellin Foundation on Feb. 5, will be appearing as Lesbian Subtext. She invented this character when she was part of Laura Eynon-Way’s entourage

when Eynon-Way wrestled at Geeksboro as Xena, Warrior Princess. Skeen and Shannon Reeves, who wrestles as “Harry Potter hottie” Sleazy Weasley, went to Los Angeles in February to represent GRAWL at the LA LAW (Los Angeles Ladies Arm Wrestling) Super CLAW (Collective of Lady Arm Wrestlers). They didn’t win, but they had a great time serving as ambassadors to other organizations. “It’s always incredible to experience how another league operates,” Skeen said, adding “it’s fascinating to see what other groups bring to the table.” One thing literally on the table was peanut butter and jelly. Skeen took part in a “yuck match” in which she and her opponent, Sister Patricia, wrestled after dipping their hands in those sticky childhood staples. “She absolutely decimated me,” Skeen said. “I had to wash my hands before heading to the bar for my consolation beer.” Scott said that GRAWL is recruiting new wrestlers for our June and October events. “If anyone is interested, they should message us on our Facebook page and look out for a new wrestler orientation coming up this spring.” ! IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.


Hitchcock’s head-spinning classic back on the big screen This year marks the 60th anniversary of the film that scored the top spot in Sight & Sound’s 2012 poll of the greatest films ever made: Alfred Hitchcock’s psychological thriller Vertigo, starring James StewMark Burger art and Kim Novak. To commemorate Contributing Vertigo’s birthday, Fathom Events has columnist re-teamed with Turner Classic Movies and Universal Pictures to bring the film back to the big screen as part of Fathom Events’ ongoing “TCM Big Screen Classics” series. Among the 650 cinemas selected for this event is the Greensboro Grande Stadium 16, where the film will be screened on March 18, followed by encore screenings on March 21. Adapted from Boileau-Narcejac’s 1954 novel D’entre les morts (From Among the Dead), the story focuses on “Scottie” Ferguson (Stewart), a former police detective forced to resign from the force after a traumatic incident that has left him with both vertigo (a sense of false movement) and acrophobia (fear of heights). Eking out a living as a private investigator, Scottie is tapped by a colleague (Tom Helmore) to surreptitiously follow his wife, Madeleine (Novak), who has been behaving strangely. Scottie agrees, but when he meets Madeleine, he instantly becomes besotted. Their brief affair ends in tragedy, with Scottie consumed with grief and guilt. Not long after, however, Scottie encounters Judy Barton (also played by Novak)and becomes infatuated with her as well. To the point of dangerous obsession, one that will inevitably lead to further tragedy. Rife with subtext, suspense and symbolism, Vertigo makes superb use of its San Francisco locations, further augmented by Bernard Herrmann’s lush, romantic score. Upon its release, the film earned solid reviews and Academy Award nominations for Best Art Direction/Set Decoration (color) and Best Sound, although it was not a major box-office hit. In the ensuing years, however, Vertigo has emerged as one of Hitchcock’s most-discussed films, with entire volumes devoted to its making and enduring legacy. Eddie Muller of TCM will provide insight into the film both before and after the screening. The Big Screen Classics series has already presented The Treasure of the Sierra Madre (1948) in January and The Philadelphia WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

Story (1940), with upcoming screenings of Grease (1978) in April, Sunset Boulevard (1950) in May, The Producers (1968) in June, Big (1988) in July, The Big Lebowski (1998) in August, South Pacific (1958) in August, Rebel Without a Cause (1955) in September, Mr. Smith Goes to Washington (1939) in October, Die Hard (1988) in November, and, appropriately enough, White Christmas (1954) in December. “The audience response to the TCM Big Screen Classics has been extraordinary,” said Tom Lucas, Fathom Events’ vice-president of studio relations. “As attendance has grown, movie lovers all around the country have told us how much they cherish the opportunity to see these incomparable classics on the big screen. We’re very excited to be partnering with TCM in 2018 to present an incredibly diverse lineup of films that really captures the magic of the movies.” ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on © 2018, Mark Burger.



The TCM Big Screens Classics presentation of Alfred Hitchcock’s Vertigo will be screened 2 pm and 7 pm Sunday and Wednesday (March 21) at Greensboro Grande Stadium 16, 3205 Northline Ave., Greensboro. Tickets are $13.34 (general admission) for all shows. For advance tickets or more information, check out MARCH 14-20, 2018





West African rock band to play Winston-Salem


he energetic art-rockleaning West African band Tal National started, like many bands do, as a group of friends getting together casually to work on John Adamian music and improve @johnradamian their playing. But, unlike most bands, the main guitarist in Contributor what became Tal National was a federal judge. Also, generally not the case with many rock groups one reads about in the American press -- the band took shape in the land-locked desert country of Niger. Guitarist and leader Hamadal Moumine Issoufou, known as Almeida, wrote in an email that the band wasn’t even intended to be a performing group at first. “The inspiration initially was just to learn how to play music, especially jazz




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guitar for me,” Almeida wrote. Almeida and Tal National will play at Winston-Salem’s new club, the Ramkat, on March 22. This show is presented with Monstercade and will also include special guests Bolmongani feat. The Hard 8. The band has just released Tantabara, its third full-length record on the American FatCat label. Since the group’s formation, Almeida has certainly mastered his guitar chops, shredding in electrifying blasts and pointillistic webs against the ecstatic and frenetic rhythms of his band. There are plenty of traditional elements that filter into the music of Tal National, in part because the group strives to represent the vast cultural diversity and variety of ethnic groups in Niger. But their path to representing the traditions of Niger came through playing rock. “Everybody in Niger has a background in traditional music because it is such a strong part of our culture. That is expressed mostly in singing,” Almeida wrote. “Nobody in the band started as a musician who played a traditional instrument then started playing a modern instrument. It happened in reverse. Through playing with Tal National certain members have decided to start to learn some of the instruments specific to Niger in order to broaden their personal musical education.” But before one gets the idea that Tal National is a blandly edifying folkloric enterprise with electric instruments, I suggest a listen to “Entente,” the third track off their new album. It starts with an energetic vocal call-and-response, sort of barking the troops to attention, but from there the drums snap into a marching overdrive, smacking out a manic triplet sub-pulse over which lightning-fast guitar lines zip by in a dizzying tangle. Sure, you might draw a connection to African artists like Konono No. 1, Orchestra Baobab, Salif Keita and others. But one might just as reasonably compare the sound to the prog of King Crimson. On Tantabara, long-time producer Jamie Carter, from Chicago, again came to the band’s hometown, Niamey, the capital of Niger. This time Carter worked some interesting production tricks to reveal some of the dense complexities and substructures of the music, letting a few songs start or end with individual musical elements left in isolation, like on “Pama,” which fades out with atmospherics, a mesh of guitars, and rhythmically inflected backing vocals. Or, like on the opening title track, which closes out with a lopsided, funky and percolating talking-drum pattern. “[Carter] wanted to try to give more of a sense of the band members on the new record, and that’s why you hear certain WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

elements begin or end a song,” wrote Almeida of the peak- behind-the-curtain production style. “Some of the ideas were strange to us, but I think it’s good to keep things different.” While many guitar bands in Niger play street parties and weddings, when I asked Almeida about what a routine gig might be for the band in Niamey, he described what sounds like a full-time job, but one that also explains why the band sounds so unbelievably tight and well rehearsed. “We sublease a nightclub in Niamey called Tafadek,” Almeida wrote. “We turn up around 6 p.m. and start to pull out the equipment and set up the stage (it is an open-air venue). We then might work on some new songs or just hang out. Around 8 p.m. people start to arrive, and then we play until around 1 or 2 a.m., without a break. We do this five times a week. Since the performance is so long, we have multiple members for each position in the band, and like a sports team, we make substitutions when members need to take a break, but the music does not stop!” When Tal National play the Ramkat, it’s unlikely that the show would go to as late as 2 a.m., but we can expect some blazing music, with virtuoso guitar playing and drumming, along with body-moving 6/8 rhythms played at racing tempos. It’s not easy for these artists to get visa clearance and logistical assistance for playing tours in the U.S., so consider it a rare opportunity to catch some of the finest music coming out of West Africa. Over the past 20 years, music from around Africa has become more widely known to American listeners, with excellent reissues and the greater availability of recordings of both traditional and popular music from around the continent. Almeida wrote that he notices a growing awareness about African music among American audience. (He also sees an increase in the number of people in the U.S. who know that Niger and Nigeria are two different countries.) “Although the process is hard, it is very rewarding when people come to the show and are so enthusiastic about our music,” Almeida wrote. “Our goal is to share our culture and have a global conversation, and we appreciate the opportunities when we get to do that.” ! JOHN ADAMIAN lives in Winston-Salem, and his writing has appeared in Wired, The Believer, Relix, Arthur, Modern Farmer, the Hartford Courant and numerous other publications.


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218 South Fayetteville St. | 336.610.3722 Mar 16: Brooke McBride Mar 24: Graymatter Mar 31: Robert Mabe Band Apr 6: Wolfie Calhoun




6000 Meadowbrook Mall Ct | 336.448.5330 Mar 16: Whiskey Mic Mar 23: DJ Bald-E Mar 24: AudioClypse Mar 30: DJ Bald-E Apr 6: Whiskey Mic

Saturday Mar 20th 7PM



GREEN HERON ALE HOUSE 1110 Flinchum Rd | 336.593.4733




Marcus Paige

2900 Patterson St #A | 336.632.9889 Mar 16: 1-2-3 Friday Mar 27: The Contortionist, Silent Planet, Skyharbor, Strawberry Girls Apr 7: Maxo Kream Apr 22: Tesseract, Plini, Astronoid May 8: The Wonder Years. Tigers Jaw, Tiny Moving Parts, Worriers


505 N. Greene St Mar 16: Leather and Lace Mar 23: Mix Tape Mar 24: James Vincent Carroll Mar 30: Leather and Lace


1819 Spring Garden St | 336.272.9888 Mar 14: Kung Fu w/ The Get Right Band Mar 16: Yung Pinch Mar 17: John Kadlecik Band Mar 18: The Devil Wears Prada, Live For What Lasts, The Worshiper, No Devil Lived On Mar 19: Sam Foster, Doug Davis, Seth Williams, Jukebox Rehab Mar 22: Rings of Saturn: The Dank Memes Tour 2018, Nekrogoblikon, Allegaeon, Entheos, Gautama Mar 23: Radio Romance w/ Jay Liddle Mar 24: Cosmic Charlie Mar 25: Talib Kweli Mar 27: Watain, Destroyer 666 Mar 29: Lettuce, Maddy O’Neal Mar 30: We Came As Romans, The Plot In You, Oceans Ate Alaska, Currents, Tempting Fate Mar 31: Create ft. Phase One & Warez w/ Ouza, R3x0r, Makak Apr 5: Fortunate Youth w/ Ballyhoo!, Tatanka Apr 10: Bit Brigade performs The Legend Of zelda


213 S Elm St | 336.275.6367 Mar 10: Sahara Reggae Band Mar 17: jack Long Old School Jam

523 S Elm St | 336.271.2686 Mar 16: DJ Dan the Player Mar 17: DJ Paco and DJ Dan the Player




120 Stage Coach Tr. | 336.292.2211 May 13: Stephen Freeman: Elvis Tribute Jun 30: Wonderwall: A Tribute to The Beatles

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1700 Spring Garden St | 336.272.5559 1126 S Holden Rd | 336.333.1034 Mar 16: Jay Stevens Mar 17: Jay Stevens Mar 23: Mike Gardner Mar 24: Mike Gardner Mar 30: Greg Morton Mar 31: Greg Morton


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11602 S Elm Ave | 336.698.3888 mar 17: The outside Voices mar 21: dan Layus mar 23: dave Barnes Apr 7: more Than Sparrows Apr 20: Threadbare Trio+1, Bryan Toney w/ chris nelson and Eddie mcgee Jul 21: couldn’t Be Happiers

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117 S Elm St | 336.378.9646 mar 24: carolina Spring Jam Apr 6: marshall Tucker Band Apr 7: chris Lane Apr 14: Judah & The Lion: going To mars Tour Apr 17: circa Survive Apr 26: Beatles vs. Stones Apr 27: Jackyl

grEEnE STrEET cLuB 113 N Greene St | 336.273.4111 Apr 1: Silent rooftop Party

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1635 New Garden Rd | 336.288.4544 mar 16: J Timber, Joel Henry mar 23: Lasater union mar 30: megan doss Band


5713 W Friendly Ave | 336.292.5464 mar 21: Hallow Point mar 24: murder maiden


1706 Battleground Ave | 336.378.0006


THE IdIoT Box comEdY cLuB

2134 Lawndale Dr | 336.274.2699 mar 23: krish mohan & Andrew Frank

high point


1614 N Main St | 336.883.4113 mar 16: karaoke - dJ dance

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235 Cornell Dr | 336.543.4799


5840 Samet Dr | 336.887.2434 mar 16: cory Luetjen & The TBB mar 17: Tyler millard Band mar 23: Brothers Pearl mar 24: The dickens mar 30: The Southern Eyes Band mar 31: megan doss Band


THE dEck

118 E Main St | 336.207.1999 mar 16: Soul central mar 17: crossing Avery mar 23: The Plaids mar 24: Jill goodson Band mar 30: Hip Pocket mar 31: Jukebox revolver Apr 6: Jukebox Junkie Apr 7: Brothers Pearl Apr 13: The dickens Apr 14: Soul central Apr 20: radio revolver Apr 21: corey Luetjen Traveling Blues Band Apr 27: Jaxon Jill Apr 28: megan doss Band

NCDOT TO HOLD PUBLIC MEETING MARCH 26 NCDOT TO HOLD PUBLIC MEETING FOR THE PROPOSED INTERCHANGE IMPROVEMENTS AT U.S. 29 AND REEDY FORK PARKWAY (S.R. 4771) IN GUILFORD COUNTY TIP PROJECT NO. R-4707 The N.C. Department of Transportation will hold a public meeting to present the selected alternative for the proposed interchange improvements at U.S. 29 and Reedy Fork Parkway (S.R. 4771), in Guilford County. The meeting will be held on Monday, March 26 at the Bryan Park Golf and Conference Center located at 6275 Bryan Park Road in Greensboro from 4:30 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. Interested citizens may attend at any time during the meeting hours. NCDOT representatives will be available to answer questions and receive comments regarding the project. Please note that no formal presentation will be made. All comments received will be taken into consideration as the project progresses. As information becomes available, it may be viewed online at the NCDOT Public Meeting Website: Anyone desiring additional information may contact Ahmad Al-Sharawneh, NCDOT, Project Manager, at 1582 Mail Service Center, Raleigh, NC 27699, by telephone at (919) 707-6010 or by email at Comments should be submitted by April 26, 2018. NCDOT will provide auxiliary aids and services under the Americans with Disabilities Act for disabled persons who wish to participate in this meeting. Anyone requiring special services should contact Tamara Makhlouf via email at or by phone at (919) 7076072 as early as possible, so that these arrangements can be made. Persons who speak Spanish and do not speak English, or have a limited ability to read, speak or understand English, may receive interpretive services upon request prior to the meeting by calling 1-800-481-6494. Aquellas personas que hablan español y no hablan inglés, o tienen limitaciones para leer, hablar o entender inglés, podrían recibir servicios de interpretación si los solicitan antes de la reunión llamando al 1-800481-6494. MARCH 14-20, 2018 YES! WEEKLY



612 Edgewood St | 336.558.7204 Mar 16: Silverhawk Mar 17: The delmonicos Mar 23: The delmonicos Mar 24: crimson Rose Mar 30: The delmonicos Mar 31: highway Time

638 W 4th St | 336.777.3348 Mar 14: Mason via Mar 17: 13th anniversary celebration Mar 18: Sunday Jazz Mar 24: The Fustics Mar 25: Sunday Jazz Mar 28: Redleg husky apr 1: Sunday Jazz apr 8: Sunday Jazz

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JohnnY & JunE’S Saloon

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NCDOT TO HOLD PUBLIC MEETING MARCH 27 REGARDING THE PROPOSED EXTENSION OF FORUM PARKWAY (S.R. 3955) TO N.C. 66 (UNIVERSITY PARKWAY) IN FORSYTH COUNTY STIP Project No. U-5899 The N.C. Department of Transportation proposes construction of new two-lane roadway on new location from Forum Parkway (S.R. 3955) to N.C. 66 (University Parkway) in Rural Hall. A public meeting will be held at Woodland Baptist Church ocated at 1175 Bethania-Rural Hall Road on Tuesday, March 27th from 4 to 6 p.m. The purpose of this meeting is to inform the public of the project and gather public input on the proposed design. As information becomes available, it may be viewed online at the NCDOT Public Meeting Webpage: m The public may attend at any time during the public meeting hours, as no formal presentation will be made. NCDOT representatives will be available to answer questions and receive comments. The comments and information received will be taken into consideration as work on the project develops. The opportunity to submit written comments will also be provided at the meeting or can be done via phone, email, or mail by April 17, 2018. For additional information, please contact Mr. Al Blanton, PE, PLS, Division 9 Project Development Team Lead by phone: (336) 747-7800 or via email at; or by mail: NCDOT Division 9, 375 Silas Creek Parkway, Winston-Salem, NC 27127.

221 N Main St. | 336.497.4822 Mar 17: dJ Freddie Fred


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191 Lowes Foods Dr | 336.747.3059 Mar 16: karaoke w dJ Tyler perkins Mar 17: celtic dance party w dJ holly Manus Mar 23: karaoke w dJ Tyler perkins Mar 24: Bootleggers Mar 30: karaoke w dJ Tyler perkins Mar 31: Second nature w keith Burkhart apr 21: Exit 180

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2213 E Oak Ridge Rd | 336.643.1570 Mar 15: Trivia


RidER’S in ThE counTRY 5701 Randleman Rd | 336.674.5111


NCDOT will provide auxiliary aids and services under the Americans with Disabilities Act for disabled persons who wish to participate in this workshop. Anyone requiring special services should contact Tony Gallagher, Environmental Analysis Unit, at 1598 Mail Service Center, Raleigh, NC 27699-1598, by phone (919) 707-6069 or by e-mail at as early as possible so that arrangements can be made.

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Persons who speak Spanish and have a limited ability to read, speak or understand English, may receive interpretive services upon request prior to the meeting by calling 1-800-481-6494.

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Aquellas personas que hablan español o tienen limitaciones para leer, hablar o entender inglés, podrían recibir servicios de interpretación si los solicitan antes de la reunión llamando al 1-800-481-6494.

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MARCH 14-20, 2018

FooThillS BREwing

207 N Green St | 336.631.3143 apr 28: perpetual groove & Marvelous Funkshun

Bull’S TavERn

408 West 4th St | 336.331.3431 3870 Bethania Station Rd | 336.815.1664 Mar 17: St. patrick’s Bash 620 Trade St | 336.723.0322 Mar 17: St. patrick’s day

2105 Peters Creek Pkwy | 336.724.0546

Mac & nElli’S

4926 Country Club Rd | 336.529.6230 Mar 15: Jukebox Rehab Mar 16: Stephen henson, The invaders Mar 17: Southern Eyes Mar 19: Elliot humphries Mar 22: darrell hoots Mar 23: Stephen henson, James vincent carroll Mar 24: Jamaican Johnny, whiskey Mic Mar 26: Jukebox Johnny Mar 30: Stephen henson, Eddie & will

MillEnniuM cEnTER 101 West 5th Street | 336.723.3700 april 14: kaleidoscope Ball


630 S Stratford Rd | 336.768.2221 Mar 18: live Jazz Mar 25: live Jazz

MuddY cREEk caFE & MuSic hall

5455 Bethania Rd | 336.923.8623 Mar 15: open Mic w/ country dan collins Mar 15: The dylan Mccray Band, crossing avery Mar 16: drake duffer Mar 16: Fiddle & Bow presents: Scott ainslie Mar 17: XcentriX Mar 17: circus no.9, The page Turners Mar 18: phillip craft Mar 18: kyle petty and david childers w/ Jonny Mont Mar 18: The Revelers Mar 22: open Mic w/ country dan collins Mar 22: Jacon Johnson, cary Morin Mar 23: The plank Road Ramblers Mar 24: Russell lapinksi


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1000 NC Music Factory Blvd | 704.916.8970 Mar 15: Guerra de Chistes Mar 16: Chicago Rewired Mar 16: Matisyahu Mar 17: The English Beat Mar 18: Iced Earth Mar 18: Above & Beyond Mar 20: New Politics Mar 20: Mat Kearney Mar 23: K.Flay Mar 27: Dashboard Confessional Mar 28: Miguel Mar 29: Cigarettes After Sex Mar 30: Big K.R.I.T. Heavy Is The Crown Mar 31: El Gran Combo Apr 4: Rainbow Kitten Surprise Apr 5: Gunna Apr 5: Kip Moore ft. Drake White & The Big Fire Apr 6: Why Don’t We Apr 6: 3TEETH / ho99o9 Apr 7: Andy Grammer Apr 8: Papa Roach Apr 12: Blackberry Smoke Apr 13: Dark Star Orchestra Apr 14: Hey Johnny Park Apr 14: Arcangel

PNC MUSIC PAVILION 707 Pavilion Blvd | 704.549.1292 Apr 7: Jimmy Buffett


2700 E Independence Blvd | 704.372.3600 Mar 15: Tony Bennett Apr 5: Three Dog Night


333 E Trade St | 704.688.9000 Apr 6: 90’s Block Party WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM



309 W Morgan St | 919.560.3030 Mar 18: The Fab Four Mar 24: Lucius Mar 28: Home Free Mar 31: Diego El Cigala


1400 Edwards Mill Rd | 919.861.2300 Mar 16: 90s Block Party ft. Guy, Teddy Riley, 112, Ginuwine, Jagged Edge, & NEXT Mar 24: Winter Jam Apr 17: The Eagles Apr 24: Bon Jovi



WINSTON-SALEM FAIRGROUND 421 W 27th St | 336.727.2236 Apr 12: Newsboys



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123 Vivian St | 919.680.2787 Mar 18: Celtic Woman Mar 23: Patti LaBelle Apr 19: The Decemberists


CAROLINA THEATRE 310 S Greene St | 336.333.2605 Mar 14: Daughtry Mar 16: Clay Howard & the Silver Alerts Mar 25: Stomp Apr 6: Rosanne Cash Apr 11: Gillian Welch Apr 19: Gladys Knight



1921 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 Apr 19: Little Big Town Apr 20: Greensboro 90’s Block Party


1921 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400








220 E Commerce Ave | 336.883.3401 Mar 23: Shaun Hopper & Joe Smothers Apr 24: Black Violin Apr 27: Double Treble

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Time after time: Leaden adaptation misses who, what and why


literary classic becomes a cinematic clunker with A Wrinkle in Time ( ), the ambitious but ultimately disappointing adaptation of Madeleine L’Engle’s lovely 1962 novel. Remaining faithful enough to the plot of the book, this screen version finds Meg Murry (Storm Reid), still understandably upset over the disappearance of her scientist father (Chris Pine) four years earlier, being handed an opportunity to locate him thanks to the involvement of three celestial beings. Introduced to Meg and her friend Calvin (Levi Miller) by her younger brother Charles Wallace (Deric McCabe), the trio of Mrs. Which (Oprah Winfrey), Mrs. Whatsit (Reese Witherspoon) and Mrs. Who (Mindy Kaling) informs the children that Dr. Murry vanished upon discovering that the fabric of time and space can fold on itself. But Dr. Murry is now being held prisoner by an evil interstellar entity known simply as “It,” and with the members of The Losers’


Club off in their own movie, it’s up to these comparable outcasts to save the day — and the universe. Ava DuVernay, who earned an Oscar nomination for the mesmerizing documentary 13th and should have earned one for the powerful drama Selma, seems paralyzed with reverence for the source material, as her direction is atypically muted and her set-pieces alarmingly flat. For a film that traffics in imagination and phantasmagorical sights, A Wrinkle in Time is surprisingly cumbersome in its visual splendor, with much of the film caught in a chokehold that’s mercilessly being applied by impersonal and deadening visual effects. Worse, most of the actors are urged to deliver their dialogue in monotonous

rather than melodious waves, none more so than poor Storm Reid. Winfrey sounds like she’s already practicing for a presidential run, speaking her words in measured and drowsy tones, while Kaling’s Mrs. Who barely registers as a character. Only Witherspoon seems to be having any fun in her role, providing the picture with some much-needed pep (and until his character turns into a more verbose version of Pet Sematary’s Gage in the third act, McCabe also adds some life to the proceedings with his boyish enthusiasm). A Wrinkle in Time is recommended for children, who will enjoy its colorful palette and benefit from its messages involving individuality, self-worth, anti-bullying, and other notable pursuits. But for the adults who accompany them, their only interest in Time will be in determining how much of it remains before the closing credits begin their roll. A-LIST ACTORS CUTTING LOOSE is the prime draw of Gringo ( ), an irreverent comedy in which Charlize Theron mocks the deaf, Joel Edgerton informs a Mexican that “Yo quiero Taco Bell,” and David Oyelowo is shown gettin’ jiggy wit it. Oyelowo, Selma’s MLK, here plays Harold Soyinka, who, when he’s not busy singing along to Will Smith in his car, is being played the patsy by practically everyone around him. Too nice for this world, the sweet and trusting Harold works for bosses (Edgerton and Theron) ready to sell him out, loves a wife (Thandie Newton) who’s been cheating behind his back, and runs afoul of a powerful drug lord


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known as (with apologies to Marvel) The Black Panther (Carlos Corona). The only decent person he encounters during his disaster-plagued business trip to Mexico is a fellow American named Sunny (Amanda Seyfried) — he might be able to trust a cheery mercenary (Sharlto Copley) who unexpectedly arrives on the scene, but he’s not entirely certain. A hot mess of a movie, Gringo initially maintains interest with its various twists and turns. But as the film progresses, the storyline splinters rather than gels, and the climax is the usual standardprocedure car chase followed by the usual standard-issue shootout. Still, the picture nevertheless benefits from its engaging roster of actors, including Oyelowo in an immensely likable turn. Best of all, though, is Theron, who has lately been testing her action credentials with the likes of Atomic Blonde and Mad Max: Fury Road. This time, she prefers to flex her comedic muscles, resulting in a ferociously funny performance that takes no prisoners. THE NEWLY ANOINTED Academy Award winner for Best Foreign Language Film, the Chilean import A Fantastic Woman ( ) tells the story of Marina (an excellent Daniela Vega), a waitress who’s the partner of the affluent and older Orlando (Francisco Reyes). Late one night, Orlando discovers he doesn’t feel well, and it isn’t long after being taken to the hospital that he passes away. Everyone is allowed to mourn in proper fashion after Orlando’s death — his exwife, his brother, his children. Everyone, that is, except Marina. Because she’s a trans woman, she is treated horribly by almost everyone she encounters. She’s bullied by one of Orlando’s grown kids. She’s badgered by an investigator whose specialty is sex crimes. And she’s forbidden by Orlando’s disgusted ex-wife from attending his funeral. Writer-director Sebastián Lelio indulges in a couple of flights of fancy during the course of A Fantastic Woman, but they’re superfluous moments that really aren’t required. This is a movie that’s at its best when it operates simply and without flourish, satisfied merely to point out the awfulness of people when they refuse to show basic human decency toward those who are different. Like Get Out, Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri and other 2017 Oscar-entrusted peers, it’s a movie of the moment, similarly pleading for hope and change against formidable, unfortunate odds. !




Spring Theatre announces its 2018 Summer camps


pring Theatre will offer four acting camps this summer: Disney’s Newsies, Great Pretenders, The Princess Bride, and Musical Theatre “Tuning.” Information and registration forms are available online at www. or by contacting info@ Disney’s Newsies is a two-week, fullystaged, musical theatre camp. Set in New York City at the turn of the century, Newsies is the rousing tale of Jack Kelly, a charismatic newsboy who dreams of a better life, far from the hardship of the streets. Campers will learn all aspects of acting and stage presence, facial expressions, singing techniques, projection and choreography as they prepare for three public performances. Directed and choreographed by Erinn Diaz and Dan Beckmann, this camp will run July 9-20, from 9 a.m.-3 p.m. (Monday-Friday). Performances will be held July 20 & 21 at 7 p.m. and July 22 at 2 p.m. at the Hanesbrands Theatre. Great Pretenders is an all-new, oneweek theatre camp for 4 and 5-year-olds. This camp, led by Margaret Wages, was developed to tune into the imagination of young children. Each day, campers will wear costumes and practice theatre through play. A great introduction to the world of theatre, this half-day camp will

be held July 23-27 from 9 a.m.- noon. The Princess Bride is a one-week, fullystaged, non-musical camp. As the young actors prepare for three public performances of this delightful fairy tale about the beautiful Buttercup and her one true love, they will learn all aspects of acting and stage presence, facial expressions, projection and character development. Directed by Mark Flora, this camp runs July 30-Aug. 3 from 9 a.m.-3 p.m. (MondayFriday). Performances will be held August 3 at 7 pm and Aug. 4 at 2 p.m. and 7 p.m. at the Mountcastle Theatre. Musical Theatre “Tuning” is a one-week camp for actors, singers and dancers ages 8-18. Led by Cheri Van Loon, this camp will offer all levels of performers the opportunity to tune their performance skills through acting, stage presence, music, and dance training and direction. Dates for this camp are Aug. 6-10 from 9 a.m. – 2 p.m. (Monday-Friday) and will include a free showcase performance at the end of the week at a local retirement facility. Camps range in tuition from $125-395. Auditions are required for the Disney’s Newsies and The Princess Bride camps. They will be held on May 12; please email for an audition time. For further information, please visit or call (336) 5285343. !

Summer art camps at TAG Theatre Art Galleries of High Point announces the Summer Art Camp lineup for 2018. Regular camps are four days and mini camps are two days. Each camp is located at Theatre Art Galleries, 220 East Commerce Avenue, and lasts from 8 a.m. until noon. Camps are taught by experienced art educators and include all materials and equipment and a snack. Registration for Camps is available online at or by calling (336) 887-2137. Four-day camps are $90 for members of TAG $100 for non-members . June 25 - 28 Art From Books Ages 4 - 6 Campers will listen to several popular children’s books with amazing illustrations before creating their own artworks based on the story, style, and materials found in WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

the books we read together. Paper, paint, clay, and other materials will be used. July 9 - 12 Painting Like the Pros Ages 7 - 10 Campers will learn different painting techniques and study the work of masters like Picasso, Miro, Van Gogh and O’Keeffe. They will try their hand at watercolor, tempera, and acrylic paints on paper, board and canvas. July 16 - 19 How to Draw Basics Ages 6 - 9 This step by step intro to drawing class will teach children how to look for basic shapes in complex objects. Students will learn to draw buildings, animals, and cartoon people. They will touch on adding color to their drawings but the focus on this class is improving drawing skills. !

Mar 16-22


BLACK PANTHER (PG-13) LUXURY SEATING Fri & Sat: 11:30 AM, 2:30, 5:30, 8:30, 11:30 Sun - Thu: 11:30 AM, 2:30, 5:30, 8:30 THE GREATEST SHOWMAN (PG) LUXURY SEATING Fri - Thu: 11:55 AM, 2:30, 5:00, 7:30, 9:55 THOROUGHBREDS (R) LUXURY SEATING Fri & Sat: 12:20, 2:55, 5:05, 7:15, 9:25, 11:35 Sun - Thu: 12:20, 2:55, 5:05, 7:15, 9:25


DEATH WISH (R) Fri - Thu: 11:40 AM, 2:10, 4:40, 7:05, 9:40 RED SPARROW (R) Fri & Sat: 11:45 AM, 2:45, 5:45, 8:45, 11:45 Sun - Thu: 11:45 AM, 2:45, 5:45, 8:45 ANNIHILATION (R) Fri - Sun: 11:35 AM, 2:05, 7:15 Mon: 11:35 AM, 7:15 Tue - Thu: 11:35 AM, 2:05, 7:15

LOVE, SIMON (PG-13) Fri - Thu: 12:00, 2:40, 5:10, 7:40, 10:10

BLACK PANTHER (PG-13) Fri: 1:00, 4:00, 7:00, 10:00, 11:55 Sat - Thu: 1:00, 4:00, 7:00, 10:00

TOMB RAIDER (PG-13) Fri - Thu: 11:30 AM, 2:10, 7:30, 10:05

FIFTY SHADES FREED (R) Fri - Thu: 2:20, 4:50, 9:50

TOMB RAIDER 3D (PG-13) Fri - Thu: 4:50 PM

PETER RABBIT (PG) Fri - Thu: 11:30 AM, 1:35, 3:40, 5:45, 7:50, 9:55

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NCDOT TO HOLD PUBLIC MEETING MARCH 22 NCDOT TO HOLD PUBLIC MEETING FOR THE PROPOSED WIDENING OF N.C. 66 (OLD HOLLOW ROAD) FROM HARLEY DRIVE TO U.S. 158 (REIDSVILLE ROAD) IN FORSYTH COUNTY TIP PROJECT NO. U-5824 The N.C. Department of Transportation will hold a public meeting regarding proposed widening of N.C. 66 (Old Hollow Road) from Harley Drive to U.S. 158 (Reidsville Road), in Forsyth County. The meeting will be held on Thursday, March 22, at Morris Chapel United Methodist Church, 2715 Darrow Road in Walkertown from 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. Interested citizens may attend at any time during the meeting hours. NCDOT representatives will be available to answer questions and receive comments regarding the project. Please note that no formal presentation will be made. All comments received will be taken into consideration as the project progresses. As information becomes available, it may be viewed online at the NCDOT Public Meeting Website: Anyone desiring additional information may contact Brett Abernathy, P.E., NCDOT, Division Project Development Engineer, at 375 Silas Creek Parkway, Winston Salem, NC 27127, (336) 747-7800 or jbabernathy@ Comments should be submitted by April 23, 2018. NCDOT will provide auxiliary aids and services under the Americans with Disabilities Act for disabled persons who wish to participate in this meeting. Anyone requiring special services should contact Tamara Makhlouf via email at or by phone at (919) 7076072 as early as possible, so that these arrangements can be made.

A co-ed dormitory at Hunter College in New York City has become the site of a dispute between the college and 32-year-old Lisa S. Chuck Shepherd Palmer, who won’t vacate her dorm room despite having discontinued her classes in 2016. Palmer, who works for an architecture firm, has “racked up a staggering $94,000 in unpaid residence hall charges,” a lawsuit filed in Manhattan Supreme Court noted. The New York Post reported on Feb. 28 that in June 2016 and fall 2017, she received eviction notices, but she won’t budge. Palmer admitted that dorm life is “really lonely. I feel very isolated.” Palmer was moved into a wing of the dorm that’s occupied only by a middle-aged nurse, whom the college is also trying to evict. In fact, Hunter is working on removing nine nurses, who were given rooms in the building when it was owned by Bellevue Hospital.


Ana Lisa Garza, a Starr County district judge in south Texas, is running for a state House seat in District 31. Garza has received almost $90,000 in contributions to her campaign, but more than $50,000 of that has been in a most unusual currency: deer semen. Deer breeder Fred Gonzalez, treasurer of the Texas Deer Association, said breeders often donate semen “straws” instead of money: “Semen is a very common way for us to donate. One collection on a buck could lead to 60 straws sometimes. If you have a desirable animal, it’s a way to bring value without breaking the bank.” A campaign finance report valued each straw donated at $1,000. Gonzalez told the Dallas Morning News that the semen donated for Garza’s campaign went into a tank sold in one lot, the proceeds of which will go to the campaign.

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— Kenny Bachman, 21, had a rude awakening when he racked up a $1,636 Uber fare on Feb. 23 following a night of partying with high school friends in Morgantown, West Virginia. The Charlotte Observer reported that Bachman and the friend he planned on staying with stopped at a convenience store during the evening. The friend told Bachman to wait outside as he went into the store, but Bachman was gone when the friend

emerged. He had summoned an Uber to take him home — to Gloucester County, New Jersey. Bachman was passed out for most of the nearly 300-mile trip, which was subject to surge pricing, doubling the fare. Bachman challenged the charge but ended up paying the full fare; “I feel like there’s very little I could have done to reverse it,” he said. — Miami resident Luce Rameau didn’t know what hit her on Feb. 28 as she lay in bed, talking on the phone. She thought a bomb had gone off as wood and debris fell on her bed. “I kept screaming, ‘What happened? What happened?’” Rameau told the Miami Herald. It wasn’t a bomb; an 80-pound inflatable raft had crashed through her roof after becoming untethered from a Royal Canadian Air Force search-and-rescue helicopter that had been conducting an offshore training exercise nearby. David Lavallee, a spokesman for the RCAF, said the accident is being investigated and the air force intends to help “the resident with accommodations and other support.” Rameau suffered only minor injuries.


— Caught red-handed: Leahman G.R. Potter, 48, neglected to conceal the evidence after he stole a pot of meatballs from a neighbor’s garage in Hazle Township in Pennsylvania. The meatball owner returned home Feb. 26 to find Potter outside his garage, covered in red sauce, and his meatball pot missing, according to United Press International. When Pennsylvania State Police arrived shortly afterward, they found the pot in the street and Potter at his home, where he was charged with burglary, trespass and theft. — KTAR News in Phoenix reported that Peoria Police Department officers were called to a gas station Feb. 23 in response to a shoplifting. When they arrived, suspects Marwan Al Ebadi, 28, and Salma Hourieh, 29, set off on foot before hopping over a fence — directly into a secured parking lot of the Peoria Police Department. Hourieh tried to hide beneath a bench outside the station, while Al Ebadi jumped back over the fence and was stopped in the street. Both were arrested and charged with shoplifting. “You should never run from the police,” said police spokesman Brandon Sheffert, “and if you do, do not run into a secure parking lot of a police station.” !

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Monstercade celebrates one year of weird


ne year ago on St. Patrick’s Day, one of the weirdest places in Winston-Salem opened and nothing has been the same Katie Murawski ever since. The paint was still drying on the walls; the arcade Editor games weren’t even working. Yet, people still poured in to watch a band from Maryland called Curse and a local dream pop band that was (at the time) called True Believer play at the newest little bar on the corner of West Acadia Avenue and South Broad Street. Carlos Bocanegra, the owner of Monstercade, felt empowered by the WinstonSalem art scene to pursue his dream of Monstercade. The “art scene” he referred to was the artist collectives that used to thrive on Patterson Avenue called the Wherehouse and PS 211. “That opened doors for a lot of us, and I said, ‘hey, these guys are doing it,’” Bocanegra said. “And you grow up with that and all of the sudden they become a catalyst for all of your creativity, your thoughts and all the things you wanted to do because you see it being done and being done well. I know they inspired a lot of us who have been around town for a long time.” Bocanegra said he also was extremely inspired by Reanimator Records and The Black Lodge because “those places were doing whatever they wanted to.” Now, after one year, Bocanegra said Monstercade has turned into so much more than just a neighborhood bar. “I know we are basically a satellite for art now since Winston-Salem downtown has changed dramatically in the past 10 years,” he said. “Again, we are just a small bar. I know a lot of people think we’re a venue or dance club or even an arcade, and I don’t think we are any of those things. We are all of those things, yet we are none of those things.” Bocanegra teamed up with his “righthand woman,” Brit McDonough, to design the interior of Monstercade. He said the bar was designed to be like your high school best friend’s basement. “Remember that? Everybody had that friend,” he said. “And you hung out all day and all night and never wanted to leave


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because there was always something to do.” For Bocanegra, that was his basement in high school. He adds his kitschy flare to the bar’s aesthetic as well. For instance, the mannequins with T.V.s attached to their heads behind the bar play trailers of old, campy horror films. “Everything here is kitsch and campy just like those old 1952 drive-in films that we all kind of laugh at, but there is something comforting about that,” he said. The mascot of Monstercade, (which is perched up at the top of the bar outside and also plays those types of movie trailers in her helmet at night) was modeled after the 1953 movie Robot Monster. Bocanegra recently told me the origin story of Monstercade’s mascot, that has since been dubbed Princess Zarlos (soon, there will be an official Monstercade toy released that is made in her likeness). “She’s been banished from her homeworld, and she has made a cavernous lair in the mountainous regions of Monstercade to strike fear in the hearts of anyone that dare enter,” Bocanegra proclaimed. “There, she awaits her warlords, and they plan to conquer Earth, and only after she conquers Earth she can return home to be worthy of her throne.” Bocanegra said most of the events that are held at Monstercade are either free (of course, after signing up to become a member) or are for charity, benefiting anything from Winston-Salem Pride to Greyhound Friends. “Anything that we can possibly do to help out in the community, that is what we are all about.” Occasionally at Monstercade there are shows, occasionally there are dance parties, and occasionally there are events that happen, but you can’t really describe what the hell is actually going on. “This bar is almost like the living embodiment of the movie UHF, where Weird Al owns a television station, and he puts whatever he wants on air,” Bocanegra said. “That is what we are trying to do here.” For instance, on March 7 the Mayoress of Monstercadia, Tristan Kelly led the resident gimp Matt Flowers (masked and shirtless) up on the stage to measure Jon Michael Hartwig’s (aka Fuxataunee Fill) nipples to predict how many more weeks of winter there would be. Kelly’s data concluded that there would be two more weeks of winter. “We have all of these amenities for people, but first and foremost we are just a

The iconic bar inside Monstercade

From left: bouncer and barback Sav Vas, owner Carlos Bocanegra and the Mayoress of Monstercadia Tristan Kelly

The Girlfriends, a punk band from Winston-Salem that played at Monstercade on March 7


bar for people that don’t feel comfortable in other bars,” Bocanegra said. “It is just a bar for weirdos, and a bar for people that actually want to have creative conversations or be around creative people. A place that is not homogenized. We literally do whatever comes into our mind.” Other events that Monstercade has hosted in the past year have included an email deletion party, a live talk show called “Ians’ Hour of Nonsense,” a gentlemen auction, air guitar contest and of course, their unforgettable New Year’s Eve celebration. Why was it unforgettable? Well, while most bars and patrons were staring at the T.V. anxiously awaiting the ball to drop, Monstercade dropped some balls of its own; on top of a cardboard cutout of President Donald Trump’s head. “We make no qualms about it,” he said. “If you’re a Trump supporter, we want you to feel as welcome as possible, but you’re probably going to hear some conversation that is ranting and raving against our president. Trump would hate and stand against everything this place stands for.” He added that when Trump is out of office, there will be a huge party at Monstercade. “He is a terrible, terrible, terrible man and as a business owner, I am not supposed to say those kinds of things,” he said. “Monstercade is definitely not about playing it safe anyways, that is for every other bar trying to squeeze every bit of cash out of the local population. We just don’t care. We have nothing to do and want nothing to do with his policies.” But Bocanegra said Trump isn’t the only one getting picked on. Monstercade has poked fun at Hillary too, especially with the email deletion party that was hosted earlier this year. Bocanegra said what separates Monstercade from other businesses is that there is no algorithm that “makes people like” Monstercade. It truly is what it is. Since Reanimator Records and The Black Lodge are no longer in business, Bocanegra said he wants Monstercade to become the new catalyst for creativity. “We know what we are, and we are confident about what we are,” he said. “And what we are is actuarial in the fact that like, again, it is a playhouse. It is a playhouse for everyone’s creativity. If anybody came to me and said, ‘I have always wanted to do this,’ (and if the idea is something I liked), then guess what, you are now apart of the Monstercade family and I will help you get it off the ground.” He said although he may be the figurehead for the bar, he listens to everybody’s opinion about things. One of those people is his other right hand woman, Laurie Ruroden, Monstercade’s general manager and booking agent. Ruroden has been WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

Monstercade’s mascot, Princess Zarlos, perched above her lair; The inside of her helmet plays trailers of old horror films at night with Bocanegra since the very beginning. “[Laurie] has a keen sense of what sells to the mainstream public,” he said. “One of the reasons I get along with her so well is that she tells me no a lot. I need somebody to reign me in sometimes.” Ruroden wrote in an email that her job consists of staffing and organizing the bar, as well as keeping up with inventory and “the creation of boozy delights.” She also books all the music events on a weekly basis and keeps the community informed of what is happening at the bar. “I receive help from my generous husband Eric, who designs flyers for a handful of the events, including his own monthly party called AMNESIA, where he DJs as Mauve Angeles,” she wrote. She wrote that her favorite part of the job is hosting and booking the music events and getting shout-outs from bands that play at Monstercade. “It’s something I care very deeply about, and it’s nice to be a beacon for the smaller touring bands who need some love,” she wrote. Ruroden wrote that Monstercade is a “cool place for people to just hang out and escape from the everyday humdrum.” “On many occasions, you’ll be able to discover new and amusing things sonically, visually or through conversation,” she wrote on her favorite thing about the bar. “There is never a shortage of intriguing people that come through Monstercade!” Bocanegra stresses that one of the most important tenets of Monstercade is inclusion and Ruroden stated that a core value of Monstercade is to respect one another. Bocanegra said someone who once reviewed Monstercade called the bar “the island of misfit toys.” He said that another patron wrote a review that said, “I feel comfortable going in there with a pink tutu or a bear costume, and they wouldn’t bat a lash.” “We have been lucky enough to not

have any bad reviews yet,” Bocanegra said. “It is coming at some point, somebody is going to come in here and unfortunately not feel comfortable, or maybe they will just come on a bad night. Once we get a one-star, we are going to have a massive party. It will be our first one-star review party, and we would invite [the reviewer] as a guest of honor.” Monstercade is not a business that just looks at its bottom line, Bocanegra said. Of course, it has to keep the lights on and the business afloat, but he said getting people to drink and making money is not the sole goal of his business. “Here at Monstercade, we just want to give you a completely different experience. Something that you walk away from and say, ‘That was insane,’ and to talk about it the next day and talk to your friends about it, and say, ‘I walked into this bar and they had an air guitar competition, and everyone was going insane. It was the craziest idea; you should have been there,’” he said. “We love the fact that people will say, ‘you should have been there,’ that is cool. Not only that, as a business, we really want to be a catalyst and continue the tradition that Krankies, Reanimator Records, and The Black Lodge has created.” If you take a look inside Monstercade, the art on its walls are indicative of just that. Artists that love Monstercade will bring their art as an offerings. “We have a waiting list of people that just want to give us things or to make things for us,” he said. “Everything is made by other people here. That is an amazing feeling to have people who are so connected to just a place that has only been open for [one year]. Something is going right here when people want to just be apart of it; people want to have their DNA on the walls or be apart of something they feel attached to, akin to.” Bocanegra said that is all he wanted with Monstercade, to have like-minded

individuals that wanted to create something with him. And he said he has been so lucky to find these people. “Monstercade is a runaway train, and I’ve got my fingers holding on for dear life as it is just going 100 miles per hour,” he said. “And it is so much fun. Every day is something different, every day somebody comes up with something or wants to donate something or has an idea or wants us to be involved with something else that is bigger and it is just amazing. This place was just a bar for liquor, but it is not anymore, it means more to other people.” Ruroden wrote that she hopes to see “increased and continued enthusiasm” for local events and social gatherings. “Only Monstercade knows where Monstercade is going.” Bocanegra said he knows that the area that Monstercade is in now will change in 10 years and he hopes Monstercade will be there with it. “We expect to be here,” he said. “I make no mistake about what we are and where our future probably lies within this part of the city.” Being inspired by Reanimator Records, Krankies, The Black Lodge, and the artist collectives, Bocanegra is curious who will be inspired by Monstercade. “I am curious to see five years down the road, who is influenced by this place and what they come up with,” he said. “I want so many other clubs or bars or creative spaces to go to Winston.” In the end, Bocanegra is inspired by Monstercade and its patrons. “Seeing a monster on my ceiling, seeing all these things inspire me,” he said. “It is really cool; I get to be inspired by other people every day being here, and it is just because we have an open-door policy to other people’s ideas and creativity. I am excited for the next five years to see what Monstercade brings. We are the open door for other people to go out into the world and do something even crazier.” To celebrate its first birthday, Monstercade will be hosting a free party on St. Patrick’s Day featuring DJ Petey from 8 p.m. to 10 p.m. Nite Moves will close out the night with a dance party from 10 p.m. to 2 a.m. ! *Editor’s note: In the interest of being transparent to readers, after visiting Monstercade several times and writing two different articles about it, I have fallen in love with this place. It has become one of my favorite spots in the Triad. KATIE MURAWSKI is the editor of YES! Weekly. She is from Mooresville, North Carolina and graduated with a bachelor’s degree in journalism with a minor in film studies from Appalachian State University in 2017.

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St. Patrick’s Day around the Triad

Katie Murawski


St. Patrick’s Day 2018 is this Saturday and if you don’t have plans yet, you are in luck. YES! Weekly searched far and wide for the best St. Patrick’s Day parties in the Triad. This is what we got:

The Blind Tiger, located at 1819 Spring Garden St., will celebrate St. Patrick’s Day with a tribute to The Grateful Dead. This St. Patrick’s Day party will include live music by The John Kadlecik Band. The doors open at 8 p.m. and the show starts at 9 p.m. Tickets are $20 in advance or $25 the day-of and $15 for parking.


Bender’s Tavern, located at 4517 W. Market St. Ste. A, will be hosting a two-day St. Patrick’s Day parking lot party (rain or shine). On Friday, live music by The Dickens will start at 8 p.m. with a $10 cover. According to the Facebook event page, $5 of every ticket sale goes to Reelin’ for Research. On Saturday, live music by Soul Central is from 4 p.m. to 7 p.m., Eric and the Chilltones featuring Dana from 8 p.m. to 11 p.m. with a $15 cover, and $5 of every ticket sale goes to Reelin’ for Research. Both days are for those who are 21 years old and up only.

The Speakeasy Tavern, located at 1708 Battleground Ave., will begin festivities at noon and the party don’t stop until 2 a.m. There will be giveaways and raffles, Shepherd’s Pie and appetizer specials, with the kitchen open until midnight. There will also be drink specials for $5 and under. M’Coul’s Public House, located at 110 W. McGee St., will host its 16th annual St. Paddy’s Day Hooley. Doors open at 10 a.m. for kegs and eggs until 2 p.m. There will also be step dancers and a limerick contest.


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The Somewhere Else Tavern, located at 5713 W. Friendly Ave., is holding a sketch fest featuring live music from Headcase, Kusa, Uncle Buck, SoulSeason and The Sketch. The doors open at 6 p.m. and the show starts at 7 p.m. This is an all ages show and there is a $5 cover. Greene Street Nightclub, located at 113 N. Greene St., will host The Bearded Goat’s Carolina BAM 2018. This will be the seventh annual battle of the beards with five judges and two DJs. The Interactive Resource Center in Greensboro and the Safe Alliance of Charlotte will be benefiting from this contest consisting of 17 beard and mustache categories. Spectator tickets are $15 and competitor’s tickets are $20. Stumble Stilskins, located at 202 W. Market St., is throwing its 14th annual St. Patrick’s Day Bash that spans from Friday to Saturday. There will be kegs and eggs,

green beer and live music by Under The Gun. Rody’s Tavern, located at 5105 Michaux Rd., will be having a tent party for St. Patrick’s Day. This celebration features live music from two bands starting at 1 p.m., drink specials, shamrock sliders and face painting. WinSton-SalEm Burke Street Pub, located at 1110 Burke St., will be hosting a St. Patrick’s Day Bash from 2 p.m. to 2 a.m. This parking lot and patio party will feature giveaways, prizes, music and “all things green.” There are also drink specials ranging from $3 to $5 on Irish beers and Irish car bombs. Finnigan’s Wake, located at 620 N. Trade St., St. Patrick’s Day celebration begins at 7 a.m. with a breakfast buffet. The main tent opens in the parking lot at 12:15 p.m. with a bar and stage for live music from The Bedlam Boys, The Mighty Fairlanes, The Mulligans and The Patrick Rock Band.

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beers, classic St. Patrick’s Day cocktails and $5 shooters. There will also be live music from Southern Bones at 9 p.m. Nitro’s, located at 1006 S. Main St. in Randleman, will be having a St. Patrick’s Day Bash with DJ Snow. The party will feature giveaways, prizes, a photo booth and a costume contest. Rosie’s Roadside Grill food truck will also make an appearance. The event page promises more details to come “so stay tuned.” Four Saints Brewing Company, located at 218 S. Fayetteville St. in Asheboro, will host live music by Heather Kenney from 7:30 p.m. to 10:30 p.m. Four Saints is also partnering with the Asheboro Business Downtown Association for the third annual St. Patrick’s Day celebration in Bicentennial Park (located at 151 Sunset Ave.), there will also be a food truck rodeo in the park on the same day. !

Small Batch Beer Co., located at 241 W. 5th St., will be releasing its Irish Red Ale along with other drink and shot specials. Don’t miss green slushies, trivia, photobooth and other games and prizes at this St. Patrick’s Day shindig. Kelly Days, located at 708 N. Main St., will be opening at 9 a.m. and celebrating its one-year anniversary and second St. Patrick’s Day with the Piedmont Firefighter Pipe & Drum playing at 8 p.m. and 10 p.m. Quiet Pint, located at 1420 W. 1st St., will be celebrating from open until close with brunch and drink specials. Quiet Pint will feature Tullamore Dew Irish whiskey and classic cocktails (such as Irish Coffee, Green Tea Shots, Irish Mule and Baby Guinness Jello Shots) for $6 and under.

Foothill’s Brewing (Tasting Room), located at 3800 Kimwell Dr., will host the 2017 O’Sullivan Cup champions, the Winston-Salem Wolfhounds GAA Club from noon to 11 p.m. This will be the place to come learn about Irish culture, sports and be entered in to win a trip to Ireland. There will be live music, food trucks, a GAA sports demo, rugby viewing, discussion and a raffle. Raffle tickets are $25 each and this event is free to attend. HIGH POINT AND BEYOND The Claddagh, located at 130 E. Parris Ave. in High Point, is hosting a St. Patrick’s Day party starting at 11 a.m. There will be live music at noon with Whisper in the Wind, Midnight Gypsies, The Luxuriant Sedans, The Mighty Fairlanes and Brother’s Pearl. There will be three bars outside and two inside, free giveaways and food available.

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Angela’s Ale House, located at 210 N. Main St. in Kernersville, will be featuring a menu with some Irish flare. This menu includes shepherd’s pie, Irish cream cake, Guinness stout cupcakes, local Irish

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Sixth live TEDxGreensboro event to span subjects of wonder Starting in 2013, the internationallyknown TED organization gave Greensboro permission to produce their own local live speaker event, with a new theme each year. This year’s theme is Jessica Clifford all things that make us “wonder,” with Contributor subjects ranging from technology to art to science to history and even to the paranormal. As is every other year, this year a smaller committee brainstormed a few options for the theme, and a larger committee vetted the list and finally selected “wonder.” Richard “Skip” Moore, the license holder and planning chair for TEDxGreensboro, referenced the theme as having two aspects. “One is, I wonder if or I wonder what would happen if and that’s the kind of thing that leads to research,” he said. “The other is, look at the wonder of it all, the awe, the splendor of the world.” Every fall, TEDxGreensboro invites community members to enter a TEDtalk proposal, telling one of the committees what they want to share with audiences. This year a total of 95 entries were made. Other than the proposals, another committee locates accomplished people in the area to speak about their work. “We try to have a variety of topics and speakers and approaches to balance it all out,” Moore said. The list of topics is vast, with some speaking on art, such as Jessica Kay Ruhle, the director of education of public programs at Duke University Nasher Museum of Art and the founder and director


of the Reflections Program. Ruhle will discuss the 4-year-old program that gives dementia tours of the Nasher. She will talk about how visitor’s diagnosed with dementia feel from the experience and the dual purpose of having the tours. “It’s really clear that art is a really powerful way to communicate with folks with dementia,” she said. “Our program started with this question of ‘I wonder how we could be available to this audience?’” Other art-inspired TEDtalks include Stephen van Vuuren, the founder of SV2 Studios, which produces film, digital cinema, animation and more for people regionally and nationally. The filmmaker will talk about his soon-to-be-released project, entitled “In Saturn’s Rings,” in which he used over 7.5 million photographs best suited for IMAX or large dome planetariums. A slightly unconventional talk will feature material from My Son and Driving Miss Daisy. Shelley Stolaroff Segal, the mastermind behind this talk, is a playwright, who wrote My Son. The play uses personal anecdotes from her life as

a mother raising an autistic son, and her friend’s life of raising a black teenager. “The plays are interwoven because they are saying the same thing,” Segal said, mentioning the nonfiction plays shared topics of empathy, discrimination and bigotry. “I think it is better to show the idea than tell.” Segal said the plays are supposed to show a timeline of social issues in the mid-to-late 1900s to the early 2000s. “It’s just a very personal experience,” she said. “So, maybe after people hear the ‘talk,” they will wonder about things differently; they will reconsider certain social issues.” Technological improvements in the fields of science and economics will also be highlighted. Nir Ksherti, professor of management at the University of North Carolina Greensboro Bryan School and research fellow at Kobe University, will feature his recent research on ways to assist the poorest countries around the world using Bitcoin and Blockchain. Handpicked speaker, Joseph Starobin, an associate professor of nanoscience at

the Joint School of Nanoscience and Nanoengineering in Greensboro, will discuss his recent work designing an improved heart monitor that predicts cardiac ischemia and cardiac arrhythmias. Elizabeth Wayne, Ph.D., an NIH Carolina Center for Nanotechnology Training Program T32 postdoctoral fellow in the Carolina Center for Nanotechnology in Drug Delivery in the UNC Eshelman School of Pharmacy, was a 2017 TED Fellow. She was designated the fellowship for her work advocating for more women to join academia and specifically the sciences. Wayne will talk about her recent research about using immune cells to fight cancer. The subject of the paranormal will also find its way into the event. Deonna Kelli Sayed, creative nonfiction and short story writer, will talk about her past work as a paranormal field researcher. “It’s not really about ghosts, but more about us as people,” Sayed said. “The biggest lesson I have learned from ghost hunting is how to confront personal fears, and I hope to inspire people to do that through my talk.” Ten sessions of speakers will take the stage, with no one speaking longer than 18 minutes each. In between the talks will be entertainment by Theatre of Movement, Graymatter, Shared Madness and students from the Walsh Kelley School of Irish Dancing. “Some people will like all of them, some will not like some of them,” said Moore, referencing the speakers. “But, hopefully, everybody will find something to like.” For a full list of speakers and their biographies, go to Those that cannot attend the live event can watch a live stream version at local universities and retirement centers in Greensboro. ! JESSICA CLIFFORD is a senior at UNCG, majoring in Communication Studies and minoring in English.



Ticket holders for TEDxGreensboro have access to the pre-event reception on the night of Wednesday, March 21 from 5:30 - 7:30 p.m. to meet the speakers and other event-goers, and the main event on Thursday, March 22 from 8 a.m. - 5 p.m. A lunch will be provided as well as light food and refreshments at the event’s location at Triad Stage in downtown Greensboro. General registration is $75, with an additional online fee. For more information on sale prices for groups and students, go to MARCH 14-20, 2018




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[LEO (July 23 to August 22) Someone reveals important news about a longtime associate. But before you decide how to deal with this information, make sure it’s reliable, and not simply self-serving.

[AQUARIUS (January 20 to February 18) That old problem is finally resolved, just in time for you to take on a new workrelated project. This one could be the super door-opener you’ve been looking for.

[VIRGO (August 23 to September 22) Some intensive soul-searching early in the week can help you reach a decision by week’s end that should please both you and the other person involved. Good luck.

[PISCES (February 19 to March 20) The early part of the week presents some difficult hurdles. But once you get over them, you can start to focus on matters that are more important to you.

[LIBRA (September 23 to October 22) The possibility of a career change is intriguing. Learn more about what it can offer and what it cannot. Weigh everything carefully. And ask questions.

[ARIES (March 21 to April 19) Congratulations, Lamb. This is the week to finish your project and then bask in your wellearned approval. (And if you like, you also can say “bah” to all those detractors.)

[SCORPIO (October 23 to November 21) Work is your priority this week as you try to make up for lost time. Expect help from someone who cares about you. Things take a welcome turn by the weekend.

[TAURUS (April 20 to May 20) The bold Bovine could find a new opportunity too intriguing to be ignored. But don’t charge into it. Go slowly so you see how things develop as you get more involved.

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December 21) A health problem causes some anxiety early in the week. But prompt medical attention soon eases everyone’s concerns. Enjoy an arts-filled weekend.

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ary 19) As much as you might resent it, a changing situation could require you to adjust your plans accordingly. The good news: An associate agrees to cooperate.

[GEMINI (May 21 to June 20) You might try to soften your stand on that important issue. A little more flexibility actually could get you what you’re looking for. A new friend enters the picture midweek. [CANCER (June 21 to July 22) Your inner voice is on the mark when it advises you to tackle that family problem now! The sooner you’re able to come to terms with it, the better it will be for everyone. © 2018 by King Features Syndicate, Inc.

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* It was French poet, journalist and novelist Anatole France who made the following sage observation: “The law, in its majestic equality, forbids the rich as well as the poor to sleep under bridges, to beg in the streets, and to steal bread.”

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* If you’re planning a trip to North Carolina in June, try to make it to the small town of Spivey’s Corner for the annual Hollerin’ Contest. If you’d like to participate but are worried about straining your vocal cords, you can always enter the conch-blowing contest instead of one of the ones that involves actual yelling. * You might be surprised to learn that famed British author Aldous Huxley, best-known for his dystopian novel “Brave New World,” was a consultant on Disney’s 1951 animated film version of “Alice in Wonderland.” * Jazz musician Glenn Miller was the recipient of the first gold record ever

awarded, for the big-band hit “Chattanooga Choo-Choo.” * You might be surprised at some of the seemingly innocuous things that arouse passions in a group of people. Take the venerable 1960s television show “Mr. Ed,” for example. Evidently an evangelist named Jim Brown took issue with the show’s theme song, claiming that when played backward, the tune contains the message “the source is Satan” and “someone sang this song for Satan.” His preaching on the subject was so persuasive that members of a church in Ironton, Ohio, made a bonfire of recordings of the song. Thought for the Day: Thought for the Day: “Men of genius are often dull and inert in society, as a blazing meteor when it descends to earth, is only a stone.” — Henry Wadsworth Longfellow © 2018 by King Features Syndicate, Inc.


[THE ADVICE GODDESS] love • sex • dating • marriage • questions


I’m a married gay woman. Whenever I ask my wife to discuss some problem in our relationship, she’ll say, “Can we talk about this tomorrow” (or “later”)? Of course, there’s never a “tomorrow.” I end up feeling resentful, and this makes even a minor issue turn into a big deal. Help.

Amy Alkon

Advice Goddess

— Postponed Putting things off is a relief in the moment but usually costs you big-time in the long run — like when you procrastinate in going to the dermatologist until the mole on your neck has a girlfriend and a dog. Procrastination — the “See ya later, alligator!” approach to problem-solving — is defined by psychologists as voluntarily delaying some action we need to take, despite our knowing that doing this will probably make the ultimate outcome much worse. Procrastinating seems seriously dumb, right? But consider the sort of tasks we put off. Chances are, nobody needs to nag you 45 times to eat cake or have what you’re pretty sure will be mind-blowing sex. Research by social scientists Fuschia Sirois and Timothy Pychyl suggests that procrastination is a form of mood management — a knee-jerk emotional reaction to emotional stress that involves

putting “short-term mood repair over long-term goal pursuit.” I know — not exactly the stuff Valentine’s Day cards are made of. But focus on the “knee-jerk” aspect of the mood management response. Psychologist Daniel Kahneman explains that our brain has two systems — an instinctive, fastresponding emotional system that jumps right in and a slower rational system that we have to force to do its job. That’s because reasoning — applying judgment to some dreaded problem — takes what Kahneman calls “mental work.” We have to make ourselves focus on the problem and then put cognitive energy into figuring things out. That’s a grim chore — the antithesis of a mood booster. And that’s probably why there’s a term “pay attention!” but there’s no “pay emotion!” Emotion is automatic. It just busts out, all “An issue to discuss? Oh, wouldja look at the time?! I believe I’m five minutes late for moving to Florida!” Because personality traits tend to be consistent over time and across situations, chances are, your wife has a habit of ducking all sorts of emotionally uncomfortable stuff. Understanding this — as well as why we procrastinate — can help you see her ducking as a human flaw rather than a sign that a particular human doesn’t love her wife. To keep resentment from poisoning your relationship, when she says “tomorrow...” say, “Awesome, babe. What time works for you?” Maybe even have a regular weekly wine ‘n’ chat. Ideally, the conversations should mostly be lovey-

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dovey, not the sort she prefers to have on the third Tuesday in never: “Okay, I could have my toenails pulled out with rusty pliers or have this conversation. This isn’t to say I’m dreading it; I just want to give some thought to how attached I am to wearing open-toe shoes.”


I’m a 33-year-old guy on the dating scene, looking for a relationship. I’m pretty picky, so most of my dating isn’t going past the three-week mark. My problem is that it seems mean to call a woman and tell her why I’m not interested, but it also seems mean to just ghost — disappear on her without telling her why. What’s a good and kind way to end things? — Nice Dude It’s disappointing when a prospective relationship isn’t working, but it’s much worse when it just disappears. Can you imagine coming home one day and your stove is just...gone? “Ghosting” somebody you’ve been dating — vanishing forever, sans explanation — cues what psychologists call the “Zeigarnik effect,” which describes the mind’s habit of annoying us (over and

over and over) to get “closure” when we have unfinished business. Some people “ghost” because they have all the conscience of a deer tick; others believe (or tell themselves) that it’s kinder than laying out exactly why they’re done. But consider that when moving on, you only need to communicate one essential thing: There will be no more of you in their future. Should a woman press you for further info, stick to vague explanations — “spark just wasn’t there” — instead of going into detail about, say, how her breath reminds you of a decomposing gerbil. Also to be avoided are explanations that give a woman hope that your vamoosage is temporary — for example, telling her you have to end it with her because you still aren’t over your ex. That can lead to a closure of sorts — of the zipper on the tent she’s pitched on the grassy area in the middle of your cul-de-sac. (Stalker? Um, she prefers “watchful urban camper.”) ! GOT A problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave, #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or e-mail ( © 2018 Amy Alkon Distributed by Creators.Com.





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